Hey guys, I’ve realized that recording in the car is irresponsible and I’m going to be more mindful of that I apologize. I also spaced my seatbelt because I was busy talking 🤷♂️🤦♂️ For those who worry, just know I’m fine even if I don’t post for a while I’m just doing what I gotta do to take care of myself. Also, I told my sponsor that I thought I could have been a little nicer the last time I spoke to my ex on the phone so that’s what he’s referring to there. If anyone wants to talk know that I’m here for you! Peace and love to everyone and thank you so much for helping me through this difficult time. It’s really amazing and instills so much hope within me. Not only for myself but for all mankind! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯
Well, I for one will worry. I know…you’ve got things to do, but many of us have such a strong connection and belief in you. You’re like part of our family. 🫶🤗♥️. I’m not so sure you’ll ever get rid of us now…..😂🤣😂🤣
Your going to be okay ❤️🩹I been watching your journey and you are growing n changing that’s healthy stay quiet still n focus n heal I am sending you love n light Four 🙌🏽🥰❤️You will be okay my friend
Wow, just wow. What your sponser said was something I really needed to hear. Going to put this into practice in regards to my divorce. Haunted me for years. Thanks for sharing.
you remind me of a young sean penn an actor. many people in commet"s are very sweet with there flirting in other vlog"s , thay are genuine in caring, and letting you know there is hope. amen. nika seems chill and humble, watch and be comforted of her out come. seems like she is picking up where she left off before you where in picture. she said alot of the same as you early on so dont worry. no problem you are both doing well. we are lifting you and many other" in prayer, hello 4"s mom! amen
I have never been in a relationship that I can just breathe with no worrying, like you have to worry about their emotions their feelings their mess ups their everything. And I try so hard to just make it easy for them . But it never is for me, I'm waiting for that relationship that we are ready for the same things at the same times, I'm the important one right now I'm working on my happiness and loving myself, then I know god will send me the peace I need in a relationship. Breakups hurt, no matter how long your together. You got this , your figuring it out and that's strength
I’ll tell you something I wish I knew when I was younger and before I got married - it’s not our responsibility to fix or take care of anybody. A true loving partner will be a strong independent person, so that when you meet, you can mutually support each other to create your best lives together. People pleasing usually comes from childhood experiences where we feel we have to make things better to create a safe home. We don’t have to please everyone - just ourselves. We can be kind and nice, sure, but we don’t have to give everything of ourselves in a relationship as that creates imbalance. Or we attract people who take too much from us. I’d say do your work on yourself to truly know yourself and know what you want out of life and a partner. The right person will appear when you are ready. When we try to force it, the wrong people can invade our lives.
I love the Vlog and the wisdom you share from your own experiences. Your sponsor seems like a very sensitive man , you are lucky to have him. I found myself a bit distressed watching you drive while video taping and I noticed you were not wearing your seatbelt. We can all wait to hear from you until you are stopped and in one place. Please stay safe!!! With your history of broken bones and previous injuries, you can't take any chances!!!!!! We love what you are doing, Four. Keep up the good work.
Whew!….glad to hear from you! Was kinda worried when you didn’t post an update. Keep staying strong. You got this! I just love your smile and that twinkle in your eye. Makes me happy to see you doing so well. 🥰
Awww thank you so much for telling me. This is EXACTLY why I want to do this!! 💯💯💯 Makes y heart so happy to know that I have touched your life in a positive albeit small way. I have struggled with anxiety/ptsd in my own life so I totally understand. If you ever need to chat plz reach out okay? Peace and love my sister
I swear your sponsor reminds me of Robert Greene 💯! You should look him up if you don’t know who that is. Anyway really good stuff! Hope you have a wonderful day❤
Four I know it’s hard right now not knowing how she’s doing! Just leave her in Gods Hands He will take of her for You so that you don’t worry... You did all you could so let God do the rest!’ Keep ya chin up and yes this too shall pass, you’re stronger than you know!!! 🙏🏻
Hi ya mate, I would firstly like to apologise for my comment the other day, I was sceptical sorry. Truth be told I am going through a breakup myself so I do understand. Stay strong and keep being you, you deserve to feel proud of yourself. X
@Debs785 you are welcome . Life can be unfair and hard at times but I guarantee you the pain goes away . Lost my hubby in 2019 due to asthma at 38 so I speak from experience but know that the rain won't fall on you forever. The sun WILL shine again someday . It MUST always set to rise ❤️
It’s not what you do but how you are doing, true. Keep what you want private you still need a life your not a reality show. Again thanks for sharing what you feel comfortable with. Have a blessed peaceful weekend. 😅👋🙂
I love Eckhart Tolle. I have to be in the mood to listen to him because of his monotone calm voice but his messages are powerful. I love his one video on forgiving your past and he explains how we were not present at the time. It saved me. Love your videos.
Your sponser is very wise. I have trauma stuff I need to work through as well. Its not easy but I have to rely on the lord and his help when I feel triggered.
So much positivity in this group. It’s contagious! Honesty and sincerity speaks loudly above the noise, people can’t shoot that down! Even the occasional critiques on this channel are constructive!
