Royal Marine breaks down on camera and reveals his PTSD nightmare
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- Опубліковано 18 лип 2021
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Crying isn't a weakness Brother and it isn't wrong.
This is something a lot of dudes need to be told, not just servicemen, a lot of dudes walk around bottling shit up not knowing it's okay to let that shit out sometimes. It'll rot your soul if you keep it in.
Tearing up isn't a weakness, permitting yourself to become visibly overwhelmed by sorrow and balling in front of men outside of perhaps therapy or a very carefully selected group of friends however, _IS._ The "stiff upper lip" isn't for your benefit, it's for the _group's._ Distress, discouragement, and despondency are socially CONTAGIOUS and people are looking to you to be a rock that's firm and solid against the storm; crying like a baby in front of them UNDERMINES this belief in you as a strong and reliable comrade, as a fearless superior who'll get you through anything, and as a subordinate trusted to do his duty regardless of circumstance.
I understand that crying is a call for help but, warriors cannot afford that vulnerability unless the act of containing distress can be properly relaxed in the right settings, because it shakes the faith of those they are meant to protect and those they serve alongside. If one of my guys just started balling his eyes out with evidently no restraint and effort to stem the tears, I'd lose respect for him; we're not women and we cannot afford that shit because people are depending on us to, at least publicly, be models of assumed invincibility.
Crying is totally a weakness, and that modern bullshit is liable to soften your capacity you do horrible shit and own the consequences while instilling surety in those around you.
no@@Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq.
@@anactualalpaca7016 you turn it inside and let it turn to something else
It literally is,men should not cry,crying is bad.
It's really weird how the human mind can develope such a high level of respect for a man I've never met in just under 4 minutes. I salute him.
Then why don't we demand our favorite content creators stop making the same videos over and over doing colab with each other and not guys like this
Who watches this this is the equivalent of the wire
Who the hell watches the wire
Still? Would your co worker unless you asked them to? BEGRUDGINGLY. We all know we're dopimaine addicts. Put it on our dopamine
@@Fart5353wait what?
@@yeejay6396 it's really hard to educate people if people who want to educate are all in the same space. Find out what the people you want to talk to enjoy. It'll be great for the nobles. We work better happy
I spent every Sunday afternoon for six years visiting and talking with a WWII Combat Veteran who fought in the jungles of New Guinea for 9 months in 1943-44. He had very severe PTSD with what he called "Battle Dreams," where he would wake up "screaming for ammo and grenades", and "talking to dead guys". He had not shared any of his combat experiences with anyone for 50 years until we started meeting every Sunday; after around 18 months he thanked me, saying that his battle dreams had subsided from 6 nights a week to 2 - 3 nights a month... I jokingly replied "no worries, I'm getting them now" and we had a chuckle about it; but it was true, and I did actually begin having his (and my own) PTSD dreams, even though I'm not a vet...
Later on I was speaking with an MD Psychiatrist and she told me that this was one of the main reasons that veterans don't get adequate therapy for their PTSD; because the therapists end up suffering from 'transference' and fatigue, and end up getting the PTSD themselves. She also told me that I had inadvertently given Joe the "gold standard" of PTSD therapy, which she described as long term (years) regular (weekly) intensive talking about the actual details of the horrors that they went through, with a person (friend/therapist) who had a genuine interest and empathy.
I ended up making a big website about Joe's life and experiences. He had actually carried a camera with him for most of the 5 years that he served, from 1941 thru 1945, and had taken approximately 500 B&W photos which were of very high quality, as he became a lifetime career professional photographer after the war. I also published a 3 hour video interview that I filmed with him around 20 years ago, when he was in his 90s, where he is showing his photos and souvenirs, and describing them. That documentary is posted here on my UA-cam channel; please check it out if WWII history or veterans' affairs interests you!
Part of what might have happened is that you bringing out those stories from him allowed him to sort the mess of awful experiences into a coherent storyline. The effect of that is it becomes easier to distance yourself from, it becomes more abstract. When you recall the events, you can recall the story rather than your direct experience
I watched some of your videos scrapbooks. Is by chance he still alive?
@@BanditoGames3 Joel died in 2014 aged 100 years old. I'm glad you had a look at some of the interviews, I hope you enjoyed it.
Past life
would you mind sharing the link to your website?
Somebody tell that young man don't you ever apologize! You earned it man! If you want to cry you go ahead and cry! I'm a 57-year-old American and I have the utmost respect for this young man. ✌️❤️🤘
100%, agreed, incredible young man, he doesn’t need to apologise for anything
I hope he is well
@@goodmorning2386 he need to apologize for war crimes and imperialism
I second that!
@@almaz.8802 tell the government that
@@almaz.8802 What war crimes did former Royal Marine Ben Wadham commit?
Asking a veteran what his most difficult day of service was is a tough blow. That his response was to cry is no surprise at all. I hope he's doing well.
