I'm glad I got divorced 20 years ago ,my ex was such a lousy cook we used to pray after we ate.I remember for our honeymoon she asked me to take her somewhere she'd never been before ,so I took her to the kitchen!
@@john-griffin Thanks and by the way I started my own dating sight for older guys it's called Carbon Dating you might like to tell your growing legion of subscribers about it. I got a couple of responses and asked one lady for her number and she replied 140 over 65.......
Hi John, im going through my divorce at the moment. It's so difficult. But you're videos have been such a support. And I just wanted you to know that I appreciate the energy you invest in making these videos. Regardless of the monetary upside from UA-cam, I want you to know that even if no UA-cam monetary upside, there is a man sat in the UK that have helped emotionally! What I'm trying to say, I think you'll never fully comprehend the ripple effects of your work!
Going through one right now, it's getting disgustingly ugly. I feel I may not get through this, it's so unfair and my kids are suffering because they don't get to see me as much. I'm losing damn near everything because she was a stay at home mom.
@@northernmichigan4108 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Divorce is incredibly hard, and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed by everything happening right now. Please know that you’re stronger than you think, and even though it’s painful now, this chapter won’t last forever. Your kids will always love you, no matter what, and the bond you share with them can never be taken away. Focus on the small steps forward. Take it one day at a time, and remember that you have the strength to get through this. Listening to John It does help too.
@northernmichigan4108 Hang in there, brother. If you're truly in Northern Michigan, this time of year can get pretty gloomy. I'm at the tip of the mitten, just a few miles from Mackinaw City, and I've only seen the sun one day in the last week or so. Keep moving and keep that winter depression away. Best of luck to you with your divorce.
My divorce started in 2019. Everything this man says will help you. Yes you’re going to get screwed but it sure is nice being free. It took three years to get the divorce decree but when it’s all over, it sure is nice. Get a truck with a camper shell.. there’s a lot of us out here.
Same here after 12 Years beeing married ,then divorced and then 1 Year in a Relationship with a wrong Person who destroyed me totally $$ so i loose trust in Women completely..... Wish you a good and healthy Year 2025 John, God bless you Sir - Marc, 45 from Münster in Germany
Thank you brother. I am 6 months deep separated. Going to divorce. I was cheated on - she cheated w several men over a 4 year period. Trying to just stay on earth and fight through. You mean a lot to me, your southern friend that you’ve never met
Another incredible contritbution to Men being better in 2025 John. I live and die on the belife that a Man has to make daily improvements at 5 things to live a great life. 1. Faith (Get closer to God) 2. Fitness/ Health (ensure you WONT rely on Meds or wheelchairs at 70 ) 3. Intelligence (constantly add new wrinkles to your mind) 4. Confidence (You should always view yourself in the highest regard, regardless of how others feel) 5. Finance. (Money is how you access freedom, make alot of it)
Today the weather in North Jutland, Denmark 🇩🇰 was almost the same as your video, John. A little less snow though. Had a very short work day, went out to the trail in a local forest, walked 4,5 miles. It’s fun and amazing how thinking about life in freezing, fresh nature creates better thoughts. Almost 4 years now as a bachelor. Some of your videos spin in my head on a walk like today being reminded how great it is to be single at 54. I met 4 people today on the trail. Two with dogs and all guys. I bet they were single and if not their wives were at home being on instagram instead of outside in real life. I ate bacon and eggs for dinner with no vegetables 😂The freedom to have a weekend I decide. Not even being tempted to date anymore. This is the free life to do exactly what I want. This is balsam for the soul 😂 Have a great weekend everyone
My wife passed 6 years ago and I'm not even looking.I don't even try i'm happy In my own skin I feel just fine.I'm focusing on all my blessings.I'm retired now and I'm doing great financially.I have no complaints.My health is not what it used to be but I'm taken care of what I have like a marine.I love my life.I love living.Had a hard life but a good life
I recorded two different music albums this year. It took me the entirety of 2024 to accomplish that goal, but I never would’ve done it if I was still married. She never would’ve allowed it.
