He's Just Not That Into You

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    Chasing after guys? Well, maybe he's just not that into you! It's ok though, because God allows doors to be closed so that we will find out that HE is all we needed all along!
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  • @KellyNicoleMUA
    @KellyNicoleMUA 10 років тому +355

    That was so me years ago. I'm so thankful that God used that guy to reject me!! God's rejection is protection. I believe if things had worked out the way I wanted it or the way "we" planned it.. I would be miserable!!!!! Every time I think about it how my life could have been I shout a praise of thanks!! Now that I am single for the first time in a long time, I am more than willing to wait for God's best for me!! I refuse to be treated like a rental car. You sir will have to purchase me off of the luxury lot. Lol

  • @DJTRIISH
    @DJTRIISH 9 років тому +94

    Men who do this are very dangerous. I have met one or two just like this & Women please RUN as fast as you can when you meet this kind of guy. If he is not sure about what he really wants from you, and if his actions and words don't indicate that he wants a to make a long term monogamous commitment to you, then he is NOT the one for you, and he probably never will. You're better off being with someone who really wants to be with you and is sure of it.

  • @larracosby3747
    @larracosby3747 10 років тому +91

    "Why would he buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free?" Come on somebody! #slain

    • @josephholdman1037
      @josephholdman1037 5 років тому

      At least that milk ain't sour! That's good milk! "GOD"!

    • @BeauJames59
      @BeauJames59 4 роки тому

      Does that mean you should start charging for sex? I hope not.

    • @BeauJames59
      @BeauJames59 4 роки тому

      Talking about sex as a transaction is a wonderful romance killer.

  • @brookechanell4842
    @brookechanell4842 10 років тому +90

    Right now this is my first season being fully single with no randoms no stand by guys I closed all my dating website pages dons and I'm fully devoted to Christ right now and living for him it's truly amazing cause this video explains who I used to be before I became fed up so thank you for posting this it reminds me to stay encourage

  • @jsnow07grad
    @jsnow07grad 9 років тому +24

    My Grandmother shared with me that scripture, to never awaken love before its time. Thank you for this. I really needed this

  • @tostadamama
    @tostadamama 10 років тому +29

    This was me years ago...Thank You JESUS for delivering me!!!

  • @LionessOfBeauty
    @LionessOfBeauty 10 років тому +69

    I had a feeling about a guy I was talking to. He wasn't a bad boy, and he definitely treated me with respect, but after transferring to a different school, I heard less from him. I've always been very skeptical or tough and very no nonsense on guys that I have had "relationships" with, but with him my heart was kind of softened for some reason. Anways, when you said, "they call you up when they're lonely" and talked about the rental car example, a lightbulb went off in my head. It's funny though, he just texted me last week and before that on valentine's day. Like, really? Anyways time for me to delete his number. Thank you Ms. Heather.

    • @nains2179
      @nains2179 10 років тому +39

      Delete and Block! Your man is on the way

    • @DJTRIISH
      @DJTRIISH 9 років тому +5

      Nain s Agreed. Delete and block is the best thing to do in this instance. Or just don't talk to him like that anymore. Plain and simplen

  • @mea923
    @mea923 7 років тому +34

    Necessary. Painful but necessary. I appreciate and receive this.

    • @mea923
      @mea923 7 років тому +2

      #ContentInThisSeason #Confirmation ❤️ you for this girl.

    • @acharich
      @acharich 5 років тому

      That's the best way..! 🙌🏾

  • @kimberbloomING
    @kimberbloomING 10 років тому +24

    Very true!
    I've settled before too...
    BUT God...