Wasn't a question asked by mistake, imo@@skulldaren
Bro that was just f up, like u dont ask people about their worst day even more cops, doctors, firefighters and veterans
If you open with "if you dont mind me asking"
I work at a bar and it was a quiet day. Had time to chat to this dude and his wife. Mentioned how he was a detective for years. So i said "i have 2 friends that are cops. They've told me some wild stories. Do you have any that you wouldn't mind sharing with me?"
He was more than happy to.
@0317scarWhat are you even on about...?
@0317scar your trollbait is terrible, please be unique next time.
Poor lad... You know he's a great guy when he's apologizing for something that he doesn't need to feel sorry for... Keep fighting the long battle friend, you've got thousands caring for you!
@@SerbijaSupremeexactly
@@SerbijaSupreme yes because every soldier kills kids.... Bet you hide when the postman comes lol
@@SerbijaSupreme Did you use to serve with him so you know who he killed? U're a funny guy lmao
@ivankyselov2030 terrorists are made up by the West to have a reason to invade the Middle East, where were the Terrorist during ww1, ww2 or the cold War? Funny hoe the Terrorist became a thing as son as the west invade the Muslim world isn't it?
Poor? These stupid kids was warned not to go into an illegal war. They didn't care fuck all about the politics, and just wanted to play soldier. I was there with them. They didn't wanna listen. They didn't care. It was all fun and games then. They are shitters. Now the cry. Play stupid games,....
Ben, PLEASE don't apologize for showing emotion. IT IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS!! I had a Marine Corp gunny Sgt for a Grandfather. He was the best! He told me at a young age (10) that "crying (tears) are simply showing your heart felt feelings", and to "NEVER feel ashamed for showing these emotions". Please Ben, God loves you and He wants you to heal. Hang in there Brother.
God isn't real
@saymyname8925 I'm a catachumen at my local Orthodox Church, our Lord and God Christ is very real my friend, glory to the Father, and the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, amin.☦️
@@NoahSutherland-mg9fi I have no idea what a catumen is.
@@NoahSutherland-mg9fiDon't share it without consideration, look at Joseph.
@@NoahSutherland-mg9fiWhere is he as his priests rape and molest children? As his creation he loves so much wreaks havoc on themselves. God is either a lie, or a tyrant and no different then satan
Lack of any reassurance from the camera crew is honestly upsetting, don’t apologize for crying brother, it isn’t a burden, you can’t bottle everything up forever
I understand them, they’re just here for a job they aren’t friends or family. Your expecting too much
@yshsamuel yes what you wrote is one of the factor people get their PTSD even worse. You expect people to be kind to you. Same as soldiers think when they retire people will respect them totally but people are bad , and when they dont get the respect they expected their PTSD will even worsen more. You should have mentality for doing it for yourself and people you love that care about you not for other you dont know because that will happen. It may be unpopular opinion and iam not undermining mental health but its like that.
@@Adam20672 it’s not that people are bad, people just a have their own lives and concerns and your not one of them is all🤷♂. It’s nothing to get upset over y’know
@@Berserker3624 They are the reason he had a PTSD episode to begin with. It's not about them being friends or family, it's basic human decency. Is basic human decency too much to expect nowadays? God help us, no wonder we're so screwed.
@@VisionsOfSpy check yourself, your entitlement is showing. You can’t keep calling whatever you think is good ‘human decency’ you aren’t entitled to love or compassion form other total strangers and stop thinking you are.
Also a partial reason why the world is the way it is now is because of people like you, your easy to manipulate and are unfortunately a majority. Politicians point to a woman being decapitated or something and your kind decry and demand action over it, leading to a further 10 of thousands dying over nothing of any real substance. Truly pathetic
“Men don’t cry cause they are weak, they cry because they have been strong for too long”- Paulo Coelho
Sounds nice and heroic but I prefer "Men cry because they are human. Women cry because they are human. If you shame someone else for crying, you aren't human enough to understand."
@@l.2620I can’t say anything else other than, this is truly the quote of all time.
Daily coelho 😂😂😂That's a lot of bullshit.
Women are much stronger.
I see this quote all the time lol each with a different name at the end 😂
the heck is your problem @@robertnagy6125
I am currently suffering with PTSD so bad I can’t hardly leave my house. I deployed back in 2013 and ever since I came home I feel out of place. Almost like a fish out of water. For a few years I ignored the symptoms and life kind of spiraled out of control. Now I’m a little older and I hear the noises in the quiet of the house. I’m scared to close my eyes at night because I’m afraid on what I’ll see. I avoid mirrors because I don’t like what I see. I hope the VA is able to help me.
You're a warrior, you've made it every day up until now. You will
get back to yourself, it takes TIME, seek cognitive behavioural therapy, try listening o meaning wave, or Watts wave, psychedelic therapy is also there along with other things. Seek professional help, don't be ashamed don't let it keep you down. I KNOW it's hard brother, so was what got you here. Trust me an yourself when I say YOU can do this, be the light be the beacon that shows others. Light the way. Namaste
Please look up EMDR as a therapy, it helped me love again. I was sceptical but I’m glad I tried. Edit I meant live again, but love will come too.
