The Narcissist's Top 9 Secret Grooming Techniques Revealed
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- Опубліковано 15 чер 2024
- In today's video Jill explains the Narcissists and Sociopaths Top 9 Secret Grooming Techniques they will use on a target to groom and condition them to accept and tolerate abuse. If you have wondered how this happens, then today's video is for you. #narcissist #grooming #npdabuse #sociopath #gaslighting
Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.
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In the Bible, the narcissist is referred to as " wise to do evil ". Jezabel and King Saul were the epitome of malignant narcissists. Thank you Jill. You are a life saver, a gift from God.
She is great at explaining the cycle people go through with the narc.
Exactly what I lived through for a very very long time, couldn't escape because I and the children were isolated, so he could live his never lived teenage time freely, I was very much confused and manipulated . Now I educated myself, got to the driver stage from the surviver stage, thank you for your support, it is very precious
I KEPT A JOURNAL DESCRIBING WHAT THE NARCISSIST DID. THAT WAS THE REALITY. MY COGNITIVE DISSONANCE TOOK LONGER TO MELT AWAY SO I COULD SEE THE TRUTH ABOUT THEM. I WALKED AWAY.
I started using an audio recorder app on his rages + accusations bc the level of confusion and cognitive dissonance I was experiencing could only be adequately parsed through after the event happened. My short term.memory was destroyed by years of narc abuse.
I kept records as well. The narc demon in my life tried to get me to stop by shaming me and saying, "You write everything down!" In the end keeping records help me stay no contact!
My ex wife was a good looking woman 4 years older than me. She came onto me with the love bombing and seemed to like many of the things I liked. I thought it was odd though, that she would encourage me to talk about deeply personal things, but in turn let on very little about herself when asked. She seemed to want to know everything about me. I thought it was that she cared about me . Now I know she was 'fishing'. I did get a vague instinctive gut feeling that she was not quite who she said she was. Boy, was I right. I married her against my better judgement as she was incredibly pushy in getting married. Then she revealed her true self. And didn't I suffer. Glad she is gone. Hope to never meet one again.
This is 100% exactly how it went with my nEx. It's literally as if they are following a script. I feel bad for anyone who she sinks her hooks into. I'd almost want to warn them, but it wouldn't do any good. Nobody warned me, nor would I have believed her ex(s) if one did warn me. A bitter lesson to learn.
There is one tactic or trait that you did not mention. The narcissist is usually a porn addict in secret and/or is having affairs or visiting prostitutes. They are unfaithful to their partners and seem to think they are entitled to whatever they want. That is a big red flag that should be discussed so the target can be on the lookout for it. Another deception of their undying love and future faking during the lovebombing stage. So very sad and painful😢!
Most can’t get way, and they seem to have a sense when you seem to be slipping away from under them
@@donnasimmons2241so true
@@donnasimmons2241Taking nude pictures of the target as a porn addiction or perhaps to blackmail at a later date if target wants to walk away. I stayed 25 yrs long after I refused to indulge him. At the time, I wasn't love bombed or future faked, just an easy target. He moved on and the grooming, love bombing was fascinating to see as it unfolded online/offline. Ofc knowing about narcissism, I was able to fill in the gaps 😅
I was warned by a friend, but he was so charming and "hurt" over being discarded by his ex that I didn't believe anything that was told. I wanted to warm his new supply but I thought better of it. Was far easier to just let him go than endure his rage over my interference.
You have nailed it Jill. This is exactly what those abusive cruel manipulative narcisists do! Knowledge is power and it’s the only way out of that hell of abuse! Thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤
May I add the "third persona?" The one that's toxic and vindictive to the max once you take their mask off. It's brutal and terrifying.
You don't have to "take off their mask" to see this persona in action. If you've reached a point of 'I'm not playing this game/indifference to them" you'll get close to being murdered (psychologically or physically).
The narcissistic rage or narcissistic injury when the mask slips off.
This is so right! Scary accurate!!!
This is exactly what they do! It’s like they all have a guide book for how to find,control,torture and keep their source of narcissistic supply for as long as they see fit.
Terrifyingly accurate!
They're out there unfortunately and we all must be on guard of these personality types. My experience with one was long distance whom I met online. She displayed all of the characteristics mentioned in this video and was rude wakeup call from the gentle, loving demeanor of my recently passed wife. How lucky I was to have had her in my life, how unfortunate I came across a person who was the complete opposite. It was a learning experience though, now I'm more aware of the red flags and look at future relationship prospects more objectively.
Thank you for this video! Being an empath doesn't mean stupid, naive, and gullible! Most people who do not understand or have experienced narcissistic abuse usually think the empath is just a doormat that can't stand up for themselves when nothing could be further from the truth!
Thank you for reuploading with better audio. ❤You are absolutely spot on with this, Jill.
Oh, I’m so glad it sounds better on your end. I bought a new microphone and it’s a little different from my old one. Thank you for letting me know 🙏
Great video. Thank you! I feel this happened too me! When I first met my ex I thought he was going to be the best man I had ever met.😂😂😂😂 He ended up being the worst.😂😂😂 I kept wondering was this person on drugs because of the Jeckl and Mr. Hyde, the roller coaster ride and living on eggshells I was experiencing!!
The cortisol connection is scsry because you cant control your production of it. The step by step description of the trauma bonding, hostage and blackmailing is just...this is the covert narc i married for 29 yrs. I got out, took yrs to heal.
Tdank you, for showing me how ugly the truth really is.
