The Time Blindness TikToker Responded
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- Опубліковано 26 лип 2023
- Time blindness, a hot topic on TikTok recently due to a video made by a TikToker named Chaotic Philosopher. Today, we look at her response and talk about why it is still off the mark.
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I totally understand her struggle. As someone with cocaine blindness, I often have no clue how much cocaine I've already snorted.
I get that as well but with kratom and weed. lol
Lmao
💀
Yeah that’s not funny… there so many people with invisible disabilities that no one can see and people make fun and dismiss it. She is not anything people are saying she is because she asked for accommodations.
She asked for that because she wanted help, because she wanted to be and do better. Is it really that bad for her to want to get help so she could succeed? She even basically asked for a councilor to help her… why is that bad? Why is asking for help wrong? Why is being able to receive help wrong?
I don’t understand…
Snowflame? is that you?
Apart from a medical condition, my experience with people with "Time Blindness" is that they are always late for a start time, but at the end of a shift they are out the door right on time.
Interesting that
Ain’t that the truth.
is that there fault ? its some places who dont allow over time and dont allow you to stay and catch up on work. They have no choice but to leave. My job (in a school) I can stay as late as I want (unpaid) working, & I often do to catch up on work. Especially if I was late.
@@michellement2158 Some jobs can be flexible and I think that is fair to ask, but most jobs just don’t and can’t offer that level of flexibility.
If I’m working with a team I wouldn’t want to work on one where coming in whenever you want is a option, even with the ability to call or email, I don’t feel like a “time blind” person will be reliable.
If I had a kid and took them to class I would expect the teacher to be there, if I had a appointment with any professional I expect them to be on time, but I get there are some job that can be flexible and she needs to find one of those but truth is they’re probably in demand.
@michellement2158 I really hope your job at that school isn't teaching since you don't know the difference between "there" and "their." Regarding leaving on time: yes some jobs are strict about not allowing people to work over, yet these people who can't arrive on time still never need to be reminded to leave on time, company policy or no.
As someone with ADHD, I have time blindness and it is really bad. So I show up for work almost a whole hour before I have to be in because if I don't show up obscenely early, I show up late. I take it on myself, not ask my employer to worry about it and make sure that I get to work on time.
20-45 min early for everything 🙋🏻♀️
Me too@@vriana1921
I have adhd and struggle so hard with it. I tried my very best and got my tardiness down from 6 minutes down to two minutes using every strategy I could find. It took a lot of work, but let’s just say I was late more than four times that semester. I know it’s difficult for people without ADHD to understand it, but it’s a real struggle for some people. And it’s not like I was late every day. It’s just if I got distracted at all it would happen.
Not to excuse it, but I just want people to understand it doesn’t always come naturally
Just to be super clear: although I think being perfectly on time is a bit strict, like if I’m a minute late, it’s not a big deal, however a fifteen minute window is a bit extreme. I feel like it would definitely be nice if teachers and bosses didn’t get really upset if you’re late by a minute or two, but again, it is ultimately one’s own responsibility to be on time even if it’s harder for you than others.
I saw this really relevant post:
"Your triggers are YOUR responsibility."
You can't expect the world to shield every little thing that may be offensive to you FROM you.
Being a disabled person myself, I agree that some things SHOULD be normalized - wheelchair ramps, more automatic doors, a better understanding of mental health and disabilities.
But there qre people who take it too far in demands.
She has time blindness?
Set more alarms.
It's really that simple, because people will just use it as an excuse to just NOT be where they're supposed to be, at the time they need to be.
Exactly. Some people will abuse their diagnosis to shield themselves against everything they don't want to do.
We need more awareness and understanding of the realities of adhd and the neurodivergent brain. Of course we need to identify potential triggers, but accommodations aren't as much about triggers as respect. Compare it to being stabbed, then being told it is your responsibility not to bleed or feel pain. You deserve to work in a place where you are not constantly "stabbed."
Similar to diabetes where, no matter your diet and routine, if the pancreas doesn't produce enough insulin (or too much), the body doesn't correctly process, etc. you need accommodations like being able to inject yourself and eat/drink as needed. Likewise, if the brain is not getting proper dopamine and being pressured, scolded, given demands beyond what others do, etc. is very triggering and disrespectful. No matter the medication, you still need breaks and accommodations.
Honestly, your opinion is... Somewhat ignorant. The thing about setting alarms, is that people with time blindness doesn't pay attention to them, or at least I don't. I'm in the middle of doing something, my alarm goes off. I silence my phone because I was in hyperfocus mode and irritated by any distraction. When that alarm goes off, my brain doesn't see it as an alert to me to do anything. There's tons of symtoms with ADHD that people don't even have a clue about. And this woman in the video is absolutely within her rights to enquire about accommodations.
@@uncle-bin1750Isn't that what someone in a wheelchair is doing? I mean, they could try to walk if they wanted. Do you realise how stupid that sounds? Just because it's not visible doesn't make it any less real. I would know, I've got ADHD, and I do have time blindness.
@@amandabeaty1492 No, it's not and you know it. There are plenty of tools to work around your disabilities. What this women is doing isn't working around them or finding tools to deal with them - it's the opposite. She demands society to change.
I know plenty of people who work their ass of to solve their problems. Especially folks with ADHD. A friend of mine has to be super organized all the time because of it. She is a wonderful human being.
And yes, society can be expected to do some things. Buildings should be designed barrier-free for folks with disabilities. Teachers/parents should be expected to treat kids according to their special needs. Etc.
Time blindness is something she could work around. Set an earlytimer, add a note. If you read the note you will either care for it (great) or not. It might need time for the person to find what works for them. It will take effort.
That's what I expect of myself and people around me. If you don't agree - fine. We don't have to.
Time Blindness Lady: I blame my mom for the whole incident.
Her mother: I missed the part where that's my problem.
Time Blindness Girl: I excuse my time blindness for being lazy
Every person: But did I ask
Damn
@@JustaHedgehoginSonicBoom And that right there is being ableist… it even says on the psychology today website in regards to ADHD and time blindness “Those who are time blind can be misjudged as uncaring, lazy, or irresponsible.”
So why are you saying/doing this exact thing?
Just because you don’t have the intelligence or empathy to understand someone’s disability doesn’t in turn make them lazy or anything negative thing you have to say about them.
This all needs to stop, accommodations are normal and standard and actually have to be provided by law to people with disabilities.
She is asking for help so she can be better and do better that’s all… that is the basics of it. Just because a disability can’t be seen doesn’t make it not a disability.
She isn’t lazy she just has time blindness which is a form of disassociating which can’t be controlled easily. ADHD is a spectrum, so is time blindness, so that means that not just anything is gonna work everyone. What works for someone else may not works the next person.
Have more empathy, have more understanding, do more research on a disability before demeaning someone and dismissing their struggle.
Can I just say that the fact she went the whole evangelism route, as a Christian just makes me even more angry. "honor your father and mother" not ring a bell? That doesnt mean saying "oh everyone makes mistakes" in a snarky way, that means if your mom says youre being a brat, youre being a brat.
@@itzTeTe no one said that tho? literally not a single person said its not a disability and just laziness, besides if you post your personal shit on social media you let others judge you by their standards, not urs, so dont get salty when you get shit on
As someone with time blindness who used to lose track of time very often, i will literally write on the back of my hand, put sticky notes on surfaces that i look at/pass by often, and set an obscene amount of alarms to make sure things are done and I'm on time.
Same!! I'll have things on my calendar, on my fridge, on my phone, alarms on my phone, and on my Alexa... I can't be 'trusted' with time. Lol!!
I have ADHD. You can get ritalin, but ADHD and drug addiction tend to go hand to hand.
Yeah I’ve got autism, time blindness and ocd where if I don’t do certain things then the devil will steal my soul……stupid yes BUT I have built my life in a way to make sure I get things done. Do I fail? Yes but that’s on me and I don’t put my responsibilities on others and blame society. I blame society for other things, but my things are my things.
@@Skoopyghost are you saying you have a drug addiction? If so, I would suggest rehab.
@@xlikeafishyox what I said was out of concern, what you're saying is out of just being rude 🤷🏾♀️ I suggest personal research though
ADHDer here with terrible time blindness. We all have a portable alarm clock in our pockets/hands right now. Set daily alarms. I'm lucky that I have a very consistent schedule so I can set an alarm once and more or less forget about it (until it goes off, of course). I would never dare ask ANYONE (employer, friends, family, etc) to accommodate MY very much manageable symptom.
Another tip not too unrelated to time blindness: put writable surfaces all over your house to make notes, especially by places you pass by often (front door, kitchen, bedroom, bathroom). I have a desk calendar hanging on my fridge along with a legal pad. There's a notebook on my coffee table. Another notebook in my bedroom. My office is littered with sticky notes.
