23 yrs old. Never commented on a single youtube video until now. Genuinely appreciated Dr. Leigh for her incredible insight and boundless patience for people currently stuck in this addition. Like many young men, I was introduced to PMO at a very young age, its been part of my life for a a little over a decade but really ramped up its control over my life about 2 years ago. Coupled with a family tragedy and a chaotic breakup, I fell deeper into my addiction. Starting about a year ago I commited to quitting. After several medium to moderate streaks, i always end up falling back in. (Longest was about 70 days?) For anyone else in my position, how do you push through the cycles of abstinence and slipping? Its pretty disheartening. I feel sober and committed and then boom, the momentum i build suddnely dissolves and im back on the screen. I know theres lots of advice and steps but i still feel like im wrestling with myself. 1 year in, any advice? Words of caution? I know the triggers and the warning signs and yet i slip! Very frustrating. Thanks to anyone who read this wall of text! BACK ON THE HORSE
@@DrTrishLeighl owe a debt of gratitude to you. Your approach is the best on the internet because it's purely scientific and non-judgmental. Without you, l am not sure if l could have done this. Please keep up your wonderful work !
@desbelekidane5869 l don't think l have experienced anything significant, except that l still do have urges from time to time. But they are less frequent and less intense, and l don't feel compelled to act on them anymore. My experience is that as long as l fill my life with joyful and meaningful activities, porn loses its appeal and I don't even think about it anymore. The dopamine release in my brain now is mild and regular and I don't crave the dopamine rush that porn provides anymore.
@@desbelekidane5869 l don't think l have experienced anything noticeable, except that there are still urges from time to time. But they are much less frequent and intense than before and I don't feel compelled to act on them anymore.
I was 47 day free yesterday i had a slip i don't know why i wasn't stressed out or anything I just missed the feeling and made a conscious decision to do it , today I kept trying to understand why i did it I don't understand why i did it. I am very angry at myself because I really could have avoided doing it. It is a 8 year old addiction and doesn't magically go away but still this kinda slips really break your will you know.
There was a time when I talked just like this woman. But with time and events, a greater understanding has come. Help those who need and want help snd leave everyone else alone. And remember that I have three fingers pointing back at me whenever I point one finger at someone else.
I tried to reply in our previous back and forth..try again here: I don't like to judge or make assumptions. But p*rn honestly seriously damages relationships, so if you did wind up with someone, even though your intentions would be to drop it, it often continues to rear its ugly head, like it or not; it really does cause objectification of women, even though that may not be your intention. P*rn doesn't CARE what your intentions are. As discussed on this channel, you wind up needing it more and more, while real life women become dissatisfactory. This happened in my relationship. I'm probably older than you (I'm middle aged), and my ex watched more and more and became fixated with very young (barely) women, and that's what he wanted, that's where his mind was - NOT with me. It wound up that he'd think of THEM while with me, just basically using my body to live out his fantasies. There's NOTHING of value in that to a woman, let me tell you. Just pain there. He also wound up abusing me mentally and emotionally (since I was an "object", as it does create, as Dr. Trish says, a "narcissistic bubble" in users). So he's a 60 year old man now (not a "Chad", and he neglects his hygiene, his clothes, etc), lusting after very young "women", and will likely remain single for life, since I'm his 2nd failed long-term relationship, and he will not find out in the world what he watches online. So, I hate to judge anyone, but just a word of warning about it, from someone who's seen what it can do to relationships. Yes, physical attraction plays its part when couples get together, but it should not wind up as the main focus as the relationship grows..in fact, its significance should lessen. P*rn emphasizes youth and "ideal" bodies - it's hedonistic/purely self-focused - and when you focus on the body, in such a superficial way, that's NOT fostering love and connection and such forth, it's promoting lust and cheating (also, real bodies can't compete - or certainly not for long). It's "playing with fire", no joke. We need to think very carefully what we do. What we think, look at, etc, etc: Matthew 6:21: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." God Bless
I'll try again here: I don't like to judge or make assumptions. But "p" honestly seriously damages relationships, so if you did wind up finding a partner, even though your intentions would be to drop "p", it often continues to rear its ugly head, like it or not; it really does cause women to be viewed as object, even though that may not be your intention. "P" doesn't CARE what your intentions are. As discussed on this channel, you wind up needing it more and more, while real life partners become dissatisfactory. This happened in my relationship. I'm probably older than you (I'm middle aged), and my ex watched more and more and became fixated with very young women, and that's what he wanted, that's where his mind was - NOT with me. It wound up that he'd think of THEM while with me, just basically using me to live out his fantasies. There's NOTHING of value in that to a woman, let me tell you. Just pain there. He also wound up 'not treating me very well' me mentally and emotionally (as it does create, as Dr. Trish says, a "narcissistic bubble" in users). So he's a 60 year old man now (not a "Chad", and he neglects his hygiene, his clothes, etc), 'desiring' very young "women", and will likely remain single for life, since I'm his 2nd failed long-term relationship, and he will not find out in the world what he watches online. So, I hate to judge anyone, but just a word of warning about it, from someone who's seen what it can do to relationships. Yes, physical attraction plays its part when couples get together, but it should not wind up as the main focus as the relationship grows..in fact, its significance should lessen. "P" emphasizes youth and "ideal" bodies - it's hedonistic/purely self-focused - and when you focus on the body, in such a superficial way, that's NOT fostering love and connection and such forth, it's promoting lust and cheating (also, real bodies can't compete - or certainly not for long). It's "playing with fire", no joke. We need to think very carefully what we do. What we think, look at, etc, etc: Matthew 6:21: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." God Bless
@Lynn-dx9gj I can't argue with anything you said. But I'm not in a relationship with anyone and haven't been for 8 years. Moreover, I don't intend to enter into any relationships for the remainder of my life. So if I choose to look at it, I'm the only one who gets hurt. Notice I didn't say I did look at pornography. I said "if" I chose to . By the way, you are not older than me. Hope you heal and have a good life.
