Sometimes I feel like I can take a responsibility only for myself, it’s hard to be responsible for anyone but your own life. Relationships are a constant work. Will it pay of? Only God knows. However learning to be single is so valuable. God bless you all.
Yes, there’s a lot of value in being single. There’s no age where you must be in a relationship. Depends on the person and if they want one in the first place
Thats the only one you need to take responsibility for is yourself. Unless you have children ofcourse. We only have control of ourself. Be responsible for your self and your actions. Anyone that trys to or places their burdens, responsibilities on your shoulders is a toxic manipulator and dont care how big a load someone else is carrying for them. Then its expected. Dont be a people pleaser unless its something youre reciprocating. If its one sided then its not got for you. You deserve to get out of things, relationships atleast what you put into them. If its too much for another person to give back anything out of appriciation and respect for you and y'alls relationship, whatever kind that may be, I suggest walking away. Find something creative you like to do for you instead of wasting time and energy trying to show someone your worth. Dont ever let another person determine yoir self worth ❤❤
@@TEM14411expectation is the root cause of disappointment. Comes in many forms but the just is not to place expectations on anybody (but yourself) or youll wind up disappointed. Others expectations of us are not ours but can cause a whole lot of havok in a persons life. Alot of people carry guilt and shame and feelings theyre a failure because they didnt live up to their parents expectations of them in their life, for example. And lets say the parents expected their child to be a successful CEO of a corporation but that just never lived in their child. Didnt resognate and they had other dreams of becoming something most of their life that doesnt bring in as much money as a CEO but is fulfilling for them and they live comfortable according to their standards for their life. But they still carry these negative emotions for not pleasing their parents expectations of them. That same scenario can create a narcissist also... When healing one has to remove everybody from the equation to truely look at their self in emotional honesty...
@@TEM14411 dont disagree with what you said btw. Having boundaries and knowing what we want out of life and taking action toward what we want is absolutely key!
You have to love you be able to feel comfortable within your own skin, relationships are simply nothing else than the other person adding onto your love
I came across a light worker who doesn’t date or get into relationships and she said she was all about universal love and raising earth’s frequency and that’s her main mission. That was so “Alien” 👽 to me at the time. But after some months of reflection I opened up to the idea. So glad to hear you talk about it ❤
Bro this page got me through so much. Its true everything is easier said then done but you really gotta love yourself. Take time to enjoy life and not get in cycles that hurt you. Thanks for everything though
After years of healing and spiritual growth, this is the one area of life I really struggle with still. Seeing someone so level headed that I have already learned so much from explain this is a big inspiration. Someday I think I'll figure this out, even if that means going outside of society's standards, thank you :-)
It’s crazy your saying this….. I feel so intuitive, I feel when people arent genuine around me and also able to identify peoples emotions and automatically know the end result or what’s going to happen. I hope that made sense lol. It’s so weird because i literally can tell what’s up just by how people act and move.
What happens if you use to be codependent and then you decide to be the opposite of that but then your aware of people who are codependent towards me now? I feel bad for them and I don’t know what to do. Lately it has made me go in solitary mode though it’s lonely
Use that awareness. If you’re able, let them know about their codependency with respect. Sometimes, we need other people to tell us when we’re not on a good path.
I left a 12 year toxic relationship years ago. Being single and focusing on myself work and other goals has given me strength. I now practice meditation self and universal awareness that gives me more satisfaction. Hope someday, I’ll find a partner but even though f I don’t , I feel peaceful and happy. Thank you for your no nonsense approach.
“Once you’ve gotten religion out of your head” dawg thank you. Being born into the cult like thinking has ruined me in so many ways and I’m trying to escape it
Toxic dynamics. This was powerful. Been through it all. Once you become cognizant of what you can tolerate, you’ll disdain from a lot that’s not healthy for you
Really great video, I've learned so much about relationships in just one video. You're really good at articulating stuff, and I hope you could maybe invest on a better mic next time since your voice is really nice to hear. Also just an editing tip, when doing cuts. Add cross dissolve in between your audio layers, since there are quick static glitches in between. (It's normal since it's because of the mic you're using right now) Keep up the great work!
