Are You A ‘Control Freak’ (TEST)
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- Опубліковано 20 кві 2019
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Control Freak Test! Could you be a control freak? Let’s find out in this video
According to psychologists, ‘control freaks’ come in two different ways, with many of them showing signs of both.
The first type has an unconscious fear of loss of control - they get anxious and reactive in situations that are confusing or unpredictable.
The second type is motivated by unconscious power needs - they've become almost addicted to the feeling of proving themselves, being in charge, and getting their own way!
What is a control freak Charlie?
Well a control freak as the name suggests is someone who needs to be in control because without it they fear their lives will spiral out of control.
Control freaks want to control everything and when I say everything I mean everything!
So are you possibly a control freak? Let’s find out!
I am going to ask you 8 questions and you are going to anserw with either yes or no
1. do you always have to have the TV remote next to you?
2. Do you repeat instructions to people?
3. Do you need to smooth out your bed if someone else has sat or lay on it?
4. Do you have lots of personal rules, routines, rituals, and ceremonies?
5. Do you "help" other people drive - tell them what route to take, when to turn, where to park, remind them that the traffic light has changed?
6. Do you insist on "being right," having things done your way, or having the final word?
7. When music is playing like on the radio or someone’s phone do you control what’s being played?
8. Do other people tell you or accuse you of being a control freak?
4 and under you’re unlikely have a need to control some things however not everything! However make sure your urges to control don’t take you over so you’re an enjoyable person to be around!
5+ it’s possible that you’re unfortunately what’s classed as a control freak!
If you scored 5+ talk to someone about you’re need to control things, there may be an underlying issue which is causing you the need to control every situation!
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Happy easter everyone! What did you score on this test? Have you ever been called a control freak before?
Hi charlie.. I scored 5.. I’m a bit of a control freak, yeah! ;) I’ll try to ease up on people.
Authentic Mental Health hey Charlie how are you today ?! My day hasn’t been very good except from when I was talking to my best friends. Anxiety has been bad again today except from IM GETTING INSTA BACK 😂😃 sorry I’m excited hope you had a good day bye xx
6 out of 8 was my score!
Hey Julia! Why do you think you're a bit of a control freak aha?
Hey Fae x, I'm okay today thank you for asking! That's good you spoke to your best friends!
I got 6 out of 8. I’m definitely a control freak! I just feel like if I don’t control things then something bad will happen. I’ll definitely try to work on it though!
Have you ever spoken to anyone before about how you're feeling?
Hey~ it's been two years did u got any better? I am facing the same issue too so tips and advice would be appreciated 💗
I also think it’s wonderful that you ask everyone how they are feeling when you reply to their comments, you’re such a kind ytber!
Hello, how are you? I want everyone to be okay, thats why I ask if they are okay or not! If they are not we can talk about it and maybe that will make them feel better!
I got 7 out of 8 😬. I can’t even drive yet and I still tell my parents when to turn and when the light changes😂. I like to be in control because then I feel like things are going to go wrong if I just don’t do it for the person. Or I get anxious that something bad is going to happen to me.
I totally understand how you're feeling mate! I feel that way too!!
You're not a control freak you're just a freak.
I think it’s absolutely amazing that you are now doing subscriber shoutouts, it’s really kind and gives people the recognition they deserve! Much love to you Charlie!
Thank you very much, I wanted to give something back to my subscribers who are loyal and care about authentic mental health! Much love to you too mate!
Hi Charlie! I’ve been away a while - i missed you! But I didn’t miss being depressed lol. I have been helped by some ect treatments. My life is not “great” yet but I have good moments. I hope things will continue to get better. I am so grateful for people like you who have UA-cam channels and are open about depression and anxiety.
Hey, I've missed you too however I am so happy and glad to hear that you're having good moment and you've been helped! Thank you so much for your support and love! How are you today?
The driving part is what gets me. My spouse ALWAYS needs to drive. In the early days I would get so upset by the criticisms, I’d pull over and just say “you drive!” In retrospect that was probably the wrong thing to do.
These too:
Control freaks HATE to get lost while driving and will go bananas, while you’re like chill, we’ll get there.
If you move the seat position or mirrors, it will drive them bananas.
If you don’t get directions on your phone fast enough, they’ll do it themselves while trying to drive.
If you get in the drivers seat they will tell you to get out so they can drive and be in control.
If you do drive they will constantly tell you when to go, where to park, there’s a weird sound in the car, don’t follow to close, etc.
They will over react to every situation, holding on to the ceiling, screaming, etc.
Their way is always the fastest way.
