Mother found guilty of second-degree murder finds support, domestic abuse awareness l NTL
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- Опубліковано 16 гру 2021
- Nikki Addimando was found guilty of killing her partner in 2017, who she alleged had been sexually and physically abusing her for years. Since then, her supporters rally to commute her sentence.
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The fact that CPS visited the same day as the incident, specifically because they noticed her constant bruising, and that wasn’t enough to help her case?! What else do they want from women besides dead bodies in order for it to be enough?!
Idk maybe women should be smarter about who they choose to be with, just a thought.
You didn’t listen. She refused help. You Millianials hear what you want hear so you can form your FB feeds.
@@jragon9215 classic victim blaming.
“There are as many violent women as men, but there's a lot of money in hating men, particularly in the United States -- millions of dollars. It isn't a politically good idea to threaten the huge budgets for women's refuges by saying that some of the women who go into them aren't total victims.”
― Erin Pizzey
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You are right.
On the one end women want to be treated as equals and on the other end they need the entire world to stop for them and change or it's unfair and muh segsismus
“There are as many violent women as men, but there's a lot of money in hating men, particularly in the United States -- millions of dollars. It isn't a politically good idea to threaten the huge budgets for women's refuges by saying that some of the women who go into them aren't total victims.”
― Erin Pizzey
Until you have been in a domestic violence situation, you can not POSSIBLY understand what a person goes through. You can not judge what you cannot understand. The mental abuse is horrific, the guilt and embarrassment make you feel like a pile of bricks are on your back. The fear of retribution from the abuser locks you up so that you can not make clear decisions.
It’s your choice, you have the power of choice. I can’t feel bad if women choose the wrong choice, they could have been with someone who is a good guy.
@@jragon9215 my point exactly, you can not understand unless you have been there. Thank you @jason for proving my point. And…Merry Christmas!
Jason Borunda From your theoretical opinion, evidently you have not been part of or even near a domestic abuse situation.
@@kellyskaggs7987 well Merry Christmas 🎄 I treat my women with respect and compassion so I can’t understand it I guess.
@@jragon9215 my ex was the ideal boyfriend for two years. The day after we got engaged, he started beating me. If i left, he found me and dragged me back for more beatings. It took the help of my entire family to get me out and it took months just to get them to believe me because they all thought he was the ideal man. Yes, some women do choose to be with abusive men but thats just not the case for most other abuse victims.
Just to be clear, im usually amazing at picking up bad signs from potential partners. My current partner and i have been together 5 years and hes never even raised his voice at me. Some people are just master manipulators. If you have a hard time understanding that, that means you likely arent one and thats good for you
How many times do young women try to leave an abusive partner and later end up being murdered themselves. If there is substantial proof, evidence and witnesses to testify that this young woman was being abused over and over again then I believe she should be set free and given some good hearted counseling for herself and her children.
I know right! Weve seen this same scenario play out plenty of times. If she hadn't killed him, he definitely would've killed her and probably even the children. She just did what she had to do.
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Either way it goes it's a death sentence... be careful out here
That lawyer choking up is a gem of a man. Its so amazing to see a lawyer who truly cares about their purpose on this earth over their hourly rate. ❤
This is disgusting. Hoping she goes home soon.
@Like Magic you’ve obviously never been abused and it shows!
@Like Magic its called self defense
@Like Magic he raped her and tortured her for years. Your point?
@Like Magic I understand your point. She didn’t think it through. She should’ve killed him in self defense when he was in the act bc even I know it’s murder of you do not bc I watch a lot of crime shows
@Amanda Michelle yes she can
Her defense attorney is amazing. Humble. Kind. Passionate. Capable. Moral. He gives me hope for humanity. I think she has endured enough trauma.
People look down on them for "Defending murderers" but even murderers deserve a fair trial
If the genders were reversed you would be asking for her to get the death penalty or life in prison, you are a misandrist.
The judge on the other hand...complete narrowminded fool.. has no idea what its like. He should be thrown into a room and mentally tortured for a couple months. I bet he sings a different tune then!
As a survivor, it is extremely hard to leave. Psychological manipulation, enough to drive a woman mad. She needed rescued. Study the brain on abused women and then tell. Me, she could have just left.
If you don't have knowledge first hand of this traumatic abuse then don't give your lousy two cents.
What about abusive women...
I see no evidence
@@silverpairaducks whataboutism. Dude stop this.
@@aryanbilakhia9842 f u
@@silverpairaducks that to is wrong for exactly the same reasons, and it happens! The aggressor is always wrong!
As a survivor, I can say I was living in a loop! I tried to appear as normal as I could , full time avoiding escalation! Tried for my kid’s to the best mom I could be. And the real devastation is that I thought it was all my mistake, I felt i didn’t try hard enough! Why I said the things dat agitated him, why I was a sloppy housekeeper, why I didn’t cook nicer food, things like that. My mind was in overdrive all the time, to keep it all together! The day I almost died after a beating and was hospitalised for some time. Social service came and said If I was not able to keep my children safe I would lose my children, because of that I found the braveness to go to a save-house. Where I started all over again, with nothing else than the clothes on our backs. My youngest was only 6 months old! It’s the best thing I ever have done! But man don’t underestimate the fear that comes with that decision. Only when my kids became adults I was at ease again! So do not judge a woman in this situation! It’s the abuser that is betraying the love aspect of the relationship!
