Rushing into uni is the biggest mistake, my dad is a doctor with a beautiful house and car, he started uni at 28. He prioritised finding a partner and having a child so he won't be lonely and so he can experience the strongest relationship one can have. He is my best friend.
I love that your dad prioritised finding a partner! I think it’s one of the most important choices you’ll ever make! It’s nice that you have a good relationship with him :)
I'm just curious, how could he afford having a partner and a child before becoming a doctor and how did he manage to learn and have a baby at once? I couldn't even imagine marrying anyone before getting my degree and starting to earn money.
I love how in the first 30 seconds she showed what she wished her twenties were like, and then some clips of her actual twenties, and they look the same lmao.
Compared to her, my life is shit, in the sense I don t get to see many parties and stuff. I am a nerd learning programming, quiet kid who exercises to become Negan Smith .
Gets off social media it’s rotting your brain. You did more in your “20s” than other people can dream of. You have privileges that others don’t have. Be humble and appreciate what you have been through.
Yeah, fully agree. This girl completely has her shit together lmao. A career, her own place, she's travelled, and has asocial media following. I have no clue what this video is about.
@@Steven-ik6xx i think this video proves that even the most productive seemingly “together” people have boatloads of regret and insecurity. They are not better than the rest of us, we are not better than them. Everyone is flailing and that’s actually normal.
As a dude I have to admit that I started feeling like a real adult only at around 25. In my early 20s I still behaved in teenage-like ways much more than I realised.
@@mybuttsmellslikebutterbut207 That was exactly me. When it came to releationships, I often turned into a manchild and took immature actions. I think the essence of mature is that you have kind of a mental firewall between your emotions and your mind, preventing you from jumping into acting without thinking first.
I can relate. As a gal my major turning point was early this year when I was 28,5 lol. But my mom says it started earlier. However this was when I knew I'll take everything differently and no more bullshit being a toy for other people
you're actually living well in your twenties than most of us lmao. I'm 23, no close-knit friends, have never gone outside of my hometown, teaching in the university where I graduated, no concrete plans for the future, still living with my family (tho I hope this will continue forever, my fam is my everything), have never been to a party, didn't go to prom, no boyfriend since birth, never had a debut (cause partially I don't like the attention), and everything that most teenage girls dream.
Similar boat, single since birth, still living with mom, and working at a call center. Trying to save up as much money as possible to live on my own(not that I don’t enjoy living at home with my mom but I want to move away to a city that has more opportunities for my field)
Partying might broke you, seriously. With that much alcohol involved, get ready to have issues by your thirties. So, don't party. I would say that you are actually living a healthy life.
I believe some of the viewers, including me, not expecting this kind of "wasted my 20's" with a lot of achievements. I hate to say it but you're not wasted your 20's, you just miss some chances. If that what you called wasted, then those who literally wasted their 20's is doomed their 20's but hey everyone suffer differently
I mean she's not wrong. You can feel like you wasted your time if you don't balance it out properly. She is right about that. Some people have too much fun and don't save a lot and others work too much and don't save a lot. I remember telling a coworker how I had over $150k and he was telling me how much he regret messing around but he had many cool stories while I had none because I was always saving money. I'm turning 30 this year and I'm going to celebrate my birthday for once by going to Vegas. I'm about done saving the maximum I can just to acquire things faster. My 30s are going to be about balance. So be it if I have to wait longer to reach my goals.
yeah, I feel like she's being too hard on herself. She said she needs balance, but she already has it. She studied and she occasionally went out and traveled. That's more than a lot of people. She got too wrapped up in how movies present your 20s.
I'm currently 21 and I have a fear of wasting my 20s, I feel as though there is some sort of countdown until you are 30 to achieve and to have as much fun as possible. But tbh, you life doesn't and shouldn't end when you turn 30, we are all at our own pace.
Only society has that countdown, you definitely don’t need to! I don’t know who decided that 30 was this big milestone where you need to have accomplished a certain amount but i feel like it’s going to be just the start! :)
Word of advice. Keep your legs 🦵 closed , eyes 👀 and ears 👂 open. Then find the best man that has potential and stick to him like glue and ware him down till he marries you by age 25yrs. Don't ride the Carousel and hop on dicks in the prim of your life. Getting married asap . Don't end up like the rest of these leftover women ....
I’m 21, graduated and moving out of my toxic parent’s home. I feel like I’m behind everyone else and that there’s always so many obstacles in my life, so thank you for sharing your story & reminding me to forge my own timeline in life ❤
@@constantinvalidol5472 you are judging too fast. some people have horrible parents and sufer mental, phisical and sexual abuse. you might think child protective services save everyone, but they don't. i'm also from a place like that and i'm really happy on my own now. it has been the best decision of my life to move away from my parents.
“If you try and please everyone and loose yourself in that process, that’s harder to recover from” YES! 100% TRUE. I had just graduated school and I was a peoples pleaser, when it came time to feel good about me, I felt lost because I had change sooo many aspects of me so that I would fit in to the point that I had to reconstruct my self to be back to my original state. It took MONTHS, but it’s so worth it. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF PLEASE.
I'm in my early 30s and felt like I wasted my 20s by making mistakes and bad decisions. But then I realized they were learning experiences so that I could build my awareness to make smarter decisions in the future. Now I intend to make my 30s much better and exciting than my 20s, and reinvent myself!
I’m in my early 30’s. If I’m doing something in my 30s and someone says that I should have done it in my 20’s, then I would say ‘oh, fuck off I’m making up for lost time. Not everyone was a well adjusted social extrovert in their 2o’s.’ I did not have anxiety in my teens, I had not even heard of it.
That's all the 20's is for, if you think you got it all together by the end of your 20's think again, something is about to blow up in your face in your 30's and you're ill prepared not going through it in your 20's. Life experience > your "smart" decisions in your 20's
I’m 36 and a doctor. I have been practicing medicine for three years on my own now. I spent my entire 20’s in a library buried in books. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I’m miserable at my job that I sacrificed so much to get. I never partied, experimented with anything, enjoyed my youth. I had to be the responsible one at all times so I didn’t mess up my path. Now, I’m single, hate my job, and have nothing to show for all of my hard work. If I have any advice to younger people don’t take things so serious, enjoy your short time on earth. Live with no regrets.
I literally supported my abusive parents all of my 20this. Sacrificed everything I had for them, got basic education I could afford ate one pack of instant ramen in 3 days to get myself through school to become office admin and she is a damn doctor 😂😂 spoiled rich ppl will never get it 😒 give me a break. Why rich ppl are always hungry for more?
Sounds like you supported your parents and regretted not leaving and starting your own career. She's wanted to have fun with REAL people and feels like she missed out because that's not what she saw on social media.
It's not only rich people ...everyone in general regardless of their status always wishes for more ...it's human nature I guess...it's very rare for anyone to truly be content with what they have..
