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@@ToonyTails knitting requires two needles and crochet requires one hook. each of these tools come in different sizes for whatever projects you need. also, fun fact: mass produced "crochet" articles of clothing you'd find in popular clothing stores are actually machine knitted in a way to look like crochet. this is because crochet is impossible to replicate with a machine due to its complexity
Oh man, the pregnancy hormones seem to be hitting her a bit hard, if this continues she needs to speak to her Drs. Erratic behavior should not be ignored.
Oh my God... I hate that "family members feeling entitled to an inheritance the deceased person clearly stated it's not for them" is such a common event everywhere in the world. People are just awful. They are waiting eagerly on their elders to die so they can take everything they owned. Absolutely awful.
As a woman who’s almost 8 months preg, he is not the asshole. If my husband comes home and says he’s too tired to cook, he’s too tired! I get the craving the next day, or, god forbid, make it myself🤣 the relationship still has to go both ways!
I'm SO glad the comments are pointing out hook means crochet. Also, note how the tone of the post is "me, me, me". If she made things for me. She made something for my dog, that was ACTUALLY nice. As opposed to the stuff shes making for herself that I bet is also cute af. He doesnt pay attention to her or her hobbies (if he did, he'd know knitting had needles), and only cares about the hobby when it benefits him. She's right to say he doesn't listen to her, and I'd dump an SO over that.
About the knitting story, it's likely she wouldn't be all that interested in what you were watching together anyways. You could quiz her whilst she has that Clockwork Orange thing strapped to her head and she'd get a similar score. No, she wants to spend time with you and she gets to do it whilst sharing in her time enjoying this hobby. She's doing all this because she wants to spend time with you, how is this not extremely clear?
RE: Mother's Fart Reaction Wow... while it is not "Ladylike" (or Gentlemanly for that matter) to fart in front of guests, it is far less dignified to admonish your hosts while a guest in their home, or to draw attention to such an occurrence. The finer part of grace is discretion, and the mother clearly lacks that. It's insane that she doesn't see the hypocrisy of her position. And I have news for her... age is sneaking up on her, and old ladies are fart machines. At a certain age, there's a little squeak with every step, lol. I suspect karma will strike with a vengeance.
@@azadalamiq I worked 2 retail stores in a mall during Christmas over 8 months pregnant, still cleaned, cooked, did laundry, grocery shopped. Had Christmas day off, went into labor around 6 am on the 26st, gave birth at almost 11 am on the 26 st . Unless you have a serious problem where Dr orders bed rest, forms of very limited activity, Being a pregnant bump on a log causes more harm than good.
You know what would be amazing to hear with the “rich person is disappointed with their relatives and leaves them very little” cases? If they found a way to basically go “you get x much,” tell the other relatives not to give them any and, in a part of the will they aren’t shown, say “if they try to convince other relatives to give them money, they get x/2 instead”
On the topic of the onion fritter story: I have an uncle like that. What he was doing was a power play. He wanted to remind his niece that he's big and she's small and she can't do anything if he takes her food. My uncle did this to me but my dad wasn't there and it was Pepsi and he didn't drink it he poured it on the ground in front of me and that's far from the worst thing he's done. I could write a book about all the shit he's done.
The guy from the "knitting" post has the funniest replies I've seen in an AITA thread in a while and the experience is incomplete without them. "No but I honestly think it would have crossed her mind by now? I mean it doesn’t even take that long to make stuff" ...does he want a single granny square? A chew toy? Sure what she's making while watching TV goes fast but a project for a human is a thousand times harder... "Ok but I like to talk about TV shows with people and I can’t if she doesn’t even know what is going on." Have you considered that your interests are boring. "The thing is I’ve been compromising this whole time. I don’t think she has." Where? When? What? "I’m not saying she can never knit just dial it back a bit. Everyone has to make sacrifices in a relationship." Okay, sacrifice your stupid habit of using boring TV as your only conversation. "Honestly I’m starting to think she thinks her time is worth more than mine. Making more money than me and all. As if that isn’t bad enough for me." The real reason he made this post: he's intimidated by a woman being happy and successful. "THANK YOU." The cherry on top of this steaming shit pile, he dug up the one NTA comment and thanked them.
"Have you considered that your interests are boring." That's what he thinks about his wife's hobby and that's not considered a good thing. So don't do it the other way around.
As someone who knits while watching TV or listening to music or podcasts, I can guarantee you absolutely can knit and pay attention to those things. In fact, if I watch or listen without either knitting, drawing, or playing a game on my phone I get restless and stop paying attention it instead. Knitting lets me pay MORE attention, not less.
15:53 I'm absolutely baffled about this. For the last few years I have found it impossible to watch a show if I'm not doing something else at the same time. And my SO does the same! We follow the plot just fine even if we are not looking at the screen the whole time. OP is so childish...
To the people who got inheritance from grandparents who loved them and had unpleasant family who wanted to take it: If they're that horrible to you, they don't deserve a cent. I'm glad you had at least one person each who cared about you enough to leave you that inheritance. Both the girl with the grandpa who died and the person with the grandmother who left her the necklace had a family member who loved them and called the other relatives to account for their mistreatment of the grandchild. I wish my mother had had even one person in her corner from her family, but alas, there are too many messy dramas and spiteful/neglectful/abusive relatives for that to be likely.
RE: Taking food off the kid's plate OP is NTA. I would have handled it differently, but can find no real fault with OP's handling of the situation. What I would have done is told the daughter "It's good to share, and he only had one, you still have more. Besides, people who share get an extra big piece of cake." While admittedly not ideal, that would have resolved the issue in the moment without breaking the decorum of the party. Then there is an obligatory follow-up on the car ride home. Have a discussion with the daughter, telling her that while it's nice to share, her uncle should have asked her permission first, and it is OK to say no. You're proud of her for maintaining her composure and taking it in stride, but she should always feel like it's ok to tell people "No", even if it's a grown-up. Then cut-off the uncle for a while. I'd let him know that while taking food off someone else's plate is childish, that isn't the issue. Questioning her upbringing and calling her spoiled in front of her because she stood up for herself... that crosses a line. He is not her father. His opinions on her upbringing don't matter. And a grown man can afford his own dinner, he had other options. The taking of the food might have been overlooked as a minor social transgression, but the way he doubled-down on it instead of apologizing or taking accountability makes him less of a man. He stole from and berated someone one fifth his size, that's pretty weak. She stood up to a bully five times her size. That little girl is more of a "man" than he'll ever be. And while there may be other ways of expressing this sentiment, I would put it in exactly those terms because I think that will hit a nerve with him.
Story 4: I would have cussed Mom out so badly she would have ended up on the floor in a ball crying. Kudos to you for defending your GF. Tell your gf to freely fart in your Mom's face if she wants
Ngl, for the knitting story, he could've encouraged her to open up a little personal online shop to sell some of her creations locally since she does sound like she has a good amount of motivation for making a lot of items quickly.