He is so right. You lash out. Then you become calm. It’s a never ending battle. See it coming. Don’t react. Let me tell you that is difficult as I am a reactionary person. That’s exactly what I do. I go away by myself
This was so interesting. I guess the pain body arises when we are reacting rather than responding to situations. Responding means we are conscious and in the present moment. Reacting means the pain body is reliving the past experience (inappropriately) in the present moment, I think! Keen to learn more. Thank you!🙏
Exactly! I missed half of the conversation but I really wish I hadn’t because it was so good. But yes you’re spot on, great listener! Thanks so much for stopping by ❤️🙏💯
Glad you had a day off from work. You’re blessed to have such an incredible sponsor. Hope you enjoyed yourself with your group/friends. Much love and respect from Lexington, Kentucky.
This too shall pass, I know you're going thru it, just know people care out there. I find it really ironic you're basically homeless, and your ex is giving homeless supplies to the shelter. I don't know what else to say about it. Good luck my friend.
Why are you bashing her? She is giving back to the shelter that helped her ! I hope they get back together everyone of you bashing her will be bashing him next !!
Your sponsor's point about practising meditation, especially when times are good, is so important. It's developing a practice and foundation so focus and calm can easily be called on during the harder times. It's fantastic that you have his support and guidance. Onwards, my friend. 😄
Hi Four thank you for sharing with us and your sponsor..God will take care of Nika. She will get there in time 😊 Stay focused like your sponsor said. I'm proud of you.
@@AnyoneCanChange I mentioned your channel to a couple today at a cafe as well as Nikas your both wonderful people may the Lord bless you two as you follow God individually. In time God will work something out I'm sure for friendship if it's in his plan of course 😉
I too was affected negatively by a divorce but it was my parents when I was ten. I understand your pain and you’re not alone. Glad to have you here 🙏❤️
Hi four! Mom of four boys who all went in different directions: some not healthy. If I were your mom and you were one of my boys…wow! The celebration we would have (of course sober). I am in awe of you and your conviction to stay on the right path. I pray you do so no matter what comes your way! I’d love to meet your mom some day…we need each other. Love you and routing for you.
Aww Thank you so much for saying this that’s so touching. My mom would absolutely LOVE to meet any mother that is familiar with the struggles she had to face while I was not doing well. She will be on my channel at some point. Stay strong Mom, I’m sure you’re an amazing woman and I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this awfulness in your lifetime. Peace love and light to you ma’am and thanks again! ❤️🙏💯
Hey Four would it be possible for you to get one of those dorm rooms? that would be cool for you to be able to get one of those. You're doing great keep it up. We are all behind you
Hi Four--just wanted to say that the love that you feel for her is a testament to your great capacity to love--and if you are not meant to be with her there will be someone else in the future who can receive your love and reciprocate it fully. You seem to be ready to share your life and commit to someone and that is a beautiful thing! I know you will find that person someday but for now you are doing a wonderful job of healing and growing with help from positive people. ❤
Aww thank you so much! That is exactly how I feel but for right now I’m just focusing on myself and my recovery. Once that special woman is put into my life I think I will know. Peace and love to you❤️🙏💯
Thanks for sharing your "real truth'!!! I am sure it will help others out there, going through what u have gone through! Proud of u for continuing to stay sober and "live"!!!!!! looking buff, keep it up, it does help!!! We all have out ups and downs, but God wants us to push forward, not, give up!!!!!
Opiates, benzodiazepines. I went to rehab for 28 days but it wasn’t my first one. You can do this B!!! Get to a detox, depending on your doc there is also maintenance medication to help you get back on your feet and build a normal life for yourself. Just stay strong and remember you’re WORTH IT!
@@AnyoneCanChange 🙏🏻🤍 aw bro thank you 🥰 !! Well we relate to the doc ! Yeah I did downers more than anything else. But there was a point where I would do anything I get my hands on. Smh terrible. My addiction has really took me to places where I can only really truly thank the Lord for getting me out of.. 🙏🏻 I also , went to so many rehabs and detoxes. I was locked up once and so was mandated to a methadone maintenance rehab and eh I didn't like it.. I really don't want to be on methadone honestly.. I heard that's even harder to get off! So I wanna do it clean .. I pray I do it soon bc my living arrangement is horrible. But I thank God im not homeless anymore. But yeah I've been doing this crap for like 12 years. I'm 32 years old. Its time! Im so tired of being tired of being tired of being TIRED!You know? Anyway thank you for responding! Stay sweet Hun and God bless you always xoxo
Lost 4 babies can't have kids . I don't have eneyone in life im alone on this earth my mother was the only person I had in my life she died 4 years ago. Meny entity varry scarry experiences hapend to me never new why ? A police officer tried to ubduct me meny times I always got away I have alot ov physical an anxiety problems now. Had to move and change my life meny meny meny times. Been alone for 20 years now im 56 years old . While all that sh.. was going on I decided on my 35 birthday to go get a bottle ov brandy I baught a bottle ov brandy everyday for 5 years. Stopped eating and alcoholic My mother and god help me stop 5 years ov drinking everyday until I would pass out. All I did to stop was i said to god if I stop drinking it will never drink again No meetings No nothing The strength god gave me was enough 20 years clean I have physical and anxiety problems now can't go out side eneymore I have anxiety attacks.
@@debbydianemunger8073Dear lady, I know that once you get isolated it makes it harder to get outside into the fresh air and sunshine once the anxiety rears up. It grows like a beast. What helped me was taking ashwaghanda and magnesium supplements to calm the overactive nervous system, and practicing deep breathing techniques which also help. There are videos here on UA-cam. Sending you love and hugs!
