Why You Struggle With Relationships Rejection
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- Ever wondered why rejection in relationships can feel like a gut punch? Relationship rejection is like a heavy weight on our hearts, leaving us feeling lost and vulnerable. We understand how much it hurts. But you're not alone. In this heartfelt chat, we're delving into the emotional rollercoaster of relationship struggles. From cringe-worthy dating moments to heart-wrenching friendship rifts, we're here to validate your feelings and offer support.
#relationship #rejection #love #dating
Writer: Morgan Swift
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Naphia
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Herndon, J. (2022, June 13). It’s Not 'All In Your Head': It Could Be Rejection Sensitivity. Very Well Mind. www.verywellhealth.com/rejection-sensitivity-vs-rsd-5271409
Pederson, T. (2022, October 27). Feeling Rejected All the Time? This Is for You. Psych Central. psychcentral.com/lib/good-news-if-you-often-feel-rejected#causes
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). (n.d.). Cleveland Clinic. my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24099-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-rsd#:~:text=Rejection%20sensitive%20dysphoria%20(RSD)%20is,to%20differences%20in%20brain%20structure
Science says this is how many dates you have to go on before you find 'The One'. (n.d.). Her. www.her.ie/life/whats-your-number-study-finds-the-average-number-of-dates-and-relationships-before-we-find-the-one-90330
Szekely, G. (2022, December 5). How To Handle Rejection Sensitivity in Relationships. The Couples Centre. www.thecouplescenter.org/how-to-handle-rejection-sensitivity-in-relationships/#:~:text=The%20person%20with%20RSD%20often,who%27s%20on%20the%20receiving%20end
Why do you think others have a hard time dealing with rejections?
First rejection Might Have A Huge impact on us
Mental state is a big one yes but for me: I had been betrayed and traumatized to a point where I need to put more into healing myself over throwing myself into a relationship.
me
Confidence it's not easy talking to someone when you like them
Maybe it's because of a small trauma experience?
THE TIMING IS INSANE
And That's your sad part....
Learned today my crush has a bf. Insane af
😢yess
Fr😞
Every single time.
You struggle with relationships rejection, because you value relationships and connection. It’s healthy and normal. But maybe you just weren’t with the right people. You deserve to be around someone who loves and appreciates you.
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"deserves someone who loves and appreciates you", as if such fairytales are going to happen in real life.
But. Hey Google, tell me another joke.
@@anderstermansen130
Not a fairytale. But it CAN happen in real life.
You do, however, need to adjust your expectations accordingly and be more of a realist. Because that one person may not be who you have in mind... 😌
Ha like thats ever going to happen in today's society. Good joke mate
@@anderstermansen130 exactly my dear fellow people are just blind to the truth and think love exists in now a days society. HA very funny.
I don't have a fear of rejection, I have a fear of the person lying to me or trying to avoid me.
Whoever's picking the voices for Psych2Go's voiceovers is doing a great job. Even the tough topics sound friendly and soothing. 😂
It's kinda strange for me specifically. I don't exactly get rejected or friend-zoned, my affection is just simply not reciprocated.
And somehow it feels even more painful than any rejection I've received.
This
Same!
thatshrian
I think that’s called unrequited love.
FR
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the timing is insane, exactly after a weekend where i struggled with this again to the point where i had panic attacks
Do not worry. There are countless of us.
NAH CUS SAME 😭
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"have 7 to 8 relationships"
yeah, like thats ever gonna happen
Yeah love its a scam and a waste of time its better to focus on ones job and goals in life than rather finding someone to betray you and back stab you.
there is clearly someone there that has an army of relationships and is MASSIVELY swaying the average
@@lenninmontiel4539 it depends on what makes your life feel more full
@@chibakutensei4191 ugh spare me the petty lesson, I've heard it all before hun, but no Matter what people do or how many times people have to date one another, people will end up betraying and hurting one another until you all just end up with nuclear wars.
@@lenninmontiel4539 oh I have no doubt but the problem is joy, most people don't find joy from there work so it's not a good idea to tell them to focus on work for some people finding love is what they live for
Being rejected is part of life doesn't mean you have to like it
Timestamps
1). The facts 0:31
2). High rejection sensitivity 1:42
3). Rejection sensitivity dysphoria 3:09
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Everytime I see a happy couple, I’m always reminded that I’m not alone.. in feeling alone. It’s like love is always playing hide and seek with me to a point where it’s about to tell me straight to my face to just stop looking for it.