TL;DR: Alarms and sticky notes are your best friend.
It's real, but she is more capable than she gives herself credit for.
I have ADHD , OCD, ASD, PTSD, GAD, and I have had 2 significant TBIs that left me with permanent cognitive deficits, especially for memory. I have ZERO concept of time and a horrible memory.
I have worked for over a decade to improve things. She can get much, much, MUCH better. It does stress me out. I start worrying about time ...really "early". Calendars, multiple alarms, planning. I'm also physically disabled. If I can do it, most people can with time and a lot of effort. I'm certainly not special or smart with incredible skills. I'm not writing ths to be dismissive. I know how impossible it seems; I want to give hope to those who struggle. I didn't have the appropriate help, but there is help available to improve on this.
Edited: Great video.
@@blub-tf6rt Weirdo comment.
I have MDD, ADHD, and GAD, along with trauma responses characteristic of other disorders. Love to you, man, I don't have it as bad as you, but I hope you're doing good.
Everybody so special ✨❄️✨
But that‘s nothing compared to me 😎
I have ADD, ADHD, OCD, DID, PTSD, STD, RIP, KGB, LMNOP, QWERTY, DoReMi and a Lv. 69 Stage 3 Super-Trauma
It’s laughable how normal you guys are, I WISH I only had what you have, but my trauma is traumaing way harder than yours 😎
Y’all do realize you’re not one bit better than the girl in the video, when you’re demanding special attention, praise and a trophy for doing the most basic sh!t like BEING ON TIME?
And if you don’t do it for the "look at me, look at me, me me me" then why say anything about it at all? Just do your thing and shut up.
@@UberOwl I don't think that most of us do... That's kind of the point that we are making. We have our s*** and we deal with it. We live our lives and don't expect any kind of special praise for living it. I can't speak to others, but in my case most people have no idea what I'm struggling with because I keep it private. So I definitely don't expect any kind of accolades or attention. I am trying to say that this is a skill that most people can acquire. I will sound like a boomer here but when I grew up there weren't excuses. We weren't allowed to give them then and I don't give them now.
@@summerdais325 I‘ll let you figure out by yourself how you very much did not "keep your struggles private".
Your comment may not be the same "look at me", but it’s a "look at me" comment nonetheless.
The fact is that ADHD time blindness can be self-accommodated. Keeping conscious track of time, using time alerts every 15, 30, 45 minutes etc, or getting your brain in gear with food or exercise. Schools are required to provide REASONABLE accommodations, but if they are able to self-accommodate generally those are preferred anyway.
EXACTLY. I have ADHD, and when I was younger, I had a little watch that would vibrate about every hour, to keep me on track. It's so simple
I self accommodate at work with alarms on my phone, and my manager (i love her, she's amazing) actually put times on our duty sheet to try and help me get on track.
I have HORRIBLE time management esp with how busy we anyways are. I work at a gas station and corporate cares more about their bottom line than the safety and ease of work for the employees at my location
@@Unnecessary_Potato I had a coworker when I worked at a movie theater who had some severe time blindness, far worse than mine. He was always consistently 20 - 30 minutes late to his shift. Our manager started to schedule him 30 minutes earlier than the normal shift times in order to get him on track and that seemed to work. We can't force him to self-accommodate, but that was a pretty decent compromise.
Good on your manager for trying to accommodate, this stuff can be hard and people helping out when they can really does make a difference.
I had w lot of problems in school because of ADHD time blindness and tried a lotta shit my therapist recommended. Nowadays I got flexible working hours lol
That's what makes me the most frustrated about these types of people, they yell about how knowledgeable they are about their illness but they don't know how to accommodate their illness. Sounds like... you're just not putting in the effort for anything other than complaining for sympathy so you can do whatever you want.
You could say she was blinded by the light that August shined at her
Exactly. Good pun btw
@@JustaHedgehoginSonicBoomthank you good sir
@@fnfethusiast6508you’re welcome, my fellow man
Lmao
Classic 😂
Time blindness can be managed effectively with various strategies:
Setting Alarms and Reminders: Use alarms on your phone or clocks to prompt you when tasks need to start or finish.
Creating Routines: Establish daily routines to help regulate your internal sense of time.
Using Visual Aids: Employ visual timers or clocks to visualize the passage of time and manage tasks accordingly.
Prioritizing Tasks: Focus on prioritizing tasks based on their importance and allocate appropriate time slots.
Hi, 32 year old adult with ADHD here: time "blindness" is silly to me. I'm very aware of time. I do however go into "waiting mode" where I'm too scared to begin a task knowing I have work or plans later. To remedy this, I always get to work about an hour early. I have never been late once. This also helps as when it's busy, I'm asked to clock in early and get to get a few extra hours in through the week.
I understand being young and feeling helpless, but you have to overcome yourself. Your problems are your own, no one else's. Deal with them.
ADHD does come in different severities like I myself will get into a task or something I enjoy and before I know it it's been two hours and I forgot to do the shit I was supposed to
@@quartzskull8772 that's exactly what I mean by "waiting mode" I'm so terrified I'll do exactly that, so I just leave earlier than early.
Same bro same😔 but this girl here is taking advantage of ppl like us. Im pretty sure she one of the many tiktokers who was “self-diagnosed” and wants take advantage of ppl with actual problems.
I also have ADHD and do this exact thing. If I know something is coming up such as plans, work, appointments, etc., I will focus on that one thing, and get ready for it until it happens. Then I'll move on with my life normally. Managing multiple events in one day is something I struggle with, but I do my best and continue to make it work. This girl is just making excuses
Meh, just because you don't experience it doesn't mean it's not a well known symptom that's hard to manage. I have time blindness as part of my symptoms, and it took me a long time to figure something out. Now I'm mostly fine, but somedays I just can't zap out of waiting mode. My uni had accommodations for ADHD though, which is normal for a place of education imo (that you pay for). Employers though, I only pick jobs with flexible start hours.
I'm Autistic, ADHD, OCD... I could go on. You HAVE To find workarounds for some of your issues in order to do a lot of things. She's in the mind of 'I don't wanna change, others should change for me so I can be happy with no effort at all'. She needs to get over herself and work on herself.
Well said sir
Exactly, we all have issues. Most of us just deal with our shit. This certain generation is just the most self-entitled, horrible, delusional people.
@@morticiaheisenberg9679 I wouldn't say this certain generation as a whole, personally. Just a lot of the newer generation(s) tend to gravitate towards people who give them 'answer's for thoughts they have that they don't speak up about. Finding someone that demands to be accommodated for every little thing. Though because all content is becoming shortform right now, there've been some papers going around saying the current young generation has the worst attention span ever, supposedly, and their overall skills have gone down because of said attention span leading to having a harder time even keeping the lowest rung jobs.
Same. Also, people need to stop victimizing everything
Self diagnosed too I bet. Ughh why does everyone slap labels on themselves as a personalty it's so weird
As a person with ADHD we do not want her in our group
As another person with ADHD I agree.
Fellow ADHDer here and yes, just wanted to make it very clear to the non-ADHDers that we don't claim her!!🚫
Same we dont claim her
ADHD poster child right here….she can kick rocks
@@stevieb7865 agreed
Re: the frustration of having these kinds of rules at university. I teach adults (have for years), and (sadly), this is another one of those "the few ruin it for the many" type situations.
Even if adults are fully paying for the class out of pocket, and I spend literal days planning each lesson so it's filled to the brim with engaging, captivating materials that (hopefully) impart the necessary knowledge: there will always be students who, if not given any push-back, will skip or show up late to *every* class, flunk all the exams (because they missed every class and obviously didn't review the recordings /study the materials on their own), and then get mad at *me* for their grades! And when I say "get mad at *me* , I mean "speak to the program director and/or Dean."
Most adults are motivated, responsible students -- but we as educators *need* clear policies for those who are not, sadly.
Honestly it’s really not that crazy to implement a policy of if you are late or don’t show up for x amount of time then you fail because jobs are like that. College is in a way supposed to prepare you for the real world. You will get fired from a job for being late and/or not showing up x amount of times. However as with most things there should always be consideration to the situation. Are you late bc you woke up late? Then it’s a tick on your record. Did you literally get a flat tire and you can prove it? Then no worries man. It’s your duty as a fully functioning adult human being to show up to obligations on time like what??? lol smh
I have OCD too man. i appreciate u sharing your personal experience with it and i relate. you have to work on stuff for yourself! its hard but its the way to a better life
I had pretty bad OCD too where I used to circle my house making sure all doors where locked and/or closed over 20 times sometimes 4 times back to back because my brain didn't trust what I just saw. The consequences my brain convinced me was that the house would get broken into and my family harmed.
