And most importantly, DON'T WAIT! They're not going to change. They won't learn by example. They wont be inspired by your loyalty. They'll never grow to respect others boundaries etc. It's all just a waste of time and energy.
I work with someone who engages in smear campaigns. After a few rounds of this, people start catching on and don't take them seriously anymore. So just be professional and let God be your defender.
If you are in this situation you act as soon as you find out unless you are not the target, then you can ignore the narcissist´s attacks all you want. In Germany its antivaccers, Jews, lesbians and other minority groups were able to fend off against attacks by narcissists with simple ´nos´. For these people, no meant no and when they were many enough and stood together it was impossible for narcissists to take them out.
Narcissist AND THERE MINIONS! Minions can be worse than the narcissist. Why? People may not pay attention to the narcissist but they will often listen to their monkeys.
It is so easy to see them this way, isn't it? I try to tell myself they are good people whose kindness was taken advantage of in the same way that mine was in the first place. I know how charming and manipulative the narc can be because I experienced it too. It's hard to expect other people to do what I wasn't even able to do before I knew better. Even if this isn't the case for all of them though, it will help you do what the video recommended, which is going to be a win for you.
@@antisocialite13 I just avoid them at all cost and threaten them if they don't back off. Depending on the situation, I may use grey rocks technique, but I always avoid.
@@antisocialite13 From what I've stidied so far, it seems us INFJ types need asertiveness training more than anything, and to be less agreeable. It goes a long way.
My own rule is to ignore it, take notes and names, and go about my life UNTIL it becomes legally actionable. Slander, libel and defamation = legal issues for them and compensation for me. That's a win.
Where I am in Australia the so called justice system doesn't protect the innocent quite often. Lawyers only take on cases if there is a lot of money involved here.
It’s so true that when you have a normal reaction to being smear campaigned, it unfortunately makes you look guilty. Staying calm and kind at all times is key.
After a few attempts to push my buttons on social media, I fell for the trap and answered back online - this person I dated whom I no longer wanted to deal with , went on to upload a burning photo of me on his backyard. As a way to “ stand up to this bully” I called him out on his sociopathy , self absorbed, narcissistic with fragile ego he is. In this particular time I don’t regret it, as I KNOW I how much does he invest in appearances and how much this must have triggered shame. Would I do that again? Probably not! Moving forward I just need to forgive myself
Hitler regarded the Jews as the common German enemy, Albert Bourla regarded anti - vaccers and maskless people as an enemy of corruption and ´therefore as disposable´, Stalin hated poor Russians and kept persecuting them whenever he could, and regarded them as an enemy of Russia, Assad regarded his family as the only Syrians and all other Syrians as an enemy of Syria, Paul Pot treated his people the same way and Kári Stefánsson harassed and bullied Icelanders who are critical thinkers.
I spend too much of my life defending myself against my narcissist daughter and mother. It's predictable and frequent. I haven't learned the skills to completely disregard it and still get upset and defensive. I go no contact then get sucked back in...thank you for your support and guidance! I'm working actively every day to be healthy...
When my former partner discarded me he tried smearing as well. He failed because I was open to all relevant people, my family, my friends , my colleagues and my boss. I told them that we split and that he may want to smear me. He failed in the then obvious attempt to smear me. I counsel you on being open. If you want to hide something, be sure the narcissist will use this against you. Good luck and have faith in you!
Remain grounded and know you are supported. Walk as though you have an army behind you. These people are absolute cowards. Your energy alone can make them not mess with you. If you can get them completely out of your orbit, then great. If not, focus on creating your own life and routine, make friends, get support here, and follow your higher calling in life. Surely you got goals to fulfil and I know it isn't wasting time with these jerks. Much love to you
@nicole I don’t have friends either but Quran the speech of our creator is with us , get a copy of Quran in English language, read it with open heart and mind ask God to guide you and protect you from devils then you will see the truth and life becomes much easier , and with difficulty you find strength to cope and you feel at ease.
@@wolfesound Each person's situation is unique to them. I have found that knowing myself to be very helpful. They are attempting to manipulate events around me to trigger what they perceive as weak areas. I have been able to avoid issues by recognizing these efforts for what they are. There are many avenues on UA-cam that I use to help as well. From comedians to advice & guidance outside my normal comfort zones. For me. I found it helpful to consider the differences, in the things I "think" I know & what someone who "does" know. It always educated me & has taught me to avoid making assumptions. Which has helped me reduce my tendency to exaggerate or mislead my thoughts. Making situations worse for me mentally. Hope this helps.
