Black Love is a Revolutionary Act (Dr. Frances cress Welsing). Everything possible and imaginable has been devised to divide and conquer and destroy the black race. "They" haven't been completely successful since we're still here, but for how much longer, though? MARRIAGE IS A MALE INVENTION. Before that invention, multiple partnership went both ways. However the problem with that was that: mama's baby was papa's, MAYBE. My point is: Marriage was invented by Men for Men so they could be sure they're passing down their legacy to their OWN and not somebody else's child/children. So when did marriage become more profitable to women than to men, especially nowadays when many women, especially black women in America, are financially independent and 'heads' of households.
A relationship is a small government. My husband died after 49 years of marriage. This man was not afraid to love and be loved. His children adored him because of love, the love he gave. In our government everyone had a place to help our government to succeed. He knew his place and I knew mine. The man was so good to me he made it easy for me to follow his lead, because he lead with love. I respected his headship because he respected mine. We were financially stable. As we started getting older we found out there were lots of ways to show love, if you get my drift. Love outside the bedroom was very important. My point is everyone knew their job and stuck to it. Men don’t wait till you can’t do nothing for yourself now you ready to be married because you don’t want to die alone. Sorry for being wordy, but marriage can be the best thing you ever do for yourself. And young man amen to your parents for setting a good example. 🥰🥰🥰♥️🥴
Inspiring story but sadly it rarely fits in with reality. Marriage is like a gamble. You have to be lucky your partner won’t cheat on you or destroy your life in every way possible. Some of us are just realistic enough to admit we weren’t those lucky ones.
Been married for 14 years with two beautiful children... I can honestly say I would be DEAD right now without her... What this gentleman is saying is 100% facts.
You do know today's marriage and biblical marriage is different right? One is governed by man's law of the land and one supposedly sanctioned by God if you believe in religion.
Yeh some men still want benifits of marriage like sex and children and even living with a woman who pays half rent and the support of a woman but without the commitments of marriage. Its really sad. I will not be doing all this without commitment.
@@henryhall2403 I mean it doesn't but, I know it really not good for MEN to be alone. They go crazy. Women we can be alone all day but, men on the other hand that's another story!
Today everyone wants to know “what’s in it for me!?” It’s about being selfless. These men don’t see the value in building with someone. In most marriages your wife will likely bare your children, support your goals and help take care of you emotionally and physically. You eventually want children, you want a woman around you, you just don’t want the responsibility of giving any part of you. You learn so much by giving and being selfless. Women already know this, it’s why I’m so many marriages women are the ones exhausted anyway. The reason women are told to let a man pay for the date, and cater to you in the beginning is because if not we are used and abused because we already WANT to give so much. Men will tell their daughters this (let him chase you), but treat their baby mother like trash. Men get mad at women for wanting the “bad boys” but also continue to go after the women who don’t want them either! Then blame all women.
That's all well and good but women themselves don't believe in marriage anyway. They're the ones filing most of the divorce papers so who REALLY believes in marriage here?
@@dre8463 I’d like to know why these women are unhappy in their marriages. I’m not exactly sure but I believe women feel they’re carrying most of the weight, likely after having kids. I believe marriages who (strictly!) follow traditional roles will suffer the most.
@@TaKyraMoonlight I'd like to know the reasons for it too but I'm willing to bet it's mostly to due with financial or infidelity. It is what it is, men in the past had to deal with those burdens of bringing the breadwinner and women stayed home and raised the kids, the nuclear family was the natural order. A man's manhood was defined by his job/being the provider and the woman was her family. However, in the past 50-60 years, the economy changed and the jobs that men used to do got imported to China and elsewhere, a lot of their skills got wiped out completely and the less manual jobs that was made possible by technological advancements, women took those jobs. Women are out earning the men now, which is good. But women don't need men now, so now you have a situation where this has happened, and the respective definitions of manhood/womanhood has changed.
Exactly!! The greatest thing the establishment fears is a strong blk relationship and community. So they play on men's insecurities and fears of not being able have a healthy relationship so they're encouraged to find a loophole by denigrating their women; the ones who could actually help them have a full life. This will eventually cause the destruction of the community.
@TAURA - Yes, unfortunately, too many think the problem is White people. No! The problem is satan. It is he that wants us destroyed. He has used White people and now he is using Black males. It is all designed to ensure we don't replicate. It is spiritual.
I heard a Black man say that once ...he said that marriage is the best kept secret ...and I asked him ...are you sharing that with your other male friends ????
There is absolutely nothing wrong with marriage. Life is actually about marriage and families but in modern times, too many people are spreading messages to deter us from what God has ordained us to be and do. Amen brother! Hats off to you for finding a good thing-A WIFE.
I pray for a long strong marriage for you and your wife. Protect it against the attacks of the enemy. The enemy hates what you're doing because it is right and good and divine.