Thanks for the common sense you bring to these videos. This is like a men's support group therapy to get over a divorce. I never wanted mine, but it's 80% of women initiated the divorce, and 40% of them regret that they lost someone who truly cared. Thus, they blow up the family due to selfishness and being short-sighted due to being controlled by their emotions instead of rational long-term thinking logically. It's been 8 years since the divorce, and I've learned to heal, forgive, and love myself unconditionally, and become my own very best friend. I love the peace, serenity, and calmness in my home. I'm a good cook, and now I have money to spend, and more importantly, invest for the day I will actually need it. I go where I want, when I want, without having to argue over it. I've learned that I'm my own best company. It takes time to learn this. A companion for a dinner date, maybe, but I love my life and really don't want a live-in to spoil a good thing. Hope this helps someone else. 😊❤😊
Same as you, I didn't want the divorce. But there was no discussion. Just gone and papers served. Also like you, I'm really starting to enjoy the peace and doing my own thing. I can't imagine ever giving that up again.
100 percent on point, when I changed my perspective and asked myself what I can learn today, I started viewing challenges as an opportunity to grow and my life has never been the same. I'm so much happier, full of energy. And now I have the confidence that I can do anything... So much so that I landed a job at Google with just a high school diploma and now my next challenge is learning how to fly a plane and starting a business. Like F it one day I will die why not see how far I can go. Love your content man 🙏🏿
It's snowing now, 22 degrees and clouds. This is a good message for men of all ages. Stay healthy guys. For example , a young man, single, Jonathan Gant in the Philippines had surgery on his heart reported sunshine shoulders recently. Jonathan is from Federal Way Washington. On Christmas eve he was buying toys for over 70 children in Cebu, when he had a medical emergency. $$ donations are being accepted..............just finished working out here at home on the Gazelle power machine
This channel, and your wisdom are incredibly valuable - I'm 36, been through about 8 years of (mostly bad) relationships.... and this is the sauce, you tell it like it is, while staying optimistic.... real, without being black pilled - and it's great advice not just for relationships but for life itself And it's also just very encouraging Have to say thank you This is an invaluable resource - that just a few words do not do justice, because I listen a lot, and get more out of it each time - so thank you
this is your best video (especially in cold weather) - a great balance between the good and the bad. you made an excellent point on working on yourself before getting into a relationship. relationships go more smoothly if your woman is really into you. if she's not, you'll constantly get lip service because she secretly resents "settling" for you.
The best relationship starts with yourself. With pleasure everything in moderation as well like ice cream for example. Pleasure can be like a cheat day but don't make it a cheat month. With life as part of duality it is about pain and suffering amd joy. We have to go through it and process it. Dont swim against the current swim with the current.
OMG !... This is a Amazing video of wisdom. Maybe your best ever! I needed to hear this right now. I have had some bad health issues lately and this video is reinforcing what my therapist and sister expressed to me. This is just part of life. Sure this isn't the first time I've had crap to deal with, but this new issue seems to be bothering me more than other issues in the past. So I'm going to watch this one again and again, to help me out with it, ...except it, like you are talking about. Thanks John !!!
I think the main thing i need to work on his being kinder in my mind to others, but on the other hand, not being passive with people who deserve to be put in their place.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
Good advice John. Stop trying to make people like you , stop simping to women, accept who you are and just try to love yourself. Im in my 50s and im finally starting to learn all this now. Better late than never I guess
Hey John, great video!! Yes, I used to be very self conscious about my simples. I became very shy for many years, only to recognize years later it was a compliment. We are all ok just the way we are. You have to believe it, cuz if you don’t , no one else will. Thanks
In addition to the thoughts on life skills, I love your sense of humor, John. And informality. These things make you very relatable and credible. As someone that has had a similar latter-year life path, albeit a shade bit older in years than you, I look forward each day to your personal thoughts of wisdom.
Thanks for sharing these very useful principles with us. What make them more memorable in our heads is when you add a personal experience in them, like what you went through with your nose.
