You mention Marcus the stallion he is in industry plant put there to promote that even masculine women can sleep around as well the purpose of the Division set for by the music industry is to stop bp from procreation.
You better talk about it.....if I might add a scripture to your comment. Micah 6:8 He hath shown thee ,O man, what is good; and what doeth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? When He becomes your God you can do the things He asks of you.
I met a brother with 10 kids and 8 baybay mommas. He said but I take care of all my kids. I replied if you're not sleeping under the same roof with them when a fire breaks out or someone tries to break in, YOU AIN'T TAKING CARE OF SHIT. Ghetto polygamy is the destruction of Black marriage and Black Love.
@Tina Couch, it is as bad here as it is there. Men are giving women babies, and do not pay customary damages or dowry to the family, but demand women submit and be their wives. It is ghetto everywhere.
I also think, RAP music also breeds self-hate. If it's played all the time, and that's the only music you listen to The subconscious mind, can't tell the difference between "er & a" with the N word. Besides calling women b**ches.
@@princesslamour1985 then i dont understand why bw dont do the same in spite of mis education. It makes more sense that bm are self hating because when they look at us they see themselves and turn to another race to produce children that has less of their blackness. I do agree that we need to educate ourselves on who we are and learn our "story" in order to make better choices going forward
@@supersaturn956 what does that have to do with the way AA men treat their women? Every society has issues and I will be the first to admit that Africans need to have their houses in order on a global stage but our men value us, our men respects us, we are first on the pecking order and will always been valued We hope for the same for our brothers and sisters in the diaspora. Nothing more nothing less 🤷♀️ Let’s stop with the unnecessary attacks, it’s the same hate energy. Enough already
I appreciate you brother. Just to know that there is still likeminded black men out here speaking up and taking a stand for our people. I thought I was the only one seeing through the bs.
I say the opposite is true, black women have coined the phrase "i don't need a man" meaning the black man since the early 90s. If you can't speak the whole truth and understand where this state of mind comes from then you're just grasping for straws. Black women prefer child support to an educated supportive father at home. It's strange how you guys come online and speak without actually listening to the opinions of actual black women. On many womens sites they are saying they prefer a street guy over an educated family man... one reason is because a street guy is easy to push out of their lives and use the court system to separate those men from their money. Where have you been for the last 30 years?
@@yomi1834 People tend to choose what's familiar to them instead of what's better. There is a lot of commitment and abandonment issues within the Black Community, which I feel is an effect of generational trauma.
@@pennyck9468 Yeah I’m waiting on Yo Mi’s source because I don’t know one woman who would prefer child support over having a good, stable father in the home.
I like your videos, you're wise and speak the truth. I normally stay far away from BM content on here but I'm glad I found you. I'm not sitting around to be talked down to and disrespected as a BW, especially not from BM who are supposed to be the protectors for our community.
You’re right. We are supposed to be your protectors and we failed a long time ago. Hopefully we can become better men and fix our short comings. I appreciate you ❤️
My father is 90 years old. He's always been a family man who did not cheat on my mother. They built a strong family. My mom passed away in 1987 and Daddy remarried a couple of years later. He wanted to be in a marriage. That wife died from an aneurism after 10 years of marriage and Daddy remarriage again. They just celebrated their 20th anniversary. He has things all the money in the world could never buy, family, love, and respect. He always talks about how blessed he.
I don’t twerk, I don’t do one night stand, I don’t use curse words, I’ve never smoke or drank alcohol. I want a 100% black family but so far my best dates are white guys and I’ll have to settle soon. Thank you for your videos! Please black men, raise your sons better. Black women, raise your daughters better; so this gender wars stops after our generation. Peace ✌🏽
@@princesslamour1985 They are only going to wake up and lead when they HAVE to and unfortunately BW who only want to date BM are the reason they don't. Y'all have said time and again you will accept him in any condition as long as that skin is black. He doesn't have to compete for you, many BW lower their standards and compromise their convictions just to be kept in a rotation with other women, playing the Black Love Hunger Games, so they can have the honor of being the last woman standing. No real man is asking a woman to prove squat, he already understands her worth and value in his life and makes his move when he comes across the right one. If you really want things to change then silently support the swirlers by not talking against them, they're the ones creating the competition that is going to force BM to get off their backsides and work on themselves and ultimately benefit you. OP I hope you know that you can always adopt FULL black children. It is a little concerning that you consider a non-black man willing to provide, protect, treat you well and genuinely love you "settling" and by extension points to you even resenting the children you'd have out of that union. While I can appreciate the pain of "having" to go outside the community, it's preferable for those who think like this to not swirl at all, if that's how you truly feel. Otherwise a counseling session is in order (yes I mean therapy), if I were your non-black s/o and I saw a comment about how being with me was you "painfully settling" you wouldn't be able to blink before I dropped you. Food for thought.
Thats amazing. As a black man thats is very alternative and into more nerdy things. To tell you the truth I would love to meet a woman like you. I dont do the same things you dont do. Im only 22 and in college tho. Black women should be loved and celebrated.
@@zerotoanime3953 I’m 3 years older than you lol you’ll find girls that are not into the sexualisation culture in college or at book clubs please give them a chance!
@@clovers10 lol i understand your point of view and I’ve been dating outside of our community for a while now. But even if I end up in an interracial mariage, I’ll still respect black men and women. Be blessed 🌸
The family structure is mess up due to some of our black men not being men and building up community..... # Responsibility # Accountability # Respectfully
Some black men not all have influenced bye rappers baby mama culture and single mother household ..... Some men still have little boy mentality haven’t grown up can’t handle responsibility. Very feminine energy....
Unfortunately that is due to some men not having their father or a father figure in their lives, and their mothers trying to push this agenda on what a man needs to be like. When they themselves don't know how to be a man. Hell I think the concept of being a man or even a woman needs to change and be, how to be an adult. Tho that imo
It's mostly men but not just men. I've seen so positively horrid bw that should never be in charge of children. It depends on where you are. But we need to rebuild the family and the community.
Exactly! These men think you suppose to be their support, and let them do what they want! Sad part is...black women are Always trying to save black men under any cost! Even if they loose themselves in the process! So it's both!
That's true. A woman's nature is stability. If a woman is a cheater, it's a response to something traumatic... whether from childhood or her own love life... women prefer security and stability.
I grew up in the suburbs, and as a black person I was bullied for it. I was never ghetto enough, or ratchet enough. Now that I’m older, I value the fact that my parents moved us to better neighborhoods. It set the tone for what I want in the future. Home and Family. 🙏🏾🏡💕
@@brownskinbeauty. Thank you so much 🥺❤️ you as well! And yes it’s very sad that we have to be equated to white, like why can’t we just be well mannered black women? 🙄
@@m.xoxo.b You're welcome and thank you as well 💜 I definitely agree with the last part, some things are just better left unsaid. It's not even a compliment anyways, it's quite the opposite 🤷🏾♀️
It’s true about bw feeling unprotected. I’ve experienced this on more than one occasion. From my father to my ex-husband. I’ve had to defend and fight for myself. The men have no idea how problematic they are
Yeah but in exchange for protection, we need loyalty and respect from our women. That shit is called reciprocation also look at how alot of you act. Entitlement doesnt earn you anything it's not automatic.
@@petroglyph79 some women act accordingly to their situation of protection. Like most people, anger is used to portray strength, a woman alone cannot be seen as weak predatory men will be attracted to the vulnerability. speaking as a woman my physical strength cannot match a mans if a situation escalates. So what’s the alternative? Make as much noise as possible to back that person off. Some women run into that behavior so often that at times it can be misinterpreted. I cannot speak for all women just myself and what I’ve observed. What you suggest could have some merit, but that logic doesn’t apply to me.
They have no idea how problematic they are because they are still allowed to have access to us while bringing nothing to the table and doing nothing for our community
Black females need to accept accountability & take responsibility for bad choices & poor decisions they make in their own personal lives when they make babies with deadbeat dudes.
@@patrickragland3996 are you honestly suggesting that bw are the only people in the racial group that needs accountability?because it sounds like you are suggesting that every man has good intentions. Some men don’t do the right thing all the time no matter how hard a woman vets him? Most people don’t show their true colors until well after the ring and the baby. At that point the woman is stuck trying to make a deadbeat relationship work. We all must take accountability for the downfall and stop playing the blame game.
No lies detected here. I married out after black men behaved horribly and treated me like I was their enemy for too long. I wasted the best years of my life trying to find a good one.
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture you sound like a mixed person or non-black black person but either way you are entitled to your opinion but at least speak some facts
@@petroglyph79 if BM were handling their business this wouldn’t be an issue.. secondly WW don’t even benefit from feminism because yt men still remain supreme.. so if Yt mens women can act up and still be second to him with all the resources they have, why are your small marginalized group of women capable of stopping and conquering you? Where is YOUR MANHOOD!?? I’ll let you sit on that one little boy.
