I don’t understand why people get so mad about what someone else is doing or why people are so hung up on forcing people to stay with someone they’re miserable with.
You are so right. If your partner don't want to level up and grow as well after you guys have talked on it, then you're going to stagnate your self from brighter days staying with them. At the end of the day, you can't make no one do what they don't want to do and don't try to make them do what they don't want to do...just move on and take wisdom with you!
Absolutely agree with this, experienced this!!! I can't be with someone who doesn't elevate themselves. IT feels like you drowning slowly, when you loose yourself and lose interest in everything.
The problem is sometimes both genders want to be chased by everybody and be attractive for everybody. Their wishes came true. They are attractive for everybody and chased by everybody. Except for the one they have the love, empathy and gratitude for. they give the energy out to the world, instead of going inward and changing their mindset. Their mindset should be I want to be attractive to one person and be attracted to one person who is compatible fo me.
Derrick speaks the kind of truth that even if your mind is in denial, your spirit just agrees. God bless you for seeking to heal and speaking truth to life!
The ones who get mad are vexed they lost their narcissistic supply. When you are emotionally mature, you grasp the benefit that decision was for both her and her and husband. 🔥☝️
I totally agree with you. I lost a lot of people after my divorce, but you know what, I didn't lose myself. Everyone has the right to do what's best for themselves, even if it upsets people.
This is my EXACT story. I met my ex-husband at 24. I was in college at the time when we met. I outgrew him. He didn't follow. And that's why we are now divorced. If men are reading this, don't be stubborn and do the work. My ex came back a few years after divorce apologizing and telling me that if he could go back he would've done things better and would have given 100% of himself in the relationship. Don't make that same mistake and regret it later.
When a woman gets older, a lot of men feel that they need to exchange her for a younger, thinner, and more fertile version of their wives. And, they don't feel bad about it at all. So, I agree with her, If they are not flowing with you, then allow yourself to flow with another.
IF THEY FOUND THE PERSON MISERABLE THEN THEY HAVE TO CHANGE THEIR ATTITUDE TO THE PERSON, IF YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR COMMITMENT LATER ON THEN YOU ARE LYING AT THE ALTAR
That is so rude and cruel 😢that is hard to hear . I notice that once I took better care of myself , men started to notice me 😮I ‘m doing this for myself , because I like who I am , but men see it like I’m asking them for sex 😅a lot of misunderstandings here .😅
Exactly. This is why I tell people never get married young. As u mature older u change mentally wonder why so many issues,drama,domestics in marriage and relationships stay for the wrong reasons. Have too give it too her she is keeping it 💯
This mentality is crazy: when a person is 25 yo she is not the same as when she was 18, when she is 30 is not the same as she was at 25... a 50 yo is not the same person she was when she was 35 or 40... so if the reason for not marry young is that you are evolving and becoming another person, this will happen through your entire life.
This is so true…people can change so much during a marriage particularly if the woman has leveled up. Dealing with the insecurities is hard as is the increased stress and resentment. It’s no wonder that many women who experience this simply ‘check out’
You don't enter a marriage attempting to follow different life paths or goals. That's the huge flaw with your argument right there. If you're pursuing something to 'level up', you never should've been in the marriage to begin with. You enter a marriage to find a common goal, or dream, and work towards it together, you support eachother. You compromise, you give up wants for the long-term benefits of the relationship. You learn to be okay with being unhappy, as that's what life is. Ebbs and flows of happiness and unhappiness, and in doing so, you find contentment, peace. Even more happiness. You put the marriage first, and desires and selfishness second. Foundation for a strong marriage right there that will last 50 years. Something like 80% of divorces are initiated by women these days. That is an absurdly high number. Half the reason is that women are incentivized to leave relationships. Alimony, divorce settlements, child support from the government. The other half is that people these days are being taught to follow selfish desires rather than investing in the people in their lives. True happiness comes not from self-serving goals, it comes from altruism, it comes from helping other people in your life. When you dedicate your energy into investing into the relationship, working through problems. It will thrive. When you sit there thinking about how you want to do your own thing. You've already stopped giving the relationship what it needs, and it's no surprise it fails. If you want to pursue selfish goals in life, don't get married. It's that simple. People need to stop getting married thinking that happiness or lovey dovey feelings will last, using the marriage as a way to feel happy. That's not what it's about at all. You will never be happy in a marriage unless you actually commit to that marriage. If you're considering getting married to someone. Talk about what kind of life you want TOGETHER. Then aim for that, work at it. Don't get married till you have this talk, and don't get married because you're happy in the moment.