This video almost brought me to tears especially when you shared how your grandfather took care of your grandmother. That's what I desire even though my first marriage failed. There's hope! I love seeing younger men with this mindset! Congratulations on your marriage 💑 🎉🎉🎉
I found myself on the "HV" side of youtube and it's so disheartening to hear some of the ideals and "values" that are being taught. We do need other. We were meant to be partners growing with each other while creating the next generation to succeed us. A symbiotic relationship. That was intentional & we have strayed so far from it. I don't entertain that side of youtube. I don't listen or watch or support those who perpetuate negative views of the opposite sex because why? I strive to be the best person I can be for my partner and I don't internalize disgruntled people's distorted perceptions of how they want to see marriage/relationships. I do what makes me happy and what will contribute to my growth and faith as we all should.
Wise decision I Know. I have also noticed several female UA-camrs cultivating friction or hate between black males and females. Once that negativity gets into your psyche, it pops up in your heart. It generates a sort of hatred. I believe these platforms are being paid to do this. A white survivalist guy on UA-cam said he was approached by someone to post a particular type of material on his website for $4,000. He said he declined. He said you have to be careful of the motives. I believe that some of our "stop caping for black men" UA-camrs are kind of destroying relations between those of our community. Yes, BW should protect themselves, but the continual using of this theme is dangerous and inflammatory. Shumake addresses our communities shortcomings in a positive way. As to how BM and BW can do better. He doesn't just hammer away at one side.
Congrats bro. Educated Strong Blackkkkkk... Woman. Nothing matches our ENERGY bruh. Congrats on your engagement. I'm right behind you too with getting married. Maybe by September. 2021
They don't see the benefits of marriage because of the type of women they deal with or their friends deal with or social media. We as black people need to be more loving & respectful to each other, we are our own worst enemy. You manifest what you attract!
Not me tearing up while watching... this is beautiful... things look bleak currently, but there are ppl out here that still want this... this was encouraging... made me feel not so alone 💓😊
If there were more Black men like you; we could start fixing the problems our community. Thanks for speaking the truth and saying what needs to be said.
I was married, I adores my husband did everything I could in the marriage and totally trusted him. He cheated on me and treated me horrible. And I still believed there are good marriage and good men in the world. ( FYI everything my ex husband said he wouldn't do, he did) not to be negative but sometimes you really don't know people, even though you thinks you know them also Congrats!
I'm a Christian man, and believe in marriage. However, I think we all have to understand there is a problem with the current marriage laws. If they get reformed then it would be a more attractive option for men. Jesus said divorce is only an option if it is due to infidelity, I think that makes a whole of since. No fault divorce is destroying our families, and women are divorcing men 80% of the time. We can't ignore the stats folks.
Marriage isn't for everybody (scripture says that also)...Not every man has what it takes to become a husband, and not every woman has what it takes to become a wife. With that said, the family unit is supposed to be the strongest unit to bring forth the next generation. Yes, money..property..etc are involved. That's why you don't just marry everyone like you would screw everyone. The allure of marriage is leaving because we are in a "hook up" culture where people want satisfaction right now, and are extremely self serving. Also, there are a lot of man haters and woman haters out there. I think it's absolutely sick for someone to talk down on the love they see in someone else's relationship. If you enter a relationship with one foot already headed towards the exit, then you are bringing negativity with you. Marriage is work. You have to put in the effort and make choices. Daily. If you don't want it fine...but stop talking down on it. People won't stop having babies, and marriage has to be better than the fatherless households we have now.
A good healthy marriage got alot of benefits for not just the people involved but people around them. Dying alone aint sweet, cause nobody else gives damn about once you past working unless you built a healthy loving family
Funny how men listened to Kevin and approve of him telling women they will die alone. But Kevin is the one that died alone and so will many other man that follow him.
Congratulations 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽... God blessed y'all union!!! 🙏🏽Amen!!! I'm glad I came across your page... all FACTS. It's basically damaged individuals that aren't mature enough to let go pain and fear. They constantly recreate more confusion and with that comes chaos. You have to be very strong mentally and spiritually to change your actions to build a new narrative. I hate when someone says, " That's just the way, I am." No it's how you choose to be. We all can change. When you know better, you should do better!!! #OnGod
Those aren’t high value men. Those are high value imposters. These men aren’t high value until they can demonstrate that they can Provide Protect Be GALLANT and Generous. FULL STOP.
Tradition means that for many people the dynamic worked. Some are too lazy, immature, etc. to obtain, and than retain, a partner. Your marriage partner is one person, outside your blood family, who 100% has your back if your marriage is on track. People who bag on that and don't have their own partner, just might be jelly! Actually happiness quotas state that married men are some of the happiest populace around. For women, this is less so b/c women tend to be bogged down with household chores and parenting responsibilities that never stop! And, western culture has smaller families with less social support.
I never understood the “she’ll take half” argument. If you take your time to find the right partner and BE the right partner then you shouldn’t even have to worry about divorce.
@@henryhall2403 It is that easy, though. All you have to do is let God order your steps and you'll have the right person in your life. Unfortunately, there's too many people nowadays who don't want anything to do with God. And, that's exactly why the world is a mess.
Agree so much with what you are saying. I felt it was crazy how they come for the man for being grateful for his wife. My wife really motivate and support me and I am grateful for her.