  • @valdiguintiliano5514
    @valdiguintiliano5514 7 років тому +58

    Love it, love it, love it! I used to do the same thing before Jesus, chase after guys because I was needy and insecure I had so much trouble back then because I lost my dad really early and a lot of things happened, I thought a relationship could satisfy me and I was wrong, then I decided to be single for a while and work on myself, I traveled, went to therapy, did a missions trip, lived abroad, bought a car, served at church, read some books and etc.. And you know what? I learned to love myself as Jesus does, to see myself as a Princess! I am waiting on God and really happy and fulfilled by his love and his promises, I'm not going to settle with a guy that is not the right one for me. And in this process I met a guy, he found me, he's been pursuing me, he was watching me and we are in the process of getting to know each other, and it's funny because we were classmates back in High School but we were blind to what the world had to offer, and it's like you said: You are able to hear God's voice, to know what is his best for us and what is not. Thank you Heather, love you and your ministry. God Bless you :)

  • @TheOriginalBohemianGoddess
    @TheOriginalBohemianGoddess 10 років тому +25

    I thank God for you & your message to all women. I have been taking a break for years. No dating, no sex, it isn't worth it. My goal is to have a relationship with God first. He promised me the desires of my heart. I believe so therefore I expect to receive. Amen!

    • @TheOriginalBohemianGoddess
      @TheOriginalBohemianGoddess 4 роки тому

      Ebony Joseph, thank you! I pray all is well with you! All is well, I am working from home, praying that the weather warms, and the pandemic is a thing of the past. Everyday I keep a positive perspective! 💜🧜🏾‍♀️

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 3 роки тому

      Amen. God bless you beautiful woman of God.

  • @kaylarock3713
    @kaylarock3713 8 років тому +19

    Why didn't I see this a year ago... none the less, I'm so glad I stumbled upon your videos Heather!

  • @4EVABLESSED7
    @4EVABLESSED7 10 років тому +41

    Love God's way is worth the wait! Love you Heather♥

  • @Xannyvlog
    @Xannyvlog 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much, Heather for all your inspiring messages. Thank you for answering the call. You are most loved. Love from Nigeria.

  • @grit7733
    @grit7733 5 років тому +9

    From a Christian man: *If he's just not that into you, take the hint.*
    I feel like this video is painting Christian men as monsters. I'm a Christian man, there's a young Christian woman in my church who is interested in me, but I have *no* interest in her whatsoever. So I do *nothing* that could be misconstrued as leading her on--to the extent that I generally try to avoid eye contact, conversation, and proximity--and I can tell that by now she *knows* that I'm not interested. And yet if I slip up and show her the slightest bit of human kindness, she'll try to glob on to me for another couple of weeks. Other people just see my avoidant behavior though, and think it's cruel because they don't know the backstory.

  • @kulaea1992
    @kulaea1992 5 років тому +1

    I was doing wifey duties to a man who didn’t even put a ring on it 😐 he left me couple weeks ago and after immersing in God’s love, and actually accepting God’s plan in my heart. I realised I was a complete fool and it’s true when they say man’s rejection is God’s protection! THANK YOU 🙌🏽

  • @kghbeauty
    @kghbeauty 10 років тому +12

    Omg....God sent you to me. I have had randoms like that
    , not giving my body but just giving my time and tagging along with them in a relationship that ended absolutely nothing. God has sent me someone who values me. Thanks Heather!!!!

  • @kaphy
    @kaphy 10 років тому +28

    Heather, all i can say is may The Lord God continually bless you and being His vessel, you will never run dry on His touch. I cant put into words how this message changed my soul. God used you to ignite a fire of desire to seek Him and let every distraction flee from my soul. I crave so much for Jesus now more than ever. Thank you Heather

    • @acharich
      @acharich 5 років тому

      💥🙌🏾💥

  • @nanv6145
    @nanv6145 6 років тому +2

    So me at this 2018 beginning with god. Just broke up 7 yrs of what god told me to leave a couple yrs ago Im finally listening. God I love you take the wheel.🙏

  • @davinnaligons9812
    @davinnaligons9812 10 років тому +36

    Thank you for sharing your journey. As of two years ago, I have wondered on this same path. People look at me strange (especially the guys) when I say I’m in a no dating stage of my life. Just thinking about dating, according to the typical dating standards, makes me cringe. The peace that comes with no dating is unmeasurable!

