Trust the process it works my ex came back it was a difficult situation. You would think they wouldn’t come back but they do. 31 days of no contact for me she reached out. Trust what coach lee tells you. The work starts after no contact for sure. You need to be patience and do absolutely no contact. Go through the heartache it will make you strong work on yourself during the time she will notice. Your girl/or guy will not forget you and if they are in rebound relationship it will fail no matter what. They will be thinking of you it will not go away. Thank you coach lee I followed everything and re watched your new and older videos during the process. Like I said the work is after no contact. Be different and be more relaxed in your approach. They will notice don’t be needy I’m telling you. Good luck to those still on no contact 30 days or more it will work for you trust the process.
@@fj4731 I'm no expert, but I'd suggest reaching out just one time and walk away if it doesn't work. My point was simply that if they come back after 30 days, then the decision to break up wasn't even a real one from the start, so it's no proof that no contact is what did it. However, no contact is still the best approach, it takes far longer though
@@fj4731 well, the coach says that she'll reach out when she loses the ability to expect you to reach out. So you should maybe hang on to that. But if you lose the ability first, then reach out with the intention of moving on if it doesn't go well, because you might regret breaking no contact
To everyone who doubts NC just think about this 1. your partner is never 100% sure to break up ( if yes well your relationship isn’t worth saving anyway) 2. the same feelings you have after getting dumped and overcoming the shock will hit them as soon as their highlife phase is over All these questions in YOUR head will hit him/her 2-4 weeks later You both had your good and your bad times but the fact that you miss your partner proofs that there was something wonderful to BOTH of you so every time you think about your partner how beatiful this was how beautiful that was the exact same things will go through his/her head at somepoint And don’t worry about getting forgotten this will never happen at all not in 1 month not in 4 months or in 20 years Just stfu and let time do his job
@@fj4731 well if she blames you for her problem she ain’t the right one. Just show her the cold shoulder. Don’t chase someone who burdens her problems on you. Not worth your time
@@ranges787 Thank you so much for your advice ..but I love her I want to get her back ...she broke up with me twice and this is the 3rd time but she said she will leave it to me to decide if I want this 8years relationship and her condition is to forgive her and only meet her once or twice maximum a week ...if I complain too much will cause her mentally unwell she will temper tantrums and Panic attack ..
@@fj4731 i say it as it is let go man she clearly is an unstable individual just because you are with her for 8 years doesn’t mean she is the right one. You were dumped 3 times already she clearly thinks you are a beta that will always be there if she wants to. Cold shoulder my man you deserve better.
@@ranges787 is my fault I caused her emotional stress and she went into panic attack ...I am on 28 days No contact.. I wish to save this LTR no matter even if is 3rd time ..me wanting more of her but she wan me to focus on myself not on her ... How to be Masculine Alpha to make submissive ?
My ex contacted me after 4 months, she sent a flirty text and I answered casually. I think she just wanted an 'ego stroke' because it's been another 4 months of no contact from her side. I have moved on and in love with someone else. Thanks to Coach Lee for his video's that helped me during my darkest days
Last year this time my ex left me on day 46 she tricked me into contacting her. She did the same again. Does it work again after it worked once last year. She kept saying she can't give me what I need and I deserve better. She's off the radar. Hates a phone but constantly online. She blocked me to but unblocked me for a few minutes a week ago. She has another number which she didn't block me on. She has been promising my friend for 2 weeks she'll send my clothes after I said no she can donate it. It's an LRD. So it Def worked last year because exactly on day 46 she started posted statusses which was only meant for me. Our relationship was amazing after that but she did it again. Day 26 of no contact. Some advice?
We must not forget that no contact is about giving them space and your healing and finding out what you really want! What do u need? What did u do wrong? What did he or she do wrong? Dont focus on waiting for them coming back, focus on yourself and be honest about the real reason u want them back. And when they do reach out, have a real and honest conversation with them BEFORE even considering or talking about getting back together because if not, you will end up having the same issues. Take care ❤️
Coach Lee - It was like a miracle that I found your videos after my heart breaking end to an incredible relationship. Three weeks after the initial breakup, we met to give back each other's things and hugged and said we loved each other , but he was very clear that he did not want to get back together. I immediately went into No Contact - and after 2 1/2 extremely anxiety ridden & sad months - He contacted me! We talked about nothing - then the next day he asked me to dinner which I had to decline because I had previous plans. I got a couple of texts but nothing more so I once again went into No Contact. Two weeks later, he contacted me again tonight. We talked for an hour. The break up was due to some of my actions and now being aware of them I'm learning how to deal with my insecurities. Thank you for your informative videos. I'm a big believer in No Contact!
This is so similar to my situation! I hope my ex reaches out to me, I’m on day 39. He said I needed to work on myself, I got clingy and needy towards the end of our relationship and argued with him a little bit 🙁 when I saw him after the breakup, he told me he was going to leave the door open for me but right now we can’t be together
Kathy, that's what happened to us. I was insecure. I told him that I will see a Family/Marriage therapist regularly to deal with this. He said he's going to therapy with me. Haven't seen him for 4 weeks now, and I am dying. I think NC is good bc I want him to return from the heart.
The number one thing to focus on during no contact is getting stronger. When you focus on growing your own power during this time, each and every day without contact is a day you have gained in strength. This can only have one of two effects when and if your ex does reach out: (1) Your increased strength, power and confidence makes you more attractive to your ex, increasing your chance of getting them back, or (2) You will realize that you have become so strong, powerful and confident that you no longer want them back. That is a win-win my friends. Coach Lee is right!
I know my ex isn't going to reach out. 3 weeks after she ended things she got with a new man. It's been a month and a half now and I honestly don't want her back if she ever did try to. I gave her everything, I supported her emotionally and financially and she threw me away like nothing. I deserve someone alot better
That is awful, I'm sorry. It sounds like she does not deserve you, that she did not appreciate you. It will be difficult, a hurdle to jump, but you will find yourself then -- someone else who is your equal and both of you will give and take, not just one person (your SO) taking from you. Best wishes.
I got exactly the same, with a guy. 10 months later, he's still with her. I am blocked and probably considered the worst enemy, despite doing everything for him.. Never did any wrong. Never. but she's a pretty model. Guess that's enough...
@@EffinAllTheTime I'm sorry you're going through this as well. It's been really hard at times, some days I feel like giving up and other days are easier. She blocked me as well and it hurts that the one person I gave everything to is with someone else but all I can do is take things day by day and focus on myself. One day you will find a man that will value and appreciate you. Someone who won't run away and will stand by your side even in the worst of times
You do deserve someone better keep your head up and keep moving forward the best thing is to heal and not have any resentment towards that person wish them the best as it heals you as well. Seek God 1st (if your a believer) and things will fall into place. I’m in the same boat but just keep the head up. Blessings
Thank you Coach Lee for inspiring me and keeping me strong. Day 20 of NC. Guess I am feeling better, not thinking of him too much. I think he will never contact me, or if he does, it will be many years after. My situation is different and because of that I just let my dumper go. Inner peace is utmost for me. And for those who are experiencing a painful hearbreak, put your head up high and pray hard that you go through this. Update: 41st day of NC, still staying strong!
Hiii alil update maybe? how you’ve been doing Look i guess i made a mistake, since i’ve always beg for her to stay in the first week after breakup, i reach out to her often times , so today is my first day, i’ll try to not contact her anymore, any advice from you would be reliefing 🙏🏻
@@Z0FFY512 good to hear that. I am thinking if I reach out to my ex bf, this is the second time we broke up. When we broke up for the first time I went to no contact, he reached out after 12 days and he asked me back. After 9 months we broke up again, he said "Unbelievable, If I don't text you, you never text me too. I don't wanna continue anymore" I was regret I hurt him, today is 5 days of no contact. I miss him badly, I wanna text him but I'm not sure if this is the right time or should I continue no contact?
Guys move on, men or women. Don't wait for your ex to get back or contact you. Yes it hurts, but it's best to focus on today and tomorrow rather than yesterday
No contact is the hardest thing I have ever do . But thanks coach Lee for all your videos. It helped me tremendously. I kept falling off the wagon, it’s been a year and I kept on contacting my ex and so finally I made up my mind and went on NC, it was so hard and at 21 days my ex text me and during this video I was so happy but it wasn’t about what I thought, it’s about the property he was helping to keep clean and wanted to know if I’ve sold it . Even though I told him I already, now I’m back in NC again , hopefully he reaches out again and this time maybe he wants to get back together. Good luck every one
My ex and I were together for 8 years. We got engaged last July. We broke up 3 months ago after I began talking about our wedding. When I pulled out the wedding planning book that’s when he told me about his feelings. He asked for space and time and told me that the spark and motivation wasn’t there anymore. My heart broke. Shattered. I became a hermit. I was angry and demanded answers. I tried to be a good partner and try to understand what happened and what went wrong. After 2 months of fighting (mostly me) I told him we need to stop communication if this is going no where. I finally gathered all that was left in my apt. Have it to him and it’s been 2 weeks of no contact. He told me he wanted to work on himself and that he’s having a hard time accepting the fact that I want to let go… What the hell is that? You let me go, but you’re having a hard time letting me go? I have to let go because my life is in shambles waiting to see if his mind changes? I’m so heartbroken.
that's extremely difficult to hear. My ex has moved on after a 15-year relationship, She now has a new man from our break up like 8 months ago and it is overwhelming for sure!! Good Luck
Karla in 8 years was time enough to find out about his feeling, my question is when someone loves you and is almost ready to marry you, should not take time to figure out what he is missing, in the other side love is kind and easy forget wrongdoing.
@@madlen3015 he definitely is. He doesn’t like any sort of confrontation. He would rather not confront things, let them cool off, turn to water under a bridge rather than conversaré and express his feelings. I believe it has a lot to do with his up bringing and conditioning. Still no excuse to the hurt he gave me. So sudden and out of the blue.
After a 4 year relationship it's been 7/8 months no contact no reach out. I've been seeing someone else. I still think of my ex and still love her in some way. I'm doing alot better then I was. Listen to coach Lee it does get better sooner or later.
If you aren’t over your ex and still love them in the same way it is totally unfair to be in a new relationship and leading that person on and not giving them your all. Do not enter new relationships if you aren’t fully ready.
As times continues to pass (10 months) I realize it’s seriously not worth stressing about your ex. They probably aren’t thinking of you anyways. Unfortunately that’s just the reality. They dumped you like a dead body. They can start their new life now that you’re out of it. Even if they loved you and proved it. They felt weighed down by you. In some shape or form at one or more points during the relationship you held them down from fulfilling future fantasies they want to experience. In the back of my mind I have a slight hope to get a hello, how are you doing recently? text. But the more time passes i realize how much more valuable time really is and how much more YOUR time is worth than their love. Which their love has become fantasy when they are gone so long. How many times in life have fantasies become a reality when you wait on them? Hope everyone hears from their ex and has an awakening on what is really important in life.
you're right. we were nothing to them, despite their big words, that meant nothing.. it hurts like hell.. I wish it was easier. Hope you are doing well x
Dude if you haven’t gotten over this after 10 months I can tell you the problem was you! If you had been dating during those 10 months I guarantee you that you wouldn’t even be writing about this.
