Has Toxic Masculinity Become Toxic Femininity?
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2023
- There is a new trend on TikTok highlighting toxic femininity. There are so many problems with this trend, so let's unpack it.
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A common quote of mine:
Toxic masculinity isn't a thing. Masculinity isn't toxic. Being an a-hole is. And that knows no gender.
The turtle has spoken🙏
This is excellent. Especially the last two sentences. Genius 💯🙌🏼
Sensei Turtle teach me the ways!
Well put.
thank you master for the wise words
To be fair, I do 100% think about these people while I am with my “vanilla wife”. I think "Man Im so glad Im married to my amazing thoughtful and supportive wife and not to that one crazy chick I dated when I was too young to understand what qualities I truly desired in a significant other." Cope harder crazy ladies that I left behind. You'll never get me back.
Heck yeah.
Exactly.
"Cope harder" dude I'm using that every day now
This comment needs to go viral istg.
‘[You] had us in the first half not gonna lie’😂😂😂
Met a girl at an internship once who talked and laughed about how she liked to get with married men becuase it was “funny when their lives fell apart”. She and the other girl who laughed were really confused when I didn’t want to be around them anymore.
To be fair that's on the men, don't take their accountability away, they're the ones who are supposed to be loyal.
It's on both. Come on now
@thecrow5006 She didn't say it's not also on the men but why on earth would you hang around with women like that? They are terrible people.
@@thecrow5006beat
@@thecrow5006 "Don't take their accountability away,"
*Takes away the accountability of the person trying to ruin other people's lives on purpose*
'You can't make this sh*t up' -- Kevin Samuels, 2021
It gives me " No one wants to marry or commit to me because of my emotional immaturity and instability". Obviously these women think men only want women for sex and kinks. There's more to a women's existence then being a dirty, sexual thought in a man's brain. And what you don't think you'll become boring at some point or when your looks fade and you having nothing else to provide for the relationship. News flash, there will always be attractive women, you're not the only one out there. And if you think you can take someone's husband then you're just a loser who's constantly seeks validation.
They aren’t shaming wives. They are shaming themselves. They must have been rejected so hard.
I don't think it's because they've been rejected so hard, I imagine it's because they had a sense of pride or something that they can use to one-up the men
@Daku Daddy I’m single at the moment and all I want is someone to watch anime with and enjoy the moment 🤙🏽
They are upset that their superficial facade hasn't been able makeup for their lack of personality, common sense and basic moral fiber. They can't come to terms with the fact that they're not quite marriage material, apparently, allegedly...
Haha, yes, that's the vibe I got, too.. The second woman definitely can't get over the guy who nexted her, and the third one looks like she keyed a dude's car right before making the video. Hopefully, they have at least one friend who can let them know those dudes aren't reaching out because they've moved on, as hard as that may be to accept lol
they watch too many movies lol
Telling me that sex is the only thing in a marriage that's going to make me happy, just shows how miserable these women really are.
They seem mad that "vanilla" just has way more to offer than they do.
It shows that it’s all they have to offer…hence the reason they’re probably not married
The fact that they are focused on something that isn't going to last is disturbing. We're all going to fade over time. The vanilla people will have their partner's companionship. These toxic women will be that desperate old alcoholic woman at the bar throwing herself at men that don't want her to touch them because she's creepy. Everyone gets old. You can do it gracefully, or become an ugly weird creep.
I would be happy with a 80 year old wife then them.... Nasty minded woman
It's the only things these girls can offer because they have no other personality traits.
As a conservative guy I have literally zero interest in these kinds of women. I'm not gonna think of any of them when I'm with my future wife because I'm not going to sleep with any of them. I'm waiting for the right woman. I don't need to think of anyone else.
Edit: To all traditional men and women who have been ridiculed or shamed by these so-called progressive liberals, just know that you are awesome and I wish you all the best in life. Stay the way you are and don't fall for their propaganda.
And Brett, you're simply awesome!
You dropped this. 👑
I hope you find your perfect submissive wife ❤️
As a woman who's been with my husband since 18 (now 38), I can honestly say, I regret nothing. I was told to date more. I did a bit before I met him. And I stopped looking because I knew I found someone that would be my partner in life and spur me on to be better, and me the same for him. It sounds to me like you have a pretty dang healthy outlook on this, and I applaud you for that. Wisdom beyond your years. Good job to you and your parents. I hope my children understand and speak this kind of truth when they reach adulthood. Well done.
I met and started dating my husband when I was 20, and we are the only ones the other has dated. We knew what we wanted and are now married and pregnant
@@faithtinywishes8232 congrats and good luck!
I met my wife in high school. I was 15, and she was 17. Her mom convinced her to break up with me because she had never had a boyfriend. After about a month of us both being miserable, we got back together. We have been together for almost 21 years now and are happily married with two kids.
@@joshw3010That is such a sweet story. I hope your mother-in-law came around - hopefully she was just trying to get you both to take stock of how serious you were since you were so young, and not just meddling. 🙂
You're lucky. All I got was narcissists and psychos.
Dear Brett, on behalf of all men, all real men. Men who respect women and have traditional values... We appreciate you standing up for what's right. We love you.
True! She is like perfect example for woman I would like to have for loving marrying etc. Good values, natural beauty and that spice what Brett has when she talks about important stuffs for her and her country x) plus I always get lost in her eyes 😍
I don't want to sound like a simp. But yeah. I can't disagree.
still weird and funny that her name is the same as a very loud and angry brittish man playing video games
Why don’t you just say “step on me Brett”
For standing up for what is right because if we men try to do this it'll cause a riot and women will scream down the streets until we are silenced.
