I let her ride her horse to school... | The Internet Answers 'Am I The A$$hole'
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- Опубліковано 20 гру 2023
- I let her ride her horse to school... | The Internet Answers 'Am I The A$$hole'
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The first one reads am I an asshole being an amazing parent
Imagine being called off for caring about your child safety
THe nanny story is WILD- my house has helpers and they ate the same stuff we eat barring their religious restriction. It's normal to feed people who work IN YOUR HOUSE and 'closely' like babysitting your kids.
What the nanny supposed to do? Starve herself? Also it's pizza, not expensive gourmet food.
Yeah. Like, tf you want me to do? Leave your kids alone while I go get myself dinner?
I babysat way back in the 80s-90s when I was a teen "military kid," so moved around a lot, and therefore had lots of different parents / kids I cared for. ALL of the parents pointed out food / beverages I could have.
The comments on that last post.. I get that babies are annoying, I've been kept awake by my neighbours crying baby in the past and it sucks. But what could you honestly expect the parents to do? They comfort the kid and they give her painkillers.
I can understand the neighbour. OP doesn't sound like he communicates with her so for all she knows they're just letting the baby cry without doing anything about it.
But to the Redditors who tell parents that they're aholes simply for having a baby that inevitably cries at night.. what are they supposed to do? Throw the baby out? Babies will cry at night sometimes, no matter what you do.
Maybe if she closed her door at night, it would help keep the sound out.
I just thought about the sneaking out story. If the daughter had snuck out without letting either of the parents know, I feel like the Dad's response would be justified and they'd both be upset and scared.
The poster stated that Dad cooled off after a bit, but I feel like a reasonable amount of trust was lost by not letting him know, which, again, would make sense especially in the scenario where she told neither parent.
For the future if you read this sub, NAH doesn't mean 'not ahole', it means 'no ahole here.' NTA means 'not the ahole' and implies that the other person is, NAH means that neither party is one.
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In the story where the teenager sneaks out, I think its nice that she talked to her mom about it. They apparently have a good enough relationship that she feels like she can talk to her about things.
You can get in trouble being more of a friend than a parent, and you'll hear that from every strict parent, but cases like this show that you don't have to be overly permissive to have a good relationship with your kid.
How many kids would've just snuck out? Maybe they just wanted to have the experience, but it wouldn't be seen that way, and they might get in trouble for all of the things they could've done, but didn't, if things were different.
Man the commenter at about 32:00 on the story about the dad and the gender reveal sucks. A complete lack of empathy for him.
I had to take a screenshot because wow. It’s incredibly aggressive and not at all understanding of the dad’s trauma. It’s not easy to work through stuff like that when you’re constantly being told your feelings don’t matter. And then to be told your feelings don’t matter on the post? Yikes
It's pretty easy - you shouldn't have kids if you only want one that's a specific gender. If OP thought they were that fucked up then they aren't ready to have kids.
30 meters is almost 100 feet. NTA at alllllllllll.
Yeah I was like that's like a third of a football field
First story: OP lives ~1km away from school because you can casually walk 3 km/h. From my experience, if one house has horses then most neighbouring houses do too so there's a decent chance the school's neighbour has horses... Sounds mostly like a tantalising situation.
"Average looking" story: tbh idk seeking affirmation (presumably sooside-tier bullying, but my childhood was calm/safe), but dishonesty is an important part of life.
Pony story: 'if you took a puppy to school would this happen?' I mean, possibly...? My carers daughter loves our dogs so my carer (who works with my partner and I, who are both disabled, from when she drops her daughter at school in the morning until she needs to collect her from school in the afternoon) walked one of them to the school when she went to collect her daughter. Apparently they got a lot of attention from the other kids, which did include one kid asking if he could have the dog 😆 what did not happen, however, was any adult throwing a tantrum that he wasn't given the dog, so that's something at least 😂
She said child-free wedding, yet the cutoff is 16, not 18. Obviously, your son is one of the reasons she decided 16 is the cutoff. Who is the child under 18 but 16 or older on her side that she still wants to attend? Run from this lying phycho while you still can easily.
Red flags is what that groom is not seeing.
The child shouldn't be punished but mom is still the AH for leaving dad out of the loop
The parents with the insecure 14-year-old need to convince her that average is beautiful. Average people aren't ugly.
This isn't about real beauty. Its about physical appearance, and the girl took what her parents said as confirmation that the bullies are right.
They aren't. People who make fun of you exaggerate. Her nose likely isn't really that big. she doesn't look like a bird.
The mother is not the asshole for being honest. This had to happen. All her life, they've been saying she's beautiful, because she is, but she tok it to mean that they've been lieing just to make her feel better this whole time.
This is why she's cold and distant instead of being sad. She's angry, because she feels betrayed. It justtakes some clarification. You can't just always tell a kid they're beautiful. You can't pump them up until they believe they are more attractive than they are, because they'll believe it. Its like when a kid loves to sing, but they aren't really good at it. Maybe their voice will mature. Maybe they need voice lessons. Maybe they're good, but they aren't Beyonce. If you tell them they're the best you've ever heard, they will eventually start to believe it, and either everybody will have to keep feeding them fake support, which will happen for a while, or they'll have to be the asshole and tell them the truth.
Physical appearance is different from talent, because you don't want someone who already looks good enough to worrie so much about improving their appearance, but convincing them they're the prettiest girl around will set them up for a rude awakening when they findout that everyone's been lieing to them.
Funeral guy needs to go to therapy.
I can understand stoicism, but this is FAR beyond stoicism.
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Okay, I watch a lot of these Reddit videos, and guys, therapy isn't the cure for everything, and it won't make a person be exactly what you want them to be. Finally, there are other things that can help. You don't need to recommend therapy for literally every problem. What happened before we had therapists?
Admittedly, the world wasn't as toxic years ago, but we still have close friends and good caring family members. Those who don't might need therapy, but stop ordering everybody to get it. The nicer people recommend it along with other things and its obviously just an option, but when someone does something another thinks is rediculous, really bad, crazy, etc, they deliver the order. "Get therapy," or "You need therapy."
What this means is, you need therapy to make you more like me, because you aren't doing things even remotely like I would, so get some help. You're assuming the therapist will manipulate this person in to acting like you. At this point, it doesn't even matter if what you want is the most healthy option for that person and their situation. Its about you.
The gender reveal guy "explained why he was upset" while leaving out vital information and he's surprised that the wife got the wrong idea and doesn't understand the things HE DIDN'T TELL HER???
If you want people to understand you, then you need to ACTUALLY EXPLAIN and NOT leave out important context!!!
People can not read your mind!!! If you keep stuff locked inside your own head, you don't get to be surprised that other people don't know about it!!!
ACTUALLY COMMUNICATE!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah, he needed to tell his wife about his traumatic past like yesterday. I would want to know about my husband’s past so I can understand strong reaction he may have to things others would see as a wonderful thing. Also know not to bring up certain topics that could trigger him. He needs to get therapy to work through his trauma and believe he can break the cycle and not let history repeat itself. He could’ve been an affair baby or something that made his dad treat him badly compared to his sister. Like he needs to work out why it happened so he could won’t be making the same mistakes.
The parent who said the daughter is average looking. If she said that her daughter is great looking, the daughter would disagree and think she is lying. If she said she was ugly… you all know how that would go down. Average looking is the best way to go. It is honest (what she specifically asked for) and not mean. Was the daughter herself expecting to hear, “You’re probably the hottest girl in school.” If so she wouldn’t be depressed. Not the AH at all. The daughter is the a hole.
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