They tell everyone how smart they are all the time to make you think they are. They lack hind sight and foresight. Their past means nothing. Your past is weaponized. The future is only about them and what they want Now. They will play a long game to plot revenge against you or get resorces from you. They don't care how their actions affect your future or others.
My ex used to (clumsily) lie, cheat and steal...and then feign superior, like I was in the dark...When I knew what he was doing the whole time. It would have been funny if he wasn't such an evil, dark and cruel individual. What a dumba$$ he was.
Agreed. If they were intelligent predators, they would always treat their "supply" with utmost care, since it's their supply which literally keeps them going. However, being the seething, obviously disturbed beings that they are, they cannot keep any "supply" for very long.
Because they also get bored of the supply, they want the supply to stay anyway because if the old supply leaves, it hurts their ego. So they treat you like crap because they are bored of you only occasionally throwing in nice gestures and some future faking while they hop onto the thrill of hunting a new supply.
@ahdel-nosh5901 Narcs are very repeitive redundant & boring themselves... They repeat the same crazy cycles with each person. Love bomb.. Future faking.. Devalue.. Discard.. New supply.. Repeat.. They aren't bored with us. They're projecting the bordem of their own lives so much so, they gotta keep hitting the reset button on every person they meet..
Coming from someone who saw 5 narc family members overplay their hand and died prematurely, a horrible death to witness, that statement is very true. They try to appear intelligent but just leave them alone, stay out of their way and sit back and watch them self destruct.
That's is exactly what I am currently doing. It's a pathetic thing to witness. They act like they have all the answers... but expect you to do all the work. There is no give and take. It's all take, take, take, with them. According to the Narc Handbook, 'Giving" no matter what it is, it will come with conditions.
My ex narc was academically intelligent, but had the emotional intelligence of a toddler. Foresight was non existent. When I finally left him, he refused to believe I was done with him, and acted like I was playing a coquetish game to get him to pursue me. Once I got law enforcement involved because of his hoovering and low key stalking, he was enraged. He seriously couldn’t connect the dots between his behavior towards me and the consequences of his actions. They are beyond delusional.
This is true. Mine outsmarted me by playing dumb (yes, read that again lol) for many years, but his brain glitched when I left for good. Connecting the dots….cause and effect… they can’t comprehend it. I know exactly how this goes.
"My ex narc was academically intelligent, but had the emotional intelligence of a toddler. Foresight was non existent. " This explains some of the wacky psychologists, psychiatrists, and therapists out there. They think their patient is "paranoid" for connecting the dots, especially any dots that go against what they've been taught. Critical thinking is seen as a mental disorder whereas delusional thinking is seen as critical and rational thinking. They double down on the "I have a degree, you don't" nonsense. I often wondered, are you really this damn dense or are you trying to make some people go insane with your hypocritical BS? They are stuck in "black/white" thinking and call themselves open minded. Crazy part is people defend them no matter what because "they have a degree". That's cultish thinking there. What happened in 2020 would not have been possible without that warped mindset of what being a doctor or an "expert" means and what science really is. Science is not blindly following what someone says, from the top down, where no criticism is allowed. Science is being critical, asking questions. It is observable and repeatable. Instead of providing evidence to support their claims, they insult you by claiming you're too stupid and crazy to understand. It's maddening if you're someone who loves science, not following cults.
Narcs are short bus riders...Intelligent people don't keep repeating the same bad behaviors and expecting something different, but psychopathicly insane people do...
Heartfelt Gratitude for your enormous and excellent efforts in spreading about narcissism. Very happy to go through your videos! Keep going and God bless you!
3:45 I’ve never set a new year resolution before but my goal for 2024 is to consistently step outside my comfort zone. This year will be what *I* make it. 😎
Narcissists do not love anyone, but they are truly in love and self absorbed with themselves. If an individual loves someone they do not abuse and react to them like a narcissist.
There were a lot of narcissists in my grad program and they were very good at "fake it 'til you make it". I know one student who was offered a job, then fired 2 weeks later when they found out she couldn't do the work. She smiled as she told me this, probably because she saw it as an accomplishment from having fooled them and getting hired for a job she didn't qualify for. This setback didn't affect her at all and after graduation, she went on to be hired at big companies/organizations with name-recognition. I know other students who weren't great at teamwork also get hired right after graduation. They really know how to sell themselves and pretend to be something they're not.