This whole thing wreaks of, “I’m insecure and jealous of married women because I’m not married yet so I must tear them down to build myself up.”
These women are like 30, grow up.
This is what I came here to say .
👏
@@rachel-lou3318 sane minds think alike 🤣
The older I get, the more I notice age does not equal wisdom. You have to actively practice ''adult'' ways, there are enough adults acting like children out there.
Them being 30 is exactly the thing. They hit the wall and realized that they're not as desirable to men anymore. They also realize that they actually don't want casual relationships and want to settle down. But after they got so many casual relationships, no desirable man wants to settle down with them.
My girlfriend of 4 year left me after getting into this new woke work environment, she saw her co-workers with their own flat, car and trips, while we were having a hard time. Funny thing is, every time she talk me about them, she said all of them were unhappy or filled with bad blood or bad relationships. That she didn't felt right about that but she had to fit in because, yeah she was now pulling the weight on the bill and we were more relived economically. 6 months later, she starts getting more and more complains about me, Even when I was working more hours in a harder work, about money, about expenses.... then it happened, she left me, she was now in a new league above me according to her, even when for the last 3 years I was supporting everything she did. This feminist movement want women miserable, because if women are miserable, men are miserable.
I’m sorry man… Pick yourself up, the Son of Man may redeem you and give you much better
Brett is %100 better wife material than all of these women doing the trend and even most women out there. Congratulations on the engagement Brett we love you.
The vibe I get from these women is that they got dumped and never got over him, so they try to reinvent the situation.
Yes.
It's actually pretty obvious. They're projecting that they can't keep a man so they embarrass themselves by putting a video saying men regret not keeping her
Yup creating fake scenarios in their heads that they never will experience again
Annnnd there we go. Demonize women. Do you feel cool now? Special?
We in the manosphere call them _"alpha widowed"._ She got imprinted & now can't settle for less than that best man they ever had.
If she does settle, she takes it out on him for not being perfect and makes his life miserable for not being good enough, or at least on-par with what she's had.
I'm completely content with my "vanilla" wife having deep conversations, rasing our family, growing old together.Wouldn't trade it for the world
Literally why isn’t this most womens dream 😂
Really!? You wouldn't trade that for a average attractive girl who puts on a shit ton of makeup to feel and act hotter than she actually is, who's average in bed but think she's bomb, and doesn't have anything else to offer...
Weird.
I'm 17 and this is the life I want when I grow up.
If vanilla means there's not a football team of ex lovers, I think we really know why these women are bitter.
@@katiemackey28 but why tho. What else is better than falling in love,having that love reciprocated, having children with that person, raising them and growing old together. Let’s not forget not having numerous infidelity issues
As someone who used to think like “he’ll regret not choosing me,” it was because I felt like I wasn’t good enough for not being the one he chose. It hurt, deeply. The first one hurt the worst because I was pure, wide eyed in love and the girl he chose was toxic and horrible for him. After that, my next “obsession” that lasted for years had a girl that was better than me objectively, but he still “chose” me on the sidelines and boy did that mess up my ego and my sense of self worth.
But I’d say it’s safe to say these women are hurt, deeply hurt. But this behavior is gross…
That’s sad.
At least you seem to have come to terms with it and are learning to move on.
Sometimes there are men who don’t see a great woman’s worth and the toxic female is what attracts these men . It has happened to me plenty of times that the pick meds were winning. And the great girls come last . Believe me they do. When these men choose them over us even if we’re good to them . The reason some may choose us on the sidelines is because they have options. But in the long run these men often end up with the short end of the stick with these women and want something real and genuine. Truthfully some men need to learn the lessons to be better men and appreciate good women.
This is honestly so "ICK", I met my husband at 19 and he was 23, He is my first and only partner. We have been together for 8 years and married for 4. These women saying married women are vanilla is so unbelievably untrue. The reality is what you want is a good outstanding hardworking man to marry, but you can't find one, so you make these videos to make yourself feel better about yourself. I love being married and I feel so unbelievably lucky that I met my hardworking, wonderful husband at a young age!
Lol don't worry, they'll be making the "I'm 40 and I desperately want kids but men see through the games I play and don't want me" videos in 10 years.
The idea that vanilla sex is “boring” is ridiculous. Losing my kinks and learning to enjoy sex as it’s meant to be is one of the wonderful things that happened to me due to having a healthy marriage.
Have to say, same. It becomes more about bonding than variety. When people are chasing it as a high or following schmorn, they need bigger and badder to get that dopamine hit. To say vanilla is boring is means that it is all that they are getting out of the relationship because just like most people would prefer a plainer flavor to go on the side of their dessert, when it is only a part of your relationship, it doesn’t need to be a $1000 sundae every time.
Idk about kinks disappearing, but sex in a committed relationship is a million times better every single time👌
how did you drop your kinks? i’m currently celibate but i don’t want my kinks to get in the way of my future married sex life. sometimes i feel like a complete pervert.
Aweee that’s so cute. Good for you.
@@tersuhh I feel you, thinking about this a lot myself. I was so messed up as a teen and got sucked into the whole boss-girl feminist tale, being sexually liberated, I don’t have the slightest idea how an honest, respectful and meaningful relationship works, let alone “vanilla sex”.
Jokes on them 99% of men would rather have a "vanilla wife" Which is a lovely, kind, faithful,committed, respectful, trustworthy, peaceful, helpful feminine woman who is intelligent, emotionally mature and self aware.. Who isn't afraid of truth, accountability, responsibility, being an adult, intimacy and love.
Vanilla = one who doesn't make me want to light myself on fire
Jokes on them because the wife will be cashing on the retirement fund, the life insurance and using the car when the husband drops dead
@@minervacuervo4662 Q: Why do men die before their wives?