I don't have ptsd but hate mirrors too, especially after dark. I think it has something to do with horror movies. What do you think you'll see?
Hold strong, friend, we are with you
sending love to you brother❤ i know you can and will get through this
I dated a man with PTSD from Military Service and it was absolutely heart wrenching. I pray he’s found peace. Much respect for Military Personnel 🙏🏻🕊️♾️
I helped a marine with ptsd move from his house.
He was a complete mess, he had bars on all of his windows. He would get extremely angry and talk to himself while making strange noises and pacing around. He was obsessed with plants because they are "alive".
I felt bad for him, I hope he gets help.
u left him
@@chaytonhurlow840plants are alive and there are studies that have shown this to be true.
Dont join an army that pillagis and occupys country's
@@scorki666😭
The fact that the brain can hardly comprehend so much conflict just shows that humans are not built for war. Such a tragedy that we even still have wars and the effects of those who even survive. God bless this man, and all veterans
Hilariously wrong.
@@E.V.A.N-COProductionsgood comeback dipshite
@@E.V.A.N-COProductions is it now?
@@Falkoneer It is in fact. As chimpanzee also goes to "war". The human body, is in fact built to go to "war" (also the whole point of "survival of the fittest" is that you survive, our bodies are completely capable of healing past such things)
It always struck me as somewhat of a design flaw of humanity.
On one hand we have a lust for war and violence on the other hand our brain definitely isn't built for the actual thing.
Just a thought.
German soldier with PTSD here, you are not alone brother...
Hope you are getting the support and care needed to help you work through it over there buddy. The fact you’re able to comment here and mention it shows great strength of character 🙂
Wieso geht man auch zur Bundeswehr?
@@sneg__ damit es im Ernstfall Menschen gibt welche durch Ihren Einsatz gewährleisten, dass du in Ruhe in den Tag hineinleben und auf UA-cam primitive Fragen stellen kannst.
@@UndisputedONE2 komische Umschreibung von "auf Leute mit brauner Haut ballern und Profitinteressen von Großkonzernen und Imperialisten verteidigen"
Vielen Dank für deinen Einsatz. Es ist eine Schande wie manche Menschen über die Menschen sprechen, die sie im Kriegsfall beschützen. Menschen wie du haben meinen größten Respekt.
Never apologise for having a cry mate, people want to help but aren’t embarrassed by that.
My best mate was RM, Ireland and the Falklands, PTSD and the nicest guy I ever had the privilege of calling a friend. No one has ever come close as a mate.
He’s been gone several years now, passed away but still with me when it’s quiet.
He always said we were so well trained, but not to cope with the aftermath. I used to just listen and offer my totally hopeless advice, usually after lots of beer.
You all mean so much to us as a nation, but resources seem to go elsewhere.
Look after yourself!
men dont cry
@@bikeman1x11 See you writing that on every comment.
I bet you are a real strong man
@@Scroooge i am i dont cry or have emotions- weak betas think men should cry
@@bikeman1x11 You are cute
@@bikeman1x11 How many people in your life that you respect know you post comments like this online? I'm betting zero.
As an Irish man who learnt about how British imperialism tore apart our wee country. The average person would say...'yeah, you've every right to not care about the British military"...well, y'know what? I've respect for any warrior, regardless of the time period, nationality or background. War is hell...and no matter which side was deemed...'the good guys' we have to remember. War is essentially a handful of aristocratic elders that disagree with each other and the present day is literally youths who are without a sense of direction and want to fight for their country for fulfilment. The moment we acknowledge this thought will be the moment we are set free. There are no 'bad guys' and 'good guys'. There's only evil and good. And that evil begins at the highest sections of government and trickles down. Our pool of mankind is stagnant. That shit saddens my soul.
Great take, honestly huge respect towards you for this comment.
Yeah some people idk if they’re actually Irish or what but they refuse to show this guy empathy. Not all Brits are even bad. But we paint them on the same canvas anyways. Because that’s what they’re known for, whether for humour or not. It just sucks we pass down hate instead of education.
yah I agree I mostly side with Ireland but I don’t ever dump on British army. like they always have to spam the conscription button in history there’s no way these laddies could get around it and NOT set foot other land. it just sux. like imagine u cant get an actual job so ur a soldier now and all of sudden u have to go confront people who your crappy country has oppressed for 800+ years and are ready to make sure you don’t take them too… and you’re basically unaware of that.. like wtf? No getting around history either tho i suppose, only way to solve this is by talking around a table and we know how that goes
Yeah, for the most part I'd agree. But at the same time... the Nazis were the bad guys, no nuance to be found there.