@@AnyoneCanChange i cant thank you enough for sharing that phone call with ypur sponsor his advice i will practice ,, That man spoke to what i am going through struggling with anxiety my life is a mess yessss my mind is a total messs
Be mindful not to trap anymore negative energy, like your sponsor said, meditate and find you peace and calmness. Healing you emotions at that time, great video God bless
Amazing wisdom coming from your sponsor! I had a rough childhood watching and living through the alcoholism of my father. He was abusive physically and emotionally to my mother and older brothers. My mother was very codependent. It left many scars on me and even though I didn’t understand why or how I was very angry and had to still am really deal with abandonment issues. I watched both my brothers go through addiction. I know I have an addictive personality but thankfully never gave in to it but I need to quit smoking. Honestly my whole life I felt like ever relationship I had each person hurt me with their own addictions. I don’t trust no one and I work on overcoming my pain and healing that hurt lil girl inside 51 year old mind. I hang on to my faith and the Grace of God. I was watching a video a couple days ago and the therapist said when people are in a argument yelling and screaming at each other they really in actuality you feel really far away from that person. It’s not so much about being mad but you long for being closer to them to feel connected. So often what triggers the argument isn’t that moment or thing rather a much deeper need of desire that isn’t being fulfilled. Life in it’s self is hard but when two people are struggling with whatever is going on in themselves we push and pull. I pray you are healing and stay focused on God and doing what it takes to get you where you need to be! ❤
Exactly! I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much! I wish I could do something to help. Sounds like you’re doing well though so my hat is off to you. Trust is very hard for me as well and it really sets me back when I do give trust but am let down. I hope you can quit smoking when you’re ready to and I wish you nothing but great things my friend. Thanks so much for your comment. I’d love to respond further but I’m a little busy right now I’m sorry. Peace and love to you and more importantly GOD BLESS ❤️🙏💯
@@AnyoneCanChange thank you and I don’t expect anything from you. Sharing struggles and wisdom is what helps each other. Everyone goes through something some harder than others and everyone has their struggles. You are inspiring people and that is what counts. We are here to hold each other up and encourage. I appreciate you and your courage!
This was a good one. I've heard of Eckhart Tolle but never looked up his books until now. Sounds like a good book(the power of now) & I might get the audio version. As far as working out, I think a lot of us can sense that you aren't an arrogant man. I definitely see progress & that's really amazing! Keep going Four. You're doing so well. Glad to see you getting out and having fun with friends, that's so important! At least in my opinion it is. I guess just staying busy and doing things that make YOU happy. Have a happy day! 💜✌🏼
Am I being pushy. How do we get Thanks. Set up on his channel. I would like to contribute to a cause and Four is just that!! Does he have to do it or can we. I have not a clue!!!! Love you all 😊
Just my opinion, but it looks to me as if your ex was realizing she was getting dependent on you and losing herself in the process. She has lost so much that it is easier to push you away now on her terms, than to lose you later. Also, your schedule and hers did not match well and when she accommodated you, she was not able to accomplish what she had planned. That probably made her feel she was not being true to herself. Seems to me the solution would be for you both to have separate places, build your separate lives and see each other when it is convenient to you both. After a while, you could re-examine your relationship, take things slow, and build a relationship that could last. I wish you all the best whether you are together or apart. And remember with God all things are possible. So never give up on yourself.
This is sort of what I was saying too, it's almost like it wasn't personal, it didn't matter who it was, she was going to push them away and want to be on her own again.
Brother please remember to go to God’s Word and prayer for victory and not words of man. Beware of man made philosophies in place of the Holy Spirit. As a follower of Christ is our bedrock authority is the Holy Bible which is living and powerful.
I totally understand and respect this. However wisdom does come in many forms. I’m saying this complete love and positivity and mean no harm. Thank you for your comment I appreciate it. 🙏❤️💯🥰
So many of the great spiritual leaders of all faiths follow Christ, none less than Eckhardt Tolle, who speaks of Jesus in every talk I’ve heard him give. One God, One Love! Peace through unity is the only way out of this quagmire we call life. We belong to each other.
I am 61. joined a gym. Not Planet F. I hated it. It is a gym mostly based on weights and boxing. I was sick of walking the streets and having men stalk me for sex. UHHH I am 61 hello and I dont dress that way but..........I joined on March 28th. I was to start on April 1st, the day after Easter. On Easter Sunday, a person took a right hand turn on red and I was walking across the street and hit me. I saw him out of the corner of my eye and I jumped and landed on his hood and my shoulder smashed the wind shield and my hip put a big ass dent on his hood. I went to the gym two days later and tried to work out but my shoulder and hip just kept getting worse. I got CAT scans and nothing broken, Shoulder impingement. I took a week off of the new gym to let things calm down. What luck. Shoulder still painful but nothing broke. I am going back to the gym this Monday and just pushing away.
Some gyms have women's only sections. This way woman can work out with having men stare at them. It's a common thing so maybe look into it. Or look at planet fitness because the crowd is very mixed and many older people who are 60+ attend PF. At the least in my area.
@@HipsterSpinster_ No one bothers me at this gym. They are actually very helpful if they see me doing something that can hurt me or something that I am doing that is not the right way. I love this gym. No video taping allowed and I am 61. No one is staring. This place would toss harassers in a NY minute.
