6 Things I Wish I Knew before Marriage

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  • @stephanieawuah
    @stephanieawuah 4 роки тому +10

    1. You will only get busier
    2. Will not make you whole
    3. You will not be perfect
    4. Be honest with self.. have the honest conversations
    5. Your friendship circles will change. the right ppl continue in life with you
    6. Stay focused on God and do what you gotta do. love your singleness & give it to God

  • @DesiLu4Life
    @DesiLu4Life 6 років тому +129

    Lord help me not to create a fantasy regarding marriage!

  • @Jooniebug
    @Jooniebug 6 років тому +171

    I love being single its just me and Jesus rolling on. 😁😍. Thanks for sharing.xx

  • @cherisecervantes3766
    @cherisecervantes3766 6 років тому +124

    I just got married 2 months ago and everything she is saying is true!! Great advice.

  • @tammyrender1717
    @tammyrender1717 7 років тому +245

    Hi Mrs. Heather so I am a 15year old girl living in Namibia and you have changed my life....I have always struggled with secular music and after the day I've watched your video about secular music I've never went back to my old way and progressed in my spirutual and after watching the video about spending time with God has also changed me....you are a try blessing and I am so thankful .....since we are in different countries I hope to see you in heaven 🙋🏻may the lord bless you and your husband and family...l❤️❤️

    • @miahlove1753
      @miahlove1753 6 років тому +13

      Tammy Render omg same I'm 14 , and ms heather changed my life also , I don't where I would be if I never stumbled across her videos. Also god bless you and I hope you stay strong through your journey with god .❤️

    • @Ngesh02
      @Ngesh02 6 років тому +14

      Tammy Render God Bless you. You made the right decision for a young person. I got saved when I was 13 and I've never looked back 10 years down the line. Ups and downs but the Grace of God is sufficient. Your peers may laugh at you but keep holding on.

    • @manachekane
      @manachekane 6 років тому +9

      Wow and I am over here watching from Botswana,she has truly changed my perspective on a lot of things secular music inclusive and blessed my life, best video I ever watched was when her husband preached on 'Stop running away from the process', I'm so thankful for you and your husband's ministry Mrs Heather Lindsey...we thank God for your testimony Tammy :)

    • @ThatJesusMusic
      @ThatJesusMusic 6 років тому +2

      Amen sis!

    • @zachandmom23
      @zachandmom23 6 років тому +2

      Tammy Render can u share that video with me.

  • @janaiallen6555
    @janaiallen6555 7 років тому +244

    I just got married Friday. Still learning things about myself

  • @smoothremedy
    @smoothremedy 7 років тому +52

    You seem so kind. I see our Savior through you sister in Christ!

  • @414MrMilwaukee
    @414MrMilwaukee 7 років тому +180

    Thanks for sharing
    (even though I'm a guy, I need to hear it from a woman's perspective)

    • @ritamojawk2699
      @ritamojawk2699 6 років тому +4

      414MrMilwaukee it will come handy to you man !

    • @nadine7327
      @nadine7327 6 років тому +17

      Words of wisdom don't have a gender.

    • @ThatJesusMusic
      @ThatJesusMusic 6 років тому

      Same

    • @RadBunny2269
      @RadBunny2269 6 років тому

      IKR. I felt that way to & enjoy hearing wisdom from the fairer gender's POV on various aspects of this. Seeing things is probably not have seen.

  • @joannahapi
    @joannahapi 6 років тому +11

    i have read somewhere that marriage is to glorify God and not for us to seek for completeness and happiness or such things. Not saying that marriage will not bring you these but by first glorifying God you will have those blessings upon your marriage

  • @GracefullyKaren
    @GracefullyKaren 6 років тому +54

    Amen. Great advice. Singleness is such a beautiful season. I love it. You learn about yourself and more time spending time with God. Thank you for sharing. God bless you 🙏🏿

    • @lauralou1115
      @lauralou1115 6 років тому +6

      SimplyKaren28 it is also another beautiful season being single AFTER a long relationship/engagement didn't work.

