Nikki Addimando speaks out after pleading guilty to killing partner
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
- Upstate New York woman Nikki Addimando is serving seven years in prison for a crime she says she committed in self-defense. ABC News’ Juju Chang previews her conversation with Addimando on 20/20.
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People who STILL ask "why didn't she just leave" are infuriating and are not fit to determine anyone's fate.
So basically your saying women aren't capable of independent thinking and actions and aren't fit to make decisions on their own.
@@whyumadtho355 What? How did you translate what I said to this? I am saying the people that keep asking why someone didn't JUST leave an abusive relationship are not in a position to weigh in on the issue until they understand the complexity of such relationships. It is never that simple to just leave. There are layers of psychological imprisonment among other factors that get people stuck sometimes. The juror said they decided on guilt because they couldn't understand why she didn't leave him. Whether it was self-defense or murder, the juror's reason isn't a good one.
@@wolfesound if she was capable of rational thought then she would be able to get up and leave . Imagine a guy gets arrested by the fbi for drug trafficking and tells the officer.. but you don't understand.. I couldn't stop selling dope. I was raised to do this by my family so it isn't my fault. You know what will happen? U still get locked up and held accountable. She had many opportunities to up and leave and she didn't. Either she was being held captive against her wi or she isn't capable of independent thinking and actions and therefore basically a child.
@@whyumadtho355 It is not the same. She may be physically able to leave, but you underestimate the power of stockholm syndrome and other factors. Check how pervasive it is that many don't leave. There is a scientific reason behind it, and people who expect them to just leave contribute to this hinderance. It doesn't solve anything. Just hope you never fall into this situation before you grasp the complexity of it.
Id smoke this bitch just as fast.
Aint nobody asking why.
Just call what it is.
She got that juice. She a murderer. Simple
I'm a survivor of domestic violence and it's insulting how the anchor lady introducing the case keeps smiling, laughing, and acting like this case is so "delicious". This is a real life case with real victims. Her attitude and behavior is beyond hurtful.
I caught that too,,,was in very bad taste
I think she's happy to see the other lady as well as trying to smile for the camera. I get your a survivor and I just said a prayer for you but the only person at fault here is the idiot that beat women until he graciously placed in the dirt.
Exactly...what is THAT? She is literally gleeful. Wow. Insulting and disrespectful.
Right belittle
I found their behavior quite disturbing myself 😠
It’s always “why didn’t she leave?” And never “why didn’t he stop?” So much blame is always on the victim in these scenarios and it makes me so sad. It’s not always easy to pack up your life and go especially with kids involved and under the threat of violence. But it IS easy to stop abusing your spouse. It is easy to make the choice NOT to hit someone.
He did not stop because he is mentally I’ll.
Because it's harder to change bad behavior.. If good people (person being abused) do nothing evil will win. What's crazy is the 1st indications of abuser behavior is getting smacked and/or bad arguments...... and showing signs of not controlling anger. Right then is the time to walk away. Not staying with the person thinking I could change him or he told me sorry so i'm giving you another chance..... Good grief....
Honestly I never thought of it that way, but you're right! Why didn't the abuser stop!!!
@@usmcmsgt5487 ah there it is AGAIN with the victim blaming. When you’re the victim who’s been abused and beaten and they threaten you with violence and anything under the sun if you leave them it’s a terrifying experience. BUT IT IS SO EASY to just not hit / abuse somebody. You’re letting the person who is responsible for physically hurting someone off the hook bc “it’s really hard to change bad behavior” that’s a pathetic excuse. Stop enabling abusers by agreeing that “it’s really hard for them to change”. No it’s not. It’s easy to NOT put your hands on somebody be serious
Because we can't control what someone else does....only how we respond.
Wow the way the interviewers almost laughed at the case at the start really is sad that they are unable to conduct themselves in. Proper manner showing respect to real victims of DV
Yes...I found it odd.
I think she's happy to see the other lady as well as trying to smile for the camera. I get your a survivor and I just said a prayer for you but the only person at fault here is the idiot that beat women until he graciously placed in the dirt.
I agree that the laughing did not come off very sympathetic what so ever. It comes off as numb to her being a person and not just a story.
Also I will pray for the person that quickly judged the initial comment about laughing and inferring they were saying they’re somewhat at fault. Please take a moment and realize even if you don’t agree with someone doesn’t mean you can you “prayer” to counter their comment. And it’s YOU’RE as in you are. You are the 10th person I’ve seen incorrectly using that word with a nasty remark. Have the day you deserve ❤
That pissed me off too.
It's ABC. Lowering the bar.
You don’t know hard hard it is to leave an abusive relationship until you’re in one 😢
Or you put your kids first and leave? Unless theyre in a 3rd world country, then i feel bad.
When a woman is abused by her man and she leaves. He will often seek her out and kill her these are sick individuals your not dealing with normal people here
@@canadafragrancereviewerdia9119 so youre saying the alternative is stay and get killed? Ok.
I know I'm a Survivor of domestic violence it took me almost 7 years before I was able to leave a lot of planning and a little luck only reason why I'm still here by the grace of God I do know how hard it is to leave🤗💝
@@SS-cd6ie obviously you've never been in any domestic violence relationship therefore you probably have no idea what the f*** you're talking about we stay to live not to die our life is being threatened everyday if we leave you've never been in a domestic violence relationship so have a seat have lots of seats!!
