I now realise why my marriage and all my other relationships I have had in my life have all ended. Honestly I never coupled my porn interest to my failure in relationships. It's a terrible thing to admit to. I was using porn as a teenager, and it just continued when I got married. The excitement of a new sexual relationship can be enough to stop the interest in porn, but that only lasts a few months, as the new sexual relationship becomes familiar, it's back to the porn, end of relationship.
Wow. At least you got married dude! I couldn't imagine. That'd require probably having to consummate the marriage. So I'd have to screw my wife? I think I'll just stick to porn. It's a million times cheaper than getting married ( or in your case, divorced). To this day, at 49, I've never once gotten excited about a new sexual relationship. Yuck. In fact, that's the reason why I don't engage with women. (They assume I want to have sex with them!) . Sex pales in comparison to porn. Ahhh... porn..... no woman today could ever compete. They did it to themselves bro.
19 days insane. You know what, I went till 11days and the urge finally faded away but to see if I was normal, I watched again. Now every freaking day is day 0
Your perspective is all messed up. Bro, you went 19 days without it! That's an accomplishment in and of itself. Really think about how difficult that may have been for you and how you were able to overcome your urges for almost 20 days. Celebrate your victories and learn from your defeats. This is what will help you finally overcome this. Nobody is perfect and this journey of self healing isn't supposed to be just an upward trajectory. You're going to fail, and fail a lot. If it was easy then hardly anyone would be addicted to porn. So again, think about why you gave in today, learn about what caused your triggers, why you gave in this time and figure out a way to overcome that. Don't be hard on yourself. You're doing great. Just pick yourself back up and get back at it. I believe in you bro.
I think it's not only important to note the chemical reaction in our brains but also the representation different websites give to women and men alike. Supernormal-stimuli is a good topic to highlight, because it's almost like the digital world has interfered with our world on the intimate level and turned it upside down. I feel growing frustration, sadness, anger, and guilt with using the internet. I condem whoever decided it was a good idea to release this stuff since it was readily available since I was like 9.
Thank you for addressing this with science.My husband has been watching porn on and off throughout our 35 yrs of marriage. I'm so burnt out and devastated. Ty for giving a name to what im feeling.. Betrayal trauma. I'm going to get your book Thank you, you're giving me a tiny bit of hope
Your video is awesome. It is so true all that you say about porn addiction, compulsive disorders and relationship trauma. I am a recovering addict, 4 years clean thanks to law enforcement and therapeutic incarceration. I clearly see how pervasive pornography is and was in my life. I am so relieved that i no longer crave pornography. Keep up the strong work, Dr Leigh. Thank you.
@@waynefisher4296 I really like this advice as a young man who's never had a partner. I am hopeful that everything will work out. I struggle with homosexuality and bipolar mental disorder. No way a young woman is going to want me as a partner. I believe in the Bible so I know being with the same sex is wrong.
Do you actually have same sex attraction or OCD? A feature of OCD is unwanted intrusive thoughts about any number of things, including even the fear of being homosexual.
@@tromboneman4517 yes, I actually struggle with same sex attraction. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It really sucks. Add in PMO cycle and fear of being found out and it's a nightmare. I only have hope in God. Rarely, if ever, get any help from even those in my church.
It’s been almost 5 months porn free, I stopped masturbation 2 weeks ago and have quit casual sex with random women this week. Currently working on not lusting after women anymore.
By God's grace and help we can continue to overcome these bad negative habits. We have to persevere press on. For us single people we have to pray believe and trust the Lord that he has the right nice Christian or at least a good morally real nice woman girlfriend and wife. Holding onto the wonderful truths and promises of God's word in the Bible. And thank God for people like Dr Trish and many others and for Pastor Steve Gallagher and the men with him in Pure Life Ministries helping men overcome pornography addiction. We can overcome all this rotten hellhole garbage. And we have to launch our a look for a real nice woman there's that special someone for all of us in the near future in the right way place and time Amen.
I had relapse 3times dr out of lose of sexual control I couldn’t control myself and I relapsed about 3times I’m worried if I’ll ever stop this doctor is affecting my life gradually and I’m getting a bit afraid. But I’m on recovery mode now and I’m taking it seriously for good now. And I want to stop it for good.
