Narcissist's Silent treatment Destroys You Emotionally
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- Опубліковано 19 лип 2024
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00:00 Intro
01:20 You become desperate for validation
03:15 You feel completely isolated and Lonely
06:26 You get emotionally Paralyzed
08:39 Conclusion
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There is nothing more devastating to a small child than having a mother that gives silent treatment for an extended period of time, pretending to not even SEE the child as the child pleads for mother's acknowledgment, let alone 'love'. Thanks Mom.
@@jbrown2908 siblings, friends, relative essence too...it's ok, now I know I was meant to be separate from these toxic demonic evil entities. 60 decades later, now I get it !
I suffer worse
She throw me away
@@wer45635 Mine DID discard me when I was in hospital and not expected to live. She told me when I was still in hospital she didn't have time for me and wanted me to find somewhere else to live.
You 😢 describe me exactly and sister backed up my mother very ruthlessly, making as I am surviving my own consequences and ego driven , reptile eyes , smirk etc , it affected me in my stomach gastritis and collywobbles
@@jbrown2908 😢 my childhood
This is exactly right. She continually sadistically used silent treatment when we were together in cafes, restaurants or other places. I asked her repeatedly if she would prefer to be left alone and she refused, continuing to sadistically hurt my feelings and ignoring me. These satanic creatures should be isolated from society.
You should have just walked out of the cafe and given her "space", while being the nice guy.
When someone gives you silent treatment the best thing you can do is to relax sit back and observe what is going on and turn the tables back to him or her period💪🙌👍❤
Yes dear don't let anybody bully you when someone is giving you a silent treatment go out Have Fun pretend as if you don't know what is going on I just tell the person please with a soft tune if you're ready to talk let me know and continue to have fun💪❤🙌
@@vacationeyes6430ikr I would have done that too
My advice . Been there . Done that . Silence those Muppets right back . It effects them more . When you ignore them back they absolutely Go Crazy . They cannot handle it . Put them under your Control. Never let anyone disrespect you . Or it will get worse.
The silent treatment over many many years made me very strong to give him his own treatment back and watch him self destruct. No regrets. No emotion. Freedom is priceless.
Yes. So much pain in the heart, especially when the mother is the narcissist. 😢
"What did I do? Did I do something? Did I accidentally offend you? I am sorry.😢"
Then you catch up to the tricks. The whole thing suddenly makes sense. That it's a disgusting control tactic and has nothing to do with you. Trust me, the best defense is to ignore them back permanently. They will be baffled, surprised, hurt and angry at this move. But take them by surprise and show them steely confidence they never knew you had. It will destroy them.
Very astute! Thank you!
I spent so much time apologizing and racking my brain for what I did wrong. But the truth is no matter what I said or did, she would find ways to make me feel isolated, unheard, and weak. Silent treatment is serious torture. It made me sick and confused and I survived off breadcrumbs of attention. I pray for anyone who is also going through this. It rewires our brain, but we can rewire it back towards good health. It just takes time.
“emotional strangulation” …well stated.
When my ex was mad at me she would give me the silent treatment and I would try to hug and kiss her to let her know I was sorry, she would then yell at me and say I don’t deserve to be touched. My love language, physical touch :c
That's so cruel. Hope you are healing
My ex did the same, it's horrible treatment, incredibly cruel and unnecessary, let the Healing begin ✨💜✨
@@angelakeely5859 let the healing begin 😌🙏🏼
Same thing from my husband. He said I was a "hug addict", and so I needed to "detach". He would even tell my kids not to hug me, because I was "taking hugs and not giving them".
@@janedoe5229 that’s fucked 😧 I’m sorry, I hope you find the love, happiness and healing you deserve 🫶🏼👑
My mother give me now 5 months silent treatment!
She 83 😢 i am 59😢
I feel free!
It's a beautiful thing after the pain of the hard truth wears off. Congratulations on five months of drama-free living! (We need chips or tokens or something. Lol)
PS - You look fabulous. 👍
Remember the hover aspect after time. So you are not caught off guard.
