Decades of Waiting - Married at 43

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  • @302Notary-fingerprintboss
    @302Notary-fingerprintboss 6 років тому +164

    Yeah! I and my husband married for the first (and forever) time at age 53💕 Praise The Lord I waited. My husband is an amazing man Of God. Imperfectly perfect for me💕

    • @nomadsgirl.3558
      @nomadsgirl.3558 4 роки тому +4

      PRAISE GOD! I'm claiming too soon to meet mine.🙏

    • @JM-yf5rt
      @JM-yf5rt 4 роки тому +3

      Wow. Please share your story. How did you meet? How long did you know him before you two married?

    • @godsown4683
      @godsown4683 4 роки тому +2

      You very young though. Congratulations

    • @user-cl6uj5bn2f
      @user-cl6uj5bn2f 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your story❤ I feel my story will be similar.

    • @charityjune8179
      @charityjune8179 3 роки тому +2

      Cuteness! LOVE this.

  • @bronzy_gold
    @bronzy_gold 7 років тому +339

    when your single and not dating...the best thing to do while waiting is serve God, travel, and set and met goals.

    • @Solrac1424
      @Solrac1424 6 років тому +3

      Good.idea.but when you hit 40...

    • @Lemons19902010
      @Lemons19902010 6 років тому +15

      @@Solrac1424 Same thing. Travel, set personal and professional goals and meet those, and serve God!

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 6 років тому +15

      True! I've been traveling alot this year! Just went to the Caribbean & Cuba this summer. First REAL vaca in almost 9 years so it was LONG overdue! Now focusing on my own businesses in non profit & Hospitality Management! Trying to assist youth in counseling, homelessness, job readiness, transitioning youth from the prison system to productive adults. Just find your passion & keep going forward!!

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 6 років тому +3

      @JamericanDC1 Thank you!! My family has been in outreach for over 50 years, so growing up watching them give unconditionally to their communities confirmed to me that I ultimately just want to help ppl improve in whatever obstacles/circumstances they're facing!❤

    • @timisapaulinah9905
      @timisapaulinah9905 6 років тому +9

      Christianity we don't date in reality, God has ordained our husbands just for us not dating.

  • @BeaBlessed
    @BeaBlessed 7 років тому +165

    I married the man that I had dreamed about. However, it was a bad dream. I married him anyway. It took 26 years to get out of the worst relationship of my life. But, I still thank God that I am still alive and able to tell my testimony. WAIT ON THE LORD! DON"T SETTLE FOR WHAT IS WORST FOR YOU WHEN GOD KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!

    • @user-cl6uj5bn2f
      @user-cl6uj5bn2f 3 роки тому +10

      Thank you for this. I share this mindset. Those in Christian circles that perpetuate the myth that you must be married and have a family at a certain age cause so much harm to the community of Christian women. Furthermore it's not biblical. "There's a time and place for everything under the sun" and God calls people to different seasons at different times. God Bless you.

    • @patb-d2264
      @patb-d2264 2 роки тому +3

      This sounds so like ne!Yes!26 years!!I look at it as a detour(?)As in the Israelites being in the wilderness for 40 years.
      Get up,shake the dust off and move on.Those 26 years havve given meinvaluable experiences I'll certainly need for the rest of my life.

    • @wpwcradio
      @wpwcradio 2 роки тому +3

      @@patb-d2264 Update: It has been four years since I posted this testimony. I was still in the healing stages of coming out of Egypt during that time. However, God healed me and taught me how to love and respect my "ex-husband" for the sake of our children; and for the sake of my walk with God. Unfortunately, my ex-husband passed away in November of this year. We parted as friends, and he left me in charge of his entire estate. I am so grateful for the healing that we both experience, and I will never regret the lessons that I've learned about waiting on God.

    • @bigdaddyjehu
      @bigdaddyjehu Рік тому

      @@user-cl6uj5bn2f Marriage is supposed to happen at a young age. Problem is women keep marrying the wrong men and getting divorced and wasting so much time on a man who don't love god. "As it was in the days of Noah so it shall be in the coming of the son of man, they were giving into marriage".

  • @clarnicpsu05
    @clarnicpsu05 7 років тому +553

    Thank you for bringing this story to life. As a 35 year old never married, no kids woman who has followed the Lord for years, its refreshing to hear this.

    • @y.kristina6737
      @y.kristina6737 7 років тому +3

      clarnicpsu05
      Girl, I right with you Lady!😊

    • @janellecovington6905
      @janellecovington6905 7 років тому +24

      clarnicpsu05 I'm 32 and in the same boat- this was totally encouraging for me too!

    • @robynmcpherson4045
      @robynmcpherson4045 7 років тому +31

      Totally agree...I'm 32 and in the same boat!

    • @MsBeyourbest
      @MsBeyourbest 7 років тому +17

      clarnicpsu05 totally agree! Believing that God will give us the desires of our hearts...and truly believing it. Living like our husbands are out there...living and breathing and trusting God's timing. Great video 🙌🏾

    • @hisalways7225
      @hisalways7225 7 років тому +1

      im right there with ya. i

  • @dennishena1399
    @dennishena1399 7 років тому +249

    I'm a single, 33 y/o man who's currently on his walk and wait for his queen. contrary to popular belief, there are guys out here who WANT to be married. I THOUGHT I've been waiting until I watched this. Thank you for posting this video and story! It's not just that she was ten 10 older than I am now when she got married, it really gave me perspective of HOW I've been looking at my walk with Christ and what He guiding me towards, and what I should be doing in the meantime.

    • @Rehobothreconciliation
      @Rehobothreconciliation 6 років тому +3

      hi Henna keep waiting God will give u best marriage

    • @deec3561
      @deec3561 6 років тому +14

      Hey if you still single... I’m single too... lmbo

    • @texaslovelylady
      @texaslovelylady 6 років тому +12

      Desperation equals heartbreak and pain.
      Respect for you Dennis having the courage as a man to tell us your waiting.

    • @khiabrown2421
      @khiabrown2421 6 років тому

      ☺️☺️

    • @str3ngth1
      @str3ngth1 6 років тому +4

      I'm a year late but God bless your wait Dennis

  • @khabe100
    @khabe100 7 років тому +387

    Finally something for the 40+ never married crew! Thank you Heather & Lori for your encouraging words. The timing for everyone's life is different but the constant is falling in love with Jesus first! There's no way around it. God bless!

    • @deborahprice4018
      @deborahprice4018 7 років тому +15

      thank you ladies this is amazing and encouraging.....
      at 57 I want to be content with Jesus..

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose 7 років тому +1

      Amen sis!

    • @childofgrace2087
      @childofgrace2087 6 років тому +4

      Deborah Price
      Contentment is the best form of peace a single person can have. God does not operate in biological numbers. Remember the Sarah story. We must forget about the other opinions and rest in the Lord bc He is faithful!

    • @sherikwasnik5290
      @sherikwasnik5290 5 років тому

      Just K agreed!!! Needed to see this badly. Thanks for the comment.

  • @RemnantBride49
    @RemnantBride49 4 роки тому +117

    This blessed me today. Am also in my 40's and never married. There's hope for me!

    • @tamarahines6975
      @tamarahines6975 4 роки тому +12

      You are not the only one. I will be 43 on December 18. I have never married I am still waiting as well. God Bless

    • @Supsup7777
      @Supsup7777 4 роки тому +7

      41 here!

    • @sweetp7320
      @sweetp7320 3 роки тому +12

      I’m 42 And I just met my husband so yes there’s hope and I waited over a decade to get Married because I didn’t wanted to Settle and getting Closer to God

    • @niiyemohodoi3844
      @niiyemohodoi3844 3 роки тому +3

      @@Supsup7777 God strengthen you and proud of that, what kind of man do you want?