I’m 32, a nurse, no kids, got myself together and I’m in the same situation too. Looking around and not finding too many dudes to choose from. All I can do is hope and pray that God will send me a man that loves me the same way Jesus loved the church and his followers, no matter what color he is. NOW is the perfect time for us Black Women to come together and uplift and support each other. Keep your head up my beautiful Black Sisters, your time to shine in sun will come. 🥰
I hope you find someone soon It gets very slim after 40 Continue to know your worth And I'm sure you be blessed with a husband then children I wish I had been smarter in my youth We need our men in the homes with our families That's what wrong in my community Too many baby mommas not enough wives.
@@xmswayzemx 7 years? Do you work in a hospital? I'm in radiology so don't sell yourself short. I'm just starting out and you guys don't get enough credit. Especially now with this virus we put a lot on the line for our patients
They want our lips our hips, our butts, our walk , our talk, our sass, they wanna sing like us and dance like us......but we're not valued! 🤔 So many on Instagram and tiktok that try to look like a black women but have been called out for black phishing!!!!
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture Do you know that black women were made fun of just because they had a big butts and lips most white don’t have features like black women to go buy their looks
I feel this video HARD cousin! I purchased my home at 25, owned my car by 26, I have my degree, I was in my career for 10 years and STILL could never find anyone to value that! I have had black men legit say they don’t mess with black women bc they are “too much” so I stayed single forever and just kept working and building myself up. They were either intimidated or just not interested. I’m finally in a happy relationship at 33 years old but it took this long to finally find it. I read a study complied from all the populate dating sites like match and e harmony, black women were the least desired on the sites. It’s very sad and that was hard to hear.
*Why wouldn't you go to a black or interracial dating site that promotes Bw...,?* You do understand that African descended women are a MINORITY OF THE HUMAN RACE AND THAT MOST HUMANS, HAS NEVER MET A BW OR A REGULAR BW ALL DOLLED UP PERSON, BEFORE. Single sisters, when dating, go where you are highlighted. Going to those majority white sites, will natural have folks that is seeking mostly other whites, same with black dating sites and interracial dating apps that is geared to Bw. Simply put, go where you are, *GO WHERE YOU'RE APPRECIATED & NOT, JUST TOLERATED. One sided loyalty is for suckers.* Sisters, what do you all think, non-black women are doing in your over full, dating pools....? *Going where they are most appreciated.* Online folks seek echo chambers, even in online dating.
@@TheShumakeWay have to disagree strongly with you here. Having a wife at home to teach and care for your children, is far more valuable than a woman with a career and her own house. That’s not being weak. It’s being smart. Children are being raised by the public school system instead of their parents, and it’s clearly not working.
@@rodsaunders8832 the problem is you are not realizing that an educated woman is much more likely to instill the value of education into her children. Bw in interracial marriages are more likely to become stay at home mom's. The key is she has that strong, supportive backbone (husband).
Since a black man didn't form me in my mother's womb, since a black man didn't create the heavens and the earth, since a black man isn't Alpha and Omega, since a black man didn't choose the color of my eyes, since a black man didn't write the story of my life before I was born MY VALUE AND WORTH DOESN'T COME FROM a black man.
After emancipation, all freed slaves searched for their families and got married, and built a family. They wanted to have the family unit they couldn't while enslaved. The wealth went after the 1964 civil rights act with the advent of other races bring business to our community. Fast forward to the 1970's the beginning of mass incarceration and welfare. Women are prohibited from getting benefits if they had a man in the household because they are on minimum wage. An incarcerated man can't vote, go to school or go back to the community where he committed the crime. Then you have Margret Stanger's plan to get us to kill our babies VIA Plan Parenthood. Notice it's in our communities only. The promotion of promiscuous music without responsibility. The sad thing is they know our community listens to music as their guidance, and very emotional, and do think for themselves. We follow what we are told. Hence the breakdown of the family, poverty, promiscuity, and low community structure. He is correct that this is planned and social construct others have engineered, and we are falling for the plan. WAKE UP! The willie lynch letter is accurate, do your research and read it. Pastor Stephan Darby's video linked here gives why they are trying to destroy the US. WHO ARE WE: ua-cam.com/video/3o3LYtI3Qzg/v-deo.html. Think REALLY THINK ABOUT WHO RUNS THE MUSIC INDUSTRY
that's a concept as old as the "USA"--they weaponized racism to separate poor and indentured white ppl and enslaved black ppl while the (white) rich operated everything from businesses to the govt. Same stuff still happening.
A lot of black men are brainwashed into thinking being a bad partner is the wave & it's like they do it to impress their peers. A lot of men have arrested development tbh. Our community is force fed that chaotic energy is cool, and that’s not what I’m into. I just want love, a peaceful home & to raise some amazing kids that know they are capable of anything. Love is not corny.
Absolutely. They get off on being a bad partner. Until they get a bad partner, now they want sympathy. All it does is create a lot of unnecessary problems in their own life, that ends up being extremely expensive, and cost them their peace of mind.
When the camera messed up. Lol keep this up, im so glad to see and hear a black man speaking from experience and personal growth. Love and light to you !!
It actually emotionally hurt to hear a black man actually acknowledge that we have to look at men that look like us that don't value us. To grow up with a father uncle's brothers etc. Just to step outside into the real world and the same people who look like you who you were taught to love unconditionally, treat you like trash. It hurts on so many levels.
The news, social media, music, etc, thrive on black dysfunction. BM and BW both need healing. Thank you for your positivity, I will share and share. Men need to hear this from YOU. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for being a few of the Black men who truly understand the plight of your natural counterparts. You seem to really get it in regards to what is actually going on in our community. The dysfunction that's happening amongst Black men and women is definitely by design and we can transcend this by being honest with ourselves tackle it and work strong together to make things right. Thank you for your content. Peace!!!!!💪🏾🔥
I had a black man like you that I was very much in love with. I got pregnant and instead of offering me marriage, he insisted I have the baby. He had been pressuring me for a while. He never mentioned marrying me. I ended up having an abortion because I'm childfree. We are no longer together. He would rather make me a baby mama (even though we were in love for three years) than to marry mel. We need to talk about our aversion not just to family structure but to MARRIAGE. How are we willing to have children before walking down the aisle? That's not normal and it's why our out of wedlock rate is so high.
My family is Jamaican and I would concur that it’s on life support. I was blessed enough to find an amazing husband from the island but most couples have drama and kids rather than love and commitment.
💯, I wish some of US stop using that excuse I believe some black people put themself in a particular environment just so they can date/marry a non black person.
I’m so glad I found this channel. I’m 19 about to graduate with a degree in registered nursing at 20 I graduated highschool early I’m educated on my own and for some reason I have an issue with black men (even tho I’m the complete opposite of the stereotype the compare me to) taking me seriously I actually told myself today that I refuse to be with another black man because of how badly they perceive us but I came across this video right after and it gave me a little hope. I hope to find a man with the same kind of mindset as you. My only issue is WHERE do I find them at?
Congratulations! I’m beyond happy for you. With you having such a big head start, you will have a beautiful life as long as you stay focused. I can’t tell you exactly where they are, because I don’t know what city you’re in. But I can tell you that wives attract husbands. In other words you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. If you continue to carry yourself with class and continue to be the ambitious young woman you are, your husband will find you. Just don’t be fooled by somebody that knows how to run game. Set your criteria for the type of man you want and don’t settle. And definitely don’t have anybody’s baby until you find him. In the mean time if I were you, I would save some money and travel. Enjoy being young and successful.
Like Shumake said, a wife will attract a husband. He will notice you before you notice him (most of the time). I thought I'd be single forever, but my guy said he studied me for a while (at my job) and decided I was the one. He has a great relationship with his mom (extremely important) and all he's ever wanted to be is a husband and father. Stay positive and healthy, don't give anyone a baby before a commitment, and listen to your gut. He should chase you, not the other way around. If he changes once he has your attention, he's not the one. There are a lot of great men out here, just keep being the opposite of the stereotype and you'll see how many men fall for you from that alone.
Be sure to vet all men regardless of race and never drop your standards. Most of all do not limit yourself to dating Black Men only, or other wise you may waste your youth searching for a unicorn.
Just subbed. Very proud of you, young man. One thing I'd like you to consider - many Black men and Black "men" have turned their backs on God. When you hear them speak they call themselves kings and/or say "I am god" usually in the context of "In my house I'm god". They also talk a lot about wanting women to submit to them. These are things a god expects. My theory is that a lot of Black guys are breaking down mentally, emotionally, physically and otherwise because in their hearts they rival God; He, of course, will not be demoted. I wonder what would happen if Black men truly feared God like they used to and lived in service to Him?
I don't really comment, but I would like to reply to yours. The Bible does indeed say that wives should submit to their husbands. Ephesians 5:22-24 1 Peter 3:1-22 However, I will say that many men expect for a woman to submit to them but aren't leader material. For the women who have a problem with the word "submit," then we can flower it up by saying "cooperate." Yes, I believe that many of men aren't stepping up to the plate and even being in the right position (financial, spiritual, and/or emotional) for a woman to submit to them. Regarding a guy being in the right position, but a woman still not "cooperating" with him or "submitting" to him, I'mma leave that issue with the ladies. No use trying to deflect by saying "what about black women?"