I am transitioning . In a marriage that is not working love sex and intimacy are gone and my spouse hates me. I am miserable not able to do as I want always have to ask permission can’t just be me I need peace of mind and come and go as I please
I get it. Been dealing with this forever. But, I'm the type of man who has things work out the way I envisage.. or plan. Even if it does take a few cycles things always seem to work out the way I want.. I know this so I don't worry.. uncertainty is there but I go with the flow for best results
I got over my big nose after I moved to a more ethnically diverse area. I like the way you summed up being a better man for yourself and not necessarily a woman
I’m 44 financially stable I don’t even want to reach out to a woman cause I amassed so much knowledge wealth health and I feel all I sacrificed will go unnoticed cause they just won’t understand the hardships I had to go through to get to the point I am at today. Btw no kids never married educated employed . I know I dodged a lot and will continue dodging for my freedom.
So, from what you have said, the corollary is: if you marry purely for pleasure, such as pride or physical attraction, you are setting yourself up to pay a large price later on. That sounds true! With a bit more work on that, you could develop sound criteria for selecting a marriage partner. Edit: Clearly marriage isn’t for everyone, so what type of person is it right for?
Every 5 yrs after 50 learn to gracefully let go of the things you cant hold on to any more un till your dead the sooner you accept this the happyer you will be!! Here is an example AT WHAT AGE ARE YOU GIVING UP THE FANTASY OF CLIMBING MOUNT EVEREST!!!!!
Love your content...reminds me of what I was told in my 20s, " all women mary a guy planning to change him, all men marry a woman hoping she never changes". Married 35 years now. No she isn't the same girl i married and im sure im not the same guy. I have plenty of gripes. Maybe she does too ( but i cant imagining why). Just turned 60. Silver divorce won't work for everyone but remember: Be as faithful to yourself as you are to her, you may want and encourage her to be happy but that is ultimately a her issue. Finally, there comes a point where you must relinquish your urge to fix every problem, change every light bulb, pick up every bill ( yes, im talking about kids)....so.... stay happy....stay strong.....take physical and mental care of yourself....and if you stay married...love her for who she is today
Nice place, where are you? Awesome content always thank you, I play it in my car when my 19 year old son is with me, we all need to learn from experience, I have learned the hard way myself.
Thanks again for the pep talk. The free advice you provided is very helpful and useful. I always hated my big nose, especially growing up, but I learned it just makes you stand out and it never really faulted me getting attractive women . Adrien Brody? even Harrison Ford have weird noses.
Dear John, I have watched merely half of your video, and I have so many comments already! I am 99.99% sure that I will sound like an odd dude, a religious fanatic, or something, and like a cocky patroniser, but I don`t have the luxury to care: it is all up to you what you`ll think, and it is my task to try to be useful to you in this. I. comment: 3:49 - Uncertainty is not only the essence, but it gives life A VALUE! What I mean by that is that in faith, a person gives credit to the God! Imagine that! Still, today the true faith is as rare as a good marriage (this is a joke and a true story at the same time).
Divorcing. I’m moving into my new home, a one bedroom apartment tomorrow. I can’t stop missing what my wife and I once had and how alone I now am going to be.
I’m in that place now. Divorced and separated for 18 months. I feel hollow and deeply depressed despite trying all the therapy, medication, and UA-cam videos.
@@JayS-j9d Believe in yourself, you can do it and you are worth it! Put yourself first now! Im almost a year seperated still waiting for divorce to finalize, had to sell house that we lived in, am in a single bedroom flat, still hard but it gets easier as time goes on, I gym a little every morning cause I wake up at 04:00 in morning with anxiety and it helps to face the day, learn to love yourself!!
A waste of time to be a better man. You never hear about women wanting to be better women. Being a better man got you in trouble with women and marriage in the first place. Your job is to love yourself and make yourself happy. That’s it. If you do that every day, your life will be a success. Being a better man just invites trouble.