As a queer-oriented aroace, having a QPR (queer platonic partner) who knitted/crocheted would be adorable. Seeing your partner happy after finishing a project has to be the cutest thing ever. People are just stupid.
@@Ryeanimatessometimes you just need to relate it to your own life, and considering the gendered nature of the art, most assume you’re talking about someone that identifies as a woman But if your partner, or platonic partner doesn’t identify with that group then it’s nice to identify them as they present because everyone likes assuming everyone else is straight.
In the one about the 17-year-old boy constantly waking up his sister so she'd make him food, I was listening but not watching, so I misheard and thought it was saying that the SISTER was waking HIM up for food. So, when I heard the part where the sister was allowed to tell HIM to make HER food and have her make food for HER, I was like "WTF?!?!?! YES, YOU'RE THE ASSHOLE! YOU'RE PUNISHING _HIM_ BECAUSE _SHE_ KEPT WAKING HIM UP TO MAKE HER FOOD?! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!" then when I saw the part where people were saying she was NTA and was like "Ohhh, I misheard." But yeah, in that one, OP wasn't the asshole.
For the last story….. in my opinion, family that bad is owed less than a stranger. Would you give that to a stranger? No. So why should you give it to people who were worse to you than strangers?
I just gotta say I love the grandma in the last story for actually CARING about op. Op's family deserves to get cut out of the inheritance for being so entitled and ableist, and I'm glad op had her grandma throughout her life
The waking up to make food one is the mom and the son are aholes The punishment fits perfectly for the crime, during the summer and weekends if he’s woken up on school nights in the middle of the night his performance will get worse and the mom will most likely complain about his grades and not think that she caused the problem (the main problem isn’t education it’s the aftermath since we don’t know how strict the parent is)
The one with the wealthy parents disclosing all the affairs they've had & some kids uncovering their unknown parentage: I disagree with the comment sayinf OP was "laughing at the misfortune of others". She was laughing at the irony/hypocrisy of the mother who has higher expectations for others than herself/her husband. OP has already admitted to being the AH originally, but since she's apologized, I think the BF just needs time & agree with the comment saying to just keep apologizing. Obviously, don't go overboard on frequency or fervor, as it may come off as insincere/mocking, but I think both the BF absorbing what happened with his family & every so often being reminded by OP that they're sorry for their part in the mess is the best way forward.
Yes phone on toilet does mean it gets extea germs, solution is to get some of the phone wipes or something and clean it when you leave like you do with your hands
The man who reaches across a restaurant table to snatch food off of someone elses plate has the nerve to talk about others being spoiled and having no manners? Could run an IMAX with that projection!
For the knitting story, I get where the guy is coming from. He wants to share a common interest with the gf, but her knitting all the time gives the impression that shes uniterested and that feeling sucks when you really want to have fun with your SO by sharing the same level of passion in any passtime you are doing together.
Story 5: It was his money, he didn't totally disinherit them, he left you the bulk of his estate. I'd have his atty send a cease and desist with the threat of a RO if they continue, block them and be done with them.
RE: The kid who wakes his sister up to cook for him. OP is NTA, but they are handling the situation wrong. To their credit, they got a lot of things right, but just didn't put it all together very effectively. The kid can obviously cook for himself, so his motivation was likely more laziness than inability. This punishment does nothing to address that laziness. So while he may learn to not wake his sister up to cook for him in the future, that doesn't mean his behavior won't manifest in some other way. It just doesn't get to the core of the issue. It's treating the symptom, not the disease. Also, study after study has shown that punishment does fuck-all to stop bad behavior. Looks at the criminal recidivism rate if you need convincing. We're very good at punishing people as a society, but that has done remarkably little to stop crime. Most people after punishment reoffend. Punishment works well with toddlers. You're teaching them that actions have consequences, which may be either good or bad, and to consider those consequences before they act. But once they understand that you see severely diminishing returns on punishment. That's why so many parents have difficulty raising teenagers, because the tactics that used to work just stop working and they don't adapt their approach and become frustrated. This kid is 17, not 7. This approach won't work very well. I think OP was on the right track, but their idea needed a bit more refinement. Here's what I would do: Everyone in the household (their son, daughter, parents etc) will split the days of the week to cook. Let's say the Son gets Tuesday as his day to cook. Monday night, he does meal prep for the whole family, breakfast, lunch and dinner. He can fill up some pre-portioned containers for everyone so that on Tuesday, they can just go to the fridge and pull out their container for their meals. So he might put a yogurt, a banana, and a hard-boiled egg in a bag for each person for an easy breakfast that they can grab on the go. Lunch may be some fried rice or something. Dinner may be chicken with spinach and steamed carrots. He'll make all of this Monday night, and Tuesday, there are 3 meals for each member of the household just waiting for them to grab at their convenience. Everyone else will also have a meal-prep day or two during the week. This is not a punishment; it is the responsibility inherent to being an adult who contributes to the family. Everyone chips in. With this, you may find that some people are better at making specific dishes than others, so everyone may get requests for certain dishes. They'll feel validated and more enthused at the prospect of making a meal that they make better than others. You may see people asking to swap days, and you may need to swap days yourself, so it is advantageous to engage with others amicably, so they are willing to swap days, or prepare a requested meal, etc. It's more participatory. And everyone knows what's involved in this task, so it's a lot easier to empathize with others in that regard and accurately assess the value of that work, so it's neither taken for granted or used to play the selfless martyr. The whole family agrees on the meal plan for the week, and if anyone drops the ball and doesn't hold up their end, they forfeit their say in the meal plan for the next month, and will need to just eat what others decide to make with no say in it. Those who participate and contribute to the family have a voice. Those who don't are stuck with whatever they get, and their opinions don't matter until their behavior is rectified. This also has the advantage of helping the whole family potentially eat healthier or stick to diets if that is a concern. Everyone learns to cook new things and expand their skills in the kitchen. It can be expanded to having them shop for the ingredients, you can teach them to cook on a specific budget, etc. And people can share advice as they learn. It should rectify this problem and create opportunities to not just avoid bad behavior but actively encourage good behavior. This may not have the same "poetic justice" vibe to it as OP's approach, but it will ultimately be more effective.
Exactly. Love how they're trying to justify the "eye for an eye" mentality when the real solution was to get the son to just stop waking the sister in the first place. Also how they keep saying he "chose" that punishment, as to imply that he had a choice in the matter (it was one unreasonable punishment or the other, that's not a choice). Honestly, that one was a big ESH judgement for me.
@@betheguy_posts ya that punishment was a big.. meh in my book. more so the fact it continued after school started. The final year of high school SUCKS. kids are lucky to even get sleep with the amount of home work you get.. plus all the senior projects. teens need a fuck ton more sleep then they get. don't blame him at all for going to grandparents house.
