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Not me.

Me pretty girl

i always tell women like that "if you're looking for a good man, check your friend zone." i was watching a video titled "Bumble Experiment Shows How HYPERGAMY Has AFFECTED Modern Dating" on the Whatever Clips channel & nothing was more eye opening than seeing the sheer amount of men that women turn down in their lifetime. they get to the end of their life like this older woman & then they say "i'm lonely, where are all the good men?" uhh they're GONE. the men that would've made a good match for them, they turned them down already 15, 20 years ago. they've moved on, married someone else & found their happiness. while the "never settle" girl is age 50 talking about how she's still a "catch" women like that need to humble themselves, or time will do it for them.

its simple... he don't like you.

Beautifully stated. I'm older, 55f, and you ACCURATELY STATED the fact that my mother NEVER liked me. So, if anyone ever asks if I love my mother the answer is no. No because SHE NEVER GAVE ME REASON to love her. You are BRILLIANT!

So true. They don't want anything meanful so they keep it surface level. Monkey branch keeps things from deepening

They’re so beautiful ! Feels like a movie but actually real!

So hypocritical.

The only relationship with the avoidant is casual/recreational. You can only have a healthy relationship with those who are ready to do the work to heal from their traumas

Thank you for this viewpoint.

I think people who self-identify as empaths aren't really empaths/extraordinarily empathic... they just want kudos for having basic human consideration or compassion. Having empathy doesnt make you special.... it's part of being a human. If you lack empathy, or think that having a basic level of it makes you special and in need of recognition or accomodation, that's mental illness...

Just stay out of an avoidant. She ruined my mental peace. I am still struggling. You can not heal them unless they want to.

Because we will never end up in that happily ever after place .. tried my best and got divorce after 10 years of marriage how can i want someone or be happy with someone

I’m avoidant. And I really don’t like intimacy or commitment. I value it but I don’t necessarily want a romantic relationship as such. I respect and value others who have it. But with my kids I do tell them hard things.. at first i was emotionally not there but made great strides and are close with them

What ?? ^ Anyway, I loved this video. Right when I was going to say- don’t you mean paychopaths? - you said it 😮🙏🙌 girll I’ve been watching and taking notes!!✍️ You get it!

You are so amazing and beautiful. What fool would play games with you?! Pure badness.

He left me drained. I'm an Empath, he's a dismissive avoidant. I tried for 8 months.

True. And they answer with "what you want to hear," not their own feelings. They also mirror whatever you do or say.It's like they don't own their own opinions or don't care. When you're crying more than you're smiling it's time to go. They also use "work" or their "job" as an excuse to everything. (overtime, etc.)

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I don't know about narcissists because I have never dealt with them. I do know about avoidants , however, since I was with one for four years. IMO, they truly do not intend to hurt anyone. My FA was a very kind person who would do anything for me. He was terrified of commitment and began the slow fade after expressing deep feelings for me. That scared the s**t out of him. Their fears are too much for them to handle. He eventually monkey branched to the low hanging fruit and wanted to be friends with me. They make no sense at all SMH. Nope. I walked away without, a tear and let him go. Never again.

I was in a relationship with one for four years before he pulled away and monkey branched to another. No more. They have to want to heal their issues.

I'm empath people please no boundaries

The avoid I dealt with didn't say I don't know what to say they would respond with I don't know what you want me to say in a sad attempt to flip the script if they don't want to do the work you're just trying to move Upstream Without a Paddle

Don't be sad. Everything will work out. Have faith in the future with God.

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This is so true. Force yourself to seek and wait for the relationship/love/attachment you truly desire. Do not access the first mofo that shows a little of love for you. You deserve a lot

I lost my mom and dad and then realized that I wish I had them back to make our relationship better in some way. We’re all on borrowed time and we can’t get those times back.

I wish I could have known this, it would have saved my 2 years of efforts with a wrong person.

A true empath is probably the only person who can handle being with an avoidant, also because empaths understand taking space, even if it's for different reasons. Avoidants can fix their stuff if they become aware of it; it's not the same as a narc because narcs have huge needs; avoidants are the needless people who very often have survived narcs. Empaths see the avoidant, they know they're seen and heard with an empath, even when they haven't said a word.

Live your life like you're single because baby you are - yes that's exactly how I felt. I have more memories of walking around outside than good memories spent together.

Is it they can't or don't want a relationship? How do they even get to the serious stage? My guy has been married twice for long periods of time. How did he even get to that stage with these two other women?

NO DISRESPECT Ppl listen if you dealing with a women though it might be uncomfortable understand this 👍 A lrg pct of women are dealing with something so profound in silence ok 👍 And many from an early age & the Psychological problems linger 👍 Which they try to mask .. UA-cam Four women who have had “A” AJ+ channel *sadly lots of others out there When factored into other life things it’s Deep 👍 There is correlation to their mental state More than one time IT’S EVEN WORSE

Nobody about to be arguing with yo ass

Hush and let these women get the men they seek.

Was in a 5-year relationship with an avoidant. 2 years later and still healing from it. They manage to give you just enough to have hope, (with excuses) so you stay because you feel for them - if they became avoidant through recent trauma, you have sympathy and understanding. But after so many years, you realize they’re not working to fix their hurt. They’re just using you as a bandaid. They are living life as if they’re single deep down, making no long term commitments to you. Their excuses are so they can use you longer. Even a secure person becomes anxious from how they treat you. And all the love you give won’t heal them, because they’re not actually feeling their feelings or working through their trauma, they’re just avoiding it. And they end up traumatizing and hurting you in the process, perpetuating the hurt. Never again …

Moral of the story: dont touch any men until they lock in and commit with marriage and money. Iol and consistent supply back

And also, Narcissists and those kinds people who watch pxrn and habit of compulsive masturbating see people as objects and that leads to being psychopaths! Because they objective people for their physical pleasure. Coupled with not having natural empathy it's a bad combination.

Yes I get you and have had the same thoughts as you! It is a huge problem that needs to be addressed , as avoidants and narcissists are toxic to feminine people if we don't know have boundaries!!

should've watched this over a decade ago 😅

Bullsh_t!

I knew a narc who thought he was an empath..I don’t really trust people who give themselves that label.

Girl yes

It really depends on who’s asking questions. If the questioner asks questions with a word salad or keeps asking dumb or very confusing difficult questions and he/she can’t accept no for an answer, then I approve the questionee to be an avoidant. Schizoaffective people make you become avoidant with their long winded word salad questions.

couldn't agree more - the juice isn't worth the squeeze

I’m an empath and i don’t think I’ve ever had any narcissists try to be in a relationship with me. I wouldn’t have given them the time of day anyway. I call people out real quick on their bs, so even people who are just conceited turn me off. I won’t even be friends with anyone like that.

I believe he is an avoidant..so so true

Im not the same person i used to be. I have boundaries now and tons of them target me but they definitely mistook my kindness for weakness and now they are seeing my true strength and empathy is a superpower not a weakness.

So true!!!!❤❤