@@JamesSullivan-p9m I hear you - I hear you! I plan on remaining single as well.. Thank you. And I appreciate your respectful communication with me, as well as your honestly. Truly wish you the best :)
Came across your channel a few days ago. Been really struggling a lot, having many slips. I really want to start over. Lots of great things for me to work on, thank you
Been addicted to porn since 11-12 years of age and I’m 25 now.I want to break from it but it’s something is pulling me back in I hate this addiction it’s seem so hard to let go it’s has ruined my life to the point I’m very anti social around people always feeling nervous in public or like have shame or guilt.I have great thing and ideas I want to bring to reality for example like social media content something I always wanted to do but I feel porn has made me so doubtful and fear of taking any risk it make me always think what others think of me , no confidence, never feel like I’m enough to even be on earth and I also ruined lots of relationships because of this porn addictions because I feel it made me too emotional 🤦🏽♂️ I just want this addiction gone I feel horrible everyday I don’t even feel like a man
Trish , I've heard the opinion said and I kind of agree , that men should indeed retain but also that you should release occasionally as you then get the benefit of retention and of release. Number of days obviously based on age and probably varying level of virility between men. If 7 to 10 is the number for max testosterone , how often would you say a 50 Yr old should release?
It's mostly about mood regulation for most people I think. I don't think "greed" is a positive way to approach this. It is also used as a powerful distraction from boredom and/or pain. I think this video is making it far more complicated than it is. And once one gets used to the dopamine hits it becomes an addiction. One must find a way to stay out of the screen and gradually the thoughts and desires for and about porn will lessen. That's an interesting story about the cop but I thought this was about porn.
My mother makes fun of me, and she makes fun of me too much, my self-confidence is gone, I am not able to understand anything, what should I do, I am suffering from mental stress, no one is with me right now, if you help me then I see you as an ideal in my life
Do you offer any help for women who have survived abuse from a p0rn addict and whom are consequently experiencing ptsd or betrayal trauma? OR can you recommend a book or anything for them?
Hey Dr.trish, have a question, so I go on these long streaks for weeks, last long streak is almost 100 days but when I relapsed it gets out of control for days then turns to weeks next thing i notice its been a month then I suddenly stop by some motivation realization or by somthing els. Then get off the hub for weeks then the cycle starts again. Whats going on with my brain wise.?? I’m i actually healing by brain or is it the same as not trying to stop and doing it everyday? By the way I I’m trying to stop forever.
Those long streaks ARE helping! Especially helping you develop a rock solid recovery plan. Keep at it, keep adjusting your recovery plan, and reach out if you need help!
@@DrTrishLeigh how much impact will talking about this to someone help me out? I haven't talked about this to anyone clearly yet, mostly just watching it but not the other part. I have been contemplating about talking about this to someone, laying all the cards out holding nothing back. I know it's the right thing to do and I know it will take a lot of wight off my shoulders now that this dark addiction is not hidden anylonger, but I only fear that I will go back later and it will get worser. but you dont know tell you try, right. what do you think Dr. Trish?
Thanks No porn 3month. This is my 20th attempt to quit. I hate porn I hate what it does to those poor girls in porn. So many die. I'm poor otherwise I'd get help. Pray for me please....
@DrTrishLeigh I'm 65 years old. Since I was 15 I've struggled. I almost killed myself at least twice. My wife does not know. Most times I cry when I'm alone. I have adhd type c, generalized anxiety disorder and a plethora of many mental abnormalities. I was born 2 months early. I'm extremely worried 😟.
I can't get rid of nopor addiction, the only way it was possible for me to stay away is when I lost my phone and waited 1 week to get the new one. Cell phones play a big part
Excellent video Trish, it funny because as a Muslim, all these points that you mentioned have been emphasised greatly in my religion and so thanks to god, I don't suffer from these issues. You should look into Islam, it seems to align with a lot of your values.
You need God and godly people in your life to be your best. God says you were never meant to do this on your own. Put on the full armor of God and join other soldiers of Christ to fight this war. “Woe unto him who is alone…..two is better than one and a three cord is not easily broken.” The Bible
Day 1/90 I've been addicted for 16 years since I was 12. I am so glad I have found your channel and I really appreciate the hard work you put into your videos to help others reach their full potential! ❤
Me too same for 16 years and failed again yesterday l, i have never able to quit more than a week, i have lost everything in my life i am literally in the street no money no friends no job never been in any real relationships, i am nothing, now i am here
Day 13 and going strong with thanks to Dr Trish. My mind is clear and my conscience is fresh, free from the shackles and burdens of this horrid addiction. May it continue...
My mother makes fun of me, and she makes fun of me too much, my self-confidence is gone, I am not able to understand anything, what should I do, I am suffering from mental stress, no one is with me right now, if you help me then I see you as an ideal in my life
The Bible is supernatural. A relationship with Jesus is supernatural. I started a three day fast this morning. Thank you for this message. I'm 34 years old, make $27,000 a month and am retired. This video really inspired me in many ways!!!🙏🏾
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Find things that are easy and convenient! If you already have a guitar, learn it. If you live close to a rock climbing gym, join it. Etc. you aren't likely to continue with an activity if it's too inconvenient for you
Six ways to enjoy porn: realize it's there for good. Don't feel anymore guilty for the sin than the sinners around you who don't look at it. Control and prolong your climaxes for maximum joy.. Get comfortable before viewings. Take sex supplements a couple of hours prior. Maintain healthy happy relationships with family and friends. And enjoy it alone so that you aren't causing others to sin with you, or be hurt by it in some way. And don't forget to ask God for forgives for all of your sins, including pornography, every night before going to bed Peace.