I had something similar to OCD for about a year, I doubt it was actual OCD but I don't know really. So my door jams often, meaning that it can be pushed open without turning the knob. It scared me at the time and as previously said for around a year I would get up 3-4 times a night to check that it was closed all the way, only falling asleep when I was finally convinced it was closed, sometimes as late as 3 am. I also checked that my closet was closed all the way and that all my models were still in their tray. But that was the thing that I did the most. I got myself to stop doing it by whenever I did it I would have to do 20 pushups. Laziness actually stopped it 🤷♂
Story time over lol
I don’t have OCD or anything like that, but I do do this and I always feel like my family is gonna get hurt if I don’t. I do think I have been validated in the fact that one night my dad forgot to close the front door and it was open until I came around at midnight checking that all the doors were locked.
U should have a notepad on some white boran that u write that down when u close the door so u know
Thank you for spreading the truth about ocd! I have diagnosed OCD and I’m always frustrated by people who seem to think it’s a personality trait
Edit: how tf did this turn into a warzone? Can't be nice online i guess lmao. Thanks for all the likes too! Appreciate it!
She's a a lazy layabout is all
Oh I correct people all the time when they're like "Oh hehe I'm just OCD like that!" I just look at them and say " No you are just anal about it there is a massive difference between "you don't like it " and it's a tick you can't control."
I don't have ocd I don't think. At all. And it annoys me as well.
Your OCD is no one else’s problem.
@@singbluesilver1973 I never said it was. Bruh
Time blindness can mostly be self accommodated but some accommodations don't work for everyone, alarms are great until you get desensitized to them (I have time sensitive medication and it's really frustrating to wake up and realize I slept through my multiple alarms. I have multiple alarms to wind down for bed and I basically started ignoring them) It's important (if you're like me) to find lots of self accommodations that you can kind of rotate and cycle through. I put sticky notes EVERYWHERE and that works well until it becomes background noise and I stop reading them. With some forms of ADHD you basically have to have flexibility and accept that there really aren't any long term solutions and you just need to have a lot of strategies for when one stops working. Sometimes its not even that the strategy doesn't work but that you need to do it slightly different. (Like putting my phone on my desk so I'm forced to walk over to it instead of just turning it off from bed or setting up a new alarm sound when I get too used to the old one.)
I just see a lot of comments acting like there's a definitive solution and it's not always like that. I do think schools should be more accommodating (cuz you're paying for your education) but those accommodations are more like access to counselors who can help you develop strategies rather than extra time windows because lectures are scheduled for a reason and sure you could argue that the 4 times late and you're out policy is super dumb (which I think it is because shit happens) but having access to counselors is way more important for developing long term strategies especially when you're young.
Every smart phone has a clock. Problem solved.
That's...literally not the issue...like at all...
When she mentioned schools and businesses obligations to God, I legit started 😂. I was choking I was laughing so hard
schools you pay for i get but man, asking for basically free work skipping passes when they're paying you money for a job, no wonder they gonna fire your ass or not hire you
That's the go-to move when your argument is being fucked over. Just bring God into it and suddenly you have to tread more carefully to not "disrespect" God.
I thought maybe she misspoke or something, then the Jesus Christ comment came in and i was with August here JFC thats a rabbit hole of confusion.
I had to rewind because I thought I misheard her. That was the most "Sir, this is a Wendy's" moment ever.
Same here, does she realize where she lives ?
I’m an autistic person with genuinely terrible time blindness, and it’s a struggle sometimes, sometimes I accidentally leave slightly late, i have to leave extra early so i ended up arriving wicked early, it’s how I accommodate myself. It’s literally just leave early, don’t make people wait on you, just leave early good god.
👏👏👏 excellent!
I remember my parents saying "if you're on time, you're late. if you're 15 minutes early, you're on time." to me as a kid.
@@greatleader4841 This is what my old band conductor would tell us, "If you're early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late." Still always make sure to give myself at least an extra 15 minutes on any journey so I can accommodate myself losing track of time and leaving a bit late and still getting there in time.
@@zeroburn315 anyone who grew up without cellphones knew this rule. you always leave 15 minute lead way otherwise you'll be late.
how about, look at a clock
I honestly feel like this was one of your most insightful videos ever. The explanation you gave where you compared what she was asking for and how it was unreasonable to your OCD and washing hands compulsively as a child, and how you did not ask to wash your hands every 15 minutes or whatever because you recognized that it would be unreasonable was perfect.🎉
LOLL i love the slow zoom in while you go on a rant
I wonder if her "time blindness" is that special kind which disappears once she finally gets to work, thus ensuring she leaves promptly at the end of her shift.
It also disappears when she is waiting on someone else to serve her food or prepare her Starbucks order.
Sometimes it can be real. I've had days with temporary time blindness where I skip and forget about paid breaks and in a couple ocassions about the end of shift, where I kept going on for about half an hour more. I can cope easily constantly looking at the clock and it makes it manageable, but sometimes I've screqed up when I'm afk on a break and I've had overbreaks for a significant extra time when I thought I still had 5 minutes more. My own screw up, nobody else's
this is real funny . Y'all really joke on it but that's not how Time blindness works for some of us. I USED to be the latest one to come to work and the latest one to leave the building. It doesn't shut off. Time blindness combined with slow pace is really something.
@@michellement2158 yeah except they have these things called clocks, on your computer, on your phone, even on your wrist. Now, I can be horrible at underestimating the time it may take to complete a task or drive somewhere, I get that. But wtf is “time blindness”? You just zone out looking at the wall for hours?
I wouldn't know it was time to go home unless my boss told me. Sometimes I would unintentionally end up working overtime.
This is why proper boundaries are important. Don't make other people responsible for your issues, don't make yourself responsible for other people's issues.
But muh outrage culture!
Yeah you might need some support but it’s not a crutch
Before I go on my little rant I gotta say that you and the girl are super well spoken and have a lot of respect for that.
I gotta be honest I used to be that girl, I mostly kept it to myself, but I did have this sense of others needing to accommodate for me because I'm struggling with something out if my control. And it is not a good mindset. It's just a different way to paint yourself as a victim and not taking the responsibility for your actions. What I needed was to be let go from a job and reminded by people around me. I needed a reality check and to grow up
I love your take on this and explaining ocd, also the expected time bit, I think she was saying exactly what you were with giving the time extension to herself. The fact that she never thought about that is pretty hilarious though
This girl is entitled with a capital “B”. If she has specific or special needs, she can either choose a school that specializes in educating students with special needs or attend a school with fewer students so she can get that extra attention. She is absolutely infuriating! Seriously, she is in for a rude awakening. Society will not play by her rules.
Or just set timers to make her pay attention. She's constantly on her phone if she has time to beech and moan on the internet, phones have alarm/calendar apps, she needs to use em.
Edit: There are no accommodations for "time blindness" because heaven forbid your job needs you to be there on time to release another employee from a shift. Jobs don't have a "special needs" position for something like this after you graduate from school.
The problem is she assumes she gets special treatment because she had special needs. Like wtf?
🅱entitled
The worst part is that she’s probably ruining her chances with some schools because of all of this
"So im applying somewhere to go. THEY started yelling at me" so she's lying right here. She admitted in the og video the people who she was "interviewing" with were yelling no where did she mention her mom
As a kleptomaniac I 100% agree with her. It pisses me off so much that stores do not accommodate my neurodiversity
And don't give you "free" stuff in order to help you with your cleptomaniac disorder. 😂😂😂😂😂
Yes, as a sociopath, I agree they really should
@@user-rj5hz2ct6x You are all right, as a rap-
@@BillKillerz wow there buddy lets not go that far
@@hesmokeshella-eo9wk like I was saying before being cutoff... as a rapper, I completely agree ! I should be allowing to converse in rhymes and not be ridiculed for it !
I have ADD, and I experience Time Blindness.
So, to fix this, I wear a watch, set alarms, show up early, and have clocks on various surfaces throughout the house.
We have a disability, absolutely. But that doesn't mean we can't find healthy ways to cope. And medication works really well.
I think you make a great point, it gets to a point where it’s your issue. I also struggled with time blindness so I started making and setting lots of alarms so I can make sure I was leaving when I need to, I needed to learn to just hold back stimming or the feeling to wander because the teacher or professor was boring me, it’s hard but that’s a part of life, you have to learn that not everything is fair and this whole idea of everything needs to be fair it’s just impossible. Life is about balance and it sucks but you have learn to live with the good and the bad. I understand it sucks having severe ADHD as I struggle with it for a very long time, but you also have to understand that the world isn’t going to be a comfortable place to live. You have to find comfort within an uncomfortable planet.