@@honducrypto655 Clearly have never experienced an intense bond with someone for a long period of time. Everyone is at their own pace for heartbreak. Including death. I have been dating and it’s nothing close to what I had with my ex. You should be more open minded next time you decide to comment. I bet the house on it you’re inexperienced in dating/relationships
@@honducrypto655 nope. You probably just can't/haven't developed deep, meaningful relationships. Dating someone else doesn't mean you wouldn't rather be with your ex if you had the choice. How's that for a truth bomb lol
@@ameliel8792 lol why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t what to be with you? 😂 grow up turn the page let go. The more you want to be with them the less attractive you become. If that person is not back in 10 months or had made an attempt to get back guess what they are with someone else and you are having a pity party for 10 months. 🙄🙄
thinking about all the things he told me about how unhealthy our relationship is and how much stress I brought to his life. (He blamed all the recent things on me and he was referring t two years ago when I was jobless during covid lockdown?) and I started to feel as stubborn as he is, perhaps he won’t regret the decision and perhaps he will never really figure out our real problems. It is such a pity because despite our recent issues in the past few months, this relationship was the best one. We thought we were right for each other and never thought that we would become like this one day.
My ex will never come back. She left me without any reason 10 months ago. No signs nothing. Just leaving me and our dog. Unfortunately I know that she never reach out again. It is crazy how you one moment can have a intimate relationship and a few days later are like total strangers. We were 2 years together and it still hurts. Every day.
I’m sorry fam !!! I know you wanted her to be the one but she showed her true colors… you deserve better and though you may want her to be the one just know there are some beautiful women out there
Monti, same thing happened with me and my ex. We had a good relationship. We didn't fight or argue. Yes we had disagreements... Valentine's Day was beautiful! Flowers a card saying I love you, dinner and a movie, then intimacy with verbal I love you's... week later while visiting his sister out of state(she had just lost her hsband) we facetimed every day, he said I love you every time...then He emailed me to say it was over!!that was 3 months ago. Im blocked again. He unblocked me doe awhile...nownits back on.💔
@@melindakube1705 i am sorry to hear this. The only thing we can do is somehow to go forward and focus on good things in life. Even though i have pain every day i also tell myself to forget her and move on. It will take time for you and for me but we will come good out fo this. All the blessing to you!
@@monti3699 thank you for your kind words. It's been 3 months and he's not reached out...8m doing No Contact and continuing to believe he 2ill find his way back to me
Awesome video. I agree with this. I have done this in the past with other guys. It worked. It even worked on an ex I did not want back. It takes patience and positivity. Work on yourself. It is not always easy. I am right there with you all. Sending you all love. ❤️
Me and my ex broke up even though we still loved each other. And I remember the last time coach Lee helped me out before I met her, and I was on top of the world. Now the cycle continues, and I hope she’s the one for me, and if not, I hope I heal and become happy again
I did try to speak to my ex about 25 days ago after we break up , she was so angry and agressive , told me that there is no comeback from her side also blocked me everywhere , which was childish , NC since then , you know what I don’t really care anymore , feeling much stronger than ever , massive thanks to Coach Lee as well , he is a true legend!!
I'm into day 6 of NC and my ex messaged me a few days ago asking how long I'll be before I start talking to them again. My ex is a narcissist and wanted to keep me around to do stuff with her and her kids while the dude shes with now, wants nothing to do with them. I'm come to realize after these last few days that she's been using me and never actually loved me. Your videos have been a big help, thank you!
We were together a year and a half. Ex during the breakup said the was a possibility of rekindling something and she would need to see some changes. My ex didn't reach out for six weeks I was finally ready, and then when I did the other day she wondered why I took so long and said it didn't even seem like I even cared during that time. I made a bunch of actionable changes in my life and she still didn't belive me and said shes greived the end of the relationship in 6 weeks and I found out she also started online dating. So much for the words of "I love you". Working on myself alot lost 12 pounds in 3 weeks, new job, been going to therapy making great progress, but man been a rough couple of days waking up and having thoughts of just ending it, missing my best friend, just trying to put one foot in front of the other even if if it feels like death.
I’ve been making a ton of positive changes too (it’s been shy of 2 months in 2 days) I was planning on reaching out tmrw but I’m going to push it till next week, because I know for a fact she isn’t going to reach out. It hurt her really bad leaving me and I realize now I wasn’t in a good spot emotionally/physically and it hurt our relationship. I just hope she understands that I never meant to hurt her and we can possibly rekindle things.
@@jgorogue I think if you decided you’re going to reach out regardless of what’s to happen, sure be in the right headspace but waiting another week just rip of the bandaid and see what’s there. My two cents anyway
@@Nate_The_Great69 I’m not in the right headspace and ngl I want a bit more time to pass before I do, I don’t want her to think I’m rushing into making changes for her. I was very confident about doing it this week but the past week I’m having 2nd thoughts. I’m getting anxious about reaching out and I’ve been consulting my therapist and my parents/siblings and each one says something different about doing so. Ultimately the choice of reaching out is up to me but I’m just very torn and confused if I should.
Hi Nathan....No Contact for 6 weeks but she blame you for not contacting her..but the advice is enough time must pass before she reach out if not break no contact if there is nothing to lose after 3 month ?
My Ex contacted me after 9 months of no contact..mostly we fail to acknowledge to ourselves that they probably left because of our own repeated actions…we got back together and still we had a few rough moments but because of the no contact period, she’s more inclined to compromise when issues arise because of how hard it was to win me back…we surfer more in imagination than reality…keep your head up and always believe you womt lose anyone that genuinely wants to stick it out with you.
Hey Coach Lee thank you for everything you do!!! All these videos and the breakup kit has helped me tremendously. I really can’t thank you enough…..We got back together after 10 freaking years apart (2006-2016). We have been on and off for the last 6 yrs and finally got engaged last Thanksgiving 2021. We have been broken up for about 2 months over some stupid arguments and miss understandings. She called off the engagement. She reached out after a month of NC we talked for a few days and things seemed to be going in the right direction. She said she’d call me back in her last text and I haven’t heard from her in 3 weeks. I haven’t tried to contact her since. It’s a LDR about 3 hrs away from each other. We were seeing each 2-3 long weekends a month depending on work schedules and we had made plans to be closer together in the near future. My question is should I invite her to a concert this weekend? It’s something she really has been dying to see and we talked about before the break up. I bought the tickets a few months ago as a surprise for her birthday and she doesn’t know about it. I feel like I should at least ask if she wants to go? Thanks again for everything and may God Bless You and your family.
Since you two are interacting, it would be fine to offer for her to go with you. Wait as long as you can to give her the opportunity to initiate contact like she said she would.
after 2.5 months i reached out to her . she dumped me for good at that time for absolutely 0 reason , just because she wasnt feeling good emotionally and i got dumped , she said she didnt love me and , now as I said i reached out and guess what ? , she was like a good apple with worms inside . i thought she got 'cured' but actually she wasnt , I made a mistake when i reached again to her because she got even worse , she got courage and thought that i cant live without her and all i was thinking,was thinking about her and she was even more agressive and worse , all i want to say with some short words , love yourself before you love others , even if the person is right to love , love of yourself first and respecting your limits its better and worthy than loving others , cuz people know how to disrespect when it is the most uncomfortable for you and when you need them the most , they punch you in face, they dump you and dump your goods at your face . you dont need your ex to become good again . all you need is strenght and fight for yourself , train your mind, I know its hard but train your mind to love yourself before you get hurt bu hyenas out there :) Thank you coach Lee , all the time i was listening to your videos and you really , I mean REALLY helped me a lot !
This was a very insightful and inspiring video! I also love your advice coach Lee! It's been two months of no contact and still pushing forward, working on myself, and hoping for the best. I am blocked 🚫, but hopefully one day will be unblocked and hear from my ex again. It would be nice to have an apology, but I'd be happy to hear from him either way.
No contact is the best thing I've ever done for myself. It’s been four months for me now. You’re going to have times that you want to cave in. That is normal. You can’t fix normal. When I felt weak, I watched Coach Lee or Coach Ken.
What an incredibly intuitive insightful therapy session about my lifetime flame. I feel so lucky to have found your coaching channel!!! I’ve listened to a few now over & over again since yesterday. Great common sense, & new rules to follow! You have 353 messages here, & I’m 354. Many thanks for these thoughtful words & meaningful messages.
at this point just move on with your life and focus on yourself KING/QUEEN, just move on don't look back. at this point they probably have someone new in they life and trying to move on..
Thanks man for a new video, I just got the news she does not want to try again but it can change with time probably. But coach thanks for all the life advice you gave me and for taking me on this journey all love for you big man❤️❤️❤️💯
Gave my ex the ego stroke after the break up it was a mistake was with her for 5 years so I tried everything. It’s now been 4+ months of no contact and almost a year since we broke up and im doing a lot better she’s not reaching out more of posting immature things looking for guy friends and saying how she’s lonely. Shows you what kind of person you were dating for the years and how much time you wasted when you could of gave that love to someone who really deserved it. We will all meet someone god has it lined up let’s be patient !
Me and a guy I was dating for 2 months ended things. I miss him because of the chemistry I guess but my intuition is saying that he was a tad bit of a narcissist lol. When he comes back, I know I don’t want to deal with that 🚮 For some reason going NC to get him to come back (just for the ego stroke) is helping me to stay away. I think in some cases it’s best to just get over the person altogether. I’ve gotten back to the gym and been making bigger + better moves in my business. Perhaps some of our exes were just there to put the fire back in you to better yourself to meet the REAL person who’s really good for you! God bless and happy no contact folks!
Your videos are keeping me going Coach! 🙏 I broke no contact after 1.5 months (we had a short term but very passionate relationship with a strong depth of connection, so I felt it was appropriate after seeing your video on short term relationships). I suggested a meet up over the phone as the convo was going very well. The meet up also went very well. I was reserved but very positive and was sporting a sassy new look. I didn't talk about our relationship at all, only about positive new things in my life. But it's been over a week and he hasn't reached out. He said at the meetup 'this has been really nice', said he missed me and was also a little flirtacious. He said he would visit me at work 'soon' but didn't set a date or anything. Should I reach out or go back into no contact? Help! I don't want to mess up after doing so well.
Who dumped who ? If he did, go into no contact. Don’t try to keep someone who doesn’t wanna keep you. If you dumped him. Yes, a simple message will do .
@@xanhiett SO I went back into no contact and after 36 days he did visit me at my workplace (this was last week actually). Completely unannounced with a weak excuse for coming 😅 I actually am leaving for another job so he said he would visit me next week on my last day, so he set a specific date this time, but he was very casual. He was very interested in what I was up to and about my new job, we went for a short walk and he spent my breakfast break with me and some mutual colleagues, as he used to work here also. So I think he's moving back towards me and I'm playing it well by being quite reserved. Who knows how next week will go! I'm a little anxious.
@@peachcobbler9394 wow sounds like things are heading in the right direction! Baby steps, that’s god you guys aren’t rushing back into anything yet. It should be earned back🙌
@@xanhiett I almost had a heart attack when he turned up at my work! 😂 I was so surprised. Glad I stuck with no contact, especially as I have genuinely used the time to improve myself. One of the reasons I have a new better job is due to being so productive during no contact, so when I've seen him I've always had new things to share and achievements which were genuine. Wish me luck for his visit next week! 🤞🏻😩 I'll update on this feed!
My ex told me she moved on and told me to move on. We were together for 9 years. We have been broken up for 3 months. We had a big blow up over her 19 y/o son that was living with us. He had a girlfriend and she started sleeping at our house every night. I wasn't happy about that!
no contact by itself doesn't work at all. you legit have to just not care about them on the deepest level possible. at that point they'll have to win YOU back and make you fall for them again.
The danger of this channel is for people who are bound up by narcissist or obsessed with people who are not interested in them. This is the danger of you constantly hoping that someone comes back. You broke up for a reason. You broke up because you weren't getting along... my recommendation to everyone on this channel is to study narcissism deeply and profoundly because you are probably an empath who have been bound up and taken captive by a narcissist. HG Tudor and Shaman are the best teachers I found.
