Catholic woman here: 100% correct on the fitness thing! I come from a family of literal models and beauty pageant queens -- we girls dated and married the strong men. Girls absolutely notice strength, and we always appreciate it for both the visual attraction AND the safety and security a strong man can provide.
I'm 32, and despite still praying for and wanting a spouse, it has not happened. I'm also in a very small place with no means to move elsewhere right now. I was doing other things besides working out and getting in shape throughout my twenties too, so I'm not toned or anything. I have a physical limitation that makes that difficult too. At the same time, as time has gone on, the "desperation" for lack of a better word that I had in my early 20s has more or less vanished. I still need to improve myself in a lot of areas, and sometimes it is challenging, but even though I'm alone, I'm no longer "lonely".
I remember when I was single there were SO many single women looking for boyfriends in cities like Washington DC and NYC but guys just stay in groups with their friends and don't take a chance in approaching the woman. I was always looking in church, at church parties, on commuter buses hoping my future husband would sit down next to me, and while on vacations.
Moral men don't consort with feral women. If she's on her own in an apartment in a big city she's run through. Good women live under their parents' supervision and father's headship until marriage.
Guys avoid women who are more successful than them. That kind of dynamic almost never works out so there is little point in trying. DC and NYC are terrible places for dating because those places are where young women are doing much better than young men.
New data shows that gen z men are more religious than gen z women. This isn't your grandparents' Catholicism anymore where mom is the one who takes the kids to church while dad stays home to watch football.
Appreciate you Cameron. Solid advice all the way through and definitely all are actionable. However, let's just say you do all that and you still remain single. What then? When I ask this I'm often met with bumper sticker responses. "Well, that's the attitude that keeps you single" (what does that even mean?) or "When it's your time, it's your time" (Really dude?) or "Take this time to work on yourself" (Uh...well...I knew that). I feel often that my well-intentioned Catholic friends, acquaintances, and online personalities speak from a place or a context that many in my position view as Pie in the Sky. Example, many of us don't have a thriving single Catholic community in our churches, many of us don't go to a Catholic college with a vibrant Catholic community, many have us have tried Catholic dating sites where our matches are...meager, etc. It's what leaves me feeling that maybe a secular lady who is at least open to a person of faith is my best avenue.
Jesus was tempted after 40 says in the desert, when he was weakest, at least in his human nature. Imagine what he could have done to a Baconator Burger from Wendy's with double fries an a tall vanilla shake. That's your secular woman, brother, and there's a big satanic hook in your magnificent ideas and justifications. Still, if you choose secular, do not even get "handsy" or verbally "warm" while you invite her to Mass, to pray the Rosary with her, meet your Catholic friends, the Priest, etc. If she is just hooking you, she'll get colder than permafrost. As should always be done, check her background. Like the priestly vocation hunter women, Catholic Faith exterminators are everywhere.
Secular women are risky. Invite her to many Catholic activities for a good long while. Pay attention and don't follow appearances, feelings or testosterone.
@@andrewpatton5114 Not many at all. It's seen as mostly a given that women will be on bcp's. There are some, the more organic/whole food focused come to mind, that would be against it. Different reasons than a Catholic though.
@@andrewpatton5114 I had responded earlier but not sure why it's not appearing. I'll give you an abridged version. In all candor, not many. Rare would be the secular woman who would want to objectively think about that topic. Many are just mired in the groupthink that promotes the pill as a liberation. So bleak are things that a secular woman coming around to natural family planning seems to have a higher likelihood of occurring than meeting a single, orthodox, Catholic woman. Peace bro!
I think one big problem is there are many Catholics who can't find each other. The others are for guys who just are not handsome and feel unwanted. There is always another handsome guy waiting in the wings and many girls are waiting for him to come along. They are not going to settle for less. The last problem is feminists who hate men and will flip out if they think you are trying to find a wife. You never know if the girl standing in the corner will be thrilled to meet you or enraged. Does anyone know what to do? I have all three problems and have no confidence. It seems like everyone leaves the church when they are 18 and don't come back until they are 30 or 40 if at all. People tell me to go to church to find a wife but all I find at most churches in my area are old ladies and 12-16 year olds. The dance group I gave up on was all protestant and refused to date a Catholic (other Catholics tried), plus they mostly talked together with the other girls and had zero interest in me. There just doesn't seem to be a good place to meet real Catholics who are looking for a spouse. I think we need to create one somehow.