The truth is i’m with someone that i love and we love each other but he doesn’t want to be in relationship, the first time we met he told me that and i did as well , but time by time , i loved him and i want to be just with him but he doesn’t accept to be in a relationship, he wanna be free , but in the same time he wants me to be loyal to him , i’m so confused cause i’m with him 1 year now but i really feel pain and not good mentally about us , but he is helping me get over many things financially, but i don’t want anything from him , i’v never asked , i don’t understand how can someone love someone like he does and not wanna be with me , also one thing , he doesn’t care about me leaving him , i mean he will not like , he will feel pain a little maybe , but he will rather accept me leaving him than be with him in a relationship, he is so so complicated, he thinks in a way of , a love should not be a possession, but if its like that , why you are not mine ? And i’m just urs ? And also when i speak about that he always tell me , man are not like women , why man underestimate women’s , i mean if i want to be with someone else i would , but i decide to not want to , its so complicated , and so confused and now its my second year with him , and i feel like this is not going nowhere, he will still be like that , i feel im wasting my years with someone he doesn’t even think to be in a serious relationship for about 10 years , so how can i stay accepting his behaviour doing whatever he want with any girl, i feel like i really don’t deserve to be loved , my father he does not give a shit about me , its like , i want to leave him but i love him , i dont want to stay with him until i unlove him because i already see him so disgusting for his behaviour about girls and stuff , but its crazy cause i’m muslim and he is not , i would marry him even if its haram in our religion , like i’m gonna do anything for him , how can someone does not even 😅 so stupid , im writing this and i feel so wasted …
Im sick and tired of this , i cant even talk about this with people or close people in my life , my mom she think we are together and she is complaining about that he should marry you or engage whatever , i hope someone text me because i’m getting crazy , even my attitude its changing like i hate man now , i dont want to be with anyone , its like i just want to enjoy myself , iv been single 3 years before meeting him i decide to be single because i got attached so hard but trust me this guy he is my first love , iv never felt like that , i even slept with him in the sense of way losing my virginity with him but he doesnt see what im doing , and im just gonna have problem in my future life with my family myself , because his culture not like mine , look i feel jealous or whatever he is doing , and i dont like but i’m in a situation that its not the time for me to breakup with him for now
I appreciate this video and you so much. I was having so many feelings and things that were coming up tnay I felt like I had no answers to it, this whole video was my answer.🤞🤞 Thank you and bless you!
Hello!! First of all, im very thankful for this video, i found this video very helpful for mw own self-development, and for my final research project as well. May i know any references that you used in this video? Any response will be very appreciated, thank you 😁
Sometimes I feel like I can take a responsibility only for myself, it’s hard to be responsible for anyone but your own life. Relationships are a constant work. Will it pay of? Only God knows. However learning to be single is so valuable. God bless you all.
Yes, there’s a lot of value in being single. There’s no age where you must be in a relationship. Depends on the person and if they want one in the first place
I don't think that only God knows. I think we have to decide for ourselves what we want and expect out of life.
Thats the only one you need to take responsibility for is yourself. Unless you have children ofcourse. We only have control of ourself. Be responsible for your self and your actions. Anyone that trys to or places their burdens, responsibilities on your shoulders is a toxic manipulator and dont care how big a load someone else is carrying for them. Then its expected. Dont be a people pleaser unless its something youre reciprocating. If its one sided then its not got for you. You deserve to get out of things, relationships atleast what you put into them. If its too much for another person to give back anything out of appriciation and respect for you and y'alls relationship, whatever kind that may be, I suggest walking away. Find something creative you like to do for you instead of wasting time and energy trying to show someone your worth. Dont ever let another person determine yoir self worth ❤❤
@@TEM14411expectation is the root cause of disappointment. Comes in many forms but the just is not to place expectations on anybody (but yourself) or youll wind up disappointed. Others expectations of us are not ours but can cause a whole lot of havok in a persons life. Alot of people carry guilt and shame and feelings theyre a failure because they didnt live up to their parents expectations of them in their life, for example. And lets say the parents expected their child to be a successful CEO of a corporation but that just never lived in their child. Didnt resognate and they had other dreams of becoming something most of their life that doesnt bring in as much money as a CEO but is fulfilling for them and they live comfortable according to their standards for their life. But they still carry these negative emotions for not pleasing their parents expectations of them.
