The Grief of Fumbling a REAL Woman Is REAL!

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  • @JaxnVideos
    @JaxnVideos  4 місяці тому +29

    NEW BOOK: From Heartache to Happiness(E-Book & Audio Book Bundle)
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    • @loveslife11
      @loveslife11 4 місяці тому

      I love derrek jaxn😊

    • @darlingdarlow6415
      @darlingdarlow6415 4 місяці тому

      👏

    • @user-zk3fj3wy3e
      @user-zk3fj3wy3e 4 місяці тому

      Derrick talk about men who fumble a good woman but dates women who empties their pockets!!! women who only wanted them for a bag...they spin the block express pain and all a sudden they want a good woman back!! TALK ABOUT WOMEN WHO BREAK MEN...WE LOVE U DERRICK!!! 🤎🫵🏾👍🏾✊🏾👊🏾👏🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🙏🏾💅🏾💋aka a fitandfabulous BW...LETS GO 2024!!

    • @glam0r0us
      @glam0r0us 4 місяці тому

      Thank you Derrick 🙏🏽

    • @solyball2873
      @solyball2873 4 місяці тому +1

      Hey D ! How do we get the real book? I don’t really like ebooks. I’d much rather have the real book.

  • @LonjeMarie7
    @LonjeMarie7 3 місяці тому +150

    To any woman that’s reading this if you are the ‘ball’ that he fumbled.
    It’s HIS LOSS, keep rolling!

    • @acheeksgaming4849
      @acheeksgaming4849 3 місяці тому +6

      I'm so feeling the fumble right now. He went back to his baby mom. I'm in my feelings, but I don't want to be his option if it doesn't work.

    • @melissacross4769
      @melissacross4769 3 місяці тому +2

      Thank u...... ❤❤❤

    • @ednablessed1096
      @ednablessed1096 2 місяці тому +1

      Going thru it now 😢💔

  • @tedthajohnson6077
    @tedthajohnson6077 4 місяці тому +214

    It’s the energy that some women embody. It can’t be replaced.

  • @sailorPinata
    @sailorPinata 3 місяці тому +148

    now imagine the pain of being the fumbled woman...

  • @BeautifullyAwakened83
    @BeautifullyAwakened83 4 місяці тому +165

    Especially when you “Fumble” a “Real Life Natural Born Chosen One”😬✂️💯

  • @victoriabrand2777
    @victoriabrand2777 4 місяці тому +133

    Exactly, there are some levels of disrespect that can never be forgiven or forgotten

    • @melissacross4769
      @melissacross4769 3 місяці тому +2

      Yes Michael facts

    • @msjaneausten483
      @msjaneausten483 24 дні тому

      Oooo that part 🙌💯 I can forgive but there are certain levels of disrespect... It's like ✌️✌️✌️

  • @empressdawnsomerville1101
    @empressdawnsomerville1101 3 місяці тому +119

    If he’s narcissistic he doesn’t care about messing the relationship up with that woman because he misses HER..Her presence. He cares because he misses what he was getting from that woman…Her presents.

  • @alogan9502
    @alogan9502 4 місяці тому +197

    Yes I sometimes wonder if he feels heavily convicted in his heart for the hurt he caused when the world is quiet & hes alone with his own thoughts 😌

    • @Emerald-1226
      @Emerald-1226 4 місяці тому +3

      😢

    • @shiz1246
      @shiz1246 3 місяці тому +22

      He only regrets it because he can no longer use her.

    • @StarS33d3
      @StarS33d3 3 місяці тому +20

      I feel he’s receiving what he put out now n it hurts baaaaad..That physical mental beating he gave her does NOT compare to the SPIRITUAL AS WHIPPING he’s receiving now🧘🏾‍♀️

    • @user-yd2mp7wp3k
      @user-yd2mp7wp3k 3 місяці тому +1

      Me too

    • @navimarlow
      @navimarlow 3 місяці тому +6

      No. Men don’t love and feel like us

  • @nltinc.4864
    @nltinc.4864 3 місяці тому +84

    He is 100% correct! My husband lost the best version of me and now I can never be that affectionate, sexually available, loving and flirtatious woman with him again. Ever!

    • @INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha
      @INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha 3 місяці тому +13

      Why not divorce him??

    • @JemLifeMinistries
      @JemLifeMinistries 3 місяці тому +3

      Mine did too before I fully got away.