    • @mxsade88
      @mxsade88 9 років тому +1

      I feel the same way!

    • @ohyeahtremece6567
      @ohyeahtremece6567 7 років тому

      This is encouraging....there is peace in not dating? That's encouraging to know.

  • @Bunnyacj
    @Bunnyacj 10 років тому +3

    and the truth shall set you free!

  • @ravengray4043
    @ravengray4043 5 років тому +1

    I used to do that same thing. chase after guys. Rejection is God's protection.... I am so so very thankful what God has done in my life. If That dude was still in my life I probably wouldn't have noticed all the things that God has done in my life,.. now I'm waiting on God to give me the right guy, and I'm going to depend on God and God Alone...!!

  • @LadyMusse
    @LadyMusse 10 років тому +18

    You are a beautiful spirit. These videos just confirms that I am on the right path I have myself a pat on the back. There is so much to learn about oneself and our Creator I am too in love with The Lord right now to be bothered with a man.

  • @parable_tedd
    @parable_tedd 8 років тому +15

    I hate the cow/milk analogy but you're definitely preaching sis!!!!!

  • @NaomiChan38
    @NaomiChan38 10 років тому +27

    Wow, thank you so much for your message Heather. Your message had brought me to tears, society had put so much pressure on women to get a date or get marry before certain time and if we fail to do so, the society made us ladies feel bad about ourselve. But thank God that HE is here to tell us the truth that we should found true value from him instead even sometimes we weren't focus enough on Jesus. Thank you so much for your love and being around for us Jesus.

  • @Chosen1-i2s
    @Chosen1-i2s 6 років тому +4

    Just explained everything I'm dealing with like wow god sent me here to receive this message

  • @monicathrasher3561
    @monicathrasher3561 2 роки тому

    I’m 52 and went through all this you are talking about. It’s been 4 years now single, learned my worth, self love, my identity in Christ, that I was living under the law instead of grace, etc. so much, still growing, learning and healing. Trusting Him and living one day at a time. It hasn’t been easy, but I had lots of trauma God had to heal. It’s been so worth it. I’m worth it.

  • @jo47847
    @jo47847 7 років тому +8

    no more chasing after anything that's not worth it.

  • @Elishaa12
    @Elishaa12 10 років тому +13

    Thank you for this!! I decided Feb 22, 2014 I was going to get rid of the "No Randoms" Thank you soo much. May God continue to bless you.

    • @acharich
      @acharich 5 років тому

      On my birthday.. 💥💣

  • @eatprayslayhustle7645
    @eatprayslayhustle7645 8 років тому +18

    😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 you just READ my entire life 😭😭😭😩😩

  • @ravondominique2791
    @ravondominique2791 9 років тому +5

    Amen this is what every single woman should hear!!

  • @zaytyga
    @zaytyga 10 років тому +14

    Very good video mrs. Lindsey .. Even though I'm a guy I love watching your videos .. They say alot to a man also if he opens his ears to hear what the woman's side of things are.. I hope your husband makes a video soon because I love his also.. It's good for the fellas to have man to man communication !! Be blessed!!

  • @desiretoinspire4606
    @desiretoinspire4606 10 років тому

    Amazing confirmation...you took all the words out of my mouth sis...I began this journey in November 2013 and just the past weekend chose to break my stride with Christ in honoring my body....I struggled with forgiveness and myself worth as a child of God who fell short...and found comfort and confirmation in His Word, and by meeting a sister in Christ that just began this Pinkie Promise Challenge yesterday and I picked up the dust from my ring, and renewed my vows to Christ...Yes Lord, I will honor You with the body and life that You gave me....for Your Kingdom glory!!!! Thank you, you have inspired and encouraged me and now I am back to doing the same for others ....thank you and praise God!!!!