Something's gotta give, it's just shame everything that's at stake when the shit really hits the fan. I'd like to see people stop the cycle of petty revenge someday. The alternative is none of us will see the turn of the century, so we'd better get our shit together soon.
I once found myself in a harrowing situation where I had to help a friend whose guts were protruding from his belly. Witnessing another friend trapped under tons of pallets was equally distressing, and sadly, both lost their lives. Regrettably, we never received the support we needed. Now, at the age of 60, the nightmares have resurfaced, triggered by memories of my past, especially since I experienced a stroke (caused by a blood clot in my brain) 11 months ago. The aftermath included two suicide attempts, directly linked to the emotional turmoil from my past rather than the stroke itself. So, sir .. don't say sorry most of us understand where you are.
So you're also a singer?
@@jmah5553 there are a lot of people like you, you're not alone. Gore messes up your mind, thankfully I don't watch it.
@@charlescalvin4657 Musician, you can read my bio for more info.
@@foxmulder3748 Thanks, I'm doing fine ..just turned 61 and still rocking 🙂 ps. I don't drink or smoke :)
Any veteran would understand even without talking. The psychological effects of 3 tours of N. Ireland during the early seventies have ensured i would suffer for a lifetime, and bites when you least expect it. Ive been lost for the past 44 yrs. God bless every man & woman who decided to put their lives on the line for Queen & country. Only then will you understand ...
You gave your life for a system that doesn't care if you are dead or alive. The rulers don't care about the soul diers they see them as dogs and as expendable.
Well said.. having served myself between 2005-2019 and bein in Iraq in 2006 and Afghanistan in 2008/2009/2011/2012 the only people who really understand our culture,mentality, coping mechanisms, banter etc are all ex service people.
Any one else who says “they understand” really don’t..
Between each other we can take the P155 out of all situations, we can bounce banter off each other, we can call each other Cu*ts and know exactly how to take it.
We can stand up next to someone without even knowing them and know that you have their back and they have yours.
To go from that environment, being in scraps together down town all the way to being involved in IED blasts, fire fights etc to being in a world that has literally no clue is so hard!!! I’ve been out now since 2019. I work for a defence company so I still get to do a little bit of what I used to do in regards to teaching weapon systems etc but apart from that little bit I have literally 0 true purpose any more.. and it is horrible.
For you to still be lost after 44 years is also heartbreaking and I feel for you massively.. #hussar
@@davsickler3978nobody care if you are alive or dead. If i want to join the army i know that i go there to protect and kill if it’s necesary. You talk but you don t have the courage to give your life for something like this. Show some respects!
I'm so sorry that our after care for veterans is so abysmal.
You and your boys deserve so much better.
@@davsickler3978You don’t deserve the freedoms others have given everything for you to have.
If this was my son I’d be so proud. Strength, compassion, and intelligence.
ask him about his kill list
Proud of killing people? It shows what kind of parent you are
@@swatteam2002does it matter? Even remotely? In the slightest?
calm your hole now sir, the comment is not about you@@TheHumbleHollow
@@swatteam2002 funnily enough, this main comment was also not about him shooting people. Hence why I don't see why it's relevant when the guy was just praising this marine's traits.
Thanks to the vets who have risked their mental and physical health to help and fight for their country. ❤ It takes guts to sign up.
Please don’t apologise sir, you are a hero in my eyes
DON'T APOLOGISE FOR SHEDDING TEARS BIG MAN ITS FINE. YOU'RE A HERO BROTHER💯
THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SERVICE 🙏🙏🙏
KEEP WELL AND STAY STRONG MY MAN 💯
@@andytraillwhat?
@@andytraillyeah and people killed themselves because of it, have some respect
You can't expect men to cry in public either. There is a time and place.
This idea men should just openly cry is taking it to the opposite extreme.@@PBI45
he is a kíller and a mercenary invading countries and kílling innocents for money. facts
I was a ranger and I can’t explain how much I relate to the fact that you get out and go from being a somebody to an absolute nobody. It’s been extremely difficult to adjust back to the “real world” in more ways than one. I’m still not there. I hope this warrior finds his peace just as much as I hope that I find mine.
Maybe it would help to not have such a twisted view of a normal person being “nobody”. A tramp has just as much objective worth as a world leader. Realise that and it will help you see life more clearly.
@@criert135 EXACTLY! We are just an ephemeral speck of dust in the vastness of time. There is only one thing that makes a a human being worthy: love and compassion for others. @mattr.1804 you are not a nobody. I hope you find strength in yourself. This is all you need. I wish you all the best.
I'm sometimes greatful I was homeless and estranged from my family BEFORE I joined!😅
hey man just keep trying out new shit or maybe even use that gi bill. i was the same for a while until i found something to keep myself busy
@@mogged178 I did; I’m an RN now. We all just go through it differently.
