We're filming these as well as making them available anywhere you listen to podcasts (you'll be able to find it in the days to come). To watch: ua-cam.com/users/OpinionsThatDontMatter Hit Subscribe & Click the Bell for notifications! New episodes of AKA will be released every Thursday and if you want something on the lighter side, Sean and I have a podcast called "Opinions That Don't Matter!" that comes out on Saturdays (same channel)
YASSSS! Another awesome podcast for me to watch/listen to. I usually use podcasts for times Im driving or walking, but I must say I do like having the choice to watch them. If I have the time to, it’s even better to watch and listen at the same time. I loved what you talked about regarding you and your brother being shaped differently by childhood experiences. My brothers are 11 and 9 years older, and sometimes I’ve felt guilt that they didn’t get influenced in the negative way I have been by certain things. Realistically, they had a very different experience. Awesome as always Kati xx
"We're starting off light... with suicide." Kati, I am laughing so hard that I am in tears. Thank you for being amazing. Always proud to be your patron.
Numbness, for me, is like being an observer with the ability to interact but without the will to do so in a way that is more than passive. Passive interactions won't necessarily be the most beneficial, but the emotional numbness prohibits our ability to invest in seeing through a positive outcome. It's a feeling of "letting the chips fall where the may." Then a self-resentment for not having proactively engaged more in getting your own self interests met.
Everything about why you love being a therapist, could have been myself talking about what I have loved about being a teacher...especially watching "my kids" grow up and marry, have their own kids, etc (even though it makes me feel super OLD sometimes, despite being only 43, LOL)!♡>"
I've been seeing my therapist for a year and she is hands down the best therapist I have ever seen or will ever see, truly life-changing. But we have never had a treatment plan, nor do I think that would have even been of any benefit to me. A treatment plan, whilst useful for severe conditions, for most patients suggests that there is an "end" to therapy which never happens. Self-development and emotional mastery is an eternal skill, and it can't be "reached" in a way a plan would dictate
Ruben yeah i don't have a treatment plan either. i think that's partially because right now i'm dealing with bullshit in my life constantly so usually i'm just working through that in session rather than like, deeper issues. but yeah, i mean, i think many people will need to be in therapy their whole lives because some people just need that professional support and someone unbiased to talk to. idk if i will need therapy forever when i'm in a better place in my life but for now it's a need for sure and i've been in therapy for years.
Idk. I was so relieved when she said that. It makes me uncomfortable that there are therapists out there who consider it to be a lifelong process. Self development and emotional mastery are of course lifelong processes. But it seems like that’s what we’re here for. And the whole point is to learn, eventually, to do those things on our own-of course being open to all the help life offers us, but not necessarily paying someone money to sit down and do my work with me in a formal setting. But maybe I’d have a different perspective if money was taken out of the equation. Hard to sort out if I really believe one of life’s blessings is to learn to be in charge of our own growth or if subconsciously I’m just justifying the fact that money makes it impossible for most people to have a personal guide every week/on a regular basis for their whole lives. Bottom line, I guess there are clients and therapists who come from both perspectives. It’s awesome to know one can find one that sees herself as temporary.
Enjoying watching it. I think It'd be nice to have timestamps for each question! 1:57 Have you ever lost a client to suicide? If so how did that make you feel? 3:40 When can therapy be more harmful than beneficial? 8:16 Do you ever get frustrated with clients not making progress? How do you address that issue? 14:56 I'm not sure if this has been asked before, but what is the process for clients if a therapist dies? I feel like it would be very traumatic and a setback. 19:12 How to access and fix unconscious negative beliefs that have formed in early childhood and strengthened during growing up? 31:00 How can you open up and talk about your feelings if all you feel is numbness? For me, I don't know how to describe my emotions... What do you think this means? Thank you! 37:20 What made you want to become a therapist? 49:04 How do you improve the feeling that you’re stuck in your routine, and the day to day just isn’t as interesting or fulfilling anymore? 56:15 How do you know what should be dealt with through therapy and what should be dealt with chemically?
Can we restore our brains to have self confidence and believe in ourselves? As a child I was fun and outgoing. As an adult I feel numb, stuck and lack confidence.
i love this kati. it's a more "chill" style of sharing your wisdom, like a friendly chat. i think this is my favourite thing of yours to date. thankyou so much for being you, and doing everything you do. you have a beautiful soul, and just for the record you ARE so worthy, and you are so enough. shoosh those silly beliefs that try to convince you otherwise, because they definately aren't true. you are appreciated more than you'd ever know in this world. sending lots of light and love your way.
My husband and I (married 36 years/ high school sweethearts) are new to therapy and finding it's very helpful. He sees his locally, mine the online sessions "betterhelp" . But we watch your videos, podcasts together and we both greatly appreciate your help, clear teachings and find we're learning a lot. Thank you for doing what you do and so well - so honest! Btw totally getting the journal & love the title! 😁💗
I love the style of your channel. Ive been watching you for years. I was in my 20’s when I started watching you. Now in my 30’s and also finally in therapy myself. I absolutely love how vulnerable you are and hearing your own journey with a therapist. Your college experience. I love that. You’re still strong and I also love how you are connecting with us letting us know. That you yourself as a professional deal with stages and issues with life like the rest of us.