@@Kevin-qr6rx Please add on the rest of the chapter, sir ... Ephesians 5:25-33 ... that husband who gets that submission is supposed to FIRST meet ALL THE QUALIFICATIONS from Ephesians 4 and 5:1-21, and THEN love his wife "as Christ loved the church and GAVE HIMSELF FOR HER." Christ DIED for the church, sir, and when you come through only posting two verses out of a book with six chapters and ONLY the part that makes your point, we women who know the Word INSTANTLY KNOW YOU DON'T QUALIFY TO BE SUBMITTED TO. Instant fail. Don't even tempt me to let the Apostle Peter start in on you...
I've watched a lot of videos of men discussing maturing as a man, and I've seen a lot of blame on the feminine movement. Disguising their lack of responsibility and refusal to venture into the journey of manhood onto women! The very women that raised them. Raised them, often single handedly or with incompetent men that end up teaching bad habits to the young men around them.
No one is perfect but I'm just pointing out the flaw in some of these red pill channels/"male grooming" (misogyny promoting) channels out there. Thank Gahd The Shumake Way ain't on that trifling shit. It takes growth and I'm sending love and light to whoever is tryna improve
@@potatopotatoeOG a lot of men are saying with good reason they weren’t raised to be men because they were raised only by women who don’t know what being a man is like and had no male influence to develop them. The problem goes both ways and both sexes need to do better
I've been treated poorly for the past 5yrs and 9 months that I ended up cheating once. I was being abused in every way so I tapped out mentally. Funny thing is after I cheated he treated me so good but then went back to being disrespectful and disgusting and I left him the last time he disrespected me. I know my worth and I will never settle again. Many black men have issues that they won't rectify. Get therapy and work on your shit. Women do it all the time after being used and abused. We are left to pick up the pieces and start all over. I really want to marry a black man but man they make it so hard. Struggle love ain't it!!
I know this feeling. They usually only know you worth something until someone else sees your worth. That wears off once you 'chose' them over the other person.
I’ve been so against black men with the treatment of black women. This guy caught my attention. I have been treated way better by men that are not black. I really tried with black men but ........
Don't feel bad sis....I've tried till I cant do it anymore. BM do not want a woman that's bout them. So at 51 years old I finally see the light. I'm going to love and let love me regardless of his color. I'm not waiting for BM to get it right anymore...black love is a facade. Ladies, don't waste time like I have waiting for BM to get their raggedy asses together
This is the BEST VIDEO I have seen on this subject.... Hands Down. You are Young enough to Reach a A young man who is searching for a better life, who doesn't want to just follow WHAT'S TRENDING, and Mature Enough to Reach older men who have Been Stuck in their Adolescent Stage Despite the fact that he sees an older version.of Himself staring back at him.in his OWN mirror. Because He thought He had ALL the Time in the World to get it Together. Sadly this Part of the Breed of Immature Men are the ones saying the WOEFUL things about Black Women are the SAME ONES who have Been PERFECTLY CONTENT HAVING the WOMEN in his Life Constantly clean Up(his) Messes without Consequences or Having any Accountability. I Thank You for the Breakdown. I Pray that Your Message gets through to the Masses. It's Not just a Passing Phase. We are in a Critical State Hopefully, Most will take a closer look at the field. So Much is at Stake. People are Counting on this to Last for their own Agenda. So Much has been invested in Our Failure.
I appreciate the feedback. I feel that it’s important to talk about this type of stuff, because like you said their is so much at stake. Our people need fresh perspective and a new direction, because the old ways have led us to the turmoil we’re dealing with today. We’re almost completely divided, therefore we are being conquered and I just want to be apart of the awakening that we need so badly. Comments like yours keep me going and I appreciate you. 🙏🏽
I understand how you feel. And it is frustrating... I had a counseling session which was basically young females who are mainly black some biracial speaking about the things that they were going through in school and some of the things that they've been through growing up such as molestation and abuse and since I have been through the same things I was asked to speak to them on their level... One of the saddest things about the whole conversation was the fact that all of them we're deeply afraid of trying to be in a relationship with a black man. Some of them talked about just getting with them if they had money just so they could at least get something out of it.. And others just felt like staying away from black men would be the best thing for them. They were afraid of becoming baby mamas, they were afraid of being abused, they were afraid of being treated like shit mentally and it really hurt me because I wanted to let them know that not all black men are like that and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel however they have so much evidence out here in the world that is stacked against that idea that it gets better... I hope that black people start teaching their daughters and sons how to love, how to be loved, and start teaching them that kindness and compassion is a wonderful thing give them Financial knowledge as well as emotional support. A lot of us are fucked up we keep having kids and fucking them up too.
This was so true. I appreciate hearing a black man uphold the fact that a positive family dynamic is what progresses us in society. They have been separating our families since slavery and even after with mass incarceration. That's one of the many ways they keep us back. But it doesn't help when we hold ourselves back.
All the commercials I see have a Black man and white women The men are always kissing beige kids that dont look like them. All the famous men have white women . Definitely the whole black family isnt respected or prompted
One of the best books I’ve read that helped me to forgive my parents and myself from the traumas I experienced. Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome by Dr. Joy DeGruy. It’s a must read! She breaks down the root causes of common negative Black behaviors. It’s very comprehensive dealing with diet, sexual behaviors, family dynamics and so on.
@Precious Erving-Frimpong I’m curious, how you got that I was blaming white people from my comment.Not once did I mention white people in my comment, nor did I say I was a slave. You have no right to tell me to stop anything. What is your problem?
Who is “they”? First person I ever seen talking down on black women was Tommy Sotomayor & Lil Wayne. Black men set the tone for the gender war in the black community if you ask me.
@@electricmail5662 I’m 31 & while I was growing up there was no gender war between black women and men. We were much more unified until like 2010-2015 when there was a paradigm shift, all due to toxic media.
I have no clue how I came across your channel, but I am not disappointed. From what I've viewed so far, I appreciate your honesty and it's refreshing to hear coming from a black man. Thanks for being in our corner!
That's true, the old " divide and conquer" strategy has worked overtime in our interactions with each other! We have black men and women against each other, light skin verses dark skin,black men shooting each other down in the streets,and some African Americans not accepting mixed people when most of them come from mixed heritage themselves!
Really really appreciate your brotha for your words of wisdom and good sense! Your message needs to be aired on every major TV, cable, and and radio networks in the world!!
Your absolutely correct 💫✨🙌🏾 If we could only move forward with these values and morals, then not even the media could affect us. It may take many years but we can do this 🤞🏾
So many older men and women are not teaching the younger generation how to live and a better and respected life they are not giving out life goals and happy family life self-esteem we need more leaders to get out and lead in a positive way
I don't know how you were able to come to the realization about how things are for the Black Community with such clarity but it's incredible that you have and I thank you for it. Being as young as you are gives you the advantage of influencing many people, Thank you. You are an exceptional man.
I am so happy about the truth you are speaking. This negative narrative that so many BM have fallen for, I pray it's no too late before they realise they have been played, a strong united family is the foundation of nations. Always has been, always will be. Don't get into the water with a Great White and think it's a Dolphin.
Played by who? It is the black women who have been played. Played by the white womans feminism into being “ Strong, independent and don’t need no man” played into single motherhood and section 8 housing and food stamps and welfare cheques. BM have been observers at best.
That’s why I will never give My Heart away again. I have been Married Twice, faithful, true, holding Them up, supportive, don’t like chaos, arguing, trusting and They Both became abusive and cheated on a regular, Both tried to continue to return in My Life, I was kind but could never go back, They Both Died 10 Months apart of each Other from Cancer. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
It is a sad trend right now ... BM mistreating BW and being removed in difficult ways ... but when you reject doing right by those nearest to you (because every BM came from a BW's womb), you reap the consequences... Good for you never going back ... that is the necessary thing.
Videos like this have helped me a whole lot. I was one of those who would not even listen to black men because the narrative was just so......... Now I believe the power of social media. Keep showing the good examples because the bad examples are overwhelming
We've been trained to see toxicity in each other that did not exist in ourselves and in result we project that very toxicity onto each other. We were tricked to carry ourselves with a chip on our shoulders which makes us bitter and selfish. Then we amplify it by having a lack of social and emotional intelligence with each other. It's a perpetual cycle; a self-fulfilling prophecy. However the curse can be undone with INDIVIDUAL work. We ALL must take accountability for ourselves.
I've just subscribed and also shared your videos with every black person I know, in particular those who hold caucasians in reverence. You're a very wise soul . It's refreshing to hear a young black men speak the truth , not with hateful comments, but facts that support his words. I'm proud of you for having the courage and insight into issues that we yet to overcome. The haters that spew their crap at you are only displaying their own insecurities ....your commentaries resonate within them , but they're too damn stupid to admit it. All thanks and praise goes to the woman ( women) that contributed to your upbringing. Blessings, Proud Black Canadian woman .
