How Do I Balance a Second Job with Family Life?

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  • Опубліковано 24 гру 2024

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  • @juanchoelparcero3562
    @juanchoelparcero3562 3 роки тому +63

    This call got right to the core of me. I got into a financial crisis some time back. I started working 80 hour work weeks and now I dont know how to turn it off. I love the money and the independence it signifies for my family. Being a man isnt easy. You try to sacrifice for your family and sometimes you sacrifice yourself.

    • @ismaeljrp1
      @ismaeljrp1 Рік тому +3

      Everyone sacrifices. Nothing to do with being a man. Your family is suffering more than you I can guarantee that.
      I hope you find a way because time is infinitely more valuable than money.

    • @rcfarmer4450
      @rcfarmer4450 9 місяців тому

      This country don't need no men.

  • @thefirespectrum
    @thefirespectrum 3 роки тому +70

    God, this is a MAN. He's working 13 hour days to get his family set up right, and he cares so much about the impact it has on his wife that he's going to do even MORE to help her at home with zero complaints or excuses. I'm gonna go fold some laundry and just reflect on this call, man.

    • @kara2162
      @kara2162 3 роки тому +6

      He's a keeper.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 роки тому +4

      @@kara2162
      He’s also late to the game and missed out.
      Should have prioritized the things that matter from the beginning.

    • @jayritchie6596
      @jayritchie6596 3 роки тому +2

      Great guy. Hope it all works out for him.

  • @investinstyle-financeinves1181
    @investinstyle-financeinves1181 3 роки тому +76

    Most of the people that call into Dave's show are pretty irresponsible, but this guy's willingness to work for his family is certainly admirable.

  • @ChrisLevelsUp
    @ChrisLevelsUp 3 роки тому +82

    This is a tough call, but the fact that he's calling means he's under significant stress at home. I think he should pump the breaks on the side hustle before a figurative fire starts in his family. Even gazelles stop to drink water.

  • @financewithian2052
    @financewithian2052 3 роки тому +17

    I’m glad I’m able to work the jobs I have now and do school. Once I have a family, that “free time” goes away

  • @DebtFreeDad
    @DebtFreeDad 3 роки тому +24

    It depends on a person's family situation, but my family understood my absence when I had to work extra jobs to get ahead. Now, I am just blessed to be able to make progress with one job. Even when you are hustling, you have to take occasional time off to enjoy your family. Tomorrow is not promised.

  • @HeyaHoyah
    @HeyaHoyah Рік тому +1

    I can relate to this guy, my fiance is hesitant to go gazelle intense to pay off debt because she thinks it'd waste our best years. It takes a lot to explain to her that 30 year old her will thank her for sticking through it. I'm bringing about 70k in student loans and the goal is to pay that off within 2-3 years or less if we make a great household income.
    Context: She hates the idea of working 80 hrs because her parents did the same when she was a kid (and still do because they're workaholics) and she doesn't want to wish that onto our future kids. Basically, she doesn't wanna feel like a single mom and she doesn't want to miss the baby years when we have kids because we have debt

  • @2012misspink
    @2012misspink 3 роки тому +18

    It's hard being a single mother w two jobs and have time for family ! Do what you need now so you can have time when they are older and really need you !!!😁😁😁😁😁😁

  • @CaseyBurnsInvesting
    @CaseyBurnsInvesting 3 роки тому +43

    Family life will be better when those payments are gone.

  • @hugojuicevalladares8713
    @hugojuicevalladares8713 3 роки тому +4

    Make her a to do list. She will appreciate it that you did all the thinking

  • @random-nz7dy
    @random-nz7dy 3 роки тому +9

    I wish they would ask what his income is and is the wife working.
    She could always pick up a once a week thing on the weekends so that he can spend a day with the kids

  • @2012misspink
    @2012misspink 3 роки тому +9

    Working to keep up
    A lavish lifestyle ! It cost to live like a boss !!!! Save save save and don't live above your means is what I learned ! ♥️💙💜😀

  • @bindingcurve
    @bindingcurve 3 роки тому +19

    How much of that work is to sustain the lifestyle his family is used to? Sometimes less material things means more sanity.

    • @leod.4401
      @leod.4401 3 роки тому

      "Fewer" material things. But yes you have a point.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 роки тому +1

      I know too many married people with 2-5 kids debt free and living within means home schooling, traveling, camping, hiking, etc. with their kids.
      Even the home is close to being paid off or already paid for. Husband works 3-4 days a week and/or taking off work without pay with healthy emergency fund.
      Been watching these people doing this for up to 30 years as there kids grow. One of these kids is my primary care physician.
      The thing all of these people had in common was kids being priority.
      They also never watched or or even heard of Dave Ramsey.

