The only way to "pass" these tests is to not care and just be your authentic self. Every time your seeking to "pass" a test, your seeking her approval and bending to her will... This will not end well. Be yourself, be the best of yourself. If someone doesn't understand the value of something being offered don't try to convince them of the value.
@@JebAnderson-h9y I don't, and I don't think the OP would necessarily make that claim either. The beauty of being unconcerned about tests is that you aren't trying to understand women. If you're interested in understanding women, you're still in the 'wanna pass the test' zone.
Exactly. I made the same comment 2 days ago, and got this reply: "Wrong. As Bobby says elsewhere "Being TESTED is a good thing, it is a sign of interest. Accept it, and PASS it, and move forward with her"." Some guys are just determined to be good little test-takers. Unfortunately, with women and in life generally, that mindset only gets you used. We can try to tell them, but it will take life experience to beat the validation-seeking out of them, I'm afraid.
@@jabba0975 I wish I could give multiple thumbs-up your comment. The validation-seeking gets so tiring to deal with. It's probably a big part of why some of us older guys get to a point of have zero expectations for any potential relationship. We can be interested but it doesn't help to try to pass tests that will only delay the realization that we cannot remain happy together.
@@marshallrowley3516 Que? Do you mean Queue? In other words, suggested videos? If so, YT woud have suggested this video if you were watching similar content. And then you presumably chose to watch this video...
Interesting vid. Back when I was dating, we called these "tests" Mind Games, and they are a power-trip for women regardless of any age spreads. They were a huge red flag to guys who were aware. If the woman was the type who played those games, you knew you could never win, and it was time to move on to find a women who was sincere and genuine. That's what I eventually did, I found a girl who was no-BS, and I have been happily married for 30+ years to her.
I think you're mixing up "teasing" type games with manipulation. The teasing stuff is a common safety test to see if you're secure in yourself and not a hothead, and not a pushover. Dark manipulation is more from women who have personality disorders, serious Daddy issues, trauma.
Here is a test I had payed on me years ago. “Don’t you think you are fortunate to be with someone as pretty as me? I said. You fall into that top drawer of good looks. And that’s mostly what I attract. Meaning…there are lots of those. She was all over me after that.
Was it "you fall into the top drawer of good looks" or ""you fall into the top drawer of good looks. and that's mostly what I attract" Second version sounds like you ocertly big noting yourself which could be a turn off.
I don't get it. My response would most likely have been: Chuckle while calmly standing, I would reply with "excuse me, I'm not big into tests," and walk away confidently without looking back.
Being in the “Friend zone” is the worst position to be in. Sure, you will be in her presence, but you will be putting yourselves in the “Simp” roll who will always come running every time she calls. Women know within the first 5 minutes of meeting you whether or not they find you sexually attractive enough to want to sleep with you or put you in the friend zone.
I don't think so. A woman isn't likely to sleep with a rude disgusting older man just because he's wealthy. They want the whole package. They want the advantages of his wisdom and experience as well as any other perks like good looks, no kids if possible, a house, a nice sports car, etc..
Women won’t sleep with an older man who is charming and a true gentlemen if he is broke as well. House, nice car, money to go out, aren’t replaced by personality.
I was just on a cruise to Bermuda. One of the things they did during the week was a Name That Tune style show. One of the girls that was pulled up there was this very pretty Filipina and she was also just funny! And I don't think she was being funny on purpose but she was and I wanted to meet her. However, I still have approach anxiety and she disappeared after being eliminated. Then on the last night at the big dance party, I had left and was headed back to my room. I peaked over the balcony when the next band had taken over just to see what they were playing and I saw that girl down there dancing by herself. So I figured why the hell not, and went down there and introduced myself to her. We wound up dancing for the rest of the time. In the end we had fun but went our separate ways. She was the same age as my niece (twenty years old) and I celebrated by forty-ninth birthday at sea. That's just way too damn young for me. But it was a learning experience for me and also the first time I ever approached a woman like that.
Foreign women wld kill their mothers to get a western man to mate up w them and marry them in a western country! Once there legally - watch out! Jeykl and Hyde. Had a aussie girl pull that w an Amer guy. Once in Amer and married, she shows up at their hse w a black guy saying "it's my hse too!" Divorced and in US legally was her goal and most foreign girls!!
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, I still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, I love her so much, I dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
Not trying to mentor you although I'm going through the same process. You concentrate on your well-being and your future will become more successful. Trust
I have fallen for ALL These traps ALL my life (I am 52) and the only girls who have become girlfriends are ones who I wasn't interested in and they asked me out! I hope I can avoid these traps in the future. I have been single now for over 15 years, so I certainly cant do any worse than I have been doing!!
@@BobbyRio thanks, story of my life, I hear that a lot, even from women, but thanks, one day a decent woman will see the good and allow me into their life!
The most dangerous woman in the world is the one who fits you like a velvet glove, laughs at your feeble jokes, your relatives love, the kids don't mind and is a good cook, unlike your first wife.
They don't test sigmas... just the beta simpers. The aura of confidence you have will let her know that you are real. Be into what you are into, don't simp trying to please or impress her. That confidence of yourself is all you need. Be well spoken and able to have an intellectual conversation.
I'm 71 and my hot girlfriend of 4 years is 28. I got the favorite singer test from her older sister. I shocked them both when I said Rhianna (which is true.) Just be genuine. I also tried to be her mentor, but she is strong willed and never listened to me (shocker). Finally after being correct so many times she said "I'll do whatever you tell me." lol
I think that a theme of the advice in this video is: keeping the mood and emotions light and fun. EG she hesitates on your doorstep. Don't get heavy about it. Treat it as the no big deal that it is (because you'll either sleep with her later or sleep with some other woman before too long). She whinges about an ex or a past date. Don't fall into her negative frame. Just hold out your hand and move the conversation to a lighter mood. She says that her Grandad likes the Rolling Stones. Have a laugh about it. Don't get defensive about it.
Every woman that said they wouldn't sleep with me was telling the truth. Because there wasn't any sleeping getting done, lol. Every woman who started in on me with their crazy ish, I went daddy on their @$$ then they were calling me daddy. Keep your mouth shut when with a woman your getting to know, they'll do all talking. Never in the history of dating did a woman go home and complain to their BFF and say, "all we talked about all night was me". One of my favorite responses to them when they break out with the drama test is, "shouldn't you be out on a ledge somewhere?" And the absolute number one thing you never want to do is give her your approval on anything. If you do she is done with you and will move on to the next one.