Thank you for the new video. Your videos have been so helpful and comforting. Our break up has reached 57 days. My ex was slipping away from me as his BPD mental illness got worse with a change of medication. Whilst we texted he went into psychotic break. It, to me, was a sudden break up. After three weeks he had a hook up. That was hurtful. He hasn’t tried once to reach out. On top of it we are 350 miles away from each other. These two factors complicate things. I began flirting with other guys in the meantime. He and I had good times. I visited him in California (I live in Southern Nevada. I haven’t posted myself with other men as the flirting is online. I’m spending my time with my daughters and working hard. Little does he know I will not be rude or nasty to him if he were to reach out. I’ve come to a place where I am ok with it. We were so in love hence the pain. However I’m now ok. Thank you Coach Lee as you’ve helped me
Your ex will reach out when they are in pain. My ex finally reached out after a year. Her friend was passing and she felt the need to tell me. While had met her friend a few times. I found it odd my ex felt the need to reach out. Two things happened when I saw her message. I got angry because of the way it was written. Felt a bit sad because her friend was a really sweet person. Best thing to do is wait a few hours before responding. Get your emotions under control. Then respond.
Hi coach, i was commenting a lot esp last yr about your vids. I think i did the right thing esp when we we ended the dating mutually and peacefull. No chasing, no begging. I did no contact 95%. I worked on my self and the changes was super obvious. Finally after 1.4yrs he just suddenly text me and said he was still thinking about me although i know(he doesnt know) that he was dating somebody. I asked him why, he said maybe because of our good memories. Im trying to play it cool and i set my expectations low esp of getting back, not texting often. Im trying to be very careful as ive got the power back. But all in all, im happy with my body and self improvement. Thanks to your vids!
Damn I was cold. A little emotionally detached...ok a lot...I was insensitive and dealing wth unaddressed trauma...and I pushed her away for weeks and then one day I denied her affection and she started to go the other way...and now i messed up so bad idk if I can get her back. We had a decent relationship but circumstances made it a real struggle...we had a bunch of happy times but not a peaceful relationship due to our circumstances. She just has this bad perception of me and I pray I get a chance to be open now to her. Damn pray I have a chnace
We broke up a month ago and in no contact already for 3 weeks now. Its really painful but i need to be strong. We had. A good relationship but unfortunately he fell out of love, that he needs to fix himself, that i deserve some one better 😢 now he started sending messages to my friends which is he never do when we are together, but not asking about me. I dnt know maybe he is just hoping my friends will tell him something about me. Maybe he started being curious. I love him so much but he dont want me to be in his life anymore. Thats why i am staying strong to be in no contact wishing one day he will realize my worth again. And at the same time i will gain my worth as well. Thanx coach lee for the videos. Its helping us
Hi Lee, another GREAT video. I always look forward to your new videos. For me, in my situation, if one day went by, and I was having any type of relationship problem, you are the one I would contact, and even request a one on one with you. It's a different breakup for me as you know, I was with a narcissist. Right now I'm doing well, I'm dating, but there are days when I do think of him. It's only normal. Even though you are apart from someone you loved, it's normal to think of them sometimes. One thing for sure, I will ALWAYS listen to your videos. You are the BEST coach I ever found. God bless you. HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY! 😀
My wife was with a narcissist before me, he and my ex got together and utterly destroyed our relationship. Can anyone point me in the direction of someone who could educate me on how to deal with this seemingly impossible situation?
@Matthew Matthew, I was also with a narcissist for 5 years before I finally left him. Yes, they do have a GREAT affect on you. I went to Therapy for 1 year, I read self-help books, and most of all, I got out of the house with my friends. Stay busy, and stay away from these MONSTERS. Your wife was traumatized, so give her TIME. Be kind & understanding with her bcse she went thru a lot. Things DO GET BETTER. I'M LIVING PROOF. Good luck to you..❤️⚘️BTW, if she accepts therapy, that would be great! Also, Coach Lee has 2 videos in his Library about narcissism, and they are always available.
Could you do a video on on again off again relationships. Do they ever work out? How can we stop it from happening? Should you just give up on these type of relationships? Thanks 🙏🏻
My ex contacted my yall this man is no joke . He is the shiznit . Complete and honest man. Thank you coach Lee you saved me this last week and possibly this failing relationship
@Coach Lee, what if I have been listening to some songs he sent me before the breakup and now my listenings are reflected into a blend playlist we share on spotify? Is this breaking no contact? Thank you, I'm afraid I'm messing up things while trying to do my best to stay away.
She broke up with me after 9 months when I revealed I have a child (not involved, whole other story), that was on the 7th of May, currently about to enter into day 3 of no contact after sending a clean slate message. I had a call with Coach Ken today which provided some insight, he thinks I have a good chance if I commit to no contact but it could take time. Im okay in my self, I’ve quit drinking since it happened, been training daily, reading lots about emotions, relationships. I feel so much stronger since finding Coach Lee, I have a direction and even if we don’t get back together I will be twice as strong as I was before. If you see this Lee, thank you. I purchased your breakup kit and have been watching your channel religiously!
Tyler sometimes I hold back with quickly telling people I have children because humans judge!! I like for the relationship to organically develop without being judged so I completely understand you. I think it's even harder for women when we have kids. I have dated professional athletes ,and regular guys. Once I told them 99.9% were fine with this. If someone really cares about you they will not just leave over you having a child, especially in this generation! I'm proud of you I have a family history of people turning to drinking because of health issues etc. I have even slowed up myself because depression and anxiety will take you there. Yes read and look at some mediation music for healing and heartbreak on UA-cam they help. Well wishes to you and your little one. In time things will get better. 🌅💛🤗
@Tyler: to be honest i would go away and never look back if i would found out my date or partner has a child. Even if not in his life. Nothing to be mad about, not everybody wants that in there life.
@@radar4536 I understand that and would be fine with it but I think in her case it’s more shock as she said things would have been different if I’d told her sooner. But thank you for your comment
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb ofcourse it is a shock but even after that it would be normaln for her to leave this situation. Maybe she will be back, but i just want you to know that it is nothing to be mad about.
Had 2 wonderful coaching calls with Coach Ken, he's giving me a lot of strenght. 2 months and a half of no contact and I don't think my ex is going to reach out, I'm feeling hopeless and sometimes it's hard going through the days, but I know i will be ok either way.
7:07 Coach Lee is proud of me! :) I don't know why but it does help a little bit that someone says I'm doing the right thing. It's difficult... (day 8 of no contact) Thanks Coach for all the good solid advice.
@@melp5879 I pushed through and kept the no contact. I kept on hoping, but I didn't hear from him again... I am now dating someone else. And he's lovely. With this man I don't have to wonder. He puts me first. He make it obvious that I am his priority. This is how it should be.
FML. been in no contact for a little over a month now and as it was my birthday yesterday, I knew my ex was probably going to reach out to wish me a happy birthday so i was really anxious about it. he sent a simple short message that read: "happy birthday, you are and will always be really fucking special. hope you have a great day 💞" (he couldn't even commit to the regular heart emoji as that would probably imply something he didn't want to imply). i know it doesn't say much but it means a lot. until then i had high hopes because he had reached out once before asking me if i hated him because i broke contact, and i told him i didn't. everything seemed to be going as should be expected according to lee and other relationship experts. but somehow i feel that this settles it. "you'll always be special to me", like a memory from the past that he holds dear. i'm devastated.
Im 9 months of no contact without any sign of contact from her. Last week was horrible I felt like all the confidence that I have in the beginning was shit and with no hope anymore because she’s dating someone I was suspicious since the beginning. Im trying to hold on because I understand that no message that I can send to her will cause any change because she left me and hasn’t contact me is because she doesn’t want me.
My ex and I were together for 3 years. It was a great relationship, and we had a great time. However, she broke with me, and I made the mistake of not going into No Contact. We talked everyday for 5 months, we helped each other, at one point she said she was considering going back together, but at the end we both decided to do no contact. 1 month and a half later, she is with someone else, and i think it's a rebound, because the guy is very different from me, much older, and I think they don't have much in common. Recently, we talked again, and it was like when we were together, laughing and feeling that special connection that we have.The next day, we had a videocall. She was crying, saying that she still loves me and has feelings for me. She even told me that she sometimes regrets her choice of this guy over me, and that is inevitable for her to watch our photos and videos. Moreover, she told me that now she has evolved into a very lazy person, she has lost interest in her hobbies and that she fights a lot with her parents, specially about this guy. However, sometimes tells me that she is feeling very good with him, and I don't understand what she really feels for me. Do you think I still have a shot? And, what should I do now? Thanks to everybody!
My Ex GF (of 1 yr, & Engaged) sent me a video stating "MOM says "YOU ARE A KEEPER, BUT I SAID I DON'T KNOW HOW TO KEEP HIM!" 26 yr old daughter said "I KNOW HE TREATS U LIKE A QUEEN" My BEAUTIFUL QUEEN suffers from Bipolar. Not sure where she is coming from!! NC began today. She always been a Side CHICK(her words). & they all left her! I'm not waiting months!!!!
I think if you keep breaking up, one of you are not doing the work to communicate better, or if you feel you both are doing absolutely their best and it still keeps ending, you're probably not suited to each other.
I appreciate your videos and I have watched a lot since my break up, but I haven’t found one by you that goes over no contact working after the most extreme cases of post break up mistakes and I would appreciate it if I could get one because it’s hard to believe that it may work in my situation. And I know that no contact isn’t meant to get my ex back but I just want to hear of it working on an ex girlfriend specifically. Thanks.
My ex wont reach out, not soon or even in the future. She just in new relationship with someone after a month of our broke up, and she looks happy either way. It is so sad, but right now all i can do is accept the reality.
My ex has reached out 3 times since he broke up with me at the end of March. It’s been long distance the whole time and because of the pandemic being physically together has been impossible. Last I heard from him was 2.5 weeks ago to say happy Mother’s Day. I don’t even know what to think, I told him I wouldn’t be his friend when he ended it and yet he reaches out anyways. I’ve never broken no contact in fact this is exactly what I do but nature, given how we met and that we’ve never been in the same room I want to think it’s impossible but then he’s still contacting me… I’m confused.
You need to do a video on why an ex reaches out. My ex recently reached out looking for sympathy for a her girlfriend. It has been over a year since my ex and I had exchanged any communication. Nothing from her. She appeared to be happy with her ex or “friend” she went to see after breaking up with me. So it was interesting to see a message from her after a year. I did send my condolences for her girlfriend. And left it like that. On a positive note. I have someone new now. Been seeing her for a few months on and off. My head is in a better place. Confidence is back to normal. If I can do it. So can you.
After 9 months broken up. She’s never going to reach out again. I made the mistake of reaching out with a friendly text after 5 months no contact. Big mistake. No contact means no contact forever.
My ex contacted me after a month nc and said he misses me and loves me still..I said I'm open to it but he doesn't/ can't have a relationship whilst he's suffering some financial troubles...I said we have different values atm.He said sorry...I'm back into nc...its so difficult but you have to hold out for your needs to be met or depart...I feel stronger everyday...
To be honest I don’t expect my ex to break no contact anytime soon. It’s been 10 months since he broke things off with me and if he and I ever do reconnect sometime down the line it will have to be as friends (no more getting romantically involved). Plus I don’t think I will be able to handle it if he rejected me a third time.
Hello coach thank you so much for this videos..we split up with my ex boyfriend 3 months ago.but he's the one who sent me a message but I was still hoping that we are going to be ok.i still love him.