    • @GracefullyKaren
      @GracefullyKaren 6 років тому +4

      lauralou1115 : It is well with your soul. Sometimes, it's hard letting go. It's painful but God has a better plan. It's always better when we see things earlier than get into marriage only for us to see certain things. I hope things are going well for you. Always remember that God is still at work in your life. Continue to seek God. Work on yourself. Enjoy this season. Stay Blessed 🙏🏿😊

  • @kiara_______
    @kiara_______ 6 років тому +22

    Thank you for tip #4! TRUTH & VULNERABILITY - how can someone love you and pray for you if they don't know?!

    • @christinalucas1002
      @christinalucas1002 6 років тому +3

      Kiara Hayden Amen!! I keep telling myself no one is a mind reader

  • @lovemecom3832
    @lovemecom3832 6 років тому +37

    This is absolutely true, thank you for sharing all of this, marriage is a big responsibilty, and you dont need to rush it because when the time is right, God will make it happen.

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 5 років тому

      How do you know when the time is right?

    • @CJfcb
      @CJfcb 5 років тому

      @@wshelby83 I would recommend that you pray and the Holy Spirit will guide you into marriage. God will place your spouse in your path and your spirit (led by the Holy Spirit) will confirm and you will feel comfortable to proceed in the relationship. As far as when you will meet your future spouse, only God knows. In the meantime, you should embrace your season of being single. God Bless!

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 5 років тому

      @@CJfcb thank you for commenting

    • @reikomyles1495
      @reikomyles1495 5 років тому

      Amen

  • @AyikosMedley
    @AyikosMedley 6 років тому +14

    This pink white and green ensemble 😍👌🏿 great word H!

  • @sharleenparrino2297
    @sharleenparrino2297 5 років тому +4

    Good Biblical wise counsel sister!
    Hope the Lord sends me my husband even at 59 years old!

  • @shakia1229
    @shakia1229 7 років тому +46

    Thank you so much Heather! You have no idea how much I look up to you.

  • @cinnamonslice1990
    @cinnamonslice1990 6 років тому +29

    Great advice.. shame I'm already married.. lol.. let them singles know.. Time being single.. is oh so valuable.. on reflection.. self development.. knowing who you are.. knowing what you have to offer a spouse.. And how your union will complement the other.. understanding the importance of wholeness..Is key.. so many factors to consider.. Use your time wisely.. I've been in this thing for 17yrs now.. and it take work to maintain and sustain.. go head ladies.. 👌😘

  • @kimaotung
    @kimaotung 6 років тому +19

    The one about frienships really hit home. I've been evaluating my friendships and some of them I know I'm just really hanging onto because of the length of time we have been friends. Thanks for letting me know it's okay that change happens and literally I've been thinking, 'how many of the people who came to my wedding will I still be close with in 5 years time?'

  • @annakhan5451
    @annakhan5451 6 років тому +17

    This was needed, especially when you mentioned expectations.

  • @HoneyBee4163
    @HoneyBee4163 7 років тому +19

    Beautiful...your presentation was perfect...insightful and useful. One of the most difficulties I have had, was to be happy single...and to understand this too is blessing. Having been married, it saddens me to see so many women place their self worth with the identification of wife. You were on point...get outside of self and your desires....work on Godly business. Help someone...

  • @echakamonjok
    @echakamonjok 6 років тому +47

    Love this! I'm learning so much in my singleness :)

    • @deeplyrooted2263
      @deeplyrooted2263 6 років тому +2

      Echaka Monjok same here! So happy were I'm at. Keep on pushing to get better.❤️

    • @SilviaDwomoh7
      @SilviaDwomoh7 6 років тому +3

      Echaka Monjok Her videos are a blessing! I pray every single lady get to watch this. Sometimes we need to get knowledge on some little things and ask the Lord to work on us and build us up!

    • @echakamonjok
      @echakamonjok 6 років тому

      Dyna M You too! keep pushing on!

    • @echakamonjok
      @echakamonjok 6 років тому

      Silvia Dwomoh agreed!♡

  • @taymo5618
    @taymo5618 6 років тому +16

    This really helped me... I've just come out of a relationship.. I feel sad that it's ended and still getting over it but so relieved. I have so much to work on in terms of issues etc, things to do as a single person and getting closer to God. - thank you for your video xo

  • @nurdanjotham896
    @nurdanjotham896 6 років тому +72

    Heather, this black background looks so much better than the sparkly gold one! Love the talk!