My son has ADHD and isn't on any medications. We deal with this with a lot of alarms on phones and post it notes. Easy to take care of if your willing to help yourself. She might benefit from online classes since there's no need to add travel time in but she'd still need to be aware of herself and be responsible enough to get online in time. I think she's just looking for free passes
Yeah the key word here is you using “we” by the sound of it she’s handling this all by herself and her mom doesn’t seem to be taking her disability serious when she tried to get accommodations to help her do better. She isn’t looking for a free pass she is looking for help, what she is asking for isn’t a lot. She listed accommodations that I currently have including extra time to get to class and set up my work space if I need that. I have autism and I also have seizures and sometimes having one will cause me to be late to class. Should I be punished for something I can’t control as well? Because she can’t control her adhd just like I can not control my seizures or my autism.
only problem is that screen time can often make adhd symptoms worse
@@itzTeTe except a siezure and being unable to tell time, is not even close to the same thing, there are no accommodations that can be made for her, shes just being a dumb brat, if she wanted to she could set up alarms and function mostly like a regular fkin person, stop defending her so much for her laziness
@@itzTeTeI think the difference is that she could actually do something herself. She could set a lot of timers and add her 15 minutes to the time she expects to need to get there. I agree that she shouldn't immediately be in trouble for being late, but it just looks like she isn't even trying a lot herself although she could. And I also think her mother could support her maybe a little bit more too, but you can't put it all on schools and wherever you're working. You still have to deal with this specific problem yourself.
@@schrodingerskatze4308Just because she hasn’t found a method that works for her doesn’t mean she isn’t trying though. I agree her mom definitely could be more supportive, from what I’ve seen her mother seems extremely dismissive.
But she is entitled by law to have accommodations via the Americans with disabilities act, and nothing she asked for was unreasonable and I noticed one of those things was someone to help her she mentioned it briefly But she is most likely referring to an in class aid who’s job it is to help differently abled people, or a counselor who can work with her. She is an adult yeah but even adults need help.
Sometimes you can’t find a solution to your issue on your own and you need help, that doesn’t mean you’re not trying that just means you haven’t found something that works.
At the end of the day we don’t see her progress but asking for accommodations for disabilities isn’t abnormal, what she asked for wasn’t unreasonable at all, and since it’s trade school which lasts 18-24 months that means her accommodations would cover that time period, so say she was allowed 3 chances to be late before accommodations in the lets 520 days that’s 2 years without any weekends… 3 is not a lot if she going to school the other 5 days, in this scenario 5-10 days would be more sufficient, it’s not an unreasonable ask at all when you put into this perspective, also when it comes to these times of classes she is asking for 15 minute Leeway when these classes can last HOURS sometimes it’s like having a full time job depending on the field… so asking for 15 minutes out of let’s say a 4 hour class… that’s not unreasonable.
Every time this woman talks, one of my braincells commits seppuku.💀
Veeery Honorebu!
Why? Because she asked for help? Accommodations are just tools that can help people who are differently abled…
She’s in school so by law they have to provide her accommodations and the accommodations she spoke of are real. I literally have them. 🙃
So what’s the issue? Also the school can face legal issue if they deny her accommodations.
Time blindness is a form of disassociating which can’t be controlled. It can be managed with help though… you know… the help she was asking for and people being horrible toward her for… guess you didn’t hear when she basically asked for a counselor to help her… but ok…
@@itzTeTejust stop arguing for her dawg
@@MrVigill no real, shes under like every comment
@@MrVigillNo? Why can no actually explain to me how she is wrong when I’m going into extensive detail on how y’all are in the wrong here.
She is literally entitled to accommodations with the Americans with disabilities act, and if she’s in Canada they have something similar so what’s the issue? What she was asking for isn’t outrages it really isn’t 😂 like since you’ve been following me up and down the comments then you must have read the accommodations that I receive in regards to college and work correct? If not I suggest you go and read those since you want to speak up.
I will never stop defending someone who is facing an injustice. Y’all are in the wrong on this one. I stand firm on this. I hope you see it one day. She is by law in the right and is entitled to receive accommodation. This includes having an aid or a counselor to better help her. But y’all don’t want her to have accommodations there for you don’t want her to get help and get better.
That’s how this looks. You may not see right now but just think about it… she is backed by a literal law… and y’all are saying she isn’t entitled to accommodations… yikes..
I have time blindness and I have a simple solution: my watch is 15 mins later than the rest of clocks, and I set to get pings or to make sounds each hour at :00, so I get to sense how the time passes. I always leave earlier than usual and I make it in time. I can vent and say I don't like how society is built around this too, but there are solutions that I can use without interfering with the others. It is what it is, I got used to that. If I had literally no solutions to these kind of problems, I would have then argued about it.
When I was little my dad said "get in the habit of setting alarms cause you cant be on time to save your life" and to this day i have 5+ alarms set for every event throughout the day, 1 to remind me something is happening and the next few to keep me from getting too distracted/focused on something else. Change for the worls youre in, dont expect the world to change for you
I'm a 100% disabled combat veteran. I have limitations due to my disabilities. Due to this, I learned to compensate by changing my habits or making adjustments to my lifestyle. I don't expect the people around me to "accommodate" for my issues.
These kids think the world revolves around them. 99.9% of them haven't accomplished anything besides posting TikToks and think they deserve all the help in the world... Lost generation.
Respect for your work
Sir… if you get any kind of assistance from the government due to your disability those are accommodations…
Thank you for your service🫡
@@cerealhit555and that’s ageist.. anyways you seem hurt… do you want to talk about it? You have the unwarranted aggression towards the younger generation simply because they are getting more help to live better lives… which is something that we are suppose to strive for as a society so what is this issue? Common talk to mama T. ❤
@@itzTeTe
You're missing the point
I am also disabled and use a walker and cane and I only go to stores that have self grocery bagging so I'm not in the way of others or I buy my groceries online that are food stamps approved
@@Chuck_ELok that is you and that is also a physical disability… and it’s a shame you have to feel like you are burden to others because of something that you have no control other. You deserve respect, you have a right to do anything an abled body person can do, you should NEVER be treated like some kind of inconvience..
I don’t believe I am missing the point at all, during the pandemic I saw how people really viewed us and it made me sick to my stomach. We deserve to be treated with basic human decency.
We are not burdens, we are not in the way of anyone, we are not selfish, we are not lazy, we are not uncaring, we are people who happen to be differently abled… we just exist.. we are just existing.
We did not ask to be here we did not ask for our disabilities, can we work on ourselves? Yes but that goes for any human abled bodied or not.
There needs to be more empathy in this world.. there needs to be more education and understanding.
I will say this again YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN.
As a side note, for 2:47 in regards to attendance policies, as a college teacher myself, I technically do require attendance, but I do what's called "unnotified absence" policy. That is, if you're going to miss class for whatever reason, I just ask that you as the student send me a quick email letting me know and I don't count it against you (the reason doesn't need to be given -- just telling me you won't be able to make it is sufficient). If they do that, then I never count it against them because it tells me they do care about what they are learning and are taking the class seriously. If they don't email me letting know they won't make it class, then I count it as an "unnotified absence." I made it so that students are allowed to have 4-5 unnotified absences before it starts eating into their grade (I don't outright fail them -- how much that eats into their grade will depend on how many unnotified absences they do).
Of course, if I get a bunch of unnotified absences from students in a row, I will check on the student to see what's going on and make sure they're okay and then depending on the situation will waive it if the student can explain what's going on that has caused them to miss class.
Thanks for what you do!!! You very likely don't hear that enough, as a teacher. You are important, and what you do matters. Thank you for guiding the next generation.
That’s not going to work when they step into the real world. As someone who has worked in teams of other people it’s extremely annoying to have to cover someone’s work when they don’t turn up or turn up late. I support them being fired/ejected from school.
@@singbluesilver1973 While I agree with you on the work, but if I'm paying for a class and fail to show up, that's on me and the wasted money. While I do agree that kids need to be taught to be on time, with college, unless it was required by state like how normal schooling is, then it shouldn't matter. But yes, it's very frustrating when people don't show up to work. I used to work at a place with a really small team of people. If someone didn't show up to do their part, it made it hell for me as it was usually me who had to pick up the slack while the other lazy workers got away with doing nothing. I only had one good partner who actually helped. And these projects were massive! On the plus side, me bosses knew that but I was still passed over on promotions so I left. My direct supervisor urged me to leave because they were using me, which I knew that and why I left.
@@singbluesilver1973 For some reason, I completely missed this comment and just now seeing this.
I see your point, but the problem I have with it is that it's not my job as a college teacher to "prepare" students in that way because most students either already know that or are going to learn that to be the case anyway (and some unfortunately will learn that the hard way). Most college students work in addition to taking other classes and other responsibilities outside my class, so to set up an attendance policy that's meant to replicate supposed "real world" scenarios would be both fruitless (because there is not a monolithic model of what the "real world workplace" is) and counterproductive to the main goal of the course, which is to teach them how to write at the college level. And that's not even going into the fact that students pay to go to classes.
