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Being a rebel is disabling if one seeks an organized lifestyle

I think this is really interesting, but I also think there are different flavors of Questioner. I definitely question everything. But, and I think the stems from my CliftonStrengths, I gather my data through taking action and social communication. My Top 10 is: Activator, Strategic, Positivity, Futuristic, Woo, Communication, Input, Command, Ideation, Self-Assurance. So I rarely have analysis paralysis. But in order to do anything, I have to know my WHY, and my motivation comes from that. If something doesn’t make sense to me, it doesn’t work for me. This is one of the reasons I work for myself. But I wanted to throw this out here because of some Questioners actually gather data through action, and then we rework our models as we go.

Really helpful , I think the important thing for me is having the cause to motivate me. I spent 30 years in local government and now training to be a yoga teacher , so do achieve when I want to .

Dearest Obligers, Nearly 5 years on, I can't quite believe this scrappy video has 7k views. Thank you for your comments, your gratitude and for sharing your stories. When a new comment pops up from someone who was touched in some way by this video, it makes my day. If you're reading this, know that I say say 'Hi!' and am so happy you're here 💜 Imogen

Hi Rebels! Nearly 5 years on, I can't quite believe this scrappy video has 15k views. Thank you for your comments, your gratitude and for sharing your stories. When a new comment pops up from someone who was touched in some way by this video, it makes my day. If you're reading this, know that I say say 'Hi!' and am so happy you're here 💜 Don't tell anyone...but Rebels are mu favourite people! Stay awesome, Imogen

Hi everyone, I can't quite believe this on-the-fly video I recorded in a park 5 years ago has 111k views. Thank you for your comments, your well-wishes and for sharing your stories. When a new comment pops up from someone who was touched in some way by this video, it makes my day. If you're reading this, know that you're not alone 💜 5 years on, I'm proud to say that I've made my life SO beautiful since my burnout experience, - in my career, love and relationships - and I wish the same for you too, even if right now, you're feeling afraid and hopeless. Your health matters. Your joy matters. You deserve to feel alive ✨ I try to keep my Year of Magical Living as a daily practice - and recorded 30 episodes of a podcast about it in 2021, so check it out if you might find it helpful: open.spotify.com/show/1nJsUGV3LzeSLnonwJCLTp May the life-force be with you! Imogen

INTJ and a Rebel-Questioner.

How would ask a rebel to watch this video?

I like to break the rules in my job. I'm a school teacher in a secondary school. 🤣 - It's a Thai school and I'm not Thai. Sometimes I push the boundaries of working in a (to me) conservative environment. I also have total freedom in what and how I teach in this job. I can't work in a school with a standardised curriculum.

Did you just unlock a whole new perspective on how I view myself out of the blue? Well guess I have a lot of questioning to do now 😅

Rebel, Ennegram 4, INFJ--HELP!!

Thanks a lot ma'am for great explaination of life energy.