    • @larrybud
      @larrybud 3 роки тому +1

      If he's working the debt snowball, he shouldn't be doing anything lavish at this point anyway.

  • @stephenshapiro8404
    @stephenshapiro8404 3 роки тому +9

    When I was a kiddo (lonnng ago) my Father told me if a man can't make a living in 40 hours there is something wrong. I see in the world there is plenty wrong.

    • @fc7307
      @fc7307 3 роки тому +5

      Your father is correct, however sometimes things are out of our control.

    • @juliettezea9507
      @juliettezea9507 3 роки тому +2

      I think it’s really hard for single moms working 40 hours

  • @timbaze5207
    @timbaze5207 8 місяців тому

    I would rather be in debt and not miss those precious moments with family and work till I’m 80 than miss those moments that you can never have back and retire at 65

  • @b.cdrisk2035
    @b.cdrisk2035 3 роки тому +9

    Move to New Mexico and meet a man named Walter. He can help you pay off your debt so long as you don't mind being around some shady characters

  • @prkzoomin6994
    @prkzoomin6994 3 роки тому +1

    Good Quote, Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world, if you do so, you are insulting yourself.

  • @jrrambo2097
    @jrrambo2097 3 роки тому +15

    If you dont make enough. She will leave. If you work to much to provide. She leaves.

  • @alexander15551
    @alexander15551 2 роки тому +1

    Or, push to get some overtime at the day job so you get time and a half or double time. It would add up quick on a welder’s pay

  • @jimroscovius
    @jimroscovius 3 роки тому +4

    We worked fulltime and went to school part-time while we had two kids. Just do it.

  • @brickinvesting
    @brickinvesting 3 роки тому +6

    hey man, gotta make that money.

  • @Ja50nkAt
    @Ja50nkAt 3 роки тому +1

    The scary thing is she could easily leave him and he still would be be working for a family he never sees anyways.

  • @ModernRelic69
    @ModernRelic69 3 роки тому +14

    2-3 jobs, that's the American dream right there. Amirite?

    • @veryincredibly
      @veryincredibly 3 роки тому +9

      Glorified slavery.

    • @graysonk363
      @graysonk363 3 роки тому +4

      @@veryincredibly nothing close to slavery. He chose to have those jobs. He gets paid. The reason he needs the jobs is cause of bad decisions he made getting into debt.

    • @veryincredibly
      @veryincredibly 3 роки тому +1

      @@graysonk363 I wasn't referring to the dude in the video. I was referring to the American dream.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 роки тому +3

      @@graysonk363
      Met too many coworkers like this.
      No choice but to work multiple jobs. No choice but forced paid labor whether he likes it or not.

    • @isaacannanjr2371
      @isaacannanjr2371 3 роки тому +3

      Modern day slavery. Burnout is too real. It ain't worth it. Health over wealth. 💵💯

  • @kelseycoca
    @kelseycoca 3 роки тому +4

    this is very solid advice, it's all about the end goal! keep up the good work!

  • @six-hp4yb
    @six-hp4yb 8 місяців тому

    Good question im in the same position.

  • @savageelle9077
    @savageelle9077 3 роки тому +13

    R.i.p Chrls H0g@n 😥

    • @teralhebertgriffin7681
      @teralhebertgriffin7681 3 роки тому

      He was a good man, I think Dave needs to give him a second chance. To show the people that people make mistakes and can grow from them.

  • @aadilenenene97
    @aadilenenene97 3 роки тому +8

    I don’t think that I’m mentally stable to have a second job

  • @DHFlip18
    @DHFlip18 3 роки тому +5

    How about giving her the opportunity to contribute financially by getting a job as well, so he can be a dad and get some much needed rest.

    • @positivevibes709
      @positivevibes709 3 роки тому

      Best comment right there yup her lazy A- needs a job! Period no wonder men get miserable 😖

    • @tavesantel234
      @tavesantel234 3 роки тому +1

      They have two small kids! I wouldn’t call her lazy!!

    • @queenjohnson5097
      @queenjohnson5097 10 місяців тому

      ​​Yeah he said that they have a kid under 1 😂​ They could have switched off though but he also wants to be with his wife too. Wouldn't it be counter productive for her to work on his only day off when they both want to spend time together@@tavesantel234

  • @qwertykaitlyn
    @qwertykaitlyn 3 роки тому +9

    I feel more with the wife though if she feels single that is a huge red flag she is learning to live without you

    • @milesmeralis5334
      @milesmeralis5334 3 роки тому +12

      Easy to feel that way when you have a man breaking his back to provide everything. She sounds horrible. Why can't she work then and he get a break at home.