I'm 38 now. My childhood was mixed My teenage years sucked My uni years were fantastic My 20s were mixed, but basically sucked 29-34 was brilliant - perhaps the best time and now I'm on a journey to sucksville
Nicky no it sucks. It's weird, I feel alone and also like everyone else is feeling the same as me but also some people aren't but in truth they are. If everyone enjoyed except me, at least that would be something but the fact everyone else has work and study-filled lives too just makes it worse.
Whoever said that "you've been through the most important things in your life by 35" is so misguided imo. After my father passed, my mom (44) was a beaten, broken down shell of a woman, having been the enabler of an alcoholic for 5 years straight. After he left us she was a mess. Now she is living her best life. Truly. She is traveling on her own with friends (which she hadn't ever done). She is fulfilling her lifelong dreams unapologetically. And that is something she definitely hadn't ever experienced. She's around 55 now. And I can confidently say she has never been happier.
I am a second year medical student, and I can safely say that I have had virtually no significant experiences outside of school. I have had no relationships, few friends, and few major experiences. Literally everything has been placed at the altar of school. Thank you for sharing this video. I am 26, and I can't wait until school is out of the way so I can pursue a future where all of me is alive.
Honestly I thought this way during dental school, and I look back now and realise I should have let myself have more of a life outside of dental school! Don’t wait to live!
I'm 24 and I've recently gotten out of a severe depression. I'm still not 100% ok but I'm certainly on a path of self improvement. That's the reason this video ended up in my recommendations. I hope I can still make it, after not doing actually anything real all my life. I wasn't self concious these past 4 years of my 20's but now I'm more mindful. Thanks for this video. It's kind of a relief to see that many people are like me. Hope the very best for you. Keep making these videos.
I'm turning 24 next month, and I've also gone through a strong depression since I was 18 years old. It also makes me feel sad of the time I feel I've lost in my youth as a teenager, but it makes me feel a little more relieved that other guys like me have similar issues.
@@MyLink200 yup. I guess life is like this, we just have to keep working on yourself constantly to only make sure that our today is better than our past. Lots of prayers for you. Also keep me in your prayers. Don't worry, most of us are in the same boat but that shouldn't be the reason of our relief everytime. We should not always find solace in relatable events. Just have to be easy on ourselves and keep improving.
@@muhammaduzair2923 Yeah, thanks for the reminder, I just meant that it makes me feel kind of relieved, as you said, that other people like me have gone through the same circumstances, and that I'm not the only one; that is also why I found this video helpful. Even though sometimes I feel a little bit sad about it, I still feel that my situation had a purpose in my life and gave me a different perspective and worldview that not many people have access to, so I take it as a privilege, and a blessing at some point. Thank you, and I will keep you in my prayers as well. God bless!
That is what I’m feeling right now, I’m 25 and lately I’ve been feeling down and upset about regretting my teen and my early 20’s and been dwelling on it for a long time. Due to mental health stuff that I really struggled and socially anxious. Now I’m back in college and working for almost a year now! So I’m doing better but still feel I’ve missed out on life and not going out to parties or graduating at a certain age. I’m glad that I’m not alone. I loved the videos.
You’re not missing out on much. I just turned 30. Here’s to going for it, taking chances and making up for whatever was “wasted”. Cause I recall turning 21, it went by fast and I don’t want to regret letting it be for granted, everything flows how it is supposed to.
I’m gonna turn 19 this year and this video has already been helpful to me so far thank you for sharing your past experiences so I can build myself in my 20’s to early 30’s
32 here and I'll say there is no right or wrong way to living life. Just do what truly makes you happy. For me, that meant traveling, meeting new people and still making money somehow. Sure my peers were getting married, buying houses and climbing the corporate ladder, but in the end, if it isn't what you want, then what they do doesn't matter. And don't be afraid to hit 30. I still travel, make a good amount of money without sacrificing my hobbies or personal time and still feel like I'm in my 20s. Take care of your health and fitness, release stress quickly and get the right amount of sleep.
@@salvadorian_1640 You can work as a bartender or hotel/accommodation or similar customer service job pretty much anywhere (short or seasonal gigs), or work remotely for an office job.
I think the main problem is just having all these expectations as to what your 20s are meant to be. Im so glad i never even heard of the concept until i was half way through my 20s.
I am 30. Didn’t even want to celebrate my birthday. Exactly going through this existential crisis. But you know what is funny? I never felt more self as I feel now. I am in the best headspace I have ever been. Try to prioritize myself more because during 20s I studied and worked very hard afraid of the future. I am learning that actually 30s might be the best time of my life. I am better person I was before and more confident in my life and career. It’s not ending with 30. I feel like it’s only beginning.
30s is when we decide what are life is going to be based on who we find out we actually are and like and will and won’t allow .. now we know who we are and what we ❤️🤟🏼
Life doesn't end with 30 for a woman but what you feel is ending is your ability to give birth to a child and that is purely biological. It is not society but your body signaling that you don't have much time left.
I’m 43. If you spent your 20s working hard and are now somewhat regretting it, don’t. You did the right thing and you’ll know in 20 years. Money is important and if you have it, that will carry you to the next level. When that card declines, you don’t get to move forward until the money clears. Being a dentist is wonderful and congratulations. Keep working and let life happen. Just a heads up, I’m in doctoral school and I didn’t go back to school until I was 34. I partied for you and now I’m paying for it. Currently I have a fifteen page paper due and man oh man, it’s tough. But I’ve been married 20 years and have two kids. I can’t not do the paper, so it’ll get done. Great video and I’m wishing you all the best.
@@Akta No prob…I’m passing through and seeing a lot of these ‘regret’ vids. Nothing to ever regret or take back. We get one shot, no do overs. Keep it moving, that’s all you can do. Make the next moment better!
lmao yeah right. Especially if you started balding, or aged badly. Money doesn't replace youth, and all the memories and experiences you could've had younger.
I'm grateful this got recommended to me. Currently 25 and I was so embarrassed to share my age since I was 24 because my boyfriend at the time told me "you're only getting older from here... you don't have a career", indicating that he disapproved of my seasonal work lifestyle (to cope with mental health being undiagnosed at the time while on a waitlist). It's unfortunate that I was having dark thoughts towards myself from valuing his opinion over my own sanity which of course, I regret. Now, I want to take a step back from romance to build my life on my own terms. I love true love so much, but I feel empty not being loved with all of my flaws and failings. My biological parents might see me as the daughter who no one will marry and provide children for, but frankly, I realized that marriage and family should be a personal choice. Not a goal or a means of "legacy".
thank you so much for this video, currently having a quarter life crisis and this helped me a lot. I don’t even have social media because I can’t see the “highlights” everyone posts. some days I feel great and ready to take on the world but others I feel like im not doing enough or not doing the right thing at the right time. happy to know im not the only one in their 20’s that’s felt lost/uncertain about life
As a 31 year old who wasted my twenties... it's not the end. I spent my 20s in a deep depression over something that happened when I was a teenager. I stopped having sex and dating at 24 and stayed home most nights. I entered my 30s (the period of time where society tells women that they should settling down and having babies) being extremely introverted and insecure. I'm changing things. Your timeline is your own and you shouldn't compare it to anyone else's. Maybe you didn't love your 20s; me either. But there's always your thirties. Because at some point - if we're lucky- we'll be 70, looking back thinking of all that time we still had before we actually got old.
Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this. "Your timeline is your own and don't compare it to anyone else's". Yes, yes, YES! This is so important. Before Covid started I had turned 20 a couple months ago and I've just turned 24 and I feel like I have nothing to show for it. I've never had a boyfriend, I'm still overweight though I've lost a significant amount of it I've hit a plateau for about 2 years, and it's really hard to find a secure job that pays decent. I have a habit of going on Facebook and seeing old friends and comparing my life to theirs and always being unsatisfied with my life and being jealous of theirs. I know I shouldn't do it, that social media is usually a highlight reel of someone's life, but sometimes it can be hard. I literally did absolutely nothing this year. I had no job, I had no friends, didn't lose any weight. I refuse for this year to be the same. I have many goals this year that I know I'm going to hit. Thank you for your comment, it really spoke to me. I wish the best for you and your goals! I hope you have an amazing 2023!
What a great video. Im 29 going on 30. As a guy, I think the pressure during your 20's is a little different from a girl. But! I work in financial planning and meet clients aged 60-80 all day long and their stories and experiences are eye opening! If you think life just falls into place and youll have all the answers in your 20's or by 30, you're wrong. I meet wealthy people all day long who are still "searching" for themselves. "Life is about the journey, not the destination". These clients of mine have taught me its great to be critical of yourself and strive to be better. But life if always filled with twists and turns and just when you think you've cracked the code, something will change. They taught me money isn't everything, its important but not everything. They taught me relationships are about 'giving' not receiving. They taught me life is short and before you know it, you'll be at the finish line, in your 60's or 70's looking back. So don't look back with regret.
@@Dap740 no disrespect to you, but its a factual matter that men strive to get better in their 30s. Its scientific and history never lies. Theres some women who took care of themselves and still look good reaching mid 30s or 40s but you just cant beat science. unless theres some young boy freak whos into old grandmas tho lol
@@Dap740 maybe im off topic but i find that to be true for the most part since if you wanna be systematic and brutally honest with this topic then yeah looks does play an important role in any women's role in life, and like i mentioned earlier that in their early 20s is your time to shine basically in todays standard, (getting out there and doing some stuff). after the age of 25 then you have to depend on your skills basically if you have one. as for men, its a complex process since typically in our 20s we have to work hard and not getting things so easily by trust fund dependency or latching on to another person's success to be more relevant or to be "independent" so to speak by moving away with a partner just to get away from being put in their place by their parents
i’m 20 - honestly i want my 20’s to be all about having fun, fulfilling my childhood dreams, but also working hard to make steady money. i just want a balance really, and at the right pace, not rushing everything just because all my peers are. i don’t want to let go of my hobbies either just cause i’m “getting older.” i’ll still dress up for halloween and have fun. i don’t force myself to grow, i let my inner child continue to bloom. i’ve saved up some money and i’m starting short - term ice skating lessons soon c:
Thank you Akta for being so sincere and so open in sharing your thoughts and experiences while you were in your 20s. Having gone through some unpleasant episodes of anxiety and depression, looking back I wish someone would have taught me these lessons earlier. Despite of what I have (a degree from a top tier university, a job in big consulting firm, a loving boyfriend whom I fell in love with at first sight, a look/physique that most around me consider attractive), I spent the majority of my early 20s feeling lost and anxious. I desperately wanted to find a "right answer" for who I needed to be. While I seem to have everything sorted out from the outside, I was having daily struggles with my social life. I felt I wasn't good enough to make or to keep friends because I didn't own a $2M home to invite them over. I felt embarrassed to introduce my boyfriend to my friends because most of them thought I should be with someone "more mature and more successful". But who says you must own a big house in order to invite people over? And who are those friends to judge your choice of partner? I think a lot of these fears and anxieties came from observing the gaps and discrepancies between who I was at the time and what I believed to be the "right way of living". It took me 7 years to realize that there is no single "right answer" and there is no rush in getting to the the "right answer". Just embrace what life has to offer and be patient. Thank you again Akta for creating these amazing video contents!!
You made me feel a lot better. I'm 21 and constantly pressured with the future and everything in my life, but I know that ur 20's is ur experimental years
Your teens should be your experimental years, but also the years you get an expert at a skill so you are done and ready to live life by the time you are 18-20 years old. Instead our teens are wasted in schools and we come out useless and then we go to university to further waste 4-8 years...
There is no such thing as experimental years. Time lost is time that can never be regained. And there are limited time tables for certain possibilities such as kids, decent retirements, etc. Before you go off listing exception via anecdotes or tech that acts crutches- know this- exceptions don't make the rules and technology that can change up time tables are often exceedingly expensive or come or exact some other heavy costs. This the rules that there is no such thing is experimental or throwaway years and that there are limited time frames applies. You will do well to watch Dr Meg Jays TedTalj of 30s are not the new 20s.
Your 30s will be amazing! I was pretty unsettled in my 20s. I worked a few office jobs after uni and did lots of travelling but in my 30s, I learned to be more selective about who I let into my life and built off of the lessons I learned in my 20s. I feel like I cried a lot in my 20s over stupid little things that don't matter. You learn to let go of a lot and start to have more of a quiet confidence you carry into the rest of your life. Great things can happen in your 40s, 50s, etc. and you'll have the wisdom and experience to recognize them. There are so many good things to look forward to!
I think that quiet confidence is something I’ve definitely started building in my late 20s and that’s what I’m most excited to carry into my 30s. Thank you so much for watching :)
@@Akta A lot of worries, we shall have as we are part of this wicked, evil - problematic world, BUT, GOD says to us: WORRIE NOT: Luke 12:22 | View whole chapter | See verse in context And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Matthew 6:31 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? True, to have a life full of FREEDOM, rather then life full of worries, a soul, must CALL UPON THE NAME OF THE LORD - COME TO REPENTANCE - BORN AGAIN - seeking out the truth/CHRIST/ missing knowledge. Keep the 10 commandments, Preach the good news to others, expose all that is evil and wrong. Then GOD shall give us: John 14:27 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 2 Thessalonians 3:16 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all. “But I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in thy salvation.” Psalms 13:5 (KJV) GOD ask us a simple question: ARE WE WILLING TO TRUST HIM? - as HE was willing to DIE FOR OUR SINS. And as ye be sober and alert , you then shall notice, the signs of the soon, very soon to start, the trib. period. As i wisit the supermarket today, i notice that one lady paid with her PHONE, no paper money, no coins, no cards, A PHONE. -That is clear sign of the TRIB. PERIOD, and how life in that period shall be: Only for souls, who took the MOTB, only to them, the supermarkets shall be opened, people like me, who shall reject satan and his MOTB and who are founded not worthy to LEAVE EARTH IN RAPTURE, for us, all supermarkets shall be closed, for only with the MOTB, buying and selling is still available. So? are ye saved? - are ye sober and alert? - are ye watching and seeking the signs? or are ye unsaved? - ignorant? - a fool who rather perish into torment, then have boldness to choose life? Are ye part of this wicked world and therefore being the same evil? Or are ye chosen by GOD out from this world and therefore being hated by the world for it? TRUE BELIEVERS shall all go BEFORE the trib. period, otherwise, there be no escaping from horror that this world were never before nor will see again. WE SHALL EXCAPE - THEREFORE WE SHALL GO BEFORE not after. STUDY YE ALL THE BIBLE, don´t just read it nor let someone else share their opinions abut it, - STUDY THE BIBLE INDIVIDUALLY.
