This is HUGE for me. If someone expresses disgust with me, especially a close friend, it physically hurts and my arms tense up. Often, the person isn’t all that angry, but I internalize it and have to slowly unwind the hurt/shame.
Time management- I have clocks throughout my house with the wrong times on them on purpose. I just know that by the time the min hand is on 15: I need to start my makeup. When the min hand is on 45:I better be wrapping it up. On the hour: I need to get out of the bathroom. If I look at my phone or watch time, it throws my whole morning off because I’ll start bargaining with myself.
I tried the different times on clocks but because I don’t know the real time I won’t know when it is for me to leave in time to get to my destination. Kind of sucks. And I’ve tried giving myself alarms to complete tasks but once I get on a roll with something, I know if I stop, I’ll never get back to it and complete
the worst one for me is not being able to talk properly. to gather words in my mind, assemble them, and speak them. there's too much getting lost/frozen/confused. it makes me want to avoid social communication, which leads to no friends and depression.
I struggle with this solo much especially in professional settings. I know what I need to say but I end up walking up and being so incredibly awkward and stumbling on my words
For me it feels like pain and a complete drain of energy after 3h of not eating. No diet helped that (vegan, keto...). Energy levels a complete mess. The medication helped me immensely. After 6pm it's still a bit of a problem, though, since the meds wear off.
@@Kenny-081 OMAD (one meal a day) is a legit thing. But you'd need vegetables and protein, too. I wish I could do that without suffering the whole day.
I have the same issue! I was going to get weight loss surgery, but started ADHD meds first. 3 months later, I no longer qualified for surgery because I lost too much weight when I stopped binge eating.
I’m super sensitive to criticism. It’s very helpful when someone says, “you can’t think that way. That’s how the world works.” Like yes I know that. I’m not crying because I want too.
Wanna trade? I eat twice a day when I work. I eat once a day when I’m off. I work three days a week and have four days off. I never eat past 3:00 P.M.. I chug water all day. I work out. But my weight NEVER EVER goes down. I mainly eat small portion meals. Fruit, veggies, and a protein. But I’m still very over weight. I HATE IT!!!
I swing back and forth. When I’m really involved with a something I forget to eat and skip meals, then I’m suddenly ravenous and eat too much. Obviously this behavior is intwined with time displacement.
She explained how I have been living my whole life. I’m 23 and I struggle with time management just like she said, I also take criticism very hard and I am very hard on myself even when others tell me I did a amazing job on a project, and last but not least I definitely binge eat and overheat (I am considered morbidly obese though I’m a tall guy). I don’t know what to do at this point with my life. I feel constantly tired and sad 😞
The time management is the one that I struggle with the most 🤣🤣🤣. If I have to be at work by 9am, and the drive will take me 10 minutes, I know that I will need to leave the house at 8.50am... but if I have to start work at 8.30, or 8.45, or 9.15... yup no, I most likely will be late coz I have underestimated the time I need to get ready 🤣
My mother once told people that I was born early, but haven't been on time since. My birthday is Dec.24, so I follow with a comment that I didn't want to miss Santa. ADHD is no joke, though. You always feel misunderstood & these " jokes" are hurtful. None of us CHOOSE to be this way.
@@nancypetrie3067if only people could understand how exhausting it really is! I don’t want to be like this and it’s not funny but sadly it’s how I cope too.
These were the 3 most massive problems for me growing up, and I feel like it's why I wasn't diagnosed for so long. My issues were immediately attributed to depression and anxiety, which I definitely do have, but it was never looked into closer until I begged someone to in my early 20s. And ohp! Suprise! ADHD! Especially RSD. Understanding that and learning how to deal with it has been an incredible thing for my sense of self worth.
I’ve been showing signs of autism and ADHD a lot but I never want to self diagnose. My parents say that I’m fine but then I started to get really sad about some of these things and ended up crying like 5 times this year so they took me to a psychiatrist to talk about it. I was very open about it but these tests are really expensive and take a long time and the place we drove was an hour so my parents are finding somewhere else to go. We haven’t gone to one. I think I should really tell my parents about finding another place to get me tested. I really want to know if I have either one since it would make more sense in how I act and my social life with people. I always get scarred about how the things I do is my fault and I’m going through a bit of a fought time since my best friend isn’ at my school anymore and she was one of my only friends. Edit: yup I got diagnosed with adhd and asd and now my life is getting better!
@@life_is_dope Adhd isn't real because all the symptoms of it just corolate to lack of interest or short attention span from short form content It's an excuse so you can take addaeral and amphetamines to make you think you have a problem
I was diagnosed and I have all three of three of these, I can’t manage my time well/ not know how much time I have spent doing something, criticism and rejection is very much like that, and I have a really big problem with overeating/binge eating
Careful with that last one. If one's not careful they can end up prediabetic or diabetic. There are stidies that link ADHD and Autism to diabetes (both kind).
My partner has all three, and it's something he's been wanting to improve on, so I've been trying to help him find ways to cope or make things easier on him, whilst also trying to show him that I love him and all his qwerks, just like he loves my flaws. As someone that doesn't have ADHD, I have had to try to learn to adjust to these things as well. For example. The split second he senses any form of rejection, or if he notices my mood or tone slightly change, he'll close off and become quite upset. Even if I'm still happy as can be, but have a lot on my mind, he'll panic and think he's done something wrong just by my body language, then he'll shut himself off and mentally beat himself up about it and I have to try to convince him that he's done nothing wrong. We are almost always early to things, with a lot of excess time to spare, because he'd rather be early than late. I don't usually mind, as I tend to procrastinate and put things off, then feel anxious when I'm late, or when I only just make it to things on time, so he's certainly helped me with my anxiety and routine.