“These are always so intriguing.” What an insensitive choice of words. 🙄
Whilst I agree it was not a typical self defence, what most people are forgetting/ignoring is that if a woman leaves her abuser, that is THE most dangerous time for her. I was stalked for 10 years by my ex. I thought once I had divorced him I could move on with my life but he got even more terrifying.
Same here. Your comment is very validating. I was forced to continue the "relationship" for 12 years post divorce and that was including being constantly stalked, sabotaged, and then taken hostage for 4 years.
The abuser was able to do that by threatening the well being of one of our daughters and law enforcement only de-escalating, doing nothing, and/or treating the case totally different than that of a pedestrian who gets attacked by a stranger, who LE believes.
There also have to be resources, livable wage jobs, quality childcare, and protection for the victims to be able to get out. Victims are 70 times more likely to be killed upon leaving and for a year afterwards, if not more.
She killed him as he slept. GUILTY
@@lynnetmb4706 and good for her, she made sure the bastard was dead. you think he wouldn’t have gone on to do the same horrific things to another woman? and then be pardoned for it by people like you?
100% agree. And then when you call the police because they are stalking you they say that they can’t do anything unless he actually does something. My reply was, what good is that going to be if I’m dead?!
My ex tried to kill me both times I tried leaving him and it wasn’t until he went to jail on unrelated charges that I was able to get away from him.
I left my abusive husband, court sent him to an unlocked rehab facility less than 2 miles from my house I had shared with him. Needless to say, he walked out of the facility, broke into my house to abuse me again. Yep, court and the restraining order kept me safe
Wow! Thank you for sharing. That is terrifying
I’m sorry this happened. I’m glad you’re still here and with us though
Unbelievable he waa sent to a rehab so close to your house and he had the audacity to walk out and see you ....don't mind me but he is a jerk..let me see this kind of guys try picking on someone their own size...yes such cowards
They treat this like it’s a juicy story when there’s really nothing but tragedy. So wrong.
Many women find themselves in a similar situation. Trapped in an abusive relationship with no way out. My heart goes out to anyone who suffers abuse of this nature. Many women are a shamed to admit that they are in an abusive relationship or even feel as if the abuse is their own fault and others simply feel financially trapped. There needs to be harsher punishment for abusers so many women don't end up in the situation this mom found herself in.
The Court ruled against extremely important evidence regarding the Tapes of His abuse. It's proof of his crimes against her .
This is a topic that should be oepenly and widely discussed much more. Resources need to be readily available. Not only is this a terrifying, degrading, horrible situation to be in, children are often at stake, income is affected (having to use sick days or they might not have sick days, so they go without pay), insurance and hospital expenses, the whole 9 yards. Women need to prepare to leave in such a way the abuser does not know. Get money together, hide supplies, pack a bag or two with essentials), and make a break for it at an opportune time. Laws need to be enforced for this men. Restraining orders don't work - these raging inferior men don't care about that stuff.
“So intriguing” what!?! It’s like these two women were mocking her. Sad
Why are these journalists smiling so much with enthusiasm about a sad tragedy?
I don’t get it either 😒
it's sick
Because they profit off it. This is the reason why, shortly after a horrific crime happens, reporters are racing to the homes of the grieving families to interview them. It's sick, but it's the truth. They don't actually care about the victims, they just want to be the first to get the story out and cash in on it. 😞
Agree. It’s was bizarre and inappropriate
Yes it is very distasteful to smile, laugh.
The anchor on the left smiling and giggling about this story is very disturbing
Why were they smirking and smiling while talking about this?
If a man claimed domestic violence after shooting his wife while she's sleeps, people (especially women) would be laughing at him.
I agree but no one else in the comments would. And im a girl. I know how it is cuz my narc mom played with the victim instead of leaving. She didnt care how her kids would be impacted. She ended up stabbing my dad who i loved, because he tried to leave her.
you don't factor in the kids, she didn't leave him because of he would have gotten custody and no one in their right mind would let their abuser have contact alone with their baby.
Many times when the woman leaves, he will kill her or the kids. Anything so she can’t have a happy life without him. I agree that women abusers are awful too and these cases need to be looked at too, but the women don’t usually over power the men so killing while sleeping isn’t usually necessary.
This case makes me think of Sherri Papini case, although Papini didn't kill anyone but fabricated injuries that she self inflicted even a broken nose, she was initially believed all because she had a pretty face
I agree. She is a liar. The only indisputable evidence of abuse was found on Nicole's phone. It showed her constantly sending Chris demeaning, emasculating text messages. She'd call him a man-child, stupid, pathetic, etc. Regularly, in most of her texts. SHE is the violent one.
You know why these idiots in the comments believe her? Feminism. You know why Nicole thought she'd get away with it? Feminism. "Believe all women" is nonsense. I don't believe most women and I definitely don't believe her.
We live in a feminist society where women can do whatever they want and get away with it. When Nicole lies about her abuse and creates bruises on herself, most people blindly believe her. But if Chris had shown the actual proof that she was verbally abusive and often threw household items at him, I guarantee everyone except his mother would've laughed at/disbelieved him. Why? Because he's a young, white, athletic man. And we know that, in modern Western society, men don't tell.
