I've watched several interviews with Orion Taraban (he's become one of my favorite YT personalities as of late). This is one of the better interviews with him. Good stuff.
People become more vulnerable and needy and less attractive as they age or if they fall ill at any age. AlFor this reason anyone with a transactional view of relationships like Dr. Taraban will fail to sustain a marriage because it is selfish and exploitative and treats people as objects to be utilised.
People become more vulnerable and needy and less attractive as they age or if they fall ill at any age. For this reason, anyone with a transactional view of relationships like Dr. Taraban will fail to sustain a marriage because it is selfish and exploitative and treats people as objects to be utilised.
don’t get it twisted… Dating has predominantly a western culture thing. in most eastern cultures there is courting. which means you have expectations and hard ins and outs before marriage. dating in the west has become based on feelings and expectations without any real significance. i’ve seen and met so many couples that have been ‘dating’ for 15 years or more… common law marriage is an example of this as well
So many people in the US have no idea about purpose & meaning in life. Beautiful smart people are often the ones most confused. They need to be encouraged to believe in their nobility & the potential of their offspring rather than treating life as petty comfort seeking.
So i checked and differentiated the two definitions. How do you court when both of you haven’t dated? Everyone needs to go through dating before courting, unless you are referring to the arranged marriage, that modern Eastern culture is not common any more. You are wrong
@@Arquebusier89 At least in China, women are expected to be virgins before getting married, that being said if you dated for fun before you meet the love of your life, you most likely already lost your purity as a value. However, in 21 century, there has been heated arguments about it raised by feminists, especially those well educated single women over 30s. Basically, they read plenty of romance novels and watched tons of American movies or TV shows when they were accumulating their life experiences in 20s, and expecting an attractive male to fall in love with. But the reality is most of the man in their life is not enough for them anymore. I can see a future in the eastern countries where without the religious belief, the dating culture is becoming more popular. Nowadays, girls are expecting to have a relationship first in college, and get married with the same person is the best case scenario.
When 2 people stop using each other for their own benefit is when you can have a REAL, true, honest, and mutually fulfilling relationship. Until we can see relationship as a mutual giving, instead of a mutual taking, we will never experience a true connection with another human being. And this is why people are so lost and unhappy; it's that simple! I mean, how can you be fulfilled if you only look at people like a transaction where you're trying to get the best deal.
The interviewer is spilling the beans on folks he knows. 😂 Those close to him must have listened to this whole session with anxiety like they were hearing their names in Eminem diss track
It's been three years since I retired, and while inflation has made it tough to maintain my lifestyle, especially when I was living in the city. relocating to the countryside has helped me manage things better. Being single again, it’s been a bit lonely since most of my friends and family are still caught up in their routines. But it's been easier to stretch my savings, and hopefully, I won’t outlive it.
I’m nearing retirement myself, and I had similar concerns. I started investing later than most, and just relying on ETF compounding wasn’t cutting it for me. After working with a financial advisor, I managed to restructure my investments and am now on track to retire with around $4 million. If I hadn’t sought advice, I doubt I’d be as confident in my plan right now
I usually steer clear of recommending specific people because financial needs are so personal. But I can say that working with Emily Ava Milligan has made a world of difference for me. I noticed her strategies are tailored to fit personal goals and make sense for different needs. It might be worth exploring to see if her approach resonates with you
Marriage is in part self sacrifice for the future of your child and by extension the human race. People have become selfish and are trying to have a "Game optimal" strategy, like what you dive into inside your book. However, without cooperation and kindness, its really not a good human experience. And people who only see how to improve their end of the agreement will never be truly at peace.
Correct, people need to stop focusing on what they can get and focus on what they can mutually give in a relationship. That's the only road to a satisfying life.
He's just highlighting the essence of relationships to men, it doesn't mean it is mutually exclusive to romance and all the good human virtues to nurture (BTW VIRTUE GOES BOTH SIDES THAT'S THE THING). But western women need to be brought back to their A's and B's. It's like Molière had temporary amnesia and forgot the rules of grammar. To fight and make realize the fundamental disillusion on the other side, fundamentality of argument is the only valid argument. E.g. in a dystopic world where we destroyed environnement we are still debating about clean energy solutions where the debate lies in the fact that we tapped into the finite growth of our world due to a disillusion of infinite growth, don't get me wrong, clean energy serves to optimize our use of energy and is the important/cool battle in time of peace. but when we reach the wall we need to accept the MORE low level TRUTH that what's the point of consuming 2x less energy through bright solutions if greed tells us to consume 2x more energy following the newfound abundance? The problem is climate change deniers and ppl not even accepting the most fundamental truth that our planet is finite in resources, because greed can then be negociated as it should, then, but you can't get there if you deny the facts. See, women reached a point of social utter blindness where they reached TOTAL disillusion without any counter balance to their emotional greed. Where they project their nature onto men and in the process disallowing them to appreciate men for the invisible battles they vanquish out of sheer good heart and humility. Women need to be humbled without white gloves. As you proved with your total unopenness to a different reality men face that you expect out of entitlement, rejecting elemental truth and acceptance because it rubs you the wrong way. Ask your grandmother if she thinks sex is something demeaning or gives her purpose and power (and with power comes duty, only if you realize it) as a woman who has the monopoly over this thing of primordial importance for men (literally like food for us, you can't judge us by transposing YOUR biological imperatives on us, that's literally the definition of intolerance or colonialism, like not accepting gay rights because it feels gross or unnatural to you). GROW UP BABIES.
All so transactional. I genuinely don’t understand any of this. I met my wife, we fell in love, we’re each other’s best friend, end of. We have two beautiful children. We’ve had our difficulties, like all couples but it’s still us, back to back against the world.
As the good doctor explained in a separate video, if a relationship works real good, it's transactional nature disappears in the background. So congrats to you both to make it work to that extent.
Challenges in relationships are part of the journey, but there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage had significant hurdles, but with the right help, my wife and I overcame them and grew stronger. With effort and cooperation, solutions can be found. Keep your hope-solutions are within reach....
I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I appreciate your direction. I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.
that sounds like going into debt and then working really hard to get yourself out of it. When the best solution is to not get into debt in the first place
As soon as you " have a spiritual connection" to someone who is your true soul mate you're married in God's Sight! After you have laid down with one person for the first time either it was a mistake... or it's the right person... If you have Morals you know! I'm 63 and I have only been with 2 women in my life! The first time I was a teenager and was coerced by my older brothers and I didn't know what I was, doing. The second time I knew it was right and we married and stayed together for 30 years until she passed on.
Wanted to share this: I have been married twice. Both marriages have been good marriages. The first marriage lasted almost 3 decades. At the 25 year mark our kids through us an awesome marriage celebration!! All of our friends and family came. Two years later the marriage ended once the kids left home. It was very hard but it was ultimately for the best. My second marriage has been amazing and we are working towards a decade now! I have plans for us to have an awesome celebration at our 25th. It’s different than our society but I actually think it’s more meaningful.
@@Alex.Kalashnik you probably won’t be surprised to know that it was her. In three decades a lot can happen. Neither of us did anything that would make for juicy gossip. I asked her to marry me when she was 18 and I was 21. We put each other through both college and graduate school after we both finished years of being in the military. We were always great friends and were occasionally passionate lovers. When our youngest child finished college she simply had enough. She wanted a different life and she got it. I wanted more of what we had with some upgrades. Long story short, I married a similar woman a decade younger who is frankly smarter and definitely better looking. I never strayed in my first marriage, but I always knew I had options. When my first wife called it quits a mutual friend asked me out on the spot and we’ve been together ever since. My first wife even admitted that the second wife was a better fit for me. My kids love her and encouraged the relationship from the beginning. The first wife is now married to a nice guy that is more her speed. I’m happy for her. It took her a few years to find him and it was tough for her until she did.
Who has to take care of the transmission fluid change in the minivan that she drives? Who has to get the raccoon out of the attic? Who has to be the one that drives in the snowstorm after pumping their own gas when you're both going somewhere?
30 yrs ago I used to believe when you want to enter marriage you get to find a ""good deal "" ( because the society taught us so ) . After 30 yrs of marriage and difficult life (most of the time struggling with all kinds of difficulties in life )，I have to say , marriage is about love , not about a good deal . You need to get through the difficulties together to build true love . True love doesn't just fall from the sky . Relationship is like the wine , the older it gets , the more mature it becomes. If you would like to take advice , I would recommend you go through it and skip all these nonsense videos . If you believe you're going to fail (in marriage, love , relationship .... even in life ) even before you enter it , how can you ever succeed ? The proverb: "work of faith ,labor of love , endurance of hope" says it all . And I wish all of you there find your soulmate and live a great life.
This is why I tell men, if she's "charging you" making you jump through hoops, putting you through all these simulations, don't even bother with her. Trust and believe she IS giving it up for free to some other dude
On today's transactional scope, men seek a woman like they look for a used car which they could settle it as a reliable ride for years, while modern women seek the latest model as a lease, looking foward for its new line to exchange it.
@jenster29 and therein lies the problem. They're looking to benefit rather than being there for their husband. Marriage was never about you, it's about the other person. Men haven't lost sight of this, but women for the most part have.
It you are a young man and you want to build a family which gives you a support system, progeny and a family legacy you have to learn how women and relationships work and then choose wisely. "Love" is a real thing that can last a lifetime and keep you going when things don't make sense at the moment so don't dismiss or discount it. I think to be a "Man" in the finest sense of the word you need to find a woman who will give you fidelity, children and support. Personally, I have been married for 45 years, had an exciting life of accomplishment and experiences, and raised two productive contributing adults and created a significant estate. My wife contributed to this in no small way. This was always my goal and I feel satisfied that I have achieved it. I post this to illustrate that marriage if entered into with an informed, mature and reasoned attitude can yield a positive result . If I was to become single I would not get married again because there is no point in it. Without children, marriage is too great a risk relative to potential rewards.
The beginning of dating/courting should be business-like. No reason to get attached and invested in the wrong person for you. Meeting family and people that love you should happen early too unless they take the relationship seriously too soon causing pressure to speed things up too fast.
Basically this guys views on women is shaped by the fact that he was rejected by women when he was younger and now they only want him for his money. I find him extremely cynical. He objectifies both men and women by describing all relationships as transactional. It doesn't seem like he has ever experienced a deep, emotionally satisfying relationship. Maybe I have a hard time accepting relationship advice from someone in their 40s that has never been married. Maybe I'm old and things have changed but his view of the world is depressing.
I’m not sure if they ignored him. He said in one of his videos that he had dated many women in the past, even very attractive ones. It seems to me that he’s made a lot of experience but also mistakes. Now he wants to make profit out of it. But I totally agree on your points and see it the same. Glad that there are still normal people with morals around
@@leedlbagginshield8492 Hollywood is just honest about it. Everywhere else we try and pull the wool over our own eyes. And listen, I get why. I get it feels better to think there's soulmates and true love. But I'm not 19 anymore. And even then I was too old to be believing in that crap.
@@Bat-Georgi We are humans with a moral compass who can withhold our primal urges to an extend in order to live in a functional society. I live in a society where integrity, loyalty and love are still praised. There are cultures like this, you just have to get out more.
I relate to Eric's mom's story. Yes some women don't want to be a bread winner and at the same time a nurturer, caregiver and a servant . We need our men to support us not only financially but in all aspect of our lives in return some women knew how to reciprocate.
