I feel like I may have autism. I get socially awkward in public crowds. I want to make friends but I have a hard time opening up. I tried to see a therapist but she would talk later and never did. Who can I talk to because my mom doesn't believe I have it. What do I do?
Question (I don't know where to put it). How do you know you have a good psychiatrist? I had depression and I've been taking medicine for almost 5 years. And I only see him every 3 months for like 10 minutes. I feel like he doesn't care about me.
I’m probably going to ask more than one but spread it out : I always enjoy watching your videos kati! How do I deal with a traumatic memory. I used to watch your videos a lot but someone who looked like you hurt me. I know you’re innocent . It’s like your video om transference. I think of my self as strong but it’s too much for me. I’m seeing a psychiatrist. I can’t get into therapy for my issues yet due to some difficulties. But your videos are like a breath of fresh air between long gaps between appointments. My friends and psychiatrist are surprised I’m so insightful despite my psychosis . Your videos help with this ! I feel like I’m not believed when I tell people what happened or that I’m taking it to seriously being disrespected in the street. But the most evil thing is it is robbing me of my benefiting from your experience which is learning more about mental health issues from your videos! Perhaps I should forgive her. Maybe force myself to watch your videos so the positive association can return!
*Timestamps:* 1:45 How to deal with atypical anorexia how to deal with feeling not ill enough? 5:48 How do you deal with clients who don't make progress or continually self-sabotage? I'm BPD and so many therapists have gotten frustrated and irritated with me for this and basically made my BPD reactions and outbursts worse by seemingly 'abandoning' me. 13:06 Is it truly possible to fully recover from a mental illness or is it like asthma where it's always there but can be managed? So you always have to be aware of it but there are times where it doesn't flare up and you can live a normal, healthy life? Or can it fully go and someone can come to live life fully without having to worry about depression, anxiety or an ED again? 19:30 How do you maintain your mental health when you are in physical pain? 23:25 Could you do a video about PTSD being passed down generationally? Is the Holocaust the only example of this or is it present in other instances? 27:38 What do you do if a client has a plan to kill themselves in the future? Like not any time too soon but they have a plan for the next month for example? 34:43 Is there ANYTHING practical/tangible that a person can do when having a terrible body image moment or day? I need something more effective than just repeating affirmations... there must be something that can help! It’s the biggest roadblock to my ED recovery, I cannot tolerate my body so I give in to behaviors. 40:13 Can you recommend any tips to help stop painful past memories from suddenly popping into my head at random times of the day & night? I'm fed up & exhausted from reliving all the sad emotions it brings up. 45:29 Medication vs talk therapy for depression?
I definitely prefer this style of video, I loved watching your old style faqs. I support your content whatever you make, but the more relaxed feel is definitely my preference, where you feel like you're having a conversation with someone who just so happens to be a trained professional haha
I love this format! Give me more, give me more, oops... sorry, I was listening to the Pointer Sisters up loud again. Go ahead and jump! OK, I'll be quiet now but I'm not happy about it.
Good morning! Diagnosed with cyclothymia. I take a mood stabilizer, anxiety meds & depression medicine. I had a miscarriage last year and while I was pregnant I felt VERY anxious & suicidal. Is it possible to have a decent pregnancy? Should women who have these problems not have children. Sincerely, an almost mom. Love you Kati. Thank you for all your kindness you share ♥️
I prefer it varied because we don’t have to wait so long for a topic to come up. Also, even if you are not talking about our particular issue, strategies and advice can overlap and still be useful x
I think having it varied is great, the questions are in the description so someone can always check there first if they want to (p.s less work for yourself it doesn't need to be complicated) I kinda like just tuning into these and whatever comes up can either help me personally or help me understand a different area of mental health that I may need to pull from one day if someone is in need :)
I enjoy both styles of videos. I love your in depth ones, because they're very factual and informative. This podcast is great because we get your opinion on a bunch of different questions which is awesome 😊♥️
Dude generational trauma is SO real. Some of the older members of my extended family survived World War II (not the Holocaust corner of it) remarkably well...and their children are absolute train wrecks. It's like the trauma completely skipped the people it actually happened to and came to life in the next generation. I would love to read your book, especially now that we are engulfed by the COVID pandemic. I know it'll be a while, but I'll be looking forward to it!
KATI: Maybe they don't meet 85% or less of their ideal body weight. ME: Immediately starts trying to calculate my ideal body weight. KATI: AFTER READING MY MIND: No, stop that! 🤣🤣 Love these videos ♥️
Hi Kati, just wondering if you could do a video about how to stay sane in self-isolation? With many countries that are in lock down right now, things are getting challenging. My state in Australia has just shut down a lot of things I've taken for granted and universities are transitioning to online learning. Self-motivation is a little difficult for me right now... Love what you do, keep it up! Wishing you and everyone out there the best. Stay healthy and safe as much as possible everyone x
Hi Kati, thank you so much for answering our questions!! It’s been really helpful especially the ones pertaining to mental health. I think putting time stamps with the questions in the description would be greatly appreciated by all as well 😎
Thank you for doing all that you do, Kati. I'm having financial difficulty getting the help I need, and your videos are a real help in being surrogate therapy.
Kati I love this format! It is just like your old FAQ videos, but better because they are longer. I absolutely love everything about these videos because I find that it doesn´t matter if I am not struggling with an eating disorder, I still can benefit from listenting to others talk about their issues. Usually, I find that I am thinking the very same thing someone with PTSD does, even if I don´t actually have it. Overall, just know that this is amazing, keep up the good work!
Kati I needed to hear your msg about mental illness and chronic pain. The negative thought cycle is so real. I've been in bed for a year in pain and it's been so difficult. I'm finally back with my therapist thankfully. She gave me a book, "The Pain Management Workbook" by Rachel Zoffness. It seems to be helping.