I've had so many really bad therapists and I'm so beyond grateful that I found my current therapist. Past therapists ignored various signs I dissociated and let me stay dissociated for sessions at a time and pushed way to far/hard, a few wanted to do EMDR but only had sessions once in a while. My current therapist realizes how my brain works, my current situation with my chronic illnesses and genetic diseases and so much past trauma, including past traumatic therapy and doctor experiences. Past therapists have attributed to so much of my trauma, trust issues and so on that I'm glad that my current one understands why I do what I do and why my brain and behaviors are what they are and are willing to meet me half way and vice versa. Plus they don't get mad at me for struggling and having a near panic attack in session since most of my past therapists got mad at me for getting upset, panicking and a few even fired me for doing those things. Thank you for the videos!
This is awesome! Thank you for branching out in this way. I love the way you let us see how this is new for you, it comes off as more real than the first podcast being so polished and "perfect." I appreciate your channel, and all the hard work you've put into this. 💜
All the work you out into this is amazing, they fact that you type out all the questions and type stamps really shows dedication. Also your voice is so relaxing and your really pretty by the way. Stay safe🥰
I definitely do the backing off and feeling like i am taking up space. I realized that the more I do that the more other people notice it and confirm it. If I keep backing up people expect me to go out of my way to do things and make way for them and it becomes a terrible cycle.
I was in therapy for a very loong time and it did help but I was still very unstable and the skills I was learning couldn't be effective because my nervous system was stuck in constant "fight or flight" mode. Once I started on meds my therapy has been much more effective now and both together work wonderfully.
I love u Kati thanks so much for changing my life and the lives of my friends (I seem to only be friends with other mental people lol!) for the better!!
This reminds me of the KatiFAQ videos back in the day. I love your off the cuff responses, it really feels like you're genuine and communicating your real self and your real thoughts about things rather than scripted. I have a question: people always say you need longer in therapy if you've been through complex trauma. But how long is "longer"? Ideally, with a CPTSD diagnosis, how long would you expect it to take for someone to work through their trauma and then no longer need therapy?
Congratulations on your podcast. Your channel has provided me with a wealth of useful information and I look forward to watching all your coming podcast episodes. Good luck. Moh'd from Germany:) 🇩🇪
I could not agree more on the meds and therapy point. I’ve been in therapy for a while and I hit crisis just after New Year and I was too ill to engage in therapy. My primary diagnosis is BPD. Now I’m on an anti psychotic as well as an anti depressant and it’s got me back to a place where I can actually engage with therapy again :) Thank you for your videos Kati, you’re amazing.
My question is....in terms of support, understanding, being patient and accepting, not being angry at the person... what can someone expect from a friend vs. from a therapist? I am struggling as a friend to set up good boundries. Thanks Kati for the good work!
Great Kati!! Keep up the great work! Thank you for sharing all these useful information with us! So my question is how should we break dysfunctional patterns with men that we are attracting or that are attracted to us! I wish you all the best!!
I love this format for your talents and look forward to more. Kati, you are a beacon of light and your words and compassion and expertise have meant so much to me these last few years.
So many levels of amazing!! thank you, thank you for taking the time to make this 🙏 both you and Sean. P.s no need to apologise for it "maybe being boring" this is what we're here for 💜
Fascinating stuff Kati! I, myself am a solid routine guy. I'm lost and even upset if there is any change to my beloved routine. However, part of my routine is to listen to mind stimulating broadcasts while I go about my daily chores. And it's podcasts like this that bring so much joy to my life as I love to learn. Thanks for all you are doing. You ARE making a huge difference in my life!
I had this exact conversation with my therapist, about taking responsibility for other people's actions! It really stuck with me and has helped me let go of a lot of obsessing thinking. I love your take on being okay with taking up space, too. That is something I am starting to learn and feel much better for knowing :)
Oh my god I’m so excited about this! I’m about to start grad school in the fall for Clinical Mental Health Counseling and I love hearing about people’s journeys into the field. Can’t wait for more episodes! ❤️
Hi Kati! love the podcasts! I would love it if you could talk about Mental Health and the EMS or First Responder community? How does someone in EMS who sees trauma repeatedly take control of their mental health? What is a "normal" response to seeing trauma on a frequent basis? What is considered a "bad" response?
Kati, I'm currently about a year from completing my bs in developmental psychology and looking at whether I should pursue a PsyD or masters program. What exactly is the difference in what you can do as a licensed therapist vs psychologist in regards to counseling? EDIT: Just finished ch4 of your book and there it was all laid out 😅 Thanks for answering my question. P. S. Love your new podcast, they truly brighten my day
Katie, my first real therapist--Ben--who I saw from November 1983 until spring 1985 died from cancer. I was the last patient he ever saw. His son, also a PhD, took over the practice and I started seeing him. Craig was my therapist from 1985 to 2010.
i agree on you will know when enough is enough at your therapy place. for example I was doing group therapy and I felt like I was giving people help more than getting therapy for my problems anymore. I out grew the group. I was ready to move on and do my own thing. Another words Im not perfect but I figured out I was moving on and I got a job and now have different issues that probably would benefit from 1on 1 or a good counselor to talk to periodically. I get really scared at friends thought that do better and stop their meds. Its so scary. Ive seen the spiral so many times and hate it.
How do you know if a repressed memory is real or not. I have this memory that keeps coming back to me and every time it does it bugs me even more that last time. And this person the memory is about is an alcoholic does that mean that this person did what I think he did.
