Afraid Ex Won’t Reach Out During No Contact

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  • @Sally-ng8hv
    @Sally-ng8hv 3 роки тому +2074

    No contact is a win-win situation if you get out of your feelings and choose to see it that way. Either the person who dumped you (if it wasn’t a toxic relationship) will get their act together and come back, or you will meet someone better by the time you have healed and gone through NC. You must AFFIRM that goodness is on the way. BELIEVE that your ex was touched by your love, your kindness and your presence. That they WILL miss it once they’ve had some time to think and the buzz of breaking up wears off. If you believe this, they will feel it. We are all atomically connected. People can feel your energy just by thinking about you and if you’re living a full and healthy life during NC your ex will know about it just by thinking about you. Remember that.

    • @missy-un1nh
      @missy-un1nh 3 роки тому +68

      This is beautiful Sally, thank you!! 🙏🏼

    • @Eatmeatthereforeiam
      @Eatmeatthereforeiam 3 роки тому +127

      Also work on your flaws and realize attachment to other people can be unhealthy because anyone can walk out on you. You must always have a take it or leave it attitude. You'll be okay no matter what.

    • @Sally-ng8hv
      @Sally-ng8hv 3 роки тому +5

      @@kimberlyg.88 it depends. Did it outweigh the goodness in the relationship? Did you respond to the break up itself calmly or did you beg and get mean about it?

    • @ch1bob
      @ch1bob 3 роки тому +18

      After no contact my ex called me on thanksgiving to wish me happy thanksgiving and see how i was doin.. is she trying to keep me as a plan B or what

    • @KellyMichaelsTV
      @KellyMichaelsTV 3 роки тому +10

      @@kimberlyg.88 That's how toxic it was with my ex from like 20 years ago. Eventually I called and begged to be back, but she had moved on and said we were a bad fit. She finally reached out 3 years later. She admitted she wanted to sooner but she lost my number

  • @haleyelizz9506
    @haleyelizz9506 2 роки тому +242

    “You don’t have to get your ex back TODAY to get them back” 👏🏾 👏🏾

  • @spyrothedragon3825
    @spyrothedragon3825 3 роки тому +1003

    It’s been over two months with no reach out. I’m in no contact and with time passing I care less and less while getting stronger and working on myself. If it happens good but if not I’m still good. Thanks you coach Lee

    • @jimbotfoodie1811
      @jimbotfoodie1811 3 роки тому +5

      How many months now since the break up happens?

    • @antolesander9677
      @antolesander9677 3 роки тому +17

      Lol so true, though his videos doesnt work for everyone. Atleast his words make is live in fantasy and as days goes we get better :')

    • @davidcoppotelli3957
      @davidcoppotelli3957 3 роки тому +2

      Right on with that.Way to Go.

    • @keithzizis4860
      @keithzizis4860 3 роки тому +18

      It’s like a bruise. It will take time but it will heal

    • @jaycampbell1992
      @jaycampbell1992 3 роки тому +14

      Exactly where I’m at, fully accepted that I needed this to happen to reach my max potential. Good luck people your not alone

  • @chelbythompson3718
    @chelbythompson3718 3 роки тому +373

    It took 10 days. I was worried that he would not reach out, but I stayed committed to no contact. He reached out on day 10. We met up on the 20th and the 21st. We made it official again three days ago, and I am over the moon! We talked things through, and we determined what issues caused our breakup. We are back and stronger than ever. Thank you Coach Lee! You truly know your stuff, and your videos kept me strong and committed to no contact!

    • @ademike1899
      @ademike1899 3 роки тому

      Whatzapp him now

    • @outroseok
      @outroseok 2 роки тому +15

      manifesting

    • @webeforyou
      @webeforyou 2 роки тому +4

      🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

    • @hotkhaleesi
      @hotkhaleesi 2 роки тому +5

      manifesting

    • @abhicech
      @abhicech 2 роки тому +4

      M so happy for you both :')

  • @fkat24
    @fkat24 3 роки тому +257

    Please listen and hear this man! He knows what he is talking about. He gets you to a point where you don’t care if they come back! That is a powerful place to be. They (the ex) will come running, running over grandma in the process to get back to you. Just stop caring so damn much.

    • @fkat24
      @fkat24 3 роки тому

      @Banty Kelvo how do I contact you

    • @ademike1899
      @ademike1899 3 роки тому

      Whatzapp him now

    • @willamenalos9461
      @willamenalos9461 3 роки тому +26

      “Running over grandma”, - I died with laughter 😂

    • @pazyamor1313
      @pazyamor1313 2 роки тому +13

      😅🤣not poor ol grandma. I needed this laugh today. Thank you for the encouragement and well wishes 🥰🌅

  • @Omar-jj8zb
    @Omar-jj8zb 3 роки тому +517

    Unless the break up was due to cheating or physical abuse, it’s almost certain your ex will eventually reach out but there’s no time frame so get that out of your head now. Every break up and situation is different, but if you were the one that was broken up with, go no contact, be patient and with time they’ll reach out. Coach Lee is correct.

    • @naiko6700
      @naiko6700 3 роки тому +9

      What if there has been a previous breakup that was for a very short time but they ended up breaking up with you for the same reasons and said they didn't believe you could change and it wouldn't work out anymore and mutual friends tell you he's moving on ...?

    • @naiko6700
      @naiko6700 3 роки тому +4

      @@DC-bp8sx you're probably right... it's almost been 6 months now since the breakup ... he's not reaching out at all, seems he's moved on and not coming back...

    • @Rawyalty220
      @Rawyalty220 2 роки тому +1

      Thx Omar

    • @NA-gn5lb
      @NA-gn5lb 2 роки тому +38

      @@naiko6700 just want to say that I broke up with an ex and got into a relationship (rebound) very quickly after. I felt guilty the whole time. I reached out to that ex around a year after we broke up when things were going downhill in my life and all the guilt reached the surface. By that time he had truly moved on and I was the one who was feeling needy and pathetic. It can happen at any time as long as you are both still living. I say this so that you know your break up with this person is affecting them whether you see it or not. My advice is don’t wait around and count the months as if the day you broke up has so much value in your life. Go out and live your life and enjoy yourself, don’t waste any more time

    • @LuckC5GO
      @LuckC5GO 2 роки тому

      @@naiko6700 how are you now bro?

  • @ZBeaist
    @ZBeaist 3 роки тому +363

    I believe that many of us here suffer from the Law of Familiarity. We need to learn how to be whole again. We once were on our own before our exes came into our lives. Our egos are to be blamed as to why we want to cling onto what we once knew. Having self awareness and being content with our own presence is something that is priceless and should not be overlooked. Right now focus on yourself, be a better you, for YOU.
    “If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be. If it continues to fly, let it soar. God has something better in store”

    • @Eatmeatthereforeiam
      @Eatmeatthereforeiam 3 роки тому +9

      Exactly. We are individually whole. We don't need another to make us happy.

    • @naiko6700
      @naiko6700 3 роки тому +2

      What if they already did come back and this is the second breakup? If they come back again is it still meant to be? Or is it because they already came back but left again, it wasnt meant to be? 😢

    • @ZBeaist
      @ZBeaist 3 роки тому +5

      @@naiko6700 I’ll say this, if they have done it once and were willing to break up a second time, are they really worth the time? If let’s say there is another reunion together, what would stop them from doing it a third time since they were successful at leaving and coming back twice? Never be somebody’s second option

    • @taykhamilton
      @taykhamilton 3 роки тому +1

      Love this post. Thank you

    • @annatorrez8135
      @annatorrez8135 2 роки тому

      Thank you ZBeast!