Love isnt even playing hide and seek anymore, with me. It got so tired of my density, it just flips me off now.
i have hard time finding and maintaining relationships because of my shattered self-image. like it's trauma I haven't overcame yet.
i may have a healthy view on myself but when I'm near people I feel like a shame.
As an adult with a childhood diagnosis of ADHD, I struggled with RSD for years. The biggest breakthrough that I've had in my fight with rejection sensitivity is that more people than we think can be very empathetic if they only know you struggle. Those who matter won't care, and those who care don't matter. The most important people in my life (including a potential future partner) are willing and able to reassure me, because I let them know what I've been through and what I need. Moral of the story: Be open and honest with your needs, and the right people will respect your boundaries.
Internally, I can only agree with being mindful and countering the negative thought with facts.
I LOVE THE USE OF BOCCI!
thanks for noticing! ;D
Who?
@@anderstermansen130 Bocchi
@@anderstermansen130 from the anime Bocchi the Rock.
ADHD and autism here i struggle with relationships sadly always afraid to be rejected i can relate to how many facts with rejections but also never give up hope everyone deserves to be loved
Nah bro i struggle with rejecting. I dont wanna be in relationship,but at the same time when someone propose me I feel bad to say no cuz I care about everyone's feelingssss 😭✋
Hope this video can help you overcome your struggles
@@Psych2go I love to study psychology to have a better understanding about ppl... So this channel helps me a lot tysm🌷
It's ok. You're in your right to do so. Just try not to be mean abt it.
Growing up, rejection was absolutely devastating. I would ask a girl on a date, she would say "no", and I would completely shut down emotionally for a month or two. The only other experience I've ever had that even came close to how badly rejection hurts me was *the loss of my mother to cancer*. I'm aware that that those two things are not supposed to invoke the same level of suffering for most people!
I've suffered from depression and anxiety all my life, though, so I'm inclined to ascribe my RSD-related symptoms to that. Nothing like depression to maximize negative feelings and minimize positive ones.
How do I deal with it? Well, I don't think I can really call this "dealing with it", but... I pre-reject myself. Someone I find attractive walks by? "Yeah, she's not dressed like that for *you*", says my brain as I go about my business. "Don't waste her time." Someone would probably have to come right out and tell me she's interested for me to believe it.
Womens rejection feels like youre forever ugly
I don't trust people. It's hard when you were abused as a child.
I gave up 6 years ago. I have no desire to even try or put the effort in.
@GlassOwl84
☹️ Is that what you truly want to do, though?
Well its better to focus on ones work or goals in life rather than waste looking for someone who will betray you and back stab you. I'd say love is a scam and a waste of time.
@@b.j.7837 Truthfully, no. I'm in therapy for my depression, but I just can't seem to get to a place of hope, as far as a relationship is concerned.
@@lenninmontiel4539 That is my current mindset, yes.
@@GlassOwl84 well hope life treats you well hun, besides try getting a hobby it might distrac you from all that lovey dovey bull****.
Struggling to say no on a relationship is hard because you don't want to be rude to the person, but at the same time, you wouldn't feel comfortable, so it can be tricky. Rejection as devastating as it, can actually be beneficial
It depends on the situation yeah !
Lol thats so wrong on several levels😂 women have less than zero issues with rejecting men😂
@@anderstermansen130 sure... *women*
Im going to be honest real quick, I mainly clicked because I saw Bocchi...
Still loved the video! Thank you for the great content it means a lot to me :D
The fear of rejection is stronger than the fear of being alone.
the fear of being alone dissolves over the time, as you slowly but surely adapt to being alone. It gives you freedom to do what you want, go hiking, watch a movie in the theater, attend a concert. Whatever that makes you happy.
I was the kid people asked out as a joke. To this day, at 30 years old, I still fall for the April Fool's Date "prank" and then people wonder why I don't even try anymore.
This!
My problem has been not being able to meet new people with similar interests. Dating apps fail and I don’t know where I can go to meet new people
Similar interests are a big factor. I've always been into things that none of my friends or girls I've dated ever really liked. It's tough.
Nope, it was only once and it's taken me over 15 yrs to finally start opening up again.
I'm incredibly cautious due to it.
0:32 The Facts
1:44 High Rejection Sensitivity
3:10 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria
Expressing the love is just like the visibility of air .
this is deemed worthy of watching!
Impeccable timing that i see this now, there's this girl at my workplace..
