Hope she gets a better support system in the future. I paused to notice the AuDHD in her profile bio, meaning a combination of Autism and ADHD. Hopefully she is trying to help herself, but hoping others around her also help, especially family. Edit: I am not saying the world should revolve around them or anybody that is neurodivergent, as they are saying it is entitlement to hold the opinion shared.
as someone with ADHD who struggles with time blindness: there are ways to accommodate YOURSELF to deal with time blindness. There are ways to cope. Grow up. And deal with it. Time blindness is an explanation, NOT an excuse.
I always make sure I leave 30 minutes earlier than I actually need to so I don't get the anxiety or worrying about being late. I might show up on the wrong day, but I'll be there at the right time.
I used to think that way but now that I’ve lost yet another job. I’m not so sure. It’s not like they can accommodate I get it, but maybe don’t fire people for being late. I don’t think I was ever more than 15 minutes late ever :/
@@artemismeow I genuinely want to hear your reasons as to why you seemingly cant show up on time. Do you not set alarms? Have you never tried to leave earlier? why would you agree to show up at a certain time when you KNOW that you're often late?
I struggle with time blindness and im always setting timers. Part of having a mental illness or disability is working through it and finding something that works. If she really needs this “accommodation” she should get a job online or something with a flexible schedule
@@callmestumps6954 I've worked plenty of jobs where "showing up on time" is basically the only requirement. If you suffer from "time blindness" then it is SO MUCH easier to get there 30 minutes early than it is to convince your boss to accommodate you for being 30 minutes late...
in case anyone else struggles with time blindness and needs a bit more help than "just use an alarm", i highly recommend setting "warning" alarms. say i need to leave for work at 8:30, i would set an alarm for 8:20 to tell me that now is the time to wrap up whatever i'm doing, and start getting ready to leave. that way when i actually need to leave, i'm not in the middle of something, and i'm actually prepared to go
@@darkkinkitty and that's her problem then; your adhd is not an excuse for your actions or lack of, a diagnosis is so that you can better understand why you struggle with something and so you can better work towards finding a solution for what you're struggling with, not just so you can use it as an excuse to play victim and expect the entire world to revolve around you and your problems people like her are lazy and entitled and suffer from main character mindset
As a schizophrenic, time, blindness is a huge issue for me. Sometimes days go by very quickly even weeks. But that is not my employers job to figure out it’s mine.
@@Baygirl431so why not help each other? Some people have challenges worse than yours that make them unable to do anything. Imagine being so boomer brained you genuinely think others who have it worse than you should suffer because you don’t want to be bothered to consider their cries for help.
I suffer from ADHD and I suffer from time blindness, it in no way prevented me from being at work on time because there are these things called clocks and you can set these things called alarms. Maybe her problem isn't time blindness so much as laziness.
Between ADD (I got diagnosed before they added the H) and being a stoner I have a horrible grasp on time, but I have the good habit of leaving 30 minutes earlier than I actually need to.
@@anfearaerach laziness does exist, cause im a genuine lazy person. There are reasons for some sturggles in life thats true, but just because you dont wanna accept that youre sometimes just lazy doesnt mean that laziness doesnt exist. And its fine, laziness is fine, we are still animals, and other animals dont judge themself for being lazy. Day to day work is not a natural thing. i think the main problem here is that humans think all their systems and made up things are natural things, they arent. We build a world we dont wanna live in, so its no wonder that we dont want to partake is some things.
@@TheGhostFart i am one but i dont make excuses, i think only idiots without self perception make excuses for everything, not only inherently lazy persons, since we are all kinda lazy, thats why our world cant solve problems. Everybody is basically lazy, but some are more special so they have to make up reasons coming from outside why they are how they are.
I just want to point out, it wasn’t the interviewer who yelled at her about the question. She asked the question to an interviewer, her MOM interjected and changed the subject, then her mom yelled at her for asking the question after the interviewer had left. She also made a really embarrassing follow up video.
That's interesting, because colleges usually do have accommodations for people with adhd during exams? Mostly they give you extra time. As far as being late, most colleges don't care if you show up late. Some profs might, but she could probably just talk to them 🤷🏾♀️. Maybe she was asking something else tho
I have ADHD and time blindness is a real thing, but I've found solutions that have ensured that I'm almost never late for work. Her mentality is that the prospective employer is responsible for accommodating a problem that she refuses to put any effort into fixing herself, so yeah, she is both naïve and entitled.
Honestly I don’t blame her too bad, I think she experiences similar to me where it’s on the worse end of the scale where alarms and watches don’t help much. And hasn’t found anything else that could help similarly to me.
@@darkkinkittythat sounds hard but its still your responsibility to solve. I have adhd/autism and ive gotten accommodation at work and i can see her getting an accommodation like "you can be 15 minutes late and we will let it go every time" or "its ok to be late sometimes if you contact us in the morning about it". But it doesnt change the fact that many jobs are dependent on team work and one person always being late IS a problem, im not open to take the job of someone always late.
There is an accommodation for time blindness; the alarm clock. I know this from my own Dad with ADHD and is prone to losing track of time. My Dad has multiple alarms for each day he’s scheduled to work. He has an alarm to wake up, an alarm for his shift to start, alarms for his breaks and lunch, and for when his shift ends. It’s also a matter of routine, something every adult should have by the time they become a legal adult
@@queerantine69 That works too. Personally I find alarm clocks to be the most effective for me. I usually set a loud enough one to wake me up and set it on the other side so I have to get up no matter what to turn it off.
Keep in mind that time blindness is a scale issue tho… for some yes watches and alarms are great and I’m happy for those ppl but for others such as me they just prove completely useless and make me procrastinate even more.
As someone with ADHD, I’m TERRIFIED of being late. And I’m filled with guilt, but still suffer with time blindness often. You can kindly explain that you struggle with ADHD and/or time blindness, but you will try your best to be in early or on time, But 5 minutes late on the occasion will possibly happen. Excusable occasional slip ups when you have an issue (that you’re trying to deal with) will be excused in a lot of 9-5 jobs. They will accommodate for you if you actually try to accommodate to them. Meeting somewhere in the middle will be better than you not bothering and being disruptive towards their timetables and schedules. You just need to deal with it, and try to better yourself, and if you do that, people will be more inclined to excuse slip ups and all that. And if they want you to stay late to make up the time you’ve lost them, then that should be reasonable as you’ve wasted someone else’s time.
I have had that issue before especially as someone who opens but mainly that issue was caused by sometimes my alarm doesn’t go off and I even double hell triple check to make sure that it is set and turned on but sometimes my alarm just doesn’t go off and that has been going on from time to time and I always feel guilty and upset about it I always try to see what I can do to make up for it even if it is to stay later. I know that May not have anything to do with time blindness per se But as a person with ADHD who does Suffer with time blindness there’s a lot of things at work that I try to get done to the best of my ability and end up focusing too much on and by the time I finish I don’t realize how much time has really passed so There’s also that issue that I occasionally deal with Which makes it really difficult to do my best on other things and that’s one thing that I have to learn is how to properly get stuff done in a certain amount of time and Learn when I’m focusing too much on something but I often feel the guilt of I’m not doing good at my job and stuff of that nature all the time
@@izzy5935 it's not her fault she has the problem, but it's her problem to solve and work around. Like I have a chronic illness, which isn't my fault, but it's my responsibility to take care of myself
One time i wrote on an exam i couldn't see the clock so i didn't finish. I was allowed to finish the exam the next day. It wasn't time blindness, but my teacher told me that I worked hard and used it as an opportunity to teach me about how hard work can pay off. Im also sharing this because I appreciate that teacher
Actually, this is definitely accomodated in workspaces. ADHD time blindness is a REAL thing! If you do the work that you need to do the time doesn't matter. You just need a project based job not a shift one.
@@saraleo8128Being real or not doesn’t change the company’s position… Guess what the point of starting the company is in the first place? To make money. They lose money when she can’t be on time.
This lady is a perfect example of what's wrong with society these days. -Have an issue. -Do nothing to solve, adapt to, or address said issue. -Convince yourself that you're a victim and demand that everyone else cater to your issue.
Society, we all know there's something wrong and we know it all along Sincerity, you may think there's no one else 'til they put you on a shelf Society, pay your taxes stand in line help them plan for your demise Society, crush the weak to get your share cause nobody's playing fair And no one cares
For some reason, I don't feel like she was yelled at....at first. I feel like the attendant was rightfully confused and then let her know, in all their "confuzzleness", told her that it didn't exist. Then she probably got entitled and condescending, acting like the attendant is stupid for not having accommodations for "time blindness" and started a 5 minute piss-ass, unnecessary rant that nobody asked for. And THAT is probably when they yelled at her.
Yeah, I wasn't entirely sure that she got yelled at either. Some people think others disagreeing with you = yelling. And she clearly has a mindset where others need to cater to her needs no matter what. They might have just told her "no" and then she might have escalated the situation. We only hear her point of view and don't know what really happened.
@@borealernadelwald I can't stand when people do that. Then they sneak in that "Why are you yelling?" which confuses and upsets you even more because in this reality or even in an alternate reality, you did not raise your voice. Lol And I agree, she gave the entire situation from her perspective without really saying what the attendant said, which means she wasn't listening to what they had to say. She only heard the word "no" and went off.
Asking for accommodation for her time blindness is nothing but pure entitlement. She's not willing to better herself, or seek help to better herself, so the world must accommodate her.
@@theraweggfiles It doesn't work like that. People with ADHD can't estimate the time that it will take them to do an action. It's an executive dysfunction. Too many times I have found myself arriving to an appointment an hour in advance. This is not fun. So some consideration would be appreciated. This is embarrassing, because it is supposed to be simple but somehow it is not.
I have severe ADHD, and time blindness is something I struggle with no matter how many alarms I set. (Unfortunately, I can’t take commonly-prescribed ADHD medications because of heart problems, which I think exacerbates the issue.) I think that people deserve some measure of grace and kindness when they haven’t found coping mechanisms or medications that they need to help them function. At the same time, I think it’s important to recognize when someone is doing something kind for you, and you also need to respect people’s hard boundaries (which often include time). I nearly flunked a college class due to my habitual lateness a couple years ago, and the professor was incredibly understanding and helped me make sure that I made it through her class. I’m extremely grateful for what she did, and I made sure to thank her every time I got an opportunity. I fully recognize that SHE went out of her way to help ME, and I wasn’t entitled to that help. At the same time, it made a significant difference in my life because she actually believed in my ability to cope, improve, and succeed. I just wanted to share this perspective because I can see where the TikToker is coming from even if I might not agree. Thank you for reading if you did! ❤
Was looking for a comment like this :) I heard of a company that allowed employees to come in whenever they wanted to and bang out work, which is really nice for people with ADHD. Obviously can't work at all, or most, companies.
I agree. People don't understand this. Just because someone is not entitled to accommodation doesn't mean they don't deserve accommodation. People can choose to accommodate you or not, and either choice is fine, but to lend a hand to someone in need struggling with their disability is not just fine, but good. Of course, if someone is asking for accommodation, I'd hope that they themselves are trying to mitigate the problem, too. It's a two-way street. You accommodate others by accommodating yourself first. And when even that isn't enough, or you can't do it yourself, you ask others for help.
Your comment is very important in this conversation, thank you for sharing your perspective and experiences. Too many people here are saying some very ignorant and insensitive things about people with ADHD and time blindness. I'm sure everyone struggling with time blindness would absolutely love to have all of their issues cleared up just by reading a snarky online comment from a complete stranger saying to use an alarm, but if it were that easy to cure then it wouldn't be a problem in the first place. If an employer can't accommodate for someone's time blindness, all they should say is there are no accommodations available and nothing else. The employer should never say anything about how the potential hire would never be able to get a job or that they are entitled or whatever, as it is not the employer's job to judge another person based on their ability, their only job is to decide if a person is right for the position or not and to be respectful while doing so. Also I don't think many people realize how difficult it is to get proper professional help for a disability, especially for a lifelong nurodivergent diagnosis like ADHD. It can be expensive, time consuming, and the availability and quality of care can very greatly depending on where one lives (like which state one lives in, or even which county or city one lives in).
Time blindness is 100% a thing. My mum has it and it has absolutely devastated her life. She has some ways to cope, but it has cost her relationships, jobs, many friendships, and just so much more. She sets several alarms at once but due to her executive dysfunction, the second she looks away and gets into a task, the concept of time becomes scrambled in her brain. She cannot assess the time magnitude of tasks, she burns her food. There's way way more to this than it looks. Freelancing is probably a best bet for people with time blindness.
