unfortunately a lot of parents think their children are their possessions. some of the most abusive, entitled and toxic behavior comes from the people that are supposed to be our protectors.
⚠ Whoever defends or promotes any book or preacher that is contradicting the Quran & Hadith will gain as much sin as those who follow those wrong teachings. No one would drink a milkshake with 🥛🍌🍓 ✔ & poison ❌ in it because it will end this life, yet we are ready to learn From Fazail - e - Amal which has Quran verses, Hadiths ✔ plus Shirk & bid'ah ❌ in it Poison will end this temporary life ⚰ but shirk is worse because it will keep us in hell forever 🔥😨🔥 ALLAH MADE IT CLEAR ISLAM IS COMPLETE AND PERFECT ( There is no need 4 Fazail - e - Amaal )
@@tablighijamaatcontradictst6525 can u point out 1 thing whic is a bidda ? From fazal e amal, so i can do some research. I hope u already gone through complete fazal e amal as u r talking like u know it all. I did not had chance to read fazal e amal. I just want to onow how u came to thos conclusion. Ur hate reflects in ur dp also.
I am amazed how this man brings up such sensitive topic and explains it with such ease and positivity...u are a kind of person this world deserves..truly
What's the problem brother? Do not let anyone oppress you and force you into a forced marriage. You have the full right to marry whomever you choose yourself. And no one has the right to prevent you or dictate to you.
This arrangement marriage thing is not for our times. Imagine being forced to marry your cousin who doesn't follow Islam and leave someone religious out because he is not from your family.
Make sure you don't confuse arranged marriage to force marriage. Arranged marriage generally is when someone may link you up with someone and you have the choice if you want to be with them. Forced marriage is when your pushed to marry that person outside your choice.
@@zaink7037 yup even my marriage is arranged by my parents and hers but we are very happy 😊 it's not forced at all.. pretty soon going to marry I hope so next year just waiting because I had cha cha ( close relative) his number is first then me lol or just together.... but force arrange marriage is not common in my place but they do put lot of pressure to convince you for it 😉 well my relative had love marriage and parents were against at first later they agreed maybe if all parents are like this it would be wonderful 😊
@@AliMuhammad-fl3ii hopefully it goes well insha'Allah 👍. There's a girl I like I used to see back in school. Been messaging her and helping her with her job search as she's been looking over a year now for a job since she finished uni. Hoping one day mutual friends can arrange us all to meet up and I tell her in person how I feel and if shes happy. I try to not get infactuated over someone until you get married to them as it hurts so much if it doesn't work out like my last experience
@@zaink7037 do it now or it will be never don't look for chance to meet make one by nook or cranny ... it's best to talk as fast as you can because lot of thing can happen like she going to marry someone else or she develops some feelings towards someone else so ask her for meeting then ask for her hand ✋ if she agree then ask your parents for her hand ✋ lol 😆 😂 inshaallah it will goes well for you this time maybe last one was not good match for you 😉
I love a guy for almost 5 years ,he's from India we studied in same medical school and our relationship was always pure not physically just I can say he's the one who gives me mental peace most But unfortunately my parents don't accept him my mom especially And they are forcing me to marry anyone from my home town But my heart belongs to him It's more like he's a therapy for me He gives me mental peace we can laugh for hours after hours , he keeps me happiest most It's not like he's providing me financially support but that mental peace is so soothing
Masha Allah that's true Yes it's a fact parents should know it's prohibited in Islam in their childhood you engaged your child with anybody and after that in their adult age you force them to marry with that person it's a major sin May Allah guide those parents and give them awareness and goodness to follow Sunnah and Hadith of our Nabi (S.A.W) Ameen 🤲😊 jazak Allah Khair 😊
I fear of the punishment. I have interest based bank loans. Please pray for me. I want to pay off the debts. Keep me in your prayers. May Allah bless me with Halal rizq
Ive been living in my forced marriage for the last 13 years, i have three children, trust me when i tell you that, the trauma stays, you never get over what happened. Please make dua for me my brothers and sisters, and for my children too 💔
Parents lie saying you'll be happy it will get better it takes time blah blah blah. Don't want parents to be punished but definitely want them to be questioned by Allah!
My dad is also pressuring me. My mother is just following his orders and telling me to think it over. I told him I didn’t like that guy who is over fifteen years my senior and my cousin (my father's sister's son), but my dad kept telling me how this marriage would help me because they didn’t want a dowry. If he looks for another man, they will ask for a dowry, and he can’t give it because of our financial difficulties, so he picked him because his house is close to our and he works a good job. I'm 19, I've never been in a relationship, and I don't plan to enter either. Marriage, boyfriend, love-these were all forbidden words in the house, so when they asked about the marriage, I was shocked. I hope Allah provides me with enough strength so I can handle emotional blackmail, disappointment, anger, or anything my family will make me go through.😢
Don't marry stay firm . If you live in a better country go to the police your parents are committing haram by marrying you forcefully . Allah says Don't be oppressed nor oppress others.
I’m having the same situation as you I’m 18 rn but they’re forcing to get married.. I don’t even like him I’m being forced each day please do make dua dor me
The sad thing I'm seeing and is not uncommon - girls getting married and leaving their jobs or education and becoming a stay at home wife and getting pregnant soon after the wedding. These men they get married to come over from their home country and follow this old school mentally for women to be like this. It's sad and makes me think what potential they could of had if this didn't happen to them.