I'm 49, Single male. I live in Alberta Canada. I am a practicing Catholic. Extremely difficult to find any other single practicing Catholics in my age range. If you're here. Let me know. :)
Things that may be interesting to me but not necessarily to women:😅 Scriptures, the heresies of the past and seeing how they are coming back today in new forms, searching the Catechism for answers in things, seeing what pope Francis is doing, photographing the sunset, science things, learning new skills and understanding about life problems, etc. I live more in my mind and intellect than the here and now which gets me in trouble when conversing 😅 I appreciate this straight talk though to learn more into my charisms and the Holy Spirit’s leading to become the person He has in mind desiring me to be. I would add for all those lost in porn and lust to find Jesus and get to the root cause of why you need to engage in these things and seek healing for any past trauma and pain especially if porn is used as a coping mechanism for stress and pain and anxiety like I used to do it as and stopped doing once I understood why I used it.
This is one of the better videos I’ve seen on this topic, well done! I would say though, on the point of getting in shape, instead of focusing on getting jacked and building muscle, just focus on being healthy. This could include working out obviously, but I would also say eating better, quitting smoking, etc. Just take care of yourself and have good hygiene and dress well. Also, having a sense of humor will help make you more attractive 😂
Great stuff! I'd just like to add something: TAKE CARE OF YOUR FINANCES! It doesn't mean you have to be the next Jeff Bezos or similar, but have a job (be employable) or have a functioning business, budget well, invest wisely and don't be a spendthrift.
@ a lot of men feel bl@ck pılled and doomed to be single forever. Lots of men think it’s hopeless. I think thats a topic worth addressing. Dating apps have convinced men that its impossible; and that looks and height are all that matters. Lots of men are giving up and are convinced that they are meant to be single forever. I hope you make a video addressing the loneliness and despair over dating men have today. Its not good. The bl@ck pıll is completely different than the red one.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheeseSure, the dating scene is bleak and barren, but instead of the Black Pill take the God Pill. A lot of of the bleakness is engineered and systematic by the homosexual movement, so do not become spiritually homosexual, as in weak, empty, hopeless, unmanly and faithless. Be devoted to Saint Joseph, and ask him to help you prosper and grow in Faith even when all you get is the intestinal matter hitting the air moving device. If you don't get deep with God, you sabotage yourself and you will not get the woman. Or you'll get one inspired by Hell.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese Get deep with God, always, and the woman will appear when you are not expecting her. Go deep with God and pay attention.
I did all that and still no success. No social media, read a lot (philosophy, history, etc), started martial arts, got in pretty good shape, went to a good catholic youth group. Did a lot of socializing.... tried to hear her a lot about her problems, and still nothing, btw I have a regular job with a good income, so I'm not a neet. Now I'm starting to think that a secular girl might be a better option for me. I know my calling is for marriage, and God knows it, but I think the problem at this point is not me anymore, I did the working and no results... but who knows right?
Don't give up, brother. You've already done so well in cultivating some great lifestyle choices. But also remember that it is God's grace working in your life; if He sees fit to give you a loving, holy wife in His perfect timing, then He will. Keep praying for your future spouse, and pray also that you will increase in wisdom and holiness as you pursue Christ. God will not withhold the fulfilment of the desires He has placed in your heart. Our Lord beckons us to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and God will sort out the rest (Matthew 6:33). I encourage you to meditate on what St. Paul says in II Corinthians 6:14-15, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness with lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" I've seen many brothers and sisters in the faith grieve and suffer hardship by forming and, sadly oftentimes, breaking romantic relations with people who have no reverence or care for the things of Christ. I trust and pray that you will spare yourself from such pain.
Yeah theres a weird air of absurdity in the dating world right now. I disregard alot of dating advice on the internet cause most of it is garbage but damn its still bad out here irl
Step 1: Join the Orthodox Catholic Church Step 2: learn to love God and advance spiritually before ever thinking of being ready for marriage. Step 3: God will send your wife when the time is right and you have learned patience.