It would be nice if students didn't learn the hard way about how life outside of college works, but based on professional experience, having a draconian attendance policy that's meant to replicate the "real world" doesn't solve the problem. I've experimented with different types of attendance policies over the years and the one I've adopted seem to have been the most effective so far that not only helps create a specific type of supportive learning environment, it also encourages student accountability without it being draconian. I'm open to better versions of the model, but I don't believe a college classroom will always 100% replicate the real world. With that in mind, it's better to create an environment that focuses on teaching skills that will be useful for the real world rather than focusing on policies that are draconian.
You sir, are a great teacher and human being. You clearly care a lot about your students, and the fact that you put so much effort into stuff like that shows it. I hope they know how great you are, and show you the love you deserve.
The cure for time blindness is as simple as setting an alarm on your phone.
I have ADHD and my life revolves around alarms, timers and schedules. I setup timers for everything because I forget.
If you have a problem, having everyone else fit in with your problem will result in your problem never going away.
some problems never go away. see: lack of limbs, several mental and physical conditions, taxes
Believe it or not: when your brain chemistry is fundamentally messed up, it is normal for that *not* to go away.
Aw, August…I TOO struggle with OCD. You described it perfectly. My ‘consequences’ always involve someone close to me dying. If I don’t open and close the fridge door 4 times my child is going to perish…that kind of crap. My OCD is mostly internal with a few routines I do with certain items around my house. I have to breath a certain way (or hold my breath) when I do the routines and I have to count in 4’s, all while not blinking. The internal part is where I ‘process’ thoughts and I have to do the breathing/counting/not blinking thing while I repeat thoughts in my head until I feel like I did it correctly. What’s really strange is that I tend to do it more when things are going WELL. It’s usually the opposite. Enough about me. I’m glad you’re doing better with the disorder.
Now, before I post this, I have to read, reread, and read again until I feel everything’s okay.
i have adhd but my time blindness doesnt make me miss work or classes. it makes me forget to check the dryer or the fridge before i go grocery shopping.
it's easy shit to miss that I forget about not literal things detrimental to my development
When your "disability" is no different then being extremely tall (near 7 foot), yeah it can be problematic, but you deal with it and don't ask for 8 foot doorways. Just just get down and walk through the door, or in her case, set 10 alarms two hours prior to needing to be somewhere and deal wit it.
Not this person again. She excuses her time blindness for laziness.
This seems like you worded this weird. Either way yeah time blindness is real I have it, but seriously just set a timer. I get it you turn the alarm off and forget about it, still, it's also just laziness.
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Well you using Laziness is actually putting her calling people Ableist for criticising her in the right, because the existance of the term "Laziness" is literally Ableism.
Long story short it is made up so you can blame people for being unable to properly do shit.
If you think someone is lazy they actually have a reason for not doing shit, such as me who has a limited energy level and literally can't do shit anymore at some point, because I am completely drained.
And if I can tell you one thing: that sucks ass!
Or people that are mentally in a headspace that is completely fcking with them the worst way possible and therefore they are unable to do shit.
It can have many reasons.
She is not lazy, she is blatently entitled actually.
Not because she doesn't want to do the stuff needed to accommodate with ADHD time blindness, but because she thinks she is in the right of demanding that society accommodates to every ADHD symptoms, such as time blindness.
The problem is, that this is not possible and for some reason she is blind to the sense of reality too.
not really laziness more stupidity like set a timer or idk she could intentionally not set a timer so she can get accommodations and just be late that would be lazy
@@CarlytheQueenofChaosthank you for saying this
TikTok gets more wild every day.
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Its a great 5th generational weapon for sure
oh dear, August i’m so sorry you had to go through that, and i’m sorry you still do. i go to a therapist for OCD and i’m still struggling with this, but knowing that one of my favorite content creators went through what i am going through made me feel like i’m not so alone. keep creating august💗
Thank you for talking about OCD I was diagnosed by my teachers with ADHD and put on medication. This led me to have OCD like behaviors which greatly affected me.
I have ADHD and yes time blindness is annoying with having ADHD. I've gotten in trouble a few times where I mixed up days I was supposed to be at work. But I take accountability for that and I even work harder than most because I need the constant stimulation anyways. In no way would I want to excuse my mismanagement of time. That's my responsibility. I need to be at my job or others suffer for me being late and other things can go wrong there too. Now I run a full on biz with ADHD. Honestly, I don't have to worry about things nearly as much and I can work with the ADHD. Anyways, I think this situation she's made comes down to she's rather young, and hasn't had enough reality dosed to her yet to realize what she's actually asking.
*jumps off a cliff
I have ADD too for me I don't have a good memory that is just a part of my ADD That's just how it is I I take medicine and it does help. In my opinion she probably should take medication if she is not already on it.
@@goose_president5504 ADD and ADHD are different.
@@wabug actually it's a yes and a no thing at the same time at one point they were two entirely separate things but now they are both ADHD inattentive and attentive I have inattentive which is I'm not hyperactive they're pretty much the same thing. But one of them you act like you're on cocaine
Adhd is a spectrum it’s different for everyone, she asked for help. That’s all she asked for. She asked for certain accommodations.. ones I happen to have attending college myself and I even I have similar accommodations at my work place as well… so they can do it. (For context I have autism and seizures) if I’m late or miss a day it won’t reflect poorly on my grade or performance, and whatever I miss I make up by either staying late or going to my professor when they have their free period to help students. Like I don’t understand why people think what she was asking for is unreasonable when it’s something can has been done many times.
I feel like there's a very fine balance between "acknowledging that something is very difficult or practically impossible due to certain traits, disabilities, etc.", and flat out making excuses for not wanting to do things/calling someone ableist for even suggesting making self-accomodations. Not just for time blindness, for a lot of things. It can be understandable to not be able to do things like "neurotypicals" (whatever that means tbh, most people aren't one neurotype anyway? I struggle with depression so i dont know what camp that puts me in). But, at some point it can kiiiiinda be seen as laziness or stubbornly not working on yourself. I don't know where the exact line is myself, but yeah.
I have ADHD myself and let's just say I am not a mourning person! I don't think I have time blindness, just I tend to oversleep unless I stay awake or wake up early for whatever reason! I had this issue with the vocational program I was a part of where I would occasionally oversleep (wouldn't hear the alarm) and that would negatively impact my status within the program! Now I get that it was intended to prepare me for working a job, but no job is going to fire you if you are occasionally late as things happen! People oversleep, their car breaks down, they have kids or other responsibilities that cause them to be late from time to time, not chronically! Even my mom felt the program was being unreasonable! Heck a couple of weeks ago she overslept and I ended up waking her up cause she usually calls me down to take my pills so I asked her if it was Wednesday as that's usually her day off & she realized she had overslept & even thanked me for waking her up! My mom is rarely late and she will wake me up early if we have an appointment so I have enough time to wakeup, wash up, brush my teeth, get dressed, and put on deodorant! All I'm saying is that it is okay to be late once or twice and it won't be the end of the world!
I also totally get where people are saying that accommodations for people with time blindness are unrealistic!
I have epilepsy and I've had to make tons of personal sacrifices to accommodate for it because I understood it wasn't reasonable for other people (esp strangers) to do that for me. These loud preachy 'internet personalities' have a lot to learn about how the world works, because it's not the world's job to immediately understand what's going on with you.
Thanks for shedding light on your OCD issue dude, and I'm glad you're doing better.
If you understand the concept of time and you’re usually late why not set your alarm 15-30 minutes earlier? Or set your clocks forward so you ‘trick’ yourself that It’s later than it is? Or set multiple alarms for when you need to do an important task? Or I am I just ignorant to how time blindness works?
Nope, you're not. I set my clocks forward for that very reason. I've been doing this for such a long time & it's very helpful
You're 100% correct.
There's an easy fix with tech today, and you've nailed what it is.
All of my clocks are set forward a specific amount of time that is precisely unknown to me. I know it's roughly 10/15/20 minutes but it could be 12 or 16. The weird off numbering keeps me constantly checking the time and the time being forward makes me think I'm running late. There's loads of tips and tricks you can do.
Time blindness is a form of disassociating, it’s very different then just losing track of time. It’s honestly like you’re teleporting through out the day, you stop to do a simple task that you say is only going to take a few minutes you set time for when you stop timer goes off and you keep going… people with time blindness basically zone out and the only thing they can focus on is the thing they are doing. This is one example.
Another is them doing so much at one, again setting an alarm but not realizing it’s going off.
When people disassociate especially those with adhd it’s like they are just in this tiny void with themselves and what ever their mind directs them to do. It can be confusing to understand if you’ve never experienced disassociating…
There are different ways to help those with time blindness and there are so many different ways because there are so many different types of people with different types of adhd as it is a spectrum, and so is time blindness.