The emotion that becomes like an entity reminds me of the scripture Ephesians 6:12 it's a spiritual battle. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
The closer you become to the Lord, the more He transforms your life to become the best version of yourself. I’m experiencing that transformation. The Lord loves us. He doesn’t make junk! When we follow His plans for us, NOTHING gets in the way; not money, not intellect, not supposed power, not break-ups-nothing. Use this trauma-time from your break-up to heal and to decide what YOU want for yourself. There is a reason He allows it to happen-especially, if you’re sticking close to Him. Maybe He wants you single for a minute so your life isn’t complicated by other people and/or things. God and time will allow you to see the rational reasoning for it, and MAN, will you be thankful it ended when it did.
I know nobody wants to be a nag but just remember that not wearing a seatbelt is illegal and comes off a bit arrogant. Buckle up for your safety and the safety of others, especially if you're already choosing to be a distracted driver with a handheld device. So breaking the law twice when that doesn't align with who you're trying to be. Let's keep the roads safe and save a life.
I always wear a seatbelt if I’m driving. If I’m not that’s because I’m parked outside the gym. I appreciate your concern though. N yes you raise a good point that I’m aware of and noting. Peace and love to you my friend. 🙏❤️☮️
Oh yes I see it now. I was deep in thought when I left the na meeting and it was completely accidental. I’m sorry that’s my mistake I was wrong. I’ll be more careful next time and I’d already decided I wouldn’t be recording in the car anymore before you pointed this out. Not trying to be confrontational lol. Have a great day 🤷♂️🙏💯❤️
Hey guys, I’ve realized that recording in the car is irresponsible and I’m going to be more mindful of that I apologize. I also spaced my seatbelt because I was busy talking 🤷♂️🤦♂️ For those who worry, just know I’m fine even if I don’t post for a while I’m just doing what I gotta do to take care of myself. Also, I told my sponsor that I thought I could have been a little nicer the last time I spoke to my ex on the phone so that’s what he’s referring to there. If anyone wants to talk know that I’m here for you! Peace and love to everyone and thank you so much for helping me through this difficult time. It’s really amazing and instills so much hope within me. Not only for myself but for all mankind! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯
There is nothing wrong with recording in your car a lot if big you tubers doing it
You could put the phone in a phone holder and just talk while keeping an eye on the road… 😊
Your car is fine by me ,,, relax
Well, I for one will worry. I know…you’ve got things to do, but many of us have such a strong connection and belief in you. You’re like part of our family. 🫶🤗♥️. I’m not so sure you’ll ever get rid of us now…..😂🤣😂🤣
Please check in with us so I don't have to worry!!🤗
Your going to be okay ❤️🩹I been watching your journey and you are growing n changing that’s healthy stay quiet still n focus n heal I am sending you love n light Four 🙌🏽🥰❤️You will be okay my friend
Wow, just wow. What your sponser said was something I really needed to hear. Going to put this into practice in regards to my divorce. Haunted me for years. Thanks for sharing.
Addiction hides a lot of emotional pain
So true. That is why most abuse substances to begin with, myself included. I hope you’re having a great day. Thanks for stopping by 🙏❤️💯
I loved what your sponsor said. He's so right about emotions overtaking someone and then not acting in a good way. Keep strong.
you remind me of a young sean penn an actor. many people in commet"s are very sweet with there flirting in other vlog"s , thay are genuine in caring, and letting you know there is hope. amen. nika seems chill and humble, watch and be comforted of her out come. seems like she is picking up where she left off before you where in picture. she said alot of the same as you early on so dont worry. no problem you are both doing well. we are lifting you and many other" in prayer, hello 4"s mom! amen
It's cool his mom comments 😎
I have never been in a relationship that I can just breathe with no worrying, like you have to worry about their emotions their feelings their mess ups their everything. And I try so hard to just make it easy for them . But it never is for me, I'm waiting for that relationship that we are ready for the same things at the same times, I'm the important one right now I'm working on my happiness and loving myself, then I know god will send me the peace I need in a relationship. Breakups hurt, no matter how long your together. You got this , your figuring it out and that's strength
Aww so true! That’s exactly where my mindset is. Becoming the best version of myself so the next one is for LIFE 😅💯🤷♂️🥰
I’ll tell you something I wish I knew when I was younger and before I got married - it’s not our responsibility to fix or take care of anybody. A true loving partner will be a strong independent person, so that when you meet, you can mutually support each other to create your best lives together. People pleasing usually comes from childhood experiences where we feel we have to make things better to create a safe home. We don’t have to please everyone - just ourselves. We can be kind and nice, sure, but we don’t have to give everything of ourselves in a relationship as that creates imbalance. Or we attract people who take too much from us. I’d say do your work on yourself to truly know yourself and know what you want out of life and a partner. The right person will appear when you are ready. When we try to force it, the wrong people can invade our lives.
@@mjrussell414 I know forcing something never works
Your sponsor is taking about Elkhart Tolle’s ‘pain body’- the “power of Now” by Ekhart Tolle changed my world.
You have a lot of wisdom and calming personality Four, thanks for sharing life with us all 🙏
❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much
Keep doing what your doing, so proud and I don’t even know you! May god bless you
Love all your doing. Stay strong and wise 😊
Thank youuuu have a blessed day
I'm so proud of you for taking a positive and active approach to this new pain in your life and not letting it take over your life ❤
Excellent attitude. Get out of the bed & keep it moving you got this! Stay busy. Blessings to you in every way.
