Opinionated Mum Says “It’s My Wedding, She’s Just The Bride” | Say Yes To The Dress UK

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  • @xoluciaxo_3721
    @xoluciaxo_3721 Рік тому +699

    “Well it’s not all about you honey..😊” Ma’am.. it literally IS. It’s HER wedding. Literally the one day thats all about you

    • @ciaocricri
      @ciaocricri Рік тому +29

      I've always wondered what goes through people's minds when they say it's their wedding, when it's actually their offspring's. I just DO NOT get it. My parents sure had an opinion for my wedding, but they didn't insist on anything. They paid for almost half of the wedding, but it was a (real) gift, not a way to get what THEY wanted on OUR day.

    • @mariegarside8830
      @mariegarside8830 Рік тому +11

      Amazing that the "lumpy, bumpy"mother took over the appointment with her snide comments.

    • @shelleywitmer616
      @shelleywitmer616 Рік тому +3

      I agree although the journey took her to the most gorgeous dress 🌹

    • @NLR759
      @NLR759 Рік тому +3

      She was joking. Don't take the comments so seriously.

    • @susiarktinen
      @susiarktinen Рік тому +4

      @@mariegarside8830my mother kept using those exact words regarding me and my sisters, who were my bridesmaids, during my whole wedding planning season. She made my gown, which was great, but took liberties in making tweaks that made it more to her liking than to mine….I couldn’t do anything about it because it was so close to my wedding day! In fact, it only got finished the day before my wedding. My dress was very beautiful but in the end, I liked it, not loved it, but it was something to wear to my wedding! On the other hand, having spent my whole life dreaming about my wedding shoes and not my wedding dress, I was 100% in love with my shoes, and I wear them every chance I get!

  • @gingw7333
    @gingw7333 Рік тому +46

    Had a Mom just like her. Went dress shopping alone. Best decision ever.

  • @mahamehanna9826
    @mahamehanna9826 Рік тому +315

    What a selfish mother! .. Mothers are supposed to want their daughters to be happy and feel beautiful and special especially when they choose their favorite wedding dresses. This mother is from an older generation and she shouldn’t impose her opinion on her daughter, just because she’s paying for the dress. Gifts are supposed to be unconditional, but apparently that’s not the case for this controlling mother.

    • @bobbymenon4057
      @bobbymenon4057 Рік тому +3

      Its just drama, darling

    • @NLR759
      @NLR759 Рік тому +1

      Mom wasn't so bad. I could totally handle a mom like that. Remember the family is coached to disagree a bit for the drama of the show.

    • @camellia8625
      @camellia8625 Рік тому

      It is asking a lot to ask a mother to pay for something she doesn’t like.

  • @jennelynduke4230
    @jennelynduke4230 Рік тому +92

    Mom got her chance at marriage years ago but now it's your daughter time to shine please be happy for her

  • @Uniqueen1114
    @Uniqueen1114 Рік тому +59

    She reminds me of my overbearing mom. She bulldozed over all my dress choices throughout my life. In my culture, the groom brings the bridal clothes. My sister in laws very sweetly informed me that the dress would be totally different and unique and would suit me but my mother threw a fit when she came to know that the colour of the dress would be totally different from the traditional bridal wear. She made it into such a big deal, mocking my fiance family and pressurising me to say no to my fiance. All this even before seeing the dress.
    When the dress finally arrived, I and my mom were stunned. It was the most beautiful shade of light blue with crystals and lovely pattern. I loved it immediately. Its been 12 years yet my family and friends still remember my wedding dress!

  • @figmo397
    @figmo397 Рік тому +630

    I feel for any bride whose mother is so controlling.

    • @heididepotter8136
      @heididepotter8136 Рік тому +6

      Why I didnt bring my mother shopping. Wanted why I loved.

    • @anna1417
      @anna1417 Рік тому +29

      I feel for *any person* whose mother or father is so controlling.