I hadn't planned to make most of my 20's focused on career building, but anxiety about not being able to comfortably support myself forced me in that direction. I'm glad that I followed that direction though, because my 30's started off much more comfortable than my 20's. But since I didn't make much time for socializing in my twenties, I'm finding myself really valuing that opportunity now that I'm older. Especially since I can afford to do more!
I am truly grateful to have found this! I have been personally struggling with the fact that I feel so lost in my life. I have put an incredible amounts of pressure on myself to live life in the "right way" and sometimes I reflect and think, what it is it all for! I turned 23 in October and I am really committed to just living MY life and finding a balance between progress and fun. You have inspired me. Happy New Year. I hope this year brings you peace and joy!
I'm in the same place. Just turned 25 and recognising life is moving too fast. I also changed uni courses a few weeks ago after losing my original passion for youthwork. Also lost and struggling with motivation and inspiration for what's ahead as the future looks bleak now that anxiety and possible depression have suddenly decided to make themselves at home in my life (in the last few months) life feels so much more difficult but its good to know that this is a phase within our teen years and we'll move past this 💪 with time and trial and error 🙃
All things on earth - money, wealth, fame, realtionships, people our bodies are temporary and will fade away one day. Jesus Christ is eternal and He can save our wretched hearts, fulfill us with His Holy Spirit and save us from sin. Biblical explanation of the Gospel: God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23) The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell. Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him. For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ - for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day. None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned. No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin. Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures, He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4) For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16) We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ. ''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9) Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins (past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him. This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him by reading God's Word. So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13) ''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15) ''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19) Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8). Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin. While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10). Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6) (John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again." If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually. When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14) Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36) ''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7) If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes - to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God. You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son. ''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17) ''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10) You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ. As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so. In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.'' ''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19) ''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41) ''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body, but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21) ''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4) ''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God, who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12) Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left! "But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32) Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you! Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
@@naomip388 I soon have my masters degree at a top uni, I own an apartment (thanks to partially to my great parents) and I have economic stability. Despite this I feel exactly the same, everything feels meaningless aynway, i don't feel satisfaction to anything anymore, it's all just dull.
I’m 29, I’ve been married for six years and have three children that I stay home with and homeschool. I feel like my 20s were spent doing very grown up things but I don’t have any regrets. I will spend my 50s partying lol
Honestly I am 25 now, and I have only achieved what I could. Recently I had to quit my job because they didn't appreciate my efforts, this was I thought a dream job, where I could be in control of things, but they turned on me. Afterwards I started learning Mandarin Chinese, but I wasn't happy so I am now going to reduce it. I am struggling to know what makes me happy and sadly I am envious of a lot of you. I feel like the only way I will be happy is to look at my core values and interests...
Bo ho..... You have a lot more than most. - This is a life realization and it starts in your 20s. I met many people in their 20s who also seemed disillusioned. It's like humans are told what life is or what it should be (TV shows, films and now social media) Up util your 20s you are grouped into groups... year groups and your generation seems a big group moving in the same direction with the same expectations. It seems that everyone is doignthe same thing. I remember people not really wanting or enjoying going out to drink and dance, but they did it anyway as it seemed to be expected in that age group and that is 'how you meet people'. The only people who I met who were 'happy' were happy because they were given money by their parents and support. Their life was paid for - they worked but it was more like 'independence money' - to buy clothes, shop, socialize - while the rent and study books were paid for by their parents. Most people in their 20s discover that they can't do what is expected of them due to money and that a social life isn't an episode of 'Friends' as most house shares do end up the same as yours, with people not speaking to each other. The biggest lesson in my 20s was, that most people are lying when they present a social, professional and love success - Your 20s is when you feel like you are not being what you are supposed to be doing or being. In your 20s you think people care about your success and take notice and value you if you are cool, interesting and popular - YOu think it's important to be liked and likable...... In your 40s you realize that all people care about is your failures, and judge you on them - And failure is seen as not having enough money - You don't even have to be a good person... Popularity is only by what you have, not by who you are - as who you are is what you have done and if you do not have a car, an apártment, cash, nice clothes, all of those things.... no one cares about you. Being popular isn't about being funny, having interesting stories, being intelligent or kind... Its just about what you have. It's very sad. In your 40s you realized what you should have known in your 20s = People don't care about you, so do your own thing for yourself. Like most youtubers... being a 'victim' sells and also having a great life style sells, so.... here it is... A highly qualified, beautiful woman in a great apatment complaining about how she suffered.... = PERFECT upload.
I loved my 20s!! I took 2 years off, partied, had fun, then studied and worked in my chosen field. I met my husband when he was 21 and he was never interested in partying or anything but he still developed a lot of self growth. Everyone’s journey is different and just because you take different trajectories, does not mean that you don’t face the same fundamental issues. We’re all human, we all do. It’s how you handle them that defines how much you enjoy each decade. Set boundaries, learn about your finances, take calculated risks, and you’ll watch yourself enjoying life. Moderate and balance is key! You don’t need to have perfect grades to graduate uni. You don’t need to “diet” or exercise every single day to lose weight. Nothing is black/white. Society has turned us into perfectionists when life really isn’t that complicated - we tend to make it so.
All false and ALL FAKE, don’t listen to her ! The only thing she did right was finding a husband when he was 21…… THAT’S IT !!! That’s what is making it sound perfect and good . Nothing else People and @akta. Everything else you mentioned is very normal natural standard, not thing, nothing at all special… no relevance at all, the only thing different is she found a guy, and that’s what we all are looking for, a partner, if possible in his early age, another if possible, good looking one (so that you can show him her to the society and quality as a reward, which everybody wants and envy, that’s what you want, that’s the normal human problem, but that is OK and fine to admit and accept it, let’s not deny it or it’s not lie about it). So this is the only thing what she has got, Rest everything else is a very normal story
Teens and young adults have a mentality to want to rush and become adults as fast as possible, only to get there and want to go back. Take your time and do what makes you happy.
I hate or jealous about how says they "wasted" their lives by parties, in relationship and enjoying. I wasted doing NOTHING, depressed, lonely and dealing with mental issues trying to make friends... Never been in any relationship.