That is the traditional Islamic thinking. Mufti Menk would be considered as a progressive teacher by ultra conservative Muslims--and unfortunately those are the ones who try to hold Islam by the throat. May more leaders like Mufti Menk increase and bring about a new spring in Islam.
Married for 30 years, by choice not by force! For my generation they call us Gen X it is considered a miracle of Allah that we are still together. According to other churches as well Gen X members only stay married an average of 5 to 6 years. Before I converted I was a member of the Catholic church and we were given a PAPEL decree for having remained married for so long. I looked back on that and at the time we were in what they called a 6% bracket at being married for five years. I cannot imagine what bracket they would count this in today as we approach 30 years. May Allah continue to bless us
I had no guidance and my parent never even taught about marriage, and what to look for in a spouse.😔 Everything I learned came from others that I met or friends. I wish that parents would offer more guidance about life. Many people just look at how attractive a person is or they're Financial status and not of they're Character, and nobody wants to talk about human sexualities Some people don't even realize that be for we are ntimate with our spouses we need to know how to approach each other and about each other, and the will of Allah even in those moments let's offer guidance and not shy away from important topics.
After I accepted under pressure and words like if you don't marry this will remain without marrying forever and that nobody wants you, but when I met him I don't like him .. He has nothing wrong with him neither he smokes nor drinks and prays but my heart is not happy with him and also because it seems to me that he is still small in brain ... And I had a pact with him that if I don't feel good with him we would cancel everything normally .... When I said it my parents turned against me and told me of all colors ... and threatening to kick me out of the house, they insulted me in every way and my father even refused to talk to me for 2 months now and even to eat. And they say that I am wrong and that the one I want is only making fun of me and that they know what is best for me and that if I marry someone else I will not live a good day because they disagree ... And the boy he knows that I don't want to marry him but in any case he remains stuck like a glue, perhaps because he wants me to do the documents for him to come to Europe ... I have tried everything but they say that I have to marry him and moreover they want me to be happy ...It even crossed my mind to commit suicide because I couldn't bear the insults anymore ... But I thought of Allah swt and I said everything will be alright .. Alhamdolillah despite all this problem made me get closer to Allah swt, even if my parents are still firm on their decision.
Unfortunately many people have had no choice , i had to marry a mentally ill 18 yr old because my parents made a plan with them when i was still in primary school. I had no idea he was ill i was a child myself, i suffer to this day and 3 of my children have inherited the illness, i have no support from my parents or inlaws instead being told to get on with it. I am the first to say may our almighty creator forgive everyone but in such cases i hope Allah deals with these people in the way they deserve because not only do they destroy their own child but the grandchildren aswell
I'm in this situation right now. My parents are searching for a guy for me for arranged marriage, and I'm okay with that. I'm 22 now and I'm not in love with anyone but those guys whom my parents selected for me I don't like them. Honestly, I don't find them attractive and they are more than 10 years older than me so I reject them. I never want to hurt my parents but in this situation, I can't handle them they are very angry with me 😭 I pray a lot to Allah for help but again my parents select a new guy just like before they did. And they are not listening to me 😭 I don't know what to do.
I'm in the same situation 😖😭no one understand my pain..I'm just 17 ..what can I do? Everyone force me😓I don't like this marriage...and I don't like the guy😔 please Allah accept our dua😭🤲🏻no one should be in this situation 😔 Please included me for your dua❤️
Sister same case of mine...parents my elder sister didn't want to hear me...they had said i'm getting old...if i didn't marry that guy..they won't search any guy for me in future...i pray to Allah...but that didn't work out...i am feeling depressed but nobody is beside me...what can i do..i didn't like the guy..i have no attraction anout him...Allah aldo didn't help me..what can i do..😭😭😭
Make dua to Allah that He stops people (marriage proposal) to come in your direction until and unless you want marraige and when you want it make dua to Allah that He sends the guy who will be best for you and you will like him.May Allah protect you and all the girls (sisters) who are suffering from such problem
brother and sister, if you in this severe situation, you NEED to step out raise your voice, if they pull out the "hellfire" card on you, ignore it, you're not going to hell for denying this, the one WHO forced you will fight with them, raise your voice and tell them theyre not in charge of anything related to marriage but only recommend it step out brother and sister, these are not choosing a football team or a badminton team. these are between heaven and hell, life or death, mental health and future.
Marrying your cousin looks haram Allah may of not said it in the Quran but a lot of my cousins got divorced then got married again only the second time they weren’t cousins now are happy married after seeing that happening that tells me stay away from cousins who are supposed to be your family don’t make them hate you
Salamuaikum, my mother divorced my father when I was little and later got married to a Christian man. Now my question is this. I want to convert my mother to Islam while she is still legally married to this man what are the processes to be taken in other not to bridge their marriage. Thank you.
Mavlana i mailed u for help. My friends parents forced her to marry someone she doesn't know. Please help us. She's in too much stress. She is scared her parents would hit her and scold her. They're from a caste where it is haram to marry someone outside their cast.
