All girls are beautiful and precious and so you are ❤ first of all I pity on him who rejected you. You are not only intelligent but very beautiful too and fit all the criteria of “perfect wife” that boy might be regretting today and must be feeling sorry for calling you “hawa mein udh rhi hai” actually he didn’t know that “Coming events cast their shadows before” And you proved it. Akhir thodha hawa mein udhna toh banta hi hai😀aur fir kyon na udhein jb pankh mile hain toh. I have seen your Sri Lanka visit vlog with your handsome hubby 💐 God bless you both always ❤ Today’s vlog is really nice and food for thought for everyone actually 👍👌💐
@@AleenaRaisLive You are always welcome dear 💕Thanks for pinning my reply ❤️🙏 I noticed last time too🫶 You are doing really good. Keep posting your and others’ experiences. Now you are a “NAME” and millions listen you.
I just found this video and really grateful for that!, these days I'm experiencing kind of pressure from my family. Top of that, I'm debating with myself whether I'm on my right path or not.
Marriage and motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Society seriously needs to stop pressurizing women for marriage and kid/kids. Her life, her choice, no one else's business.
I’m 16 and my mom is planning marriage for me when I’m 20...I don’t know what to do. No matter how much I convince her she doesn’t listen and wants me to complete college when I’m married which is I’m against. The family is visiting my country next year and I’m really nervous and don’t want to meet any of them. Advice needed and prayers are appreciated
Start earning with your education from now.... focus on studies and earning and savings....you still have 4 years till you turn 20..if you are financially independent you can take a stand for yourself...if you don't want to get marry, don't get marry so early..and collect knowledge about NGOs that help single women near by you...be a part of them so that you are never alone...if you get good friends, family members that's a blessing...btw... where do you live?
Aye. Don’t let anyone, not even your family pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. Stand your ground! Don’t be afraid. Family can run over you too. Don’t let them. Also setting boundaries comes with being disliked, hated on. This is YOUR LIFE. SAY NO
I hate my parents so much when they pressure me for marriage like stuff Like they get on my nerves whenever they pressure me for that It's like mental abuse to hurt ne whenever I simply want to talk to them Sometimes i really get the urge to hurt them for what toxic things they say And roast them with words Like you're pressuring me for a party called marriage but have you ever seen your own marriage which is filled with quarrel domestic violence yelling argument financial disagreement and disloyalty Bcz my father remarried another woman without divorcing my mother. And both are typical toxic asian parents with all the abusive behavior to make you question your own existence. My parents are completely abusive and energy vampires. If they don't stop this pressure, I might have to do the unthinkable 🔪
I am going through same situation 29 age now parents are literally presesurizing me and now they have boycott me just because I say i don't want to get marry now😢
😢I'm 24 now they are pressuries me when I'm 20yr old from last three years after covid I'm suffering from depression and anxiety and nd physical wealth also but my parents can't see my this pain I'm dying daily
Same i am also 24 and my mother is emotionally blackmailing me she wants me to get married as i have problem in my right hand When i told her that i like someone and she is not supporting me and i don't know what to do My parents fights because of me because my father is supporting me but my mother is not It feels like she hate me@@swetapokhriyal1695
Thank you Aleena, I am 23 male, my parents are already talking about and here I am still watching cartoons, cricket , working 9-5 job, trying to do or learn many things which I missed in my teens, so the concept of marriage always bothers me once you are into then puff your freedom is gone. I want to remain unmarried for the rest of my life and learn some new things and enjoy my money.
@@kc0369 sure but I am mature enough for my age I know how the world works and also how the marriage works. Right now I am completely focused on my self improvement. But the external pressures are irritating.
I said my friend thousand times and get married without a settlement , we had a fight for some other reason blocked each other suddenly got in contact after 1 year , it was cool but she got married msc 1st year , still studying .., now she struggles a lot .. I mean a lot , after 1 year of her marraige she started sharing everything to me !
Aap me maine khudko dekhaa ...her baat pe itni suljhi hui .........love u mam . sirf english nhi baki bohot sari chise sikhne ko mili . thank you so much mam 💚
I also face same prblm now.. My all frnds are married but i don't want now i don't know it's a correct decision or not... My sister face many problems still after 7 yrs of marriage that's why i don't have to much craze about marriage.. But sometime i think about myself whether it's right or wrong i really don't understand
Power of good communication happens when your parents are good listeners they listen you they just try ro understand what you want in life but when your parents doesn't support you and they just want "shadi kar lo chahe voh koi bhi ho,shadi k baad sab thik ho jata hai".when your family doesnt even want to listen about viewpoints them we will end up with depression or agression.
शादी कभी भी प्रेशर का माहौल होता ही नही है, जिंदगी का सबसे रोमानी वक्त होता है ये, इसलिये तब शादी करो, जब आपको लगे कि आप अपने जीवन का सबसे रोमानी वक्त महसूस कर रहे हों😊😊
But dont do that when you get aged ... You should be young handling with strength mentally physically to uphold the family's ... If you are not willing drop that idea ... You take your own decision and you should be wealthy little and not to be dependent anyone when you face the crisis ... During the study time dont think that ... 27 you.plan ...not at 23 !
Planning is something that I would not do. Since I lay my trust on God and do the work in my present and not touble myself thinking of the future. Because the religion that I follow doesn't burdon me with anything extraa to achieve or anything huge to conquer. It just says to live, pray, love, eat and die. I am actually happy with this. And this is my first goal rest is secondary. If I get that secondary goal ok, if I don't get that which I obviously won't looking at the stats and probability of the politics and competition going on there no worries. Since I don't want to pressurise myself thinking about something so invaluable when I already have my God giving me reason enough why to live and what to make as my goal. Halleyluyah
Well, I am the one who is looking for getting married, but to a good person but unfortunately, I have been getting a lot of proposals since I was young Now I am in my early twenties. Proposals are many but there is no one to make me accept it. Though I am not allowed for a love marriage but for an arranged marriage I can say yes or no to it. Let's see what happens.