Might kill ms sooner or later because of this stupid addiction. From 14 to now 18 I’ve been addicted and it’s ruined my life. I cannot go 1 single day without the dopamine. I don’t have any friend and still virgin, I look like shit, I inside all day now. You’d think I’m a complete freak if you didn’t know me on a deeper level. Maybe I am a freak at this point. I think the p*rn industry is one of the worst things ever and I’m a victim of it now I’m even not wanting to live, first saw it on the tv at like 7 years old. On the effing TV… like why was that shit on the TELEVISION?? I think I may have been SA’d to some degree aswell but it’s all a blur but I think that’s what is one of the root causes of this addiction 🤦♂️
Was a good looking athletic, happy, healthy kid a few years ago now I’m a slob, looking like complete dog 💩. Porn f**ks you up mentally, physically, and spiritually. If you’re not addicted to it but maybe you watch it every now and then, my advice is to COMPLETELY CUT THAT CRAP OUT. I wouldn’t want anybody to end up like me. It’s terrible and you can get caught in a cycle of saying “I’ll stop tomorrow” FOR YEARS. Like seriously the brain is crazy
Thank you for all the great videos, Just want to mention that. The book is basically repeating everything that the bible teaches. If you are living by Bible standards. Then you will be in a better position too. Be more successful in your life.😊
Self loathing is the #1 culprit of all porn addictions so children who live in toxic environments or even at school if they go through the experience of a broken family they are far more vulnerable to the porn addiction habit as well as other drugs.
As a man who struggles with homosexuality, I see MANY hetero couples who's life is questionable and should NEVER have had kids. MANY. At least 40 percent shouldn't have kids, yet they do ... only to bring more problems in this world.
Wet dreams are natural the brain is doing what it needs to do to release the old sperm. They key too reducing sexual urges and thoughts is to stop feeding your mind sexual images. This includes anime with sexual themes or female characters and all of its incarcerations, video games that feature any of these as well. You’ll need the cold turkey approach so you will have to quit all social media,and you should take B complex to deal with your anxiety. And do not take the phone in the bed with you. Your diet must also change avoid high carbs and sugar. Eat healthy go to the gym and definitely find an accountability person and be honest. Seek any psychotherapy to deal with anxiety.
Wet dreams are normal. It's the natural way God made us to release sexual tension when we are single. If you wake up with urge to mast, JUMP out of bed and go for a walk/ jog. Cardio kinda kills libido and makes you focus on other pleasant things other than sexuality.
No, ur consuming it because ur purposeless. You need to keep and stay busy as a man especially since you’re young your testosterone is high and you’ll feel a lot of urges. But if you stay busy you won’t think lustful thoughts and at the end of the day your body is tired to even engage in these acts. Once you control your lust marriage is good. Or marry to avoid using porn
@@DrTrishLeigh great i think ive seen them, but i cant get it clear. what is your simple answer? im on semen retention for long periods and can't feel that P is influcenting the vibration anything.
I've been addicted for 14 years since I was 12 I'm so tired of it, been wanting to quit since like 6 years ago but haven't been able to, it took everything away from me
Porn will trick your brain into going back into the screens, that's why you need to unwire, rewire and also hard-wire the brain to be porn-free. If you ever need help, visit drtrishleigh.com :)
Is being obsessed with quitting porn and doing so for an an extended period of time actually the same as being addicted to porn? If the urges are still there, couldn't it also be said that the addiction still essentially remains stewing in the mind of the individual? I had a 121 day streak of no fap/ no masturbation and the essential issue still remained. We are biological beings, and sexual urges are perfectly normal. Why should people be demonized for satisfying an innate biological urge, fundamentally?
I want to be clear: I would love to live like this in principle. However, there are limitations within this framework, I believe. I would also say that from a libertarian perspective I do not think that pornography should be banned for adults to watch. Ultimately, an individual must voluntarily and of their own volition decide not to view material like this online.
This addiction has ruined my life it literally made me think i was broken and has caused me to have episodes of depression that feel inescapable . I will break this addiction and get my life back
just discovered my sons web browser history TODAY, he's 12... Going to have the talk and use the wifi router to block his IP address from visiting sites. yikes.
I suppose there was a time when I too, believed porn was thr ultimate low. But over the years, I noticed that most of the people who condemned it, were engaging in sex with other couples, or encouraging porn addicts to try the resl thing to feel normal again. Soi realized that they were approving of adult consensual sex but porn is taboo. In other words, they were saying that real sex orgies between consenting adults was a lesser sin than looking at porn. In fact, most of them don't even think that what they are doing is wrong at all. So, which is better:adultery of the heart (porn) or sdultry in the flesh? Make your choice.
@@Lynn-dx9gj I couldn't agree more with you. I wasn't saying sin is okay under any circumstances. What I did say was let's not be hypocrites when it comes to porn viewers. Yes, they are sinners too, but so are people who have sexual get togethers . I don't know which is the greater sin but I would rather be guilty of pornography (fantasy) than group sex (real life).