We have a guy named Drachenlord in germany. Nobody normal likes him because he insults everyone if possible and knows everything better. If someone corrects him, they get banned for it because it is his "opinion". He is now on TikTok and because he is such a "poor" guy with so many haters, he gets up to 5000€ a month for sitting there and doing nothing and i mean it. TikTok is such a bad place and i hope it gets banned here.
@owobigboy7327 Well, you've got your whimsical "bippity boppity boo" magic on one hand, and on the other you have your "transfiguring people into grotesque, fleshless, toad-like monstrosities who must sustain themselves on feces and tears and can never die no matter how much they beg for it" magic.
I have adhd and time blindness is our own problem, not anyone else’s. I’ve struggled with time blindness for years and you know what my best friend is? A F*CKING ALARM
I was a teacher at a school specifically for special education. Some of the more extreme cases couldn't read clocks, digital and analog, and were unable to learn that skill before having to leave school at the age of 18. For these cases, the last 1-2 years of their education our focus changed from trying everything we could think of to teach to read the time, to finding ways to have them cope with life without the ability to read time. One such student didn't want to be late for school, so every day he left home the same time his parents left for work. He could't tell how late that was, how long his trip to school was or how late arrived at school. He was always 45 minutes early, no matter the weather, not that he had any idea of how early he was. As teachers we sometimes snuck him in to the school before it was open for students, just so he could sit somewhere warm with a cup of tea we would give him. Anyway, everytime we took students somewhere, we would ask them what time they would need to leave, and have them look the route up on google maps. Then the next question would always be, what time are you going to set an alarm. If we let them walk around on their own, everyone had to set an alarm to tell them when to get back. This was just normal stuff we had to teach them. If mentally disabled kids can learn to set alarms and look things up at the age of 12-13, then she can do that too!
I got a friend who always 3 to 4 hours late to every hang out we set so people tell him the event happens 4 hours before the event happens so he shows up on time. This often works
I am an eighth grade sped teacher, I have cerebral palsy, and I have a reading disability. On top of all that generalized anxiety disorder. And even I think this person is being entitled. In special education we strive to provide students the tools so they can function in the real world whether that be accommodations/ modification or some other thing to help them. The accommodation in this situation would be the timers and the alarm clocks and maybe a written schedule or something like that. This is ridiculous. Edit: (because I couldn’t get this out of my head) Another accommodation that could possibly work for this person would be to ask the boss for a consistent working schedule. Same time every day same days every week. But I know that might not be easy to do with certain kind of jobs like retail. But if you go to the boss with some kind of solution they might be willing to work with you.
This was the only reasonable reply. I think there are accommodations/solutions and a good manager would help you be your best. If it was making their schedule same time same days that wouldnt be bad at all.
Just an fyi, sped shouldn’t have any negative connotations but it has been used as a replacement for the r word and most people don’t use the shortened version anymore.
I think she has less of time blindness (ADHD and i have that, i will hyperfocus and 3 hrs will pass over nothing) and more of "i want to be able to come in whenever i want and not be punished because i was trying"
My sister had a job once where they actually managed to accommodate her for time blindness. They gave her a schedule that told her to come in at a certain time and they gave everyone else a schedule that assumed she would be about a half hour late and no one knew about it until she showed up early one day
I'm sure they're out of business. Could you imagine being another employee, and realizing that your coworker is being given special accomodations like that? I would be pissed. It's worse than giving addicts time for a smoke break.
@@itheuserfirst3186 I honestly don't understand why someone else's accommodation would bother you. If you're being treated well and paid fairly, isn't that enough?
My family is chronically late to things. How we deal with it is to trick ourselves into thinking we need to be there earlier than we actually do. If the company had given her a schedule to come in a half hour early expecting her to show up on time by being a half hour "late", that's one thing. But to expect everyone else to handle her coming in 30 mins late to their shift is not great
@@thenellierose Because they are getting preferential treatment for something that is not even real, and if it was real. Well they should have to adapt to the norm instead of the orm adapting to them. The fact that you don't understand tit for tat in human interaction shows that you have been bred to misunderstand the human psyche. Society is not built o the notion of charity. Charity is what we give when we have excess. People don't like others getting preferential treatment for things that they themselves can manage with discipline. No one likes a mooch. It's in the human DNA. It's why Gypsies are dspisded by everyone. They offer nothing in return for their burden.
As someone with ADHD: it’s called a clock, check it often. If that doesn’t work, alarms, set them. Also a retain helps a lot. It’s called a disability for a reason, it sucks, and life won’t bend over for you just cause you have it.
I have ADHD and autism as well, and even though these disorders make it harder to function, it doesn’t mean that you should just give up and expect everyone else to accommodate you. No, you should work to solve your difficulties because the world is going to keep going the way it does you’re the one who arrived to the world late and you’re the one who must adjust to the world, not the world to you. People need to start taking accountability and not blaming other people or disorders or anything for it. Yes I get it’s hard. It’s not easy having any sort of impairment, but you’ll just have to work with it. You will have to learn how to be on time to places or you’ll never get far.
Time blindness has definitely gotten the better of me a time or two. That being said, I have learned how to cope with this as I've grown up. It's something you have to work at.
I would like to add while yes it’s something you can work to get help and stuff, people with time blindness (like myself I have diagnosed adhd) we can’t “cure” our time blindness. My internal clock isn’t good and I can’t work to be more neurotypical like that. *HOWEVER* i CAN get help from those around me or hey! Technology exists!
y'know, it'd be real convenient if pretty much everyone had a rectangular amalgamation of glass, metal, and electronics in their pocket that could tell the time, if only...
I think accomodations for time blindness Do exist but still put more pressure on the person whio has it and not the employer. For example, being able to set alarms or check the time without punishment, or having a large digital clock available in the workspace. Even being able to make a list of how long an individual task takes on average so they can schedule their day better would all be examples of accomodations but still gives the employee the responsibility. Employers often already give grace periods for being late and would probably jump to the assumption that an accomodation would be greatly increasing that period, or letting an employye slack off which probably leads to a not so good reaction. Nothing wrong with asking for accomodations or help but ultimately when it's something only you can work to adjust and be better there's only so much an employer can do.
1:13 Thanks for spreading awareness on timeblindness, I too suffer from it. It's highly annoying but even more annoying to others. They just think I don't care about anything to the point where I'm portrayed as being lethargic at times. It takes real-life attention from others to snap out of it sooner. But that's where it becomes annoying to others cuz they constantly have to remind me of doing stuff.
I was diagnosed with adhd at 5 and again at 14, I’ve always been bad with being on time when I was younger so to fix that you should get up about 2-3 hours before you leave and make sure you’re completely ready atleast 1hour before you have to leave make sure your atleast 10 mins early to any appt /event /work, I also make check lists for the things I may forget to grab/do so when your bad at managing your time the moral of the story is to actually put effort in to get better at managing said time.
i also struggle with this issue along with many other adhd related issues, while i do request certain accommodations (being in the front of the class so i can focus, being allowed to fidget quietly, etc) im not going to ask a teacher or employer to let me be late, that’s delusional imo. Just set an alarm
I don't ask to be late, I just show up late thankfully I work my ass off so no one's ever that mad if I show up a bit late especially if the weather's bad.
@@Name..........Eh.. I get what you're saying, but they're probably more annoyed than you think.. my sister is literally ALWAYS late, and she takes the fact that people pretty much roll their eyes and get on with things as a sign that everything's good. In reality, they find it incredibly rude and disrespectful that she doesn't seem to care about anyone's schedule but hers, they just realize by now that she's not going to change and they try to make the best of it.. but that irritation is there if you look, and tolerance only goes so far, you know? Just saying.
I have ADHD (I was diagnosed in 4th grade) and time blindness is definitely frustrating but if you get accommodations for it then you will never learn ways to deal with it on your own
It depends what the accommodations are. If you expect to just show up late for everything, that's probably going to be too disruptive to work. If you ask for a second monitor so that your meeting schedule is always in front of you or getting some help predicting how long a certain task might take, those would be more reasonable.
Similar but not the same thing, my parents used to tell me i should tell my employers that i have Autism up front so theyd understand why i was weird and maybe wouldnt fire me. But i never liked actually doing that, it felt awkward like i was putting a spotlight on myself, when i could just work on my social skills and not draw attention. Well years later, im still not a great personality, but im a lot better than i used to be lmao
i struggle with time blindness and executive dysfunction and i do not expect accommodations. i set reminders and alarms, and i force myself to do things in order even if that means i have to look at a procedure list constantly. i know my limitations, but i also know what job i want and have and what it requires of me.
The only 'accommodation' for time blindness I can think of is if the job you're applying for doesn't typically let you carry your phone, asking for permission to have your phone available for alarm access makes sense.
I don't really have time blindness (I think?) and generally I'm always punctual when I have an appointment - I'd rather be 15-30 minutes early and wait, than be late. But due to other mental illnesses I get distracted easily and my brain is so overloaded that I forget. I even forget to take out the trash when I put it right next to the door, because my thoughts are somewhere else and I'm busy getting myself and my dog ready for a walk. I find ways around it myself though, I set alarms (even if I sometimes need a few seconds to remember what the alarm was for) and have other little things that help me navigate me being that scatterbrained. I tie a piece of fabric to the door handle to remember the trash, for example. It sucks having to work around your own disadvantages, but the world isn't perfect and it's just something you gotta do.
i understand asking for consideration?? i dont know how to phrase it but ppl with adhd do deserve kindness (i say because time blindness can be very looked down on). but unfortunately, a lot of jobs necessarily require being on time. as someone with time blindness, i totally get the struggle. especially in combination with memory issues, it can majorly affect your life. however, there are ways to work around it. the only accommodation i can think of would be to always have a clock present or allow for frequent phone checking (to see the time, not staying on their phone).
The accommodation she should get is an alarm clock. If she can't remember to put timers on her phone then she only has to set the alarm clock once and it's done
yeah, I struggle with getting places on time, but since the whole world can't be expected to adjust to me, I have both a physical alarm clock and the alarm clock app on my phone.
@@thebroboards Or find a job that starts later if you like to stay up late and sleep in. I work 2nd shift at a welding/fab shop and my day starts at noon, work starts at 2:30 pm and that's perfect for me.
So I actually have some experience with accommodations in a professional setting (funny enough it’s in a school). More than half our schools staff has admitted to having ADHD. Roughly a quarter have admitted to having time blindness. My boss does two things to support these staff members: sends an email & text greeting (both automated) 30 minutes before our clock time (these can be opted out of, which I did because I have my own ways of dealing with time blindness, I don’t really need the extra help when I have alarms) and he calls any staff who have not arrived by our clock time (this isn’t just for time blindness, it’s also to check in to make sure there’s no emergency like an accident or medical issue especially after a serious accident last year took the life our nurse). For reference, clock time generally starts up to 45-60 minutes before students are expected in class so even if your late for this clock time and haven’t left home until you get that text greeting, students won’t really be impacted. All it means is you have less time to prepare for the day which is tough shit on your own part. Being allowed or forgiven for being late ISN’T an accommodation for time blindness. It sounds like that’s what she’s wanting, maybe I got the wrong vibe but that sounds like what she wants, that’s not an accommodation if that’s what she’s after. That’s more like a “I’m giving up on this person” allowance. We don’t even offer that as an accommodation for students with time blindness because accommodations are meant to help people become successful and should be able to ease out of over time of done well, they are not to reinforce poor/maladjusted behaviors. TLDR: you could 100% accommodate for time blindness in a workplace, but it seems like she’s not wanting accommodations but rather to get away with being irresponsible. Use an alarm and timers like a functioning adult. Your calendar can even remind you to leave at the exact time you need to based on locations and average commute times.
There can be accommodations for time blindness, but it can be tricky to do. They mainly exist in school settings, but some people in the comments have mentioned some minor accommodations you can do in a work setting as well, such as accepting them being minorly late every now and then. Then again, that's kind of an accommodation you expect for EVERYONE in a workplace, but I digress. And yes, time blindness can actually make setting alarms difficult, because it can even make you forget to set one to begin with or you can just not even figure out how to get ready in time. Is this to say it's impossible to get ready in time and get to work on time? Probably not. I think probably everyone with time blindness CAN get to work on time, though I could be wrong. But the point is, to a degree, it CAN be the 'inability to set alarms.' Speaking from experience. I have always been lucky enough that loved ones have noticed when this has happened and woken me up on time for everything. One day I might not be so lucky.