Wow! Congratulations! I am so proud you made it out. Thanks for sharing!
@@Rose-ez2fm thank you 😊
God bless you
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I can definitely relate
I am a survivor of gaslighting and mental abuse. My former husband accused me of abusing our children. He played the legal system and CPS. Fortunately he didn't get very far and eventually we finalized our divorce and custody agreement. The lasting impact on my children has been extremely hard to cope with. I feel as though I can't trust anyone anymore. Not even myself. What this woman has gone through is much worse and my heart goes out to her. I wish I could hug her.
If you wish to help her call gov hochul in New York and support her plea for clemency. This Wld mean the world to all women. Myself included. Everywhere. It matters what you do and don’t do. It matters that you take action. This story is heartbreaking beyond belief. We have to help protect women from abuse and support them. Not punish them.
Hugs to you! I get it, unfortunately.
Don't leave yourself out you need a HUG 2.
Don't have a kid because it costs like $100,000 dollars from 0 to 18 years.
Don't date because dating is the Cause of all problems, 50% divorce, 95% break up. Spend your money and limited time on yourself, life is short
@@MoneyMan28 I don't have a 401 K, to worry about, but I do have a 401 CAN, I can do that, take care of myself.
I love how its "stand your ground" and "you have a right to defend yourself in your own home against an attacker" UNTIL an abused woman kills an abusive man. Then they are convicted but meanwhile kyle Rittenhouse is free to walk.
Well obviously she isn't a white male!
Totally agree. We live in a messed up world
She was offered help on more than one occasions and refused. She chose to stay. You can't have it both ways. Stop trying to pick and choose when things matter.
Exactly!
@@williamgregg6339 And Kyle could have stayed home. Your point you are trying to make is BS.
Remember that over half of female murder victims are killed by a current or estranged/former partner. Domestic abuse is deadly. Even when they leave, their abuser can still find their way to murder them. It happens way too often. Had she not shot him in self defense, she very well could have died trying to leave. *Leaving is the most dangerous part of an abusive relationship*. There are many, many reasons why someone can’t “just leave” and considering that he was threatening murder-suicide, it should be obvious it wasn’t safe for her to “just leave”
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Or admirer who can't take no.
I left....but it was the hardest thing to do..it's not easy...I totally understand her...only if you walked in her shoes could you comment ....she needs to be with her kids who she protected..
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What an empathetic & giving attorney. You are in a league of your own ❤️
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Although the guy got what he deserved, it was murder. The video did a poor job discussing the evidence against her, rather focusing on her family and local support. She killed him in his sleep, pressing the gun to his head so hard that it left a mark. And the main evidence that probably led to the guilty verdict was a text message to her friend saying she couldn't find a way to get kill him without being caught. The defense said it was a joke, *but 2 weeks later her husband was killed in his sleep*, so it was not self defense. Source: CBS News
@@zellty423 That he was asleep was the prosecutor's interpretation. Expert testimony said that his position could be known (and him laying down aligned with Nicole's testimony), but whether he was asleep or not couldn't be known.
He almost made me cry. I see how genuine he is.
Nikki is an incredibly sweet, loving, woman from my hometown. She did what she had to that night in order to survive and protect her children. It’s unbelievable that our justice system punishes women for surviving.. for choosing to live. I stand with Nikki and all criminalized survivors. Hoping Governor Hochul does the right thing by granting her clemency.. 💜
Shooting someone in the face is not protecting. Troll. You didn’t know this woman.
“There are as many violent women as men, but there's a lot of money in hating men, particularly in the United States -- millions of dollars. It isn't a politically good idea to threaten the huge budgets for women's refuges by saying that some of the women who go into them aren't total victims.”
― Erin Pizzey
Ever heard of Dr. Amy Bishop?
She murdered her brother in 1986, was cleared of wrong doing and ended up committing a Mass Shooting on the faculty of the university of Alabama.
stop pretending women are not capable of Evil.
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"it sounds like it's hard for you to believe women"
if you didn't quote statistics right after pretending these refute my argument then of course it is hard to blindly believe women.
You are a woman
You made a comment proving you are not reliable
logically I have to assume that believing all women is a mistake only people who post random statistics will make.
if you start off accusing me of some wrongdoing and then want me to read the rest of your comment, you again prove to be a woman, because I don't buckle to that type of manipulative behavior.
what do you think you are doing?
Why lie and manipulate as if you are a feminists version of Pavlov's dog?