@@JamesSullivan-p9m Still comes across as a way to feel better about the lesser sin (to me). Porn is still cheating: As Jesus said, “But I say to you that whoever looks on a woman, to lust after her, has committed adultery with her already in his heart" Matthew 5:28
@@Lynn-dx9gj Yes, I would feel better about being guilty of the lesser sin. But I'm not sure there's any such thing as a lesser sin. Like you said, sin is equal in it's guiltiness. But look, would you rather be guilty of stealing a few cookies out of the cookie jar, or robbing a bank? They are both stealing. Would the punishment for these be the same in heaven?
I have been doing this NO-NUT NOVEMBER challenge, and have slipped a thousand times (No ejaculation), it's getting worse on daily basis, I doubt if I can make it to 30th of this month, the worst is, whenever ever am alone I start thinking about the horrible things people did to me in the past or sometimes I start thinking of how i was born into a toxic broken home, I swear am just tired of living 🤷
I'm sorry to hear you're struggling my friend. Dig in to that trauma and really focus on rewiring your brain. I'm here if you need any help ♥️ DrTrishleigh.com
Get a girlfriend who loves sex and watch (or make) porn together. Meet open minded people for group sex and photo sessions. Sex is more than just a spectator sport-- share with others who accept your sexuality. There are communities out there who won't judge or shame you for your desires.
@user-or9cj3vk6t You are a religion addict, and your thoughts are harmful. Everyone is welcome to indulge in religious fantasy, if that's what turns you on, but don't use it as an excuse to abuse others.
@DrTrishLeigh I've watched enough of your videos to know you are an anti-porn crusader instilling guilt and self loathing in horny young men, probably to advance a religious agenda. The introduction to Project 2025, written by the president of the ultra-conservative Heritage Foundation, which is vey influential in the Trump regime, states: "Pornography should be outlawed. The people who produce and distribute it should be imprisoned."
Life makes us all what we are and "the version of ourselves" that we see cannot, and will not change. What do we do if we haven't got a partner ? Live a life of complete celibacy ? OR "Go out there in the world and meet a "Honey" ?
@@DrTrishLeigh The sexual instinct and the desire for closeness and intimacy lasts all our lives and for most who have never found it - it has meant an empty existence. As someone who has been on his own all his life I disagree with much of your content. Like many men I (partially) satisfy my needs with masturbation and prostitution. "Going out into the world" has only spelt rejection and loneliness for me. Apparently I'm ugly - so they say. It's Saturday night - back to "Chaturbate" !
@@DrTrishLeigh Obviously one of your stock answers - a ridiculous reply to my post - but correct for some. However no one should live without the active engagement of love.
Do you want to reclaim your life and embrace healthy sexuality? Drop a ❌ below if you do! 🙌🏼
23 yrs old. Never commented on a single youtube video until now. Genuinely appreciated Dr. Leigh for her incredible insight and boundless patience for people currently stuck in this addition.
Like many young men, I was introduced to PMO at a very young age, its been part of my life for a a little over a decade but really ramped up its control over my life about 2 years ago. Coupled with a family tragedy and a chaotic breakup, I fell deeper into my addiction. Starting about a year ago I commited to quitting. After several medium to moderate streaks, i always end up falling back in. (Longest was about 70 days?)
For anyone else in my position, how do you push through the cycles of abstinence and slipping? Its pretty disheartening. I feel sober and committed and then boom, the momentum i build suddnely dissolves and im back on the screen. I know theres lots of advice and steps but i still feel like im wrestling with myself. 1 year in, any advice? Words of caution? I know the triggers and the warning signs and yet i slip! Very frustrating. Thanks to anyone who read this wall of text!
BACK ON THE HORSE
Adjust your recovery plan each time you fall off the horse and keep pushing forward! I'm sorry you're struggling now, but things WILL get better!
30 years of addiction and 9 months free
I'm happy for this!
@@DrTrishLeighl owe a debt of gratitude to you. Your approach is the best on the internet because it's purely scientific and non-judgmental. Without you, l am not sure if l could have done this. Please keep up your wonderful work !
What was your withdrawal symptoms?
Have you had any back pain or unbalance while you stopping? Thanks.
@desbelekidane5869 l don't think l have experienced anything significant, except that l still do have urges from time to time. But they are less frequent and less intense, and l don't feel compelled to act on them anymore. My experience is that as long as l fill my life with joyful and meaningful activities, porn loses its appeal and I don't even think about it anymore. The dopamine release in my brain now is mild and regular and I don't crave the dopamine rush that porn provides anymore.
@@desbelekidane5869 l don't think l have experienced anything noticeable, except that there are still urges from time to time. But they are much less frequent and intense than before and I don't feel compelled to act on them anymore.
53 days free, funny thing is I am findind Jesus again
❤ brown rice and whole wheat is the way and no lust, the veggies and grains take away the lustful thoughts and cravings.
@@truthseek3017 no thanks i want my test levels high
With Him all things are possible
Day one, wish me luck guys, i literally fried my brain on this digital stove.
I was 47 day free yesterday i had a slip i don't know why i wasn't stressed out or anything I just missed the feeling and made a conscious decision to do it , today I kept trying to understand why i did it I don't understand why i did it. I am very angry at myself because I really could have avoided doing it. It is a 8 year old addiction and doesn't magically go away but still this kinda slips really break your will you know.
God bless you and your family. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and beauty ❤
There was a time when I talked just like this woman. But with time and events, a greater understanding has come. Help those who need and want help snd leave everyone else alone. And remember that I have three fingers pointing back at me whenever I point one finger at someone else.