PTSD is a killer. Please get help. Life should be lived not stuck in constant fear. I found learning about the Vagus nerve and Havening technique, group work and 1-2-1 therapy is making a huge difference to my recovery. Thank you for your service Ben and all others. The military needs to address this more... ❤️✌🏼🙏🏼
This video made me support The Veterans Foundation, it is clear watching this video how PTSD can affect someone. Just one word, one name and you break, stay strong and fight it mate.
Thank you for your support
Buhu he got PTSD from invading a country. Who gives a fuck about an invading Nazi terrorists who kills kids and rape women
@@veteransfoundation9407 Putin is a Swiss sleeper agent getting his orders from the ancient Baltic Teutonic Knights Mafia Brotherhood; full intel on channel "HomieLand Sickurity".
Nah this is just being a crybaby , men from world war 2 never cry telling their stories
Idiot. Most ww2 vets never talked about the war.
From an ex Aussie soldier, thanks for sharing this. The sad thing is our strength is our greatest weakness. Because of our training, we just grit our teeth and convince ourselves that we don’t need help from anyone. Don’t do what I did, I thought I was strong and could get through it but I waisted 30 years before I asked for help, half my life gone. For those reading this, for your sake and for the sake of those who love you don’t wait, get help now!
I was actually told by a medical officer when they was deciding to medically discharge me or not that I need to swollow my pride. That serious hit home with me and I broke down when I walked out the room. Hard thing to hear and acruslly do. I get exactly what you're saying.
@@Williejonez Stay strong brother.
you are not a soldier. you're a mercenary murderer invading countries and killing innocents for money.
I feel your pain bud. Really hope you’ve gotten the help you need. We’ve done our part and yet we still can’t stand down. Faugh a Ballah.
He is strong for not breaking down on all questions crying isn’t a weakness but a strength. A strength of being able to express your emotions😊
Mad respect brother. I know you know this but you aren't alone. I'm here in the US and I'm with you! Much love my brother🇬🇧🇺🇸
I just want to hug him, this broke my heart. I also struggle with PTSD but its not due to military combat. Its hell. Makes me so mad that these people come back from war and have to deal with this.
Love from Australia friend xoxo
Richard "Richie" J. Watson served with the 42 Commando Royal Marines and died on the 12th of December 2006.
He was evacuated to a hospital after being hit by small arms fire and later pronounced dead.
Rest in Peace Richie.
lol bro I guess you wanted to write "rest in peace" instead of "rest in piece"
@@johnnyhun1 LOL I didn't notice the typo, thanks for informing me!
Had this question in an interview and the same response hit me, needless to say I didn’t get the job. Civilians don’t understand that’s why 90% of our friends are our friends because they understand. You’re helping people who don’t understand get a glimmer of understanding and you’re showing other Vets they’re not alone.
20 year American vet here. We all suffer in our own way. And you are right, people do hide it nowadays. My wife and i have it too. Tough way to live. Stay strong mate. God bless you.
big love mate. recommend looking into micro dosing psylocibin, might be taboo, but theres lots on it helping vets with ptsd, groundbreaking to say the least
God bless you mate
This touched my heart. Crying is a good thing and nothing to apologize for. My partner was a Royal Marine. After he left the Royal Marines he stopped hearing from anyone. No support then at all. I think he had PTSD. Perhaps not as severely as some but enough to hold him back and effect his life. You aren't prepared for life outside the marines sometimes. He was highly thought of and a focused marine. You could tell he'd been in the services by his professional mannerisms. He was a very special man. He died this year from cancer bless him and even then he tackled the treatment like it was a mission. Such a strong man. I'm so proud of him.
This is terribly sad to see, brave young men and women severely traumatized. I hope every kind of help is available. I suffered PTSD after my son took his life, and EMDR saved me. I was sceptical but it really helped me.
I'm so sorry about your son. I am gonna hug my mom tomorrow. Sending love your way
@@KevinBYee Kevin that’s wonderful. She’s a lucky mom.
Can I ask, what is EMDR?
@@tonymartin7849
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is a fairly new, nontraditional type of psychotherapy. It's growing in popularity, particularly for treating post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD often occurs after experiences such as military combat, physical assault, rape, or car accidents.
Although research continues, EMDR remains controversial among some health care professionals.
At first glance, EMDR appears to approach psychological issues in an unusual way. It does not rely on talk therapy or medications. Instead, EMDR uses a patient's own rapid, rhythmic eye movements. These eye movements dampen the power of emotionally charged memories of past traumatic events.
@@tonymartin7849 do some googling, there’s lots of info. As I said I was very skeptical but it helped me a lot.
The way he still stood politely and disciplined and kept apologizing… what a polite man. I hope he will do better
Wow. How could you not respect and admire this man?! I’m grateful he is alive and hope he can get the help he needs. What a hero
I left the Military 6 years ago now and like Ben there was one certain topic that if I spoke about would always "catch me off guard". However, I spoke to Combat Stress about it last year and am now coming to the end of their treatment programme for PTSD. Now that topic NEVER catches me off guard anymore. So please, if Ben is still being "caught off guard" encourage him to speak to Combat Stress about it.