@@markmartin6436 Really? I don't want to assume you have little experience with women cause this should be common knowledge. However you asked nicely enough so I'll give you the deets. It stems from childhood, being a young girl they are always seeking approval from their father or father figure. And that carries over into adulthood, and as soon as they get approval from a man they are interested in it's game over and on to the next one. Naturally there are exceptions to the rule, but even then all women like a man who is kind of a dick, the bad boy, even if they say different. women are living breathing contradictions to themselves. Friend of mine said, "women are the most f#@ked up creatures god ever put on earth" He wasn't wrong, LOL. At the end of the day women like drama, they need controversy, some form of disruption to capture their attention like a raccoon does when they find something shiny.
Her, "My grandfather listens to the Rolling Stones!" Me, "He sounds like a smart man, I'd like to meet him someday." Also me, "No, I'm NOT a 'Swifty' and that will never change."
@@greg6811 When you consider yourself to be high value, whether you have options or not won't change how you act. You are simply never desperate regardless.
@@mreverybody1150 yeah true. I played it cool for 2 years and she was the desperate one, then got desperate for her once she couldn’t meet me smh I need to let her go
I'm 55 and I'm watching this thinking I hope I learn things I can use with women 10 to 15 years younger.... yet your clips show guys who are upwards of 65 and 70 hitting on girls who look like they're in their 30's or even 20's!!!! LOL that gives me hope!!! It looks so weird but at least I don't look THAT old - I should be able to get some girls in their 30's, especially 35+. Thanks for all the advice - I was pleasantly surprised to see that I pretty much knew most of these - just not so much the goal line test - although I've somehow passed that test just by kind of being honest and saying "No problem" and letting it go. Anyway, good stuff, thanks!!!
@@kencaton6377 thanks, Ken, that's encouraging to hear. do you have a lot of money? Nice car, house, etc.? Honest question - I have to believe that money must play a factor in it at our ages
@@johnny07652 dont have a lot of money, but i have carefully worked my way into the position where everything i own is paid for and my only two bills are phone ,power and car insurance. i built my house myself, and it took nine years out of pocket. it can be done, but like they say, if it was easy everyone would be doing it. good luck to you
I actually had that "My grandpa listens to x". My response was "Well... of course, he has great taste in music!". She was really surprised because she expected a lame response.
Forget all this crap fellas, if you're older and have no wealth, you have no chance with women, young or old. Stop wasting your time playing games with gold diggers.
I'm 14 years older then my wife she big time was into how stable am i. What kind of home i can give a family. Not just her. She's thinking her kids here. Being older is an advantage here. She knows you are highly likely to be more into that. the whole taste test thing is real. I was just me.
8:10 Back in 2017 a chick that was SOLID 9 ubered 40 miles to meet me at the Casino..... I lost a SURE FIRE LAY That NIght that was 100% DTF by saying "OH NO I RESPECT YOU, I'm NOT JUST TRYING TO SLEEP WITH YOU".....Never saw or heard from her again
I had to ditch one recently bc of the same thing, I hated to get rid of her, but I had too! Almost immediately, she was asking me to give her money to help with living expenses. I told her, men like me do not give money, to women we barely know. I told her, "Now, if you prove to be a worthy woman of my love, then later on there will be benefits!" But it turned me off, we had a great vibe, good connection & a lot in common. I hated to lose her, but she had to go, I had to "cut her loose", due to this needing money almost immediately. It felt disingenuous and like a scam.
@timotahowhitehawk3756 mine wanted me to sell my house and take her on holiday....for a year. Also, pay to get to get her BMW repaired. Just all too superficial.
Don't do it! Don't even try to 'pass her tests.' Unless you want to be her 'boy'. If you're worried about what to do, you've already lost. Be yourself, only socialize with women that act right. What will be will be. Simple, right? No videos needed.
Quoting GrimEngineer, below, "They don't test sigmas...just the beta simpers." If women sense that you won't put up with their shit, you're already ahead of many of the men trying to get into her pants, because she's likey bombarded with drooling OnlySimps who believe videos like this will give you game. Not caring is the only game you'll need.
What's key here is understanding that women are in charge they you choose you, you have no say in it but you can mess it up. Be polite approachable, laid back, and chill.
The one thing I'd like to add here and I think it's very important because being in a relationship is the hardest thing you'll ever do in your life in my opinion. It's harder than maintaining a job buying a house and putting the kids through college. So to secure yourself put God first and if you're looking for a mate, pray and ask the Lord what to do how to proceed.
@@PetriTemiseva well, prenups don't protect your money or you from them before the splittup. All the money you have to spend trying to keep them happy, which requires more and more as you go. And don't forget the false allegations and extortion. Then every contract, will, prenup can be challenged in court, which will mean more lawyers fees at the minimum. Then of course, time spent in court. I just don't need all that. If you want these money hungry women for quickie sex, which I don't, get a fake ID, tell them your mother lives with you so you'll have to go to a motel. And then, vanish into the night like a "ghost".
@@PetriTemiseva Yup, they can be flimsy. Some lawyers don't even want to touch them as they feel they themselves will be sued when they get overturned.
@@cmw109 my biggest thing is mental compatibility, but I have seen women in my age group also acting like a teenager , and some much younger women behaving much more maturely . So part of me wonders if I should not automatically rule out someone . As far as what others think , I don’t know if that’s important as if someone can bring real joy and peace in your life , who cares ? But I understand the likelihood of compatible minds may be more in at least 30s
No you don’t ask that! Many younger girls are attracted to older guys. Just chill and accept that she values your maturity and ability to spend some money on her (though don’t let her take too much advantage of the latter). I’m 63 and enjoying the company and physical side too of a 23 year old.
@@russ9921 in the past I would not have considered dating a young one like her , this particular one though I am not sure if she is for real , but if one does respond I’m not going to be closed to at least have a conversation and see how it goes. Reason I have concluded this is that a few I have exchanged messages with in their 50s seem totally self absorbed and full of themselves ! I’m still not sure whether I should initiate a contact with someone in her 20s.
@@Surf422 unfortunately that’s seems like a big problem at every dating site , fake profiles asking you to get on some app other than the host site to talk with them or asking for your number even without having chatted a little .
The main thing to keep in mind with younger women that keeps you, as an older guy, attractive is she what women like about older men. So long as you keep projecting that, you do fine. What do women like about older guys? She thinks you have experience, you have things figured out, YOU are busy (not her), you have money (yes don't fool yourself) you have seen a lot and can care for her better than some guy her age. You act like a salivating dog as soon as she is interested or says something sexual? You lose that aura and that is what guys her age do.."damn gurl you so fine!". Dont be that guy. She test you saying she cannot go out? Say that is fine, let me know when you can. Older guys it should be no big deal. She wants to meet up on a day, say you are busy. Make her chase you. Act like you are the prize. Many older guys DO NOT act like this, and those guys are the ones women call creepy. The older guys you see with hot younger women, this is what they do.