    • @kimberlypatterson3568
      @kimberlypatterson3568 Рік тому +2

      Her mother knows her best, the dress that she ended up with is perfect! The lace and fit on the others wasn’t right.

    • @NLR759
      @NLR759 Рік тому +1

      Mom was right though, the first two dresses didn't suit her at all. They were too old fashioned looking.

    • @pathicks7471
      @pathicks7471 Рік тому +2

      That is why I alone planned my own wedding and had a custom dress made... I gave my mother the reception as I didn't care.. Funny.. I never got to nibble on anything.. I was pulled from one person to the next as I was moving across country!

  • @denisekitson9390
    @denisekitson9390 Рік тому +157

    No mother should interfere it’s the daughters wedding not theirs I never saw my daughters dress till her wedding day I just made her cake and helped her with what she needed and yes she looked stunning!

    • @notperfectandneverwillbe4825
      @notperfectandneverwillbe4825 Рік тому +3

      That's a great attitude! I know my mom would have been that way too if I had ever gotten married. One thing though my mom would have helped me make my dress (we both knew what I would want and because of my body type would know how to adjust to flatter.).

  • @chyrlbrown3318
    @chyrlbrown3318 Рік тому +66

    I will never understand why some mothers don't get that this is not their wedding.

  • @jarcha4200
    @jarcha4200 Рік тому +111

    Mum must have been a real blast shopping for school clothes and at the beauty parlor. I am amazed at how subdued the others were at first.

  • @ashasmom147
    @ashasmom147 Рік тому +189

    I love the dress she chose and that she stuck to her guns. Mom….well….I’m glad she got on board in the end❤

    • @MsJubjubbird
      @MsJubjubbird Рік тому

      The one she picked was the best for her. The others looked a bit grumpy and dowdy on her.

  • @AJR9316.
    @AJR9316. Рік тому +49

    Not the lump on the chair talking about her daughter’s lumps and bumps 😐

  • @marisol.fairytales6633
    @marisol.fairytales6633 Рік тому +74

    Her mom is really controlling. Saying "it's my wedding. She's just the bride". That is so selfish. There is a different between supporting and selfish/controlling. It's the bride's day. Not the mom's

    • @jacqueline8559
      @jacqueline8559 2 місяці тому

      I'd have heard that, bought the dress of my choice and eloped! 👋 mum

  • @PnnexD
    @PnnexD Рік тому +43

    Notice how the mum says about the last dress how "that doesn't really look like lace to me" just to not having to admit that the lace was nice? I'm happy to see though that the bride stood her ground against mom!

  • @naturalPaths
    @naturalPaths Рік тому +29

    Why does no one ever seem to point out that, with the right dress, lumps and bumps will disappear with proper fitting. 🤷‍♀️

  • @fabienneclavier5984
    @fabienneclavier5984 Рік тому +40

    My mom helped pay for my gown, not only did she let me do as I pleased, but she wasn't at the store with me so as not to bother me. I actually went all by myself, and that was just perfect. Mom discovered the dress on the big day and loved it.

    • @MLMLW
      @MLMLW Рік тому +7

      I went with both of my daughters but bought what they loved whether I liked it or not. Their gown, their day, but I did love their choices. They looked stunning on their wedding days.

  • @logiclanguagelearningFrench
    @logiclanguagelearningFrench Рік тому +74

    Mom sitting there in a big floral creation moaning about lace ?

  • @ladyjustice1474
    @ladyjustice1474 Рік тому +66

    Moms it's not your wedding, unless your the 1 getting married.

  • @ashleymoon2969
    @ashleymoon2969 Рік тому +19

    If it's your wedding day it's your choice what you wear. I'd hardly say the mother looks like a fashion guru!!