I'll be turning 30 in December and I think the 20s are meant to be a sort of gym at life. Finding out who you are, making and changing decisions, see what you are really good at just by trying different things. Meet people, have goals, grow spiritually, get to know yourself. I lost three years due to illnesses and mental health issues 19-22 and at 23 I felt like a failure but was commited to change my life and face my fears. And I did. Almost three degrees now (philosophy and acting), 5 years of piano, 6 languages, stable emotions and sense of self, more confident, even returned to and then grew into my faith a lot. Left a toxic relatioship and focused on myself so now I feel like I can spend my 30s giving to other. Traveled not much but there's time for that. I think that growing inside is the most important goal: suffering and doing stuff without growth is really sad.
hi im 21 right now, and the last 3 years felt the same way to me as they did to you back then. And reading this makes me so happy.. its sooo inspirational to see how much you've achieved!!. Im learning to accept the past too and let go of toxic things that have happened, im definitely in a better mind space now. I will be reminded that I can achieve my dreams despite what happened . :) Thank you soooo much for sharing!!! :) you made my day
@@xidaq4998 you learn a language if you study and immerse yourself as much as possible! I started learning them at school but I learned much more and better by myself: grammar book, watching movies with subs, reading books and writing letters. Same with the piano. Just be consistent! I suggest Interpals for language exchange (:
I HATED my 20s. I turn 31 next week and my 30s have been the best so far. Still a lot of uncertainty but I think that’s the human experience not necessarily an age thing. No one has it figured out. We all just pretend we do. Sending so much love!! You are lovely. Goodluck! ❤❤❤
grateful for this perspective, im turning 23 next month and for the last year i feel like i've been having an ongoing crisis...just a girl praying that everything will work out
I feel similarly. By 25, I felt the need to have a career, family, place to myself, etc. Tons of things I expected out of myself did not become a reality and I became bitter with myself because of that. Most of my disappointment came from the career aspect, because that is the gateway for a few other things I wanted to have my by mid twenties. Got a degree in a field I wasn't excited about because I went straight to college after highschool and I stuck to it...only to be depressed about the career options I had in front of me because I felt too pressured or scared to change majors. I think the best thing I did that changed my perspective and made me a lot happier was that I forgave myself for my shortcomings. To others that are in their twenties and "don't have it figured out" quite yet...IT'S OKAY :) . Let your twenties be a time of trial and error. Figure out what makes you tick and what you really love and set yourself up for success and happiness at 30+. Do things that not only make you successful, but fulfilled as well. Forgive yourself for not being where you want to be and just keep your head up and keep working at it. I'm excited for my 30s because of this. I didn't have it figured out, nor was I happy from the ages of 18-23. That being said, I switched to a much more enjoyable job at the cost of a massive salary cut, went back to school for a degree that I actually want lol, and I'm looking forward to the next 1 or 2 years and see where life takes me. Forgiving my mistakes and moving forward in a direction I enjoy is all I need to feel much happier and fulfilled.
I turned 30 December, last year and i felt the societal pressure on my shoulders of having achieved a certain set of things by this age. But honestly i feel like my journey has just begun. I am learning so many new things everyday, its like I'm a completely new person, accomplishing so much every single day and feel like a total badass doing it. Love your message!!
Great tips Akta. As a 32 year old I regret not taking more calculated risks in my early 20's. But I also probably wouldn't change a thing either as my choices have made me the person I am today. Also great thumbnail, editing, and story telling as always, I really enjoyed this one!
People are in thier 40s and 50s living on Asian and African minimum wage- thats sometimes less than two dollars a day of wages mind you. Stop complaining about how you’re living because a lot of people would literally kill to have a life like yours.
My 20s were spent suffering tremendously with my mental health in addition to owning a home and having children with a narcissistic man that made me lose everything in the end (except my kids ❤️). I'm turning 29 tomorrow and definitely feel that I lost all of my 20s in struggles. It's a sad thought, but at least I'm going out of my 20s in a muuuch better mental state than I entered them. That thought is a consolation. Despite missing out on so much, I grew so much as a person. I'll never get that lost time back. I won't have cool stories to tell from when I was younger. But I've built myself up to be a much better person for the rest of my life and, God willing, I still have plenty of more years to enjoy. So now I look forward to making the best out of my last year of my 20s, and having an amazing time in my 30s and beyond.
Really love this. Just turned 25 and (nail bitingly) quit my job to focus on my (horrendous) health and pursue what I really want to in media. It's hard not to feel like I'm nearly 30 and wasted the first half of my 20s, but I know deep down it really is what needs to happen and I can't let others who haven't shared my formative experiences determine what is right for me.
I’m 29. I’m still in university. I want to join sports, but it’s so hard being so much older than everyone else. I just want to be free & live without caring about age. If I knew how much this would mess with my head, I would’ve gone much earlier if I could have. 😞
Regret is an emotion that tells you how to correct what you felt was wrong before. It is a very key emotion for our development as is every other emotion you experience in life. Your life is specific to you no one else will ever live it. You are special our love❤️ i love yall take life serious and enjoy it
It's a season of discovery of who you are and the relationships you want. If you learned about yourself and relationships you did what you were meant to do. Now take those lessons to make your 30's awesome.
I just stumbled upon this video and tbh im happy i did. I just turned 20 just 2 months ago and ive been feeling kinda lost in life, like almost everyone around my age is ahead of me with there careers, jobs , and social life. But i guess with all that said best thing i can do right now is what i enjoy doing in life and pursue it…………Thankx Akta
Hey Troy!! Thanks so much for checking out this video and don’t worry about feeling lost, one of my favourite quotes is “it’s better to be lost than in a place you don’t want to be”- have fun figuring it all out :) x
Wow this makes me feel like I totally didn’t piss away my 20’s. I’ve learned a lot ! About friends, love, work, how to deal with people leaving your life how to deal with shit bosses . Now I’m ready to go back to school to find myself at 27 lol. Thank you for this video
A lot of what you said in this video resonated with me. On the outside my 20's may have appeared "wasted" but I learned an enormous amount about myself and people and overcame mental illness. Now I think I know myself pretty well to know what I want to do and where and should be heading and how I should spend the rest of my life. Turned 30 in June and I think my 30's might be the best decade of my life yet. I'm really looking forward to them and I hope you feel the same way too :)
@@Akta We'll thrive together. And a decade later when you hit 40 you can make another video about your 30's and I'll meet you there to discuss what we've accomplished and learned.
My older brother took care of me after my father passed away,he was married at 21,divorced at 29,his second wife died of cancer, when he was 33,and he started again from rock bottom ... This suumer,he turned 37 and myself 21,he called me and said "I took care of you as long as i could,and i will protect you till i die,but i want you to not rush anything,to live your life and don't stress out over things you can't control,learn from my mistakes,and don't repeat them",and something that moment changed in me.