They can make a cruel "joke" or laugh at someone getting hurt. But any kind of subtle joke, or any amount of a gentle crack on them, and they just get angry.
Now that is a very true statement. Sure it's not across the board, but not one narc in my family had nor has good humor. They can't understand a joke, they are not humorous people which is very Telling they have darkness inside of them. My narc deceased husband could never get the punchline of a joke. He lived in the "Cool" era, 70s, 80s and always portrayed himself as "Cool", and he was portraying who he actually was, cool, ice cold. It was a cover for his evil mind. Now decades later, I now have learned it wasn't that he was "Cool" he was Narcissist. A wolf in Cool sheep's clothing. Been free of that wolf for almost 2 decades. That was such a scary and abusive Marriage that I have never remarried for fear I will make the same mistake again.
I have, it's going to be dark, dry & targeted towards you, but to them, it's funny, I guess? Most of them do not enjoy comedy, like comedians or funny movies...They really don't have a sense of humor...I think it's because they see themselves somewhere in the joke, and their insecurities and ego won't allow them to laugh at themselves
I've lived with a narc for all my life. The omly jokes he could tell are violent jokes that only he laughs at and makes everyone feel uncomfortable. Speaking of violence, there's his odd and honestly creepy fixations with violent movies. He hates comedy movies, he hates romantic movies. That's just all he watches...it freaks me out coz I just realized how creepy that is.
@undertheseafoam2449 I was raised by a narc mom, 2 of my exes, my oldest son and most of my family & relatives are narcs, and it's crazy , all of them tell dark jokes, they love to poke fun at your expense, the male narcs I know are into weird movies as well, horror genre and my Christian religious based narc mother likes the Anthony Hopkins movies of Hannibal, had a vhs copy at her house for years...there's a sinister spirit about them and it does make you feel uncomfortable
They are sneaky snakes. They are cunning, and crafty not smart. They know how to manipulate and be mischievous. It’s easy to think they are smart when they are pulling one over on you. But when you see them getting played by another narcissist, you realize that they weren’t really that smart. They just knew how to lie to you.
They think they know more than lawyers accountants police and pretty much anyone with actual intelligence. Sadly people believe them as they know how to upsell themselves
It is true. They brainwash themselves because of the huge ego and grandosity. They think they are more intelligent than lawyers, electrician, CPA, doctors, psychiatrist, wallstreet broker, military fighter pilot, architect, chemical engineer, basically anyone. Eventhough they barely graduated from high school the narcissist think that they are superior among all humans and highly gifted and a jack of all trades in all occupations. If you ask a question about this or that they feel you are confronting and challenging them, and flip out into a engulfing volatile rage. You are required to support their logic as advice and stand in agreement and if not 🔥🔥🔥⚡️⚡️⚡️.
One of the key factors in learning, is the ability to recognize and take accountability for failure, and then have the ability to fix the failure, which requires taking accountability and self-analysis. A narcissist is incapable of any of these things.
You're so right! There were times when he did admit that I'm more intelligent than he is. Intelligence has nothing to do with him manipulating and gaslighting me. He was just evil, not intelligent.
They are 'street smart'. I once suggested to one to take an IQ test. I guess she did, because she hated me forever after that. Served her right since she always made fun of my lack of ambition to compete in the field of looks.
I assume her IQ test did not turn out the way she expected and her range of intelligence was identified as normal or below normal and she expected that her intelligence would test out at a highly intelligence or genius range.
@narcabusecoach There was one thing you said in here that hit me. "who cannot stand feeling any emotion besides rage". my mom is a narcissist. she always exploded when my sister or I expressed any emotion at all. Happiness, sadness, anything. She conditioned us never to express any emotion. I was always wondering why she did that to us.
Amen. *At first, I thought she was genius. Her quick witted answers, cover ups.. (lies/T-1 line to demon) + word salad had me taking notes to try & keep up! Thoughts of the movie limitless.. *Diagnosed pathological. A sad scattered soul.. 5 min later it was a different answer to the same question rephrased.
I had a narc coworker who told people that I didn’t have a college degree and that I lied about attending college. She made various other putdowns concerning my job experience and social affiliations. I guess I hallucinated all those years I took classes and making sure I was qualified to be employed in my field of work. I guess the diploma I received isn’t real either. 🤦♀️
I don't know how u always hit itvRIGHT on the money!!! Perfect point.. I always wondered why my husband would get angry for cryin.. when he was the one who made me feel that way in the first place... Definitely not intelligent🙃🤔😨
My parents insisted i was a genius my entire life. I'm not. Just another way to eliminate my childhood, forcing me to act like an adult. I despise them still, because I love them so much, and all they do is use and manipulate me. No more.