I tried to reply in our previous back and forth..try again here: I don't like to judge or make assumptions. But p*rn honestly seriously damages relationships, so if you did wind up with someone, even though your intentions would be to drop it, it often continues to rear its ugly head, like it or not; it really does cause objectification of women, even though that may not be your intention. P*rn doesn't CARE what your intentions are. As discussed on this channel, you wind up needing it more and more, while real life women become dissatisfactory. This happened in my relationship. I'm probably older than you (I'm middle aged), and my ex watched more and more and became fixated with very young (barely) women, and that's what he wanted, that's where his mind was - NOT with me. It wound up that he'd think of THEM while with me, just basically using my body to live out his fantasies. There's NOTHING of value in that to a woman, let me tell you. Just pain there. He also wound up abusing me mentally and emotionally (since I was an "object", as it does create, as Dr. Trish says, a "narcissistic bubble" in users). So he's a 60 year old man now (not a "Chad", and he neglects his hygiene, his clothes, etc), lusting after very young "women", and will likely remain single for life, since I'm his 2nd failed long-term relationship, and he will not find out in the world what he watches online. So, I hate to judge anyone, but just a word of warning about it, from someone who's seen what it can do to relationships. Yes, physical attraction plays its part when couples get together, but it should not wind up as the main focus as the relationship grows..in fact, its significance should lessen. P*rn emphasizes youth and "ideal" bodies - it's hedonistic/purely self-focused - and when you focus on the body, in such a superficial way, that's NOT fostering love and connection and such forth, it's promoting lust and cheating (also, real bodies can't compete - or certainly not for long). It's "playing with fire", no joke. We need to think very carefully what we do. What we think, look at, etc, etc: Matthew 6:21: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." God Bless
I'll try again here: I don't like to judge or make assumptions. But "p" honestly seriously damages relationships, so if you did wind up finding a partner, even though your intentions would be to drop "p", it often continues to rear its ugly head, like it or not; it really does cause women to be viewed as object, even though that may not be your intention. "P" doesn't CARE what your intentions are. As discussed on this channel, you wind up needing it more and more, while real life partners become dissatisfactory. This happened in my relationship. I'm probably older than you (I'm middle aged), and my ex watched more and more and became fixated with very young women, and that's what he wanted, that's where his mind was - NOT with me. It wound up that he'd think of THEM while with me, just basically using me to live out his fantasies. There's NOTHING of value in that to a woman, let me tell you. Just pain there. He also wound up 'not treating me very well' me mentally and emotionally (as it does create, as Dr. Trish says, a "narcissistic bubble" in users). So he's a 60 year old man now (not a "Chad", and he neglects his hygiene, his clothes, etc), 'desiring' very young "women", and will likely remain single for life, since I'm his 2nd failed long-term relationship, and he will not find out in the world what he watches online. So, I hate to judge anyone, but just a word of warning about it, from someone who's seen what it can do to relationships. Yes, physical attraction plays its part when couples get together, but it should not wind up as the main focus as the relationship grows..in fact, its significance should lessen. "P" emphasizes youth and "ideal" bodies - it's hedonistic/purely self-focused - and when you focus on the body, in such a superficial way, that's NOT fostering love and connection and such forth, it's promoting lust and cheating (also, real bodies can't compete - or certainly not for long). It's "playing with fire", no joke. We need to think very carefully what we do. What we think, look at, etc, etc: Matthew 6:21: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." God Bless
@Lynn-dx9gj I can't argue with anything you said. But I'm not in a relationship with anyone and haven't been for 8 years. Moreover, I don't intend to enter into any relationships for the remainder of my life. So if I choose to look at it, I'm the only one who gets hurt. Notice I didn't say I did look at pornography. I said "if" I chose to . By the way, you are not older than me. Hope you heal and have a good life.
@@JamesSullivan-p9m I hear you - I hear you! I plan on remaining single as well.. Thank you. And I appreciate your respectful communication with me, as well as your honestly. Truly wish you the best :)
This channel finds the people who need it!
Came across your channel a few days ago. Been really struggling a lot, having many slips. I really want to start over. Lots of great things for me to work on, thank you
Been addicted to porn since 11-12 years of age and I’m 25 now.I want to break from it but it’s something is pulling me back in I hate this addiction it’s seem so hard to let go it’s has ruined my life to the point I’m very anti social around people always feeling nervous in public or like have shame or guilt.I have great thing and ideas I want to bring to reality for example like social media content something I always wanted to do but I feel porn has made me so doubtful and fear of taking any risk it make me always think what others think of me , no confidence, never feel like I’m enough to even be on earth and I also ruined lots of relationships because of this porn addictions because I feel it made me too emotional 🤦🏽♂️ I just want this addiction gone I feel horrible everyday I don’t even feel like a man
Be a man by leaving porn. Check out the other videos, hope those would help!
@ I will check out other vids of yours too see if I can apply techniques too conquer this addiction out my life
Find Jesus he will help and guide you. Pick ed up the bible makes it easier
@ thank my brother I just downloaded this Bible app on my phone
@@Leek-p4e no worries. I'm just starting to read to. May Jesus heal us both.
THANK YOU DR TRESIGH LEIGH ❤
Thank you too!
Trish , I've heard the opinion said and I kind of agree , that men should indeed retain but also that you should release occasionally as you then get the benefit of retention and of release. Number of days obviously based on age and probably varying level of virility between men. If 7 to 10 is the number for max testosterone , how often would you say a 50 Yr old should release?
If you've ever had a porn habit, I wouldn't recommend it at all!
Dr. Trish, can i take supplements during my recovery?
A little over 4 weeks now, 15 days in November. Hoping to follow your instructions, Dr. Feels better.
💪💪 you've got this!
@DrTrishLeigh Also, been brushing my teeth with the Left hand since 1st November, just doing something different.