Please talk to a therapist, but also I'd encourage you to write things down. Journal! I've had a lot of memories that started resurfacing after I started diving into myself through journaling, and this in turn helped me piece together the story that led me to this point. Even if it's "all in your head", you're thinking about it for _some_ reason. You contain a whole inner universe, it's pretty normal that things get all over the place, both the stars and the black holes. All great adventurers kept travel journals.
Your memory is reconstructive, as in it kind of fills in the gaps and sometimes even makes us remember the wrong things. Although whether or not a memory is real, if its there and its traumatizing, it has to be addressed. Talk to your therapist about the memory, if nothing else it might be a piece of your puzzle. Good luck
Suggestion read the book trauma sexuality. I did not progress in therapy and quit after increasing depression. I had a horrible lonely time and tried to keep on moving, but stayed stuck. After 3 more years memories of early childhood abuse came back into my conciousness. It explains sooooo much! Wished a therapist could have seen it earlier.
28:50 I can soooo relate to this, happens to me in every situation! I'm even afraid to cross the road where there are no lights because I feel like I'm an annoyance to the cars that have to stop for me 🤦♀️ wtf
Great podcast! I love your answers. If I had any nit at all, it would be saying "f**k." Not because of the offense to prude sensibilities so much as the undermining of your professionalism. Without the gratuitous use of that expletive, your podcast is perfect.
Hey Kati Have you ever had a client who is suffering from low self esteem because they are suffering from depression since they were a preteen who has a family history anxiety? What coping skills would have your clients do?
Hey Kati🌸 I love your videos they’ve been so helpful to me. My question is: my psychologist has asked me before, “what is your favorite thing about yourself?” Or “what is something you’re really good at, that you like?” I always have trouble with that. Why do you think that is?
I was waiting all day yesterday for the podcast like “why hasn’t it dropped yet?” turns out I don’t know the days of the week, it was only Wednesday 😂 Great first episode, Kati! Can’t wait for the next one
Thanks that's awesome I didn't know shrinks can't say hi in public unless you initiate it. That's actually a relief to know. Thanks for the info. Awesome channel
The thing about medication that some people don't realise is that it really isn't a simple happy pill or a cure. More than that, often times your first antidepressant won't work for you and sometimes you have to go through a long and tiring process of trying different meds at different doses until you find the right one or the one that is least terrible. It takes about 4 weeks to start seeing an effect but 6-8 is when they should be working at their optimal point so it can really take a long time to find a med that works. Not to mention all the side effects that come with it as well as the fact that it costs money - not as much as therapy but it adds up.
Love these types of videos. I haven’t watched in a while but kinda been dipping my toe in again and was quite shocked when Kati cussed! Not that she’s not allowed to swear just surprised, well that happened moving on 😂. Love you kati find your videos so helpful!
I impressed by the amount of time you dedicate to the channel and to all of us! Thank you :-) about the boredness, it would be nice if you make a video on how to continue your life despite this world-wide virus crisis that has got and will get people to cut off social contacts and hobbys. 🌈
Hey Kati, I have a question. It might be a little triggering, so I don’t know if you’ll answer it. But, I know I’m not alone in this struggle, and I need a way forward and out. How do you recover from bad therapy or bad treatment? How do you make yourself brave enough and vulnerable enough to ask for help a second time? I went inpatient a couple years ago, and have literally had flashbacks of being there every day since then. Inpatient settings can be hell for domestic violence survivors and those with other forms of abuse. Being locked in, losing all autonomy, cold/indifferent staff, strict rules, feeling voiceless/unheard, etc. my PTSD was completely ignored while there, and it did massive amounts of harm. Asking for help feels synonymous with asking for abuse. How do I get support that actually feels like support? How do I find treatment that removes the coercion and power plays? How do I make it so that anything pro-recovery doesn’t remind me of my previous treatment experience and reduce me to a rubble of tears? Help!!!!
Answering question 2, therapy was unhelpful for me when I went to a session because I knew my mam was worried about me and I felt bad. I went once, lied, didn't get the right help and I left feeling so invalidated, alone and upset. A part of me wanted the therapist to see through the lies and force out the truth I'd been hiding for so long. I wasn't willing to open up and it made me feel as though I was so broken that even a professional couldn't help. I had a very negative attitude towards therapists for a long time afterwards but thankfully that has changed. So yeah, long story short, I feel therapy can be unhelpful when the patient isn't ready to change, open up, or participate.
Your channel is such a great resource for me! I have private therapy but watching your videos (and now listening to your podcasts) really helps me articulate my thoughts with concepts in my sessions!
Hey Kati, I wasn't sure where to ask this question for it to be answered on this podcast for next week but I was wondering how to balance self care versus getting shit done. When do I know when to do things to make me happy and when to just suck it up and do what I have to do even though I will be unhappy. Im afraid I blame my depression on not going to work, hanging with friends, and not studying for tests, but I am afraid I'm just lazy and I need to man up and do these things bc no one wants to go to work or study for their tests, but thats how life is. Help!
Kati your a Godsend bringing genuine compassion to the community, I’m sorry to hear about the patient you lost from an eating disorder, I came too close to that from anorexia nervous
Just wanted to say I loved this!! I listened to it during my morning walk and breakfast and a part of the time I was working. It’s so good :) and I love hearing your career path!! I’m in a winding roads right now too, trying to get experience in my field. Don’t have any yet and I’m 26 Tmmr 😭😭 but, listening to your path was inspirational. Thank you Kati this was great!