Hi! I have Autism and ADHD, and lets talk about this! The time blindness one was 100% correct, same with the second, but please please PLEASE don't downplay undereating! When i am doing something for to long, with my time blindness, it is really hard to realize when i am hungry, and mostly think i am not, and at 2am i am starving. A thing i do to help with this is to, i know it sounds weird, but i smell the food, and that usually helps me understand if i am really hungry or not; this may not help everyone, but it really helped me! Love y'all, stay hydrated loves ❤
They are both very real. In fact, I struggle with both. I get up in the morning and work hard to follow my system and get lots done, forgetting to eat until noon or 2pm, then have a snack, and later want to binge eat between 11 pm and 2am. It's got my weight and hormones an absolute wreck.
Thank you for sharing! I was diagnosed with ADHD 6 years ago and now I finally understand why I'm eating so much, why I'm barley making it to school on time, why I am constantly feeling that everyone's criticism about me is true. I hope I can learn more about with research and true facts so I can manage my ADHD
Thank you for bringing attention to this. I struggle with 1 & 2 a lot, especially in a college as an older student. #3 use to be a problem but that I have learned to control better
The 2nd symptom I didn't know it's also a part of adhd, I thought it was my childhood trauma that causes me to feel depress everytime I fail. Thank you for opening this up, you really answered one of my question that I thought no one can answer.
God bless your beautiful your announcements makes sense about learning disabilities I'll listen and take note for my friends I coach in volleyball live how to get the disabilities thank you so much for your help today I'm a coach😊
I used to have a bad case of #2 & #3 But as I got older and went thru life experiences, I have a clear understanding that people treat you the way they feel inside. So I don’t take other people’s opinions so personal anymore. I also have a better control of what I eat. #1 with time management, I’m still trying to learn how to fix atm …
you get use to the pain of the criticism. im still just as sensitive though. I use to think it was a maturity thing but im a grown adult and it's still there. its hard to accept that its not something you can control its just part of me.
the time management problem is a BIG one for me- My teacher keeps on telling me how bad i am at doing tasks in a certain amount and she ltiearly tried to discuss it with me today.. lol
This is so helpful I’ve never been diagnosed with adhd but I’ve always had a lot of issues with focusing and paying attention and the things in this video
The rejection thing is so true like everytime my parents used to critisize me in anything i would start crying becausei was genuinly scared and hurt and itwould js result in them getting mad at me cuz itis infact ridiculous to cry about when they js told you that you have to clean ur room more often and they also js acuse my of trying to maniplulate them with my crying so they start pitying me since that way u can apprently avoid my duties which makes me even more sensitive and life js sucks
I have never been diagnosed but I am acutely aware of the criticism I receive about all three of these. My family and friends continually comment negatively to me about these areas I fail at. The worst is the second one ( often as a result of the first and third!) I feel a physical pain when I feel rejected, like a knife though my chest, it flaws me and I find it hard to breathe. I am aware I have many flaws and can receive positive constructive criticism but if my husband or close friend or family member seems off with me or displeased then it is absolutely awful and I can think of nothing else and my heart hurts and feels bruised for a long time afterwards. I don’t know how to let those feelings go. It’s helpful to hear about these underrated symptoms to help understand myself in a small way. Thank you ❤
This actually made me cry thank you because you actually answered so many questions. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 10. As I got older I’ve struggled with relationships and finding that the only time I have anxiety is in a relationship setting. I’m 21 now and the longest relationship I’ve ever had was 4 months. I’ve struggled with rejection for a long time from anyone friends family and potential partners, and just the fear of it. I always imagined I just wasn’t right for a relationship, but this actually answered a lot of things for me. Thank you so much. ❤
YES OMG! I cant seem to estimate how long i need to do certain things! I was trying to explain it to my dad recently and he just aksed if I was dumb....
There will come a time in life when your dad may need putting in a home. When he complains about how bad it is tell him…oops sorry about that….Guess I’m just dumb 😈😄👍❤️ Btw you are not👍
This was right on time for me and confirmation, I’m sure it was for some others as well! I had been missing a lot of the videos lately, but I’m glad this the one I watched when I got back active! 🎉🙏🏾💜
I'm always late and I procrastinate a lot. I'm also very sensitive to rejection and conflict. I am also a people pleaser. I haven't been diagnosed but the more I read about it the more I think I might be ADHD.
I have adhd and I am a emotional Reck right now because I keep feeling emotional and like scared to grow up and it almost feels like the pain is physical
I'm in a similar boat right now. I keep getting frequent thoughts about death, i keep being overly sensitive and react really angrily or stressed to situations, and sometimes s lot of stuff happening in my school halls can overwhelm me. I know that I'm a failure and am unorthodox and opposite of a role model in other people's eyes. The difference is i don't know if i actually have ADHD and I'm too scared to tell my parents i think i MIGHT have it.
@@insertunoroginalnamehere6189 don’t be scared because I was and Because I didn’t tell them I struggled more and now that I have got help I’m feeling more relieved x
I relate to all of these 😭😭 For the binge eating one, I always feel like if I'm given too much food on my plate, I'll think like I'll eat some and leave the rest but then I can't control it and I finish it all, so i never put too much on my plate 🥲 And I used to not feel full even after eating alot And I can't can't handle criticism. I'm a crybaby and i most likely would cry if someone does it right infront of me even though i know they mean well 🥲
As a Gemini with ADHD, you may find that your natural curiosity and intellectualism can be both a strength and a challenge. Geminis are known for being versatile and adaptable, which can help you to thrive in a variety of situations. However, ADHD can sometimes make it difficult to focus and stay on task, which may require extra effort on your part to manage. It's important to remember that having ADHD is not a reflection of your intelligence or ability to succeed. Many successful people have ADHD, and there are many strategies and resources available to help you manage your symptoms and achieve your goals. Some tips for managing ADHD as a Gemini may include: 1. Developing a routine: Having a consistent schedule and routine can help you to stay organized and focused. 2. Breaking tasks into smaller steps: Large tasks can feel overwhelming, but breaking them into smaller, more manageable steps can make them feel more achievable. 3. Prioritizing tasks: Identify the most important tasks and focus on those first. 4. Using your strengths: Geminis are often creative and innovative, so try to incorporate these strengths into your work and hobbies. 5. Seeking support: Don't be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional to help you manage your ADHD symptoms
This is perfect. I was diognised with adhd when I 5. I am now 37 and still struggling with adhd. Although I don't struggle with the second thing she is talking about.