Interesting A person has to take responsibility for their actions in order y grow your right they don't think the same That's why they stay stuck THANKS tir the insight 💖🙏🙏🙏💙❤️
Never gave it a thought in this way. Yes, it is true what you say and on top of that, their ability to act so grandiose fools many people into thinking narcissists are smarter than they actually are.
That's true brother i experience that and he thought i was a fool and now i fighting after he sent my family to stole my clothes and i open the case and he sees that they are in trouble and he using witchcraft on me now to try removes me
The narcissist who abused me at work once revealed why she did it. Although she used to try and make me look stupid all the time and look like I was lying and incapable of doing my job, once I asked indirectly whey she was doing it and she replied "because you are too intelligent for this job". Immediately after she said it she realised she had just let the truth slip out and she kind of did the 'Dr. Evil' finger to the mouth gesture as she processed what she had just done.
I remember my narcissistic ex-husband... Had to be at a doctor's appointment with my daughter. Of course. He said proudly in the observation room, my IQ is 115! I guess he was impressed with himself. But I looked right back at him and said, that's something you should never say out loud in public. Your daughter's IQ is 145.
There are VERY intelligent narcissists out there. I was raised by one of them. Evil in ways i can't begin to explain. Low level narcs get caught. Smart ones don't. You can never win against them or get justice.
When they come up against someone who is really intelligent, they will do and say anything to cut them down, especially in public. It makes them feel inferior, therefore threatened.
Some of them are. There are narcissists at the top of every profession, including the hard sciences, so denying their intelligence seems petty. What they lack is something else.
Yeah SOME of them have some level of intelligence BUT not ALL... Especially those with doctorates, high positions of authority ( like the last President) PHd's etc...But even those individuals lack emotional intelligence, book smarts can only get you so far...
They do have a certain level of strategic intelligence, they are talented for scheming and manipulation but that is their top. Yes, they don't have a full scope of intellectual intelligence and they don't have an emotional intelligence, they can only learn how to mirror it. Still, we should never underestimate narcissists.
@@sempervivum3037 What level of strategic intelligence does it take to manipulate someone, a baby can do if you're not paying attention...I was raised by a covert narcissist, married 11 yrs to another one, and have been surrounded by them my entire life, so I'm fully aware of who they are, I never underestimate a trickster/con artist/liar...I don't trust any of them!
No they are not. I have never seen stupider individuals than narcissists. For me, intelligence means, among other things, being able to think for yourself, reflecting, perceiving and appreciating the wonderful diversity of other people's personalities and much more... being open minded.
I don't accept the painful childhood excuse. Ex narcs brother grew up in same house and he is a very kind person. We (5 children) grew up with abusive stepmother. I especially was targeted to be hit with a fist almost daily. We didn't turn into narcs. You always have a choice at any age to learn from experience and do better.
Narcissists never get better. They are a lost cause. They never change and the older they get the worse they are. There are diffrent theories about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. One theory is nature vs. nurture. Another theory is they were coddled and enabled by the parents and seen as the "Golden Child." The other is narcissists are created by abuse and the last narcissists are created by both.
People have always said my father(narcissistic ), whos no more, was very intelligent because he has a good post in his job, he was an engineer. But i have always said hes the stupidest person on earth. Ofcourse that includes all other narcissits on earth, even my narc mother. But my father was way too cut throat of a narc
My husband was very intelligent. He could fix anything and solve any problem that came up. He was not emotionally intelligent though. He didn't understand emotions at all, except anger.
100% correct. They lack emotional intelligence.
You took the words out of my mouth. I remember telling narc mother once, "Please don't think you are intelligent, because you are anything but."
They think they’re way smarter and more clever than they actually are 🙄
They tell everyone how smart they are all the time to make you think they are. They lack hind sight and foresight. Their past means nothing. Your past is weaponized. The future is only about them and what they want Now. They will play a long game to plot revenge against you or get resorces from you. They don't care how their actions affect your future or others.
For sure
That's so true. They think they're smart and they love to tell you how much smarter they are than you
@@PussnBoot2516 Yes, they’re so arrogant
My ex used to (clumsily) lie, cheat and steal...and then feign superior, like I was in the dark...When I knew what he was doing the whole time. It would have been funny if he wasn't such an evil, dark and cruel individual. What a dumba$$ he was.