  • @panchang810
    @panchang810 Рік тому +25

    If you love your daughter and you want her to be happy ESPECIALLY ON HER WEDDING DAY, then let her choose what wedding dress she wants for HER OWN WEDDING. 🤨😡

  • @pbrn1729
    @pbrn1729 Рік тому +74

    This mother is just a complete control freak and is not a nice person at all

  • @lisakayser8234
    @lisakayser8234 Рік тому +45

    No mother of the bride needs to add more stress to their daughter selecting a wedding dress

  • @melodied4314
    @melodied4314 Рік тому +22

    I agree with Mum on the first dress. The second dress that had sleeves would be lovely for her winter wedding. She looked very pretty in her chosen dress.

  • @csandford6011
    @csandford6011 Рік тому +36

    The last dress was way better than the other oneshe definitely needed the fitted dress The sweetheart neck line was perfect.

    • @barbfrank917
      @barbfrank917 Рік тому +1

      Yes beautiful, but it had no sleeves for a winter wedding

    • @glorygracek.1841
      @glorygracek.1841 Рік тому +1

      Actually #2 was better than the fitted. When you have a tummy like that (and I do too tbh) fitted like that highlights the tummy and it really doesn't look that attractive in person. Actually makes you look expecting and brings a lookers eyes there. But other than that it was a very nice dress.

  • @patriciapuleski900
    @patriciapuleski900 Рік тому +8

    I have noticed that when it's "the dress" for the bride, they carry themselves different, they smile more, the entourage seems to love the dress because of the way the bride carries herself in it. The entourage picks up on the brides indecisive behavior and veto the wrong dress.

  • @katherinejoseph7060
    @katherinejoseph7060 Рік тому +11

    This is why you're suppose to save money for your own dress. When i'm getting married i'm paying for mine.

  • @sharonott7513
    @sharonott7513 Рік тому +3

    The gown and veil were beautiful. And wedding venue - WOW! That building is amazing. Happy wedding.

  • @burdburd2787
    @burdburd2787 Рік тому +3

    Mum had her wedding, let the daughter have her own.

  • @pattithiel7342
    @pattithiel7342 Рік тому +4

    I am my mom’s only daughter. She couldn’t join me to look at wedding dresses or my best friend or any other friends. I went by self and with the help of a fabulous woman at the bridal salon we found my dress and our eyes light up together when I found my wedding dress. I was confident and truly happy with my selection and the best was no negative responses. I truly picked out MY wedding dress! 😊

  • @alliebauer6236
    @alliebauer6236 Рік тому +16

    You can very obviously tell on her face when she put that last one on that she liked how she looked in it!

  • @samanthafairweather9186
    @samanthafairweather9186 Рік тому +6

    I wonder if mum chose the groom too! I mean, according toum, it's HER wedding, and she's "just the bride"!!
    She'll probably want to go on the honeymoon too.

  • @maimai-ei5vz
    @maimai-ei5vz Рік тому +24

    lol. im doing wedding dress shopping by myself

  • @clarejennings5049
    @clarejennings5049 Рік тому +4

    How any mother can be this way is beyond me

  • @clwbchbabycakes
    @clwbchbabycakes Рік тому +15

    From the lumpiest, bumpiest person on the whole show today......

  • @JosefineArts
    @JosefineArts Рік тому +19

    Shows every lump and bump? Has mom looked at herself lately 💀

  • @sshms414
    @sshms414 Рік тому +7

    She would look fantastic in anything

  • @carine4318
    @carine4318 Рік тому +5

    Mine is a narcissist….her mums truth is her own truth not her daughters truth

  • @XeaRae
    @XeaRae Рік тому +4

    While I don’t like Mom’s interference I personally wanted to see her try something other than lace. I think she’d look amazing in something light and drape-y.

  • @Poisenivy5
    @Poisenivy5 Рік тому +3

    That dress is so beautiful on her!

  • @angelawilliams4239
    @angelawilliams4239 Рік тому +2

    She might have know her all her life and thinks she knows what suits her, but to say David doesn’t was pretty disrespectful. He’s a highly respected and experienced designer.

  • @robinshane4661
    @robinshane4661 Рік тому

    Can I just remind you Mom how much I truly love you. You were always, honest, supportive, and you knew me so well. I miss you so much and I am immensely glad this woman was not my mom.