@@wheatiemattiasich btw Erin Pizzey
is a woman
was raised in an abusive household
is a domestic abuse victim in her own adult life
is a domestic abuser in her own adult life (same situation as the one mentioned above)
is the first person to open a home for domestic abuse victims (her own home)
Erin Pizzey disagrees with your manipulative bs and tells the truth, you on the other hand are a liar.
If you haven’t been through abuse then you have no idea what it’s like. It’s not easy to leave at all! Really high highs and really low lows.
I was beaten raped from 17 till I was 36 and I agree its not easy to leave when you have kids x
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Edit; I was talking about the op.
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@@omi_god I’m shocked to hear what happened to you, only hard to believe that you don’t have compassion with this mom when you know that someone left no other choice than to protect themselves. And when you lived the same abuse you should know that things aren’t normal or under control! So ore you forgot ore….
“There are as many violent women as men, but there's a lot of money in hating men, particularly in the United States -- millions of dollars. It isn't a politically good idea to threaten the huge budgets for women's refuges by saying that some of the women who go into them aren't total victims.”
― Erin Pizzey
It is incredibly hard to leave! This is so despicable! He was gonna eventually kill her
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It's even harder doing time in prison, I'll take my chances.
I feel so bad for her and her kids. They have lost a loving mother after watching her be abused
Statistics clearly show the most dangerous time and when the most violence happens (up to and including homicide) is when the victim tries to leave.
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@Uncle Muscles judging by your other comment, you sound like a domestic abuser with hurt feelings. Can’t think of any other reason to be so against this 💀
Don't matter that's not how you go about it unfortunately. She's guilty. She ain't getting out.
@Uncle Muscles lmao bold assumption considering you’re denying domestic violence against women. Buddy if you’re a violent misogynist, just say it. You don’t need to project 😂
@@hardcorehunter9438 so...when the white boy killed black people on the riot he was found innocent even that he got out from home decided to cause warm on black people But when a mother, victim of domestic violence protect herself she's guilty?!? Basically, for you guys, black people in general and women don't worth to protect, doesn't matter the amount of their suffering, they don't have the right to defend themselves. And we both know, that the "law" doesn't protect them either
My mother was abused for years by two different men, but she "loved" them, she said, so she didn't leave. Even got guns pointed at her multiple times. I don't know what went through her head, but something sure kept her from leaving. One of them died, and I was so glad, because I was certain he'd have killed her if he hadn't, but nobody believed he abused her when I brought it up, even though I witnessed it first hand. Abusers hide their crimes well, and make it hard for victims to leave, for one reason or another.
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Psychological and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse. The physical abuse may ultimately kill you but the psychological and emotional abuse makes you want to kill yourself. Once your self esteem is so beaten down you believe the abuser that nobody else would ever want you, that you are too stupid, ugly, fat, old, incompetent to survive without them. That's why your mom stayed.
Had she not done this, it might be her, her partner, AND her kids who all died in a murder suicide by the abuser
My heart hurt hearing her on the phone with her mom. I pray she's freed sooner than expected and can get back to her kids. Unfortunately life will likely be very different for her regardless
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I know right! I felt her panic and her pain! It was real!
That made me tear up I ain't gonna lie
Thanks to her lawyer who has been working pro bono, for his human touch and empathy. I wish there was more lawyers like him, wanting to actually change something in the rigid system.
I've been searching for a pro bono lawyer for 7 year with no luck
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He’s on ABC news video with hundreds of thousands of views the publicity alone will pay for itself and then some. Bet there’s people calling now
Yes! What a wonderful person her lawyer is!!
@@MediCali951 Good doesn't require publicity. The man is a walking billboard of what's good. I bet he doesn't need to pile up more wealth to drag him to hell.
If there is even one sign indicating unfairness or abuse in a relationship, end it immediately.
Easier said than done
If at all possible report it to authorities, ASAP get it on record.
Tragedy strikes 😢
@@Markzuckisacuck What's even easier, start speaking up for yourself quit being Milly mouse, they loved to overpower those type of women. You talk about fuel for fire being quite a meek.
In case of abuse definitely, but unfairness is quite subjective and probably exists in every relationship at some point
This young lady deserves better.
She deserves to be free..
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“If she were being abused, she could have left.”-the prosecutor
No. No, she couldn’t. You know nothing about domestic violence.
The pathetic thing is that Prosector has undoubtedly seen dozens of cases where the husband or boyfriend killed the woman and children, so he sure as heck does know, but obviously has no soul.
Exactly! He would’ve killed them both plus the abuser has control over their victim mentally and physically so it’s probably why she was afraid to leave.
No she should have gone to police to get them to make him leave , simple
If she was indeed being abused, Let her go. These abusive men need to be taught a lesson that they are alive only because the women they abuse Let them.
Amen.
I stand with her. This is a big and ignorant mistake. Set her free and let her raise her kids, that'll be justice.
It’s not easy to leave an abusive person especially if they look for you constantly. Personally when I called the police the first time the officer was incredibly rude to me and intimidated me . He was not understanding a victim needs to be able to feel secure. I had a restraining order against him and he still would drive by my parents looking for me and so emotionally, physically draining, and extremely confusing. I feel so bad for this girl . They say a victim really leaves the abuser after about 8 times of trying to leave so why would they send her to jail if there is studies that prove that it take a victim so many tries of trying to leave .