It is never haram to marry someone who does not belong to your cast. You can call the child services Or Show them this video Your friend needs to stand up for herself I know its hard But please tell them that force marriages are haram. Contact a nearby scholar and let the scholar tell your parents that forced marriages are haram. Please do something
*زبان کے 36 گناہ جن کو انسان معمولی سمجھتا ہے* 1۔ جھوٹ بولنا 2 ۔ غیبت کرنا 3۔ جھوٹا وعدہ کرنا 4۔ زیادہ مذاق کرنا 5 ۔بد اخلاقی 6۔ دل توڑنا 7۔ دوسروں کی بے عزتی کرنا 8۔ تہمت لگانا 9۔ طعنہ زنی 10 ۔نا حق حکم دینا 11۔ بے جا ملامت کرنا 12۔ مذاق اڑانا 13۔ ناامید کرنا 14 ۔گفتار میں ریا کاری 15 ۔قرآنی اومر کا منکر 16۔ نواہی از معروف 17۔ زخم زبان لگانا 18۔ ناحق گواہی دینا 19 ۔ گفتارمیں تکبر 20 ۔ افواہ پھیلانا 21 ۔ مومن کو رنجیدہ کرنا 22۔ دین میں بدعت سیہ ایجاد کرنا 23۔ گالم گلوچ کرنا 24 ۔ دوسروں کو برے ناموں سے پکارنا 25۔ نامحرم سے مذاق کرنا 26۔ چاپلوسی کرنا 27۔ بلا وجہ چیخ و پکار کرنا 28۔ لوگوں پر لعنت کرنا 29۔ حسد و بخل کا اظہار 30 ۔ مکروحیلہ سے گفتگو کرنا 31۔ مسائل دینی میں تحریف کرنا 32۔ لوگوں کے راز فاش کرنا 33۔ جھوٹی خبر دینا 34۔ دوسروں کی عیب جوئی 35۔ کسی کی آواز کی نقل اتارنا 36 ۔ بے جا قسم کھانا *اللّٰه پاک ہم سب کو ان گناہوں سے بچنے کی توفیق دے آمین ثم آمین* ✍🏻 *عین الحیاہ* ________________
I was forced into a arranged marriage and it ended and I was not aware I was even engaged! I was lied to and a lot of things were hidden from me and I trusted my family but then ended up married in Pakistan 😢 he beat me and left me after 7 months and it took 7 years for me to get a divorce. Alhamdolillah Ala Kulli Haal. Alhamdolillah for everything. 😢 Allah bless us all, provide snd protect us all, amen 🙏
AMEN ALLAH PROCTECT AND BLESS US ALL GIVE US DISCERNMENT KNOWLEDGE WISDOM N UNDRSTANDING WHERE WE COME SHORT OR BE LACKIN IN OUR LIVES ALLAH HELP US GUIDE US TO STAND FIRM ONLY IN U ALLAH I PRAY THAT WE WILL BE GUIDED AND CORRECTED WHERE WE MAY GO WRONG AMEN 🙏ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL
My parents without taking my consent choose a guy for me. I said I dont like the guy but they are like which we choose u have to marry him. Tomorrow the family will come and finalize everything. Its like if u r a girl your decision doesn't matter. I dont what I will do I just cant live my whole life with someone I dont like.
I just had this talk with my dad yesterday and he was fuming but I didn't care. I had to make it known and CLEAR to him that this is my life. U can give advice all u want but what u won't do is make decisions like that for me. I told him if u want a wife then work on yourself and u do that but, don't tell me who I can and can't date. Some males and mostly Muslim males think they have control over u. Like they think your life is theirs. They wanna control u. And I'm not have it, and neither should u. If u don't wanna get married that's up to u. Even if u still get married to the dude just go through with it and down the line have a talk with him and plan for a divorce .
Sm situation happend with me nd my girlfriend right now...what I do pls suggest me ..how I convince them ..their ..they family not accept but the girl only want marry me nd their family forced to marry other guy nd they do kufri magic 😭 on my gf ..I really loved her too much nd I want her my wife..we dont do a haram things ..when we like each other then we told our Family ...nd right now our last stage is praying nd belive in allah ..pls make dua for me
Even you you are not the right person for her because she has already become your girlfriend instead of wife. She has to marry someone who will make her his wife and not his girlfriend. Any man who starts with Haram relationship with a woman even if he marries her still will come to have desires of having a girlfriend in his life
My parents purposely brought up the proposals of guys that i would never wanted to marry . I already described them how i want my would be to be .n i wasn't in love with anyone at that tym. my parents forced me to marry to whom i wasn't attracted to at all. Now even after being married to that guy I still don't have any feelings for him nor do I have any attraction towards him. I wish Allah can take me out of this situation coz nobody listened to me during my wedding that I didn't want to marry that guy. I kept crying n crying . nobody cared that a bride is crying that time . I feel like I am dead now . Can't feel any emotions anymore. I wish to be happy and in place where I always wanted to be. But all I feel is dead from inside . I feel dead now
I’ve been forcefully married to my cousin. It’s been two years now. I want to divorce but I am stuck. I have tried talking to my parents and my so called husband too. But it seems there’s no way out for me. Should I accept this as Allahs will and go on with my life? What should I do please help?
I have a Muslim friend in the UK who is a chemical engineer. He was conned into getting married by his relatives who had a fake meeting with him to tell him how they all wanted to get him married. It turns out that the meeting was finely orchestrated several days in advance and everyone knew exactly what to tell him. Once he agreed they got a girl for him within ONE day…He was reluctant to get married because of financial reason but it seems that culture and prestige are more important than paying your debts/bills in the Indian Muslim community. Anyway he got married and realized that in his new family they don’t even know the true direction of the Kibla and have statues all over the house. They seem to have a low threshold for reckless spending on luxurious but useless items..Many years later he found out his father in law was a Freemason…. And that is the result you get when you force someone into a marriage he is not agreeable to…
Most arranged marriages are just culture based to keep inheritance in the family everyone has been given the right to chose their spouse sanctioned by Allah parents look at their parental rights bypassing Allahs decrees
If i Tell my parents everything they never never undrstands they are very backward and have very abusive mind n tounge. I am diying like hell. I have no one to marry and they are forcing me to marry anyone and just get out of my home.
