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Dear Twenty Whatever...(giving absolutely solicited advice!!)
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- Опубліковано 23 тра 2023
- Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon give big sis advice while answering viewer questions about everything under the sun!
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About Twenty Whatever
Twenty Whatever features Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon talking candidly about navigating your 20's with your friends through different phases of life. (formerly Sierra Unfiltered)
Dear Twenty Whatever...(giving absolutely solicited advice!!)
• Dear Twenty Whatever.....
0:19 intro & catch up
4:29 Cheetah Girls
9:20 solicited advice
10:55 content creation on a budget
13:14 do I have red flags?
15:58 trying to live with family as an adult
21:28 politics in dating
27:17 feeling lovable
34:12 dual income no kids
41:59 body changes in your twenties
48:12 toxic in-laws
53:45 loneliness
56:51 postpartum & marriage
1:02:26 closing thoughts
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Hi girls, just a thought - have you ever thought about turning the group chat into a discord server? It would be easier for international people to connect to without having to pay for international texts and you could set up different channels (e.g., asking for advice, body positivity, podcast discussion, old disney channel discussion, etc.) for people to more easily interact with you and with each other. Loved the episode!
This is such a good idea!!! Pretty please lets make the group chat a discord server I would never leave
Also is giving myspace vibes with the music channels and the actual group calls? would love
Such a great idea!!
Yes please!!
10000000%
This is genius! Then we could also hype each other up or just make new friends!
As someone who got married a month ago, all people are asking me is "when are the babies coming?" I've started saying 'we're having fun practicing right now'. & 'I just got another year prescription on my birth control.' Seeing the looks on people's faces is the best thing ever.
I got married in October, since the day after our wedding people have been asking us when babies are coming. I finally started answering honestly by saying “we are actually having some trouble in that area” because I’m so tired of the questions and intrusion.
i'm obsessed with this. i want to get married just to tell this to people.
Please do an "Am I the asshole" episode!
Yess this would be such an interesting discussion!
"Clap if you think she should suffer." My faaave 😂
Omg can we just talk about how Sierra and Paloma’s laughs have morphed into the exact same? 😂😂 I love it
I had a friend who got married and she didn't even know his stance on abortion... that blew my mind.
I literally can't imagine getting to the having sex part of a different sex relationship without having that discussion!
As someone who got married this year I feel that babies question 😅 On our wedding day my husband's aunt nudged him and went 'oh 9 months' *winks* and my husband just went nah not having kids thanks we'll send you pics of our dogs 🤣 Knew I married the right one there!
i literally just noticed this but its so iconic that the headphones you girlies wear always match you outfits perfectly because they suit your vibe sm and the twenty whatever covers are literally the perfect representation of you guys🤭
I saw a video where this woman said when she gets asked if she’s trying for a kid she says “No, are you?” And then watches them be offended 😂
when sierra made the frog noise 😭😭
Hi friends! I just had to share this one time I was in Target (back in 2018) THREE MONTHS AFTER I HAD A BABY and this woman who didn't know me at all, had the audacity to look at my baby, look at me, and then ask "so when are you going to give him a sibling?" EXCUSE ME? She was old, and I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it, but it was wild to hear. As someone that had an emergency c-section and almost lost their baby during child birth, the whole "having another kid thing" is giving traumatic flashbacks and I wish people would just stop asking my husband and me when we're having another. Spoiler alert- we're not having more kids. Love you all and the podcast!
This is my favorite pod please dont stop these anytime soon- these are so comforting
Amazing podcast, as always!!❤ About the "not wanting kids" discussion, I will turn 29 soon and don't feel like i want kids. I watched Jenny Mustard's new video about the subject and she talks about just saying "because i don't want to" when people ask her why she doesn't have kids. Like you guys said, deciding not to discuss it is a valid answer. It was so heartwarming and useful to read the comment section of the video i talked about!! So many women shared their journey, both with and without motherhood and it felt very comforting to see different kinds of lives! If this whole topic interest you, i highly recommend it!
This podcast has helped me heal so much!! Thanks for all the honest conversations! Even though these weren't directed towards me, I could relate with a lot of them! ❤ I have had difficult friendships with females but seeing your friendship really gives me hope to find my people!
Wendy Williams is so funny. And let’s be honest all of day time talk shows are a bit unhinged. I mean just think of the OG, Oprah compilations are so funny.