That same scenario can create a narcissist also... When healing one has to remove everybody from the equation to truely look at their self in emotional honesty...
@@TEM14411 dont disagree with what you said btw. Having boundaries and knowing what we want out of life and taking action toward what we want is absolutely key!
You have to love you be able to feel comfortable within your own skin, relationships are simply nothing else than the other person adding onto your love
🎯🎯🎯
I came across a light worker who doesn’t date or get into relationships and she said she was all about universal love and raising earth’s frequency and that’s her main mission. That was so “Alien” 👽 to me at the time. But after some months of reflection I opened up to the idea. So glad to hear you talk about it ❤
Yes love has many forms of expression
Wow that is so beautiful...❤
I love that you mentioned toxic dynamics in relationships
So important
My past self subscribed to some gold
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Bro this page got me through so much. Its true everything is easier said then done but you really gotta love yourself. Take time to enjoy life and not get in cycles that hurt you. Thanks for everything though
After years of healing and spiritual growth, this is the one area of life I really struggle with still. Seeing someone so level headed that I have already learned so much from explain this is a big inspiration. Someday I think I'll figure this out, even if that means going outside of society's standards, thank you :-)
I’m a heterosexual woman and I don't know it is worth my time to feel, care ,and love for a man in a romantic way. 🌺🌸
It's worth only if it's 100% reciprocated. Otherwise don't invest time and energy.
@@tonelo7207 no too me if that person is already married or has a girlfriend
Life is grueling and long. I feel like I’ve been through at least three lifetimes and there’s still possibly decades left to go.
Same
It’s crazy your saying this….. I feel so intuitive, I feel when people arent genuine around me and also able to identify peoples emotions and automatically know the end result or what’s going to happen. I hope that made sense lol. It’s so weird because i literally can tell what’s up just by how people act and move.
im the same way trust me youre lucky to be the way u are u cut out all the bullshit quick
What happens if you use to be codependent and then you decide to be the opposite of that but then your aware of people who are codependent towards me now? I feel bad for them and I don’t know what to do. Lately it has made me go in solitary mode though it’s lonely
Use that awareness. If you’re able, let them know about their codependency with respect.
Sometimes, we need other people to tell us when we’re not on a good path.
You have to honestly communicate that codependency isn’t healthy in the longterm for either of you
Well said
@@Odysseybeats-nz7kx Thank you So much 🙏🏾
@@JemVeda Thank you for your knowledge and information that you share its life changing and has helped me through very dark moments. Forever grateful.
I left a 12 year toxic relationship years ago. Being single and focusing on myself work and other goals has given me strength. I now practice meditation self and universal awareness that gives me more satisfaction. Hope someday, I’ll find a partner but even though f I don’t , I feel peaceful and happy.
Thank you for your no nonsense approach.
“Once you’ve gotten religion out of your head” dawg thank you. Being born into the cult like thinking has ruined me in so many ways and I’m trying to escape it
Preaching Facts as always, very insightful bless brotherman
Most underrated channel on UA-cam!!!!!
Thanks!
Toxic dynamics. This was powerful. Been through it all. Once you become cognizant of what you can tolerate, you’ll disdain from a lot that’s not healthy for you
I have been searching for a video like this for so long. I appreciate the fact that you uploaded this. And broke down the key factors
Thank you 🙏🏿
Didn’t expect to see Donny from BB16 in this video but I’m here for it😂great stuff as always man
Man I love the show big brother haha
Really great video, I've learned so much about relationships in just one video. You're really good at articulating stuff, and I hope you could maybe invest on a better mic next time since your voice is really nice to hear.