The problem is sometimes both genders want to be chased by everybody and be attractive for everybody. Their wishes came true. They are attractive for everybody and chased by everybody. Except for the one they have the love, empathy and gratitude for. they give the energy out to the world, instead of going inward and changing their mindset. Their mindset should be I want to be attractive to one person and be attracted to one person who is compatible fo me.
@@gfrantz9834why isn’t HE doing his part? I’m sure she came to him and asked him to be involved with what she was researching or getting into , he probably dodged her attempts to connect to help him grow on the same path as her! Men are stagnant and many are complacent and don’t like “change” they get comfortable and lazy !
Derrick, everything you said here validates exactly how I have felt after 22 years of marriage. I asked for a divorce in January because I have completely lost myself in my marriage and it is now time to reclaim myself. I already feel my body shifting (after gaining and losing 100# 3x throughout my marriage), eliminating stress and inflammation, my energy changing, my mood no longer fluctuating. Thank you for this. I am grateful my closest friends have already seen a change enough in me to know that this is for the greater good. Keep doing what you're doing here. Speaking the truth will help more women find their place in their own world. 🙌
I ended a 7 year relationship for the same reasons. Both partners should be on the same page, support each other's dreams, grow and build each other up, you can't expect someone to remain the same after years of being together.
Yeah, self serving interests. He got bored in his relationship so he sought some strange from other women. Of course he'd support the divorce for selfish reasons. Rather than telling people to work on it and compromise, find a path together. Which is what marriage is supposed to be.
Hey Derrick ;)) ur absolutely right! That "stress" she would have suffered & subjected her husband to would have turned to resentment. Resentment = Unhappy & Unhealthy marriage... However, did she communicate how she was feeling/ outgrowing her husband actually to him?? They could have tried counselling?
Derrick if you ever get this message tell me what the heck is this BS can I get a hung? I've had a couple of men ask me that. I'm a very sociable woman and some men equate that to being easy and lonely which I'm neither. I'm 62 and don't want to be bothered with idiots!
Marriage is about the two of you. You don't get married for feelings you get married to foster a life long partnership. You don't get married and then pursue selfish goals. You don't get divorced in a marriage because of a rough patch, or boredom. People are sitting here condoning divorce because of feelings, when true love isn't built on that at all. Feelings of infatuation, butterflies. Those will come and go. They are not a sound basis for a marriage, and if you're getting divorced because your feelings change, you never should've been married in the first place. Marriage fails because of selfishness. Put the marriage first, then yourself second. Work through your problems, find a path together. Don't just get married because someone currently makes you wet and happy. That's not what a marriage is about at all. There are years in life where happiness is hard to come by. You'll never be in a fulfilling relationship if that's what you're looking for from your partner.
@@truckywuckyuwu Amen the way these people talking in the commmets they are one of the main reasons the divorce rate is so high besides actual cheaters
I married at 20 years old but my husband would not do right. I divorce him within a 1 year and 1/2 never married again. Never be unhappy love yourself.
Nowadays we need to be into growth if we want to be in a relationship. Also, relationships come and go, they work until our soul receives what it needs from it, learning, healing, etc. That's why we have multiple ones in a lifetime. We need to be mature and secure enough to allow others to grow and choose to grow with them. It must be a mutual desire and understanding.
It’s certainly up to her, but there’s no guarantee on the second act. Marriage is not supposed to be a disposable proposition. If you’re not serious, then, don’t sign up for it. Certainly not going to tell her what to do with her life, but, I’m trying to figure out if she’s just planning on staying single, the rest of her life or whether she thinks marriage minded men are plentiful?
I totally agree - I married at 20 and should have never gotten married. I was niave and not developed. If I had the choice to go back, I'd choose independence and me.
Great powerful presentation! Wow... Unfortunately, we are not taught that a couple's individual Vision of a marriage/committed relationship may become the Huge breaking point. No One teaches us this, in advance. As fragile, fantasy-based, and hidden as that expansive 'ideal love' walking-on-air (for many) vision is ~ it could manifest itself down the road as shocking and sorrowful quicksand. Early love coming together is the crucial time to do the revealing work, first. Peeling back the layers of "idealness" with plenty of "What ifs" is not very romantic, but it's ground-building for healthy boundaries. And even then, who's to predict how life lessons (and especially opportunities) skews our vision along the way of life's path? I don't know about you, but that's asking quite a lot of necessary 'what-if's' of the initial mere, yet extremely-powerful, romantic attraction. True, honorable love of oneself and (equally of) one's beloved is an admirable quest ~ and not for the faint-of-heart.