Thank you for this content. You are absolutely on point. Thank you for speaking up! I too have seen very negative commentary between black men and women (girls and boys i.e tik took etc. Many of the sites are just extremely derogatory. We need to uplift each other, not degrade and put each other down. Some black men are stereotyping black women and vice versa. We are better than this, we can support each other and be so much more. We are intelligent, creative people. We should NOT be tearing each other down. People need to wake up!! Family Structure is everything. How could you put down your own people. Again, Uplift, Encourage and Support. I hear men say all black women have low self esteem, they talk our our hairstyles, saying some black women are hard to deal with, thots, not caring, not good mothers. These are all generalizations. I myself grew up around and was raised with wonderful beautiful black women and men in my family. I am proud of being black. Look at our history what other race could survive what our ancestors went through. We are a blessed people, we need to remember what our people are made of. Despite all we went through Still we Rise. That means proud black men and women. How can anyone love themselves but disparage their counterparts. They go hand in hand. Sorry to go on and on but just felt the need to Express how much I agree with your video. Thank you and Keep putting good content. God Bless everyone in the new year 2021. We need all of his blessing. Thanks for your courage and word to inspire change.
As a black man I do apologize for the things many of us black men said and done out of spite towards you lovely black sistahs. I know my apology won't help anything but hope we as a community can finally come together and be a black family. Unity is community.
@@Williamwestp24 Thank you for everything you said. It is really refreshing and we need more of this, simply understanding an listening to one another.
I was raised during the 70's with a married mother and father in the home. Today that is unheard of. I never heard the term baby mama or baby daddy. You, young women, should stop lying down with these sorry men, not all, but most of them are. Having several kids from different men and women is crazy. Your body is a temple. Respect it.
I was the first one to date out. Been married 10 years. Now all bit 2 if my friends are married to different race men. The black family is over. That stopped in the 1970s. Black males just want to impregnate and not commit or marry
THANK YOU!!! It's refreshing to hear a counterview to all the YT videos bashing black women. You provided a balanced perspective on how we all got to this point and more importantly, how it's time to heal from the pain inflicted on us as a people and that we inflict on each other. Liked and subbed!
Brother you are a breath of fresh air! I wish more black people could see this. You are 💯 correct we are getting played. We need to stop this in fighting between black women and black men. It's really sad and extremely frustrating to be a young single black woman who wants to settle down with a black man and cant find a black man that's a decent guy. Every single black man I have dated is not trying to settle down , want to play games, and is so emotional damaged they can't see that I am a good woman. I'm not going to say that I'm perfect by any means but I working on myself to the best version of myself daily . Please don't stop making content 🙏🏾 ! I am going to start sharing your videos with everyone I know. Because black men and women we gotta heal and stop hating each other
This video came right on time! I've been watching the video over and over of the woman that's was attacked in Harlem by those black men and it broke me! Although i have never "given up" on black men however, we so quickly we allow a few bad apples spoil the bunch when in reality they are still some very great and beautiful black men out here! New subscriber! Keep up the great work!
I am a new subscriber you are giving me life right now. You are right. I'm a black woman that is fed up and I would love to find a wonderful black who I can respect and who will Respect, Love and Protect me. I feel so hopeless about it so much negativity between us so sad. We are not difficult just sick, tired and fed up.
Ladies I’m 49! I never married! I have no kids! Do not pass up opportunities to be with good men that happen to be non black! You will regret it later! Many black men come from dysfunction and remain in said dysfunction!
Logic would dictate that if BM come from dysfunction then wouldn't BW as well?! Or did I miss something? Aren't they being raised in the same families?!
Good job!👍🏽 I love listening to you.🙂 I wish more black men could be vocal like you on several plattform for our youth = our future generations so they don't do the same mistakes as our BM are still doing in the music industri and social media, IRL putting down and beeing straight out nasty about BW.
I somehow ran across your channel today and boy am I’m glad. I am a 30 year old black woman and just had this decision yesterday literally, just about everything you are speaking in this video I talked about yesterday. Thank you, thank you for using this platform to speak to our people. It’s time to rebuild everything that they are trying to destroy from us. This message right here gives me hope, belief that their are good black men wanting to build back up the black family structure🙏🏾 Keep up the good content!
I find it to be sad that we are put in a position to be divided. I feel like a black man makes you feel like you have to compete in love and money with them. I have seen and sadly say, the black man doesn't want to build together ( this reminded me of the video when the white lady enlightened the black guy in the difference with black/white relationship). Just heartbreaking! 🌹🙏🏾💕
Don’t forget to subscribe 🙏🏽
Wise man!
Thank you 🙏🏽
You mention Marcus the stallion he is in industry plant put there to promote that even masculine women can sleep around as well the purpose of the Division set for by the music industry is to stop bp from procreation.
This video is the reason why I subscribed!
Been😊
Being a man that leads his family IS THE ULTIMATE FLEX
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Bc WE KNOW black woman can lead the the whole community
Alhamdulillah! Real talk!👏🏽👌🏽
yes
Rarely exists though
"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."
Theodore Hesburgh
You better talk about it.....if I might add a scripture to your comment.
Micah 6:8
He hath shown thee ,O man, what is good; and what doeth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When He becomes your God you can do the things He asks of you.
Amen!
First get to know the mother before getting her pregnant for starters.
Foolishness!!
Yes, its important to be properly impressed at our impressionable time.
I met a brother with 10 kids and 8 baybay mommas. He said but I take care of all my kids. I replied if you're not sleeping under the same roof with them when a fire breaks out or someone tries to break in, YOU AIN'T TAKING CARE OF SHIT. Ghetto polygamy is the destruction of Black marriage and Black Love.
idk whether to laugh or cry
"Ghetto Polygamy". Spot on!
Weird thing is in some African cultures that's the norm
@Tina Couch, it is as bad here as it is there. Men are giving women babies, and do not pay customary damages or dowry to the family, but demand women submit and be their wives. It is ghetto everywhere.
@@oratiletsimatsima9643 Fr
A lot of self hate within our community
Where are the high value people that are willing to end the ignorance?
@@barbararichardson2747 i ask myself the same question. Ignorance is a choice so we have to make better choices going forward
I dont think its hate. More like miseducation and ignorance and lack of leadership in the community
I also think, RAP music also breeds self-hate.
If it's played all the time, and that's the only music you listen to
The subconscious mind, can't tell the difference between "er & a" with the N word.
Besides calling women b**ches.
@@princesslamour1985 then i dont understand why bw dont do the same in spite of mis education. It makes more sense that bm are self hating because when they look at us they see themselves and turn to another race to produce children that has less of their blackness. I do agree that we need to educate ourselves on who we are and learn our "story" in order to make better choices going forward
A African lady stated that every black person on the American continent needs therapy because it’s a traumatic experience just being here !!!
Yup. Agreed!
Africans ain't any better and need to build their own countries up before the Chinese and Arabs completely take over them.
@@supersaturn956 that's true. But they do value family.
True
@@supersaturn956 what does that have to do with the way AA men treat their women?
Every society has issues and I will be the first to admit that Africans need to have their houses in order on a global stage but our men value us, our men respects us, we are first on the pecking order and will always been valued
We hope for the same for our brothers and sisters in the diaspora. Nothing more nothing less 🤷♀️
Let’s stop with the unnecessary attacks, it’s the same hate energy. Enough already
I appreciate you brother. Just to know that there is still likeminded black men out here speaking up and taking a stand for our people. I thought I was the only one seeing through the bs.
The more we speak up, the more people will start waking up. We just gotta keep working. It’ll get better. I appreciate you for watching the video. 💯
This is the day I’m in tears to know that black men like this still exist 😭😭something just told me to search for channels like this ....
Sure is 👍🏾
@@Soneelicious Girl...I shed a tear as well. My cousins are all wrapped into the blame BW movement.
Watch a man come on here call you a simp for speaking the truth. Keep telling the facts big brotha and yes I just subscribed💯
You can’t be comfortable speaking your truth unless you know who you are. I know they’re coming bro. It is what it is. I appreciate you. 🤝
I say the opposite is true, black women have coined the phrase "i don't need a man" meaning the black man since the early 90s. If you can't speak the whole truth and understand where this state of mind comes from then you're just grasping for straws. Black women prefer child support to an educated supportive father at home. It's strange how you guys come online and speak without actually listening to the opinions of actual black women. On many womens sites they are saying they prefer a street guy over an educated family man... one reason is because a street guy is easy to push out of their lives and use the court system to separate those men from their money. Where have you been for the last 30 years?
@@yomi1834 People tend to choose what's familiar to them instead of what's better. There is a lot of commitment and abandonment issues within the Black Community, which I feel is an effect of generational trauma.
@@yomi1834 where is your source?
@@pennyck9468
Yeah I’m waiting on Yo Mi’s source because I don’t know one woman who would prefer child support over having a good, stable father in the home.
I like your videos, you're wise and speak the truth. I normally stay far away from BM content on here but I'm glad I found you. I'm not sitting around to be talked down to and disrespected as a BW, especially not from BM who are supposed to be the protectors for our community.
You’re right. We are supposed to be your protectors and we failed a long time ago. Hopefully we can become better men and fix our short comings. I appreciate you ❤️
Right! I was happy to see it
@@TheShumakeWay You sound humble and genuine. Thanks for the content💜.
I’m glad I found him too, he’s humble & has common sense...
@@potatopotatoeOG
My father is 90 years old. He's always been a family man who did not cheat on my mother. They built a strong family. My mom passed away in 1987 and Daddy remarried a couple of years later. He wanted to be in a marriage. That wife died from an aneurism after 10 years of marriage and Daddy remarriage again. They just celebrated their 20th anniversary. He has things all the money in the world could never buy, family, love, and respect. He always talks about how blessed he.