If you are pursuing a woman like Reese "Do you know who you are talking to, cop!?" Witherspoon then the #1 problem you have is NOT knowing when to pursue a particular woman. They are NOT all "prizes", guys. Actually, there are a lot more poisonous, destructive women out there that men should AVOID these days than good ones. Men need to identify them BEFORE they go through the pursuit process.
What is good about your advice is that you can use failing the tests to your advantage. I'm having a fling with a pretty 24 yo, I'm 63. I don't know if she is worldly enough for me, the sex and training for her is great, but i enjoy my life of freedom and flirting. So, i can use her tests against her if and when i am ready.
I'm neutered so no problem there. When people realize everything in life is a trade off, life gets easier. I don't understand why people get hung up on money, (unless you don't have any). With age comes wisdom, more valuable than money.
Right! They're testing for SIMP-itude. They might smile as you proffer an honest/geniuine answer, but in her brain she's calculating genteel ways to dispatch you to the SIMP trash heap.
Bobby, this is a good topic for a video. You talk as though you have a background in ? The 1 major negative from your video is; you both ‘blink’ a lot!! Psychologist will tell you that blinking is a sign of addiction. Your eyes give you away! Yes, the eyes 👀 tell others your true story! So, is there a reason for your excessive blinking?
Wow, this all sounds so incredibly tiring. but for the men who want to play along, this video must be valuable. Personally, I hate women that play these kind of games. Been there, done that, not worthy. Just becoming the best version of myself, accumulating wisdom, skills, wealth, precious friendships and living with purpose is my objective. If a good woman appears along the way and we match, excellent, so be it. But being aware of all this psychological garbage, calculating and adjusting to be on her good side. Honestly, screw all that.
If she doesn't get me..than she isn't for me..ive played the game and did well...but I'm tired of it...good luck fellas I have a take it or leave it attitude ...no baggage no problem
That’s what I’m saying… girl here watching to get into their head and know what guys like this are thinking. High IQ people know what these guys are doing….
I don't take social tests for anybody. If you dan't want me, fine. If I don't want you, great. No explanation necessary. It doesn't matter why. Ghosting me would be fine.
so the way to do it is being extremely casual about it. Let her choose, don't try to "convince" her. If she questions your taste you can always say "yeah, to each his own, that is why there is so much variety in this world" or something similar. Once you try to convince her or justify yourself you will be the "old guy who is desperate to hookup with a young girl"
I have a medical condition that requires giving myself an injection every week in my belly or thigh. I went to my doctors office to be shown how to do it correctly. The nurse that taught me how lifted up her scrub top, exposing her own belly including a belly button stud. She said that the injection feels like getting a peirsing. I quietly said that I don't have any but hers was nice. We were both standing and she got on her knees to give me the injection. I'm 5'6" and she's maybe an inch taller. I didn't comment although I was thinking, while your down there 😮. I felt like she was testing the hell out of me. I was 58 at the time and she was around 26 and is very attractive. I have to add that she brought another nurse into the room with us that was standing behind her the whole time but couldn't really see what was going on. I had just been out of a long term relationship a couple years ago so I had not been aware of the changes in dating. I don't know if she was flirting or testing or if she treats all old patients like this. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
@@phillhuddleston9445 Especially in a professional setting. They are just doing their job and maybe don't recognize that they are doing something that could be misleading. 9 out of 10 times they'd be surprised that you thought they were doing something to get your interest. You could always do the Rodney Dangerfield schtick and joke around, test the waters and then if it backfired you could blow it off with another joke and move on.
You need to make her win your approval. Act like you don’t give a fuck what she says about your likes, you are you without needing anyone or their approval. If she doesn’t want to come in or say she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Just say: thank God I am a germaphobe. Make her feel like she’s the nasty one, make her work to prove you wrong.
1:31 sorry but no you don’t know right away if a woman has her shit together or not. She can start acting crazy progressively as you deepen the relationship.
Nearly every woman I encounter seems to only be interested in my net worth. I rarely ever get asked about things that relate to my personality or interests, but if I own my house, what kind vehicle I have, and they try to get an estimate of my income. It's like they are interested in a relationship with my wallet instead of me.
@@Carnivoracious-rm8tl I don't have to. For some odd reason I've concluded that nearly any man at or behind the age of 50 has amassed at least some form of personal wealth. Therefore he's automatically viewed as a potential source of income. So unless I address everyone by saying that I am penniless and I live in a homeless shelter (which I'm neither) it's a given that I have a retirement account, stocks, bank accounts, or a personal business that provides a steady income. I don't have to claim anything, it's already accepted as a given.
You're totally grey and you have an Old Man beard. You put yourself in the category of "let's see how desperate he is". Shave that beard, lift weights (safely) and get your hair professionally dyed once a month.
I don't know where you guys are meeting all of these "Game-Players"... but if you are just going to "Shark-Tank Clubs" that are full of Land-Sharks and "ladies" throwing out bait... Then THAT is all you are going to find. It is like where you go to catch Catfish, or where you go to catch Marlin... Maybe it is not so much about "tests" as it is just that you are fishing in the wrong place. Act Like you are "Picky" but WORTH being with... Show a sense of humor, and engage with the people around you..! Let her 'observe' as you INCLUDE OTHERS and let HER draw you out of the group... YOU are NOT the helpless little puppy dog wagging your tail hoping she will pet you on the head... show her that YOU are the one she wants to follow HOME. Being Interested in OTHERS, makes YOU Interesting TO others... and she becomes "proud to have 'Won your attention'... When you can make the GROUP Laugh, and have some fun -- even setting yourself up for a "hit" from someone else, once in a while (and then how you 'handle' the shot) shows far more "Self-Confidence" than almost anything else you can do... Get a BIGGER LAUGH yourself, than the person got when they took a shot... BUT keep it ALL on the fun zone... Do NOT get into a "Hormone War"... By "Taking the Fall" from someone else's comment let's them feel good (remember you want to show friendly interaction) but your funny 'fall Down' also makes YOU a 'winner' and isn't a "WIN/WIN" situation the very best outcome..? I am not an "Ugly" guy, but I am not always the 'best-Looking' either... but I learned back in school to be "Entertaining" and "comfortable to be with..." AND I do not put on "Pressure" that I "HAVE" to Catch a FISH every time I go out in public... and like Owen Wilson, I am always willing to walk away...