The time management blindness is my entire life, I can gauge about three minutes then I’m gone so I say between 5 and 10 minutes when an hour has passed, I rarely catch a bus, I forget to do chores, definitely my most prominent symptom
I am finally finding as a woman of almost age 60 that I have ADHD. 😢❤😊 I was the director of a small daycare for 27 years and I can see all my failures through the ADHD lens now. I can totally relate to the first two. Also I am sure that our son who is 33 has struggled with ADHD and his road of addiction since about age 14 to 16 is directly related. 💔
I’ve always had ADHD and I knew it but thanks for bringing some new symptoms I diddnt even know we’re adhd I always knew about #1 but #2 and #3 makes sense I’ve always been super SUPER emotionally sensitive. I never really overeat in fact I under eat I’m super skinny anyways I’m loosing focus now so imma stop saying random crap
Oh my goodness, i fit perfectly in so many of these that it’s concerning. But i cant be sure myself because i don’t think it’s good to self diagnose, but my mother has a bad view on neurodivergence in general. But Autism and Adhd explain a lot of my problems and “weirdness” as dubbed by people around me.
Time management is huge. HUGE. does not use time wisely was on every report card I’ve ever received. I resent not being diagnosed until I was an adult.
I’m a project manager. It’s horribly stressful because if I don’t fixate and obsess about everything I can’t get it done. Stress is my motivator 100% of the time. I can’t easily estimate how long things take or prioritise and I obsess over details I know are irrelevant but I can’t stop myself, find it so exhausting to switch between tasks. etc, etc. and I’ve had a lot of burnouts. I’ve had like 11 different PM jobs in 10 years. Accidentally fell into the career when I was desperate for a job. I hate it. Couldn’t figure out why it’s so hard for me compared to others and then I saw a clinical psychologist to get help with anxiety and after about eight hours of talking she suggested I get a diagnosis for ADHD. Mind blown. I read up about it and it pretty much explains my entire life. I’m a 41 year old woman, I didn’t think it was possible for me to have ADHD.
I have time blindness, but my anxiety causes me to be way too early to things rather than late. So if I have to meet with a friend at 12, I’ll get there at 10:50. Because I’m so scared of being late that I rush and get ready and then when I’m just standing in the house waiting to go I get so irritated. Just standing there looking at the door waiting for an appropriate time to leave. I just leave and it always makes me really super early. I used to justify it by saying like I like to walk so if I go early, I can walk to places but that’s a lie. I’m pretty sure I’m just bad at managing time but luckily it’s not lateness it’s more being early.
Even though the binge eating was the shortest and at the end, I feel it's pretty big and worth explaining since she didn't have enough time. At least with my experience, the bingeing is really from dopamine fishing, and not having healthy ways of satisfying that dopamine ich. It can also lead yourself to other additions if you're not aware of it.
With time management I COULD finish the assignment in time if I put it off, the problem is I then get extremely overwhelmed and get the “ADHD paralysis”
No because I went into panic attacks from the thought of being rejected even though I’m normally a shameless and outspoken person; I also find myself hyper sympathizing with other peoples problems and making it my own so setting boundaries and saying no was a process I had to relearn as an adult
1. Time management is commonly seen in those treated as well. 2. Rejection sensitivity dysphoria is NOT actually an ADHD symptom, but a side effect of our trauma interacting in a harsh society: Avoidant Personality Disorder is all about THIS rejection sensitivity.
I don't have issues with time management but my timing can be off. I don't make plans on timing but I try doing it from my head when my schedule use to get busy which wasn't good for me but my mind was so always so overloaded I didn't believe in time management. I was diagnosed with ADD when I was about 28 but never went to have the MRI done or my appointment now I'm wishing I would've went younger because it's becoming a huge deal for me. I'm going to make an appointment to see a neurologist soon
"The management problems" made me lose lots and lots of marks and it's ruining everything for me. I would keep uncontrollably procrastinating until hours,days and weeks have passed and I only start panicking when it's already too late. And when people think I'm just too lazy to do anything, they don't realize how much of a mental challenge it is for me to do something anyone can do. Should i go to a professional? I really want to make sure if I have Adhd
Overeating and binge eating is definitely what i do as a person with adhd, my grandparents criticize me when i eat 6+ times a day, and my nene keeps saying get out of the kitchen sometimes 😭
My time management involves setting alarms for every little part of my day like wake up, get breakfast etc. Fun part is that I never know how long stuff actually takes, so the day just gets into a big mess by lunchtime 😢
Got diagnosed last year with ADHD at 36. The rejection sensitivity dysphoria is real. I get a wave of heat that starts at my head and goes down my body. Then my chest hurts and I get a lump on my throat. I need to leave right away to cry, hibernate, and process. I process by sleeping because my brain doesn't allow me to relax. It plays the words and situation on a loop and the fresh wave of shame in the aforementioned physical symptoms start all over. I get so, so exhausted from this intense emotion that I shut down for days, weeks, or months depending on the severity. I think it's cause we don't fit in in so many areas of society that the constant rejection is another mark showing us how much we don't fit in. It's hard.