I am from Bangladesh..I am 19 years old.. my parents wants me to get married.but i dont want to..they want me to continue my university after getting married..they are very tensed about my future..i dont want to hurt them...and also want to do what my hurt say...what should I do? 😭 😭
I am 27 and all that I hear around me are conversations of marriage... my parents are looking for a suitable match for me..... my friends are getting married.... Sometimes it feels so unfair... First u worry about your education then your career then who u r gonna get married to... Like the list always goes on and pressure keeps getting built.... I wonder when we get time for ourselves really to just enjoy where we are without having the pressure to check another box of achievement. I do want get married someday and I am willing to go ahead but sometimes it just feels too much to deal with the worries in your head
Well you could do it now, this moment, enjoy your life. You know one of my best phases of life, it was my architecture exam time. We use to get 8-11 exams in 6 days straight, 2 per day. Bcz we finally just, it was way to easy, study in evening for one and at night for another. All architect students around the world enjoy this like me, which ofcourse any normal human will hate. We even planned going out with friends in free time slots bcz exam was 2-3 hrs, no other attendence, homwrk, classwrk, or any mental exaust!
In india no one blames parents even if they are wrong and that's the one of the worst thing I have noticed !! If kids do mistakes they are enlightened but reverse are totally prohibited in india !!
All my friends are divorced and have lost half their apartments to divorces. I am single in my early 40’s, own my own house outright, no debt, own my own business and am happy yet every female relative around me is acting like my life is a total disaster because I am not married. It all very sad.
@@zade-wq9kb It took many years of me being strong, which you also need to be and once I started making my own money and being the person that would help others who were in trouble due to their marriages, I got respect for that. There will always be people who judge you, but if you are in your own house or apartment when they are doing it, you have won!
wish I saw this video before I got married. Now it's too late. 4 months into a marriage and I'm struggling. I married out of pressure and I cannot agree more with whatever she said. Every single thing that she said is true. Aleena, could you make a video on life after a failed marriage if you can? A lot of us would benefit from that as well.
@@Swaalinaso???i don't even understand why you said that just because baad m sab adjust ho jata hai toh kya seh len sab kuch I mean compromise karden fir?
Hi mam.. i got arrange marriage. Its been 6 years since i got married. Before marriage i dont have any goal or something. I don't know anything. Although i finished engineering i dont know to take any decision everything my parents only did for me. But i am very blessed to have my husband. He is supporting me to do all thing. After i started to watching your videos the thought came to me that i have to achieve something. Now i am learning english and i am doing what are the things i wished to do before. Now i am learning all the things.
I'm 22, and my parents have been pressuring me to marry since I was 19. I clearly tell them that I'll but not now i wanna work on my career. (While my graduation) they were like they'll tc for your edu. And career. But tell if my own parents doesn't career about my edu. My career why anybody gonna care?? So last year i just moved out and living my own working as a freelance video editor. I actually missed them but every time they call just to talk about sadi and all and dn i remember why i have to stay away from them.
Whenever you get married, to whosoever you get married, I pray to the God that you marry with right person your life after marriage will be better than today...... All the best.,,, Even I also single and I know which kind of pressure you feel.... May God bless you🙏🙏🙏
I’m 27, and I’ve just completed my studies in London. Ever since then, I’ve been getting a lot of pressure about the marriage from my family. The fact that they are more concerned about me finding the right guy than bagging a good enough job is what gets me. And I just can’t figure out how to tackle this situation.
The best things, Don't do things because of others opinion. you know yourself better than anyone else. Take a deep breath untill you find the right person. And get married happily when you feel it's the right time for you. 🥰🥰🥰
Freezing eggs!!! It's not for everyone. Only rich people can afford this. So this discussion is useless for middle class people. Those who don't know the egg freezing procedure I've researched. It is soooo costly, sooooooo lengthy and very painful process. I'm still unmarried and pursuing my career that's why I also wanted to freeze my eggs but the thing is not for me. I'm not rich.
Reasons a guy scared to get married - 1. Unstable income 2. Unsecured future 3. Unemployed 4. Girls have high expectations from her life partner. 5. Extra marital affairs of girls 6. Harsh Alimony and maintenance 7. Unfavourable marram laws against men. 8. False matrimonial cases against men. 9. Loosing freedom, doubling responsibilities 10. Girls have social media partners, colleagues and ex-bf to support, but men haven’t.
Thanks alot mam for making this video.....u are literally a best motivator in this world on every topic.... keep growing one day u will cross 1 billion subscribers 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
You are right mam marriage is imp but not for career is most imp and your career is srong everyone respect you and kve you In my opinion I m also home maker I have done polytechnic right now I am not doing the job but i m searching job with my future may be job are not possible so i have a se second plain with with my career now I am home maker and i am big fan for us and hearty thnkuu.
I literally have no words to say.. You're a gem.. I'm amazed with the thoughts of yours and I'm speechless.. Everything you discussed was fact which goes on an Indian family. They're still thinking of all those old days but very few know that the world has changed and we have to not be stubborn and we should go with the flow and also have a growth mind set rather than a fixed one... And finding a right person to get married to is a big task.. And once we get to know someone really well then another problem arises that's the caste...And yes...many Indian family is still against it.. So what I believe that this should end. Why caste system still prevails in India? It's like finding a right person is difficult task and with the mentality of caste, religion ..it has become much more difficult finding a right person. Anyways a huge love to you 😘😘
Can i share something with you guys. Seriously I am terrified with the name of marriage. Believe me i have a sister and she is married. Her mother , father - in law and even her husband torture her so much in every little things. I get chills when I listen and see it. As tipical indian parents I can not say anything to my parents.