Bobby would you telll me how to re-attract a woman who lost interest because I came across as way too aggressive and creepy. She is scared of me nowadays and doesn't like talking to me anymore for a couple of my inappropriate behaviors
@Peanut butter and jam I know it is extremely difficult to get her back after my mistakes but tell me any way to turn things around instead of forgetting her
@shady6703 any attempts that are obvious to her that you want her back makes you look weak and pathetic in her eyes. If you truly want her back, IGNORE her and become the man that she wants. Being fixated on one woman is very unattractive to ALL WOMEN.
@@shady6703 "instead of forgetting her" Man, you're toast. That woman will never be yours in the current dynamics. So you got the answer but you don't accept it. Listen. No woman will ever make you happy, ever. It's just a dream society sells you. It starts with the acceptance (love) your parents give you (or don't) and then when you mature you are on the lookout for acceptance from the opposite sex and by the looks of it you seem to have missed that acceptance necessary in order to be balanced in your existence. Don't worry, most people have the same issues because parents most of the time try the shape their kids into something and in doing so they neglect their nurturing needs. You are looking to fill that void in yourself that can't be filled. This is why so many guys that go to the deep end of dating end-up in spirituality and reality design. You want her back because you're running away from that pain of abandonment and rejection but if you accept it, sit with it and focus your whole attention on it will disappear. That pain comes from memory and it replicates itself over and over but if you accept it it will go away however you identify with and and in doing so you strengthen it by making it disappear by taking action in the physical world whereas what you feel is just sensation in your body. You need to face your own issues. She can't help you and even if she would come back to you the outcome won't be good.
Pre-selection. Lots of it. Let her experience lots of other women finding you to be bone-worthy. Either quantity OR quality will work, i.e., a bunch of sixes, sevens or eights OR one solid nine. Your problem is that you probably don't have that many women in your life.
You guys better have lots of money! These young women like big spenders and are only with you for what you can buy them. Most will also have a hot young guy on the side. If you’re good with that go for it.
The only way to "pass" these tests is to not care and just be your authentic self. Every time your seeking to "pass" a test, your seeking her approval and bending to her will... This will not end well. Be yourself, be the best of yourself. If someone doesn't understand the value of something being offered don't try to convince them of the value.
Absolutely spot on! .....Oh btw, (and I mean this good naturedly) I love how you guys actually think you understand women! 😀
@@JebAnderson-h9y I don't, and I don't think the OP would necessarily make that claim either. The beauty of being unconcerned about tests is that you aren't trying to understand women. If you're interested in understanding women, you're still in the 'wanna pass the test' zone.
Exactly. I made the same comment 2 days ago, and got this reply:
"Wrong. As Bobby says elsewhere "Being TESTED is a good thing, it is a sign of interest. Accept it, and PASS it, and move forward with her"."
Some guys are just determined to be good little test-takers. Unfortunately, with women and in life generally, that mindset only gets you used. We can try to tell them, but it will take life experience to beat the validation-seeking out of them, I'm afraid.
Yeah you have to just focus on you and not her and don't try to please
@@jabba0975 I wish I could give multiple thumbs-up your comment. The validation-seeking gets so tiring to deal with. It's probably a big part of why some of us older guys get to a point of have zero expectations for any potential relationship. We can be interested but it doesn't help to try to pass tests that will only delay the realization that we cannot remain happy together.
Never explain yourself.
Never justify yourself.
Bingo. Confidence.
I hear ya , I don't explain chit. Peace bro
Stay chill and relaxed don’t force outcomes enjoy the interaction, if it goes well great if not move on
No longer dating and no longer concerned, my life has been hella better for it .😊
Fair enough. But what brings you here?
@@whiiteshirt7192 it was in my queue.
Happily single.
@@marshallrowley3516 Que? Do you mean Queue? In other words, suggested videos? If so, YT woud have suggested this video if you were watching similar content. And then you presumably chose to watch this video...
@@whiiteshirt7192always with the grammar police.
Grow up and move out of your mother’s basement Mr …
I could care less about what any woman wants, and it seems to be working perfectly in my opinion. They try harder no matter the age.
Username checks out.
If you have not met a girl that you want to make happy then you have had a very sad life.
@@petercallison5765 Sure...But finding a girl who wants to make you happy (instead of just herself) is not always that easy.
Hold on…you can care less what she wants?
@@petercallison5765LOL BRO THATS WHAT THEY WANT THE LEAST
Interesting vid. Back when I was dating, we called these "tests" Mind Games, and they are a power-trip for women regardless of any age spreads. They were a huge red flag to guys who were aware. If the woman was the type who played those games, you knew you could never win, and it was time to move on to find a women who was sincere and genuine. That's what I eventually did, I found a girl who was no-BS, and I have been happily married for 30+ years to her.
Foreigner did a song on them called Head Games ...and I can't take it anymore...
I think you're mixing up "teasing" type games with manipulation. The teasing stuff is a common safety test to see if you're secure in yourself and not a hothead, and not a pushover. Dark manipulation is more from women who have personality disorders, serious Daddy issues, trauma.
I have a super plan! Just be your best, respectful self. If she doesn't like THAT, it's her problem, and a helluva time-saver.
Here is a test I had payed on me years ago. “Don’t you think you are fortunate to be with someone as pretty as me? I said. You fall into that top drawer of good looks. And that’s mostly what I attract. Meaning…there are lots of those. She was all over me after that.
Was it "you fall into the top drawer of good looks" or ""you fall into the top drawer of good looks. and that's mostly what I attract"
Second version sounds like you ocertly big noting yourself which could be a turn off.
I don't get it. My response would most likely have been: Chuckle while calmly standing, I would reply with "excuse me, I'm not big into tests," and walk away confidently without looking back.
@@Carnivoracious-rm8tl this is the cringiest shit i've read in a while
Being in the “Friend zone” is the worst position to be in. Sure, you will be in her presence, but you will be putting yourselves in the “Simp” roll who will always come running every time she calls. Women know within the first 5 minutes of meeting you whether or not they find you sexually attractive enough to want to sleep with you or put you in the friend zone.
The best part about bein in the friend zone is holding them accountable and watchin them have a meltdown for SYMPathy points.
yup, this happens to be a lot
Great explanations 🎉🎉
Always great content, but you guys are holding out on us! Tell us about the hair gel! You guys are both rocking a bit of the pompadour look.
lol
The most important test for women looking for older men is the bank account test!!!
I don't think so. A woman isn't likely to sleep with a rude disgusting older man just because he's wealthy. They want the whole package. They want the advantages of his wisdom and experience as well as any other perks like good looks, no kids if possible, a house, a nice sports car, etc..
Bullshit!!!