I think God can give us the tools to go and search for a wife if we are putting Gid first at the same time however and have formed a great relationship with God's will prior
Calvinism is God pretermining who gets grace to be saved. So if you didn't get grace to be saved there is nothing you can do. They also believe Jesus died only for the elect. Catholic view is God gives all sufficient grace and possibility to be saved. And Jesus gave Himself a Redemption for all. However In his infinite knowledge he knows the beginning and end of all things so hence he beholds outside of time all that happens but this is by perception not absolute determination. Although He sometimes uses his absolute will to get things done that must be done. Our Lady explained to ven. Mary of agreda, " He desires not the death of the sinner. And as thou hast written ,He does not entertain an absolute and antecedent decree of damning his creatures but seeks to save them all, if they do not pursue perdition of their own free will. Although He permits this in his justice as being inseparable from the free will of man, it is against his inclination." Ven. Mary of agreda explained about God," I have already said above that for God there is no past or future, since He holds all things present to His divine and infinite mind and knows all by one simple act". This is an attribute of the greatness of God. In a vision which God showed his mother Mary who was deeply saddened for the perdition of souls God showed Mary," For when she beheld the beatific vision, she saw in the essence of God his love and infinite goodness for the salvation of men, together with the sorrow which He would have for the perdition of souls if such sorrow were possible ".
Just for fun: Drop your best Catholic Pick up line in the comments! :)
I have one!
“My friend told me to come and meet you. He said that you were a really nice person. You may know him; his name is Jesus.”
I always like to quote St. Joesph
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1. Confidence
2. Virtue
3. Charm
I think this is one of the best lighting I've seen on your videos so far.
Cameron has a lot of gifts and he's using them to make these amazing videos. No wonder his channel is growing fast.
Catholic woman here: 100% correct on the fitness thing! I come from a family of literal models and beauty pageant queens -- we girls dated and married the strong men. Girls absolutely notice strength, and we always appreciate it for both the visual attraction AND the safety and security a strong man can provide.
I'm 32, and despite still praying for and wanting a spouse, it has not happened. I'm also in a very small place with no means to move elsewhere right now. I was doing other things besides working out and getting in shape throughout my twenties too, so I'm not toned or anything. I have a physical limitation that makes that difficult too.
At the same time, as time has gone on, the "desperation" for lack of a better word that I had in my early 20s has more or less vanished. I still need to improve myself in a lot of areas, and sometimes it is challenging, but even though I'm alone, I'm no longer "lonely".
Man, your channel is a gift. Appreciate the video!
I remember when I was single there were SO many single women looking for boyfriends in cities like Washington DC and NYC but guys just stay in groups with their friends and don't take a chance in approaching the woman. I was always looking in church, at church parties, on commuter buses hoping my future husband would sit down next to me, and while on vacations.
Get bold fellas lol
Moral men don't consort with feral women. If she's on her own in an apartment in a big city she's run through. Good women live under their parents' supervision and father's headship until marriage.
Guys avoid women who are more successful than them. That kind of dynamic almost never works out so there is little point in trying. DC and NYC are terrible places for dating because those places are where young women are doing much better than young men.
This was… surprisingly helpful advice.
New data shows that gen z men are more religious than gen z women. This isn't your grandparents' Catholicism anymore where mom is the one who takes the kids to church while dad stays home to watch football.
Based. I hope that's true.
Appreciate you Cameron. Solid advice all the way through and definitely all are actionable. However, let's just say you do all that and you still remain single. What then?
When I ask this I'm often met with bumper sticker responses. "Well, that's the attitude that keeps you single" (what does that even mean?) or "When it's your time, it's your time" (Really dude?) or "Take this time to work on yourself" (Uh...well...I knew that). I feel often that my well-intentioned Catholic friends, acquaintances, and online personalities speak from a place or a context that many in my position view as Pie in the Sky. Example, many of us don't have a thriving single Catholic community in our churches, many of us don't go to a Catholic college with a vibrant Catholic community, many have us have tried Catholic dating sites where our matches are...meager, etc.
It's what leaves me feeling that maybe a secular lady who is at least open to a person of faith is my best avenue.
Jesus was tempted after 40 says in the desert, when he was weakest, at least in his human nature. Imagine what he could have done to a Baconator Burger from Wendy's with double fries an a tall vanilla shake. That's your secular woman, brother, and there's a big satanic hook in your magnificent ideas and justifications.