It's sad and pathetic. I'm sick of this stupidity. Chris was the victim. Nicole seems like someone who'd go out partying all night, and leave Chris alone to take care of the kids, and then hit him and degrade him when she got home. She's THAT kind of woman. I am not. I refer to myself as an anti-feminist. I am a defender of the patriarchy because a strong, male-driven society is better for everyone. I'm 100% on your side. Most people expect me to be a feminist but I'm completely the opposite. Feminism ruins everything. And, tbh, feminists are some of the most irritating people to be around. I just can't do it.
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What a double standard we live in. Seriously, if a male did this, he would get life w/o parole. He was never charged with domestic violence and the court came out and said there's no evidence directly linking him to it. So much for innocent until proven guilty.
@@marciestoddard730 I support that we are all held to the same standard whether that's in public or not. I'm sorry you can't comprehend.
@@jotac87278I agree. She is a liar. The only indisputable evidence of abuse was found on Nicole's phone. It showed her constantly sending Chris demeaning, emasculating text messages. She'd call him a man-child, stupid, pathetic, etc. Regularly, in most of her texts. SHE is the violent one.
You know why these idiots in the comments believe her? Feminism. You know why Nicole thought she'd get away with it? Feminism. "Believe all women" is nonsense. I don't believe most women and I definitely don't believe her.
We live in a feminist society where women can do whatever they want and get away with it. When Nicole lies about her abuse and creates bruises on herself, most people blindly believe her. But if Chris had shown the actual proof that she was verbally abusive and often threw household items at him, I guarantee everyone except his mother would've laughed at/disbelieved him. Why? Because he's a young, white, athletic man. And we know that, in modern Western society, men don't tell.
It's sad and pathetic. I'm sick of this stupidity. Chris was the victim. Nicole seems like someone who'd go out partying all night, and leave Chris alone to take care of the kids, and then hit him and degrade him when she got home. She's THAT kind of woman. I am not. I refer to myself as an anti-feminist. I am a defender of the patriarchy because a strong, male-driven society is better for everyone. I'm 100% on your side. Most people expect me to be a feminist but I'm completely the opposite. Feminism ruins everything. And, tbh, feminists are some of the most irritating people to be around. I just can't do it.
#MaleAlly
#ProtectThePatriarchy
#MakeMenMenAgain
How inappropriate for the anchors to laugh when someone is dead and someone else is in prison 😠
I was with my ex for 22 years and I didn't leave thinking it would get better. Ladies it doesn't... JUST LEAVE!!
Absolutely. They do not change.
She failed to call the police
It will be hard at first but leaving is always better long term
@@jessicachandler2604 yuh
With God ANYTHING is possible. 🙋♀️ im a living testimony of this....for more than 11 years emotional and physical abuse ruled my relationship and my only hope was to get out. But then we both found the Lord and it has been the greatest thing that could ever happen!
This just astounding in this day and age when so much is known about DV that people still don’t get, that it was his life or hers. Totally self defense. She should have been sentenced to years of counseling not prison.
Or she took advantage of that awareness people have and used it to fake the signs of an abusive relationship in order to help her get away with murder. If that’s the case, then she not only heartlessly murdered this man after verbally abusing and belittling him (text evidence she did this) but she murdered his name and reputation too.
We can’t be certain but, there are pieces of evidence pointing to her being the villain here. Some fairly strong pieces, in fact.
@@DrControversy the abuse he inflicted was seen by others. So… can you point me in the direction of the conflicting evidence so I can read or listen to the other side?
Nobody understands why a woman doesn’t walk away. It ain’t easy. After 30 yrs of emotional & physical abuse I left. I was blamed for the everything, like it was my fault. The last 20 yrs without that fool have been the best 20 years of my life! Amen! I only wish I had left earlier. And believe me, I did take a gun & I would have killed the sob but he ran. And then I left. Amen.
Would you have shot him in his sleep like she did?
Thanks for not murdering him
Exactly. Many women are killed in the days and months after they leave.
I'm glad you made it out, I hope you have many good years still ahead of you
Get him 🗣️💥🔫 , Suzie !
I'm glad your LIFE has improved Immeasurably !
I am shocked by the smiles and laughter of the anchor. This is not a joke. She is an insult to all women (and men) who have suffered domestic abuse and her fellow collegues.
The way the anchors are talking about this at the start is super gross
I tried to leave MANY times. Have permanent nerve damage to the right side of my face, partial hearing loss in my right ear, two concussions, a 3" binder of 10 years of police and court records. When I finally did make it out he went after the kids. First, he claimed I was an unfit mother...he pulled that card everytime I tried to leave so I felt absolutely trapped. Carried an extra car key in my bra for years so I had an immediate exit once I could get it. Then he nearly beat our son to death. It's not easy to just leave. I remember a few times thinking "that's it, if he comes at me again I'm going to kill him". Domestic violence is a hell like no other.