Been three years. She left for no reason literally none I treated her like gold. I did the no contact never bothered her. She never reached out. Still kills me
April 17th, my ex and I mutually agreed to break up. We didn't see much of each other for a week or so. We started hanging out again, but with no expectations. It felt good and real. We had the most passionate and loving, love making sessions. We didn't technically start dating again. I found out around May 14th that she was now talking to someone and had lied to me on a few occasions about what she was actually doing over that previous few days. I was heartbroken. I had fallen deeper in love and she found someone else. We hung out 2 more times, but it was too painful. She wished me a happy birthday. I went into NC and she reached out 5 days later to see how I was doing. We had a short conversation. Just her asking about my kids. She is the type of person that would get pissed if I ignored her. It is now almost 5 more days of NC and I'm just missing her.
@@RealCoachLee Thank you so much for linking this other video, it really helped me realize a lot to move on. I knew she had a few mental problems but looking more into it, I realized that she really checked off everything for BPD and this video made me realize a lot about her. I appreciate this a lot. Maybe you can do a video on the subject as well?
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb after the break up i begged and chased for almost a month she ghosted me. I applied no contact rule for 3 weeks and i did not post any drama i just chnage profile photo improving myself. She contacted me and wants to return my things ...
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb i remembered coach lee said that dont ignore your ex ... I replied casual and polite then applied no contact rule again ... Then she contacted me again. Then i applied n r again .... In a few days she finally decided to to go to my work place and meet me.
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb ive watched other coaches but this coach lee is different... If the ex reaches dont ignore its critical. She admitted she is spying and stalking my fb.. i notice that after applying ncr she stop posting and started blocking me ! But she unblock me after a day ... She wass affected and curious why imo not chasing hehe... Im patiently silently applying ncr ...
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb she admitted she is chatting with other guy as a rebound but if you were a good boyfriend and you did not cheat and applied ncr and respect her dicision it will made her realize the fear of loss coz im also dated someone 1 time ......no contact rule is powerful it will save ur dignity at least returning your ex is just a bonus ... Months of watvhing all coach lees videos it helps me understand things about relationship nd made me better man
Hello coach! I really appreciate finding your videos . It was at the exact needed moment My ex broke up with me after almost 7 years . I am his first girlfriend and he said he needed to see other people before committing but wants to be friends still I have been in contact with him and we hanged out this week 3 times How do I start no contact ? Should I tell him or just slowly fade away We had a conversation before 2 but we both broke the no contact at some point. We broke up on march . What should I do 😭😢
@@RealCoachLee Mr lee Sir, I love a girl who call me brother .she treats me super but call me brother , is it possible to make her fall in love with me?? Anticipating your reply
She reached out after a month, but only for friendship. We had a few positive interaction but.. I messed up by showing her how hurt I was, and she blocked me and told me we're done I don't know what else to do, but I still want her back, can someone please help?
@@thehavoc6331 I think you should not accept the friendship and whe nshe did reach you should be cautions cause it was a test, at that point you should just be playful but not committed, let her have her way in while you focus on yourself, I made some mistakes too during no contact like insta stories at parties or dates at the 1 2 week, but I also did stop that work on myself and the next stories will be me traveling and do MY stuff, you should try it too even if does not work you will feel better
We were immature, I can admit that, both said we loved one another. It’s been a year man and I’m still hurting. It’s been about 3 months since I made my statement to her I just said I was done with the games and wanted her to be real. I think she’s gone, but it’s still painful
@@Afternoon99 I don’t know…. We never actually “broke up” because we were never officially “together”. It was more like two best friends that made a mistake… I just got to live with the hurt and baggage that came from that relationship with my closest friend falling apart.
@@Afternoon99 she did,to go back to her not quite divorced husband, which i didn’t even know about, only to divorce him 6 months later. Im pretty sure I was just a useful tool in the scenario, still hurts.
I went through a similar thing. Probably less though. We only hungout a couple times, but for some reason she started to pull away. I went no contact and do did she. It's been a little over a month. Nothing really bad ever happened. No arguments. Who knows.
Thank you coach Lee you have provided me with reason to go into no contact. In order to possibly rekindle and save our relationship she did ask me for space and to stop contacting her. Thanks coach for advising me into the right direction. Drop my overwhelming validating behavior which was repelling her level of attraction dropped. :( I hope the outcome of NC will be good for both of us in regards to maybe my ex coming back. By showing my ex that I can respect her space and time hope we can reconcile the mistakes. Waiting to see if or when she will reachbout again thank you coach.
What should I do if I told her not to contact me after she dumped me? It’s been 2 months of no contact so far. I really don’t think she will reach out because of that
hey ik i’m not coach lol but i’d maybe wait another month and then maybe reach out if ur up to it bc they may srsly not reach out bc of what u said even if they want to.
Hello coach am so grateful I met yo platform of real life i call it, Me and my ex had such a wonderful time for a year but slowly in this year. I texted her morning like we always used to do it before heading to work because i could start my work 2 hrs before her, she texted back as usual wen she gets at work and i find the reply during my break time. unfortunately i ran out of data as we were trying to chat during the break, she thout maybe i had ghosted her, she called in evening time after my work and fumed before even getting to here my words and then she said it's over and blocked me 😔i calm my self down without saying anything back to her,after 3 days she called me that she wants us meet physically for a talk. but she failed initiating time to reach out for the meeting and ghosted me fo 2 weeks. i got pieced off and sent her belongs to her. I texted her abt it and just replied OK as if thats what she wanted. she expected me to go down on my knees as i always used to. After amonth of no contact, she blocked me on all social platforms. what can I do and did i do anything wrong anywhere? help coach 🙏
Great video as usual buddy - learning to not give in to fearful thinking and trust the power of time and being your best version of you are the keys to sustaining No Contact until the hit the tipping point
Took me three years to go back. I met him at a party 9 months ago and could not forget him after that. We broke up in a weird way. I finally decided to be brave and contact him. He really enjoyed seeing me also. We have a date this week. ☺
I’ve watched almost all your videos, but I’m feeling very confused with what I’ve been dealing with. Ex and I were together for almost 3 years, I did no contact and it upset him after 10 days of no contact. He would call me, text me, say he misses me. I didn’t ignore him like you said, I was polite and let him do most of the work. Then we wouldn’t talk for a few days and the cycle would repeat itself until he reached out again. It’s been over a month or two of this. It hurts every time like a fresh wound and I feel now I’ve only made the break up easier for him and will get put in the friend zone. I don’t know what to do, you say not to ignore him, but does being there for him every time he reaches out now help me in the long term? He’s also been hanging out with another woman at the same time and told me he didn’t want me to get the wrong idea from her calling him because him and I had been connecting again.
I would continue no contact and start considering if this person is truly good for you. Never forget that YOU are the prize. It's his lost if he can't or won't see it.
During the breakup, I told her I loved her and would reach out after two weeks but I didn't because I wasn't ready. After the two weeks, I instead went to a party and my friend took a picture of me talking to another girl and sent it to her. A few hours later she posts on Instagram herself wearing makeup with her friend. Its been 6 weeks since the breakup. Idk if I ruined the chances of her coming back.
I mean it wasn’t right of your friend to take a picture of you talking to another girl and out of all things send it to her. Pretty bad friend and would say they made things difficult.
@@jgorogue It wasn't directly to her, instead it was in a snapchat group chat of 10 people and I knew about it few hours after she sent it so I could've told her to delete it before my ex saw it but I didn't because in the moment I wanted to make her mad. However, I think I might regret it. She ended up leaving the group chat 4 weeks after the break up.
I Like your videos Coach Lee, but is there a time for which its too late ? like is 1year+ still hopeful for them to come back ? have you seen lots of people that have their ex come back after 1+ year of no contact ?
@@lutaayam a few months best thing you can do is work on yourself and upgrade your life you won’t care much. When you stop caring is when they usually pop back in. Hit the gym and read a book by Corey Wayne called 3% man
My ex reached yesterday after 40ish days of NC. She is with someone now, so she may be trying to get me to be a “friend.” I won’t play that game, but I hope I get her back. I was an ahole to her for a year and half and I never appreciated her until she left me. I’ll keep hope and if I get her back, I’ll cherish her like she did me.
It’s been over 4 months of no contact and am wondering if we past the stage where she might contact me at all. We had a very close, high intimacy relationship with low conflict. I was needy with old trauma getting in the way
@tosh - you're not alone, stay strong and keep on improving yourself. I'm also in NC for almost 4 months now (dumpee & in LDR). I'm waiting until my birthday next month for a sign. If none, then I take it that it's time for me to let go. Good luck.
Trust the process it works my ex came back it was a difficult situation. You would think they wouldn’t come back but they do. 31 days of no contact for me she reached out. Trust what coach lee tells you. The work starts after no contact for sure. You need to be patience and do absolutely no contact. Go through the heartache it will make you strong work on yourself during the time she will notice. Your girl/or guy will not forget you and if they are in rebound relationship it will fail no matter what. They will be thinking of you it will not go away. Thank you coach lee I followed everything and re watched your new and older videos during the process. Like I said the work is after no contact. Be different and be more relaxed in your approach. They will notice don’t be needy I’m telling you. Good luck to those still on no contact 30 days or more it will work for you trust the process.
Bruh 30 days is nothing, 4 months here and zero signs it'll work
@@fj4731 I'm no expert, but I'd suggest reaching out just one time and walk away if it doesn't work. My point was simply that if they come back after 30 days, then the decision to break up wasn't even a real one from the start, so it's no proof that no contact is what did it. However, no contact is still the best approach, it takes far longer though
@@fj4731 well, the coach says that she'll reach out when she loses the ability to expect you to reach out. So you should maybe hang on to that. But if you lose the ability first, then reach out with the intention of moving on if it doesn't go well, because you might regret breaking no contact
How long were you two originally together?
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To everyone who doubts NC just think about this
1. your partner is never 100% sure to break up ( if yes well your relationship isn’t worth saving anyway)
2. the same feelings you have after getting dumped and overcoming the shock will hit them as soon as their highlife phase is over
All these questions in YOUR head will hit him/her 2-4 weeks later
You both had your good and your bad times but the fact that you miss your partner proofs that there was something wonderful to BOTH of you so every time you think about your partner how beatiful this was how beautiful that was the exact same things will go through his/her head at somepoint
And don’t worry about getting forgotten this will never happen at all not in 1 month not in 4 months or in 20 years
Just stfu and let time do his job
she will miss me bad😤😤😤
@@fj4731 well if she blames you for her problem she ain’t the right one. Just show her the cold shoulder. Don’t chase someone who burdens her problems on you. Not worth your time
@@ranges787 Thank you so much for your advice ..but I love her I want to get her back ...she broke up with me twice and this is the 3rd time but she said she will leave it to me to decide if I want this 8years relationship and her condition is to forgive her and only meet her once or twice maximum a week ...if I complain too much will cause her mentally unwell she will temper tantrums and Panic attack ..
@@fj4731 i say it as it is let go man she clearly is an unstable individual just because you are with her for 8 years doesn’t mean she is the right one. You were dumped 3 times already she clearly thinks you are a beta that will always be there if she wants to. Cold shoulder my man you deserve better.
@@ranges787 is my fault I caused her emotional stress and she went into panic attack ...I am on 28 days No contact..
I wish to save this LTR no matter even if is 3rd time ..me wanting more of her but she wan me to focus on myself not on her ...