It's mostly about mood regulation for most people I think. I don't think "greed" is a positive way to approach this. It is also used as a powerful distraction from boredom and/or pain. I think this video is making it far more complicated than it is. And once one gets used to the dopamine hits it becomes an addiction. One must find a way to stay out of the screen and gradually the thoughts and desires for and about porn will lessen. That's an interesting story about the cop but I thought this was about porn.
My mother makes fun of me, and she makes fun of me too much, my self-confidence is gone, I am not able to understand anything, what should I do, I am suffering from mental stress, no one is with me right now, if you help me then I see you as an ideal in my life
Do you offer any help for women who have survived abuse from a p0rn addict and whom are consequently experiencing ptsd or betrayal trauma? OR can you recommend a book or anything for them?
Hey Dr.trish, have a question, so I go on these long streaks for weeks, last long streak is almost 100 days but when I relapsed it gets out of control for days then turns to weeks next thing i notice its been a month then I suddenly stop by some motivation realization or by somthing els. Then get off the hub for weeks then the cycle starts again. Whats going on with my brain wise.??
I’m i actually healing by brain or is it the same as not trying to stop and doing it everyday?
By the way I I’m trying to stop forever.
Those long streaks ARE helping! Especially helping you develop a rock solid recovery plan. Keep at it, keep adjusting your recovery plan, and reach out if you need help!
@@DrTrishLeigh how much impact will talking about this to someone help me out? I haven't talked about this to anyone clearly yet, mostly just watching it but not the other part. I have been contemplating about talking about this to someone, laying all the cards out holding nothing back. I know it's the right thing to do and I know it will take a lot of wight off my shoulders now that this dark addiction is not hidden anylonger, but I only fear that I will go back later and it will get worser. but you dont know tell you try, right. what do you think Dr. Trish?
Thanks
No porn 3month.
This is my 20th attempt to quit. I hate porn I hate what it does to those poor girls in porn. So many die.
I'm poor otherwise I'd get help.
Pray for me please....
I'm with you! I'm sorry! Keep trying! Never give up! Eventually IT WILL TAKE!
@mikeltolman7622
I so appreciate that....Thankyou
You've got this my friend 💪
@DrTrishLeigh I'm 65 years old. Since I was 15 I've struggled.
I almost killed myself at least twice.
My wife does not know.
Most times I cry when I'm alone.
I have adhd type c, generalized anxiety disorder and a plethora of many mental abnormalities.
I was born 2 months early.
I'm extremely worried 😟.
I can't get rid of nopor addiction, the only way it was possible for me to stay away is when I lost my phone and waited 1 week to get the new one. Cell phones play a big part
Get a flip phone!
Excellent video Trish, it funny because as a Muslim, all these points that you mentioned have been emphasised greatly in my religion and so thanks to god, I don't suffer from these issues. You should look into Islam, it seems to align with a lot of your values.
Why do you have two separate UA-cam channels?
One is for neurofeedback! Focusing more on this one for right now though ♥️
You need God and godly people in your life to be your best.
God says you were never meant to do this on your own.
Put on the full armor of God and join other soldiers of Christ to fight this war.
“Woe unto him who is alone…..two is better than one and a three cord is not easily broken.” The Bible
Day 1/90
I've been addicted for 16 years since I was 12. I am so glad I have found your channel and I really appreciate the hard work you put into your videos to help others reach their full potential! ❤
You aren't alone, we got this
Me too same for 16 years and failed again yesterday l, i have never able to quit more than a week, i have lost everything in my life i am literally in the street no money no friends no job never been in any real relationships, i am nothing, now i am here
@Abhishek-n7q2z bro do you have discord?
Day 14 clean from being exposed to it 30 years ago at age 11.
Welcome to the journey my friend! Happy you're here ♥️
Your husband is luckiest person on this planet 😊
In physical way or?
@@ursacubs7765 supportive way ❤️
mwahah here come the thirsty simping pajeets
Hi doctor I am 18 and I have addicted from the age of 13 how much time will it take for me to recover?
It depends on a lot of things! Check out drtrishleigh.com for consult options
Love ya Trish ❤
Is porn addiction dopamine the same as consuming a lot of reels/TikToks?
Yes! But porn is a lot higher of a level
Imagine living in a world where porn doesn't exist.
It would be a great one!
Day 13 and going strong with thanks to Dr Trish. My mind is clear and my conscience is fresh, free from the shackles and burdens of this horrid addiction. May it continue...
All the best brother! 👍🏽
@@doctorkamraan Thanks, friend. Best wishes to you as well.
Day 14 today for me.
1 month now, with zero desire to get back or even have any sexual life.
@sauron73 Guard your eyes. Glancing 1 split second more when looking at something or someone can and will trigger urges. We all can fall quick.
How do I get over the dreams , so intense 🤔🙄
You have to focus on rewiring your brain!
I afraid of erectile dysfunction. Anxiety and other social problems are not matter to me.
Erectile Dysfunction is a huge side effect of porn addiction!
Do you have help me, because I am in depression
I'm here to help! Follow along with No Vice November!
My mother makes fun of me, and she makes fun of me too much, my self-confidence is gone, I am not able to understand anything, what should I do, I am suffering from mental stress, no one is with me right now, if you help me then I see you as an ideal in my life
This is progress not perfection one day at a time one hour one minute we can get through this , Thanks
In my opinion the easiest way to give up watching porn is to have girlfriend it's much easier
You're amazing first of all, how do I deal with the dreams, been doing great for 13 days thanks 😉🤔
The dreams will fade out when your brain gets rewired!
The Bible is supernatural. A relationship with Jesus is supernatural. I started a three day fast this morning. Thank you for this message. I'm 34 years old, make $27,000 a month and am retired. This video really inspired me in many ways!!!🙏🏾
I'm feeling really motivated. Could you share some details about the bi-weekly topic you brought up?