A: Because they want to.
@@minervacuervo4662 Tell me you're bitter without telling me you're bitter:
@@NJGuy1973 lol yeah probably
I grew up a tomboy and believed for a very long time that displaying more masculine traits made me more relatable to men and therefore easier/more enjoyable to be around. I didn't find my amazing husband until I started accepting some of my femininity and allowing myself to be more feminine. Even after we got married, for years I thought I needed to still be around 50% tomboyish because we have 2 boys together and I thought somehow this would help our sons (I have NO idea why I thought this!). It wasn't until 22 years into our marriage (going on the last 2 years now) that I realized how I was actually still shortchanging myself, my husband, and our sons by not being fully true to my femininity. Since I've started fully embracing my femininity, all three of them are happier, and so am I. This now allows my boys to really lean into becoming young men bonding with their dad (instead of me horning in on their "guy projects" like for instance the taxing physical labor stuff that comes with home ownership). And I can stop physically wearing myself out so much (and sometimes even getting injured) needlessly...a big plus when you hit mid life with an autoimmune disorder. I am still struggling with the guilt of not stepping in to help with everything like I used to though. So it's a work in progress.
It’s ok to be a masculine woman or a tomboy. Don’t worry about it. It’s ok to be you.
I rewrote "If I had three lives" because you inspired me too Brett
why is this cute😭
I’m tearing up. This is so much better. My husband and I are one year and one son in so far and I can’t wait to look back when we’re old together.
YES
everything is terrible now. Even feminists are separated
The left cannibalizes itself, it’s great. Zero loyalty amongst leftists.
@@Candlelightning It lost its meaning after 1920 bro
@@dragonkingsports more like the 40s - 60s
@@dragonkingsports Especially considering how 60% of women didn't want the right to vote because they were afraid of having to sacrifice like men for this nation.
@@bolivia.j agreed
As a 52 year old woman, I can tell that these ladies have always been around. The difference is that now we have social media. The reality of things is, that these ladies can say whatever they want but at the end of the day, they are not the ones married, with the house, no ring, they didn’t get the man.
Amen, sista. The truth is TRUE. Men don’t want to live their happily ever after with a slut. Life is so much more than sexual intercourse, if it were only about that the prostitutes would be the top tier of society desirability.
They die sad and alone, that’s called justice
I think one advantage in age of internet men at least can look up their social media before getting involved too much.
They are the ones that buy a dog and die alone lol
@@renedejong5258 Sad, alone, well, maybe not alone, but definitely with cats who eat their corpses!
I had experience with a girl like that. I'm from SEA and I dated a girl from Connecticut, USA. She was a self proclaimed player and cheated on me. My dumb ass stayed with her, which was the worst mistake of my life. So a few months later I ended it saying I didn't want her anymore. She got mad and blamed me for it. She then said that I'll never meet another girl like her and to that I said thank god for that.
I'm so happy I found this channel! Gave me a reality check, and I'm no longer an angry feminist!
Genuinely curious… why were you in the first place? Did they try and indoctrinate you? Did the fringe group make you believe that they will actually win?
"Stop treating us women like objects"
Also them "I'll be stuck in your head because of good sex"
So true unfortunately 😭
Good sex isn't worth the crazy EVER 👍
like huh
It wouldn’t suprise me if her weird kinks made him run away from her
Years of women's rights only to come full circle at fighting to be objectified 😂
I don't think "He dumped me and is happily married while I'm still lonely and bitter" is the win they think it is.
🎉🎉 yessssss
As a man ( 40 ) I can tell you that all these women’s are dealing with some sort of trauma. And its just sad. Cause deep down inside they just want to be loved. But in their head they think that this is the love they need.
I just want to say I love your channel, as a father of a daughter i’m glad to see young girls like you with a great mindset like that.
I swear the reason why TikTok allows this is because it’s a psychological weapon to turn us mad
Exactly and everyone ends up dumb asf
As a vanilla wife (virgin bride) these women are soooo stupid. You actually get better at IT with your spouse as you get to know each other through the years and get more comfortable asking and telling what you like. Not to mention, there's no pressure to be insanely done up all the time. Happy husbands and wives are actually just happy to be together
And if you need some ideas, hell there are books about it :D trying stuff is fun too. Even if it dont „work“ 😅
Amen sis, this idea that you need “experience” with other people is such a cover up for the emotional scarring you deal with when you don’t have the self respect and discipline to stay a virgin until marriage 🙄
@@madelynndejarlais5002 think it‘s okay both ways and we dont have to blame each other
@@kathinka8587 ya. I abstain.
But I don't care what others do. Just like we should.
@Madelynn DeJarlais I think the world preaches such a pack of lies to young women these days. ALL my friends tried the hookup culture when I was a kid. I had my opportunities but my parents were very kind and conservative and always gave me time and things to do so I just never fell into it. By the time I was 25 I had not one friend that wasn't on some kind of pill for anxiety, depression, and also birth control with no prospects in life while I was enjoying running marathons, skydiving, long haul backpacking in Alaska (where I had moved) and working as a registered nurse. I met a sweet Alaskan man and we got married and now have 4 kids and a busy, difficult, adventure filled dream life. I wish so many of my childhood friends had not listened to the culture... some of them died by suicide, others are just a nonstop list of complaints about exes and the kids they are trying to co parent with deadbeats while also being deadbeats! It's so sad.
Bruh. Nothing makes me happier to be married to a sane, stable woman than watching what current women are acting like. Dayum.
Same, dude. “Boring” traditional wives are the best.