Glad to see you made it to the gym. Amazing you got to hook up with your sponsor. You need the fellowship of other sober men. Have a great 24 !
Aww thanks you too!
I love how your sponsor explained it as an entity- never heard it like like !
Wise words from your sponsor. You’ve got this ❤
Tolle was my guide to freedom. It has shaped how I live my whole life. Such a powerful resource!!!
Yassss! I love that so much, grateful you found him. From what I’ve listened/read of him he seems pretty phenomenal!
@@AnyoneCanChange is this a book ?
I love the Vlog and the wisdom you share from your own experiences. Your sponsor seems like a very sensitive man , you are lucky to have him. I found myself a bit distressed watching you drive while video taping and I noticed you were not wearing your seatbelt. We can all wait to hear from you until you are stopped and in one place. Please stay safe!!! With your history of broken bones and previous injuries, you can't take any chances!!!!!! We love what you are doing, Four. Keep up the good work.
Yea I’m not gonna be doing that anymore I apologize
Thank you!
Some places it's legal not to wear a seat belt. At least in New england (NH) it is. Not recommending it but who knows. May be perfectly legal there.
Whew!….glad to hear from you! Was kinda worried when you didn’t post an update. Keep staying strong. You got this! I just love your smile and that twinkle in your eye. Makes me happy to see you doing so well. 🥰
Aww thank so much ❤️❤️
Your sponsor is amazing. Stay blessed. You are wise beyond your years. I hope u get to visit your family soon. 🙏
Wow, I'm blown away by what your sponsor said. Great information!!!
Love all the progress you keep making, Stay strong.
I struggle with anxiety I have good days and bad days more bad then good lately watching your videos help me so thank you ❤
Awww thank you so much for telling me. This is EXACTLY why I want to do this!! 💯💯💯 Makes y heart so happy to know that I have touched your life in a positive albeit small way. I have struggled with anxiety/ptsd in my own life so I totally understand. If you ever need to chat plz reach out okay? Peace and love my sister
Wow I really needed to hear this thank you so much ❤
So glad! That’s the goal here for us all to help EACH OTHER and spread awareness/light/love so glad you stopped by. 💯☮️❤️🙏
@@AnyoneCanChange I been dealing with severe depression and anxiety since I was younger and ptsd and adhd.
I swear your sponsor reminds me of Robert Greene 💯! You should look him up if you don’t know who that is. Anyway really good stuff! Hope you have a wonderful day❤
He sounds so much like Robert Greene!
He is an amazing sponsor
Four I know it’s hard right now not knowing how she’s doing! Just leave her in Gods Hands He will take of her for You so that you don’t worry... You did all you could so let God do the rest!’ Keep ya chin up and yes this too shall pass, you’re stronger than you know!!! 🙏🏻
Nice job with your progress, happy for you! 🌟
Hi ya mate, I would firstly like to apologise for my comment the other day, I was sceptical sorry. Truth be told I am going through a breakup myself so I do understand. Stay strong and keep being you, you deserve to feel proud of yourself. X
Takes a bigger person to admit when they were wrong . I hope that with time things will get easier for you too. Peace and love.
@@1trueloveforever ❤️ thanks for replying, i don’t feel so alone.
@Debs785 you are welcome . Life can be unfair and hard at times but I guarantee you the pain goes away . Lost my hubby in 2019 due to asthma at 38 so I speak from experience but know that the rain won't fall on you forever. The sun WILL shine again someday . It MUST always set to rise ❤️
Hang in there. It will get better. Always praying for you
It’s not what you do but how you are doing, true. Keep what you want private you still need a life your not a reality show. Again thanks for sharing what you feel comfortable with. Have a blessed peaceful weekend. 😅👋🙂
Great you got a workout in like normal. It will clear your head and make you feel so good.
Yasssss❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Proud of you, you give sincere vibes of wanting to grow and change… being productive. Keep at it! 🙌🏻
I love Eckhart Tolle. I have to be in the mood to listen to him because of his monotone calm voice but his messages are powerful. I love his one video on forgiving your past and he explains how we were not present at the time. It saved me. Love your videos.
Great advice 😊
Your sponser is very wise. I have trauma stuff I need to work through as well. Its not easy but I have to rely on the lord and his help when I feel triggered.
So much positivity in this group. It’s contagious! Honesty and sincerity speaks loudly above the noise, people can’t shoot that down! Even the occasional critiques on this channel are constructive!
You should be proud of the hard work you're putting in. Glad to see your getting out with friends and having some fun.
He is so right. You lash out. Then you become calm. It’s a never ending battle. See it coming. Don’t react. Let me tell you that is difficult as I am a reactionary person. That’s exactly what I do. I go away by myself
Have a blessed weekend ❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✝️✝️✝️
Great words from your sponsor! Keep your head in a positive place! Meditation is really good! Hugs
Eckhart Tolle!!!❤
keep up the great work and with the Lord🌿
Thank you, I will ❤️🙏💯
This was so interesting. I guess the pain body arises when we are reacting rather than responding to situations. Responding means we are conscious and in the present moment. Reacting means the pain body is reliving the past experience (inappropriately) in the present moment, I think! Keen to learn more. Thank you!🙏
Exactly! I missed half of the conversation but I really wish I hadn’t because it was so good. But yes you’re spot on, great listener! Thanks so much for stopping by ❤️🙏💯
Glad you had a day off from work. You’re blessed to have such an incredible sponsor. Hope you enjoyed yourself with your group/friends. Much love and respect from Lexington, Kentucky.