You know I see your mini speeches during your videos and it really makes me glad that you use your channel to actually bring important messages and views that I truly believe and agree with, you are the only youtuber I have seen that does this kind of thing other than just blindly laugh or criticize whatever content they are watching and for that I applaud your channel and think it's the best so keep it up you make my day better :)
I have ADHD and have been diagnosed with it since Gr.8 or Gr.9 (I am now 22) and I do struggle with time blindness and there are a lot of distraction when I first wake up in the morning so in order to combat this I usually wake up at least an hour earlier than what would be considered normal for the start time of my job to ensure that even with my time blindness and multiple distractions during the morning I am still not late for work.....your boss isn't responsible for something you can easily self-accommodate for🤦🏽♀️
I suck with time (idk if it’s time blindness or not) and alarms are such a lifesaver. If I didn't have alarms, I’d never get anywhere on time. I have so many alarms, timers, and reminders so that I leave for school on time, leave for work on time, go to bed on time, don’t take forever in the bathroom on my phone, don’t spend an hour in the shower, etc. During the school year, I have *11* different alarms to make sure I wake up, get ready, and leave on time.
Time blindness isn't the case of not being able to be on time etc - it's the case of not being able to estimate how much time has gone by. For example, several studies have been done where the researcher asks a person to do some tasks, and to say when they think 5 minutes has passed. 20-30-year-olds are best at doing this. But, some diagnoses such as ADHD or dementia makes it more difficult for you to correctly estimate time. This girl's problem can easily be solved by setting an alarm on her phone or something. Edit: I probably shouldn't comment before watching the whole video. August is smart and obviously knew this :D
Things for me constantly go by like a blur. It sucks because it leads to some unexpectedly large mental consequences. Like, you know how people always say 100 years is a long time so the fact you MIGHT live to that point means you have a lot of time to live...? Yeah, to me, 100 years isn't even close to a long time. One day almost feels like minutes sometimes. So anyways, when things go by so fast, I end up over compensating and thinking that it HASN'T been that long (even though sometimes it actually has) which leads to a lot of problems with due dates...
The thing you said about the internet and being chronically online is so accurate. Like with the I/P war, both sides think such extreme things about the other and like, we need to chill. Limit the time we spend on social media and our echo chamber where we consume such extreme things, like it’s not healthy.
In my 40s, I have come to realize that I have undiagnosed ADHD. I can sit down to work on a project in the morning, and the next thing I know, my spouse is coming home from work and it's 5pm. I won't have eaten anything or gotten anything done around the house that needed to be done, but have focused so hard on whatever it is that I've been working on. I know that this is something I do, so I've started setting reminders on my phone and scheduling even the simplest things like homework with my child on my calendar app on my phone. If I have an important appointment that I need to go to, I will do everything I need to do as early as possible, then sit there like a bump on a log, until I can leave for that appointment, making sure I get there early. When you take up a job, that is a RESPONSIBILITY that falls on you as the employee. If you are completely unable to even get to work on time, that puts extra pressure on everyone else who works there. How is that fair to THEM? I absolutely believe if someone is so unwilling to try to manage their ADHD symptoms, such as time blindness that they start asking for "accommodations," then THAT is entitlement.
You just described "hyperfixation", also a symptom of ADHD. If you're able to be tested you might find some really helpful information about yourself .. and it could literally change your life
@@Faesharlyn I only figured out that I have ADHD when my daughter was diagnosed at a very young age and we ended up going to therapy to help her with her emotions and whatnot. I learned a lot about how her brain works and how to help her cope with things. This, in turn, not only allowed me to figure out better ways to communicate with her, but how to better communicate with my husband. I've also started developing my own coping skills for the things I need help with. My husband and I are both undiagnosed but want to go speak to someone about being diagnosed, though, we're unsure who lol
@firehawk2324 your small one's therapist can refer you and your spouse to the appropriate person who can do the screenings and give you info on resources. There are also a lot of really good channels on YT, with different people presenting the same information in different ways.. (yay, lots of info for my new special interest lol) Good luck on your journey!
@@Faesharlyn my daughter graduated from therapy years ago and we've since moved from the state, so we don't have those resources anymore. We need to establish a GP here for both him and myself, so I think that's where we need to start.
I really suffer from time blindness but ive never been late for work because of it, i just got used to obsessively checking the time to make sure im aware of what time it is and when i need to start getting ready to leave. I understand it may be more difficult for other people but jobs aren't going to just say "oh its okay that your an hour late! Dont worry about it" if its something you do on a regular basis
I think the closest my workplace gets to accommodation for “time blindness” is based around our pay system-we basically get paid per 15min block (called a unit) so as long as we weren’t a full unit late we could show up anytime within the unit. And our manager just says to let her know if we’re going to be late. Aren’t those really the best timeblindness accommodations? A small amount of arrival time flexibility and good communication? I dislike seeing people conflate accessibility accommodations (for physical or mental needs) for “oh I don’t want to do that, can I just not?” Even people in the workplace who have disabilities STILL have to adhere to expectations and work together, accommodations are just there to help them DO it.
Listen, I have ADHD and time blindness is a big problem for me. I don’t tell others that I need special treatment for it, because I’m not an entitled brat. I accommodate myself with timers and reminders for everything, because that’s what responsible people do.
I think only certain jobs with certain flexibility could and would accommodate her, there are places that are like “as long as you get your work done within this amount of time I don’t care what you do” which can be great, but it’s better to have more of a structure.
I’ve been in jobs where being on time was really important (like to open a restaurant), but I’ve also worked jobs where it was absolutely pointless to be on time and I would still have to wait around for anywhere from a half hour to an hour before I could actually do any work. It is cringe as hell to ask for accommodations for time blindness, but I also think that we put way too much moral weight on punctuality.
Probably like a ton of people, I tend to loose track of time when I'm gaming. Start at 15 pm, look at the clock and it's 18 pm in the blink of an eye. Yet, I'm always on time for work and the same goes for meeting with friends (of the traffic is good) Sometimes, I forget to set up an alarm to wake up for work, but if it's a week day, I get up at the same time regardless of an alarm or not. If something is important, you can easily set an alarm for it and might eventually get used to it without it.
Yo, I really can't stand people not accepting me for my money-blindness. Just because I walk out of the store with something doesn't mean I'm stealing it, I'm just money blind.
I have never heard of this before, but as someone who has ADHD, it makes sense. You hit the nail on the head when you talk about setting alarms and using your phone. I always use the alarm feature on my so I stay on track during the day. When I did campus security in high schools, I would always set an alarm for 10 minutes before the passing period so that I could make sure that I could be in my area in plenty of time before the bell rang. In a busy environment, it's easy to lose track of the time. This girl doesn't need an accommodation, she just needs some common sense.
I think I does just stem back down to “people want to be mad” you see it everywhere; with every group and fandom has those bad apples, and they just like being mad about nothing just so they can argue with strangers on the internet.
To be fair I struggle with time blindness. Severely. I set alarms and still sometimes can’t. Im not quite sure how to solve that, but actually there is a lot of ableism around adhd. Also it’s not fair to say some of your friends are late lol, one of them is a disability and the other is just distraction But I absolutely don’t understand what accommodations she was referring to.
U having a disability doesn’t change the fact that you’re still late if you show up an hour after the time you’re supposed to be there, ESPECIALLY if you’re doing it too much. That’s like me saying “I showed up 3 hours late and my friend showed up 10 minutes late but mines ok cause I have adhd and she doesn’t”
Are there any accommodations for doing a drinking game involving the words "Accommodation & Accommodations"? Because this video would perfect (Or catastrophic) for it.
As someone who has ADHD and possibly Autism. Time blindness for me is extremely hard. However unlike how she's saying it i rarely struggle with being on time to work because i adjust in the morning so i have like 2-3 hours to get ready so I am not late. Not all jobs are accommodating with being late and its often seen as inappropriate or lazy when i really struggle with measuring time. However I adjust so I'm not late and the majority of the time I am not. So no, I feel like this is not a reasonable accommodation not that it wouldn't be able to be done just that it wouldn't help because if you are told okay you can get here at 905 instead of 9 you're just gonna see the 905 as the new time so it wouldn't help. It is a very hard thing to manage and I truly struggle with it at least once a week. But most employers will see this as ridiculous and not helpful. There are other ways to accommodate this without asking for workplace accommodations. I hope she finds the help she needs/deserves.
I don't know if I'd say I have time blindness, but I do have trouble gauging the passing of time. It really isn't an issue, though, because there are a thousand ways to compensate. I set a ton of alarms. I time myself doing routine activities so I can plan things out. I timed how long it took me to get from the parking to the work floor at work, and then set my car clock ahead by that amount of time. I timed how long it took to drive to work and set a clock at home to represent that. I keep constant reminders of where I'm at in the day.
Videos like hers seem to be the result of a few things: easy access to an app where you can upload any kind of content and have others see it; the mistaken idea that since everyone has an opinion, it needs to become a video and uploaded to said app; and young people who call themselves a philosopher even though most of their videos show knee-jerk reactions about a number of modern problems. I also think this girl got far too much attention as she grew up and lives in a bubble where everything she thinks needs to be verbalized to the rest of us.
It's a standard middle class problem. Fewer teenagers are working while in school, and are getting drivers licenses; so a sense of personal independence has been delayed. They seek accomodations for a life they were not properly prepared for. Anyone who has taught, or worked in high schools, and Universities knows this all too well. "Adulthood" has been getting pushed back with every successive generation since the end of WWII.
As a person living with ADHD this woman expecting special treatment because she doesn't know how to manage her ADHD is, frankly, appalling. There's a reason I don't game before work often; and if I do I'm checking the clock every ten minutes. Only time I've been late is from over sleeping because adulting is a drag and I sometimes make poor decisions on work nights. Edit: I'm also always at work an hour early or I'm stressing the entire day, and when one deals with the general public all day...being stressed because you were a few minutes later than normal isn't ideal.
I had time blindness just yesterday becauae I promised my kid we'd have dinner "early" and go to the park after...but "early" wasn't early enough so I had to sit her down and apologize for my mistake...when it happens I take accountability because I'm an adult and I'm aware of this issue. Now for work, I know just how long it takes me to get ready, get my kid ready, and get out the door so I lay out everything, I NEVER hit snooze, and I have a 10min warning alaem for getting on the road. Oh and I'm a teacher....an EC/"Special Needs" Teacher...I work with a dozen kids with ADHD or ASD and we work REALLY hard on learning strategies for time managment and initiating work. Its important to take ownership of your needs and find strategies to adapt and overcome....you can't expect other people to cut corners for you, its only going to make life harder for you in the long run.
I don't think I have ADHD but I struggle with a lot of things people with ADHD do, including time blindness. That added to my sloth speed of doing things and my tendency to zone out, I have sometimes lost track of literal hours doing one small thing or even nothing. For example, I once lost hours sketching without realizing I was sketching because zoned out. I once spent 4 hours staring at the trees while I fiddled with whatever was on my hand at the time. Again, zoned out. Those are some of the worst instances of this happening because I was too burnt out and tired but missing 5 minutes to an hour of my life multiple times a week to multiple times a day if things are really bad isn't something new to me. So, as you can imagine, losing track of time/not being able to tell how much time has passed doing something is something I struggle with. And I haven't been able to find a solution for most of these situations. But one thing I have been able to find a solution for is getting out of the house in time/ getting somewhere on time. And that's simple: I set my wristwatch 7 minutes early _and_ I wear a wristwatch that only has 3-6-9-12 on it. That means I almost always round up the time by 5-10 minutes and even if I round up (cause the minute hand is too close to either of the 4 digits), I am still couple minutes early/on time. If my classes or exam is at say, 2 pm, I set the alarm for 12 pm-12:30 pm so that I either pack my stuff up or zone back in to get to my classes/exam on time. Time blindness, at least for pre-scheduled stuff is a lot easier to fix/get around than a lot of other things people struggle with. Sure, I would be grateful if we all got a "you can be late upto X minutes Y times a [period of time]" but sadly, the world doesn't work that way and time blindness is the easiest thing to fix anyway.
Time blindness is definitely something that those of us with ADHD need to learn how to manager on our own, but for some of us, we haven't figured out how to fix those problems, especially those of us who had very late age diagnoses and had no idea that it was something that could be fixed with help, with medication or otherwise. A lot of people in the comments are saying, "well, just use alarms!" and what if I set an alarm, but then on the way to do the thing that the alarm told me to do, I realize that I've forgotten to wash the tupperware I needed for my lunch that day and now I have to spend an extra 5 minutes that I didn't have planned into my morning washing that thing, then potentially multiply that by any number of things that I might have forgotten that I have no choice but to do and cannot put off until later? I understand that we are responsible for our actions, even if we are not completely in control of them, but I feel like it's not unreasonable for an employer to be at least understanding of our struggles and maybe let a person be late by 5 or 10 minutes every once in a while (like idk, maybe once or twice a month). I would never expect an employer to allow me to be more than 10 minutes late on a regular, or even irregular basis, without repercussions, but I feel like letting an occasional 5 or 10 minutes go by unreprimanded isn't asking for much. I have no idea what kind of "accommodations" she was expecting to get at that job, so I don't want to say that I agree with her, because maybe she was expecting to not ever get in trouble for being late for any amount of time, but on the other hand, it's possible that she was only looking for what I think would also be reasonable. Either way, I know it's technically still our fault, but some of us haven't really had the ability or the tools to help us figure out how to cope with the issue effectively and consistently.