I have a very rough time with time management- in my professional life I've been able to overcome it by doing very specific tasks in a specific way that I know keeps me on schedule. If something unexpected or unplanned happens, it completely throws me off and I actually feel like I don't know how to do a job I've done for 20 years. In my personal life, I'm a lot worse- I have almost no concept of time. I wear a watch to help with this but it's still hard.
When someone insults me especially when iv beern consciously nice and respectful and friendly .... the sense of humiliation goes round and round in my head for days . I just cannot stop an outburst of seriously insulting the person and making them feel like shit for hurting my feelings . But it also comes in moods. Im all over the emotiinal spectrum currently . Sad then crying then happy suddenly ... i dont know if im adhd or bipolar
I mentioned time blindness to one of my friends and he just said that it wasn’t a thing and I shouldn’t be blaming the things I do on things that don’t exist. I wasn’t using time blindness as an excuse for anything and just mentioned that it’s hard for me to tell how long I have been out because of it. And I know that as someone with ADHD, I also struggle with time blindness because of the way I do my assignments and tests which is why I have accommodations on things
Im 43. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I was being treated for anxiety. My psychiatrist told me that I probably have ADHD. She prescribed me a medication. And holy shit it worked. And I am learning that so many of my life long mental health concerns are all symptomatic of ADHD. I had no idea that Anxiety and ADHD went together.
I’m so sensitive and every time I cry after my parents yell at me(which is all the time)I start to cry and my parents tell me to stop crying and to stop being so sensitive which is so hard.Btw my dad and mom were in the military so they’re tough especially my dad he was in longer than my mom but they’re both still tough people.And my whole family knows that I’m a sensitive person and I always try to remind myself not to cry because I HATE being so sensitive to stuff even the smallest stuff that people take as a joke nowadays or just know it’s a joke laugh while I’m there not understanding and about to cry.So it’s really hard for me to be the only sensitive person in my family and a lot of my friends.
I have the problem with eating. I tried explaining to my ex's family that I had extreme issues with rubber banding between overeating and under eating and they told me that wasn't possible because I was skinny. They completely neglected the information that I was a fat kid and that's why I would under eat for the last 10 years. Never tell a narcassist your vulnerabilities because they will always weaponize them against you :/
Rejection is hated by everyone Doesn't make u adhd . I get severe panic attackss to the point I'm convinced its a heart attack . The pain won't go for hours until a doctor confirms I don't have a heart attack . That maybe adhd possibly I just don't have a diagnosis
Task Initiation challenges has to be the most "underrated" symptom. It's definitely the most damaging for me. No one who doesn't struggle with it or study it understands it. It just looks like you're being lazy and not trying hard enough. It sucks so bad, especially when you have potential and ambitions.
THIS. I can never properly estimate how much time something will take me, even if it's something I do often, because it truly does vary on my mood and state of mind at that particular time. To the point I could take double the time or more that it takes me to do it on a good day. I've learnt that it's better to plan time tables by saying "I'm gonna do this for this amount of time" instead of "I'm going to finish this much in this amount of time". That way I can at least make some progress.
Holy shit the rejection thing makes sense now
Yeah, kill me
Yeah exactly 💯
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This is HUGE for me. If someone expresses disgust with me, especially a close friend, it physically hurts and my arms tense up.
Often, the person isn’t all that angry, but I internalize it and have to slowly unwind the hurt/shame.
Ong I was so confused why I felt like that
Time management- I have clocks throughout my house with the wrong times on them on purpose. I just know that by the time the min hand is on 15: I need to start my makeup. When the min hand is on 45:I better be wrapping it up. On the hour: I need to get out of the bathroom.
If I look at my phone or watch time, it throws my whole morning off because I’ll start bargaining with myself.
Genius
I tried the different times on clocks but because I don’t know the real time I won’t know when it is for me to leave in time to get to my destination. Kind of sucks. And I’ve tried giving myself alarms to complete tasks but once I get on a roll with something, I know if I stop, I’ll never get back to it and complete
are you reading my journal . lol
That sounds like OCD.
@@rebeccaherrera6006 that's why you set a time to leave in the wrong tje clocks so you're still early
the worst one for me is not being able to talk properly. to gather words in my mind, assemble them, and speak them. there's too much getting lost/frozen/confused. it makes me want to avoid social communication, which leads to no friends and depression.
Omg meeee too. Is this a symptom of adhd
Same here
I struggle with this solo much especially in professional settings. I know what I need to say but I end up walking up and being so incredibly awkward and stumbling on my words
Same
@@TeaWithExtraLemonthat’s what I do
Im sitting here with my books infront of me and its 1:06 a.m and i haven't touch it yet 😭
10 days later and still procrastinating
@@NobleWolf33 waaay too familiar!
This. I left mine for my phone and I have been with my phone for hours. I wish I can read books 😢
Same here, 😢
Imagine I faced this when there was no Android mobile era
Could you talk more about the binge/overeating aspect because oof...I felt that one and didn't know it was a symptom.
For me it feels like pain and a complete drain of energy after 3h of not eating. No diet helped that (vegan, keto...). Energy levels a complete mess.
The medication helped me immensely. After 6pm it's still a bit of a problem, though, since the meds wear off.
@@Kenny-081 OMAD (one meal a day) is a legit thing. But you'd need vegetables and protein, too. I wish I could do that without suffering the whole day.
I have the same issue! I was going to get weight loss surgery, but started ADHD meds first. 3 months later, I no longer qualified for surgery because I lost too much weight when I stopped binge eating.
@@ChlomeRendia it's wild what the proper chemical balance does to a brain. Gratz on feeling better!
Wish I could get meds! I know it would help.
Could you tell me what your definition of "underrated" is
maybe underestimated or that nobody knows it
Over looked or not considered important
a lot of people don't consider them
It's when a card has low usage rates, but is actually good when you use it, for example: cannon cart, skeleton king, royal ghost
its like an unpopular opinion
I’m super sensitive to criticism. It’s very helpful when someone says, “you can’t think that way. That’s how the world works.” Like yes I know that. I’m not crying because I want too.