If they’re having a problem doing something, backing into a space, etc, they will become extremely upset, usually taking it out on other drivers.
They feel the need to roll windows down and tell people off.
If they have to park far away, it’s a badge of shame. This should never happen! 😄
If they are god forbid relegated to the back seat they will never “just relax” but comment on the entire trip.
If you’re with this person you need to have a heart to heart talk about it to them and that a relationship is sharing. That they need to concede control. They need to be reminded constantly and never give in to them because it’s like an addictive drug to them, they crave it.
This is so unscientific. 'Do you need to smooth out your sheets when someone sits on them?' wow, what a deep insight that'll give you into someone's psyche.
Thank you for the video! Should it be “yes” if you don’t mind doing other ideas when you find them better then your own? I find myself wanting to control situations when I don’t find a logical reason behind their answers.
Yes yes yes and yes. It’s hard to admit to myself that I am a “control freak”, but all of those questions described me perfectly. My need for control is starting to really eat away at me emotionally and mentally, and it’s hurting my relationship with the ones I love. I need to fix it. It’s so fucking hard tho.. when u said the thing about smoothing out the bed I knew that was me. My family even asks me where to sit if they can sit on my bed because I will literally get so upset if my bed gets ruined of it they “spread germs” on my pillows n blankets from their outside clothes. I’m starting to realize I have a problem but sadly I can’t get therapy, so here I am watching UA-cam videos trying to help myself in any way I can...guess it all starts with being self aware, right?
I have so many self rituals and routines, my life is essentially a pile of my own routines
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😝 How nice!
1. Yes TV is my domain. I will literally sometimes bring the TV Remote with me.
2. God I hate people at work and home that repeat instructions every 3 seconds. Shut up I'll get to it. One instruction at a time.
3. I don't care
4. Never stick to routines well.
5. Sometimes
6. Sometimes
7. I prefer control of the Radio
8. No
Do you think you are a 'control freak'?
@@AuthenticMentalHealth no
I am definitely a control freak because if I can't control something I just freak out.
At school in drama, It'd always me in charge because if it isn't I go crazy
My boyfriend scored 8 out of 8. I've been telling him for nearly a year that he is a control freak I mean he even sets my bedtime for 9 PM. The way I walk across the room is wrong, the way I talk is wrong, the way I drive is wrong, the way I cook is wrong, the way I do laundry is wrong, the way I speak to you is wrong, everything I do is wrong. And he always tries to control me and correct me . But I think there may be more than just a control freak with him. Hes never even commended me or compliment at me neither. Never even said I looked nice or I did a good job. But he controls everything I do even to where I see it in the living room which way I lay in the bed on my sides. How I take my shower. Everything. I can't take it much more.
Leave! this sounds abusive 😢 You are living in a regime, a dictatorship 👎🏼 You can do better
Hi Charlie I love you thanks for your amazing video.
Hello! I love you too! How are you today?
Usually come from our need for validation, we think if we can control our environment and situations in our life we can feel good and avoid our feeling of insecurity and inadequacy which aren’t true !!!
Hey, I'm worried to tell this to my parents, I scored 5. If I tell my parents and I get diagnosed with something I'm scared they'll think of me differently or not love me as much.
I usually hide away my emotions and keep to myself no matter how furious or upset I get, I probably do this from the mental trauma I faced while being bullied, I would lose complete control of what I was doing and hurt the person, I've never gotten that angry in my life because I didn't need to, no one bothered to agrivate me because in my other school everyone was nice. Everything is a blur before I rage. I always feel guilty after I come too and realise what I have done, I run to a place where no one is and cry there.
Please help, my blood is boiling right now because I'm thinking of things that has happened in the past, and my item I have payed for online is not coming.
I also fear that in the future when I try to apply for a job (when I'm older) they will refuse the because of my anger management, what do I do?
Sorry if this sounds familiar, I posted this on an older video.
@@AuthenticMentalHealth Thank you so much, I'll tell them about my anger when I get back to school.
Control freaks don't repeat instructions. They withhold instructions.
7. And the only 1 I had no is last one means noone dared to tell me that am a control freak :)
Thanks for the video
I am all of those, I have SERIOUS issues if things are out of place or things are messy inside my house, I get super pissed at my brother if he doesn’t clean up after himself or leaves things out because in my mind I have a unrealistic expectation of having every room in my house absolutely clean and clutter free because I believe clutter increases stress and I don’t want that at ALL inside, I also don’t like it when people bring in useless items inside the house because so feel like it’s clutter and it will take over everyone and everything, I’m trying my best, some days are good and some arnt.