Women won’t sleep with an older man who is charming and a true gentlemen if he is broke as well. House, nice car, money to go out, aren’t replaced by personality.
Damn right!!!!
Utter rubbish!
I was just on a cruise to Bermuda. One of the things they did during the week was a Name That Tune style show. One of the girls that was pulled up there was this very pretty Filipina and she was also just funny! And I don't think she was being funny on purpose but she was and I wanted to meet her. However, I still have approach anxiety and she disappeared after being eliminated. Then on the last night at the big dance party, I had left and was headed back to my room. I peaked over the balcony when the next band had taken over just to see what they were playing and I saw that girl down there dancing by herself. So I figured why the hell not, and went down there and introduced myself to her. We wound up dancing for the rest of the time. In the end we had fun but went our separate ways. She was the same age as my niece (twenty years old) and I celebrated by forty-ninth birthday at sea. That's just way too damn young for me. But it was a learning experience for me and also the first time I ever approached a woman like that.
You can easily get a girl that young in the Philippines
Pimp
Foreign women wld kill their mothers to get a western man to mate up w them and marry them in a western country! Once there legally - watch out! Jeykl and Hyde.
Had a aussie girl pull that w an Amer guy. Once in Amer and married, she shows up at their hse w a black guy saying "it's my hse too!"
Divorced and in US legally was her goal and most foreign girls!!
If a woman said "my grandfather likes the Rolling Stones", I'd tell her "your grandfather has good taste".
The moment you Try to pass a test you are not being your authentic self. You fail yourself.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, I still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, I love her so much, I dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
@jaypritchett3414 wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do I reach her?
@jaypritchett3414 Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive.
anyone reading this, the guy above and below are scammers. they've left this comment string on other videos. don't fall for it.
*_You need some fresh poon-tang._*
Not trying to mentor you although I'm going through the same process. You concentrate on your well-being and your future will become more successful. Trust
I have fallen for ALL These traps ALL my life (I am 52) and the only girls who have become girlfriends are ones who I wasn't interested in and they asked me out!
I hope I can avoid these traps in the future. I have been single now for over 15 years, so I certainly cant do any worse than I have been doing!!
i checked out your channel John, there is NO reason you should be struggling. Just keep adjusting, see what works, and make it happen!
@@BobbyRio thanks, story of my life, I hear that a lot, even from women, but thanks, one day a decent woman will see the good and allow me into their life!
@@JohnVDenley dude, why do you want to be a slave? You should look at the good side of being single.
@@johnpapa8681 what are the good sides of being single? I hate it, but I love being in a relationship...
@@johnpapa8681 sounds like someone really hurt you in the past!
The most dangerous woman in the world is the one who fits you like a velvet glove, laughs at your feeble jokes, your relatives love, the kids don't mind and is a good cook, unlike your first wife.
Could you elaborate pls
Thanks for the good advice. I don't pursue any more. However my situation is changing and maybe I will have the hope to try again soon.
“Rolling Stone My grandfather “ I laugh at those jokes and say stuff like “ I’m more interested in girls who can recognize the signs of a stroke” 😂
lol
Great repartee
😂😂😂
I go to salsa classes, and I joke with the girls in there "Nowadays this is the only way I can get my hands on young female flesh!"
@@davidosalsero2519 Please stop saying that. Yikes. Creepy. It also makes you sound really low value.
They don't test sigmas... just the beta simpers. The aura of confidence you have will let her know that you are real. Be into what you are into, don't simp trying to please or impress her. That confidence of yourself is all you need. Be well spoken and able to have an intellectual conversation.
Bingo. I quoted you in the post above, under Jabba0975
I'm 71 and my hot girlfriend of 4 years is 28. I got the favorite singer test from her older sister. I shocked them both when I said Rhianna (which is true.) Just be genuine. I also tried to be her mentor, but she is strong willed and never listened to me (shocker). Finally after being correct so many times she said "I'll do whatever you tell me." lol
Well
I must have passed.
Because I’ve been married for 30 years to the same woman.
And she’s 12 years younger than I am.
Did she say what it was that attracted her in the early phases?
Any pros and cons of dating someone younger?
Some wisdom please ;)
I think that a theme of the advice in this video is: keeping the mood and emotions light and fun.
EG she hesitates on your doorstep. Don't get heavy about it. Treat it as the no big deal that it is (because you'll either sleep with her later or sleep with some other woman before too long).
She whinges about an ex or a past date. Don't fall into her negative frame. Just hold out your hand and move the conversation to a lighter mood.
She says that her Grandad likes the Rolling Stones. Have a laugh about it. Don't get defensive about it.
Every woman that said they wouldn't sleep with me was telling the truth. Because there wasn't any sleeping getting done, lol. Every woman who started in on me with their crazy ish, I went daddy on their @$$ then they were calling me daddy. Keep your mouth shut when with a woman your getting to know, they'll do all talking. Never in the history of dating did a woman go home and complain to their BFF and say, "all we talked about all night was me". One of my favorite responses to them when they break out with the drama test is, "shouldn't you be out on a ledge somewhere?" And the absolute number one thing you never want to do is give her your approval on anything. If you do she is done with you and will move on to the next one.
Gold advice cheers bro
I dont understand...why is giving your approval wrong?
@@markmartin6436 Really? I don't want to assume you have little experience with women cause this should be common knowledge. However you asked nicely enough so I'll give you the deets. It stems from childhood, being a young girl they are always seeking approval from their father or father figure. And that carries over into adulthood, and as soon as they get approval from a man they are interested in it's game over and on to the next one. Naturally there are exceptions to the rule, but even then all women like a man who is kind of a dick, the bad boy, even if they say different. women are living breathing contradictions to themselves. Friend of mine said, "women are the most f#@ked up creatures god ever put on earth" He wasn't wrong, LOL. At the end of the day women like drama, they need controversy, some form of disruption to capture their attention like a raccoon does when they find something shiny.
Good question
Good advice. I concur.
Thanks Again Guys
Her, "My grandfather listens to the Rolling Stones!"
Me, "He sounds like a smart man, I'd like to meet him someday."
Also me, "No, I'm NOT a 'Swifty' and that will never change."
I think the higherr you value yourself the less likely you will make these older guy mistakes - I've pretty much made all of them over the years!
very true
Yeah most definitely! Cause if you’re high value then you have options and won’t act desperate
And if you aren't high value pretend to be and the results will come with practice
@@greg6811 When you consider yourself to be high value, whether you have options or not won't change how you act. You are simply never desperate regardless.