@@KyleT1990 Seriously don't know what is "boring" in a wife at this point. Are we rejecting the basic necessities of a healthy relationship?
💯 💯 absolutely
Amen to that friend.
"Sour grapes" is the shortest description of their twisting and manifestation into their own version of reality.
It's like, whatever you need to tell yourself to get over being dumped girl. I also love how she doesn't realise "high maintenance" is about attitude problems not looks
It sounds to me like the “hot girls” in high school who had guys tripping over themselves just to get their attention have now stepped into the real world and found out that looks alone are not the path to having real, healthy relationships.
They are also no longer hot.... Idk about you but I have a hard time picturing any of those women as having been hot at any point in the past...
I've had women like this come on to me STRONG, like shamelessly so.
And I'm like "My friend group is your body count. I'm not even shaking your hand without latex gloves and Purell."
🎯🔥👏🏼
@@masterofpuppers7963 I would say the same!!! 🤣🤣🤣
100%
Holy cow! As a woman who married young and married my best friend, I always feared I would become boring, but whenever I bring that up to my husband he just laughs. We are two nerds, he proposed to me at the Renaissance Faire, and we have so many things in common, it was an obvious fit. I feel like these women feel like they need a reason to excuse their promiscuous behavior, rather than working on themselves and finding a best friend to marry. Because you need to know yourself before you can give yourself to someone else truly.
Absolute W
Your husband looks like Elijah Wood!
Those woman say vanilla or even boring BUT what they really mean is high quality.
And those woman are super low quality.
Dang, I'm jealous; my husband _hated_ the Renaissance Fair. 😅
27 years here and I’m happy with my “boring” life! We love AND like each other. 😊
Sure, I wanna be a cool single aunt, but these toxic man-hating women are making us look bad. I’m not lonely to the point where I’m here shaming on mothers for being traditional lol. honestly though, props on Brett. I love how she’s able to just humble anybody. It’s like she knows what to say.
I'm pretty happy being a Mad Spinster Aunt! But I'm 37, and I do get questioned a lot, people asking why I'm single, what my body count is, and commenting that my standard in men must be too high or that I must be an awful person if I'm still single. Then, when they find out I've never had anyone, they really look at me weird.
The simple truth is that there was one man I thought was the one, and he died. And since then, I've simply never wanted the empty life these women have. I'm not interested in going to go through men like they're underwear! Unless I find Mr.. Right, I'll just continue to embrace the spinster life.
Consider this little fact.. The word "misogyny" (hatred of, contempt for and prejudice against women, girls and the feminine) was originally in my phone's dictionary as a spelling suggestion.. The word "misandry" (hatred of, contempt for, and prejudice against men, boys, and the masculine) was not. Even now, while typing this in my browser on YT, my system does not recognise the word. Thanks so much Brett for addressing this! You made me a bit of a fan today! 🥰
As a semi attractive 27 year old female…I can say ditching social media has been everything to my emotional/mental health. Even my bf ditched his social media. No regrets from either end.
How did you do it. I struggle :(
@@mariecoheng to be quite honest it is a wild crazy answer to most people. But I have been going through a ton of spiritual things lately and I have absolutely zero desire for anything beyond being outside and around my loved ones.
As a single ugly introverted teenager I....uh... I don't know what I did... I just wanted to comment
@@ringo567 lol 😆
.... but isn't youtube a social media platform too?
As a woman, a "vanilla wife" actually seems pretty cool in theory. Like, someone who doesn't need constant drama and... stuff. A boring but stable relationship where both people just love each other seems like it would be cool if I was into that sort of thing. But then, I've never been into relationships.
Also, real talk, vanilla is an amazing flavour, and I don't know why people think it's boring! Vanilla icecream goes amazingly with literally everything, and is even great alone, and I will not take that disrespect!
👌vanilla ice cream will never go out of style
Vanilla is classic. A vanilla wife is the Porsche 911 of women. It’s the benchmark competitors want to be but can never replicate.
Well, I do prefer vanilla over chocolate, but I still like to throw in some chocolate chips and roasted nuts. These women in the videos are loaded chocolate with 5+ toppings, but none of it is organic. It's all artificial sweeteners. It leads to diabetes when you binge.
The vanilla isn't overwhelming, you can still have some quirks (1-2 toppings), and you'll still be eating during a diet. Vanilla doesn't sicken anyone. It's a classic. It's just right.
No sane person has chocolate ice cream with apple pie. Vanilla is perfect. One takes turns taking bites of each. Vanilla is light and cleansing.
GOOD vanilla ice cream is amazing. Bad vanilla ice cream.... is STILL amazing. LOL
Vanila is the best, hands down. I only eat vanilla. Period. As for relationships, I think "vanilla" is the wrong word. I think "comfortable" would be better. Having someone you don't have to keep up appearances with, you don't have to tip toe around, you can be honest and vulnerable with, is what really makes a healthy relationship. Thats my two cents.
I have been binging your videos and just have to say… I am ELATED to see there’s women with real true, good morals and ethical morals left in this world. Thank you for helping restore some kind of faith in women again. Love your content!
Honestly, best thing I did this year was to decide not to join tiktok when so many people around me decided to do so.
My husband and I have been discussing this lately… you can’t have toxic masculinity without toxic femininity.
See why make it about gender and contributing more DIVISION! It's just toxic behavior! Has nothing to do with gender- it's just bad and unhealthy and toxic all by itself.
They go hand in hand. I was discussing this with my wife also, although specifically through the lens of the toxic relationship culture in Mexico (she's from there, and their pop culture is practically the perfect test case for this topic). Philandering and adulterous men ultimately are only enabled by narcissistic unfaithful women, and their consequences are heaped up equally between them. Authentic men and women depend on different kinds of tactics to avoid being burned by either type, although both their differing strategies necessarily spring from the same well of Wisdom.