It's heartbreaking to see how he apologizes for just letting his feelings go. I understand that. He has been conditioned that way through the military, and it's so strongly engrained in him. As a full-time firefighter, I have seen some bad things too in my life, and I'm glad for the fact that we have such a good psychological care these days. Young man, I salute to you and I hope you get every possible form of care possible. And I know it's said so easy but : please speak if needed and don't lock yourself in. There is always someone who got your six. Best regards from Germany. 🇩🇪🇬🇧
“War is young men dying and old men talking”
― Franklin D. Roosevelt
It is a great shame that people believe they need to fight another's wars for greed, corruption and power.
I wish the young would talk too. I left my ptsd and depression untreated for so long I developed schizophrenia. Ofc not everyone would end up like me but mental illness loves silence, loves to be left alone. The roots grown so long they end up impossible to get rid of.
If anyone even suspect something is wrong, get help, talk to anyone.
You’re not alone bro. It’s been truly difficult transitioning… When I got out of US Army, I felt I lost my personality. It seems that everything I worked hard for is now just a memory. Retiring early due to injuries is very disappointing and embarrassing at the same time. Remember, 1 day at a time. Embrace the suck.
I have PTSD from losing my father to Parkinson’s. I honestly never thought someone like me would feel it, especially considering most of us think it only comes from experiences like Ben’s. I also felt and feel guilty for having these feelings while men like this do, because I always felt I was being weak. Thank you, Ben. Talking about it is the thing I avoided the most and it’s the thing that’s helped the most
Remember that feelings of PTSD can happen to anyone for almost any reason from drug addiction to car accidents. I completely understand how it feels to feel like you are somehow taking away from the brave people who get put in supremely stressful and dangerous feats during combat or similar situations. What’s important is that those feelings you have are real and the ways they affect you or your loved ones are also very real which means they are valid. I lost my grandfathers to cancer and ALS and my father who lost his father to ALS could very well experience the same and doesn’t acknowledge it because he thinks about it all the time and it bothers him down to his core but he suppresses those feelings. Bravo to you for being brave enough to see that in yourself and take steps to realize and heal. Never apologize or feel you are taking away from others for being hurt about such a horrible thing. I hope your father is resting easy and you can find peace.
@@chikenCx thank you for those words, my friend. I’m trying my best to overcome those feelings. I’m sorry to hear about your loss as well. I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to respond to me. Your grandfather and father I’m sure are proud of the awesome person you are
Hey Christopher, I can relate to you feeling guilty or weak for having such things inside you but I just want to let you know that you’re not weak for having it or to blame at all.
You didn’t put it there, it’s not your fault and it doesn’t make you weak. Nobody chooses or controls what they have in them, you didn’t put it there so it doesn’t signify anything about you, the best thing you can do is cope with it and come to terms with it with time and remember, just because you have it it doesn’t mean that you’re weak, we all have our stuff, even the seemingly “perfect” people.
Hope you stay safe, take care and can find the relief you need, love from Spain
you didnt get PTSD from losing your father you got it from the way in which you internalized that experence
people will say thing to us and do things to us and things will happen but its has everything to do with how you process it
everything a inside job and this is why not everyone who seen bad things in the forces end up with ptsd
it helps to speak if its the right person but most people dont care its a toxic world
These boys are tough as nails. God bless for putting yourself in harms way.
Here a veteran from Holland. I got ptsd too. I was in 2009 in Afghanistan. ❤ and respect for all the veterans and people who struggle with ptsd
I know ptsd makes people avoid it but how will they fix it if they dont talk about it. They need to talk, accept and repent. Pyschologically, the only possible solution can be repentance through Islam. God can be forgiving. If you try to run away from this, it will haunt you. Study about our religion, and you will know how it can be a solution to your problems😃
Don't abuse ptsd to spread your religion. That's pathetic.@@Islam.verse3000
@@Islam.verse3000 thank you
@@Spartan538 My pleasure brother. Just accept and repent, god is forgiving👍
@@Islam.verse3000the reason men don’t talk about it is because they are raised being told to hide their emotions regardless of what has happened. A lot of us hide it until we have a stress-induced medical emergency or hit a psychological breaking point
Never apologize for crying, it should always be okay to express your feelings
Don't know you but the pride I feel when I see you guys is immense. Grandad was royal marine ww2. Thanks for what you've done.
A WW2 soldier is the only type of soldier id ever give respect to (excluding socialist nations and peoples militias). The fight against Nazism is a good cause
@@tempejklWhy just WW2 soldiers?
Crying is one of the most human emotions. Respect. Love from across the pond 🇺🇸
Somebody give him a freaking warm, cuddly, long hug!!! This soldier needs it!!!!
Yea, totally agree. I wanna hug him so badd :D
@@linkinparkfan1976 Hey, big Linkin Park fan here too!!! Thanks for the comment on the comment!