Hope this helps and feel free to ask me any questions ❤ remember people with adhd and/or time blindness are not lazy, irresponsible, selfish, or uncaring, their brains are just wired a little differently.
@@itzTeTe ugh... you said:
"Time blindness.. is very different then just losing track of time"
And then, since that's exactly what it is, you said it in a slightly different way:
"People with time blindness basically zone out.."
Just because you don't like how simple sounding a simplified explanation is, doesn't mean you get to go around and word-salad everyone.
Time Blindness is: Zoning out and losing track of time.😑
I subbed to your videos recently and I’m so glad I did.
I'm a 31 y-o woman diagnosed with several mental troubles. I use to be late all the time or run everywhere. I had to accomodate myself to time. Now I get to places 30 min to 1h before time and go for a walk or a coffe close to my destination
As a girl with autism and awaiting diagnosis of adhd ( also have ocd) I agree with you.
I struggle with time.
So I get up earlier, even though I get around 2-4 hours of sleep I know that my employer will not be happy if I am late nor do I wish to be.
I do manageable lists to ensure I get things done, but also don’t fret if things don’t always work.
As a results of the 4 times I’ve been late in 6 years at my workplace due to the bus, I’ve not been in trouble as this is not normal for me.
Lol the bus is the worst I used to be late because of the bus not coming on time,sometimes wouldn't even come at all in -15 degrees weather .. I had to start catching the bus and hour early just so I knew I would get there 30 minutes early. The bus is terrible transportation sometimes when they don't have their stuff together. In the city o live in now they just changed bus routes and call it "the better bus" and yet they drove right past me twice this week full speed at a major.bus stop while I'm waving my arms around to get it to stop. I'm gonna start running in the street before they come next time. Unfortunately they also have a track record with killing people that way too.
I have some symptoms of ADHD, but I’m not sure if I have it, and my adult sister says that I don’t have ADHD
I have time blindness (I have something similar to ADHD) although I know how to manage it, like setting multiple alarms throughout the day. It's not hard to manage
Cap
bro really said cap lol
@@Noifsnobutsnococonuts-rj4kk bruh
@@amandaaddario7342 sorry but if it’s a fake-ass disease I gotta call it out
@@kingnightmarevin fake ass illness
I have adhd with really severe symptoms because of it. One is a form of time blindness, but the opposite end of things. I estimate way too much time for tasks - something that’ll take me 15 minutes to do, I’m allotting 30-45 mins for it. It’s super annoying, and an accommodation to just start work or class 30 mins early when I inevitably will be there would be awesome. But I also live in reality and know my adhd - despite not fkn choosing it - isn’t anybody else’s issue. A more accommodating society for all people’s needs would be wonderful, but that will never happen.
As a neurodivergent, I have the same unsolved problem like her. I’m consistently 30 minutes late to college class (no penalty for being late), and 13 minutes to work. Both places doesn’t punish me for being late so I keep on being late until it becomes the norm for me. I’m the type to do everything in the most convenient way for me so I always get up last minute, get to work late and go home early (I still finish my work).
I acknowledge that I should be accommodating myself to fit with the working environment out there, and I am working on it (the late time used to be 45 minutes). Though I have to admit being able to get away with stuff like that makes me feels too lazy to change a lot of the times. To keep things short, thanks for calling me out so hard with this video, I’ll be taking some advice from the comment section and fix my problems.
"my savior Jesus Christ-"
WOOHHH let's not bring the Lord into you getting slightly cancelled
When I was in school, before I was medicated for my adhd, I actively looked for a afternoon school. That specific school started at 3pm and ended at 10 it gave me more than enough time to get ready when I wake up in the morning, I’d often ride with my dad on his daily chores so once it was near opening time he would take me there about an hour early and I’d sit in the hall right near my classroom. Idk why she’s expecting people to accommodate that, she needs to find a later class schedule. Now that I’m out of school, I’ve found work that starts at 2pm so I can make it on time. Don’t expect people to accommodate you’re life when it’s not a disabling issue.
Lol brilliantly edited video. Thoroughly enjoyed.
I suffer from time blindness due to ADHD. I have to self accommodate, I will have multiple alarms for when I have to leave to catch a bus, wake up (doesn't really have to do with time blindness), appointments, my breaks and lunches, etc. My phone has become a lifesaver at this point because of it. There are just some things you cannot accommodate for as a third party
ADHD like autism is a spectrum, what works for you won’t work for every person who has adhd and time blindness.
@@itzTeTe youre being unrealistic and unreasonable entirely
it was clear she has enough of a grasp on time to set alarms, but proceeded to ask to be accommodated with 15 minutes
I was diagnosed 6 months ago with ADHD, at 46 years old. Did not even know I had time blindness, because since I was a kid I have used alarms, reminders, different cues and things to self-accommodate. Now I have a smartwatch and that helps me a TON, because I can set alarms, timers, alerts and get sound as well as my wrist vibrating. Took my self-accommodating to a whole new level.
@@caporegime60That’s not how time blindness works, I’m or being unreasonable by stating facts lol. You’re being unreasonable by not actually listening to what I’m saying.
What August failed research is that time blindness is a form a disassociating disorder. It’s not so easily managed with alarms it’s literally like you’re leaving this reality.
Many people with ADHD have issues with disassociating, having someone who is experienced with handling this kind of disability is necessary in order to have better management. With this more severe type of time blindness alarm clocks are not going to work.
When someone disassociates all sound, visuals and even light just disappear from the person disassociating and all they see and hear is the thing they are hyper focused on.
Please educate yourself instead of trying to dismiss others simply because you are not as educated on this topic. This is not me questing your intelligence or anything, I’m just saying everyone has their strengths and weakness and this topic happens to be mine (I’m a psychology major) and not yours.
I also happen to get the accommodations that she is speaking of both in college and at work so it’s not unreasonable at all Lol.
Sorry I can’t think her asking for these things as unreasonable when I have those same accommodations with literally no time limit… sooooo… 😅
@@itzTeTeMedication works wonders.
As a person who’s mom is an SEA (special education assistant). It sickens me to see people take advantage and fake disabilities. It’s disrespectful to them and it disgraces our generation. This stuff is crazy 🤦🏿♂️
I mean, time blindness is a real thing but there are ways to control it
@@Encentium well I personally never heard of it
Edit: I looked it up and it sounds like gen z liberal bullshit
Rr
@@Encentiumtrue
@@Noifsnobutsnococonuts-rj4kk ok?, I’m literally agreeing with you, she’s taking advantage of it, but it is a real thing. Also don’t rant to me about liberals and gen z
I feel like all the accomodation you need is an alarm on your phone, and the willpower to stand up and leave when it goes off...
As someone with diagnosed 2 types ADHD and ASD, with time blindness, i take huge care to overcome my issues, and even applied for assistent - a person payed by university to help me remember about my tasks. I felt huge amounts of guilt just asking about that, but i made everything i could before applying and honestly it just is great for people who forget things, and tasks. Now, you still need to take effort to develop working routines, work with medical professionals, go to therapy, and that’s on the person’s side, right? University can give you help, but they won’t turn assignments for you, or pass your exams. Personally, having aid helps me become most productive, and i’m no longer afraid to dream about becoming a scientist one day, thanks to the support.
It's tough being ADHD, it's difficult trying to stay in control of your actions and impulses, and it's even harder to keep track of time. As an adult with ADHD I can attest to that. However these struggles are neither the obligations of others, nor a soap box to demand special treatment. Seeking accommodations for ADHD is possible at many higher education programs like extended test times, note takers, and additional tutoring. However, participation is part a of your grade too, and being present is a bare minimum for any student. Complaining and blaming society won't get you anywhere, especially an education you want, but striving to get that education in spite of your own struggles makes that achievement even greater. Get some perspective and perseverance.
Hey August, thanks for sharing your personal struggles from your past with us. Glad you’re comfortable to share such information online. Wishing you well ❤
I’m a college professor and I hate rules that count lateness as an absence - it’s an option on our grading software and I don’t use it. I always tell my students to come to class even if they are late, and I have had students in the past who said they would be late or have to leave early because of work and I’m totally cool with that. In fact I’m usually the one who is late to my own classes because I teach too many classes in one day 😂
She definitely coated the video to make you think there was an employer being ableist.
I have diagnosed ADHD and I don’t rly know if I have time blindness per say, but it’s hard for me to keep track of time and stuff like that so if I’m not making sure I’m paying EXTRA attention to what the time is or what time I leave to go to something, I get incredibly anxious. Because I hate being late, since throughout my life being late has always come with such intense consequences- anyway, I prefer to call it “time anxiety” since it involved- time, and- my anxiety surrounding it. Anyway- the point is, a way that I’ve personally overcome being late for stuff despite not being able to accurately dictate the passage of time, is by hyperfixating on the time and making sure I’m where ever I need to be, at least 10 to 5 minutes early. 15 if I’m really anxious about it or it’s really important. I just wanted to share this in case anyone was looking for a possible solution that could help them with their time blindness or anything similar to that.