    • @niiyemohodoi3844
      @niiyemohodoi3844 3 роки тому +3

      @@tamarahines6975 great, God strengthen and power you on

  • @erodz2943
    @erodz2943 7 років тому +161

    I was 41 when I met my husband. 45 when we got married. I knew he was out there.

    • @symone9301
      @symone9301 5 років тому +6

      did you have children together? or want to?

    • @jhenniferbillionz5125
      @jhenniferbillionz5125 5 років тому +2

      Congratulations

    • @MichElle-py8lk
      @MichElle-py8lk 4 роки тому +10

      @@symone9301 why does that matter?? You can still have children in your 40s!

    • @mightyobserver12
      @mightyobserver12 4 роки тому +4

      Why it took 4years for him?

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 4 роки тому +8

      @@MichElle-py8lk I saw a lady on here who had a baby at 52. It is possible. She waited so long to have a baby and finally did.

  • @mrscotajr4768
    @mrscotajr4768 6 років тому +111

    I waited and got married at the age of 43.

    • @doroth215
      @doroth215 5 років тому +10

      Congratulations Mrs Cota Jnr. Am turning 42 soon and I hope God does my soon. I know, i would be happy with God's time and choice for my life.

    • @tameikaporter6884
      @tameikaporter6884 4 роки тому +4

      Did you have a child. I'm 42 and not married yet. My dream of having a child is almost nonexistent

    • @candystayinaturalalexander5869
      @candystayinaturalalexander5869 4 роки тому +18

      @@tameikaporter6884 not true, my sister had her 1st beautiful healthy daughter at 47. She's still vibrant and she is married .

    • @walkingInGodsGrace
      @walkingInGodsGrace 4 роки тому +12

      Tameika Porter . No it’s not, I know people who had their first at 47 and 48. God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think...☺️. Blessings.

    • @candystayinaturalalexander5869
      @candystayinaturalalexander5869 4 роки тому +4

      @Civil Rights yes Ma'am, I'm 48 and looking forward to the same blessings 🙏

  • @cathrinematamba4579
    @cathrinematamba4579 7 років тому +64

    Thats amazing.I can relate to this.got married at 33 and now blessed with twin girls who just turned one.God is amazing and faithful.all we need is to be patient

    • @euniceezekiel3701
      @euniceezekiel3701 5 років тому +1

      Amen Glory to God, i need to be blessed with two boy twin, God bless you much more to get others two boys twins

  • @virtuousceolady6091
    @virtuousceolady6091 7 років тому +84

    I loved this. I am 35 and just got engaged a month ago. No kids, never been married. Although other people tried to make me seem like something must have been wrong with me, I decided to trust God's timing. Waiting is sooo worth it. There is nothing like the peace of God in your life and in your relationship.

    • @msadamsdesigns
      @msadamsdesigns 7 років тому +4

      virtuous CEOlady This is encouraging I just turned 34 with no kids or husband and trusting God for my husband.

    • @virtuousceolady6091
      @virtuousceolady6091 7 років тому +8

      msadamsdesigns​ Believe me it is definitely worth it. Once I got revelation of the scripture that tells God will give us the desires of our heart IF WE DELIGHT OURSELVES IN HIM, it gave me so much freedom. Many people think that means God will give you whatever you want. But He helped me to understand that through the process of delighting myself in him, the desires I have in my heart are there because He gave them to me. So if I desired to be a wife and mother it was because God gave me those desires. And He would not plant that in me if He never intended to make that happen, because He will withhold no good thing from me. I got so much peace of mind from that, and was able to focus more on enjoying all the benefits of singleness until my time came. I found comfort in knowing that it would happen because God gave me the wanting in the first place. I look forward to life with my hubby to be, but I'm gonna miss only being responsible for myself lol. It will come sis, and when it does, you will be glad that you let the Lord move in your life rather than you trying to make things happen.

    • @ikonemaxy1912
      @ikonemaxy1912 2 роки тому

      Just today that one of my family member made me feel as if something is wrong with me,by waiting upon the Lord and my supposed to be husband.

  • @eileenmoore7725
    @eileenmoore7725 7 років тому +29

    Congratulations on your marriage! I am 65 years old and never married. I put God first and am going to wait and not compromise. Thank you for sharing.

  • @JesusIsMyEverything-John1633
    @JesusIsMyEverything-John1633 7 років тому +561

    I can relate to this personally! My Grandma waited till she was in her 50s to get married to the man God had for her. She didn't know it but it was her very own high school best friend! and she trusted in the Lord with her wait ALLLL THE DAYS. For clarity she had my Dad at 13/14 years old by a different person so that's how I came along :) So for me, I am happy to say that at 22, I am now satisfied whether God calls me to a life of singleness or marriage. Either way my life goes, I just want to serve :)
    Update: Wow can't believe I wrote this 4 years ago! I'm 26 going on 27 next month and still walking in my singleness! Currently serving as a missionary in Asia :D Jesus is so awesome!

    • @shanalee8469
      @shanalee8469 7 років тому +13

      Dominique how did your grandma wait till she's 50. How did you come

    • @tiffanypalmer3779
      @tiffanypalmer3779 7 років тому +24

      Dominique "she waited" meaning she didn't date random men. She waited for the Lord to reveal to her her husband.

    • @JesusIsMyEverything-John1633
      @JesusIsMyEverything-John1633 7 років тому +47

      Hey Sis, what Tiffany Palmer said is correct! My Grandma gave birth to my Dad when she was 14 years old. She rededicated her life to Christ soon after :)

    • @melliemel32
      @melliemel32 7 років тому +4

      Dominique AMEN!!

    • @Stephaniealicianaturalhair
      @Stephaniealicianaturalhair 7 років тому +23

      That is great. Keep trusting. I am 40 and for the first time in my life, I now have a boyfriend. It took so long. In my 20s and 30s, I dated various men however none of them made a commitment. I love the man I am dating currently. I want to build a Jesus honoring future with him.

  • @valerie4912
    @valerie4912 6 років тому +51

    How did this end up in my suggestions??
    I will be 40 in 4 months. Never married. No children. Celebrate for 5 years. I know that rejection has been God’s protection. My heart desires many things; one of them being a kind, respectful and patient man.
    I’m happy I got to see this today. Thank you 🌹

    • @tessceline7494
      @tessceline7494 6 років тому +1

      Am asking myself the same thing though this recommendation is heavenly sent....am in my mid 30s and kinda feel like giving up coz we ladies got this biological clock....but this story is a strong testimony

    • @ektasharma3520
      @ektasharma3520 5 років тому +1

      @@tessceline7494 You can preserve your eggs.

  • @SimplyLexsi
    @SimplyLexsi 7 років тому +166

    Major Key:: you have to surrender your desires to the Lord! Doing your own thing can/will delay your from destination, even by decades. Making marriage an ideal is a serious issue most singles don't even know the're doing it. Shift your focus on God whole heartly.

    • @rikim1693
      @rikim1693 7 років тому +19

      I agree. His waiting on us. I wondered many times . Was I making the right decision getting married at 24. I was a babe in the Lord not to long when I met my husband. I was not looking at all. One day he appeared. I always prayed Lord send my husband that will lead to marriage. Dating is not biblical. Date with purpose and intent to marry. 15 months later we married

    • @Harvester2222
      @Harvester2222 7 років тому +2

      Alexis K. So very true 😊

    • @mb5857
      @mb5857 6 років тому

      Riki M ...Well good for you! I had NO desire to be tied down in my 20's.

    • @Radiexboarder2
      @Radiexboarder2 5 років тому

      Alexis K. Yes!!! Snaps!!