    • @sarahmicro
      @sarahmicro 3 місяці тому +4

      @@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha : because most of these women stay even if there are not happy. Just to avoid being alone....

    • @theSlamDude1
      @theSlamDude1 Місяць тому

      Exactly, at that point, you're wasting both of y'all time ​@@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

    • @monamellj
      @monamellj Місяць тому

      Been there. I can relate.

  • @Jeffreyway
    @Jeffreyway 4 місяці тому +56

    It Ain't Just with A Good Woman Derrick... It's Losing A REAL 1 PERIOD!!!!

  • @gloriathompson6606
    @gloriathompson6606 4 місяці тому +51

    After 19 years and some change, my ex husband has STILL not moved on. At 69 he is stuck in the past not only with me, but our children.

  • @Mllascelles1
    @Mllascelles1 4 місяці тому +53

    Self imposed trauma by self sabatoge is tragic.

  • @robynhawthorne3160
    @robynhawthorne3160 4 місяці тому +51

    U tell'em Derrick, BEWARE !! 😮
    Like RKelly said wen a woman fed-up, ain't nothing u can do about it

  • @shiz1246
    @shiz1246 3 місяці тому +41

    Regret is not remorse. They (you) regret losing the utility of your appliance, but you don’t feel bad for doing what you did

  • @catspyjamas7944
    @catspyjamas7944 4 місяці тому +95

    You can see this one hits him different.

    • @SarahGraceL
      @SarahGraceL 4 місяці тому +33

      I agree. He's speaking of a cautionary tale of his own.

    • @queenb3088
      @queenb3088 4 місяці тому +28

      Yeah... this is very personal.

  • @sonjacox4874
    @sonjacox4874 4 місяці тому +73

    Yup! Such a coincidence how my ex has woman after woman but can't find a "good one" after I left

    • @hindwidad2723
      @hindwidad2723 3 місяці тому

      Most men think that women are replaceable till they find out the hard way. There aren’t many good people left and they don’t realize that till it’s too late to get you back

  • @user-GodIsGood777
    @user-GodIsGood777 4 місяці тому +34

    You are so full of wisdom. Thank you for this message today. I am so glad i found you online. 🙏

  • @childadvocate8374
    @childadvocate8374 4 місяці тому +27

    Appreciate yr honesty and admitting yr own challenges with dealing with loss of a good woman. That doesn't take away the pain you caused but at least you can heal yourself. But the truth is you're not responsible for her healing, she is. God bless you both❤

    • @user-gm9kl9do3s
      @user-gm9kl9do3s 4 місяці тому +6

      God is using him. He's preaching from personal knowledge ❤

    • @childadvocate8374
      @childadvocate8374 4 місяці тому

      ​@@user-gm9kl9do3sI agree.

  • @rhondaharris460
    @rhondaharris460 4 місяці тому +24

    That's true, and we're all different in our unique way, no one can be you❤😊

  • @jazziewilliams3834
    @jazziewilliams3834 3 місяці тому +22

    U won’t miss her until she’s gone 😥

  • @user-nt6ow2wj2u
    @user-nt6ow2wj2u 4 місяці тому +19

    This message deserves Gold Thanks

  • @kristengarcia3477
    @kristengarcia3477 4 місяці тому +30

    I hope my ex heals, he can’t ever comeback to me but he needs to be a good example to our baby. He’s too busy chasing a bust down who competes with my baby for his attention(usually she wins) he thinks if karma hasn’t hit him yet it’s not gonna come back around for what they did to me.

  • @TheHighPriestess111
    @TheHighPriestess111 3 місяці тому +17

    I’m only here to say.. I told you so!!! 🤭🤭

  • @JenniferSimonis
    @JenniferSimonis 4 місяці тому +12

    It’s beyond mental illness. Ownership. Humility. Many years of therapy. I pray for eyes to see and ears to hear constantly. We share children but we are not together.

  • @sajor1847
    @sajor1847 21 день тому +1

    You described my marriage of 24 years that I lost myself in. 5 years and I'm beginning to find the me that I lost while loving someone that wasn't loveable.
    He fumbled me and drank himself to death. I was the best he was ever going to get. I put myself aside and now I'm finding myself again and for that I will be grateful every day for the rest of my life.