More and more men and women are sitting back and examining relationships and are moving towards the notion that “the work/effort/rewards better be split down the middle or I’m not bothering with it”. Now logically it makes sense to think like this but in reality, most relationships are quite a bit lopsided - one person puts in the most effort while getting less reward. Just imagine if our parents and grandparents had this mindset going into adulthood - very few would have bothered to get involved in a serious relationship .. I mean, if one goes into a relationship looking for everything to be split 50/50 then that relationship is doomed from the start
During the time of our parents and grandparents they were disciplined and responsible who knew their roles in the relationship. They knew how to initiate, they knew their duties and responsibilities in the relationship. Reciprocity is not always mean a strict 50/50 split . This day and age there are many women who earn more than men some are jobless. Though some men are house husband and the some women are the providers some relationship succeed on that set up but usually no. I think reciprocity is what we call trade-offs of energies, resources, skills, talents, gifts, expertise etc. etc. . That's the solution I can see so that man and woman will live HaPpilY ever after 😁😄
@@zensvlognotaproI grew up in a dysfunctional family that repeated toxic patterns of parentification passed down through generations. Just because families existed in the past doesn't mean they knew their roles and boundaries to a healthy degree.
@@vladimirkraynyk er ... How are you going to pay for food, for the house, for the kids education, for their cloth, for the health care, for familly trip, for the kids hobby, for the car,... Should i go on? Familly is about love, but you damn sur it's about money too
Sex before marriage creates an emotional bond which usually blinds both to flaws. But only good marriage, committed marriage which allows you to go deep, and grow to whom you could possibly become.
This story of Orion Taraban will ensure that men get women interested mainly in what they have to offer. There is no reason for any woman to stay devoted to a man of this mentality. He can switch from one to another if luchy he gets his soul mate.
2:20 - Google search results: California is not a “Common Law Marriage” state. CA abolished common law marriage in 1895. But Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Texas, Utah, and D.C. are Common Law states.
The idea that early man didn't realize that sex could lead to a birth is ridiculous. The example of this was literally shown to then every day in every animal around them
Also each of those people had parents & oral tradition. Of course people have different beliefs on that as far as whether we were given the ability of speech & original language at Creation or whether it all evolved in prior Hominin.
People in all kind of relationships fight about three underlying key groups of themes : -Power and Control -Closeness and Care -Respect and Recognition Wholesome relationships follow a circle of harmony, disharmony and repair.
So many youtube vids on this subject matter. Mostly geared towards lonely, desperate men. It just compounds the fact that a lot of men will be left out of the game.
How about we see each other as human beings with intrinsic value (ourselves included), and seek relationships where that value is mutually honored to the best understanding of both individuals.
It would be nice, but intrinsic value doesn't pay the bills, and every year, inflation climbs higher and higher in the world. This is why I blame the greedy elite people, that warp the economy to such an extent that the middle class is disappearing. A man's expectation in a relationship is to provide and protect, and how is he supposed to do that when the system at large is designed from the start to keep him poor and in financial debt? Women, who do not have any expectation revolving around money or power in a relationship, look at us men who have been neutered by inflation and dismiss us, in favor of a possible relationship with the 1%ers who run this world. They only want the BEST, right? That ain't us, and that's why we have started not even trying. Because of that sentiment, there is now a global birthrate collapse, as kids are just too expensive to raise, and most dads are the strong and able, not Mr. Average who cant even get noticed by a woman. The economy is to blame, and at the root of the economy problems, are the wealthiest 1%ers who don't care about making homes unaffordable, or not enough land to buy, because it is quite literally not their problem. They won't lose an ounce of sleep over the actions they did that screwed us all over, both directly and indirectly.
@@SoulConstruct You're on the exact right track my friend. Unchecked capitalism is the actual villain here but the wealth class can't have us realizing that so they pit us against each other. First they made black people the villan, then the jews, then communists, then queer folks, then immigrants, now it's the other gender. It always is and always will be a DISTRACTION.
@@SoulConstruct I'd rather pay my own bills and be with someone who respects me, or be destitute with someone who lifts my spirit. I'm not going to sell my life to an asshole who doesn't respect me and be miserable every day of my precious life. True wealth is a positive and optimistic relationship with oneself.
If they don't... they get in, get off, get out, and then ghost. Psychologically, it's a better relationship if they do pay. Even for them, unless the woman is outright abusive & ungrateful. It's been my experience (as a witness) that divorce is very bad for both parties involved... except for the attorneys. I stayed in my marriage twenty some odd years longer than I wanted to. But as a widow, I'm four times better off financially. I'd like to find love again, hopefully a more fulfilling one. But everyone my age who's capable of a relationship is already married. Divorced men are bitter, suspicious, & defensive. And younger, single men are either players, creeps, or intolerant of anyone who looks older than 25. I'm also paranoid as hell because I have a lot to protect & the world is full of hounds and wolverines. So, no dating aps for me. And unless someone near me gets wise, my only dates are going to be with cosmetic doctors... for a while. Love is not easy. It's a lot of work... regardless of your situation.
Yes, but these channels are for blue or purple pill men. Most wouldn't have seen redpill content like CGA. Most men who watch this still believe in the marriage dream, the one, ordained soulmate, MSM narratives of marriage and LTRs.
Dr. Taraban is spot-on in casually observing that women have become both a protected and empowered class - while men are neither….this has had a range of negative effects ( dating/marriage, employment, education, etc.)…..wish they had given this issue more time.
@teresamagnusson. No….it’s been pretty abysmal - for everybody….it’s led to many women being socialized/educated to be shallow, petulant, narcissistic, and materialistic….which is now leading to many men understandably walking away from relationships with women entirely…..which may then lead to societal breakdown (the low western birth rates, etc.)….it’s only “about time” if you’re looking forward to civilizational collapse.
@azar1520. Exactly…..it’s led to many women being educated/socialized to embrace a cultish philosophy of hate (recent waves of feminism) and become entitled, spoiled, narcissistic, and materialistic…..which ofcourse has led to increasing numbers of men to walk away from dating/marriage altogether.
Met my sweetheart when she was 18 , 40 years later still my sweetheart. We are equals and she fulfilled my dreams, and I never paid for sex, so your title is wrong...
You paid by opportunity cost. You could have had free sex with a lot of other women but your monogamy COST you. You still paid. I'm an economist. Trust me. You paid for sex.
@@Almneur Sir since you have no idea of who we are, and our relationship with each other than how can you make an absolute judgement of things? Did they teach you that everything boils down to money in economics classes and did you go to the Chicago boys for your education (Milton Freidman)? BTW I could have caught a whole lot of diseases for free, that is true:) If your wife is your best friend then you got something going. On our honeymoon I was young and dumb and climbed a narrow ledge on a Maine coast cliff. We reached a point where we could go no further unless I jumped up off the ledge and pulled the grass to get over the lip. I got stuck grasping the very short cut grass barely hanging on and could not pull myself up. I yelled for help, but the ocean noises drowned out my request. The lip my wife stood on was 13 " wide and had a drop of 40' to rocks and heavy waves crashing in below. I said to my wife and can't hold anymore just let me slide back and don't touch me. If my momentum keeps me moving out and down, then if you try to push me in your a very likely to fall with me. She didn't listen and pushed in as hard as she could, and we both almost went off together. Another time years later we had a 100' used microwave tower we installed from a 1 KW wind turbine. It did not have slip ring commutators, and the 3 wires twisted up and shorted coming from the 3-phase alternator. it was winter we were poor and needed the energy since we were off grid. So, on a cold windless day hard to find in upstate NY on top of a huge mountain I climbed the tower. Instead of just one wire needing repair I had to come down and buy a new 3 wire to replace. By the time I almost finished the repair the wind had picked up and i was strapped in but barely hanging on. My fingers became so cold I could not move them and could climb down. She yelled up the fire company can reach you. I said we are already barely financially making it (Different now we are actually quite well of now, our business ideas in the long run worked) I said do not call the fire company they will charge us money we didn't have. So against my firm request she climbed up the tower without any tie in ropes as I yelled get ropes and tie in as you go up. She yelled your freezing to death up there and darkness is almost here. Well, she climbed all the way up and gave me hand warmers and smacked then to activate them It was intense pain as my hands warmed and I could move my fingers some and we climbed down. I was not sick when I went up but had a high fever in the morning and got really sick. I had a certain amount of frost bite. So, guys there are women out there that when they love a man, they give their whole hearts to him. I am writing this since you often in life get what you think the reality is. If you think all women want your money chances are the women, you find will be that way.
You paid by time, a scarce asset of yours. You could have done something more productive or get richer or have better experiences but instead you just spent it with one person.
@@GH-uo9fy Your crystal ball you gaze into is hazy at best. You make assumptions about my wife and I. Experiences: we have been to Australia for 6 months. We went to India for 4 months doing philanthropy. And we are planning our next philanthropy going to Nepal for winter of 2026 helping out with orphans there. We have also made tons of documentary films together.
The healthiest long term relationship I ever knew was my best friend’s parents. They never believed in marriage; they were more Buddhist and spiritual, and very sure of themselves… they never felt the need to have the state validate their union, or require the attention of all their friends in a ceremony. Whereas most of the marriages I’ve known have failed, or appeared miserable from the outside. People can see marriage as a crutch: ‘there’s now a legal document that says you can’t leave me without a huge cost’, they think, as if it’s some kind of insurance. The reality is, it’s nothing of the sort. Husbands and wives get divorced as flippantly as boyfriends and girlfriends break up. In 2024, having a lasting relationship WITHOUT a marriage contract is more of an impressive feat than having a lasting marriage. It means you based your union on things other than a legal threat, hopefully things more profound like love or the raising of children. Be wise gents. Do not get married.
Legal marriage is for the protection of women and children. In the future, after the promiscuity experiment dies down, women won't risk being sexually active without it.
Im dumbfounded by the religion of marriage. People actually believe there's a magical gov't document or ceremony/party that imbues a magical quality of "Being Married".
@@ManDuderGuy Do you not understand the legal side of it? It was there to ensure paternity, inheritance, and responsibilities. It's the most basic institution of civilization. Without it, there is no civilization.
@@edheldude It's just unfortunate that it seems nowadays to have little or no power to keep people together and bring out their virtues. You have to have social norms/social pressure/social help for it to work as intended; and people so often abuse it now and use the legal side of it vindictively or harshly. It's like a trap as often as not.
I think that at the most basic, instinctive level men want beauty and women want money. However there is still someone for everyone. Some men don't have much money and some women aren't so beautiful.
There def has to be more because beauty and money fade. Marriage is life-long. We really need to consider other things before entering into something as serious as marriage.
Hello. The need for sex workers will probably never go away and I understand anyone who needs to have that intimacy and are able to get that in that way. It’s great to hear conversations about relationships. Can we get to a point where everyone gets what they want and need? Thanks for the video 😊💎
Humans are complicated. Likely, what you think of 'everyone' is everyone good. Not everyone is good. Not everyone has good wants and needs. So in short, no. We will never get to that point.
There has always been transaction and sacrifice. This is a no brainer..but most people in the world still somehow think that you can acquire something for nothing . Shit even god demands you sacrifice certain things to enter the kingdom. Nothing is free. All is transactional .