Crying isnt a sign of weakness. Its a sign of someone who's been strong for far too long
I hope this guy is doing okay. He doesn't need to be apologising for anything.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
C- PTSD made me cold, people do not understand me anymore. I am glad that I feel little to nothing anymore, but especially when losing a loved one, it is frustrating for me that I cannot cry, just stand around like a statue. I envy you for still being able to show so much compassion, this is a good thing, and you shouldn’t hide your feelings.
I hope you will be well, I have high respect for service members. I prepare for service currently, am 23 yo. I sincerely hope that you will be able to put all this pain behind you, I know how it feels, how tense and paranoid you are all the time, this feeling of hopelessness. Be well, God bless you
Take care please. Having C-PTSD puts you at risk of further trauma, in service too.
The only way to heal it is through self-compassion and a good social support structure, though the journey of healing never ends.
Good luck.
Combat vets have my up most respect
Respect to all the veterans out there. True heroes. Thank you all for your service!
Never appologies for your emotions your an amazing guy thank you for your service your a real hero who deserves so much god bless you 🙏
That is one courageous man. He truly serves, both in and out of the army. My deepest respect for him.
I saw this video a couple years ago while I lived in London. Since then I’ve moved to Plymouth and Ben has been helping me train to join the Royal Marines, absolutely top bloke who has a such a positive effect on the world and people around him. I like to come back to this video every once in a while for a humbling moment. On my way to train in his gym now with more motivation than I had 10 minutes ago💪
Fantastic, Charlie. In talking so honestly about his mental health struggles, Ben has helped countless others. A true hero.
Always remember crying doesn't mean that you are weak , it means that you have been strong for too long.
Its not good to lie we are all weak the reason hes struggling and suffering is part of being human it is 100 percent weakness but we are strong for not giving up and standing back up and fighting for whats right and not letting are weaknesses put fear in us and overcoming thats how we get stronger acknowledging our weaknesses and finding ways around them thats what it means to be human and weak in weakness you find real strength if you already strong you wont find it and you wont find true value and truth weakness can be a gift as well
@@animelover12261 Yes, you're right, lying is a weakness, a character flaw that needs to be dealt with. Crying? Yeah not so much, that's just the body's natural response to strong emotions, not a character flaw just a way of making sure you don't let your emotions tear you up if they don't have a release.
Crying is literally the definition of vulnerability. I cannot see how people will lie like this, but considering how society is now. I can tell why this lie exists in the first place.
I am so glad, that Austrian Armed Forces really care about mental health and offer a wide range of psychological treatment without fear of getting kicked out or anything.
This is a real man. I can't even imagine the pain of mental scars left by war. I wish him all the best
Living in syria and witnessing what I've witnessed in the past 12 years gave me PTSD. Words can never describe it.
from one soldier to another, brother.. you're loved. Thank you for serving. its gonna be okay... the journey is long, but we got this. hooah!
Only the strongest men are crying without shame brother! be proud of yourself! Show the warrior you are!
Never felt better than I did after dropping the military invulnerable, invincible, adapt, overcome, and survive mindset and allowing myself to be vulnerable. PTSD and trauma are both battlefield injuries, just like getting shot. When you get shot, you have to disengage and let yourself be vulnerable via allowing a doctor to have your life in his hands. When you have trauma and ptsd, you have to disengage and let yourself be vulnerable.
This man deserves a hug
when you are going through a rough time in life, sometimes just watching a video like this can remind you, that you aren’t alone and it can be the difference between doing something stupid and not.
true bravery letting this air, total respect!
A true warrior. Thankful for your service ♥
I'm impressed he's hold out this long, crying isn't a weakness, some things just straight up gets to us and when someones been bottling up all those emotions for so many years, it can be hard. You're strong in my eyes sir and thank you for serving your country and helping others.
I'm sorry for your struggles. You are amazing, stay strong Sir!
I love this guy. Showing that even the toughest cry sometimes. What a legend!
All the strength to this guy and people like him.
Please tell this man he has no need to apologise for showing his emotion. Nothing but respect.
Crying isn't a weakness brother, it's what makes us human. Stay strong, take each day as it comes and remember I must not forget, we must not forget that we are human beings.
He wiped away his tears and got on with it though. I like the stoicism. Other people cry over pathetic shit but he had something real to be emotional about but continued the task.
@@nelotharen8599 what exactly would call pathetic just asking?
@@Cheerleader644860 check his other comments, he's on of em tough guys
Its been a couple years since this video was published, I sincerely hope that this young man was able to find some peace and comfort back home. Thank you Ben for sharing your story, you are not alone! God bless.
God Bless You, Love and Light to you.
Wishing you recovery for your trauma.
❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
No one suffering with PTSD should need to apologise for what they went through. It breaks my heart to not just see this broken young man but to hear that no one has asked how he feels...