@@GossipIsSlander Definitely makes us vulnerable to it. The thing to remember. They cannot "really" know it. They may recognize that I do not have family or support when none is encountered. But, they cannot know for sure that you have no friends. Especially, with the Internet.
Steps to crush smear campaigns : (pretty much paraphrasing here) • Push back firmly but calmly • Got nothing to prove ( the narcissist is trying only to win & you lose ) • Show flying monkeys 🐒🐒🐒🐒 kindness for a while (they're going to the cool click) • Stay professional • Cut out common links (activities etc.) • Stay focused on other aspects of your life ( narc only want your attention ) • Block on social media • Point out their actions to their flying monkeys 🐒🐒🐒🐒 (create rift drive wedge between them and narcissist but careful with this tactic, pointing out when narc was unethical to them ...) • Stay close to friends (support system, updating them always & how affecting you) • Wait for perfect moments (to them it's a complex game ; want person out of life not looking to win *I add* play the silly game) keep emotions and feelings as far as possible be kind to "agents" be patient.
3:40 what if the Narc never leave the situation and keep digging in or climbing higher and higher on the organization to keep getting newer and newer sources of supply. They will never go away.
Not reacting can also become a smear campaign. They’ll spread rumors that your a psycho because your so cold 🥶 at reacting etc. etc. so it goes both ways but long term it is better than letting them have it for sure. 👍
What do you do if the narcs are your sister and father..and your mother doesn't want strangers to know or laugh at the family. What do you do when the two narcs want you out of the family? Give them everything? Sounds like it?
I subscribed! Good videos by this channel! My husband is having hard time dealing with 92 year old heavily grandiose narcissistic boss that also happens to be his stepfather. He is super dumb and hates my husband guts. Unfortunately leaving the business is not an option. And the 92 yo narcissist needs the business to feed his ego. And he knows that my husband is the only person that can operate the business, and I suspect that’s why he hates him and he wants to destroy him. I’m wondering if it’s any way to trick the narcissist to stop his hate?
Narcissists often get worse with age as old age makes them feel powerless. Fortunately for your husband the narc in question might not have much longer to live. Stay strong it will be over soon.
This is not always the case You see my husband is very smart man. He knows that when women get together usually they get together to kinda trash their husbands a little bit.😂 yes we really do this throw a little shades at their faults, That being said, but my husband does is he puts me up on a pedestal real high, and he tries to show people how very much he’s in love with me and how he’ll go to the end of the earth to do stuff for me he’ll even buy plane tickets for me and my friends to go away even though I don’t want to so then they start to think he’s a great guy. All great stuff he does for her. And then my friend starts maybe I’m the one who pushing too hard
Na Ja.. I work with someone with narcisistic tendencies... I think. The fact is that yesterday I told the boss about my struggles with the person in cause and not only the boss sided with her but the biggest flying monkey from all kept shut and when she speaked was to badmouth me and today the colleagues that had a late shift with the "person in cause" tottaly ignored me and some gave me some strange looks. I think the smear campaign is fully in work. I quit that job but I must be there for the next 13 weeks. What do I do??? I'm not a strong person, I left a narcisist husband after more than a decade. I feel weak, emotional, and anxiety levels are really high right now.
Just ignore the flying monkeys unless they get violent.If they get violent you'll have to involve the police.Its a simple as that.Oh,and never take the bait and react to them.
The Narcissist in my life is my immediate neighbour. Over the past two years I've gone 'no contact' . Her latest tactic however, has been to turn my friend who lives a few doors down against me. What hurts most, is that I thought the Lady was my friend, she had a key to my house to feed my Car whenever I went away, I confided in her. It's so true that betrayal hurts most when it comes from someone you know. Has my friend become a flying monkey ? Looking back, her behaviour towards me was a little different, and some of the things she started to tell me seemed quite odd .
Crush Smear Campaign: 10.Push back on current narrative ( Be calm, be strong) 9.You've got nothing to prove 8.Show agents kindness 7.Stay classy (calm at all times) think high emote low 6.Cut out the common links 5.Stay focused on your own passions & goals 4.Block them on social media 3.Point out their actions to agents 2.Stay close to your friends 1.Wait for the perfect moment (practice patience, keep thoughts & feelings plans goals, personal info to yourself do not engage do not go deep do not contact, do not take anything personal, do not explain do not complain)
Keep gathering evidence, make copies at different safe locations, tell a trusted person to keep copies, and stick to the facts. Let your lawyer handle it, while you help them with info, weak points and know your rights by reading the penal code related to your case. Do not rely on lawyer to the point of not educating yourself but don't irritate your lawyer either :) Stay absolutely calm, stoic even, and do not show fear.