    • @Solrac1424
      @Solrac1424 5 років тому

      Alexis K. You are totally right. I wish i had watched this video in 2010. I cam only imagine all the beartbreak it would ve saved me. Envy got the best of me

  • @charris9547
    @charris9547 7 років тому +178

    Ladies do not make marriage or having children an idol because this is a rush to single parenthood, a broken marriage, or tumultuous co-parenting. Focus on God and living. Never try to force it. Married at 32 and loving it, 5+ years strong. Marriage was not much of a thought for me.

    • @lindakanana7742
      @lindakanana7742 5 років тому +5

      Thank you

    • @candystayinaturalalexander5869
      @candystayinaturalalexander5869 4 роки тому +4

      Yup you said a word. Seek 1st the kingdom and all these things will be added. Matthew 6:33 🙏💯

    • @Signal_light_instructor
      @Signal_light_instructor 4 роки тому

      What about when you miss👅🥒👅🥒👅🥒👅🥒👅

    • @bornagain67
      @bornagain67 4 роки тому

      Truth!

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey 4 роки тому +5

      Yeah... I've noticed LOTS of people have made this an idol, only to be disappointed and go through messy divorces. Most of the people I know have been divorced once, twice, or more. I know some people who have been divorced 4 or 5 times. I'd rather not put myself through unnecessary struggle. At least my life has been easier in that way. Most people don't "get it," though.

  • @IAmDrMoni
    @IAmDrMoni 7 років тому +195

    I LOVE her story, so INSPIRING!!! Thank you so much for sharing. I'm 38, waiting, & doing it God's way.

    • @njp2621
      @njp2621 7 років тому +6

      Dr. Moni Be encouraged Sis! I am 38 as well. God is faithful! May the deepest desires of your heart manifest soon 😊

    • @IAmDrMoni
      @IAmDrMoni 7 років тому +1

      Thank you Sis, I appreciate the encouragement.

    • @sweetulip2004
      @sweetulip2004 7 років тому +2

      Dr. Moni bless you! I've come across your posts on facebook not long ago & have shared a few of them! I love the one that read Single Saved Set Apart & Not Having Sex in the pretty blue & pink lettering!#TeamNoCompromise it read! Amen!! Keep walking the path you're on dear. God will honor your faithfulness and continue to mold you to be the best while on the journey! At 31 I have found delight in waiting on the Lord because I love Him that much. I love purity/holiness and letting God develop me in the process! So you stay encouraged WOG! I speak bountiful blessings, favor, grace & prosperity over you in the name of Jesus!!! ❤❤💪💪
      -Crystal Roland

    • @IAmDrMoni
      @IAmDrMoni 7 років тому +2

      Greetings Crystal! Thank you so much for your encouraging words & I receive ALL of that!!! Yes I've been on Facebook for a few years spreading God's love, encouragement, and wisdom as much as I can. Living on PURPOSE. Stay encouraged as well and know that God's timing is ALWAYS perfect.

    • @sweetulip2004
      @sweetulip2004 7 років тому +2

      Dr. Moni GLORY!! 💕

  • @exoticgl0w
    @exoticgl0w 7 років тому +232

    Thank you so much for sharing your story Lori. I'm 29 and single.......and sometimes I do get weary seeing 30+, 40+ women, who have served the Lord faithfully, and still be single ----- being real, that can disheartening and then fear sets in my heart that my story will be the same and then I wonder why God put this desire for marriage and family in my heart in the first place. But listening to your story today has been super encouraging and a reminder that God is faithful. I'm grateful for Pinky Promise.

    • @deanikiliagwu1595
      @deanikiliagwu1595 7 років тому

      exoticgl0w 💙

    • @214InnocentGirl20
      @214InnocentGirl20 7 років тому +7

      exoticgl0w I feel the same way but I want children so I really don't want to wait until I'm 43 to get married.

    • @exoticgl0w
      @exoticgl0w 7 років тому +11

      erica simone trust me I totally understand how you feel. I have learned through Heather Lindsey, Pinky Promise, and just in my own personal relationship with God - that I must surrender this area of my life to the Lord. And not compare my story to anyone else's story......we have to trust God with every detail in our lives. Is that easy???? NO WAY......I often have days/nights on my face to God crying out asking for strength not to take matters into my own hands, not to doubt Him concerning this area of my life, and not forsake my purity for a quick hookup because my hormones are going crazy (real talk here). Sis, trust God.....He is present in this season. I have to take fear/doubt to the cross daily because the enemy hits me with hit. The devil uses fear to cause us to doubt God and not trust Him leading us to take matters into our own hands........then we are outside the will of God wondering how we got in the mess we in.

    • @214InnocentGirl20
      @214InnocentGirl20 7 років тому +8

      That's true im learning that now. Not to try to hook up with old flames because I'm bored or feeling lustful. I've really been to myself lately and I've decided to just be to myself until the right person comes along. It is hard especially since most the women in my family aren't married or got married later in life the only difference is they had their children already. I'm trying to do things the right way and it is definitely hard but I won't give up.

    • @exoticgl0w
      @exoticgl0w 7 років тому +22

      erica simone I once had a family member tell me I would "more then likely success in my career but alone" (paraphrasing what she actually said) --------- my heart was so hurt.......I cried over it many nights.......and to be honest it still stings a little........because I was wondering why would my family member say that........I'm trying to live right, I'm trying to wait to marriage to give my body away, I'm trying to live for God.......I had to make a choice though......to eat the words send by the enemy to discourage me or stand on the Word of God, the promises of God, and what I believe He showed me in a dream about my future.........to this day my desire is to trust God concerning this area of my life. I don't care what statistics say about black women and marriage. I don't care what statistics say about the ratio of women to men. God is sovereign and in control of all things. My hope is in Him.

  • @Mosh-p5f
    @Mosh-p5f 7 років тому +51

    For anybody out there waiting on God for a spouse or children..i pray that the Lord will remember you just like he did for Rachel, Sarah and all the amazing women we read about in the bible... same God yesterday, today and forever. Amen

    • @mary_tee
      @mary_tee 5 років тому

      Amen.......

    • @EBThisThat
      @EBThisThat 4 роки тому +1

      I needed this. I took care of my parents and I really want a family. Many people tell me I've wasted my opportunity. I've had dreams about it. I don't have a house but I feel once I have it, everything will start fitting together.

    • @phayla35
      @phayla35 2 роки тому

      Amen

  • @tissomahbozumbil489
    @tissomahbozumbil489 7 років тому +241

    She looks fab for 43

    • @thembicosta4394
      @thembicosta4394 7 років тому +11

      Tissomah Bozumbil What is 43 supposed to look like??? She's just beautiful regardless !

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 7 років тому +15

      Why does everyone act like 35 and above is old? And that you should look like crap once you are 35...how sad. You start getting those "you look good for your age comments".

    • @elisa48092
      @elisa48092 6 років тому +2

      Well she looks muuuuch yunger

    • @HelloNil
      @HelloNil 6 років тому +4

      She does not look jounger , but good for her age ..

    • @lynnemaremana1248
      @lynnemaremana1248 6 років тому +2

      +Hello Nil Negative negative why

  • @TheSdcole60
    @TheSdcole60 7 років тому +191

    Thank you Lori for sharing your story. I am 37 and made a commitment that I spoke and wrote down to God this year that I am waiting on the man that God has for me. Although it's hard to wait, I am praying for patience and that God will continue to prepare and position me for the Godly man I have been praying for. I don't want to settle and desire God's best. :-)

    • @jareya
      @jareya 7 років тому +11

      Amen! I'm 37 too and have the same prayer. I know God will continue to prepare us for His best.

    • @Mrsethla
      @Mrsethla 7 років тому

      Keep it up!