I got married in 89. “Ye un dinon ki baat hai”😃those days things were totally different. Actually I love those golden,simple,humble days despite lot of shortcomings 🤔😄Today’s generation can’t even think,imagine,feel or experience those era. Now things have changed to very extent. We raise our daughters equally and let them grow,study,get a job,pursue their dreams in most of the houses though exceptions are always there. I’m also MA Hindi from DU. We women are multitaskers. While studying we help our mothers in all household chores, we get a job,we get married and there also we do the same and simultaneously start a family and raise our kids too😀 If you are really fortunate to get a nice in-laws or husband who not only understand you but encourage or help you in all spheres of life, Must Thanks God at least once bcz you are in win win situation🙏👍👌❤️😄 So the thing is that If you are fortunate to have wings,do fly. Everyone can’t be Siberian Crane but a small flight can make a lot of difference 👍👍🫶
Going through the toughest phase in life. I am a 29 year old girl born in a middle class family.. since the last 5-6 years, the pressure of marriage is just increasing. That too, from each section of people.The constant taunts of relatives, society has made me sick since all these years. And it has just gotten worse. My mental health has been extremely bad since the beginning of 2022. I am nothing just a burden to my family now. I have two more younger siblings. Now i have to kind of forcefully agree to a proposal which my parents chose. I never wanted marriage this way, never! I wanted to be happy. Each day i am getting sicker. I want to be free, choose my own partner. My parents are really considerate but they think after this age, i won't get any more proposals. Everything around me is just so fucked up. I feel why i need to satisfy the society like why!
Really sorry to hear that. My engagement just broke can you even imagine my condition at this point! If you want to share your feelings with me as a friend, let me know. I will share my contact number. I am from Bangladesh. Dealing with the worst possible.
I love you sister. u just spoke everything what I have been going through and wanting to say to my family. but I've got no one to listen from my own family. par koi nehi chalo. I also prefer getting married in a delayed way rather than marrying someone wrong by the pressure from the surroundings. sending hug from Bangladesh 💙
💯 agree on all words and phrases and yes i want tell u few days ago I drop my rebel mood and said my family ok find for me then I decide 😂then they consider it...all things are possible falling on place hopefully 🙏🧿
Coming with the same pressure from Egyptian society..Thank you so much. I felt like I thought that I'm the only one. You made me feel that some one was there before
If you fail in all aspects in life, you have a job that you don't like, the years have passed by and you got old and the only property available is the property that your parents threaten not to give you because you are single, the only thing you ve got is a stupid job that you don't like and some other minor income, and they are costantly whining that they want to see you married with just anything before they die and you don’t have that anything. Man only me knows how I suffer. !!!!
I haven't heard something from anyone so openly with tremendous sincerity . Or must be i relate to this. Back in 2017 i get through a lot of things for someone. Even saying goodbye to medical and choosing career in the army . I got recommended in 141 pma long but just because i had written the first letter of her name on my lower arm i was declared medically unfit by the medical penal said that it falls in the category of (DSH) deliberately self harm . One army doctor recommended surgery to me to remove that part completely and i went through a 23 Stitch surgery and was bedridden for about a year . Unfortunately,when i reappeared in issb but same result was thrown upon my face and so 3 year went by during this process. After then , i wanted to pursue my career in English literature and got into a prestigious university and got 4/4 CGPA in couple of semester and received scholarship and had genuine desire to become an author someday .. despite this , when she said in the end i don't like nor i want to marry you; I felt like the sky crumbled above and fell upon me like missile or something more harrowing and I wish the earth open and swallow me and on that day i left : my education, my life and attempted suicide by taking poisonous pill. Nevertheless, miraculously survived but still i am not over it. . After ages I felt someone's words.Your words somehow touched my heart and the pain in your mellow voice. what u are trying to convey is harsh truth. . Thank you so much for disseminating lifesaving message and protecting countless lives. Thank a million. you make me told something that I had kept in my heart and by saying this my heart feel a little light as if a heavy burden is lifted up from me and the true & abject purpose for sharing the whole story is to not gain affected sympathy or empathy of you guys but for everyone out there to learn a lesson from me and don't ruin your life for someone .
It reminds me of an incident that happened 19 years ago. When I met my mother in the kitchen on my 22nd birthday, she asked me how old I am today. I replied that I'm 22. She told me that if i was a girl she would've had to get me married off by now. She added that nobody can keep girls for long at their parents houses. Later on in the day, when i slept and woke up in the afternoon my father too was discussing with my mother how old I am. She told him that im 22 and she would've had to search for a son in law had i been a female. My father replied to her that had i been a girl he wouldve got me married off once i reached the age of 20 itself!!! I was wondering if my parents being so highly educated had such stone age thoughts😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
you are so beautiful and sweet, everything u told is true... I feel this big pressure to marry, I m 26, but I felt this presure last 2, 3 years... I m from Europe
The boy says , " Hawa mai ude rahi hai...."...... If I was the boy, I will say , " Mei appko, aure UUPER udne ke leye motivate KARUNGA.😊"........AND when you are you are exhausted , I will , be your extra wings to sour HIGHER, in order to fulfill all your dreams..........😊
Mam I am level 2 in English and I take a ielts test next week . Because my mother in law said that if you don't speak in english than I cancle a marriage. I am suffering to learn english. Tell some tip's
I think we should withdraw marriage from the society. Live-in relationship gives you everything that you gets in married relationship... There is no reason to get marry in 2023
I m in a depression because of my father who is against love marriages. I love a intercaste boy n he is really nice man but he is already threatening me whenever he see me using phone,he begin to taunt as if it is his life. Sometimes i feel like committing suicide bcs i can t live without that person who is the exact partner i always wanted for me I wish i had no father if fathers are cause of depression in someone's life.
Hey i think you're going through a very tough time . Thinks will get better remember don't take any wrong steps life is beautiful it had ups and downs. It's your life and your decision. Give it some time
thank you much aleena, this was much needed and the same thing is happening with me but how to talk and convince them is a very difficult task and it takes a lot of courage and i find myself alone in doing this, i wish god helps us
According to my thoughts di u should fly as up as u reached the sky bcoz u r very talented nd perfect nd I just love your English .So , hawa mein udhna toh banta hai ❤❤❤💜💜💜
I DISAGREE with you.... As per my understanding there is always right time for everything... And when girls gets aged, plenty of hormonal complexities encounters mostly.. Ultimately girls got to marraige then why not at the right age.. I mean highly educated ladies usually are not a sucessful house wives see around you, and biggest reason is selfishness.. so instead of delaying marriage and get job to benefit just a company be a good mother and a house wife and be a mental peace to your life partnets...
I'm 26 , still unemployed and never had any girlfriend. I want someone in life because i get lonely nowadays very easily and it's becoming more and more but on the other hand if I can't find a job then how can i marry?