That's a great topic! If marriage not for you, that's your right/decision, why fight to take away others right if they support the institution of marriage. You see it all the time. Men wasting their life away whiles they're young and strong but they end up as grumpy old lonely men.
Congratulations on finding someone who complements you, not completes you! Wishing the two of you much continued love and joy! Always be that three strand couple, you, her, and God. This will be the glue that will hold you together even if times get tough!
I feel that if YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and are comfortable with as he says being YOU then not being married should be that person’s choice. Don’t try to change someone or guilt them into that I have friends now that try to pull that on me.......this is my life if I as a man decide to not have kids or get married that should be MY OWN CHOICE
Another great video full of excellent advice for men who are smart enough to take it. You are doing a great service to the world by making these videos.
Congratulations 🤎is this the young lady u spoke about in your past video one of yall finally woke up 🙃 Congratulations if not Congratulations anyway she has a good one 🥰🤎👌💣
Congratulations!!!! I worked in the health field and I had seen many elderly men die alone! It is truly sad how they suffer from having no family by their side, I was even told that the 'bachelor" life was a bunch of baloney! You did the right thing in God's eyes and the MAN that finds a good WIFE receives favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22), "PLAYERS" are under a curse! That's why all they bring is destruction! They have NO peace and don't go unpunished! SO happy that you are not letting these cursed men/women make you feel bad by being BLESSED!! May God continue to BLESS and KEEP you for HIS glory in Jesus name.
This Guy: “ it ain’t nothin’ to drop $500/$600 at the fanciest restaurant” The most I ever dropped was $150 at a restaurant period.😭 Now I’m motivated to be a wife FOR SURE. This is what I know we can push for if a husband ever finds me
Yes I was impressed my that too. I'm wondering why did he ever have a thug phase if he came from such a strong family? I guess he just young trying to fit in the wrong crowd. It is possible to have that but you have to believe in and stop entertaining men who really aren't for you.
Before we got married, my husband and I both agreed that divorce was off the table. Unfortunately, he took that to mean that he could do anything he wanted and I would put up with it. He was a good boyfriend/fiance for almost 6 years before the wedding but did a complete 180 once he thought I was "locked down". Cheated with 15 different women. Went months without saying a word to me on multiple occasions after disagreements. The list goes on. I am a patient, God-fearing woman but I am nobody's doormat. Not even my husband.
This is exactly why I’m single and staying single until I meet the right guy who’s ready for marriage. I do not believe in sleeping around no matter what everyone else is doing. I understand my value and how rare I am. I can’t wait to meet a man Who wants to take his time and really get to know each other. Congratulations on your marriage wishing you the very very best. New subbie.
Congratulations! And very sound thoughts on this topic. Love to see intentional love and Black love is revolutionary in this world. Blessings to you both. 💕
Having Strong family is the only way. How can you have a relationship with someone ( sex and marriage) and don't investigate, inquire , do background check , family history check and mental health check.. Who invest in anything without investigating.
This was so beautiful!💖 You did a great job showing the honor and blessing of marriage. I'm so excited for you and your new bride to be. May God richly bless your union as he did your grandparents!
People who put out content against marriage cause a lot of damage. Yes, but 80% of divorces are filed by women. And with no fault divorce, it’s easier than ever to dissolve a marriage. People change over time. She loves you today and is divorcing you in 7 or 8 years. People who are against marriage aren’t just denouncing it out of pettiness. I can get the same benefits from a life partnership. If we part ways, then we part ways. But you have to consider the business of marriage too.
Shumake, Thank you so much for being You. It is so good to hear these sentiments from a real man of substance. You are calm in your approach, you are Not toxic. You respect women. Thank you for being You.
I remember what it was like having a present loving father in my childhood, and it's the best feeling ever. I was the happiest when my family was happy and together. And I wanna be able to create that I my life, in the future. Cause what's the point of living, if you don't have a family to go back home to? If you don't have a support system? If you don't have lovo in your life? I thought family was not important a few years ago, but that's just not true. I wanted to think that way to not realize what I was lacking. I hope all of us could be healthy and intelligent enough to create long lasting marriages and strong lovely families😌
I really bless you and your future happiness with your wife. You have much wisdom. You are a high value man because of your heart and thoughts, and the way you think, if you didn't have a penny, you would STILL be a high value man.
I'm not ready for marriage because I need to get myself together before I take that step. And I'm afraid that I'll lose someone and be broken for the rest of my life. Like losing a wife to accident, or on a hospital, or losing my kids.
Don’t allow your fear to hold you back from experiencing life... people come & go all the time we are no meant to be here forever... remember it’s better to have love & loss than to have never loved at all...
Those are legitimate concerns, and I often think about them too. But don't let "what if" factor hinder your future. Once you are ready then just take that leap
@@KayCee880 Not taking any chances. And this country we're living in is no place for black families. If I decide to settle down, I'll move to the motherland and start from there.