It's toxic feminism, not femininity.
Ashley I'm not criticizing you here at all or your husband. But why talk about toxic masculinity and "now" toxic feminity?
Is just toxic people like always... Is just social media making people louder but not necessarily better or wiser. Thanks for sharing.
Edit: I might have read your "lately" too hard.
@@newtonbomb God, I wish they'd go hand in hand and leave "normal" people out of their shennanigans... :D
Any girl who engages in this trend is making sure everyone knows who not to wed.
and the likes and positive comments. this is e-fficient discernment lol
Or even bang... unless it's a hatefuck...
In ten years they are going to be complaining that they don't have someone to love them.
its so disappointing that we cant even tell anymore if they are a girl or boy. I feel bad for myself and all of my fellow single people who have to date in this world where you cant even tell the gender of them. 😳
Our culture has created a society of narcissists--they need social media for constant supply. It is incredibly sad.
Seriously. Those first women are literally just using social media as a form of copium to deal with the fact that they were unable to secure commitment from a guy in their past and he's moved on and gave his commitment to someone else. Their egos are so absolutely massively overinflated that they think it's appropriate to take a video of themselves, overlay a caption explaining that the real reason why that man did not commit to her is because she's too hot and that he will be thinking about her (as a sex object mind you) while he's with his wife.
Nevermind the fact that she is unable to secure commitment from ANY man. She needs the internet to tell her that she's strong and empowered for being good in bed.
Narcissists.
I mean the biggest narcissist in the world was President so 🤷♂️
It's the sickness of this media culture. For me since Tv and social media got even worse. Don't care about another people supply.
It bothers me that people around me guess I need their attention and approval to think/say/wear whatever I want to.
@@ylakety thank you and I was Thinking I was the only one with that Opinion.
Yep! Exactly!
When I was pregnant I was scared I would loose my own identity after becoming a mother. I told about my fear to my huspand, and he reassured me that nobody would forget me. Then, last christmas he had gotten me all kind of little gifts that were "about me".
Our son, even tough he is only 2 months old, looks so much like him. :)
It is nice to be, a vanilla icecream, good homemade vanilla icecream full of love.
As a mom, I totally understand this fear of losing your identity. I have heard people telling/warning me about losing my identity by becoming a young mom and wife. Funny, I have never felt more like myself in this stage of life! So glad we're both happy being vanilla lol :)
Though*
Whats so bad about vanilla? Plus being a mom is more an addition to identity, than a drawback, I can see your point and your fear, but remember would you rather be the person that your Husband amd Son need, or the identity you knew? You're the same person. Only more support with a family... am i wrong?
Loved reading this 😌
Well, you do lose your identity. At least i did. But you gain a new one. You become a different person. A better person. A mother. You realize that in your old identity you never had kids. But in your new one they have absolutely changed you. And you all grow together. It is such a beautiful process. You will truly never be the same, in the best possible way 💕
This was honestly beautiful to read. I concur, vanilla is the best of all.
Sigh, what it really is deep down they know how empty their life is and they're trying to cover up how hurt they really are.
Thank you thank you thank you for this video. I've had issues with feminists for a long time.
The funniest part is I'm 33 and single and I'm extremely low maintenance AND I do not vacation in Maine by the sea or do any of the things in that poem. It's just some romanticized idea of what being single is like. These women are crazy!!
As a 27 year old woman that has been married for 9 years, i laugh at these videos, the manipulation, the need to be wanted. I’m just gonna sit here with our three homeschool kids in my happy marriage bubble with 100% confidence that my husband is a good faithful man whom I admire and love with everything I am. Hope the women in these videos can find the love and genuine relationship that I have it’s beautiful and comfortable and sometimes vanilla and boring, and there is a peace in that.
That genuinely sounds like bliss, and nice one with the home-schooling. How do you find home-schooling? My sister is looking to start with her children in the UK, due to the shocking state of public schools, and we're just looking for people's real life experiences with it :) A strong and solid family is something I hope to one day find
I'm sorry but when you get married at 18 you don't need to put your whole life story out there like you did the world a favor. getting married at 18 is immature, childish, and you don't even know yourself yet nor have you finished developing yet.
@@ritsuflu3763 The fact that you are trying to shame her marriage because she is happy in response of those lonely women who shamed married women,
and because she got married at 18 years say a lot about you. You are probably the childish immature18 years old by your comment.
@@ritsuflu3763 not all society are like Usa 🤷♂️ strange to look at the world under the lens of Us values
@@ritsuflu3763 how is getting married and starting a family childish? Thats the total opposite of childish.
Toxic mascilinity this, toxic femininity that... What happened to just not being toxic?
Pfft right?
Toxic is the normi pc word for evil bad or wrong. Because the truth hurts.
Glorification of harmful things and the abdication of things that build society up.
Which is just a fancy way of saying, moral decline.
I think it's useful to have words like "toxic femininity" and "toxic masculinity" because femininity and masculinity are a thing, and both have a positive side and a toxic side that should be understood. What really irks me is when people talk about "toxic masculinity" and somehow mean basically any masculine trait
Next is Toxic Trans-shit.
I appreciate your videos so much because I used to be a lot like these women but it got very lonely very fast and I realized that behaving like that is kind of just treating men who did nothing to me the same way I hated being treated by men in the past. I am single but I would love to find a man to spend my life with and create a family with. I definitely feel that my family dynamic made me have some resentment towards traditional relationships but I’m working on what I want and what will make me happy rather than going out of my way to hurt people because of the things that hurt me in the past
The saddest part to me is that they think wives are “vanilla”. That having a stable partner who loves you is vanilla. That is not vanilla. Life long love with a family is not boring. I didn’t start to really enjoy life until I met my husband.