20:52 the audacity of calling someone spoiled and lacking manners after he stole from a child? Who doesn’t have social skills? The kid upset at their lack of power over their own food or the grown man stealing from a child? ETA: he is truly jealous of children! WTAF?!
With the laughing story one I think ESH op was kinda but the family was most but I kinda get why she was laughing because of the hypocrisy and I probably would have too but at the same time she should’ve have been more sensitive in the situation since ops boyfriend family was in a really rocky situation. So ESH
as an 18yo repeating my last year of high school cuz English is really hard i can with confidence say a hand full of really late nights is annoying but absolutely manageable, hell its 02:35 as im typing this
oh my god, they're back at it. Not only do they do the thing where they show like 5 words at a time, THERE ARE LITERALLY TWO SONGS PLAYING AT ONCE??? how low can this channel get
The seventeen year old cooking for.his sister. No. He is in school. He went to the sister because he didnt know how to cook, did not trust his parents, or felt entitled to labor As a sister who raised all my siblings even tho my parents were physically present.... Screw every single one of you. You guys are just bad parents. You didn't teach him to cook, didn't make yourselves safe, or didnt teach him that women arent just free workers You failed. Not him, not her. You are the one who is a problem. And where is the lock on her door.
I mean personally I don’t bring my electronics into the bathroom but I like to think as long as you wipe it down with a Clorox wipe there’s nothing wrong with using your phone in the bathroom and it’s none of my business what you do with your electronics
I’m 8 months pregnant and while I have had strong cravings I’ve never been so inconsiderate to my husband to make him go get me things in the middle of the night etc. I had what is known as SELF CONTROL because despite being pregnant I am still an adult. I dislike women using the excuse of being pregnant to be entitled and rude to others around them, especially those they claim to love
Okay...I am married 35 years and there is so much to say. Firstly, my husband has commented on how much he misses the clicking sound of my knitting needles. Yes, the difference between knitting and crocheting is significant, but the idea is the same. My life mantra has been and continues to be, "If my hands aren't moving...I'm asleep". Also, I have given birth to 3 children, and no where in life is it acceptable for a woman to be pampered or princessed with privilege of entitlement. 1 a.m. for a snack craving is f ing selfish. Disrupting the breadwinners sleep for an entitled behavior is the stuff that makes me furious. He works everyday, and sleep is imperative! You can't be considerate and get yourself in line and keep that crap to yourself until the next day?! Just screw right off with that I am pregnant and my cravings are real. So is a man's sex drive! Yet we as women deny, deny, and deny. A craving is just a craving which can be controlled and a considerate husband will kiss his wife and make sure he brings the item home with him after work the next day. I really cannot stand people who believe their needs or desires come before the consideration of others, and even at the expense of others.
My GF and I often have things to keep our hands busy when we watch TV. She has her switch, and I like to pick locks. It's not a big deal to have hobbies.
hormones can make you bratty because when youre craving something it can be really intense like to the point its like having withdrawal from my experience. but youre still responsible for your reactions. husband wasnt ta, wife was nfta, but kinda ta
14:56 it’s the quizzing her for me. Let people enjoy things! It sounds like OP is mad that she’s into something that’s not about him or like OP is making it about him.
Laughing while nervous is not an excuse IMO once you’re an adult. If it really was a natural reaction to nervous situations, you’d see people laughing at funerals and hospitals more. It’s only when it’s at the expense of someone though
If shes doing her hobby nonstop every single time your spending time together which it sounds like shes doing he does have fair point to make. Could of hamdeled it better but its like painting, i can hold a comvo while painting but its rude to do when ypur supposed to be spending time with each other. Its kinda selfish to always do your hobby when your parnter or friend or any company is over especially when they have asked you if you could stop while your spending time together.
Op was treated like trash by trash its only fair the trash gets put we're they belong the dumpster ops just the truck putting the trash were it should have been along time ago
I do think the second one is the ahole. It’s a fine punishment, but as a 17 year old it can absolutely hurt his future. My little brother is 17 and within his first 2 weeks of school *he had to take the fucking SATs!!!!* Who’s to say the sister wouldn’t wake him up the night before his SATs. Those r actually important. To get into a good school u usually can’t have less than a 1400 at the very least
Story 10: I feel sorry for the guys they are marrying. However it's your necklace given to you and you only. You need to put it in a safe deposit box. why in the world should you humor them in anyway. ALSO ELOPING became popular for numerous reasons.
I have a sketchbook/kindle when watching things with my boyfriend. Everywhere we go, if it's appropriate, I take these things with me because I really REALLY enjoy drawing and reading. I just enjoy being by myself for a bit, doing my own thing - it's just a break. Watching things and being invested in something takes a lot of effort. I can enjoy a movie/series and just stop watching. Like, love it and never go back to it - it's so rare that I actually binge. It's not that I don't want to pay attention, I want to spend time with my boyfriend with this thing he enjoys while doing my own thing. It is like fidgeting - occupying yourself so you can take breaks. If my boyfriend was asking, expecting, what this guy is, then I wouldn't be enjoying my time with him anymore. To be constantly drawing him and then putting my stuff aside to give him attention, to pay attention to what he wanted - I'd be *exhausted*. Leave her alone to do her own thing
If you think it's ridiculous for a 17 year old to wake someone up to make him food (and don't get me wrong, I think it's ridiculous too), you should hear about a guy I knew 😂 He was 28 and lived with his parents. His poor mom had to wake up at 5am to go to work and she did all of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc alone, despite living with a fully capable adult son and husband. She went to sleep at around 11pm after a long day of work, but this guy at the ripe old age of 28 would still often wake his mom up during those six hours she got to sleep so that she could make him food. He was too lazy to do it himself. This woman lived under such stress that I'm sure that she's shaved a decade off from her lifespan. She had a demanding job and had almost no leisure time to herself. She cooked everything from scratch and spent hours every day cleaning up after her slob of a son. I couldn't believe it when I heard that he had so little respect for her that he wouldn't even let her sleep in peace. Dude really saw his mom as some kind of personal servant.
Not a fan of the stock footage in the background, but much better than the subway surfers. The text on screen was a better experience. So glad there's more AITA videos though, in whatever format they come in.
Story 6: Now reverse the genders and let's hear the different responses with building cars and other things etc, exactly why isn't she making you anything??? Has she been diagnosed with a disorder since she's more fixated on that than anything else??
So first you need to switch the hobby when switching the genders men can crochet, which is actually apparently what her hobby is. Second, a man wouldn't be the a****** for crocheting when watching TV and stuff. Third, I don't know what you are on but you can't really watch TV and build a car at the same time. Mechanics and crocheting are not quite equal in level of concentration. 4th. She doesn't have to make him stuff if she doesn't want to or if what she makes isn't something that would interest him. I mostly crochet stuffies. Not everyone wants a stuffed animal and I personally don't enjoy making bags or sweaters. So if someone doesn't want to stuffed animal, I'm not going to make them something. Fifth yeah she could be diagnosed with something. I have ADHD and that's why crochet is so good for me. It keeps me physically busy so I can mentally concentrate.