  • @jroyal2229
    @jroyal2229 6 років тому +7

    I was guilty of doing the same thing & turned around got married thinking it was gonna last. Boy was I wrong. We was married for 5 years until I found out he was cheating on me & now we're separated going on 5 years. I'm no longer mad, bitter or hold any resentment against him (however, I'm going to get a divorce). When he left me...about three months later, I got involved with another man because I didn't want to be lonely in my 40's. That didn't work out either, then I started seeing another guy & after that I got tired. I'm now single & celibate going on three years. I'm currently on the Wait for GOD & feeling content in my space right now. It's never too late & although, I'm getting older...I'm not letting my age determine my destiny.

  • @_mzabee_
    @_mzabee_ 10 років тому +5

    I heard this at the most PERFECT time!!!!! I've been in my emotions all day wondering why it seems everybody is married and having kids and moving on in life and I'm STILL waiting.... I thank God for this... I REALLY needed to hear this sis

    • @jasmines2250
      @jasmines2250 5 років тому +1

      I know you wrote this 4 years ago but this is currently how I feel.

  • @ciaragreene3377
    @ciaragreene3377 5 років тому +2

    I’m at that point right now. I’m sick and tired and I needed this word. ❤️❤️

  • @sz7612
    @sz7612 5 років тому

    Thank you sooo much for this. It truly brought me to tears

  • @TheJaszyNurse
    @TheJaszyNurse 10 років тому +4

    Thank you for this. My current situation exactly. "Marrying someone he has not called you to marry" ... I'll wait.

  • @anointed1302
    @anointed1302 6 років тому +2

    I been there done that, too. I had NO STANDARDS!!! Got tired of walking around that going nowhere mountain...thank you Lord for shaping and molding me to become whole!!!

  • @defghijklmnop1507
    @defghijklmnop1507 7 років тому +7

    Beautiful words. Time to spend time with my Loving God

  • @TheArtOfBri
    @TheArtOfBri 8 років тому +11

    i honestly needed to hear this so much. i'm going through the same thing trying to do Christ and guys at the same time wondering why im still not happy. i have to enjoy my season of singleness when God is ready to give me a man. he will give me one. i have to stop forcing it because i already have a 5 year old.

  • @Sheislove144
    @Sheislove144 9 років тому

    This is exactly what I needed to hear..thank you god bless you.

  • @MegaMissYoung
    @MegaMissYoung 10 років тому

    Amen Thank You for sharing. I really needed this Heather!

  • @Iris11music
    @Iris11music 4 роки тому

    This was the first video I ever stumbled into of you, two years ago now... I am just so glad I did.
    You speak with heart and soul... and you speak to mine.
    Thank you Heather

  • @angeliguillermo557
    @angeliguillermo557 6 років тому

    Thank you. It is exactly what I needed. God bless you

  • @zain90s
    @zain90s 8 років тому

    I just LOVE this! Thank you so much Heather

  • @sz7612
    @sz7612 5 років тому

    This has helped put things into perspective. I’m soo thankful for you, and sharing your life and theses amazing words that have truly been inspired by the Lord. Thank you and no it’s not worth it

  • @ameh7660
    @ameh7660 8 років тому

    Made me see clearly and wow this was the push that I needed to let go and I feel so liberated so thank you so much!!!! ♡

  • @amarie4967
    @amarie4967 9 років тому

    Loved this message, and I so need it. Thank you!

  • @pilicojanalal
    @pilicojanalal 8 років тому

    Amen!!!! Thank you for sharing & thank you lord for leading me here x

  • @RachelleMusicpage
    @RachelleMusicpage 8 років тому +2

    Just found this page. love this talk so much!!

  • @suzannengotedga
    @suzannengotedga 10 років тому

    This is definitely one of the best videos I have watched so far.
    Thanks for this uplifting message! God bless you and your family!!!

  • @mizztree81
    @mizztree81 10 років тому +1

    God bless you Heather! An on-time word!!