    • @maraka8106
      @maraka8106 6 років тому +8

      I'm turning 37 this year and after a couple of toxic relationships I decided to remain pure and wait upon the Lord

    • @estherrosalind5538
      @estherrosalind5538 6 років тому +8

      I am 36 and waiting for my God ordained man

    • @user-jb9fq2yx8f
      @user-jb9fq2yx8f 6 років тому +2

      Yes! You go girl!!

  • @daughterofthemosthigh9686
    @daughterofthemosthigh9686 5 років тому +3

    Dr Cindy Trimm said that “Loneliness is not the absence of a PERSON but the absence of PURPOSE “.... this is so true. Women of God we have to remember that our identity is in Christ, not who we marry or careers or any of that. This testimony is an inspiration that we should wait on what God has for us.

  • @thembicosta4394
    @thembicosta4394 7 років тому +49

    I'm 44 never married no children, Iam chaste (for years) i pray, tighe and fast..I gave up dating years ago. If it's meant to happen ... God has plenty to keep me busy. Thank You for speaking for to mature women with a sense of purpose...

  • @vivianbabirye7411
    @vivianbabirye7411 2 роки тому +1

    God. Please listen to the prayers of every single woman on this platform. It's not easy to wait. But give us the grace.

  • @Lvcharm
    @Lvcharm 7 років тому +38

    "God shut those doors down to protect you"🙏🏽

  • @cynthiaquattrocelli.8941
    @cynthiaquattrocelli.8941 7 років тому +3

    I have a very similar story, but I was blessed at an older age in marriage at age 59 years old. PTL b/c when you ask HIM for a mate, HE does it the Right way....but it may take time. He has stuff to work out in your life to develop you. So true that He wants you to fall in love with Him first and this also means to be busy about serving others. I became singles leader at church while single. Such a similar story that I have. I am 65 now and happily married for 6 years.

  • @carleshawright131
    @carleshawright131 7 років тому +73

    Thank you for this. I'm 32 and living while waiting. It's refreshing to see someone that's not 22 talking about this subject!

    • @samanthaj21
      @samanthaj21 7 років тому +3

      Carlesha Wright I love it living and waiting!!

    • @carleshawright131
      @carleshawright131 7 років тому

      Aww thanks!

    • @theodorejonathan6460
      @theodorejonathan6460 7 років тому

      am a responsible single 30yr old man.

    • @ifym5455
      @ifym5455 7 років тому +6

      Carlesha Wright thank you! I'm 36 and to hear someone in their early 20s talking about waiting doesn't help b/c some have not lived life or experienced it, and that's not throwing shade or being disrespectful. They don't feel the "pressure" b/c they are still young and oftentimes they are told to enjoy themselves, have fun, enjoy their youth, and "they still have time". At this time, I've been told everything but those things and it can be very discouraging. But if I'm following God's purpose and will for my life, he replaces those anxieties with joy. Did I tell you that you are young b/c you are 😊.

    • @carleshawright131
      @carleshawright131 7 років тому

      Ifeoma Mozie I totally understand.

  • @RebeccaSong
    @RebeccaSong 7 років тому +60

    Heather! I LOVE the encouragement you provide for other ladies, but not just other ladies but other Christians! The light of Christ shines so brightly through you & Lori!!!
    p.s. I loove that little voice you do when you mimic letters you get hahaha

  • @CSLOUE
    @CSLOUE 7 років тому +20

    It's like she become 25 again the minute she put God first. I really don't see it as her waiting decades she simply waited too long for God to lead that area of her life but when she finally did, He wasted no time. Seeing this in my 20s I have wasted far too much time, what I'm getting from this is that the secret is to serve God 🙏🏾🙏🏾💕.

  • @missj5564
    @missj5564 7 років тому +6

    Me being a 51 year old, single, christian woman, needed to hear this word. God promised me a husband and I know that he will deliver.

  • @beadydani
    @beadydani 7 років тому +269

    Encouraging testimony. I turned 50 in April, never been married, no kids, haven't dated in over 20 years. Some say I must be nuts but I say I'm waiting for God's timing. Thank God I have a group of friends who are in the same boat and a few are older than me. We are able to support and celebrate each other, do stuff together, enjoy/embrace our singles whilst waiting for 'the one'.

    • @tishataray
      @tishataray 6 років тому +4

      beadydani i love the idea of group celebration

    • @darider6286
      @darider6286 6 років тому +10

      i feel you,same here no kids never been married etc,i used to think something was wrong wit me or wonder why good women dont notice me.So iv enough of this loneliness singleness im not njoying it at all

    • @achatwithgoitse
      @achatwithgoitse 6 років тому

      Wow. Thanks for sharing.

    • @loverofallthingsbeautiful2
      @loverofallthingsbeautiful2 6 років тому +8

      Can I ask why you haven't dated in 20 years? Did you not meet anyone? Or were you just not interested?

    • @lilij6807
      @lilij6807 6 років тому +17

      Why haven't you dated? You know Faith w/ out works is dead.

  • @ZOEWORSHIPTV
    @ZOEWORSHIPTV 7 років тому +13

    We will indeed overcome for the word of our testimony! I thank God for this. As a 26 year old, being satisfied and fulfilled in Christ is my ultimate goal

  • @margaretmburu2569
    @margaretmburu2569 6 років тому +9

    Am so encouraged by this testimony ... Am 44 still single no child and still waiting on God..Am now convinced Nothing is impossible with God. Thankyou for sharing

  • @TaurusChanel
    @TaurusChanel 7 років тому +13

    My auntie got engaged at Christmas last year, and she's 49. She'll be getting married in June! Keep hope alive sisters!

    • @JM-yf5rt
      @JM-yf5rt 4 роки тому

      Awesome! Thanks for sharing.

  • @dakishapete6114
    @dakishapete6114 7 років тому +3

    36 and waiting! This is such an uplifting video; thanks!

  • @sherilmorgan3439
    @sherilmorgan3439 7 років тому +4

    I am 43 years old this year, so when I saw the title of your video, it made me stop in my tracks. I have been waiting too and although I have not joined pinky promise, I made that commitment a long time ago, to honour God with my life and my body. Two years ago I moved to a new country and it has been lonely at time because I have not found community. I have released my desires for marriage and children to God and I am trying to learn, grow and be content in this space. Your video is such a great source of encouragement, as you show God's faithfulness in this area of your life. Continue to share your story.
    You are both amazing!

  • @ThatGirl912
    @ThatGirl912 7 років тому +15

    Great testimony. Thanks for sharing - 32 and waiting.

  • @Lczzy
    @Lczzy 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this as there are many men and women past 40 years waiting for their spouse. Need to have more relatable examples like this for those over 40.

  • @nicolec.5938
    @nicolec.5938 7 років тому +4

    I needed to hear this , Every body that watches your channel is in there 20s.
    Im in my 40s . Keeping the faith 🙌🏼

    • @mixedinsideofme8686
      @mixedinsideofme8686 7 років тому

      Thank u for sharing! Very inspiring to hear as Im 35 learning to love myself.

  • @HealthyWayILive
    @HealthyWayILive 7 років тому +5

    Love your story!!! I've also met my husband on Facebook. God's timing is amazing! He knows what we need when we need it! I prayed for my husband and left it for God to send him and He did just that! Learning to be content with God and serving him whole- heartedly was the beginning of my union with my husband.

  • @HeartOfChristGlobalMinistry
    @HeartOfChristGlobalMinistry 7 років тому +9

    I love this encouragement. Im 34 years old, & doing it God's way. He's got my heart. I trust God & the dreams He's given me about my companion. All in God's timing; I'm mission focused & enjoy where God got me now leading & equipping the Youth. God is Faithful to His Promises & I believe it will come to pass. Im glad for this sisterhood & that we can encourage one another 😃.