I did that I gave up my dream and married before I was ready and I knew I wasn't ready but because I didn't want to hurt other people's feelings mostly his because he really wanted to marry me at that time then later on he ended up dumping me after 9 years of marriage.
For heaven sake clean up ur ears and hear it again. Obv she said her husband wasn't the problem clearly. He provided for her and when she was able to stand in her own two legs she no longer needed him and decided to leave him. Nothing but brutal cold heartedness. Maybe her husband couldn't be financially successful as her but he still provided and was with her all the way to the end. And what she gives him in return? A divorce.
Imho, one should always pray about their potential spouse "Before" making such a huge life decision. This world has influenced such disorder that most end up in this type of situation. I do not judge this lady but i pray for all going through this same scenario.
When you get married you are not married the present person, you are married his future self!!! Marriage is not easy people are two individuals with different upbringing teaching and family values and are merging into one !!! so sometimes we do become unequally yoked
I’m sure there was more to the story that got her to that place. There were enough signs aside from her just growing that he couldn’t handle being where she is now. I’m happy for her bc that’s not an easy thing to do. I’m speaking from experience. You go girl!
Self worth is important indeed. That’s why when your married your husband should be able to support your needs, which will be a healthy marriage, instead of being selfish
I completely understand her.. I was always planning for the future and my husband stayed in a lack mentality mindset.. and I Felt like he was slowing down my growth.. energy transmutes.. I went to school as well and he started soon after I did. He graduated and didn’t even want to walk the stage.. we were married for 25 years. I divorced him when I was 45.. and have been blessed and abundant in every aspect of my life..
"I felt like he was slowing down my growth" The thing I'm seeing in common on all of these people talking about their divorces, is how selfish they turned at one point. Instead of investing into the relationship, communicating, finding a path to take together. One partner takes a path they want, and leaves the other behind. This is why one person is the leader in the relationship, and one the follower. It doesn't work when both people are going after selfish goals. Glad you're happy right now, Hope it continues. Life gets lonely past 50 without a partner and family.
I love this because men will always do what they need to do but why can't women she just did what she needed to do that's all there's nothing wrong with that.
Two are only equally yoked until it is no longer. Until the lesson(s) are taught/learned. God will place you where you're needed. He will give you people for HIS purpose...it's all about energy and clearing it!
People have to grow together, especially if you’re in a marriage/committed relationship . If you don’t, you outgrow one another. If you’re truly in love then you would be growing as a unit. You would never have outgrown one another. Everybody has free will to do what they need to do. And that is yours and only your choice to make. Society as a whole myself included need to look at your their own life. If your life was so perfect, you wouldn’t be looking at a video like that and if you do that, which is your free will you don’t have to pass judgment. Look up to God for judgment in your own life before passing it on to another. Show grace to another in all matters and you will be rewarded. God matters to me. Amen.
The problem is sometimes both genders want to be chased by everybody and be attractive for everybody. Their wishes came true. They are attractive for everybody and chased by everybody. Except for the one they have the love, empathy and gratitude for. they give the energy out to the world, instead of going inward and changing their mindset. Their mindset should be I want to be attractive to one person and be attracted to one person who is compatible fo me.
So he was good enough to be the bread winner and support her and when she got her own all of sudden she’s got a change of heart!? Please she want to go get some more out there. These women watched too much Sex in the City! Don’t get married if you have no desire to do life together! Kids 10 years old in other countries with more emotional intelligence and strength than these people today. Especially in the states.
No he just didn’t grow with her. Men get comfortable and think they know everything, their women can’t do more than them they have to settle for unhappiness and dim their light for the men but men won’t sacrifice nothing for them. My ex husband says the same about me and now his ex girlfriend and he didn’t make either of us better. We left him to get better. With some men the math ain’t mathing
Truth is everyone is using everyone or here to their own advantage in one way or another, so you not saying anything because they were both using each other all along 🤷🏽♀️
I don’t understand why people get so mad about what someone else is doing or why people are so hung up on forcing people to stay with someone they’re miserable with.