I love this varied format Kati. I'm quite new to your channel but I know I can just type in the search bar if I want relevant info on any specific subject and have watched heaps of them. You have a natural manner and instinct for public media and I think you should follow your gut instincts really. Our most reliable source of wisdom most of the time! Congratulations on the wonderful job you do, and also Sean is really good at his too with the filming and editing etc. Well done guys 🥰🙌🏼
I love listening to you answering questions, it reminds me of good old days and your videos (facebook friday, twitter thursday). I love psychology so much and it is always nice to hear some valuable things from you. Thank you so much Kati!!
In response to your question. I liked today's format. You can always tag the subject topics covered so people can choose to watch it for a particular topic. However, I still like to hear about all of it as it just adds to my overall MH knowledge which is good to help me understand my condition in the context of others and similar conditions. Thanks I am enjoying this format.
Hey Kati! I struggle with maladaptive daydreaming. It’s not currently a recognised diagnosis in the UK by the NHS, and I’m on a waiting list for therapy for other reasons. Any self-help advice for maladaptive daydreaming (it’s especially triggered by music)?
Thank you for another very helpful and interesting video/podcast. I have one addition to question no 3 that is helping me. I've been in therapy for almost a decade and overall it seems to mostly ger worse than better. I mean I am doing a lot of progress in lots of areas but it seems like there is always more things coming up and piling up on each other. That often leaves me quite hopeless and I can't believe that I will ever really be healed. Last year I got introduced to ACT - Acceptance and Committment Therapy - and I learned to look at my illnesses differently. Maybe it can go away one day - but for now I am working on accepting my illnesses and learning how to live and possibly enjoy my life even with it. Great words, great concept and a great deal of work in progress.
I enjoy this series so much :) thank you for taking the time to make these episodes (!) (also I think I like the idea of varied topics more, it keeps it interesting bc you can learn about different topics at once and there's usually something for everybody. AND i love that you don't just rush through dozens of question and instead answer in depth)
I like it random questions. I like learning about new stuff and it not "heavy" what i mean by that is. You have different questions that balance it out. It being on one topic for too long, it becomes triggering. Love your videos.
My degree thesis was on secondary traumatic stress and burnout in sign language interpreters ....trauma can effect everyone, even from media its soo interesting and sad actually...so cool your writing a book about it xo
Of course!! Therapy can go slowly or more quickly depending on how comfortable you are and how hard you are able to work :) And any self help workbook can assist therapy, just ask your therapist for some ideas :) xoxo
17:00 Lol, absolutely. The phenomenons you are discribing are _replacing vs. gliding_ (non-native speaker, I guess there exist more fancy words for this). When a boat cruises, it has to push the water in front to the side, hence replace it. There is a theoretical limit how fast you can go with this (mostly depending on the length of the hull). It's pretty comparable to the sonic barrier. When you hit that limit you can't go faster. BUT if the boat has a *very* good power/weight ratio (and a suitable formed hull), the excess power lifts the boat out of the water and makes it glide like a flipping rock. The work of the motor goes not into replacing water, but into lifting the boat. That's why you won't see cruise ships doing this. :)
I used to feel not ill enough for anorexia but I was wrong. Now, I’m well I know how disordered my thoughts were. Also haven’t heard you say BMI is bullshit in a while 😂 x
1) I absolutely adore this more casual style, but it would be cool if you could title or reference in the thumbnail the topics you hit in the podcast because I sometimes refer back to your old videos for specific content! 2) Kati, I'm curious about why you chose to specialize in eating disorders. Did you intend to pursue that specialty before working in an ed treatment center, or did you just happen into it? 3) Does treating ed patients (or anyone for that matter) ever trigger or wear on you mentally? How do you keep yourself separated from the job?
I am a chemist and as a scientist, or human, in general, I feel like it is my purpose is to seek to understand things. Frequently between sessions with my therapist, out of curiosity, I will read psychology related articles. Most of the time, they are related to what I’m going through, sometimes they aren’t. I try to stick to sites like psychology today in hopes that I’m getting real science based articles and not pseudoscience garbage, because psychology is not the science I study, I have no idea. My question is, as a therapist does it or would it bother you to have a client bring these articles up in session? Also is psychology today a good source for this or are there better sources?
Obviously, that would be a great question for your therapist! Maybe she can recommend some literature tailored to your issues, so you don't have to sort out scientific papers yourself. I would prefer books with personal experience over scientific articles, however. Science is great at making theories and validating them, but scientific understanding could bring you away from your issues. Science is more of a brain thing, and most science papers try to find out whether treatment x works or not on humans in general. Human experience, however, is very subjective - and there is no single perfect measure. You need to figure out what helps you, and not rely on science to tell you what works. I would recommend an experience-based approach: I'd you read something science-related like " childhood trauma victims struggle to express emotions and feeling safe in relationships", maybe you feel a sudden urge to cry or are overwhelmed or just feel your chest tightening, and you are like "Wow, this triggers something in me". Then, you can tell your therapist about this and (s)he will ask you things "Do you feel like this is true for you? Why? Lets go through a typical meeting with friends. You told me last you were really crushed when that date didn't work out. How would you tell your friends about it?" Most of the time, you don't need a scientific understanding of psychology to get well. It is more important to get an understanding about yourself, what triggers you, what kicks you into a downward spiral of thoughts. The scientific thinking can help to a certain degree, e. g. observing and identifying negative recurring thoughts and finding the root of it.
For your question- I like the varied questions format! It's interesting to see what's on other people's minds. If people want more specific answers, you already have so much content on your page with whole videos on stuff like Anxiety and depression.