Thanks for sharing today. For example Judge Stephen Yekel of the Effingham county state court in Springfield Ga, took his own life, Jan 2025; Andrew Lansing, Ohio correctional officer dies in Christmas day assault, 2024. This was avoidable says officials😢............ Be safe guys in 2025 going forward
@john-griffin so who is flying ? It and the sound quality is so good there's a lot of tech going on here. Love the input. I'm sure a lot of men need your input. Thankyou!
Some thinking thay some call being an eternal optamist is just wishfull that will never cpme true,,,,MY POINT IS THIS. ETERNALY SOME PEEPS WILL NEVER BECOME COMMERCIAL AIR LINE PILOTS
Now that you’re a hugely successful UA-cam billionaire, don’t get tempted to change that 😢beautiful nose. 😂 I know several people who’ve hated their new nose.
Do you think we seek out strength in a mate to compliment a physical weakness in us. My shortest sister married my tallest brother in law. Women with blue eyes melt me. But my dad has blue eyes and he married brown eyed women women who are pretty but have not the best noses are highly attracted to me and have told me I have the perfect nose..
Thank you John. I hit the crossroads in 2000. What you're saying here is what my mentor said to me, he saved my life. I never understood how talking things through can change everything. It's the new insight to understanding yourself. I accept change, it's out of my control. It was the most powerful thing I could do, once I started to understand how life really works. Before that my mind was in a bubble. I am so much wiser now and still learning. All young men need to hear your wise words. Thank you for your excellent videos of wisdom.
I'm glad I got divorced 20 years ago ,my ex was such a lousy cook we used to pray after we ate.I remember for our honeymoon she asked me to take her somewhere she'd never been before ,so I took her to the kitchen!
That is hilarious! You’re great👍
Funny and probably true
Broooootal
@@john-griffin Thanks and by the way I started my own dating sight for older guys it's called Carbon Dating you might like to tell your growing legion of subscribers about it. I got a couple of responses and asked one lady for her number and she replied 140 over 65.......
You must have been one of Rodney Dangerfield's writers. :D
Hi John, im going through my divorce at the moment. It's so difficult. But you're videos have been such a support. And I just wanted you to know that I appreciate the energy you invest in making these videos. Regardless of the monetary upside from UA-cam, I want you to know that even if no UA-cam monetary upside, there is a man sat in the UK that have helped emotionally! What I'm trying to say, I think you'll never fully comprehend the ripple effects of your work!
Going through one right now, it's getting disgustingly ugly. I feel I may not get through this, it's so unfair and my kids are suffering because they don't get to see me as much. I'm losing damn near everything because she was a stay at home mom.
@@northernmichigan4108 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Divorce is incredibly hard, and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed by everything happening right now. Please know that you’re stronger than you think, and even though it’s painful now, this chapter won’t last forever. Your kids will always love you, no matter what, and the bond you share with them can never be taken away. Focus on the small steps forward. Take it one day at a time, and remember that you have the strength to get through this. Listening to John It does help too.
@northernmichigan4108 Hang in there, brother. If you're truly in Northern Michigan, this time of year can get pretty gloomy. I'm at the tip of the mitten, just a few miles from Mackinaw City, and I've only seen the sun one day in the last week or so.
Keep moving and keep that winter depression away.
Best of luck to you with your divorce.
My divorce started in 2019. Everything this man says will help you. Yes you’re going to get screwed but it sure is nice being free. It took three years to get the divorce decree but when it’s all over, it sure is nice. Get a truck with a camper shell.. there’s a lot of us out here.
Same here after 12 Years beeing married ,then divorced and then 1 Year in a Relationship with a wrong Person who destroyed me totally $$ so i loose trust in Women completely..... Wish you a good and healthy Year 2025 John, God bless you Sir -
Marc, 45 from Münster in Germany
Thank you brother. I am 6 months deep separated. Going to divorce. I was cheated on - she cheated w several men over a 4 year period. Trying to just stay on earth and fight through. You mean a lot to me, your southern friend that you’ve never met
Thanks!
I am going thru the same journey brother. Stay strong, and understand that you are not the problem.
You have many men with you. 💪
Fight, dont let an immoral person be your downfall.
@@parkinglot4956 An army of us, every day women are adding more battalions.