IF THEY FOUND THE PERSON MISERABLE THEN THEY HAVE TO CHANGE THEIR ATTITUDE TO THE PERSON
Then don't post on the Internet, very simple. No ones forcing you to display your personal life on the internet
They are miserable because they are terrible people
You are so right. If your partner don't want to level up and grow as well after you guys have talked on it, then you're going to stagnate your self from brighter days staying with them. At the end of the day, you can't make no one do what they don't want to do and don't try to make them do what they don't want to do...just move on and take wisdom with you!
Ssaay that AGAIN. 😊
Did he ever announce the reason why he asked Da’Naia for a divorce? I’m shocked.
The IG chicks are more fun
@jimmydean5663bullsheeeit
@jimmydean5663lmbo smh
Hmmmm
He said he wanted to be aggressive in bed and she went through d
S. A previous
Absolutely agree with this, experienced this!!! I can't be with someone who doesn't elevate themselves. IT feels like you drowning slowly, when you loose yourself and lose interest in everything.
The problem is sometimes both genders want to be chased by everybody and be attractive for everybody.
Their wishes came true.
They are attractive for everybody and chased by everybody.
Except for the one they have the love, empathy and gratitude for.
they give the energy out to the world, instead of going inward and changing their mindset.
Their mindset should be I want to be attractive to one person and be attracted to one person who is compatible fo me.
It takes a lot to end a marriage, and it takes a lot of strength. She did not settle. I envy such women.
Me too
No it doesnt, their is no risk for women
@@hallowakers3d2y”There” is a lot of risk for women. It’s hard to make it on your own.
@@Toni_Snarkso don't leave
@@mrmoralman1but we must risk it for happiness mate
Derrick speaks the kind of truth that even if your mind is in denial, your spirit just agrees. God bless you for seeking to heal and speaking truth to life!
💯
The irony of you talking about this
Exactly.
It’s was life or death for me. He literally was sucking the life out of me. Financially emotionally and physically. I chose ME
So true! Some people marry someone they should not have married. Take everything to God in prayer. He will tell you what to do and how to do it.
The ones who get mad are vexed they lost their narcissistic supply. When you are emotionally mature, you grasp the benefit that decision was for both her and her and husband. 🔥☝️
I totally agree with you. I lost a lot of people after my divorce, but you know what, I didn't lose myself. Everyone has the right to do what's best for themselves, even if it upsets people.
This is my EXACT story. I met my ex-husband at 24. I was in college at the time when we met. I outgrew him. He didn't follow. And that's why we are now divorced. If men are reading this, don't be stubborn and do the work. My ex came back a few years after divorce apologizing and telling me that if he could go back he would've done things better and would have given 100% of himself in the relationship. Don't make that same mistake and regret it later.
When a woman gets older, a lot of men feel that they need to exchange her for a younger, thinner, and more fertile version of their wives. And, they don't feel bad about it at all. So, I agree with her, If they are not flowing with you, then allow yourself to flow with another.
Truth. ❤
IF THEY FOUND THE PERSON MISERABLE THEN THEY HAVE TO CHANGE THEIR ATTITUDE TO THE PERSON, IF YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR COMMITMENT LATER ON THEN YOU ARE LYING AT THE ALTAR
L take
80% of divorces are initiated by women so what you just said is a fallacy
That is so rude and cruel 😢that is hard to hear . I notice that once I took better care of myself , men started to notice me 😮I ‘m doing this for myself , because I like who I am , but men see it like I’m asking them for sex 😅a lot of misunderstandings here .😅
Exactly. This is why I tell people never get married young. As u mature older u change mentally wonder why so many issues,drama,domestics in marriage and relationships stay for the wrong reasons. Have too give it too her she is keeping it 💯
This mentality is crazy: when a person is 25 yo she is not the same as when she was 18, when she is 30 is not the same as she was at 25... a 50 yo is not the same person she was when she was 35 or 40... so if the reason for not marry young is that you are evolving and becoming another person, this will happen through your entire life.
This is so true…people can change so much during a marriage particularly if the woman has leveled up. Dealing with the insecurities is hard as is the increased stress and resentment. It’s no wonder that many women who experience this simply ‘check out’
You don't enter a marriage attempting to follow different life paths or goals. That's the huge flaw with your argument right there.
