Growing up, dialogue wasn’t a default go-to during times of emotional upheaval. We usually slept it off or watched our elders isolate, which has its benefits but without actually sharing and being heard there were gaps in this coping mechanism that saw the un-processed emotion appear in other domains. Over time as we grew up, as I learnt strategies I started to do the listening myself, say overtly “I want someone to listen to me” or ask someone who is visually going through something emotionally heavy if they would like me to sit down and listen to them. With my family I started to create the environment I wanted for myself.
Growing up, dialogue wasn’t a default go-to during times of emotional upheaval. We usually slept it off or watched our elders isolate, which has its benefits but without actually sharing and being heard there were gaps in this coping mechanism that saw the un-processed emotion appear in other domains.
Over time as we grew up, as I learnt strategies I started to do the listening myself, say overtly “I want someone to listen to me” or ask someone who is visually going through something emotionally heavy if they would like me to sit down and listen to them.
With my family I started to create the environment I wanted for myself.
I am spanish-american i learned emotional suppression. Stuffing my feeling was easier due to an abusive family system.