Both have to be enough mature to handle marriage. Girls were suffering but these days men suffers equally. If you want to get married you have to sacrifice many things and both have to be ready for this instead of getting divorce. Only 5% people might lucky to get 95% of the things in marriage.
Someone please help me getting out of the pressure of marriage.... As I'm 26.. I'm hearing everyone's conversation about finding a good match for me.... I don't want to marry now.. As i have only completed my graduation degree... I want to study further.. I want to work on my career first... But due to financial conditions.. I couldn't.............. But this is not the problem.. The problem is that.. Your parents will arrange The money for dowry or marriage anyhow.. Even if they will be in debt... But they can't arrange it to make you stand on your own.... I don't want to marry too soon.. I want my parents that studies and career to be my priority..... I don't want to be jailed in marriage😢😢.. Some one please suggest me what should i do
Whenever l pay visit to your channel, l always end up getting extremely motivated by you. I do like the topic which you always select to do the video, all those videos of your channel are so relatable.❤❤ Thanks a lot for doing this video.😊
I am doing ACCA,for about 8yrs,but now I am searching for a job,but due to this much years gap,I am not able to find a job. Please help me to find out a solution for it.
I have two questions mam ....1st one is ...there is a guy who loves his girlfriend guy earns 100k per month and girl 20k per month... should guy get marry with her.........and my 2nd question is same but the situation is change girl earns 100k and guy 20k should girl marry with him...
Marriage should not ever be chosen because some people have applied pressure to your life. If a person can pressure you into marriage...what else is he going to force on you???
This is for all youths who think marriage is like a HELL. Note that this video Aleena maam is explaining is regarding taking your own decision about marriage. By no means she is saying marriage is not good or like a HELL. Watch the full video and try to understand properly what she is saying . Great video 🙏 .
Yeah everyone just wants to come to a big fake party and eat free food. Nobody cares when your stuck with the miserable roach. I am NOT getting married again. I tried it for 1.5 years. HATED IT. Not for me. They want to know what your doing every minute, where you are every second. Its just gross. I adore watching other people marry its truly beautiful. But if its not for you, its NOT for you. You will regret letting someone pressure you into it. My divorce was HHHELLL. 2 years later still flames burning in the WIND. I care less. Never ever ever again. Exactly you cant just break up, a whole squad of so called ' law keepers' will thumb their fingers at you and drag you in court for wanting out. AS IF. Pfffff. Hand under chin for all those motherphuckers.
Shadi se puri tarah khus nahi ho aisa lag rha hai. But it's Normal for anyone. Do whatever u want to do. Remember only one thing in life don't harm anyone. But most important thing to do is enjoy the life 💯🔥🚬
Respected mam wishing u good evening. Humbly requesting you that please launch your English speaking course on online platform to get opportunity to learn from you. Or launch on YT UA-cam 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hii mam, I have a question that how witching movies and any english videos help us in order to achive the fluency of learning english language pls mam make video on this topic
All girls are beautiful and precious and so you are ❤ first of all I pity on him who rejected you. You are not only intelligent but very beautiful too and fit all the criteria of “perfect wife” that boy might be regretting today and must be feeling sorry for calling you “hawa mein udh rhi hai” actually he didn’t know that “Coming events cast their shadows before”
And you proved it. Akhir thodha hawa mein udhna toh banta hi hai😀aur fir kyon na udhein jb pankh mile hain toh.
I have seen your Sri Lanka visit vlog with your handsome hubby 💐 God bless you both always ❤ Today’s vlog is really nice and food for thought for everyone actually 👍👌💐
I love your words so much that I pinned your comment. Grateful 🥲 thank you so much Anita 💕🤗
@@AleenaRaisLive hahha mam koi apki jiyda tarif karde uska matlb ye nhi ki ap usse pinned kardo😂😂😂😂
I'm sry mam
I was kidding
@@AleenaRaisLive Just curious Aleena, how old are you ?
@@AleenaRaisLive You are always welcome dear 💕Thanks for pinning my reply ❤️🙏 I noticed last time too🫶 You are doing really good. Keep posting your and others’ experiences. Now you are a “NAME” and millions listen you.
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I just found this video and really grateful for that!, these days I'm experiencing kind of pressure from my family. Top of that, I'm debating with myself whether I'm on my right path or not.
Me too..Marriage is a serious thing and parents shouldn’t pressure it on their children
Marriage and motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Society seriously needs to stop pressurizing women for marriage and kid/kids. Her life, her choice, no one else's business.
Exactly 💯
I’m 16 and my mom is planning marriage for me when I’m 20...I don’t know what to do. No matter how much I convince her she doesn’t listen and wants me to complete college when I’m married which is I’m against. The family is visiting my country next year and I’m really nervous and don’t want to meet any of them. Advice needed and prayers are appreciated
Start earning with your education from now.... focus on studies and earning and savings....you still have 4 years till you turn 20..if you are financially independent you can take a stand for yourself...if you don't want to get marry, don't get marry so early..and collect knowledge about NGOs that help single women near by you...be a part of them so that you are never alone...if you get good friends, family members that's a blessing...btw... where do you live?
Aye. Don’t let anyone, not even your family pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. Stand your ground! Don’t be afraid. Family can run over you too. Don’t let them. Also setting boundaries comes with being disliked, hated on. This is YOUR LIFE. SAY NO
I hate my parents so much when they pressure me for marriage like stuff
Like they get on my nerves whenever they pressure me for that
It's like mental abuse to hurt ne whenever I simply want to talk to them
Sometimes i really get the urge to hurt them for what toxic things they say
And roast them with words
Like you're pressuring me for a party called marriage but have you ever seen your own marriage which is filled with quarrel domestic violence yelling argument financial disagreement and disloyalty
Bcz my father remarried another woman without divorcing my mother.
And both are typical toxic asian parents with all the abusive behavior to make you question your own existence.
My parents are completely abusive and energy vampires.