The varied format is great, it makes it organic and exciting - your usual videos kind of cover themed topics really well already. Really love the new comeback of the old faq style
Hi Kati! I’m a childhood sexual abuse survivor and have done a lot of trauma work over the years, but I still have work to do. I am also a retired nurse, having retired 2 years ago. I worked in the hospital setting my entire career. I’m so concerned over my fellow nurses who have been in the trenches throughout Covid 19, and still continue to battle it every day. What’s going to happen when this is over, or at least under control? There’s going to be a massive number of nurses and healthcare workers who are going to be suffering PTSD, in fact there already is. It’s not being talked about at all, and I feel like there ought to be a plan in place for when that happens. Suicidality is a huge concern, and I know of 3 former colleagues who have died by suicide in the last few months. I don’t see that getting better unless we become proactive and have a plan in place. I don’t know where the responsibility lies, whether federal government or local government, but I have a feeling no matter which, it’s going to be a battle, just like it is for veterans. It saddens me and worries me. Can you speak to this? Someone needs to address it.
Kati’s visual imagery (about physical pain) literally described me all of last week and still continuing this week. Still have no idea what’s caused it and doctors are all telling me different things. I don’t think and I really hope it’s not a chronic illness, but it just feels exactly like how you described. I like both ideas. I like these videos with different questions and different topics, but I also like the sound of videos tailored to one topic. Maybe do a variety of both? Get the best of both worlds?
Imo, in these podcasts you speak "as is" and when you make a video you may prepare text because it's an information that is straight to the point. And this is the line of formats to me. I would prefer if it would be kept that way, because it's cool. If you will make podcasts on specific topics I generally worry to keep it as is, natural, right now speaks. But the other concern is that there are lots of viewers who can wait in the line for other topics, so... It's comments related and expiremental wise. It's important to not stay in one state for too long. Currently, I like new show format, I can just sit and listen interesting things. Thanks for another episode of podcast.
I'm really liking this format Kati! hmmm, my notification "bell" didn't ring....hitting the nail on the head with the "ill enough+worrying"...(I am commenting as I watch...cuz if I wait until the end, I forget what I want to say!) Question 3, I really like this one....SO LOVE the BOAT analogy...I had my own boat in my 20's+30"s...so I GET IT!! so cool...I'm EXCITED ABOUT YOUR BOOK , WOW, you go girl......#7...YES. Nightime IS the worst. Even if you are not struggling with an eating disorder. AHHHH, thought stopping...Thank you for that one..memories...detailed. SO good. #9. Hitting close to home..ouch. Do I think you should group your questions??? Uhhhmmm, Just my own preference, no. I like that it is multi-faceted....If it were on one particular subject, and it didn't pertain, or interest me, I might not want to listen to that particular podcast. Example..ED's...Thankfuly I don't suffer with one of these, and Im not particularly interested in content that is ED related....make sense?
I definitely have anxious symptoms as an adult (no diagnosis or any sort), and struggled with depression when I was a teen. But I don't have any current mental health issues or diagnosis that I am working on. But I am in therapy to help me manage all of the stuff that life brings :) xoxo
I have BPD my former psychiatrist told me I self-sabotage but it wasn't my intention when I move to this town far away from the VA I just wanted a small place to live because I go to the crazy in cities you wouldn't believe it if I told you how far is Harrison treated me
I love the varied videos however if u find that there are a lot of questions on one particular topic/disorder it would be great to have a few focused episodes thrown in there
I have a question- how come some people never recover from mental illnesses they should be able to recover from (eg depression) and suffer for their whole lives? Is this a reflection on our healthcare survices or are some people just unfortunate?
Hi Carlin Kiggell I'm nikki watch kati s video s and I follow her post and I do try to keep up with all things kati she so helpful I decided to send a message to you hope you don't mind but your comment about depression and anxiety so on was a good and important question for kati also your comment was related to me because I have depression and anxiety sometimes it's hard to deal with any helpful advice from you as a stranger I'd be thankful for also,wanted to just say hi if you read my comment that's good if not that's ok too
Hello to anyone who's late watching kati s new video ask kati anything in my option I watched the first podcast it was good and very helpful advice no matter what you have or you are suffering from kati talks about all different health issues so its helpful to everyone shes great watching the new video now as didn't see it when it was uploaded I seen someone in the comments mention about depression and anxiety that's good advice and helpful information to me as I have depression and anxiety but anyway thank you kati for another important health video podcast 👍🙂
How long do you think someone should stick with 1 medication before trying a different one? Antidepressants specifically. I been on a couple different ones on and off over the years and I have been taking the same one for just over 7 months now. And I do not feel like it makes a difference. I think about a month in to taking it I started to feel a teeny tiny bit better for about 2 weeks and then nothing. My plan was to give it at least 3 months and then mention it to my doctor. But I just keep taking it because I am scared to stop cold turkey. I have made a doctor appointment 2 times now to go in and talk about it. But I do this thing where I sleep through my alarms or I will forget my appointment or if I’m late at all then I’ll just say screw it and not go at all. I get anxiety over it and very worked up about just going in and talking to my doctor about changing medication. But I can’t even seem to be able to make it out of my house and in to the doctors office. I have been having an extremely hard time doing ANYTHING. Getting up and out of bed, Putting proper clothes on, cooking food, and sometimes it even takes me a couple days to find the energy to take a shower. And this has been going on since January, before the whole Corona pandemic so it is unrelated to that. Please if you have any ideas that can help that would be lovely.
Hey kati! I love this podcast so much. I'm 19 and in my first year of college. I definitely know I want to get into the mental health field, but with so many degree options within the field I can't seem to pick a path. Could you offer any advice?