  • @unbornharbor
    @unbornharbor 7 років тому +19

    I'm getting very close to 30, as I write this I've just had another horrible heartbreak. I was seeing this guy for a few months, and I had prayed to God about a month ago today that is this was not a good thing to let it fall apart. It did today in a very hurtful way. I know that God is protecting me and preparing me for a man that truly lives Him! This is so encouraging, because I too desire marriage and kids. But, I will wait on the Lord's timing and spend time praying and in the Word daily!

    • @myinsignificantopinion799
      @myinsignificantopinion799 6 років тому

      This might be too late but sorry about your heartbreak. Seek Jesus as if today was your last day on earth. I've had so many heartbreaks that I finally surrendered to God.

  • @BereanBubba
    @BereanBubba 6 років тому +3

    I was married at 26 and thought I was an old maid even then. That was in 1986. I’ve been married now for 32 years. Not all a bed of roses but I’m happy with the man God gave me. Love him more today than ever. Praise God. He is faithful. I wrote a book about my experience. Date Pray Wait is available on Amazon.

  • @michellewilliams5533
    @michellewilliams5533 7 років тому +18

    Very encouraging! 34 and waiting...

  • @roseyshades68
    @roseyshades68 6 років тому +3

    Thank you, Thank you for this post & your testimony. As I was listening to you, I felt like it was me talking. I am 45, never been married & just ended a 6 year relationship with someone that wasn't right for me...it was God that saved me from that relationship & I'm so thankful. I & everyone else too, thought that I was going to be the one married with kids by the time I was 30, but that hasn't been God's plan. I can't wait to start your group. Praying for encouragement & the next step! ❤️

  • @faithwithrachael
    @faithwithrachael 7 років тому +23

    Wow! This is an amazing testimony. I am encouraged to hold on!! I won't settle for randoms!

  • @markb7311
    @markb7311 7 років тому +90

    I'll be 39 next month. I yearn for a wife but I won't settle. Please don't mistake that as looking for "perfect". I am not.
    The wait is hard at times. Lord, grant me patience in this season.

    • @Tsitsibenny
      @Tsitsibenny 7 років тому +11

      Mark B why do you need to wait if ur a man?

    • @deec3561
      @deec3561 6 років тому +2

      Go find her

    • @Solrac1424
      @Solrac1424 6 років тому +4

      I hear.you after turning 40, I felt that was it...I didnt give an f.... Anyonre I got involved in sexual sin...and did it.for 3 years I thought, " what difference does it make? I'll end up single might as well.do.whatever" im healing but.still unhappily single. Just dont do wat I did...

    • @lucipolite6983
      @lucipolite6983 6 років тому

      Concentrate on value addition to yourself,any thing you can do to make yourself better.Love yourself more,watch motivational vedeos,I recommend Les brown and John Mason,intensify your relationship with God,have content so that you have something to discuss with a discerning woman,go out more,learn how to cook,do gym ,most of all ,knw who you and love you.women will be drawn to you like bees...Watch Myles Munroe on relationships...the rest is history.

    • @cygwanfogbe246
      @cygwanfogbe246 6 років тому +1

      Please share your testimony. Did you find her?

  • @KeyaOhSoFresh
    @KeyaOhSoFresh 7 років тому +389

    Lol am I the only one who is thinking please God don't let this be me 😭😭😭😂

    • @natashasanders8785
      @natashasanders8785 7 років тому +49

      Nikeeya Marshall I Literally LOL when I read your comment. 😂😂 you're not the only one thinking that.

    • @CubanPrincezz3
      @CubanPrincezz3 7 років тому +55

      Nikeeya Marshall Okay!!! I was just praying, "Lord, I love you, but PUH-LEEZE don't let me wait THAT long!" 😂😂

    • @beautyinj6426
      @beautyinj6426 7 років тому +12

      lol exactly right, I was thinking the same thing

    • @katalinarose91
      @katalinarose91 7 років тому +10

      You're not the only one lol

    • @butterflyygyrlsworld5106
      @butterflyygyrlsworld5106 6 років тому +6

      Nikeeya Marshall 🤣🤣🤣

  • @echakamonjok
    @echakamonjok 7 років тому +149

    This is so good! i'm 22 and this is so encouraging for someone like me who is in their early 20's!

    • @CrystalArkia
      @CrystalArkia 7 років тому +35

      Echaka Monjok I'm 24 and I agree!! ❤️

    • @CubanPrincezz3
      @CubanPrincezz3 7 років тому +3

      Echaka Monjok I'm 27, so there's still hope for us all lol

    • @osimeon00
      @osimeon00 6 років тому +3

      Well while your waiting be sure to tell God in specifics what type of man you want. He's not going to choose for you.

    • @Veronique428
      @Veronique428 5 років тому +4

      osimeon00 But he will always brings the best for her because he knows us BETTER THAN we know ourselves‼️

    • @Veronique428
      @Veronique428 5 років тому

      Words of YAHWEH for the virgins waiting for HIM💖😻🥰😍
      The reason why many Christians women fall in love for the wrong man, it’s because they are willing to sacrifice their lives for a man not for Jesus, making this man their everything, while it should be Jesus their everything, women be careful to not make your everything a human being and give your whole, your body, your soul, your heart, your mind and live for a person who WILL NEVER DIE FOR YOU and give you the ETERNAL LIFE, because by doing it so, you might find yourself marrying a man who will transform himself on a snake in the bedroom and intimacy.
      A Christian woman find out that her husband was devil puppet, that the devil himself send him in her life to destroying her by being married to her, and after she get married to him, he transformed to a cobra in their bedroom at night, then confessed that he was sent by the devil to fake Christianity and marrying her to destroy her😱😰😭😭😭😭😭
      Can you imagine that⁉️ This is worst than a nightmare or a scary movie‼️
      So please Christians women have discernment when you are falling in love for a men ( same for men) don’t make someone’s else than YAHWEH your life and your everything, please don’t do that, this is how the devil set us up with his children and seduce us like he seduced Eve, then Eve seduced Adam, because Adam make Eve his everything to the point that he listened to her when she gave him the forbidden fruit instead the words of God Yahweh‼️ Genesis 2: 15-25; 3
      This is why he fallen because he put Eve before GOD YAHWEH, he put her words before and above YAHWEH’S WORDS, after doing that he lost EVERYTHING that God Yahweh gave him way before Eve was created and put in his life😢😭😰
      So do not make the same mistake than Adam did, please learn from his mistakes so you won’t doing the same as him.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
      Do not be like the virgins who fallen asleep in her waiting to the spouse ( the bridegroom) Mathew 25, Jesus the BRIGEGROOM should be the ONLY ONE waiting for endlessly with UNDYING LOVE and EVERLASTING DEVOTION.
      Jesus the SPOUSE should be the ONE and the ONLY ONE person that we are willing to DIE FOR because he died for us FIRST, so we will not perish but have the ETERNAL LIFE.
      Jesus should be the ONLY ONE that we will give our life to, because he gave his life for us FIRST, so he is the ONLY SPOUSE and BRIGEGROOM that we must give our lives, our everything, our mind, our soul, because he is the ONLY SAVIOR that can save us from the devil and his wickedness schemes.

  • @lauryb
    @lauryb Рік тому +1

    "God is the ultimate matchmaker". 💖

  • @jujubee90275
    @jujubee90275 7 років тому +4

    I need to hear this. I'm 43and I working on myself .

  • @drolllindsay
    @drolllindsay 7 років тому +12

    FANtastic testimony! Thank you for sharing and doing what you do!

  • @Sammi12345Timmy
    @Sammi12345Timmy 7 років тому +14

    I'm so happy for this video I'm in my last 30's and thinking that God give up on me. God's best is what I want for myself

  • @classysassy1391
    @classysassy1391 7 років тому +9

    I loved this and needed this. I am in my fortifies and never married, it gets hard waiting but seeing this today gives me hope!