If they don't stop this pressure, I might have to do the unthinkable 🔪
Don't do anything that hurts you dear, believe in yourself, do something and make them proud❤
Same situation happening to me rn and I seriously just want to give up on everything
I am going through same situation 29 age now parents are literally presesurizing me and now they have boycott me just because I say i don't want to get marry now😢
😢I'm 24 now they are pressuries me when I'm 20yr old from last three years after covid I'm suffering from depression and anxiety and nd physical wealth also but my parents can't see my this pain I'm dying daily
@@swetapokhriyal1695 Dont worry girl, be bold. God is with you🙌
Same i am also 24 and my mother is emotionally blackmailing me she wants me to get married as i have problem in my right hand
When i told her that i like someone and she is not supporting me and i don't know what to do
My parents fights because of me because my father is supporting me but my mother is not
It feels like she hate me@@swetapokhriyal1695
Thank you Aleena, I am 23 male, my parents are already talking about and here I am still watching cartoons, cricket , working 9-5 job, trying to do or learn many things which I missed in my teens, so the concept of marriage always bothers me once you are into then puff your freedom is gone. I want to remain unmarried for the rest of my life and learn some new things and enjoy my money.
23 you are not even mature….focus on yourself, make your career, explore
@@kc0369 sure but I am mature enough for my age I know how the world works and also how the marriage works. Right now I am completely focused on my self improvement. But the external pressures are irritating.
You are very young
I am not sure how do I describe this....but I am feeling so much better post listening to this video
Tysm, same thing with me , my younger sister got married and I am doing CA
I am also a ca final student
I am having hopeless pressure
I do not want to get married. But people poke their nose into my personal life.
Pls read the laws of marriage. Horrible laws against men
Building of career is a proof of self-love❤❤❤
@AleenaRaisLive The way you explained it was Really Appreciated 👏... Thanks for sharing your experience on open world. It really means alot for me.
I said my friend thousand times and get married without a settlement , we had a fight for some other reason blocked each other suddenly got in contact after 1 year , it was cool but she got married msc 1st year , still studying .., now she struggles a lot .. I mean a lot , after 1 year of her marraige she started sharing everything to me !
Aap me maine khudko dekhaa ...her baat pe itni suljhi hui .........love u mam . sirf english nhi baki bohot sari chise sikhne ko mili . thank you so much mam 💚
I also face same prblm now.. My all frnds are married but i don't want now i don't know it's a correct decision or not... My sister face many problems still after 7 yrs of marriage that's why i don't have to much craze about marriage.. But sometime i think about myself whether it's right or wrong i really don't understand
Me too first pref carrier then mrg 😊
Power of good communication happens when your parents are good listeners they listen you they just try ro understand what you want in life but when your parents doesn't support you and they just want "shadi kar lo chahe voh koi bhi ho,shadi k baad sab thik ho jata hai".when your family doesnt even want to listen about viewpoints them we will end up with depression or agression.
Thankyou mam for posting this video❤ you are our inspiration❤
What do you want to be? If you have achieved your goals, you have a choice. It's in my opinion.
Yeah.. Union/Mindset is more important 😊
शादी कभी भी प्रेशर का माहौल होता ही नही है, जिंदगी का सबसे रोमानी वक्त होता है ये, इसलिये तब शादी करो, जब आपको लगे कि आप अपने जीवन का सबसे रोमानी वक्त महसूस कर रहे हों😊😊
But dont do that when you get aged ... You should be young handling with strength mentally physically to uphold the family's ... If you are not willing drop that idea ... You take your own decision and you should be wealthy little and not to be dependent anyone when you face the crisis ... During the study time dont think that ... 27 you.plan ...not at 23 !
Planning is something that I would not do. Since I lay my trust on God and do the work in my present and not touble myself thinking of the future. Because the religion that I follow doesn't burdon me with anything extraa to achieve or anything huge to conquer. It just says to live, pray, love, eat and die. I am actually happy with this. And this is my first goal rest is secondary. If I get that secondary goal ok, if I don't get that which I obviously won't looking at the stats and probability of the politics and competition going on there no worries. Since I don't want to pressurise myself thinking about something so invaluable when I already have my God giving me reason enough why to live and what to make as my goal. Halleyluyah
Well, I am the one who is looking for getting married, but to a good person but unfortunately, I have been getting a lot of proposals since I was young Now I am in my early twenties. Proposals are many but there is no one to make me accept it. Though I am not allowed for a love marriage but for an arranged marriage I can say yes or no to it. Let's see what happens.
Thank you sis...❤
Thankyou❤
I am also in gov job I am suffering from this matter
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Gorgeous u . Stay blessed. Regards
I am from Bangladesh..I am 19 years old.. my parents wants me to get married.but i dont want to..they want me to continue my university after getting married..they are very tensed about my future..i dont want to hurt them...and also want to do what my hurt say...what should I do? 😭 😭
I thought it was your husband who was with you when you were in colombo and i think you mentioned that guy as your husband
I am 27 and all that I hear around me are conversations of marriage... my parents are looking for a suitable match for me..... my friends are getting married.... Sometimes it feels so unfair... First u worry about your education then your career then who u r gonna get married to... Like the list always goes on and pressure keeps getting built.... I wonder when we get time for ourselves really to just enjoy where we are without having the pressure to check another box of achievement. I do want get married someday and I am willing to go ahead but sometimes it just feels too much to deal with the worries in your head
Well you could do it now, this moment, enjoy your life. You know one of my best phases of life, it was my architecture exam time. We use to get 8-11 exams in 6 days straight, 2 per day. Bcz we finally just, it was way to easy, study in evening for one and at night for another. All architect students around the world enjoy this like me, which ofcourse any normal human will hate.
We even planned going out with friends in free time slots bcz exam was 2-3 hrs, no other attendence, homwrk, classwrk, or any mental exaust!
For boys marriage is legally not favourable
Exactly.. this should be normalised.
And what's your status now?
Here I am with same issues. I just don't know what to do.
Yes this pressure is such a torture breaks you mentally
Man, it's torture really. Ask me how I suffer....
As a boy , I am not getting married , I need to fix myself.
