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This was very informative!being very visual made your explanation very powerful. thank you

I just found your channel and I want to say thank you! ❤

Thank you, and what a cosy looking apartment 🌻

Thanks… fan of your work

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Thank you ❤

Just 2 mins in and I have this to say….. There was actually something my parents should have done to develop my sense of self and that was to pay attention to me to mirror to me how to pay attention to myself in a way that develops that I am a person in and of myself. It’s a hard thing to do this to yourself. Especially as an adult, that as a child, was groomed to serve the parent’s sense of self. It feels unnatural and sometimes narcissistic to pay so much attention to myself.

Ive been studying life coaching for a yr now, and recently learnt about IFS, and its been a life changer. So fascinated by it. Thanks for your videos!

there is a large part of myself that won’t let me process my own fear, pain, hurt. it’s like a wall that I learned from my father. as a result, also can’t let in love or feel freely. can I use this method to find a way to eventually dissolve the wall?

VERY NICE!

you help me so much with your videos in Spain

What if your too aware of yourself. But nothing changes. Any tips on how to work with a part that constantly feels left out, lonely, alone, even in a crowded room. But also extreme sense of loneliness. I get where it’s stemming from but it never changes and I ruin the relationships around me when it takes over. Any tips?

Hi Connor, I loved the video and the way you dealt with this topic so compassionately. I have a question about regrets about things you can’t undo, or will not get the chance to do again. My regret part is constantly reminding me of opportunities I missed out on and actions that I took that didn’t turn out well and what I could’ve done instead. The problem is that I can’t go back in time and redo those things. How do I approach it if I feel that it is pointless to continue to be reminded of things I cannot change. I’ve tried saying, “that’s not helpful, it’s hurtful. “ but o feel that it isn’t showing the 8 Cs. Thanks for your help! Anyone else who wants to chime in, you’re welcome to do that. Thanks!

Subtle and nuanced. Thanks for explaining the internal dialogue.

Thank you very much.

you help me so much in the process

Super like ❤

I am an IFS informed mental health counselor and recently found your channel. Your information is delivered beautifully concise and easily relatable. I have been listening to all your earlier video’s and thank you for eliminating the music in the background. Your voice is soothing and enough on it’s on. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and making IFS so user friendly. I have subscribed and am urging my clients to do the same.

Thank you from Canada.

That was AWESOME 👏 thank you!

Wonderful video. My system felt calmed and strengthened from watching!

Thank You!🌺

I really love the things you share… thank you very much…

Your presence is calming. Thank you for putting this work into the world in such a clear and gentle way.

I have some negative thoughts 💭 that came from being accused of doing something bad I didn’t do .. the trauma was that people believed a lying individual over me 😢.. since that incident I am supper exposing myself always afraid someone will lie about me again .. I have physical symptoms related to that trauma … I tried therapy and talked my ass off about it but never got better !! Hope IFS will help ❤😂

Thank you

You're really good at explaining this. Thank you ❤

Thank you so much ! Every Time I Connect with my parts it’s VERY often child parts and my adult part is always Here to confort it, taking It in it’s arms and welcoming its feelings. I’m happy that I naturally do it the right way 😊

Thank you so much for this ❤

Thanks for your videos! I am an ICF certified coach and love IFS. I’m interested in your coach training, but I just signed up for the 6 Month Online Circle through the IFS Institute (and another three month coach training that starts at the end of October). I will keep your coach training in mind for the future!

This is the best description I have ever heard for my life struggle....

Id love it if there were a workbook thar could help us identify or conceptualize parts

wonderful! Just discovered you. thank you!

Very good

Thank you for this. My censor part is currently really cracking down, and I end up deleting comments because I also have AuDHD and struggle to be concise, then experience a lot of shame - but there is one thing I would like to share, because it helped me so much and may be the missing piece (excuse the non-deliberate pun...another element of the neurodivergence, my mind trips over itself! Piece, peace...) for someone else - so I can't not! 'Peace' was very difficult for me to grasp, I think partly due to its total absence in my development (I have Dissociative Identity Disorder due to the severity of the abuse in my childhood, and am so grateful to IFS for depathologising the experience of having parts). However, I once read peace described as 'nothing lacking, nothing wrong' by the teacher Tara Brach (she may have been quoting Nisargadatta) and I thought 'OH! It's THAT??' What I, especially my scared parts, long for most in the world...OK-ness. Nothing wrong. I've never seen peace the same way since then... 🙏

Great video!

Thank you Connor for inviting us into the state of peace. For me it feels like I am floating, radiating light and at the same time getting mentally and physically relaxed and slightly heavier in my body.

Thank you, Connor, for your generous & compassionate leadership. Sending love, peace and compassion to you as well :).

For me, I feel it under my heart. It's such a beautiful gentle sootging quality.

Thank you so much

I've been watching and sharing a lot of your content. Thank you so much for those. I'm also a coach (trained in NLP) and practicing parts work now, which I find amazingly powerful. I love how you highlight, in this video, the tendency of coaches (and the cultural cliché about coaches that comes with it) to focus on willpower and motivation rather than work with the deeper-wider psyche. Manager parts love it.. but there's such a better organic way to go about change, and, you said, it : sustainable change. Thank you for your work and generosity.

Thank you!

I love this. I have been doing IFS off and on with my therapist for a couple years, but when I'm not at an appointment and life gets wonky and I'm busy it's really hard to remember the tools of IFS. This is a nice practical simple step, thank you for sharing 😊

Thank you

I love this thank you Conor ❤️ It's amazing how much difference just a few minutes can make. I wake up anxious alot and I feel alot calmer now. It reminds me of somatic tracking too, which I find really helpful xx

Amazing and very helpful. Thanks!

Conor, I had the most unfortunate experience with IFS. I bought the book by Jay Early read quite a bit then booked a session with someone Who supposedly had the first there levels but the first session ( only half an hour) frightened a part of me so much that I didn't/ Couldn't do anymore which after a while and many acupuncture sessions later Drive my OCD through the roof. Back on meds and slowly recovering but sometimes licking myself for my foolishness. What I think went wrong is that the therapist didn't ask for permission ....from the protector and dove in. Maybe it's a lesson to let sleeping dogs lie.. I was watching your videos and loving It all but c',est la vie.

I love this kind of simple practice- I’m going to try and remember to do this when I wake up tomorrow!

Thats really interesting. I Will try this exercise. Thank you ❤

Gonna try it for sure. I found that once I experienced self energy and knew how it felt and whereabouts in my body then I could find it so much more readily, it becomes easier with experience. I remember I had a self like part that I thought was self for a week before I experienced self and it was only after I realised that it lacked connectedness and curiosity that it wasn't self. I find it fascinating stuff to think about