You get in the car and drive away
That’s leaving
Not whatever drama you engaged in for years and put your kids at risk with
Leaving is LEAVING not moving the next suburb over
@@FoolOfATook_ you are part of the problem and anybody here that reads that ridiculous ignorant comment can see that. There's a lot of people like you that say what you just said. You clearly have never been in a situation like this so you don't know what you're talkin about. What happens is they utilize the system against you. They will file false reports with the police, with the courts, with DCFS... They will alienate you from your friends and your family. Will make it hard for you or impossible at times for you to work or have access to a vehicle. I understand your emotion but believe me I felt it a hundred times worse and you clearly do not know what really goes on a situation like that. I was groomed at 15 years old by my abuser. I was raised by a single mother with alcohol and mental issues. I didn't have any other family and therefore I didn't have anyone else. I did what I could to survive. I naively believed the things would get better. I had to bust my ass and be smart as hell to get my children and myself out of that situation and I did. I did all the right things. I know that and many many more people know that because I'm an advocate for domestic violence victims. My comment back to you is really just so that other people here can see that when people like you make ignorant comments it's okay... We're going to set you straight and you can carry your irresponsible and ignorant attitude on to the next comment.
@@FoolOfATook_ by the way, have you ever heard of a distributor cap? Well at 16 years old I didn't and my abuser would take the distributor cap off of my car so I couldn't leave.
I left my abusive ex too. I was 5 months pregnant. I never thought of harming him but I think it's worse that he has ZERO custody of MY child. That's HIS punishment.
Good for you
We all know the reality of leaving an abuser... he would have come after her and killed her for humiliating him by leaving him...
Unforgivable, both this murderer woman and the media that attempts to deceitfully portray this female murderer in a sympathetic light.
👏💯 Agree
Damn right👍🇬🇧
Right, he didn't deserve to die. She never once pressed charges officially, even when the paper was right in front of her. He didn't get to tell his side of the story.
Why is that reporter laughing about all of this??
Telling someone to just leave is like telling a bank robbery hostage with kids to just leave, and with no law enforcement nor resources to back you up.
If she wasn't dependent on his money should could have easily leave. Record everything he's doing . Have all records and once he leaves the HOUSE LEAVE!! Murder was 1000% wrong.
@@Berighteousone guilty or not, your ignorance is glaring, so much so, that no amount of explaining here, would ever be suffice and you'd still have only lived the life of a white, privileged, male
@@patriciapark7287 White is right and so proud to be.
That's racist and demonstrates that you know, covet, and don't want to share your privilege bc you can see partially how anything other than that status has less privilege and comfort.
Besides, I am white. But, you have no experience other than the privilege of being a white male
You can't judge bc you aren't and haven't lived the life of a female at all and also under white male privilege
It’s hard to leave when you have kids involved! And maybe financially depending on the guy.
And this will only become more common as women’s rights continue to be taken away.
What the hell are alimony/ child support for ? What else do you want ?
It's not as simple as just leaving. Especially if there's mental and physical abuse. It took me years to finally get the courage to leave. It's hard and 3 years later still dealing with the mental part of it. I can't date. I don't trust. It's so much more than why didn't you just leave.
Thank you its just exhausting , people will never really get it
Maybe grow up and be an adult
Exactly. I'm sorry you went through that. I'm 7 years out, and it is still hard. He still tries to contact me. People can't understand until they go through it.
Yes it is. Leave.
@@TTMW Exactly!! I'm so thankful you were able to leave too 🙏❤️🙏
The reporter is so unprofessional giggling and laughing over domestic violence
For many years I worked with victims of abuse, and listened to victims of abuse. What is so odd is that the victim of abuse is treated like the messenger of bad news and treated as such, within the police departments, and court system, also from people who suffer from ignorance. Abuse victims are treated as they are the perpetrator, and you'll have a crap load of siding with the abuser, making getting help a barrier for victims. Nobody wants to believe them, the few that do nearly always turn a blind eye. Courts are majority men, and women trying to act even more cold and tough to fit into a majority mans world. Victims are always revictimized by the system and there seems to be a very deep rooted belief that the victim deserves it, Or the victim needs help and is a burden or that they are lying or that they themselves are an abuser for mentioning and airing out their dirty private goings ons to people who don't want to hear it and don't want to deal with it. It comes down to one thing, almost everyone that should be helping victims doesn't wants to do anything about it so their belief will confirm their actions.
I remember this case!
People were saying that she "caused her own bruising," to make accusations against him. No one ever saw him raise his voice, argue, nor other "red flags." We don't live these people's lives, and don't claim to know what happens behind closed doors, but the family's even questioned her motives!
Who is “no one” exactly? You are definitely part of the reason victims don’t report their abuse, or worse when they do people LIKE YOU don’t believe them. Disgusting.
Sherri papini similar bruising etc self inflicted.
@@halimak625 Yep!
He literally uploaded videos of beating her and sexually assaulting her onto pornhub. That’s documented in this case, what are you talking about? They literally said this in this video.
Exactly you don't know what happened behind closed doors.
And if the roles were reversed life in prison with no parole and I guarantee you she would not serve the full seven years
I agree. She is a liar. The only indisputable evidence of abuse was found on Nicole's phone. It showed her constantly sending Chris demeaning, emasculating text messages. She'd call him a man-child, stupid, pathetic, etc. Regularly, in most of her texts. SHE is the violent one.
You know why these idiots in the comments believe her? Feminism. You know why Nicole thought she'd get away with it? Feminism. "Believe all women" is nonsense. I don't believe most women and I definitely don't believe her.
We live in a feminist society where women can do whatever they want and get away with it. When Nicole lies about her abuse and creates bruises on herself, most people blindly believe her. But if Chris had shown the actual proof that she was verbally abusive and often threw household items at him, I guarantee everyone except his mother would've laughed at/disbelieved him. Why? Because he's a young, white, athletic man. And we know that, in modern Western society, men don't tell.