Agreed. If they were intelligent predators, they would always treat their "supply" with utmost care, since it's their supply which literally keeps them going. However, being the seething, obviously disturbed beings that they are, they cannot keep any "supply" for very long.
True!!!!
Because they also get bored of the supply, they want the supply to stay anyway because if the old supply leaves, it hurts their ego. So they treat you like crap because they are bored of you only occasionally throwing in nice gestures and some future faking while they hop onto the thrill of hunting a new supply.
@ahdel-nosh5901
Narcs are very repeitive redundant & boring themselves...
They repeat the same crazy cycles with each person.
Love bomb..
Future faking..
Devalue..
Discard..
New supply..
Repeat..
They aren't bored with us. They're projecting the bordem of their own lives so much so, they gotta keep hitting the reset button on every person they meet..
@@ahdel-nosh5901 True. Because they _aren't_ very intelligent, they do get bored easily.
What you said!! 👍🏻⭐. So true
Perfectly said, spot on. Wasting your time, EVER, to try and reason with them. They don't care.
They're in upper management at almost every company,
And they weaponize any attempt to explain or gain their understanding of a situation-especially if “feelings” are expressed. Absolutely 💯 taboo!
Everyone on here telling truth. Experienced witness here!
Coming from someone who saw 5 narc family members overplay their hand and died prematurely, a horrible death to witness, that statement is very true. They try to appear intelligent but just leave them alone, stay out of their way and sit back and watch them self destruct.
Took me a long time but now I have peace being away from her.. 🙏
Sounds like there's a story there... do you mind to elaborate😮❤
That's is exactly what I am currently doing. It's a pathetic thing to witness. They act like they have all the answers... but expect you to do all the work. There is no give and take. It's all take, take, take, with them. According to the Narc Handbook, 'Giving" no matter what it is, it will come with conditions.
My ex narc was academically intelligent, but had the emotional intelligence of a toddler. Foresight was non existent. When I finally left him, he refused to believe I was done with him, and acted like I was playing a coquetish game to get him to pursue me. Once I got law enforcement involved because of his hoovering and low key stalking, he was enraged. He seriously couldn’t connect the dots between his behavior towards me and the consequences of his actions. They are beyond delusional.
This is true. Mine outsmarted me by playing dumb (yes, read that again lol) for many years, but his brain glitched when I left for good. Connecting the dots….cause and effect… they can’t comprehend it. I know exactly how this goes.
"My ex narc was academically intelligent, but had the emotional intelligence of a toddler. Foresight was non existent. "
This explains some of the wacky psychologists, psychiatrists, and therapists out there. They think their patient is "paranoid" for connecting the dots, especially any dots that go against what they've been taught. Critical thinking is seen as a mental disorder whereas delusional thinking is seen as critical and rational thinking. They double down on the "I have a degree, you don't" nonsense.
I often wondered, are you really this damn dense or are you trying to make some people go insane with your hypocritical BS? They are stuck in "black/white" thinking and call themselves open minded.
Crazy part is people defend them no matter what because "they have a degree". That's cultish thinking there. What happened in 2020 would not have been possible without that warped mindset of what being a doctor or an "expert" means and what science really is. Science is not blindly following what someone says, from the top down, where no criticism is allowed. Science is being critical, asking questions. It is observable and repeatable. Instead of providing evidence to support their claims, they insult you by claiming you're too stupid and crazy to understand. It's maddening if you're someone who loves science, not following cults.
I literally am going through this right now🤦🏾♀️
All they care about is power, never intelligence
Narcs are short bus riders...Intelligent people don't keep repeating the same bad behaviors and expecting something different, but psychopathicly insane people do...
Dam, love that short bus ride analogy 😂
Heartfelt Gratitude for your enormous and excellent efforts in spreading about narcissism.
Very happy to go through your videos!
Keep going and God bless you!
True, like really basic robots 😄
Cunning, twisting, avoiding.
3:45 I’ve never set a new year resolution before but my goal for 2024 is to consistently step outside my comfort zone. This year will be what *I* make it. 😎
IQ is vastly different from EQ.
Exactly. I was raised by a higly functioning narc. In 85 years, she never got caught, never got exposed, she destroyed everyone she touched.