  • @focus4406
    @focus4406 3 роки тому +653

    I’ve lost the battle of no contact at day 23! Got anxious af, had no friends to vent felt like im about to burst so i called her up, got disrespected and she was super mean to me. I’ve decided to move on guys. Dont break no contact whatsoever. Peace. If you’ll need someone to vent or talk to I’m here .

    • @robertsajewski1250
      @robertsajewski1250 3 роки тому +4

      keep it up ull be good

    • @itsbritneybby
      @itsbritneybby 3 роки тому +54

      oh thats horrible she was like that to you, i dont get how the dumper can be so cruel, i dont think i have any chance to get my ex back and i dont think he will reach out either as hes very stubborn, im on day 17 and i want to reach out everyday, i even started anti-depressants 3 days ago as im feeling like i meant nothing to him

    • @joser_1295
      @joser_1295 3 роки тому +9

      @@itsbritneybby It’s extremely hard. My ex can be really stubborn as well. I’m on 3 1/2 weeks and she reached out during Thanksgiving, but we kept it neutral. Work on yourself mentally and physically. Mentally may be harder, but seek help such as therapy, journaling, breathing exercises, etc. You got this❤️

    • @itsbritneybby
      @itsbritneybby 3 роки тому +33

      @@joser_1295 he did reach out after i posted this, to let me know 2 and half weeks after telling me how much he loved me he has found someone else, im heartbroken, who the hell can move on that fast? now im scared shes going to get all the commitment that i didnt get and its going to work out for them and i got 9 months (6 months of constant i love you's) and replaced in a couple of weeks :( it hurts so much

    • @elmo3040
      @elmo3040 3 роки тому +21

      @@itsbritneybby I understand how you're feeling, I've been with my ex for 3 years after just a week of us breaking up she's already out kissing and making out with another guy, and to make it worse, its the same guy that was causing problems in our relationship for the last 2 months and she kept telling me I have nothing to worry about

  • @johnprice4645
    @johnprice4645 3 роки тому +521

    This has been the longest and hardest month. So many times I’ve wanted to reach out but just barely winning the battle in my head not to. I’ve learned a lot about myself and have been doing the self improvement. I’m in the best shape i’ve ever been in and my social skills are getting back to where it used to be. Still it’s a struggle and it feels like a war in my head everyday. Gonna continue being strong.

  • @duck1889
    @duck1889 Рік тому +69

    If you are reading this, please know that you are not alone and everything will workout just fine for you. Use this energy and go to the gym and focus on yourself. Remember you are in borrow time, do not waste it on someone who doesn ot appreciates u. My gf dumped me 3 days ago for no reason, and anytime her name comes to my mind I do 10 push ups.

    • @BlakeRanger
      @BlakeRanger Рік тому +2

      That's a great way of looking at it. I've been doing 10 push-ups everytime I think of her too! It forces me to work on myself instead of worry about her.

    • @ladyboywonder9139
      @ladyboywonder9139 6 місяців тому

      BLESS YOU !!! I’ve cried
      At least every night often every day for two years . We were friends nothing physical but he flirted like mad . Now he’s gone VERY !! Cool with me. I need to do the NC . ( FOR ME!) but usually once a week I cut his hair and give him a full spa treatment. So he expects thjs . I’m so devastated by his coolness . When we were “ together “ it was like dancing in the stars and eternal bliss .
      Unfortunately, outsiders, gossip and lies, got in the way , I guess . At any rate now I’m forced to do a “ ME” trip . I’ll have to do my best here . Gout got get a fancy facial and maybe a hair change

    • @vincentbryan1962
      @vincentbryan1962 5 місяців тому

      How are you doing 11 months later?

    • @duck1889
      @duck1889 5 місяців тому +1

      @@vincentbryan1962 Hello good sir, I hope you are doing well. First I would like to say when I wrote that comment i was in so much pain, confusion, panic mode, but after 11 months later I'm so glad that I experienced my first heart break.I'll explain to you briefly why. I lost myself, family and friends, i stopped taking care of myself, i forgot that i had hobbies and so on. The first two months after my break up it sucked, I was confused and did not know why i got dumped, I'm a successful professor and teaching at a private college, and I do not want to toot my horn but money is not a problem. I immediately shipped all her stuff back to her that way she does not contact me nor i wanted to hear from her. I deleted her contact, pictures and everything else that reminded me of her. Next, I cleaned my diet, hit the gym, started to do Brazilian jiu jitsu (white belt), start learning classical guitar, spent time with family and friends and more. Were there nights that I thought about her, absolutely. But, time heals everything. Right now, I'm in right frame of mind, I promised myself to not start another relationship unless I heal myself, and I'm doing a great job at it. Sorry to write this long paragraph, if you are struggling brother trust me, it will pass take it from me. Please, please, please don't beat yourself down, I promise you it will pass but you have to put in the work. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask. I'll end this boring paragraph with a very interesting buddhist quote "When an egg hatches from outside life is lost, but when an egg hatches from the inside life is born". Find yourself first.

    • @duck1889
      @duck1889 5 місяців тому

      @@vincentbryan1962 Hello good sir, I feel great thank you for asking. If you are going through a break up please let me tell you that time will heal you. I started to pick up some new hobbies, Brazilian jiujutsu, guitar, and i cleaned my nutrition and hit the gym hard. I feel amazing and started to find myself again. Please don't feel down, it's her loss. I promise that you will find someone better who cares about you and respect you. IF you have any more questions please ask, because when i wrote that 11 months ago i was hurting not going to lie.

  • @RobbiJamesVogt
    @RobbiJamesVogt Рік тому +18

    Brilliant! If you’re better yourself during no contact, losing weight, eating healthy, finding yourself, whether or not they contact you - it’s a win - win - win situation.

  • @marie27023
    @marie27023 3 роки тому +101

    I realized that I had wasted time waiting for someone to come back who was not able to give me what I needed, precious time that I could have used differently. So my advice is to give yourself a moment to accept this pain, it's hard, but you shouldn't waste time on someone who has done wrong.
    Focus on you and what you love!

  • @dwocelot6913
    @dwocelot6913 3 роки тому +412

    Yes, exes do reach out after time. But be Very wary of their motivations. Usually, life didn't turn out as fabulous as they thought it would be without you, and so they reach out in a place of weakness and fear. Obviously, there are exceptions to this. Just keep on guard until you can figure out what the true motivation is

    • @faiththroughgrace
      @faiththroughgrace 3 роки тому +27

      That is exactly what I answer when people ask me what I'd do if he came back. I say: if depends on HOW and WHY! I know what I deserve!

    • @guiagg6937
      @guiagg6937 3 роки тому +13

      My daughters ex keeps reaching out to her on and off for a year after they broke up which ruins her progress of moving on.. Shes still in love with him and I feel bad cause I cant do anything to stop her from interacting and no matter how I remind her not to expect reconcilation. It really hurts our family to see her this way..Hope time flies....😢😥😥

    • @Cluedup2399
      @Cluedup2399 2 роки тому +17

      I would say 9 out of 10 times things never turned out as they expected and the grass wasn't greener I say let them live with that decision.