    • @TotallyAwwwesome
      @TotallyAwwwesome 6 років тому +3

      Nurdan Baran... yeah I agree

    • @GodsGenuineGrace
      @GodsGenuineGrace 6 років тому +4

      Nurdan Baran I like the gold sequin 1 better!!!

    • @sorayawatkins2112
      @sorayawatkins2112 6 років тому +4

      awwww man... I like the gold one too! ahhh we're all so unique :*

    • @Cthomas1210
      @Cthomas1210 6 років тому +5

      How about black sequins next time?! Love it all!

    • @loiceambuka1183
      @loiceambuka1183 6 років тому

      Nurdan Baran yes yes yes

  • @robertcoutterbridgesr1746
    @robertcoutterbridgesr1746 6 років тому +4

    Ungodly expectations bring frustrations!

  • @smartclassyladyj
    @smartclassyladyj 6 років тому +7

    Thanks for sharing..... That message is so true..... I was married for 11 years & being alone for 16 years have taught me a lot about me..... I'm getting married again & I don't want to go in with high expectations..... Therefore, I have some work right to do.....

  • @KC-ti4hr
    @KC-ti4hr 6 років тому +3

    This is so good and true- especially about the change in friendship circle!

  • @ladypost0925
    @ladypost0925 7 років тому +20

    Absolutely everything you've said was spot on! #Wisdom #Truth

  • @thembicosta4394
    @thembicosta4394 6 років тому +2

    Love it! There s a difference between friends and associates... And yes even friends aren't always forever...

  • @leandra5248
    @leandra5248 6 років тому +7

    I really like this Heather . This was very insightful and it felt genuine.

  • @wonderfullyamber3970
    @wonderfullyamber3970 7 років тому +5

    i totally agree with the change of circle... today we celebrate our 8 month anniversary and it is amazing (and painful) how the Lord literally showed us who was and wasnt for us. Also, that last part about expectations was just for me. It looks like i have some praying to do! thanks Heather great video!!

  • @alicia2931
    @alicia2931 6 років тому +4

    Wow! I love the part when you said take you and your single friends to a shelter or woman's home and serve them. That's touched my heart

  • @ToshiJ89
    @ToshiJ89 6 років тому +7

    That number 6 though. Lord. The rest of these aren't really in my head, but friends is something I never thought to be concerned about.

  • @msnizx
    @msnizx 6 років тому

    Thank you so much for your word . Really needed this message seeing as I'm going through a dry season in my life . God bless you

  • @catherinemadagoni6768
    @catherinemadagoni6768 6 років тому

    Awesome Awesome Awesome 👏🏾 Just found your channel Praise God💙Definitely agree with you and working through all of those situations one day at a time. Praise God and thank you for this encouragement🙏🏾

  • @ChildfreeandOpen-ionated
    @ChildfreeandOpen-ionated 6 років тому +11

    Perfect timing, thank you sooo much for this!!

  • @PickJ
    @PickJ 6 років тому

    Wonderful advice. I've been married for two months and this is already so real! Especially point number 6. You have to let go of what you thought marriage would look like. It's absolutely what you make it and it will not be what you imagined it would be like.

  • @vimapratama5840
    @vimapratama5840 6 років тому +1

    God Bless You! this video spoke loudly to my heart. yeah! I'm thinking about singleness so differently now and my life is more fulfilled. :)

  • @iloveGod1105
    @iloveGod1105 6 років тому +1

    Love this lady!!! She is real and godly and sweet! God bless her

  • @BillysFamily
    @BillysFamily 6 років тому +8

    Great advice love. That right friendship change alot when you get married. I really enjoy and appreciate this

  • @platinumbranch2056
    @platinumbranch2056 6 років тому +2

    Great video! Thanks, Heather!

  • @Julie_home_Interiors
    @Julie_home_Interiors 6 років тому +2

    Very helpful video. Thanks for sharing this with us

  • @CheeOkereke_
    @CheeOkereke_ 7 років тому +6

    Thank you so much, ma'am for this piece😍😍

  • @anastasiascott1774
    @anastasiascott1774 6 років тому +2

    Great video, sis!!!