@@texaslovelylady talk to people ie people they know say quiet you will easily spot who they don't like then talk to them tell them what this person does to you you will find a new support structure and find your self again. I did this and it was like a Matrix moment my narc is now doing the silent treatment to me.
You will also find they do the same thing to others Make notes on your phone who said what who did what with in a week of this I gathered so much evidence about what the narc was doing it was so small but it impacted me greatly
You're in a great place. You will gain authentic friends,if you stay connected to channels such as this.They may ene up being friends in the untraditional sense,simply because you may only be links by these common bonds on UA-cam ❤
What if the narcissist has 4000+ followers on Facebook and makes all her horrible accusations and lies public and put my name and my Employment in the public comments and her followers add to it also making horrible lies and comments sound like Truth
Yeah, this stuff is okay if you're still willing to make it work. It's exhausting, and it gets old. Besides, if you have to change your behavior, isn't that the very definition of narcissistic abuse? You think you're outplaying them, but they've already won.
And most importantly, DON'T WAIT!
They're not going to change. They won't learn by example. They wont be inspired by your loyalty. They'll never grow to respect others boundaries etc.
It's all just a waste of time and energy.
I work with someone who engages in smear campaigns. After a few rounds of this, people start catching on and don't take them seriously anymore. So just be professional and let God be your defender.
Ignore it. People will see when they are ready.
Those who don't see the smear campaign were never your friends anyway
If you are in this situation you act as soon as you find out unless you are not the target, then you can ignore the narcissist´s attacks all you want. In Germany its antivaccers, Jews, lesbians and other minority groups were able to fend off against attacks by narcissists with simple ´nos´. For these people, no meant no and when they were many enough and stood together it was impossible for narcissists to take them out.
Narcissist AND THERE MINIONS! Minions can be worse than the narcissist. Why? People may not pay attention to the narcissist but they will often listen to their monkeys.
fleas, I call them fleas
It is so easy to see them this way, isn't it? I try to tell myself they are good people whose kindness was taken advantage of in the same way that mine was in the first place. I know how charming and manipulative the narc can be because I experienced it too. It's hard to expect other people to do what I wasn't even able to do before I knew better. Even if this isn't the case for all of them though, it will help you do what the video recommended, which is going to be a win for you.
@@antisocialite13 I just avoid them at all cost and threaten them if they don't back off. Depending on the situation, I may use grey rocks technique, but I always avoid.
@@l0I0I0I0 That's definitely the way to go.
@@antisocialite13 From what I've stidied so far, it seems us INFJ types need asertiveness training more than anything, and to be less agreeable. It goes a long way.
My own rule is to ignore it, take notes and names, and go about my life UNTIL it becomes legally actionable.
Slander, libel and defamation = legal issues for them and compensation for me. That's a win.
Yes!!!!!
@@lenorepaletta9267 Yes, those are all actionable violations. Document it all.
Where I am in Australia the so called justice system doesn't protect the innocent quite often. Lawyers only take on cases if there is a lot of money involved here.
It’s so true that when you have a normal reaction to being smear campaigned, it unfortunately makes you look guilty. Staying calm and kind at all times is key.
After a few attempts to push my buttons on social media, I fell for the trap and answered back online - this person I dated whom I no longer wanted to deal with , went on to upload a burning photo of me on his backyard. As a way to “ stand up to this bully” I called him out on his sociopathy , self absorbed, narcissistic with fragile ego he is. In this particular time I don’t regret it, as I KNOW I how much does he invest in appearances and how much this must have triggered shame. Would I do that again? Probably not! Moving forward I just need to forgive myself
2:31 So true, they need a common enemy in order to make themselves look better to the people they’re trying to impress.
Hitler regarded the Jews as the common German enemy, Albert Bourla regarded anti - vaccers and maskless people as an enemy of corruption and ´therefore as disposable´, Stalin hated poor Russians and kept persecuting them whenever he could, and regarded them as an enemy of Russia, Assad regarded his family as the only Syrians and all other Syrians as an enemy of Syria, Paul Pot treated his people the same way and Kári Stefánsson harassed and bullied Icelanders who are critical thinkers.
If you're willing to quit right now, than you have a lot of power over the narcissist. A narcissist can destroy a whole company.
I spend too much of my life defending myself against my narcissist daughter and mother. It's predictable and frequent. I haven't learned the skills to completely disregard it and still get upset and defensive. I go no contact then get sucked back in...thank you for your support and guidance! I'm working actively every day to be healthy...