I would say, many (not most or all) BM do not value marriage to a BLACK woman. Merely b/c most BM marry BW doesn't translate to valuing BW. Many see value in marrying OTHER races of women, just not us. These types will make us BW baby mommas quick but hardly wives. And many BW (yes, I mean BW, not men) will tell you marriage is nothing but a title, a piece of paper. So dysfunction is normalized & tradition is devalued & mocked. And the cycle goes on and on.
Congratulations you two All Will Be Well with You You Are A Phenomenal Man and Eye Am Sure She is A Phenomenal Woman Keep Up The Great Work it's Helping Peace Love and Enlightenment Plus Many Blessings to You and your family Ase Reflection
That’s so true about men choosing women that don’t bring much to the table and then being surprised when she ends up with half 🤣 If they had gone with the woman that had her own, or the ability to create her own, she might’ve been more likely to pull a Jay Z and step with whatever she came with when things went awry 🤷🏾♀️😂 Real trip part remains the ‘🗣she’s gonna take half😳’ men never have anything worth splitting anyway *not that the bringing things to the table part isn’t subjective anyway. Doesn’t have to be financial, obvi he chose her for SOME reason, and she probably deserves the half regardless of incomes, but anyway...😅
I look at guys like Diddy Nelly Future Fabulous and others never wife their women . The women give these men the best years of their lives and never marry them.
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We love you black man! Thank you calling them out!
Congratulations on the wedding!
Thank you
That's why there are so many sad lovesongs out there.
Black Love is a Revolutionary Act (Dr. Frances cress Welsing). Everything possible and imaginable has been devised to divide and conquer and destroy the black race. "They" haven't been completely successful since we're still here, but for how much longer, though? MARRIAGE IS A MALE INVENTION. Before that invention, multiple partnership went both ways. However the problem with that was that: mama's baby was papa's, MAYBE. My point is: Marriage was invented by Men for Men so they could be sure they're passing down their legacy to their OWN and not somebody else's child/children. So when did marriage become more profitable to women than to men, especially nowadays when many women, especially black women in America, are financially independent and 'heads' of households.
A relationship is a small government. My husband died after 49 years of marriage. This man was not afraid to love and be loved. His children adored him because of love, the love he gave. In our government everyone had a place to help our government to succeed. He knew his place and I knew mine. The man was so good to me he made it easy for me to follow his lead, because he lead with love. I respected his headship because he respected mine. We were financially stable. As we started getting older we found out there were lots of ways to show love, if you get my drift. Love outside the bedroom was very important. My point is everyone knew their job and stuck to it. Men don’t wait till you can’t do nothing for yourself now you ready to be married because you don’t want to die alone. Sorry for being wordy, but marriage can be the best thing you ever do for yourself. And young man amen to your parents for setting a good example. 🥰🥰🥰♥️🥴
What a Beautiful story Than You😃💝 So Sorry for your Loss😞 & Wish U The Best!
What a beautiful love story. My condolences for your loss, however, congratulations because you’ve experienced true love from a real man.❤️
Wonderful GLAD TO HEAR IT SORRY THAT HE PASSED AWAY BUT WHAT A BLESSING 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
💕💕💕💕
Thank you for sharing this wonderful example!
Inspiring story but sadly it rarely fits in with reality. Marriage is like a gamble. You have to be lucky your partner won’t cheat on you or destroy your life in every way possible. Some of us are just realistic enough to admit we weren’t those lucky ones.
Been married for 14 years with two beautiful children... I can honestly say I would be DEAD right now without her... What this gentleman is saying is 100% facts.
The Bible says, “ A man that finds himself a wife find himself a good thing.” God also said,”it’s not good for a man to be alone.”
You said what I was thinking!
You do know today's marriage and biblical marriage is different right? One is governed by man's law of the land and one supposedly sanctioned by God if you believe in religion.
Ah the Bible.. it says a lot of things
Yeh some men still want benifits of marriage like sex and children and even living with a woman who pays half rent and the support of a woman but without the commitments of marriage. Its really sad. I will not be doing all this without commitment.
@@henryhall2403 I mean it doesn't but, I know it really not good for MEN to be alone. They go crazy. Women we can be alone all day but, men on the other hand that's another story!
Today everyone wants to know “what’s in it for me!?” It’s about being selfless. These men don’t see the value in building with someone. In most marriages your wife will likely bare your children, support your goals and help take care of you emotionally and physically. You eventually want children, you want a woman around you, you just don’t want the responsibility of giving any part of you. You learn so much by giving and being selfless. Women already know this, it’s why I’m so many marriages women are the ones exhausted anyway. The reason women are told to let a man pay for the date, and cater to you in the beginning is because if not we are used and abused because we already WANT to give so much. Men will tell their daughters this (let him chase you), but treat their baby mother like trash. Men get mad at women for wanting the “bad boys” but also continue to go after the women who don’t want them either! Then blame all women.
Exactly well said 👍
That's all well and good but women themselves don't believe in marriage anyway. They're the ones filing most of the divorce papers so who REALLY believes in marriage here?
@@dre8463 I’d like to know why these women are unhappy in their marriages. I’m not exactly sure but I believe women feel they’re carrying most of the weight, likely after having kids. I believe marriages who (strictly!) follow traditional roles will suffer the most.