Facts
Exactly... they don't value what they got .. compare their lives with others.... and cry for things which don't even matter in a relationship.
Yes.witty clever, charming and evil.
If they were intelligent, they wouldn't treat the ones they love so poorly.
They don’t love.
I forgot about that. You are right
Narcissists do not love anyone, but they are truly in love and self absorbed with themselves. If an individual loves someone they do not abuse and react to them like a narcissist.
There were a lot of narcissists in my grad program and they were very good at "fake it 'til you make it". I know one student who was offered a job, then fired 2 weeks later when they found out she couldn't do the work. She smiled as she told me this, probably because she saw it as an accomplishment from having fooled them and getting hired for a job she didn't qualify for. This setback didn't affect her at all and after graduation, she went on to be hired at big companies/organizations with name-recognition. I know other students who weren't great at teamwork also get hired right after graduation. They really know how to sell themselves and pretend to be something they're not.
Wow. I have never heard this but you are so correct. The lack of wisdom is their common denominator. Thanks for sharing.❤❤🎉
I don't think NPD people have a proper sense of humour.
I've never heard one make a joke.
They can make a cruel "joke" or laugh at someone getting hurt. But any kind of subtle joke, or any amount of a gentle crack on them, and they just get angry.
Now that is a very true statement. Sure it's not across the board, but not one narc in my family had nor has good humor. They can't understand a joke, they are not humorous people which is very Telling they have darkness inside of them. My narc deceased husband could never get the punchline of a joke. He lived in the "Cool" era, 70s, 80s and always portrayed himself as "Cool", and he was portraying who he actually was, cool, ice cold. It was a cover for his evil mind. Now decades later, I now have learned it wasn't that he was "Cool" he was Narcissist. A wolf in Cool sheep's clothing. Been free of that wolf for almost 2 decades. That was such a scary and abusive Marriage that I have never remarried for fear I will make the same mistake again.
I have, it's going to be dark, dry & targeted towards you, but to them, it's funny, I guess?
Most of them do not enjoy comedy, like comedians or funny movies...They really don't have a sense of humor...I think it's because they see themselves somewhere in the joke, and their insecurities and ego won't allow them to laugh at themselves
I've lived with a narc for all my life. The omly jokes he could tell are violent jokes that only he laughs at and makes everyone feel uncomfortable. Speaking of violence, there's his odd and honestly creepy fixations with violent movies. He hates comedy movies, he hates romantic movies. That's just all he watches...it freaks me out coz I just realized how creepy that is.
@undertheseafoam2449
I was raised by a narc mom, 2 of my exes, my oldest son and most of my family & relatives are narcs, and it's crazy , all of them tell dark jokes, they love to poke fun at your expense, the male narcs I know are into weird movies as well, horror genre and my Christian religious based narc mother likes the Anthony Hopkins movies of Hannibal, had a vhs copy at her house for years...there's a sinister spirit about them and it does make you feel uncomfortable
They are sneaky snakes. They are cunning, and crafty not smart. They know how to manipulate and be mischievous. It’s easy to think they are smart when they are pulling one over on you. But when you see them getting played by another narcissist, you realize that they weren’t really that smart. They just knew how to lie to you.
Thank you for your message it has truly helped me.
They think they know more than lawyers accountants police and pretty much anyone with actual intelligence. Sadly people believe them as they know how to upsell themselves
True 😅 i forgot about their self esteem that tells them they know everything in every category.
It is true. They brainwash themselves because of the huge ego and grandosity. They think they are more intelligent than lawyers, electrician, CPA, doctors, psychiatrist, wallstreet broker, military fighter pilot, architect, chemical engineer, basically anyone. Eventhough they barely graduated from high school the narcissist think that they are superior among all humans and highly gifted and a jack of all trades in all occupations. If you ask a question about this or that they feel you are confronting and challenging them, and flip out into a engulfing volatile rage. You are required to support their logic as advice and stand in agreement and if not 🔥🔥🔥⚡️⚡️⚡️.
Most career successful people are only good at their respective field but intelligent no.
One of the key factors in learning, is the ability to recognize and take accountability for failure, and then have the ability to fix the failure, which requires taking accountability and self-analysis. A narcissist is incapable of any of these things.
Ur so right..they all lack wisdom,only smart in hurting other people feelings,lacks insight and emotional intelligence..