I have been trying my hardest to understand a close friend of my mine and his peculiar behavior. This I think hits the nail on the head -
-Every outing has to be a restaurant and location ONLY of his choosing. Otherwise, the food is contaminated and he can't eat it.
-He prefers that I drive, but I am subjected to "backseat driving" the whole time. I'm tailgating (I'm not), I'm speeding (even though I'm going the posted speed limit), he needs to repeat turn by turn directions, even though this is my 10th time driving to this area, etc.
-When travelling, only he can choose the hotel for overnight stays. If someone else chooses it, there is a problem with it - it's dirty, it stinks, he can't sleep in the bed bc his clothes will become contaminated, etc.
-At work, he is the ONLY one who can do the job right - everyone else is a screw up and his boss is always calling on him to fix everyone else's mistakes - if I actually believe him, that is.
-He insists on being right and/or having the last word - absolutely spot on. It's very hard for him to appreciate differing points of view, as he'll literally repeat his viewpoint over and over, as if he believes that maybe if he repeats it 10 times to me, I'll change my mind or something.
-As a friend I have most certainly accused him of wanting to be in control.
-He most definitely has routines and rituals - as stated already, he likes to go to the same restaurant all the time and the same couple places for walking and sightseeing. He is uncomfortable with new places and prefers to revisit places he has already been or to travel only to places where he knows relatives live.
Thanks for this video, as it helps me gain further insight into myself and my friend. I only had 2 / 8, as I am aware that in my past I have struggled with some of these issues, but have learned to "surrender the outcome."
I relate to the first one, I fear loosing control. But I also don't want to be a control freak.
All I got was one and that was for getting the last word lol
I scored a straight zero....IM TOO FUN LOVING N HUMBLE FOR THAT SHIT.
Yes queen sisters
I have a about a 2.5 out of 8, I have 2 that I felt it necessary to say "on occasion" or "maybe" so 2.5 is about right I think. But I know I fear losing control of my life most specifically.
1. nope
2. sometimes
3. DUDE WHO DOES THAT WHAT-
4. i am chaos
5. no i trust them
6. i feel like im always wrong
7. nope
8. i dont c a r e .
If I make the bed, i smooth it out after someone sits on it. If I don’t make the bed, I really don’t care if someone sits on it. If someone sits at a green light for a long time while they’re looking for something and we’ve got people behind us waiting, I’ll say green. If nobody’s behind us and they don’t take long looking for something, I don’t care how long they take🤷🏽♀️it’s not me behind the wheel. A couple people have told me I was a control freak. Both were after I asked them to do something different. One was taking my work (I asked them to stop), another refused to go somewhere with me after I’d agreed to go everywhere with them.. So what’s the verdict?
I think I should have done this video.
Help! Im a control freak. Can it be related to growing up in a foster family where the parents were alcoholics?
So true, I feel so much of the first one!!
Do you think you're a control freak?
I dont really know but i feel no control
Prayers for all of us. Namaste love and light ! Relate release
But most of all Relax. Enjoy life more 💙🦋💜☮️💚
My son accused me of being too controlling of him, he's a teenager, so I think it's understandable to say that.
Could you please explore the difference between being on the autistic spectrum and being a control freak?
I didn't know how to answer may if those questions because they are not as simple as yes and no.
I kind of hate being in the passenger seat yeah. I'm fine if I'm driving or a group of people are in the car and I'm in the backseat, but if there's just two of us and I have to watch everything going on without being able to do anything it stresses me out. Especially when my driver tailgates, doesn't use blinkers, or guns it through yellows in busy intersections. I don't grab the handle to not be rude but I sink in my seat and lose track of the conversation most often.
I am somewhat of a control freak with the remote part and the instruction part.
7/8 everything needs to be done my way
Got a 4 out of 8. My sister and daughter both say that I have control issues. 🤷🏽♀️
7 so what can i do. i always fell anxious if not in control everything
i am in control but with myself not on others i am i still eligible in this type or not
What is that intro song called?
Some 👽 commented that I'm a control freak. I guessed it's my last name. The only I might like to control is, don't cross my boundaries.
I’ve definitely noticed that i have urges like that, mostly when I feel like I’m not being herd, or that I’m repeating the same thing over and over. I sit back and try to remind myself to reanalyze the situation, to make sure I didn’t over-react, and if I did, to work on not allowing it to happen again. How are you doing Charlie??
I totally understand I really do! I am okay thank you, how are you? Did you have a good easter?
I’m okay, I did!! I hope you did too!!