I’ve talked about this exact thing with guy friends years ago when I was single. They all said that it might be exciting to have the crazy hot girl who’s just as wild in bed for a very short time, but that the hype doesn’t last long. Because that girl only cares about drama, partying, and being wild. They all said the goal is to meet a beautiful girl who had the same goals, was passionate about them and was kind. That was the most exciting to them, having a wife to live life with.
These women are obsessed with men who aren’t obsessed with them back. And it’s so sad. I was promiscuous for a time when young and I never thought this way, if someone I had been with settled down after or later, I only felt happiness for them. If I was asked about it, the only thing I’d said is they were great and deserved to be happy and have a family.
I have been married for 28 years. I have never slept with any other woman. I have no regrets, no worries, and I love my wife. Seriously, man up gentlemen have some self respect and self control. You'll live better.
She's lucky to have you. Personally, I'm fine with the everlasting love that God provides me and we're doing great. I learned to let go of relationships and dating a long time ago because of girls like this and I've been great.
Man up? Men aren't the problem, farm boy.
@@johndeaux3703 men and women are the problem. if a man cheats on there spouse for these women, thats wrong. If the women knows the man is married and cheats with him thats wrong. Did you not see the vid?s
@@cpeugh123ad If a man doesn't commit he can't cheat.
@@johndeaux3703
the high% OF fatherless home say otherwise and show that men don't care about women or their own child. Most " pussy Men" which is the majority today just reproduce and leave no wonder that crime is on the rise .it even higher if the child is disable.
Movies and media have really made it seem as if every person in a marriage feels trapped, depressed and has horrible sex. There are many happily married couples!! Don’t fall for it young people, marriage is wonderful
"Ewww, married and monogamous? So vanilla!"
How would she know if she's never actually tried it? Sure, plenty of people are vanilla and perfectly happy to be so - but that's not all married couples or monogamous couples. Plenty aren't vanilla at all
Plenty of people are feel loved, supported, and more free. TV ain't real life.
Probably because it is true, certainly in my case, but I promise you none of the above have anything to do with the wife, or marriage.
If one cannot distinguish fiction from reality then they either need more education or never to be exposed to any type of media because their brains can't tell what's real what's not.
Marriage has become nothing but a risk for men. This is sad but still true.
Along with this came the idea that dads are utterly incompetent, and young boys have the IQ of a potato. In this age of calling out stereotypes, some were clearly ignored
Recently been watching your videos. And I’m so happy you exist and provide this amazing content. Thanks Brett!
Thank you so much for this video. I keep hearing from men that I’m the kind of girl guys marry, not fool around with, and that this is why I’m behind my age group in experience. Your video helped me bring things in perspective a little bit
That awful, depressing "in the third life" nonsense reminds me of when Matt Walsh said something along the lines of "If I had a thousand lifetimes I'd find my wife and marry her in all of them." Really shows the difference between some people.
I had the same thought. It took me a moment to realise that the poem essentially said 'all the glamour of that life outweigh the occasional feeling of longing (which would make me seem "profound"), so you should feel grateful that you're anything to do with me.'
It's properly Regina George behaviour.
Or maybe the difference in circumstances. If I had 3 lives, I wouldn't want to be married to my ex in any of them. The fear of ever possibly stepping into another relationship like that has shied me away from ever even dating again. Sometimes being alone is a much better option.
I'm 31 years old and THANK GOD I got married 10 years ago. Blessings to all of you who are looking for that significant other. MARRIAGE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING!
Yes! I was blessed to meet my husband early and get married at 19, become a mother at 21. I'm well aware that I have more power and influence than women much older than me who are sleeping around.
Married 17 years ago, and reflect the same sentiment ... holy moley ... current environment is nuts
Someone definitely has a gun on u . 😂 No way u wrote that sober .
I'll be keeping my eyes peeled, though God might have to slap me in the face with her in this crazy world.
when it works
Ngl bretts execution with her adds are golden, she catches me off guard every single time 😂 love it
i love you so much brett! your topics (especially this one!) are something id love to call out and discuss online and just i 100% agree with your opinion. honestly most of your videos are opinions they are just straight facts! keep it upppp🫶🏻🫶🏻
That girl who broke a guys heart for fun, I GUARANTEE YOU says all the time "I wonder why I can't find a good guy"
And she isn't nothing in the looks department.
I mean.....these bitches are literal demons, right?! Fucking with someone's heart like a toy? And ENJOYING breaking them and being deceitful and empty and nothing?? Then showcasing it to the world proudly? When did people forget SHAME has a very real and important purpose in society?!???
"You'll be thinking of me when you're with your boring, vanilla wife" - just cause we're married and monogamous doesn't make us vanilla. That assumption just shows you've never seen the fun you can have with open, honest, and communicative relationship with a loving partner. Which is, honestly, kind of depressing to me, because it means that you've also never gotten to see all the other fantastic things that go along with an open, honest, and communicative relationship with a committed and loving partner.
I absolutely agree with your points but I think as women when we get into a relationship we do tend to forget about ourselves and our needs and often prioritise the needs of other over our own, which is why we overlooked our needs in a relationship and give more attention and care towards the other person(man). Ofc it is wrong to completely forget your ownself but sometimes you do make these mistakes and again blame a man for it who is not exactly at fault here cause we do make these mistakes ourselves.