9:40 When you're exhausted and wrapped yourself in the blanket, enjoying a slight fever, and when dizzy dendrites cannot transmit information properly giving you (or at least that how i imagine what happens there) caleidoscope of warm images, turning anticlockwise, some of them you saw with your eyes, some other... you cannot even tell. And then there appears warm sunset over the sea with zebra in the middle of the air, shaped into something like penrose stairs, slightly tilted and laying on the side so you can see sun through it. It feels so nice, like fuzzy memories from childhood when you had that friend and maybe you flew to Jupiter together or something. (sorry for writing this) Point is, on the one side is a long road of adjusting yourself to a proper life and on the other - you can have fun right now! Isn't it that simple?
Hi Kati! Thank you for this! I loved it. Could you talk a bit about breakups? More specifically: I went through a very hard breakup almost a year ago. He really broke my heart. But now, most of the time, I feel like I’ve moved on and I’m actually feeling happy. I’ve accepted that breaking up was the right thing to do and that it was actually very good for me as a person. I know and love myself now more than ever. So.. why do I feel down and sad whenever my ex and I talk? I’ve grown so much since we broke up and feel so much more fulfilled, so why does it seem like I forget all of that and go back to feeling this emptiness and loss when we talk? Maybe we shouldn’t talk at all, and we don’t do it often, but at this point I would like to be able to keep feeling well and at peace even when we talk, or I see a social media post, etc. Thank you for all the help! ❤️
Dear Kati, Congratulations on your first podcast. I've been subscribed to your channel for some years now and have always enjoyed your videos. I myself am a therapist and currently undertaking my analytic training which is coming to an end. Its been quite a journey as you would know, and your videos have been so wonderful along the way for me on many occasion. I had a question about how you manage having such a public persona and balance your private practice. Does it ever come up with your patients when you share so openly about yourself and your life? Would be so interested to know. Warmest wishes, Adi
In the UK we nominate a colleague, usually a supervisor or someone in our supervision group, in our clinical / professional will to transfer ownership of records and notes to. They let the clients know that something has happened. In an agency set-up e.g. NHS or a charity or an EAP I think this may vary more from place to place as it'll be based on policies and procedures. This *may* be wholly or partially decided by the coordinator or department manager because they have the ownership responsibility for the objective case notes and the records, but I think that because the supervisor in that place has responsibility for helping to maintain a therapists' ethical practice, the responsibility is likely to again fall to the supervisor or someone in the supervision group is there is group supervision.
I had a bad therapist once. I was there because of my ED and after I told her how much I thought I should be eating she told be that I would gain weight if I ate that amount (she said that without asking anything about my exercise routine etc). To clarify, she say it in a harsh and un-empathetical way, and she didn't care about how I would feel when she said it. That was definitely a setback in my recovery and I didn't see her again. Also, she was the only licensed therapist/psychologist in my area.
We're filming these as well as making them available anywhere you listen to podcasts (you'll be able to find it in the days to come).
To watch: ua-cam.com/users/OpinionsThatDontMatter
Hit Subscribe & Click the Bell for notifications! New episodes of AKA will be released every Thursday and if you want something on the lighter side, Sean and I have a podcast called "Opinions That Don't Matter!" that comes out on Saturdays (same channel)
Kati Morton I love your content and so happy that you have started a podcast!
Kati, do I have to be an American to be a "patreon"?
Kati Morton A question I have is how to let go of a toxic person and move on.
Hi Kati! I'm excited for this podcast! I hope if my question is not picked, it might be answered the next time. Thanks for this.
YASSSS! Another awesome podcast for me to watch/listen to. I usually use podcasts for times Im driving or walking, but I must say I do like having the choice to watch them. If I have the time to, it’s even better to watch and listen at the same time. I loved what you talked about regarding you and your brother being shaped differently by childhood experiences. My brothers are 11 and 9 years older, and sometimes I’ve felt guilt that they didn’t get influenced in the negative way I have been by certain things. Realistically, they had a very different experience. Awesome as always Kati xx
"We're starting off light... with suicide." Kati, I am laughing so hard that I am in tears. Thank you for being amazing. Always proud to be your patron.
Awe thank you so much for being part of the community and supporting what I do :) xoxox SO glad you enjoyed the podcast!!!!
"We're starting off really light, talking about suicide." Whilst making the straightest face possible. What a great start.
Numbness, for me, is like being an observer with the ability to interact but without the will to do so in a way that is more than passive. Passive interactions won't necessarily be the most beneficial, but the emotional numbness prohibits our ability to invest in seeing through a positive outcome. It's a feeling of "letting the chips fall where the may." Then a self-resentment for not having proactively engaged more in getting your own self interests met.
Everything about why you love being a therapist, could have been myself talking about what I have loved about being a teacher...especially watching "my kids" grow up and marry, have their own kids, etc (even though it makes me feel super OLD sometimes, despite being only 43, LOL)!♡>"
I've been seeing my therapist for a year and she is hands down the best therapist I have ever seen or will ever see, truly life-changing. But we have never had a treatment plan, nor do I think that would have even been of any benefit to me. A treatment plan, whilst useful for severe conditions, for most patients suggests that there is an "end" to therapy which never happens. Self-development and emotional mastery is an eternal skill, and it can't be "reached" in a way a plan would dictate
Ruben yeah i don't have a treatment plan either. i think that's partially because right now i'm dealing with bullshit in my life constantly so usually i'm just working through that in session rather than like, deeper issues. but yeah, i mean, i think many people will need to be in therapy their whole lives because some people just need that professional support and someone unbiased to talk to. idk if i will need therapy forever when i'm in a better place in my life but for now it's a need for sure and i've been in therapy for years.