  • @ryanjaye9628
    @ryanjaye9628 Рік тому +3

    This is why my mom wasn’t invited to my wedding lol

  • @raniasegakis1263
    @raniasegakis1263 4 місяці тому

    The lace looks lovely on this bride

  • @mirjammirjam2435
    @mirjammirjam2435 Рік тому +2

    This mum.. she has had her moment. Now it is her daughter's turn. Do you want you daughter to be happy or do you want to push whatever dress you want (while you are not even wearing it)?

  • @thelmadickinson6811
    @thelmadickinson6811 Рік тому +3

    This is my daughter’s future mother in law. It’s driving her crazy that she’s not driving the train with the budget we have our daughter so that she, the FMIL, can plan the wedding she never had. She has only two sons. One with cerebral palsy, who will never marry and the one my daughter is marrying so this is her one shot.

  • @eagle-eye29
    @eagle-eye29 Рік тому +1

    My mother chose my wedding dress without me even being present. All I had to do was show up for the fitting. I loved the dress. It was perfect. I have treasured it for over 52 years.

  • @shannondavidson1886
    @shannondavidson1886 Рік тому +3

    Mom needs to LET GO!

  • @samanthaabreu782
    @samanthaabreu782 Рік тому

    And when their kids stop coming to visit they don't understand why.

  • @victoria20219
    @victoria20219 Рік тому +4

    My mom was so supportive when I went dress for my wedding she said ' I was the one who was going to be wearing it for 8+ hours so I'm the who had to like not her.".

  • @nicolaablett7790
    @nicolaablett7790 Рік тому +10

    Whose day is it?
    She looks fabulous and glad the friends/bridesmaids spoke up

  • @KMHemsleyJr
    @KMHemsleyJr Рік тому +9

    For a winter wedding? 🤔

  • @debbiee6535
    @debbiee6535 Рік тому +6

    The wedding is all about the bride and the groom mainly the bride it's not about Mom it's not about Dad it's not about whoever thinks a lot it's the bride only that mom needs to shut up and let her daughter have her day

  • @louisemackay4804
    @louisemackay4804 Рік тому +23

    She says the dress shows every lump and bump on her daughter...really??!

  • @tiffbeevachou108
    @tiffbeevachou108 Рік тому +2

    What a selfish petitlant child of a mother. Im glad my Mom, who is so narcissistic like this Mom, skipped picking my wedding dress shopping and skipped my wedding. Its better to be alone than poisoned by a toxic parent.

  • @rainbowstones5431
    @rainbowstones5431 Рік тому +3

    Remember brides, if you can't kindly but firmly stand up to your mum then you're too immature to be married!!!

    • @MLMLW
      @MLMLW Рік тому +1

      Not when mom controls the purse strings. A selfish mom like this one isn't going to buy a dress she doesn't like & unfortunately isn't going to let her daughter choose her favorite one. My advice would be for brides to save money to buy their own gown so they can buy what they want no matter what mom & others think.

  • @SandraHof
    @SandraHof Рік тому +1

    Funny, my mom and I had opposite problem. She and I got in an argument when I was going to purchase fabric for my wedding dress. She insisted I needed to have lace. I did not want lace. My wedding dress ended up without any lace, entirely made of moiré fabric. But I did include a bit of lace on the bride maids dresses.

  • @everyeyewillseehim
    @everyeyewillseehim Рік тому +1

    they actually respected the budget. yay.

  • @zabindhanji
    @zabindhanji Рік тому +3

    She looks really lovely in the dress, and it is below budget.

  • @lauraclarkstedman6700
    @lauraclarkstedman6700 Рік тому +2

    It's weird and kind of archaic - the whole issue of who controls the purse strings and what does that mean. On the one hand, if a mom or other person is dishing out all the money for the dress, I think that their feelings should be taken into consideration, to a point. If it's an issue, than the bride needs to pony up with her own cash. It's 2023, after all. But so much of this is barely concealed control games.