@@TaKyraMoonlight I'd like to know the reasons for it too but I'm willing to bet it's mostly to due with financial or infidelity. It is what it is, men in the past had to deal with those burdens of bringing the breadwinner and women stayed home and raised the kids, the nuclear family was the natural order. A man's manhood was defined by his job/being the provider and the woman was her family. However, in the past 50-60 years, the economy changed and the jobs that men used to do got imported to China and elsewhere, a lot of their skills got wiped out completely and the less manual jobs that was made possible by technological advancements, women took those jobs. Women are out earning the men now, which is good. But women don't need men now, so now you have a situation where this has happened, and the respective definitions of manhood/womanhood has changed.
Perfectly said
It is sad that we as a community cannot be happy for each other. If only people can see that this is by design.
Exactly!! The greatest thing the establishment fears is a strong blk relationship and community. So they play on men's insecurities and fears of not being able have a healthy relationship so they're encouraged to find a loophole by denigrating their women; the ones who could actually help them have a full life. This will eventually cause the destruction of the community.
@@wildwaning9427 you heard about dr dre right?
@@ultimatecharisma2822 Yep!!
@TAURA - Yes, unfortunately, too many think the problem is White people. No! The problem is satan. It is he that wants us destroyed. He has used White people and now he is using Black males. It is all designed to ensure we don't replicate. It is spiritual.
@@ultimatecharisma2822 what happened?
You talk with more sense than the older wannabe high value disfunctional dude’s out there 💎💎💎
He's a sweetheart.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 @ "Wannabe High Value Dysfunctional Dudes"
@@filmadcamp1512 Right
Thank you Grandson, been waiting for your Words all my Life. You have soften my Heart.
God bless your marriage.
Thank you
He who finds a wife finds a good thing... Congratulations to you and your wife, may your marriage bring many blessings🙏🏾💐🥂
Thank you
The wife thing is an outdated concept, only fools play with fire!!
Married men live longer than single men. They also have a better quality of life, provided you make the right choice.
I heard a Black man say that once ...he said that marriage is the best kept secret ...and I asked him ...are you sharing that with your other male friends ????
Start with yourself and marry the woman you love and mentor other men
I’m already on it! Just got married on Friday.
@@TheShumakeWay AWW Congrats bro!
@@TheShumakeWay Wow! Congratulations!
@@TheShumakeWay Congratulations! That's what I call practicing what you preach!
@@TheShumakeWay congrats to you and your wife!!!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with marriage. Life is actually about marriage and families but in modern times, too many people are spreading messages to deter us from what God has ordained us to be and do. Amen brother! Hats off to you for finding a good thing-A WIFE.
Ditto!
I pray for a long strong marriage for you and your wife. Protect it against the attacks of the enemy. The enemy hates what you're doing because it is right and good and divine.
Congratulations to you and your wife, I am sure your marriage will be an ongoing success. You really hit the nail on the end with this video.
Thank you 🙏🏽
This video almost brought me to tears especially when you shared how your grandfather took care of your grandmother. That's what I desire even though my first marriage failed. There's hope! I love seeing younger men with this mindset! Congratulations on your marriage 💑 🎉🎉🎉
I found myself on the "HV" side of youtube and it's so disheartening to hear some of the ideals and "values" that are being taught. We do need other. We were meant to be partners growing with each other while creating the next generation to succeed us. A symbiotic relationship. That was intentional & we have strayed so far from it. I don't entertain that side of youtube. I don't listen or watch or support those who perpetuate negative views of the opposite sex because why? I strive to be the best person I can be for my partner and I don't internalize disgruntled people's distorted perceptions of how they want to see marriage/relationships. I do what makes me happy and what will contribute to my growth and faith as we all should.
Wise decision I Know. I have also noticed several female UA-camrs cultivating friction or hate between black males and females. Once that negativity gets into your psyche, it pops up in your heart. It generates a sort of hatred. I believe these platforms are being paid to do this. A white survivalist guy on UA-cam said he was approached by someone to post a particular type of material on his website for $4,000. He said he declined. He said you have to be careful of the motives. I believe that some of our "stop caping for black men" UA-camrs are kind of destroying relations between those of our community. Yes, BW should protect themselves, but the continual using of this theme is dangerous and inflammatory. Shumake addresses our communities shortcomings in a positive way. As to how BM and BW can do better. He doesn't just hammer away at one side.
Blessings to you and your wife. I hope your marriage stays blessed remember marriage is a mystery. Remember to put god first. 🙏🕊️
Congratulations on getting married!!!!🥂
The problem is just finding a woman of that caliber which is rare, same thing finding a man of the same altitude
I'm still going to continue living life as a single black man.
I'm sure you are.
Good for you ...please don't ever get sick or have an accident ...your male friends are not going to take care of you ..unless you are gay or DL...