Amen beautiful story
Wow, what a blessing@
Thank you. We are blessed to have him.
I don’t twerk, I don’t do one night stand, I don’t use curse words, I’ve never smoke or drank alcohol. I want a 100% black family but so far my best dates are white guys and I’ll have to settle soon.
Thank you for your videos! Please black men, raise your sons better. Black women, raise your daughters better; so this gender wars stops after our generation. Peace ✌🏽
@Michaellaa Dyl dannnggg🤭🤭🤭 no faith in bm waking up and finally leading?? Do u think once they do bw can trust them again
@@princesslamour1985 They are only going to wake up and lead when they HAVE to and unfortunately BW who only want to date BM are the reason they don't. Y'all have said time and again you will accept him in any condition as long as that skin is black. He doesn't have to compete for you, many BW lower their standards and compromise their convictions just to be kept in a rotation with other women, playing the Black Love Hunger Games, so they can have the honor of being the last woman standing. No real man is asking a woman to prove squat, he already understands her worth and value in his life and makes his move when he comes across the right one. If you really want things to change then silently support the swirlers by not talking against them, they're the ones creating the competition that is going to force BM to get off their backsides and work on themselves and ultimately benefit you.
OP I hope you know that you can always adopt FULL black children. It is a little concerning that you consider a non-black man willing to provide, protect, treat you well and genuinely love you "settling" and by extension points to you even resenting the children you'd have out of that union. While I can appreciate the pain of "having" to go outside the community, it's preferable for those who think like this to not swirl at all, if that's how you truly feel. Otherwise a counseling session is in order (yes I mean therapy), if I were your non-black s/o and I saw a comment about how being with me was you "painfully settling" you wouldn't be able to blink before I dropped you. Food for thought.
Thats amazing. As a black man thats is very alternative and into more nerdy things. To tell you the truth I would love to meet a woman like you. I dont do the same things you dont do. Im only 22 and in college tho. Black women should be loved and celebrated.
@@zerotoanime3953 I’m 3 years older than you lol you’ll find girls that are not into the sexualisation culture in college or at book clubs please give them a chance!
@@clovers10 lol i understand your point of view and I’ve been dating outside of our community for a while now. But even if I end up in an interracial mariage, I’ll still respect black men and women. Be blessed 🌸
The family structure is mess up due to some of our black men not being men and building up community..... # Responsibility # Accountability # Respectfully
I agree
Some black men not all have influenced bye rappers baby mama culture and single mother household ..... Some men still have little boy mentality haven’t grown up can’t handle responsibility. Very feminine energy....
Unfortunately that is due to some men not having their father or a father figure in their lives, and their mothers trying to push this agenda on what a man needs to be like. When they themselves don't know how to be a man. Hell I think the concept of being a man or even a woman needs to change and be, how to be an adult. Tho that imo
It's mostly men but not just men. I've seen so positively horrid bw that should never be in charge of children. It depends on where you are. But we need to rebuild the family and the community.
Some you mean “MOST” MAJORITY??
A woman nature is not to cheat. Our nature is stability.
Nurturing too 🥰
Exactly! These men think you suppose to be their support, and let them do what they want! Sad part is...black women are Always trying to save black men under any cost! Even if they loose themselves in the process! So it's both!
That's true. A woman's nature is stability. If a woman is a cheater, it's a response to something traumatic... whether from childhood or her own love life... women prefer security and stability.
not entirely
True very true
I grew up in the suburbs, and as a black person I was bullied for it. I was never ghetto enough, or ratchet enough. Now that I’m older, I value the fact that my parents moved us to better neighborhoods. It set the tone for what I want in the future. Home and Family. 🙏🏾🏡💕
Same! I can't tell you how many times my own family has called me white, it's so annoying. Btw your profile picture is so pretty ❤
@@brownskinbeauty. Thank you so much 🥺❤️ you as well! And yes it’s very sad that we have to be equated to white, like why can’t we just be well mannered black women? 🙄
@@m.xoxo.b You're welcome and thank you as well 💜 I definitely agree with the last part, some things are just better left unsaid. It's not even a compliment anyways, it's quite the opposite 🤷🏾♀️
Most of the people who talk about Black women being "difficult" are really angry with Black women who have STANDARDS.
It’s true about bw feeling unprotected. I’ve experienced this on more than one occasion. From my father to my ex-husband. I’ve had to defend and fight for myself. The men have no idea how problematic they are
Yeah but in exchange for protection, we need loyalty and respect from our women. That shit is called reciprocation also look at how alot of you act. Entitlement doesnt earn you anything it's not automatic.
@@petroglyph79 some women act accordingly to their situation of protection. Like most people, anger is used to portray strength, a woman alone cannot be seen as weak predatory men will be attracted to the vulnerability. speaking as a woman my physical strength cannot match a mans if a situation escalates. So what’s the alternative? Make as much noise as possible to back that person off. Some women run into that behavior so often that at times it can be misinterpreted. I cannot speak for all women just myself and what I’ve observed. What you suggest could have some merit, but that logic doesn’t apply to me.
They have no idea how problematic they are because they are still allowed to have access to us while bringing nothing to the table and doing nothing for our community
Black females need to accept accountability & take responsibility for bad choices & poor decisions they make in their own personal lives when they make babies with deadbeat dudes.
@@patrickragland3996 are you honestly suggesting that bw are the only people in the racial group that needs accountability?because it sounds like you are suggesting that every man has good intentions. Some men don’t do the right thing all the time no matter how hard a woman vets him? Most people don’t show their true colors until well after the ring and the baby. At that point the woman is stuck trying to make a deadbeat relationship work. We all must take accountability for the downfall and stop playing the blame game.
Finally there is a black man with sense so hard to find a black man with any sense when it come to family and love.
Your the first black male you tuber I seen actually sounds authentic and is not tearing black women down. So thanks 🙏🏼
Look up Tony Gaskins. He's good as well.
True, I could listen to him all day. You can tell it's coming from a caring place. He's a girl dad, so that helps.
No lies detected here. I married out after black men behaved horribly and treated me like I was their enemy for too long. I wasted the best years of my life trying to find a good one.
Can't blame you for that. You tried...
❤
ignorant
Girl you’ve said a mouthful
Good for you.
It is the worst feeling to be rejected & disrespected by our own especially since we birth BM.
That also goes for BM who feel pain from being continuously rejected and disrespected by BW.
You are entitled to NOTHING!
You should have started with blaming the male rappers first, they been doing the fuckery for 40 years.
oh trust me, they get it to
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture you sound like a mixed person or non-black black person but either way you are entitled to your opinion but at least speak some facts
What about when bw started going along with feminism being a stepping stone for ww. We should blame them for that 🤷🏿♂️
@@petroglyph79 BW are feminists. BW are too masculine. Which one is it? See.... BOTH ideologies are a LIE from the enemy so just stop it!!!
@@petroglyph79 if BM were handling their business this wouldn’t be an issue.. secondly WW don’t even benefit from feminism because yt men still remain supreme.. so if Yt mens women can act up and still be second to him with all the resources they have, why are your small marginalized group of women capable of stopping and conquering you? Where is YOUR MANHOOD!?? I’ll let you sit on that one little boy.
I’m 32, a nurse, no kids, got myself together and I’m in the same situation too. Looking around and not finding too many dudes to choose from.
All I can do is hope and pray that God will send me a man that loves me the same way Jesus loved the church and his followers, no matter what color he is.
NOW is the perfect time for us Black Women to come together and uplift and support each other.
Keep your head up my beautiful Black Sisters, your time to shine in sun will come. 🥰
How long have you been a nurse??
@@brownskinbeauty. This year will make 7 years. Not long.
I hope you find someone soon
It gets very slim after 40
Continue to know your worth
And I'm sure you be blessed with a husband then children
I wish I had been smarter in my youth
We need our men in the homes with our families
That's what wrong in my community
Too many baby mommas not enough wives.
@@xmswayzemx 7 years? Do you work in a hospital? I'm in radiology so don't sell yourself short. I'm just starting out and you guys don't get enough credit. Especially now with this virus we put a lot on the line for our patients
date outside your race
They want our lips our hips, our butts, our walk , our talk, our sass, they wanna sing like us and dance like us......but we're not valued! 🤔
So many on Instagram and tiktok that try to look like a black women but have been called out for black phishing!!!!
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture white people or different ethnicities
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture Do you know that black women were made fun of just because they had a big butts and lips most white don’t have features like black women to go buy their looks
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture they can be but RARELY ever. Its not jealousy its just featurism.....keep it 💯
It used to be "blackface "
@Blacks Love Oppression Culture take a back seat
I feel this video HARD cousin! I purchased my home at 25, owned my car by 26, I have my degree, I was in my career for 10 years and STILL could never find anyone to value that! I have had black men legit say they don’t mess with black women bc they are “too much” so I stayed single forever and just kept working and building myself up. They were either intimidated or just not interested. I’m finally in a happy relationship at 33 years old but it took this long to finally find it. I read a study complied from all the populate dating sites like match and e harmony, black women were the least desired on the sites. It’s very sad and that was hard to hear.