M suffering mentally like hell , and no1 understands even friends also ..m so frustrated n depressed
When you said, "Building a career is a proof of self love", It literally touched my heart. ❤❤❤ Thankyou ❤❤❤
Seriously it touched mine as well
In india no one blames parents even if they are wrong and that's the one of the worst thing I have noticed !!
If kids do mistakes they are enlightened but reverse are totally prohibited in india !!
That's true❤❤❤
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Thats why you shouldnt stay in India
True
All my friends are divorced and have lost half their apartments to divorces. I am single in my early 40’s, own my own house outright, no debt, own my own business and am happy yet every female relative around me is acting like my life is a total disaster because I am not married. It all very sad.
How u convinced parents?
@@zade-wq9kb It took many years of me being strong, which you also need to be and once I started making my own money and being the person that would help others who were in trouble due to their marriages, I got respect for that. There will always be people who judge you, but if you are in your own house or apartment when they are doing it, you have won!
@@zade-wq9kbsame,question
Your last line touched my heart when you told "building of carrier is a proof of self love."
Thank you mam for sharing so inspirational word.
wish I saw this video before I got married. Now it's too late. 4 months into a marriage and I'm struggling. I married out of pressure and I cannot agree more with whatever she said. Every single thing that she said is true. Aleena, could you make a video on life after a failed marriage if you can? A lot of us would benefit from that as well.
What failed marriage?
Sister ye sabke saath hota hai shuru me acha nahi lagega but baad me habit ho jaati hai.
@@Swaalinaso???i don't even understand why you said that just because baad m sab adjust ho jata hai toh kya seh len sab kuch I mean compromise karden fir?
Typical toxic behaviour aunties be like this only.@@Swaalina
Kyu sahein hum? Kisi ke baap ka ni khaate ni hum. @@Swaalina
Hi mam.. i got arrange marriage. Its been 6 years since i got married. Before marriage i dont have any goal or something. I don't know anything. Although i finished engineering i dont know to take any decision everything my parents only did for me. But i am very blessed to have my husband. He is supporting me to do all thing. After i started to watching your videos the thought came to me that i have to achieve something. Now i am learning english and i am doing what are the things i wished to do before. Now i am learning all the things.
I'm 22, and my parents have been pressuring me to marry since I was 19.
I clearly tell them that I'll but not now i wanna work on my career.
(While my graduation) they were like they'll tc for your edu. And career.
But tell if my own parents doesn't career about my edu. My career why anybody gonna care??
So last year i just moved out and living my own working as a freelance video editor.
I actually missed them but every time they call just to talk about sadi and all and dn i remember why i have to stay away from them.
same i also moved out of my parents house. thats the best decision i've made
You are so brave yr for taking stand for ownself and moving out
Very much relevant topic Aleena .. I'm turning to 30 and feeling all these stuff around me🙄
When somebody acts princely they don't get match for them
You got me when you said, "building a career for you is a proof that you love yourself"
Waittttt .. am I the only one who thought she's not married 👀
She is married!!
Me too
even I thought and still think I’m married 😅
Same here 😂
@@AleenaRaisLive
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To those who are confused whether she is married or not, yes! She's married. She even introduced her husband a year ago through a live chat
Whenever you get married, to whosoever you get married, I pray to the God that you marry with right person your life after marriage will be better than today...... All the best.,,, Even I also single and I know which kind of pressure you feel.... May God bless you🙏🙏🙏
If someone asks me when are you going to married ?
My answer -Neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Bro....😂😂 Same pinchh😂😂
@@tirumaleshroy9272 😁
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Bro never means what??
@@mehulpatel6830 kabhi nai
I’m 27, and I’ve just completed my studies in London. Ever since then, I’ve been getting a lot of pressure about the marriage from my family. The fact that they are more concerned about me finding the right guy than bagging a good enough job is what gets me. And I just can’t figure out how to tackle this situation.
Arrange marriage?
@@iamnoob7593 not necessarily, they just want me to get married since I’m a certain age now
Yes people should married delayed (late ) . for married 29 or 30 is good age to anybody.
The best things, Don't do things because of others opinion. you know yourself better than anyone else. Take a deep breath untill you find the right person. And get married happily when you feel it's the right time for you. 🥰🥰🥰
I agree
Also don't marry if u didn't find any right guy... staying single coz u love being single is an option too😊
Freezing eggs!!! It's not for everyone. Only rich people can afford this. So this discussion is useless for middle class people. Those who don't know the egg freezing procedure I've researched. It is soooo costly, sooooooo lengthy and very painful process. I'm still unmarried and pursuing my career that's why I also wanted to freeze my eggs but the thing is not for me. I'm not rich.
How much money reqd
Reasons a guy scared to get married -
1. Unstable income
2. Unsecured future
3. Unemployed
4. Girls have high expectations from her life partner.
5. Extra marital affairs of girls
6. Harsh Alimony and maintenance
7. Unfavourable marram laws against men.
8. False matrimonial cases against men.
9. Loosing freedom, doubling responsibilities
10. Girls have social media partners, colleagues and ex-bf to support, but men haven’t.
Thanks alot mam for making this video.....u are literally a best motivator in this world on every topic.... keep growing one day u will cross 1 billion subscribers 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
What😂😂 do you know how many zeros in a 1 billion
You are right mam marriage is imp but not for career is most imp and your career is srong everyone respect you and kve you In my opinion I m also home maker I have done polytechnic right now I am not doing the job but i m searching job with my future may be job are not possible so i have a se second plain with with my career now I am home maker and i am big fan for us and hearty thnkuu.
I literally have no words to say..
You're a gem..
I'm amazed with the thoughts of yours and I'm speechless..
Everything you discussed was fact which goes on an Indian family.
They're still thinking of all those old days but very few know that the world has changed and we have to not be stubborn and we should go with the flow and also have a growth mind set rather than a fixed one...
And finding a right person to get married to is a big task..
And once we get to know someone really well then another problem arises that's the caste...And yes...many Indian family is still against it..
So what I believe that this should end.
Why caste system still prevails in India?
It's like finding a right person is difficult task and with the mentality of caste, religion ..it has become much more difficult finding a right person.
Anyways a huge love to you 😘😘
Can i share something with you guys.
Seriously I am terrified with the name of marriage.