Hi Kati - I was just watching again and I wanted to offer you an idea for your new book/research... I honestly think this mass panic buying and food hoarding/fear of scarcity happening just now and possibly ongoing will have a huge impact on this and younger generations... whether it triggers BED or other EDs or just behaviours like your grandma I think it’s going to be something people research in the future too looking back.... you should get your name in early 😉☺️
I have used a book called "The Bipolar Workbook" plain sounding I know, but I use it with my patients to help them understand and manage their bipolar symptoms. Also, many of my past patients have said "An Unquiet Mind" was helpful too :) If you want to mail it you can send it to my po box (1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403) or you can just tag me in it online :) xoxo
Hey Kati. I am big fan of yours since 2018. Unfortunately I cannot be a sponsor, due to financial difficulties. However, I really want to join and ask a question. May someone tell me how? I am going to put my question here: how to get motivation to continue living, when you think things will never get better.
Kati, one thing i always see is when people are ill they isolate get scared to go out but im the opposite i always have to be doing something always make sure i dont have time to sit and overthink things its like im scared to be on my own with my own company which at the moment i dont have much choice but it makes me worse, anyway do you have any tips to help? If i havent confused you too much with my rambling
Hi katie. Awesome podcast. I’m so happy you’re doing them now. I was thinking about your way of describing transmission of trauma and I wonder if you could use the terms horizontal transmission or vertical transmission kind of like when They talk about how viruses spread? Not sure though. I just study coral reefs and am not a psychologist. Haha.
Hi Kati, in your next podcast episode of Ask Kati Anything, I have a question that I would love to be answered. I recently relapsed with self injury and switched the method that I used. I used to cut and then I was clean for about a year and then a week or so ago I relapsed and burned myself. why did I change the method that I used? and can you please talk more about self injury in this podcast?
Hey! So I was wondering if you could weigh in on the Trisha Paytas controversy. If you haven’t already heard she has self diagnosed herself with DID and everyone is saying she is pretending for attention she’s posted now two videos with “proof” that she does have these other (personalities). In the video she shows her “switches” and in my opinion it definitely looks fake but I’d like your opinion. My question is what’s your thoughts? Do you also believe she is faking it?
Katie I don't have a computer I don't know how to use a computer I don't know how to join the podcast other than this stupid phone but we appreciate you I'm depressed today I've got some things to do I will save this and listen to it later
Hey Kati, what would you do if one of your patients had difficulty accepting their age and unconsciously believed they were a different age than the one they are? I hope it makes sense, I'm sorry if I made mistakes I'm Italian :)
#AKA How do I deal (or get over) the fear of my psychologist 'abandoning' me? It's really holding me back from fully opening up to them (even though I really like them)
Kati can transference work in reverse allowing you to forgive someone who hurt you in the past(you force yourself to have a new friendship with someone that looks similar to someone you hate and change negative associations)?
have you ever made a mistake or gotten lost/off track or confused in life? have you ever had the existential crisis (contemplated the reality of death and the purpose of life)? Are you christian? In college were you unable to have a social life cause of the amount of study? (Cause I know you went to school for a very long time and I'm curious what the shitty jobs and lack of social life must have been like in your twenties and how you managed to pull that off). What attracted you to Shawn?
QUESTION - Do people who have had a mental disorder/illness in the past and/or currently have one be more likely to get those disorders back after already going through it?
Hi Kati ! When are you gonna upload the new podcast on Podbean ? On sunday i'm alone at work and I would love to listen to your podcast, the first one was awesome !
I have moved a lot and am on my 4th therapist in 2 years, I usually only go once a month, so I feel like I just am getting to the point when I start to feel better and make progress, then I am forced to switch again, does this make it harder for me to get better?
Hello Kati, I realize this video is from couple month ago but I do have a question. Have you even looked into the link food sensitivities/ allergies have on your mental health? I have struggled with this since I was young and I have came a long way.
A song related to the second question answered and would encourage everyone to listen at least once. I don't believe it to be triggering as I know the artist title is a bit woah but it's a beautiful song No Messiah - Skinny Living
First, thank you so much for this and especially speaking about chronic illness. I so appreciate it. I think your topics should be separated, if possible. Seeing as we are in such a turbulent time, I'm wondering if you can do a video about staying sane while in isolation? I know you already did a corona virus video, but I would sure like tips to needing to stay inside. I'm immunocompromised and I'm indefinitely told to stay put. What can I do? Thanks
If you like today's video, don't forget to subscribe and hit the bell icon to set your notifications 🤗 thanks for going on this journey! Xoxo kati
Can I ask a question here for podcast #3?
I feel like I may have autism. I get socially awkward in public crowds. I want to make friends but I have a hard time opening up. I tried to see a therapist but she would talk later and never did. Who can I talk to because my mom doesn't believe I have it. What do I do?
Question (I don't know where to put it). How do you know you have a good psychiatrist? I had depression and I've been taking medicine for almost 5 years. And I only see him every 3 months for like 10 minutes. I feel like he doesn't care about me.
Please keep them varied
I’m probably going to ask more than one but spread it out : I always enjoy watching your videos kati!
How do I deal with a traumatic memory. I used to watch your videos a lot but someone who looked like you hurt me. I know you’re innocent . It’s like your video om transference. I think of my self as strong but it’s too much for me. I’m seeing a psychiatrist. I can’t get into therapy for my issues yet due to some difficulties. But your videos are like a breath of fresh air between long gaps between appointments.
My friends and psychiatrist are surprised I’m so insightful despite my psychosis . Your videos help with this !
I feel like I’m not believed when I tell people what happened or that I’m taking it to seriously being disrespected in the street. But the most evil thing is it is robbing me of my benefiting from your experience which is learning more about mental health issues from your videos!
Perhaps I should forgive her. Maybe force myself to watch your videos so the positive association can return!
*Timestamps:*
1:45 How to deal with atypical anorexia how to deal with feeling not ill enough?
5:48 How do you deal with clients who don't make progress or continually self-sabotage? I'm BPD and so many therapists have gotten frustrated and irritated with me for this and basically made my BPD reactions and outbursts worse by seemingly 'abandoning' me.