It is so true and I am not the same person anymore. I isolate myself and feel lonely and nobody cares because they can't understand why I can't get over him. It's like my brain needs to be reprogramed. There is no closure and you wonder what had happened. Everything you say is true and I feel like I lost my soul and spirit.
Time, it takes time, be good to yourself.
This was my childhood, up through my teen years, 20's, 30's & beyond. My parents both used the silent treatment on me. I realize now that I in turn "did what they did" on some of my boyfriends & even some girlfriends, when I felt displeasure at something they had done or not done. Time went on & realizing my prior narcissistic tendencies through seeing what had been "done to me" after I'd been in a very bad accident with a pickup truck while I was riding my bike, I now feel 'guilty' now for visiting & inflicting my frustrations & such a destructive set of behaviors upon a number of people from my past. I am so sorry I hurt some of my friends so badly.
for children of narc parents, yah it's awful, for sure.
for adults getting silent treatment from calling out a narc, for me it's like winning the lottery lol.
with my newfound riches of peace and quiet, I'll just go live my best life possible. 💯
Hard when it's your only surviving family member, cutting blood ties hurts 10000000x more than anyone else when you've come from a close family.
@Coaching By Daisy Most of my family were relatively high functioning, and we were very close, we were unwittingly the enablers for the narcissistic behavior to go unchecked with 2 members and an inlaw. I think the response we were all having to their behavior brought us closer, but nobody had a name for it, so we had no idea how to deal with the 'sulking - walking on eggshells' game.
Very true.... I lost my identity completely. My narcisstic brother convincingly or cunningly , gradually, subtly changed whole perspective about myself. . Cruel people ...
When you know, and they know you know.
When you have the receipts and use them.
When you speak the truth and point out their lies the with proof, the only option for them is to threaten you and then give you the silent treatment.
They hate the truth, they can't face it, so their only option is to hide.
Danish! Thank you for your clarity and this topic. My ex (no contact 4 yrs now) did this and I got very depressed over time. He would do this at the home every evening, otherwise very outgoing in public. Others couldn't see it based on his personality if mentioned, another minimization. Please watch for this when meeting people. If it is done for a minute or two to you, it will be done for a longer time if you are together. Guaranteed 200%.
100% accurate as usual. Your affirmation at the end about deserving to be seen and heard…it’s funny how you convince yourself you deserve their behaviour. Thanks for the reminder 🤗
You just described my mother . As a child she would give me the silent treatment , I didn’t exists for years at a time ! Grew up and married a narcissist . I found out at one point when you ignore the narcissist they panic . That’s when I walked away from the vicious cycle of narcissist . 14 years no contact with my mother and well the ex husband I divorced 14 years ago . Trust me life is so much better shedding and discarding narcissist from your life . Counseling really is beneficial
Wow! This is the BEST video I have heard about how silent treatment leads to the emotional numbness and loss of identity in narcisistically abused victims! Perfect! This is exactly what happens. Thank you.
When it’s your own child it’s impossible to walk away mentally n emotionally!!
My boyfriend is a covert Narcissist it’s been 3 days of the slient treatment it’s been a living hell I lost my appetite I been trying to get in contact with him he won’t Awsner my calls or texts I feel rejected and abandoned it’s very painful 😓 I can’t stop crying 😭 none stop
Narc exhusband Stonewalled me for days, weeks and one time for months gaslighting me it's my fault I've caused everything, hurt his feelings, being my first relationship I knew couples argued but d8dnt know how wrong this was. Talk about power and control manipulation at other finest. Grew worse over time not initially. Evil deserves evil not beautiful empaths. I'm safe happy n so aware now but did lose myself fir awhile.
I should watch this video on a daily existence. ❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks
Yeah, It was really hurtful.
Amazingly accurate. Thank you.
Thank you for all you've given me.
Great- clear. You described my predicament expertly. Thank God the deception ideas being exposed. Thank you Danish
Silent treatments are sick. I told my ex that one time when it happened I couldnt eat for days. There was no reaction and later on he went to do it again!! They hate you so much I really dont understand how he could have build up such resentment towards me. Ofcourse we sometimes had a disagreement here and there, but his punishments towards me were as if I cheated on him or worse.. He blamed me for having ruined many moments, with ruined he meant that I had an emotion on a particular occassion, for example that I got angry when he told me he still slept at his ex's place..