CBT has helped hugely with my RSD. I've had about 6 sessions so far, and while i was apprehensive, it's been really amazing.
I'm the opposite, I forget to eat most of the day or just am not motivated to get food. I'm trying to gain weight but it's hard😅
Same😂
Same here 😢
I like food, but had my gallbladder taken out..
Im now leary about eating.
But ... if im Hungry ... I'll eat.
Wanna trade? I eat twice a day when I work. I eat once a day when I’m off. I work three days a week and have four days off. I never eat past 3:00 P.M.. I chug water all day. I work out. But my weight NEVER EVER goes down. I mainly eat small portion meals. Fruit, veggies, and a protein. But I’m still very over weight. I HATE IT!!!
I swing back and forth. When I’m really involved with a something I forget to eat and skip meals, then I’m suddenly ravenous and eat too much. Obviously this behavior is intwined with time displacement.
She explained how I have been living my whole life. I’m 23 and I struggle with time management just like she said, I also take criticism very hard and I am very hard on myself even when others tell me I did a amazing job on a project, and last but not least I definitely binge eat and overheat (I am considered morbidly obese though I’m a tall guy). I don’t know what to do at this point with my life. I feel constantly tired and sad 😞
The time management is the one that I struggle with the most 🤣🤣🤣. If I have to be at work by 9am, and the drive will take me 10 minutes, I know that I will need to leave the house at 8.50am... but if I have to start work at 8.30, or 8.45, or 9.15... yup no, I most likely will be late coz I have underestimated the time I need to get ready 🤣
We truly believe we can do 60 things in 30mins.
My mother once told people that I was born early, but haven't been on time since. My birthday is Dec.24, so I follow with a comment that I didn't want to miss Santa. ADHD is no joke, though. You always feel misunderstood & these
" jokes" are hurtful. None of us CHOOSE to be this way.
Same
@@nancypetrie3067if only people could understand how exhausting it really is! I don’t want to be like this and it’s not funny but sadly it’s how I cope too.
Yah.. and every time too.😊
We doin a tier list of my adhd symptoms?
She means underrated symptoms as in overlooked in people with adhd and a lot of people don’t know these are symptoms of adhd.
Yes
Executive paralysis has gotta be S tier guys, I swear-
@spaghetto9836 bruh, I didn't know it had a name but after seeing this name I know what it is without even searching omg
These were the 3 most massive problems for me growing up, and I feel like it's why I wasn't diagnosed for so long. My issues were immediately attributed to depression and anxiety, which I definitely do have, but it was never looked into closer until I begged someone to in my early 20s. And ohp! Suprise! ADHD! Especially RSD. Understanding that and learning how to deal with it has been an incredible thing for my sense of self worth.
I’ve been showing signs of autism and ADHD a lot but I never want to self diagnose. My parents say that I’m fine but then I started to get really sad about some of these things and ended up crying like 5 times this year so they took me to a psychiatrist to talk about it. I was very open about it but these tests are really expensive and take a long time and the place we drove was an hour so my parents are finding somewhere else to go. We haven’t gone to one. I think I should really tell my parents about finding another place to get me tested. I really want to know if I have either one since it would make more sense in how I act and my social life with people. I always get scarred about how the things I do is my fault and I’m going through a bit of a fought time since my best friend isn’ at my school anymore and she was one of my only friends.
Edit: yup I got diagnosed with adhd and asd and now my life is getting better!
I am 99% sure I have adhd, but my parents say i am completely fine. It sucks, because they don't understand.
Wait, crying five times a year? I have definitely cried five times a week in a bad week, or five times a day on a very bad day.
@@life_is_dopeAdhd isn't real bro
@@D.C_notacomic oh really? are you someone who has a medical degree or are you just trying to tell us that we aren’t valid?
@@life_is_dope Adhd isn't real because all the symptoms of it just corolate to lack of interest or short attention span from short form content
It's an excuse so you can take addaeral and amphetamines to make you think you have a problem
I was diagnosed and I have all three of three of these, I can’t manage my time well/ not know how much time I have spent doing something, criticism and rejection is very much like that, and I have a really big problem with overeating/binge eating
Careful with that last one. If one's not careful they can end up prediabetic or diabetic. There are stidies that link ADHD and Autism to diabetes (both kind).
My partner has all three, and it's something he's been wanting to improve on, so I've been trying to help him find ways to cope or make things easier on him, whilst also trying to show him that I love him and all his qwerks, just like he loves my flaws.
As someone that doesn't have ADHD, I have had to try to learn to adjust to these things as well. For example. The split second he senses any form of rejection, or if he notices my mood or tone slightly change, he'll close off and become quite upset. Even if I'm still happy as can be, but have a lot on my mind, he'll panic and think he's done something wrong just by my body language, then he'll shut himself off and mentally beat himself up about it and I have to try to convince him that he's done nothing wrong.
We are almost always early to things, with a lot of excess time to spare, because he'd rather be early than late. I don't usually mind, as I tend to procrastinate and put things off, then feel anxious when I'm late, or when I only just make it to things on time, so he's certainly helped me with my anxiety and routine.
Hi! I have Autism and ADHD, and lets talk about this! The time blindness one was 100% correct, same with the second, but please please PLEASE don't downplay undereating! When i am doing something for to long, with my time blindness, it is really hard to realize when i am hungry, and mostly think i am not, and at 2am i am starving. A thing i do to help with this is to, i know it sounds weird, but i smell the food, and that usually helps me understand if i am really hungry or not; this may not help everyone, but it really helped me! Love y'all, stay hydrated loves ❤
They are both very real. In fact, I struggle with both. I get up in the morning and work hard to follow my system and get lots done, forgetting to eat until noon or 2pm, then have a snack, and later want to binge eat between 11 pm and 2am. It's got my weight and hormones an absolute wreck.