Also just an editing tip, when doing cuts. Add cross dissolve in between your audio layers, since there are quick static glitches in between. (It's normal since it's because of the mic you're using right now)
Keep up the great work!
Yeah, I’m going to replace this current one
I couldn't Thank you enough, Please don't ever stop making videos Jem.❤
Let's go!!!
I really like your videos. Thank you
🙏your explaining is clarity🙏great drop
Thank you :)
Your handsome. Mmmhumm ☺️
Thank you :)
His girl wants to know your location
I love your videos but your mic keeps popping
Keep going nice work ❤❤❤
You are an incredibly special man, thank you.
Your video format is amazing bro 💯
Thank you 🙏🏿
This video is great, helped a lot thanks
The truth is i’m with someone that i love and we love each other but he doesn’t want to be in relationship, the first time we met he told me that and i did as well , but time by time , i loved him and i want to be just with him but he doesn’t accept to be in a relationship, he wanna be free , but in the same time he wants me to be loyal to him , i’m so confused cause i’m with him 1 year now but i really feel pain and not good mentally about us , but he is helping me get over many things financially, but i don’t want anything from him , i’v never asked , i don’t understand how can someone love someone like he does and not wanna be with me , also one thing , he doesn’t care about me leaving him , i mean he will not like , he will feel pain a little maybe , but he will rather accept me leaving him than be with him in a relationship, he is so so complicated, he thinks in a way of , a love should not be a possession, but if its like that , why you are not mine ? And i’m just urs ? And also when i speak about that he always tell me , man are not like women , why man underestimate women’s , i mean if i want to be with someone else i would , but i decide to not want to , its so complicated , and so confused and now its my second year with him , and i feel like this is not going nowhere, he will still be like that , i feel im wasting my years with someone he doesn’t even think to be in a serious relationship for about 10 years , so how can i stay accepting his behaviour doing whatever he want with any girl, i feel like i really don’t deserve to be loved , my father he does not give a shit about me , its like , i want to leave him but i love him , i dont want to stay with him until i unlove him because i already see him so disgusting for his behaviour about girls and stuff , but its crazy cause i’m muslim and he is not , i would marry him even if its haram in our religion , like i’m gonna do anything for him , how can someone does not even 😅 so stupid , im writing this and i feel so wasted …
Im sick and tired of this , i cant even talk about this with people or close people in my life , my mom she think we are together and she is complaining about that he should marry you or engage whatever , i hope someone text me because i’m getting crazy , even my attitude its changing like i hate man now , i dont want to be with anyone , its like i just want to enjoy myself , iv been single 3 years before meeting him i decide to be single because i got attached so hard but trust me this guy he is my first love , iv never felt like that , i even slept with him in the sense of way losing my virginity with him but he doesnt see what im doing , and im just gonna have problem in my future life with my family myself , because his culture not like mine , look i feel jealous or whatever he is doing , and i dont like but i’m in a situation that its not the time for me to breakup with him for now
I appreciate this video and you so much. I was having so many feelings and things that were coming up tnay I felt like I had no answers to it, this whole video was my answer.🤞🤞 Thank you and bless you!
Self management!
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Hello!! First of all, im very thankful for this video, i found this video very helpful for mw own self-development, and for my final research project as well. May i know any references that you used in this video? Any response will be very appreciated, thank you 😁
Loved it! And you!❤️
Love you too ❤️
Thank you!...😀
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you look like Khadija Mbowe. Another good youtuber. Do you know her? You look like twins
I pride myself on speaking all the languages of love and i even make some up along the way.
I'm 23 and I've never been in a relationship and it makes me feel really sad 😢
Thats rough buddy
Womp Womp
@@Erryberry315ur not funny
Get out your head
Great Video!😊
Kindly make videos on boundaries and nice guy
god i love this channel
Thank you!
thank you
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I really needed to see this
another great video, tnx Veda
Great video needed that!
Thanks!
Amazing video ❤
Keep up the great work Jem 👍
Thank you :)