That’s right, they may play with people but that doesn’t equate intelligence. Happy new year! And thank you
You nailed it , truely amazed by your wisdom
You're so right! There were times when he did admit that I'm more intelligent than he is. Intelligence has nothing to do with him manipulating and gaslighting me. He was just evil, not intelligent.
They perfect their own act, that’s all. They need to control all the variables and are inflexible in unknown situations.
Yes they are still like a child in intelligence. But than worse of course
Mine said, "i thought you loved me. And you would never leave me no matter what I did!" With a straight face and disbelief after the divorce.
They are 'street smart'. I once suggested to one to take an IQ test. I guess she did, because she hated me forever after that. Served her right since she always made fun of my lack of ambition to compete in the field of looks.
I assume her IQ test did not turn out the way she expected and her range of intelligence was identified as normal or below normal and she expected that her intelligence would test out at a highly intelligence or genius range.
As her parents always made her the 'queenie' and the eighth wonder of the world.@@Prometheuspredator
@narcabusecoach There was one thing you said in here that hit me. "who cannot stand feeling any emotion besides rage". my mom is a narcissist. she always exploded when my sister or I expressed any emotion at all. Happiness, sadness, anything. She conditioned us never to express any emotion. I was always wondering why she did that to us.
You have got this exactly right. Thank you.
This is a very powerful statement. I am gonna save it.
Intelligence require Introspection.
Amen. *At first, I thought she was genius. Her quick witted answers, cover ups.. (lies/T-1 line to demon) + word salad had me taking notes to try & keep up! Thoughts of the movie limitless.. *Diagnosed pathological. A sad scattered soul.. 5 min later it was a different answer to the same question rephrased.
I had a narc coworker who told people that I didn’t have a college degree and that I lied about attending college. She made various other putdowns concerning my job experience and social affiliations. I guess I hallucinated all those years I took classes and making sure I was qualified to be employed in my field of work. I guess the diploma I received isn’t real either. 🤦♀️
That is completely the truth! Sneaky 😈 and cunning is not smart, just plain evil.
They are just sneaky
Conniving
Repeating the same bad behavior expecting different outcomes, as you know is the definition of insanity.
💯 spot on they no how to be cunning
Cruel abuse gaslight but no interlgent
I don't know how u always hit itvRIGHT on the money!!! Perfect point.. I always wondered why my husband would get angry for cryin.. when he was the one who made me feel that way in the first place... Definitely not intelligent🙃🤔😨
I think they are just more deviant and calculating than most people.thats the difference.
They 'lack' period, imagine not being able to feel, this indeed makes them limited.
They are scheming !
YES
My parents insisted i was a genius my entire life. I'm not. Just another way to eliminate my childhood, forcing me to act like an adult. I despise them still, because I love them so much, and all they do is use and manipulate me. No more.
Could never understand their "reasoning" that they are being so mean to get you to love them and value them more. ??
Interesting A person has to take responsibility for their actions in order y grow your right they don't think the same That's why they stay stuck THANKS tir the insight 💖🙏🙏🙏💙❤️
Lol, mine was thick as **** but he was the only one who didn’t realise it 😂
Never gave it a thought in this way. Yes, it is true what you say and on top of that, their ability to act so grandiose fools many people into thinking narcissists are smarter than they actually are.
We have them figured out.
Reminds me of Nathaniel Tantay. Smart but unforgiving sometimes.
My ex-husband printed up business cards saying Philosopher, Community Organizer. I later found out he had finished one year at Wake Tech.
IQ & EQ dono ki band baji hai.
The only emotions they feel is RAGE, HATE & LUST.
No they are not smart, they are just convinced they are correct 😂
That's true brother i experience that and he thought i was a fool and now i fighting after he sent my family to stole my clothes and i open the case and he sees that they are in trouble and he using witchcraft on me now to try removes me
In fact, they are very predictable and easy to manipulate, as a reflection of their childhood.
The narcissist who abused me at work once revealed why she did it. Although she used to try and make me look stupid all the time and look like I was lying and incapable of doing my job, once I asked indirectly whey she was doing it and she replied "because you are too intelligent for this job". Immediately after she said it she realised she had just let the truth slip out and she kind of did the 'Dr. Evil' finger to the mouth gesture as she processed what she had just done.
Very well said 🎉❤❤❤❤
You’re so right!
yep, true again.
I remember my narcissistic ex-husband... Had to be at a doctor's appointment with my daughter. Of course. He said proudly in the observation room, my IQ is 115! I guess he was impressed with himself. But I looked right back at him and said, that's something you should never say out loud in public. Your daughter's IQ is 145.