Dr. Trish Leigh, I gotta say this. You may not realize this, but the LORD is using you in a GREAT way!! Is it possible for porn addiction/lusting. To be passed down, from generation to generation? Hoping & praying for your response, but thanks regardless!!
Thank u doc, some day people are going to recognize ur life saving work in this nightmare. For me , and I'm sure millions of other men , u were the first to see the tip of the iceberg 🧊 on this terrible disease. Thank you for being there , here 🙏💪🌅
I truly think that trying to repress sexuality is a lost cause. it's going to only build up stronger and stronger. You need to transmute sex energy, not repress it. This can be done through practices of Bramacharya and Prannayama, testicular breething, and so on. I think some eastern practices have a lot of wisdom on this. Cleaning your diet and fasting is also good.
Hello Dr. Trish Leigh, its is true about negative consequences. Question to you: Does porn use in a more extreme way over many years impact logical thinking? I am a Mathstudent (Masters) and I notice problems with logical thinking. My partner and I decided to cancel the access to the internet at home, so that I am only allowed to use it when she is at home, where she can supervise me. Thats really important to me!
Well, porn destroys the brain, let's agree. But, in that case, offer an alternative of sexual and emotional satisfaction for a person who does not have a sexual partner, and it is not possible to find one. If you cannot offer, then your conversations are about nothing.
Dr.Trish. m completely damaged n gone😢. Addicted for 13 both pron m masturbation. I watched ur videos thousands times, still can't quit. But I can do when I have no smart phone.
Dr Trish Leigh, is your audience towards a specific group of people who already have porn addiction? Or just every single individual on this very fine planet. I’m still wondering if your videos are aiming towards people already in the pool of addiction, and this may not be a for person who can masturbate and fantasize (even watch pornography) with controlled methods and still be sexually healthy and not have any interfering with their daily lives.
Working things out is key to reduce dopamine dependence. The dialogue is necessary to get your worksheets going. I hope this book coming out will have a method to produce your own worksheets to work on
If you are single, is it better to pay for an escort rather than masturbate and watch porn? Could get very expensive. Or preferable to have nothing at all. Thanks
Has anyone have a problem with massage parlours? I used this to quit porn and stop masterbaiting initially but now I can't stop going. Any advice? It's like a never ending horny hell??
Relapses are common, but once you are more committed to reach out to the right tools, the relapses will decrease and the “love self” or trust in a higher level that change is accessible.
I'll be getting both the audio and the book! CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you, my friend! Find out more about the book here: drtrishleigh.com/mind-over-explicit-matter/ 🙌🏼
I now realise why my marriage and all my other relationships I have had in my life have all ended. Honestly I never coupled my porn interest to my failure in relationships. It's a terrible thing to admit to. I was using porn as a teenager, and it just continued when I got married. The excitement of a new sexual relationship can be enough to stop the interest in porn, but that only lasts a few months, as the new sexual relationship becomes familiar, it's back to the porn, end of relationship.
Look's like you can ask me to.
I have done it for 45 years horrible it destroyed my life still trying to heal it horrible child hood was the cause
Wow. At least you got married dude! I couldn't imagine. That'd require probably having to consummate the marriage. So I'd have to screw my wife? I think I'll just stick to porn. It's a million times cheaper than getting married ( or in your case, divorced). To this day, at 49, I've never once gotten excited about a new sexual relationship. Yuck. In fact, that's the reason why I don't engage with women. (They assume I want to have sex with them!) . Sex pales in comparison to porn. Ahhh... porn..... no woman today could ever compete. They did it to themselves bro.
Day 0 again after 19 days. Feeling so bad. Today was so bad day. I want it to go away. So much frustration.