My gosh you have helped me to understand why someone I care for is struggling
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I have ADHD and when I tell you I have zero perception of time I mean I can’t tell the difference between an hour and 30 minutes
Thank you so much for sharing more of your expertise and wisdom.
Thank you for sharing! I was diagnosed with ADHD 6 years ago and now I finally understand why I'm eating so much, why I'm barley making it to school on time, why I am constantly feeling that everyone's criticism about me is true. I hope I can learn more about with research and true facts so I can manage my ADHD
Thank you for bringing attention to this. I struggle with 1 & 2 a lot, especially in a college as an older student. #3 use to be a problem but that I have learned to control better
The more videos relating ADHD I watch, the more I doubt myself.
The 2nd symptom I didn't know it's also a part of adhd, I thought it was my childhood trauma that causes me to feel depress everytime I fail. Thank you for opening this up, you really answered one of my question that I thought no one can answer.
God bless your beautiful your announcements makes sense about learning disabilities I'll listen and take note for my friends I coach in volleyball live how to get the disabilities thank you so much for your help today I'm a coach😊
Yessss these are so important! More people need to know these
I used to have a bad case of #2 & #3
But as I got older and went thru life experiences, I have a clear understanding that people treat you the way they feel inside. So I don’t take other people’s opinions so personal anymore.
I also have a better control of what I eat.
#1 with time management, I’m still trying to learn how to fix atm …
YES. So much of ADHD awareness surrounds "forgetting to eat", but so many people with ADHD have problems with overeating.
you get use to the pain of the criticism. im still just as sensitive though. I use to think it was a maturity thing but im a grown adult and it's still there. its hard to accept that its not something you can control its just part of me.
the time management problem is a BIG one for me- My teacher keeps on telling me how bad i am at doing tasks in a certain amount and she ltiearly tried to discuss it with me today.. lol
Tell her you have ADHD and ask for accommodation.
This is so helpful I’ve never been diagnosed with adhd but I’ve always had a lot of issues with focusing and paying attention and the things in this video
The rejection thing is so true like everytime my parents used to critisize me in anything i would start crying becausei was genuinly scared and hurt and itwould js result in them getting mad at me cuz itis infact ridiculous to cry about when they js told you that you have to clean ur room more often and they also js acuse my of trying to maniplulate them with my crying so they start pitying me since that way u can apprently avoid my duties which makes me even more sensitive and life js sucks
I must say, these are so underrated. Love it when this happens to me!
I have never been diagnosed but I am acutely aware of the criticism I receive about all three of these. My family and friends continually comment negatively to me about these areas I fail at. The worst is the second one ( often as a result of the first and third!) I feel a physical pain when I feel rejected, like a knife though my chest, it flaws me and I find it hard to breathe. I am aware I have many flaws and can receive positive constructive criticism but if my husband or close friend or family member seems off with me or displeased then it is absolutely awful and I can think of nothing else and my heart hurts and feels bruised for a long time afterwards. I don’t know how to let those feelings go. It’s helpful to hear about these underrated symptoms to help understand myself in a small way. Thank you ❤
This actually made me cry thank you because you actually answered so many questions. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 10. As I got older I’ve struggled with relationships and finding that the only time I have anxiety is in a relationship setting. I’m 21 now and the longest relationship I’ve ever had was 4 months. I’ve struggled with rejection for a long time from anyone friends family and potential partners, and just the fear of it. I always imagined I just wasn’t right for a relationship, but this actually answered a lot of things for me. Thank you so much. ❤
Listening to this while cramming to my labsheets to be passed tomorrow while I was just laying all day for 2 days.
YES OMG! I cant seem to estimate how long i need to do certain things! I was trying to explain it to my dad recently and he just aksed if I was dumb....
Seems like something my dad will say
you are not dumb
There will come a time in life when your dad may need putting in a home. When he complains about how bad it is tell him…oops sorry about that….Guess I’m just dumb 😈😄👍❤️ Btw you are not👍
This was right on time for me and confirmation, I’m sure it was for some others as well! I had been missing a lot of the videos lately, but I’m glad this the one I watched when I got back active! 🎉🙏🏾💜
I'm always late and I procrastinate a lot. I'm also very sensitive to rejection and conflict. I am also a people pleaser. I haven't been diagnosed but the more I read about it the more I think I might be ADHD.
Thank you very much for your practice an studies I now have open my eyes to new beginning I can appreciate myself better
I have adhd and I am a emotional Reck right now because I keep feeling emotional and like scared to grow up and it almost feels like the pain is physical
I'm in a similar boat right now. I keep getting frequent thoughts about death, i keep being overly sensitive and react really angrily or stressed to situations, and sometimes s lot of stuff happening in my school halls can overwhelm me. I know that I'm a failure and am unorthodox and opposite of a role model in other people's eyes. The difference is i don't know if i actually have ADHD and I'm too scared to tell my parents i think i MIGHT have it.
@@insertunoroginalnamehere6189 don’t be scared because I was and Because I didn’t tell them I struggled more and now that I have got help I’m feeling more relieved x
Ik this comment is like 1 year old but Me too😭😭😭
I relate to all of these 😭😭
For the binge eating one, I always feel like if I'm given too much food on my plate, I'll think like I'll eat some and leave the rest but then I can't control it and I finish it all, so i never put too much on my plate 🥲 And I used to not feel full even after eating alot
And I can't can't handle criticism. I'm a crybaby and i most likely would cry if someone does it right infront of me even though i know they mean well 🥲
As a Gemini with ADHD, you may find that your natural curiosity and intellectualism can be both a strength and a challenge. Geminis are known for being versatile and adaptable, which can help you to thrive in a variety of situations. However, ADHD can sometimes make it difficult to focus and stay on task, which may require extra effort on your part to manage.