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My ex contacted me after 4 months, she sent a flirty text and I answered casually. I think she just wanted an 'ego stroke' because it's been another 4 months of no contact from her side. I have moved on and in love with someone else. Thanks to Coach Lee for his video's that helped me during my darkest days
Exactly, thats why Lucia ( art of love ) says do not respond to insignificant messages!
Last year this time my ex left me on day 46 she tricked me into contacting her. She did the same again. Does it work again after it worked once last year. She kept saying she can't give me what I need and I deserve better. She's off the radar. Hates a phone but constantly online. She blocked me to but unblocked me for a few minutes a week ago. She has another number which she didn't block me on. She has been promising my friend for 2 weeks she'll send my clothes after I said no she can donate it. It's an LRD. So it Def worked last year because exactly on day 46 she started posted statusses which was only meant for me. Our relationship was amazing after that but she did it again. Day 26 of no contact. Some advice?
Because my ex is a woman
Did she ever try and come back
Probably because she mistook you being casual as a lack of interest
It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖
❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤
We must not forget that no contact is about giving them space and your healing and finding out what you really want! What do u need? What did u do wrong? What did he or she do wrong? Dont focus on waiting for them coming back, focus on yourself and be honest about the real reason u want them back. And when they do reach out, have a real and honest conversation with them BEFORE even considering or talking about getting back together because if not, you will end up having the same issues. Take care ❤️
Coach Lee - It was like a miracle that I found your videos after my heart breaking end to an incredible relationship. Three weeks after the initial breakup, we met to give back each other's things and hugged and said we loved each other , but he was very clear that he did not want to get back together. I immediately went into No Contact - and after 2 1/2 extremely anxiety ridden & sad months - He contacted me! We talked about nothing - then the next day he asked me to dinner which I had to decline because I had previous plans. I got a couple of texts but nothing more so I once again went into No Contact. Two weeks later, he contacted me again tonight. We talked for an hour. The break up was due to some of my actions and now being aware of them I'm learning how to deal with my insecurities. Thank you for your informative videos. I'm a big believer in No Contact!
I wish it will work on me as well. Its really tough! I wish there is a pain reliever for these 😢
This is so similar to my situation! I hope my ex reaches out to me, I’m on day 39. He said I needed to work on myself, I got clingy and needy towards the end of our relationship and argued with him a little bit 🙁 when I saw him after the breakup, he told me he was going to leave the door open for me but right now we can’t be together
Kathy, that's what happened to us. I was insecure. I told him that I will see a Family/Marriage therapist regularly to deal with this. He said he's going to therapy with me. Haven't seen him for 4 weeks now, and I am dying. I think NC is good bc I want him to return from the heart.
omg this gave me so much hope
Did you achieve something?
Coach’s looking good. Must be working on himself while he waits for his ex
The number one thing to focus on during no contact is getting stronger. When you focus on growing your own power during this time, each and every day without contact is a day you have gained in strength. This can only have one of two effects when and if your ex does reach out: (1) Your increased strength, power and confidence makes you more attractive to your ex, increasing your chance of getting them back, or (2) You will realize that you have become so strong, powerful and confident that you no longer want them back. That is a win-win my friends. Coach Lee is right!
Sometimes they don’t come back. Stay strong and move on.
I know my ex isn't going to reach out. 3 weeks after she ended things she got with a new man. It's been a month and a half now and I honestly don't want her back if she ever did try to. I gave her everything, I supported her emotionally and financially and she threw me away like nothing. I deserve someone alot better
That is awful, I'm sorry. It sounds like she does not deserve you, that she did not appreciate you. It will be difficult, a hurdle to jump, but you will find yourself then -- someone else who is your equal and both of you will give and take, not just one person (your SO) taking from you. Best wishes.
I got exactly the same, with a guy. 10 months later, he's still with her. I am blocked and probably considered the worst enemy, despite doing everything for him.. Never did any wrong. Never. but she's a pretty model. Guess that's enough...
@@EffinAllTheTime I'm sorry you're going through this as well. It's been really hard at times, some days I feel like giving up and other days are easier. She blocked me as well and it hurts that the one person I gave everything to is with someone else but all I can do is take things day by day and focus on myself. One day you will find a man that will value and appreciate you. Someone who won't run away and will stand by your side even in the worst of times
Forget these 🤡 you both deserve better
You do deserve someone better keep your head up and keep moving forward the best thing is to heal and not have any resentment towards that person wish them the best as it heals you as well. Seek God 1st (if your a believer) and things will fall into place. I’m in the same boat but just keep the head up. Blessings
Thank you Coach Lee for inspiring me and keeping me strong. Day 20 of NC. Guess I am feeling better, not thinking of him too much. I think he will never contact me, or if he does, it will be many years after. My situation is different and because of that I just let my dumper go. Inner peace is utmost for me. And for those who are experiencing a painful hearbreak, put your head up high and pray hard that you go through this.
Update: 41st day of NC, still staying strong!
Hiii alil update maybe? how you’ve been doing
Look i guess i made a mistake, since i’ve always beg for her to stay in the first week after breakup, i reach out to her often times , so today is my first day, i’ll try to not contact her anymore, any advice from you would be reliefing 🙏🏻
@@Z0FFY512 update?
@@PSJ2102 Back together already, we understand each other more now, hope things will only gets better
@@Z0FFY512 good to hear that. I am thinking if I reach out to my ex bf, this is the second time we broke up. When we broke up for the first time I went to no contact, he reached out after 12 days and he asked me back. After 9 months we broke up again, he said "Unbelievable, If I don't text you, you never text me too. I don't wanna continue anymore" I was regret I hurt him, today is 5 days of no contact. I miss him badly, I wanna text him but I'm not sure if this is the right time or should I continue no contact?
@@PSJ2102 first of all what’s the main problem in your relationship? what make you guys broke up? what he needs?
Guys move on, men or women. Don't wait for your ex to get back or contact you. Yes it hurts, but it's best to focus on today and tomorrow rather than yesterday
No contact is the hardest thing I have ever do . But thanks coach Lee for all your videos. It helped me tremendously. I kept falling off the wagon, it’s been a year and I kept on contacting my ex and so finally I made up my mind and went on NC, it was so hard and at 21 days my ex text me and during this video I was so happy but it wasn’t about what I thought, it’s about the property he was helping to keep clean and wanted to know if I’ve sold it . Even though I told him I already, now I’m back in NC again , hopefully he reaches out again and this time maybe he wants to get back together. Good luck every one
My ex and I were together for 8 years. We got engaged last July. We broke up 3 months ago after I began talking about our wedding. When I pulled out the wedding planning book that’s when he told me about his feelings. He asked for space and time and told me that the spark and motivation wasn’t there anymore. My heart broke. Shattered. I became a hermit. I was angry and demanded answers. I tried to be a good partner and try to understand what happened and what went wrong. After 2 months of fighting (mostly me) I told him we need to stop communication if this is going no where. I finally gathered all that was left in my apt. Have it to him and it’s been 2 weeks of no contact. He told me he wanted to work on himself and that he’s having a hard time accepting the fact that I want to let go…
What the hell is that? You let me go, but you’re having a hard time letting me go? I have to let go because my life is in shambles waiting to see if his mind changes? I’m so heartbroken.
that's extremely difficult to hear. My ex has moved on after a 15-year relationship, She now has a new man from our break up like 8 months ago and it is overwhelming for sure!! Good Luck
Karla in 8 years was time enough to find out about his feeling, my question is when someone loves you and is almost ready to marry you, should not take time to figure out what he is missing, in the other side love is kind and easy forget wrongdoing.
I think he just got cold feet and i think he is an avoidant? Anyway, stay in no contact and let him feel how it is to Lose you.
@@TheBizusa I agree. It’s just so heartbreaking and confusing.
@@madlen3015 he definitely is. He doesn’t like any sort of confrontation. He would rather not confront things, let them cool off, turn to water under a bridge rather than conversaré and express his feelings. I believe it has a lot to do with his up bringing and conditioning. Still no excuse to the hurt he gave me. So sudden and out of the blue.
Coach Lee is doing no contact bombardments once a week now. I love it
After a 4 year relationship it's been 7/8 months no contact no reach out. I've been seeing someone else. I still think of my ex and still love her in some way. I'm doing alot better then I was. Listen to coach Lee it does get better sooner or later.
If you aren’t over your ex and still love them in the same way it is totally unfair to be in a new relationship and leading that person on and not giving them your all. Do not enter new relationships if you aren’t fully ready.
As times continues to pass (10 months) I realize it’s seriously not worth stressing about your ex. They probably aren’t thinking of you anyways. Unfortunately that’s just the reality. They dumped you like a dead body. They can start their new life now that you’re out of it. Even if they loved you and proved it. They felt weighed down by you. In some shape or form at one or more points during the relationship you held them down from fulfilling future fantasies they want to experience. In the back of my mind I have a slight hope to get a hello, how are you doing recently? text. But the more time passes i realize how much more valuable time really is and how much more YOUR time is worth than their love. Which their love has become fantasy when they are gone so long. How many times in life have fantasies become a reality when you wait on them? Hope everyone hears from their ex and has an awakening on what is really important in life.
you're right. we were nothing to them, despite their big words, that meant nothing.. it hurts like hell.. I wish it was easier. Hope you are doing well x
Dude if you haven’t gotten over this after 10 months I can tell you the problem was you! If you had been dating during those 10 months I guarantee you that you wouldn’t even be writing about this.
@@honducrypto655 Clearly have never experienced an intense bond with someone for a long period of time. Everyone is at their own pace for heartbreak. Including death. I have been dating and it’s nothing close to what I had with my ex. You should be more open minded next time you decide to comment. I bet the house on it you’re inexperienced in dating/relationships
@@honducrypto655 nope. You probably just can't/haven't developed deep, meaningful relationships. Dating someone else doesn't mean you wouldn't rather be with your ex if you had the choice. How's that for a truth bomb lol
@@ameliel8792 lol why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t what to be with you? 😂 grow up turn the page let go. The more you want to be with them the less attractive you become. If that person is not back in 10 months or had made an attempt to get back guess what they are with someone else and you are having a pity party for 10 months. 🙄🙄
thinking about all the things he told me about how unhealthy our relationship is and how much stress I brought to his life. (He blamed all the recent things on me and he was referring t two years ago when I was jobless during covid lockdown?) and I started to feel as stubborn as he is, perhaps he won’t regret the decision and perhaps he will never really figure out our real problems. It is such a pity because despite our recent issues in the past few months, this relationship was the best one. We thought we were right for each other and never thought that we would become like this one day.
My ex will never come back. She left me without any reason 10 months ago. No signs nothing. Just leaving me and our dog. Unfortunately I know that she never reach out again. It is crazy how you one moment can have a intimate relationship and a few days later are like total strangers. We were 2 years together and it still hurts. Every day.
Horrible
I’m sorry fam !!! I know you wanted her to be the one but she showed her true colors… you deserve better and though you may want her to be the one just know there are some beautiful women out there
Monti, same thing happened with me and my ex. We had a good relationship. We didn't fight or argue. Yes we had disagreements...
Valentine's Day was beautiful! Flowers a card saying I love you, dinner and a movie, then intimacy with verbal I love you's... week later while visiting his sister out of state(she had just lost her hsband) we facetimed every day, he said I love you every time...then
He emailed me to say it was over!!that was 3 months ago. Im blocked again. He unblocked me doe awhile...nownits back on.💔
@@melindakube1705 i am sorry to hear this. The only thing we can do is somehow to go forward and focus on good things in life. Even though i have pain every day i also tell myself to forget her and move on. It will take time for you and for me but we will come good out fo this. All the blessing to you!