Wow! This is the greatest showing of humility I’ve ever seen! Love the vids, keep it up! 😄👍
I think this is proof that women are more emotionally invested in sex and further proves why monogamous relationships are so important and saving yourself for marriage. These women can't stop thinking about the guys they've been with in the past and I think deep down regret their promiscuity because they gave a piece of themselves to someone else who is no longer with them.
Most men are aware of this. It's why most family men value virgin brides.
This is on point , I totally think thats the case
Preach
@@garetht677 You should care about a womans bodycount. They loose the ability to pair-bond much faster than men. If you want a long lasting relationship, stop wasting your time with these 304´s. And at the same time also practice what you preach. Rampant promiscuity is killing us all.
I think so too
Vanilla Wife here who's been married for 14 years. My husband has been the one to encourage me to overcome my fears, to try new things and grow as a person. With his help and encouragement I've become a happier and healthy person. These poor woman don't know what they are missing.
Poor guy 😥
I suspect they know exactly what they're missing, and will continue to miss.
Sillidill, I was thinking exactly the same thing about any guy involved with you - funny that...
@@gordowg1wg145 😘
Love your takes on most topics Stay real!
leaving the social media platforms where alot of drama happens, made me so much better lmfao especially for my mentality
This trend is gross. Imagine if guys did the same thing. “I may not be the one you marry, but I’ll be the one you think about when you’re 45, alone, childless, and surrounded by 12-20 cats.”
Meh already say that
Every day😅
@@irisreyes148💀
Women are doing cause men did it first 😂
That's exactly what they say lmaoooo
"They're all clapping like girl boss seals" I tried not to laugh but I did.
Thanks Cooper ❤❤❤
I’m a huge fan and out of all your videos and podcasts this one is hands down my favorite because you’re so right.
I'm 24 and married and I struggle making female friends so much bc soooo many young women are like this! They just treat guys like crap and use them and say that women like me were manipulated and I secretly hate my husband and want to hook up with random guys and go clubbing when that's the last thing I want. I'm happy and they can't fathom that and it makes creating friendships so hard!
I’m writing to tell you that It turns around. My friends wife had this when she was your age. It caused a great deal of stress for her and my friend.
She got told constantly why are you with him, you should break up with him as you are young and should be having fun etc etc.
I’m sure you have heard the same or worse. It turned around come 30ish when the majority had been in toxic relationships after toxic relationship , dealing with men that where bad for them.
A number of them left questioning there worth and kinda broken.
Then it all became I wish I could find someone, I wish I had a relationship like yours, you are so lucky you found someone like your guy etc etc.
As a guy watching it all from the sidelines it was kinda sad. My mates wife has some amazing female friends, they aren’t bad women.
They was just given bad advice and it played out poorly for them. Some turned it around in there 30s but damm they had some shocking relationships and experiences they didn’t need to.
A good number also didn’t turn it around and remain single. So guess I’m just saying live your best life and don’t worry about advice from people with no life experience yet.
Often it comes from jealousy or in this case the lack of experience to know better. Life sorts it all out in the end.
Make friends that are married or in long term relationships
I promise it will change. Focus on you and your husband and building your happiness and you’ll end up drawing couples into your lives that have similar values and goals. You’ll find more happy couples who are genuinely happy for your happiness.
props to you for doing what you want! we need more young women like yourself
I’m 22 and married and have the SAME problem, ugh.
Rather have a woman that I can treat like a princess, rather than one who thinks that she is one already
That's a nice quote
Treat a women like a princess and she'll treat you like a peasant.
@LAWINO NICOLE I wanna defend women but... they're making it hard ahhahaha
This is the sweetest quote. I love it.
@@johndeaux3703 I treat my husband like a king, and he treats me like a queen. Not all women take their men for granted.
I love your videos, thank you for being awesome. I also love how well edited they are, if it was a cameo in a movie, I honestly would think nothing of it. Congrats to your editor, or you, whoever does it!
Thank You For Sharing 🇺🇸
Like my mum loves to say "Misery loves company". Most of these women want to drag young girls down their horrible rabbit hole and it's sickening imo
Yes!!!!
Agreed
It's people like YOU who have to go out of your way to fearmonger women into getting married. Single women are just minding their own business, being STATISTICALLY happier than married women. What you're doing is called projection honey.
Agre morden man cool
Danny phantom Tonny hawk
Meint. No cool
Morden geek touch. Thinking poser bozo
Poser
Please. Coll
Ariel actually geeked
The funniest part about that person saying low maintenance women get married is that most low maintenance women are beautiful without all the makeup. Many of the high maintenance ones (with inflated egos) are the plain Janes.
Love your videos Brett 💓 keep it up and educate these people.
Omd i just realized that your following increased by like 1.2m since the last time i looked ( which was not long ago btw). So proud of the progress your making❤❤
People naturally attack what scares them, these women must feel so threatened to act the way they are. I guess I'm vanilla, I mean I'm a girly girl who loves a bold red lipstick but I'm also the wife who makes the "world's best chicken salad" according to my husband. He can count on me, I'm always going to be here for him, when we lost our baby I was the person who reminded people that he lost a child too so the attention wasn't always on me. I know his favorite things in life and I'm appreciative of being one of them. And our vanilla sex life is pretty dang hot if you ask me LOL I feel sorry for those women, although they would never believe it.
I'm sorry for your loss. That must have been awful.
You sound like a great couple who support each other through thick and thin and I wish you the best!
Sigma wife 🍷🗿
I too have lost a baby. I know how we have to remind well-meaning ppl that our husbands are grieving as well and need support. ❤️ I'm very sorry for your loss.