Still, if you choose secular, do not even get "handsy" or verbally "warm" while you invite her to Mass, to pray the Rosary with her, meet your Catholic friends, the Priest, etc. If she is just hooking you, she'll get colder than permafrost. As should always be done, check her background. Like the priestly vocation hunter women, Catholic Faith exterminators are everywhere.
How many secular women will agree to no contraception?
Secular women are risky. Invite her to many Catholic activities for a good long while. Pay attention and don't follow appearances, feelings or testosterone.
@@andrewpatton5114 Not many at all. It's seen as mostly a given that women will be on bcp's. There are some, the more organic/whole food focused come to mind, that would be against it. Different reasons than a Catholic though.
@@andrewpatton5114 I had responded earlier but not sure why it's not appearing. I'll give you an abridged version. In all candor, not many. Rare would be the secular woman who would want to objectively think about that topic. Many are just mired in the groupthink that promotes the pill as a liberation. So bleak are things that a secular woman coming around to natural family planning seems to have a higher likelihood of occurring than meeting a single, orthodox, Catholic woman. Peace bro!
Mr Cameron Reicker, pllsssss make a video for how women can find a good catholic man.
Yes, please!! And… you are spot on in this video!
I think one big problem is there are many Catholics who can't find each other. The others are for guys who just are not handsome and feel unwanted. There is always another handsome guy waiting in the wings and many girls are waiting for him to come along. They are not going to settle for less. The last problem is feminists who hate men and will flip out if they think you are trying to find a wife. You never know if the girl standing in the corner will be thrilled to meet you or enraged. Does anyone know what to do? I have all three problems and have no confidence. It seems like everyone leaves the church when they are 18 and don't come back until they are 30 or 40 if at all. People tell me to go to church to find a wife but all I find at most churches in my area are old ladies and 12-16 year olds. The dance group I gave up on was all protestant and refused to date a Catholic (other Catholics tried), plus they mostly talked together with the other girls and had zero interest in me. There just doesn't seem to be a good place to meet real Catholics who are looking for a spouse. I think we need to create one somehow.
I'm sorry to break it to you but I think you should stop seeking spouse for now.
@@matthewdsouza1797 What should I be doing instead? What is the reason you say that?
@@trevorcronk935 If you keep searching in the same places with the same mindset You are doomed to end up like me.
I'm 49, Single male. I live in Alberta Canada. I am a practicing Catholic. Extremely difficult to find any other single practicing Catholics in my age range. If you're here. Let me know. :)
This gives me hope that God has someone for me. 😂
Things that may be interesting to me but not necessarily to women:😅
Scriptures, the heresies of the past and seeing how they are coming back today in new forms, searching the Catechism for answers in things, seeing what pope Francis is doing, photographing the sunset, science things, learning new skills and understanding about life problems, etc. I live more in my mind and intellect than the here and now which gets me in trouble when conversing 😅
I appreciate this straight talk though to learn more into my charisms and the Holy Spirit’s leading to become the person He has in mind desiring me to be.
I would add for all those lost in porn and lust to find Jesus and get to the root cause of why you need to engage in these things and seek healing for any past trauma and pain especially if porn is used as a coping mechanism for stress and pain and anxiety like I used to do it as and stopped doing once I understood why I used it.
This is one of the better videos I’ve seen on this topic, well done! I would say though, on the point of getting in shape, instead of focusing on getting jacked and building muscle, just focus on being healthy. This could include working out obviously, but I would also say eating better, quitting smoking, etc. Just take care of yourself and have good hygiene and dress well.
Also, having a sense of humor will help make you more attractive 😂
Great stuff! I'd just like to add something: TAKE CARE OF YOUR FINANCES!
It doesn't mean you have to be the next Jeff Bezos or similar, but have a job (be employable) or have a functioning business, budget well, invest wisely and don't be a spendthrift.
More about finding them for me!