    • @joev7014
      @joev7014 Рік тому +5

      Yes be careful. A lot of them come back to heal their broken heart from another person. Don’t be that person that she uses….

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 Рік тому

      ​@@guiagg6937No. It's better for her to heal , NOT time flying.

  • @NomadUrpagi
    @NomadUrpagi 3 роки тому +62

    I think by now i am one of your oldest watchers. Who else has been doing nc and watching his videos for 21 months? By that time many people don't care about their ex anymore.

    • @Ohgood4you
      @Ohgood4you 3 роки тому +6

      Just turned 60 and 9 months NC

    • @lisat5666
      @lisat5666 3 роки тому +5

      It’s been 9 months. I can’t let go.

    • @tinoush1239
      @tinoush1239 3 роки тому +5

      I am follwing Coach Lee since 1 year. My ex broke up with me since 1year and 3 months.

    • @giv8026
      @giv8026 3 роки тому +2

      I beat ya, breakup april 2019, did a lot of stuff wrong of course, but everytime the doorbell rings I still have hope it's them showing up at my door

    • @NomadUrpagi
      @NomadUrpagi 3 роки тому

      @@giv8026 them? What, did you date multiple people?

  • @ItsJustJoshGaming
    @ItsJustJoshGaming 3 роки тому +140

    Potential success story in progress: we broke up in August, she reached out 2-3 times since then but I never really let it go further from there because I didn’t think enough time passed. From September till about 2 days ago, she broke contact again. She agreed to see me. This was a 6 year relationship, our only relationship. Keep your head up folks

    • @lily8550
      @lily8550 3 роки тому +11

      Same on the 6 year relationship part and August breakup, well, for my situation I was ghosted by him. Still haven't heard anything from him and it's now 3.5 months. Keep us updated on your progress.

    • @Bertos13
      @Bertos13 3 роки тому +6

      Something to keep my motivation up, Josh. Thank you. She broke up with me two months ago after a 5y relationship. Was begging and pleeding till mid october. Since the 28th I went silent. Best of luck for you.

    • @ApostleThe344
      @ApostleThe344 3 роки тому +2

      Bro congrats. Keep it fun keep it light let her come to you like she is a cat... let her approach being in a relationship you just provide fun opportunity for sex to happen. Thats it, one date a week until she wants more. Its what worked on me. 3% Man

    • @ApostleThe344
      @ApostleThe344 3 роки тому +1

      @@mmsk2010 if thats your thing bro thats your thing. Glad its working for ya

    • @WJSharp
      @WJSharp 3 роки тому +5

      This made me cry, mine was a 5 year relationship and he reached out 3 times and now nothing.. we broke up in August too😢 I feel like I’m going crazy

  • @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO
    @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO 3 роки тому +273

    The hurt you feel in no contact is directly tied to the strength it demonstrates and the attraction it spikes in the other person. You didn't think you could do it? They probably didn't think you could either, which is why they find themselves re-examining you and reconsidering what they walked away from.

    • @Persia_936
      @Persia_936 2 роки тому +15

      So true!!!

    • @zimjun7
      @zimjun7 2 роки тому +8

      Yes, good point. A good reminder, in fact.

    • @tayxrivera
      @tayxrivera 2 роки тому +6

      Love this comment!

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 Рік тому

      You should only go through a relationship once, you only go through life once. Why torture yourself?!

  • @pappico
    @pappico 2 роки тому +73

    Crying right now. I can't thank you enough for your free videos, a lot of them have helped me cope through my breakup. Wishing everyone who's also hurting some comfort in these difficult times, and best of luck for doing NC!

    • @Poodietoots
      @Poodietoots 2 роки тому

      I'm hurting too and what hurts the most is knowing he's out there screwing someone else who I'm stuck sad 😔

    • @pappico
      @pappico 2 роки тому +2

      @@Poodietoots Me too, but stay strong and go in NC. It's such a bad idea for me to check his new IG mutual followers, it'll only give you anxiety and fear. Stay away as much as possible and focus on yourself!

    • @Poodietoots
      @Poodietoots 2 роки тому

      @@pappico I'm in no contact I just feel alone i don't have no family he was my everything it just hurts so bad he treated me so bad and he hurt me physically and emotionally made me feel so low still I'm having a hard time coping no matter how hard I try my heart won't let go reminders holidays coming up now I'm alone again 😥😥

    • @oye_hoye_mickey
      @oye_hoye_mickey 2 роки тому

      Stay strong. If you feel like talking we cn connect on ig. I'm on 67 day nc. Mine didn't even given me any reason. Just blocked me and never talked again.

    • @ryanjames3260
      @ryanjames3260 2 роки тому

      I’m crying too

  • @kraftydesignsartstudio684
    @kraftydesignsartstudio684 3 роки тому +29

    Day 30 of NC and the more days that go by the more I’m starting not to care if he comes back or not. What I have realised though is that no one man or woman should have the power to keep you down. Tomorrow is not promised. Cry your tears, scream, and punch the air but don’t stay there too long. Grab life by the balls and LIVE. I’m weaning myself off these videos which have been a MAJOR source of healing. Thanks Coach Lee for getting me to the other side, along with a lot of prayer. God is in control and at the end of the day, WHAT WILL BE WILL BE 🙏🙏

  • @GabrielaMeredith
    @GabrielaMeredith 3 роки тому +160

    No contact works. I followed everything in the Emergency Breakup Kit and my ex reached out after 6 weeks. He texted saying he missed me and was afraid that I had blocked him. Needless to say we’re meeting up at HIS request tomorrow.

    • @Sally-ng8hv
      @Sally-ng8hv 3 роки тому +8

      Did you send a clean slate message? What note did you leave things on at the point of break up? Would love to hear more about your experience. :)

    • @missy-un1nh
      @missy-un1nh 3 роки тому +7

      Update us when you can, good luck 💗

    • @foreverred105
      @foreverred105 3 роки тому +2

      Good luck Gabriela

    • @greeneyedchul0
      @greeneyedchul0 3 роки тому +6

      Please post update,hope it works out for the positive

    • @roser8911
      @roser8911 3 роки тому +3

      Congratulations

  • @nickfoles2603
    @nickfoles2603 2 роки тому +25

    This man is such an anxiety relief

  • @Ladysepy99
    @Ladysepy99 3 роки тому +117

    Let me take this time to thank you coach for being with me throughout this hard moment of heartbreak, but i tell you today, honestly i never thought i'd feel so free and relieved from the pain the anxiety, i have found somebody who was able wipe out thw pain, my ex was in touch but i was confident enough to tell him that am no longer persuing anything, am done. So right now am at peace amd happy, thanks couch

    • @obasichiemeli9414
      @obasichiemeli9414 3 роки тому +1

      You doing this morning So for me and I'll make sure you feeling

    • @crystalclimenhage7159
      @crystalclimenhage7159 2 роки тому +3

      How many days did it take for ur ex to reach out?