@@monti3699 thank you for your kind words. It's been 3 months and he's not reached out...8m doing No Contact and continuing to believe he 2ill find his way back to me
Awesome video. I agree with this. I have done this in the past with other guys. It worked. It even worked on an ex I did not want back. It takes patience and positivity. Work on yourself. It is not always easy. I am right there with you all. Sending you all love. ❤️
Me and my ex broke up even though we still loved each other. And I remember the last time coach Lee helped me out before I met her, and I was on top of the world. Now the cycle continues, and I hope she’s the one for me, and if not, I hope I heal and become happy again
what happened? did she break up with you?
How did it go now?
Hey! Any updates?
Did she reach out?
No contact may work or not, what's important is if they broke up it's their responsibility to make things right. Don't chase. Just stay put.
My ex got back in touch with me after using NC. We're taking things slow but things look really promising. Thank you so much
how long was your nc period?
I did try to speak to my ex about 25 days ago after we break up , she was so angry and agressive , told me that there is no comeback from her side also blocked me everywhere , which was childish , NC since then , you know what I don’t really care anymore , feeling much stronger than ever , massive thanks to Coach Lee as well , he is a true legend!!
I'm into day 6 of NC and my ex messaged me a few days ago asking how long I'll be before I start talking to them again. My ex is a narcissist and wanted to keep me around to do stuff with her and her kids while the dude shes with now, wants nothing to do with them. I'm come to realize after these last few days that she's been using me and never actually loved me. Your videos have been a big help, thank you!
We were together a year and a half. Ex during the breakup said the was a possibility of rekindling something and she would need to see some changes. My ex didn't reach out for six weeks I was finally ready, and then when I did the other day she wondered why I took so long and said it didn't even seem like I even cared during that time. I made a bunch of actionable changes in my life and she still didn't belive me and said shes greived the end of the relationship in 6 weeks and I found out she also started online dating. So much for the words of "I love you". Working on myself alot lost 12 pounds in 3 weeks, new job, been going to therapy making great progress, but man been a rough couple of days waking up and having thoughts of just ending it, missing my best friend, just trying to put one foot in front of the other even if if it feels like death.
Bro this is the best part you’re a better version of yourself and she’s the same person. You have the leverage to find someone better.
I’ve been making a ton of positive changes too (it’s been shy of 2 months in 2 days) I was planning on reaching out tmrw but I’m going to push it till next week, because I know for a fact she isn’t going to reach out. It hurt her really bad leaving me and I realize now I wasn’t in a good spot emotionally/physically and it hurt our relationship. I just hope she understands that I never meant to hurt her and we can possibly rekindle things.
@@jgorogue I think if you decided you’re going to reach out regardless of what’s to happen, sure be in the right headspace but waiting another week just rip of the bandaid and see what’s there. My two cents anyway
@@Nate_The_Great69 I’m not in the right headspace and ngl I want a bit more time to pass before I do, I don’t want her to think I’m rushing into making changes for her. I was very confident about doing it this week but the past week I’m having 2nd thoughts. I’m getting anxious about reaching out and I’ve been consulting my therapist and my parents/siblings and each one says something different about doing so. Ultimately the choice of reaching out is up to me but I’m just very torn and confused if I should.
Hi Nathan....No Contact for 6 weeks but she blame you for not contacting her..but the advice is enough time must pass before she reach out if not break no contact if there is nothing to lose after 3 month ?
It's very difficult but everytime I watch your videos I feel positive and great
My Ex contacted me after 9 months of no contact..mostly we fail to acknowledge to ourselves that they probably left because of our own repeated actions…we got back together and still we had a few rough moments but because of the no contact period, she’s more inclined to compromise when issues arise because of how hard it was to win me back…we surfer more in imagination than reality…keep your head up and always believe you womt lose anyone that genuinely wants to stick it out with you.
Hows it going now?
@@Anonymous-dv2eh we’re still together now… self improvement played a major role .
Hey Coach Lee thank you for everything you do!!! All these videos and the breakup kit has helped me tremendously. I really can’t thank you enough…..We got back together after 10 freaking years apart (2006-2016). We have been on and off for the last 6 yrs and finally got engaged last Thanksgiving 2021. We have been broken up for about 2 months over some stupid arguments and miss understandings. She called off the engagement. She reached out after a month of NC we talked for a few days and things seemed to be going in the right direction. She said she’d call me back in her last text and I haven’t heard from her in 3 weeks. I haven’t tried to contact her since. It’s a LDR about 3 hrs away from each other. We were seeing each 2-3 long weekends a month depending on work schedules and we had made plans to be closer together in the near future. My question is should I invite her to a concert this weekend? It’s something she really has been dying to see and we talked about before the break up. I bought the tickets a few months ago as a surprise for her birthday and she doesn’t know about it. I feel like I should at least ask if she wants to go? Thanks again for everything and may God Bless You and your family.
Since you two are interacting, it would be fine to offer for her to go with you. Wait as long as you can to give her the opportunity to initiate contact like she said she would.
@@RealCoachLee pls check my comment too.. im trying to reach you from many days pls help
WHAT A WISE MAN. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR KNOWLEDGE, COACH LEE.
after 2.5 months i reached out to her . she dumped me for good at that time for absolutely 0 reason , just because she wasnt feeling good emotionally and i got dumped , she said she didnt love me and , now as I said i reached out and guess what ? , she was like a good apple with worms inside . i thought she got 'cured' but actually she wasnt , I made a mistake when i reached again to her because she got even worse , she got courage and thought that i cant live without her and all i was thinking,was thinking about her and she was even more agressive and worse , all i want to say with some short words , love yourself before you love others , even if the person is right to love , love of yourself first and respecting your limits its better and worthy than loving others , cuz people know how to disrespect when it is the most uncomfortable for you and when you need them the most , they punch you in face, they dump you and dump your goods at your face . you dont need your ex to become good again . all you need is strenght and fight for yourself , train your mind, I know its hard but train your mind to love yourself before you get hurt bu hyenas out there :)
Thank you coach Lee , all the time i was listening to your videos and you really , I mean REALLY helped me a lot !
My ex is too manipulative and egotistic to reach out in a normal way. Even when she reaches out it's always breadcrumbs and then she disappeares
@@paulgreengod just to calm down)))
You don’t need that. It’s a good thing you’ve realized it
Dont reply and ignore that shit.
This was a very insightful and inspiring video! I also love your advice coach Lee! It's been two months of no contact and still pushing forward, working on myself, and hoping for the best. I am blocked 🚫, but hopefully one day will be unblocked and hear from my ex again. It would be nice to have an apology, but I'd be happy to hear from him either way.
Updates?
No contact is the best thing I've ever done for myself. It’s been four months for me now. You’re going to have times that you want to cave in. That is normal. You can’t fix normal. When I felt weak, I watched Coach Lee or Coach Ken.
A champ of a consult, a champ speaker. Direct and sincere
What an incredibly intuitive insightful therapy session about my lifetime flame. I feel so lucky to have found your coaching channel!!! I’ve listened to a few now over & over again since yesterday. Great common sense, & new rules to follow! You have 353 messages here, & I’m 354. Many thanks for these thoughtful words & meaningful messages.
at this point just move on with your life and focus on yourself KING/QUEEN, just move on don't look back. at this point they probably have someone new in they life and trying to move on..
Coach Lee. I love your words and content. You’ve helped so much mentally through all this
I doubt nc works for my situation been 2 yrs and I have given up but I have healed 💪🏿🙏🏿 still enjoy the videos
@@christabel5031 bless that 💪🏿
Thanks man for a new video, I just got the news she does not want to try again but it can change with time probably. But coach thanks for all the life advice you gave me and for taking me on this journey all love for you big man❤️❤️❤️💯
Gave my ex the ego stroke after the break up it was a mistake was with her for 5 years so I tried everything. It’s now been 4+ months of no contact and almost a year since we broke up and im doing a lot better she’s not reaching out more of posting immature things looking for guy friends and saying how she’s lonely. Shows you what kind of person you were dating for the years and how much time you wasted when you could of gave that love to someone who really deserved it. We will all meet someone god has it lined up let’s be patient !
Me and a guy I was dating for 2 months ended things. I miss him because of the chemistry I guess but my intuition is saying that he was a tad bit of a narcissist lol. When he comes back, I know I don’t want to deal with that 🚮
For some reason going NC to get him to come back (just for the ego stroke) is helping me to stay away. I think in some cases it’s best to just get over the person altogether. I’ve gotten back to the gym and been making bigger + better moves in my business. Perhaps some of our exes were just there to put the fire back in you to better yourself to meet the REAL person who’s really good for you! God bless and happy no contact folks!
Your videos are keeping me going Coach! 🙏 I broke no contact after 1.5 months (we had a short term but very passionate relationship with a strong depth of connection, so I felt it was appropriate after seeing your video on short term relationships). I suggested a meet up over the phone as the convo was going very well. The meet up also went very well. I was reserved but very positive and was sporting a sassy new look. I didn't talk about our relationship at all, only about positive new things in my life. But it's been over a week and he hasn't reached out. He said at the meetup 'this has been really nice', said he missed me and was also a little flirtacious. He said he would visit me at work 'soon' but didn't set a date or anything. Should I reach out or go back into no contact? Help! I don't want to mess up after doing so well.
Who dumped who ? If he did, go into no contact. Don’t try to keep someone who doesn’t wanna keep you. If you dumped him. Yes, a simple message will do .
What ended up happening?? Update?
@@xanhiett SO I went back into no contact and after 36 days he did visit me at my workplace (this was last week actually). Completely unannounced with a weak excuse for coming 😅 I actually am leaving for another job so he said he would visit me next week on my last day, so he set a specific date this time, but he was very casual. He was very interested in what I was up to and about my new job, we went for a short walk and he spent my breakfast break with me and some mutual colleagues, as he used to work here also. So I think he's moving back towards me and I'm playing it well by being quite reserved. Who knows how next week will go! I'm a little anxious.
@@peachcobbler9394 wow sounds like things are heading in the right direction! Baby steps, that’s god you guys aren’t rushing back into anything yet. It should be earned back🙌
@@xanhiett I almost had a heart attack when he turned up at my work! 😂 I was so surprised. Glad I stuck with no contact, especially as I have genuinely used the time to improve myself. One of the reasons I have a new better job is due to being so productive during no contact, so when I've seen him I've always had new things to share and achievements which were genuine. Wish me luck for his visit next week! 🤞🏻😩 I'll update on this feed!
My ex told me she moved on and told me to move on. We were together for 9 years. We have been broken up for 3 months. We had a big blow up over her 19 y/o son that was living with us. He had a girlfriend and she started sleeping at our house every night. I wasn't happy about that!
Still no contact one year and I’m good with it now. 💪 don’t matter if I ever hear from him, realized I was greatly disrespected
no contact by itself doesn't work at all. you legit have to just not care about them on the deepest level possible. at that point they'll have to win YOU back and make you fall for them again.
The danger of this channel is for people who are bound up by narcissist or obsessed with people who are not interested in them. This is the danger of you constantly hoping that someone comes back. You broke up for a reason. You broke up because you weren't getting along... my recommendation to everyone on this channel is to study narcissism deeply and profoundly because you are probably an empath who have been bound up and taken captive by a narcissist. HG Tudor and Shaman are the best teachers I found.
Everyone has narcissistic and empathic traits.
@@mustardtigerbaaaaaam wrong.