I subscribed
When my former partner discarded me he tried smearing as well. He failed because I was open to all relevant people, my family, my friends , my colleagues and my boss. I told them that we split and that he may want to smear me. He failed in the then obvious attempt to smear me.
I counsel you on being open. If you want to hide something, be sure the narcissist will use this against you.
Good luck and have faith in you!
What if i don't have friends?
Remain grounded and know you are supported. Walk as though you have an army behind you. These people are absolute cowards. Your energy alone can make them not mess with you. If you can get them completely out of your orbit, then great. If not, focus on creating your own life and routine, make friends, get support here, and follow your higher calling in life. Surely you got goals to fulfil and I know it isn't wasting time with these jerks. Much love to you
@@wolfesoundthanks for your comment ❤️
@nicole I don’t have friends either but Quran the speech of our creator is with us , get a copy of Quran in English language, read it with open heart and mind ask God to guide you and protect you from devils then you will see the truth and life becomes much easier , and with difficulty you find strength to cope and you feel at ease.
@@wolfesound
Each person's situation is unique to them.
I have found that knowing myself to be very helpful. They are attempting to manipulate events around me to trigger what they perceive as weak areas. I have been able to avoid issues by recognizing these efforts for what they are. There are many avenues on UA-cam that I use to help as well. From comedians to advice & guidance outside my normal comfort zones. For me.
I found it helpful to consider the differences, in the things I "think" I know & what someone who "does" know. It always educated me & has taught me to avoid making assumptions. Which has helped me reduce my tendency to exaggerate or mislead my thoughts. Making situations worse for me mentally.
Hope this helps.
@@GossipIsSlander
Definitely makes us vulnerable to it. The thing to remember. They cannot "really" know it. They may recognize that I do not have family or support when none is encountered. But, they cannot know for sure that you have no friends.
Especially, with the Internet.
Steps to crush smear campaigns : (pretty much paraphrasing here)
• Push back firmly but calmly
• Got nothing to prove ( the narcissist is trying only to win & you lose )
• Show flying monkeys 🐒🐒🐒🐒 kindness for a while (they're going to the cool click)
• Stay professional
• Cut out common links (activities etc.)
• Stay focused on other aspects of your life ( narc only want your attention )
• Block on social media
• Point out their actions to their flying monkeys 🐒🐒🐒🐒 (create rift drive wedge between them and narcissist but careful with this tactic, pointing out when narc was unethical to them ...)
• Stay close to friends (support system, updating them always & how affecting you)
• Wait for perfect moments (to them it's a complex game ; want person out of life not looking to win *I add* play the silly game) keep emotions and feelings as far as possible be kind to "agents" be patient.
Rule no. 10: but rumours don’t reach you…just the weird laughs/giggles/ill treating or covert abuse occurs.
This was quite a comprehensive presentation. It perfectly matches how my journey with a narcissist at work unfolded. Solid advice. I'm so grateful
Thank you for the great advice. 👍🏽💯✨😊
They just look for a reaction 😂 🤣 💯
That's what I surmise
I learned to not care about what is said about me. Arnold Schopenhauer taught me the truth about " freinds " .
3:40 what if the Narc never leave the situation and keep digging in or climbing higher and higher on the organization to keep getting newer and newer sources of supply. They will never go away.
THANK YOU FACTS
Wonderful video. Sharing ❤
I SUBSCRIBED AS I FEEL TOO THERE ARE SOME MARCISSISTIC TRAITS IN THE HUSBAND FAMILY
I AM LEARNING A LOT
Not reacting can also become a smear campaign. They’ll spread rumors that your a psycho because your so cold 🥶 at reacting etc. etc. so it goes both ways but long term it is better than letting them have it for sure. 👍
What do you do if the narcs are your sister and father..and your mother doesn't want strangers to know or laugh at the family. What do you do when the two narcs want you out of the family? Give them everything? Sounds like it?
It has been going on for ages, I m happy 😊, it s only story telling
I subscribed! Good videos by this channel! My husband is having hard time dealing with 92 year old heavily grandiose narcissistic boss that also happens to be his stepfather. He is super dumb and hates my husband guts. Unfortunately leaving the business is not an option. And the 92 yo narcissist needs the business to feed his ego. And he knows that my husband is the only person that can operate the business, and I suspect that’s why he hates him and he wants to destroy him. I’m wondering if it’s any way to trick the narcissist to stop his hate?