You do not need a “State Marriage License” in order to fall in Love and live together!❤ That is the State & Females vs the Man! Just fall in love and be together! That’s as natural as it gets! Our society and the rules we make up condemn you for not obeying those rules. “Oh look at so and so, they are living together and guess what, they are not married.” Keep the State out of it!! They want to control everything you do!! Write down your own marriage agreement on paper as a couple and call yourself married! You do not need a State Marriage License to call yourself married! Haven’t you found it odd how silent and different things become after people you knew growing up get married?! This is not normal! People sell their souls to the State! They fall in love and then they hand their lives over to the State, so the State can control them! People need to wake the up! The silence of the State Marriage License is beyond defining! You do not have to live like this! This info needs to be taught to high schools students, so they can make a better decision! Do you know how raging the State would become if everyone started to fall in love and opted out of the state marriage license!?! My guess is they would start to prosecute people and pass new laws. That’s how effed we are! They need to control the majority of society! More then anything, men need this information!! They become trapped financially to the State! Statistically this State License is not good for 50% of the nation. So if what I’m saying does not mean anything to you and all of your friends. Then congrats. But so many others suffer because of how the State entraps millions of men in our society! And this can be prevented if only people knew this information! 🟡And don’t give me the religious and christianity speech. There are plenty of Christians that get divorced! In fact I think it’s religious people who are the most trapped. They rush a marriage license in order to have sex. Because according to their beliefs, they cannot have sex outside of a marriage. So in order to have sex, they hurry the marriage license up fast, just to have sex. Then later on down the road, they find out that they made a bad decision. Then it’s off to getting a divorce. So then when they find someone new, they cannot have sex outside of marriage, so they quickly get that piece of paper from the state, so they can have sex again. It’s absolutely pathetic! That’s a life of misery! Keep the state out of it!! Find love and keep it between both of you and call it marriage!
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago . My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness , unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here.
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
Just a different perspective for you After abruptly ending a 2 1/2 year relationship myself in late 2022, it took me several months of similar feelings that you describe, until I got to a very special insight Perhaps it’s useful ? It has to do with the story we are telling about our life when we are with someone, especially as long as you were It’s the story we tell about who we are in the world with that person, what we’ve done and what we are currently doing and most, especially what we are planning for in the future Where we will live together, what we will do for fun, where we will travel, money concerns, family, etc. That story is so deep, and so entrenched, it seems like there can be no other story My insight, involved the realization that I had to step forward and create a new story for myself, from top to bottom In my case, I moved, to another state But that’s not really the most impactful thing It took over a year to consider carefully the story of my life, moving forward and who I am in the world and what I want to do I offer you this insight, perhaps it serves to cushion the blow a bit, and shed some much-needed light Good luck and take care:)
Where he says “the more she likes you, the more discount he gets.” Well I happened to LOVE my husband. He got 100% off,. He paid $0 for me, to me or because of me. It happens. That’s when you know SHE loves you. If you choose to accept any less, that’s on you.
I’d say the implicit “need” for marriage is still primarily held by people’s who’s religion requires them to be married for secs. Outside of that (hell, even dispite what’s said in the church) I’ve never heard the man in a marriage out right recommend it.
This guy is emotionally corrupt. Advising, encouraging women to become only Fans is wrong in every level. Theres nothing wrong with traditional marriage where both give and take and support each other. I dont like these two men here, nor any garbage a.s.s advise they give. These kinds of people are problem in today's society. .
If a woman is not willing to take the initial risk and only hitches a ride 15 years into the journey, only for the ships that are successful, then the ship has to be 15 years older. Either jump on a ship and sail as equals or jump on an older successful ship. Not play around for 15 years and then see which ship is successful and jump on that, because why would someone be rewarded for avoiding hardships?
If you wanna cheat and be non monogamous, then SAY THAT and allow the other person to do the same or have agency whether or not to stay with someone who is duplicitous. LYING is a character trait and includes cheating. If you think you have the right to do it then allow your partner that same thing or DONT Get married. Otherwise I’m very happy to see you get taken to the cleaners in divorce if the other spouse was loyal and faithful as agreed to and took the vow before God of their understanding
Problem is men and women don't have the same level of access to potential mates or suitors, so an open relationship where both parties can see others is automatically more unfair to the male. There is no such thing as "fair" in this life.
@@shin-ishikiri-no “fairness” has nothing to do with integrity or lack of honesty. The truth is these types of men (I don’t let women off the hook either) are trying to re-write the rules to make them justify their own behavior and ultimate immorality. The animals do this easily yes, but you are human & you are meant to have a conscience and evolve and have higher self awareness. If you want to be treated like a mere animal, however - that can always be arranged. Again: Don’t cheat if you want a faithful, committed marriage. It can’t be “one sided” Otherwise, just find another non-monogamous partner. All else is manipulation and ultimately destruction. Of course there’s no thrill in that is there- the ‘secret’ of it all is the adrenaline rush in many cases.
32:17 he may be correct about the origins of monogamy, but the romanticization and idealizing of monogamy has been further exacerbated in an unrealistic way via our movies and entertainment. In the same way that porn thwarts our realistic understanding and expectations about sex, romance movies thwarts our realistic understanding and expectations about relationships and all its complexities.
A man who work hard like a dog for many years, and eventually become rich, and then foolishly marry a woman without a premarital contract, will become as poor as a beggar once a divorce happen, as the court system sadistically impose a massive wealth transfer , from him to her, so he lives like a beggar for rest of his life, while she relax and live like a rich princess for rest of her life, after the divorce.
You're assuming the split is 50:50. In the case of a large wealth gap, the woman will get more than 50% especially if she contributed to little of that wealth. It's not unusual that in a very large gap, the woman may get 75%. Prenups provide limited protection. Most prenups for wealthy people go away after about 10 years which each year the woman gets more and more. Don't believe me? Go talk to a high level divorce lawyer.
Relax and live like a rich princess for the rest of her life?! 😂😂😂 You mean she got paid for all the lost hours of her life catering to you?! I'm sure you were a wonderful husband hence the thriving marriage. 😂 Awww...another man upset that he lost money...well, next time put a cap on it. Wife #2, about $2M cause she looks like she can only put up about $2M worth of this fine man! 😂😂😂
@@BossItUp911 I was laughing at @sammas2959 statement in regards to $50M. Guess my reply got under another person's post. Glad you didn't find it funny. Not here to make you laugh. Thanks.
Where is the heart and soul of this marriage equation? Yes, some women and men are totally transactional which would make marriage meaningless. However, he misses the biggest point of human intimacy that makes us human. Maybe he himself have intimacy issues 😅
What are you talking about? How many marriages in America are truly happy? Not they're staying together because they have children or one can't afford moving out or maybe some other reasons. I honestly, i think, truly people who are happy are people who never got married but 10 to years relationships.
Seriously we need this guy to figure this out lol. I’m 50 now and knew better to not get get married 25 years ago. Worst country in the world for a man to be in a relationship with a woman but is the best for women in the world. If you and a woman can live together with no common law marriage, go for it! If it doesn’t work out you just go your separate ways and lose nothing. That’s the nicest way I will say it.
This is exactly how I feel! Very well put! Marriage in the states is the most one sided, penalty stricken relationship a man can enter into. It is almost criminal what the state can require a man to do if he is divorced. And in a majority of these cases it is the woman who files on him.
Christian marriage calls for and requires each person to rise beyond self. Each gives up half of all they are to become this new person called "US." When 2 unite they are promising to uphold monogamy and eliminate selfishness and to seek the absolute best for each other's well-being. He says the State already has a contract for each marriage. No. The Christian contract is a promis to be faithful and put marriage above self to: each other, to God (Who created them, knows them intimately, and guided each to find the other) ,the minister, each member of the families involved, the church flock, and, ideally, the town, county, State, and the Nation. Only those promises are strong enough to ensure kindness, compassion, personal growth, stabiluty for chidren, snd the end of selfishness.
Why do rich and successful tall women over 50 have no chance of finding a man? For men, money leads to more value and getting older is not such a big deal. For women, being successful and making a lot of money is not something that increases their value. The currency for women is beauty and for men it's money. Can't we please stop talking about partnership as a business? It's terrible because there's no love.
It never seems to occur to men that women enjoy having their own money because of the freedom it brings. Women don't calculate everything they do according to what men find appealing.
0:04 doubt. I am average looking but I get plenty of dates and relationships with amazing people. Maybe develop an interesting personality and dont assume that looks alone can sustain interest?
"Girl Boss"is actively dying off. Historically, as times become tough, women start migrating towards men for protection and provisioning. We'll see alot more women in relationships as the U.S. economy continues to crash.
When, historically, could women support themselves financially? Look at South Korea, I think the opposite is happening. Women tend to be more risk averse and statistically there is nothing riskier to her literal life than partnering with a man. If the world is getting scarier, why would women seek out men that they don't need to survive?
They may go from the streets to relationships, but it's transactional still. Don't think that it's about love. It's about your assets for sexual availability until a better deal comes around.
@@ericbaxter3944 The most dangerous person in a woman's life is a male partner. There is absolutely zero incentive for an employed woman to seek a male partner for economic stability when she could seek something safer: other women. The 2nd amendment applies for women too so needing a man for protection isn't true either. It's become an "every person for themself" world out there. Women have responded by entering the workforce and making their own money, as well as doing all the stuff they did before. Men have not stepped up in kind by developing tedious domestic skills so they will continue to be left behind until they do. This starts with boys developing the proper expectations that they will not have access to free female labor indefinitely. This is why it is my opinion that the biggest threat to men's future is probably the "boy mom".
Today marriage is a horrible deal for men. 1/3 of marriages today are sexless. Why would you ever do that? It is better to just "Buy" what you want and keep the drama to a minimum.
It's worse for women. A lot more than 1/3 of women are physically and/or emotionally abused by their men. 'Married single mom' is so common, its a known term.... plus we have to worl fulltime AND are expected to be house wives too. There are *zero* benefits for women. My unpopular opinion is that women weren't allowed to work in the past because it was the only way they'd get married. If they have the choice they chose not to. That's what we're seeing today.
I would agree. As men get older his risk increases being in a relationship and reward diminishes. I would estimate 85% of people out there are incompatible in any type of relationship. The other 85% will never have that, so stop looking and go your own way. The sooner you realize that the better off you will be.
Am good, marriage is important. If you're insecure and broke then don't marry. I'd rather be moderately wealthy with a woman and children than incredibly wealthy alone accompanied by a bottle of Jack. Watch Citizen Kane folks
He's giving his cold logic as if it applied to all countries. In other countries, like the UK, divorcees do not walk away with half of your pre-marriage fortune. Generally speaking his loveless logic is unsettling. He says here he never plans to get married, and in other interviews he's said he basically just wants a partner who is attractive and for sex. What a guy. Is his partner happy?
We have optional prenups in America to protect pre marriage net worth, but money/property earned DURING a marriage is generally co-owned. Many people get most their wealth during a long marriage. I'm not sure most future spouses would agree to a "future earnings" clause.
No one in the U.S. walks away with their spouse's PRE-marriage fortune. They are only entitled to half the income/assets that were acquired during the marriage. There is also the option of having a prenup and deciding for yourselves how you will divide things in the event of a divorce. As long as all conditions for legality are met, there is no getting out of the prenup.
ok, he lost me at ' there's definitely some double standards when it comes to men and women. they are never going to go away. we should just sort of accept them.' so easy for men to say because they benefit from those double standards! I call total BS on that.
Women used to raise children with other women because we anticipate the needs of one another a lot of men can’t do that, they want to be told what to do. Men aren’t nurturing and aren’t very helpful in heterosexual relationships with child rearing that’s why they were given the job of “provider and protector”. We need another set up because the one we have isn’t working, we need community again.
In reality it is the exact opposite: since women were useless in hunting, they were forced to take the other load in way easier tasks like gathering and taking care of kids/home. But don't let it be twisted, the fact that mostly women have been doing something doesn't mean that they are better at it. It only means that men had more important tasks that needed to be prioritized. But now in the modern societybwe have had enough statistics to compare the performance of single dads vs. moms. And the results are absolutely ugly. It has been shown clear as day that single moms are attrocious at that job, while single dads are great. There is no debate about that anymore, the issue has been settled.