I'm a survivor of domestic violence it's hard to leave your abuser, I was scared of being killed of him finding me, I had help thank God, in 2013 I was diagnosed with PTSD because of the abuse I went through, today I have an amazing man who is so supportive and is always there for me, I have DBT skills that I use on a daily basis, it's not easy going through what we survivors go through, I take it day by day and have full support from my family and friends
What's DBT?
@@iricandescence dialectical behavioral therapy, it's so awesome, a few things I do is listen to music, color draw, write in my journal, read a book.... just to name a few
The laws MUST change in this country!!! A restraining order either makes things worse or does absolutely nothing! Leave? Ever try to leave when someone is abusing you physically, sexually and emotionally as well as manipulating you? Sometimes the only way out is self defense. I don’t condone murder but in DV cases, it’s survival
Survival before sentiment!
I actually agree.
Yup her innocence is shown how much she loves her babies and her bruised body explains her justice !
She could've left ,the abuser is not around her at all times ,why sit an wait till someone dies ?
@@willyboss495 . Well better him than her. I hope she gains her freedom soon too!!!
Her lawyer made me cry!! I hope she is set free to be with her babies. They will always remember her bc her family and friends will never let them forget.
This is why my children's father is still alive. I didn't want to risk going to jail and leaving them. So now we live in fear that he will come back. The courts post my address on their public website and he was awarded joint custody and unsupervised visits. He put a loaded gun to my head right in front of our babies. He chooses not to practice his visits but he can at any time.
That's horrible Carol. I hear you.
I left an abuser myself. I know what that constant, nagging fear does to you.
Don't know what you believe, but I'm praying for you.
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That’s absolutely pathetic. What is wrong with this world!
Yep! That's why many abusive men are still alive. We know the courts will blame us for protecting ourselves and our kids and destroy our lives where the abuser left off.
Don't have a kid because it costs like $100,000 dollars from 0 to 18 years.
Don't date because dating is the Cause of all problems, 50% divorce, 95% break up. Bezoz Lost $50 Billion to gf. Spend your money and limited time on yourself, life is short
Omg. What is wrong with courts ???..he threatens your life and they grant him visitations . I hope he never ever comes back to you.
If someone abused a puppy the same way this person was abused we would hear the cries to heaven. Abuse a woman and people look away. They do not want to get involved, it is a waste of their time.
This is the best comment I've seen so far... animals have more advocates than human beings---- and WE'RE the humans beings!!! How does that make sense??
In these cases, it always seems that the woman always gets the most time in jail. It's unfair.' Oh, you can just leave' and the hurtful ' you made your bed now lay in it.' It's very true that many domestic violence victims get punished.
I literally got arrested for defending myself after the person who abused me has been arrested twice and released immediately but as soon as someone sees me defend myself after hours of being screamed at, I’m the one on probation and had to spend 3 days in jail.
Excuse did you say they get more time? I'm sorry but that's laughable
My aunts and their husbands said the same to my abused aunt. They said She chose him and she should solve her own problems. because the parents hated the guy and my aunt would fight but go back to him. They never understood the dynamic of an abusive relationship. Plus the husbands wanted the father's house so a new burden was too much. I tried explaining to them and my family are the only supportive ppl to my aunt. I just shudder every time I hear my aunts talk terribly about their sibling coz she chose to stay. Manipulation is the tactic these abusers use and the others around don't understand it. Victim blaming is easy but cruel.
"If they were abused they should have left" Seriously? Not everyone can. Some feel stuck, some don't know how they have so much fear.
Excuses. Weak people make excuses. The woman who get involved with these people know they are abusive before the move in, marry, and have their children.
@@DevinSheaProductions Not always. How insensitive of you.
“There are as many violent women as men, but there's a lot of money in hating men, particularly in the United States -- millions of dollars. It isn't a politically good idea to threaten the huge budgets for women's refuges by saying that some of the women who go into them aren't total victims.”
― Erin Pizzey
I agree it's not that easy but you shouldn't kill
One thing that needs to be understood about domestic violence is the psychological warfare waged against the victim. The abuser chips that the victim's self esteem, isolates the victim. The abuser tears away at the victim until the victim is in a psychological prison. You want to leave, but you can't. You are trapped by the psychological barbed wire the abuser placed inside your mind. I got out before things turned violent because my friends saw what was going on even though I was blind to it. They held a mirror up to my relationship and offered to hold my hand to lead me out the door. People think that's it, but it's not. After I broke up with him, he showed me exactly what my friends feared. I was in the car with him and he shouted, punched and kicked the dashboard as he told me how angry he was that I wasn't laughing at his jokes and that he felt like I put up an emotional barrier that he couldn't break thru. Long story short. I recommended that he go to therapy. He acted like he would and later decided not to. That was the end of that. Thankfully, we weren't already married. I honestly believe that would have enraged him to the point of murder if I divorced him.