  • @teresasanchez756
    @teresasanchez756 6 років тому

    Ur awesome blossom ur advice helps me think and know prospectives of being married.

  • @jovanamoeke4830
    @jovanamoeke4830 6 років тому

    Your so amazing Heather. At first I wasnt sure if your videos would help me but i am 100% sure that ur videos are totes for me! And thats only because u r inspiring in everything u say and the way you hold yourself. U truly are a big help to us all thriugh the Lord. Thank you xx

  • @wendyelizabethlambert4815
    @wendyelizabethlambert4815 6 років тому

    As always, awesome and insightful. Thanks Heather, you are such a blessing ❤💐
    Logan is soo cute😁😎

  • @missd1577
    @missd1577 6 років тому

    Heather, I really needed this word today!

  • @rosa629
    @rosa629 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much Heather for sharing...

  • @laneys2030
    @laneys2030 6 років тому

    Thank you for your advice it really helped me understand where your coming from.

  • @TotallyAwwwesome
    @TotallyAwwwesome 6 років тому +3

    True words of wisdom! Thanks Heather!

  • @ericab9644
    @ericab9644 6 років тому +3

    This was so awesome! Thank you so much!

  • @crrj611
    @crrj611 6 років тому +1

    Wonderful Message thank you Heather!

  • @jasminethomas8633
    @jasminethomas8633 6 років тому +1

    Ok so you blew me away right when you mentioned the Lord. I'm a single christian woman and began to smile from ear to ear as each second passed. Not only are you saved but also very relatable and made some very valid points. May God continue to bless you, your marriage, and all your endeavors. btw new subie

  • @iamfaithrose3263
    @iamfaithrose3263 6 років тому

    Thank you for this video. Straight to the point. Great advice

  • @sibongilenyanhete4953
    @sibongilenyanhete4953 6 років тому

    Thanks, well explained and quite informative. God bless

  • @hannahmomodu9035
    @hannahmomodu9035 6 років тому

    Wow. God bless you and give you deeper revelation of Him. Am so blessed

  • @hopememba
    @hopememba 6 років тому

    I think God has led me to this video. I was just thinking of these things before I hit play. I really needed this.

  • @AngelsStorytime
    @AngelsStorytime 6 років тому

    Thanks for this! I’m glad I watch this❤️

  • @faithshaya3713
    @faithshaya3713 7 років тому +3

    True. Thank you so much. Great advice.

  • @Tasheka55
    @Tasheka55 6 років тому +4

    Love the black backdrop!

  • @ThePeAcHyK
    @ThePeAcHyK 5 років тому

    She is speaking great truths. Thank you!

  • @HBSugar1106
    @HBSugar1106 6 років тому

    Beautiful video love your ponytail lol and look summery and cute. I agree with you on a lot of points. I volunteer too you mentioned volunteering and helping the community with your friends but what about with your potential spouse too there's something about seeing what your boyfriend/girlfriend or fiancée can offer to the world too. You need to see how they handle pressure and struggle too. I believe we have to test those people to see what makes them the right person too. Also I agree you have to basically imagine yourself not as the "fantasy woman" in your marriage but imagine the "real you" the one who would be in sweatpants and wants to eat cupcakes lol or when you had a really bad day at work can he handle that person too. So I hear you completely love this one I am going to save it and when my time comes will watch with my future husband 😁😉

  • @addieleehention4807
    @addieleehention4807 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for the wisdom and for keeping it real! :-)

  • @anitajackson9209
    @anitajackson9209 6 років тому +1

    This was very good to hear.

  • @nettas5437
    @nettas5437 6 років тому +2

    Thank you for this video! 💛

  • @Kayzel
    @Kayzel 6 років тому +1

    Loved this. And you look amazing, Heather! Love you!

    • @bernadettej.5478
      @bernadettej.5478 6 років тому

      Great job Heather! As someone married for 12 years you're on point with all your tips. I would add 2 more though. Know your spouse"s love language, taken from the book The 5 Love Languages. That book heloed me a lot. And also know that marriage is about serving each other which is not a bad word.