@@MachoMasteralmost half of the hunters were women. And the stats you mention only indicate class. It’s only when the mother is p88r. Single fathers only take their children if they are financially well to do, and are a very small demographic.
You can thank “Family Courts” for creating the financial incentive for wives to divorce their husbands. When the wife can take 50% of his net worth, plus the kids, plus alimony, plus child support, in a “no fault divorce” state; “marriage” no longer actually exists at all.
3 states allow new common law marriages and 1 only recognizes for the sole purpose of probate, i.e. death. Others states recognize CL marriages but don't allow new ones.
The mistake in his attitude is that he doesn't consider pregnancy, caring for everyone, supporting the husband's career, etc. as work. Many men don't know how much work it is to raise children. They buy not only sex, but the whole emotional nest, the need to survive all the battles they are in every day. I think men are completely lost without women. But it's not the other way around. Men are much more dependent on women because they need them not only for sex but also for emotions.
Of course he's ignorant about the physical demands and risks of pregnancy and childbirth along with the work of bringing up children. He has no experience.
This is my answer to the guy below: Sir since you have no idea of who we are, and our relationship with each other than how can you make an absolute judgement of things? Did they teach you that everything boils down to money in economics classes and did you go to the Chicago boys for your education (Milton Freidman)? BTW I could have caught a whole lot of diseases for free, that is true:) If your wife is your best friend then you got something going. On our honeymoon I was young and dumb and climbed a narrow ledge on a Maine coast cliff. We reached a point where we could go no further unless I jumped up off the ledge and pulled the grass to get over the lip. I got stuck grasping the very short cut grass barely hanging on and could not pull myself up. I yelled for help, but the ocean noises drowned out my request. The lip my wife stood on was 13 " wide and had a drop of 40' to rocks and heavy waves crashing in below. I said to my wife and can't hold anymore just let me slide back and don't touch me. If my momentum keeps me moving out and down, then if you try to push me in your a very likely to fall with me. She didn't listen and pushed in as hard as she could, and we both almost went off together. Another time years later we had a 100' used microwave tower we installed from a 1 KW wind turbine. It did not have slip ring commutators, and the 3 wires twisted up and shorted coming from the 3-phase alternator. it was winter we were poor and needed the energy since we were off grid. So, on a cold windless day hard to find in upstate NY on top of a huge mountain I climbed the tower. Instead of just one wire needing repair I had to come down and buy a new 3 wire to replace. By the time I almost finished the repair the wind had picked up and i was strapped in but barely hanging on. My fingers became so cold I could not move them and could climb down. She yelled up the fire company can reach you. I said we are already barely financially making it (Different now we are actually quite well of now, our business ideas in the long run worked) I said do not call the fire company they will charge us money we didn't have. So against my firm request she climbed up the tower without any tie in ropes as I yelled get ropes and tie in as you go up. She yelled your freezing to death up there and darkness is almost here. Well, she climbed all the way up and gave me hand warmers and smacked then to activate them It was intense pain as my hands warmed and I could move my fingers some and we climbed down. I was not sick when I went up but had a high fever in the morning and got really sick. I had a certain amount of frost bite. So, guys there are women out there that when they love a man, they give their whole hearts to him. I am writing this since you often in life get what you think the reality is. If you think all women want your money chances are the women, you find will be that way.
@ggghahamega4639 Upon divorce (which women initiate 80% of the time), women are often rewarded with alimony and if there are children, full/majority custody and child support.
@@jenster29 Then why do women initiate 70-80% of divorces? By 2030, women in the USA are projected to own two thirds of all the personal wealth in the country. Women are also the largest beneficiaries of the current transfer of wealth. Source of wealth? Divorce lol
Dating wasn't a thing until 1896. Before that there was Courting and Dowry marriages and honestly we need to go back to those ways of getting a partner
I dislike this man. Anything can be beautiful or ugly depending on how you VALUE it. On how much you put in it your best qualities and try to make it beautiful. That's the whole purpose of life, not only marriage. And this man is cinical to his core, and quite devil to me in "educating men" in being selfish.
Men should wake up and realize that marriage does not bring any benefits at all, unless if u have a 100% water tight premarital agreement , but u still need to pray and hope the judge dont throw out your premarital agreement , just because he was in a bad mood that day. Safer to simply remain single than put your whole life’s financial future on the decision of a judge . Just have many many girlfriends (10 to 50 girlfriends in various countries all over the world ) would be a smarter way
The major exception is if there is something bad that happens in your life. If you get hurt/injured/ill, your wife is there for you; your mistress or one of your several girlfriends aren’t gonna drive you home from surgery, hold your hand during chemo, or bring you water and soup. Other things as well…if you get fired, lose a family member or friend to death, or experience any sort of tragic life thing… a spouse has signed up to be by your side in a way others of less commitment are not. 🤷♀️
@@alpagorinot when you have a modern spouse. She will leave if life throws you a curve ball. After all, your mis mishap is not what she signed up for. Save your money for a rainy day and outsource any of your healthcare needs
@@azman3292 Aw gosh I guess you’re right. I had the assumption of a loving, highly committed sort of wife. But I guess there are those out there who are “fair weather wives,” who may leave when things get tough. (And there are other wives that no matter how bad things get nor how badly they are treated, they keep fighting for the marriage.) It’s sort of wild how wide the spectrum is when it comes to how committed people are to their spouses.
I've watched several interviews with Orion Taraban (he's become one of my favorite YT personalities as of late). This is one of the better interviews with him. Good stuff.
People become more vulnerable and needy and less attractive as they age or if they fall ill at any age. AlFor this reason anyone with a transactional view of relationships like Dr. Taraban will fail to sustain a marriage because it is selfish and exploitative and treats people as objects to be utilised.
People become more vulnerable and needy and less attractive as they age or if they fall ill at any age. For this reason, anyone with a transactional view of relationships like Dr. Taraban will fail to sustain a marriage because it is selfish and exploitative and treats people as objects to be utilised.
Orion Taraban's channel and his book are invaluable in understanding the true dynamics of relationships. He is incredible!
Dont cry if you abandoned your family
Seems like a very dark triad. Run.
don’t get it twisted… Dating has predominantly a western culture thing. in most eastern cultures there is courting. which means you have expectations and hard ins and outs before marriage. dating in the west has become based on feelings and expectations without any real significance. i’ve seen and met so many couples that have been ‘dating’ for 15 years or more… common law marriage is an example of this as well
So many people in the US have no idea about purpose & meaning in life. Beautiful smart people are often the ones most confused.
They need to be encouraged to believe in their nobility & the potential of their offspring rather than treating life as petty comfort seeking.
So i checked and differentiated the two definitions. How do you court when both of you haven’t dated? Everyone needs to go through dating before courting, unless you are referring to the arranged marriage, that modern Eastern culture is not common any more.
You are wrong
@@Arquebusier89 At least in China, women are expected to be virgins before getting married, that being said if you dated for fun before you meet the love of your life, you most likely already lost your purity as a value. However, in 21 century, there has been heated arguments about it raised by feminists, especially those well educated single women over 30s. Basically, they read plenty of romance novels and watched tons of American movies or TV shows when they were accumulating their life experiences in 20s, and expecting an attractive male to fall in love with. But the reality is most of the man in their life is not enough for them anymore. I can see a future in the eastern countries where without the religious belief, the dating culture is becoming more popular. Nowadays, girls are expecting to have a relationship first in college, and get married with the same person is the best case scenario.
@@mattvalensFeminism exists in China as well. Bro, travel, explore the world bc your opinion is a reflection of how ignorant you are on this topic
@@cheesewithxbread Please be aware that I never said feminism doesn’t exist there. And by the way, where do you recommend me to travel to?
When 2 people stop using each other for their own benefit is when you can have a REAL, true, honest, and mutually fulfilling relationship. Until we can see relationship as a mutual giving, instead of a mutual taking, we will never experience a true connection with another human being. And this is why people are so lost and unhappy; it's that simple! I mean, how can you be fulfilled if you only look at people like a transaction where you're trying to get the best deal.
Men who stop giving, will stop receiving!
That would take maturity.
one of the best comments i read in this week
What's missing in this conversion is morals, which applies to men and women equally.
What is missing is this is just 1 of the 7 signs of the end of an empire.
Moral is wishful thinking. I prefer to know, why people act, Not how they should act according to moral standards.
@ No moral compass. Must be a great world 🌍
The interviewer is spilling the beans on folks he knows. 😂 Those close to him must have listened to this whole session with anxiety like they were hearing their names in Eminem diss track
Ya no. 1/2 the stuff he says was just throwing sh$t at a wall to see if it sticks. Not well researched.
@@36handysimp
Covert snitch honestly
99 18:35 18:37 18:38 @@36handy
The interviewer is a weasel you can tell
It's been three years since I retired, and while inflation has made it tough to maintain my lifestyle, especially when I was living in the city. relocating to the countryside has helped me manage things better. Being single again, it’s been a bit lonely since most of my friends and family are still caught up in their routines. But it's been easier to stretch my savings, and hopefully, I won’t outlive it.
I’m nearing retirement myself, and I had similar concerns. I started investing later than most, and just relying on ETF compounding wasn’t cutting it for me. After working with a financial advisor, I managed to restructure my investments and am now on track to retire with around $4 million. If I hadn’t sought advice, I doubt I’d be as confident in my plan right now
I’m trying to figure out the best approach for my portfolio. How did you find your advisor? I feel like I need that kind of guidance
I usually steer clear of recommending specific people because financial needs are so personal. But I can say that working with Emily Ava Milligan has made a world of difference for me. I noticed her strategies are tailored to fit personal goals and make sense for different needs. It might be worth exploring to see if her approach resonates with you
Thanks for that. I did a quick search and found her page. I was able to email so I sent over a few questions to get more info. Appreciate you sharing
Retirement! Already on top of it and without marriage and kids. Marriage in the states in 2024? Don't make me laugh.
Marriage is in part self sacrifice for the future of your child and by extension the human race. People have become selfish and are trying to have a "Game optimal" strategy, like what you dive into inside your book.
However, without cooperation and kindness, its really not a good human experience. And people who only see how to improve their end of the agreement will never be truly at peace.
Totally, well said. This is why it is important to marry an equal, a best friend, someone with the same life project.
@@ileanamuntean7338exactly, or either don’t bother getting married.
The dynamics of a relationship don't just need to benefit offspring. The dynamics need to be consistent with human nature.
Correct, people need to stop focusing on what they can get and focus on what they can mutually give in a relationship. That's the only road to a satisfying life.
Well said. ❤
“At the end of the day, It’s all paid for "
Comparing supporting and caring for your wife to paying a prostitute is absolutely insane
No. It is and has always been like that. ;)
@@andersnielsen6044 You‘re simply wrong.
@@itninvestigate And you just stay in your illusions..
It's insane that this guy compares the two.