Idk. I was so relieved when she said that. It makes me uncomfortable that there are therapists out there who consider it to be a lifelong process.
Self development and emotional mastery are of course lifelong processes. But it seems like that’s what we’re here for. And the whole point is to learn, eventually, to do those things on our own-of course being open to all the help life offers us, but not necessarily paying someone money to sit down and do my work with me in a formal setting.
But maybe I’d have a different perspective if money was taken out of the equation. Hard to sort out if I really believe one of life’s blessings is to learn to be in charge of our own growth or if subconsciously I’m just justifying the fact that money makes it impossible for most people to have a personal guide every week/on a regular basis for their whole lives.
Bottom line, I guess there are clients and therapists who come from both perspectives. It’s awesome to know one can find one that sees herself as temporary.
Enjoying watching it. I think It'd be nice to have timestamps for each question!
1:57 Have you ever lost a client to suicide? If so how did that make you feel?
3:40 When can therapy be more harmful than beneficial?
8:16 Do you ever get frustrated with clients not making progress? How do you address that issue?
14:56 I'm not sure if this has been asked before, but what is the process for clients if a therapist dies? I feel like it would be very traumatic and a setback.
19:12 How to access and fix unconscious negative beliefs that have formed in early childhood and strengthened during growing up?
31:00 How can you open up and talk about your feelings if all you feel is numbness? For me, I don't know how to describe my emotions... What do you think this means? Thank you!
37:20 What made you want to become a therapist?
49:04 How do you improve the feeling that you’re stuck in your routine, and the day to day just isn’t as interesting or fulfilling anymore?
56:15 How do you know what should be dealt with through therapy and what should be dealt with chemically?
Agreed. Send them in!
@@Katimorton Updated Time Stamps!
AWESOME THANKS!
Oh cool episode one!! I loved and value your content so much ❤
Can we restore our brains to have self confidence and believe in ourselves? As a child I was fun and outgoing. As an adult I feel numb, stuck and lack confidence.
An hour of Kati? SO HERE FOR THIS
28:19 is SO RELATABLE😂😂
Same.
Awe I am so glad you liked it!!! xoxo Yay!!
I love hearing you swear so much and tell us to just deal with it. Makes you seem so much more down to earth
I think the same thing! It feels so much validated!
i love this kati. it's a more "chill" style of sharing your wisdom, like a friendly chat. i think this is my favourite thing of yours to date. thankyou so much for being you, and doing everything you do. you have a beautiful soul, and just for the record you ARE so worthy, and you are so enough. shoosh those silly beliefs that try to convince you otherwise, because they definately aren't true. you are appreciated more than you'd ever know in this world. sending lots of light and love your way.
My husband and I (married 36 years/ high school sweethearts) are new to therapy and finding it's very helpful. He sees his locally, mine the online sessions "betterhelp" . But we watch your videos, podcasts together and we both greatly appreciate your help, clear teachings and find we're learning a lot. Thank you for doing what you do and so well - so honest! Btw totally getting the journal & love the title! 😁💗
I love the style of your channel. Ive been watching you for years. I was in my 20’s when I started watching you. Now in my 30’s and also finally in therapy myself. I absolutely love how vulnerable you are and hearing your own journey with a therapist. Your college experience. I love that. You’re still strong and I also love how you are connecting with us letting us know. That you yourself as a professional deal with stages and issues with life like the rest of us.
53:30 My god this is so relatable as a content creator. I can’t pull from an empty pitcher I have to fill my jug too.. so true!
I’m so hyped for more of these!!
Yay!! xoxo
I've had so many really bad therapists and I'm so beyond grateful that I found my current therapist. Past therapists ignored various signs I dissociated and let me stay dissociated for sessions at a time and pushed way to far/hard, a few wanted to do EMDR but only had sessions once in a while. My current therapist realizes how my brain works, my current situation with my chronic illnesses and genetic diseases and so much past trauma, including past traumatic therapy and doctor experiences. Past therapists have attributed to so much of my trauma, trust issues and so on that I'm glad that my current one understands why I do what I do and why my brain and behaviors are what they are and are willing to meet me half way and vice versa. Plus they don't get mad at me for struggling and having a near panic attack in session since most of my past therapists got mad at me for getting upset, panicking and a few even fired me for doing those things. Thank you for the videos!
So glad about this - spend over 10 hours a week commuting to work and back. Something new to listen to :)
Kati.... Your voice is so calming 😭❤️
Thanks Bethany 🤗🤗
Truee. I draw while listening to this and its just so good. ^^
OMGSH RIGHT?!?!!??
I’m so happy you’re starting a podcast, it gives me something to look forward to regularly!!! 💙💙
Yay!! xoxo
Kati Morton 💜🥰
Thank you, Kati. You make perfect sense to me! 😊
This is awesome! Thank you for branching out in this way. I love the way you let us see how this is new for you, it comes off as more real than the first podcast being so polished and "perfect." I appreciate your channel, and all the hard work you've put into this. 💜
All the work you out into this is amazing, they fact that you type out all the questions and type stamps really shows dedication. Also your voice is so relaxing and your really pretty by the way. Stay safe🥰
I definitely do the backing off and feeling like i am taking up space. I realized that the more I do that the more other people notice it and confirm it. If I keep backing up people expect me to go out of my way to do things and make way for them and it becomes a terrible cycle.