    • @lisabaughn
      @lisabaughn 2 роки тому +1

      Congratulations! ❤️

  • @WJSharp
    @WJSharp 3 роки тому +13

    It’s been 3 months and he’s been silent on every social media outlet, yet his friends post things so I can see it. I finally unfollowed his friends Bc it hurt to much. Idk what to do, I’m tired of crying and not eating. I’m at the point where maybe at 4 months I’ll call but also I keep reminding myself it’s not my job to fix what he broke. We were in a 5 year relationship with full of love and family and friends and 2 dogs. Looking from the outside in, it looks like I never existed and he never knew me or had a life with me. I’m a good woman, I know that, I just wish he realizes that and man’s up to call. Coach Lee your videos are the only thing keeping me from calling him and not suffocating him with me and my questions and pain. So thank you 🙏🏼

  • @kristina5914
    @kristina5914 2 роки тому +23

    3 months of no contact. Almost a year broken up. We were still talking, texting, meeting up, etc. after our breakup. Found out he had a girlfriend the whole time while he was still telling me he loved me. He started dating her only 2 months after we broke up, we were together 6 years. When I found out I cut contact & I can say I’ve healed more in these 3 months than the entire breakup. I do miss him sometimes & catch myself thinking about how crazy it is that I haven’t seen him. I do hope our paths cross again but I can honestly say I’ve fallen in love with myself

  • @faiththroughgrace
    @faiththroughgrace 3 роки тому +43

    I so needed this video! Especially the 4th point of "busy and better mirage" caught me and made me feel better since my ex is constantly showing himself being super happy on social media. Just yesterday I said to my sister "the world is not fair, he breaks up with me and while he's celebrating, I am crying my eyes out every night". Maybe I'll have to reconsider that he's only showing what he WANTS people to see. I don't know. We've been broken up for 6 weeks now and almost 4 weeks of NC. I'm not gonna reach out, never again. He either returns or does not, I'll be fine anyway, but still hope with him though.

    • @christyhudeson3663
      @christyhudeson3663 3 роки тому

      Message him for help on whatzpp

    • @fkat24
      @fkat24 3 роки тому +7

      You go girl! Stay strong! He posting stuff on social media to piss you off! No look, no care! Post your own pictures. I can send you a picture of my condo in Hawaii. Post em, say you having the time of your life in Hawaii. That will piss him off!

    • @MDDR-io7nh
      @MDDR-io7nh 2 роки тому +3

      22 year relationship & engaged for the last 10 yrs. & on Easter weekend he told me he wanted to break up & that he loved me, but was not in love with me. He's blocked me from everything & I'm so confused. Been in no contact since 3 days after break up, but don't feel anything is or will change. 😔

    • @yasministryheals
      @yasministryheals 2 роки тому +1

      @@MDDR-io7nh oh I’m sorry, that’s rough. How are you doing? ❤️🌸

    • @kellyj5334
      @kellyj5334 Рік тому +1

      @@MDDR-io7nh any update? 😢

  • @Borderlandsurvivor
    @Borderlandsurvivor 2 роки тому +35

    Thank you for reminding me that I have gone through heartbreak several times before and have healed every time. Each heartbreak I felt I could never love or trust again and yet here I am. Thank you.

  • @themetalave
    @themetalave Рік тому +10

    Thank you coach
    I can’t thank you for all of the positive incite. I can’t explain the value of my ex… but ultimately it truthfully begins with the value of YOURSELF!
    To those watching keep your head up, hit the gym, catch up with some friends. The attachment you seek begins with DETACHMENT!
    Good luck to you all!

  • @RA-iy9hb
    @RA-iy9hb 2 роки тому +18

    What I like about your videos is that you are straightforward and natural, not fake, and even your advice. You make the person think logically, not emotionally, and wise advice and make the person strong mentally. I shared your videos with my friends from the Middle East. Thank you in Arabic شكرا ً And best of luck to all who are suffering from breaking up or problems with their lovers.

  • @anitamichalik
    @anitamichalik 3 місяці тому +1

    Coach Lee saving people's lives one video at a time

  • @javspirata
    @javspirata Рік тому +7

    I’m in acceptance phase, but hearing u gives me relieve! God bless u

  • @buchanan012
    @buchanan012 2 роки тому +63

    If you truly do no contact from the get go, you leave them alone, you focus on yourself and learn about yourself and your traumas and triggers and you learn as much as you can about relationships and love languages and conversing, THEY will lose YOU. Most of the time, they won't work on themselves at all. But you can and you will. Fix yourself, work on your goals and dreams and don't stop. If they don't come back, they lost.

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому +1

      Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

  • @xanhiett
    @xanhiett 2 роки тому +12

    Totally agree with this, it’s a win win situation. Whatever is meant to be, will happen! Nothing is absolute

  • @ahhdee1996
    @ahhdee1996 2 роки тому +12

    Listening to your videos has helped me so much man. She hasn't come back, but I'm starting to focus on my own life again. And it's starting to hurt less. Thank you coach Lee.

  • @Harleydad44
    @Harleydad44 Рік тому +4

    This man knows his shit. Listen to him. Either way, if they do or dont, it is a win-win, and you will be fine.

  • @robertwalker6648
    @robertwalker6648 Рік тому +4

    "Move On" is less than a magical phrase.
    I used to respond to that suggestion by saying, "Move on to what?"

  • @empressofspiritualmysterie8923
    @empressofspiritualmysterie8923 2 роки тому +28

    Been 2 years, he never reached out , life goes on

    • @JoshP86
      @JoshP86 Рік тому +4

      Daaang! 1y NC for me...she's never coming back and apologize.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 3 місяці тому

      Really???

    • @komukyeyapeninah5667
      @komukyeyapeninah5667 2 місяці тому

      Do you have kids together??

  • @Top3in5
    @Top3in5 11 місяців тому +2

    SO TRUE AND AMAZING - IF THEY COME BACK, GREAT. IF THEY DON'T, THEN THEY WEREN'T MEANT TO BE WITH YOU. PERFECT.

  • @amityjd844
    @amityjd844 3 роки тому +33

    Day 19 of NC she seems to be happy enjoying life. We have been broken up for a month after four years together. I feel a little better each day thanks to coach Lee and reading people's comments about there success with their exs reaching out but I've never had a ex before reach out in the past my last relationship was three years. Stay strong everyone and I hope you get your ex back

    • @ademike1899
      @ademike1899 3 роки тому

      Whatzapp him now...

    • @joshmcgowan4376
      @joshmcgowan4376 2 роки тому

      Any update ? I'm 18 days in NC right now

    • @amityjd844
      @amityjd844 2 роки тому +5

      @@joshmcgowan4376 83 days of no contact no reach out nothing I see her around sometimes but nothing guess she is happier without me in her life which I wish wasn't true and that she misses me . It still hurts and I think about her daily. Hope you have a better outcome and stay strong.

    • @joshmcgowan4376
      @joshmcgowan4376 2 роки тому +4

      @@amityjd844 saying a prayer for u right now ! Thanks for your words and the update. This guy and Cory wayne are helping me .. and people like you leaving comments and updates. Peace and blessings 🙏

    • @quirkyquester
      @quirkyquester 2 роки тому

      updates?

  • @ADRIANxXxP
    @ADRIANxXxP 3 роки тому +25

    Day 56 of NC. She went from „i love you” to „i dont see a future with you”. Heard she came back to an ex who cheated and abused her emotionally. Waining for your stories guys.