It all started when she made me an Origami Dragon, i returned the favor and made her an Origami Tulip for Valentine's day later. Her reaction was strong blushing with a big smile while not being able to say a word, that's when i fell in love.
Later on i wrote her a letter saying that i find her cute & would be interested in more. It's complicated, but first i was rejected, some weeks afterwards i talked with her to fix the relationship because we were always on good terms. Well, today i decided i had to let go, it's too hard to have feelings and act as if everything is fine.
My issue isn't the rejection itself, but more so that i actually fell in love with her before it happened and that there were obvious signs from both sides.. She was also the trigger for an emotional awakening because i was closed up for over a decade with no interest in such things, which makes this all the harder for me. I hope i can stay strong until i'm over it. 💔
I live every day, forced to watch how happy the people around me are, while I sink further into my loneliness. Society lied to me when it told me College was my opportunity to get out there and truly socialize with people that didn't feel forced to show up. I show up, eager to finally meet some likeminded individuals, only to be met with the same scorn and ridicule I've been familiar with since 6th grade. 49 rejections later, and the fleeting, insignificant embers of my hope are starting to flicker out. All the while, nearly each and every one of my friends is in a happy, loving, caring relationship with a beautiful, kind, and intelligent woman. I've worn a paper bag over my head in public due to how self-conscious of my appearance I have become. I stopped attending my lecture halls, my labs, and extracurricular groups because of how people just inherently despise my presence. So yes, I struggle with rejection. It's been my only company for a long time.
I've been in a relationship for 26 years. I love her and care for her more than anyone in this world, but I've never felt in love with her. I think we both settled and stayed together for my son. Now that he's grown, I feel we're drifting apart, and it fills me with a fear I haven't learned to control yet...
Very well timed indeed.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSONS!!
I am highly sensitive for myself and highly insensitive to others 😭
Or I am just dumb :D
I've been through a breakup that I thought I'll be with forever and ever with. After the breakup, I felt like everything's all my fault and going through some depression, even if my friends and family tried to cheer me up during it. No matter what I do to avoid it, the pain is always there. And after running across the video it really hit hard on a couple of them and really does describe on what I'm going through a bit. I know most of you will say to move on a little at a time or something... But at this rate, I really don't know yet. Still going through with it, still trying to hold my head up high. But I know later on, my head will go through somewhere darker and think about my ex and just continued to blame no one but myself... Just my only enemy right now is me. So... Yeh.
Thank you so much for this video
You are so welcome! Let us know if you have any other topic requests!
Love how this channel points out that I may have depression, trauma, fears and other mental health issues I never knew existed and then says ‘but if you’re truly concerned, speak to a professional’ 😂😂😅
As an INTJ I am glad I am still in the "waiting for something or someone" stage. Hope is just a prevention of depression. Depression is a subjective state. Love and relationships are just stupid things. You will suffer so hard that you stop to remember how thinking you will find someone truly feels. There is no way.
I’ve given up on relationships. Never have had a girlfriend, intimacy and constantly rejected all my life has made me just give up on everything. Women are heartless 💔.
This man learned to give up on women.
Welcome onboard the single mobile, fellow king.
@@anderstermansen130 Yeah, one more soldier.
You are not alone, welcome to modern society. Survival mode is full on.
@greencat
Not all women are heartless, even though it seems so to you.
Be very clear about what you want in a partner, but don’t make an endless list. And don’t let any woman walk all over you; have boundaries and stick to them.
@@anderstermansen130 honey both of you guys are kings and yes both women and men are selfish and arrogant when it comes to a relationship, thats why giving up on that ridiculous idea of "true love and romance" should be stomped and squashed out of anyone's mind. 😊🍸
this video came in such a good time. this weekend, I had a date with my situationship, who I thought he really liked me. he took me to an isolated place and started kissing me on the cheek. I felt so uncomfortable and told him to stop. after that moment, during the date, he became a totally different person and ended what we supposedly had after I had explained myself. this was by far the worst rejection i've ever had, but now I'm proud and thankful that it ended.
I have ADHD and it makes sense to me now. Why I'm so scared to be rejected by him. I'm overall hypersensitive to touch, smell and hearing. I'm also a sensitive lass, so I'm not really surprised with that factor either lol
Wow, I just teared up watching this,
I struggle with understanding love and finding my own answers for it. I dont know what it means to love someone or what connections are or how i form them maybe i am overthinking from seeing others fail and lost myself disconnecting myself from my own emotions and not knowing if I love someone. Help me with this my emotions and finding myself
The video i just need!!!