It's sad and pathetic. I'm sick of this stupidity. Chris was the victim. Nicole seems like someone who'd go out partying all night, and leave Chris alone to take care of the kids, and then hit him and degrade him when she got home. She's THAT kind of woman. I am not. I refer to myself as an anti-feminist. I am a defender of the patriarchy because a strong, male-driven society is better for everyone. I'm 100% on your side. Most people expect me to be a feminist but I'm completely the opposite. Feminism ruins everything. And, tbh, feminists are some of the most irritating people to be around. I just can't do it.
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So why is she in prison? Unfair.
Why are so many women in prison for killing their abusers?? What about stand your ground laws for women? This is ridiculous.
How can these reporters laugh about this? Bizarre behavior.
When I was in an abusive relationship, I didn't want to leave. I just wanted it to stop. It never did.
So I understand how hard it is for other women in similar situations.
I am not on her side for killing him.
I hope she forgives herself for doing it.
So she’s serving 7 years for self defense?
It took me 7 times in 6 years to get away from my abuser and you know what!?
I got a vpo, and it got extended for 6 months after I had to stand side by side with my abuser discussing in front of a court room what he did to me! Do you have ANY CLUE how terrifying it is?! People are so callus with the “why didn’t you just leave” comment. Because you are not whole as a human living in that environment. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Especially when kids are involved.
I waited til my kid left for summer to spend time with family, and I was STILL too scared to leave. My car broke down in front of a family members house and she saved my life. SHE convinced me to get the VPO. SHE offered me safe space. Not just from him but to gather myself up after being put into a puddle, a shell of myself.
I didn’t return to court for the 5 year vpo because I was too afraid to face him and because we still had a piece of land that he would not release.
I lost everything getting away. I was one of the lucky ones! Nicole IS ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES! But STILL she is ridiculed and treated like a vile murderer. I wonder, would the world see this differently if the outcome were the opposite. He killed them both and the kids would NEVER see either parent again?
Nicole did what she had to do to ESCAPE her abuser. Period.
The system FAILED HERE, NOT HER
So she got unlucky and had an absolutely horrible jury, because if you're saying "why didn't she just leave?!" then you don't understand simple things. It's very well known how hard it is for women especially to leave their spouse/partner when their relationship is abusive. In my opinion she should have been given a parade.
Why didn’t she leave??? Because family court would hand over children over to an abuser. She’s protecting her children. Maybe, reform needs to happen at the family court level.
please ladies, report the abuse as a track record.
This is why women don't report or leave because of disbelief...even with physical evidence...
There is NO EVIDENCE. This is a liar, with PICTURES OF BRUISES. So what?
She didn’t do this to herself?
Shoot him as he slept? Liar.
My heart hurts so bad when I look at the innocent kids 😰💔💔💔
Completely unacceptable behavior by the anchors.
Remember Ali abulaban? His wife left him, he tracked her down and shot her in the head. , remembering another true crime case where a Pakistani American got a divorce from her husband and he drove like 12 hours , got into her new apartment and killed her.
My heart breaks for her.
Yet she shot a man..what about the real victim who died and was shot by her .
Why was those laptops in the Tub? She became 2 sneaky after she killed him hence her conviction
Because he had secretly filmed her while he violently had $ex with her and uploaded it to adult websites. A cop found it and turned it over to the police in the jurisdiction she was prosecuted in and it mysteriously disappeared in their custody.
Not with her kids when she was abused. It's heartbreaking
I, too, was in a DV relationship, and I definitely didn't stay. My teenagers were more important than to be hit for no reason. Others stay because of their children or because their partner has threatened them if they leave, and he'll hunt them down. People who have never experienced this do not understand why women stay. I feel that she should have kept a journal and taken pictures of each injury. What's devastating is that the family of the "victim" put their loved on a pedestal thinking that their lived one could never hurt a fly yet they really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. I remember when I locked myself inside my car while he was banging and yelling at me, I called his aunt. When she answered, I told her about the abuse, and at first, she laughed and said that when he lived with her, he was very calm and quiet. I put my phone on speaker, and she could hear how he was acting. She then said, " I never believed his ex when she called me, and now that I've listened to the way he's acting, I believe you." She told me to leave him because she was scared he'd harm me and my teenagers. I wish that all those being beaten to talk to one person, keep a journal, and take pictures because in the end, you're going to be public enemy number one. No one is going to believe you, and the "victim" is going to be defended by all those who loved him/her and put keep believing that "oh no, not my child, friend, sibling. he,/she would ever hurt no one". That person is going to be treated like a Saint. My sister went through the same, and she was threatened. I had to convince her to talk to someone she trusted in case he did the unthinkable since I didn't live near. I feared for her life. She moved out of state and found her. Thankfully, we both have survived, but most won't.
My heart breaks her! The entire justice system is honestly quite terrifying! Blows my mind how certain evidence isn't allowed in a court trial! It's most always the evidence that's most important that the jury NEEDS to hear to make an informed honest decision!
the system FAILED her.
I will never understand why all evidence isn't shown in court cases. How can jurors decide what's just if they don't have every fact available?