Hello, Rebelsssss 😅

I adore this video. Thanks for sharing this.❤

I'm an ENFP Rebel and an HSP, which has been challenging to say the least. It's frustrating for me, it frustrates my family--parents, husband, even my (grown) kids, friends, everyone. I'm also a creative person--I'm a writer, I paint, I do a bunch of other things, but AS SOON AS someone asks me to do any of those things, which I LOVE, or wants me to join an accountability group or what have you, I immediately don't want to do them. As an example, I wrote and published 13 books and short stories, but as soon as people started really encouraging me to write more or asking for particular stories to get written, I quit. I didn't discover that I love painting until I was in my late 40s (my oldest badgered me into going to a Paint & Sip with her, and it was fantastic.) I don't necessarily have any real talent in it, but I absolutely love it. Naturally, I immediately bought every book I could find on painting, I think I bought almost every tool and type of paint that exists. I dove in hard. I started painting every single day, I painted gifts for everyone because I was so excited about it. My mom loves birds, so I painted some for her, which--to my surprise and pleasure--she really loved. Then she asked me for a series of specific birds. Four years ago. I still have not done them. In fact, I stopped painting pretty much all together. Part of that was logistics--trying to find the best place in the house (it was driving me and my husband both crazy to have my stuff all over the kitchen table), to get my stuff organized, etc., then we redid our floors and the house was in turmoil for nearly a year. I have almost completed my new craft room and truly cannot wait to get back to painting now, but I have that bird series hanging over my head. I'm going to do my best to make that my first project and get them done, then I am never taking another request for as long as I live. I lovelovelove the idea of the jar and pulling tasks out as little surprises instead of--or in conjunction with--a (small, targeted) to-do list. I've tried for years--decades, really--to develop routines, schedules, systems that will work for me, and I'm a master at designing them. Following them is an entirely different matter. But the jar sounds like fun. Something that has been working really well for me is creating the absolute lowest barrier to entry to whatever task I need/want to do possible. This was adapted from the book Tiny Habits. Make it so stupid easy that you almost can't NOT do the thing. So for the walking habit I wanted to develop, all I have to do is walk for three minutes every day. I CAN walk as long as I want, but the habit is to walk every day regardless of length of time, speed, distance, whatever. Sometimes I do only walk for three minutes, sometimes I walk for four hours, sometimes at 4 AM before going to bed to get it in, but I always get it in. But the key is I walk every single day, and I did make it part of my identity, as you mentioned in the video. I am a person who walks every day. The details of the walking don't matter. I have walked every single day for almost a year now. Because I never stopped or quit, I never had to restart or get back on the wagon or any of those things that trigger my rebelliousness. I make it fun by walking with my eyes closed (on the treadmill, holding the rails) and listening to my favorite 80s rock playlist, which I consider my theme songs. Every one has a personal message for me. I put cuticle oil on my nails, lotion on my hands, and wear gloves, I put an oil or scalp treatment on my hair, wear a super lush lip balm, etc., to make it a little bit of a pampering spa experience. Afterward, I take a bubble bath when I feel like some extra pampering. I finally feel like I'm learning to work WITH myself instead of against myself as I have my whole life. I've also learned to stop listening to what everyone else tells to me to do or try. I'm 56, but it's never too late!

Wow, that is the best video on internet! So helpful! I quit my job because it was so stressful with too much work to handle and no support from management (and difficulties they made with me taking my holidays), am starting my business now and am overwhelmed by client requests, so I was looking out for advice from other self-employed on how to prevent burnout. That you so much for such helpful information and good news ❤

I LOVE the idea of putting tasks on a piece of paper in a Jar and randomly pick one. (Might be difficult with deadlines… but one could figure that out) still - so appealing !

Helpful but kind of pessimistic as we can get things done for ourselves and being passionate about it is also important. You should also emphasize the strengths, as you presented more of a deficit perspective.

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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:28 🧠 Questioners meet inner expectations, questioning decisions and priorities constantly, leading to meticulous analysis before making choices. 03:23 💪 Questioners thrive in challenging authority and non-conventional settings, often excelling in intellectual pursuits. 04:47 🌟 Questioners are unstoppable when they turn goals into inner expectations, combining self-discipline, reliability, and authenticity. 05:40 🚫 Over-researching can lead to information paralysis; setting boundaries and deadlines is crucial to prevent analysis overload. 06:36 🤝 Questioners, seen as agitators, need to surround themselves with respected individuals to improve team dynamics and minimize friction. 07:46 🤔 Skillful questioning is essential; questioners must learn to ask constructive, non-threatening questions to avoid conflicts. 09:32 🎯 Questioners need a clear purpose to commit to a goal; understanding the 'why' is vital for their motivation and engagement. 10:11 ⏰ Implementing frameworks, self-imposed limits, and deadlines can help questioners make decisions and progress, combating perfectionism. 12:39 📊 Questioners find comfort in data and systems; using trackers and tools can aid in measuring progress and achieving goals effectively. Made with HARPA AI

I’m over 60 and recently retired. I can look back over time and see now exactly what worked when I’ve been most successful in life. It wasn’t planning and organizing. It was being inspired, passionate and in tune with getting what I wanted. I’ve heard it said that success is 10% inspiration and 90% perspiration, but now I’m sure that is not true for me. Plowing through the work is not that hard when I’m in touch with the drive that wanting something gives me. Definitely a rebel with a cause situation. Such a helpful video! Thank you!

I literally just received my very expensive, beautiful 2024 daily planner, only to realize that planning and scheduling turns everything into drudgery for me. I really thought that if I just got organized and figured out a system for everything, I would finally get where I wanted. No wonder I’m over 60 and still trying to figure things out. Luckily, I don’t waste a lot of time or energy rebelling against others anymore, just against myself. I need to honor my authentic self and make life fun again!! I am a high achieving rebel, so it’s not like I can’t do what I determine to do. Very helpful video, thank you!

I love you you are so cool and super smart. Love it!