A strong, successful woman is like having a secret weapon, but to a weak man she’s a nightmare. It’s sad that we’ve become so bitch made smh
Men don’t value women for that reason. No shade.
*Why wouldn't you go to a black or interracial dating site that promotes Bw...,?*
You do understand that African descended women are a MINORITY OF THE HUMAN RACE AND THAT MOST HUMANS, HAS NEVER MET A BW OR A REGULAR BW ALL DOLLED UP PERSON, BEFORE.
Single sisters, when dating, go where you are highlighted.
Going to those majority white sites, will natural have folks that is seeking mostly other whites, same with black dating sites and interracial dating apps that is geared to Bw.
Simply put, go where you are, *GO WHERE YOU'RE APPRECIATED & NOT, JUST TOLERATED. One sided loyalty is for suckers.*
Sisters, what do you all think, non-black women are doing in your over full, dating pools....?
*Going where they are most appreciated.*
Online folks seek echo chambers, even in online dating.
@@TheShumakeWay have to disagree strongly with you here. Having a wife at home to teach and care for your children, is far more valuable than a woman with a career and her own house. That’s not being weak. It’s being smart. Children are being raised by the public school system instead of their parents, and it’s clearly not working.
@@rodsaunders8832 the problem is you are not realizing that an educated woman is much more likely to instill the value of education into her children. Bw in interracial marriages are more likely to become stay at home mom's. The key is she has that strong, supportive backbone (husband).
Since a black man didn't form me in my mother's womb, since a black man didn't create the heavens and the earth, since a black man isn't Alpha and Omega, since a black man didn't choose the color of my eyes, since a black man didn't write the story of my life before I was born MY VALUE AND WORTH DOESN'T COME FROM a black man.
Facts
Amen HALLELUJAH
Hallelujah!
Amen
Rev 1:14, Dan 7:9 says our creator has wooly hair.... hmmm🤔
The story about you protecting your mom was so touching🥺
Divide and conquer.. it’s been strategically going on for a long time.
Yes 100%. The new trend is pitting African Americans against African immigrants. So sad.
That's what capitalists (Democrats) do to stay in power.
After emancipation, all freed slaves searched for their families and got married, and built a family. They wanted to have the family unit they couldn't while enslaved. The wealth went after the 1964 civil rights act with the advent of other races bring business to our community. Fast forward to the 1970's the beginning of mass incarceration and welfare. Women are prohibited from getting benefits if they had a man in the household because they are on minimum wage. An incarcerated man can't vote, go to school or go back to the community where he committed the crime. Then you have Margret Stanger's plan to get us to kill our babies VIA Plan Parenthood. Notice it's in our communities only. The promotion of promiscuous music without responsibility. The sad thing is they know our community listens to music as their guidance, and very emotional, and do think for themselves. We follow what we are told. Hence the breakdown of the family, poverty, promiscuity, and low community structure. He is correct that this is planned and social construct others have engineered, and we are falling for the plan. WAKE UP! The willie lynch letter is accurate, do your research and read it.
Pastor Stephan Darby's video linked here gives why they are trying to destroy the US. WHO ARE WE: ua-cam.com/video/3o3LYtI3Qzg/v-deo.html.
Think REALLY THINK ABOUT WHO RUNS THE MUSIC INDUSTRY
that's a concept as old as the "USA"--they weaponized racism to separate poor and indentured white ppl and enslaved black ppl while the (white) rich operated everything from businesses to the govt. Same stuff still happening.
A lot of black men are brainwashed into thinking being a bad partner is the wave & it's like they do it to impress their peers. A lot of men have arrested development tbh. Our community is force fed that chaotic energy is cool, and that’s not what I’m into. I just want love, a peaceful home & to raise some amazing kids that know they are capable of anything. Love is not corny.
Preach!!!!
Absolutely. They get off on being a bad partner. Until they get a bad partner, now they want sympathy. All it does is create a lot of unnecessary problems in their own life, that ends up being extremely expensive, and cost them their peace of mind.
@Beige Negress2 i swear down
Thank you @fhxs for your comment. Toxic relationships appear to many people’s relationship goals when in fact that is just ruining people altogether.
When the camera messed up. Lol keep this up, im so glad to see and hear a black man speaking from experience and personal growth. Love and light to you !!
Lol. Thank you 🙏🏽. I appreciate that
It actually emotionally hurt to hear a black man actually acknowledge that we have to look at men that look like us that don't value us. To grow up with a father uncle's brothers etc. Just to step outside into the real world and the same people who look like you who you were taught to love unconditionally, treat you like trash. It hurts on so many levels.
The grieving process is REAL... denial, anger, bargaining, depression, ACCEPTANCE... just keep moving forward ...
Thanks for being level headed .
You’re welcome. Thank you for checking my channel out. 🙏🏽
Thanks for acknowledging that BW don’t generally devalue BM as a whole whereas BM routinely devalue BW🤗
"A strong family unit is the base for a good life", so true and I wish more of us understood this.
IMA single now 26 year old black queen and I'm like ....lord help us we are soooo messed up from within
Are you single
Lols yup been tht way most of my life
I can't get over how fine this man is...
Also he is so intelligent. Very attractive quality!
It’s the teeth for me. Beautiful man
Intelligence is super attractive.
Sounds like you totally missed it Queenlea. Is this all you got? Nothing to build up anyone in this stream? Yeah you missed it.
Queenlea ikr 😍😍😍
He’s totally hot 🔥😍
Where are the men no the people that think this way ....this was refreshing to hear someone being real.
The news, social media, music, etc, thrive on black dysfunction. BM and BW both need healing. Thank you for your positivity, I will share and share. Men need to hear this from YOU. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Good points
Thank you for being a few of the Black men who truly understand the plight of your natural counterparts. You seem to really get it in regards to what is actually going on in our community. The dysfunction that's happening amongst Black men and women is definitely by design and we can transcend this by being honest with ourselves tackle it and work strong together to make things right. Thank you for your content. Peace!!!!!💪🏾🔥
Thank you! Best comment I've read all day.
@@ladybluelotus Thank you!!!!! Its definitely going to take a collective effort from both the men and women. It may be tough, but it can be done.
I had a black man like you that I was very much in love with. I got pregnant and instead of offering me marriage, he insisted I have the baby. He had been pressuring me for a while. He never mentioned marrying me. I ended up having an abortion because I'm childfree. We are no longer together. He would rather make me a baby mama (even though we were in love for three years) than to marry mel.
We need to talk about our aversion not just to family structure but to MARRIAGE. How are we willing to have children before walking down the aisle? That's not normal and it's why our out of wedlock rate is so high.
Did he ever say why, he didn't want marriage?
@@KimKim-dd6wj I suspect he wanted to protect his assets. He is wife someone else now still not married but recently brought a house.
you are becoming wise!
That’s the goal. Thanks 🙏🏽
The lack of value in the family unit is a dying thing in the Caribbean as well
Its been on life support for a while.
My family is Jamaican and I would concur that it’s on life support. I was blessed enough to find an amazing husband from the island but most couples have drama and kids rather than love and commitment.
It is non existent over there too. Africa is the only place where it still matters.
Been saying this and we are the ONLY group that degrades black women in music.....all for money.....
Thank you for this video. I just sent it to one of my guy friends. I think he would listen to the message more if it came from a man.
I appreciate you
No offense to the swirlers, but a strong and healthy BLACK FAMILY UNIT is what the black community needs to advance. It is very necessary.
I agree but some of us have to date out if we want to marry. We out number the men.
@@AdiaAdams They're not all taken sis. I'm sure there's still good black men out there waiting to treat you right.
You are so refreshing! Thank you so much for shining the light. Taking accountability and being honest. I pray that your channel grows rapidly.
Thank you and I appreciate you ❤️
So refreshing to finally see a black man talking some real sense...finally.
You can help who you fall in love with.
💯, I wish some of US stop using that excuse I believe some black people put themself in a particular environment just so they can date/marry a non black person.
Because it suits your, purpose? And if you are black, wake the hell up, Listen to the content of the commentary coming from a black man.
Especially if you stay away from them!
There won't be any falling in love...
I totally agree
Yep! That's about the only thing I disagreed with in this whole message.
Yes we are being played. Agreed
I’m so glad I found this channel. I’m 19 about to graduate with a degree in registered nursing at 20 I graduated highschool early I’m educated on my own and for some reason I have an issue with black men (even tho I’m the complete opposite of the stereotype the compare me to) taking me seriously I actually told myself today that I refuse to be with another black man because of how badly they perceive us but I came across this video right after and it gave me a little hope. I hope to find a man with the same kind of mindset as you. My only issue is WHERE do I find them at?
Congratulations! I’m beyond happy for you. With you having such a big head start, you will have a beautiful life as long as you stay focused. I can’t tell you exactly where they are, because I don’t know what city you’re in. But I can tell you that wives attract husbands. In other words you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. If you continue to carry yourself with class and continue to be the ambitious young woman you are, your husband will find you. Just don’t be fooled by somebody that knows how to run game. Set your criteria for the type of man you want and don’t settle. And definitely don’t have anybody’s baby until you find him. In the mean time if I were you, I would save some money and travel. Enjoy being young and successful.