@@mreverybody1150 yeah true. I played it cool for 2 years and she was the desperate one, then got desperate for her once she couldn’t meet me smh I need to let her go
Keep it light and fun. Enjoying your life is what life is all about. That's the lesson older men have learned.
Light and fun, but with a sensual vibe here and there, and the ocasional pullback. You don't want to be her funny little friend.
I'm 55 and I'm watching this thinking I hope I learn things I can use with women 10 to 15 years younger.... yet your clips show guys who are upwards of 65 and 70 hitting on girls who look like they're in their 30's or even 20's!!!! LOL that gives me hope!!! It looks so weird but at least I don't look THAT old - I should be able to get some girls in their 30's, especially 35+. Thanks for all the advice - I was pleasantly surprised to see that I pretty much knew most of these - just not so much the goal line test - although I've somehow passed that test just by kind of being honest and saying "No problem" and letting it go. Anyway, good stuff, thanks!!!
same
im 65 dating a 34 yr old. just play it cool and the skys the limit. good luck.
@@kencaton6377 thanks, Ken, that's encouraging to hear. do you have a lot of money? Nice car, house, etc.? Honest question - I have to believe that money must play a factor in it at our ages
@@johnny07652 dont have a lot of money, but i have carefully worked my way into the position where everything i own is paid for and my only two bills are phone ,power and car insurance. i built my house myself, and it took nine years out of pocket. it can be done, but like they say, if it was easy everyone would be doing it. good luck to you
30s is doable but you need to be in shape and have hair.
I actually had that "My grandpa listens to x". My response was "Well... of course, he has great taste in music!". She was really surprised because she expected a lame response.
Forget all this crap fellas, if you're older and have no wealth, you have no chance with women, young or old. Stop wasting your time playing games with gold diggers.
The number one reason why young women are interested in older me is money. Young women are broke. They have roommates. They are miserable.
I'm 14 years older then my wife
she big time was into how stable am i. What kind of home i can give a family. Not just her. She's thinking her kids here. Being older is an advantage here. She knows you are highly likely to be more into that.
the whole taste test thing is real. I was just me.
Do you have anymore pictures? Lol!!!!
8:10 Back in 2017 a chick that was SOLID 9 ubered 40 miles to meet me at the Casino..... I lost a SURE FIRE LAY That NIght that was 100% DTF by saying "OH NO I RESPECT YOU, I'm NOT JUST TRYING TO SLEEP WITH YOU".....Never saw or heard from her again
The test I remember was if I noticed the phrase THE MONEY when referring to my money. Then it's bye bye baby. 😂
I had to ditch one recently bc of the same thing, I hated to get rid of her, but I had too! Almost immediately, she was asking me to give her money to help with living expenses. I told her, men like me do not give money, to women we barely know. I told her, "Now, if you prove to be a worthy woman of my love, then later on there will be benefits!" But it turned me off, we had a great vibe, good connection & a lot in common. I hated to lose her, but she had to go, I had to "cut her loose", due to this needing money almost immediately. It felt disingenuous and like a scam.
@timotahowhitehawk3756 mine wanted me to sell my house and take her on holiday....for a year. Also, pay to get to get her BMW repaired. Just all too superficial.
Trying to hard, you are the prize. Be happy to walk away. Don't be needy...
These two jokers have the combined mental age of 16😂
And no game, since they both speak, at least to my ears, SIMP-ese.
Don't do it! Don't even try to 'pass her tests.' Unless you want to be her 'boy'. If you're worried about what to do, you've already lost. Be yourself, only socialize with women that act right. What will be will be. Simple, right? No videos needed.
Wrong. As Bobby says elsewhere "Being TESTED is a good thing, it is a sign of interest. Accept it, and PASS it, and move forward with her".
Quoting GrimEngineer, below, "They don't test sigmas...just the beta simpers." If women sense that you won't put up with their shit, you're already ahead of many of the men trying to get into her pants, because she's likey bombarded with drooling OnlySimps who believe videos like this will give you game. Not caring is the only game you'll need.
Damn it.
I'm lookin at both of you talking about older guy dating,
and thinking to myself " you look way younger than me!" 😂😂😂😂
we each mid 40s, so that's considered older to many people :)
I go to salsa classes, and I joke with the girls in there "Nowadays this is the only way I can get my hands on young female flesh!"
I dance with mostly 60/70/80 year olds in weekly swing dance party. They can outdance me; terrific cardio fitness those old coots lol
@@33Jenesis Getting pegged, by granny.
What's key here is understanding that women are in charge they you choose you, you have no say in it but you can mess it up. Be polite approachable, laid back, and chill.
True, but you can also reject them.
The one thing I'd like to add here and I think it's very important because being in a relationship is the hardest thing you'll ever do in your life in my opinion. It's harder than maintaining a job buying a house and putting the kids through college. So to secure yourself put God first and if you're looking for a mate, pray and ask the Lord what to do how to proceed.
Whatever the age gap, never ever say you like Nickelback.
I don't want to attract women. I like my money.
Ever heard of a prenup? 🤔
@@PetriTemiseva well, prenups don't protect your money or you from them before the splittup. All the money you have to spend trying to keep them happy, which requires more and more as you go. And don't forget the false allegations and extortion. Then every contract, will, prenup can be challenged in court, which will mean more lawyers fees at the minimum. Then of course, time spent in court. I just don't need all that. If you want these money hungry women for quickie sex, which I don't, get a fake ID, tell them your mother lives with you so you'll have to go to a motel. And then, vanish into the night like a "ghost".
@@PetriTemiseva Yup, they can be flimsy. Some lawyers don't even want to touch them as they feel they themselves will be sued when they get overturned.
@@erichmacho5741 It depends on the jurisdiction, prenups can be done also to be watertight, undisputable.
@@PetriTemiseva the only thing watertight in court I ever heard of is lawyers making money.
What if a young female has responded to my profile on bumble (I’m 56 she is 24) should I ask her why contacting someone with this age difference ?
@@cmw109 my biggest thing is mental compatibility, but I have seen women in my age group also acting like a teenager , and some much younger women behaving much more maturely . So part of me wonders if I should not automatically rule out someone . As far as what others think , I don’t know if that’s important as if someone can bring real joy and peace in your life , who cares ? But I understand the likelihood of compatible minds may be more in at least 30s
No you don’t ask that! Many younger girls are attracted to older guys. Just chill and accept that she values your maturity and ability to spend some money on her (though don’t let her take too much advantage of the latter). I’m 63 and enjoying the company and physical side too of a 23 year old.
When you get a response like that 99% of the time it’s a fake profile targeting you for a scam.