If you're pursuing something to 'level up', you never should've been in the marriage to begin with. You enter a marriage to find a common goal, or dream, and work towards it together, you support eachother. You compromise, you give up wants for the long-term benefits of the relationship. You learn to be okay with being unhappy, as that's what life is. Ebbs and flows of happiness and unhappiness, and in doing so, you find contentment, peace. Even more happiness. You put the marriage first, and desires and selfishness second. Foundation for a strong marriage right there that will last 50 years.
Something like 80% of divorces are initiated by women these days. That is an absurdly high number. Half the reason is that women are incentivized to leave relationships. Alimony, divorce settlements, child support from the government. The other half is that people these days are being taught to follow selfish desires rather than investing in the people in their lives.
True happiness comes not from self-serving goals, it comes from altruism, it comes from helping other people in your life. When you dedicate your energy into investing into the relationship, working through problems. It will thrive.
When you sit there thinking about how you want to do your own thing. You've already stopped giving the relationship what it needs, and it's no surprise it fails.
If you want to pursue selfish goals in life, don't get married. It's that simple. People need to stop getting married thinking that happiness or lovey dovey feelings will last, using the marriage as a way to feel happy. That's not what it's about at all. You will never be happy in a marriage unless you actually commit to that marriage.
If you're considering getting married to someone. Talk about what kind of life you want TOGETHER. Then aim for that, work at it. Don't get married till you have this talk, and don't get married because you're happy in the moment.
The problem is sometimes both genders want to be chased by everybody and be attractive for everybody.
Their wishes came true.
They are attractive for everybody and chased by everybody.
Except for the one they have the love, empathy and gratitude for.
they give the energy out to the world, instead of going inward and changing their mindset.
Their mindset should be I want to be attractive to one person and be attracted to one person who is compatible fo me.
@@truckywuckyuwu very true, that’s how you save marriages, not just check out because your not happy.
@@gfrantz9834why isn’t HE doing his part? I’m sure she came to him and asked him to be involved with what she was researching or getting into , he probably dodged her attempts to connect to help him grow on the same path as her! Men are stagnant and many are complacent and don’t like “change” they get comfortable and lazy !
Men do it to women all the time!
Percentage of women who leave marriage compared to men says otherwise
Like Derrick Jaxn himself
It's wrong for both men and women to do it
No they don’t since 80% of divorces are initiated by women
Agreed
I am proud she chose her happiness instead of staying in a marriage that could of lead her and him unhappy WONDERFUL JOB LADY
Derrick, everything you said here validates exactly how I have felt after 22 years of marriage. I asked for a divorce in January because I have completely lost myself in my marriage and it is now time to reclaim myself. I already feel my body shifting (after gaining and losing 100# 3x throughout my marriage), eliminating stress and inflammation, my energy changing, my mood no longer fluctuating. Thank you for this. I am grateful my closest friends have already seen a change enough in me to know that this is for the greater good. Keep doing what you're doing here. Speaking the truth will help more women find their place in their own world. 🙌
You and me girl❤❤❤❤❤❤
I agree 1000000000% ❤
When ℹ divorced my ex-husband my Life as a Whole Thrived. Period
Superb video
I ended a 7 year relationship for the same reasons. Both partners should be on the same page, support each other's dreams, grow and build each other up, you can't expect someone to remain the same after years of being together.
7 year itch - you are a literal statistic
I’m sorry but you just left your partner for no response at all that could be talked about for better or for worse
@@michaelvamper5793 people are selfish
People can remain to grow together or separate , most men don’t want to grow they stay stagnant !
Of course you'd agree with her. You're the same type of person who did the same thing to your own spouse.
exactly.
Yeah, self serving interests. He got bored in his relationship so he sought some strange from other women. Of course he'd support the divorce for selfish reasons. Rather than telling people to work on it and compromise, find a path together. Which is what marriage is supposed to be.
I salute you for calling the Bull Crap
Hey Derrick ;)) ur absolutely right! That "stress" she would have suffered & subjected her husband to would have turned to resentment. Resentment = Unhappy & Unhealthy marriage...
However, did she communicate how she was feeling/ outgrowing her husband actually to him?? They could have tried counselling?
@@VW-pb8gewhy it didn’t make no difference
Derrick if you ever get this message tell me what the heck is this BS can I get a hung? I've had a couple of men ask me that. I'm a very sociable woman and some men equate that to being easy and lonely which I'm neither. I'm 62 and don't want to be bothered with idiots!
Then get a divorce! Yes, feelings do change, but don’t CHEAT on your spouse as you did Derrick. You cause trauma that way.