    • @laurianen.8714
      @laurianen.8714 7 років тому

      Classy Sassy Be courageous,God is good all the time.

  • @kdavis7638
    @kdavis7638 7 років тому +1

    Ladies....I'm 57, single, never married, no children, celebate almost 18 years & waiting for my man. I've heard it all....too picky, gay, etc. I ceased the sex, touching & all that. Women smirked & laughed but some later joined me in my walk. I've only desired to be a wife & mother but since experiencing menopause, only Father knows how my story will end. If I can hang in there for my prince, u can, too. It has not been easy as late but I only want his best. I think I deserve it. Thanx for this venue. I just found it today. Your videos have been encouraging.

  • @raquelrene8911
    @raquelrene8911 7 років тому +5

    My grandmother had my mother (her 7th child) at AGE 45!!!! IJS

  • @stephaniewhite5366
    @stephaniewhite5366 2 роки тому +4

    Over 40 and I’m still waiting This is encouraging

  • @1obedience
    @1obedience 7 років тому +6

    women in there forties and older need to hear this because so many churches only focus on the younger women getting married and they just exclude us out like we don't have a chance but i truly believe one day God will divinely connect me with my husband. I will continue to keep my Godly standards and wait without sex! and while i am waiting i will be working for the kingdom and getting to know who I am in Christ! I am so grateful for this woman of God. You did what the Lord told you and look at the blessing! Beautiful!!!

  • @nicoledkeith
    @nicoledkeith Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for this! I am 41 and I have not gotten married yet. I have almost settled so many times, but the Lord has protected me and closed doors. Praise God. I just want His will for me and I will wait until He brings me the man he has for me!

  • @ldaniel2023
    @ldaniel2023 5 років тому +4

    This just warmed and encouraged my heart 💜. This is a beautiful story!! “Don’t grow weary in well doing.”

  • @sherikwasnik5290
    @sherikwasnik5290 5 років тому +2

    I am 43, turning 44 this year. This is the story of my life. I so needed to watch this. So convicting. Willing to pray with whoever is in this situation. We need accountability. Who’s with me??

    • @Salcita-85
      @Salcita-85 4 роки тому

      Me

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      @sarahlove9830 4 роки тому

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  • @angelaausborn4845
    @angelaausborn4845 7 років тому +8

    Very encouraging! This gave me hope! Thank you so much!

  • @lilij6807
    @lilij6807 7 років тому +82

    Congratulations!!! This message was definitely encouraging. 24 & waiting ❤

    • @Dotphil01
      @Dotphil01 7 років тому +4

      Lisa Jade I am a 29 year old man and I love this video and knowing that you are waiting at 24. May God bless you. Just to reiterate, age is not the most important but doing God's will

    • @reneefries1894
      @reneefries1894 6 років тому +1

      Lisa Jade In the same position. 💕

    • @abbienjoki5498
      @abbienjoki5498 6 років тому +1

      Yes am with you girl at 23 getting to 24 next week,,,

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому +1

      How is going for you now? :)

  • @melissajordan4621
    @melissajordan4621 7 років тому +4

    I have only gotten through the first five mins and this video is such a blessing and totally my life. Thank you thank you... I am 34 and feeling the same way your guest was sharing that she felt in her 30s.

  • @JRis44
    @JRis44 5 років тому +1

    28 years old. Waiting since birth. Just glad to here she found herself someone to share a godly relationship with. Absolutely Beautiful!

  • @yaelrar.4460
    @yaelrar.4460 7 років тому +26

    Ladies, while you're waiting, pray that God will mature the men out there, grow them up, make them stable and responsible.Pray that the men out there cut the cord with their mothers, learn the Bible and live for God. There are so few men out there right now that are marriage-material. We can change that with our prayers. Use your time of waiting to pray for men in your town, state, community to come to the Lord.

    • @gingerellacookie5641
      @gingerellacookie5641 6 років тому

      Yaelra R. yes a great sinner can become a great saint

    • @CiaMuciiTiComo
      @CiaMuciiTiComo 6 років тому

      Very true

    • @misssterling3094
      @misssterling3094 5 років тому +1

      @TravelingDiva2018 OMG!! I have been thinking the EXACT same thing as I read through these comments. It's not all about a woman fixing herself to be a wife, a man has to want it as well. I see a lot of comments trying to figure out what women are doing wrong that is causing their long wait.

    • @nuwoman1828
      @nuwoman1828 4 роки тому

      I totally agree

    • @joyanderson8646
      @joyanderson8646 4 роки тому

      Amen!!!!

  • @ShamekaMarshall-SoarUnburied
    @ShamekaMarshall-SoarUnburied 6 років тому +2

    Thaaaank youuuuuu for this video!!!! So encouraging..... 35 and waiting 💛.

  • @shanalee8469
    @shanalee8469 7 років тому +14

    i needed this in my church so many of them got heart broken , old and simply discouraged and gave up. I'm in my 30s discouraged aswell and I've been trying but honestly don't have any example of God coming through and in such a hard place. this was good to hear. very encouraging

    • @jmcnear84
      @jmcnear84 7 років тому +6

      Shana Lee I understand I too get discouraged and allow doubt to set in. Thankfully, I snap out of it...We can not allow the enemy to get what he wants. With that being said we've got this sis! Keep hanging on and growing a strong relationship with our savior.

    • @vhikai
      @vhikai 7 років тому +2

      keep your deyes on God, dont be discouraged. there is such a plethora of wrong doctrines on many pulpits regarding this area. sometimes its the enemy behind many delays, but having said that, God has a plan for your life. Let Him show you why you are not yet married, if its warfare, He will reveal. dont be discouraged, stay on track and be prepared for war. Sometimes you have to fight for whats yours, many girls are facing resistance in this area due to blood line issues, but as i say, keep your eyes on Jesus, He will order your steps and lead you to the right thing, in the mean time, discover your purpose and God's best for you, He will make it good. I didnt want to promote my book on this, but i will say, for anyone reading this and single, feel free to check out my book, Uncommon Destiny Uncommon Partner on amazon or itunes, i address a lot of reasons why many ladies and men are single, and some of the reasons have nothing to do with God. its just that in many churches we have beleived that everything that happens is God's will, which is false.,some things its our choices, sometimes unseen barriers etc . having said that, keep your eyes on Jesus and He will make it good, God bless you and always remember, you have an Uncommon Destiny!! :)

    • @darleneachille491
      @darleneachille491 7 років тому +1

      Shana Lee my heart is breaking for women!!!

    • @catherinelighton9697
      @catherinelighton9697 7 років тому

      Vhikai Mupudzi, hi

  • @angelkisses2562
    @angelkisses2562 7 років тому +2

    Thanks for the encouragement I'm 41 and still praying for that special someone but in the mean time will continue to be about my Father's business

  • @carolynlockett8756
    @carolynlockett8756 7 років тому +201

    I am 52 and still waiting. Any encouraging words for me?

    • @Tonibel20
      @Tonibel20 7 років тому +29

      Carolyn Lockett God will NEVER leave your nor forsake you! 🙌🏾

    • @lynneaworley2710
      @lynneaworley2710 7 років тому +39

      Carolyn Lockett Yes, the same encouragement I would give a 30, 40 or 20 year old. God is able and He has a plan for you. He is not limited by your age!!!

    • @fdoctor79
      @fdoctor79 7 років тому +15

      Carolyn Lockett Let your maker be your husband. Continue to delight (commit/entrust) yourself to the Lord and He shall grant you the desires of your heart.

    • @carolynlockett8756
      @carolynlockett8756 7 років тому +31

      Thanks for all the encouraging words. It' been hard to stand by and watch all my friends get married, saved and unsaved. I refuse to settle for less than God's best for me. Thank you all I really appreciate your words of encouragement.