@@mustardtigerbaaaaaam not narcissists
Thank you for the new video. Your videos have been so helpful and comforting. Our break up has reached 57 days. My ex was slipping away from me as his BPD mental illness got worse with a change of medication. Whilst we texted he went into psychotic break. It, to me, was a sudden break up. After three weeks he had a hook up. That was hurtful. He hasn’t tried once to reach out. On top of it we are 350 miles away from each other. These two factors complicate things. I began flirting with other guys in the meantime. He and I had good times. I visited him in California (I live in Southern Nevada. I haven’t posted myself with other men as the flirting is online. I’m spending my time with my daughters and working hard. Little does he know I will not be rude or nasty to him if he were to reach out. I’ve come to a place where I am ok with it. We were so in love hence the pain. However I’m now ok. Thank you Coach Lee as you’ve helped me
Your ex will reach out when they are in pain. My ex finally reached out after a year. Her friend was passing and she felt the need to tell me. While had met her friend a few times. I found it odd my ex felt the need to reach out. Two things happened when I saw her message. I got angry because of the way it was written. Felt a bit sad because her friend was a really sweet person.
Best thing to do is wait a few hours before responding. Get your emotions under control. Then respond.
Hi coach, i was commenting a lot esp last yr about your vids. I think i did the right thing esp when we we ended the dating mutually and peacefull. No chasing, no begging. I did no contact 95%. I worked on my self and the changes was super obvious. Finally after 1.4yrs he just suddenly text me and said he was still thinking about me although i know(he doesnt know) that he was dating somebody. I asked him why, he said maybe because of our good memories. Im trying to play it cool and i set my expectations low esp of getting back, not texting often. Im trying to be very careful as ive got the power back. But all in all, im happy with my body and self improvement. Thanks to your vids!
Damn I was cold. A little emotionally detached...ok a lot...I was insensitive and dealing wth unaddressed trauma...and I pushed her away for weeks and then one day I denied her affection and she started to go the other way...and now i messed up so bad idk if I can get her back. We had a decent relationship but circumstances made it a real struggle...we had a bunch of happy times but not a peaceful relationship due to our circumstances. She just has this bad perception of me and I pray I get a chance to be open now to her. Damn pray I have a chnace
We broke up a month ago and in no contact already for 3 weeks now. Its really painful but i need to be strong. We had. A good relationship but unfortunately he fell out of love, that he needs to fix himself, that i deserve some one better 😢 now he started sending messages to my friends which is he never do when we are together, but not asking about me. I dnt know maybe he is just hoping my friends will tell him something about me. Maybe he started being curious. I love him so much but he dont want me to be in his life anymore. Thats why i am staying strong to be in no contact wishing one day he will realize my worth again. And at the same time i will gain my worth as well. Thanx coach lee for the videos. Its helping us
Hi Lee, another GREAT video. I always look forward to your new videos. For me, in my situation, if one day went by, and I was having any type of relationship problem, you are the one I would contact, and even request a one on one with you. It's a different breakup for me as you know, I was with a narcissist. Right now I'm doing well, I'm dating, but there are days when I do think of him. It's only normal. Even though you are apart from someone you loved, it's normal to think of them sometimes. One thing for sure, I will ALWAYS listen to your videos. You are the BEST coach I ever found. God bless you. HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY! 😀
My wife was with a narcissist before me, he and my ex got together and utterly destroyed our relationship. Can anyone point me in the direction of someone who could educate me on how to deal with this seemingly impossible situation?
@Matthew Matthew, I was also with a narcissist for 5 years before I finally left him. Yes, they do have a GREAT affect on you. I went to Therapy for 1 year, I read self-help books, and most of all, I got out of the house with my friends. Stay busy, and stay away from these MONSTERS. Your wife was traumatized, so give her TIME. Be kind & understanding with her bcse she went thru a lot. Things DO GET BETTER. I'M LIVING PROOF. Good luck to you..❤️⚘️BTW, if she accepts therapy, that would be great! Also, Coach Lee has 2 videos in his Library about narcissism, and they are always available.
I will make sure I send her those videos I’m a very huge fan of both coach Lee and Coach Ken!
Loved your course! Plus the tips in this video. I found it helpful to focus on myself and my fitness, regardless of who wants to call me
Loved all ur videos n work... Can u Pls make a video on signs when u really have to move on...
Could you do a video on on again off again relationships. Do they ever work out? How can we stop it from happening? Should you just give up on these type of relationships? Thanks 🙏🏻
that's a red flag 🚩.you can stop it by cutting all contacts with them
My ex contacted my yall this man is no joke . He is the shiznit . Complete and honest man. Thank you coach Lee you saved me this last week and possibly this failing relationship
Hate these spam comments below. What happened she. They reached out?
@@hannahw90hw yes ma’am but she needs a lot of help
@@benjcalderon2583can you share your story? I'm only 7 days into no contact. A success story would be great to hear
@@hannahw90hw how are you doing hun? Would you like to talk still?
@Coach Lee, what if I have been listening to some songs he sent me before the breakup and now my listenings are reflected into a blend playlist we share on spotify? Is this breaking no contact? Thank you, I'm afraid I'm messing up things while trying to do my best to stay away.
She broke up with me after 9 months when I revealed I have a child (not involved, whole other story), that was on the 7th of May, currently about to enter into day 3 of no contact after sending a clean slate message.
I had a call with Coach Ken today which provided some insight, he thinks I have a good chance if I commit to no contact but it could take time. Im okay in my self, I’ve quit drinking since it happened, been training daily, reading lots about emotions, relationships. I feel so much stronger since finding Coach Lee, I have a direction and even if we don’t get back together I will be twice as strong as I was before.
If you see this Lee, thank you. I purchased your breakup kit and have been watching your channel religiously!
Tyler sometimes I hold back with quickly telling people I have children because humans judge!! I like for the relationship to organically develop without being judged so I completely understand you. I think it's even harder for women when we have kids. I have dated professional athletes ,and regular guys. Once I told them 99.9% were fine with this. If someone really cares about you they will not just leave over you having a child, especially in this generation! I'm proud of you I have a family history of people turning to drinking because of health issues etc. I have even slowed up myself because depression and anxiety will take you there. Yes read and look at some mediation music for healing and heartbreak on UA-cam they help. Well wishes to you and your little one. In time things will get better. 🌅💛🤗
@@pazyamor1313 Thank you for your kind message 😊
@Tyler: to be honest i would go away and never look back if i would found out my date or partner has a child. Even if not in his life. Nothing to be mad about, not everybody wants that in there life.
@@radar4536 I understand that and would be fine with it but I think in her case it’s more shock as she said things would have been different if I’d told her sooner. But thank you for your comment
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb ofcourse it is a shock but even after that it would be normaln for her to leave this situation. Maybe she will be back, but i just want you to know that it is nothing to be mad about.
Had 2 wonderful coaching calls with Coach Ken, he's giving me a lot of strenght. 2 months and a half of no contact and I don't think my ex is going to reach out, I'm feeling hopeless and sometimes it's hard going through the days, but I know i will be ok either way.
Any update? 🙁
Update?
7:07 Coach Lee is proud of me! :) I don't know why but it does help a little bit that someone says I'm doing the right thing. It's difficult... (day 8 of no contact) Thanks Coach for all the good solid advice.
@@melp5879 I pushed through and kept the no contact. I kept on hoping, but I didn't hear from him again...
I am now dating someone else. And he's lovely. With this man I don't have to wonder. He puts me first. He make it obvious that I am his priority. This is how it should be.
@@GT--BTS Sana ol
Bumalik naba ?
FML. been in no contact for a little over a month now and as it was my birthday yesterday, I knew my ex was probably going to reach out to wish me a happy birthday so i was really anxious about it. he sent a simple short message that read: "happy birthday, you are and will always be really fucking special. hope you have a great day 💞" (he couldn't even commit to the regular heart emoji as that would probably imply something he didn't want to imply). i know it doesn't say much but it means a lot.
until then i had high hopes because he had reached out once before asking me if i hated him because i broke contact, and i told him i didn't. everything seemed to be going as should be expected according to lee and other relationship experts. but somehow i feel that this settles it. "you'll always be special to me", like a memory from the past that he holds dear.
i'm devastated.
Im 9 months of no contact without any sign of contact from her. Last week was horrible I felt like all the confidence that I have in the beginning was shit and with no hope anymore because she’s dating someone I was suspicious since the beginning. Im trying to hold on because I understand that no message that I can send to her will cause any change because she left me and hasn’t contact me is because she doesn’t want me.
Married couples content is needed Coach Lee! You re the best!!
My ex and I were together for 3 years. It was a great relationship, and we had a great time. However, she broke with me, and I made the mistake of not going into No Contact. We talked everyday for 5 months, we helped each other, at one point she said she was considering going back together, but at the end we both decided to do no contact.
1 month and a half later, she is with someone else, and i think it's a rebound, because the guy is very different from me, much older, and I think they don't have much in common. Recently, we talked again, and it was like when we were together, laughing and feeling that special connection that we have.The next day, we had a videocall. She was crying, saying that she still loves me and has feelings for me. She even told me that she sometimes regrets her choice of this guy over me, and that is inevitable for her to watch our photos and videos. Moreover, she told me that now she has evolved into a very lazy person, she has lost interest in her hobbies and that she fights a lot with her parents, specially about this guy.
However, sometimes tells me that she is feeling very good with him, and I don't understand what she really feels for me.
Do you think I still have a shot? And, what should I do now? Thanks to everybody!
She is a confused soul. Be in no contact and let her realize what she actually wants else she will just keep lingering you!!
No chance. If some other guy has been slamming her, never contact her again. She's used goods now man. Stay strong bro, good luck 👍
Yes you do. Tell her how you feel about her
My Ex GF (of 1 yr, & Engaged) sent me a video stating "MOM says "YOU ARE A KEEPER, BUT I SAID I DON'T KNOW HOW TO KEEP HIM!"
26 yr old daughter said "I KNOW HE TREATS U LIKE A QUEEN"
My BEAUTIFUL QUEEN suffers from Bipolar. Not sure where she is coming from!!
NC began today.
She always been a Side CHICK(her words). & they all left her!
I'm not waiting months!!!!
Hi Coach Lee..can you do a video on on-off again couples? or multiple breakups and the power of NC? thank you ❤️
I am in the same situation. How many times you broke up with the same person?
I think if you keep breaking up, one of you are not doing the work to communicate better, or if you feel you both are doing absolutely their best and it still keeps ending, you're probably not suited to each other.
I appreciate your videos and I have watched a lot since my break up, but I haven’t found one by you that goes over no contact working after the most extreme cases of post break up mistakes and I would appreciate it if I could get one because it’s hard to believe that it may work in my situation. And I know that no contact isn’t meant to get my ex back but I just want to hear of it working on an ex girlfriend specifically. Thanks.
You are awesome Lee! You give me great hope! Thank you!!!!!
Mine has reached out more that once. I figured out she is just making sure I’m still available. I will not stroke her ego. I’m back in no contact.
My ex wont reach out, not soon or even in the future. She just in new relationship with someone after a month of our broke up, and she looks happy either way. It is so sad, but right now all i can do is accept the reality.
My ex has reached out 3 times since he broke up with me at the end of March. It’s been long distance the whole time and because of the pandemic being physically together has been impossible. Last I heard from him was 2.5 weeks ago to say happy Mother’s Day. I don’t even know what to think, I told him I wouldn’t be his friend when he ended it and yet he reaches out anyways. I’ve never broken no contact in fact this is exactly what I do but nature, given how we met and that we’ve never been in the same room I want to think it’s impossible but then he’s still contacting me… I’m confused.
You need to do a video on why an ex reaches out.
My ex recently reached out looking for sympathy for a her girlfriend.