Yeah sounds impossible, yet with Christina Ann Tucker, I've come to the conclusion that financially anything is possible. I got my self my dream car just last weekend and a whooping $320k in savings already, My journey with her started after my best friend came back from New York and saw me suffering in debt then told me about her and how to change my life through her. Christina A. Tucker is the kind of person one needs in his or her life! I got a home, a good wife, and a beautiful daughter. Note!:: this is not a promotion but me trying to make a point that no matter what happens, always have faith and keep living!!
Wow 😱 I know her too! Miss Christina Ann Tucker is a remarkable individual whom has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.
I got started with a miserly $1500. The results have been mind blowing I must say TBH!!
How do you find hobbies that you enjoy that is beyond throwing jello at a wall to see what sticks?
Find things that are easy and convenient! If you already have a guitar, learn it. If you live close to a rock climbing gym, join it. Etc. you aren't likely to continue with an activity if it's too inconvenient for you
Six ways to enjoy porn: realize it's there for good. Don't feel anymore guilty for the sin than the sinners around you who don't look at it. Control and prolong your climaxes for maximum joy.. Get comfortable before viewings. Take sex supplements a couple of hours prior. Maintain healthy happy relationships with family and friends. And enjoy it alone so that you aren't causing others to sin with you, or be hurt by it in some way. And don't forget to ask God for forgives for all of your sins, including pornography, every night before going to bed Peace.
Might kill ms sooner or later because of this stupid addiction. From 14 to now 18 I’ve been addicted and it’s ruined my life. I cannot go 1 single day without the dopamine. I don’t have any friend and still virgin, I look like shit, I inside all day now. You’d think I’m a complete freak if you didn’t know me on a deeper level. Maybe I am a freak at this point. I think the p*rn industry is one of the worst things ever and I’m a victim of it now I’m even not wanting to live, first saw it on the tv at like 7 years old. On the effing TV… like why was that shit on the TELEVISION??
I think I may have been SA’d to some degree aswell but it’s all a blur but I think that’s what is one of the root causes of this addiction 🤦♂️
Was a good looking athletic, happy, healthy kid a few years ago now I’m a slob, looking like complete dog 💩. Porn f**ks you up mentally, physically, and spiritually. If you’re not addicted to it but maybe you watch it every now and then, my advice is to COMPLETELY CUT THAT CRAP OUT. I wouldn’t want anybody to end up like me. It’s terrible and you can get caught in a cycle of saying “I’ll stop tomorrow” FOR YEARS. Like seriously the brain is crazy
It's NEVER too late to quit my friend! Things can and WILL get better ♥️ if you need help I'm here
Thank you for all the great videos, Just want to mention that.
The book is basically repeating everything that the bible teaches. If you are living by Bible standards.
Then you will be in a better position too.
Be more successful in your life.😊
Wait... this is literally just Buddhist precepts.
These five 5 precepts are exactly 5 buddist precepts for lay person 😅
Self loathing is the #1 culprit of all porn addictions so children who live in toxic environments or even at school if they go through the experience of a broken family they are far more vulnerable to the porn addiction habit as well as other drugs.
As a man who struggles with homosexuality, I see MANY hetero couples who's life is questionable and should NEVER have had kids. MANY. At least 40 percent shouldn't have kids, yet they do ... only to bring more problems in this world.
36 days in and counting
keep it up!
How to handle wet dreams? Or dreams so sexual in nature that they wake me up with the intense urge to masturbate?
Wet dreams are natural the brain is doing what it needs to do to release the old sperm. They key too reducing sexual urges and thoughts is to stop feeding your mind sexual images. This includes anime with sexual themes or female characters and all of its incarcerations, video games that feature any of these as well. You’ll need the cold turkey approach so you will have to quit all social media,and you should take B complex to deal with your anxiety. And do not take the phone in the bed with you. Your diet must also change avoid high carbs and sugar. Eat healthy go to the gym and definitely find an accountability person and be honest. Seek any psychotherapy to deal with anxiety.
enjoy! way better than pixels
When I focus my mind on something intensely just before bed, I tend to have dreams about it, esp. if I visualize it.
Wet dreams are normal. It's the natural way God made us to release sexual tension when we are single. If you wake up with urge to mast, JUMP out of bed and go for a walk/ jog. Cardio kinda kills libido and makes you focus on other pleasant things other than sexuality.
Take a cold shower if it's too intense! Then make brain training part of your recovery plan
Madam its not Goldstein says..its an ancient buddhist principle ...goldstein has not discovered that ...its ver much part of the eastern wisdom..
I am 28 and i am consuming porn since teen age. I want to marry.
Should i marry?
No, ur consuming it because ur purposeless. You need to keep and stay busy as a man especially since you’re young your testosterone is high and you’ll feel a lot of urges. But if you stay busy you won’t think lustful thoughts and at the end of the day your body is tired to even engage in these acts.
Once you control your lust marriage is good.
Or marry to avoid using porn
Leave porn behind and then yes!
This are 5 percepts of buddha in buddhism ....im from india
do you include releasing semen in Porn addiction?
I have a few videos about semen Retention!
@@DrTrishLeigh great i think ive seen them, but i cant get it clear. what is your simple answer? im on semen retention for long periods and can't feel that P is influcenting the vibration anything.
Day 29.