    • @allthingsdelightful8565
      @allthingsdelightful8565 7 років тому +29

      I don't know but honestly you can hope and pray and pray some more and there is no gurantee God will give anyone a husband. Everyone who wants a mate is not guranteed to get one. I say keep serving the lord and lead a full life and stay busy. If you get a husband great. If not life goes on.

  • @janeugorji4513
    @janeugorji4513 7 років тому +1

    Thank you for this interview lindsey and lori, i needed this. I broke off a 10years relationship in March, 2017 because it was the only obstacle between me and God. i really wanted it to work cos of the time and energy i had invested and this made me refuse to see so many red flags other people (except me) could see. Now, 7months after the break up, i won't trade the peace, joy, love and pleasure God gives me for anything, not even to revive that 10years relationship. Though am in my twenties, i now have a clear description of what a Godly man should be. So this interview reinforces the fact that God does not work with our time and when his time comes he would restore all the years that had been eaten by the cankerworm. Amen.

  • @jenniferwoods8027
    @jenniferwoods8027 7 років тому +8

    Thank you for the inspiration! I am 40, never married and waiting on God.

  • @sibusisiwemalinga7217
    @sibusisiwemalinga7217 6 років тому +1

    Thanks for this message Lori and Heather. Lots of lessons here! The issue of AGE and CHILDREN is quite huge. I see lots of childless women in comments section who are over 40 and 50 and still waiting, I think the issue of age really needs to be addressed. Like Hannah prayed for Samuel, we too should get on our knees and pray for the desires of our heart but also LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE and give no room for misery. Singleness is not a sin just as asking God for husband is not a sin.

  • @gwenclaib8772
    @gwenclaib8772 7 років тому +26

    God is Amazing

  • @user-cl6uj5bn2f
    @user-cl6uj5bn2f 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much for this beautiful story🙏 I'm 37 and single, waiting for God's timing AMEN 🙌 Oh don't even get me started on online dating....😒lol. It annoys me so much the way people think you have to be married at a certain age, or at all for that matter. I personally think too many people marry too young hence so many divorcees searching for new relationships by the time they're my age, so basically we end up in the same boat anyway because women are pressured to settle😕 PS 43 is so NOT old! 😊

  • @Suz562
    @Suz562 6 років тому +6

    This story is so inspiring for Christian women over 40. I hated online dating too. It was a nightmare for me. This video is encouraging. I have been divorced for over 13 years and I'm 44. I still haven't met a godly man but I am praying for God to bring the right man into my life. I refuse to settle. I'm so glad that God has closed many doors and taken bad men out of my life. I'm focused on my relationship with God, church, my daughter and my priorities. What is pinky promise?

  • @womanofgod2948
    @womanofgod2948 7 років тому +4

    We need more testimonies like this. I love when the Lord told u to come off the dating site, and u surrendered it completely to him. Glory to God Sis 😇

  • @misskim80
    @misskim80 7 років тому +7

    Heather.. this has blessed me and keeps me on track.

  • @mintyieshawisdom1042
    @mintyieshawisdom1042 6 років тому

    It's such an encouraged reading all these responses. Just a simple reminder that we are not alone in this singles journey. "Its not about what we are going through but what God is bringing us to", Tim Hill

  • @luvhertzinc
    @luvhertzinc 6 років тому +4

    i can so relate...i am 36 and have been single for most of my adult life. It gets hard sometimes with my son (never worked with his dad) but i am learning to be content and trust God will bless me as he has blessed you.

    • @achatwithgoitse
      @achatwithgoitse 6 років тому

      U r blessed, u have a kid. But of course more blessings coming, God bless you.

  • @ms.tameekabrundidge2023
    @ms.tameekabrundidge2023 6 років тому +2

    I made marriage an idol. God has shut many doors for my protection. I'm about to be 39 in December 2018. This helps me in my contentment. ❤❤❤

  • @bejayconnolly2937
    @bejayconnolly2937 7 років тому +13

    She's such a cutie pie ❤️ happy for her!

  • @latoyatramill6633
    @latoyatramill6633 7 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. I'm turning 40 this year and single with no kids has me looking at my clock "time is ticking"!

  • @JazzyJsworld
    @JazzyJsworld 7 років тому +73

    I'm grateful to hear from someone older and their journey. I do always wonder what would be said to the woman who has a desire to get married and have children but it just never happens. I would love to hear a testimony from someone who has a desire for children but it never happened. And from the woman who desires to get married but it ends up not happening. What advice would they have. I have a friend that had amazing faith but she struggled with cancer for a long time and ended up passing away, but I do know that she had a desire for marriage and kids but that was just not granted to her. I would love to hear more from women who struggled with that desire but still did not get that. Thank you so much for sharing this.

    • @y.kristina6737
      @y.kristina6737 7 років тому +4

      Jeanette Minor
      That is so true...that is reality for most women may have to bear in their walk with the Lord.

    • @cherylwilliams4805
      @cherylwilliams4805 7 років тому +14

      Jeanette Minor Hi Jeanette. I have always desired children of my own. Unfortunately, I found out I had endometriosis which made it difficult to conceive. I was married to a man when I found this out and he chose to start a family with someone else. I had been in series of wrong encounters after that and have never been in a relationship since. I am 46 yrs old and I still have a desire to have my own child. I went to a fertility specialist a couple of yrs ago and he told me that even if he was to give me medication that it wouldn't produce enough eggs. I love the Lord and am coming to terms with my life, but I do struggle with having a desire to have my own child. I do not want to desire all my life and never get it. But I have to trust that God's plans, thoughts and ways are higher than mine and I pray He brings me into agreement with His plans for my life and I can get peace. I would rather have His will than my own.

    • @mutanukam
      @mutanukam 7 років тому +6

      Cheryl Williams
      Ill be praying for you my sister.. Im 37 and desire to have children too one day.

    • @cherylwilliams4805
      @cherylwilliams4805 7 років тому +1

      code_lady Thank you so much. I shall keep you lifted also!

    • @TheBLACKboard65
      @TheBLACKboard65 7 років тому +12

      Jeanette Minor - Hi Jeanette. I am now 52, single, and childless. This is not the life I envisioned for myself EVER. I expected to meet a man with strong values like myself with whom I raised 4-6 kids by both from scratch and by the spirit. Even in my 20's I was celibate far more than I was sexually involved. It's been 7 tlyears since I dealt with anyone and I no longer have any real desire to be romantically involved. It has been VERY difficult to nail my disappointment to the cross especially when I see others who are married with healthy kids and have a great job or career on top of it and they don't seem to have an interest in God from one end of the year to the next. While serving in a ministry I really studied how to be a wife from God's perspective even though I did not see a lot of positive marriages. I trusted God to provide a husband for me. The vast majority of people I dated were people I had known at least a few years before doing so. Multiple men have spoken to me (and even my mother) about marrying me but I never felt safe with them or that the relationship was appropriate to sustain a marriage. I have never been in love. (I don't think most people who think they have been were either but I digress.) God did not answer those prayers or expectations. I stumble over it in my walk of faith and sometimes it brings me to tears. However, I have decided that at all costs I will serve Him - even when I don't understand it or like it. I hope you or someone else finds my comments helpful. With all that is put upon Black women, I don't want to see any more of us set up for let downs. It is what it is.

  • @antonettesmith6688
    @antonettesmith6688 Рік тому

    I am 42 soon to be 43 I’m encouraged by this video, I will wait on God for his perfect will for my life and continue to pursue my purpose in him I believe his promise will come to pass in my life

  • @treshaja
    @treshaja 7 років тому +5

    I definitely can resonate with this. Thank you so much for sharing!! It confirms everything that I am doing now. Many blessings!