Stay strong we are all behind you , do whats best for you. Each day will get easier believe that ❤. Take care always love from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤ xxx
I’m proud of you 💕 just felt it and wanted to share. I’ve been sober years now and yea I’m proud of you
Awww thank you SO MUCH!
This too shall pass, I know you're going thru it, just know people care out there. I find it really ironic you're basically homeless, and your ex is giving homeless supplies to the shelter. I don't know what else to say about it. Good luck my friend.
Why are you bashing her? She is giving back to the shelter that helped her ! I hope they get back together everyone of you bashing her will be bashing him next !!
Your sponsor's point about practising meditation, especially when times are good, is so important. It's developing a practice and foundation so focus and calm can easily be called on during the harder times. It's fantastic that you have his support and guidance. Onwards, my friend. 😄
Yes I loved that he said that to him his sponsor is awesome and so is Four for letting his viewers be a part of this that was really generous of him
Hi Four thank you for sharing with us and your sponsor..God will take care of Nika. She will get there in time
😊 Stay focused like your sponsor said. I'm proud of you.
Thanks so much! ❤️🙏💯have wonderful night
@@AnyoneCanChange you as well my friend, let us know how church goes tomorrow if you do go ok
@@AnyoneCanChange I mentioned your channel to a couple today at a cafe as well as Nikas your both wonderful people may the Lord bless you two as you follow God individually. In time God will work something out I'm sure for friendship if it's in his plan of course 😉
Great video. I'm not an addict but I can see how you are an insperation to addicts. By the way, you have a nice smile. 😀 Keep up the good work, Four!
Thanks so much! 😊
I hope you tryhave a good day 😊
Thanks you too! 🙏❤️💯
Hey Four, glad your doing ok. Your a very mature young man. You will be ok. Sending hugs and prayers to you. 🙏🙏
"No diaster should tear you down " l like tht . I stopped living bc of my divorce
I too was affected negatively by a divorce but it was my parents when I was ten. I understand your pain and you’re not alone. Glad to have you here 🙏❤️
Hi four! Mom of four boys who all went in different directions: some not healthy. If I were your mom and you were one of my boys…wow! The celebration we would have (of course sober). I am in awe of you and your conviction to stay on the right path. I pray you do so no matter what comes your way! I’d love to meet your mom some day…we need each other. Love you and routing for you.
Aww Thank you so much for saying this that’s so touching. My mom would absolutely LOVE to meet any mother that is familiar with the struggles she had to face while I was not doing well. She will be on my channel at some point. Stay strong Mom, I’m sure you’re an amazing woman and I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience this awfulness in your lifetime. Peace love and light to you ma’am and thanks again! ❤️🙏💯
Very helpful! 🔥
For, great vlog. You are doing all the right things to get thru a difficult time. Proud of you ❤
Great advice! Thanks for sharing! ❤
No decision "has to" tear you down.
Keep staying positive and strong Four…proud of you!
One foot in front the other , youre doing great 👌
We like the vlog style type videos 👌🏽
Okay awesome. Thanks for letting me know. I’ll do my best. Gd to see you here my friend you all ROCK! 🪨 ❤🙏💯😅
Be proud ,you deserve it ,Keep going .
He has wisdom
Hey Four would it be possible for you to get one of those dorm rooms? that would be cool for you to be able to get one of those. You're doing great keep it up. We are all behind you
Great 👍🏻 idea !
Great idea temporally until you can get back on your feet...
You have a wonderful sponsor and you are so wise and mature! Way to go, dude 👍🏼
Thank you so much ❤️🙏💯🥰
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Doing great. Keep it moving.
Hi Four--just wanted to say that the love that you feel for her is a testament to your great capacity to love--and if you are not meant to be with her there will be someone else in the future who can receive your love and reciprocate it fully. You seem to be ready to share your life and commit to someone and that is a beautiful thing! I know you will find that person someday but for now you are doing a wonderful job of healing and growing with help from positive people. ❤
Aww thank you so much! That is exactly how I feel but for right now I’m just focusing on myself and my recovery. Once that special woman is put into my life I think I will know. Peace and love to you❤️🙏💯
Thanks for sharing your "real truth'!!!
I am sure it will help others out there, going through what u have gone through!
Proud of u for continuing to stay sober and "live"!!!!!!
looking buff, keep it up, it does help!!!
We all have out ups and downs, but God wants us to push forward, not, give up!!!!!
Needed this today, bless you 😊!
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That is really golden advice from your sponsor, I'm glad I got to hear it.
Good for you for taking care of yourself… and having the desire to do so 🙏
Thank youuu
4 takke subscribers on hike / walk. I prefer waterfalls - maybe later. Walking does the heart good!
Can you please share what your doc was. .and did you go to rehab..and how long .. im asking bc im looking for some encouragement!
Opiates, benzodiazepines. I went to rehab for 28 days but it wasn’t my first one. You can do this B!!! Get to a detox, depending on your doc there is also maintenance medication to help you get back on your feet and build a normal life for yourself. Just stay strong and remember you’re WORTH IT!