I hope someone is here to reply me i am going through a very difficult time. My parents are forcing me to get married to my phuppo's son and I'm so tired because my problems keep increasing they feel no mercy for me. I told my mother crying that i really need her I'm tired and she said don't do this drama with me and it broke me. I get severe anxiety they think I'm just manipulating them. I don't wanna marry him. Is it sinful to say No?? Does that mean I'll end up with someone bad ?
Same situation I think sucide is only solution no one is going to hlp us. Only those person can understand who r stuck in this prblm. I can't accept this
Bro It is perfectly permissible to say "no" if you don'tt want to marry and your choice matters, but force marriage is *Not Allowed In Islam.* Astaghfirullah bro don't think about committing suicide, If you are going to do this you are confirming your place in the hell. Just left you house, same thing with me, if they don't listen to me I will leave them in few months. I can't just kill myself because I fear hellfire but I can't bear them anymore *May ALLAH Protect Us😔*
@@ubaidmir5829 Bro just leave them, I assume you are an adult right? Don't listen to them, don't do something stupid like suicide, just leaving the house
@@Stop_The_Genocide life became hell how can I spend the life with the person whom I don't like. I tried my best to convince my parents but they totally refused. I can't save myself from depression. Life became worst for me. It is easy for a person
@@ubaidmir5829 What are you not able to earn? Can't you run your own life? Leave them or tell them I will file complain against you if you force me to marry. Better to fight than live in hell.
Diz happen with me my husband love someone else becoz of his parents he married me he is not my relatives now we r divorce he married to his lover now living happily I'm struggling wit my son single Allah will help me inshallah
So sad this happen to you it is even not the guy fault but these parents, because they think that they know the future but the thing that they do not know is only ALLAH can know the future, may ALLAH help you Insha ALLAH keep doing some duaa 🙏🏾
@@fatimabah9593 even guy so manipulative & diplomatic he is so mature tat he can stand for his love at the time of marriage after my delivery he never come to see us so we had huge fight we r not in talking term fr atleast 2 month at the time he got married they hide wit us after knowing tat he got married I divorce him
@@fatimabah9593 if he divorce me means he has to give alimony etc so he is very clever if u want divorce means u can take he never care abt his son also
@@sanobiathaseen7832 ohhh i see you are right he is guilty because he knew that he was in love with another girl and still he got involved with you so it is on his responsibility to take care of you and now you have a son even that you got divorced it is on his responsibility to take care of your son However i pray that ALLAH chose à good caring and lovely husband whom will take care of you and your son amine 🤲🏾🤲🏾
unfortunately a lot of parents think their children are their possessions. some of the most abusive, entitled and toxic behavior comes from the people that are supposed to be our protectors.
It's heart breaking 😭
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⚠ Whoever defends or promotes any book or preacher that is contradicting the Quran & Hadith will gain as much sin as those who follow those wrong teachings.
No one would drink a milkshake with 🥛🍌🍓 ✔ & poison ❌ in it because it will end this life, yet we are ready to learn From Fazail - e - Amal which has Quran verses, Hadiths ✔ plus Shirk & bid'ah ❌ in it
Poison will end this temporary life ⚰ but shirk is worse because it will keep us in hell forever 🔥😨🔥
ALLAH MADE IT CLEAR ISLAM IS COMPLETE AND PERFECT
( There is no need 4 Fazail - e - Amaal )
@@tablighijamaatcontradictst6525 can u point out 1 thing whic is a bidda ? From fazal e amal, so i can do some research. I hope u already gone through complete fazal e amal as u r talking like u know it all. I did not had chance to read fazal e amal. I just want to onow how u came to thos conclusion. Ur hate reflects in ur dp also.
True
Mufti menk is the voice of the youth and the one who have no voice ❤️❤️
May Allah grant this understanding to every parent and child :)
Ameen 🤲
I am amazed how this man brings up such sensitive topic and explains it with such ease and positivity...u are a kind of person this world deserves..truly
I welcome and encourage everyone to read and listen to the Holy Quran. Subhan Allah!
My sister is a forced marriage. And now she is suffering from so much depression. May Allah swt make everything easy for her. Ameen🤲
Am sorry your sister is going through something this burdening
She's not aloud to obey them in that so tell her to go
What's the problem brother? Do not let anyone oppress you and force you into a forced marriage. You have the full right to marry whomever you choose yourself. And no one has the right to prevent you or dictate to you.
Ameen
Aameen
This arrangement marriage thing is not for our times. Imagine being forced to marry your cousin who doesn't follow Islam and leave someone religious out because he is not from your family.
Make sure you don't confuse arranged marriage to force marriage. Arranged marriage generally is when someone may link you up with someone and you have the choice if you want to be with them. Forced marriage is when your pushed to marry that person outside your choice.