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That's bull**** to say if she was abused why she stay...how dare you!!!! When you get abused it knocks you down so low and once you try to leave or do leave the abuser it's the most dangerous and deadliest time for the one that is abused!!! Poor girl.
🇨🇦. I believe her.I am a survivor 👊🏼 It’s always easier said than done to leave before it gets so bad that only one 🚺of 🚹you is going to make it out alive .Things can escalate at a super fast pace ↪️↩️⤵️🔀🔁🔄🔃 right out of the blue when you LEAST expect IT !!! Do not judge on things you know nothing about ! 😡 I bet if that judge had a daughter who had narrowly escaped with her life from domestic abuse ,🤕💔❤️🩹 he would stop saying “ you could have left “ ! Looking in from the outside it is easy to see solutions but when you are in the thick of ‘it ‘ you just keep telling yourself it will stop 🛑‼️ 😪 🤧.
Even after leaving, there's no real protection from the psychos! The judges set them free, over and over again, before you can even get out with your kids. Unless you run and disappear, you're not safe! And that has become extremely difficult to do now, thanks to technology. Oh and let's not forget, if you are lucky enough to get away, you will still be handing over your children to the monster, for visitation without any protection. Those are some crap choices, because the system and judges refuse to do anything to truly protect women or children!!!
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“There are as many violent women as men, but there's a lot of money in hating men, particularly in the United States -- millions of dollars. It isn't a politically good idea to threaten the huge budgets for women's refuges by saying that some of the women who go into them aren't total victims.”
― Erin Pizzey
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Maybe ask males not to rxpe and kill so they don't get hate you masculinist scxm.
@@captainobvious6070 You had to correct your comment lol
If it were me when it comes to a domestic violence problem, I say she was the victim. Not her husband. People with a history of domestic, seem to not deal with it anymore. I feel bad for this mother. She was hurt bad. I hate seeing bruises on women.
Let her go she’s a survivor of Mestic violence she’s an innocent woman that was being abused in the justice system has failed her let her go that guy was a woman beater and aggressive she did the right thing to protect herself and her kids
It’s so easy for the prosecutors to say “she could of left” the abuse she had experienced from the abuser could be interpreted as self defence with revenge.
The abusive, women hating, narcissistic, incels in the comments thinking they are victims is disgusting. I won’t be responding to any, and I encourage other women not to engage either.
They’re sickening low life’s.
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Your a loser, girl.
@@JTurk331 Pathetic, no wonder you are here trolling, no sober woman wants anything to do with you.
@@littleredhen3354 um, you are the one trolling dear. Oh, and its this woman's future is what's pathetic.
I stand with Nikki, I stand with all survivors,. Let’s change the system! 💜
If you are a man that is a friend, neighbor, or relative of a woman who is being beaten. It is your duty to stop it. Period.
it should be the police duty but that never happens
Why would another man be sacrificed?
Look at how the incels/red pill psychos are responding in the comments. Don’t hold your breath they guys will help. Most cops are abusive to their partners so how can we expect them to help female victims? They don’t care. Aggressors are not rescuers.
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Call the police as much as you want, they will not do anything.
She's from my town. Free Nikki! She has tons of support here!
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Thank you for covering this story and shedding light on Nikki and other criminalized survivors. #istandwithnikki
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I support this woman 💯💯💯
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I do too!!!!
Self defense is NOT shooting someone when they are lying down regardless of past abuse. She murdered him.
I pity your wife/GF
There’s no “just leave” with domestic abuse. That’s not how it works. If a woman gets to leave and stays alive or doesn’t get hurt, she’s lucky.
Millions leave. You can just get a restraining order. Only a tiny percent physically attack after a court order. You don't just murder, just in case.
It actually, is not that simple. Anyone who knows anything about domestic v*olence, knows the most dangerous time for a survivor is when they try to leave. Look at the Gabby Petito case, she was getting to the point that she was ready to leave, and now she’s gone. Too many victims of domestic v*olence end up the same. A restraining order does not necessarily protect you. There was a case a few years ago where a man was k*lled by his ab*sive ex girlfriend whom he had a restraining order against.
@@magnolia31611 I don't doubt your anecdote, but what are the odds? I can come up with a deadly anecdote for anything to justify almost any murder then.
@@magnolia31611 if I have a fender bender and the other guy raises his voice, can I shoot him and say that is a prelude to him punching me by just showing an incident where that happened?
@@simstar6557 your ignorance is astounding. Just don’t even attempt to understand it any further because you’ve already proved that you won’t.
This is so sad. May she be set free.
When will this awful “justice” system realize that psychological and sexual abuse of women should never be turned against them when they finally have the courage and desperation to take life-saving action? Will this system EVER truly and thoroughly PROTECT the abused instead of punishing them when the only one they can rely on is themselves?
When the justice system is handled by feminists who fight for justice instead of masculinists who fight to protect the rich and males.