I’ve got ADHD myself and struggle with this sooo much but this is absolutely ridiculous. If you realize this is an issue you have there are things you can to do accommodate and make things easier for you, this isn’t some completely crippling and disorienting thing. For example, when I need to be at a certain place at a certain I’m setting tons of alarms. One to wake up and a back up 10 minutes later just in case, an alarm for when I need to start getting ready and for when I need to be finished. I’m always checking the time when I remember too and whenever I know I have plans for the next day, even if they’re in the same house, I lay everything out that I need. If I wanna clean I leave all my cleaning stuff out the night before, things like that. She’s acting like she’s actually disabled and NEEDS these accommodations.
I have kind of big issues with time blindness, it's to the point where I don't know if I've been doing an activity for 2 or 5 hours or (usually, not always) if something that happened the day before happened yesterday or a week ago, it would be nice to be able to tell things like that. But, which is kind of contradicting, I never really cared about them - there are timers, sticky notes you can out up to remind you of something you have to do, leave your home early to make sure you're not late, etc., but I never thought about "accommodations" for it. I'd recommend maybe getting diagnosed for ADHD and other things to make sure you can't have medicine to help you with it. It's like saying "I have issues spelling this word, so everyone I talk to must spell it incorrectly as well!" - it's specifically *_your_* issue, you can go around it _(in the stupid example I gave, just use another word instead of the one you can't spell or spend time learning how to spell it, but in the TikToker's case - be self-employed, don't have strict job times you know you will be late to, set timers to remind you to do things and leave your home early - it can be even an hour earlier if it helps you, it's better to show up early and do stuff on your phone while you wait for the other person than making the other person wait for you because you can't manage your time and show up at the time you set)_ Also when it comes to the "great minds don't think alike, but brainwashed ones do!" TikTok - what about facts like "the Earth is not flat"? Does that mean most of us (sadly not everyone) have been brainwashed to believe that?
I have ADHD and I definitely agree with this. There may be an exception for some people who have never been taught coping mechanisms or brought up by someone who has the same issue but has never been taught. But if you are aware you have this issue, it doesn’t mean you can just use it as an excuse! There’s ways to deal with it so, don’t be lazy, deal with it. I struggled for years, so have many of my family members. But as soon as we were aware we begun dealing with it.
I have ADHD and causes me to have really bad time blindness, so I set a lot of reminders and alarms, doing anything to remind myself a lot of important things. You can’t expect people to baby you, especially when you’re an adult
I have problems to be on time for stuff, so i figured out the accommodation, a flexible schedule, like if you come 2 hours late, you work 2 hours late. This stuff has existed for decades, although being able to do it depends on the workplace and nature of work
I struggle with the first week or 2 of a new college schedule until I get used to it and figure out my schedule. Time blindness isn't something I enjoy having but it's my job to manage it.
Back when I was taking Adderall for ADD I could spend _literally hours_ doodling in a notebook or playing a game and not notice the time passing at all. Without meds, I'm completely neurotic about the time and I'm completely allergic to being late for things.
well it seems people nowadays have to make up excuses for everything. Like, watches were never a thing it seems and only adhd people have to set alarms. xD
If you are unaware of time passing, then there is the potential to be both early and late for any appointment, not just late. I was taught that if you are ‘on time’ then you are late. Aim for 15 minutes before ‘on time’, that way if something goes wrong (i.e. road accident, flat tyre, cattle crossing, road works etc, etc, etc), then you have 15 minutes grace. I have two alarms in the morning, one to wake up and one to remind me to get going.
I have adhd and I need accommodations in school for stuff, but not for time blindness because I can jsut look at the clock and set alarms. But other stuff I can’t just easily fix so I need accommodations
I have ADHD (predominantly inatentative type) and growing up, I had accommodations in school like extended testing time but still worked to improve my testing time and I was able to reduce how long I took on tests. When it comes to time blindness, it sucks but it's not a viable excuse. There are ways to manage it like leaving earlier than you think to go to work. People with ADHD can still be responsible
I’m guilty of not releasing the time and being late for things but ut was a simple fix of setting alarms. For example I try to get ready for work early but I also have an alarm set up 15 minutes before I normally set off as a reminder if I don’t get ready early
I have ADHD, and I use a whole system of timers and shedualing apps/notepads to keep myself accountable with the accommodations I need... But I can handle it myself, and I wouldn't ask a buisness, that HAS to opperate with a ridgid structure so it works for other people, to just make an exception for me to show up whenever I show up. There are SO MANY ways to deal with time blindness, this girl just needs to find a way to use em instead of asking for everything to be put on hold until she arrives.
First of all, I didn't even know there was a term for my inability to tell when 5 hours have passed and accidentally wasting a whole day without noticing. Secondly, girl is actually spitting facts in the second Tik Tok, I'm not even kidding. Yes it's a MASSIVE oversimplification of things, but it's actually a painfully accurate reflection of social and political reaction/analysis channels and their comment sections, meme culture, media, etc. It quite literally was the same people who constantly scream and cry about how hateful the "other side" is who were meming the submarine crash, who were outright mocking the Queen of England's death, who literally wish harm on political leaders they don't like and actively celebrate their death or injury. Obviously every individual person is different, but you would be surprised to see just how tribal and factioned the country can be about human value on the "other side."
Even if it weren’t possible for her to learn that she has tools at her disposal to help her like alarms and reminders on her phone. I don’t get why she doesn’t just use those to help.
She should have started to learn at least in elementary/primary school and then practiced it in high school and established and polished it in college, so that she would know how to do it in Adult World.
@@ryno_8848 I feel like maybe she's too lazy to do that. And if she did do it, she wouldn't be able to bitch about having time blindness and ask for everyone to accommodate her. Nah, there's no way in Hell she would have the audacity to be responsible enough to be on time for things.
I cope by always leaving 30 minutes earlier than I actually need to. Worst case scenario I can chill and smoke a cig before my shift/appointment/whatever.
I have diagnosed adhd. I have real time blindness. Like girlie, alarm clocks are a thing, there are many ways to get help around you. I legit understand the struggle but it’s not something you should demand/expect for. Especially in a neurotypical world, I’ve had to learn they won’t adjust to me, I can’t adjust to be like them so I have to find my own way.
I looked up time blindness after you gave a brief description of it and I'm just going to webMD and say that I have it. I'm terrible with guessing time and seriously have almost no concept of how long things take and such, like I'm suppose to take 20 minute breaks, if I don't set a timer I don't know when it's up I usually just go back after I'm done eating.. But I set alarms for work because I use to take the bus, I drive now, but I knew that the city bus would show up at a designated time and would have to set alarms or would have my computer turn itself off so I knew it was time to go to work. Yeah she should be able to accommodate herself rather than the workplace doing it, shes just being entitled.
Having ADHD and time blindness is a real thing. (I experience it personally) Sometimes 5 minutes feels like an hour and an hour feels like 5 minutes. I actually dont understand the passage of time the same way a neurotypical person would. I literally do not know how long 15 minutes really is. HOWEVER, accomidations for time blindness dont exist because when it comes to scheduled appointments and meetings, you can plan ahead so you wont be late. I mean personally I stare at the clock until my meeting time to combat this. And yeah, sometimes I am late or I completely miss a class but thats rare.
@@darkkinkittyYeah, I feel like if she does have a medical condition, she really does think she's bringing awareness to it. The problem is that she does rather come across as entitled and unrealistic in her expectations. I agree, I think workers be given some extra time. And no one should be punished for being late once in a while. Shit happens. The problem is when you're late by over 20 minutes all the time. By that point, just ask to redo your schedule and come in later.
@@carlycrays2831 yeah if ur late by 20 minutes that’s a you issue. But the fact the internet all just kinda began to flame her rly says how no one looks to deep into things they decide to shame on now.
@@darkkinkitty I think people want to feel superior and like they can handle everything on their own. The idea that they may not be able to is rather scary and makes them feel defensive.
I myself have always had issues with being on time for things outside of my job, but I’m always on time for work and have been on the receiving end when a fellow employee is late and it’s not fun. I’ve been asked to stay longer and work would sometimes get swamped with a lot business and that was annoying that I was basically doing my job and the no shows jobs too. So no that shit is not ok and if you can’t be on time for the job that you chose to apply to then you need to not apply and let someone else who will be on time get it.
I have time blindness and I clean vacation rentals, that being said, my drive time changes daily anywhere between 45 min and 1.5hrs. It's really as simple as setting Google maps to your destination, even if it's the same every day, and keep tabs on what your arrival time is plus 10-15min for traffic, and getting in your car, leaving. The only times I run late anymore is when I don't follow my own method.. My point being, it's not hard to work around time loss, but this girl is insane for thinking people should feel bad. 😅
she made an update video and turns out the person who said this to her was her mom LOL
Lmao
aint no way
Nah no way bruh💀
Link?
Hope she gets a better support system in the future.
I paused to notice the AuDHD in her profile bio, meaning a combination of Autism and ADHD.
Hopefully she is trying to help herself, but hoping others around her also help, especially family.
Edit: I am not saying the world should revolve around them or anybody that is neurodivergent, as they are saying it is entitlement to hold the opinion shared.
as someone with ADHD who struggles with time blindness: there are ways to accommodate YOURSELF to deal with time blindness. There are ways to cope. Grow up. And deal with it.
Time blindness is an explanation, NOT an excuse.
I always make sure I leave 30 minutes earlier than I actually need to so I don't get the anxiety or worrying about being late.
I might show up on the wrong day, but I'll be there at the right time.
Lmao being late isn't a disability
I used to think that way but now that I’ve lost yet another job. I’m not so sure. It’s not like they can accommodate I get it, but maybe don’t fire people for being late. I don’t think I was ever more than 15 minutes late ever :/
@@artemismeowleave ur home 15 minutes earlier bru
@@artemismeow I genuinely want to hear your reasons as to why you seemingly cant show up on time. Do you not set alarms? Have you never tried to leave earlier? why would you agree to show up at a certain time when you KNOW that you're often late?
I struggle with time blindness and im always setting timers. Part of having a mental illness or disability is working through it and finding something that works. If she really needs this “accommodation” she should get a job online or something with a flexible schedule
Bro when you find this magical job with a "flexible schedule" that actually pays a living wage, let me know. Because they don't exist...
Sup
@@callmestumps6954 I've worked plenty of jobs where "showing up on time" is basically the only requirement.
If you suffer from "time blindness" then it is SO MUCH easier to get there 30 minutes early than it is to convince your boss to accommodate you for being 30 minutes late...
@@callmestumps6954 when i stripped we had a pretty flexible schedule actually. living wage is another thing.
@@the_inquisitive_inquisitor My guy. The point was the size of a football stadium and you somehow found a way to miss it
in case anyone else struggles with time blindness and needs a bit more help than "just use an alarm", i highly recommend setting "warning" alarms. say i need to leave for work at 8:30, i would set an alarm for 8:20 to tell me that now is the time to wrap up whatever i'm doing, and start getting ready to leave. that way when i actually need to leave, i'm not in the middle of something, and i'm actually prepared to go
The issue with some (I think her included) is that she’s doubtful of it working and as well as it might not work for her at all and she tried.
same, sometimes when it's important I set multiple alarms to make sure I didn't forget about the first warning alarm, as my mind wanders easily.
Doesn't work we just shut the alarms off in our sleep
I can 100% confirm that doing this for the past year has changed my life
@@darkkinkitty and that's her problem then; your adhd is not an excuse for your actions or lack of, a diagnosis is so that you can better understand why you struggle with something and so you can better work towards finding a solution for what you're struggling with, not just so you can use it as an excuse to play victim and expect the entire world to revolve around you and your problems
people like her are lazy and entitled and suffer from main character mindset
As a schizophrenic, time, blindness is a huge issue for me. Sometimes days go by very quickly even weeks. But that is not my employers job to figure out it’s mine.