We hope this video helps! Let us know how it goes!
The best of the best, really helpful ❤❤
u guys are reading my mind 😭
We hope this video can help you out!
I'd actually say that my problem is accepting a relationship. I think I have a deep fear of relationships, and once I've thought about it long enough to determine if its a fear or I'm just not prepared for one. I'm currently 16, never had a relationship, tho I might have a chance, I realized that I'd accept a kind act of love mostly from my friends rather than a lover. Since I don't have any experience in a romantic relationship, I have no idea how a lover would do, I'm more inclined to like platonic, and why not romantic or simply wholesome gestures from a friend especially. Not the idea of friends with benefits, but simple acts of a different relation, something like more than friends less than a relationship, and I still think this sounds a bit off
I’m currently struggling in my relationship because I get caught up in social media and interacting with other women. Social media ruins relationships.
These past several years definitely make me feel like I've been very sensitive to rejection. I fear it, plus I have autism.
Also, happy Autism Acceptance Month y'all!
I have a fear of rejection. But something that helps me when I'm being rejected, is reminding myself that rejection is normal and it's okay to feel sad or disappointed. I allow myself to feel my emotions until it all sinks in and fades because I know that it's valid to feel. If it's a big rejection that makes me deeply devastated, I try my best to accept that not everyone or everything goes as expected or as I want to recover from that pain.
This is relatable for me:) thank you
ALSO BOCCHI THE ROCK MENTIONED?
For me I get triggered with friendship rejection but have been doing better as so recently adopted two cats as my emotional support animals
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I learned many years ago that I wasn't meant to be part of a couple. Instead of chasing after something that will never be, I put that energy into doing things for myself. Aside from being locked in a centrifuge filled with cotton candy & puppies, I cannot imagine a superior way of living.
For all of the positive feedback I receive from friends and even if rejections have nothing to do with me, any new one triggers all the older ones. Counterintuitively it doesn't get easier over time. This video notwithstanding, it is impossible not to think there is something I am doing wrong, and I don't know what it is.
Im going through this right now. I like someone a lot, she lives in Canada and we have been talking a while and I have learned we both have so much in common. But I live in Maine. 22 hours away, she had stated early on in our chat that she disliked dating apps because you would either find a jerk or someone who is too far away. Im 22 hours away, i could handle it, but i assume she cannot. So i havent tried to tell her how I feel because im terrified of being rejected once again. She is always on my mind though and idk what to do anymore. I feel like I met someone who would be perfect but stupid borders had to get in the way 😢
I've only been rejected one time..... so far. But that's also because I've only been on one day to my entire life so far
For me its more of a feeling of not being accepted, rather than being rejected.
Thank you
At 49, with AD/HD, Asperger's, and anxiety, I'm hard-pressed to find a problem on this list that I don't have.
I don't want to hurt or be hurt. I want to be close and be loved by someone, I just want to be good enough for them as I feel there 8s a standard I have to meet before I'll ever get a look in.
와 목소리 진짜 편안해지네요..굿굿
You cant struggle with relationships when you gave up on women, relationships, the entire idea of intimicy, love, deep connection, and not to forget; yourself.
You cant struggle with relationships when you dont even want to *think* about bother trying, anymore.
You cant struggle with relationships when you cruise singlelife on autopilot.
Notification squad 🥰
YEYEYEYEEEEE!! You're the best!
That’s why I am scared to be in a relationship and I cannot handle it anymore. I will probably survive in a romantic relationship If i will go to a psychotherapist at the same time.
Having to experience Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria when you're demiromantic is the polar opposite of having fun
BOCCHI THE ROCK MENTIONED 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥💯‼️
Pls make a video about fear of acceptance (the opposite of fear of rejection)
There isn't much information about this, so this would be a good way to make new content
Wtf is a relationship🗣🗣🗣🔥🔥🔥
No, I didn't recognise any of the mentioned because I have never been in any relationship.
One thing that I learnt from this channel is that it's worth to give a shot on the thing you love. With that in mind, I have started a Psychology channel. I appreciate your support. ❤️🎉
For me, I expect rejection and disappointment so I don’t get hurt. It also doesn’t help that I’m autistic, and most people aren’t relatable.
They had ADHD diagnosed and with their first lover who left for another country for work(they could have gone with them) they felt abandoned for 6 years before they chose to enter a polyamorous relationship where outside of 2 occasion's over 15 months made themselves open for anything at all.