13:06 Is it truly possible to fully recover from a mental illness or is it like asthma where it's always there but can be managed? So you always have to be aware of it but there are times where it doesn't flare up and you can live a normal, healthy life? Or can it fully go and someone can come to live life fully without having to worry about depression, anxiety or an ED again?
19:30 How do you maintain your mental health when you are in physical pain?
23:25 Could you do a video about PTSD being passed down generationally? Is the Holocaust the only example of this or is it present in other instances?
27:38 What do you do if a client has a plan to kill themselves in the future? Like not any time too soon but they have a plan for the next month for example?
34:43 Is there ANYTHING practical/tangible that a person can do when having a terrible body image moment or day? I need something more effective than just repeating affirmations... there must be something that can help! It’s the biggest roadblock to my ED recovery, I cannot tolerate my body so I give in to behaviors.
40:13 Can you recommend any tips to help stop painful past memories from suddenly popping into my head at random times of the day & night? I'm fed up & exhausted from reliving all the sad emotions it brings up.
45:29 Medication vs talk therapy for depression?
I love your casual swearing.
Don't worry about how we want the videos Kati, you're doing great!
Ok thanks!
Awe thanks :) xoxo
I definitely prefer this style of video, I loved watching your old style faqs. I support your content whatever you make, but the more relaxed feel is definitely my preference, where you feel like you're having a conversation with someone who just so happens to be a trained professional haha
I love this format! Give me more, give me more, oops... sorry, I was listening to the Pointer Sisters up loud again. Go ahead and jump! OK, I'll be quiet now but I'm not happy about it.
Agreed. Jump Kati jump!!!!
Good morning! Diagnosed with cyclothymia. I take a mood stabilizer, anxiety meds & depression medicine. I had a miscarriage last year and while I was pregnant I felt VERY anxious & suicidal. Is it possible to have a decent pregnancy? Should women who have these problems not have children. Sincerely, an almost mom. Love you Kati. Thank you for all your kindness you share ♥️
I prefer it varied because we don’t have to wait so long for a topic to come up. Also, even if you are not talking about our particular issue, strategies and advice can overlap and still be useful x
36:43 possibly my favourite Katy moment ever 😂😂😂
I think having it varied is great, the questions are in the description so someone can always check there first if they want to (p.s less work for yourself it doesn't need to be complicated) I kinda like just tuning into these and whatever comes up can either help me personally or help me understand a different area of mental health that I may need to pull from one day if someone is in need :)
I enjoy both styles of videos. I love your in depth ones, because they're very factual and informative. This podcast is great because we get your opinion on a bunch of different questions which is awesome 😊♥️
Glad you like them!
Dude generational trauma is SO real. Some of the older members of my extended family survived World War II (not the Holocaust corner of it) remarkably well...and their children are absolute train wrecks. It's like the trauma completely skipped the people it actually happened to and came to life in the next generation. I would love to read your book, especially now that we are engulfed by the COVID pandemic. I know it'll be a while, but I'll be looking forward to it!
KATI: Maybe they don't meet 85% or less of their ideal body weight.
ME: Immediately starts trying to calculate my ideal body weight.
KATI: AFTER READING MY MIND: No, stop that!
🤣🤣 Love these videos ♥️
I like this format, Kati! It’s nice to look forward to a surprise every week, especially as a break from online school thanks to quarantine haha
Yay! So glad you like it :) xoxo
DON’T EVER APOLOGIZE FOR RAMBLING
KEEP RAMBLING FOREVER
Hi Kati, just wondering if you could do a video about how to stay sane in self-isolation? With many countries that are in lock down right now, things are getting challenging. My state in Australia has just shut down a lot of things I've taken for granted and universities are transitioning to online learning. Self-motivation is a little difficult for me right now... Love what you do, keep it up! Wishing you and everyone out there the best. Stay healthy and safe as much as possible everyone x
I forgot to say.. Thank you for both podcasts!! Love them both!!!
You are so welcome!
Hi Kati, thank you so much for answering our questions!! It’s been really helpful especially the ones pertaining to mental health. I think putting time stamps with the questions in the description would be greatly appreciated by all as well 😎
Hi Kati! You are making quarentine easier for me. I'm 70 years young!
I like varied podcasts! Thank you!
Hi Andrea thanks for spending time with me during quarantine... 😁
I like it a lot better varied. I feel way too many people when they do questions do it by topic. I like to hear it all in one per se.
Thanks for the feedback!! xoxo
Agree!
Thank you for doing all that you do, Kati. I'm having financial difficulty getting the help I need, and your videos are a real help in being surrogate therapy.
Kati I love this format! It is just like your old FAQ videos, but better because they are longer. I absolutely love everything about these videos because I find that it doesn´t matter if I am not struggling with an eating disorder, I still can benefit from listenting to others talk about their issues. Usually, I find that I am thinking the very same thing someone with PTSD does, even if I don´t actually have it. Overall, just know that this is amazing, keep up the good work!
Kati I needed to hear your msg about mental illness and chronic pain. The negative thought cycle is so real.
I've been in bed for a year in pain and it's been so difficult. I'm finally back with my therapist thankfully. She gave me a book, "The Pain Management Workbook" by Rachel Zoffness. It seems to be helping.
i liked it varied so much more helpful so people can see why they do certain things they dont even know but bleed into other areas
I love this varied format Kati. I'm quite new to your channel but I know I can just type in the search bar if I want relevant info on any specific subject and have watched heaps of them. You have a natural manner and instinct for public media and I think you should follow your gut instincts really. Our most reliable source of wisdom most of the time! Congratulations on the wonderful job you do, and also Sean is really good at his too with the filming and editing etc. Well done guys 🥰🙌🏼
I love listening to you answering questions, it reminds me of good old days and your videos (facebook friday, twitter thursday). I love psychology so much and it is always nice to hear some valuable things from you. Thank you so much Kati!!