@@clarkclarke5321 you need to grow up!! Imagine getting mad over someone else’s opinion 🤡
Congrats bro. Educated Strong Blackkkkkk... Woman. Nothing matches our ENERGY bruh. Congrats on your engagement. I'm right behind you too with getting married. Maybe by September. 2021
I’m sick of that word “simp”! 🤢 he who finds a wife finds a good thing ✨
the men who use that word are " simpletons" . I would not take them seriously.
You also have to PREPARE yourself and be a wife before you get married. And a lot of women aren't wife material
@@JuanTomlinson472 examples please
@@nekea93 what examples? Their right in front of you
'You work at the Movies'lmao😂👏🏾
Good one..soo true
They don't see the benefits of marriage because of the type of women they deal with or their friends deal with or social media. We as black people need to be more loving & respectful to each other, we are our own worst enemy. You manifest what you attract!
So sad but true, we as a people gotta stop self destruction...
Love how you spoke what you wanted and spoke it into existence and God made it come to pass🥰
Not me tearing up while watching... this is beautiful... things look bleak currently, but there are ppl out here that still want this... this was encouraging... made me feel not so alone 💓😊
If there were more Black men like you; we could start fixing the problems our community. Thanks for speaking the truth and saying what needs to be said.
I was married, I adores my husband did everything I could in the marriage and totally trusted him. He cheated on me and treated me horrible. And I still believed there are good marriage and good men in the world. ( FYI everything my ex husband said he wouldn't do, he did) not to be negative but sometimes you really don't know people, even though you thinks you know them also Congrats!
Congratulations, Mr. and Mrs. Shumake.
Thank you
Paul said it’s better to be alone unless you can’t control your lustful desires
The Bible says a man that finds himself a wife finds himself a good thing come on now!!! Period
I must comment. Brother Shumake, your wisdom is from God. And, to God be the Glory‼️ You are blessed above measure. 🙏🏾
Congratulations to you and your wife! I can feel the love between y'all through the screen. I wish you all the best ♥️
I'm a Christian man, and believe in marriage. However, I think we all have to understand there is a problem with the current marriage laws. If they get reformed then it would be a more attractive option for men. Jesus said divorce is only an option if it is due to infidelity, I think that makes a whole of since. No fault divorce is destroying our families, and women are divorcing men 80% of the time. We can't ignore the stats folks.
This nigga just taking Derrick jaxns spot 😂
Congratulations, marriage is a beautiful thing when it's done right and both partners are willing to do the work. Again congratulations.
Congratulations on getting married. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you
Congratulations on your Marriage!🙏🏽
Thank you
Marriage isn't for everybody (scripture says that also)...Not every man has what it takes to become a husband, and not every woman has what it takes to become a wife. With that said, the family unit is supposed to be the strongest unit to bring forth the next generation. Yes, money..property..etc are involved. That's why you don't just marry everyone like you would screw everyone. The allure of marriage is leaving because we are in a "hook up" culture where people want satisfaction right now, and are extremely self serving. Also, there are a lot of man haters and woman haters out there. I think it's absolutely sick for someone to talk down on the love they see in someone else's relationship. If you enter a relationship with one foot already headed towards the exit, then you are bringing negativity with you. Marriage is work. You have to put in the effort and make choices. Daily. If you don't want it fine...but stop talking down on it. People won't stop having babies, and marriage has to be better than the fatherless households we have now.
AMEN 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
💯...Marriage is a covenant between God/man/woman. It's not for the spiritually immature.
Agree with this. Bible also says No sex before marriage so continuing this thought men that choose to remain single also choose to remain virgins 🤷♀️
Congratulations to you and your wife. May God bless your marriage. Keep doing what your doing. We appreciate you.
A good healthy marriage got alot of benefits for not just the people involved but people around them. Dying alone aint sweet, cause nobody else gives damn about once you past working unless you built a healthy loving family
Funny how men listened to Kevin and approve of him telling women they will die alone. But Kevin is the one that died alone and so will many other man that follow him.
I love the story of your grand parents so beautiful 😊
Congratulations on your marriage, may God bless your union 🙏❤😊
Congratulations 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽... God blessed y'all union!!! 🙏🏽Amen!!! I'm glad I came across your page... all FACTS.
It's basically damaged individuals that aren't mature enough to let go pain and fear. They constantly recreate more confusion and with that comes chaos. You have to be very strong mentally and spiritually to change your actions to build a new narrative. I hate when someone says, " That's just the way, I am." No it's how you choose to be. We all can change. When you know better, you should do better!!! #OnGod
I think any man that gets mad at another man for giving credit to his wife is jelouse of him. Misery loves company
Those aren’t high value men.
Those are high value imposters.
These men aren’t high value until they can demonstrate that they can Provide
Protect
Be GALLANT and
Generous.
FULL STOP.
Tradition means that for many people the dynamic worked. Some are too lazy, immature, etc. to obtain, and than retain, a partner. Your marriage partner is one person, outside your blood family, who 100% has your back if your marriage is on track. People who bag on that and don't have their own partner, just might be jelly! Actually happiness quotas state that married men are some of the happiest populace around. For women, this is less so b/c women tend to be bogged down with household chores and parenting responsibilities that never stop! And, western culture has smaller families with less social support.