@@AnyoneCanChange 🙏🏻🤍 aw bro thank you 🥰 !! Well we relate to the doc ! Yeah I did downers more than anything else. But there was a point where I would do anything I get my hands on. Smh terrible. My addiction has really took me to places where I can only really truly thank the Lord for getting me out of.. 🙏🏻 I also , went to so many rehabs and detoxes. I was locked up once and so was mandated to a methadone maintenance rehab and eh I didn't like it.. I really don't want to be on methadone honestly.. I heard that's even harder to get off! So I wanna do it clean .. I pray I do it soon bc my living arrangement is horrible. But I thank God im not homeless anymore. But yeah I've been doing this crap for like 12 years. I'm 32 years old. Its time! Im so tired of being tired of being tired of being TIRED!You know? Anyway thank you for responding! Stay sweet Hun and God bless you always xoxo
You must except what EVER happens in life
And just keep on going
Time heals everything
It's not just a saying it's a fact
Lost 4 babies can't have kids .
I don't have eneyone in life im alone on this earth my mother was the only person I had in my life she died 4 years ago.
Meny entity varry scarry experiences hapend to me never new why ?
A police officer tried to ubduct me meny times I always got away I have alot ov physical an anxiety problems now.
Had to move and change my life meny meny meny times.
Been alone for 20 years now im 56 years old .
While all that sh.. was going on I decided on my 35 birthday to go get a bottle ov brandy
I baught a bottle ov brandy everyday for 5 years.
Stopped eating and alcoholic
My mother and god help me stop
5 years ov drinking everyday until I would pass out.
All I did to stop was i said to god if I stop drinking it will never drink again
No meetings
No nothing
The strength god gave me was enough
20 years clean
I have physical and anxiety problems now can't go out side eneymore I have anxiety attacks.
@@debbydianemunger8073Dear lady, I know that once you get isolated it makes it harder to get outside into the fresh air and sunshine once the anxiety rears up. It grows like a beast. What helped me was taking ashwaghanda and magnesium supplements to calm the overactive nervous system, and practicing deep breathing techniques which also help. There are videos here on UA-cam.
Sending you love and hugs!
Take no thought. 😎✌️❤
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Ok with the shower clips!! Ain't mad at it! Go on 4 lol you worked hard 👏🏻
Haha 🙈😅☺️😊🙏❤️
@@AnyoneCanChange i cant thank you enough for sharing that phone call with ypur sponsor his advice i will practice ,, That man spoke to what i am going through struggling with anxiety my life is a mess yessss my mind is a total messs
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15:26 💯💯💯your body is a wonderland❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥
Keep going you’ve got this,stay strong ,take care of yourself don’t dwell on the past
Be mindful not to trap anymore negative energy, like your sponsor said, meditate and find you peace and calmness. Healing you emotions at that time,
great video
God bless
Thank you so much! Goodnight to ALL of you ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing wisdom coming from your sponsor! I had a rough childhood watching and living through the alcoholism of my father. He was abusive physically and emotionally to my mother and older brothers. My mother was very codependent. It left many scars on me and even though I didn’t understand why or how I was very angry and had to still am really deal with abandonment issues. I watched both my brothers go through addiction. I know I have an addictive personality but thankfully never gave in to it but I need to quit smoking. Honestly my whole life I felt like ever relationship I had each person hurt me with their own addictions. I don’t trust no one and I work on overcoming my pain and healing that hurt lil girl inside 51 year old mind. I hang on to my faith and the Grace of God. I was watching a video a couple days ago and the therapist said when people are in a argument yelling and screaming at each other they really in actuality you feel really far away from that person. It’s not so much about being mad but you long for being closer to them to feel connected. So often what triggers the argument isn’t that moment or thing rather a much deeper need of desire that isn’t being fulfilled. Life in it’s self is hard but when two people are struggling with whatever is going on in themselves we push and pull. I pray you are healing and stay focused on God and doing what it takes to get you where you need to be! ❤
Exactly! I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much! I wish I could do something to help. Sounds like you’re doing well though so my hat is off to you. Trust is very hard for me as well and it really sets me back when I do give trust but am let down. I hope you can quit smoking when you’re ready to and I wish you nothing but great things my friend. Thanks so much for your comment. I’d love to respond further but I’m a little busy right now I’m sorry. Peace and love to you and more importantly GOD BLESS ❤️🙏💯
@@AnyoneCanChange thank you and I don’t expect anything from you. Sharing struggles and wisdom is what helps each other. Everyone goes through something some harder than others and everyone has their struggles. You are inspiring people and that is what counts. We are here to hold each other up and encourage. I appreciate you and your courage!
Yeah, he got a good wise sponsor. Some can be deep down in addiction and recovery themselves.
Also you look pretty big for a dude that doesnt do anabolic steroids. Proud of you. Hard work pays off.
This was a good one. I've heard of Eckhart Tolle but never looked up his books until now. Sounds like a good book(the power of now) & I might get the audio version. As far as working out, I think a lot of us can sense that you aren't an arrogant man. I definitely see progress & that's really amazing! Keep going Four. You're doing so well. Glad to see you getting out and having fun with friends, that's so important! At least in my opinion it is. I guess just staying busy and doing things that make YOU happy. Have a happy day! 💜✌🏼
Am I being pushy. How do we get Thanks. Set up on his channel. I would like to contribute to a cause and Four is just that!! Does he have to do it or can we. I have not a clue!!!! Love you all 😊
Prayers ...Keep on working on yourself...