PRAISE the LORD with a HALLELUJAH 🙏🏼🎶
Amen 🙌🏼🤍🕊️
Amen. Hallelujah.
Most importantly, it needs.
There are VERY intelligent narcissists out there. I was raised by one of them. Evil in ways i can't begin to explain. Low level narcs get caught. Smart ones don't. You can never win against them or get justice.
Without any accountability, there can be no real intellgence. It is just not reality of living life and learning from your mistakes ‼️
Great words!
The narcissist that really try to mess my life is the dumbest person I ever know, swear, no offense, true✋🏻
When they come up against someone who is really intelligent, they will do and say anything to cut them down, especially in public. It makes them feel inferior, therefore threatened.
perfectly said.
Id like to see a video where you give narcissistic people a tip to be better .
Well ... Intelligent or not, they certainly always play stupid.
You are so right
Thank you!
Never mistake cunning for intelligence. They are quite different thing.
He used to take my Stephen Hawkins books and put them on his shelf. He couldn't understand them, but so what?.😂
Some of them are. There are narcissists at the top of every profession, including the hard sciences, so denying their intelligence seems petty. What they lack is something else.
Yeah SOME of them have some level of intelligence BUT not ALL...
Especially those with doctorates, high positions of authority ( like the last President)
PHd's etc...But even those individuals lack emotional intelligence, book smarts can only get you so far...
They do have a certain level of strategic intelligence, they are talented for scheming and manipulation but that is their top. Yes, they don't have a full scope of intellectual intelligence and they don't have an emotional intelligence, they can only learn how to mirror it.
Still, we should never underestimate narcissists.
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What level of strategic intelligence does it take to manipulate someone, a baby can do if you're not paying attention...I was raised by a covert narcissist, married 11 yrs to another one, and have been surrounded by them my entire life, so I'm fully aware of who they are, I never underestimate a trickster/con artist/liar...I don't trust any of them!
I ve met some narcissists at the top,
....they were not that bright as expected...
But that's just my experience
No they are not. I have never seen stupider individuals than narcissists. For me, intelligence means, among other things, being able to think for yourself, reflecting, perceiving and appreciating the wonderful diversity of other people's personalities and much more... being open minded.
They’re predatory in my experience and that sometimes appears clever but it’s more instinctive.
they are delusional 😢
Where does their rage come from?
Painful childhood can they get better 😊
I don't accept the painful childhood excuse.
Ex narcs brother grew up in same house and he is a very kind person.
We (5 children) grew up with abusive stepmother. I especially was targeted to be hit with a fist almost daily. We didn't turn into narcs.
You always have a choice at any age to learn from experience and do better.
Narcissists never get better. They are a lost cause. They never change and the older they get the worse they are. There are diffrent theories about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. One theory is nature vs. nurture. Another theory is they were coddled and enabled by the parents and seen as the "Golden Child." The other is narcissists are created by abuse and the last narcissists are created by both.
Great actors and pretenders to cover up the lack of knowledge and experience.
Yup! Oscar-worthy performers.
Thank you
They copy the people that they admire and try to talk like them and try to become them as well! They do not like themselves.
People have always said my father(narcissistic ), whos no more, was very intelligent because he has a good post in his job, he was an engineer. But i have always said hes the stupidest person on earth. Ofcourse that includes all other narcissits on earth, even my narc mother. But my father was way too cut throat of a narc
The Bible says: "GOD alone is wise." We get wisdom from GOD alone.
That is true they can fake wisdom most of the time and it's doesnot comes from their heart .. Andrew tate is a example of that.
A shame how so much stupid does so much damage smdh
My husband was very intelligent. He could fix anything and solve any problem that came up. He was not emotionally intelligent though. He didn't understand emotions at all, except anger.
This channel would be great for a political campaign. 😏
That's right 👍
And ❤😊
I cant believe im falling in love
They are sakuni and they lose always.
A narcissist is cunning like an animal
So true !
narc are usually intelligent - as measured on the traditional iq scales ( book smart, street smart, physically smart )
Finnaly someone who understands.....
I used to say mine was so smart he was dumb
Him saying he is emotional intelligent.
Sometimes narcissists are secretly afraid of strong, intelligent women. That's why they want to control them. Just my opinion.
Holy moly...you are right. I always said my mother was smarter then we all give her credit for.