@@WiseWordsbyWiki I Raised 15 kids, NON MORMON, NON MENNONITE on a 300 acre farm that was handed down to I, me, an individual, a committee of 1 from my parents, which was handed down from their parents which was handed down their parents. 13 sons 2 daughters, ALL of my kids known how to cook, bake, sew, repair an engine, build a fence, diagnose ANY vet issue/ crop issue there is, judge the weather but what insect are prevalent, spot a bad moon rising yes that actually is a thing, replace a roof, rewire a home, chop firewood, do plumbing, hunt, fish, trap, plant/ harvest fruits, veggies, can build cars from the ground up, ec etc etc We Put them ALL through college, My kids learned from the time they could walk ness skills, They are absolutely amazed at kids that are literally USELESS and GETTING FAR WORSE. UNLESS they have a very serious disability they can actually LEARN/work. Stop being stupid.
So this might be an unpopular opinion but I'm kind of on knitting guys side. People have pointed out that because you said hook it's possible she was crocheting and not knitting and either way I have been trying to talk to somebody who's crocheting and had them telling me that oh sorry you talked and now I lost count of my stitches and now I have to start all over and so it's like they're crashing and that's what matters so you can't talk to them and that would be kind of annoying if that was in a significant other rather than a parent. Especially if they don't live together and he does want to sit there and cuddle and watch TV together and she's busy paying attention to whatever stitches working on a special because she's not doing it mindlessly or doing a simple we've scarf but doing bags and stuff which does mean she's doing stuff you have checked actually pay attention to. To the people who say that he comes across as selfish for thinking that he might enjoy the crocheting thing better if he was doing it for her first lie he saying might he doesn't actually know he kind of like the dog toy but still seems kind of hesitant about it. People acting like he wants to be the center for attention but it might just be that he wants to get any attention. Young people can get swallowed in yarn and what they're doing and what they're working on I have witnessed it happen. I'm curious to know if people's opinions on the story would change if she was doing something other than yarn work, for instance if he was playing a game on her phone. I don't think he's in the wrong for wanting to cuddle and not be third Wheeling to her and the yarn. You ever tried to snuggle somebody who's playing with yarn? Trust me it is in fact kind of one-sided. People are acting like he's a jerk for quizzing her on the show they were watching but ignore the fact that she was in fact not paying attention to the show they were watching. If I was going to watch a TV show with somebody I'd want them to take an interest in the show or at least talk to me if we weren't going to pay attention and it might as well because we are having fun together or not because they're doing something else and I'm left standing off to the side. and people saying that the fact that he can tell the difference between knitting and crocheting is proof that he's not paying any attention is very dismissive partner is kind of stupid because like if it's not your hubby you're not obligated to know all the different intricacies of what goes into it and it again crocheting are very similar they just use a different instrument. He isn't into it he's not required to know the difference and the fact that he doesn't know the difference of doesn't mean he's a bad partner. And people acting like him saying he wants to cuddle and wants to watch TV or contradictory points or really stupid because you absolutely compelled to cuddle someone and watch TV but you can do is watch TV and crochet a bag at the same time and get fully immersed in both. I don't see his request but she actually pay attention when they're hanging out if any worse than a parent telling a child not to bring their phone to the dinner table.
I disagree that she wasn't paying attention. He said she couldn't even answer SOME of the questions. This is normal when watching a show even if you pay attention. You don't remember every little thing. Also he is very clearly uninterested in her hobby, and if that's the case, he can't expect her to 'compromise' by doing less of her hobby and completely participating in his, with full attention, just as much as before. He does not realize she is compromising by crocheting while she does something she clearly isn't interested in with him- that being, watching a show. He can compromise by letting her crochet while they watch.
@@catpoke9557 true, but we don't know what show they were watching and we don't know the questions he asked and how hard or obscure they were I'm is if he was asking about delicate scene-setting I'd agree but if he was asking about the plot or if the character's name for something like that I'd agree that he has a point and since we don't know that we don't know which one of them is right
@@lahlybird895 I can't even remember the character's name most of the time, and sometimes I even struggle to remember the plot if it's a convoluted show.
@@catpoke9557 usually when I don't remember characters named it's because I wasn't paying attention half the time I remember the names and pots of shows I was in the same room for even when I wasn't actively paying attention to them
Idk if my gf pregnant (despite us both not wanting kids) I’d be making her the damn cake. No amount of my after work tired would compare to hers, since she’s carrying a literal parasite that’s stealing her resources and building a nest in her abdominal cavity. Besides. If I can’t bake a simple cake after work, how am I gonna have the enfer to help with the kid after work once they’re born. Stay at home mom or not, once I’m off the clock we’re both watching the kid. She’d have been working by watching our kid all day.
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Knitted/crocheting isnt just a 'hobby' its a Post Apocalyptic Life Skill. He should be so lucky.
Yeah it’s why in walking dead fics I write grandmas are used to make things like sweaters
You're thinking of tailoring
@@littlemoth4956 both...lol
the knitting one is so much worse CUS SHE WAS ACTUALLY CROCHETING, PROVING HE DOESN'T EVEN PAY ATTENTION TO HER HOBBY
i died a little when he said "knitting hook" 💀
What IS the difference between Knitting and Crocheting anyway?
@@ToonyTails knitting requires two needles and crochet requires one hook. each of these tools come in different sizes for whatever projects you need. also, fun fact: mass produced "crochet" articles of clothing you'd find in popular clothing stores are actually machine knitted in a way to look like crochet. this is because crochet is impossible to replicate with a machine due to its complexity
@@ToonyTailsknitting uses a needle, crocheting is using a hook.
@MaydayEnjoysChaos there's also knooking (a pair of knitting needles with a crochet hook on the other end).
Oh man, the pregnancy hormones seem to be hitting her a bit hard, if this continues she needs to speak to her Drs. Erratic behavior should not be ignored.
Ya, yikes.
How embarrassing to be jealous of yarn
Oh my God... I hate that "family members feeling entitled to an inheritance the deceased person clearly stated it's not for them" is such a common event everywhere in the world. People are just awful. They are waiting eagerly on their elders to die so they can take everything they owned. Absolutely awful.
You tend to know who are the vultures in the family are when someone dies. Too many instances, too little empathy.
As a woman who’s almost 8 months preg, he is not the asshole. If my husband comes home and says he’s too tired to cook, he’s too tired! I get the craving the next day, or, god forbid, make it myself🤣 the relationship still has to go both ways!