Marriage is about the two of you. You don't get married for feelings you get married to foster a life long partnership. You don't get married and then pursue selfish goals. You don't get divorced in a marriage because of a rough patch, or boredom.
People are sitting here condoning divorce because of feelings, when true love isn't built on that at all. Feelings of infatuation, butterflies. Those will come and go. They are not a sound basis for a marriage, and if you're getting divorced because your feelings change, you never should've been married in the first place.
Marriage fails because of selfishness. Put the marriage first, then yourself second. Work through your problems, find a path together. Don't just get married because someone currently makes you wet and happy. That's not what a marriage is about at all. There are years in life where happiness is hard to come by. You'll never be in a fulfilling relationship if that's what you're looking for from your partner.
@@truckywuckyuwu Amen the way these people talking in the commmets they are one of the main reasons the divorce rate is so high besides actual cheaters
damn my dudes views are in the shitter
I think you are brilliant, it would behoove woman to heed this lesson. Thank you and keep up the good work.
I married at 20 years old but my husband would not do right. I divorce him within a 1 year and 1/2 never married again. Never be unhappy love yourself.
My husband ''would not do right''
Wtf does that even mean?
How are you still a this??😳 crazy
Nowadays we need to be into growth if we want to be in a relationship. Also, relationships come and go, they work until our soul receives what it needs from it, learning, healing, etc. That's why we have multiple ones in a lifetime. We need to be mature and secure enough to allow others to grow and choose to grow with them. It must be a mutual desire and understanding.
Very well professionally put. 🌹
Same here, but after 34 years.
It’s certainly up to her, but there’s no guarantee on the second act. Marriage is not supposed to be a disposable proposition. If you’re not serious, then, don’t sign up for it. Certainly not going to tell her what to do with her life, but, I’m trying to figure out if she’s just planning on staying single, the rest of her life or whether she thinks marriage minded men are plentiful?
Sometimes that does happen. I've been through that, and I had to step away 😮
I totally agree - I married at 20 and should have never gotten married. I was niave and not developed. If I had the choice to go back, I'd choose independence and me.
She would have lost herself
Great powerful presentation! Wow... Unfortunately, we are not taught that a couple's individual Vision of a marriage/committed relationship may become the Huge breaking point. No One teaches us this, in advance. As fragile, fantasy-based, and hidden as that expansive 'ideal love' walking-on-air (for many) vision is ~ it could manifest itself down the road as shocking and sorrowful quicksand. Early love coming together is the crucial time to do the revealing work, first. Peeling back the layers of "idealness" with plenty of "What ifs" is not very romantic, but it's ground-building for healthy boundaries. And even then, who's to predict how life lessons (and especially opportunities) skews our vision along the way of life's path? I don't know about you, but that's asking quite a lot of necessary 'what-if's' of the initial mere, yet extremely-powerful, romantic attraction. True, honorable love of oneself and (equally of) one's beloved is an admirable quest ~ and not for the faint-of-heart.
💯
I did that I gave up my dream and married before I was ready and I knew I wasn't ready but because I didn't want to hurt other people's feelings mostly his because he really wanted to marry me at that time then later on he ended up dumping me after 9 years of marriage.
Her husband sounds like he wasn't willing to grow and grow with her 🤔
For heaven sake clean up ur ears and hear it again. Obv she said her husband wasn't the problem clearly. He provided for her and when she was able to stand in her own two legs she no longer needed him and decided to leave him. Nothing but brutal cold heartedness. Maybe her husband couldn't be financially successful as her but he still provided and was with her all the way to the end. And what she gives him in return? A divorce.
Why is anyone still following him
Why are u on his UA-cam channel
Ppl love what makes them feel good
Gotta love when they answer the question with a question^^^^^^^^^
He not perfect u not either people can keep going even after they fall.
@@dollyjohnson5848yall need help
Jealousy and insecurities
Gaslighting maybe
Imho, one should always pray about their potential spouse "Before" making such a huge life decision. This world has influenced such disorder that most end up in this type of situation. I do not judge this lady but i pray for all going through this same scenario.
I married too young and the same things were happening.
When you get married you are not married the present person, you are married his future self!!!
Marriage is not easy people are two individuals with different upbringing teaching and family values and are merging into one !!! so sometimes we do become unequally yoked
I’m sure there was more to the story that got her to that place. There were enough signs aside from her just growing that he couldn’t handle being where she is now. I’m happy for her bc that’s not an easy thing to do. I’m speaking from experience. You go girl!