I was in therapy for a very loong time and it did help but I was still very unstable and the skills I was learning couldn't be effective because my nervous system was stuck in constant "fight or flight" mode. Once I started on meds my therapy has been much more effective now and both together work wonderfully.
I love u Kati thanks so much for changing my life and the lives of my friends (I seem to only be friends with other mental people lol!) for the better!!
She answered my question 😍😍😍. That made me so happy.
1st one was mine. Thank you for talking about this.
Bethany - B2pk films congrats
This reminds me of the KatiFAQ videos back in the day.
I love your off the cuff responses, it really feels like you're genuine and communicating your real self and your real thoughts about things rather than scripted.
I have a question: people always say you need longer in therapy if you've been through complex trauma. But how long is "longer"? Ideally, with a CPTSD diagnosis, how long would you expect it to take for someone to work through their trauma and then no longer need therapy?
Congratulations on your podcast. Your channel has provided me with a wealth of useful information and I look forward to watching all your coming podcast episodes. Good luck. Moh'd from Germany:) 🇩🇪
i loved this a lot. you can just speak freely without worrying about time.
I could not agree more on the meds and therapy point. I’ve been in therapy for a while and I hit crisis just after New Year and I was too ill to engage in therapy. My primary diagnosis is BPD. Now I’m on an anti psychotic as well as an anti depressant and it’s got me back to a place where I can actually engage with therapy again :) Thank you for your videos Kati, you’re amazing.
You'll always be worthy to us, thankyou kati! ☀️💚
I rarely comment but I genuinely enjoyed this so much and would love for another one, really appreciate you Kati! ❤️
My question is....in terms of support, understanding, being patient and accepting, not being angry at the person... what can someone expect from a friend vs. from a therapist?
I am struggling as a friend to set up good boundries. Thanks Kati for the good work!
Great Kati!! Keep up the great work! Thank you for sharing all these useful information with us! So my question is how should we break dysfunctional patterns with men that we are attracting or that are attracted to us!
I wish you all the best!!
Thanks Kati. I appreciate your time and energy in creating these videos.
I love this format for your talents and look forward to more. Kati, you are a beacon of light and your words and compassion and expertise have meant so much to me these last few years.
So many levels of amazing!! thank you, thank you for taking the time to make this 🙏 both you and Sean.
P.s no need to apologise for it "maybe being boring" this is what we're here for 💜
on a lighter note. I absolutely love and appreciate all that you do and really looking forward to listening to more of your podcasts!
Fascinating stuff Kati! I, myself am a solid routine guy. I'm lost and even upset if there is any change to my beloved routine. However, part of my routine is to listen to mind stimulating broadcasts while I go about my daily chores. And it's podcasts like this that bring so much joy to my life as I love to learn. Thanks for all you are doing. You ARE making a huge difference in my life!
I had this exact conversation with my therapist, about taking responsibility for other people's actions! It really stuck with me and has helped me let go of a lot of obsessing thinking. I love your take on being okay with taking up space, too. That is something I am starting to learn and feel much better for knowing :)
"and were starting off light with suicide " to be honest I think that this is how the conversation should feel not scary or dramatic
Need this on spotify!! 💞
It should be on there in a couple of days.. we submitted it a few days ago, and it can take a week to be searchable.. but coming soon!! xoxo
@@Katimorton Yay!!!!
I normally have such a bad attention span, but I'm so captivated by this video! I love the candidness here!
Oh my god I’m so excited about this! I’m about to start grad school in the fall for Clinical Mental Health Counseling and I love hearing about people’s journeys into the field. Can’t wait for more episodes! ❤️
Katie I will listen to you're podcast everyday!💕
Awe :) You are so kind!! I hope you love it!! xoxo
same here
I'm writing down some things to talk in my therapy session while listening to this podcast. Isn't it awesome?
ILY ♥
I love the intro
Hi Kati! love the podcasts! I would love it if you could talk about Mental Health and the EMS or First Responder community? How does someone in EMS who sees trauma repeatedly take control of their mental health? What is a "normal" response to seeing trauma on a frequent basis? What is considered a "bad" response?
Kati, I'm currently about a year from completing my bs in developmental psychology and looking at whether I should pursue a PsyD or masters program. What exactly is the difference in what you can do as a licensed therapist vs psychologist in regards to counseling?
EDIT: Just finished ch4 of your book and there it was all laid out 😅 Thanks for answering my question.
P. S. Love your new podcast, they truly brighten my day
Your presence heals me !
Katie, my first real therapist--Ben--who I saw from November 1983 until spring 1985 died from cancer. I was the last patient he ever saw. His son, also a PhD, took over the practice and I started seeing him. Craig was my therapist from 1985 to 2010.
I love the intro, here i am at work listening to you. Thank you for always growing into different things.
Thanks so much Katie I love to hear your advice but it’s even more interesting to hear about your stories, keep them coming!
Thank you Kati for creating this wonderful podcast
Also I love this podcast. All questions are so interesting and so are your answers!
Thank you for sharing all this.
It gives me a better understanding of what it means to be in therapy.. ❤
This podcast has been so informative and you have covered a few things that I really need to understand about myself. Thank you so much for this. 💗 💕
Awe I am so glad :) xoxo
i agree on you will know when enough is enough at your therapy place. for example I was doing group therapy and I felt like I was giving people help more than getting therapy for my problems anymore. I out grew the group. I was ready to move on and do my own thing. Another words Im not perfect but I figured out I was moving on and I got a job and now have different issues that probably would benefit from 1on 1 or a good counselor to talk to periodically.