Thanks for sharing :D
I am the same way! I will continue to watch and almost obsess over the time because I’m so scared of being late. It gets to the point where I leave very early and end up waiting for like another ten minutes in my car because I get there too early 😅
@@Subpar_Salad me too! 😂 I personally think it’s so funny that we’re self aware that we leave too early yet we do it anyway. I’ve always been pretty obsessed with time, even as a kid. When I was in elementary school and middle school there would be times where I was grounded from my electronics and such, and I would for whatever reason start to get really restless because I didn’t know what time it was or how much time had passed, I couldn’t sleep and I didn’t know if it was 10pm or 3am and how much sleep I was going to get before school. So I asked my dad for an alarm clock so I could keep track of the time when I was grounded 😂.
"My hopes and dreams are that you can arrive at work on time."
-The Mom
-The Boss
-The Internet
What a fancy way to say "I'm too airheaded to pay attention to the clock in the corner of my screen."
The thing everyone (including her) seem to miss here is that time blindness isn't the only ADHD symptom that makes it hard to be on time. Executive dysfunction and bad working memory also play a huge part.
Executive dysfuntion makes it really hard to start or finish an activity. You may really really want to get up from your chair so you can go brush your teeth and leave, but you just can't.
Bad working memory makes you constantly forget what you just did, or what you were about to do. So you can hear the alarm go off, stop it and almost immediately forget that it went off. Or you can set multiple alarms and think that the second alarm is the first one, because you forgot that you already stopped the first one.
Someone who understands, kudos to you 👍
Thank you. All this in the comments is just neurotypical people complaining about and dismissing very real easily provable conditions in people who are literally born differently. It’s like complaining that a persons brain tumour makes them forget things and telling them it isn’t real.
@@moonshineaudios5740 Yes. Or telling the person with a brain tumour that they're a bad person because it's annoying to others when they forget things
ADHD is a real struggle, but it's not like you cannot work on yourself to make the symptoms better. If one system doesn't work for you, try another, make up some new one. Just because it's hard doesn't mean it's impossible.
@@lemonadejiujiu Yes, that is true. But the problem the girl in the video is talking about, is that the school that she will be paying for if she goes there, will kick her out if she is late 4 times. And do you think she will be able to find a system that works for her within 4 days? And yes, she can try to figure out something that works before she starts, but that might completely fall apart when school starts and her schedule changes.
I have time blindness. For me it manifests in not understanding how long it takes me to do tasks, and I am constantly checking a clock.
Accomodations for my time blindness I think would simply come in the form of having a clock nearby I can always look at, and understanding "How long will it take you to do X?" is not a question I know the answer to. I don't really *feel* time pass like others do, and when I complete tasks I often forget to check how long they took me to do. My memory understands time as a passage of events. And the more events I do, the more time has passed, the fewer events I do, the less time has passed, which isn't really how time works.
When I cut the pork steaks, idk how long it takes to do 4 cases. Under an hour, but that's the closest estimate I have.
I am NEVER late to the job because Time Blindness has me checking clocks every 10 minutes because I don't feel time passing.
Time Blindness is real, its just not a huge deal.
I'm the same way and use multiple reminders and clocks to help me throughout the day. I would never be comfortable asking for accommodations for it, though; that would be embarrassing and make me look inept.
Oh snap. I think my wife has this. She has no concept of time. We will be like 20 mins from having to be at her moms for dinner, we life 15 mins away from her parents house, and she will ask “Do we have time to go to the mall on the way?” Like in what universe can we find the time to do that on the way?
@rizzorizzo2311 yep, that's time blindness. I struggle with it, too, which is why I have learned not to trust my own judgment in regard to my perception of time. It's a symptom of ADHD.
Same ! No matter how early I wake up, I'm usually always running late bc of my routine. Not understanding how long it takes me to finish my morning routine. I'll feel like I have all the time in the world bit as the time goes on, I'll keep looking at the clock and I'm suddenly running late.
You saying "you're wrong, you're wrong" is quite cathartic
Imagine a world full of emergency surgeons and firefighters with time blindness
I've seen a lot of comments saying that she said in a livestream that she's self diagnosed.
Okay and? Self diagnosis is more valid than formal ones. Doctors don't know what the f they're talking about, especially in regards to women and neurodivergence, which Chaotic_philosopher is both. Misdiagnosis is everywhere, and it's not a coincidence. It's sexism and ableism (oh nooo I used the word you don't like, maybe because it's true).
As are 90% of these clowns. And the other % are BS so big pharma can push their pills down peoples throats.
I'm so glad I found you a while ago, August. Your views are so right on, in my opinion. So logical and real. You say what I was thinking. I'm glad to know others out here get it. I'm not a person who thinks I'm always right or anything like that, but I have always agreed with you on here. I just love how you explain your thoughts.
The girl in this video is definitely a person who thinks they're always right lol
I get her struggle. I was diagnosed with ADHD in fourth grade and my dad didn’t believe the doctor and refused to let me be medicated until 8th grade. I know very well how it feels to not be properly accommodated and not being taken seriously. I also have OCD and social anxiety, which all those together made me not attend school at all (I was a hemmasittare (hikikomori) for a long time. There’s no english word for it so you may have to google). The teachers didn’t accommodate enough, and my dad didn’t let me be who I was basically. I get her struggle. I get the struggle with time blindness too. And I get how it might be harder for you to get to class on time because of it. But that’s not the professor’s problem. That’s a struggle that YOU have to face, because frankly, it is not that serious. Like you said you could put an alarm for every minute if you needed. It’s not like there’s no way to solve this issue yourself. It makes me mad to see people like this because it feels like they are taking advantage of the system in a way. It makes people not take it seriously when someone really does need help.
It is totally fine and understandable if she wanted to tell the teacher before that she struggles with this, and maybe he can be a bit more sympathetic. But expecting accommodations for these things are ridiculous. If you’re considering not taking the class just because there’s no accommodations for it, I mean that’s your choice, and I don’t care. But she went on and talked about it like it was the worst thing that’s ever happened.
I get so mad at these things because of my personal experiences. I also had OCD and had to wash my hands and things an ungodly amount of times or else very extreme things would happen. I didn’t ask to wash them all the time, I didn’t demand to not have pencils with little cuts in them because if i used one my family would die, i didn’t avoid doing PE because i didn’t want to step on the yellow lines in the gym or else I would get sick and die. Those are my problems. Accommodating them like that isn’t helpful to anyone. It makes my brain feel like it’s even more reasonable and I may give up on trying to make them get better.
Sorry for the rant and bad english I got kinda mad
I understands August’s washing hands thing when he was a kid. A couple years ago during Covid, I would wash my hands if I touched my own body😂 and I would constantly ask my parents if they were clean enough to stop washing. My skin was peeling because of how long I washed them and how many times I washed them. I was probably 99.99% soap and sanitizer that year and I’m pretty sure I ended up having to go to a counselor for it.
I have ADHD. Time Blindness is easy to overcome if you constantly have ways of reminding yourself. Writing, phone notifications, friendly reminders from people, etc
I used to obsessively wash my hands a lot back in my school years too, a way of calming my brain down during times where I obviously couldn’t be excused every 5-10 minutes was by bringing along hand sanitizer. A little bottle could easily clip onto my bag and that was it, just want to put this out there for anyone who might have the same thought process lol
On the topic of tardiness at college/university: While I understand for MOST courses it shouldn’t matter, there are plenty where tardiness does make a difference. I went to a community college for automotive tech. A lot of my courses alternated lab and lecture days. On lab days we were expected to have a college car on a lift, tools brought out and ready right at the start time. The procedures in the lab packets were extensive and even if you are on time, many students still stayed late despite the lab being almost 3 hours long. If you were more than 10 minutes late for a lab it’s impossible to get it done, and they were heavily weighted on the final grade. If you miss one lab without a reasonable excuse, or were tardy for two in a row, you were automatically dropped from the course. It made sense in a lot of ways, it not only saved your GPA from being absolutely tanked as two incomplete labs or one 0 lab would pretty much guarantee you’re failing the course, but it saved the professor from having an audit by administration for having so many failed students. Yes it was tough, but you signed up for those courses, you’re paying for that educational experience so if you aren’t bothering to actually learn anything just drop the course. After all, it’s an associates degree in a trade. I was the only graduate in my major for my year, most of my peers dropped out after landing a job.
people have varying levels of severity with their symptoms, and some people may never be able to overcome certain symptoms. i wish people would treat mental health diseases the same way as physical health ones and accommodate accordingly. however, people that expect accommodations for things that just... can't be accommodated for, hurts people that are severely disabled who need realistic accommodations. there is so much need for these accommodations for people who have no control over certain symptoms, and someone asking for something unrealistic just deeply harms disabled people and makes others take disabled people, especially those with mental disabilities, even less seriously than they already do. also wanted to say if your so severely timeblind to the extent of not being able to work i think it's time to try for disability. just ugh it's frustrating because mental disabilities and any other disability that is "invisible" are already not taken seriously and shit like this just makes it so much worse...