Believe me i have a sister and she is married.
Her mother , father - in law and even her husband torture her so much in every little things.
I get chills when I listen and see it.
As tipical indian parents I can not say anything to my parents.
Marriage is for average people only and lacks significance for me anyways!!
Such a burden imposed by society.
I got married in 89. “Ye un dinon ki baat hai”😃those days things were totally different. Actually I love those golden,simple,humble days despite lot of shortcomings 🤔😄Today’s generation can’t even think,imagine,feel or experience those era. Now things have changed to very extent. We raise our daughters equally and let them grow,study,get a job,pursue their dreams in most of the houses though exceptions are always there. I’m also MA Hindi from DU.
We women are multitaskers. While studying we help our mothers in all household chores, we get a job,we get married and there also we do the same and simultaneously start a family and raise our kids too😀
If you are really fortunate to get a nice in-laws or husband who not only understand you but encourage or help you in all spheres of life, Must Thanks God at least once bcz you are in win win situation🙏👍👌❤️😄
So the thing is that If you are fortunate to have wings,do fly. Everyone can’t be Siberian Crane but a small flight can make a lot of difference 👍👍🫶
same thoughts. 80's 90's even early 2000's are very heart filling, best period
Your comments is like speech is given Sudha murthy.. ❤beautiful✨
@@mohitvishwakarma9633 😆🙏
Going through the toughest phase in life. I am a 29 year old girl born in a middle class family.. since the last 5-6 years, the pressure of marriage is just increasing. That too, from each section of people.The constant taunts of relatives, society has made me sick since all these years. And it has just gotten worse. My mental health has been extremely bad since the beginning of 2022. I am nothing just a burden to my family now. I have two more younger siblings. Now i have to kind of forcefully agree to a proposal which my parents chose. I never wanted marriage this way, never! I wanted to be happy. Each day i am getting sicker. I want to be free, choose my own partner. My parents are really considerate but they think after this age, i won't get any more proposals. Everything around me is just so fucked up. I feel why i need to satisfy the society like why!
Same here I 30 unmarried girl PPL make fun of me for still unmarried I m feeling sucidal bcz of this mental pressure
I am going through exactly the same thing :(
Really sorry to hear that. My engagement just broke can you even imagine my condition at this point! If you want to share your feelings with me as a friend, let me know. I will share my contact number. I am from Bangladesh. Dealing with the worst possible.
I love you sister. u just spoke everything what I have been going through and wanting to say to my family. but I've got no one to listen from my own family. par koi nehi chalo. I also prefer getting married in a delayed way rather than marrying someone wrong by the pressure from the surroundings. sending hug from Bangladesh 💙
😊 Finally got to know, age of aleena ma'am, ma'am completed CA 2012, at the age of 23, means now ma'am cross 34,
This Content is very useful for village girls now a days.
Do not get marry until U find a person who deserves U....
💯 agree on all words and phrases and yes i want tell u few days ago I drop my rebel mood and said my family ok find for me then I decide 😂then they consider it...all things are possible falling on place hopefully 🙏🧿
Coming with the same pressure from Egyptian society..Thank you so much. I felt like I thought that I'm the only one. You made me feel that some one was there before
If you fail in all aspects in life, you have a job that you don't like, the years have passed by and you got old and the only property available is the property that your parents threaten not to give you because you are single, the only thing you ve got is a stupid job that you don't like and some other minor income, and they are costantly whining that they want to see you married with just anything before they die and you don’t have that anything. Man only me knows how I suffer. !!!!
Still unmarried?? I watched your video with your husband 😮
She is married to Sahil 🤔🤔
Watch the whole video! She said, she got married to her friend. 😊
I haven't heard something from anyone so openly with tremendous sincerity . Or must be i relate to this. Back in 2017 i get through a lot of things for someone. Even saying goodbye to medical and choosing career in the army . I got recommended in 141 pma long but just because i had written the first letter of her name on my lower arm i was declared medically unfit by the medical penal said that it falls in the category of (DSH) deliberately self harm . One army doctor recommended surgery to me to remove that part completely and i went through a 23 Stitch surgery and was bedridden for about a year . Unfortunately,when i reappeared in issb but same result was thrown upon my face and so 3 year went by during this process. After then , i wanted to pursue my career in English literature and got into a prestigious university and got 4/4 CGPA in couple of semester and received scholarship and had genuine desire to become an author someday .. despite this , when she said in the end i don't like nor i want to marry you; I felt like the sky crumbled above and fell upon me like missile or something more harrowing and I wish the earth open and swallow me and on that day i left : my education, my life and attempted suicide by taking poisonous pill. Nevertheless, miraculously survived but still i am not over it. . After ages I felt someone's words.Your words somehow touched my heart and the pain in your mellow voice. what u are trying to convey is harsh truth. . Thank you so much for disseminating lifesaving message and protecting countless lives. Thank a million. you make me told something that I had kept in my heart and by saying this my heart feel a little light as if a heavy burden is lifted up from me and the true & abject purpose for sharing the whole story is to not gain affected sympathy or empathy of you guys but for everyone out there to learn a lesson from me and don't ruin your life for someone .
If you boyfriend than why you think about married??? Just chill
It reminds me of an incident that happened 19 years ago. When I met my mother in the kitchen on my 22nd birthday, she asked me how old I am today. I replied that I'm 22. She told me that if i was a girl she would've had to get me married off by now. She added that nobody can keep girls for long at their parents houses. Later on in the day, when i slept and woke up in the afternoon my father too was discussing with my mother how old I am. She told him that im 22 and she would've had to search for a son in law had i been a female. My father replied to her that had i been a girl he wouldve got me married off once i reached the age of 20 itself!!! I was wondering if my parents being so highly educated had such stone age thoughts😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
you are so beautiful and sweet, everything u told is true... I feel this big pressure to marry, I m 26, but I felt this presure last 2, 3 years... I m from Europe
The boy says , " Hawa mai ude rahi hai...."...... If I was the boy, I will say , " Mei appko, aure UUPER udne ke leye motivate KARUNGA.😊"........AND when you are you are exhausted , I will , be your extra wings to sour HIGHER, in order to fulfill all your dreams..........😊
Mam I am level 2 in English and I take a ielts test next week . Because my mother in law said that if you don't speak in english than I cancle a marriage. I am suffering to learn english. Tell some tip's
I think we should withdraw marriage from the society. Live-in relationship gives you everything that you gets in married relationship... There is no reason to get marry in 2023
People r confused so let me clear....*SHE IS MARRIED*...Bhaiya Married h Aleena ji🙄🙏
I m in a depression because of my father who is against love marriages. I love a intercaste boy n he is really nice man but he is already threatening me whenever he see me using phone,he begin to taunt as if it is his life. Sometimes i feel like committing suicide bcs i can t live without that person who is the exact partner i always wanted for me
I wish i had no father if fathers are cause of depression in someone's life.