This is so sad. Was she supposed to wait until her only escape was her own death. Even if its not physical the abuser can terrify u into staying. Women feAr the escalation so they try really hard bc they know life will be even harder when they leave . An abuser can find every possible way to stalk/monitor you. It’s exhausting. Ppl will literally stay to make their life somewhat easier . An abuser is never done. You will always be punished
I so relate , I lived a 12 year domestic violence life in silence during those years, and though I divorced, I lost a lot, I lost my son, my self worth. …You clam up, you shut down, you become human less. No court understands, just God who sees the ongoing abuse, and the other spouse is in denial, and it hurts how they get away with it all and so much. But the scars go far beyond the skin, because emotionally it’s forever and no one will ever understand until you’ve lived in these shoes. In my situation, I never called the police for fear, but ended in the hospital once for a blow to my head and ear. I am divorced and my name is hidden during this message. No one can give me back my tender years, I was his property, couldn’t have friends, go out, dress up, no make up, no prom, no graduation, and in pictures I had to smile. So I completely understand this young girl and mother, not saying the crime is right, I am no one to judge, however I understand, because, you don’t know from one day to another if your gonna live or not. My physical abuse was much harsh than what she describes, I got punched and kicked, spit on, and had my clothes torn off in public, my hair pulled, my face smacked in front of people. He put my face on dog poop, and life went on. I understand her, and her fear. She has to pray and seek God. Because the emotional scars, are everlasting.
It took me about 8 years to leave an abusive relationship. He would make a lot of threats about having me be dragged out of where ever he found me. And I was also sad to break up my family.
Nothing justifies murdering someone
Only 7 years? Wtf? If it was reversed it would have been a much harsher sentence
It was originally 19 years to life, but they appealed her sentence and got it reduced under a new law where victims of severe abuse can receive a lesser sentence for killing their perpetrator. So she's still guilty of murder, but as an abuse victim.
This host is annoying. She keeps interrupting JuJu.
The end was so awkward wtf was that lol
@@mackny2001 they're acting like new secret lovers
And laughing. It's disrespectful.
Abc News please pick your interviewers a bit better with more respect to the seriousness this deserves! Many people here are beyond hurt.
Same DV story. Not enough help for the victim. Glad she protected herself and children. So much education needs to happen.
The victims face says it all, this poor woman looks like she's been through hell, may she make it back home safely and live the rest of her life happily. God bless!
U would've said that for any woman. Man please....."her face says it all" no ma'am.....im sorry it takes more than a face saying it "all" yall women swear out yall don't do sht wrong. You do.
Her face says I’m a liar and a killer and playing victim
@cyclone67th I agree. She is a liar. The only indisputable evidence of abuse was found on Nicole's phone. It showed her constantly sending Chris demeaning, emasculating text messages. She'd call him a man-child, stupid, pathetic, etc. Regularly, in most of her texts. SHE is the violent one.
You know why these idiots in the comments believe her? Feminism. You know why Nicole thought she'd get away with it? Feminism. "Believe all women" is nonsense. I don't believe most women and I definitely don't believe her.
We live in a feminist society where women can do whatever they want and get away with it. When Nicole lies about her abuse and creates bruises on herself, most people blindly believe her. But if Chris had shown the actual proof that she was verbally abusive and often threw household items at him, I guarantee everyone except his mother would've laughed at/disbelieved him. Why? Because he's a young, white, athletic man. And we know that, in modern Western society, men don't tell.
It's sad and pathetic. I'm sick of this stupidity. Chris was the victim. Nicole seems like someone who'd go out partying all night, and leave Chris alone to take care of the kids, and then hit him and degrade him when she got home. She's THAT kind of woman. I am not. I refer to myself as an anti-feminist. I am a defender of the patriarchy because a strong, male-driven society is better for everyone. I'm 100% on your side. Most people expect me to be a feminist but I'm completely the opposite. Feminism ruins everything. And, tbh, feminists are some of the most irritating people to be around. I just can't do it.
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I’m a survivor of domestic violence and this sickening me!!! It shows just how little this society understands domestic violence, the insidious process, and how it manifests extreme harm to targeted individuals. I really wish people would experience it themselves, because obviously that’s would it would take, them having firsthand feelings of it. And it can happen to anyone, unless you live in a cave under a rock!!! The unfortunate thing here, is people are selective with their empathy and are more apt to understand or relate only if they experienced it themselves
Does anyone know how I can watch this episode? I don’t have cable
UA-cam
Contact me I’ll send you a copy
I can't find the whole episode on UA-cam.
My mom was physically, emotionally and mentally abused all her life. Started as a child when her mom died soon after her birth and she was abused by her stepmother.
Then by my dad. Not a week went by that she wasn’t horribly abused.
Why didn’t she leave???? Well, my dad told her he would look for her and gun her down.
I was a child when he was looking for “ a deer” he said. For the better part of the week, my parents trekked out in the deep woods. Daily, my dad with his rifle in hand.
The last day they went out, I just happened to tag along after them. I recall him looking back at me twice as I was tagging after them in the deep woods on the trail.
He told my mom to chase “the deer” out in the bushes and he would shoot it when it came running out.
There was no deer.
He admitted to her “He wanted to kill her and make it look like an accident.
What would’ve become of me then? Two for the show????
Juju is my favorite reporter...She is so sweet😊
My questions are who took the picture of her abuse and if the authorities took the picture why then didn’t they report him?