  • @N-A-uw5fp
    @N-A-uw5fp Рік тому

    She described her mom in the beginning of the video… that’s why I WOULDN’T bring her!

  • @dorisspecial3619
    @dorisspecial3619 Рік тому +2

    If the bride has to wear a potato sack in order to wear what SHE wants, so be it! And David, Mum is NOT the boss...

  • @ruththomas9506
    @ruththomas9506 Рік тому +2

    Am glad my mom isn't like that 😢. If she does have an opinion about something she'll tell me what she thinks but she's not gonna stop me from getting it. not to mention if she sees that I really do want it she'll put aside her opinion instead of forcing me to do something I don't want.

  • @lorrainet6798
    @lorrainet6798 Рік тому +2

    My only advice to my daughter would be don’t take too many people with you (I would love to be one of them) and, even if she has a firm idea of the style going in, try various looks if only to confirm it’s the right look but, she could change her mind so try everything first. And, whatever she chooses, I will love it.

    • @MLMLW
      @MLMLW Рік тому +2

      Also tell her to try on styles she might not think she likes because she could be surprised. This was my experience with my daughters throughout their prom years in high school & also when they went wedding gown shopping. Everything looks different on the person than on the hanger. ❤

  • @SageKayDee
    @SageKayDee Рік тому +39

    I have a sneaky feeling that the producers instructed the mother to say most of those things and act that way. She doesn't come across as genuinely self-centered as some other mothers have in this series.

    • @bobbymenon4057
      @bobbymenon4057 Рік тому +1

      Absolutely my thoughts too

    • @SageKayDee
      @SageKayDee Рік тому +3

      @@bobbymenon4057 Thank you. Lol. Glad I’m not the only one who perceived that fishiness.

    • @samanthafairweather9186
      @samanthafairweather9186 Рік тому +8

      She literally said it was HER wedding, and the daughter was "just the bride"!! That's not something that you can be made to say!

    • @SageKayDee
      @SageKayDee Рік тому +1

      @@samanthafairweather9186 Lol. I hope you’re joking.

    • @D2J8
      @D2J8 Рік тому +2

      That mother absolutely is that self-centered. Did you see the dresses she picked for her daughter? Nothing close to what she said she wanted. Glad the daughter stuck to her guns!

  • @soozeelaw5057
    @soozeelaw5057 Рік тому +7

    These Mother's, really!! Not about you!! It's bs

  • @AlternateHandle
    @AlternateHandle Рік тому +6

    Poor bride, her eyes just look sad….

  • @taylorwalker7417
    @taylorwalker7417 Рік тому +5

    Mom is wild as always. That final dress also wasn't lace, so no wonder she liked it😂

  • @ukkie3433
    @ukkie3433 Рік тому +1

    I'm happy my mom never did that to me, it's all about the bride and groom mom! not about you! If you got insecurities, don't put them on your daughter.

  • @Katie80-501
    @Katie80-501 Рік тому +1

    She made a mistake letting mom pay, if it was that important the bride should have paid on her own.

  • @kristinamola3519
    @kristinamola3519 Рік тому +1

    shes really pretty

  • @roobeebakes
    @roobeebakes Рік тому +2

    Mom has enough lumps and bumps of her own to go around. No need to point out imperfections in others.

  • @sshms414
    @sshms414 Рік тому +2

    It's more a personal opinion about the lace

  • @mademsoisellerhapsody
    @mademsoisellerhapsody Рік тому

    Beautiful bride 👰‍♀

  • @raniasegakis1263
    @raniasegakis1263 4 місяці тому

    I love and adore D E and all the staff there are so lovely ❤

  • @preciousuno70
    @preciousuno70 3 місяці тому

    The mother's truth and THE truth are two different things.

  • @lindaleelaw5277
    @lindaleelaw5277 Рік тому +1

    Young women save for the gown. You then have total control
    And if you know they'll disagree why bring t h em ?