He's just highlighting the essence of relationships to men, it doesn't mean it is mutually exclusive to romance and all the good human virtues to nurture (BTW VIRTUE GOES BOTH SIDES THAT'S THE THING). But western women need to be brought back to their A's and B's. It's like Molière had temporary amnesia and forgot the rules of grammar. To fight and make realize the fundamental disillusion on the other side, fundamentality of argument is the only valid argument. E.g. in a dystopic world where we destroyed environnement we are still debating about clean energy solutions where the debate lies in the fact that we tapped into the finite growth of our world due to a disillusion of infinite growth, don't get me wrong, clean energy serves to optimize our use of energy and is the important/cool battle in time of peace. but when we reach the wall we need to accept the MORE low level TRUTH that what's the point of consuming 2x less energy through bright solutions if greed tells us to consume 2x more energy following the newfound abundance? The problem is climate change deniers and ppl not even accepting the most fundamental truth that our planet is finite in resources, because greed can then be negociated as it should, then, but you can't get there if you deny the facts. See, women reached a point of social utter blindness where they reached TOTAL disillusion without any counter balance to their emotional greed. Where they project their nature onto men and in the process disallowing them to appreciate men for the invisible battles they vanquish out of sheer good heart and humility. Women need to be humbled without white gloves. As you proved with your total unopenness to a different reality men face that you expect out of entitlement, rejecting elemental truth and acceptance because it rubs you the wrong way. Ask your grandmother if she thinks sex is something demeaning or gives her purpose and power (and with power comes duty, only if you realize it) as a woman who has the monopoly over this thing of primordial importance for men (literally like food for us, you can't judge us by transposing YOUR biological imperatives on us, that's literally the definition of intolerance or colonialism, like not accepting gay rights because it feels gross or unnatural to you). GROW UP BABIES.
All so transactional. I genuinely don’t understand any of this. I met my wife, we fell in love, we’re each other’s best friend, end of. We have two beautiful children. We’ve had our difficulties, like all couples but it’s still us, back to back against the world.
Different world 40 years ago.
Your relationship is transactional. If you didn't provide what your wife wanted/needed, she would've been gone long ago, and vice versa.
@@Neoquaker1 I am talking in purely financial terms.
As the good doctor explained in a separate video, if a relationship works real good, it's transactional nature disappears in the background. So congrats to you both to make it work to that extent.
You don't understand any of this because these two have it backwards. I want to see what they have to say in 10 - 15 years.
Challenges in relationships are part of the journey, but there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage had significant hurdles, but with the right help, my wife and I overcame them and grew stronger. With effort and cooperation, solutions can be found. Keep your hope-solutions are within reach....
I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I appreciate your direction. I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.
I promise you will not regret it
that sounds like going into debt and then working really hard to get yourself out of it.
When the best solution is to not get into debt in the first place
As soon as you " have a spiritual connection" to someone who is your true soul mate you're married in God's Sight! After you have laid down with one person for the first time either it was a mistake... or it's the right person... If you have Morals you know! I'm 63 and I have only been with 2 women in my life!
The first time I was a teenager and was coerced by my older brothers and I didn't know what I was, doing. The second time I knew it was right and we married and stayed together for 30 years until she passed on.
"God's Sight!"
Which god ?!!
There are so many.
Solomon had 500 wives and god was all-OK with that.
BS
Wanted to share this: I have been married twice. Both marriages have been good marriages. The first marriage lasted almost 3 decades. At the 25 year mark our kids through us an awesome marriage celebration!! All of our friends and family came. Two years later the marriage ended once the kids left home. It was very hard but it was ultimately for the best. My second marriage has been amazing and we are working towards a decade now! I have plans for us to have an awesome celebration at our 25th. It’s different than our society but I actually think it’s more meaningful.
Happy for you
Did the wife call it quits after the kids left or was it you?
@@Alex.Kalashnik you probably won’t be surprised to know that it was her. In three decades a lot can happen. Neither of us did anything that would make for juicy gossip. I asked her to marry me when she was 18 and I was 21. We put each other through both college and graduate school after we both finished years of being in the military. We were always great friends and were occasionally passionate lovers. When our youngest child finished college she simply had enough. She wanted a different life and she got it. I wanted more of what we had with some upgrades. Long story short, I married a similar woman a decade younger who is frankly smarter and definitely better looking. I never strayed in my first marriage, but I always knew I had options. When my first wife called it quits a mutual friend asked me out on the spot and we’ve been together ever since. My first wife even admitted that the second wife was a better fit for me. My kids love her and encouraged the relationship from the beginning. The first wife is now married to a nice guy that is more her speed. I’m happy for her. It took her a few years to find him and it was tough for her until she did.
So, all the uggos will have to find each other, or be alone, or pay for companionship?
@@mykewilliamsdorsey2727 It’s sad, but I guess it worked out in the end. And yes, I am not surprised it was her that called it quits.
I don't pay, my wife earns the same as me, I had no assets before the marriage & we both have a personal hatred of divorce.
You pay the most… time
Who has to take care of the transmission fluid change in the minivan that she drives? Who has to get the raccoon out of the attic? Who has to be the one that drives in the snowstorm after pumping their own gas when you're both going somewhere?
@@Dexian-j9mpure cringe examples 😂😂😂
Godspeed to you, sir. Hope it's real enough for the both of you.
She's investing time as well, so what's your point, 🤦♀️
30 yrs ago I used to believe when you want to enter marriage you get to find a ""good deal "" ( because the society taught us so ) . After 30 yrs of marriage and difficult life (most of the time struggling with all kinds of difficulties in life )，I have to say , marriage is about love , not about a good deal .
You need to get through the difficulties together to build true love . True love doesn't just fall from the sky . Relationship is like the wine , the older it gets , the more mature it becomes.
If you would like to take advice , I would recommend you go through it and skip all these nonsense videos . If you believe you're going to fail (in marriage, love , relationship .... even in life ) even before you enter it , how can you ever succeed ?
The proverb: "work of faith ,labor of love , endurance of hope" says it all . And I wish all of you there find your soulmate and live a great life.
👏👏👏
It would be good if both stay faithful, or at the very least don’t get caught
It’s not often i can’t find anything to disagree with. People need to be more realistically about relationships. Saving this video because it’s gold.
This is why I tell men, if she's "charging you" making you jump through hoops, putting you through all these simulations, don't even bother with her. Trust and believe she IS giving it up for free to some other dude
Nope. I make them ALL pay and work for it lol
@@ChloeLayneXO he's talking majority of woman a high probability
@@priincelegiit nope that's just what men like to think
If you can't afford to pay for a plate of food for a woman you want,then you can't afford to date.
-Steve Harvey
@@ChloeLayneXOMeans you’ve never been with a man you had genuine burning desire for. All your men were beta in your eyes.
On today's transactional scope, men seek a woman like they look for a used car which they could settle it as a reliable ride for years, while modern women seek the latest model as a lease, looking foward for its new line to exchange it.
Boohoo. Marriage serves no purpose to women. If they're gonna do it, there has to be a benefit
That is solved by being a person of honor and marrying one as well.
@@jenster29 Good Luck, looking after your Jon Snow 😂.
@jenster29 and therein lies the problem. They're looking to benefit rather than being there for their husband. Marriage was never about you, it's about the other person. Men haven't lost sight of this, but women for the most part have.
@@jenster29 Marriage is _for the children!_ Why is it hard to understand that?
It you are a young man and you want to build a family which gives you a support system, progeny and a family legacy you have to learn how women and relationships work and then choose wisely.
"Love" is a real thing that can last a lifetime and keep you going when things don't make sense at the moment so don't dismiss or discount it.
I think to be a "Man" in the finest sense of the word you need to find a woman who will give you fidelity, children and support.
Personally, I have been married for 45 years, had an exciting life of accomplishment and experiences, and raised two productive contributing adults and created a significant estate. My wife contributed to this in no small way. This was always my goal and I feel satisfied that I have achieved it.
I post this to illustrate that marriage if entered into with an informed, mature and reasoned attitude can yield a positive result .
If I was to become single I would not get married again because there is no point in it. Without children, marriage is too great a risk relative to potential rewards.
Well written Sir!
I think to be a "Man" in the finest sense of the word you need to find a woman who will give you fidelity, children and support. well said 💥💥💥💥
Dr. Orion Taraban is the man.
what do you thunk how is his height?
@@matthiasfinken79845’11””?
@@matthiasfinken7984eh?
He is just cashing in from Red Pill losers. Thats it.
@@RealHomeRecording what do you think how tall he is?
Hookers and John’s have the most honest relationship
Relations. Not relationships. And some of the sx workrs are being trafficked, not freewill.
@@natashadickson4819
Business relationship/relations
@@natashadickson4819 legalize it. The Goverment is loosing on taxes
@@natashadickson4819some, but not all. They proudly go into that kind of work.
Exceptions do not disprove the rule. Andrew Tate
The beginning of dating/courting should be business-like. No reason to get attached and invested in the wrong person for you. Meeting family and people that love you should happen early too unless they take the relationship seriously too soon causing pressure to speed things up too fast.
Basically this guys views on women is shaped by the fact that he was rejected by women when he was younger and now they only want him for his money. I find him extremely cynical. He objectifies both men and women by describing all relationships as transactional. It doesn't seem like he has ever experienced a deep, emotionally satisfying relationship. Maybe I have a hard time accepting relationship advice from someone in their 40s that has never been married. Maybe I'm old and things have changed but his view of the world is depressing.
idk how you found the door to the Disney dimension but over here in the real world....yeah, it's all transactional.
I’m not sure if they ignored him. He said in one of his videos that he had dated many women in the past, even very attractive ones. It seems to me that he’s made a lot of experience but also mistakes. Now he wants to make profit out of it. But I totally agree on your points and see it the same. Glad that there are still normal people with morals around
@@Bat-GeorgiTo an extend, yes. But not fully. At least in some cultures of societies. If you live in Hollywood, then it’s 100% transactional
@@leedlbagginshield8492 Hollywood is just honest about it. Everywhere else we try and pull the wool over our own eyes. And listen, I get why. I get it feels better to think there's soulmates and true love. But I'm not 19 anymore. And even then I was too old to be believing in that crap.
@@Bat-Georgi We are humans with a moral compass who can withhold our primal urges to an extend in order to live in a functional society. I live in a society where integrity, loyalty and love are still praised. There are cultures like this, you just have to get out more.
I relate to Eric's mom's story. Yes some women don't want to be a bread winner and at the same time a nurturer, caregiver and a servant . We need our men to support us not only financially but in all aspect of our lives in return some women knew how to reciprocate.
More and more men and women are sitting back and examining relationships and are moving towards the notion that “the work/effort/rewards better be split down the middle or I’m not bothering with it”. Now logically it makes sense to think like this but in reality, most relationships are quite a bit lopsided - one person puts in the most effort while getting less reward. Just imagine if our parents and grandparents had this mindset going into adulthood - very few would have bothered to get involved in a serious relationship .. I mean, if one goes into a relationship looking for everything to be split 50/50 then that relationship is doomed from the start
During the time of our parents and grandparents they were disciplined and responsible who knew their roles in the relationship. They knew how to initiate, they knew their duties and responsibilities in the relationship. Reciprocity is not always mean a strict 50/50 split .
This day and age there are many women who earn more than men some are jobless. Though some men are house husband and the some women are the providers some relationship succeed on that set up but usually no.
I think reciprocity is what we call trade-offs of energies, resources, skills, talents, gifts, expertise etc. etc. . That's the solution I can see so that man and woman will live HaPpilY ever after 😁😄
@@zensvlognotaproI grew up in a dysfunctional family that repeated toxic patterns of parentification passed down through generations. Just because families existed in the past doesn't mean they knew their roles and boundaries to a healthy degree.
Marriage is worthless unless you are going to have a family and even that is all about money
If your family is all about money I feel genuinely sorry for you
@@vladimirkraynyk er ...
How are you going to pay for food, for the house, for the kids education, for their cloth, for the health care, for familly trip, for the kids hobby, for the car,...
Should i go on?
Familly is about love, but you damn sur it's about money too
Sex before marriage creates an emotional bond which usually blinds both to flaws.
But only good marriage, committed marriage which allows you to go deep, and grow to whom you could possibly become.
Marriage is purely an artificial construct by/of humans
Articulates himself so well. Clear and concise red pills without the controversy. I will be buying his book.
Red pill -- that's what Orion is all about. But doesn't own up to that particular nomenclature. But, essentially red pill.