  • @saharastarot6886
    @saharastarot6886 3 місяці тому +8

    I like this derrick, his energy is very genuine.

  • @TheGreyArea_LuLaKye
    @TheGreyArea_LuLaKye 4 місяці тому +15

    Blessings KING for ur wisdom and being transparent 🫡🎱🙌🏽

  • @GiM-ef7ky
    @GiM-ef7ky 4 місяці тому +9

    This is why he is able to give a dialogue on this subject. 🎉

  • @ford6321noone
    @ford6321noone 4 місяці тому +8

    Thank you for telling the TRUTH!!

  • @here.comes.tiffany
    @here.comes.tiffany 4 місяці тому +5

    Thank you ❤ i have been watching and listening to you for a while.. dropping love, videos like yours NEED to blow up. You have great messages..went through this in a 14 yr relationship …
    Thanks for keeping it real❤

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 4 місяці тому +18

    KARMA IS REAL❤

    • @gregbuze9143
      @gregbuze9143 3 місяці тому +2

      That part !! 💯 💯 💯

  • @lynnanderson6831
    @lynnanderson6831 3 місяці тому +4

    It’s interesting to hear this. The relationships I’ve had have been so damaging I’m forever changed. I’ve often wondered if they even think about me and wonder how I am. We are damaged, but hearing this, it’s damaging for some men too. Thank you for sharing. I think women just want men who have harmed to become aware of their actions and try to work on themselves and become better people. We hope someday that they could just say I am so sorry for hurting you that way. That would be healing for both parties. ❤

  • @gr8hndz4u
    @gr8hndz4u 4 місяці тому +22

    Thank you for speaking the truth.

  • @TnL-nt2kd
    @TnL-nt2kd 4 місяці тому +22

    You damn sure preaching the truth❤

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 3 місяці тому +2

    THE GREATEST COMEBACK EVER!!

  • @HeyokaGirlSpeaks
    @HeyokaGirlSpeaks Місяць тому +2

    My ex-husband ignored my saying I'm with you because I want to be not because I have to be. Keep fukng with me and I will walk away. He called my bluff and lost big time. I won myself and he lost everything. 😊❤

  • @loisendiritu6575
    @loisendiritu6575 3 місяці тому +4

    This doesn't apply only for marital relationship, it applies also to any other relationship with a human being.

  • @starchildsol
    @starchildsol 4 місяці тому +6

    Thank you Derrick! 🙏🫶😊

  • @danielle2247
    @danielle2247 4 місяці тому +8

    I am here listening to this because I'm the good girl and I think he fumbled me and I can legit see him struggling with it and I was wondering if I was just seeing things

  • @debranathan4275
    @debranathan4275 4 місяці тому +16

    How can you keep moving from woman to woman, and not heal.thats what men and women have to do first, Mind Body and Soul. Finding yourself is worth everything because you can't see nothing until you heal yourself. Know your Worthhhhhhhh

  • @kimberlyhamilton8637
    @kimberlyhamilton8637 3 місяці тому +3

    This is So Very True 👍 and Absolute Facts

  • @ljubicapopovic8811
    @ljubicapopovic8811 4 місяці тому +4

    Derrick, good as always! Thank you for telling things so honestly, 💝!

  • @ShainaLuckey
    @ShainaLuckey 18 днів тому

    Amen. I am patiently waiting for my day.

  • @thefruitfulones
    @thefruitfulones 3 місяці тому +3

    This is soooooo “spot on”. He is sick about it. Cant seem to find true love. Or find it but fearful she’ll never be enough. Wow!!! The meal analogy was ‘perfection’!!oh, lastly… the chemistry is so strong when the two happen upon each other. It’s so intense and you both walk away pretending not to have sensed that chemistry. Smh

  • @belindaking1362
    @belindaking1362 4 місяці тому +5

    Yes i was working hard, studying for a degree and all he did was complain at me.. The relationship was a joke with him, all he did was make me cry. 😊😊😊😊

    • @spirituallyfreewithree
      @spirituallyfreewithree 4 місяці тому +3

      Dealing with this now with my husband. I want out. It's exhausting.