Another incredible contritbution to Men being better in 2025 John. I live and die on the belife that a Man has to make daily improvements at 5 things to live a great life. 1. Faith (Get closer to God) 2. Fitness/ Health (ensure you WONT rely on Meds or wheelchairs at 70 ) 3. Intelligence (constantly add new wrinkles to your mind) 4. Confidence (You should always view yourself in the highest regard, regardless of how others feel) 5. Finance. (Money is how you access freedom, make alot of it)
@@Cjwilkins1989 thanks! Excellent advice!
I co-sign on all five of those. That list should be posted on every man's wall.
This is pretty good, more or less.
@@Falconlibraryit's a good list.
Could add that confidence often is the byproduct of competence and accomplishing what you set out to do in many other states goals
Today the weather in North Jutland, Denmark 🇩🇰 was almost the same as your video, John. A little less snow though. Had a very short work day, went out to the trail in a local forest, walked 4,5 miles. It’s fun and amazing how thinking about life in freezing, fresh nature creates better thoughts. Almost 4 years now as a bachelor. Some of your videos spin in my head on a walk like today being reminded how great it is to be single at 54. I met 4 people today on the trail. Two with dogs and all guys. I bet they were single and if not their wives were at home being on instagram instead of outside in real life. I ate bacon and eggs for dinner with no vegetables 😂The freedom to have a weekend I decide. Not even being tempted to date anymore. This is the free life to do exactly what I want. This is balsam for the soul 😂 Have a great weekend everyone
My wife passed 6 years ago and I'm not even looking.I don't even try i'm happy In my own skin I feel just fine.I'm focusing on all my blessings.I'm retired now and I'm doing great financially.I have no complaints.My health is not what it used to be but I'm taken care of what I have like a marine.I love my life.I love living.Had a hard life but a good life
Bacon and eggs for dinner now that's living.
I recorded two different music albums this year. It took me the entirety of 2024 to accomplish that goal, but I never would’ve done it if I was still married. She never would’ve allowed it.
@Freedom-Fighter1 👍👍
Thanks for the common sense you bring to these videos. This is like a men's support group therapy to get over a divorce. I never wanted mine, but it's 80% of women initiated the divorce, and 40% of them regret that they lost someone who truly cared. Thus, they blow up the family due to selfishness and being short-sighted due to being controlled by their emotions instead of rational long-term thinking logically.
It's been 8 years since the divorce, and I've learned to heal, forgive, and love myself unconditionally, and become my own very best friend. I love the peace, serenity, and calmness in my home. I'm a good cook, and now I have money to spend, and more importantly, invest for the day I will actually need it.
I go where I want, when I want, without having to argue over it.
I've learned that I'm my own best company. It takes time to learn this. A companion for a dinner date, maybe, but I love my life and really don't want a live-in to spoil a good thing. Hope this helps someone else. 😊❤😊
Thanks for sharing your story
Same as you, I didn't want the divorce. But there was no discussion. Just gone and papers served.
Also like you, I'm really starting to enjoy the peace and doing my own thing. I can't imagine ever giving that up again.
Agree on the importance of fitness. Health is wealth!
Thanks a lot John, you have no idea how much your content has helped all of us, love from India!
Exactly
I’m 23 years old. I love your channel. You’ve given me a lot of great advice!
Glad you're finding it helpful!
100 percent on point, when I changed my perspective and asked myself what I can learn today, I started viewing challenges as an opportunity to grow and my life has never been the same. I'm so much happier, full of energy. And now I have the confidence that I can do anything... So much so that I landed a job at Google with just a high school diploma and now my next challenge is learning how to fly a plane and starting a business. Like F it one day I will die why not see how far I can go. Love your content man 🙏🏿
It's snowing now, 22 degrees and clouds. This is a good message for men of all ages. Stay healthy guys. For example , a young man, single, Jonathan Gant in the Philippines had surgery on his heart reported sunshine shoulders recently. Jonathan is from Federal Way Washington. On Christmas eve he was buying toys for over 70 children in Cebu, when he had a medical emergency. $$ donations are being accepted..............just finished working out here at home on the Gazelle power machine
This channel, and your wisdom are incredibly valuable - I'm 36, been through about 8 years of (mostly bad) relationships.... and this is the sauce, you tell it like it is, while staying optimistic.... real, without being black pilled - and it's great advice not just for relationships but for life itself
And it's also just very encouraging
Have to say thank you
This is an invaluable resource - that just a few words do not do justice, because I listen a lot, and get more out of it each time - so thank you
2:10 the idea that life is about solving problems is an amazing insight and that is the purpose of life!!!!!