I get really scared at friends thought that do better and stop their meds. Its so scary. Ive seen the spiral so many times and hate it.
Thank you so much for doing this! I love your Q and A videos and this is basically a longer version of that
How do you know if a repressed memory is real or not. I have this memory that keeps coming back to me and every time it does it bugs me even more that last time. And this person the memory is about is an alcoholic does that mean that this person did what I think he did.
I want to know this too, I feel kinda stupid asking someone because what if it’s all in my head
I'd encourage you to go to therapy to unpack this
Please talk to a therapist, but also I'd encourage you to write things down. Journal! I've had a lot of memories that started resurfacing after I started diving into myself through journaling, and this in turn helped me piece together the story that led me to this point.
Even if it's "all in your head", you're thinking about it for _some_ reason. You contain a whole inner universe, it's pretty normal that things get all over the place, both the stars and the black holes. All great adventurers kept travel journals.
Sophie Szobonya I like that, write it all down, even if it’s all in your head cause you are thinking about it for some reason
Your memory is reconstructive, as in it kind of fills in the gaps and sometimes even makes us remember the wrong things. Although whether or not a memory is real, if its there and its traumatizing, it has to be addressed. Talk to your therapist about the memory, if nothing else it might be a piece of your puzzle. Good luck
Suggestion read the book trauma sexuality. I did not progress in therapy and quit after increasing depression. I had a horrible lonely time and tried to keep on moving, but stayed stuck. After 3 more years memories of early childhood abuse came back into my conciousness. It explains sooooo much! Wished a therapist could have seen it earlier.
I can't put into words how happy I am for your podcast!!!!
I love this long-form Q&A! Thank you!
Im buying your book as a birthday present im a survivor of suicide march 7 of 2017 life is a gift i love your channel god bless you
I'm also a survivor of suicide August 2005! Have 4 children since! Loving life and with much gratitude!
@@bramsey3620 god bless you and your family wish you health and prosperity
Awe yay! I am so glad you are here and I hope you love my book :) xoxo
Angelica Lloyd I’m sorry to hear about that I hope the best for you!
@@oblivious_raccoon1750 thanks so much for taking the time to respond god bless
28:50 I can soooo relate to this, happens to me in every situation! I'm even afraid to cross the road where there are no lights because I feel like I'm an annoyance to the cars that have to stop for me 🤦♀️ wtf
I looove this new format :) Thanks, Kati! This was awesome ! Keep it coming :)
Great podcast! I love your answers. If I had any nit at all, it would be saying "f**k." Not because of the offense to prude sensibilities so much as the undermining of your professionalism. Without the gratuitous use of that expletive, your podcast is perfect.
Hey Kati
Have you ever had a client who is suffering from low self esteem because they are suffering from depression since they were a preteen who has a family history anxiety? What coping skills would have your clients do?
this is my favorite thing in the entire world i appreciate you so so much kati!! this made me smile a lot :)
Hey Kati🌸 I love your videos they’ve been so helpful to me. My question is: my psychologist has asked me before, “what is your favorite thing about yourself?” Or “what is something you’re really good at, that you like?” I always have trouble with that. Why do you think that is?
As a Uk citizen who can give consent... I would NEVER want relations like that with my therapist and the fact some people do makes me... shiver
I was waiting all day yesterday for the podcast like “why hasn’t it dropped yet?” turns out I don’t know the days of the week, it was only Wednesday 😂 Great first episode, Kati! Can’t wait for the next one
DOH! :P Thanks for watching Nicole :)
I love how you jump into deep and dark right off the bat. It's the way to be.
Thanks that's awesome I didn't know shrinks can't say hi in public unless you initiate it. That's actually a relief to know. Thanks for the info. Awesome channel
The thing about medication that some people don't realise is that it really isn't a simple happy pill or a cure. More than that, often times your first antidepressant won't work for you and sometimes you have to go through a long and tiring process of trying different meds at different doses until you find the right one or the one that is least terrible. It takes about 4 weeks to start seeing an effect but 6-8 is when they should be working at their optimal point so it can really take a long time to find a med that works. Not to mention all the side effects that come with it as well as the fact that it costs money - not as much as therapy but it adds up.
Love these types of videos. I haven’t watched in a while but kinda been dipping my toe in again and was quite shocked when Kati cussed! Not that she’s not allowed to swear just surprised, well that happened moving on 😂. Love you kati find your videos so helpful!
I was a little shocked as well but in a good way. Kati & Sean are priceless special people.
Wow this is the first hour+ video I watched and wasn't like when will it end lol I'm here for it, thanks!
I impressed by the amount of time you dedicate to the channel and to all of us! Thank you :-) about the boredness, it would be nice if you make a video on how to continue your life despite this world-wide virus crisis that has got and will get people to cut off social contacts and hobbys. 🌈
yes! i was hoping you would get to make a podcast one day!!! love this!