Burnout is life telling you what is the most important thing in your life. Your health and your time

adorable..errr.. I mean yes, I agree

Im a rebel with time blindness.. things that take much time i get overwhelmed. Im very present moment centered. But thank you for the content.. it was helpful.

Really good suggestions & strategies here thank you. Understanding it more really helped too

So good thank you so much

Thanks for sharing your align + Flow Challenge!!It is my first day hope it works for me too!

Thank you ❤

Thank you

Brilliant video, thank you so much! Just discovered that I've always been a rebel and its giving me a relief of not expecting myself to fit into the idea of how the perfect me should be. Will relearn how to motivate myself based on this advice. I tried all generic advice and it was never working for me

I come back to this video at least once a month! It’s so helpful and encouraging. ❤

Glad you're doing better on the other side!

Thank you! 🙏🏼❤️

Love this. Really helpful insight and strategies for me. Thank you!

I always thought I was an obliger or even upholder so I was surprised that any of the strategies for these types did’t work for me. As I’m guessing now, I am a rebel by nature who adopted the habit of people pleasing. It seems like if I let myself relax and let things flow naturally, I will disappoint everyone and that thought scares me tremendously. I’ll try to nurture this part of myself from now on and try to see good that comes from it.

Only I can't work from home and put clients in the second place because those clients are kids.

Imogen, thank you for posting this and having the courage to interview Seth Godin. I loved your point "If you're not in love with the process of achieving a goal, what makes you think you'll like the outcome?" Also: "Focus on the kind of person we want to become rather than the result. This was helpful!

First of all, thanks so much for this vídeo. I always feel this thing inside me saying that I can't do anything on my own. You make me realize that I'm an Obligher, and what I have to do. thanks so much

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Being a rebel is really lonely.

My favorite thing as a rebel is to describe to anyone else the four tendencies is and every time, without fail, they say, "you know what, I think I am a rebel too!" simply because the title of rebel sounds cool. Spoiler: none of them are rebels, not by a long shot. And I certainly do not think anyone should want to be one... Now if you would excuse me, I need to return to not doing what I should be doing right now!

I appreciate your awareness in the words you chose so you didn't trigger resistance 😆 It's nice to know why I feel so intensely angry toward my planner after I write everything out, and then absolutely refuse to open it and look at my schedule. I'm so glad I found your channel, this is definitely helpful.

As a rebel - you totally nailed this ... I always that I was broken and did not have my shit together. The best advice is to put myself in a place where I have a mission and a cause!

i think i am a rebel but i do like following my own rules and i mostly rebel against people and things that are rude or annoying or stupid so if my friends would say im good at something i would be more motivated. also i was definitely more of a rebel when young than now... so now im confused what i am lol

Burnout is the best thing that ever happened to me. It made me realise that nobody was going to come in and stop me from being self-destructive, it was up to me to set boundaries for myself and decide what I wanted.

I take a month or two off every year, usually near the holidays. Yes, I quit jobs regularly. Couldn't care less. Since the US doesn't give ppl REAL time off at work, I take it anyway. Employers really don't care--if you have experience they'll hire you. I work in social services so burnout is REAL. And it's a big reason turnover at nonprofits is so high.

This is an interesting way to frame what I think may be, at least for me, a high need for autonomy and a tendency to experience psychological reactance, especially in regards to social norms (and especially social norms for women) that don't make sense to me. I'm returning to school at midlife to study psychology and I'm currently dealing with a lot of psychological reactance against having to take the GRE. (I took a class in psychometrics, so I know _why_ the GRE is required, but I think this it's a poor predictor for an odd duck like me, who has already worked in research (in a different field) and, as who, as a professional software engineer, is really good at the analytical reasoning stuff, if I'm not under too much time pressure.) I really struggle with seemingly arbitrary administrative rules, so having to take the GRE is just getting under my skin to the Nth degree. I haven't found an effective way to get myself to study for the GRE yet. But I can totally feel the "I'll prove them wrong if it's the last thing I do!" Rebel cry as I construct my plan B scenarios (if my GRE scores are terrible, I'll relocate anyways and just audit graduate-level classes and volunteer as a student assistant until the professors have no choice but to admit me). ...sigh...Now, if only I could crack the code for rebelling against having to work for a living. Seriously, it's the "having to" work that spoils it. I'd be SO happy volunteering for the job I have now (it's related to helping public health officials manage COVID outbreaks), if only I didn't "have to" work ....sigh....

flexibility, choice & fun is very helpful for the rebel in me