She clearly took them if authorities took them why didn't they contact police, let's not miss a vital point here, She shot him at such close range if he was awake he would have jumped out way, her eyes looks deceitful
7 years for murdering a man?!?! Disgusting world we live in. JUST LEAVE WOMAN! Why take someone’s life?!?!? Disgusting.
It's very hard and extremely dangerous to leave these relationships
Never understood if you’re going to take someone freedom and life away . Why not show all the evidence so the jury can see everything and make a decision based on everything shown before them.
On the day before the shooting, Nikki and Grover had been visited by Child Protective Services regarding his abuse of Nikki. Following that visit, Nikki told Grover that she intended to “take a break” from Grover with their two young children. Grover responded by loading his handgun in front of Nikki and showing her descriptions on his phone of how he could shoot her in her sleep and make it appear to be a suicide. When Grover pointed the gun at Nikki, the two struggled, and Nikki obtained the weapon. Demanding it back, Grover threatened that he would kill both of them so that their “kids would have no one.” Before Grover could grab the gun, Nikki lunged and shot him.
The NY State expert witness conceded that the way Grover was found is compatible with Nikki’s story, and the incident could have happened exactly as she described.
No forensic evidence or expert witness validated the prosecution’s claim that Nikki did not act in self-defense
"NY state expert witness" LOL!
How do we know that story is true? Everything about it sounds fake. Christ isn't Herr to defend or explain himself, so we only have the unsubstantiated claims made by his murderer. Not exactly a credible witness.
You're patheitc. She's a liar and, if you believe her, you're an idiot.
Only 7 years for killing her husband?
No justification for killing another person. You should have walked away period
How can she walk away if he was keeping her in a cycle of abuse? You really think she would do this if she could just walk away?
Poor woman, I feel sorry for all of the tragedy. For his mom, but also for her. Because it's TRUE, leaving is very dangerous and it could be their one time and opportunity because they could easily be killed or beaten so badly. What a difficult situation especially when kids are involved!
Should of been life if roles were reversed he would have gotten life
I agree. She is a liar. The only indisputable evidence of abuse was found on Nicole's phone. It showed her constantly sending Chris demeaning, emasculating text messages. She'd call him a man-child, stupid, pathetic, etc. Regularly, in most of her texts. SHE is the violent one.
You know why these idiots in the comments believe her? Feminism. You know why Nicole thought she'd get away with it? Feminism. "Believe all women" is nonsense. I don't believe most women and I definitely don't believe her.
We live in a feminist society where women can do whatever they want and get away with it. When Nicole lies about her abuse and creates bruises on herself, most people blindly believe her. But if Chris had shown the actual proof that she was verbally abusive and often threw household items at him, I guarantee everyone except his mother would've laughed at/disbelieved him. Why? Because he's a young, white, athletic man. And we know that, in modern Western society, men don't tell.
It's sad and pathetic. I'm sick of this stupidity. Chris was the victim. Nicole seems like someone who'd go out partying all night, and leave Chris alone to take care of the kids, and then hit him and degrade him when she got home. She's THAT kind of woman. I am not. I refer to myself as an anti-feminist. I am a defender of the patriarchy because a strong, male-driven society is better for everyone. I'm 100% on your side. Most people expect me to be a feminist but I'm completely the opposite. Feminism ruins everything. And, tbh, feminists are some of the most irritating people to be around. I just can't do it.
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WHY WHY WHY???
WOULD THEY EVER GAVE HER YEARS????
Absolute bloody disgrace. Love from Scotland. ❤
She killed him and planned it, so fake
Totally agree, she sent him text messages so ballsy yet he was an abuser? She would never have done that if he was.
How do you know ? Were you there !? Do you even know these people?
@@epi965 she's a bad actress
If you use abuse as a defense for murder, you better be able to prove it.
Exactly
They showed the same 8 photos of some bruising..... but no official claim of DV to authorities.
I found myself in one saying to myself, how??? You just can't sometimes! No one gets it until they are in it!
7 years Wow?
Are you saying that’s a lot or that’s a little?
@@brandyhendersonShort time!
@@kartiersupremewhite330 I thought it was short too! I only asked because I wasn’t sure if you were thinking of her as a battered victim who shouldn’t have gone to jail. Yeah, it’s crazy they only gave her 7 years!
Did u ever think he was a monster?? Maybe she was telling the truth.
Man y'all know why she got her sentence reduced shay whitey..
There are red flags when you start dating. See how he reacts when he gets angry is a telling sign how he handles stress.
TRUE but alot of girls are young and inexperienced in navigating relationships, seeing red flags and social/body language ect. I was only 18 when I got married. By the time they realize they are already married and it's too late. We need to start teaching our girls, young, the signs to look for when dating.
I guess you never experienced one that put on a full facade until after the wedding day or sometimes even a year later if not more…
@@cmnr8487 so your girls learn to kill before they learn about red flag 🤡🤡🤡. Murder is easy leaving is not according to all these biased ladies in comments 😂 and who asked you to marry at 18 , idiot.
Wow how disrespectful was the anchor lady
How is the news anchor describing this as “intriguing” and giggling and smiling when talking to Juju? Gross
DISGUSTING!
You can kill your partner but you can't just fucking leave....
I feel for her. I just wish she didn't have to taint her hands by killing him.