I recently started going to the gym, and discovered I genuinely enjoy it. It allows me to enjoy myself, and improve myself physically and mentally at the same time. I think if everyone can find something like that in their life, then everyone might just be OK. Good luck to everyone out there. Keep up the grind, but remember to have fun doing it. 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I really appreciated hearing this. I’m 23 and going through so many life changes/facing so many decisions. And it is comforting to hear that not everyone is loving/thriving in their 20s, and also demystifying those societal expectations and clarifying what’s important and what’s real. Thank you.
Thank you so much for watching, it’s so hard making decisions, all you can really do is decide what makes you happy now without worrying too much about what comes next :) z
I’m 21 in the Mortgage industry. I am terrified that if I don’t get everything exactly how I want in just a couple of years that it will be too late. This was definitely refreshing and I’ll take much of what you said into strong consideration
Man, the feeling of loneliness as a result of having basically no real friends after leaving college (like nobody you talk to often or hv deep convos or go out with) is so real. At 22 I've never had a bf, done school online and only go out when I order stuff online and need to collect, or when my mom wants me to go with her to the supermarket. Its so depressing at times but since I'm not on social media so much it doesn't bother me a lot. I'm just grateful for my family and the fact that I can work from home and fund my education while making good money with foreign clients. I hope to have a good life at the end of the day!
I am not unhappy about my 20's i am 30 I am in my year 3 of residency in surgery, i have a beautiful car, bought land for real estate, taken care of my parents and siblings. Lost my best friend , heartbroken twice. Above all God has never left my side
This is interesting thanks for sharing for me I will say you don't really need to trouble yourself or considering other people success with yours. God can uplift you at any age right now Am 33, financially free and currently growing a solid retirement plan. It takes a positive and consistency to learn new things, unlearn the old habits ms Important to get a mentor/coach to lead you all the way. It's great to start young too!
You're right sis but it's very hard not to feel worried about your finances at your 20s I'm 40 working on my retirement fund too What do you think is the best target for retirement?
@@gracedaniels6172 personally I think 1m is the goal to overcome inflation and having them in an inv estment p ortfolio is a perfect plan. I'm half way to my goal 😊
@@eiraantoinette6793 yeah. Fees and commissions are factors to look at in search for financial advisers. There’s financial experts out there who do not look at their fees but the impact and intrinsic value they bring along to you no matter how little you want to start. I’m glad I had one guide me start my financial journey
I wasted my 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s. You get used to it after a while. The term "wasted" is subjective opinion. Rarely do we see the garden we have sown.
Im 19 and i feel i have wasted my teenage years.Im feeling down most of the time these days .I got no friends,no motivation for study.Just have lost interest in everything.I dont know how I'll overcome these and make many friends.I dont want to waste my twenties 😞
I just turned 30 in June, and grieved the end for a couple of weeks. However, it kind of got over it better than I thought. My 20’s were very stressful and depressing, yet very fun and experimental. My main goal for my 30’s is to find my career placement and finally move out.
Wasted my own 20s. I drank, took drugs, got depressed. Nothing much happened. Haven't had sex in 10 years. I'm 30 now. No relationship, nothing. Friends aren't friends neither. In the end I don't really care.
I'm 25 and trying to make the most of my time. The first few years of my 20s were absolutely nothing but pain. I think thinking about stacking my goals has helped a lot. If I can do something that fulfills multiple goals at once I feel like I'm sacrificing less when I make the decision to walk down that path
Girl you did not waste your 20s at all. Maybe you feel like something is missing but the fact that you did good at school, travelled internationally, literally securing employment and getting rewarded for those years of working hard in university, that is a dream to some of us. We should learn to appreciate our lives and avoid complaining about everything. All you can do is to just fill the void while expressing gratitude.
Really needed this video👍 Im 25 and I feel like I have no direction and no idea who I am and what I am supposed to. I hate it, but it feels better knowing I am not the only one feeling that way
Wow I really needed this because everything you talked about I am currently going through. I'm about to be 25 and I have spent the last 2 years going through what I feel like is a quarter life crisis. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone!
i liked the sentiments in the video but the title is beyond misleading, there are women in their 40's that never achieved what you did by now in your 20's. It's like watching a "I lost most of my hair" video while the chick clearly has more hair the the panicked alopecia viewer looking for answers on yt....
You had a better time in your 20s than me by the sounds of it. Mine was me stuck in my room for 10 years with depression. Went on 3 holidays on my own in those 10 years. 30 got my first flat and weeks later pandemic happened. Didn't get to start new life. Still in my flat depressed. Barely ever know what the weather is like.
I’m sorry youre in this situation. Honestly, you are your best friend in this situation. Try to do something small each and everyday. As sad as it is, no one is coming to save you. But, that is also the beauty of it too. You CAN save yourself. You may have lost that time; however, you can change that. Go for a walk. Start tracking your finances. Maybe sign up for the gym. Just go do it. It might seem like the hardest thing rn, but you’ll be so grateful you took that tiny step
I loved the video, especially the conclusion. I'm 19, almost 20 so I'm only at the very beginning of my 20 th. I aslo feel that there is a lot if pressure around age. There is a quote that I like very much " Life is a game, but a game to take with serious ". It has a lot of meaning to me, in the way that in one hand you need to reflect before you act and think about consequences but on the other hand, you also only need to breath and have fun. We won't always be alive so lets enjoy our own paths, enven if it's messy, it holds it own kind of beauty ❤
Thanks for watching this video ❤️ I definitely recommend watching the last chapter before commenting as I don't want to mislead people with the title! :) I'm grateful for my 20s and I know my privileges - I think anyone can look back and reflect on milestones, and I just hope what I've learnt from reflecting on my 20s can help you with yours (or any other decade in your life)! :) What have you learnt about your 20s? 💭
@@lauradejenno461 I think we're all capable change if we really want something :) I don't think lazy people are even lazy, I think for the most part, they just don't know what they really want, so I'd tell them to find the things that make them feel less lazy because when you find things that light you up, you want to go after that light :) I'm not sure, I would probably try to take the pressure off them to figure out a definitive career plan tbh - parenting is hard though, so I really won't know until I'm there God willing 😅
I have learned that my 20s feel like a condensed version of what being 18 should have been like or what I kind I wish being 18 could been for me. And interestingly for me it's my 30s where I feel like I am learning to discover myself who I am and being confident with who I am.
I am 28 now. And I somehow felt like I missed out on things. And I have. Mainly due to mental illness. But after therapy... It's hard to let go of all the years and the youth that will never come back. It's hard realizing how much time and opportunities have come and go. But I have learned it is never too late to start prioritizing what is most important to you. It is never too late to act towards the life you really want. I have also learned acceptance and patience. Knowing that things take a little longer for me and will be a bit harder for a while until I get my groove on.
Early 20s was a mess, mid 20s has been a learning experience, late 20s thing seem to be refining into who I really am. It's been a rough time but it's been a fairly good time. I am thankful.