@@controversialcommenter5748 dude that’s not funny. People kill themselves because the paranoia is so bad and you just want to make a stupid joke
@@controversialcommenter5748 Lolol
Honestly my issue is mainly the fact I can’t ever limit myself, I just keep doing something until I legit pass out
Exactly. We all have our challenges. Expecting other people to constantly cater to you is unbelievably narcissistic.
@@Baygirl431so why not help each other? Some people have challenges worse than yours that make them unable to do anything. Imagine being so boomer brained you genuinely think others who have it worse than you should suffer because you don’t want to be bothered to consider their cries for help.
I suffer from ADHD and I suffer from time blindness, it in no way prevented me from being at work on time because there are these things called clocks and you can set these things called alarms. Maybe her problem isn't time blindness so much as laziness.
You know laziness does not exist right? There's always a reason behind perceived laziness.
Between ADD (I got diagnosed before they added the H) and being a stoner I have a horrible grasp on time, but I have the good habit of leaving 30 minutes earlier than I actually need to.
@@anfearaerach sounds like an excuse that a lazy person would make
@@anfearaerach laziness does exist, cause im a genuine lazy person. There are reasons for some sturggles in life thats true, but just because you dont wanna accept that youre sometimes just lazy doesnt mean that laziness doesnt exist. And its fine, laziness is fine, we are still animals, and other animals dont judge themself for being lazy. Day to day work is not a natural thing. i think the main problem here is that humans think all their systems and made up things are natural things, they arent. We build a world we dont wanna live in, so its no wonder that we dont want to partake is some things.
@@TheGhostFart i am one but i dont make excuses, i think only idiots without self perception make excuses for everything, not only inherently lazy persons, since we are all kinda lazy, thats why our world cant solve problems. Everybody is basically lazy, but some are more special so they have to make up reasons coming from outside why they are how they are.
I just want to point out, it wasn’t the interviewer who yelled at her about the question. She asked the question to an interviewer, her MOM interjected and changed the subject, then her mom yelled at her for asking the question after the interviewer had left. She also made a really embarrassing follow up video.
Oh god that makes it even worse
Why is her mom going to job interviews with her?
@@terminaldeity I think it was a college tour/interview
That's interesting, because colleges usually do have accommodations for people with adhd during exams? Mostly they give you extra time. As far as being late, most colleges don't care if you show up late. Some profs might, but she could probably just talk to them 🤷🏾♀️. Maybe she was asking something else tho
I have ADHD and time blindness is a real thing, but I've found solutions that have ensured that I'm almost never late for work. Her mentality is that the prospective employer is responsible for accommodating a problem that she refuses to put any effort into fixing herself, so yeah, she is both naïve and entitled.
Honestly I don’t blame her too bad, I think she experiences similar to me where it’s on the worse end of the scale where alarms and watches don’t help much. And hasn’t found anything else that could help similarly to me.
@@darkkinkittythat sounds hard but its still your responsibility to solve. I have adhd/autism and ive gotten accommodation at work and i can see her getting an accommodation like "you can be 15 minutes late and we will let it go every time" or "its ok to be late sometimes if you contact us in the morning about it".
But it doesnt change the fact that many jobs are dependent on team work and one person always being late IS a problem, im not open to take the job of someone always late.
What are your solutions
@@broccoli452 no but they do have actual ways to help ppl with time blindness.
@@darkkinkitty what ways?
I would like an accommodation for having to watch this tiktok
Yes
same 😔
Agreed
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There is an accommodation for time blindness; the alarm clock. I know this from my own Dad with ADHD and is prone to losing track of time.
My Dad has multiple alarms for each day he’s scheduled to work. He has an alarm to wake up, an alarm for his shift to start, alarms for his breaks and lunch, and for when his shift ends.
It’s also a matter of routine, something every adult should have by the time they become a legal adult
Alarm clocks personally are the worst but I have a vibrating stopwatch
@@queerantine69 that's smart!
@@queerantine69 That works too. Personally I find alarm clocks to be the most effective for me. I usually set a loud enough one to wake me up and set it on the other side so I have to get up no matter what to turn it off.
Keep in mind that time blindness is a scale issue tho… for some yes watches and alarms are great and I’m happy for those ppl but for others such as me they just prove completely useless and make me procrastinate even more.
@@darkkinkitty Well there are other ways to help with it. It can be harder for some than others but it’s not impossible.
As someone with ADHD, I’m TERRIFIED of being late. And I’m filled with guilt, but still suffer with time blindness often.
You can kindly explain that you struggle with ADHD and/or time blindness, but you will try your best to be in early or on time, But 5 minutes late on the occasion will possibly happen. Excusable occasional slip ups when you have an issue (that you’re trying to deal with) will be excused in a lot of 9-5 jobs. They will accommodate for you if you actually try to accommodate to them. Meeting somewhere in the middle will be better than you not bothering and being disruptive towards their timetables and schedules. You just need to deal with it, and try to better yourself, and if you do that, people will be more inclined to excuse slip ups and all that. And if they want you to stay late to make up the time you’ve lost them, then that should be reasonable as you’ve wasted someone else’s time.
I have had that issue before especially as someone who opens but mainly that issue was caused by sometimes my alarm doesn’t go off and I even double hell triple check to make sure that it is set and turned on but sometimes my alarm just doesn’t go off and that has been going on from time to time and I always feel guilty and upset about it I always try to see what I can do to make up for it even if it is to stay later. I know that May not have anything to do with time blindness per se But as a person with ADHD who does Suffer with time blindness there’s a lot of things at work that I try to get done to the best of my ability and end up focusing too much on and by the time I finish I don’t realize how much time has really passed so There’s also that issue that I occasionally deal with Which makes it really difficult to do my best on other things and that’s one thing that I have to learn is how to properly get stuff done in a certain amount of time and Learn when I’m focusing too much on something but I often feel the guilt of I’m not doing good at my job and stuff of that nature all the time
"Might not be your fault but it is your problem" is such a good line, I'm surprised I'm just hearing it
It really is her fault though, this is the easiest problem to figure out
@@izzy5935 it's not her fault she has the problem, but it's her problem to solve and work around. Like I have a chronic illness, which isn't my fault, but it's my responsibility to take care of myself
@@izzy5935 Only easy for those who don’t have it
One time i wrote on an exam i couldn't see the clock so i didn't finish.
I was allowed to finish the exam the next day.
It wasn't time blindness, but my teacher told me that I worked hard and used it as an opportunity to teach me about how hard work can pay off.
Im also sharing this because I appreciate that teacher
What was it ? OCD?
The ability to be on time is essential and she is in reality the one trying to be entitled.
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Actually, this is definitely accomodated in workspaces. ADHD time blindness is a REAL thing! If you do the work that you need to do the time doesn't matter. You just need a project based job not a shift one.
@@saraleo8128Being real or not doesn’t change the company’s position…
Guess what the point of starting the company is in the first place? To make money. They lose money when she can’t be on time.
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@@kovy689okay so you didn't read the reply
Wonder if she'd be okay, or go on a rant if her paycheck was late and they used the whole "time blindness" as an excuse
I absolutely love this 😂😅 hope this is done cause I’d love to her reaction.
use the same excuse for the emergency services when someone inevitably bashes her face in with a crowbar
So true
This lady is a perfect example of what's wrong with society these days.
-Have an issue.
-Do nothing to solve, adapt to, or address said issue.
-Convince yourself that you're a victim and demand that everyone else cater to your issue.
Society, we all know there's something wrong and we know it all along
Sincerity, you may think there's no one else 'til they put you on a shelf
Society, pay your taxes stand in line help them plan for your demise
Society, crush the weak to get your share cause nobody's playing fair
And no one cares
*cough* morbidly overweight people *cough*
For some reason, I don't feel like she was yelled at....at first. I feel like the attendant was rightfully confused and then let her know, in all their "confuzzleness", told her that it didn't exist. Then she probably got entitled and condescending, acting like the attendant is stupid for not having accommodations for "time blindness" and started a 5 minute piss-ass, unnecessary rant that nobody asked for. And THAT is probably when they yelled at her.
Probably not. The other party probably asked, what's time blindness, and she went on a ten minute ADHD rant about it, and the person just said, no.
Yeah, I wasn't entirely sure that she got yelled at either. Some people think others disagreeing with you = yelling.
And she clearly has a mindset where others need to cater to her needs no matter what. They might have just told her "no" and then she might have escalated the situation. We only hear her point of view and don't know what really happened.
@@LunarLocust YEP and here comes the victim mentality, then all hell breaks loose for no reason whatsoever.
@@borealernadelwald I can't stand when people do that. Then they sneak in that "Why are you yelling?" which confuses and upsets you even more because in this reality or even in an alternate reality, you did not raise your voice. Lol And I agree, she gave the entire situation from her perspective without really saying what the attendant said, which means she wasn't listening to what they had to say. She only heard the word "no" and went off.
I watched her live and it was her mother who reprimanded her
If she has a problem with time blindness, then she needs to get help for it. Not complain about it on TikTok. I get she’s just venting, but still.
Asking for accommodation for her time blindness is nothing but pure entitlement. She's not willing to better herself, or seek help to better herself, so the world must accommodate her.
She has no excuse because there's this thing called a WATCH.
@@theraweggfiles
It doesn't work like that.
People with ADHD can't estimate the time that it will take them to do an action.
It's an executive dysfunction.
Too many times I have found myself arriving to an appointment an hour in advance.
This is not fun. So some consideration would be appreciated.
This is embarrassing, because it is supposed to be simple but somehow it is not.
@@God-yr9rs sure buddy
@@God-yr9rsfr bro chill 💀
I have severe ADHD, and time blindness is something I struggle with no matter how many alarms I set. (Unfortunately, I can’t take commonly-prescribed ADHD medications because of heart problems, which I think exacerbates the issue.) I think that people deserve some measure of grace and kindness when they haven’t found coping mechanisms or medications that they need to help them function. At the same time, I think it’s important to recognize when someone is doing something kind for you, and you also need to respect people’s hard boundaries (which often include time). I nearly flunked a college class due to my habitual lateness a couple years ago, and the professor was incredibly understanding and helped me make sure that I made it through her class. I’m extremely grateful for what she did, and I made sure to thank her every time I got an opportunity. I fully recognize that SHE went out of her way to help ME, and I wasn’t entitled to that help. At the same time, it made a significant difference in my life because she actually believed in my ability to cope, improve, and succeed. I just wanted to share this perspective because I can see where the TikToker is coming from even if I might not agree. Thank you for reading if you did! ❤
Was looking for a comment like this :)
I heard of a company that allowed employees to come in whenever they wanted to and bang out work, which is really nice for people with ADHD. Obviously can't work at all, or most, companies.
I agree. People don't understand this. Just because someone is not entitled to accommodation doesn't mean they don't deserve accommodation. People can choose to accommodate you or not, and either choice is fine, but to lend a hand to someone in need struggling with their disability is not just fine, but good.
Of course, if someone is asking for accommodation, I'd hope that they themselves are trying to mitigate the problem, too. It's a two-way street. You accommodate others by accommodating yourself first. And when even that isn't enough, or you can't do it yourself, you ask others for help.
Your comment is very important in this conversation, thank you for sharing your perspective and experiences. Too many people here are saying some very ignorant and insensitive things about people with ADHD and time blindness. I'm sure everyone struggling with time blindness would absolutely love to have all of their issues cleared up just by reading a snarky online comment from a complete stranger saying to use an alarm, but if it were that easy to cure then it wouldn't be a problem in the first place. If an employer can't accommodate for someone's time blindness, all they should say is there are no accommodations available and nothing else. The employer should never say anything about how the potential hire would never be able to get a job or that they are entitled or whatever, as it is not the employer's job to judge another person based on their ability, their only job is to decide if a person is right for the position or not and to be respectful while doing so. Also I don't think many people realize how difficult it is to get proper professional help for a disability, especially for a lifelong nurodivergent diagnosis like ADHD. It can be expensive, time consuming, and the availability and quality of care can very greatly depending on where one lives (like which state one lives in, or even which county or city one lives in).
Time blindness is 100% a thing. My mum has it and it has absolutely devastated her life. She has some ways to cope, but it has cost her relationships, jobs, many friendships, and just so much more. She sets several alarms at once but due to her executive dysfunction, the second she looks away and gets into a task, the concept of time becomes scrambled in her brain. She cannot assess the time magnitude of tasks, she burns her food. There's way way more to this than it looks. Freelancing is probably a best bet for people with time blindness.
“Tiktok is a magical place” damn bro just explained an app in 5 words.
We have a guy named Drachenlord in germany. Nobody normal likes him because he insults everyone if possible and knows everything better. If someone corrects him, they get banned for it because it is his "opinion". He is now on TikTok and because he is such a "poor" guy with so many haters, he gets up to 5000€ a month for sitting there and doing nothing and i mean it. TikTok is such a bad place and i hope it gets banned here.