Again on day 0
19 days insane. You know what, I went till 11days and the urge finally faded away but to see if I was normal, I watched again. Now every freaking day is day 0
Applaud you for 19 days. Stay strong its a marathon
Your perspective is all messed up. Bro, you went 19 days without it! That's an accomplishment in and of itself. Really think about how difficult that may have been for you and how you were able to overcome your urges for almost 20 days. Celebrate your victories and learn from your defeats. This is what will help you finally overcome this. Nobody is perfect and this journey of self healing isn't supposed to be just an upward trajectory. You're going to fail, and fail a lot. If it was easy then hardly anyone would be addicted to porn. So again, think about why you gave in today, learn about what caused your triggers, why you gave in this time and figure out a way to overcome that. Don't be hard on yourself. You're doing great. Just pick yourself back up and get back at it. I believe in you bro.
@andrewvincent7299 solid advice! I'm currently on a 75-day streak, and I use those strategies
Never give up and do not dwell on slip up for too long. This is key!
My porn addiction is getting reduced.thanks and grateful to Dr Leigh.💯🖖🖖🖖🤟🤟
@@tapasroychoudhury2241 proud of you bro
Thank you Doctor. You have helped me shifted my mentality to a more disciplined mind set. I am becoming a better version of myself everyday
I think it's not only important to note the chemical reaction in our brains but also the representation different websites give to women and men alike. Supernormal-stimuli is a good topic to highlight, because it's almost like the digital world has interfered with our world on the intimate level and turned it upside down.
I feel growing frustration, sadness, anger, and guilt with using the internet. I condem whoever decided it was a good idea to release this stuff since it was readily available since I was like 9.
@@RomanoffRoaringFaucetSpringer Same feelings as you! I sometimes wish I was born before the internet era.
@@RomanoffRoaringFaucetSpringer I read a book called "i-Gen" by Mari K Swingle, great read! Also goes into how pron is impacting our lives.
Supreme Court ruled it legal in the 70s. Called it art and free speech.
Thank you for addressing this with science.My husband has been watching porn on and off throughout our 35 yrs of marriage. I'm so burnt out and devastated. Ty for giving a name to what im feeling.. Betrayal trauma. I'm going to get your book
Thank you, you're giving me a tiny bit of hope
Sorry to hear that. I hope the book helps! :)
@DrTrishLeigh thank you...I'm sure it will 💜
Your video is awesome. It is so true all that you say about porn addiction, compulsive disorders and relationship trauma. I am a recovering addict, 4 years clean thanks to law enforcement and therapeutic incarceration. I clearly see how pervasive pornography is and was in my life. I am so relieved that i no longer crave pornography. Keep up the strong work, Dr Leigh. Thank you.
As a woman you don't want to save yourself for him only to learn what he's been doing that is now wrecking your marriage.
You always talk about relationships but what about single people? Most men aren't in relationships.
You need to be content when you are single. Develop strength while you are single, when you do that, thats when relationships will come your way.
@@waynefisher4296 I really like this advice as a young man who's never had a partner. I am hopeful that everything will work out. I struggle with homosexuality and bipolar mental disorder. No way a young woman is going to want me as a partner. I believe in the Bible so I know being with the same sex is wrong.
Do you actually have same sex attraction or OCD? A feature of OCD is unwanted intrusive thoughts about any number of things, including even the fear of being homosexual.
@@tromboneman4517 yes, I actually struggle with same sex attraction. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It really sucks. Add in PMO cycle and fear of being found out and it's a nightmare. I only have hope in God. Rarely, if ever, get any help from even those in my church.
@@tromboneman4517 I do struggle with homosexuality. I don't think it's OCD. It wasn't because I watched pron.
That introduction! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏽
87th day here, its possible guys
Keep on going bro !! 🎉
😭😭😭 bro porn ruined my life
Same
Yes it is. True work has to be done.
@@luisrosalesEAGLEhow?
hi .. thanks trish.. i am an addict. had 18 days free but fell again...
It’s been almost 5 months porn free, I stopped masturbation 2 weeks ago and have quit casual sex with random women this week. Currently working on not lusting after women anymore.
You can do it 🤙🏾
Can you tell the rest of us where we can find the causal sex at?
@@Brannon1009 you have to get out and talk to women for that to happen
By God's grace and help we can continue to overcome these bad negative habits. We have to persevere press on. For us single people we have to pray believe and trust the Lord that he has the right nice Christian or at least a good morally real nice woman girlfriend and wife. Holding onto the wonderful truths and promises of God's word in the Bible. And thank God for people like Dr Trish and many others and for Pastor Steve Gallagher and the men with him in Pure Life Ministries helping men overcome pornography addiction. We can overcome all this rotten hellhole garbage. And we have to launch our a look for a real nice woman there's that special someone for all of us in the near future in the right way place and time Amen.