I also thought my 20s would be like a series of Friends and with how much social media presence has grown in my 20s - it also looked as though that was the life everyone was living. Every month there's a proposal, wedding, pregnancy announcement or new flat/house purchase posted on my Instagram feed. I think having endured that was actually the best thing. I turned 30 and realised I'm in a very happy and healthy place in my life despite the pace of the world around me. I hope you enjoy your last year in your 20's - I think you'll be surprised by how much it can reverse some of the things in your 20s - 29 is a special age! I've always envied women in their 30s - they always seem to have it together! Have a great birthday next week xx
I am nearly 30, myself at the time of posting this comment. I feel as though I have wasted my 20s. No job because of my learning disability along with not driving and no friends, either. I thought this title basically sums up my life. Watching this video was reassuring. I wish all the best with your life and much success for you.
I'm almost 24. I took the unconventional route after highschool and went to a community college. After just one year, I realized that college wasn't for me and I wanted to take a shot at acting. But back then I was very immature and depressed, so I sat around and didn't work for a while and felt sorry for myself. I was pretty lazy and whiny. Eventually I got a warehouse job and that absolutely killed my soul because it was so mundane. So I put in my two weeks and took an acting class. It was so fun. I also got a job at a department store. The pandemic happened the following year so I spent a lot of my time isolated with my thoughts. I struggled with self worth issues in relationships, so I hardly dated anyone because I was afraid of being left. The following year I auditioned for several local shows and got a lead in all of them, and the people around me realized that I have immense talent and I should pursue acting. I met so many wonderful people from this, and while I won't say many are close friends, it did get me out of my shell more. I recently started therapy for my self worth issues around relationships. I highly recommend therapy for people that struggle. I made so many improvements with my life but that one area always gave me anxiety and fear so I finally sucked it up and took therapy. By next year I hope to move off to somewhere with more opportunities. I sometimes get worried that I will end up wasting my youth, or that I am not doing enough or having enough experiences. I don't have much of a social life unless I am doing a show. Some people my age are married yet I have hardly dated in my life due to wanting to fix my mental health. Some people have their own home but I still live with my parents so I can save more and move off. Some people party all the time but I have barely ever done that even though I would like to more. I do have some positives to look at. I am in shape, I know what I want to do with my life to some degree, and I am not in student loan debt. Especially with me being an actor, I am not "playing it safe" or conventionally so to speak, and sometimes I worry that I could be over 30 and back where I started. But I feel like that is a risk that is worth it because it truly satisfies my soul. My motivation also lies in proving those who ever doubted me wrong. I think in our twenties, we can be very perfectionistic about ourselves. Therapy is helping me with that, but I constantly think about how I want my life to eventually look like vs how it is right now. I have ambition and idealism, but sometimes that can make you forget what is important. In my twenties I have learned a lot so far. I have learned what I want to do (at least I think so). I have learned how to cook. I have gotten more muscular and fit and I have built the habit of exercising everyday. I unlearned a lot of things that were outright false from my teen years. I realized how absolutely stupid I was back then. I will probably think that way about my current self ten years from now lol, but at least now I admit that I know absolutely nothing about life. Some people I have talked to in their late twenties say it gets better halfway through. Still, they are in relationships, live independently, have somewhat more stable careers, etc. It's scary to me that I could be falling behind or wasting my life. Or perhaps this is just where I am right now. You have suberp video quality by the way. I'm certain that the more videos you make the more subscribers you will gain!
Thank you so much Isaac for sharing your story and insights! I’m so glad you went into acting, I love what you said about it satisfying your soul!! I feel like that’s exactly how I feel with making these videos!! I think your comment really demonstrates how everyone does things at their own pace whether it’s work, relationships or even our own confidence. It’s really nice to see that you’re so self-aware and I think that’s the best skill to have as we navigate our twenties 🙏
I turned 30 this year and my birthday was the most depressing and sad i had ever felt in my life. Had a full nervous breakdown that day and had one again recently. I remember having a mid life crisis at 25 because i hadn't achieved anything in life. I lost my 20s to a bad addiction, never perused my music career and didn't get married in my 20s. Its been haunting me ever since.
I was hustling during 20's and neglected everything else. from partying to growing a bigger network of friends and now that I am in my 30"s, i regret. it is all about balance and I was too extreme. I don't know what to do to fix my 30's
Personally, I feel like I wasted my 20s. I feel like I'll be making up for my 20s through my 30s. I know everyday is a new opportunity to start a new and make something of myself. Still working on myself and improving on a career path.
How special this is. Wow such an amazing and positive outlook and that part at the end. Just beautiful. I’m so glad you shared this so honestly and shared your lessons. I’m gonna be 19 by the end of this year and entering my 20s soon so this was very good to hear!
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Rushing into uni is the biggest mistake, my dad is a doctor with a beautiful house and car, he started uni at 28. He prioritised finding a partner and having a child so he won't be lonely and so he can experience the strongest relationship one can have. He is my best friend.
I love that your dad prioritised finding a partner! I think it’s one of the most important choices you’ll ever make! It’s nice that you have a good relationship with him :)
I'm just curious, how could he afford having a partner and a child before becoming a doctor and how did he manage to learn and have a baby at once? I couldn't even imagine marrying anyone before getting my degree and starting to earn money.
Dylan as if we get a choice
@@semir9112 good question
@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 generational wealth, baby!
I love how in the first 30 seconds she showed what she wished her twenties were like, and then some clips of her actual twenties, and they look the same lmao.
istg and who's there recording every IG-worthy post for her 😂
She knows how to attract the depressed and FOMOed audience
Right lol the hell lol
They’re the same picture -Pam from the office
Compared to her, my life is shit, in the sense I don t get to see many parties and stuff. I am a nerd learning programming, quiet kid who exercises to become Negan Smith .
This just made me more depressed, if this is what your 20s looked like and you thought it was bad, then god almighty mine have been horrific
For real like wtf, I couldn't even finish the video..
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣 really
I really felt relief thx 😃
right ? man if i could eat and sleep properly for just a day, i would be happy. she sounds like ungrateful af
Gets off social media it’s rotting your brain. You did more in your “20s” than other people can dream of. You have privileges that others don’t have. Be humble and appreciate what you have been through.
Yeah, fully agree. This girl completely has her shit together lmao. A career, her own place, she's travelled, and has asocial media following. I have no clue what this video is about.
@@Steven-ik6xx i think this video proves that even the most productive seemingly “together” people have boatloads of regret and insecurity. They are not better than the rest of us, we are not better than them. Everyone is flailing and that’s actually normal.
Exactly
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Yea she is really a bad person to do this video.She just wants attention
As a dude I have to admit that I started feeling like a real adult only at around 25. In my early 20s I still behaved in teenage-like ways much more than I realised.
Till I was 29 your ahead of me but I’m getting my life right now and it does feel goid
I’m 26. I’m a fully functioning adult with a job. However I’m immature when it comes to relationships.