Just my opinion, but it looks to me as if your ex was realizing she was getting dependent on you and losing herself in the process. She has lost so much that it is easier to push you away now on her terms, than to lose you later. Also, your schedule and hers did not match well and when she accommodated you, she was not able to accomplish what she had planned. That probably made her feel she was not being true to herself. Seems to me the solution would be for you both to have separate places, build your separate lives and see each other when it is convenient to you both. After a while, you could re-examine your relationship, take things slow, and build a relationship that could last. I wish you all the best whether you are together or apart. And remember with God all things are possible. So never give up on yourself.
This is sort of what I was saying too, it's almost like it wasn't personal, it didn't matter who it was, she was going to push them away and want to be on her own again.
He did have his own place . He gave it up when they both decided to move in together
Brother please remember to go to God’s Word and prayer for victory and not words of man. Beware of man made philosophies in place of the Holy Spirit. As a follower of Christ is our bedrock authority is the Holy Bible which is living and powerful.
I totally understand and respect this. However wisdom does come in many forms. I’m saying this complete love and positivity and mean no harm. Thank you for your comment I appreciate it. 🙏❤️💯🥰
So many of the great spiritual leaders of all faiths follow Christ, none less than Eckhardt Tolle, who speaks of Jesus in every talk I’ve heard him give. One God, One Love! Peace through unity is the only way out of this quagmire we call life. We belong to each other.
Do you like your first name? You remind me of Forrest Tucker the actor. You even look like him. Love tha name but For is cool too.
Honestly sometimes I’d rather have a normal first name lol! It’s okay I guess, I’m used to all the Gump jokes by now 😅🤷♂️
@@AnyoneCanChangeOwn it. It's man's name and men don't trifle or concern themselves with childish, juvenile behavior. I get it though.
@@AnyoneCanChangeIt's a good name, haven't you ever seen the forest?
Have a good day four ❤ 😊
Love it🙏💜
I am 61. joined a gym. Not Planet F. I hated it. It is a gym mostly based on weights and boxing. I was sick of walking the streets and having men stalk me for sex. UHHH I am 61 hello and I dont dress that way but..........I joined on March 28th. I was to start on April 1st, the day after Easter. On Easter Sunday, a person took a right hand turn on red and I was walking across the street and hit me. I saw him out of the corner of my eye and I jumped and landed on his hood and my shoulder smashed the wind shield and my hip put a big ass dent on his hood. I went to the gym two days later and tried to work out but my shoulder and hip just kept getting worse. I got CAT scans and nothing broken, Shoulder impingement. I took a week off of the new gym to let things calm down. What luck. Shoulder still painful but nothing broke. I am going back to the gym this Monday and just pushing away.
Some gyms have women's only sections. This way woman can work out with having men stare at them. It's a common thing so maybe look into it. Or look at planet fitness because the crowd is very mixed and many older people who are 60+ attend PF. At the least in my area.
You should take it easy and let your body heal from this trauma. Maybe even see a physiotherapist to advise you in safe exercises.
@@HipsterSpinster_ No one bothers me at this gym. They are actually very helpful if they see me doing something that can hurt me or something that I am doing that is not the right way. I love this gym. No video taping allowed and I am 61. No one is staring. This place would toss harassers in a NY minute.
Ha ha ha😂 very funny 🤣❤
Lookin' great!
The Lord allowed you to go through this painful situation for it to become a stepping stone not a stumbling block, give the pain to Jesus.
Dang dude youre almost maxing out the lat pulldown? I do 75 lbs...then again im a lady. 😂
The emotion that becomes like an entity reminds me of the scripture Ephesians 6:12 it's a spiritual battle. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
very true
The closer you become to the Lord, the more He transforms your life to become the best version of yourself. I’m experiencing that transformation. The Lord loves us. He doesn’t make junk! When we follow His plans for us, NOTHING gets in the way; not money, not intellect, not supposed power, not break-ups-nothing. Use this trauma-time from your break-up to heal and to decide what YOU want for yourself. There is a reason He allows it to happen-especially, if you’re sticking close to Him. Maybe He wants you single for a minute so your life isn’t complicated by other people and/or things. God and time will allow you to see the rational reasoning for it, and MAN, will you be thankful it ended when it did.
Just really seek God on the books you read my friend, let Jesus guide you.
I know nobody wants to be a nag but just remember that not wearing a seatbelt is illegal and comes off a bit arrogant. Buckle up for your safety and the safety of others, especially if you're already choosing to be a distracted driver with a handheld device. So breaking the law twice when that doesn't align with who you're trying to be. Let's keep the roads safe and save a life.
I always wear a seatbelt if I’m driving. If I’m not that’s because I’m parked outside the gym. I appreciate your concern though. N yes you raise a good point that I’m aware of and noting. Peace and love to you my friend. 🙏❤️☮️
@@AnyoneCanChange16:51 this entire clip your seatbelt warning is beeping and you're not wearing one lol. What am I missing?
Oh yes I see it now. I was deep in thought when I left the na meeting and it was completely accidental. I’m sorry that’s my mistake I was wrong. I’ll be more careful next time and I’d already decided I wouldn’t be recording in the car anymore before you pointed this out. Not trying to be confrontational lol. Have a great day 🤷♂️🙏💯❤️