It's important to remember that having ADHD is not a reflection of your intelligence or ability to succeed. Many successful people have ADHD, and there are many strategies and resources available to help you manage your symptoms and achieve your goals.
Some tips for managing ADHD as a Gemini may include:
1. Developing a routine: Having a consistent schedule and routine can help you to stay organized and focused.
2. Breaking tasks into smaller steps: Large tasks can feel overwhelming, but breaking them into smaller, more manageable steps can make them feel more achievable.
3. Prioritizing tasks: Identify the most important tasks and focus on those first.
4. Using your strengths: Geminis are often creative and innovative, so try to incorporate these strengths into your work and hobbies.
5. Seeking support: Don't be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional to help you manage your ADHD symptoms
Thank you soo much for this! I'm actually a Gemini with ADHD! lol
ZODIAC SIGNS ARE BULLSHIT
Yuppp. I agree. Late still at 61.
The rush of focus and effective work at last minute is hard to skip.
I’ve been using the term “time blindness” to describe myself for a while. I was wondering if anybody else used that description.
I relate to the first one bc I told my dad I would come for dinner and I just realized that 2 hours have passed 😅
This is perfect. I was diognised with adhd when I 5. I am now 37 and still struggling with adhd. Although I don't struggle with the second thing she is talking about.
I think you mean overlooked or underrepresented because underrated means that it deserves more admiration
The time management blindness is my entire life, I can gauge about three minutes then I’m gone so I say between 5 and 10 minutes when an hour has passed, I rarely catch a bus, I forget to do chores, definitely my most prominent symptom
Just go to places and do things earlier then
Thanks for this
I am terrible for time management. Sounds like my life story 😂
I can really relate to the criticism sensitivity. 😢
I am finally finding as a woman of almost age 60 that I have ADHD. 😢❤😊 I was the director of a small daycare for 27 years and I can see all my failures through the ADHD lens now. I can totally relate to the first two. Also I am sure that our son who is 33 has struggled with ADHD and his road of addiction since about age 14 to 16 is directly related. 💔
I’ve always had ADHD and I knew it but thanks for bringing some new symptoms I diddnt even know we’re adhd I always knew about #1 but #2 and #3 makes sense I’ve always been super SUPER emotionally sensitive. I never really overeat in fact I under eat I’m super skinny anyways I’m loosing focus now so imma stop saying random crap
Thank you. ❤ I feel heard. Finally
Thank you I've just realized my issues recently is this adhd I'm 63 it's been a rough road
Yes.... Rejection and critism hurts so much.
Yes!!! Thank you!!!❤
Thanks!
Oh my goodness, i fit perfectly in so many of these that it’s concerning. But i cant be sure myself because i don’t think it’s good to self diagnose, but my mother has a bad view on neurodivergence in general. But Autism and Adhd explain a lot of my problems and “weirdness” as dubbed by people around me.
Time management is huge. HUGE. does not use time wisely was on every report card I’ve ever received. I resent not being diagnosed until I was an adult.
I’m a project manager. It’s horribly stressful because if I don’t fixate and obsess about everything I can’t get it done. Stress is my motivator 100% of the time. I can’t easily estimate how long things take or prioritise and I obsess over details I know are irrelevant but I can’t stop myself, find it so exhausting to switch between tasks. etc, etc. and I’ve had a lot of burnouts. I’ve had like 11 different PM jobs in 10 years. Accidentally fell into the career when I was desperate for a job. I hate it. Couldn’t figure out why it’s so hard for me compared to others and then I saw a clinical psychologist to get help with anxiety and after about eight hours of talking she suggested I get a diagnosis for ADHD. Mind blown. I read up about it and it pretty much explains my entire life. I’m a 41 year old woman, I didn’t think it was possible for me to have ADHD.
Internet: can I interest you in everything, all of the time
My ADHD: already there buddy
I have time blindness, but my anxiety causes me to be way too early to things rather than late. So if I have to meet with a friend at 12, I’ll get there at 10:50. Because I’m so scared of being late that I rush and get ready and then when I’m just standing in the house waiting to go I get so irritated. Just standing there looking at the door waiting for an appropriate time to leave. I just leave and it always makes me really super early. I used to justify it by saying like I like to walk so if I go early, I can walk to places but that’s a lie. I’m pretty sure I’m just bad at managing time but luckily it’s not lateness it’s more being early.
Even though the binge eating was the shortest and at the end, I feel it's pretty big and worth explaining since she didn't have enough time.
At least with my experience, the bingeing is really from dopamine fishing, and not having healthy ways of satisfying that dopamine ich. It can also lead yourself to other additions if you're not aware of it.
With time management I COULD finish the assignment in time if I put it off, the problem is I then get extremely overwhelmed and get the “ADHD paralysis”
As a person with adhd I now realize how much it impacts me
I never knew about the rejection or binge eating. My life is starting to make so much more sense.
No because I went into panic attacks from the thought of being rejected even though I’m normally a shameless and outspoken person; I also find myself hyper sympathizing with other peoples problems and making it my own so setting boundaries and saying no was a process I had to relearn as an adult
Wow this makes so much sense who also has ADHD
1. Time management is commonly seen in those treated as well.
2. Rejection sensitivity dysphoria is NOT actually an ADHD symptom, but a side effect of our trauma interacting in a harsh society: Avoidant Personality Disorder is all about THIS rejection sensitivity.