  • @eeemilu
    @eeemilu Рік тому +2

    IT'S 👏👏HER 👏👏WEDDING👏👏

  • @kathduncan9618
    @kathduncan9618 Рік тому +7

    Agree with Mum re the lace but it's not our wedding so that's irrelevant, huh? Bride is glorious and I'm thrilled she got what SHE wanted.

    • @Maz-zb9uf
      @Maz-zb9uf Рік тому

      Really she control old bag that need to sit down and be quiet

  • @9094nancyj
    @9094nancyj Рік тому +2

    "It shows all your lumps and bumps" - silly twit - it may not be her actual size, plus every wedding dress has alterations. Mom is not nice.

  • @johnruthnoel2289
    @johnruthnoel2289 Рік тому

    He should have asked the others first

  • @melindamiller4817
    @melindamiller4817 Рік тому +8

    I miss my mom. She would like anything I'd like, not like this selfish mom.

    • @sandrawillis8966
      @sandrawillis8966 Рік тому

      I think alot of these shows are acted as such for entertainment purposes. Quite often people don't actually talk the way they do

  • @thenerdytiger9306
    @thenerdytiger9306 Рік тому +2

    4:51 are you sure you know what she likes? Or do you just know what you like for her

  • @pattithiel7342
    @pattithiel7342 Рік тому +1

    Why do brides not listen to what they want and the heck with all the others including their controlling mom’s, friends? Why? It’s your day!!

  • @stargazer2533
    @stargazer2533 Рік тому +2

    Not going to be a happy marriage if the bride let's her controlling mother control her. I see soooo many moms that want the dress they want instead of supporting the bride and what she wants.

  • @ArtemensiaK
    @ArtemensiaK Рік тому +1

    First dress and the bride says she likes it, but you could see, that she was already sad. I think she knew exacly, that her mother wouldn't like this and she said herself, she would rather take a step back, than have an argument. Dont like this mom at all.

  • @caz3502
    @caz3502 Рік тому +7

    Bride needs to grow a backbone

  • @MsJubjubbird
    @MsJubjubbird Рік тому +1

    They could get a a-line plain dress with a lace bolero. Problem solved

  • @coralscraftslady
    @coralscraftslady Рік тому

    I bet she wouldn't have let her mother say that to her, when she got married!

  • @acrossthepond4792
    @acrossthepond4792 Рік тому

    An awful, bullying Mother. I feel for that poor young woman. I hope she has a happy married life.

  • @DrEnglander1999
    @DrEnglander1999 11 місяців тому

    Worst. Mother. Ever. Does she not realise this?

  • @AndreDMalan1966
    @AndreDMalan1966 3 місяці тому

    I would uninvite my mum.

  • @tracyswinn6754
    @tracyswinn6754 Рік тому +2

    The mums need to grow up , like they haven't had their own day

  • @tamaracalderon6080
    @tamaracalderon6080 Рік тому

    A Winter Wedding should be Satin and Fur.

  • @HeavnzMiHome
    @HeavnzMiHome Рік тому

    Lovely.

  • @cadiz4035
    @cadiz4035 Рік тому

    I feel like she didn’t like that last dress

  • @OliverKitkat
    @OliverKitkat 11 місяців тому

    How’s a selfish woman got a lovely kind daughter like hers

  • @mquinlan676
    @mquinlan676 Рік тому

    That second dress looks fantastic no offense to hurt your mother has no Style your third dress was wonderful congratulations

  • @sandrasandoval4466
    @sandrasandoval4466 Рік тому +4

    She should've left her mum at home. 😢

  • @meggarstang6761
    @meggarstang6761 Рік тому +4

    Sorry, but Mum is a horror.

  • @maussie9942
    @maussie9942 Рік тому +2

    Mum or not she’s a closed minded controller

  • @outlookesp
    @outlookesp Рік тому +2

    undedr-budget for a change