Holy Shit, CUT BACK ON THE ADS! I can't fucking stay engaged with your fucking content.
UA-cam Premium is the answer. I haven't seen an ad in years
@@coreykleinman7902 how much is it? Sounds like a scam honestly. Artificially flooding audiences ads to create a need to pay.
This story of Orion Taraban will ensure that men get women interested mainly in what they have to offer. There is no reason for any woman to stay devoted to a man of this mentality. He can switch from one to another if luchy he gets his soul mate.
I mean most divorces happen for financial reasons. And women jump the boat more than men.
2:20 - Google search results: California is not a “Common Law Marriage” state. CA abolished common law marriage in 1895. But Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Texas, Utah, and D.C. are Common Law states.
Marriage is the only contract in law that you can break based on how you feel.
The Greatest scam on Earth that proves that the system is working
The idea that early man didn't realize that sex could lead to a birth is ridiculous. The example of this was literally shown to then every day in every animal around them
Also each of those people had parents & oral tradition. Of course people have different beliefs on that as far as whether we were given the ability of speech & original language at Creation or whether it all evolved in prior Hominin.
Just imagine when the first baby was birthed - just imagine what the parents were thinking. Oh wait, the parents wouldn’t exist . Hmmm
In fact, pregnancy was a bit of a mistery and supernatural in early days of mankind
@@suzanaandrade2125said no actual scientists ever...did your crystals tell you that or was it your horoscope.
@@chitychitybangbang2823 didn't you have Mitholiogy or Filosophy in school? Jeeezzz
To the point of the end of the interview, men cheat, Women betray.
Take your time to process that.
Betrayal is a violation of trust and cheating is a betrayal of a partners trust...betrayal doesn't involve a partner and cheating does
There's nothing to process. Cheating is a betrayal.
Cheat is betray pattern 😂
Cheating is a choice after a betrayal.
Like life, it's never that simple.
People in all kind of relationships fight about three underlying key groups of themes :
-Power and Control
-Closeness and Care
-Respect and Recognition
Wholesome relationships follow a circle of harmony, disharmony and repair.
So many youtube vids on this subject matter. Mostly geared towards lonely, desperate men. It just compounds the fact that a lot of men will be left out of the game.
How about we see each other as human beings with intrinsic value (ourselves included), and seek relationships where that value is mutually honored to the best understanding of both individuals.
It would be nice, but intrinsic value doesn't pay the bills, and every year, inflation climbs higher and higher in the world.
This is why I blame the greedy elite people, that warp the economy to such an extent that the middle class is disappearing. A man's expectation in a relationship is to provide and protect, and how is he supposed to do that when the system at large is designed from the start to keep him poor and in financial debt? Women, who do not have any expectation revolving around money or power in a relationship, look at us men who have been neutered by inflation and dismiss us, in favor of a possible relationship with the 1%ers who run this world. They only want the BEST, right? That ain't us, and that's why we have started not even trying.
Because of that sentiment, there is now a global birthrate collapse, as kids are just too expensive to raise, and most dads are the strong and able, not Mr. Average who cant even get noticed by a woman.
The economy is to blame, and at the root of the economy problems, are the wealthiest 1%ers who don't care about making homes unaffordable, or not enough land to buy, because it is quite literally not their problem. They won't lose an ounce of sleep over the actions they did that screwed us all over, both directly and indirectly.
@@SoulConstruct You're on the exact right track my friend. Unchecked capitalism is the actual villain here but the wealth class can't have us realizing that so they pit us against each other. First they made black people the villan, then the jews, then communists, then queer folks, then immigrants, now it's the other gender. It always is and always will be a DISTRACTION.
@@SoulConstruct I'd rather pay my own bills and be with someone who respects me, or be destitute with someone who lifts my spirit. I'm not going to sell my life to an asshole who doesn't respect me and be miserable every day of my precious life. True wealth is a positive and optimistic relationship with oneself.
Let me know the date and time you are leaving for that Multiverse as I want to go too. Lol
Exactly THIS!! I’m not engaging with people playing all of these shallow games.
I'm a girl who looks good and never considered an only fans or showing off my body for money wtf. Integrity is something.
Different strokes for different folks.
okay then what's your ig?
@@businessmanager7670😅😅😅
who told you that you look good? prove it
Rare
“All men pay for sex” is a Coach Greg Adam’s quote
If they don't... they get in, get off, get out, and then ghost. Psychologically, it's a better relationship if they do pay. Even for them, unless the woman is outright abusive & ungrateful. It's been my experience (as a witness) that divorce is very bad for both parties involved... except for the attorneys. I stayed in my marriage twenty some odd years longer than I wanted to. But as a widow, I'm four times better off financially. I'd like to find love again, hopefully a more fulfilling one. But everyone my age who's capable of a relationship is already married. Divorced men are bitter, suspicious, & defensive. And younger, single men are either players, creeps, or intolerant of anyone who looks older than 25. I'm also paranoid as hell because I have a lot to protect & the world is full of hounds and wolverines. So, no dating aps for me. And unless someone near me gets wise, my only dates are going to be with cosmetic doctors... for a while. Love is not easy. It's a lot of work... regardless of your situation.
Based. That's reality
He wrote a book plus he wrote a video.
Yes, but these channels are for blue or purple pill men. Most wouldn't have seen redpill content like CGA. Most men who watch this still believe in the marriage dream, the one, ordained soulmate, MSM narratives of marriage and LTRs.
Most men watching this are bluepill or purple pill. They still believe in MSM and cultural narratives of marriage, and women and men's trad con roles.
Dr. Taraban is spot-on in casually observing that women have become both a protected and empowered class - while men are neither….this has had a range of negative effects ( dating/marriage, employment, education, etc.)…..wish they had given this issue more time.
It's actually really great to be both protected and empowered. It's about time.
@@teresamagnusson
It is leading to female corruption
@teresamagnusson. No….it’s been pretty abysmal - for everybody….it’s led to many women being socialized/educated to be shallow, petulant, narcissistic, and materialistic….which is now leading to many men understandably walking away from relationships with women entirely…..which may then lead to societal breakdown (the low western birth rates, etc.)….it’s only “about time” if you’re looking forward to civilizational collapse.
@azar1520. Exactly…..it’s led to many women being educated/socialized to embrace a cultish philosophy of hate (recent waves of feminism) and become entitled, spoiled, narcissistic, and materialistic…..which ofcourse has led to increasing numbers of men to walk away from dating/marriage altogether.
@@azar1520Too bad, so sad.
His advice is solid. He tells the truth no fluff and not distilled to female acceptance. Honest advice.
Myron tells more truth.
@@zenden6564 agree. Ryan says in it a more polished way. But yes correct.
Met my sweetheart when she was 18 , 40 years later still my sweetheart. We are equals and she fulfilled my dreams, and I never paid for sex, so your title is wrong...
You paid by opportunity cost. You could have had free sex with a lot of other women but your monogamy COST you. You still paid. I'm an economist. Trust me. You paid for sex.
@@Almneur Sir since you have no idea of who we are, and our relationship with each other than how can you make an absolute judgement of things? Did they teach you that everything boils down to money in economics classes and did you go to the Chicago boys for your education (Milton Freidman)? BTW I could have caught a whole lot of diseases for free, that is true:) If your wife is your best friend then you got something going. On our honeymoon I was young and dumb and climbed a narrow ledge on a Maine coast cliff. We reached a point where we could go no further unless I jumped up off the ledge and pulled the grass to get over the lip. I got stuck grasping the very short cut grass barely hanging on and could not pull myself up. I yelled for help, but the ocean noises drowned out my request. The lip my wife stood on was 13 " wide and had a drop of 40' to rocks and heavy waves crashing in below. I said to my wife and can't hold anymore just let me slide back and don't touch me. If my momentum keeps me moving out and down, then if you try to push me in your a very likely to fall with me. She didn't listen and pushed in as hard as she could, and we both almost went off together. Another time years later we had a 100' used microwave tower we installed from a 1 KW wind turbine. It did not have slip ring commutators, and the 3 wires twisted up and shorted coming from the 3-phase alternator. it was winter we were poor and needed the energy since we were off grid. So, on a cold windless day hard to find in upstate NY on top of a huge mountain I climbed the tower. Instead of just one wire needing repair I had to come down and buy a new 3 wire to replace. By the time I almost finished the repair the wind had picked up and i was strapped in but barely hanging on. My fingers became so cold I could not move them and could climb down. She yelled up the fire company can reach you. I said we are already barely financially making it (Different now we are actually quite well of now, our business ideas in the long run worked) I said do not call the fire company they will charge us money we didn't have. So against my firm request she climbed up the tower without any tie in ropes as I yelled get ropes and tie in as you go up. She yelled your freezing to death up there and darkness is almost here. Well, she climbed all the way up and gave me hand warmers and smacked then to activate them It was intense pain as my hands warmed and I could move my fingers some and we climbed down. I was not sick when I went up but had a high fever in the morning and got really sick. I had a certain amount of frost bite. So, guys there are women out there that when they love a man, they give their whole hearts to him. I am writing this since you often in life get what you think the reality is. If you think all women want your money chances are the women, you find will be that way.
You paid by time, a scarce asset of yours. You could have done something more productive or get richer or have better experiences but instead you just spent it with one person.
@@GH-uo9fy Your crystal ball you gaze into is hazy at best. You make assumptions about my wife and I. Experiences: we have been to Australia for 6 months. We went to India for 4 months doing philanthropy. And we are planning our next philanthropy going to Nepal for winter of 2026 helping out with orphans there. We have also made tons of documentary films together.
The healthiest long term relationship I ever knew was my best friend’s parents. They never believed in marriage; they were more Buddhist and spiritual, and very sure of themselves… they never felt the need to have the state validate their union, or require the attention of all their friends in a ceremony.
Whereas most of the marriages I’ve known have failed, or appeared miserable from the outside.
People can see marriage as a crutch: ‘there’s now a legal document that says you can’t leave me without a huge cost’, they think, as if it’s some kind of insurance.
The reality is, it’s nothing of the sort. Husbands and wives get divorced as flippantly as boyfriends and girlfriends break up.
In 2024, having a lasting relationship WITHOUT a marriage contract is more of an impressive feat than having a lasting marriage.
It means you based your union on things other than a legal threat, hopefully things more profound like love or the raising of children.
Be wise gents. Do not get married.
Legal marriage is for the protection of women and children. In the future, after the promiscuity experiment dies down, women won't risk being sexually active without it.
Im dumbfounded by the religion of marriage. People actually believe there's a magical gov't document or ceremony/party that imbues a magical quality of "Being Married".
@@ManDuderGuy Do you not understand the legal side of it? It was there to ensure paternity, inheritance, and responsibilities. It's the most basic institution of civilization. Without it, there is no civilization.
@@edheldude It's just unfortunate that it seems nowadays to have little or no power to keep people together and bring out their virtues.
You have to have social norms/social pressure/social help for it to work as intended; and people so often abuse it now and use the legal side of it vindictively or harshly. It's like a trap as often as not.
@@edheldude That's pure BS.
The "sleeping around first" is what fuels many many wonlmen's anger and bitterness about men.
They could close their legs. It's their option
Outstanding topic and interview!!
I think that at the most basic, instinctive level men want beauty and women want money. However there is still someone for everyone. Some men don't have much money and some women aren't so beautiful.
There def has to be more because beauty and money fade. Marriage is life-long. We really need to consider other things before entering into something as serious as marriage.
Hello. The need for sex workers will probably never go away and I understand anyone who needs to have that intimacy and are able to get that in that way.
It’s great to hear conversations about relationships.