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@owobigboy7327 Well, you've got your whimsical "bippity boppity boo" magic on one hand, and on the other you have your "transfiguring people into grotesque, fleshless, toad-like monstrosities who must sustain themselves on feces and tears and can never die no matter how much they beg for it" magic.
Tik tok is commie spyware
I have adhd and time blindness is our own problem, not anyone else’s. I’ve struggled with time blindness for years and you know what my best friend is? A F*CKING ALARM
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i also struggle with time blindness. its my own problem. i am the one who has to deal with it. my best friend is the alarm feature on my phone.
Why did I read this and think for a whole minute you just had ur friend tell you when to do everything 😭
@@darkkinkitty XD Oh my god that would be hilarious
Alarmy is the best app
I was a teacher at a school specifically for special education. Some of the more extreme cases couldn't read clocks, digital and analog, and were unable to learn that skill before having to leave school at the age of 18. For these cases, the last 1-2 years of their education our focus changed from trying everything we could think of to teach to read the time, to finding ways to have them cope with life without the ability to read time. One such student didn't want to be late for school, so every day he left home the same time his parents left for work. He could't tell how late that was, how long his trip to school was or how late arrived at school. He was always 45 minutes early, no matter the weather, not that he had any idea of how early he was. As teachers we sometimes snuck him in to the school before it was open for students, just so he could sit somewhere warm with a cup of tea we would give him.
Anyway, everytime we took students somewhere, we would ask them what time they would need to leave, and have them look the route up on google maps. Then the next question would always be, what time are you going to set an alarm. If we let them walk around on their own, everyone had to set an alarm to tell them when to get back. This was just normal stuff we had to teach them. If mentally disabled kids can learn to set alarms and look things up at the age of 12-13, then she can do that too!
I got a friend who always 3 to 4 hours late to every hang out we set so people tell him the event happens 4 hours before the event happens so he shows up on time. This often works
I am an eighth grade sped teacher, I have cerebral palsy, and I have a reading disability. On top of all that generalized anxiety disorder. And even I think this person is being entitled. In special education we strive to provide students the tools so they can function in the real world whether that be accommodations/ modification or some other thing to help them. The accommodation in this situation would be the timers and the alarm clocks and maybe a written schedule or something like that. This is ridiculous.
Edit: (because I couldn’t get this out of my head)
Another accommodation that could possibly work for this person would be to ask the boss for a consistent working schedule. Same time every day same days every week. But I know that might not be easy to do with certain kind of jobs like retail. But if you go to the boss with some kind of solution they might be willing to work with you.
This was the only reasonable reply. I think there are accommodations/solutions and a good manager would help you be your best. If it was making their schedule same time same days that wouldnt be bad at all.
Just an fyi, sped shouldn’t have any negative connotations but it has been used as a replacement for the r word and most people don’t use the shortened version anymore.
I think she has less of time blindness (ADHD and i have that, i will hyperfocus and 3 hrs will pass over nothing) and more of "i want to be able to come in whenever i want and not be punished because i was trying"
My sister had a job once where they actually managed to accommodate her for time blindness. They gave her a schedule that told her to come in at a certain time and they gave everyone else a schedule that assumed she would be about a half hour late and no one knew about it until she showed up early one day
I'm sure they're out of business. Could you imagine being another employee, and realizing that your coworker is being given special accomodations like that? I would be pissed. It's worse than giving addicts time for a smoke break.
@itheuserfirst3186 they are funnily enough. But she only worked there for like six months and they shut down two years after they left
@@itheuserfirst3186 I honestly don't understand why someone else's accommodation would bother you. If you're being treated well and paid fairly, isn't that enough?
My family is chronically late to things. How we deal with it is to trick ourselves into thinking we need to be there earlier than we actually do.
If the company had given her a schedule to come in a half hour early expecting her to show up on time by being a half hour "late", that's one thing. But to expect everyone else to handle her coming in 30 mins late to their shift is not great
@@thenellierose Because they are getting preferential treatment for something that is not even real, and if it was real. Well they should have to adapt to the norm instead of the orm adapting to them. The fact that you don't understand tit for tat in human interaction shows that you have been bred to misunderstand the human psyche. Society is not built o the notion of charity. Charity is what we give when we have excess. People don't like others getting preferential treatment for things that they themselves can manage with discipline. No one likes a mooch. It's in the human DNA. It's why Gypsies are dspisded by everyone. They offer nothing in return for their burden.
As someone with ADHD: it’s called a clock, check it often. If that doesn’t work, alarms, set them. Also a retain helps a lot. It’s called a disability for a reason, it sucks, and life won’t bend over for you just cause you have it.
I have ADHD and autism as well, and even though these disorders make it harder to function, it doesn’t mean that you should just give up and expect everyone else to accommodate you. No, you should work to solve your difficulties because the world is going to keep going the way it does you’re the one who arrived to the world late and you’re the one who must adjust to the world, not the world to you. People need to start taking accountability and not blaming other people or disorders or anything for it. Yes I get it’s hard. It’s not easy having any sort of impairment, but you’ll just have to work with it. You will have to learn how to be on time to places or you’ll never get far.
Time blindness has definitely gotten the better of me a time or two. That being said, I have learned how to cope with this as I've grown up. It's something you have to work at.
I used to be really bad at keeping track of the time... then I got a cell phone...
I call it having an internal clock that's off. I set a butt load of alarms because it's a me issue not anyone else's
I would like to add while yes it’s something you can work to get help and stuff, people with time blindness (like myself I have diagnosed adhd) we can’t “cure” our time blindness. My internal clock isn’t good and I can’t work to be more neurotypical like that. *HOWEVER* i CAN get help from those around me or hey! Technology exists!
Time blindness isn’t real, dummy.
y'know, it'd be real convenient if pretty much everyone had a rectangular amalgamation of glass, metal, and electronics in their pocket that could tell the time, if only...
Patrick Star: I’m not very smart.
Tiktokers: Hold my pink sauce.
I think accomodations for time blindness Do exist but still put more pressure on the person whio has it and not the employer. For example, being able to set alarms or check the time without punishment, or having a large digital clock available in the workspace. Even being able to make a list of how long an individual task takes on average so they can schedule their day better would all be examples of accomodations but still gives the employee the responsibility. Employers often already give grace periods for being late and would probably jump to the assumption that an accomodation would be greatly increasing that period, or letting an employye slack off which probably leads to a not so good reaction. Nothing wrong with asking for accomodations or help but ultimately when it's something only you can work to adjust and be better there's only so much an employer can do.
I keep having to pause this video just to marvel at the absolute ridiculousness of this girl. You are way too kind. This chick is unbelievable.
Tiktok needs a reality check
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Yep
Tiktok needs a reality
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Life will catch up to them like this he/she/they? and will have to get on board or, will be taken out with the rest of the trash.
The amount of entitlement to be late for work and then ask for accommodations is insane.
IS THAT A RAINWING?
@@darkkinkitty Yes, yes it is.
@@certifiedhomelanderstan badass.
1:13 Thanks for spreading awareness on timeblindness, I too suffer from it.
It's highly annoying but even more annoying to others. They just think I don't care about anything to the point where I'm portrayed as being lethargic at times.
It takes real-life attention from others to snap out of it sooner. But that's where it becomes annoying to others cuz they constantly have to remind me of doing stuff.
I was diagnosed with adhd at 5 and again at 14, I’ve always been bad with being on time when I was younger so to fix that you should get up about 2-3 hours before you leave and make sure you’re completely ready atleast 1hour before you have to leave make sure your atleast 10 mins early to any appt /event /work, I also make check lists for the things I may forget to grab/do so when your bad at managing your time the moral of the story is to actually put effort in to get better at managing said time.
i also struggle with this issue along with many other adhd related issues, while i do request certain accommodations (being in the front of the class so i can focus, being allowed to fidget quietly, etc) im not going to ask a teacher or employer to let me be late, that’s delusional imo. Just set an alarm
I don't ask to be late, I just show up late thankfully I work my ass off so no one's ever that mad if I show up a bit late especially if the weather's bad.
@@Name..........Eh.. I get what you're saying, but they're probably more annoyed than you think.. my sister is literally ALWAYS late, and she takes the fact that people pretty much roll their eyes and get on with things as a sign that everything's good.
In reality, they find it incredibly rude and disrespectful that she doesn't seem to care about anyone's schedule but hers, they just realize by now that she's not going to change and they try to make the best of it.. but that irritation is there if you look, and tolerance only goes so far, you know? Just saying.
I have ADHD (I was diagnosed in 4th grade) and time blindness is definitely frustrating but if you get accommodations for it then you will never learn ways to deal with it on your own
I have adhd as well but how common is time blindness
@@jesseboardman8382 Its pretty common Especially in people with inattentive ADHD (ADD)
It depends what the accommodations are. If you expect to just show up late for everything, that's probably going to be too disruptive to work. If you ask for a second monitor so that your meeting schedule is always in front of you or getting some help predicting how long a certain task might take, those would be more reasonable.
Grow up
Similar but not the same thing, my parents used to tell me i should tell my employers that i have Autism up front so theyd understand why i was weird and maybe wouldnt fire me.
But i never liked actually doing that, it felt awkward like i was putting a spotlight on myself, when i could just work on my social skills and not draw attention.
Well years later, im still not a great personality, but im a lot better than i used to be lmao
i struggle with time blindness and executive dysfunction and i do not expect accommodations. i set reminders and alarms, and i force myself to do things in order even if that means i have to look at a procedure list constantly. i know my limitations, but i also know what job i want and have and what it requires of me.
This is why i have 6 alarms set in the morning alone. There's ways to fix YOUR problem and not make it everyone else's.
Right?! It's called being an adult and figuring it out lol
@@AH-pw1im exactly 💯
The only 'accommodation' for time blindness I can think of is if the job you're applying for doesn't typically let you carry your phone, asking for permission to have your phone available for alarm access makes sense.
I don't really have time blindness (I think?) and generally I'm always punctual when I have an appointment - I'd rather be 15-30 minutes early and wait, than be late.
But due to other mental illnesses I get distracted easily and my brain is so overloaded that I forget. I even forget to take out the trash when I put it right next to the door, because my thoughts are somewhere else and I'm busy getting myself and my dog ready for a walk. I find ways around it myself though, I set alarms (even if I sometimes need a few seconds to remember what the alarm was for) and have other little things that help me navigate me being that scatterbrained. I tie a piece of fabric to the door handle to remember the trash, for example.
It sucks having to work around your own disadvantages, but the world isn't perfect and it's just something you gotta do.
i understand asking for consideration?? i dont know how to phrase it but ppl with adhd do deserve kindness (i say because time blindness can be very looked down on). but unfortunately, a lot of jobs necessarily require being on time. as someone with time blindness, i totally get the struggle. especially in combination with memory issues, it can majorly affect your life. however, there are ways to work around it. the only accommodation i can think of would be to always have a clock present or allow for frequent phone checking (to see the time, not staying on their phone).
The accommodation she should get is an alarm clock. If she can't remember to put timers on her phone then she only has to set the alarm clock once and it's done
Agreed wake up and be a human like everyone else
yeah, I struggle with getting places on time, but since the whole world can't be expected to adjust to me, I have both a physical alarm clock and the alarm clock app on my phone.
@@thebroboards Or find a job that starts later if you like to stay up late and sleep in.
I work 2nd shift at a welding/fab shop and my day starts at noon, work starts at 2:30 pm and that's perfect for me.
@@the_inquisitive_inquisitor2nd shift is how I adjusted
@@vikkilooper4075 2nd shift is best shift.
I worked 3rd shift for a while and that's rough even for me.
So I actually have some experience with accommodations in a professional setting (funny enough it’s in a school). More than half our schools staff has admitted to having ADHD. Roughly a quarter have admitted to having time blindness.
My boss does two things to support these staff members: sends an email & text greeting (both automated) 30 minutes before our clock time (these can be opted out of, which I did because I have my own ways of dealing with time blindness, I don’t really need the extra help when I have alarms) and he calls any staff who have not arrived by our clock time (this isn’t just for time blindness, it’s also to check in to make sure there’s no emergency like an accident or medical issue especially after a serious accident last year took the life our nurse). For reference, clock time generally starts up to 45-60 minutes before students are expected in class so even if your late for this clock time and haven’t left home until you get that text greeting, students won’t really be impacted. All it means is you have less time to prepare for the day which is tough shit on your own part.