It has been my experience when asking a woman out she will most likely say nothing, or (if I’m lucky) say no. Anyone who does say yes I manage to ruin my chances.
I swear this yt channel is in my walls
Especially when meds dont help u
High rejection sensitivity.
Check.❌
Eh, for me I just kinda accepted that they either don't exist or will find someone better and end up rejecting anyone who tries to want one with me. Forming that mindset has been one of the best decisions I've ever done for myself.
>clicked on the bocchi thumbnail
>instantly left realizing what this video was about
It's super important for everyone, including girls, to practice rejection and taking the initiative. By practicing rejection and facing potential disapproval head-on, girls (and everyone) can cultivate resilience, confidence, and a fearless attitude towards pursuing their desires. Not only does it help us understand different perspectives, like the male position, but it also builds resilience and confidence. Plus, learning not to fear disapproval is a total game-changer.
Easy to say...
@@Moussaka47 You're right. We're living in diffrent places. Sometimes it's too danger.
Me who got rejected multiple times in life...yep...still keeping my sanity and work somehow 😅
Bocchi is literally me fr
I struggle with relationship rejection because I don't have any options. I had a girlfriend back in 1988. She got pregnant by another guy and moved out. I haven't generated any interest since.
Cause nowadays nobody wants a real relationship
Bring back Amanda please! Her voice is the face of Psych2go. I'm not a fan of the new ones and it has made me listen less 😔 nothing against the new voices but just hers is something magical
Thanks for your feedback! :)
I agree not the same
You could have kept this to yourself.
@@drag-ha why is that should everyone lie then
Its an opinion? Dont let my views sway you from the message behind the video!
Also if you followed her on social you'd see she asked for us to request her more if we'd like her to voice more videos
I have a question
Is negative self-talk considered self-harm?
And if it's a bad thing (I know it's bad but how bad)
So because of how complicated this topic would be, I can understand if it would take psych2go a long time for an analysis for it, basically what's the difference between somebody that's denied physical intimacy(somebody that feels sexually repressed in an unhealthy relationship) and somebody that feels entitled to physical intimacy? Because the line between them sounds like a razors edge, than a real wide gap which it can be,
С этим девизом я прожила свою жизнь - " Что бы потом не умереть от отвержения лучше сейчас не завязывать отношения" 😄
Very timed
The video was amazing❤But I don’t really struggle in a relationships because I’m only 11 years old. I hate to see the girl I like like someone I like😢but I know that she is happy so I’m happy for her❤😊
R/youngpeopleyoutube right there😂
@@anderstermansen130 Yes I’m young❤
What about from a mere friendship standpoint? (Especially on how to clarify it as such to not get misunderstood as romantic.)
I lost my daughter 8 years ago and a partner 20 years my senior left me around that time we were together for 10 years I loved him very much and believed we’d be together forever I couldn’t imagine him not in my life but we grew apart and his health did fail him although I still miss him I don’t miss the lies and false promises he never acknolweged our love and so I feel happier without him but my heart will be forever grieving the loss of my daughter so yes I am afraid to trust someone with my fragile heart many thanks ❤️😊
I Just broke up a 2 year relationship because I can't see myself spending the rest of mu life with someone. The most painful thing about It is that I don't know why It happens in every relationship that I get into 😢
Assuming the wo*an in the profile picture, is actually you, then youre blatantly lying.
Bocchi my beloved
What age group was used to establish these statistics? I ask because at the ripe age of 31, I can say that I never got a disaster date, never got stood out and never got cheated on. The fact that I've never been in a relationship, much less in a date, may be an an explaination, but details...
原來我們的疼痛是因為拒絕產生的情緒🥲
There’s currently more than 7 billion people on the planet. If someone rejects me, they’re replaceable.
To everyone who seen this comment don’t be sad anymore You could find someone better❤❤❤
Why do i struggle with relationships?
Because im ugly and poor
BOCCHI THE ROCK IN THE NAIL!!!
I thought this one girl was interested in me, especially with her asking a friend about me… Then she turns around starts talking to guys… And started ignoring me…
I just got rejected today. Im 37 yo man and i got rejected at least 50-100 times. Hope this video will help ....
Damn. I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope it works out for you.
have you tried being not ugly?
How does Psych2Go always know?
Just got rejected by my crush (who is apparently a Lesbian) and I’ve pretty much locked myself in my room since then. Maybe I should search around for cameras, their timing is always suspiciously accurate