Can we get to a point where everyone gets what they want and need?
Thanks for the video 😊💎
Definitely if they were not paying for swroto ine and endorphine, they could not work that hard. So basically a good investment.
Humans are complicated. Likely, what you think of 'everyone' is everyone good. Not everyone is good. Not everyone has good wants and needs.
So in short, no. We will never get to that point.
"The more she likes you, the bigger the discount".
I'll remember this quote, big facts! :D
There has always been transaction and sacrifice. This is a no brainer..but most people in the world still somehow think that you can acquire something for nothing . Shit even god demands you sacrifice certain things to enter the kingdom. Nothing is free. All is transactional .
Awesome show. All the questions I wanted to ask were asked and answered.
Orion is the poised and very articulate. Been following him for a while now
You do not need a “State Marriage License” in order to fall in Love and live together!❤ That is the State & Females vs the Man! Just fall in love and be together! That’s as natural as it gets! Our society and the rules we make up condemn you for not obeying those rules. “Oh look at so and so, they are living together and guess what, they are not married.”
Keep the State out of it!! They want to control everything you do!! Write down your own marriage agreement on paper as a couple and call yourself married! You do not need a State Marriage License to call yourself married! Haven’t you found it odd how silent and different things become after people you knew growing up get married?! This is not normal! People sell their souls to the State! They fall in love and then they hand their lives over to the State, so the State can control them! People need to wake the up! The silence of the State Marriage License is beyond defining! You do not have to live like this! This info needs to be taught to high schools students, so they can make a better decision! Do you know how raging the State would become if everyone started to fall in love and opted out of the state marriage license!?! My guess is they would start to prosecute people and pass new laws. That’s how effed we are! They need to control the majority of society! More then anything, men need this information!! They become trapped financially to the State! Statistically this State License is not good for 50% of the nation. So if what I’m saying does not mean anything to you and all of your friends. Then congrats. But so many others suffer because of how the State entraps millions of men in our society! And this can be prevented if only people knew this information!
🟡And don’t give me the religious and christianity speech. There are plenty of Christians that get divorced! In fact I think it’s religious people who are the most trapped. They rush a marriage license in order to have sex. Because according to their beliefs, they cannot have sex outside of a marriage. So in order to have sex, they hurry the marriage license up fast, just to have sex. Then later on down the road, they find out that they made a bad decision. Then it’s off to getting a divorce. So then when they find someone new, they cannot have sex outside of marriage, so they quickly get that piece of paper from the state, so they can have sex again. It’s absolutely pathetic! That’s a life of misery! Keep the state out of it!! Find love and keep it between both of you and call it marriage!
Everyone in the comments completely missing the point of the entire video
What's the point?
@@croissants1280”what we can learn from gays and queers” is a funny quote.
@@bryanutility9609 I love that a guy from SF said "queers" not once but 2x
@@meganusui2789 I think he’s being politically correct but in my mind it’s shit posting 🤩
Then why don't you enlighten us?
Honda's stock price just imploded 😂😂.
Just say it man ! 80% of time is the women who file for divorce. Specially when they get bored😅😅😅
It's not boredom, it's years of being ignored and unloved.
My husband hardly spend time or talk to me anymore
@@jackijohnson3778this!
@@jackijohnson3778unless he was this way from day one, there is usually the reason why husband doesn't want to talk with wife.
Work both ways
@@yennguyen-uj3riany chance that he has reason to do so?
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago . My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness , unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here.
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
Impressive! How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor .
Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online.
Just a different perspective for you
After abruptly ending a 2 1/2 year relationship myself in late 2022, it took me several months of similar feelings that you describe, until I got to a very special insight
Perhaps it’s useful ?
It has to do with the story we are telling about our life when we are with someone, especially as long as you were
It’s the story we tell about who we are in the world with that person, what we’ve done and what we are currently doing and most, especially what we are planning for in the future
Where we will live together, what we will do for fun, where we will travel, money concerns, family, etc.
That story is so deep, and so entrenched, it seems like there can be no other story
My insight, involved the realization that I had to step forward and create a new story for myself, from top to bottom
In my case, I moved, to another state
But that’s not really the most impactful thing
It took over a year to consider carefully the story of my life, moving forward and who I am in the world and what I want to do
I offer you this insight, perhaps it serves to cushion the blow a bit, and shed some much-needed light
Good luck and take care:)
Where he says “the more she likes you, the more discount he gets.” Well I happened to LOVE my husband. He got 100% off,. He paid $0 for me, to me or because of me. It happens. That’s when you know SHE loves you. If you choose to accept any less, that’s on you.
Great! I still believe in love but it’s rare and only grownups can reach this level of humanity.
Seems like a fairy tale in my generation
Indeed
I wish. Many of us have to choose between transaction or nothing.
The conclusion is that all women nowadays are 304s, man pay either way, and there's no need to get married
I’d say the implicit “need” for marriage is still primarily held by people’s who’s religion requires them to be married for secs. Outside of that (hell, even dispite what’s said in the church) I’ve never heard the man in a marriage out right recommend it.
This guy is emotionally corrupt. Advising, encouraging women to become only Fans is wrong in every level. Theres nothing wrong with traditional marriage where both give and take and support each other. I dont like these two men here, nor any garbage a.s.s advise they give. These kinds of people are problem in today's society. .
Totally agree!
They are contributing to societal decline
You are living an illusion
And how many married men are watching of girls ?
If a woman is not willing to take the initial risk and only hitches a ride 15 years into the journey, only for the ships that are successful, then the ship has to be 15 years older. Either jump on a ship and sail as equals or jump on an older successful ship. Not play around for 15 years and then see which ship is successful and jump on that, because why would someone be rewarded for avoiding hardships?
If you wanna cheat and be non monogamous, then SAY THAT and allow the other person to do the same or have agency whether or not to stay with someone who is duplicitous. LYING is a character trait and includes cheating. If you think you have the right to do it then allow your partner that same thing or DONT Get married.
Otherwise I’m very happy to see you get taken to the cleaners in divorce if the other spouse was loyal and faithful as agreed to and took the vow before God of their understanding
Problem is men and women don't have the same level of access to potential mates or suitors, so an open relationship where both parties can see others is automatically more unfair to the male. There is no such thing as "fair" in this life.
@@shin-ishikiri-no “fairness” has nothing to do with integrity or lack of honesty. The truth is these types of men (I don’t let women off the hook either) are trying to re-write the rules to make them justify their own behavior and ultimate immorality. The animals do this easily yes, but you are human & you are meant to have a conscience and evolve and have higher self awareness. If you want to be treated like a mere animal, however - that can always be arranged.
Again: Don’t cheat if you want a faithful, committed marriage. It can’t be “one sided”
Otherwise, just find another non-monogamous partner. All else is manipulation and ultimately destruction. Of course there’s no thrill in that is there- the ‘secret’ of it all is the adrenaline rush in many cases.
God? Precisely to which "god" do you refer?
@@GP-gt4bo You ignore the reality that finding a partner takes completely different levels of effort for men than women. Why?
@@angelomercure3747 Isn't it obvious? "Our God."
Geez I feel like I’m listening to two 14 year old
That guy still lives in the land of make believe.
32:17 he may be correct about the origins of monogamy, but the romanticization and idealizing of monogamy has been further exacerbated in an unrealistic way via our movies and entertainment. In the same way that porn thwarts our realistic understanding and expectations about sex, romance movies thwarts our realistic understanding and expectations about relationships and all its complexities.
A man who work hard like a dog for many years,
and eventually become rich,
and then foolishly marry a woman without a premarital contract,
will become as poor as a beggar once a divorce happen,
as the court system sadistically impose a massive wealth transfer ,
from him to her,
so he lives like a beggar for rest of his life,
while she relax and live like a rich princess for rest of her life,
after the divorce.
By that reason, a person who has $100,000,000 now has $50,000,000. He is a beggar now. Absurd.
Your comment negated the intend of this video topic!
You're assuming the split is 50:50. In the case of a large wealth gap, the woman will get more than 50% especially if she contributed to little of that wealth. It's not unusual that in a very large gap, the woman may get 75%. Prenups provide limited protection. Most prenups for wealthy people go away after about 10 years which each year the woman gets more and more. Don't believe me? Go talk to a high level divorce lawyer.
Relax and live like a rich princess for the rest of her life?! 😂😂😂 You mean she got paid for all the lost hours of her life catering to you?! I'm sure you were a wonderful husband hence the thriving marriage. 😂 Awww...another man upset that he lost money...well, next time put a cap on it. Wife #2, about $2M cause she looks like she can only put up about $2M worth of this fine man! 😂😂😂
@@PhuongNguyen-wr3fi he probably doesn't have much of any money to lose. anyways, why you giggle to tears at things that aren't even remotely funny?
@@BossItUp911 I was laughing at @sammas2959 statement in regards to $50M. Guess my reply got under another person's post. Glad you didn't find it funny. Not here to make you laugh. Thanks.
Where is the heart and soul of this marriage equation? Yes, some women and men are totally transactional which would make marriage meaningless. However, he misses the biggest point of human intimacy that makes us human. Maybe he himself have intimacy issues 😅
What are you talking about? How many marriages in America are truly happy? Not they're staying together because they have children or one can't afford moving out or maybe some other reasons. I honestly, i think, truly people who are happy are people who never got married but 10 to years relationships.
Lmao. "Heart and soul". 😂😂😂 that doesn't combine with women. Who, statistically, are the ones who START or.ask the divorces?
Seriously we need this guy to figure this out lol. I’m 50 now and knew better to not get get married 25 years ago. Worst country in the world for a man to be in a relationship with a woman but is the best for women in the world. If you and a woman can live together with no common law marriage, go for it! If it doesn’t work out you just go your separate ways and lose nothing. That’s the nicest way I will say it.
This is exactly how I feel! Very well put! Marriage in the states is the most one sided, penalty stricken relationship a man can enter into. It is almost criminal what the state can require a man to do if he is divorced. And in a majority of these cases it is the woman who files on him.
Christian marriage calls for and requires each person to rise beyond self. Each gives up half of all they are to become this new person called "US."
When 2 unite they are promising to uphold monogamy and eliminate selfishness and to seek the absolute best for each other's well-being.
He says the State already has a contract for each marriage. No. The Christian contract is a promis to be faithful and put marriage above self to: each other, to God (Who created them, knows them intimately, and guided each to find the other) ,the minister, each member of the families involved, the church flock, and, ideally, the town, county, State, and the Nation.
Only those promises are strong enough to ensure kindness, compassion, personal growth, stabiluty for chidren, snd the end of selfishness.
Why do rich and successful tall women over 50 have no chance of finding a man? For men, money leads to more value and getting older is not such a big deal. For women, being successful and making a lot of money is not something that increases their value. The currency for women is beauty and for men it's money.
Can't we please stop talking about partnership as a business? It's terrible because there's no love.
Her money is her money. His money is their money.
It never seems to occur to men that women enjoy having their own money because of the freedom it brings. Women don't calculate everything they do according to what men find appealing.
Shout out Coach Greg Adams, been teaching this for years
Let's not forget Rollo Tomassi
0:04 doubt. I am average looking but I get plenty of dates and relationships with amazing people. Maybe develop an interesting personality and dont assume that looks alone can sustain interest?
"Girl Boss"is actively dying off. Historically, as times become tough, women start migrating towards men for protection and provisioning. We'll see alot more women in relationships as the U.S. economy continues to crash.
Don’t forget how they played you.
When, historically, could women support themselves financially? Look at South Korea, I think the opposite is happening. Women tend to be more risk averse and statistically there is nothing riskier to her literal life than partnering with a man. If the world is getting scarier, why would women seek out men that they don't need to survive?