It has been over a year since my ex and I had exchanged any communication. Nothing from her. She appeared to be happy with her ex or “friend” she went to see after breaking up with me. So it was interesting to see a message from her after a year. I did send my condolences for her girlfriend.
And left it like that. On a positive note. I have someone new now. Been seeing her for a few months on and off. My head is in a better place. Confidence is back to normal. If I can do it. So can you.
After 9 months broken up. She’s never going to reach out again. I made the mistake of reaching out with a friendly text after 5 months no contact. Big mistake. No contact means no contact forever.
No Contact forever. they need to come to YOU. If not Move on.
Did she respond?
@@jalina5103 Ya she unfollowed me on instagram & kicked me off her’s.
@@Jacare1973 I am sorry to hear that.
I hope you can accept it, heal and move on with your life. I wish you all the best ♥️
I don't think it was a mistake. I'm glad you tried. You gave it enough time to where it was worth a try. I'm so sorry it didn't work out.
My ex contacted me after a month nc and said he misses me and loves me still..I said I'm open to it but he doesn't/ can't have a relationship whilst he's suffering some financial troubles...I said we have different values atm.He said sorry...I'm back into nc...its so difficult but you have to hold out for your needs to be met or depart...I feel stronger everyday...
To be honest I don’t expect my ex to break no contact anytime soon. It’s been 10 months since he broke things off with me and if he and I ever do reconnect sometime down the line it will have to be as friends (no more getting romantically involved). Plus I don’t think I will be able to handle it if he rejected me a third time.
Hello coach thank you so much for this videos..we split up with my ex boyfriend 3 months ago.but he's the one who sent me a message but I was still hoping that we are going to be ok.i still love him.
Been three years. She left for no reason literally none I treated her like gold. I did the no contact never bothered her. She never reached out. Still kills me
April 17th, my ex and I mutually agreed to break up. We didn't see much of each other for a week or so. We started hanging out again, but with no expectations. It felt good and real. We had the most passionate and loving, love making sessions. We didn't technically start dating again. I found out around May 14th that she was now talking to someone and had lied to me on a few occasions about what she was actually doing over that previous few days. I was heartbroken. I had fallen deeper in love and she found someone else. We hung out 2 more times, but it was too painful. She wished me a happy birthday. I went into NC and she reached out 5 days later to see how I was doing. We had a short conversation. Just her asking about my kids. She is the type of person that would get pissed if I ignored her. It is now almost 5 more days of NC and I'm just missing her.
I wanna hear Coach lees personal experience of No Contact 🤔 8 days in no contact by the way 🤝
Coach Lee... i been 23 days of NC ... but no news from him...I heard he see someone else... but I still stick on NC..
Crystalina, stick with NC
Do you have any videos or advice for exes that are bipolar or suspected bipolar?
From one of my staff coaches, Coach Ken: ua-cam.com/video/kxY5JRoXcmM/v-deo.html
@@RealCoachLee Thank you so much for linking this other video, it really helped me realize a lot to move on. I knew she had a few mental problems but looking more into it, I realized that she really checked off everything for BPD and this video made me realize a lot about her. I appreciate this a lot. Maybe you can do a video on the subject as well?
Coach Lee, im so happy i almost lost hope but yeah no contact rule is amazing ! Its very painful process . Thank you so much !
Happy to hear it worked for you, details?
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb after the break up i begged and chased for almost a month she ghosted me. I applied no contact rule for 3 weeks and i did not post any drama i just chnage profile photo improving myself. She contacted me and wants to return my things ...
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb i remembered coach lee said that dont ignore your ex ... I replied casual and polite then applied no contact rule again ... Then she contacted me again. Then i applied n r again .... In a few days she finally decided to to go to my work place and meet me.
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb ive watched other coaches but this coach lee is different... If the ex reaches dont ignore its critical. She admitted she is spying and stalking my fb.. i notice that after applying ncr she stop posting and started blocking me ! But she unblock me after a day ... She wass affected and curious why imo not chasing hehe... Im patiently silently applying ncr ...
@@TylerSmith-dx8pb she admitted she is chatting with other guy as a rebound but if you were a good boyfriend and you did not cheat and applied ncr and respect her dicision it will made her realize the fear of loss coz im also dated someone 1 time ......no contact rule is powerful it will save ur dignity at least returning your ex is just a bonus ... Months of watvhing all coach lees videos it helps me understand things about relationship nd made me better man
Hello coach! I really appreciate finding your videos . It was at the exact needed moment
My ex broke up with me after almost 7 years . I am his first girlfriend and he said he needed to see other people before committing but wants to be friends still
I have been in contact with him and we hanged out this week 3 times
How do I start no contact ? Should I tell him or just slowly fade away
We had a conversation before 2 but we both broke the no contact at some point. We broke up on march . What should I do 😭😢
Don’t tell him. Just do it. Show, don’t tell.
@@RealCoachLee Mr lee
Sir,
I love a girl who call me brother .she treats me super but call me brother , is it possible to make her fall in love with me?? Anticipating your reply
She reached out after a month, but only for friendship. We had a few positive interaction but..
I messed up by showing her how hurt I was, and she blocked me and told me we're done
I don't know what else to do, but I still want her back, can someone please help?
@@thehavoc6331 I think you should not accept the friendship and whe nshe did reach you should be cautions cause it was a test, at that point you should just be playful but not committed, let her have her way in while you focus on yourself, I made some mistakes too during no contact like insta stories at parties or dates at the 1 2 week, but I also did stop that work on myself and the next stories will be me traveling and do MY stuff, you should try it too even if does not work you will feel better
can you do a new video on if there is still hope if they are in a rebound and the rebound is getting serious and its past the 3 month mark?
We were immature, I can admit that, both said we loved one another. It’s been a year man and I’m still hurting. It’s been about 3 months since I made my statement to her I just said I was done with the games and wanted her to be real. I think she’s gone, but it’s still painful
Who initiated the break up?
@@Afternoon99 I don’t know…. We never actually “broke up” because we were never officially “together”. It was more like two best friends that made a mistake… I just got to live with the hurt and baggage that came from that relationship with my closest friend falling apart.
@@Afternoon99 she did,to go back to her not quite divorced husband, which i didn’t even know about, only to divorce him 6 months later. Im pretty sure I was just a useful tool in the scenario, still hurts.
I went through a similar thing. Probably less though. We only hungout a couple times, but for some reason she started to pull away. I went no contact and do did she. It's been a little over a month. Nothing really bad ever happened. No arguments. Who knows.
Thank you coach Lee you have provided me with reason to go into no contact. In order to possibly rekindle and save our relationship she did ask me for space and to stop contacting her. Thanks coach for advising me into the right direction. Drop my overwhelming validating behavior which was repelling her level of attraction dropped. :( I hope the outcome of NC will be good for both of us in regards to maybe my ex coming back. By showing my ex that I can respect her space and time hope we can reconcile the mistakes. Waiting to see if or when she will reachbout again thank you coach.
Did it work ?
What ended up happening?
What should I do if I told her not to contact me after she dumped me? It’s been 2 months of no contact so far. I really don’t think she will reach out because of that
hey ik i’m not coach lol but i’d maybe wait another month and then maybe reach out if ur up to it bc they may srsly not reach out bc of what u said even if they want to.
Update?
Hello coach am so grateful I met yo platform of real life i call it, Me and my ex had such a wonderful time for a year but slowly in this year. I texted her morning like we always used to do it before heading to work because i could start my work 2 hrs before her, she texted back as usual wen she gets at work and i find the reply during my break time. unfortunately i ran out of data as we were trying to chat during the break, she thout maybe i had ghosted her, she called in evening time after my work and fumed before even getting to here my words and then she said it's over and blocked me 😔i calm my self down without saying anything back to her,after 3 days she called me that she wants us meet physically for a talk. but she failed initiating time to reach out for the meeting and ghosted me fo 2 weeks. i got pieced off and sent her belongs to her. I texted her abt it and just replied OK as if thats what she wanted. she expected me to go down on my knees as i always used to. After amonth of no contact, she blocked me on all social platforms. what can I do and did i do anything wrong anywhere? help coach 🙏
Great video as usual buddy - learning to not give in to fearful thinking and trust the power of time and being your best version of you are the keys to sustaining No Contact until the hit the tipping point
Took me three years to go back. I met him at a party 9 months ago and could not forget him after that. We broke up in a weird way. I finally decided to be brave and contact him. He really enjoyed seeing me also. We have a date this week. ☺
You were the Dumper? And how are you two now?
I’ve watched almost all your videos, but I’m feeling very confused with what I’ve been dealing with.
Ex and I were together for almost 3 years, I did no contact and it upset him after 10 days of no contact. He would call me, text me, say he misses me. I didn’t ignore him like you said, I was polite and let him do most of the work. Then we wouldn’t talk for a few days and the cycle would repeat itself until he reached out again. It’s been over a month or two of this.
It hurts every time like a fresh wound and I feel now I’ve only made the break up easier for him and will get put in the friend zone.
I don’t know what to do, you say not to ignore him, but does being there for him every time he reaches out now help me in the long term?
He’s also been hanging out with another woman at the same time and told me he didn’t want me to get the wrong idea from her calling him because him and I had been connecting again.
I would continue no contact and start considering if this person is truly good for you. Never forget that YOU are the prize. It's his lost if he can't or won't see it.
During the breakup, I told her I loved her and would reach out after two weeks but I didn't because I wasn't ready. After the two weeks, I instead went to a party and my friend took a picture of me talking to another girl and sent it to her. A few hours later she posts on Instagram herself wearing makeup with her friend. Its been 6 weeks since the breakup. Idk if I ruined the chances of her coming back.
I mean it wasn’t right of your friend to take a picture of you talking to another girl and out of all things send it to her. Pretty bad friend and would say they made things difficult.
@@jgorogue It wasn't directly to her, instead it was in a snapchat group chat of 10 people and I knew about it few hours after she sent it so I could've told her to delete it before my ex saw it but I didn't because in the moment I wanted to make her mad. However, I think I might regret it. She ended up leaving the group chat 4 weeks after the break up.
I Like your videos Coach Lee, but is there a time for which its too late ? like is 1year+ still hopeful for them to come back ? have you seen lots of people that have their ex come back after 1+ year of no contact ?
Nice beard!!!
I changed my number last week and I’ve been doing no contact since March 27th and now he’s on my social media.
My ex just texted me today 🤣 gonna do her dirty just like she did me 😈
Not worth it, if you dont want her then just simply ignore her. Show her that she isnt even worth the effort.
How long did you have to wait?
@@clipz4430 Lmao idgaf she came back that’s free 🐱 until she asks “what are we?”
Be savage Ricky be a savage to her
@@lutaayam a few months best thing you can do is work on yourself and upgrade your life you won’t care much. When you stop caring is when they usually pop back in. Hit the gym and read a book by Corey Wayne called 3% man
My ex reached yesterday after 40ish days of NC. She is with someone now, so she may be trying to get me to be a “friend.” I won’t play that game, but I hope I get her back. I was an ahole to her for a year and half and I never appreciated her until she left me. I’ll keep hope and if I get her back, I’ll cherish her like she did me.
It’s been over 4 months of no contact and am wondering if we past the stage where she might contact me at all. We had a very close, high intimacy relationship with low conflict. I was needy with old trauma getting in the way
You’re not alone man. Stay strong and hold your ground
@tosh - you're not alone, stay strong and keep on improving yourself. I'm also in NC for almost 4 months now (dumpee & in LDR). I'm waiting until my birthday next month for a sign. If none, then I take it that it's time for me to let go. Good luck.
@@kitty_s23456 thank you kitty for the kind words and empathy. Means a lot to me!
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