Being allowed or forgiven for being late ISN’T an accommodation for time blindness. It sounds like that’s what she’s wanting, maybe I got the wrong vibe but that sounds like what she wants, that’s not an accommodation if that’s what she’s after. That’s more like a “I’m giving up on this person” allowance. We don’t even offer that as an accommodation for students with time blindness because accommodations are meant to help people become successful and should be able to ease out of over time of done well, they are not to reinforce poor/maladjusted behaviors.
TLDR: you could 100% accommodate for time blindness in a workplace, but it seems like she’s not wanting accommodations but rather to get away with being irresponsible. Use an alarm and timers like a functioning adult. Your calendar can even remind you to leave at the exact time you need to based on locations and average commute times.
There can be accommodations for time blindness, but it can be tricky to do. They mainly exist in school settings, but some people in the comments have mentioned some minor accommodations you can do in a work setting as well, such as accepting them being minorly late every now and then. Then again, that's kind of an accommodation you expect for EVERYONE in a workplace, but I digress.
And yes, time blindness can actually make setting alarms difficult, because it can even make you forget to set one to begin with or you can just not even figure out how to get ready in time. Is this to say it's impossible to get ready in time and get to work on time? Probably not. I think probably everyone with time blindness CAN get to work on time, though I could be wrong. But the point is, to a degree, it CAN be the 'inability to set alarms.' Speaking from experience. I have always been lucky enough that loved ones have noticed when this has happened and woken me up on time for everything. One day I might not be so lucky.
You know I see your mini speeches during your videos and it really makes me glad that you use your channel to actually bring important messages and views that I truly believe and agree with, you are the only youtuber I have seen that does this kind of thing other than just blindly laugh or criticize whatever content they are watching and for that I applaud your channel and think it's the best so keep it up you make my day better :)
This is why TikTok is my least favorite thing of all time.
I have ADHD and have been diagnosed with it since Gr.8 or Gr.9 (I am now 22) and I do struggle with time blindness and there are a lot of distraction when I first wake up in the morning so in order to combat this I usually wake up at least an hour earlier than what would be considered normal for the start time of my job to ensure that even with my time blindness and multiple distractions during the morning I am still not late for work.....your boss isn't responsible for something you can easily self-accommodate for🤦🏽♀️
I suck with time (idk if it’s time blindness or not) and alarms are such a lifesaver. If I didn't have alarms, I’d never get anywhere on time. I have so many alarms, timers, and reminders so that I leave for school on time, leave for work on time, go to bed on time, don’t take forever in the bathroom on my phone, don’t spend an hour in the shower, etc. During the school year, I have *11* different alarms to make sure I wake up, get ready, and leave on time.
I have time blindness and I work...my accommodation? I have a smart watch that goes off at a set time so I make it work!!
Omg same. I also have my watch tell me when to take my meds.
I have a timetable installed on my phone to keep me on track. It's not that difficult.
Time blindness isn't the case of not being able to be on time etc - it's the case of not being able to estimate how much time has gone by. For example, several studies have been done where the researcher asks a person to do some tasks, and to say when they think 5 minutes has passed. 20-30-year-olds are best at doing this. But, some diagnoses such as ADHD or dementia makes it more difficult for you to correctly estimate time. This girl's problem can easily be solved by setting an alarm on her phone or something.
Edit: I probably shouldn't comment before watching the whole video. August is smart and obviously knew this :D
i mean we have clocks, who does even expect that somebody knows exactly how much time has passed? xD just look on your clock for christ sake xD
Things for me constantly go by like a blur. It sucks because it leads to some unexpectedly large mental consequences. Like, you know how people always say 100 years is a long time so the fact you MIGHT live to that point means you have a lot of time to live...? Yeah, to me, 100 years isn't even close to a long time. One day almost feels like minutes sometimes.
So anyways, when things go by so fast, I end up over compensating and thinking that it HASN'T been that long (even though sometimes it actually has) which leads to a lot of problems with due dates...
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The thing you said about the internet and being chronically online is so accurate. Like with the I/P war, both sides think such extreme things about the other and like, we need to chill. Limit the time we spend on social media and our echo chamber where we consume such extreme things, like it’s not healthy.
I suffer from time blindness/adhd/symptoms of adhd from ptsd but I’m never late to appointments or anything of that sort usually.
In my 40s, I have come to realize that I have undiagnosed ADHD. I can sit down to work on a project in the morning, and the next thing I know, my spouse is coming home from work and it's 5pm. I won't have eaten anything or gotten anything done around the house that needed to be done, but have focused so hard on whatever it is that I've been working on. I know that this is something I do, so I've started setting reminders on my phone and scheduling even the simplest things like homework with my child on my calendar app on my phone. If I have an important appointment that I need to go to, I will do everything I need to do as early as possible, then sit there like a bump on a log, until I can leave for that appointment, making sure I get there early. When you take up a job, that is a RESPONSIBILITY that falls on you as the employee. If you are completely unable to even get to work on time, that puts extra pressure on everyone else who works there. How is that fair to THEM? I absolutely believe if someone is so unwilling to try to manage their ADHD symptoms, such as time blindness that they start asking for "accommodations," then THAT is entitlement.
You just described "hyperfixation", also a symptom of ADHD.
If you're able to be tested you might find some really helpful information about yourself .. and it could literally change your life
@@Faesharlyn Agreed. Awaiting proper diagnosis at the moment, been binge watching HowToADHD recently!
@@Faesharlyn I only figured out that I have ADHD when my daughter was diagnosed at a very young age and we ended up going to therapy to help her with her emotions and whatnot. I learned a lot about how her brain works and how to help her cope with things. This, in turn, not only allowed me to figure out better ways to communicate with her, but how to better communicate with my husband. I've also started developing my own coping skills for the things I need help with. My husband and I are both undiagnosed but want to go speak to someone about being diagnosed, though, we're unsure who lol
@firehawk2324 your small one's therapist can refer you and your spouse to the appropriate person who can do the screenings and give you info on resources. There are also a lot of really good channels on YT, with different people presenting the same information in different ways.. (yay, lots of info for my new special interest lol)
Good luck on your journey!
@@Faesharlyn my daughter graduated from therapy years ago and we've since moved from the state, so we don't have those resources anymore. We need to establish a GP here for both him and myself, so I think that's where we need to start.
Am I the only one who believes that August is a duck that can say human words?
yes
Is he not??
I really suffer from time blindness but ive never been late for work because of it, i just got used to obsessively checking the time to make sure im aware of what time it is and when i need to start getting ready to leave. I understand it may be more difficult for other people but jobs aren't going to just say "oh its okay that your an hour late! Dont worry about it" if its something you do on a regular basis
I think the closest my workplace gets to accommodation for “time blindness” is based around our pay system-we basically get paid per 15min block (called a unit) so as long as we weren’t a full unit late we could show up anytime within the unit. And our manager just says to let her know if we’re going to be late. Aren’t those really the best timeblindness accommodations? A small amount of arrival time flexibility and good communication? I dislike seeing people conflate accessibility accommodations (for physical or mental needs) for “oh I don’t want to do that, can I just not?” Even people in the workplace who have disabilities STILL have to adhere to expectations and work together, accommodations are just there to help them DO it.
Listen, I have ADHD and time blindness is a big problem for me. I don’t tell others that I need special treatment for it, because I’m not an entitled brat. I accommodate myself with timers and reminders for everything, because that’s what responsible people do.
Same
I don't tell people because I don't want people to think I'm an entitled brat.
@@carlycrays2831 same
I think only certain jobs with certain flexibility could and would accommodate her, there are places that are like “as long as you get your work done within this amount of time I don’t care what you do” which can be great, but it’s better to have more of a structure.
I’ve been in jobs where being on time was really important (like to open a restaurant), but I’ve also worked jobs where it was absolutely pointless to be on time and I would still have to wait around for anywhere from a half hour to an hour before I could actually do any work. It is cringe as hell to ask for accommodations for time blindness, but I also think that we put way too much moral weight on punctuality.
Probably like a ton of people, I tend to loose track of time when I'm gaming. Start at 15 pm, look at the clock and it's 18 pm in the blink of an eye. Yet, I'm always on time for work and the same goes for meeting with friends (of the traffic is good)
Sometimes, I forget to set up an alarm to wake up for work, but if it's a week day, I get up at the same time regardless of an alarm or not.
If something is important, you can easily set an alarm for it and might eventually get used to it without it.
Yo, I really can't stand people not accepting me for my money-blindness. Just because I walk out of the store with something doesn't mean I'm stealing it, I'm just money blind.
Petition to nickname TikTok “Stupidity Central”
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Better name, think not
Stop begging for likes
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I have never heard of this before, but as someone who has ADHD, it makes sense. You hit the nail on the head when you talk about setting alarms and using your phone. I always use the alarm feature on my so I stay on track during the day. When I did campus security in high schools, I would always set an alarm for 10 minutes before the passing period so that I could make sure that I could be in my area in plenty of time before the bell rang. In a busy environment, it's easy to lose track of the time. This girl doesn't need an accommodation, she just needs some common sense.
I think I does just stem back down to “people want to be mad” you see it everywhere; with every group and fandom has those bad apples, and they just like being mad about nothing just so they can argue with strangers on the internet.
To be fair I struggle with time blindness. Severely. I set alarms and still sometimes can’t.
Im not quite sure how to solve that, but actually there is a lot of ableism around adhd.
Also it’s not fair to say some of your friends are late lol, one of them is a disability and the other is just distraction
But I absolutely don’t understand what accommodations she was referring to.
U having a disability doesn’t change the fact that you’re still late if you show up an hour after the time you’re supposed to be there, ESPECIALLY if you’re doing it too much. That’s like me saying “I showed up 3 hours late and my friend showed up 10 minutes late but mines ok cause I have adhd and she doesn’t”
@@leila.7754 of course, what I’m saying is that everyone is dogpiling this girl when she’s obviously just frustrated with her issues and disability.
Are there any accommodations for doing a drinking game involving the words "Accommodation & Accommodations"? Because this video would perfect (Or catastrophic) for it.
As someone who has ADHD and possibly Autism. Time blindness for me is extremely hard. However unlike how she's saying it i rarely struggle with being on time to work because i adjust in the morning so i have like 2-3 hours to get ready so I am not late. Not all jobs are accommodating with being late and its often seen as inappropriate or lazy when i really struggle with measuring time. However I adjust so I'm not late and the majority of the time I am not. So no, I feel like this is not a reasonable accommodation not that it wouldn't be able to be done just that it wouldn't help because if you are told okay you can get here at 905 instead of 9 you're just gonna see the 905 as the new time so it wouldn't help. It is a very hard thing to manage and I truly struggle with it at least once a week. But most employers will see this as ridiculous and not helpful. There are other ways to accommodate this without asking for workplace accommodations. I hope she finds the help she needs/deserves.
I don't know if I'd say I have time blindness, but I do have trouble gauging the passing of time. It really isn't an issue, though, because there are a thousand ways to compensate. I set a ton of alarms. I time myself doing routine activities so I can plan things out. I timed how long it took me to get from the parking to the work floor at work, and then set my car clock ahead by that amount of time. I timed how long it took to drive to work and set a clock at home to represent that. I keep constant reminders of where I'm at in the day.
Videos like hers seem to be the result of a few things: easy access to an app where you can upload any kind of content and have others see it; the mistaken idea that since everyone has an opinion, it needs to become a video and uploaded to said app; and young people who call themselves a philosopher even though most of their videos show knee-jerk reactions about a number of modern problems. I also think this girl got far too much attention as she grew up and lives in a bubble where everything she thinks needs to be verbalized to the rest of us.
It's a standard middle class problem. Fewer teenagers are working while in school, and are getting drivers licenses; so a sense of personal independence has been delayed. They seek accomodations for a life they were not properly prepared for. Anyone who has taught, or worked in high schools, and Universities knows this all too well. "Adulthood" has been getting pushed back with every successive generation since the end of WWII.
As a person living with ADHD this woman expecting special treatment because she doesn't know how to manage her ADHD is, frankly, appalling. There's a reason I don't game before work often; and if I do I'm checking the clock every ten minutes.
Only time I've been late is from over sleeping because adulting is a drag and I sometimes make poor decisions on work nights.
Edit: I'm also always at work an hour early or I'm stressing the entire day, and when one deals with the general public all day...being stressed because you were a few minutes later than normal isn't ideal.