They may go from the streets to relationships, but it's transactional still. Don't think that it's about love. It's about your assets for sexual availability until a better deal comes around.
@@ryanbailey3185never forget, not forgive.
@@ericbaxter3944 The most dangerous person in a woman's life is a male partner. There is absolutely zero incentive for an employed woman to seek a male partner for economic stability when she could seek something safer: other women. The 2nd amendment applies for women too so needing a man for protection isn't true either. It's become an "every person for themself" world out there. Women have responded by entering the workforce and making their own money, as well as doing all the stuff they did before. Men have not stepped up in kind by developing tedious domestic skills so they will continue to be left behind until they do. This starts with boys developing the proper expectations that they will not have access to free female labor indefinitely. This is why it is my opinion that the biggest threat to men's future is probably the "boy mom".
Sex work is not a spectrum. Sex work is sex work.
Today marriage is a horrible deal for men. 1/3 of marriages today are sexless. Why would you ever do that? It is better to just "Buy" what you want and keep the drama to a minimum.
It's worse for women. A lot more than 1/3 of women are physically and/or emotionally abused by their men.
'Married single mom' is so common, its a known term.... plus we have to worl fulltime AND are expected to be house wives too.
There are *zero* benefits for women.
My unpopular opinion is that women weren't allowed to work in the past because it was the only way they'd get married. If they have the choice they chose not to.
That's what we're seeing today.
@@jenster29"emotionally abused" 🙄 Yeah - the exact same behavior is "testing him" when you do it.
And why don't you 😂.... what's stopping you? Why are complaining for?
@@martharodriguez5958 I do. I have an arrangement. I know the cost, she knows what is expected and she leaves with no drama.
I would agree. As men get older his risk increases being in a relationship and reward diminishes. I would estimate 85% of people out there are incompatible in any type of relationship. The other 85% will never have that, so stop looking and go your own way. The sooner you realize that the better off you will be.
Marriage protects the woman,,gives man purpose to provide ,protect and stability ,,,without marriages men can become PRIESTS
The unions don't last anymore...
Am good, marriage is important. If you're insecure and broke then don't marry. I'd rather be moderately wealthy with a woman and children than incredibly wealthy alone accompanied by a bottle of Jack. Watch Citizen Kane folks
Having a wife more expensive than having a sugar baby
Yh you get a maid a nanny a therapist a bang maid for free but thank god women are waking up!!!
Absolutely 100%
He's giving his cold logic as if it applied to all countries. In other countries, like the UK, divorcees do not walk away with half of your pre-marriage fortune. Generally speaking his loveless logic is unsettling. He says here he never plans to get married, and in other interviews he's said he basically just wants a partner who is attractive and for sex. What a guy. Is his partner happy?
We have optional prenups in America to protect pre marriage net worth, but money/property earned DURING a marriage is generally co-owned. Many people get most their wealth during a long marriage. I'm not sure most future spouses would agree to a "future earnings" clause.
He is so full of it...
He doesn’t have a partner and never will
No one in the U.S. walks away with their spouse's PRE-marriage fortune. They are only entitled to half the income/assets that were acquired during the marriage. There is also the option of having a prenup and deciding for yourselves how you will divide things in the event of a divorce. As long as all conditions for legality are met, there is no getting out of the prenup.
Who is this social influencer or engineer Taraban? Who is pushing or funding him?
ok, he lost me at ' there's definitely some double standards when it comes to men and women. they are never going to go away. we should just sort of accept them.' so easy for men to say because they benefit from those double standards! I call total BS on that.
Women used to raise children with other women because we anticipate the needs of one another a lot of men can’t do that, they want to be told what to do. Men aren’t nurturing and aren’t very helpful in heterosexual relationships with child rearing that’s why they were given the job of “provider and protector”. We need another set up because the one we have isn’t working, we need community again.
I have came so close to have this thought by myself so many times but never had it. Truly, thank you for the enlightnment.
In reality it is the exact opposite: since women were useless in hunting, they were forced to take the other load in way easier tasks like gathering and taking care of kids/home. But don't let it be twisted, the fact that mostly women have been doing something doesn't mean that they are better at it. It only means that men had more important tasks that needed to be prioritized.
But now in the modern societybwe have had enough statistics to compare the performance of single dads vs. moms. And the results are absolutely ugly. It has been shown clear as day that single moms are attrocious at that job, while single dads are great. There is no debate about that anymore, the issue has been settled.
Children are more likely to be killed or abused by their mothers.
@@MachoMasteralmost half of the hunters were women. And the stats you mention only indicate class. It’s only when the mother is p88r. Single fathers only take their children if they are financially well to do, and are a very small demographic.
@@manifest2203
You are just inventing facts at this point. Laughable.
It depends on how you position yourself like any business.
…and lots of women put up with a lot of crap to keep the family together. Just saying 😏
The crap that they create, just saying.
Marriage is the worst thing you can do in this society. We are fucked. Absolutely fucked.
Thank the J
Oh and women aren't? Having to deal with you and your children ?
Especially for women
The interviee is excellent. The interviewer will def improve in the future.
What's the difference between marriage and prostitution ? The price you pay 😂
What about family values and children?
@@anneflynn9614 just have cats
Dr. Orion Taraban is such a classical dismissive-avoidant. He clearly knows it and enjoys it. 😊
Sad that experts in the field are now telling us to shack up and not tie the not. I get it but it’s not good for society.
You can thank “Family Courts” for creating the financial incentive for wives to divorce their husbands. When the wife can take 50% of his net worth, plus the kids, plus alimony, plus child support, in a “no fault divorce” state; “marriage” no longer actually exists at all.
@@RobertJohnson-bj5lk only people gone through knows the pain and suffering. Not only this the torture of staying with wrong person
@@RobertJohnson-bj5lk Obviously, it's a plan to destroy the family unit.
If you are a loyal and good spouse, you may end up with an elderly spouse in the end. If you don’t want that, don’t get married.
California abolished common law marriages in 1895
3 states allow new common law marriages and 1 only recognizes for the sole purpose of probate, i.e. death. Others states recognize CL marriages but don't allow new ones.
Thank god…
Introduced no fault marriage and lifetime alimony.
And after a couple years, you wind up paying and not getting little if any sex at all. I've been married 3x, it's NOT a random occurrence.
(Hebrews 13:12) Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
👍👍🙏
Hence all the std's, etc
Orion Taraban should be congratulated for not waving his hands about as he talks.
The mistake in his attitude is that he doesn't consider pregnancy, caring for everyone, supporting the husband's career, etc. as work. Many men don't know how much work it is to raise children. They buy not only sex, but the whole emotional nest, the need to survive all the battles they are in every day. I think men are completely lost without women. But it's not the other way around. Men are much more dependent on women because they need them not only for sex but also for emotions.
lol
They don’t want to admit that because of their pride.
Of course he's ignorant about the physical demands and risks of pregnancy and childbirth along with the work of bringing up children. He has no experience.
This is my answer to the guy below: Sir since you have no idea of who we are, and our relationship with each other than how can you make an absolute judgement of things? Did they teach you that everything boils down to money in economics classes and did you go to the Chicago boys for your education (Milton Freidman)? BTW I could have caught a whole lot of diseases for free, that is true:) If your wife is your best friend then you got something going. On our honeymoon I was young and dumb and climbed a narrow ledge on a Maine coast cliff. We reached a point where we could go no further unless I jumped up off the ledge and pulled the grass to get over the lip. I got stuck grasping the very short cut grass barely hanging on and could not pull myself up. I yelled for help, but the ocean noises drowned out my request. The lip my wife stood on was 13 " wide and had a drop of 40' to rocks and heavy waves crashing in below. I said to my wife and can't hold anymore just let me slide back and don't touch me. If my momentum keeps me moving out and down, then if you try to push me in your a very likely to fall with me. She didn't listen and pushed in as hard as she could, and we both almost went off together. Another time years later we had a 100' used microwave tower we installed from a 1 KW wind turbine. It did not have slip ring commutators, and the 3 wires twisted up and shorted coming from the 3-phase alternator. it was winter we were poor and needed the energy since we were off grid. So, on a cold windless day hard to find in upstate NY on top of a huge mountain I climbed the tower. Instead of just one wire needing repair I had to come down and buy a new 3 wire to replace. By the time I almost finished the repair the wind had picked up and i was strapped in but barely hanging on. My fingers became so cold I could not move them and could climb down. She yelled up the fire company can reach you. I said we are already barely financially making it (Different now we are actually quite well of now, our business ideas in the long run worked) I said do not call the fire company they will charge us money we didn't have. So against my firm request she climbed up the tower without any tie in ropes as I yelled get ropes and tie in as you go up. She yelled your freezing to death up there and darkness is almost here. Well, she climbed all the way up and gave me hand warmers and smacked then to activate them It was intense pain as my hands warmed and I could move my fingers some and we climbed down. I was not sick when I went up but had a high fever in the morning and got really sick. I had a certain amount of frost bite. So, guys there are women out there that when they love a man, they give their whole hearts to him. I am writing this since you often in life get what you think the reality is. If you think all women want your money chances are the women, you find will be that way.
99% its a bad deal for men these days. All advantage is with the women so no point men marrying these days no incentive
What's the incentive for the woman? Explain me
There are NO benefits to women at all 😂😂
@@jenster29 exactly
@ggghahamega4639 Upon divorce (which women initiate 80% of the time), women are often rewarded with alimony and if there are children, full/majority custody and child support.
@@jenster29 Then why do women initiate 70-80% of divorces? By 2030, women in the USA are projected to own two thirds of all the personal wealth in the country. Women are also the largest beneficiaries of the current transfer of wealth. Source of wealth? Divorce lol
Wow,
Excellent interview.
Dating wasn't a thing until 1896. Before that there was Courting and Dowry marriages and honestly we need to go back to those ways of getting a partner
Insightful. Thanks for this
"Men are in love, women are in business." - Coach Greg Adams
BS
man is also in business ,just top ones
Absolutely bs. I would rather wat it is the other way around.
I dislike this man. Anything can be beautiful or ugly depending on how you VALUE it. On how much you put in it your best qualities and try to make it beautiful. That's the whole purpose of life, not only marriage. And this man is cinical to his core, and quite devil to me in "educating men" in being selfish.
Men should wake up and realize that marriage does not bring any benefits at all, unless if u have a 100% water tight premarital agreement , but u still need to pray and hope the judge dont throw out your premarital agreement , just because he was in a bad mood that day. Safer to simply remain single than put your whole life’s financial future on the decision of a judge . Just have many many girlfriends (10 to 50 girlfriends in various countries all over the world ) would be a smarter way
The major exception is if there is something bad that happens in your life. If you get hurt/injured/ill, your wife is there for you; your mistress or one of your several girlfriends aren’t gonna drive you home from surgery, hold your hand during chemo, or bring you water and soup. Other things as well…if you get fired, lose a family member or friend to death, or experience any sort of tragic life thing… a spouse has signed up to be by your side in a way others of less commitment are not. 🤷♀️
@@alpagori the biggest risk to a married man is his wife, look at the stats
@@alpagorinot when you have a modern spouse. She will leave if life throws you a curve ball. After all, your mis mishap is not what she signed up for. Save your money for a rainy day and outsource any of your healthcare needs
@@azman3292 Aw gosh I guess you’re right. I had the assumption of a loving, highly committed sort of wife. But I guess there are those out there who are “fair weather wives,” who may leave when things get tough. (And there are other wives that no matter how bad things get nor how badly they are treated, they keep fighting for the marriage.) It’s sort of wild how wide the spectrum is when it comes to how committed people are to their spouses.