    • @Sterling1922
      @Sterling1922 3 роки тому +6

      Same exact thing happened to me! Told me how much she loved me many times - Told me how she hated her ex husband for emotionally abusing her - Then got back together with the ex she hated! I got the feeling she is the one with emotional problems! Her ex left her again - because she contacted me again. I am jealous of her ex, because he can play around with other woman knowing he has a piece of ass anytime he wants it. I was loyal to her and treated her with respect and loyal only to her. I guess that's not good enough. And woman wonder why guys cheat. They seem to prefer the Bad boys over the Good nice guys. I had opportunities to cheat on her but didn't. She had no problem throwing me away like a piece of trash. Lifes lessons can be very cruel. I am wiser and stronger now from my experience. The hurt is real, but time does hel and make you better. Stay safe

    • @mryan4969
      @mryan4969 3 роки тому +5

      @@Sterling1922 not all women are like that. she has emotional issues. alot of us appreciate good men. you will find one that doesnt have that kind of baggage. good luck xoxo

    • @ADRIANxXxP
      @ADRIANxXxP 3 роки тому +3

      @@Sterling1922 Our situations are similar I guess its best for you and me to just stay NC however recently Im more Radio Silence. We’ve been in LDR due to friend from my hometown. The friend told me she asked her how im doing and if she knows anything about me right now so she’s a little bit of curious. Don’t worry. Things will go the way they need to be, so we will move on or get back with our ex. But remember to key is not to reconcile by all means but to develop strong and healthy relationship, maybe they will come back to their senses.

  • @TushnaManeksha
    @TushnaManeksha 2 роки тому +20

    He ghosted me after 12 years...it was a hidden blessing
    Its 2.5 months now..
    The trash took itself out

    • @comfortzone5618
      @comfortzone5618 6 місяців тому +1

      Same!!!

    • @tnix80
      @tnix80 14 днів тому

      I'm not sure you can draw conclusions after 75 days. Maybe now.

  • @julzb6409
    @julzb6409 Рік тому +4

    Dude your videos helped me so much. Now I’m at the point that if I were to take her back… I would be a fool. Plenty more fish in the sea. Better yourself, move on and don’t look back. Win win as Coach Lee states 👍

  • @josieepps
    @josieepps 3 роки тому +51

    This video came at the perfect moment. It’s been 2 months since the breakup and my ex did reach out last month and we even added each other back on socials. The second I posted an Instagram picture he unadded me on everything and is now in a rebound situation. It’s all confusing but this video helped me and brought me so much comfort! Thank you coach so so much. This video helped me to be more optimistic:)

  • @LCraighead
    @LCraighead 3 роки тому +170

    After 1 month of dealing with "I miss you" type stuff in social media DMs, I had to put my foot down. Told her it's confusing to hear "I need time" yet still share those things. Two weeks later she reached out again and even her mom did. We're likely going to talk over Thanksgiving. If they want a break up, give them what they want. Having that maturity to respect their decision is huge. Things happen for a reason

    • @keith6668
      @keith6668 3 роки тому +6

      Thanks for this 👆🏽

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому +1

      Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup 💔 I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому

      What Sapp him now for help 👇

    • @ChaoticCobras
      @ChaoticCobras 2 роки тому +3

      any update? its been another 3 months. did you get back together?

    • @LCraighead
      @LCraighead 2 роки тому +6

      @@ChaoticCobras We did. It was the culmination of many new things after being at the same university for a few years. Long distance isn't easy nor is the drastic life changes of entering the work force. She still had some maturity issues to sort out because in her eyes, me not reaching out after her asking for time meant I didn't want her back. Once I helped her see how that really doesn't actually make sense, she apologized for putting me in that state of limbo.

  • @bluejeanteddybear
    @bluejeanteddybear 3 роки тому +38

    I don't want my ex back anymore, but I did pine for about 5 years. I wish I had seen these videos back then.

    • @tercsi1
      @tercsi1 3 роки тому +3

      @Mary Snyder My ex fiance broke up with me 7 months ago. We were together 4 years. Oh my God. I hope it doesn't take that long. By then I hope we work things out and are happily married or I am happily married with someone else.

    • @bluejeanteddybear
      @bluejeanteddybear 3 роки тому +1

      @@tercsi1 It probably won't. You have these videos. I also have a kid with my ex husband and I had a dream of being a family that he didn't share. There were other things that dragged out the pining, but I won't get into that.

  • @davidcoppotelli3957
    @davidcoppotelli3957 2 роки тому +9

    Update for Coach Lee,
    I'm now 10 months of no contact. Staying away from my Ex Narcissist Ex Girlfriend of 15 Years LTR. I had to Walk Away from her got very tired of the Future Faking BS and being taken for granted. I have given her my Silence and my Absence. The No Contact is a Must in order for you to recover and get your Power Back.
    I saw her today walking across a parking lot in front of my Jeep heading into a Clothing Store. I believe she did not see me, as I made no a temped to let her know I was there. And I realized that this Girl Betrayed me, and her self. I can remember the Discard like you never even existed with no remorse.
    The Silence is peaceful. I rather be alone then to be with someone who makes you feel alone.

  • @thebalancedbiteregina
    @thebalancedbiteregina 2 роки тому +10

    Your advice is so logical. I agree with you on everything you say. No contact is a win win situation! I am working on myself. I did hear from him today after 12 days of no contact, but he is not ready to come back yet. He wants more time which is fine because I need it too. He was my husband for 5 years. So if he wants to come back maybe I will take him back or maybe I won’t. I am enjoying my me time right now. Thank you for your videos. They have helped me a lot.

  • @royromero5329
    @royromero5329 Рік тому +4

    I’m getting so much stronger and started to feel confident again and she reached out again ❤😮
    I booked a call with coach Ken

  • @billyb3105
    @billyb3105 2 роки тому +5

    It’s been 4 months of no contact with my ex and now she’s pregnant. Sweet victory. I wish her nothing the best for child’s sake

    • @Crm.xcviii
      @Crm.xcviii 2 роки тому +1

      Nice positivity I guess 🤔

  • @kekkic
    @kekkic 2 роки тому +8

    My ex abandoned me about five weeks ago I think he’s in another country but I’m not sure I truly feel that I will never see him again and never hear from him again but it’s encouraging to listen to your videos to learn how to be independent and rely on myself

    • @Supersleuth0987
      @Supersleuth0987 9 місяців тому

      What a nasty and cowardly thing to do…any updates!…hope if you never heard back you’ve healed

  • @SolidusRob45
    @SolidusRob45 2 роки тому +20

    Coach Lee, I appreciate your videos. I had a 9 year relationship go down the drain early October. I must say your content has kept it real, concise, and uplifting. Whether through some hope or uplifting me as an individual, I appreciate it.

    • @TeKNiQ50
      @TeKNiQ50 Рік тому

      Heartbreaking to have something end after nine years. What ended up happening? Did she come back?

  • @mryan4969
    @mryan4969 3 роки тому +12

    better than any therapist. and perfect timing right before the holiday season. ty coach! good luck to all.

  • @keepgrowing9941
    @keepgrowing9941 3 роки тому +16

    Good morning, Coach Lee. Its 5:49 am here. Just woke up with a notification of your video and it makes my day! 😻 ATTENDANCE CHECK, Everyone? PRESENT! 🙋🏻‍♀️💕 PHILIPPINES 🇵🇭

  • @walti93x
    @walti93x 2 роки тому +32

    Ex dumped me. I can see she's not feeling the breakup because she's too busy working. It feels like I'm the only one who's feeling the breakup while my ex is sleeping in peace at night.