I'm SO glad the comments are pointing out hook means crochet. Also, note how the tone of the post is "me, me, me". If she made things for me. She made something for my dog, that was ACTUALLY nice. As opposed to the stuff shes making for herself that I bet is also cute af. He doesnt pay attention to her or her hobbies (if he did, he'd know knitting had needles), and only cares about the hobby when it benefits him. She's right to say he doesn't listen to her, and I'd dump an SO over that.
Careful there. People will tell you that it's just a normal 'argument' and that you shouldn't tell someone to break up over something like this!
About the knitting story, it's likely she wouldn't be all that interested in what you were watching together anyways. You could quiz her whilst she has that Clockwork Orange thing strapped to her head and she'd get a similar score. No, she wants to spend time with you and she gets to do it whilst sharing in her time enjoying this hobby. She's doing all this because she wants to spend time with you, how is this not extremely clear?
RE: Mother's Fart Reaction
Wow... while it is not "Ladylike" (or Gentlemanly for that matter) to fart in front of guests, it is far less dignified to admonish your hosts while a guest in their home, or to draw attention to such an occurrence. The finer part of grace is discretion, and the mother clearly lacks that. It's insane that she doesn't see the hypocrisy of her position.
And I have news for her... age is sneaking up on her, and old ladies are fart machines. At a certain age, there's a little squeak with every step, lol. I suspect karma will strike with a vengeance.
the last one. The ableism of that family I swear. That grandma was pure gold and such a sweetie.
Story 1: NTA Pregnancy isn't an excuse to be an AH. Tell her get off her behind ad actually make it herself.
at 6 mnth preggers it not ideal.
Thanks
@@azadalamiq I worked 2 retail stores in a mall during Christmas over 8 months pregnant, still cleaned, cooked, did laundry, grocery shopped. Had Christmas day off, went into labor around 6 am on the 26st, gave birth at almost 11 am on the 26 st . Unless you have a serious problem where Dr orders bed rest, forms of very limited activity, Being a pregnant bump on a log causes more harm than good.
You know what would be amazing to hear with the “rich person is disappointed with their relatives and leaves them very little” cases? If they found a way to basically go “you get x much,” tell the other relatives not to give them any and, in a part of the will they aren’t shown, say “if they try to convince other relatives to give them money, they get x/2 instead”
On the topic of the onion fritter story: I have an uncle like that. What he was doing was a power play. He wanted to remind his niece that he's big and she's small and she can't do anything if he takes her food. My uncle did this to me but my dad wasn't there and it was Pepsi and he didn't drink it he poured it on the ground in front of me and that's far from the worst thing he's done. I could write a book about all the shit he's done.
The guy from the "knitting" post has the funniest replies I've seen in an AITA thread in a while and the experience is incomplete without them.
"No but I honestly think it would have crossed her mind by now? I mean it doesn’t even take that long to make stuff"
...does he want a single granny square? A chew toy? Sure what she's making while watching TV goes fast but a project for a human is a thousand times harder...
"Ok but I like to talk about TV shows with people and I can’t if she doesn’t even know what is going on."
Have you considered that your interests are boring.
"The thing is I’ve been compromising this whole time. I don’t think she has."
Where? When? What?
"I’m not saying she can never knit just dial it back a bit. Everyone has to make sacrifices in a relationship."
Okay, sacrifice your stupid habit of using boring TV as your only conversation.
"Honestly I’m starting to think she thinks her time is worth more than mine. Making more money than me and all. As if that isn’t bad enough for me."
The real reason he made this post: he's intimidated by a woman being happy and successful.
"THANK YOU."
The cherry on top of this steaming shit pile, he dug up the one NTA comment and thanked them.
"Have you considered that your interests are boring."
That's what he thinks about his wife's hobby and that's not considered a good thing. So don't do it the other way around.
As someone who knits while watching TV or listening to music or podcasts, I can guarantee you absolutely can knit and pay attention to those things. In fact, if I watch or listen without either knitting, drawing, or playing a game on my phone I get restless and stop paying attention it instead. Knitting lets me pay MORE attention, not less.
bruh not having a craving wont kill her
15:53 I'm absolutely baffled about this. For the last few years I have found it impossible to watch a show if I'm not doing something else at the same time. And my SO does the same! We follow the plot just fine even if we are not looking at the screen the whole time.
OP is so childish...
To the people who got inheritance from grandparents who loved them and had unpleasant family who wanted to take it:
If they're that horrible to you, they don't deserve a cent. I'm glad you had at least one person each who cared about you enough to leave you that inheritance. Both the girl with the grandpa who died and the person with the grandmother who left her the necklace had a family member who loved them and called the other relatives to account for their mistreatment of the grandchild. I wish my mother had had even one person in her corner from her family, but alas, there are too many messy dramas and spiteful/neglectful/abusive relatives for that to be likely.
Currently crocheting while listening to this lol
WAH! 😭 You're not paying attention.
Me too!!
Me too
RE: Taking food off the kid's plate
OP is NTA. I would have handled it differently, but can find no real fault with OP's handling of the situation. What I would have done is told the daughter "It's good to share, and he only had one, you still have more. Besides, people who share get an extra big piece of cake." While admittedly not ideal, that would have resolved the issue in the moment without breaking the decorum of the party. Then there is an obligatory follow-up on the car ride home.
Have a discussion with the daughter, telling her that while it's nice to share, her uncle should have asked her permission first, and it is OK to say no. You're proud of her for maintaining her composure and taking it in stride, but she should always feel like it's ok to tell people "No", even if it's a grown-up.
Then cut-off the uncle for a while. I'd let him know that while taking food off someone else's plate is childish, that isn't the issue. Questioning her upbringing and calling her spoiled in front of her because she stood up for herself... that crosses a line. He is not her father. His opinions on her upbringing don't matter. And a grown man can afford his own dinner, he had other options. The taking of the food might have been overlooked as a minor social transgression, but the way he doubled-down on it instead of apologizing or taking accountability makes him less of a man. He stole from and berated someone one fifth his size, that's pretty weak. She stood up to a bully five times her size. That little girl is more of a "man" than he'll ever be. And while there may be other ways of expressing this sentiment, I would put it in exactly those terms because I think that will hit a nerve with him.
Story 4: I would have cussed Mom out so badly she would have ended up on the floor in a ball crying. Kudos to you for defending your GF. Tell your gf to freely fart in your Mom's face if she wants
Ngl, for the knitting story, he could've encouraged her to open up a little personal online shop to sell some of her creations locally since she does sound like she has a good amount of motivation for making a lot of items quickly.
As a queer-oriented aroace, having a QPR (queer platonic partner) who knitted/crocheted would be adorable. Seeing your partner happy after finishing a project has to be the cutest thing ever. People are just stupid.
Why add the details just say "i would personally find that cute this dude is just a loser"💀
@@Ryeanimatesno fr 💀
@@Ryeanimatessometimes you just need to relate it to your own life, and considering the gendered nature of the art, most assume you’re talking about someone that identifies as a woman But if your partner, or platonic partner doesn’t identify with that group then it’s nice to identify them as they present because everyone likes assuming everyone else is straight.