@@zaink7037 yup even my marriage is arranged by my parents and hers but we are very happy 😊 it's not forced at all..
pretty soon going to marry I hope so next year just waiting because I had cha cha ( close relative) his number is first then me lol or just together....
but force arrange marriage is not common in my place but they do put lot of pressure to convince you for it 😉
well my relative had love marriage and parents were against at first later they agreed maybe if all parents are like this it would be wonderful 😊
@@AliMuhammad-fl3ii hopefully it goes well insha'Allah 👍. There's a girl I like I used to see back in school. Been messaging her and helping her with her job search as she's been looking over a year now for a job since she finished uni. Hoping one day mutual friends can arrange us all to meet up and I tell her in person how I feel and if shes happy.
I try to not get infactuated over someone until you get married to them as it hurts so much if it doesn't work out like my last experience
@@zaink7037 do it now or it will be never don't look for chance to meet make one by nook or cranny ...
it's best to talk as fast as you can because lot of thing can happen like she going to marry someone else or she develops some feelings towards someone else so ask her for meeting then ask for her hand ✋
if she agree then ask your parents for her hand ✋ lol 😆 😂
inshaallah it will goes well for you this time maybe last one was not good match for you 😉
May Allah grant us righteous spouses and children
I love a guy for almost 5 years ,he's from India we studied in same medical school and our relationship was always pure not physically just I can say he's the one who gives me mental peace most
But unfortunately my parents don't accept him my mom especially
And they are forcing me to marry anyone from my home town
But my heart belongs to him
It's more like he's a therapy for me
He gives me mental peace we can laugh for hours after hours , he keeps me happiest most
It's not like he's providing me financially support but that mental peace is so soothing
Masha Allah that's true Yes it's a fact parents should know it's prohibited in Islam in their childhood you engaged your child with anybody and after that in their adult age you force them to marry with that person it's a major sin May Allah guide those parents and give them awareness and goodness to follow Sunnah and Hadith of our Nabi (S.A.W) Ameen 🤲😊 jazak Allah Khair 😊
Every young person right now
HOW DO I SEND THIS TO MY PARENTS
Including me 😂😂
Masha Allah brother.. such wise words ❤️❤️
Jazakallah ❣️..
For enlighten each and everyone by your valuable words ..
🌼🌼🌼I think everyone should listen to u🌼🌼🌼
I was in love in my neighbor too. SubhanAllah. Story of my life.
I fear of the punishment. I have interest based bank loans. Please pray for me. I want to pay off the debts. Keep me in your prayers. May Allah bless me with Halal rizq
Ameen sum Ameen Elahi ameen
Ameen
May Allah give me and all sick people Shifa 🤲🏼🌹 AMIN
Ive been living in my forced marriage for the last 13 years, i have three children, trust me when i tell you that, the trauma stays, you never get over what happened. Please make dua for me my brothers and sisters, and for my children too 💔
Parents lie saying you'll be happy it will get better it takes time blah blah blah. Don't want parents to be punished but definitely want them to be questioned by Allah!
My dad is also pressuring me. My mother is just following his orders and telling me to think it over. I told him I didn’t like that guy who is over fifteen years my senior and my cousin (my father's sister's son), but my dad kept telling me how this marriage would help me because they didn’t want a dowry. If he looks for another man, they will ask for a dowry, and he can’t give it because of our financial difficulties, so he picked him because his house is close to our and he works a good job. I'm 19, I've never been in a relationship, and I don't plan to enter either.
Marriage, boyfriend, love-these were all forbidden words in the house, so when they asked about the marriage, I was shocked. I hope Allah provides me with enough strength so I can handle emotional blackmail, disappointment, anger, or anything my family will make me go through.😢
Don't marry stay firm . If you live in a better country go to the police your parents are committing haram by marrying you forcefully . Allah says Don't be oppressed nor oppress others.
I’m having the same situation as you I’m 18 rn but they’re forcing to get married.. I don’t even like him I’m being forced each day please do make dua dor me
The sad thing I'm seeing and is not uncommon - girls getting married and leaving their jobs or education and becoming a stay at home wife and getting pregnant soon after the wedding. These men they get married to come over from their home country and follow this old school mentally for women to be like this. It's sad and makes me think what potential they could of had if this didn't happen to them.
That is the traditional Islamic thinking. Mufti Menk would be considered as a progressive teacher by ultra conservative Muslims--and unfortunately those are the ones who try to hold Islam by the throat. May more leaders like Mufti Menk increase and bring about a new spring in Islam.
MashAllah well said, jazak Allah to standing up for young people 🤲🏾
MashaAllah thank you for this.
May Allah bless you mufti menk
Thanks you sir God bless you for the good advice
MashaAllah may Allah make it easy for our parents to make good decisions towards their children Amen
Mashallah May Allah bless you and your family
Asc brother may Allah bless you with everything.
this is where people confuse religion with culture..
SUCH an important message!
Married for 30 years, by choice not by force! For my generation they call us Gen X it is considered a miracle of Allah that we are still together. According to other churches as well Gen X members only stay married an average of 5 to 6 years. Before I converted I was a member of the Catholic church and we were given a PAPEL decree for having remained married for so long. I looked back on that and at the time we were in what they called a 6% bracket at being married for five years. I cannot imagine what bracket they would count this in today as we approach 30 years. May Allah continue to bless us
God bless you and your family brother. May Allah reward you in this life and the next😊
Aameen!