Narcissists often get worse with age as old age makes them feel powerless. Fortunately for your husband the narc in question might not have much longer to live. Stay strong it will be over soon.
Thank you 🙏🙏❤️
Narcs can't handle smear campaigns aimed at them. Sensory overload 😂😂😂
This is not always the case
You see my husband is very smart man. He knows that when women get together usually they get together to kinda trash their husbands a little bit.😂 yes we really do this throw a little shades at their faults,
That being said, but my husband does is he puts me up on a pedestal real high, and he tries to show people how very much he’s in love with me and how he’ll go to the end of the earth to do stuff for me he’ll even buy plane tickets for me and my friends to go away even though I don’t want to so then they start to think he’s a great guy. All great stuff he does for her.
And then my friend starts maybe I’m the one who pushing too hard
Na Ja.. I work with someone with narcisistic tendencies... I think. The fact is that yesterday I told the boss about my struggles with the person in cause and not only the boss sided with her but the biggest flying monkey from all kept shut and when she speaked was to badmouth me and today the colleagues that had a late shift with the "person in cause" tottaly ignored me and some gave me some strange looks. I think the smear campaign is fully in work. I quit that job but I must be there for the next 13 weeks. What do I do??? I'm not a strong person, I left a narcisist husband after more than a decade. I feel weak, emotional, and anxiety levels are really high right now.
Just ignore the flying monkeys unless they get violent.If they get violent you'll have to involve the police.Its a simple as that.Oh,and never take the bait and react to them.
The Narcissist in my life is my immediate neighbour. Over the past two years I've gone 'no contact' . Her latest tactic however, has been to turn my friend who lives a few doors down against me. What hurts most, is that I thought the Lady was my friend, she had a key to my house to feed my Car whenever I went away, I confided in her. It's so true that betrayal hurts most when it comes from someone you know. Has my friend become a flying monkey ? Looking back, her behaviour towards me was a little different, and some of the things she started to tell me seemed quite odd .
Pumpkin Heads - Nothin Fancy !
Crush Smear Campaign:
10.Push back on current narrative ( Be calm, be strong)
9.You've got nothing to prove
8.Show agents kindness
7.Stay classy (calm at all times) think high emote low
6.Cut out the common links
5.Stay focused on your own passions & goals
4.Block them on social media
3.Point out their actions to agents
2.Stay close to your friends
1.Wait for the perfect moment (practice patience, keep thoughts & feelings plans goals, personal info to yourself do not engage do not go deep do not contact, do not take anything personal, do not explain do not complain)
I subscribed.😊
thanks mate
What if it turns legal?
Keep gathering evidence, make copies at different safe locations, tell a trusted person to keep copies, and stick to the facts. Let your lawyer handle it, while you help them with info, weak points and know your rights by reading the penal code related to your case. Do not rely on lawyer to the point of not educating yourself but don't irritate your lawyer either :) Stay absolutely calm, stoic even, and do not show fear.
Sigma empaths: childs play.
It's impossible with SOCIAL MEDIA
Expose them
How?
@@texaslovelylady talk to people ie people they know say quiet you will easily spot who they don't like then talk to them tell them what this person does to you you will find a new support structure and find your self again. I did this and it was like a Matrix moment my narc is now doing the silent treatment to me.
You will also find they do the same thing to others
Make notes on your phone who said what who did what with in a week of this I gathered so much evidence about what the narc was doing it was so small but it impacted me greatly
It cost nothing to be kind.
You're in a great place. You will gain authentic friends,if you stay connected to channels such as this.They may ene up being friends in the untraditional sense,simply because you may only be links by these common bonds on UA-cam ❤
Why can't I just sue them for defamation?
That's them
It s entertainment 101 it s all story telling , at a certain age it does not matter what others think about u
What if the narcissist has 4000+ followers on Facebook and makes all her horrible accusations and lies public and put my name and my Employment in the public comments and her followers add to it also making horrible lies and comments sound like Truth
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Wouldn’t have much to say then haha 😂
Start spreading false rumors @ them to give em a taste of their own crap! 😅
Yeah, this stuff is okay if you're still willing to make it work. It's exhausting, and it gets old. Besides, if you have to change your behavior, isn't that the very definition of narcissistic abuse? You think you're outplaying them, but they've already won.
No, if it's just a temporary show for a narc. You know who you are deep inside and this is just a defense tactic.
Thi is great info untill.....they have you gangstalked😢
Him and his wife teaming up against dude hate me he act like I gave him disease which I didn’t he’s actor telling people over my life
Read too fast.
adios AI