Love you guys!!! Would love to see a “react” episode when y’all react to old 2000’s compilations or videos. ❤
On Wednesdays we watch Twenty Whatever
I feel that “when are you going to have kids” question be super annoying 🙈😭totally agree!
So SO glad you guys answered my question and gave me the real and solid advice that I’ve been needing!! I sent that question in when I was in the bathroom spending so much time in the mirror wishing myself into a smaller body and hoping for any form of answer so thanks for that ❤️ it means a lot and I’ll definitely keep all that you said in mind and also go buy some new damn jeans hahah! Here’s to taking up more space 😊
I have a three month old and we are not planning to have more children, so whenever anyone asks when the next one comes, I’m like ”vasectomy is what comes next”.
"Are you going to have kids?" "I have 16" (my response as a teacher to this question lol)
How did you guys know I’ve fallen back into my Sondheim and into the woods obsession 😭 that ending got me no one is alone is my fav
I could relate to a few of these, especially the one about people asking when you are having kids. Those questions stopped when my husband literally left me and people wanted to avoid bringing that up. 😅I think the advice about being a bit rude makes sense, and fits with my experience of when people stopped asking. I think a little rudeness does the most to keep people from asking again because it gives them some discomfort around the question. It's only fitting, since them asking the question has already caused you discomfort. So, my advice would be not to worry about being polite, and responding in a way that is true to you and lets them know the question is unwanted.
21:12 Woah! Thank you for bringing this up and saying this because I experience this all the time. I am not trying bag on my parents, but just trying to express how something they did made me feel. I’m glad I am not alone in this.
To the girl who feels lonely when her roommates boyfriend is over. If he's over a lot, I would ask your friend if occasionally you could all hangout? I personally live with a couple and we hangout together all the time. If they are only hanging out together in her room etc then I understand how it could feel lonely.
Oh my gosh the question about people asking when you are having kids hits so close to home!! I'm 31 and me and my husband have been married 5 years so the question literally never stops! Luckily our families are great we told them we don't plan to have kids and they fully accept that. But strangers and random people are sooo weird about it! We live in a smaller midwest city so not having kids is extra weird to people. I just had the 3rd degree from a 23 yr old coworker of my husband who couldn't believe as a woman I didn't want kids 🙃
Elizabeth, I feel and empathize with you about feeling unlovable as i have felt that too. Twenty whatever, great advice. Just want to add maybe trying a morning mantra that i learned from author Arielle Ford "I am loved, I am loveable, I am love" I think this helps me when I do it. Also self care helps a lot. Do something for yourself every day, even if it's something small.
Ugh the whole “have more kids” thing is *the worst*. I have one daughter who’s almost 2. Before we had her I thought I wanted at least two. But I had a high risk pregnancy, and I’m hesitant to do that part again. And now that I have her, I’m overwhelmed with even one. she’s a very high energy kid, she’s great and I love her and love being her mom but I’m so overwhelmed. All I hear is “when are you having your second?” even when I’ve mentioned to people on multiple occasions that I’m really happy with one right now and I’m not sure I want another. No one cares. I’ve been told that she “needs” a sibling, that I’ll regret it, that I shouldn’t wait too long. It’s freaking wild.
We are dinks and love it will keep it that way. When ppl ask us when we will have kids or if we are gonna have kids, I just laugh and redirect to something else. With family members I don't over explain but I just leave it at "hm not right now anyway-" lmao.
Almost halfway to the subscriber goal! Looking forward to a live show celebration when we hit 100k 🎉👀👀👀🎉🎉🎉
Ooo another Mainer watching the podcast! I love seeing people from my state viewing the same content 😂
I needed this episode so bad ❤
When someone asked me when baby #2 is coming I responded with, “We are really enjoying practicing right now.” That shut them up and made them feel uncomfortable.
My new favorite podcast!!
Love this episode! Please do more advice!