Wow, totally mind Blown!!!!
Every challenge and setback is in opportunity to live heroically.
💯
this is your best video (especially in cold weather) - a great balance between the good and the bad. you made an excellent point on working on yourself before getting into a relationship. relationships go more smoothly if your woman is really into you. if she's not, you'll constantly get lip service because she secretly resents "settling" for you.
I need a mission I need clarity I need meaning I need to move forward
The best relationship starts with yourself. With pleasure everything in moderation as well like ice cream for example. Pleasure can be like a cheat day but don't make it a cheat month. With life as part of duality it is about pain and suffering amd joy. We have to go through it and process it. Dont swim against the current swim with the current.
Excellent points!
FIGHT! FIGHT! FIGHT!
OMG !... This is a Amazing video of wisdom. Maybe your best ever! I needed to hear this right now. I have had some bad health issues lately and this video is reinforcing what my therapist and sister expressed to me. This is just part of life. Sure this isn't the first time I've had crap to deal with, but this new issue seems to be bothering me more than other issues in the past. So I'm going to watch this one again and again, to help me out with it, ...except it, like you are talking about. Thanks John !!!
It's not selfish to put yourself first, it's necessary. Stay strong my Brothers.
.
Yes agree, if you aren't right with your self you have no gas in the tank for others
With age, comes experience, which is one thing we dont have the benefit of when we are young. Words of wisdom. Thanks John!
Great video, John! Content rich video, one of your best.
I appreciate you saying that! Thanks
That was great, John. Really enjoy your perspective. Have a great day. Thanks.
Glad you found it helpful!
Thanks John, every man should give the youtube summarized version of Marcus Aurelius diaries a listen. It's 30 minute long and great life advice.
I think the main thing i need to work on his being kinder in my mind to others, but on the other hand, not being passive with people who deserve to be put in their place.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
You're a very nice and smart guy, thank you
This video was the best start to my Saturday morning. Spot on.
Good advice John. Stop trying to make people like you , stop simping to women, accept who you are and just try to love yourself. Im in my 50s and im finally starting to learn all this now. Better late than never I guess
I heard from someone, live each day like it's your last, because it might well be. Thinking, action and discovering! Be useful. Great video.
Thanks, that's a great way to live!
Signed the divorce papers today! Your channel has been amazing in terms of insight, support, and encouragement. Thanks!
Glad you found it helpful. All the best to you!
Hey John, great video!!
Yes, I used to be very self conscious about my simples. I became very shy for many years, only to recognize years later it was a compliment. We are all ok just the way we are. You have to believe it, cuz if you don’t , no one else will.
Thanks
Well said!
In addition to the thoughts on life skills, I love your sense of humor, John. And informality. These things make you very relatable and credible. As someone that has had a similar latter-year life path, albeit a shade bit older in years than you, I look forward each day to your personal thoughts of wisdom.
I appreciate that, thanks!
Pure stoic philosophy gold. Marcus Aurelius would be proud. Excellent work.
One Love John, One Love.
We must earn the things we want from life, no one's gonna give it to us nor return what others took from us.
Thanks for sharing these very useful principles with us. What make them more memorable in our heads is when you add a personal experience in them, like what you went through with your nose.