In response to your question. I liked today's format. You can always tag the subject topics covered so people can choose to watch it for a particular topic. However, I still like to hear about all of it as it just adds to my overall MH knowledge which is good to help me understand my condition in the context of others and similar conditions. Thanks I am enjoying this format.
Hey Kati! I struggle with maladaptive daydreaming. It’s not currently a recognised diagnosis in the UK by the NHS, and I’m on a waiting list for therapy for other reasons. Any self-help advice for maladaptive daydreaming (it’s especially triggered by music)?
Thank you for another very helpful and interesting video/podcast.
I have one addition to question no 3 that is helping me. I've been in therapy for almost a decade and overall it seems to mostly ger worse than better. I mean I am doing a lot of progress in lots of areas but it seems like there is always more things coming up and piling up on each other. That often leaves me quite hopeless and I can't believe that I will ever really be healed.
Last year I got introduced to ACT - Acceptance and Committment Therapy - and I learned to look at my illnesses differently. Maybe it can go away one day - but for now I am working on accepting my illnesses and learning how to live and possibly enjoy my life even with it.
Great words, great concept and a great deal of work in progress.
I enjoy this series so much :) thank you for taking the time to make these episodes (!) (also I think I like the idea of varied topics more, it keeps it interesting bc you can learn about different topics at once and there's usually something for everybody. AND i love that you don't just rush through dozens of question and instead answer in depth)
Thanks for this podcast. I like the way it is now, different types of questions
I like them varied. Good job Kati.
YEEESS!! I am so excited to read this book about transgenerational trauma!!!
I like that it is varied.
I like it random questions. I like learning about new stuff and it not "heavy" what i mean by that is. You have different questions that balance it out. It being on one topic for too long, it becomes triggering. Love your videos.
My degree thesis was on secondary traumatic stress and burnout in sign language interpreters ....trauma can effect everyone, even from media its soo interesting and sad actually...so cool your writing a book about it xo
Thanks for all you do...
Is it ok for therapy to go slow?
Can other self help tools be used along with therapy?
Of course!! Therapy can go slowly or more quickly depending on how comfortable you are and how hard you are able to work :) And any self help workbook can assist therapy, just ask your therapist for some ideas :) xoxo
17:00 Lol, absolutely. The phenomenons you are discribing are _replacing vs. gliding_ (non-native speaker, I guess there exist more fancy words for this). When a boat cruises, it has to push the water in front to the side, hence replace it. There is a theoretical limit how fast you can go with this (mostly depending on the length of the hull). It's pretty comparable to the sonic barrier. When you hit that limit you can't go faster. BUT if the boat has a *very* good power/weight ratio (and a suitable formed hull), the excess power lifts the boat out of the water and makes it glide like a flipping rock. The work of the motor goes not into replacing water, but into lifting the boat. That's why you won't see cruise ships doing this. :)
I used to feel not ill enough for anorexia but I was wrong. Now, I’m well I know how disordered my thoughts were. Also haven’t heard you say BMI is bullshit in a while 😂 x
1) I absolutely adore this more casual style, but it would be cool if you could title or reference in the thumbnail the topics you hit in the podcast because I sometimes refer back to your old videos for specific content!
2) Kati, I'm curious about why you chose to specialize in eating disorders. Did you intend to pursue that specialty before working in an ed treatment center, or did you just happen into it?
3) Does treating ed patients (or anyone for that matter) ever trigger or wear on you mentally? How do you keep yourself separated from the job?
I am a chemist and as a scientist, or human, in general, I feel like it is my purpose is to seek to understand things. Frequently between sessions with my therapist, out of curiosity, I will read psychology related articles. Most of the time, they are related to what I’m going through, sometimes they aren’t. I try to stick to sites like psychology today in hopes that I’m getting real science based articles and not pseudoscience garbage, because psychology is not the science I study, I have no idea. My question is, as a therapist does it or would it bother you to have a client bring these articles up in session? Also is psychology today a good source for this or are there better sources?
Obviously, that would be a great question for your therapist! Maybe she can recommend some literature tailored to your issues, so you don't have to sort out scientific papers yourself.
I would prefer books with personal experience over scientific articles, however. Science is great at making theories and validating them, but scientific understanding could bring you away from your issues. Science is more of a brain thing, and most science papers try to find out whether treatment x works or not on humans in general. Human experience, however, is very subjective - and there is no single perfect measure. You need to figure out what helps you, and not rely on science to tell you what works. I would recommend an experience-based approach: I'd you read something science-related like " childhood trauma victims struggle to express emotions and feeling safe in relationships", maybe you feel a sudden urge to cry or are overwhelmed or just feel your chest tightening, and you are like "Wow, this triggers something in me". Then, you can tell your therapist about this and (s)he will ask you things "Do you feel like this is true for you? Why? Lets go through a typical meeting with friends. You told me last you were really crushed when that date didn't work out. How would you tell your friends about it?"
Most of the time, you don't need a scientific understanding of psychology to get well. It is more important to get an understanding about yourself, what triggers you, what kicks you into a downward spiral of thoughts. The scientific thinking can help to a certain degree, e. g. observing and identifying negative recurring thoughts and finding the root of it.
I rewatched inside out like a week ago and I have a newfound appreciation for it now
I really enjoy it being varied!
For your question- I like the varied questions format! It's interesting to see what's on other people's minds. If people want more specific answers, you already have so much content on your page with whole videos on stuff like Anxiety and depression.
The varied format is great, it makes it organic and exciting - your usual videos kind of cover themed topics really well already. Really love the new comeback of the old faq style
I like varied because it helps open my eyes to thing I would not think about.
I like the mix. Helps me think past what I’m dealing with and consider other ideas.