I’m not a veteran, but my mom is. And I try my best to understand how difficult it can be to deal with PTSD, and theres no need to apoligize for crying. Everyone does. Men, women, kids, animals, and it’s ok to cry. ❤
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@@syedali676 ..what’s so funny??
@@yourdidit7813ignore the idiots mate, there's a milliom of them online. I hope your mother is doing well now or at least working through the trauma
@@syedali676did you get a hard on from the colonisation era and the people shitting on the streets? Must be nice waking up to a guy shitting in front of your house.
When you need to cry, don't hold it, just let it go for a few minutes and you'll feel better. There is a good reason for your body to cry, to give a relief from stress and anxiety.
Getting this video recommended 2 years after it was posted and it still feels so guttural. Someone give that man a hug
Absolute gentleman. A real man
Such a brave man on many levels. Talking is incredibly hard. Hope he's still doing good.
Crying just means you still have humanity within you, hang in there brother we all can get through this.
You are amazing. I am so proud of you that you show how you feel. Thank you for your service.
Bless you sir. Its tougher not to cry I hope you get help needed.
Bless, what a lovely polite and genuine gentleman you are Sir. Much respect for you showing your true emotions for the world to see. Thankyou for your service.
You NEVER ask anyone who served in the military what their worst day was. It can and will give them a mental breakdown
We owe you. Thank you for everything you've done for us.
You've no need to apologise when upset and suffering.
God bless you .
Thanks to all who serve and have served.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
@@edithbannerman4 Hope you have a great day .
@@keithfowler2013 Yeah how about you, where you located?
I’m glad everyone here is being respectful they listened to this mans story and supported him in these comments
Thank you for your service and speaking out on your experience, I hope you find peace and happiness within yourself 🇬🇧
I heard this young man talk. Brave and honest . So Yes I will be playing the Vets lottery. And btw. Not all superheroes wear capes. They wear uniforms, of which you are one. 🙌
Dude. Don’t hold Back you emotions.
You don’t need to prove that you’re strong by doing so.
I wish you all the best! ❤
Never again apologize for that man. A man who never cried has never been through really hard times. Respect for what you did and acomplished. A fellow-veteran.
How absolutely brave of him letting them film him breaking down. Doing it is one thing... having the guts to let the world see it is so brave. I hope you know that allowing you emotion to be seen helps men in all different walks of life.
Men need to know its okay to put the weight of the world down sometimes. It will be there when you're ready to pick it back up again. Thankyou for your positive message.
3 of my family members have served in the armed forces, the day they left to engage in a conflict overseas was like saying goodbye to who I had known them to be, only I didn't know at the time.
Not one has spoken of their time in conflicts and not one returned without some form of mental health challenge or inability to engage in social gatherings.
I love them all and I miss the light inside their eyes, so I do my best to bring it to them in hope it reminds them that maybe the purpose of their life may have changed but they have my unconditional love to push against.
Blessings to all that have served, I cannot fathom the pain or aloneness in the wake but for what it is worth you are alive and you are loved.
It's supposed to be a brotherhood whether you are still serving or not, the very best support should be given by the crown until such time as required ❤
God bless you man. You should have the best life after you been fighting for us to walk around freely
I'm sorry you all had to go through that and I'm sorry there isn't better support for you post-service. It's because of people like you that we are able to live as freely and comfortably as we do. I hope you find true peace and happiness again, you are worth it.
Semper fi, brother...from one Marine (across he pond) to another.
You have NOTHING apologize for.
My hand is on your shoulder.
Every tear is earned, there is no shame in shedding them.
My heart goes out to this young man and so many others everywhere just like him.
i wanna hug him so bad
Thank you, men, for your service. Doesn't matter to me which flag you served for, what branch. Thank you all, for your service. I love you all.
Sincerely,
A woman in America
It's extra difficult for veterans not only because most are men (already not allowed to cry), the military culture tends to promote toughness over softness (another mountain to climb, especially for these elite units), but also the trauma that they go through is often worse than what can be experienced in safer jobs. I hope both Ben and his mates find peace and love
Men aren't allowed to cry, I think this is a great ideal to have. Keeps you hardened
@@chrisdiaz4876 i strongly disagree. There's a big difference between fake hard and actually hard. What you're worried about is being perceived as manly according to what masculinity means to you, which has nothing to do with actually having character or spine. I assume you never served or not in any significant way at least, and are wrestling with multiple complexes. Hope you resolve it and figure out what being a man really means
@@sigis72 I certainly intend on joining the military when I'm of age, I suppose your right about not wanting to be perceived as effeminate. Still, I know that sadness can be processed into productive rage, in my eyes it's all about using that emotion to create the most potent product. I've used this to quite some effect...
@@chrisdiaz4876 i know that at your age you think you know a lot, but trust me, as you grow older you will look back at the way you used to think when you were so young and laugh/cringe at yourself haha, i think most people do 😄 Bless
every 5 years you grow older you will tell yourself that you were dumb those 5 yesrs before. if not then you arent growing as a person