Hello Charlie, I'm Charlee Edit: I got 1 out of 8 the one being 8 because my friend pushes me around ect, and I tell him to stop and he dosent.
Help me, MY SISTER IS CONTROL FREAK, it feels like jail
I've been playing a game for 1 hour and than I am addicted to that game I played for first time??
Please help, I really don't wanna jump off the bridge or something, it really depresses me and I (her needs serious help)
Jk about the bridge, I've been just thinking if it was better to jump off, but nope, never gonna do it
Yes I am according to this.
i feel like i'm a control freak but the test says otherwise. i got 3/8 but there were two i don't control cos i can't relate to it. i don't watch the tv so i don't need to have the remote with me. i don't drive either so anything with roads and stuff, they're just unfamiliar to me that i won't even know what to control about bcos i won't be knowing when to make the turns.
When we talk about things and release we often Feel better ! Now it not media time. Control freaks need breaks and also today is what matter s too much media is not good for the mind
4 out of 8
I tru to control my family only. They and their ways are very annoying
I only got 2, but I've had myself pegged as a control freak.......
Why do you think you're a control freak?
@@AuthenticMentalHealth because I drive people crazy with my routines. If something changes then I'm the second hairy caterpillar in the line that goes in all directions. I don't cope with change.
I always explain lol
Interesting
2. sometimes & one yes
Some time my dad halp some wanted drive 😊
The one thing more contra roleer freakyer the na control freak.
Is the one telling its frweaky to control..
I got like 4 maybes, lol. Probably at least 3 should be yes one was pretty weak. 😉
He basically described Dumbledore in 'Dumbledore bashing' Harry Potter fanfics
great . i am
I got a done 8 out of 8. Dang boi
3 Solid yeses, 1 maybe but counted it as a yes.. so total: 4
0 out of 8 😂😂 am I a human
Got 3
1. No
2. No
3. No
4. No
5. Not anymore
6. Not anymore
7. No
8. No
Ok how about your family and partner are controlling
I forgot to tell you my score I got 8 out of 8 I am a control freak but I need things done my way or I get really anxious and upset. I have a rly rly rly high chance of autism so doing things my own way ceremony’s is my routines and I have to do it like that or I get super upset. The music question I only control that because some types of music makes me really stressed because I can’t listen to it or I get a headache like Pompeii by imagine dragons I can’t listen to that or I get shivers a want to hit my head against a wall. And the smoothing bed one is just because I want my room to be tidy 😂
Have you ever spoken to anyone about this? Who says you might have autism? Your doctor?
Authentic Mental Health all my primary school and nursery teachers I went for my first assessment last month it could be up to a year still my next.
questions start at 2:00
Immagine having a partner who will never make decisions, and who never learns how to use remotes or ipads etc, immagine being physically disabled and bedridden 90% of the time. Imagine asking for things they never do or never give. Does that by dafault make me a control freak?
Our house burnt down but the downstars is ok and tha animals still live there, we are quarter mile down the lane now. I say i want the cats here but we cant let them out because we have no garden. So he after many tears, brings down the two cats i never had anything to do with, i cry and cry and bed please bring two of the cats i was attatched to but he makes excuses and them comes along with a sick kitten i think with the idea if consolation we had the two specials here but we left an upstairs window ajar for airconditionngnpipe, he said no cat wll jump out of there i said they would and did, now he doesnt want me to have them. Who is the control freak?
so control yourself from being a control freak
this is ocpd in a nutshell.
It was yes to all..
I got 8 out of 8
I got 6/8
Close your eyes and it’s Alfie Deys, however you spell his name
My brother is a control freak
6/8
I don’t think I am, 2(if they all me)
That's good my friend!
I got zero because I don’t care about anything.
I got zero. My wife scored 8
I got 0/8, dunno if that’s good or not 😅
Well do you think you're a 'control freak'? If you score 0 then I guess that's good!?
8/8
I know I am
Do control freaks laugh less often?
I believe so, laughing is being silly sometimes and out of control, unpredictable stuff is not fun for a control freak. know they definitely don’t liked to be laughed at, even in jest. But they will laugh at you, no problem.
Hi
Hello, how are you?
@@AuthenticMentalHealth good, u ?
Yo
Hello, how are you?
8/8 😔. I Don't do them all the time but I get the impulse of telling my husband that I dont like that song, that his music is too loud and I get the impulse of telling him where to park. Even though I try to control my self...sometimes I don't do it successfully. I'm getting sick of the stress this is causing in my life.
I am lol
Control
I know a guy who wants to have a wife that would allow him to cheat on her
Free ache..... con the troll......
Do the math...
/God