Do you think most young men are called to celibacy nowadays? Lots of guys are chronically single despite their best efforts
I do not think it’s the majority 😁 God knows somebody has to make babies for the celibate priests to baptize
@ a lot of men feel bl@ck pılled and doomed to be single forever. Lots of men think it’s hopeless. I think thats a topic worth addressing. Dating apps have convinced men that its impossible; and that looks and height are all that matters. Lots of men are giving up and are convinced that they are meant to be single forever. I hope you make a video addressing the loneliness and despair over dating men have today. Its not good. The bl@ck pıll is completely different than the red one.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheeseSure, the dating scene is bleak and barren, but instead of the Black Pill take the God Pill. A lot of of the bleakness is engineered and systematic by the homosexual movement, so do not become spiritually homosexual, as in weak, empty, hopeless, unmanly and faithless.
Be devoted to Saint Joseph, and ask him to help you prosper and grow in Faith even when all you get is the intestinal matter hitting the air moving device. If you don't get deep with God, you sabotage yourself and you will not get the woman. Or you'll get one inspired by Hell.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese Get deep with God, always, and the woman will appear when you are not expecting her. Go deep with God and pay attention.
@@philalcoceli6328 I’m not expecting anyone. I feel hopeless and I dont feel so motivated anymore. Loneliness kills motivation
Step 1: be hot.
I did all that and still no success. No social media, read a lot (philosophy, history, etc), started martial arts, got in pretty good shape, went to a good catholic youth group. Did a lot of socializing.... tried to hear her a lot about her problems, and still nothing, btw I have a regular job with a good income, so I'm not a neet. Now I'm starting to think that a secular girl might be a better option for me. I know my calling is for marriage, and God knows it, but I think the problem at this point is not me anymore, I did the working and no results... but who knows right?
Don't give up, brother. You've already done so well in cultivating some great lifestyle choices. But also remember that it is God's grace working in your life; if He sees fit to give you a loving, holy wife in His perfect timing, then He will. Keep praying for your future spouse, and pray also that you will increase in wisdom and holiness as you pursue Christ. God will not withhold the fulfilment of the desires He has placed in your heart. Our Lord beckons us to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and God will sort out the rest (Matthew 6:33).
I encourage you to meditate on what St. Paul says in II Corinthians 6:14-15, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness with lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" I've seen many brothers and sisters in the faith grieve and suffer hardship by forming and, sadly oftentimes, breaking romantic relations with people who have no reverence or care for the things of Christ. I trust and pray that you will spare yourself from such pain.
Yeah theres a weird air of absurdity in the dating world right now. I disregard alot of dating advice on the internet cause most of it is garbage but damn its still bad out here irl
Is better to be single than to marry a non catholic
Im uh not liking my odds
Step 1: Join the Orthodox Catholic Church
Step 2: learn to love God and advance spiritually before ever thinking of being ready for marriage.
Step 3: God will send your wife when the time is right and you have learned patience.
I think God can give us the tools to go and search for a wife if we are putting Gid first at the same time however and have formed a great relationship with God's will prior
If God knows who you are going to marry before you meet them, does He know if you're going to Hell before you're conceived? Sounds like Calvinism.
God has perfect knowledge of everything, so he knows who will be going to heaven and hell
@@aidan6444 So Calvinism is true and there is no Free Will? We're conceived to either go to Heaven or Hell?
@ No, but every moment in time is present to God since he is outside of time, and he is all knowing so he knows who will accept and reject his grace.
Calvinism is God pretermining who gets grace to be saved. So if you didn't get grace to be saved there is nothing you can do. They also believe Jesus died only for the elect. Catholic view is God gives all sufficient grace and possibility to be saved. And Jesus gave Himself a Redemption for all. However In his infinite knowledge he knows the beginning and end of all things so hence he beholds outside of time all that happens but this is by perception not absolute determination. Although He sometimes uses his absolute will to get things done that must be done. Our Lady explained to ven. Mary of agreda, " He desires not the death of the sinner. And as thou hast written ,He does not entertain an absolute and antecedent decree of damning his creatures but seeks to save them all, if they do not pursue perdition of their own free will. Although He permits this in his justice as being inseparable from the free will of man, it is against his inclination." Ven. Mary of agreda explained about God," I have already said above that for God there is no past or future, since He holds all things present to His divine and infinite mind and knows all by one simple act". This is an attribute of the greatness of God. In a vision which God showed his mother Mary who was deeply saddened for the perdition of souls God showed Mary," For when she beheld the beatific vision, she saw in the essence of God his love and infinite goodness for the salvation of men, together with the sorrow which He would have for the perdition of souls if such sorrow were possible ".