4:34 WHAT? YOU CANT LEAVE WITH THOSE KIND OF MONSTERS...YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE YOU DO EVERYTHING VERY CAREFULLY...SO THINGS DONT GET ESCELATED ...THERE NOT RIGHT IN THE HEAD...THEY WONT LEAVE YOU ALONE...YOU HAVE TO PLAN VERY WELL SO WHEN YOU ARE FAR AWAY AND SAFE WITH YOUR CHILDREN...THEN YOU CAN REPORT EVERYTHING....AND BE VERY CAREFUL NOT TO BE CRYING ESTERICALLY WITH THE OFFICER BECAUSE YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF IN A PSYCHWARD AND THEN YOUR CHILDREN GO TO THE ABUSIVE PARTNER...THE MONSTER WILL THEN START ABUSING THE CHILDREN BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT THERE TO PROTECT THEM. I FEEL SO BAD FOR HER....SHE WAS STUCK IN A VERY BAD SITUATION WHERE ALOT OF PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND...JUST THE ONES WHO HAVE LIVED IT.
The saying she could have just left is so ignorant. This is why so many women are in these situations. It took years to get out. The emergency that happened that day makes her a hero. She shouldn't be in jail
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She's in jail because she shot him while he was a sleeping and she left left the scene of the crime, if she had shot him right after he hit her and IMMEDIATELY called the police now we're looking at SAFE DEFENSE.
I’m a survivor of domestic violence in my abuser got temporary custody of my six-year-old son. My 10 year old son he lives with me and I have sole legal custody over lives with me from my first marriage. He has lied and manipulated the court system and abused me and my children and still got temporary custody we’re going to custody child right now. I’m glad that her attorney has a really good voice for her a lot of women like ourselves need a voice. It took me at 10 times before I needed to leave my abuser. I went back to him 10 times before I left him. I’m only allowed to see my son two hours a week on supervised is a Tatian and a center and I live in North Carolina my ex had a case transferred to the state of New Jersey. The state of New Jersey just doesn’t understand how victims of domestic violence or traumatize through the court system and how it affects my children. I’m praying that I’ll get my little boy back hopefully by the beginning of the year because he should’ve been granted temporary custody. He’s manipulating the court system for six years it took us to get trial date.
The thought of leaving a lot of times comes hand in hand with knowing the violence you face will get much worse if you do try to leave
The jury ignored too many facts or was provided to them. There was also a corrupt judge. I hope her life gets better.
He is probably an abuser
poor woman, sometimes the abuser tries to live no traces, tbere are lots of things and the person just can't tell, it' so sad, it' like been trapped
It’s absolutely disgusting that a court system punishes the victim-even AFTER PRESENTING EVIDENCE VIA PHOTOS, text, and TESTIMONY from FAMILY and FRIENDS and FAMILY SERVICES and CPS being called!!!!!
The fact that CPS came over was enough to piss the abuser off and actually PUT THE VICTIM IN DANGER!!!! He most likely threatened to actually kill her after that visit! And because I am a DV survivor myself, I would have done as she did and denied the abuse. As a DV survivor I remember being scared and walking on eggshells. I’m was threatened until the ex actually strangled me.
And that is why on that day of CPS visit this tragedy took place!
And this is EXACTLY WHY WOMEN DON’T REPORT OR PRESS CHARGES or get help and DON’T LEAVE!!!
Heartbreaking... I hope she comes home soon. What an absolute injustice. 💔 praying for her children, family and friends...
I love that man. So much compassion in his character. That's a real lawyer! Universe give him all the tools and strength he needs.🤞✨
“If she were abused she could’ve left” so easy for the court to say. Unbelievable.
I pray that she gets to be with her babies very soon!
I believe her. I understand of leaving is very hard and challenging for her. I witness my mom went through a same phrase as every mother. I'll pray for her and her family
Feeling abused or injustice... doesn't give you the right to kill another human being. If you feel abused ....leave
"If she was being abused, she could have just left". My goodness. I am a grown man and ever since I can recall I've lived in and grew up in a very toxic environment called Home.
Our father was a mouse on weekdays, but at the weekends he became a demon after drinking alcohol Friday-Sunday. He cursed at everyone but mostly he targeted my mother and my sisters. Our mother swept in silence for most of her life. We watched her suffer and we begged her to leave, but her Christian faith and her commitments to "Marriage and Family" meant she would endure a long life of suffering. Every night she prayed for freedom, but freedom was elusive.
No man has the right to physically, sexually, emotionally or psychologically abuse a woman. When we do we are no more than just Bullies and Abusers.
I hope Nikki gets the support she needs and have her conviction commuted and is allowed the opportunity to put her life back together. She shouldn't be punished twice.
My brother who had the worst attitude blame women for being abused. He calls them stupid and thought why didn't they just leave or fight back.. it's their fault blah blah 🙄❌
Nobody understands... I saw it with my mom and I made some similar decisions as a mom myself. We try what we can for our kids but we do forget a happy mom is a happy child. There is never an excuse for abuse. Not from any gender.