You sound like an awesome wife..from another girly girl x
Man! I am a woman who doesn’t wear make-up and sometimes set off the smoke alarm when I cook. Eh, not married so good for you on living with good cooking skills. ;)
I've been in a loving marriage for about 8 years now. We got married when I was 20 and he was 23. Over the years I have had so many people try to convince me to leave him or cheat. It got to the point where I felt like I wasn't deserving of happiness and like something was wrong with me because I was so happy with this man. I even had a therapist/ psychiatrist try and convince me to separate. This man I married is like my best friend. He's that lifeboat on stormy seas that keeps me going. Marriage isn't just some dumb boring commitment. (If you do it right) It's an exciting adventure with someone who will always be there with you.
And this whole "slutty girls vs vanilla wives" is such bs. Just because you are married doesn't make you vanilla.
Thats an awesome comment....Sounds like your husband is a very lucky guy !....God bless you both you're what this insane country needs right now !
sadly this is what a lot of married people face constantly being encouraged to do the wrong thing. someone who does not have your level of commitment eventually will because it’s made too easy to easy
I remember my neighbor trying to convince me to leave my husband and go on welfare. I would have more money. That was true. She was getting 300 more a month than my husband earned at that time. And benefits. We both had young babies.
But I saw potential in my husband, which is one reason why I married him
Over 40 years later she made it from the cheap apartment to the projects.
We are in our third and last home. Lakefront. Not a big lake, or a big house, but on a lake. About 3 acres. Have two married daughters and 5 grandchildren.
I think I made the right choice.
Gotta love that last sentence…
@@dawnelder9046 Short term thinking vs. Long term planning. Applause!
Dayum girl! The way you sneak that ad in was smooth
Great video and all that but i gotta say. Love the jacket!
If all of this was flipped gender wise, the world would be up in arms. If I don’t want my sons acting that way, I sure as heck don’t want my daughters doing it.
There are people doing that, your app’s algorithms just didn’t serve you with that.
@@Lifeangel2908yes, but alot less…
@@the_only_lonely not really.. I have seen tonnes of those. If women are bad, men are equally bad. Reason being, both are human beings which is so basic that people forget it.
@@Lifeangel2908yes, vut more women get away with it.
@@Lifeangel2908like the last reply from the other person, they get away with it. Because women are viewed as stupid right now. That’s why most of feminists think they’re right, because they were viewed as stupid throughout history, the truth is, after we did start being seen as more intelligent, third way feminism came along, and now we’re back to stupid.
"I won't be the woman you marry" says the woman covered in tattoos. YOU ARE CORRECT!
@@garetht677 unless you like rotten corpses..
@@garetht677 so did the corpse
😂
So true! And the one comparing McDonald's to caviar wasn't even a woman. These people are just ridiculous 😂
@@scottmccausland746 And that is why you'll see them on the arm of geriatric ' daddy's until next younger ' pretty girl ' comes along. Interchangeable and disposable.
I love this video thank you for calling attention to it this is absolutely not okay they need to try going to a counselor instead of putting their problems on cupples
You rock girl. Love you.
This reeks so badly of insecurity. It’s an admission that all they think about is themselves and they therefore think everyone else is thinking about them.
The amount of second-hand embarrassment I get from these crazy women is beyond me 🥴
The word youre searching for is "fremdschämen" my lad
They are just narcissists, which can sometimes cross with psychopathy and sociopathy. Do not ever listen to anything a narcissist says. Just stay far, far away.
Oh dear, I understand you very deeply. I love being a woman, but lately, I have been so disheartened by the current decline of our gender.
thank you for standing up for women!!!! we seriously need more people like you. thank you ❤
I got to respect how smooth her goes into those adds
From a 40 years men who is a widow, the rare times I thought about any ex-girlfriend while I was married always came with a sense of profound relief I had not to deal with them anymore, because the ones you remember years later are the ones that traumatized you so much that you associated them with some bad feeling or situation and that you hope never to meet again in life.
Sorry about your loss and I agree. It‘s not a good thing that we sometimes can‘t forget…they came as A WARNING. 🚩
lmao i love this, i feel the same way with exes
Well said.
She thinks she's caviar? ... oh wait, she's really salty and smells fishy? OK, I can see that.
Love ya Brett 🎉
This is why I am 30 and have never kissed or held hands with a guy (that and I'm LDS/Mormon in a place where few are, and I struggle with crippling self doubt). I know I look 5-10 years younger, but to the sort of traditional guys I'd want, I'm "leftover goods" and I struggle to get past that emotionally because I'm terrified they're right.
You know what I find more enjoyable than sex? Going on a drive/adventure with my husband, sitting on a mountain top, having a picnic together, and just being around the person that loves me as much as I love him. Marrying my best friend has been the best decision we made.
This. I have to add though... Married mountain top sex aka making love sounds amazing...
And, you know, you can have sex on the mountain top too if you want. It's all upside!
That's the thing. A day will come when you both are old and ugly. If you're still happy with each other as people, not purely looks, you'll be way better off. My wife and I are the same. We will get old and ugly, and I won't be able to get it up anymore. We still enjoy each other and going out on adventures. There's more to real relationships than lust.
As a married man who made mistakes with a few women before he got married… I don’t really ever think about those women. I spent as much time with them as they deserved.
Facts.
Lol same
I have been watching these videos back to back and it feels so good to hear some stuff said here 😂😂😂
I think a big issue involving this subject is that, there isn't really a clear or safe way for people who see this problem and wish to oppose it or just discus and talk to others with similar views. As for things like twitter it's usually overtaken by some form of covering it up as something else or ignoring it or just drowning it out. I've seen thousands of people who are concerned about this and wish to do something but can't because it's no longer an option or viable to group together and stand with each other without being target in which just causes those who do try to attempt be an example to scare those who might think of doing so.