Tf does queer-oriented mean?
@@Ryeanimates Right? What the hell was the point of all of that?
In the one about the 17-year-old boy constantly waking up his sister so she'd make him food, I was listening but not watching, so I misheard and thought it was saying that the SISTER was waking HIM up for food. So, when I heard the part where the sister was allowed to tell HIM to make HER food and have her make food for HER, I was like "WTF?!?!?! YES, YOU'RE THE ASSHOLE! YOU'RE PUNISHING _HIM_ BECAUSE _SHE_ KEPT WAKING HIM UP TO MAKE HER FOOD?! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!" then when I saw the part where people were saying she was NTA and was like "Ohhh, I misheard." But yeah, in that one, OP wasn't the asshole.
For the last story….. in my opinion, family that bad is owed less than a stranger. Would you give that to a stranger? No. So why should you give it to people who were worse to you than strangers?
I just gotta say I love the grandma in the last story for actually CARING about op. Op's family deserves to get cut out of the inheritance for being so entitled and ableist, and I'm glad op had her grandma throughout her life
The waking up to make food one is the mom and the son are aholes
The punishment fits perfectly for the crime, during the summer and weekends if he’s woken up on school nights in the middle of the night his performance will get worse and the mom will most likely complain about his grades and not think that she caused the problem (the main problem isn’t education it’s the aftermath since we don’t know how strict the parent is)
if he was waking her up while she was working shifts at the hospital 🤷♀️ he’s only getting what he gave
@@cchase1282 Didn’t it say before she went to sleep? (Which would also be before work)
Maybe a Compromise that its on the weekends? If the grades start to slip.
Yeah thats what i was thinking could be a change also kinda makes the punishment longer@@kurotsuki7427
@@ScorgeTheDemonNo, she works night shift and probably sleep during the morning and probably her brother woke her up at that time.
"you don't deserve to be born. you are a burden. grandma gave you money? well give it to me! after all, I'm FAMILY."
The one with the wealthy parents disclosing all the affairs they've had & some kids uncovering their unknown parentage:
I disagree with the comment sayinf OP was "laughing at the misfortune of others". She was laughing at the irony/hypocrisy of the mother who has higher expectations for others than herself/her husband. OP has already admitted to being the AH originally, but since she's apologized, I think the BF just needs time & agree with the comment saying to just keep apologizing. Obviously, don't go overboard on frequency or fervor, as it may come off as insincere/mocking, but I think both the BF absorbing what happened with his family & every so often being reminded by OP that they're sorry for their part in the mess is the best way forward.
Yes phone on toilet does mean it gets extea germs, solution is to get some of the phone wipes or something and clean it when you leave like you do with your hands
The man who reaches across a restaurant table to snatch food off of someone elses plate has the nerve to talk about others being spoiled and having no manners? Could run an IMAX with that projection!
NTA for the farming.
Cutting out every bit of silence makes the video a little difficult to listen to. It’s not needed.
Yeah the convo needs to happen for 1
For the knitting story, I get where the guy is coming from. He wants to share a common interest with the gf, but her knitting all the time gives the impression that shes uniterested and that feeling sucks when you really want to have fun with your SO by sharing the same level of passion in any passtime you are doing together.
Story 5: It was his money, he didn't totally disinherit them, he left you the bulk of his estate. I'd have his atty send a cease and desist with the threat of a RO if they continue, block them and be done with them.
The last story was satisfying as hell. I love hearing about people getting their just dessert
8:00 OMFG!
RE: The kid who wakes his sister up to cook for him.
OP is NTA, but they are handling the situation wrong.
To their credit, they got a lot of things right, but just didn't put it all together very effectively.
The kid can obviously cook for himself, so his motivation was likely more laziness than inability. This punishment does nothing to address that laziness. So while he may learn to not wake his sister up to cook for him in the future, that doesn't mean his behavior won't manifest in some other way. It just doesn't get to the core of the issue. It's treating the symptom, not the disease.
Also, study after study has shown that punishment does fuck-all to stop bad behavior. Looks at the criminal recidivism rate if you need convincing. We're very good at punishing people as a society, but that has done remarkably little to stop crime. Most people after punishment reoffend.
Punishment works well with toddlers. You're teaching them that actions have consequences, which may be either good or bad, and to consider those consequences before they act. But once they understand that you see severely diminishing returns on punishment. That's why so many parents have difficulty raising teenagers, because the tactics that used to work just stop working and they don't adapt their approach and become frustrated. This kid is 17, not 7. This approach won't work very well.
I think OP was on the right track, but their idea needed a bit more refinement. Here's what I would do:
Everyone in the household (their son, daughter, parents etc) will split the days of the week to cook.
Let's say the Son gets Tuesday as his day to cook. Monday night, he does meal prep for the whole family, breakfast, lunch and dinner. He can fill up some pre-portioned containers for everyone so that on Tuesday, they can just go to the fridge and pull out their container for their meals.
So he might put a yogurt, a banana, and a hard-boiled egg in a bag for each person for an easy breakfast that they can grab on the go. Lunch may be some fried rice or something. Dinner may be chicken with spinach and steamed carrots. He'll make all of this Monday night, and Tuesday, there are 3 meals for each member of the household just waiting for them to grab at their convenience.
Everyone else will also have a meal-prep day or two during the week. This is not a punishment; it is the responsibility inherent to being an adult who contributes to the family. Everyone chips in.
With this, you may find that some people are better at making specific dishes than others, so everyone may get requests for certain dishes. They'll feel validated and more enthused at the prospect of making a meal that they make better than others. You may see people asking to swap days, and you may need to swap days yourself, so it is advantageous to engage with others amicably, so they are willing to swap days, or prepare a requested meal, etc. It's more participatory. And everyone knows what's involved in this task, so it's a lot easier to empathize with others in that regard and accurately assess the value of that work, so it's neither taken for granted or used to play the selfless martyr. The whole family agrees on the meal plan for the week, and if anyone drops the ball and doesn't hold up their end, they forfeit their say in the meal plan for the next month, and will need to just eat what others decide to make with no say in it. Those who participate and contribute to the family have a voice. Those who don't are stuck with whatever they get, and their opinions don't matter until their behavior is rectified.
This also has the advantage of helping the whole family potentially eat healthier or stick to diets if that is a concern. Everyone learns to cook new things and expand their skills in the kitchen. It can be expanded to having them shop for the ingredients, you can teach them to cook on a specific budget, etc. And people can share advice as they learn. It should rectify this problem and create opportunities to not just avoid bad behavior but actively encourage good behavior.
This may not have the same "poetic justice" vibe to it as OP's approach, but it will ultimately be more effective.