I am transitioning . In a marriage that is not working love sex and intimacy are gone and my spouse hates me. I am miserable not able to do as I want always have to ask permission can’t just be me I need peace of mind and come and go as I please
I get it. Been dealing with this forever. But, I'm the type of man who has things work out the way I envisage.. or plan. Even if it does take a few cycles things always seem to work out the way I want.. I know this so I don't worry.. uncertainty is there but I go with the flow for best results
I got over my big nose after I moved to a more ethnically diverse area. I like the way you summed up being a better man for yourself and not necessarily a woman
Hey John. Buy and use a 20lb weight vest when you go hiking. It's a game changer. Burn more calories, heart rate goes up, get in better shape faster.
Good advice!
Thank you, great video. 👍👍
Thanks, CJ! I’m going to use some of your advice.
You're welcome!
I’m 44 financially stable I don’t even want to reach out to a woman cause I amassed so much knowledge wealth health and I feel all I sacrificed will go unnoticed cause they just won’t understand the hardships I had to go through to get to the point I am at today. Btw no kids never married educated employed . I know I dodged a lot and will continue dodging for my freedom.
Thank you John! Powerful!!!
I’m glad you found it helpful.
John..I am a female listening to your videos! I love them! BTW..I always loved the look of a large nose on a man! ❤❤❤Perfect!
Thanks! I’m glad you are enjoying the videos.
Brilliant work john
Thanks
John you have a lot of wisdom thank you for passing it a long.
John thanks a mill for all your videos
So, from what you have said, the corollary is: if you marry purely for pleasure, such as pride or physical attraction, you are setting yourself up to pay a large price later on. That sounds true! With a bit more work on that, you could develop sound criteria for selecting a marriage partner. Edit: Clearly marriage isn’t for everyone, so what type of person is it right for?
Thanks John great video.
Glad you enjoyed it
Thank you.
You're welcome!
Damn good, thanks.
You keep putting out great content!!
Thank You, John..from the SW side of VA.
Thanks for listening
Another FANTASTIC VIDEO!!!
Thanks again!
Every 5 yrs after 50 learn to gracefully let go of the things you cant hold on to any more un till your dead the sooner you accept this the happyer you will be!! Here is an example AT WHAT AGE ARE YOU GIVING UP THE FANTASY OF CLIMBING MOUNT EVEREST!!!!!
The Pug abides.
Hey John, I've watched many of your videos, for what it's worth, I never noticed your nose, lol.
Thanks for all the good info!
Great clarity on the video wow!
Glad it was helpful!
Stop drinking!!!!
I stopped the day she left, and I'll start again if she comes back!
Fantastic..😂😂
Thanks
Love your content...reminds me of what I was told in my 20s, " all women mary a guy planning to change him, all men marry a woman hoping she never changes". Married 35 years now. No she isn't the same girl i married and im sure im not the same guy. I have plenty of gripes. Maybe she does too ( but i cant imagining why). Just turned 60. Silver divorce won't work for everyone but remember: Be as faithful to yourself as you are to her, you may want and encourage her to be happy but that is ultimately a her issue. Finally, there comes a point where you must relinquish your urge to fix every problem, change every light bulb, pick up every bill ( yes, im talking about kids)....so.... stay happy....stay strong.....take physical and mental care of yourself....and if you stay married...love her for who she is today
You should have changed your user name before responding Rachel
Nice place, where are you? Awesome content always thank you, I play it in my car when my 19 year old son is with me, we all need to learn from experience, I have learned the hard way myself.
Fantastic Videos,, thank you, your valuable back story is helping save so many men’s sanity & lives. They can relate saying I’m not alone.
Appreciate you saying that!
thanks john
@@michaelm293 glad you enjoyed it
Thankful everyday for this guy. Best channel I came across in 2024. Giving the advice I could never get from my father.
Thanks again for the pep talk. The free advice you provided is very helpful and useful. I always hated my big nose, especially growing up, but I learned it just makes you stand out and it never really faulted me getting attractive women . Adrien Brody? even Harrison Ford have weird noses.
Big nose, big feet, big ….
Dear John, I have watched merely half of your video, and I have so many comments already!
I am 99.99% sure that I will sound like an odd dude, a religious fanatic, or something, and like a cocky patroniser, but I don`t have the luxury to care: it is all up to you what you`ll think, and it is my task to try to be useful to you in this.