I had no guidance and my parent never even taught about marriage, and what to look for in a spouse.😔 Everything I learned came from others that I met or friends. I wish that parents would offer more guidance about life. Many people just look at how attractive a person is or they're Financial status and not of they're Character, and nobody wants to talk about human sexualities Some people don't even realize that be for we are ntimate with our spouses we need to know how to approach each other and about each other, and the will of Allah even in those moments let's offer guidance and not shy away from important topics.
After I accepted under pressure and words like if you don't marry this will remain without marrying forever and that nobody wants you, but when I met him I don't like him .. He has nothing wrong with him neither he smokes nor drinks and prays but my heart is not happy with him and also because it seems to me that he is still small in brain ... And I had a pact with him that if I don't feel good with him we would cancel everything normally .... When I said it my parents turned against me and told me of all colors ... and threatening to kick me out of the house, they insulted me in every way and my father even refused to talk to me for 2 months now and even to eat. And they say that I am wrong and that the one I want is only making fun of me and that they know what is best for me and that if I marry someone else I will not live a good day because they disagree ... And the boy he knows that I don't want to marry him but in any case he remains stuck like a glue, perhaps because he wants me to do the documents for him to come to Europe ... I have tried everything but they say that I have to marry him and moreover they want me to be happy ...It even crossed my mind to commit suicide because I couldn't bear the insults anymore ... But I thought of Allah swt and I said everything will be alright .. Alhamdolillah despite all this problem made me get closer to Allah swt, even if my parents are still firm on their decision.
I don't know how to help you other than praying for you. InshAllah things will get better for you. May Allah give you ease
Wonderful things for us
May almighty bless us
Unfortunately many people have had no choice , i had to marry a mentally ill 18 yr old because my parents made a plan with them when i was still in primary school. I had no idea he was ill i was a child myself, i suffer to this day and 3 of my children have inherited the illness, i have no support from my parents or inlaws instead being told to get on with it. I am the first to say may our almighty creator forgive everyone but in such cases i hope Allah deals with these people in the way they deserve because not only do they destroy their own child but the grandchildren aswell
بارك الله بكم
May Allah bless you!
I'm in this situation right now.
My parents are searching for a guy for me for arranged marriage, and I'm okay with that.
I'm 22 now and I'm not in love with anyone but those guys whom my parents selected for me I don't like them. Honestly, I don't find them attractive and they are more than 10 years older than me so I reject them.
I never want to hurt my parents but in this situation, I can't handle them they are very angry with me 😭 I pray a lot to Allah for help but again my parents select a new guy just like before they did. And they are not listening to me 😭 I don't know what to do.
I'm in the same situation 😖😭no one understand my pain..I'm just 17 ..what can I do? Everyone force me😓I don't like this marriage...and I don't like the guy😔 please Allah accept our dua😭🤲🏻no one should be in this situation 😔
Please included me for your dua❤️
Sister same case of mine...parents my elder sister didn't want to hear me...they had said i'm getting old...if i didn't marry that guy..they won't search any guy for me in future...i pray to Allah...but that didn't work out...i am feeling depressed but nobody is beside me...what can i do..i didn't like the guy..i have no attraction anout him...Allah aldo didn't help me..what can i do..😭😭😭
U r 22 but I’m 14 and they’re forcing me a man but I’m marrying soon that man 😭 i don’t know what to do 😢
Make dua to Allah that He stops people (marriage proposal) to come in your direction until and unless you want marraige and when you want it make dua to Allah that He sends the guy who will be best for you and you will like him.May Allah protect you and all the girls (sisters) who are suffering from such problem
All of you pray tahajjud, this night prayer really works .
brother and sister, if you in this severe situation, you NEED to step out
raise your voice, if they pull out the "hellfire" card on you, ignore it, you're not going to hell for denying this, the one WHO forced you will
fight with them, raise your voice and tell them theyre not in charge of anything related to marriage but only recommend it
step out brother and sister, these are not choosing a football team or a badminton team.
these are between heaven and hell, life or death, mental health and future.
subhana ALLAH what a beautiful advice ❤
Marrying your cousin looks haram Allah may of not said it in the Quran but a lot of my cousins got divorced then got married again only the second time they weren’t cousins now are happy married after seeing that happening that tells me stay away from cousins who are supposed to be your family don’t make them hate you
Salamuaikum, my mother divorced my father when I was little and later got married to a Christian man.
Now my question is this. I want to convert my mother to Islam while she is still legally married to this man what are the processes to be taken in other not to bridge their marriage. Thank you.
I LOVE THESE VIDS
بارك الله فيك يا اخي واعانك الله علي نشر الدين الحق
Mavlana i mailed u for help. My friends parents forced her to marry someone she doesn't know. Please help us. She's in too much stress. She is scared her parents would hit her and scold her. They're from a caste where it is haram to marry someone outside their cast.
It is never haram to marry someone who does not belong to your cast.
You can call the child services
Or
Show them this video
Your friend needs to stand up for herself
I know its hard
But please tell them that force marriages are haram.
Contact a nearby scholar and let the scholar tell your parents that forced marriages are haram.