Plz plz plz do more of these types of podcasts. So helpful and informative ❤️
Hey Kati, I have a question. It might be a little triggering, so I don’t know if you’ll answer it. But, I know I’m not alone in this struggle, and I need a way forward and out. How do you recover from bad therapy or bad treatment? How do you make yourself brave enough and vulnerable enough to ask for help a second time? I went inpatient a couple years ago, and have literally had flashbacks of being there every day since then. Inpatient settings can be hell for domestic violence survivors and those with other forms of abuse. Being locked in, losing all autonomy, cold/indifferent staff, strict rules, feeling voiceless/unheard, etc. my PTSD was completely ignored while there, and it did massive amounts of harm. Asking for help feels synonymous with asking for abuse. How do I get support that actually feels like support? How do I find treatment that removes the coercion and power plays? How do I make it so that anything pro-recovery doesn’t remind me of my previous treatment experience and reduce me to a rubble of tears? Help!!!!
Answering question 2, therapy was unhelpful for me when I went to a session because I knew my mam was worried about me and I felt bad. I went once, lied, didn't get the right help and I left feeling so invalidated, alone and upset. A part of me wanted the therapist to see through the lies and force out the truth I'd been hiding for so long. I wasn't willing to open up and it made me feel as though I was so broken that even a professional couldn't help. I had a very negative attitude towards therapists for a long time afterwards but thankfully that has changed. So yeah, long story short, I feel therapy can be unhelpful when the patient isn't ready to change, open up, or participate.
Your channel is such a great resource for me! I have private therapy but watching your videos (and now listening to your podcasts) really helps me articulate my thoughts with concepts in my sessions!
Hey Kati, I wasn't sure where to ask this question for it to be answered on this podcast for next week but I was wondering how to balance self care versus getting shit done. When do I know when to do things to make me happy and when to just suck it up and do what I have to do even though I will be unhappy. Im afraid I blame my depression on not going to work, hanging with friends, and not studying for tests, but I am afraid I'm just lazy and I need to man up and do these things bc no one wants to go to work or study for their tests, but thats how life is. Help!
Kati your a Godsend bringing genuine compassion to the community, I’m sorry to hear about the patient you lost from an eating disorder, I came too close to that from anorexia nervous
Aww!!! The song is so awesome! Thank you Kati!
Just wanted to say I loved this!! I listened to it during my morning walk and breakfast and a part of the time I was working. It’s so good :) and I love hearing your career path!! I’m in a winding roads right now too, trying to get experience in my field. Don’t have any yet and I’m 26 Tmmr 😭😭 but, listening to your path was inspirational. Thank you Kati this was great!
Just finish listening, Thank you for your effort I love your perspective
9:40
When you're exhausted and wrapped yourself in the blanket, enjoying a slight fever, and when dizzy dendrites cannot transmit information properly giving you (or at least that how i imagine what happens there) caleidoscope of warm images, turning anticlockwise, some of them you saw with your eyes, some other... you cannot even tell. And then there appears warm sunset over the sea with zebra in the middle of the air, shaped into something like penrose stairs, slightly tilted and laying on the side so you can see sun through it. It feels so nice, like fuzzy memories from childhood when you had that friend and maybe you flew to Jupiter together or something.
(sorry for writing this)
Point is, on the one side is a long road of adjusting yourself to a proper life and on the other - you can have fun right now! Isn't it that simple?
I absolutely love this podcast concept! Can't wait for next episode :)
Really love your videos so thank you!
I freaking love this and that you now have podcasts! Totally wish you practiced in NC! You’re the best!!
Hi Kati! Thank you for this! I loved it.
Could you talk a bit about breakups? More specifically: I went through a very hard breakup almost a year ago. He really broke my heart. But now, most of the time, I feel like I’ve moved on and I’m actually feeling happy. I’ve accepted that breaking up was the right thing to do and that it was actually very good for me as a person. I know and love myself now more than ever.
So.. why do I feel down and sad whenever my ex and I talk? I’ve grown so much since we broke up and feel so much more fulfilled, so why does it seem like I forget all of that and go back to feeling this emptiness and loss when we talk? Maybe we shouldn’t talk at all, and we don’t do it often, but at this point I would like to be able to keep feeling well and at peace even when we talk, or I see a social media post, etc.
Thank you for all the help! ❤️
I think this is a great idea and hope you continue on with it 🙂👍
Your explanation of frustration is the epitome of
" I'm not mad. I'm just disappointed! "
Dear Kati, Congratulations on your first podcast. I've been subscribed to your channel for some years now and have always enjoyed your videos. I myself am a therapist and currently undertaking my analytic training which is coming to an end. Its been quite a journey as you would know, and your videos have been so wonderful along the way for me on many occasion. I had a question about how you manage having such a public persona and balance your private practice. Does it ever come up with your patients when you share so openly about yourself and your life? Would be so interested to know.
Warmest wishes,
Adi
In the UK we nominate a colleague, usually a supervisor or someone in our supervision group, in our clinical / professional will to transfer ownership of records and notes to. They let the clients know that something has happened. In an agency set-up e.g. NHS or a charity or an EAP I think this may vary more from place to place as it'll be based on policies and procedures. This *may* be wholly or partially decided by the coordinator or department manager because they have the ownership responsibility for the objective case notes and the records, but I think that because the supervisor in that place has responsibility for helping to maintain a therapists' ethical practice, the responsibility is likely to again fall to the supervisor or someone in the supervision group is there is group supervision.
Thanks for all you do
I had a bad therapist once. I was there because of my ED and after I told her how much I thought I should be eating she told be that I would gain weight if I ate that amount (she said that without asking anything about my exercise routine etc). To clarify, she say it in a harsh and un-empathetical way, and she didn't care about how I would feel when she said it. That was definitely a setback in my recovery and I didn't see her again.
Also, she was the only licensed therapist/psychologist in my area.
Kati this has helped