Loved the frog imitation!! 😂
I totally understand the kids thing! I have one daughter who will be 6 in August and my partner and I decided very early on that we only wanted one child. I am asked CONSTANTLY when we will have another child. Just yesterday I was with my neighbor (just for a little context she has 4 kids and my daughter is the same age as her oldest and a year older than her second oldest) and we were talking and I’ve said numerous times that I’m good with just one and she’s like “oh maybe when she’s a bit older you’ll change your mind”. It’s so frustrating because almost 6 years later of being pretty blunt about it, the questions keep getting asked
DINKWAD here, vasectomy cost us $1000 out of pocket and was the best decision we made. We also know that if we change our minds, if we can afford to reverse it, we can afford the kid. I love watching strangers freak and regret when they ask, and I tell them we "physically can't have kids."
When we were deciding if we wanted a kid or not, we would not so jokingly joke with my family that I was adding a year to the timeline every time they asked… they still asked but that response at least shut the conversation down.
Best day of the week 🎉❤
I vote for Elizabeth to come on the podcast!! She sounds awesome
On Wednesdays we watch Twenty Whatever 💗💗💗
Hilarious fact but Cheetah Girls was based off a book. So was Twitches! I only found out about Twitches by finding the book at my local thrift bookstore. It was so weird. Also, you guys make me miss my older sister so much.
coming from spotify to say about family/ friends asking about future kids. " why do you keep asking me? and it's between me and my spouse"
I wanted my best friend to have kids, but more for her then me obviously, I've known her since we were four years old and for as long as I can remember she has always wanted children. So I was so excited for her when she finally got to see that wish fulfilled. This question hits different as well as a woman who's infertile. I've known from a young age I wouldn't have biological children, I still get this question all the time, I just bluntly say that I can't have kids and they shut up real quick, fast and in a hurry😂
For the pregnancy questions, ask them "you wanna sit in the bedroom with us too?" 😆🤷♀️ I've had family members literally pull me aside and ask me at nearly every visit/holiday when we were going to start having kids and that only ramped up after our wedding. Or my mom will make comments like "oh honey you'll understand xyz when you have children one day." And my dad will sporadically say stuff like, "I hope you're working on making me a grandpa." 🙃 They all mean well, but geez. It's a sensitive topic for several reasons. I usually just say, "that's not in our plans right now" or just 🤷♀️ and quickly deadpan so they drop it.
I love you all 💗💗💗
The parents being defensive thing. I think a lot of parents have worked really hard to be ‘good’ parents and made that part of their identity. So when they’re kids are feeling a way about how they were parented it’s challenging their identity. I did a lot reading and thinking about this when I had my oldest and I’ve come to two conclusions personally 1) I’m making peace with the fact that I will inadvertently hurt my children in some way, I’m doing my best but I’m only human and they are definitely going to feel a way about they way they’re being parented one day cause I am making this up as I go and I’m not perfect and 2) I don’t aim for being a ‘good’ parent I aim for being a connected parent. So that one day when my kid is struggling and having the feelings about it all they can come talk to me and I don’t have to get hyper defensive because my identity was never in my parenting skills AND if they come talk to me about it I’ve achieved my goal of being connected
I literally just watched cheetah girls with my 3 daughters (10,7,6) they loved it! It brought back so many memories but I hate to say it was cringe 🫣 but I have serious respect for the actors they killed it even though the script sucked 😅
I think the questions about having kids is from people trying to make conversation and pulling the "What's next" question. I don't like it, but I think it's just then trying to make conversation without realizing all the factors that are involved
uh guys dinks, dinkleburgs from fairly odd parents! oxo
I saw the most funny video recently about people trying for kids and then just saw a UA-camr I watch sharing she was pregnant with her family/friends. It made me realize just how bizarre it is that we talk about "trying" to have a baby so openly yet we don't like to talk about sex in our society. The other thing that bothered me about the UA-camr was that she kept showing and handing her family/friends the actual pregnancy test - and here I'm thinking - please don't pass me the stick you peed on and for the love of God don't put it on the kitchen counter...maybe this is just a me thing but thought it was funny you were discussing this today haha :)
32nd. Woot!
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😂😅 hubs calls our kids sex trophies because of the many questions
Yay
How does the group chat work? How do we know to text submissions for future episodes ?
I think the number is on their instagram, they send a Text asking for responses
@@melissaferguson7630 thank you!
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Living the dinkwad life now highly recommend
The strangers commenting on how many kids you have or don’t have is weird. I have three. All boys. With the first it was immediately when is number 2 coming? With the second it was are you gonna try for a girl? And now they just go oh wow you have your hands full 😂