    • @Sarahh_
      @Sarahh_ 2 роки тому +9

      Me too he’s too busy with the dental school I helped him get into. It all hurts way too much . We were best friends

    • @WiseAsianGirl
      @WiseAsianGirl 8 місяців тому +3

      It really does hurt.. it feels like you were the only one who cared about the relationship

    • @ACTHEMOGUL
      @ACTHEMOGUL 7 місяців тому +2

      I definitely feel like I’m the only one hurting and losing sleep every night

  • @rajean1611
    @rajean1611 Рік тому +4

    We've experiences this 13 times. He came back every time. He has issues to work through as I obviously do, as well. I don't know about this time. I pray he does. I just became familiar with this and have done some of it naturally. I'm learning. I caused this last breakup from my own insecurities about the relationship. I will be using some of the practices talked about here and in some of Coach Lee's other videos. Wish there was more info on what to do when they do come back. Thank you for all your good advice, Coach Lee.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Rajean Buffa, 13 times? You actually counted? I don't believe this relationship will last unless this back & forth STOPS! You can get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

    • @xcoachkim
      @xcoachkim Рік тому

      Thank you so much for the recommendation regarding what to do when they come back! It can be a struggle to know if you're doing the right thing, how much to do, when to do it, if anything right? Coach Lee and his staff Coach Ken have created something that can help you - it's a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

  • @johnlammergeier2890
    @johnlammergeier2890 Рік тому +2

    Good god this guy knows his stuff, the mirage thing is gold,,,,,,,,

  • @gigibau
    @gigibau Рік тому +12

    This works because my ex contacted me after 35 days of me doing NO CONTACT

  • @bobwoods3544
    @bobwoods3544 2 роки тому +5

    I don't usually comment on videos, but you are really helping me out to the point where I don't care if he reaches out or not! ❤

  • @preciousgem704
    @preciousgem704 2 роки тому +7

    After giving the ultimatum of no contact with ex then Erase everything that remind bout him. No need to wait for someone who dumped you and don't value you. You can move on, just like what you did in your past relationship. Make your life busy and trust God in process of healing. Stay connected with God ask for his forgiveness,council and embrace. Go and talk to people you are comfortable with. Find new hobbies. Take care of your self,read books listen to motivational videos, There is so much you can do. 😊😊😊😊👍💪

  • @asmrsleep3079
    @asmrsleep3079 2 роки тому +27

    6:34 "you have been through this before"
    Not me, I'm dealing with my first heartbreak 😭💔 it was tough but I came back stronger 💪🏼

  • @spencer726
    @spencer726 3 роки тому +7

    Me and my ex were together for 3.5 years and she dumped me because I was neglecting her and I begged and pleaded but then found you and realized I needed to find myself and I did. She says she loves me and still has feelings for me but it’s been not even 3 months and she is with my friend/cousin that I’m hoping is a rebound. I deleted her off everything it’s just so crazy someone can just get over all that time spent so fast:( thank you coach for the videos they give me hope for another chance!

    • @Eatmeatthereforeiam
      @Eatmeatthereforeiam 3 роки тому +2

      I say good luck to her because most relationships fail and she didn't change. You have an awesome opportunity for growth.

  • @jimbernard71
    @jimbernard71 2 роки тому +7

    In life we get out of it what we put in to it! God always has your best interest if you listen and be patient- whether you do or don't work out... LOVE YOURSELF ❤️

  • @offkiltertoys9905
    @offkiltertoys9905 3 роки тому +7

    I tried modified no contact for 2 months after an 8 year relationship ended. She moved on with someone else (happy for her now). I was sad and made some simp moves but I focused on me and met a model who says that she loves the comfort and excitement that I make her feel. My mannerisms that became annoying to my ex were charming to this new woman. I still love my ex as a person but I’m falling in limerance with someone else. Coach Lee helped me through the darkest days. It gets better. You can find the you that was always there but hidden. Make that hidden you awesome and find someone who appreciates it when you’re ready. It may work out or not with the new girl for me but I know my heartbreak is over. And I’ll just miss our old life with nostalgia instead of longing.

    • @ademike1899
      @ademike1899 3 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......

    • @ademike1899
      @ademike1899 3 роки тому

      Whatzapp him now

    • @ademike1899
      @ademike1899 3 роки тому

      †13609219711⏭⏯???

  • @jasongabb1671
    @jasongabb1671 2 роки тому +9

    Over 40 days of NC, been hard this week, still think about her. Being strong and keeping busy, wish relationships could be straight forward... Had one text from her on January 9th which i replied politely too, nothing since.

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

  • @davidmcdonald1904
    @davidmcdonald1904 3 роки тому +35

    I reckon I've got more chance of getting a text of the pope than my ex

  • @diegoothman5223
    @diegoothman5223 Рік тому +2

    It’s been two months of no contact and she eventually unblocked me and messaged me merry Christmas. I made sure to reply in a civil way wishing her a merry Christmas also. I don’t take much from this because it wasn’t a message for me to build on am back into no contact until more develops

  • @donnabourgeois5003
    @donnabourgeois5003 2 роки тому +58

    At 68 yo, it's not what I ever pictured myself going through. I'm heartbroken.

    • @kayhawkins5925
      @kayhawkins5925 2 роки тому +3

      yeah, just when you think you have been there and done that not to have a do over. 15 years and hes with a new love. not sure I want him back hooefully, find someone better.

    • @marquettamiller608
      @marquettamiller608 Рік тому +6

      I am 68 also . It's hard enough when your young . You can usually find something to do and go about your life... Not so at our age . I hope we both will be strong. I trust G-d that this will pass swiftly. Take care.

    • @MoominJude
      @MoominJude Рік тому +4

      @@marquettamiller60864 here, he was my absolute world, I can't start again, he left me for someone younger, totally out of the blue and out of character. I am so lonely ,it's ghastly.

    • @marquettamiller608
      @marquettamiller608 Рік тому +3

      @@MoominJude I'm so sorry but sometimes we go through this when we make them our gods. Yes when we put them before our soul we are messin up. We forget about our own importance to our maker. He doesn't want us to live our lives like this. I have gotten some what better since I wrote my comment. .Just pray about it. Hang in there . He doesn't give us the strength for tomorrow because it may not come. Only enough for today. Hang in there

    • @marquettamiller608
      @marquettamiller608 Рік тому +2

      @@MoominJude by the way , why don't you find someone younger. There are a lot of younger men out there that realize old chics make good soup.

  • @Heart3577
    @Heart3577 3 роки тому +18

    No skipping Ads for my favorite Coach! Thank you, Coach Lee❤❤❤❤

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому +1

      †2348073788494⏭⏯❤️❤️❤️👈Send him a message to meet your soul mate. Go back to your ex. Manifest your specific person and also save your marriage from divorce.🌈🌈🌈💕🌹🌹

  • @spiderofsorts7611
    @spiderofsorts7611 3 роки тому +14

    5 months of the breakup and now over 3 months of no contact. I still haven’t heard from him. It kills some days but I get stronger all the time . I have come to think if he doesn’t contact me then he truly wasn’t meant for me and couldn’t have loved me like I loved him.