@@RV-in2mc you are so on point. There is truly no excuse for any form of abuse.. And come to think about the knock-on effects of being in an abusive environment will have on kids. A never-ending cycle.
Walk away! If you're being abused, just walk away. If the case was the other way around most people would have stated that the guy should have walked away
Insane that she was found guilty...
God bless her sister & the attorney 🙏 Niki means Victory! 🙏
Please help her. No one understands until they are in that situation.
If the police did their job, she would not need to defend her kids. Just because she would not sign, the system need to have a solution.
That lovely lawyer choking up...ugh, thank goodness for people like him.
As a victim of domestic abuse you DONT know what its like to live it. It breaks you and you lose yourself. Again if you havent lived dont judge her!
She needs to be freed!!!!
I was in abusive relationship and before the relationship I would leave a abusive relationship then my partner started verbally, emotionally and later physical abuse. I didn't leave. He had ripped my confidence and and self esteem apart. I went through conflict, inner conflict on a daily basis for a year before he left me. In the separation I gained confidence and filed for separation. Throughout four years of separation he still verbally and mentally abused me and very manipulative. I met someone and in him leaving I knew I had to leave my husband for me and my children. I filed for divorced three days later after the new man left and I was free in 2 months. It's been 11 years and my ex husband still tries to manipulate me with withholding child support. He tries to touch me when I have said "no!". It's been a hard road and he's doing better but once in a blue moon does manipulative things to me. I am alot stronger, wiser and confident now to stand my ground and keep my boundaries tight. I am grateful for the experience and I have the wisdom to share with other people going through or maybe starting a new relationship with these signs and get out before it's too late. 🙏
Leaving the abuser doesn't always help
Exactly, especially since Courts routinely give partial custody to the abuser who then continues the abuse vicariously through the children since they nolonger have access to the primary target of their abuse. And courts don't do a damn thing about it other than vilify and pathologize the protective parent.
It's better to say there she go, rather than there she lay.
I hate hearing that others do not know what to do. You report the abuse, document everything. You try and get your friend or family member out of that situation and leave. It goes both ways for both women and men. Especially if children are involved. You owe it to your children to keep them and yourself safe.
SHOULD HAVE CALLED POLICE ON THE GUY!!!
Unfortunately it is much more difficult than that. Trust me. I have worked in abuse shelters for both men and women. When children are involved, honestly, CPS and other government agencies may be contacted, but, if the couple involved have unusual dynamics, are codependent, the result or a "welfare check" could definitely not reflect the reality if the situation of the domestic relationship. But you are right. The children should so be considered.
Sounds really easy. I wonder why it’s so hard for people in these situations? I wonder why so many woman get murdered after leaving, which is the most dangerous part of the the relationship. I just wonder why all these women are so stupid. - you realize I’m not being sincere here, right? You literally have no gd clue what you’re talking about. It’s extremely evident. I pray that you are NEVER in this type of situation.
A lot of people think or say “why doesn’t she just leave the bastard?” Unfortunately it seems that things are really complex by the time it gets to domestic abuse. The victim sometimes fears that if she does leave, then he will find her and kill her. Police and other agencies are generally useless and sometimes take the side of the perpetrator. Often the victim will not admit there is a problem, or they blame themselves. There are some good books to read on the topic like Crazy Love by Leslie Morgan Steiner.
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I pray she can get home and get her kids♥️
I ran to the kitchen and grabbed a frying pan to try to defend myself from abusive partner. He looked at me and said "Bitch you better make it good. " I knew he meant that if I didn't knock him out with the frying pan he was going to use it on me. His abusive power over me and my fear of him won out. I put the pan down and then physically paid for trying to stand up to him.
I'm sorry you had to go through that and I hope you are safe now💖
My sister and my mother suffered from domestic violence. I was very young back then and it affects me to this day. I swear to myself that I would never allow this to happen to me and it hasn’t. Women who get abused are afraid to leave because they get so belittled mentally and physically that they actually think they are that way. My stepmom use to mentally and physically abused me that i had problems concentrating in school and she Told me I was dumb. Once me and my sisters left that environment I was doing better in school. Then when I became a young adult I figure it wasn’t me that had the problem it was my stepmom. I have PTSD from all I had to endure as a young child.
People like to say, You can just leave..you can't!! I should of left a million times, but it took me being ready to leave.. and trust me I wanted to so many times, you cant. No one will ever understand that!!
Did you have a good job then to support the same lifestyle?
You just leave, no I don’t understand.
I'm glad you got out! And ignore the two scumbags trolling, they are both pathetic and need professional help.
@@littleredhen3354 you are cheering murder that the courts specifically found to not be self defense by watching a very one-sided video. Have you considered professional help?
If all her allegations are true, I would certainly sympathize with her actions. But dead people don't talk and you can vilify them without evidence. The courts, judge and jury, felt that the accusations on the murdered victim were not substantiated. This video felt carefully managed by the defense, with no viewpoint heard from the other side. I felt emotionally manipulated by the images and the attorney weeping, I did not feel I was watching news.