  • @SouAFulana
    @SouAFulana 7 років тому

    Wow... I stumbled across this video totally "by accident" but it encouraged me so much. Thanks for sharing this Heather. I'm 51 and STILL waiting so I totally feel you, Lori!

  • @TheBLACKboard65
    @TheBLACKboard65 7 років тому +10

    I rarely look at videos like this but since I have, I hope my following comments may be helpful to someone. I am 52, childless, and single. I am still considered goodlooking and regularly turn heads of all ages. However, this is not the life I had envisioned for myself ever! I have been serving the Lord intentionally since my early 20s. Even in that time I spent far more years celibate than I did sexually active. By my late 20s early 30s I was very intentional about preparing myself to be a wife and a mother from God's perspective and not man's. Since I had not seen very many positive marriages and because I could see my girlfriends were getting hooked up with doofuses, I determined to do things God's way. Most of the people I ever dated were guys I had known for at least a few years. And again I was intentionally celibate, not just for 90 days or something like that but until I felt I had a very strong sense of the person and we had a couple of years history behind us before we entered into a romantic relationship.I also dated internationally. I cannot say that no one has ever been interested in marrying me. I have, in fact, had several men speak to me of marriage - a couple of which actually went to my mother to speak with her and enlist her to help them convince me to marry them. But something in my spirit told me I would not be safe in those relationships. Time has proven that I was correct. There is only one of the relationships that I had regrets about but he married long ago and eventually showed me a side of himself that made me content not to have married him. I also have never been in love. I don't think that most people who think they are in love really are either. But I digress. I cannot tell you that I am happy with the way things turned out. There are many times when I Stumble over the fact that I am not living the life that I envisioned with the husband, the kids, the house and fantastic career. It is especially hard to swallow at times when I run into people that I know well enough to know they do not concern themselves with God from one end of the year to the next. Or they are marginal Christians at best. But In the midst of all this, I have become convinced that we are in the Last Days. The signs are all there whether it takes God another few years or even a decade. So, my focus has become ensuring my place in heaven and working to convince Black people especially to return to the faith and service of our ancestors so we are on the correct side of eternity. Through this frame I have ddecided- and perhaps God has helped me - to serve Him no matter what, whether I like it or not or even understand it. I am happy for those who have been granted a fulfilling marriage. I don't really understand why them in many cases (regardless of race or culture) but I am still happy anytime I see a Black woman, especially, who feels well-loved. That said, I don't want any of us for whom that expectation has not been met to feel like there's something wrong with us or to allow Satan to use it as leverage to keep us from Christ. God, above all things, is sovereign. It is His perogative to decide when and how to bless us and/or use the life He has given us. I'm not saying we have to like it. Those are the facts.

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому

      Your comment is so true hun... How are you doing now?

  • @keyiarich3900
    @keyiarich3900 7 років тому +2

    I'm not a Christian but this message resonates with me as I approach 30. I was raised to be a wife and didn't understand why marriage wasn't happening. Why couldn't I say yes to anyone? But I understand now that God has allotted me this time to learn who I am as a woman first. Doing your own thing, finding your strengths and serving your community is what it's all about. Not waiting and waiting or dating and still waiting lol. Everyone be blessed😊

  • @mrs.joy9821
    @mrs.joy9821 7 років тому +6

    This is a beautiful testimony. We live in a society where people do things out of order. Sadly there are people who equate singleness and holiness with homosexuality????? SMH...I encourage those who surrender to the Will of God, to remain patient while keeping the faith!!

  • @Bstart1234
    @Bstart1234 Рік тому +2

    Im in my 40's and I started praying in my 20's..waiting is not a joke it really hurts you always have all these questions...let's be honest....

  • @amandafey
    @amandafey 4 роки тому +9

    As a single, never married but blissfully happy 41 year old, my advice is this: there are things FAR worse than being single for life. Trust me.

    • @tamarahines6975
      @tamarahines6975 4 роки тому +2

      Like what catching HIV/AIDS, genital warts, or something? I am just curious as to what you mean?

    • @amandafey
      @amandafey 4 роки тому +6

      @@tamarahines6975 Sure, that's one example. There's also domestic violence, child abuse, incest, rape, being stalked, religious abuse/violence, being homeless, having chronic illness, being constantly stigmatized, living in an active war zone, having unmanaged mental illness, losing a child, or being unjustly locked up... just to name a few. There's A LOT more things WAY worse than being single. I'll take being single over ANY of those ANY day. Sad truth is, I've already experienced a lot of them, but I know the rest of my life will be much easier.

  • @Bekka2022
    @Bekka2022 7 років тому

    So inspiring ! Thankyou Heather for being a vessel to speak to women of all ages. You are truly an amazing person, you have really opened my eyes and allowed me to seek God with all my heart. I'm 22 and waiting

  • @vonzmommie08
    @vonzmommie08 7 років тому +4

    so GOOD!!! thanks for sharing. i LOVED what she said about being intentional with God. we have to seek the kingdom first and everything else will follow

  • @emmanuelemmanuel8853
    @emmanuelemmanuel8853 2 роки тому

    Wow!!
    Thank you for the testimony.
    Glory is faithful

  • @nadinegomez8858
    @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому +4

    The only reason why so many women are stuck waiting or even single forever is because most men now are not walking in the way’s of the Lord AT ALL-the numbers are extremely skewed. It is hard being a godly woman these days..

  • @niiyemohodoi3844
    @niiyemohodoi3844 3 роки тому +2

    I pray for all the virtuous ladies here, patience is a virtue and the fruits are rewarding. The wilderness period of waiting is to prepare and groom you for the promised land flowing with milk and honey. There countless men out there also looking for women to Love, Cherish and serve the Lord together with, some are fasting and praying because they are anointed men and servants of God. Pass the test and receive the crown. God bless you all

    • @niiyemohodoi3844
      @niiyemohodoi3844 3 роки тому

      you can get in touch for more words and faith inspired sermons. I can also help you with prayers

  • @newway6313
    @newway6313 7 років тому +4

    The Almighty God is never late, he brings his gifts when the season is right. Better to wait on a man you can pray with, and stand with God with, than a man of the world who will only separate you from him.

  • @nicolarakic1575
    @nicolarakic1575 7 років тому

    OH MY! Probably by far the best testimony I have heard as a single women to be encouraged by! I love how God continue to encourage me along the way. Heather thank you for stepping out in faith all those years ago with pinky promise. The ripple effect has been sensational! All the way to Melbourne xox

  • @JaEnjoli
    @JaEnjoli 7 років тому +20

    I am truly encouraged by this video!! It came right on time for me. I just ended a relationship that I thought would lead to marriage, but the Lord made it clear that he was not the one for me. I'm 38, so that news from the Lord was devastating. I began to get discouraged because of my age. Thank you for the reminder that God's timing is always best. He knows when He will present me to my future husband. For now, I need to continue to be about the Lord's business. Again, thanks Heather and Lori for this amazing video!! I praise God for both of your testimonies!!

    • @LISLOVESTRUTH
      @LISLOVESTRUTH 7 років тому +16

      Mosaic Pearl be encouraged honey, my 39 year old friend who we all thought had no prospects just announced her engagement. it all happened when we went as a group of single ladies to a mission conference a year and a half ago. one of the men who came with us pursued her and they'll be married before Christmas this year. Be faithful. You never know when...

    • @JaEnjoli
      @JaEnjoli 7 років тому

      Thank you, sister!

    • @achatwithgoitse
      @achatwithgoitse 6 років тому

      Thank you so much for sharing. It's encouraging me to keep waiting for the one that will be brought by God and not just being with anybody to say say I'm with someone. Thank you so much.