  • @triamoore2931
    @triamoore2931 4 місяці тому +27

    Gives me manipulation vibes knowing what people want to hear, saying it and playing a different angle speaking from a experienced place portrayed changed behavior and ego a real good talker 😅

  • @Harry-o6g
    @Harry-o6g 4 місяці тому +7

    Thank you for this

  • @iRockwthMJ
    @iRockwthMJ 3 місяці тому

    This is DEEP! Thank you for breaking this down. This is healing information. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @SleepyPariah
    @SleepyPariah 4 місяці тому +24

    Regular men grieve. But what about narcissistic, users, abusive men? Do THEY grieve?

    • @mrslady90
      @mrslady90 3 місяці тому +7

      ironically grief actually plays a part in that narcissistic characteristic that they have. They can’t cope with whatever happened to them.

    • @LonjeMarie7
      @LonjeMarie7 3 місяці тому +4

      No they don’t. They deny gaslight deflect responsibility, and then they replace ,and then it’s rinse, wash and repeat.

    • @kiarisby2471
      @kiarisby2471 3 місяці тому +3

      Yes, but their grief is different. They grieve the benefit of the good woman. They don’t grieve the fact that they hurt and damaged you. The grieve the access they had and the benefits (love, service, status etc.).

  • @lydiahaynes4974
    @lydiahaynes4974 10 днів тому

    When you tell him you have lost yourself and you are in pain and all he can say is "that’s your problem" or "don't be so negative" or "I'm sick of you being negative" when all you are trying to do is open up and pour your heart out choking on tears. He laughs in your face repeatedly and feels more empowered to scream when he sees you upset. Nothing hurts more.

  • @brigettecannonssorandomsho5918
    @brigettecannonssorandomsho5918 4 місяці тому +4

    STRAIGHT FACTS!!!!

  • @kaymoody396
    @kaymoody396 Місяць тому +1

    UR AWESOME U HELP ME IN SO MANY WAYS THANK YOU ❤❤😊

  • @DeeDee-zd9ni
    @DeeDee-zd9ni 4 місяці тому +3

    Your videos has heal me….💥👏🏿

  • @kashmoney8697
    @kashmoney8697 21 день тому

    My ex boyfriend recently passed away (he was married also) but I was told by mutual friends and family that he was still talking about me saying how he regrets losing me 🎯💯 goes to show he did have regrets …didn’t realize it till it was too late though

  • @sweetie932
    @sweetie932 4 місяці тому +6

    Question, for this very reason; is it best to unfollow or not have any ex on social media? 💕great video 👍🏾

  • @SR-hf3hx
    @SR-hf3hx 3 місяці тому +1

    I fumbled a great woman...and everyday pray i can find a partner half as suitable as she was. And she wouldn't even let me apologize

  • @nadiaconseillant8616
    @nadiaconseillant8616 4 місяці тому +3

    My body perceives it as a reality. I see no future in the burning bed

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 4 місяці тому +4

    You have an amazing topic very amazing

  • @user-su3rg4ll8j
    @user-su3rg4ll8j 3 місяці тому +1

    Oh well, it's good to know that guys will always remember so they don't rake for granted what was given with love. May the Lord our God heal our broken hearts and give us the strength to seek for his presence and let go.

  • @SophiaParker-mc3kg
    @SophiaParker-mc3kg 4 місяці тому +4

    That’s me 🤚🤚 don’t recognize me at all!😢

  • @katricepittman8209
    @katricepittman8209 4 місяці тому

    Brother Derek tha thank you for the great message that you are saying to all men and women tell me the truth 100 I am

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 4 місяці тому +7

    6 ft 5" !!!

  • @LonnieCook-cd9kg
    @LonnieCook-cd9kg 3 місяці тому +2

    You are speaking the God's honest truth.

  • @user-op6de9nn2g
    @user-op6de9nn2g 4 місяці тому +1

    Wow! A Great woman is still out there...

  • @simpleliving4205
    @simpleliving4205 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Derrick !!

  • @Angel-lm6cj
    @Angel-lm6cj 4 місяці тому +18

    Do narsaccist men have a conscience?