I. comment:
3:49 - Uncertainty is not only the essence, but it gives life A VALUE! What I mean by that is that in faith, a person gives credit to the God! Imagine that! Still, today the true faith is as rare as a good marriage (this is a joke and a true story at the same time).
Excellent points
Get past a spouses death. Not divorce. Very difficult at first. Ouch!
problems are opportunists for change
What should I do?
Good video. 👍👍👍
Thank you 👍
Divorcing. I’m moving into my new home, a one bedroom apartment tomorrow. I can’t stop missing what my wife and I once had and how alone I now am going to be.
Hang in there.
I’m in that place now. Divorced and separated for 18 months. I feel hollow and deeply depressed despite trying all the therapy, medication, and UA-cam videos.
@@JayS-j9d Believe in yourself, you can do it and you are worth it! Put yourself first now! Im almost a year seperated still waiting for divorce to finalize, had to sell house that we lived in, am in a single bedroom flat, still hard but it gets easier as time goes on, I gym a little every morning cause I wake up at 04:00 in morning with anxiety and it helps to face the day, learn to love yourself!!
John, that was a famous line in the Sopranos about Christopher’s nose lol…..all in good fun
A waste of time to be a better man. You never hear about women wanting to be better women. Being a better man got you in trouble with women and marriage in the first place. Your job is to love yourself and make yourself happy. That’s it. If you do that every day, your life will be a success. Being a better man just invites trouble.
We're all running our own race. Comparison is the thief of a man's spirit.
I feel like John was using Skyrim as a metaphor here 😂
Using the word "Problem" isn't the correct mindset. See this as a "Challenge", not a "Problem", and life becomes much more exciting.
Cute dogs. Are they Labradoodles?
Thanks for sharing today. For example Judge Stephen Yekel of the Effingham county state court in Springfield Ga, took his own life, Jan 2025; Andrew Lansing, Ohio correctional officer dies in Christmas day assault, 2024. This was avoidable says officials😢............ Be safe guys in 2025 going forward
So sad but thanks for sharing this vital information.
See the book NESSESARY LOSSES
"covered in cheese dust" LOL
Who or what is doing the filming?
A drone
@john-griffin so who is flying ? It and the sound quality is so good there's a lot of tech going on here. Love the input. I'm sure a lot of men need your input. Thankyou!
Be an actor, simple as this
Technically we are actors in our movie.
I am not so sure there even is an "I", meaning there is no me no you
You "nose" what John we like you anyway 😅
Male self-improvement? On youtube?? Gotta be a first for everything! Jk, enjoying your videos man.
I appreciate it!
Your nose is just fine
Some thinking thay some call being an eternal optamist is just wishfull that will never cpme true,,,,MY POINT IS THIS. ETERNALY SOME PEEPS WILL NEVER BECOME COMMERCIAL AIR LINE PILOTS
In other words, "embrace the suck"....
FYI. My nose is bigger than your nose.
Now that you’re a hugely successful UA-cam billionaire, don’t get tempted to change that 😢beautiful nose. 😂 I know several people who’ve hated their new nose.
Would never consider that!
nice passive aggressive drive-by - weak
Do you think we seek out strength in a mate to compliment a physical weakness in us. My shortest sister married my tallest brother in law. Women with blue eyes melt me. But my dad has blue eyes and he married brown eyed women women who are pretty but have not the best noses are highly attracted to me and have told me I have the perfect nose..
Thank you John. I hit the crossroads in 2000.
What you're saying here is what my mentor said to me, he saved my life. I never understood how talking things through can change everything. It's the new insight to understanding yourself.
I accept change, it's out of my control. It was the most powerful thing I could do, once I started to understand how life really works.
Before that my mind was in a bubble.
I am so much wiser now and still learning.
All young men need to hear your wise words.
Thank you for your excellent videos of wisdom.
@@john-griffinsometimes I like the famous quote by Warren Beatty: if you have something to hide, hide it.”
Blessed are the big noses. 😅
Can I join the big noise group.
🤣🤣.🩵💥