That was a good dose of love and ways to really begin understanding one another
This is so good. I have now listened to it four times in a row. Such a quick over all of what really is taking place. This video says so so much..
I pray people take the time to really watch this video and share it.
From JANESVILLE, WI
One of the reasons why I am so confused right now is because I thought I had married the perfect man. He was everything I’d ever wanted in a man and in the beginning presented himself as my biggest fan and supporter. He was charming, loving, passionate, and attentive to my every need, both emotional and physical. Until he wasn’t. Until a side of him popped up every so often that threw me off balance, he started to cheat, he was so protective of his PHONE, yesterday I told my sister about this and she referred me to her friend who happens to know programming and stuff who helped cloned his phone and that gave me access to his TEXT MESSAGES and SOCIAL MEDIA without touching his phone, I wanted to be sure if my suspicion was right or wrong, I still can’t believe what I saw today, he’s CHEATING with several women, I’ve made up my mind not to be with him anymore.. Incase you have similar case, you can reach him on instagram. l @Frankmartin_tech
@Frankmartin_tech
Thousands of thumbs up from me
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
We love you, this is a great teaching! Thank you so much!❤🎉❤😊
You are so welcome!
1:23 start here ✅
2:29 specifics check ✅
Great stuff Jill - thanks as always.
Having been the 'side supply' a video about the life of side supplies might be a good one.
They can be surprisingly 'nice' to 'side supplies' over a prolonged period of time before you either 'do something wrong' or are no longer needed for whatever reason...
I feel like you just walked me through my past marriage...... my discard came in the form of her kissing me, telling me she loved me, and then 4hrs later after she left for work I got hit with a PFA.... luckily it was dismissed.
BEST VIDEO explaining in a quick way.
Yup.
Thanks for the video.
From JANESVILLE, WI
Glad it was helpful!
I had one tell me how safe she feels with me fasfwrd 1yr and she's threatening to tell why she's gonna take pills or talking about cops 😂😂😂
Pure description about them very true ❤
Calculative and mindful about themselves
This is my sister, over & over again 😢😮❤❤❤
Thanks a lot Jill from Morocco
You are so welcome!
@@theenlightenedtarget ❤🔥
Such awesome videos.
Thank you and God bless you.
From JANESVILLE, WI
You are so welcome
@@theenlightenedtarget I am actually sharing and posting on platforms (your UA-cam page) because these are so well-informed. This one is awesome and I’m also emailing this link to friends.
Thank you dear one.
Their only nice when they want something and that is usually money and power.
They're only nice when in complete and total control of you. Step out of line and you see them for who they truly are. 25 yrs and strung out to dry
It's father's day and so it begins for me 2 hours of hell already
I’m sorry, I remember those days, I feel for you.
Same... but life goes on my Brotha...positive thoughts
Hey.. I have been free from a narcissistic parent for 3 years now, going no contact with practically the whole family. I'm due to attend a function briefly soon where I know all my family will be there.
Any tips would be most welcome. Thanks a lot x
Don’t go!!!!!!
If you absolutely need to go, please take a person whom you trust and has your back. Plan and agree with this friend how long you will stay at the function and honor that time no matter what. Fast and furious visit and disclose zero personal details. Please look into the "GREY ROCK METHOD".
If you have to go use radical acceptance. That means you already know how they are going to act. Keep it surface level and don’t get triggered by any tactics they may try and use. Know your worth.
Don’t go😢
@@user-vj1no8cm4e Thanks.. I'll take my gum shield! 😆
I love this lass
This was absolutely tremendous Jill, Thank you so much for this, Keep up the good work and ex posing the manipulation tactic's, Keep shining light, Peace, Love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to you and the most high :-)
Dr jekyll and mr hyde
Jill, do you take insurance? It’s rather costly to have one on one session with you, tho I desperately need to
Unfortunately insurance does not offer any help or compensation with coaching. I’m hopeful in the near future they will, but right now they don’t. If coaching is out of your price range right now, I do have a private Facebook support group that you are welcome to join, and it’s free. Here’s the link: facebook.com/share/b2PBmijjoDJVgGax/?mibextid=adzO7l
@@theenlightenedtarget ok thank you much
It doesn’t work on me. Been dealing with narcissistic people my whole life 😂😂😂 they are late bc I am a seasoned veteran! They will just end up feeling blocked and ghosted. Not my type to even care about 😂
is it narcissistic of me to think that im an empath who consistently attracts narcissists?
We a narcissist magnet 🧲
Is it worth their soul because that is what it could cost them someday
Can someone time stamp the various topics under discussion here?
Isn’t an “empath” someone stuck in a fawning response from previous trauma? Perhaps from infancy?
Not in my opinion, no. Some highly empathetic traits can be influenced by childhood trauma, however, someone stuck in a fawn trauma response isn’t the definition of an Empath in mt opinion
When you see light at the end of the tunnel, you start to realize relationships like these can only happen once in your life. After all, she brought me to the next level. Done with healing, you're incredibly stronger and vigilant towards their tactics and evil mind games. Move on. Test them. Choose wisely.
My wife cheated on me we are now separated now myself sons are paying over 800 to. 1000 bucks a month.two of my 3 sons have attempted suicide. I nearly took my own life also. I'm trying to get my youngest son out to live with me.i pray I can do so.they found their mother in sex videos .that's why they and I nearly dìed.my19 year old son knew 3 years before me about her adultery. When he was 15 he saw video tried to kill himself.god help me to them
Omg 😟 I hope you get all of your sons! Will pray for you! 🙏
Haha I thought this video was about the N’s personal grooming habits