Please do something
No caste in Islam
*زبان کے 36 گناہ جن کو انسان معمولی سمجھتا ہے*
1۔ جھوٹ بولنا
2 ۔ غیبت کرنا
3۔ جھوٹا وعدہ کرنا
4۔ زیادہ مذاق کرنا
5 ۔بد اخلاقی
6۔ دل توڑنا
7۔ دوسروں کی بے عزتی کرنا
8۔ تہمت لگانا
9۔ طعنہ زنی
10 ۔نا حق حکم دینا
11۔ بے جا ملامت کرنا
12۔ مذاق اڑانا
13۔ ناامید کرنا
14 ۔گفتار میں ریا کاری
15 ۔قرآنی اومر کا منکر
16۔ نواہی از معروف
17۔ زخم زبان لگانا
18۔ ناحق گواہی دینا
19 ۔ گفتارمیں تکبر
20 ۔ افواہ پھیلانا
21 ۔ مومن کو رنجیدہ کرنا
22۔ دین میں بدعت سیہ ایجاد کرنا
23۔ گالم گلوچ کرنا
24 ۔ دوسروں کو برے ناموں سے پکارنا
25۔ نامحرم سے مذاق کرنا
26۔ چاپلوسی کرنا
27۔ بلا وجہ چیخ و پکار کرنا
28۔ لوگوں پر لعنت کرنا
29۔ حسد و بخل کا اظہار
30 ۔ مکروحیلہ سے گفتگو کرنا
31۔ مسائل دینی میں تحریف کرنا
32۔ لوگوں کے راز فاش کرنا
33۔ جھوٹی خبر دینا
34۔ دوسروں کی عیب جوئی
35۔ کسی کی آواز کی نقل اتارنا
36 ۔ بے جا قسم کھانا
*اللّٰه پاک ہم سب کو ان گناہوں سے بچنے کی توفیق دے آمین ثم آمین*
✍🏻 *عین الحیاہ*
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You are great ❤️.
You are logical .
May Allah bless u brother for dis
Masha Allah🤲🤲
Jazakallahu khairan
I was forced into a arranged marriage and it ended and I was not aware I was even engaged! I was lied to and a lot of things were hidden from me and I trusted my family but then ended up married in Pakistan 😢 he beat me and left me after 7 months and it took 7 years for me to get a divorce. Alhamdolillah Ala Kulli Haal. Alhamdolillah for everything. 😢 Allah bless us all, provide snd protect us all, amen 🙏
may allah bless you sister !
7 years omg
for visa
@@raabyashafiq8436 for visa?
AMEN ALLAH PROCTECT AND BLESS US ALL GIVE US DISCERNMENT KNOWLEDGE WISDOM N UNDRSTANDING WHERE WE COME SHORT OR BE LACKIN IN OUR LIVES ALLAH HELP US GUIDE US TO STAND FIRM ONLY IN U ALLAH I PRAY THAT WE WILL BE GUIDED AND CORRECTED WHERE WE MAY GO WRONG AMEN 🙏ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL
My parents without taking my consent choose a guy for me. I said I dont like the guy but they are like which we choose u have to marry him. Tomorrow the family will come and finalize everything. Its like if u r a girl your decision doesn't matter. I dont what I will do I just cant live my whole life with someone I dont like.
Sis what happend now did u talk to ur family tht u dnt want to marry tht guy?
I just had this talk with my dad yesterday and he was fuming but I didn't care. I had to make it known and CLEAR to him that this is my life. U can give advice all u want but what u won't do is make decisions like that for me. I told him if u want a wife then work on yourself and u do that but, don't tell me who I can and can't date. Some males and mostly Muslim males think they have control over u. Like they think your life is theirs. They wanna control u. And I'm not have it, and neither should u. If u don't wanna get married that's up to u. Even if u still get married to the dude just go through with it and down the line have a talk with him and plan for a divorce .
@@doilooklikeigaf29yearsago81I will go to the police station if my parents force me.
Assalamu alaikum warahmathullahi wabarakathahu everyone💯😌🌟
Masha Allah
Im Suffering from this situation. 😭i have physical n mental torture.
May Allah ease my situation. Aameen
May *Allah* protect you and give u peaceful life😔
Jazakallah khair
Asalam aleikum everyone ❤️
Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters 🇧🇩💙🤗
Wsc
اللهم صلِ وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد املأوا اوقاتكم بذكر الله
Your are amazing sir..
I want my parents to watch this. But the problem is they don't understand English. I tried my best to make them understand but failed 😢😢😢
Thanks 🤲🤲🇧🇴🇧🇴
I love all your videos
Sm situation happend with me nd my girlfriend right now...what I do pls suggest me ..how I convince them ..their ..they family not accept but the girl only want marry me nd their family forced to marry other guy nd they do kufri magic 😭 on my gf ..I really loved her too much nd I want her my wife..we dont do a haram things ..when we like each other then we told our Family ...nd right now our last stage is praying nd belive in allah ..pls make dua for me
May Allah control the Situation for you! I truly understand the way you feel
@@awagaye3247 yes brother😔
@@awagaye3247 amin
Even you you are not the right person for her because she has already become your girlfriend instead of wife. She has to marry someone who will make her his wife and not his girlfriend. Any man who starts with Haram relationship with a woman even if he marries her still will come to have desires of having a girlfriend in his life
@@bjzee1981 sorry sir i just told here for known...I respect her like my wife nd I want her my wife..
Im going through same thing ya Allah help me🥲🥲🥲💔
My father is a hafiz. But alas 😞 he is forcing me to marry when i am just 17 . And i want to study.