8 days free, :D whats salty rooster? lol
I've been addicted for 14 years since I was 12 I'm so tired of it, been wanting to quit since like 6 years ago but haven't been able to, it took everything away from me
Porn will trick your brain into going back into the screens, that's why you need to unwire, rewire and also hard-wire the brain to be porn-free. If you ever need help, visit drtrishleigh.com :)
Its buddhas percept
He took 5 of the 10commandments in the bible thats cool
Is being obsessed with quitting porn and doing so for an an extended period of time actually the same as being addicted to porn? If the urges are still there, couldn't it also be said that the addiction still essentially remains stewing in the mind of the individual? I had a 121 day streak of no fap/ no masturbation and the essential issue still remained. We are biological beings, and sexual urges are perfectly normal. Why should people be demonized for satisfying an innate biological urge, fundamentally?
I want to be clear: I would love to live like this in principle. However, there are limitations within this framework, I believe. I would also say that from a libertarian perspective I do not think that pornography should be banned for adults to watch. Ultimately, an individual must voluntarily and of their own volition decide not to view material like this online.
Absolutely! That's why a big part of my programs are rewiring your brain. Sometimes quitting isn't enough
6 months free
Keep up the good work! Happy for this
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This addiction has ruined my life it literally made me think i was broken and has caused me to have episodes of depression that feel inescapable . I will break this addiction and get my life back
You got this!
just discovered my sons web browser history TODAY, he's 12... Going to have the talk and use the wifi router to block his IP address from visiting sites. yikes.
It's affecting boys younger and younger now!
how to talk to you privately I have to contact with you
website
i dont no that she dont have whatsapp that way is more easy
Thanks for helping me out! You can reach me through website ;)
Pornography was voted on by the people and passed. Now we want to punish those who look at it.
I suppose there was a time when I too, believed porn was thr ultimate low. But over the years, I noticed that most of the people who condemned it, were engaging in sex with other couples, or encouraging porn addicts to try the resl thing to feel normal again. Soi realized that they were approving of adult consensual sex but porn is taboo. In other words, they were saying that real sex orgies between consenting adults was a lesser sin than looking at porn. In fact, most of them don't even think that what they are doing is wrong at all. So, which is better:adultery of the heart (porn) or sdultry in the flesh? Make your choice.
@@Lynn-dx9gj I couldn't agree more with you. I wasn't saying sin is okay under any circumstances. What I did say was let's not be hypocrites when it comes to porn viewers. Yes, they are sinners too, but so are people who have sexual get togethers . I don't know which is the greater sin but I would rather be guilty of pornography (fantasy) than group sex (real life).
100% true.
@@JamesSullivan-p9m And I'd rather be guilty of torturing someone than murder, but I"m sure going to run from both sins!
@@JamesSullivan-p9m Still comes across as a way to feel better about the lesser sin (to me). Porn is still cheating: As Jesus said, “But I say to you that whoever looks on a woman, to lust after her, has committed adultery with her already in his heart" Matthew 5:28
@@Lynn-dx9gj Yes, I would feel better about being guilty of the lesser sin. But I'm not sure there's any such thing as a lesser sin. Like you said, sin is equal in it's guiltiness. But look, would you rather be guilty of stealing a few cookies out of the cookie jar, or robbing a bank? They are both stealing. Would the punishment for these be the same in heaven?
I want to become a psychiatrist in life. It is so interesting. But i dont know path can u suggest
I have been doing this NO-NUT NOVEMBER challenge, and have slipped a thousand times (No ejaculation), it's getting worse on daily basis, I doubt if I can make it to 30th of this month, the worst is, whenever ever am alone I start thinking about the horrible things people did to me in the past or sometimes I start thinking of how i was born into a toxic broken home, I swear am just tired of living 🤷
woah! Call someone, reach out. Talk it through. Yes, what you resist persists, that's the hardest part.
Same here man I feel like it’s no point of living thanks too this porn addiction I feel like shit man
I'm sorry to hear you're struggling my friend. Dig in to that trauma and really focus on rewiring your brain. I'm here if you need any help ♥️ DrTrishleigh.com
Doc looking like a treat damn
Get a girlfriend who loves sex and watch (or make) porn together. Meet open minded people for group sex and photo sessions. Sex is more than just a spectator sport-- share with others who accept your sexuality. There are communities out there who won't judge or shame you for your desires.
You need to keep your harmful thoughts to yourself and receive healing from the Holy Spirit
@user-or9cj3vk6t You are a religion addict, and your thoughts are harmful. Everyone is welcome to indulge in religious fantasy, if that's what turns you on, but don't use it as an excuse to abuse others.
Watch some more of my videos my friend!
@DrTrishLeigh I've watched enough of your videos to know you are an anti-porn crusader instilling guilt and self loathing in horny young men, probably to advance a religious agenda. The introduction to Project 2025, written by the president of the ultra-conservative Heritage Foundation, which is vey influential in the Trump regime, states: "Pornography should be outlawed. The people who produce and distribute it should be imprisoned."
Life makes us all what we are and "the version of ourselves" that we see cannot, and will not change. What do we do if we haven't got a partner ? Live a life of complete celibacy ? OR "Go out there in the world and meet a "Honey" ?
You can live a happy and fulfilling life without sex!
@@DrTrishLeigh The sexual instinct and the desire for closeness and intimacy lasts all our lives and for most who have never found it - it has meant an empty existence. As someone who has been on his own all his life I disagree with much of your content. Like many men I (partially) satisfy my needs with masturbation and prostitution. "Going out into the world" has only spelt rejection and loneliness for me. Apparently I'm ugly - so they say. It's Saturday night - back to "Chaturbate" !
@@DrTrishLeigh Obviously one of your stock answers - a ridiculous reply to my post - but correct for some. However no one should live without the active engagement of love.
Girlfriend yes!!