Hi Kati! I’m a childhood sexual abuse survivor and have done a lot of trauma work over the years, but I still have work to do. I am also a retired nurse, having retired 2 years ago. I worked in the hospital setting my entire career. I’m so concerned over my fellow nurses who have been in the trenches throughout Covid 19, and still continue to battle it every day. What’s going to happen when this is over, or at least under control? There’s going to be a massive number of nurses and healthcare workers who are going to be suffering PTSD, in fact there already is. It’s not being talked about at all, and I feel like there ought to be a plan in place for when that happens. Suicidality is a huge concern, and I know of 3 former colleagues who have died by suicide in the last few months. I don’t see that getting better unless we become proactive and have a plan in place. I don’t know where the responsibility lies, whether federal government or local government, but I have a feeling no matter which, it’s going to be a battle, just like it is for veterans. It saddens me and worries me. Can you speak to this? Someone needs to address it.
Well said.. very concerned as well😔
Kati, I definitely like the podcast be varied! You’re doing great, thank you! ❤️
Kati’s visual imagery (about physical pain) literally described me all of last week and still continuing this week. Still have no idea what’s caused it and doctors are all telling me different things. I don’t think and I really hope it’s not a chronic illness, but it just feels exactly like how you described.
I like both ideas. I like these videos with different questions and different topics, but I also like the sound of videos tailored to one topic. Maybe do a variety of both? Get the best of both worlds?
I like that it’s varied
I still Love tetris
Imo, in these podcasts you speak "as is" and when you make a video you may prepare text because it's an information that is straight to the point. And this is the line of formats to me. I would prefer if it would be kept that way, because it's cool. If you will make podcasts on specific topics I generally worry to keep it as is, natural, right now speaks. But the other concern is that there are lots of viewers who can wait in the line for other topics, so... It's comments related and expiremental wise. It's important to not stay in one state for too long. Currently, I like new show format, I can just sit and listen interesting things. Thanks for another episode of podcast.
hi Kati, have you ever treated patients with schizophrenia and if so could you talk about your experience with the condition?
I'm really liking this format Kati! hmmm, my notification "bell" didn't ring....hitting the nail on the head with the "ill enough+worrying"...(I am commenting as I watch...cuz if I wait until the end, I forget what I want to say!) Question 3, I really like this one....SO LOVE the BOAT analogy...I had my own boat in my 20's+30"s...so I GET IT!! so cool...I'm EXCITED ABOUT YOUR BOOK , WOW, you go girl......#7...YES. Nightime IS the worst. Even if you are not struggling with an eating disorder. AHHHH, thought stopping...Thank you for that one..memories...detailed. SO good. #9. Hitting close to home..ouch. Do I think you should group your questions??? Uhhhmmm, Just my own preference, no. I like that it is multi-faceted....If it were on one particular subject, and it didn't pertain, or interest me, I might not want to listen to that particular podcast. Example..ED's...Thankfuly I don't suffer with one of these, and Im not particularly interested in content that is ED related....make sense?
Thank you for answering my question Kati!!! Sooo excited for your book and video! :)
I was super seriously focused, listening to it and then the '' well i'm sure if you have a huge boat you just fucking fly'' I lost it omg ahahahahah
Can you do a video on ptsd and how to deal with you action after destroying your family. I had a tbi in my frontal lobe
have you ever personally struggled with your mental health ( depression, anxiety, eating disorders etc.)
I definitely have anxious symptoms as an adult (no diagnosis or any sort), and struggled with depression when I was a teen. But I don't have any current mental health issues or diagnosis that I am working on. But I am in therapy to help me manage all of the stuff that life brings :) xoxo
I have BPD my former psychiatrist told me I self-sabotage but it wasn't my intention when I move to this town far away from the VA I just wanted a small place to live because I go to the crazy in cities you wouldn't believe it if I told you how far is Harrison treated me
I’m a simple girl. Someone calls BMI bullshit, I hit the subscribe button
I love the varied videos however if u find that there are a lot of questions on one particular topic/disorder it would be great to have a few focused episodes thrown in there
I have a question- how come some people never recover from mental illnesses they should be able to recover from (eg depression) and suffer for their whole lives? Is this a reflection on our healthcare survices or are some people just unfortunate?
Hi Carlin Kiggell
I'm nikki watch kati s video s and I follow her post and I do try to keep up with all things kati she so helpful I decided to send a message to you hope you don't mind but your comment about depression and anxiety so on was a good and important question for kati also your comment was related to me because I have depression and anxiety sometimes it's hard to deal with any helpful advice from you as a stranger I'd be thankful for also,wanted to just say hi if you read my comment that's good if not that's ok too
“The night time is the right time”. Quote from Adam Sandler’s “Joining a Cult” bit.
I LOVE INSIDE OUT TOO!!!! Can you do a video on it?
I absolutely love this, thank you for doing this 💕
Hello to anyone who's late watching kati s new video ask kati anything in my option I watched the first podcast it was good and very helpful advice no matter what you have or you are suffering from kati talks about all different health issues so its helpful to everyone shes great watching the new video now as didn't see it when it was uploaded I seen someone in the comments mention about depression and anxiety that's good advice and helpful information to me as I have depression and anxiety but anyway thank you kati for another important health video podcast 👍🙂
How long do you think someone should stick with 1 medication before trying a different one? Antidepressants specifically. I been on a couple different ones on and off over the years and I have been taking the same one for just over 7 months now. And I do not feel like it makes a difference. I think about a month in to taking it I started to feel a teeny tiny bit better for about 2 weeks and then nothing. My plan was to give it at least 3 months and then mention it to my doctor. But I just keep taking it because I am scared to stop cold turkey. I have made a doctor appointment 2 times now to go in and talk about it. But I do this thing where I sleep through my alarms or I will forget my appointment or if I’m late at all then I’ll just say screw it and not go at all. I get anxiety over it and very worked up about just going in and talking to my doctor about changing medication. But I can’t even seem to be able to make it out of my house and in to the doctors office. I have been having an extremely hard time doing ANYTHING. Getting up and out of bed, Putting proper clothes on, cooking food, and sometimes it even takes me a couple days to find the energy to take a shower. And this has been going on since January, before the whole Corona pandemic so it is unrelated to that. Please if you have any ideas that can help that would be lovely.