  • @ZisCorner
    @ZisCorner 10 років тому +2

    Thank you for ministering to my spirit! I truly needed that

  • @jsmnbre
    @jsmnbre 8 років тому +1

    This felt so personal and right on time for, thanks!

  • @cosmikbreath
    @cosmikbreath 10 років тому +1

    WOW!!! This is powerful! Be blessed. And thank you!!

  • @viktoriakohutiarova712
    @viktoriakohutiarova712 6 років тому

    hey, I´m so glad I found those videos, they help me to grow in my faith, thank you sooo much :) be blessed

  • @Bombshellvixen08
    @Bombshellvixen08 10 років тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing this! It was exactly what I needed to hear today.
    -Bri

  • @lizamena9124
    @lizamena9124 9 років тому +9

    Amazing! no more online dating for me!!! thank you so much...

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 6 років тому

      Lisa Mena Its so hard finding someone that is not just looking for sex and not a real relationship; or even a Godly man who can be a provider, priest and protector.

  • @toshiacomer
    @toshiacomer 10 років тому

    Powerful!!!!!! Definitely a reminder as to why God has continued to keep me on this journey. Thank you so much!!!!

  • @martinamaduneme9108
    @martinamaduneme9108 10 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for this powerful message. God bless you!

  • @spankievava8202
    @spankievava8202 10 років тому

    You help me so much heather !! Thank you.God bless

  • @01296trizmu
    @01296trizmu 10 років тому

    Amen, what à great message....You are so inspirational Heather.

  • @kinjitejervier5974
    @kinjitejervier5974 10 років тому +1

    Preeeeeaaach, so true part of trusting God is trusting his timing especially when it come to relationships!!! Very powerful , thanks God bless

  • @saritaaprendeespanol
    @saritaaprendeespanol 8 років тому +1

    So much wisdom!

  • @euuuuuuuueuuuuuu
    @euuuuuuuueuuuuuu 10 років тому

    Thanks for the video! To be contented in current season and wait quietly upon the Lord! Love the reminder(:

  • @Crystal-KN
    @Crystal-KN 10 років тому

    I truly thank god for you're life and this message! It's amazing how God speaks to us in ways we would never imagine. Thank you

  • @toohot2trot
    @toohot2trot 10 років тому +9

    I absolutely love how God uses you to share these messages!! This was very powerful.

  • @sweetlove3391
    @sweetlove3391 7 років тому +1

    Thank you so much again.. this video has couraged me over and over again.. i have watched like hundred times since 2014.. to remind myself

  • @dezerismith7529
    @dezerismith7529 6 років тому +2

    This is what I need, thank you Heather, you kept it so real💯💯💯

  • @QueenMercedesz
    @QueenMercedesz 10 років тому

    Thank you for this Heather! I agree with everything your saying! Love you back big sis thank you

  • @WaterTaufu
    @WaterTaufu 8 років тому

    I loveeeeeeeeeee this thank you SO MUCH Heather and thank GOD for this ministry!

  • @Staciaforever
    @Staciaforever 8 років тому +1

    Love you too Heather :) God bless you for this word .

  • @serestinehaitembu2941
    @serestinehaitembu2941 10 років тому +1

    heather thank you so much for the word...i really needed it. You are such an inspiration for me.

  • @BlueBabyAkaAj
    @BlueBabyAkaAj 10 років тому

    Omg! Heather i love hearing your inspirational words. You speak existence into my life. Alot of my college friends love watching you also. You truly are amazing by allowing God to use you to speak to so many of us young females. Thank you!

  • @kellyst7453
    @kellyst7453 8 років тому +1

    Heather , Wow ! thanks a lot for your message , I definitely needed to hear it. God bless you and your family. Sending you love from Paris.

  • @BlissSkittles
    @BlissSkittles 10 років тому +1

    Another great video, thank you woman of God may He continue to bless you

  • @morellecapendakadia7521
    @morellecapendakadia7521 6 років тому

    Very true. May God bless you for this message.