My parents purposely brought up the proposals of guys that i would never wanted to marry . I already described them how i want my would be to be .n i wasn't in love with anyone at that tym. my parents forced me to marry to whom i wasn't attracted to at all. Now even after being married to that guy I still don't have any feelings for him nor do I have any attraction towards him. I wish Allah can take me out of this situation coz nobody listened to me during my wedding that I didn't want to marry that guy. I kept crying n crying . nobody cared that a bride is crying that time . I feel like I am dead now . Can't feel any emotions anymore. I wish to be happy and in place where I always wanted to be. But all I feel is dead from inside . I feel dead now
jazakallahu kheir
Ameen Summa Ameen Rabbil Alameen
Subhanallah
Mashallah
emotional blackmail is outrageous !
I’ve been forcefully married to my cousin. It’s been two years now. I want to divorce but I am stuck. I have tried talking to my parents and my so called husband too. But it seems there’s no way out for me. Should I accept this as Allahs will and go on with my life? What should I do please help?
Our parents are responsible for this. They can't understand.
I have a Muslim friend in the UK who is a chemical engineer. He was conned into getting married by his relatives who had a fake meeting with him to tell him how they all wanted to get him married. It turns out that the meeting was finely orchestrated several days in advance and everyone knew exactly what to tell him. Once he agreed they got a girl for him within ONE day…He was reluctant to get married because of financial reason but it seems that culture and prestige are more important than paying your debts/bills in the Indian Muslim community.
Anyway he got married and realized that in his new family they don’t even know the true direction of the Kibla and have statues all over the house. They seem to have a low threshold for reckless spending on luxurious but useless items..Many years later he found out his father in law was a Freemason….
And that is the result you get when you force someone into a marriage he is not agreeable to…
Yaaa♥️♥️alhamdulliah
The rift between parents & children in the has destroyed our homes and ummah
Assalamualeikum so true love you for the sake of Allah
Subhan Allah.
Now it's a common scenario
Subhan Allah ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Alhamdulliah
Mashallah subhanallah allahu akbar ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Plz enable auto generated subtitle at least 🙏🙏🙏
Most arranged marriages are just culture based to keep inheritance in the family everyone has been given the right to chose their spouse sanctioned by Allah parents look at their parental rights bypassing Allahs decrees
How i show this to him, i wanna hold his parents did something wrong, but ... who i am 😢 May Allah show the way to his parents 🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻
Assalamualukum mufti menk
What if they pressurise you to get married and in other case they say they will curse you and you will never find any peace
100 % brother
If i Tell my parents everything they never never undrstands they are very backward and have very abusive mind n tounge. I am diying like hell. I have no one to marry and they are forcing me to marry anyone and just get out of my home.
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@@ahershey8523 my parents
Disgusting
Masalllah
Indeed
لا اله الا الله
assalaamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu 💗
Indian parents skipped this video 🤣
Same Bangladeshi parents
I hope someone is here to reply me i am going through a very difficult time. My parents are forcing me to get married to my phuppo's son and I'm so tired because my problems keep increasing they feel no mercy for me. I told my mother crying that i really need her I'm tired and she said don't do this drama with me and it broke me. I get severe anxiety they think I'm just manipulating them. I don't wanna marry him. Is it sinful to say No?? Does that mean I'll end up with someone bad ?
Same situation I think sucide is only solution no one is going to hlp us. Only those person can understand who r stuck in this prblm. I can't accept this
Bro It is perfectly permissible to say "no" if you don'tt want to marry and your choice matters, but force marriage is *Not Allowed In Islam.* Astaghfirullah bro don't think about committing suicide, If you are going to do this you are confirming your place in the hell. Just left you house, same thing with me, if they don't listen to me I will leave them in few months. I can't just kill myself because I fear hellfire but I can't bear them anymore *May ALLAH Protect Us😔*
@@ubaidmir5829 Bro just leave them, I assume you are an adult right? Don't listen to them, don't do something stupid like suicide, just leaving the house
@@Stop_The_Genocide life became hell how can I spend the life with the person whom I don't like. I tried my best to convince my parents but they totally refused. I can't save myself from depression. Life became worst for me. It is easy for a person
@@ubaidmir5829 What are you not able to earn? Can't you run your own life? Leave them or tell them I will file complain against you if you force me to marry. Better to fight than live in hell.
الحمدلله
Subhan allah
Diz happen with me my husband love someone else becoz of his parents he married me he is not my relatives now we r divorce he married to his lover now living happily I'm struggling wit my son single Allah will help me inshallah
Make duas
Allah bless you
So sad this happen to you it is even not the guy fault but these parents, because they think that they know the future but the thing that they do not know is only ALLAH can know the future, may ALLAH help you Insha ALLAH keep doing some duaa 🙏🏾
@@fatimabah9593 even guy so manipulative & diplomatic he is so mature tat he can stand for his love at the time of marriage after my delivery he never come to see us so we had huge fight we r not in talking term fr atleast 2 month at the time he got married they hide wit us after knowing tat he got married I divorce him
@@fatimabah9593 if he divorce me means he has to give alimony etc so he is very clever if u want divorce means u can take he never care abt his son also
@@sanobiathaseen7832 ohhh i see you are right he is guilty because he knew that he was in love with another girl and still he got involved with you so it is on his responsibility to take care of you and now you have a son even that you got divorced it is on his responsibility to take care of your son
However i pray that ALLAH chose à good caring and lovely husband whom will take care of you and your son amine 🤲🏾🤲🏾
Watch the children only focus on the first part. Involve your family and keep it halal.
Do pray
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