Very True 👏
I love the silent treatmen. No need to hear from these clowns
Can you make a video going more in detail on the feelings of obligation or even outsiders perspective of the person being abused obligations because I deal a lot with the circle of enablers when the narcissist is weak but surrounds themselves with easily convinced of things
True, that is why others cannot understand what is actually going on and trying to explain falls on deaf ears.
Amazing analysis! Thanks for the precious information! Do you recommend to mirror the silent treatment in the same way he does it? Some time it would last for 8 months or more, should I do the same thing in return? Just to show him that it doesn’t affect me?
For now,
my only option is to cope :/
But I’m into major changes in my life to get out of his web
Thanks for the advice :)
I can guarantee it enrages them when you give them the silent treatment. Only when they're in the discard phase does it not matter to them.
Learn to enjoy the peace-Lee Hammock
Absolutely on point… but please solutions as I am also a co parent … what best to do?
Can you please make a video on a husband wife relationship..where the wife is narcissistic and the survivor is in so much fear and confusion.
How do a narcissist behave if u give them a silent treatment?? Like if u don't speak to them evn after living under the same roof . .. evn if u speak it is clear that u r forcing urself.... To answer.. how does a narcissist behave for this behaviour??? Please answer if anyone knows please..... Mine i feel is a covert narcissist.. n tired of the emotional rollercoaster.. i have been doing the above...
Let him know youre not tolerating any BS. They hate it,you dont need that crap in your life, do yourself the biggest favour ever and get rid of him before he drags you through hell and back
@chosen1153 i don't think he has a other supply... But yea i have noticed a pattern where in things are calm for 2-3 months then he triggers me by saying something or doing something n i start going of like a mad lady... N it appears as if u r the one not talking n treating him bad . N u r the one having pblms.. u r the one who is not willing to let go of something the poor guy did.. n ur the one throwing tantrums
Now for past 4-5 months i m consciously trying to control my self.. not matter i much i want to react i don't react at all
@chosen1153 i m leaving him filed for a divorce finally he doesn't know yet.. it is going to be hell once he comes to knwo
@chosen1153 yup
Will you make a video about covert narcissist?
So I don’t understand why we’re encouraged to do that to the narc?
We are. I saw another video saying the exact same thing
It's the only way to break our dreadful habit of begging, pleading, debasing ourselves while putting our needs in the bin. It's not even going to work?
It's about motives. Evil people use the same strategies as healthy people, but for different reasons. A toxic person uses silence to coerce. Healthy people use it to preserve their own well-being. So, if a toxic person is silent, to a healthy person it's a gift. Whereas another toxic person will think it's a manipulation.
We're both Christian, so it might be easier to think of it as a tool of discernment: If someone treats you a certain way presume they're treating you like they want to be treated, and treat them as such.
If they're toxic, the behaviour you mirror back will anger them. If more reasonable reactions occur there's hope to build from that.
The truth can be used to strengthen relationships, if that's what both parties want. The same truth, in actions or in words, can also be used to give someone rope to hang themselves with.
Think Psalms. "Whoever digs a hole and scoops it out falls into the pit they have made. The trouble they cause recoils on them; their violence comes down on their own heads."
Motivation is everything
Hope this makes sense. Stay blessed.
Can u share some negotiation strategy to deal with a Narcissistic
Funny after years, years of this . I went nc and he seems to have found his voice (against me) and his letters consist of word salad. First he takes blame,then blames me. Oh, he has found religion suddenly. Thank you.
Thats me 😢😢
Dear Danish,
I want an urgent consultation. Where can I get in touch with you.
We can't deal with these people. I'm experiencing right from my marriage. Now I came to know. But can i do I don't understand
I'm not doing too well I want this b,s to end
It's been a one month almost he did not responded my text call what should I do😢 I'm not well
Das kenn ich 😂