I never understood the “she’ll take half” argument. If you take your time to find the right partner and BE the right partner then you shouldn’t even have to worry about divorce.
exactly....before the relationship even starts they have one foot out the door. smh
Don't marry someone you don't trust
They never talk about how to make marriage work so divorce is a non-factor.
If only it were that easy-the divorce rate wouldn’t be what it is.
@@henryhall2403 It is that easy, though. All you have to do is let God order your steps and you'll have the right person in your life. Unfortunately, there's too many people nowadays who don't want anything to do with God. And, that's exactly why the world is a mess.
Agree so much with what you are saying. I felt it was crazy how they come for the man for being grateful for his wife. My wife really motivate and support me and I am grateful for her.
Congratulations Newlyweds!! You complement each other from your testimony and many happy years to come.
I believe that before asking what someone brings to the table, you should first ask yourself what do you bring to the table
Preach bro!!! Amen!!!
That's a great topic! If marriage not for you, that's your right/decision, why fight to take away others right if they support the institution of marriage.
You see it all the time. Men wasting their life away whiles they're young and strong but they end up as grumpy old lonely men.
A MAN talking sense. THANK YOU BROTHER!! Y'all, share, share, share, share!!!!!!! 💋🖤
Yes, you are refreshing.
Congratulations on finding someone who complements you, not completes you! Wishing the two of you much continued love and joy! Always be that three strand couple, you, her, and God. This will be the glue that will hold you together even if times get tough!
Sadly women preach against marriage too. It’s sad. 🤦🏾♀️
Social media exposes us to more trash content
A Brother that's got his head and EMOTIONS together. There is hope.
Sending you both ALL the high frequency good vibes in the universe. Go forth 👊🏾👊🏾.
Congratulations on getting married. Excellent decision
Thank you
@Alpha Omega
🤣🤣🤣. I beg to differ. His blessings will abound
Congratulations 🎉 wish you both a happy & plentiful marriage. God bless you for speaking on this topic.
Yoooooo, congratulations bro!!! I'm so proud of you. I love y'all.
I feel that if YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and are comfortable with as he says being YOU then not being married should be that person’s choice. Don’t try to change someone or guilt them into that I have friends now that try to pull that on me.......this is my life if I as a man decide to not have kids or get married that should be MY OWN CHOICE
Another great video full of excellent advice for men who are smart enough to take it. You are doing a great service to the world by making these videos.
Congratulations 🤎is this the young lady u spoke about in your past video one of yall finally woke up 🙃 Congratulations if not Congratulations anyway she has a good one 🥰🤎👌💣
Congratulations!!!! I worked in the health field and I had seen many elderly men die alone! It is truly sad how they suffer from having no family by their side, I was even told that the 'bachelor" life was a bunch of baloney! You did the right thing in God's eyes and the MAN that finds a good WIFE receives favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22), "PLAYERS" are under a curse! That's why all they bring is destruction! They have NO peace and don't go unpunished! SO happy that you are not letting these cursed men/women make you feel bad by being BLESSED!! May God continue to BLESS and KEEP you for HIS glory in Jesus name.
Lots of so called high value men dont value what your grandmother brought to the table. They dont see equal value in being a caretaker of the home.
Unfortunately, that’s true in many cases.
Congratulations 🍾🎊🎉🎈 wish you all the best in your marriage
Thank you
@@TheShumakeWay you’re welcome
Marriage is a sacred union that is powerful to create safety for us all.
What a beautiful talk. God bless you, your family and your pending marriage.
This Guy: “ it ain’t nothin’ to drop $500/$600 at the fanciest restaurant”
The most I ever dropped was $150 at a restaurant period.😭 Now I’m motivated to be a wife FOR SURE. This is what I know we can push for if a husband ever finds me
Kevin Samuels would like a word with you, The Godfather is always protected!!!
@@mediamilitia7572, what does that even mean? Why on earth would she want to speak with him??
Yes I was impressed my that too. I'm wondering why did he ever have a thug phase if he came from such a strong family? I guess he just young trying to fit in the wrong crowd. It is possible to have that but you have to believe in and stop entertaining men who really aren't for you.
Or.. go out and find a husband as well
The Lord bless your union,may you marriage be a blessing to many as you are a blessing on this platform 💖
Divorce rate is high, everything is backwards, Kids deserve a stable home
Marriage can be beneficial for family. Divorce can be detrimental. When you vet, you should always ask(indirectly) do they believe in divorce.
Another question to ask is, if cheating is unforgivable. I don't want to divorce, but if you cheat then I'm divorcing.
Before we got married, my husband and I both agreed that divorce was off the table. Unfortunately, he took that to mean that he could do anything he wanted and I would put up with it. He was a good boyfriend/fiance for almost 6 years before the wedding but did a complete 180 once he thought I was "locked down". Cheated with 15 different women. Went months without saying a word to me on multiple occasions after disagreements. The list goes on. I am a patient, God-fearing woman but I am nobody's doormat. Not even my husband.