@@evp911 boo
I had relapse 3times dr out of lose of sexual control I couldn’t control myself and I relapsed about 3times I’m worried if I’ll ever stop this doctor is affecting my life gradually and I’m getting a bit afraid.
But I’m on recovery mode now and I’m taking it seriously for good now.
And I want to stop it for good.
Always a pleasure to watch your content! I wish to have your book in Spanish, I'm looking forward for it.
Will there be an audio version of the new book available? Thank you dr for this valuable content.
Dr. Trish Leigh, I gotta say this. You may not realize this, but the LORD is using you in a GREAT way!! Is it possible for porn addiction/lusting. To be passed down, from generation to generation? Hoping & praying for your response, but thanks regardless!!
138 days free 💪
Almost 5 months. Keep it up!
Thank u doc, some day people are going to recognize ur life saving work in this nightmare. For me , and I'm sure millions of other men , u were the first to see the tip of the iceberg 🧊 on this terrible disease. Thank you for being there , here 🙏💪🌅
I truly think that trying to repress sexuality is a lost cause. it's going to only build up stronger and stronger. You need to transmute sex energy, not repress it. This can be done through practices of Bramacharya and Prannayama, testicular breething, and so on. I think some eastern practices have a lot of wisdom on this.
Cleaning your diet and fasting is also good.
Please use subtitles
so youre the one that said porn causes brain damage right ?
And she is right
She’s right, Pornography does have a negative impact on the brain, especially the frontal lobe and temporal lobe
Hello Dr. Trish Leigh,
its is true about negative consequences. Question to you: Does porn use in a more extreme way over many years impact logical thinking? I am a Mathstudent (Masters) and I notice problems with logical thinking.
My partner and I decided to cancel the access to the internet at home, so that I am only allowed to use it when she is at home, where she can supervise me. Thats really important to me!
Well, porn destroys the brain, let's agree. But, in that case, offer an alternative of sexual and emotional satisfaction for a person who does not have a sexual partner, and it is not possible to find one. If you cannot offer, then your conversations are about nothing.
Masturbate - not addictively (not to regulate mood) - WITHOUT lusting, WITHOUT objectifying women. Just make it about how your body feels.
Dr.Trish. m completely damaged n gone😢. Addicted for 13 both pron m masturbation. I watched ur videos thousands times, still can't quit. But I can do when I have no smart phone.
Get a simple flip phone.
Get a button phone and throw the smartphone into the sea
Dr Trish Leigh, is your audience towards a specific group of people who already have porn addiction? Or just every single individual on this very fine planet. I’m still wondering if your videos are aiming towards people already in the pool of addiction, and this may not be a for person who can masturbate and fantasize (even watch pornography) with controlled methods and still be sexually healthy and not have any interfering with their daily lives.
How to recover brain from pornography and masterbation? Is it possible recover?
Working things out is key to reduce dopamine dependence. The dialogue is necessary to get your worksheets going. I hope this book coming out will have a method to produce your own worksheets to work on
If you are single, is it better to pay for an escort rather than masturbate and watch porn? Could get very expensive. Or preferable to have nothing at all. Thanks
Definitely not, that takes you down a deeper whole of iniquity & pain
How do I supposed to give me self love?
Affirmation
I agree
Has anyone have a problem with massage parlours? I used this to quit porn and stop masterbaiting initially but now I can't stop going. Any advice? It's like a never ending horny hell??
Still have brain
Do you know
Day 12 after my relapse
Relapses are common, but once you are more committed to reach out to the right tools, the relapses will decrease and the “love self” or trust in a higher level that change is accessible.
None of the science backs up anything she says
Destroying? You've been listening to Trump too much.
The hell does Trump have to do with this? 😂 He's living rent free in some people's heads I swear.
@@DavidHernandez-yb5pz Trump over-uses the word destroying in the same way Trish is exaggeratingly using the word.