Like Shumake said, a wife will attract a husband. He will notice you before you notice him (most of the time). I thought I'd be single forever, but my guy said he studied me for a while (at my job) and decided I was the one. He has a great relationship with his mom (extremely important) and all he's ever wanted to be is a husband and father. Stay positive and healthy, don't give anyone a baby before a commitment, and listen to your gut. He should chase you, not the other way around. If he changes once he has your attention, he's not the one. There are a lot of great men out here, just keep being the opposite of the stereotype and you'll see how many men fall for you from that alone.
Gl luv ..they are far and few
Be sure to vet all men regardless of race and never drop your standards. Most of all do not limit yourself to dating Black Men only, or other wise you may waste your youth searching for a unicorn.
@@gijoni100 Well said !!!!
Finally some positivity keep it up bro
I will . Thank you for watching 🤝
@@TheShumakeWay 💯
Thank you for this video
Just subbed. Very proud of you, young man. One thing I'd like you to consider - many Black men and Black "men" have turned their backs on God. When you hear them speak they call themselves kings and/or say "I am god" usually in the context of "In my house I'm god". They also talk a lot about wanting women to submit to them. These are things a god expects. My theory is that a lot of Black guys are breaking down mentally, emotionally, physically and otherwise because in their hearts they rival God; He, of course, will not be demoted. I wonder what would happen if Black men truly feared God like they used to and lived in service to Him?
I don't really comment, but I would like to reply to yours. The Bible does indeed say that wives should submit to their husbands.
Ephesians 5:22-24
1 Peter 3:1-22
However, I will say that many men expect for a woman to submit to them but aren't leader material. For the women who have a problem with the word "submit," then we can flower it up by saying "cooperate."
Yes, I believe that many of men aren't stepping up to the plate and even being in the right position (financial, spiritual, and/or emotional) for a woman to submit to them.
Regarding a guy being in the right position, but a woman still not "cooperating" with him or "submitting" to him, I'mma leave that issue with the ladies.
No use trying to deflect by saying "what about black women?"
@@Kevin-qr6rx it also says for husbands to submit to their wives Ephesians 5:21, submit to each other.
What nonsense
@@Kevin-qr6rx Please add on the rest of the chapter, sir ... Ephesians 5:25-33 ... that husband who gets that submission is supposed to FIRST meet ALL THE QUALIFICATIONS from Ephesians 4 and 5:1-21, and THEN love his wife "as Christ loved the church and GAVE HIMSELF FOR HER." Christ DIED for the church, sir, and when you come through only posting two verses out of a book with six chapters and ONLY the part that makes your point, we women who know the Word INSTANTLY KNOW YOU DON'T QUALIFY TO BE SUBMITTED TO. Instant fail.
Don't even tempt me to let the Apostle Peter start in on you...
2 Pac said it best " I know you fed up ladies, keep ya head up!"
I've watched a lot of videos of men discussing maturing as a man, and I've seen a lot of blame on the feminine movement. Disguising their lack of responsibility and refusal to venture into the journey of manhood onto women! The very women that raised them. Raised them, often single handedly or with incompetent men that end up teaching bad habits to the young men around them.
No one is perfect but I'm just pointing out the flaw in some of these red pill channels/"male grooming" (misogyny promoting) channels out there.
Thank Gahd The Shumake Way ain't on that trifling shit. It takes growth and I'm sending love and light to whoever is tryna improve
@@potatopotatoeOG a lot of men are saying with good reason they weren’t raised to be men because they were raised only by women who don’t know what being a man is like and had no male influence to develop them. The problem goes both ways and both sexes need to do better
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I've been treated poorly for the past 5yrs and 9 months that I ended up cheating once. I was being abused in every way so I tapped out mentally. Funny thing is after I cheated he treated me so good but then went back to being disrespectful and disgusting and I left him the last time he disrespected me. I know my worth and I will never settle again. Many black men have issues that they won't rectify. Get therapy and work on your shit. Women do it all the time after being used and abused. We are left to pick up the pieces and start all over. I really want to marry a black man but man they make it so hard. Struggle love ain't it!!
I know this feeling. They usually only know you worth something until someone else sees your worth. That wears off once you 'chose' them over the other person.
I’ve been so against black men with the treatment of black women. This guy caught my attention. I have been treated way better by men that are not black. I really tried with black men but ........
Don't feel bad sis....I've tried till I cant do it anymore. BM do not want a woman that's bout them. So at 51 years old I finally see the light. I'm going to love and let love me regardless of his color. I'm not waiting for BM to get it right anymore...black love is a facade. Ladies, don't waste time like I have waiting for BM to get their raggedy asses together
Same 😒
Be for whoever is for you sister
I concur although you say it's time for us to wake up, it's past time for us.
This is the BEST VIDEO I have seen on this subject....
Hands Down.
You are Young enough to Reach a A young man who is searching for a better life, who doesn't want to just follow WHAT'S TRENDING, and Mature Enough to Reach older men who have Been Stuck in their Adolescent Stage Despite the fact that he sees an older version.of Himself staring back at him.in his OWN mirror.
Because He thought He had ALL the Time in the World to get it Together. Sadly this Part of the Breed of Immature Men are the ones saying the WOEFUL things about Black Women are the SAME ONES who have Been PERFECTLY CONTENT HAVING the WOMEN in his Life Constantly clean Up(his) Messes without Consequences or Having any Accountability.
I Thank You for the Breakdown.
I Pray that Your Message gets through to the Masses.
It's Not just a Passing Phase.
We are in a Critical State
Hopefully, Most will take a closer look at the field.
So Much is at Stake.
People are Counting on this to Last for their own Agenda.
So Much has been invested in Our Failure.
I appreciate the feedback. I feel that it’s important to talk about this type of stuff, because like you said their is so much at stake. Our people need fresh perspective and a new direction, because the old ways have led us to the turmoil we’re dealing with today. We’re almost completely divided, therefore we are being conquered and I just want to be apart of the awakening that we need so badly. Comments like yours keep me going and I appreciate you. 🙏🏽
I understand how you feel. And it is frustrating... I had a counseling session which was basically young females who are mainly black some biracial speaking about the things that they were going through in school and some of the things that they've been through growing up such as molestation and abuse and since I have been through the same things I was asked to speak to them on their level... One of the saddest things about the whole conversation was the fact that all of them we're deeply afraid of trying to be in a relationship with a black man. Some of them talked about just getting with them if they had money just so they could at least get something out of it.. And others just felt like staying away from black men would be the best thing for them. They were afraid of becoming baby mamas, they were afraid of being abused, they were afraid of being treated like shit mentally and it really hurt me because I wanted to let them know that not all black men are like that and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel however they have so much evidence out here in the world that is stacked against that idea that it gets better... I hope that black people start teaching their daughters and sons how to love, how to be loved, and start teaching them that kindness and compassion is a wonderful thing give them Financial knowledge as well as emotional support. A lot of us are fucked up we keep having kids and fucking them up too.
This was so true. I appreciate hearing a black man uphold the fact that a positive family dynamic is what progresses us in society. They have been separating our families since slavery and even after with mass incarceration. That's one of the many ways they keep us back. But it doesn't help when we hold ourselves back.
All the commercials I see have a Black man and white women The men are always kissing beige kids that dont look like them. All the famous men have white women . Definitely the whole black family isnt respected or prompted
One of the best books I’ve read that helped me to forgive my parents and myself from the traumas I experienced.
Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome by Dr. Joy DeGruy. It’s a must read! She breaks down the root causes of common negative Black behaviors. It’s very comprehensive dealing with diet, sexual behaviors, family dynamics and so on.
Thank you for the suggestion! I am going to pick it up today! Any other good reads?
@@krenee984 The Browder Files by Anthony Browder is another book that promotes self love and healing! ❤️
I have heard of it. I am going to put that on my list
@Precious Erving-Frimpong I’m curious, how you got that I was blaming white people from my comment.Not once did I mention white people in my comment, nor did I say I was a slave. You have no right to tell me to stop anything. What is your problem?
@Precious Erving-Frimpong Black people today are still getting discriminated against by white people.
Great commentary.💕
Thank you 🙏🏽
The problem is Bm have left a bad taste in our mouth . Most of us black women are already out the door 🤣🤣.. especially high value , no kids women.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU ARE OUT THE DOOR?
Who is “they”? First person I ever seen talking down on black women was Tommy Sotomayor & Lil Wayne. Black men set the tone for the gender war in the black community if you ask me.
Darling it started with the Blaxplotasion movies. But we agree that it is the media.
There are plenty of channels on UA-cam
You sound sooo young, bless your heart🙂
There is a whole group of men called Red pills. I just discovered it and it is wild.
@@electricmail5662 I’m 31 & while I was growing up there was no gender war between black women and men. We were much more unified until like 2010-2015 when there was a paradigm shift, all due to toxic media.
it’s so refreshing to hear such a level headed and respectful perspective. thank you for sharing such insight! absolutely enjoy your content.
I have no clue how I came across your channel, but I am not disappointed. From what I've viewed so far, I appreciate your honesty and it's refreshing to hear coming from a black man. Thanks for being in our corner!