This is exactly why I’m single and staying single until I meet the right guy who’s ready for marriage. I do not believe in sleeping around no matter what everyone else is doing. I understand my value and how rare I am. I can’t wait to meet a man Who wants to take his time and really get to know each other. Congratulations on your marriage wishing you the very very best. New subbie.
Congratulations! And very sound thoughts on this topic. Love to see intentional love and Black love is revolutionary in this world. Blessings to you both. 💕
You have some wonderful marriage examples to guide you!!! I wish the both of you a lifetime of fulfillment. Our community needs more marriages....
the reason god called her a helpmeet (genesis 2:18) is because she’s supposed to help man meet his expectation (jeremiah 29:11) from god.
You preaching right here brother✊🏼
Having Strong family is the only way. How can you have a relationship with someone ( sex and marriage) and don't investigate, inquire , do background check , family history check and mental health check.. Who invest in anything without investigating.
Congrats on your marriage. I'm glad you stepped up and decided to marry her. Blessings
Congratulations on your up and coming marriage. God bless the both of you
I'm going to share this video, with my family.thanks for positivity.
Congratulations 🎊 Blessings 🙏🏾
Thank you
This was so beautiful!💖 You did a great job showing the honor and blessing of marriage. I'm so excited for you and your new bride to be. May God richly bless your union as he did your grandparents!
Man none of these men can say shit bro they just gonna have to respect every word you say because YOU MAKE SENSE!!!
The Game done started something! I like how you think ❤💛💚
People who put out content against marriage cause a lot of damage.
Yes, but 80% of divorces are filed by women. And with no fault divorce, it’s easier than ever to dissolve a marriage.
People change over time. She loves you today and is divorcing you in 7 or 8 years. People who are against marriage aren’t just denouncing it out of pettiness. I can get the same benefits from a life partnership. If we part ways, then we part ways. But you have to consider the business of marriage too.
I don't think its that simple.
People are free to make their own decisions marriage/having kids is not for everyone.......we don’t have to do things because society deems it so
Shumake, Thank you so much for being You. It is so good to hear these sentiments from a real man of substance. You are calm in your approach, you are Not toxic. You respect women. Thank you for being You.
Reason marriage is not respected is first and foremost the fault of married people who openly lie about marriage often.
I remember what it was like having a present loving father in my childhood, and it's the best feeling ever. I was the happiest when my family was happy and together. And I wanna be able to create that I my life, in the future. Cause what's the point of living, if you don't have a family to go back home to? If you don't have a support system? If you don't have lovo in your life?
I thought family was not important a few years ago, but that's just not true. I wanted to think that way to not realize what I was lacking.
I hope all of us could be healthy and intelligent enough to create long lasting marriages and strong lovely families😌
I really bless you and your future happiness with your wife. You have much wisdom. You are a high value man because of your heart and thoughts, and the way you think, if you didn't have a penny, you would STILL be a high value man.
This is so true that I.am.crying. 😭 Thanks, bruh.
I'm not ready for marriage because I need to get myself together before I take that step. And I'm afraid that I'll lose someone and be broken for the rest of my life. Like losing a wife to accident, or on a hospital, or losing my kids.
Don’t allow your fear to hold you back from experiencing life... people come & go all the time we are no meant to be here forever... remember it’s better to have love & loss than to have never loved at all...
Those are legitimate concerns, and I often think about them too. But don't let "what if" factor hinder your future. Once you are ready then just take that leap
Unless you have no family or friends, those are losses you will experience eventually. Don't let those fears dictate your life.
@@KayCee880 Not taking any chances. And this country we're living in is no place for black families. If I decide to settle down, I'll move to the motherland and start from there.
@@viceanterra3 I'll think about it.
I would say, many (not most or all) BM do not value marriage to a BLACK woman. Merely b/c most BM marry BW doesn't translate to valuing BW. Many see value in marrying OTHER races of women, just not us. These types will make us BW baby mommas quick but hardly wives. And many BW (yes, I mean BW, not men) will tell you marriage is nothing but a title, a piece of paper. So dysfunction is normalized & tradition is devalued & mocked. And the cycle goes on and on.
Bm that marry, marry within the race
Congratulations you two All Will Be Well with You You Are A Phenomenal Man and Eye Am Sure She is A Phenomenal Woman Keep Up The Great Work it's Helping Peace Love and Enlightenment Plus Many Blessings to You and your family Ase Reflection
That’s so true about men choosing women that don’t bring much to the table and then being surprised when she ends up with half 🤣
If they had gone with the woman that had her own, or the ability to create her own, she might’ve been more likely to pull a Jay Z and step with whatever she came with when things went awry 🤷🏾♀️😂
Real trip part remains the ‘🗣she’s gonna take half😳’ men never have anything worth splitting anyway
*not that the bringing things to the table part isn’t subjective anyway. Doesn’t have to be financial, obvi he chose her for SOME reason, and she probably deserves the half regardless of incomes, but anyway...😅
I look at guys like Diddy Nelly Future Fabulous and others never wife their women . The women give these men the best years of their lives and never marry them.