  • @surimoonesinghe9117
    @surimoonesinghe9117 3 роки тому +7

    Thank you for your videos. It’s been 6 months and we really broke up, he is in a new relationship.I’m not in a relationship because it’s hard for me. I want to go forward but it’s hard. He seems happy and have a great relationship, some people are just jerks.

  • @catherinengum7850
    @catherinengum7850 3 роки тому +12

    It's been 1 month today I went into the no contact and I knew my ex will surely reach out suddenly today he texted me and want to see me ..the no contact works like magic 😂😂😅

  • @buchanan012
    @buchanan012 2 роки тому +6

    I hope we all get a win one way or another.

  • @nanac7470
    @nanac7470 2 роки тому +14

    I don’t think my ex is that kind of person. Once he makes his mind, he never looks back. But watching your videos keeps me stay strong. I promise I won’t break NC. For my own sake. Can’t lose my self-respect and dignity anymore.

    • @hotkhaleesi
      @hotkhaleesi 2 роки тому

      hows it going?

    • @nanac7470
      @nanac7470 2 роки тому +3

      @@hotkhaleesi he’s like died in my world haha. I didn’t reach out to him either. Cuz he’s died to me

    • @saurabhvimal1008
      @saurabhvimal1008 2 роки тому

      @@nanac7470 how is it going

    • @nanac7470
      @nanac7470 2 роки тому +1

      @@saurabhvimal1008 Haven’t heard from him yet. I’m definitely doing better for sure.

    • @saurabhvimal1008
      @saurabhvimal1008 2 роки тому

      @@nanac7470 hope same is true for me it's been 3 months

  • @beachlover9705
    @beachlover9705 2 роки тому +3

    He came back after 1.5 yrs but didn't come back offering me his best .I have him 3 weeks and broke it off because he was not honest and could not define his new intentions. Thanks coach for giving me the tools to know what's real when they actually do come back. That was in Sept. It's Feb now and I don't expect to hear from him because he now knows he has to come back correctly.

    • @judeihim2779
      @judeihim2779 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯

    • @judeihim2779
      @judeihim2779 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

  • @Ginger_AIe
    @Ginger_AIe 3 роки тому +12

    It’s been almost 18 days since he went NC. This isn’t the first time we’ve been through this, but I’m beginning to think this may be it. I’ve been through a wide range of emotions during this time… now im beginning to come to grips with the likelihood that it’s over. Maybe once I fully move on, he will come back, but by then I may not even care anymore.

  • @emmalynrae592
    @emmalynrae592 3 роки тому +53

    My exes have always come back. Most within 4 months, but one was after a year. 100% of the time, I didn’t want them back. A friend of mine just had her ex of 1 yr ago reach out to her this morning. Idk what it is about men and the NC rule but it never fails.

    • @ellie8021
      @ellie8021 3 роки тому +5

      Thank you for sharing this. It made me feel better. Love and light for you ♥️

    • @gurlonice8013
      @gurlonice8013 3 роки тому +4

      Past week a ex from me reached out after hold on... 4 years !! Saying how he is still attracted towards me.

    • @emmalynrae592
      @emmalynrae592 3 роки тому +1

      @@ellie8021 of course ❤️ hang in there

    • @emmalynrae592
      @emmalynrae592 3 роки тому +10

      @@gurlonice8013 it’s crazy right?? i think it’s because men tend to remember their exes more fondly as time passes. Whereas with women we ask ourselves “what did I ever see in him?” Lol

    • @Ohiogardengoddess
      @Ohiogardengoddess 3 роки тому +5

      Ive had 2 ex boyfriends reach back out after a DECADE to see if there could be a second chance

  • @izzyoda7867
    @izzyoda7867 Рік тому +21

    This does not work if this person is truly over you. This is for the one who plays games or someone who's not over you. This would work, but because of free will, u can not change their mind once they are no longer in love with you

  • @KarynCain
    @KarynCain 2 роки тому +9

    So good 😊 Coach Lee. You ease the mind knowing it’s all exactly as it should be. If he doesn’t reach out, he’s not worthy of a relationship with me. 🥰

  • @Rigoletta53
    @Rigoletta53 2 роки тому +4

    Probably the most frustrating aspect of living “in the moment” and not falling into the. “What ifs”

  • @danr2596
    @danr2596 3 роки тому +3

    My ex asked not to contact her. Said we weren't compatible. But never elaborated why or how. She just met my kids, told them she loved them and it was over quick. I reached out 3 times since and I've got no response. Nothing was wrong in the relationship. No problems arose. Never argued. It was a match made in heaven. And those were her words the week of the breakup. So now it's been 2 months and I'm coming to realize it's over for good

  • @fkat24
    @fkat24 3 роки тому +3

    I followed coach lees advice of no contact. Took it a step further and started dating my ex girlfriend from 24 years ago (been married for 20). That drove my ex MAD! She lost her cookies. Called today and begged me to come back even offered to pay for the trans pacific flight. Thank you coach Lee!

    • @fkat24
      @fkat24 3 роки тому +1

      @Umar Gwalo brah, everyone on here knows it’s a scam. Stop!

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

    • @JadeStaze1
      @JadeStaze1 2 роки тому +1

      Haahahhaha awesome

  • @donhansum
    @donhansum 2 роки тому +1

    When I read the comments I feel better. Hope will leave stucc, but truth will lead you in the rite direction.

    • @jamesbranh6721
      @jamesbranh6721 2 роки тому

      ±2349063731650⏯️⏯️
      Hello it's works i can't believe_ .... .

  • @sh.g83
    @sh.g83 3 роки тому +16

    i think the one who wouldn reachout again will be the one who really stopped loving the other person,like i did ,once i stopped loving him i left and never reachedout again,but ppl who still love n want eachother the chances are huge that this will happen

    • @mumteancosmin166
      @mumteancosmin166 3 роки тому +1

      What if she Blocked ME and unblocked me, she stalk my facebook profile then blocked me again? She was curious thats for sure. Once you leave and you lost 100% interest you dont do that

    • @tercsi1
      @tercsi1 3 роки тому +1

      @Sh.G It's been 7 months since my ex fiance broke up with me. I did 2 months no contact. He never reached out. I contacted him after 2 months. He said he did not date yet.. no rebounds ..no hookups..nothing just kept to himself and did things with family. He also said he doesn't cheat, which is strange that he said that.

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому

      Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup 💔 I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.🙏

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому

      What Sapp him now👇👇

  • @charlesthompson8917
    @charlesthompson8917 10 місяців тому

    Today is different than yesterday and everyday is different from each other though it may seem the same. They'll always be another friend that comes along, another place you'll discover, so when she comes back you may not even want her back. Today is not the same person you were last year. You're stronger than that after forging yourself through the pain.

  • @j.l.7325
    @j.l.7325 3 роки тому +14

    Listening to coachs calming assertiveness is a relief as a male without family growing up this insight life relationship coaching is next best thing for some of us without resources to go back on to learn how to succeed in relationships with a lady. Thank you coach you are helping and changing my life for better.

  • @chrisobrienweb
    @chrisobrienweb 2 роки тому +3

    The thought cycle got me. I feel much better than I did on the first week, but I'm still stuck in the thought cycle.