Exactly. Love how they're trying to justify the "eye for an eye" mentality when the real solution was to get the son to just stop waking the sister in the first place. Also how they keep saying he "chose" that punishment, as to imply that he had a choice in the matter (it was one unreasonable punishment or the other, that's not a choice).
Honestly, that one was a big ESH judgement for me.
@@betheguy_posts ya that punishment was a big.. meh in my book. more so the fact it continued after school started. The final year of high school SUCKS. kids are lucky to even get sleep with the amount of home work you get.. plus all the senior projects. teens need a fuck ton more sleep then they get. don't blame him at all for going to grandparents house.
20:52 the audacity of calling someone spoiled and lacking manners after he stole from a child? Who doesn’t have social skills? The kid upset at their lack of power over their own food or the grown man stealing from a child?
ETA: he is truly jealous of children! WTAF?!
With the laughing story one I think ESH op was kinda but the family was most but I kinda get why she was laughing because of the hypocrisy and I probably would have too but at the same time she should’ve have been more sensitive in the situation since ops boyfriend family was in a really rocky situation. So ESH
as an 18yo repeating my last year of high school cuz English is really hard i can with confidence say a hand full of really late nights is annoying but absolutely manageable, hell its 02:35 as im typing this
oh my god, they're back at it. Not only do they do the thing where they show like 5 words at a time, THERE ARE LITERALLY TWO SONGS PLAYING AT ONCE??? how low can this channel get
Story 9: I agree with the NTA comments
Story 3: I'd be breaking up with her for severely, grossly overstepping
6:25 I literally watch emkay videos while i shit. Whats the issue here?
The seventeen year old cooking for.his sister.
No. He is in school. He went to the sister because he didnt know how to cook, did not trust his parents, or felt entitled to labor
As a sister who raised all my siblings even tho my parents were physically present.... Screw every single one of you. You guys are just bad parents.
You didn't teach him to cook, didn't make yourselves safe, or didnt teach him that women arent just free workers
You failed. Not him, not her. You are the one who is a problem.
And where is the lock on her door.
13:17 yeess
I mean personally I don’t bring my electronics into the bathroom but I like to think as long as you wipe it down with a Clorox wipe there’s nothing wrong with using your phone in the bathroom and it’s none of my business what you do with your electronics
I’m 8 months pregnant and while I have had strong cravings I’ve never been so inconsiderate to my husband to make him go get me things in the middle of the night etc. I had what is known as SELF CONTROL because despite being pregnant I am still an adult. I dislike women using the excuse of being pregnant to be entitled and rude to others around them, especially those they claim to love
Okay...I am married 35 years and there is so much to say.
Firstly, my husband has commented on how much he misses the clicking sound of my knitting needles. Yes, the difference between knitting and crocheting is significant, but the idea is the same. My life mantra has been and continues to be, "If my hands aren't moving...I'm asleep".
Also, I have given birth to 3 children, and no where in life is it acceptable for a woman to be pampered or princessed with privilege of entitlement. 1 a.m. for a snack craving is f ing selfish. Disrupting the breadwinners sleep for an entitled behavior is the stuff that makes me furious. He works everyday, and sleep is imperative! You can't be considerate and get yourself in line and keep that crap to yourself until the next day?! Just screw right off with that I am pregnant and my cravings are real. So is a man's sex drive! Yet we as women deny, deny, and deny.
A craving is just a craving which can be controlled and a considerate husband will kiss his wife and make sure he brings the item home with him after work the next day.
I really cannot stand people who believe their needs or desires come before the consideration of others, and even at the expense of others.
My GF and I often have things to keep our hands busy when we watch TV. She has her switch, and I like to pick locks. It's not a big deal to have hobbies.
hormones can make you bratty because when youre craving something it can be really intense like to the point its like having withdrawal from my experience. but youre still responsible for your reactions. husband wasnt ta, wife was nfta, but kinda ta
14:56 it’s the quizzing her for me. Let people enjoy things!
It sounds like OP is mad that she’s into something that’s not about him or like OP is making it about him.
Laughing while nervous is not an excuse IMO once you’re an adult. If it really was a natural reaction to nervous situations, you’d see people laughing at funerals and hospitals more. It’s only when it’s at the expense of someone though
It's september Emkay! you know what that means 😏
9/11
@@Anvixo
School for children in the US?
@@Anvixo I think it means school
Day 9 no shit september
If shes doing her hobby nonstop every single time your spending time together which it sounds like shes doing he does have fair point to make. Could of hamdeled it better but its like painting, i can hold a comvo while painting but its rude to do when ypur supposed to be spending time with each other. Its kinda selfish to always do your hobby when your parnter or friend or any company is over especially when they have asked you if you could stop while your spending time together.
The audio has some kind of problem
Op was treated like trash by trash its only fair the trash gets put we're they belong the dumpster ops just the truck putting the trash were it should have been along time ago
Toilet phone thing; wash hands, clean phone regularly, and don’t be a toilet hog.
I do think the second one is the ahole. It’s a fine punishment, but as a 17 year old it can absolutely hurt his future. My little brother is 17 and within his first 2 weeks of school *he had to take the fucking SATs!!!!* Who’s to say the sister wouldn’t wake him up the night before his SATs. Those r actually important. To get into a good school u usually can’t have less than a 1400 at the very least
Lemon juices
@@OverStrive2008 If you use UA-cam's emojis again I'll give you a pipe bomb.
@@Anvixo
Me watching this video while knitting 😅
The stealing food one: OP should’ve just taken some of their brother’s food
Story 10: I feel sorry for the guys they are marrying.
However it's your necklace given to you and you only. You need to put it in a safe deposit box. why in the world should you humor them in anyway.
ALSO ELOPING became popular for numerous reasons.
I have a sketchbook/kindle when watching things with my boyfriend. Everywhere we go, if it's appropriate, I take these things with me because I really REALLY enjoy drawing and reading. I just enjoy being by myself for a bit, doing my own thing - it's just a break. Watching things and being invested in something takes a lot of effort. I can enjoy a movie/series and just stop watching. Like, love it and never go back to it - it's so rare that I actually binge. It's not that I don't want to pay attention, I want to spend time with my boyfriend with this thing he enjoys while doing my own thing. It is like fidgeting - occupying yourself so you can take breaks. If my boyfriend was asking, expecting, what this guy is, then I wouldn't be enjoying my time with him anymore. To be constantly drawing him and then putting my stuff aside to give him attention, to pay attention to what he wanted - I'd be *exhausted*. Leave her alone to do her own thing
If you think it's ridiculous for a 17 year old to wake someone up to make him food (and don't get me wrong, I think it's ridiculous too), you should hear about a guy I knew 😂
He was 28 and lived with his parents. His poor mom had to wake up at 5am to go to work and she did all of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc alone, despite living with a fully capable adult son and husband. She went to sleep at around 11pm after a long day of work, but this guy at the ripe old age of 28 would still often wake his mom up during those six hours she got to sleep so that she could make him food. He was too lazy to do it himself.