@@littleredhen3354 she says she kneed him and took the gun away. I have some trouble believing that story. He was a Taekwondo instructor. And the bullet was in left temple, not frontal. Police found the body in a sleeping position. This read like execution to me, while he was sleeping. Very cold blooded. And I also was suspicious why his photo was not in the reporting. It felt they were deliberately painting her to be an angel while dehumanizing him. And judging by your posts, it worked. I will go with the courts, not social media campaigns.
God bless this family and please bring her home!! Amen 👏 no way is self defense supposed to be like this
It's very hard to leave an abusive relationship . When you are being manipulated by a partner you go mad. It's hard to leave your partner.
That's Fd up...much prayers & thoughts to her and her children & family. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You can't just leave ...it took me 5 months to plan my escape with my new born IN SEPTEMBER 2020. 3 days before I was planning to flee, my partner had a mental episode /tried too commit suicide , and Yes i Called the cops and they did not help me , they did 'nt report the incident ....
after the cops left - my X held us hostage for 3 days......SO FOR SOMEONE TO SAY "WHY DIDN'T YOU JUST LEAVE "
.it is never just easy too leave....believe this...
I'm glad you escaped!💖
I was in an abusive relationship many years ago and I couldn’t leave. He threatened to kill my family if I did and I know to this day he would have. I was actually plotting his death when he was arrested for serial rape. He’s still in prison for it 44 years later but if he got out even all these years later, I know he would still be a very violent man.
Even if she had left he would have gone after her.
Would it be better to let him continue abusing her in front of the kids or try your best to leave and get herself a gun to use for protection? All I’m saying is, if she did leave him and he comes attack her. By all means if the act is in red defend, she is allow to use deadly force.
Am I blaming her ? No, I’m stating if people should arm themselves because you can’t relay on the police or government to protect you. Like a piece of paper is going to stop someone with a Vicious intend.
@@letsgetit90 everyone’s situation is different. You do you. I’m not judging her for taking this route and acting in an instance. I was in her situation once. I almost pulled the trigger tho I had time to reflect and I got lucky that it didn’t end deadly for anyone.
Her own neighbors called for help for her! Thank God for the Lawyer so passionate
Wow we need more people like this Lawyer what a tender heart.. God bless you dear...
Prosecutors across the Nation should work with advocacy groups and domestic violence shelters they need to understand as I have come to understand how somebody can be victimized afraid to get help from the criminal justice system they've been programmed bother abuser that nobody is going to believe them that they'll lose the children if you tell somebody that's long enough they believe it they live in fear and intimidation and their thoughts become irrational this young lady should not be in jail she needs rehabilitation in a different setting it's not going to be easy for her to overcome this and it is my heartfelt prayer that the governor of New York will commute her sentence and pardon her as well I work with a group in New Mexico community against violence and they have taught me so much because I was an abuser not physically but mentally I'm sorry for my past but I understand how I was controlling and how I terrorized my wife and made her living fear so to the governor of New York I asked you to please do the right thing and shut this young lady free
She needs help, not punishment, of course it was self defence, look at her life with that lowlife, that's all the evidence you need. Evil people handing out these sentences, no feelings.
She is a liar
It is so frustrating that after seeing how domestic violence affects people, we still revictimize the victim telling them they should have left. No one says that to a kidnapped victim, which is essentially what happens in domestic violence situations. I was so close to trying to kill my ex with a tire Iron. I had it under my pillow waiting for him to go to sleep. Fortunately, my sanity came back to me when I thought about my kids or I would be in prison today and my kids would have suffered more.
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Prosecutors don’t care they just want a win there nasty
If only more lawyers were like Mr Garrard Beeney!
The lawyers emotional response… it was as what we need more of in our justice system when it comes to abused victims
Thank you for this.
“If she were being abused she could have left” that’s so messed up 😤
So is finishing him off.
@@simstar6557 No its not, she did the world a favor. Plus she spared all his future victims.
@@littleredhen3354 she should not see her kids then
Bright idea: let’s ignore everything we KNOW about domestic violence, put victims on trial, and call it justice. BULLSHYT! #BELIEVEHER
Awe, this is so sad 😞
God that phone call with her mom made my heart ache for her so much more. How could they even charge her when she has so much evidence against him to prove his abuse. It's disgusting that she is sitting in prison for protecting her and her children. God bless the heart of the lawyer, amazing to know that there is someone out there standing right beside her and doing the right thing. I truly hope she is able to come home as soon as possible so that she can be with her family..especially her children
She needs to be a free woman and be a fantastic mom.
As a survivor and someone who is still scared to death to come into contact with my abuser, this is just so sad and scary.. we can't defend ourselves because we will end up in prison, but nothing happens to the abusers..
She should not be in jail
wtf kind of jury was this?! absolutely appalling!
May she and her children find healing ❤️🩹