    • @kaelaleedaley
      @kaelaleedaley 3 роки тому +3

      It's a tricky balance, isn't it? I grew up in a home where my Dad was working away a LOT or was always working from dawn til' dusk and I know my Mother felt like a single parent. This wasn't a short-term thing, this was the majority of my childhood and I remember playing house and dolls as a Single-parent family. Short term, this is sustainable but long-term is terminal for the relationships involved. I didn't have a relationship with my Dad until my Mum died when I was 28. All relationships are different, too. Some partners really rely on and draw strength from their spouse and some, like my Mum was, are more independent. I couldn't be parted from my Husband like my Mother was from my Father xx

    • @christinawarner8653
      @christinawarner8653 3 роки тому +4

      @@milesmeralis5334 Do you know how expensive childcare is? They might barely break even if she's working plus paying for babysitting. She's saving them money by being with the kids, cleaning and making meals so they are going out.

    • @emperorfancypants2512
      @emperorfancypants2512 3 роки тому +6

      So unfair for the husband, he is sacrificing his back and 75% of his life working trying to provide for his family. If the wife is unhappy she should try to do a side job and also bring in some money, what more can he do? Does the wife want her kids on the street?

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 роки тому

      @@christinawarner8653
      Child care was expensive and more expensive since the 70s.
      Nothing new.

  • @kekejefferson9219
    @kekejefferson9219 3 роки тому +3

    Respect Gary Vee, that he said he only sees his kids on the weekends.

  • @1flash3571
    @1flash3571 3 роки тому +1

    Simple answer. You can't balance the second job with family life.

  • @kirapoodle
    @kirapoodle 4 місяці тому +1

    Sell the family

  • @marcusgray2799
    @marcusgray2799 2 роки тому

    Let the guy talk

  • @christofl6523
    @christofl6523 3 роки тому +7

    Never get a 2nd job. Work to live don't live to work.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 3 роки тому +3

      I prefer less work,paid more money, and time away from work doing what I want.

    • @fc7307
      @fc7307 3 роки тому +3

      Sometimes people don't have a choice.

    • @christofl6523
      @christofl6523 3 роки тому +1

      @@fc7307 You always have a choice.

    • @talyahr3302
      @talyahr3302 3 роки тому

      Never get a 2nd job sounds like a terrible blanket rule. There's many circumstances when that's the best option. Not forever, but for a little bit to get to a goal faster or to open up more opportunities if it's in an industry you're trying to break into. Time is money, if you wanna put in more time to make more money it's a choice you can definitely make. Especially if you're single no kids.
      Never say Never.

  • @smokedogbaby6263
    @smokedogbaby6263 10 місяців тому

    You don’t

  • @tokroni
    @tokroni 2 роки тому

    You dont deserve family life. You worth as a man is based on your jobs. Companies love you more than your family. After all, they are the ones paying you

  • @BRENT3143945
    @BRENT3143945 3 роки тому +1

    Keep the episodes this short I'll stop watching.

  • @teeduck
    @teeduck 3 роки тому +4

    Ramsey:. Work and rice and beans. Do not enjoy life. Period

    • @teeduck
      @teeduck 3 роки тому

      @C M really, I'm in debt. Been in debt my whole life. I even still have 10 years left on my morty debt. So what. I'm still well off.

    • @larrybud
      @larrybud 3 роки тому

      @@teeduck If you think so..... Have fun working til you're 80.

    • @raymckigney2118
      @raymckigney2118 3 роки тому

      Enjoying life = enjoying food? Interesting.

  • @louisprice6413
    @louisprice6413 3 роки тому +2

    Nice video!! Very engaging from beginning to end. Nevertheless, businesses and investment are the easiest way to make money irrespective of which party makes it to the oval office.

  • @darrylhodge6708
    @darrylhodge6708 3 роки тому +25

    am no longer waiting for the ppp loan because I earn $ 14,700 every 10 days recently.

    • @gabykallita8442
      @gabykallita8442 3 роки тому

      I have heard a lot about investments with mrs graham Stephan cassidy and how good she is, please how safe are the profits?

    • @andymclain2117
      @andymclain2117 3 роки тому

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    • @jamesliamedward5915
      @jamesliamedward5915 3 роки тому

      wow that's very nice
      Please how can i be able to reach out to your broker, my income stream is in a mess.

    • @andymclain2117
      @andymclain2117 3 роки тому

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      @andymclain2117 3 роки тому +2

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  • @Ml4zobass
    @Ml4zobass 3 роки тому

    Arkanas

  • @jakevalinho9911
    @jakevalinho9911 3 роки тому +2

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