This woman lived under such stress that I'm sure that she's shaved a decade off from her lifespan. She had a demanding job and had almost no leisure time to herself. She cooked everything from scratch and spent hours every day cleaning up after her slob of a son. I couldn't believe it when I heard that he had so little respect for her that he wouldn't even let her sleep in peace. Dude really saw his mom as some kind of personal servant.
Story 7: WOWZERS! Next relationship check your reactions
Not a fan of the stock footage in the background, but much better than the subway surfers. The text on screen was a better experience.
So glad there's more AITA videos though, in whatever format they come in.
hows the mom gonna call op disrespectful for him telling her off and she was disrespecting his girl in her OWN house
Okay, with the first one, yes, being pregnant is difficult but that doesn’t mean that no one else can feel tired
Story 8: Why does he feel the need to take food off anyone's plate. I would have created a scene
an asshole for forgiving the fiancé but not the sister…
The boyfriend with knitting issues should ask her to make him a sweater....problem solved.
Or a gag
Story 6: Now reverse the genders and let's hear the different responses with building cars and other things etc, exactly why isn't she making you anything??? Has she been diagnosed with a disorder since she's more fixated on that than anything else??
So first you need to switch the hobby when switching the genders men can crochet, which is actually apparently what her hobby is.
Second, a man wouldn't be the a****** for crocheting when watching TV and stuff.
Third, I don't know what you are on but you can't really watch TV and build a car at the same time. Mechanics and crocheting are not quite equal in level of concentration.
4th. She doesn't have to make him stuff if she doesn't want to or if what she makes isn't something that would interest him. I mostly crochet stuffies. Not everyone wants a stuffed animal and I personally don't enjoy making bags or sweaters. So if someone doesn't want to stuffed animal, I'm not going to make them something.
Fifth yeah she could be diagnosed with something. I have ADHD and that's why crochet is so good for me. It keeps me physically busy so I can mentally concentrate.
@@WiseWordsbyWiki I Raised 15 kids, NON MORMON, NON MENNONITE on a 300 acre farm that was handed down to I, me, an individual, a committee of 1 from my parents, which was handed down from their parents which was handed down their parents. 13 sons 2 daughters, ALL of my kids known how to cook, bake, sew, repair an engine, build a fence, diagnose ANY vet issue/ crop issue there is, judge the weather but what insect are prevalent, spot a bad moon rising yes that actually is a thing, replace a roof, rewire a home, chop firewood, do plumbing, hunt, fish, trap, plant/ harvest fruits, veggies, can build cars from the ground up, ec etc etc We Put them ALL through college, My kids learned from the time they could walk ness skills, They are absolutely amazed at kids that are literally USELESS and GETTING FAR WORSE. UNLESS they have a very serious disability they can actually LEARN/work. Stop being stupid.
Reverse the genders and I’d say the exact same thing.
So this might be an unpopular opinion but I'm kind of on knitting guys side.
People have pointed out that because you said hook it's possible she was crocheting and not knitting and either way I have been trying to talk to somebody who's crocheting and had them telling me that oh sorry you talked and now I lost count of my stitches and now I have to start all over and so it's like they're crashing and that's what matters so you can't talk to them and that would be kind of annoying if that was in a significant other rather than a parent. Especially if they don't live together and he does want to sit there and cuddle and watch TV together and she's busy paying attention to whatever stitches working on a special because she's not doing it mindlessly or doing a simple we've scarf but doing bags and stuff which does mean she's doing stuff you have checked actually pay attention to.
To the people who say that he comes across as selfish for thinking that he might enjoy the crocheting thing better if he was doing it for her first lie he saying might he doesn't actually know he kind of like the dog toy but still seems kind of hesitant about it. People acting like he wants to be the center for attention but it might just be that he wants to get any attention. Young people can get swallowed in yarn and what they're doing and what they're working on I have witnessed it happen.
I'm curious to know if people's opinions on the story would change if she was doing something other than yarn work, for instance if he was playing a game on her phone.
I don't think he's in the wrong for wanting to cuddle and not be third Wheeling to her and the yarn. You ever tried to snuggle somebody who's playing with yarn? Trust me it is in fact kind of one-sided.
People are acting like he's a jerk for quizzing her on the show they were watching but ignore the fact that she was in fact not paying attention to the show they were watching. If I was going to watch a TV show with somebody I'd want them to take an interest in the show or at least talk to me if we weren't going to pay attention and it might as well because we are having fun together or not because they're doing something else and I'm left standing off to the side.
and people saying that the fact that he can tell the difference between knitting and crocheting is proof that he's not paying any attention is very dismissive partner is kind of stupid because like if it's not your hubby you're not obligated to know all the different intricacies of what goes into it and it again crocheting are very similar they just use a different instrument. He isn't into it he's not required to know the difference and the fact that he doesn't know the difference of doesn't mean he's a bad partner.
And people acting like him saying he wants to cuddle and wants to watch TV or contradictory points or really stupid because you absolutely compelled to cuddle someone and watch TV but you can do is watch TV and crochet a bag at the same time and get fully immersed in both.
I don't see his request but she actually pay attention when they're hanging out if any worse than a parent telling a child not to bring their phone to the dinner table.
I disagree that she wasn't paying attention. He said she couldn't even answer SOME of the questions. This is normal when watching a show even if you pay attention. You don't remember every little thing.
Also he is very clearly uninterested in her hobby, and if that's the case, he can't expect her to 'compromise' by doing less of her hobby and completely participating in his, with full attention, just as much as before. He does not realize she is compromising by crocheting while she does something she clearly isn't interested in with him- that being, watching a show. He can compromise by letting her crochet while they watch.
@@catpoke9557 true, but we don't know what show they were watching and we don't know the questions he asked and how hard or obscure they were
I'm is if he was asking about delicate scene-setting I'd agree but if he was asking about the plot or if the character's name for something like that I'd agree that he has a point and since we don't know that we don't know which one of them is right
@@lahlybird895 I can't even remember the character's name most of the time, and sometimes I even struggle to remember the plot if it's a convoluted show.
@@catpoke9557 usually when I don't remember characters named it's because I wasn't paying attention half the time I remember the names and pots of shows I was in the same room for even when I wasn't actively paying attention to them
@@lahlybird895 That's you then, it's hard for me lol
Idk if my gf pregnant (despite us both not wanting kids) I’d be making her the damn cake. No amount of my after work tired would compare to hers, since she’s carrying a literal parasite that’s stealing her resources and building a nest in her abdominal cavity.
Besides. If I can’t bake a simple cake after work, how am I gonna have the enfer to help with the kid after work once they’re born. Stay at home mom or not, once I’m off the clock we’re both watching the kid. She’d have been working by watching our kid all day.
i paused mitski when i saw this in my recommended. love ya emkay, keep it up!