"Oh, here we go." - everytime I click on an August video. 😂😂
as someone with Autusm/Adhd (as well as Schizophrenia and Dissociation), Time Blindness may very well be a thing, but.. it isn't up to other people to accommodate for it. You learn how to deal with it yourself. Thankfully, I had good an amazing mother that helped me with this from an early age, so I developed habits that helped me through to my adult life and dealing with being on time, because in reality, it's not as hard as you'd think, even if you are neurotypical, if you're willing to work on it, and not be an entitled B who expects everyone else to work around them instead. Because the thing in, 99% of the time "time blindness" can be worked on. It's not as if it's a permanent injury that has left you wheelchair bound and therefore actually DO need the extra accomodation.
Everybody is fighting their own battles. When did we switch from allowing for our own weaknesses to demanding that others allow for our weaknesses?
I have ADHD time blindness and I can confidently say that sometimes it is the most stressful thing ever. Time blindness doesn’t only apply to short periods, but also the way weeks and months fly by. I cannot physically understand what five or ten minutes feels like, and it creates lots of anxiety. I can’t utilise short time frames before other obligations to get work done because I’m constantly watching the clock. And before anyone tells me to use alarms or timers: I have tried and failed. I am very good at tuning out distractions while I’m in a hyperfocus
all this to say: time blindness is a bitch, but not an excuse. just tell yourself you want to be 5-10 minutes early to any event and accept the consequences if you’re late
i have some similar struggles of you, august, so i understand your problems.--this girl expects the world to wait on her.
This is why I am glad I don't speak in my videos and just play guitar really loud cause to quote my grandma " better for people to think you're a jackass then to he haw and prove em right"
Oh goodness. She keeps making responses, I have a feeling I know where her blind time is going!
I have a lot of experiences with time blindness, and I'm split on "accommodations" as she frames it in this video and what that means. I'm probably the most time-blind person I know, but I'm still clocked in at work within 5 minutes. More often than not, time blindness means I make my appointments but forget important personal items. Time blindness means that the time I spend before an appointment is never relaxing, because I don't feel permission from myself to get *into* something engaging, and that is also influenced by task switching difficulties, which are another thing with ADHD/Autism. So my appointments are good, but I'm personally more stressed and less prepared.
This spawned from an argument with her mother, though, and I can kind of relate to how time blindness affects interpersonal relationships. Like, if she's just asking people to be more understanding rather than verbally badgering her for her mistakes, that's valid. It's hard to completely blank out on time and then have someone get angry at you and take it personally, like you don't "respect" their time over something that you just don't have as good a gauge on. Sometimes, our time blindness manages to "outsmart" the mechanisms we put in place to prevent it and there was never a conscious choice at all, so having someone else there to say, "hey, just so you know, we're leaving in 15," rather than yelling at you for not being "ready at this moment" can just make the situation worse.
I don't ask people for "accommodations" in a vague way, but I AM very specific on how people who are a part of my daily life (we do things/go places together, I help them, the help me) can help me with time blindness so that we can be both timely and prepared, and I won't need to worry about making a rest stop to purchase that phone charger I forgot to pack when we were rushing out. I ask for this help in the same way I ask for people to walk slower when my asthma is acting up and my inhaler needs a chance to kick in. Giving me advanced notice of things so I can put them in my schedule helps, rather than springing up things at the last minute that they themselves knew about well in advanced. Checking in with me about whether I have time for a deep online conversation before jutting into one can really help, in case I was just about to get into the shower or make dinner, because I think I'll just be talking for 10 minutes and 2 hours go by. These are all things I am capable of doing for myself and often do, but there is still a chance that, because of how time blindness and all of the other memory/functioning issues surrounding ADHD work, that I just forget to set that reminder.
So, I don't think it's helpful for her to discuss time blindness in such an isolated way. The things that make time blindness difficult for the people who experience it are very much influenced by other aspects of the disorder that causes it, e.g. ADHD, as well as PTSD and other disorders that cause disassociation. Time blindness alone wouldn't cause so many problems with those helpful aids, but the ability to get immediately distracted, to forget to set alarms,all of that sometimes works together in a way that some of us do need some extra help from the people who want to spend time with us. I mean, sometimes, you just get caught up in writing that quick youtube comment, and suddenly...
Well, shit. Just realized that I passively turned off my meds alarm while typing this. Lucky day, I caught myself. 😅
I forget who said it exactly, but one comment on another video of this girl put it best when it said "As a wedding photographer, there's a reason I can't be so late I miss the ceremony and then rock up like 'oh silly me, time blindnes' and expect to get paid"
Imagine being so excited about having a child and they turn out like this 😬
No wonder some moms drink.
I didnt even spend the video time watching, i was so entertained in the massive amount of arguments in the comments that involve one person XD
here's the thing, there are accomadations for time-blindness. its called you employer, or whoever, scheduling you and hour earlier then your supposed to be there. but if they do that, then your opening still yourself up to be fired at any point for any reason. "did you just say period pooh? your fired", then when you try to file a claim for wrongful termination, they pull up your timecard showing that you were "an hour late" every day since you started. also, my mother is time-blind, and still has never been late to her job that has a point system for even being 2 minutes late... how, you ask? she rolled her clocks forward... my car was down for a while, so i borrowed one of hers, and it had me shitting bricks for a week thinking i was 30 minutes late when i was right on time. if you are a grown ass adult, there is NO excuse for not being able to manage something that you KNOW you deal with. if your overscheduling yourself, learn how to say NO
As someone with adhd, I just set numerous alarms for things I need to get done or when I need to be places.
I have time blindness a bit, but it’s a symptom of my ADHD and I don’t inflict it on other people because I’m
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I have autism and ADHD and I'd propably need to medicate either, but medicating ADHD with autism or autism with ADHD is basically the worst idea you can have and even I manage to deal with my time blindness.
(Okay currently this is a blatant lie because my mental situation got fcked because I had a canon event where the writers killed off a character and every progress of coping with my symptoms is kinda lost in general rn, but I still don't have the audacity to force it onto society to accommodate to my time blindness, my mom just helps me out because she is an awesome mom and wants to help me and I happily take the offer instead of being completely entitled)
@@CarlytheQueenofChaos, you can't medicate a disorder with another disorder. What do you trying to say? Did you say the wrong thing or what?
Time blindness is a form of disassociating which can’t be controlled even with medication unless it’s extremely minor but ok… if the medication helps you that’s great but it doesn’t make you better than anyone.
Asking for Accommodations is just asking for help in order to succeed and there isn’t anything wrong with that. No one is inconvenienced.
Tell me… if she doesn’t show up to class who is the effecting? Not the professor, not the other students…Just her… she’s just asking not to get a penalty for her disability…
How is not penalizing her effecting anyone else but her? I’m genuinely asking here. How is she inconveniencing others?
She comes to class late.. takes her seat and gets to work… ok? Teacher may have to go over what she missed but.. that’s what teachers tend to do anyways? Some students need help one on one and that’s ok.
Like… if you needed accommodations for a disability not even just adhd but any disability you’re basically saying that you shouldn’t get it.. so why are you trying so hard to close this door to people who need help?
How is denying someone is also differently abled helping making you the better person here?
I’m not trying to start any conflict I’m just asking genuine questions because I honestly don’t understand the issue here.
@@itzTeTe You seem to be the only one defending this girls want. There have been several people commenting they have the same issue yet somehow manage to be successful in life. This girl wants the world to bend around her since for some reason being EARLY to something just isn't an option. Perhaps therapy would help her, perhaps medications, perhaps just setting a damn alarm. There really is no excuse for her wanting the world to bend to her when there are so many options available today.
@@less5406 No one knows why she can't wake up early. Maybe there is a reason, maybe not. ADHD can be different to any person who has it. Some may have symptoms but others may not have those symptoms. Same goes to the severity of the symptoms. We don't know what goes through her head and what she experiences, only she does. Most don't even consider the environment/circumstances they are in which makes it a lot harder to control. I just think it can be inconsiderate to judge someone's ability to do something by downplaying their mental disorder, especially by comparing two individuals' capabilities, who has that same disorder.
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I have adhd and issues with narcolepsy so I really struggle with oversleeping. But those issues are MY problem, not the rest of the worlds. It’s my responsibility to figure out how to deal and move forward with my problems and I’ve found ways to accommodate myself so that others don’t have to. You shouldn’t impose your problems on others if youre fully capable of controlling or making things better for yourself.