Hey i think you're going through a very tough time .
Thinks will get better remember don't take any wrong steps life is beautiful it had ups and downs.
It's your life and your decision.
Give it some time
If you are 18 years above get married n live happily
thank you much aleena, this was much needed and the same thing is happening with me but how to talk and convince them is a very difficult task and it takes a lot of courage and i find myself alone in doing this, i wish god helps us
According to my thoughts di u should fly as up as u reached the sky bcoz u r very talented nd perfect nd I just love your English .So , hawa mein udhna toh banta hai ❤❤❤💜💜💜
I DISAGREE with you.... As per my understanding there is always right time for everything... And when girls gets aged, plenty of hormonal complexities encounters mostly.. Ultimately girls got to marraige then why not at the right age.. I mean highly educated ladies usually are not a sucessful house wives see around you, and biggest reason is selfishness.. so instead of delaying marriage and get job to benefit just a company be a good mother and a house wife and be a mental peace to your life partnets...
I'm 26 , still unemployed and never had any girlfriend. I want someone in life because i get lonely nowadays very easily and it's becoming more and more but on the other hand if I can't find a job then how can i marry?
Both have to be enough mature to handle marriage. Girls were suffering but these days men suffers equally.
If you want to get married you have to sacrifice many things and both have to be ready for this instead of getting divorce. Only 5% people might lucky to get 95% of the things in marriage.
Someone please help me getting out of the pressure of marriage.... As I'm 26.. I'm hearing everyone's conversation about finding a good match for me.... I don't want to marry now.. As i have only completed my graduation degree... I want to study further.. I want to work on my career first... But due to financial conditions.. I couldn't.............. But this is not the problem.. The problem is that.. Your parents will arrange The money for dowry or marriage anyhow.. Even if they will be in debt... But they can't arrange it to make you stand on your own....
I don't want to marry too soon.. I want my parents that studies and career to be my priority.....
I don't want to be jailed in marriage😢😢.. Some one please suggest me what should i do
Whenever l pay visit to your channel, l always end up getting extremely motivated by you. I do like the topic which you always select to do the video, all those videos of your channel are so relatable.❤❤ Thanks a lot for doing this video.😊
I am doing ACCA,for about 8yrs,but now I am searching for a job,but due to this much years gap,I am not able to find a job.
Please help me to find out a solution for it.
I turned 35 years old lady on August 2023, Single by Choice. Should I try for Marriage or not? Can I get good proposals or not?
Do u have facebook
You are the perfect example the word called Haseeen 🙌 MashaAllah ❤
I have two questions mam ....1st one is ...there is a guy who loves his girlfriend guy earns 100k per month and girl 20k per month... should guy get marry with her.........and my 2nd question is same but the situation is change girl earns 100k and guy 20k should girl marry with him...
Bhaiya hum ud sakte Hain to kyu na ude .... That was awesome... 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Best line of whole video
Please agge se ye sb topic Hindi m baniya
Aisa ni h ki English ni ati but ye bahut jaida important topic toh Hindi mai Hota to or ache se samhj ata
Marriage should not ever be chosen because some people have applied pressure to your life. If a person can pressure you into marriage...what else is he going to force on you???
This is for all youths who think marriage is like a HELL. Note that this video Aleena maam is explaining is regarding taking your own decision about marriage. By no means she is saying marriage is not good or like a HELL. Watch the full video and try to understand properly what she is saying . Great video 🙏 .
conclusion u r married
Yeah everyone just wants to come to a big fake party and eat free food. Nobody cares when your stuck with the miserable roach. I am NOT getting married again. I tried it for 1.5 years. HATED IT. Not for me. They want to know what your doing every minute, where you are every second. Its just gross. I adore watching other people marry its truly beautiful. But if its not for you, its NOT for you. You will regret letting someone pressure you into it. My divorce was HHHELLL. 2 years later still flames burning in the WIND. I care less. Never ever ever again. Exactly you cant just break up, a whole squad of so called ' law keepers' will thumb their fingers at you and drag you in court for wanting out. AS IF. Pfffff. Hand under chin for all those motherphuckers.
Shadi se puri tarah khus nahi ho aisa lag rha hai. But it's Normal for anyone. Do whatever u want to do. Remember only one thing in life don't harm anyone. But most important thing to do is enjoy the life 💯🔥🚬
Wherever I read I read positive
reviews. Good one👏👏
Respected mam wishing u good evening. Humbly requesting you that please launch your English speaking course on online platform to get opportunity to learn from you. Or launch on YT UA-cam 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Exactly ma'am here is also that type of situations. Allah guide to all people that never getting part in the other's homes issues.
Madam earlier u already married , what happened for ur husband? I am sorry for asking madam , I don't know how to asking .
Mam aapka hawa me udhna toh banta hai qki aap hawa me nahi udogi toh apne students ko kese seekhaogi ki hawa me udhte kese hai.❤
I knew that you're married...
I've attended your marriage too...
Didn't you recognise me...???
Hii mam, I have a question that how witching movies and any english videos help us in order to achive the fluency of learning english language pls mam make video on this topic
Dii what if a person is a day dreamer want to do a lot in life but things are not working out at the same time the marriage questions are rising 😢
U re beautiful soul same thing happening with me.. Pressure building around my head... But am solution oriented.. Fingering out..
Your eyes are becoming worse
Plz take care of your eyes.
She ain't gonna care anybody talkings. 😊