That's true, the old " divide and conquer" strategy has worked overtime in our interactions with each other! We have black men and women against each other, light skin verses dark skin,black men shooting each other down in the streets,and some African Americans not accepting mixed people when most of them come from mixed heritage themselves!
I appreciate you speaking on this, more people in our community need to hear this so we can heal collectively!
Thank you so much for telling the truth and encouragement to our own. You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! 🙏🏾👏🏽💪🏽❤️💕
I love to see this perspective coming from a black man 🖤
Really really appreciate your brotha for your words of wisdom and good sense! Your message needs to be aired on every major TV, cable, and and radio networks in the world!!
This young man is telling the truth! I wish my beautiful successful 31 year old great daughter could meet someone like him. I salute you young man!
So glad I found your channel. You are wise beyond your years and a breath of fresh air.
This is the world we live in now even if you prefer your own.....so frustrating and sad!
Your absolutely correct 💫✨🙌🏾
If we could only move forward with these values and morals, then not even the media could affect us.
It may take many years but we can do this 🤞🏾
So many older men and women are not teaching the younger generation how to live and a better and respected life they are not giving out life goals and happy family life self-esteem we need more leaders to get out and lead in a positive way
This is the truth but how do black ppl give information to the next generation if they had to figure out most of it alone?
I don't know how you were able to come to the realization about how things are for the Black Community with such clarity but it's incredible that you have and I thank you for it. Being as young as you are gives you the advantage of influencing many people, Thank you. You are an exceptional man.
This video is so true, that it makes me cry.
I am so happy about the truth you are speaking. This negative narrative that so many BM have fallen for, I pray it's no too late before they realise they have been played, a strong united family is the foundation of nations. Always has been, always will be. Don't get into the water with a Great White and think it's a Dolphin.
Played by who?
It is the black women who have been played. Played by the white womans feminism into being “ Strong, independent and don’t need no man” played into single motherhood and section 8 housing and food stamps and welfare cheques.
BM have been observers at best.
That’s why I will never give My Heart away again. I have been Married Twice, faithful, true, holding Them up, supportive, don’t like chaos, arguing, trusting and They Both became abusive and cheated on a regular, Both tried to continue to return in My Life, I was kind but could never go back, They Both Died 10 Months apart of each Other from Cancer. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Karma
It is a sad trend right now ... BM mistreating BW and being removed in difficult ways ... but when you reject doing right by those nearest to you (because every BM came from a BW's womb), you reap the consequences...
Good for you never going back ... that is the necessary thing.
Spot on! If we can’t respect ourselves, no one else will respect us! Divide and conquer in its worst form.
Hang In There. We with you. Keep on keeping On. God Bless Us All
Videos like this have helped me a whole lot. I was one of those who would not even listen to black men because the narrative was just so......... Now I believe the power of social media. Keep showing the good examples because the bad examples are overwhelming
We've been trained to see toxicity in each other that did not exist in ourselves and in result we project that very toxicity onto each other. We were tricked to carry ourselves with a chip on our shoulders which makes us bitter and selfish. Then we amplify it by having a lack of social and emotional intelligence with each other. It's a perpetual cycle; a self-fulfilling prophecy. However the curse can be undone with INDIVIDUAL work. We ALL must take accountability for ourselves.
Yaaaaas u literally broke it down to a science
I've just subscribed and also shared your videos with every black person I know, in particular those who hold caucasians in reverence.
You're a very wise soul .
It's refreshing to hear a young black men speak the truth , not with hateful comments, but facts that support his words.
I'm proud of you for having the courage and insight into issues that we yet to overcome.
The haters that spew their crap at you are only displaying their own insecurities ....your commentaries resonate within them , but they're too damn stupid to admit it.
All thanks and praise goes to the woman ( women) that contributed to your upbringing.
Blessings,
Proud Black Canadian woman .
Thank you for content that’s objective and pushing black family first. We need more of this.
You are so truthful so, "Tell it to the young, tell it to the old, tell it to the hot, tell it to the cold".
Thank you for this content. You are absolutely on point. Thank you for speaking up! I too have seen very negative commentary between black men and women (girls and boys i.e tik took etc. Many of the sites are just extremely derogatory. We need to uplift each other, not degrade and put each other down. Some black men are stereotyping black women and vice versa. We are better than this, we can support each other and be so much more. We are intelligent, creative people. We should NOT be tearing each other down. People need to wake up!! Family Structure is everything. How could you put down your own people. Again, Uplift, Encourage and Support. I hear men say all black women have low self esteem, they talk our our hairstyles, saying some black women are hard to deal with, thots, not caring, not good mothers. These are all generalizations. I myself grew up around and was raised with wonderful beautiful black women and men in my family. I am proud of being black. Look at our history what other race could survive what our ancestors went through. We are a blessed people, we need to remember what our people are made of. Despite all we went through Still we Rise. That means proud black men and women. How can anyone love themselves but disparage their counterparts. They go hand in hand. Sorry to go on and on but just felt the need to Express how much I agree with your video. Thank you and Keep putting good content. God Bless everyone in the new year 2021. We need all of his blessing. Thanks for your courage and word to inspire change.
I appreciate you ❤️
As a black man I do apologize for the things many of us black men said and done out of spite towards you lovely black sistahs. I know my apology won't help anything but hope we as a community can finally come together and be a black family. Unity is community.
As black man I apologize to black women .... some of us black men still love and appreciate you sistah
I support that movement bro
@@Williamwestp24 Thank you for everything you said. It is really refreshing and we need more of this, simply understanding an listening to one another.
I was raised during the 70's with a married mother and father in the home. Today that is unheard of. I never heard the term baby mama or baby daddy. You, young women, should stop lying down with these sorry men, not all, but most of them are. Having several kids from different men and women is crazy. Your body is a temple. Respect it.
Tell these type of men to respect their own body as a temple as well
I was the first one to date out. Been married 10 years. Now all bit 2 if my friends are married to different race men. The black family is over. That stopped in the 1970s. Black males just want to impregnate and not commit or marry
Not all of them
@Beige Negress2 Not that either. It's just where you live
@Beige Negress2 Troll please 😂
@Beige Negress2 Lmfao 🤣
THANK YOU!!! It's refreshing to hear a counterview to all the YT videos bashing black women. You provided a balanced perspective on how we all got to this point and more importantly, how it's time to heal from the pain inflicted on us as a people and that we inflict on each other. Liked and subbed!
Brother you are a breath of fresh air! I wish more black people could see this. You are 💯 correct we are getting played. We need to stop this in fighting between black women and black men. It's really sad and extremely frustrating to be a young single black woman who wants to settle down with a black man and cant find a black man that's a decent guy. Every single black man I have dated is not trying to settle down , want to play games, and is so emotional damaged they can't see that I am a good woman. I'm not going to say that I'm perfect by any means but I working on myself to the best version of myself daily . Please don't stop making content 🙏🏾 ! I am going to start sharing your videos with everyone I know. Because black men and women we gotta heal and stop hating each other
Thank you
This video came right on time! I've been watching the video over and over of the woman that's was attacked in Harlem by those black men and it broke me! Although i have never "given up" on black men however, we so quickly we allow a few bad apples spoil the bunch when in reality they are still some very great and beautiful black men out here! New subscriber! Keep up the great work!
I am a new subscriber you are giving me life right now. You are right. I'm a black woman that is fed up and I would love to find a wonderful black who I can respect and who will Respect, Love and Protect me. I feel so hopeless about it so much negativity between us so sad. We are not difficult just sick, tired and fed up.
I must admit that it is refreshing to hear a Black American man who sees AND ADMITS the BS.
Ladies I’m 49! I never married! I have no kids! Do not pass up opportunities to be with good men that happen to be non black! You will regret it later! Many black men come from dysfunction and remain in said dysfunction!
Logic would dictate that if BM come from dysfunction then wouldn't BW as well?! Or did I miss something? Aren't they being raised in the same families?!
@@ladybluelotus lol
Even a years later. I appreciate you and your inputs! We should be aware. That way is the Shumake way + God!Thank you.
Good job!👍🏽 I love listening to you.🙂 I wish more black men could be vocal like you on several plattform for our youth = our future generations so they don't do the same mistakes as our BM are still doing in the music industri and social media, IRL putting down and beeing straight out nasty about BW.
i appreciate you more than you know.
I somehow ran across your channel today and boy am I’m glad. I am a 30 year old black woman and just had this decision yesterday literally, just about everything you are speaking in this video I talked about yesterday. Thank you, thank you for using this platform to speak to our people. It’s time to rebuild everything that they are trying to destroy from us. This message right here gives me hope, belief that their are good black men wanting to build back up the black family structure🙏🏾 Keep up the good content!
I find it to be sad that we are put in a position to be divided. I feel like a black man makes you feel like you have to compete in love and money with them. I have seen and sadly say, the black man doesn't want to build together ( this reminded me of the video when the white lady enlightened the black guy in the difference with black/white relationship).
Just heartbreaking! 🌹🙏🏾💕
Well, I do compete naturally to keep my man. He has never ask or told me to do this but I definitely work to keep him happy with me.