Thought this was going to be clips of the interview. Instead it’s just the anchors talking…
What is she gonna tell her children?
If she was in a tough situation she should of left. We all have a choice and she picked hers.
leaving is hard in abusive relationships, the psychological hold an abuser has on their victim is very strong.
like 80% of domestic abuse victims who try to leave end up dead. dont be ignorant.
I strongly feel that I would’ve left without hesitation, but without being in that situation, you never really know what you’d do. There’s so many factors to consider in every domestic abuse situation. And no two cases will ever be EXACTLY the same, and even if they were, no two victims will ever be exactly the same. In identical situations, one victim might be brainwashed or frightened into a stupor, and another victim might be a little more emotionally bulletproof and have a higher will to fight or strategically make a plan to get out, or just straight up leave and figure it out afterwards (basically do whatever’s necessary to get out safely - other than shoot them).
I’m really trying to have an open mind… but I’m with you though… why didn’t she just leave. If it was bad enough to shoot him, then I can’t imagine the circumstances or outcome of her leaving being that much worse in comparison.
@dani
I was Also in a situation like her. It's not easy. But at the end of the day we all have our choices. And taking the life of someone won't justify any actions .
@@richardwilliams7415 once again, it’s very hard to comment on what goes through a victim’s mind unless you are one. having experienced D.V, I can testify to the fact that it’s really fucking hard to even think of leaving, and if someone is coming at you with a weapon or threatening you, it could be easier to just take a weapon and defend yourself
People will never understand why it’s so hard to just leave … it’s not easy.. I guess that’s just how it is.. the victims always lose no matter what..
Why didn't she just leave. I can't believe people are still asking that question. I guess you don't understand unless you have been through it.
I don’t understand why they were laughing. Either a man is dead that shouldn’t be, or a women is in jail that shouldn’t be. How is that funny?
I think she put the crocodile tears and the baby voice on real well and it worked
No it didn't. She was originally sentenced to 19 years to life. He was a horrific abuser.
Man she lied her ass off, she murdered that man, she needs to stay locked up for the rest of her life..if it was that bad, cop or no cop she could've been ran away she stayed and want someone to believe it's not murder yeah ok..
Nothing good comes from owning a gun... No one is after you and no 1 wants to break into your house...
@James Jazzy the gun belonged to her boyfriend. And yes, it put her In constant danger since he threatened her life with it.
As a DV survivor I understand the situation. However, she had gumption in text messages to say what she wanted to say to him. She had actual police officers backing her up, they wouldn't have let anything happen to her for real, for real the way they were going to bat for her. One officer sends out a mass email to other officers that Chris would be a suspect or is a suspect if anything happens to her. I bet he didn't even know all this shid was going on. She probably would tell him oh I got hurt at gymnastics class today one of the students fell wrong or I tried to do a move. Then it just so happened four searches popped up on his phone. She inches there but it's like then he'll find out and really be able to deny it. The way he was positioned on the sofa and she supposedly has been beside him or whatever, he was sleeping good and didn't have a clue. He probably showed her how to use the gun for protection and she learned how to use it and did. Wonder what were the time stamps on the four searches that were made 🤔 I think after the unfortunate events that happened when she was five something probably snapped in her. Some of us think that stuff like that doesn't or shouldn't affect us but it does. Then the ex girlfriend is talking about he was watching me never said he put hands on her. You really don't hear her friends say he acted jealous or malicious or a certain way towards her only what they say they saw on her or she told them. I would love to know the I.Q. of the one that shot him because damn. The meek, mild, mouse of a voice didn't fool the jury but it fooled some fools 😂 Well played, well played 👏
No, she didn't. There were many witnesses who saw her with bruises. Many
@@EndFemicideSaveLives He wan not asleep. His eyes were open when he was found. He was trying to wrestle the gun from her. He'd just told her that he'd shoot her and then shoot himself.
If people see bruises why would you give that poor woman 7 years. How come they can't have that testimony shown. That is ridiculous. Makes no sense
So sad!!
Why are they laughing and smiling about this story. Dv is not a joke. A child is without parents. This is very distasteful.
(3:05) "Why didn't she leave ?" - No need to be treated within the criminal justice system...
... somehow the smiling of two women at the end of this clip appears at least to me that the potential rival was too stupid to commit a crime unnoticed.
7 years? Lol meanwhile I just finished an episode of Steve Wilkos where a 15 year old kid got prison for 4 years for “punching a cop” which ended up not being the truth. I hate this country
Well, there's always China, Iran or Russia to move your house to.
Well..... It's always easy to sit back and judge someone. It's hard to leave someone in a n abusive situation especially in your 20s have u ever been in that situation
@@aubreyshelton3217 I'm a man. The instant another man hits me, I'm out of there. I realize that it's harder if you don't have the means to leave, but some women stay because they think the situation will somehow get better on its own, believe the dude is at heart a good person, are concerned about the kids or are simply too invested in a terrible relationship to leave. I don't buy the popular gaslighting theory that says women stay because they're manipulated by men. If you have free will, you can leave. If you don't, I pity you.
What country do you love?
@@aubreyshelton3217 It's even harder to pick up a gun and shoot someone in the head in his sleep. Her life was not in imminent danger, she had support from the cops, her family and mental health professionals. Which is a lot more than most women in abusive relationships have.
Seven years is a joke