  • @benitocarlos7240
    @benitocarlos7240 Рік тому +2

    13 days and nothing yet ! Hopefully she will reach out to make it work if not! Oh well that’s life . Thank you coach.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Benito Carlos, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has strategies for every situation including yours.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @blueastcoast
    @blueastcoast 2 роки тому +8

    Coach Lee, you’ve been really helping me over the past week. Your videos give me such reassurance to stay in no contact which goes against every instinct I have, but it makes so much sense why the odds are good it will work even though I was desperate directly after she broke it off with me. I’ve been in no contact for over a week now and going strong.. my birthday is next week and I wonder if she will reach out

  • @thetrio1901
    @thetrio1901 Рік тому +2

    when ever i feel down i used to watch his videos , though i have already watched

  • @Wild1KY
    @Wild1KY 2 роки тому +3

    It is a battle brothers (in the mind 🧠) & I hate it that we have come to this. I (like you) Miss this person beyond belief! I miss my friend & it hurts! I get emotional simply just typing this & it’s been 9 months.. every morning waking up 1st with the same thing on my mind “where is Lindz” at?” It’s cruel! Stay positive & don’t let the “negative thoughts” overcome the best of u.! I don’t know when The mental side of it will stop, but I keep “hanging in there” hoping one day, I won’t wake up with that 1st thing in my Mind 🧠
    (15 years married & one day she isn’t there when I wake up!) It’s out of a movie & I am just looking for a happy ending in all this 🤷‍♂️ I seem to walk around in a perpetual state of confusion mixed with down right loneliness. I KNOW it has to stop one day. 😊 😢

  • @pepperjack6421
    @pepperjack6421 3 роки тому +16

    The hard part here is, the one I lost was also who I considered my best friend. I work with her. Yeah that’s totally my fault for allowing this to happen, but here we are. I wish I knew how to react, but I’m just gonna embrace the no contact for now. I’m devastated, but devastation sometime just needs a good cleanup to make it cool again.

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      †2348073788494⏭⏯❤️❤️❤️👈Send him a message to meet your soul mate. Go back to your ex. Manifest your specific person and also save your marriage from divorce.🌈🌈🌈💕🌹🌹

  • @DAIIAD999
    @DAIIAD999 3 роки тому +26

    Needed to hear all this. 6 weeks NC having a better day. Still have hope she will contact but coming to terms it may not happen.

    • @jeffjones6089
      @jeffjones6089 3 роки тому

      im mind blown that my ex hasnt yet.... broke up in july

    • @Eatmeatthereforeiam
      @Eatmeatthereforeiam 3 роки тому +5

      You don't need her to contact you. You need to break that attachment like it's an emergency. The longer you allow that attachment to control you the longer you'll be lost. You must understand the answer is found with you. It will be okay and you can be happy

  • @MichaelDonno
    @MichaelDonno 2 роки тому +5

    Patience is what I struggle with, but I know I should leave her to go on her journey. I hope it brings her back to me, but I hope she gets what she wants too. Maybe it’s me, maybe it’s not. But I hope.

  • @dianaf6333
    @dianaf6333 3 роки тому +8

    Your channel and Craig Kenneth's, best channels out there. Thanks for another great video, Coach Lee!

  • @davidcoppotelli3957
    @davidcoppotelli3957 3 роки тому +1

    I have no choice but to stay no contact I put a lot of work into Walking Away . 15 Years of LTR She may not Love Me. But she will Respect me. 7 months No Contact. Thats why I attend your Classes. Good Work here. Thanks.

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому

      Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup 💔 I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.🙏

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому

      What Sapp him now,

  • @mitchelluk1445
    @mitchelluk1445 3 роки тому +3

    Ex broke up with me 3 months ago, we was together for 1 year, there was a age gap me being 17 years older but that never stopped us having lots of fun and enjoying ourselves.
    She reached out a month ago, no questions or "I miss you" so I kept it basic, short and a little fun, haven't heard anything since.
    Today I missed being intermit with her and almost messaged her, this video helped alot...thank you

    • @yuliaagustinastaris7179
      @yuliaagustinastaris7179 3 роки тому

      Your situation is the same as it happened to me. But my BF and I have been in a relationship for 4 years. I always make mistakes and he always remembers everything. I already apologized, But there seems to be no hope of reaching out

    • @mitchelluk1445
      @mitchelluk1445 3 роки тому +2

      @@yuliaagustinastaris7179 we all make mistakes and no relationship is perfect.
      With me she felt like I didn't show enough care towards the end, though she was right a little, I felt we were both at fault for that though, and though we talked about it she just felt we were going different paths in life, I'm 35 she was 19 🙄

    • @mryan4969
      @mryan4969 3 роки тому

      @@mitchelluk1445 those are very different stages of life and different values. you might have to accept that. good luck

  • @grand73am
    @grand73am 2 роки тому +2

    Excellent! I particularly enjoyed the "busy and better mirage" part, which will help alter my thinking about it. Thanks!

  • @modernsociety8382
    @modernsociety8382 3 роки тому +9

    Your breakup videos have really helped me during my sleepless nights

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      †2348073788494⏭⏯❤️❤️❤️??????

    • @babangidaaminu4147
      @babangidaaminu4147 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @Kaida760
    @Kaida760 2 роки тому +1

    This man is a hero we all needed but didn't know about until it was too late. I'm in no contact after pleading and begging out of desperation and loss. I'm working on myself in the meantime. It's incredibly difficult. But I have hope again. It's a win win regardless of the outcome. I'd like her to come back.......but I have to face the fact she might never come back. I've only ever been dumped....so the recurrence can be hard. But it's time to master myself and be stronger in every aspect of my life.

    • @nikolapetrovic3150
      @nikolapetrovic3150 Рік тому

      Did she come back brother?

    • @Kaida760
      @Kaida760 Рік тому

      @@nikolapetrovic3150 She did not. But I made my mistakes. Learned from them and moved on

  • @mehdimehdi6541
    @mehdimehdi6541 3 роки тому +22

    Hi sir ..I just want to say u are so Amazing and the best one ever and the words can't ever express how much an amazing and pure person u are.I listen to most of ur videos each day and in trafic and before I sleep and when I just wake up they make me feel so relief and help me to relax and u really saved me from so big depression after my gf left me for another boy ..and I did what u said no contact and I feel so much better thnx so so so so so much u are the best god bless u sir (sorry of I did some mistakes my English not that good) :)

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому +1

      Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup 💔 I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.🙏

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому +1

      What Sapp him now,

    • @mehdimehdi6541
      @mehdimehdi6541 3 роки тому

      @@adedokunelizabeth2614 thnx so much 😊❤

    • @adedokunelizabeth2614
      @adedokunelizabeth2614 3 роки тому

      @@mehdimehdi6541 you're welcome

  • @annatorrez8135
    @annatorrez8135 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Coach Lee for these exceptional videos!....I started dating @ the age of (19) and most of the guys who left me returned after 4-6 weeks. However, whenever I ended the relationship, I NEVER wanted them back.....Fast forward many years & I'm now (65) who had someone leave just a week ago......& I should have remembered these strategies because I've applied them before.(I've been out of dating loop for 10 years, & I'm currently listening to all of your videos!) You are God sent...Thank you!

  • @JohnDL212
    @JohnDL212 3 роки тому +26

    Thank you Coach Lee. You've been a steady through my rollercoaster of a relationship. I appreciate what you do.