I don't have issues with time management but my timing can be off. I don't make plans on timing but I try doing it from my head when my schedule use to get busy which wasn't good for me but my mind was so always so overloaded I didn't believe in time management. I was diagnosed with ADD when I was about 28 but never went to have the MRI done or my appointment now I'm wishing I would've went younger because it's becoming a huge deal for me. I'm going to make an appointment to see a neurologist soon
Tell me why I have problems with all of this 💀💀
"The management problems" made me lose lots and lots of marks and it's ruining everything for me. I would keep uncontrollably procrastinating until hours,days and weeks have passed and I only start panicking when it's already too late. And when people think I'm just too lazy to do anything, they don't realize how much of a mental challenge it is for me to do something anyone can do. Should i go to a professional? I really want to make sure if I have Adhd
Overeating and binge eating is definitely what i do as a person with adhd, my grandparents criticize me when i eat 6+ times a day, and my nene keeps saying get out of the kitchen sometimes 😭
i was diagnosed with adhd years ago by doctors and therapist yet every time i come across one of these videos im always just like, damn.
The author Doreen Virtue labeled ADHD as 'Attention Dialled into a Higher Dimension' in her previous book 'The Crystal Children' ✨💖
You nailed it.
My time management involves setting alarms for every little part of my day like wake up, get breakfast etc.
Fun part is that I never know how long stuff actually takes, so the day just gets into a big mess by lunchtime 😢
All 3 make sense, what a bloody trifecta!
Getting ready for work every day.
Got diagnosed last year with ADHD at 36.
The rejection sensitivity dysphoria is real. I get a wave of heat that starts at my head and goes down my body. Then my chest hurts and I get a lump on my throat. I need to leave right away to cry, hibernate, and process. I process by sleeping because my brain doesn't allow me to relax. It plays the words and situation on a loop and the fresh wave of shame in the aforementioned physical symptoms start all over. I get so, so exhausted from this intense emotion that I shut down for days, weeks, or months depending on the severity.
I think it's cause we don't fit in in so many areas of society that the constant rejection is another mark showing us how much we don't fit in.
It's hard.
I have a very rough time with time management- in my professional life I've been able to overcome it by doing very specific tasks in a specific way that I know keeps me on schedule. If something unexpected or unplanned happens, it completely throws me off and I actually feel like I don't know how to do a job I've done for 20 years. In my personal life, I'm a lot worse- I have almost no concept of time. I wear a watch to help with this but it's still hard.
When someone insults me especially when iv beern consciously nice and respectful and friendly .... the sense of humiliation goes round and round in my head for days . I just cannot stop an outburst of seriously insulting the person and making them feel like shit for hurting my feelings . But it also comes in moods. Im all over the emotiinal spectrum currently . Sad then crying then happy suddenly ... i dont know if im adhd or bipolar
2nd one is why I start crying and screaming quietly but someone once said that I could just calm down and other times just said stop screaming
Was just diagnosed (at 26) and it’s just crazy how much of the things I do/struggle w are related to my adhd.
I mentioned time blindness to one of my friends and he just said that it wasn’t a thing and I shouldn’t be blaming the things I do on things that don’t exist.
I wasn’t using time blindness as an excuse for anything and just mentioned that it’s hard for me to tell how long I have been out because of it.
And I know that as someone with ADHD, I also struggle with time blindness because of the way I do my assignments and tests which is why I have accommodations on things
I love this ❤
Im 43. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I was being treated for anxiety. My psychiatrist told me that I probably have ADHD. She prescribed me a medication. And holy shit it worked. And I am learning that so many of my life long mental health concerns are all symptomatic of ADHD. I had no idea that Anxiety and ADHD went together.
This is so me, clocked 25 this year and I’d just realised I’ve had ADHD all my life
1&2 for me. Can’t wait to finally get a work up to hopefully confirm dx!
I’m so sensitive and every time I cry after my parents yell at me(which is all the time)I start to cry and my parents tell me to stop crying and to stop being so sensitive which is so hard.Btw my dad and mom were in the military so they’re tough especially my dad he was in longer than my mom but they’re both still tough people.And my whole family knows that I’m a sensitive person and I always try to remind myself not to cry because I HATE being so sensitive to stuff even the smallest stuff that people take as a joke nowadays or just know it’s a joke laugh while I’m there not understanding and about to cry.So it’s really hard for me to be the only sensitive person in my family and a lot of my friends.
#3c - under eating…not recognizing hunger cues until you feel like you’re starving, THEN overeating…
I have the problem with eating. I tried explaining to my ex's family that I had extreme issues with rubber banding between overeating and under eating and they told me that wasn't possible because I was skinny. They completely neglected the information that I was a fat kid and that's why I would under eat for the last 10 years. Never tell a narcassist your vulnerabilities because they will always weaponize them against you :/
I’m not yet diagnosed with adhd but sometimes the symptoms described fit me so well like #2 really resonates with me 🙁 I hate rejection
Rejection is hated by everyone
Doesn't make u adhd . I get severe panic attackss to the point I'm convinced its a heart attack . The pain won't go for hours until a doctor confirms I don't have a heart attack . That maybe adhd possibly I just don't have a diagnosis
Task Initiation challenges has to be the most "underrated" symptom. It's definitely the most damaging for me.
No one who doesn't struggle with it or study it understands it. It just looks like you're being lazy and not trying hard enough. It sucks so bad, especially when you have potential and ambitions.
I have adhd . But I am the best at telling how much time has passed.
THIS. I can never properly estimate how much time something will take me, even if it's something I do often, because it truly does vary on my mood and state of mind at that particular time. To the point I could take double the time or more that it takes me to do it on a good day. I've learnt that it's better to plan time tables by saying "I'm gonna do this for this amount of time" instead of "I'm going to finish this much in this amount of time". That way I can at least make some progress.
The definition how relatable it is,
This describes me exactly, and I’ve been scrolling through these for a couple days… I probably need to go see someone
I love how you are talking about ADHD and spreading awareness to all the people who may not know. BTW, I have ADHD.