I had time blindness just yesterday becauae I promised my kid we'd have dinner "early" and go to the park after...but "early" wasn't early enough so I had to sit her down and apologize for my mistake...when it happens I take accountability because I'm an adult and I'm aware of this issue. Now for work, I know just how long it takes me to get ready, get my kid ready, and get out the door so I lay out everything, I NEVER hit snooze, and I have a 10min warning alaem for getting on the road. Oh and I'm a teacher....an EC/"Special Needs" Teacher...I work with a dozen kids with ADHD or ASD and we work REALLY hard on learning strategies for time managment and initiating work. Its important to take ownership of your needs and find strategies to adapt and overcome....you can't expect other people to cut corners for you, its only going to make life harder for you in the long run.
I don't think I have ADHD but I struggle with a lot of things people with ADHD do, including time blindness. That added to my sloth speed of doing things and my tendency to zone out, I have sometimes lost track of literal hours doing one small thing or even nothing. For example, I once lost hours sketching without realizing I was sketching because zoned out. I once spent 4 hours staring at the trees while I fiddled with whatever was on my hand at the time. Again, zoned out. Those are some of the worst instances of this happening because I was too burnt out and tired but missing 5 minutes to an hour of my life multiple times a week to multiple times a day if things are really bad isn't something new to me. So, as you can imagine, losing track of time/not being able to tell how much time has passed doing something is something I struggle with. And I haven't been able to find a solution for most of these situations. But one thing I have been able to find a solution for is getting out of the house in time/ getting somewhere on time. And that's simple: I set my wristwatch 7 minutes early _and_ I wear a wristwatch that only has 3-6-9-12 on it. That means I almost always round up the time by 5-10 minutes and even if I round up (cause the minute hand is too close to either of the 4 digits), I am still couple minutes early/on time. If my classes or exam is at say, 2 pm, I set the alarm for 12 pm-12:30 pm so that I either pack my stuff up or zone back in to get to my classes/exam on time.
Time blindness, at least for pre-scheduled stuff is a lot easier to fix/get around than a lot of other things people struggle with. Sure, I would be grateful if we all got a "you can be late upto X minutes Y times a [period of time]" but sadly, the world doesn't work that way and time blindness is the easiest thing to fix anyway.
Time blindness is definitely something that those of us with ADHD need to learn how to manager on our own, but for some of us, we haven't figured out how to fix those problems, especially those of us who had very late age diagnoses and had no idea that it was something that could be fixed with help, with medication or otherwise. A lot of people in the comments are saying, "well, just use alarms!" and what if I set an alarm, but then on the way to do the thing that the alarm told me to do, I realize that I've forgotten to wash the tupperware I needed for my lunch that day and now I have to spend an extra 5 minutes that I didn't have planned into my morning washing that thing, then potentially multiply that by any number of things that I might have forgotten that I have no choice but to do and cannot put off until later?
I understand that we are responsible for our actions, even if we are not completely in control of them, but I feel like it's not unreasonable for an employer to be at least understanding of our struggles and maybe let a person be late by 5 or 10 minutes every once in a while (like idk, maybe once or twice a month). I would never expect an employer to allow me to be more than 10 minutes late on a regular, or even irregular basis, without repercussions, but I feel like letting an occasional 5 or 10 minutes go by unreprimanded isn't asking for much.
I have no idea what kind of "accommodations" she was expecting to get at that job, so I don't want to say that I agree with her, because maybe she was expecting to not ever get in trouble for being late for any amount of time, but on the other hand, it's possible that she was only looking for what I think would also be reasonable. Either way, I know it's technically still our fault, but some of us haven't really had the ability or the tools to help us figure out how to cope with the issue effectively and consistently.
"Go and interact" YES. There's a world out there with all kinds of things to do and you are missing out, you are.
I’ve got ADHD myself and struggle with this sooo much but this is absolutely ridiculous. If you realize this is an issue you have there are things you can to do accommodate and make things easier for you, this isn’t some completely crippling and disorienting thing. For example, when I need to be at a certain place at a certain I’m setting tons of alarms. One to wake up and a back up 10 minutes later just in case, an alarm for when I need to start getting ready and for when I need to be finished. I’m always checking the time when I remember too and whenever I know I have plans for the next day, even if they’re in the same house, I lay everything out that I need. If I wanna clean I leave all my cleaning stuff out the night before, things like that. She’s acting like she’s actually disabled and NEEDS these accommodations.
I have kind of big issues with time blindness, it's to the point where I don't know if I've been doing an activity for 2 or 5 hours or (usually, not always) if something that happened the day before happened yesterday or a week ago, it would be nice to be able to tell things like that. But, which is kind of contradicting, I never really cared about them - there are timers, sticky notes you can out up to remind you of something you have to do, leave your home early to make sure you're not late, etc., but I never thought about "accommodations" for it. I'd recommend maybe getting diagnosed for ADHD and other things to make sure you can't have medicine to help you with it. It's like saying "I have issues spelling this word, so everyone I talk to must spell it incorrectly as well!" - it's specifically *_your_* issue, you can go around it _(in the stupid example I gave, just use another word instead of the one you can't spell or spend time learning how to spell it, but in the TikToker's case - be self-employed, don't have strict job times you know you will be late to, set timers to remind you to do things and leave your home early - it can be even an hour earlier if it helps you, it's better to show up early and do stuff on your phone while you wait for the other person than making the other person wait for you because you can't manage your time and show up at the time you set)_
Also when it comes to the "great minds don't think alike, but brainwashed ones do!" TikTok - what about facts like "the Earth is not flat"? Does that mean most of us (sadly not everyone) have been brainwashed to believe that?
I have ADHD and I definitely agree with this. There may be an exception for some people who have never been taught coping mechanisms or brought up by someone who has the same issue but has never been taught. But if you are aware you have this issue, it doesn’t mean you can just use it as an excuse! There’s ways to deal with it so, don’t be lazy, deal with it. I struggled for years, so have many of my family members. But as soon as we were aware we begun dealing with it.
I have ADHD and causes me to have really bad time blindness, so I set a lot of reminders and alarms, doing anything to remind myself a lot of important things. You can’t expect people to baby you, especially when you’re an adult
Tiktok is definitely a social media place.
Yeeea that's one way to put it
I have problems to be on time for stuff, so i figured out the accommodation, a flexible schedule, like if you come 2 hours late, you work 2 hours late.
This stuff has existed for decades, although being able to do it depends on the workplace and nature of work
I struggle with the first week or 2 of a new college schedule until I get used to it and figure out my schedule. Time blindness isn't something I enjoy having but it's my job to manage it.
LMAO
I’m autistic and the only accommodations I got was to sit in the front (due to eyesight) and extra time on tests.
Time blindness, eh? I don't doubt it exists. I also know that setting alarms is a thing that exists.
Back when I was taking Adderall for ADD I could spend _literally hours_ doodling in a notebook or playing a game and not notice the time passing at all.
Without meds, I'm completely neurotic about the time and I'm completely allergic to being late for things.
well it seems people nowadays have to make up excuses for everything. Like, watches were never a thing it seems and only adhd people have to set alarms. xD
People like this have never experienced the real world, I swear.
If you are unaware of time passing, then there is the potential to be both early and late for any appointment, not just late.
I was taught that if you are ‘on time’ then you are late. Aim for 15 minutes before ‘on time’, that way if something goes wrong (i.e. road accident, flat tyre, cattle crossing, road works etc, etc, etc), then you have 15 minutes grace. I have two alarms in the morning, one to wake up and one to remind me to get going.
I have adhd and I need accommodations in school for stuff, but not for time blindness because I can jsut look at the clock and set alarms. But other stuff I can’t just easily fix so I need accommodations
I have ADHD (predominantly inatentative type) and growing up, I had accommodations in school like extended testing time but still worked to improve my testing time and I was able to reduce how long I took on tests. When it comes to time blindness, it sucks but it's not a viable excuse. There are ways to manage it like leaving earlier than you think to go to work. People with ADHD can still be responsible
I wish time blindness was my biggest problem
I’m guilty of not releasing the time and being late for things but ut was a simple fix of setting alarms. For example I try to get ready for work early but I also have an alarm set up 15 minutes before I normally set off as a reminder if I don’t get ready early
I have ADHD, and I use a whole system of timers and shedualing apps/notepads to keep myself accountable with the accommodations I need... But I can handle it myself, and I wouldn't ask a buisness, that HAS to opperate with a ridgid structure so it works for other people, to just make an exception for me to show up whenever I show up. There are SO MANY ways to deal with time blindness, this girl just needs to find a way to use em instead of asking for everything to be put on hold until she arrives.
First of all, I didn't even know there was a term for my inability to tell when 5 hours have passed and accidentally wasting a whole day without noticing.
Secondly, girl is actually spitting facts in the second Tik Tok, I'm not even kidding. Yes it's a MASSIVE oversimplification of things, but it's actually a painfully accurate reflection of social and political reaction/analysis channels and their comment sections, meme culture, media, etc. It quite literally was the same people who constantly scream and cry about how hateful the "other side" is who were meming the submarine crash, who were outright mocking the Queen of England's death, who literally wish harm on political leaders they don't like and actively celebrate their death or injury. Obviously every individual person is different, but you would be surprised to see just how tribal and factioned the country can be about human value on the "other side."
Being on time is something you need to learn
Even if it weren’t possible for her to learn that she has tools at her disposal to help her like alarms and reminders on her phone. I don’t get why she doesn’t just use those to help.
She should have started to learn at least in elementary/primary school and then practiced it in high school and established and polished it in college, so that she would know how to do it in Adult World.
@@ryno_8848 I feel like maybe she's too lazy to do that. And if she did do it, she wouldn't be able to bitch about having time blindness and ask for everyone to accommodate her. Nah, there's no way in Hell she would have the audacity to be responsible enough to be on time for things.
I cope by always leaving 30 minutes earlier than I actually need to.
Worst case scenario I can chill and smoke a cig before my shift/appointment/whatever.
@@MelaninCosplaynot everyone can do that tho?..
I have diagnosed adhd. I have real time blindness. Like girlie, alarm clocks are a thing, there are many ways to get help around you. I legit understand the struggle but it’s not something you should demand/expect for. Especially in a neurotypical world, I’ve had to learn they won’t adjust to me, I can’t adjust to be like them so I have to find my own way.
I looked up time blindness after you gave a brief description of it and I'm just going to webMD and say that I have it. I'm terrible with guessing time and seriously have almost no concept of how long things take and such, like I'm suppose to take 20 minute breaks, if I don't set a timer I don't know when it's up I usually just go back after I'm done eating.. But I set alarms for work because I use to take the bus, I drive now, but I knew that the city bus would show up at a designated time and would have to set alarms or would have my computer turn itself off so I knew it was time to go to work. Yeah she should be able to accommodate herself rather than the workplace doing it, shes just being entitled.
Having ADHD and time blindness is a real thing. (I experience it personally) Sometimes 5 minutes feels like an hour and an hour feels like 5 minutes. I actually dont understand the passage of time the same way a neurotypical person would. I literally do not know how long 15 minutes really is. HOWEVER, accomidations for time blindness dont exist because when it comes to scheduled appointments and meetings, you can plan ahead so you wont be late. I mean personally I stare at the clock until my meeting time to combat this. And yeah, sometimes I am late or I completely miss a class but thats rare.
If she has a real medical condition, she should be ashamed for making fun of it, as she is doing here
She’s not rly making fun of it?
@@darkkinkittyYeah, I feel like if she does have a medical condition, she really does think she's bringing awareness to it. The problem is that she does rather come across as entitled and unrealistic in her expectations. I agree, I think workers be given some extra time. And no one should be punished for being late once in a while. Shit happens.
The problem is when you're late by over 20 minutes all the time. By that point, just ask to redo your schedule and come in later.
@@carlycrays2831 yeah if ur late by 20 minutes that’s a you issue. But the fact the internet all just kinda began to flame her rly says how no one looks to deep into things they decide to shame on now.
@@darkkinkitty I think people want to feel superior and like they can handle everything on their own. The idea that they may not be able to is rather scary and makes them feel defensive.
I myself have always had issues with being on time for things outside of my job, but I’m always on time for work and have been on the receiving end when a fellow employee is late and it’s not fun. I’ve been asked to stay longer and work would sometimes get swamped with a lot business and that was annoying that I was basically doing my job and the no shows jobs too. So no that shit is not ok and if you can’t be on time for the job that you chose to apply to then you need to not apply and let someone else who will be on time get it.
I have time blindness and I clean vacation rentals, that being said, my drive time changes daily anywhere between 45 min and 1.5hrs. It's really as simple as setting Google maps to your destination, even if it's the same every day, and keep tabs on what your arrival time is plus 10-15min for traffic, and getting in your car, leaving. The only times I run late anymore is when I don't follow my own method.. My point being, it's not hard to work around time loss, but this girl is insane for thinking people should feel bad. 😅