@@russ9921 in the past I would not have considered dating a young one like her , this particular one though I am not sure if she is for real , but if one does respond I’m not going to be closed to at least have a conversation and see how it goes. Reason I have concluded this is that a few I have exchanged messages with in their 50s seem totally self absorbed and full of themselves ! I’m still not sure whether I should initiate a contact with someone in her 20s.
@@Surf422 unfortunately that’s seems like a big problem at every dating site , fake profiles asking you to get on some app other than the host site to talk with them or asking for your number even without having chatted a little .
The main thing to keep in mind with younger women that keeps you, as an older guy, attractive is she what women like about older men. So long as you keep projecting that, you do fine. What do women like about older guys? She thinks you have experience, you have things figured out, YOU are busy (not her), you have money (yes don't fool yourself) you have seen a lot and can care for her better than some guy her age. You act like a salivating dog as soon as she is interested or says something sexual? You lose that aura and that is what guys her age do.."damn gurl you so fine!". Dont be that guy. She test you saying she cannot go out? Say that is fine, let me know when you can. Older guys it should be no big deal. She wants to meet up on a day, say you are busy. Make her chase you. Act like you are the prize.
Many older guys DO NOT act like this, and those guys are the ones women call creepy. The older guys you see with hot younger women, this is what they do.
If you are pursuing a woman like Reese "Do you know who you are talking to, cop!?" Witherspoon then the #1 problem you have is NOT knowing when to pursue a particular woman. They are NOT all "prizes", guys. Actually, there are a lot more poisonous, destructive women out there that men should AVOID these days than good ones. Men need to identify them BEFORE they go through the pursuit process.
You are the prize never forget that and it all works out fine. Women are always testing for signs of abundance and wealth.
What is good about your advice is that you can use failing the tests to your advantage. I'm having a fling with a pretty 24 yo, I'm 63. I don't know if she is worldly enough for me, the sex and training for her is great, but i enjoy my life of freedom and flirting. So, i can use her tests against her if and when i am ready.
Wow wtf she obviously using u for your resources. Bravo though u do u.
Only 63!
Don’t get her pregnant!
I'm neutered so no problem there. When people realize everything in life is a trade off, life gets easier. I don't understand why people get hung up on money, (unless you don't have any). With age comes wisdom, more valuable than money.
Finally! A man who's a man. Bless you!
"Let's agree to have a platonic friendship, for now. Okay?"
When she pulls a test, just laugh. Women never expect that. It boggles their mind.
Ignore it, and just go wash your car and fix things around the house. And then she'll come back and want to know why are are not taking her messages.
Right! They're testing for SIMP-itude. They might smile as you proffer an honest/geniuine answer, but in her brain she's calculating genteel ways to dispatch you to the SIMP trash heap.
40 year old virgin. I need to watch that movie again. Great movie lol
Is it comedy?
@@DianaCler23 back then yes,today real.
I can see a lot of counterpoint that give her control. How would a guy who has control issues approach each of these factors?
I have been in shape for my whole life. TRT is my friend. I'm 50 and my gf is 25. I don't need this video..
Your guy looks like a male Ellen DeGeneres
They didn't tell you? It is. LOL
Maybe, but Ellen probably laid more 'tang.
Bobby, this is a good topic for a video. You talk as though you have a background in ?
The 1 major negative from your video is; you both ‘blink’ a lot!! Psychologist will tell you that blinking is a sign of addiction. Your eyes give you away! Yes, the eyes 👀 tell others your true story! So, is there a reason for your excessive blinking?
I failed that last one with the mentor trap
Wow, this all sounds so incredibly tiring. but for the men who want to play along, this video must be valuable.
Personally, I hate women that play these kind of games. Been there, done that, not worthy. Just becoming the best version of myself, accumulating wisdom, skills, wealth, precious friendships and living with purpose is my objective. If a good woman appears along the way and we match, excellent, so be it. But being aware of all this psychological garbage, calculating and adjusting to be on her good side. Honestly, screw all that.
"My grandfather likes the Rolling Stones"
"Wherever he laid his hat was it his home?"
"What?"
"You failed the test"
That's a tricky Double Test. Nice!
And when he died all he left us was alone.
If she doesn't get me..than she isn't for me..ive played the game and did well...but I'm tired of it...good luck fellas I have a take it or leave it attitude ...no baggage no problem
She say: My Grandfather likes Rolling Stones.
Me: Your Grandfather has Good Taste !!!
Good stuff!! 💯💯
Thanks 💯
Bro he is talking about Marni, your personal wing girl. Damn
yes, i've known marni for years.
If you are a successful man then don’t get married. It’s an absolute waste of your time and resources.
Puck the Stones and Sinatra, I listen to Beiderbecke the Great!
Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t,it can’t last.
Indeed. Let HER play that role.
Yikes more tests. I made the mistake number 2.
Her: “My grandad listens to the Rolling Sones”
Me: “your grandpa must be sexual tyrannosaurus”
Best entertainment on YT. What men all should do and not just to get into that box. LMFAO 😂
That’s what I’m saying… girl here watching to get into their head and know what guys like this are thinking. High IQ people know what these guys are doing….
I don't take social tests for anybody. If you dan't want me, fine. If I don't want you, great. No explanation necessary. It doesn't matter why. Ghosting me would be fine.
If she says I don’t normally do this, she has and she will again. All women are easy 18 to 80, if you have game.
Dating can be a fun game.
exaclty, once you accept its a game, have fun with it.
What I'm hearing is "women will play games, and you have to be a player in their game for the satisfaction of any sort of relations"
Their advice/examples are atrocious. As if their sole audience/customer base are simpy white knighters and blue-pillers.
Easier to just stay away from all the games they play. It's a vicious cycle with them.
so the way to do it is being extremely casual about it. Let her choose, don't try to "convince" her. If she questions your taste you can always say "yeah, to each his own, that is why there is so much variety in this world" or something similar. Once you try to convince her or justify yourself you will be the "old guy who is desperate to hookup with a young girl"
yea never try to convince.
Best advice > Be yourself and don't seek validation, a relationship is an addition to your life, not the focal point
I'm 34 and listen to the rolling stones
I have a medical condition that requires giving myself an injection every week in my belly or thigh. I went to my doctors office to be shown how to do it correctly. The nurse that taught me how lifted up her scrub top, exposing her own belly including a belly button stud. She said that the injection feels like getting a peirsing. I quietly said that I don't have any but hers was nice. We were both standing and she got on her knees to give me the injection. I'm 5'6" and she's maybe an inch taller. I didn't comment although I was thinking, while your down there 😮. I felt like she was testing the hell out of me. I was 58 at the time and she was around 26 and is very attractive. I have to add that she brought another nurse into the room with us that was standing behind her the whole time but couldn't really see what was going on.