I applaud a strong woman who understands her self worth and is not afraid to stand up for it regardless of other’s opinions! ❤
She should’ve knew herself before jumping into something it takes you until you’re late 20’s to figure it out
Self worth is important indeed. That’s why when your married your husband should be able to support your needs, which will be a healthy marriage, instead of being selfish
I completely understand her.. I was always planning for the future and my husband stayed in a lack mentality mindset.. and I Felt like he was slowing down my growth.. energy transmutes.. I went to school as well and he started soon after I did. He graduated and didn’t even want to walk the stage.. we were married for 25 years. I divorced him when I was 45.. and have been blessed and abundant in every aspect of my life..
"I divorced my husband because he was slowing me down."
That's basically what you're saying, which is pretty terrible.
@@True253 I pray your life is full of abundance in all aspects of life.🙏🏼🙏🏼
"I felt like he was slowing down my growth"
The thing I'm seeing in common on all of these people talking about their divorces, is how selfish they turned at one point. Instead of investing into the relationship, communicating, finding a path to take together. One partner takes a path they want, and leaves the other behind.
This is why one person is the leader in the relationship, and one the follower. It doesn't work when both people are going after selfish goals.
Glad you're happy right now, Hope it continues. Life gets lonely past 50 without a partner and family.
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@@True253it’s just facts bro
I love this because men will always do what they need to do but why can't women she just did what she needed to do that's all there's nothing wrong with that.
Because misogyny exists
It’s called being selfish
Truth
I love it
I want to understand who men and women are ❤
Relationships these days are pointless. Swipe right culture ruined unions, IG, Facebook, etc etc. made dating and or relationships expendable
Two are only equally yoked until it is no longer. Until the lesson(s) are taught/learned. God will place you where you're needed. He will give you people for HIS purpose...it's all about energy and clearing it!
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People have to grow together, especially if you’re in a marriage/committed relationship . If you don’t, you outgrow one another. If you’re truly in love then you would be growing as a unit. You would never have outgrown one another. Everybody has free will to do what they need to do. And that is yours and only your choice to make. Society as a whole myself included need to look at your their own life. If your life was so perfect, you wouldn’t be looking at a video like that and if you do that, which is your free will you don’t have to pass judgment. Look up to God for judgment in your own life before passing it on to another. Show grace to another in all matters and you will be rewarded. God matters to me. Amen.
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needed to hear this👍🏽
The problem is sometimes both genders want to be chased by everybody and be attractive for everybody.
Their wishes came true.
They are attractive for everybody and chased by everybody.
Except for the one they have the love, empathy and gratitude for.
they give the energy out to the world, instead of going inward and changing their mindset.
Their mindset should be I want to be attractive to one person and be attracted to one person who is compatible fo me.
Yeah… that’s why people like her and Jackson shouldn’t get married but have a situationship only.
I agree with her
She was basically saying, I should have been a hoe first then get married.
So he was good enough to be the bread winner and support her and when she got her own all of sudden she’s got a change of heart!? Please she want to go get some more out there. These women watched too much Sex in the City!
Don’t get married if you have no desire to do life together! Kids 10 years old in other countries with more emotional intelligence and strength than these people today. Especially in the states.
This woman is a late bloomer and saying “I do” in a marriage is extremely dangerous.
Most men don't like women who grow and advance. Like Derrick says, insecurity! 💯 Ladies, do what you gotta do.
I want to get married though
Staying with that foo, would have been a major betrayal to the teachings of my father and grandfather
I've decided, to align myself with someone who isn't afraid to love 😘💕 or be afraid of love and is open to exploring love with me 🤩💗
Good luck! 🙂
she used him.
As she should as every woman should
She did the wright tingh !!!
Let him free to chose another woman that wanted the same thighs as him...!!
Hey Derrick 😊
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He got used.
No he just didn’t grow with her. Men get comfortable and think they know everything, their women can’t do more than them they have to settle for unhappiness and dim their light for the men but men won’t sacrifice nothing for them. My ex husband says the same about me and now his ex girlfriend and he didn’t make either of us better. We left him to get better. With some men the math ain’t mathing
Truth is everyone is using everyone or here to their own advantage in one way or another, so you not saying anything because they were both using each other all along 🤷🏽♀️
@@KamilaSage31 You used your ex husband too. Hope he knows you did him a favor.
Me in the future still getting it. ❤❤❤