  • @ms.tj_love
    @ms.tj_love 4 місяці тому +5

    Let me find out you intuitive too!🤔

  • @janherlihy8301
    @janherlihy8301 3 місяці тому +1

    Brotha
    You STILL have so much more to learn

  • @devinwilliams5334
    @devinwilliams5334 4 місяці тому +1

    Good Message! 💯

  • @user-pc2ts5yr6h
    @user-pc2ts5yr6h 3 місяці тому +1

    My friend studies kaballah, I am Christian. I was baptized born again 43 yrs ago, he's studied kaballah 38.
    He told ne he'd study Christianity for 6 mo if I'd study kaballah. I agreed, but he never set the computer up foe me to study, and I'd ask him to read the Bible from pg 1 to the end, asking God to Open it, to unfold the code to you.
    No one can tell you what's in the Bible but God. After you know what is, you share it, and those who hear are of like mind.

  • @Soulhearts4ever
    @Soulhearts4ever 4 місяці тому +5

    talk is Cheap anyone can afford it....

  • @madelinemaldonado2717
    @madelinemaldonado2717 4 місяці тому +2

    I feel so hurt and lost 😞

  • @MsTrevia2010
    @MsTrevia2010 4 місяці тому +1

    Yes, OMG, yes!! Please take heed!

  • @Cecille_the_one
    @Cecille_the_one 3 місяці тому

    Great message ❤️
    Thank You

  • @sybilamuta6417
    @sybilamuta6417 3 місяці тому

    BLESSINGS to you!!!God bless you.

  • @ImbueU88
    @ImbueU88 4 місяці тому +1

    Yes, you better speak from experience!! Thank u

  • @MrY3P
    @MrY3P Місяць тому

    Awesome information and so true

  • @user-mq6zn9pc8o
    @user-mq6zn9pc8o 4 місяці тому +3

    Real Talk 🙏

  • @lifecoachtenirabyrd5976
    @lifecoachtenirabyrd5976 3 місяці тому +1

    A vision board woman..❤ yesss 🔥🙏👑

  • @darlenerush5389
    @darlenerush5389 4 місяці тому +1

    Love You Derrick 💓💓💓

  • @feeldevine9641
    @feeldevine9641 3 місяці тому +1

    Love this ❤

  • @jozejeaux3962
    @jozejeaux3962 16 днів тому

    My ex husband is a perfect example. I've never known him to drink and he's now an alcoholic. He looks terrible and this is after I divorced him in 2009. He looks much older now with a pot belly...ew

  • @brimoore1982
    @brimoore1982 3 місяці тому

    Thank you. 💜

  • @Keana43
    @Keana43 3 місяці тому +2

    Tell'em D❤

  • @SharonShepard-sf3th
    @SharonShepard-sf3th 3 місяці тому +1

    Continue to do the good work.

  • @YazminM2222
    @YazminM2222 3 місяці тому

    Thank you!

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 4 місяці тому +4

    Why single the new thang 2024

  • @user-jm7fw4gd9u
    @user-jm7fw4gd9u 3 місяці тому +3

    Is this why my ex kept coming back for years, because of guilt or just because I kept taking him back? Was he just using me when he had no one else?

    • @smithsonna035
      @smithsonna035 2 дні тому

      Kept coming back because u chose to play 2nd option and not 1st priority

  • @dwilliams5700
    @dwilliams5700 4 місяці тому +1

    Amen Derrick ... Amen 🙏🏼❤

  • @cindyvazquez4333
    @cindyvazquez4333 3 місяці тому

    Wow you know peoples pain in their emotions🙏🙏❤

  • @KatieForsythe-rl1xp
    @KatieForsythe-rl1xp 3 місяці тому

    Thank you ….. just thankyou ❤

  • @lovewins8045
    @lovewins8045 4 місяці тому +1

    Amazing content!!

  • @darlenerush5389
    @darlenerush5389 4 місяці тому

    Thank You Derrick ❤❤❤

  • @ahmedlago6651
    @ahmedlago6651 3 місяці тому

    Yes u are correct, I lived it

  • @sheilablanton4894
    @sheilablanton4894 4 місяці тому

    Ty for this message 👍

  • @sheilak2835
    @sheilak2835 3 місяці тому

    ✅ Absolutely right!

  • @s.d.crockett486
    @s.d.crockett486 3 місяці тому

    Very insightful

  • @StrengthNLove
    @StrengthNLove 3 місяці тому +2

    Woman love you first

  • @reneika7771
    @reneika7771 3 місяці тому +1

    Fact 💯

  • @marleneandrewsandrews3416
    @marleneandrewsandrews3416 4 місяці тому

    Wow 🎉I absolutely agree 💯💯💯💯🥰😉🌹🫡🙌