  • @chosendebbie
    @chosendebbie 6 років тому +1

    This was good. So needed this!♡

  • @MissDeVinee
    @MissDeVinee 6 років тому +2

    this is right on time for me. thank you!

  • @ethelyolande
    @ethelyolande 6 років тому +2

    Thank u so much for this. GOD BLESS U

  • @paulettepaul6002
    @paulettepaul6002 6 років тому +1

    Amen sis. Best video on marriage

  • @jasmineadjei2552
    @jasmineadjei2552 5 років тому

    This was very helpful. I’m not going to lie I’m scared of just how to be part of something being a certain age and being alone all this time. God is good and I believe he will do the necessary work on me.

  • @Shamara418
    @Shamara418 6 років тому +1

    This was right on time!!

  • @tboykin13tb
    @tboykin13tb 6 років тому

    U convinced me & I am new to your channel asof today 😊.

  • @katywright8161
    @katywright8161 6 років тому +1

    That highlight on her chin...killing me! She is a beautiful woman w/ great info!

  • @BBC4.0
    @BBC4.0 6 років тому +1

    Great topic thanks 🙏🏾

  • @prayingprincess1186
    @prayingprincess1186 5 років тому

    Glory to God!!! Beautiful msg!!!

  • @nayajay2392
    @nayajay2392 6 років тому +1

    You're such an inspiration 😊

  • @KambyTales
    @KambyTales 6 років тому +4

    🙌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌 That time ish sometimes even gets me so comfortable in the singles zone

  • @Alejandra_2911
    @Alejandra_2911 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing!
    Btw I love your earrings, where did you get them ? 🙂

  • @1515706
    @1515706 6 років тому +1

    Thanks . This is beautiful.

  • @jasminekingnetwork
    @jasminekingnetwork 7 років тому +4

    Thank you sis!!!! Love you!

  • @TheBritfashionista
    @TheBritfashionista 6 років тому

    Now,Im so happy and content being single.I literally had to pray about staying content about being single.It was alot of lessons I had to learn to get to this point.

  • @Naturallocks1
    @Naturallocks1 6 років тому +2

    Thanks Heather!

  • @BellaBrownministry
    @BellaBrownministry 6 років тому +2

    Thank you for this!

  • @Geenster0128
    @Geenster0128 6 років тому +1

    Good advice thanks!!!

  • @ilosanders6221
    @ilosanders6221 6 років тому +1

    Thanks I needed that!

  • @sashasplants1600
    @sashasplants1600 6 років тому

    My friend circle definitely changed. It actually started changing a few months before I got marriage.

  • @JetPearl100
    @JetPearl100 6 років тому +1

    Very practical! Thx!

  • @khalasoul
    @khalasoul 6 років тому +2

    thanks for sharing!

  • @jaytay4027
    @jaytay4027 3 роки тому

    Your videos are beautiful and even helpful to men as well

  • @Altairawaters
    @Altairawaters 6 років тому +6

    This was for me! My God..

  • @_jendini_3147
    @_jendini_3147 7 років тому +11

    LOVE your outfit and earrings

  • @ethnie69
    @ethnie69 6 років тому +1

    Awesome share thanks

  • @L.A.Roberts
    @L.A.Roberts 6 років тому +2

    Great message

  • @Adaoraogechukwu
    @Adaoraogechukwu 6 років тому

    You have blessed my life greatly

  • @LuvandGlamour
    @LuvandGlamour 6 років тому

    Thank you Heather.

  • @nanaama4825
    @nanaama4825 6 років тому

    wow.... that was powerful. God bless you

  • @phendyjean
    @phendyjean 6 років тому +1

    ANEN SIS, NEEDED THAT😥

  • @kindushukim7064
    @kindushukim7064 6 років тому +1

    Love the talk❤

  • @angamor977
    @angamor977 6 років тому +6

    Been married over 30 years good advice! Only through Jesus can We be more then conquers! Obey the Word of God and trust Him no matter what! Don't be unequally yoked. God Bless! ❤❤

  • @creech5460
    @creech5460 6 років тому +1

    Dang, this girl preached 😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