  • @richgirldivinewealth
    @richgirldivinewealth 6 років тому

    Thanks a lot I am listening to it over again. May God Help me to wait on him for his perfect will for my life.

  • @moniquewakefield1765
    @moniquewakefield1765 10 років тому +6

    God BLESS you Heather for SHARING this on a public forum. I too have been there done that, but God! More women NEED to hear this!!! Continue to share!

  • @iiAngelic
    @iiAngelic 8 років тому +3

    The way you explain this subject...wow it hits many chords. It's worth the wait!!

  • @laryahalexander8455
    @laryahalexander8455 10 років тому

    Powerful, you have really blessed me I thank God for using you, so many woman lives will be changed because of your obedience to serve him. Continue to let him use you!

  • @MissJhane
    @MissJhane 8 років тому +1

    God Bless you for this wonderful testimony

  • @Iris11music
    @Iris11music 5 років тому

    ... I watched the very first video I've ever seen of you I think... 9-10 months ago. This is only the second one, that I just watched... and I absolutely LOVE, to listening to you talking about God. This video made me cry.
    ... Thank you for this.

  • @Expensive-op6pn
    @Expensive-op6pn 7 років тому +1

    God bless you Heather. You're a massive blessing unto us women.

  • @IAmDrJessicaColleen
    @IAmDrJessicaColleen 5 років тому

    Lord Jesus the first 5 minutes was ME!!!i did that so many times with men until I just got tired. I’m changing Lord..thank you

  • @MissJ74
    @MissJ74 10 років тому

    Wow, I'm glad I watched this video, that was me a few years ago, now I quit dating, i'm glad this video has given me confirmation of why it was neccessary to do that. Thanks for sharing this brilliant message!

  • @kristalrivers714
    @kristalrivers714 8 років тому +2

    Spot on!!!! Thank you so much!!! That was the message during my prayer time this morning "WAITING" Confirmation for me yet again

  • @bettsc1231
    @bettsc1231 8 років тому

    Thank you so much I needed this like you won't believe

  • @rebeccabutcher5793
    @rebeccabutcher5793 8 років тому +5

    This has been weighing heavy on my heart. Time to listen. Thank you!

  • @edith3151
    @edith3151 2 роки тому

    I just read the Song of Songs last night. Whoo this resonated with me so much. Thank you

  • @kavitharajoo
    @kavitharajoo 7 років тому

    Thank you so much maam.....ur words awakens me big time! God bless u and ur loved ones!

  • @YOMAME123
    @YOMAME123 9 років тому

    As this touched my heart with truth I appreciate you letting the annoiting of God saturate that moment. Press THRU and let God's glory shine

  • @LYP7
    @LYP7 8 років тому +3

    Such a blessing! GOD Bless you!

  • @JJ-sx7pw
    @JJ-sx7pw 8 років тому +1

    I want to thank so much for your videos they have helped me so much God brought you into my life so I could I understand and learn from my self I pray that you are continue to be blessed sister you are so beautiful and I can see the lord shining in you thank you again

  • @soniaharland2015
    @soniaharland2015 10 років тому

    Thank you sis you really bless me with this. I'm moving forward to serve God more

  • @owe1255
    @owe1255 6 років тому

    Thank you sis. Your words are so timely.

  • @styleyoursweets962
    @styleyoursweets962 8 років тому +2

    Jesus i thank you. It is 2:24 am sunday morning in N.C. and i came across your channel....This is exactly what i need to hear. Thank you for sharing my sister.New subbie from N.C. Carolyn

  • @setayeshomidian6813
    @setayeshomidian6813 4 роки тому

    Amen to the Lord for using you to speak this to us!!!!

  • @lorainelawrence7368
    @lorainelawrence7368 10 років тому

    I loved this!! So inspirational I'm totally content in this single season I'm trying to continue to focus on GOD and meditate on the word!! Because he knows best and his will is perfect