Hey kati! I love this podcast so much. I'm 19 and in my first year of college. I definitely know I want to get into the mental health field, but with so many degree options within the field I can't seem to pick a path. Could you offer any advice?
I like variety!
Hi Kati - I was just watching again and I wanted to offer you an idea for your new book/research... I honestly think this mass panic buying and food hoarding/fear of scarcity happening just now and possibly ongoing will have a huge impact on this and younger generations... whether it triggers BED or other EDs or just behaviours like your grandma I think it’s going to be something people research in the future too looking back.... you should get your name in early 😉☺️
Hey I’m so behind on these but love them
I love this!!! Also your voice on the podcast is easier for my to hear on here than your videos (I am hard of hearing with Ménière’s) so I love it!!!
I like the multiple questions format! :)
Kati, are there resources (books, websites) that can help a person recover after a manic episode? Also, where can one one send fan art to you?
I have used a book called "The Bipolar Workbook" plain sounding I know, but I use it with my patients to help them understand and manage their bipolar symptoms. Also, many of my past patients have said "An Unquiet Mind" was helpful too :) If you want to mail it you can send it to my po box (1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403) or you can just tag me in it online :) xoxo
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Hey Kati. I am big fan of yours since 2018. Unfortunately I cannot be a sponsor, due to financial difficulties. However, I really want to join and ask a question. May someone tell me how? I am going to put my question here: how to get motivation to continue living, when you think things will never get better.
Kati, one thing i always see is when people are ill they isolate get scared to go out but im the opposite i always have to be doing something always make sure i dont have time to sit and overthink things its like im scared to be on my own with my own company which at the moment i dont have much choice but it makes me worse, anyway do you have any tips to help? If i havent confused you too much with my rambling
Hi katie. Awesome podcast. I’m so happy you’re doing them now. I was thinking about your way of describing transmission of trauma and I wonder if you could use the terms horizontal transmission or vertical transmission kind of like when They talk about how viruses spread? Not sure though. I just study coral reefs and am not a psychologist. Haha.
How do we ask a question?
I would like it to be specific to one topic or maybe a couple
Hi Kati, in your next podcast episode of Ask Kati Anything, I have a question that I would love to be answered. I recently relapsed with self injury and switched the method that I used. I used to cut and then I was clean for about a year and then a week or so ago I relapsed and burned myself. why did I change the method that I used? and can you please talk more about self injury in this podcast?
Hey! So I was wondering if you could weigh in on the Trisha Paytas controversy. If you haven’t already heard she has self diagnosed herself with DID and everyone is saying she is pretending for attention she’s posted now two videos with “proof” that she does have these other (personalities). In the video she shows her “switches” and in my opinion it definitely looks fake but I’d like your opinion. My question is what’s your thoughts? Do you also believe she is faking it?
Katie I don't have a computer I don't know how to use a computer I don't know how to join the podcast other than this stupid phone but we appreciate you I'm depressed today I've got some things to do I will save this and listen to it later
i am amazed how much your theme song made me smile, thank you! (Is that you? Awesome)
Awesome! No that song is a rough idea I had and my friend Jules polished it up, put it to music and sang it. She's great!
where can i ask a question? BTW great idea making a podcast , its helpful and nice , keep going! ♥
Hey Kati, what would you do if one of your patients had difficulty accepting their age and unconsciously believed they were a different age than the one they are?
I hope it makes sense, I'm sorry if I made mistakes I'm Italian :)
#AKA How do I deal (or get over) the fear of my psychologist 'abandoning' me? It's really holding me back from fully opening up to them (even though I really like them)
Kati can transference work in reverse allowing you to forgive someone who hurt you in the past(you force yourself to have a new friendship with someone that looks similar to someone you hate and change negative associations)?
have you ever made a mistake or gotten lost/off track or confused in life? have you ever had the existential crisis (contemplated the reality of death and the purpose of life)? Are you christian? In college were you unable to have a social life cause of the amount of study? (Cause I know you went to school for a very long time and I'm curious what the shitty jobs and lack of social life must have been like in your twenties and how you managed to pull that off). What attracted you to Shawn?
QUESTION - Do people who have had a mental disorder/illness in the past and/or currently have one be more likely to get those disorders back after already going through it?
Hi Kati ! When are you gonna upload the new podcast on Podbean ? On sunday i'm alone at work and I would love to listen to your podcast, the first one was awesome !
I have moved a lot and am on my 4th therapist in 2 years, I usually only go once a month, so I feel like I just am getting to the point when I start to feel better and make progress, then I am forced to switch again, does this make it harder for me to get better?
Hello Kati, I realize this video is from couple month ago but I do have a question. Have you even looked into the link food sensitivities/ allergies have on your mental health? I have struggled with this since I was young and I have came a long way.
A song related to the second question answered and would encourage everyone to listen at least once. I don't believe it to be triggering as I know the artist title is a bit woah but it's a beautiful song
No Messiah - Skinny Living
What would you do if a patient is unwilling to fill out a safety plan or gives false information?
Can you talk about Kleptomania?
Omg yes Tetris - I used to even dream in Tetris
First, thank you so much for this and especially speaking about chronic illness. I so appreciate it. I think your topics should be separated, if possible. Seeing as we are in such a turbulent time, I'm wondering if you can do a video about staying sane while in isolation? I know you already did a corona virus video, but I would sure like tips to needing to stay inside. I'm immunocompromised and I'm indefinitely told to stay put. What can I do? Thanks