I had just been out of a long term relationship a couple years ago so I had not been aware of the changes in dating. I don't know if she was flirting or testing or if she treats all old patients like this. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
I would not assume that she was flirting at all, some people just behave differently these days.
Women that wear scrubs tend to be wild and promiscuous. If you're attractive, she was testing.
@@phillhuddleston9445 Thanks. Times have certainly changed.
@@phillhuddleston9445 Especially in a professional setting. They are just doing their job and maybe don't recognize that they are doing something that could be misleading. 9 out of 10 times they'd be surprised that you thought they were doing something to get your interest. You could always do the Rodney Dangerfield schtick and joke around, test the waters and then if it backfired you could blow it off with another joke and move on.
@@rockymntain True.
You need to make her win your approval.
Act like you don’t give a fuck what she says about your likes, you are you without needing anyone or their approval. If she doesn’t want to come in or say she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Just say: thank God I am a germaphobe. Make her feel like she’s the nasty one, make her work to prove you wrong.
Does this apply to to all women or just North American women?…
So basically don’t get boxed in trying to get into the box
1:31 sorry but no you don’t know right away if a woman has her shit together or not. She can start acting crazy progressively as you deepen the relationship.
Nearly every woman I encounter seems to only be interested in my net worth. I rarely ever get asked about things that relate to my personality or interests, but if I own my house, what kind vehicle I have, and they try to get an estimate of my income.
It's like they are interested in a relationship with my wallet instead of me.
And why on earth would you even consider sharing financial information with a stranger?
@@Carnivoracious-rm8tl
I don't have to. For some odd reason I've concluded that nearly any man at or behind the age of 50 has amassed at least some form of personal wealth. Therefore he's automatically viewed as a potential source of income. So unless I address everyone by saying that I am penniless and I live in a homeless shelter (which I'm neither) it's a given that I have a retirement account, stocks, bank accounts, or a personal business that provides a steady income. I don't have to claim anything, it's already accepted as a given.
You're totally grey and you have an Old Man beard. You put yourself in the category of "let's see how desperate he is". Shave that beard, lift weights (safely) and get your hair professionally dyed once a month.
personally i dont care if they want to test me because when they do i just look at them and say, DO I WANT HER, na not worth the time.
I don't know where you guys are meeting all of these "Game-Players"... but if you are just going to "Shark-Tank Clubs" that are full of Land-Sharks and "ladies" throwing out bait... Then THAT is all you are going to find. It is like where you go to catch Catfish, or where you go to catch Marlin...
Maybe it is not so much about "tests" as it is just that you are fishing in the wrong place.
Act Like you are "Picky" but WORTH being with... Show a sense of humor, and engage with the people around you..! Let her 'observe' as you INCLUDE OTHERS and let HER draw you out of the group... YOU are NOT the helpless little puppy dog wagging your tail hoping she will pet you on the head... show her that YOU are the one she wants to follow HOME. Being Interested in OTHERS, makes YOU Interesting TO others... and she becomes "proud to have 'Won your attention'... When you can make the GROUP Laugh, and have some fun -- even setting yourself up for a "hit" from someone else, once in a while (and then how you 'handle' the shot) shows far more "Self-Confidence" than almost anything else you can do... Get a BIGGER LAUGH yourself, than the person got when they took a shot... BUT keep it ALL on the fun zone... Do NOT get into a "Hormone War"... By "Taking the Fall" from someone else's comment let's them feel good (remember you want to show friendly interaction) but your funny 'fall Down' also makes YOU a 'winner' and isn't a "WIN/WIN" situation the very best outcome..? I am not an "Ugly" guy, but I am not always the 'best-Looking' either... but I learned back in school to be "Entertaining" and "comfortable to be with..." AND I do not put on "Pressure" that I "HAVE" to Catch a FISH every time I go out in public... and like Owen Wilson, I am always willing to walk away...
She has to pass my initial assessment 1st. Fail that and it's bye bye
Especially* 6:54, 7:11, 10:39, 13:02
Your grandfather has good taste.
"exspecially"
Rolling Stones is the new "Classical Music". BTW, I also like Beethoven.
"A little older" than her isn't older.
Just tell them " hey, I ain't grampa over here..." With a James bond smirk
That’s creepy
Cool to get away from the whiteboard in this conversation..
Bobby would you telll me how to re-attract a woman who lost interest because I came across as way too aggressive and creepy.
She is scared of me nowadays and doesn't like talking to me anymore for a couple of my inappropriate behaviors
You can't because she will always be on the lookout for just a hint of anything for a reason to run.
Forget about her.
@Peanut butter and jam
I know it is extremely difficult to get her back after my mistakes but tell me any way to turn things around instead of forgetting her
@shady6703 any attempts that are obvious to her that you want her back makes you look weak and pathetic in her eyes.
If you truly want her back, IGNORE her and become the man that she wants.
Being fixated on one woman is very unattractive to ALL WOMEN.
@@shady6703 "instead of forgetting her" Man, you're toast. That woman will never be yours in the current dynamics. So you got the answer but you don't accept it.
Listen.
No woman will ever make you happy, ever. It's just a dream society sells you. It starts with the acceptance (love) your parents give you (or don't) and then when you mature you are on the lookout for acceptance from the opposite sex and by the looks of it you seem to have missed that acceptance necessary in order to be balanced in your existence. Don't worry, most people have the same issues because parents most of the time try the shape their kids into something and in doing so they neglect their nurturing needs.
You are looking to fill that void in yourself that can't be filled. This is why so many guys that go to the deep end of dating end-up in spirituality and reality design.
You want her back because you're running away from that pain of abandonment and rejection but if you accept it, sit with it and focus your whole attention on it will disappear. That pain comes from memory and it replicates itself over and over but if you accept it it will go away however you identify with and and in doing so you strengthen it by making it disappear by taking action in the physical world whereas what you feel is just sensation in your body. You need to face your own issues. She can't help you and even if she would come back to you the outcome won't be good.
Pre-selection. Lots of it. Let her experience lots of other women finding you to be bone-worthy. Either quantity OR quality will work, i.e., a bunch of sixes, sevens or eights OR one solid nine. Your problem is that you probably don't have that many women in your life.
Damn ! Gets the point at 2:00 min
You guys better have lots of money! These young women like big spenders and are only with you for what you can buy them. Most will also have a hot young guy on the side. If you’re good with that go for it.
Most guys don't even want to try dating, women have too many games. too many free dinners that you the man pay for. And what do you get? (Frend Zone)
Do I like Rolling Stones? Honey, I like The Glenn Miller Orchestra