@@mybuttsmellslikebutterbut207 That was exactly me. When it came to releationships, I often turned into a manchild and took immature actions. I think the essence of mature is that you have kind of a mental firewall between your emotions and your mind, preventing you from jumping into acting without thinking first.
I can relate. As a gal my major turning point was early this year when I was 28,5 lol. But my mom says it started earlier. However this was when I knew I'll take everything differently and no more bullshit being a toy for other people
Same!!!
"I wasted my 20s, BUT I did international travel, I progressed in my career"....I think I've seen enough.
@Jake G. How, exactly, is that considered entitlement?
"I wasted my formative years of my life as an international hedonist. Oh woe is me."
Exactly
They don't know how much of a privilege international travel is
Facts. Absolute clown logic 😂🤡🤡🤡
you're actually living well in your twenties than most of us lmao. I'm 23, no close-knit friends, have never gone outside of my hometown, teaching in the university where I graduated, no concrete plans for the future, still living with my family (tho I hope this will continue forever, my fam is my everything), have never been to a party, didn't go to prom, no boyfriend since birth, never had a debut (cause partially I don't like the attention), and everything that most teenage girls dream.
How have you never left your hometown? 😳
My 20s where very similar. You're not alone here.
Similar boat, single since birth, still living with mom, and working at a call center. Trying to save up as much money as possible to live on my own(not that I don’t enjoy living at home with my mom but I want to move away to a city that has more opportunities for my field)
Your definitely not alone. You sound a lot like my brother.
Partying might broke you, seriously. With that much alcohol involved, get ready to have issues by your thirties. So, don't party.
I would say that you are actually living a healthy life.
I believe some of the viewers, including me, not expecting this kind of "wasted my 20's" with a lot of achievements. I hate to say it but you're not wasted your 20's, you just miss some chances. If that what you called wasted, then those who literally wasted their 20's is doomed their 20's but hey everyone suffer differently
I mean she's not wrong. You can feel like you wasted your time if you don't balance it out properly. She is right about that. Some people have too much fun and don't save a lot and others work too much and don't save a lot. I remember telling a coworker how I had over $150k and he was telling me how much he regret messing around but he had many cool stories while I had none because I was always saving money.
I'm turning 30 this year and I'm going to celebrate my birthday for once by going to Vegas. I'm about done saving the maximum I can just to acquire things faster. My 30s are going to be about balance. So be it if I have to wait longer to reach my goals.
you literally have actually done stuff in your 20s that many of us would dream of
Ikr, shes like 10x ahead of us
she’s spoiled
@@mystifiedelk she has 1st world problems
yeah, I feel like she's being too hard on herself. She said she needs balance, but she already has it. She studied and she occasionally went out and traveled. That's more than a lot of people. She got too wrapped up in how movies present your 20s.
@@ThickenThoodle yeap, her life could be a movie comparing to mine
I'm currently 21 and I have a fear of wasting my 20s, I feel as though there is some sort of countdown until you are 30 to achieve and to have as much fun as possible. But tbh, you life doesn't and shouldn't end when you turn 30, we are all at our own pace.
Only society has that countdown, you definitely don’t need to! I don’t know who decided that 30 was this big milestone where you need to have accomplished a certain amount but i feel like it’s going to be just the start! :)
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@@Akta I have really loved this message. Thank you for sharing your experiences. İt is so valuable for me
Opportunity Cost
Word of advice. Keep your legs 🦵 closed , eyes 👀 and ears 👂 open. Then find the best man that has potential and stick to him like glue and ware him down till he marries you by age 25yrs. Don't ride the Carousel and hop on dicks in the prim of your life. Getting married asap . Don't end up like the rest of these leftover women ....
I’m 21, graduated and moving out of my toxic parent’s home. I feel like I’m behind everyone else and that there’s always so many obstacles in my life, so thank you for sharing your story & reminding me to forge my own timeline in life ❤
Why are they toxic, because they told you not to use toxic substances and be a hole for randoms?
@@constantinvalidol5472 you are judging too fast. some people have horrible parents and sufer mental, phisical and sexual abuse. you might think child protective services save everyone, but they don't. i'm also from a place like that and i'm really happy on my own now. it has been the best decision of my life to move away from my parents.
You are only 21. Still have 8-9 years to go before turning 30.
“If you try and please everyone and loose yourself in that process, that’s harder to recover from” YES! 100% TRUE. I had just graduated school and I was a peoples pleaser, when it came time to feel good about me, I felt lost because I had change sooo many aspects of me so that I would fit in to the point that I had to reconstruct my self to be back to my original state. It took MONTHS, but it’s so worth it. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF PLEASE.
I'm in my early 30s and felt like I wasted my 20s by making mistakes and bad decisions. But then I realized they were learning experiences so that I could build my awareness to make smarter decisions in the future. Now I intend to make my 30s much better and exciting than my 20s, and reinvent myself!
This sounds amazing 🙌🏼
I’m in my early 30’s. If I’m doing something in my 30s and someone says that I should have done it in my 20’s, then I would say ‘oh, fuck off I’m making up for lost time. Not everyone was a well adjusted social extrovert in their 2o’s.’
I did not have anxiety in my teens, I had not even heard of it.
Me too!!!
That's great to hear, I hope the best for you.
That's all the 20's is for, if you think you got it all together by the end of your 20's think again, something is about to blow up in your face in your 30's and you're ill prepared not going through it in your 20's. Life experience > your "smart" decisions in your 20's
I’m 36 and a doctor. I have been practicing medicine for three years on my own now. I spent my entire 20’s in a library buried in books. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I’m miserable at my job that I sacrificed so much to get. I never partied, experimented with anything, enjoyed my youth. I had to be the responsible one at all times so I didn’t mess up my path. Now, I’m single, hate my job, and have nothing to show for all of my hard work. If I have any advice to younger people don’t take things so serious, enjoy your short time on earth. Live with no regrets.
Thanks for the Comment
From a Person in early 20s !
I appreciate your experience but I feel like your advice could leave people destitute and still unfulfilled
Just start dating a nurse, you’ll be fine.
Just because you're 36 does NOT mean your time for happiness is over. You can be happy. This is a season of your life.
Thank you
I literally supported my abusive parents all of my 20this. Sacrificed everything I had for them, got basic education I could afford ate one pack of instant ramen in 3 days to get myself through school to become office admin and she is a damn doctor 😂😂 spoiled rich ppl will never get it 😒 give me a break. Why rich ppl are always hungry for more?
But you can be proud if what you did
Sounds like you supported your parents and regretted not leaving and starting your own career. She's wanted to have fun with REAL people and feels like she missed out because that's not what she saw on social media.
It's not only rich people ...everyone in general regardless of their status always wishes for more ...it's human nature I guess...it's very rare for anyone to truly be content with what they have..
I'm 38 now.
My childhood was mixed
My teenage years sucked
My uni years were fantastic
My 20s were mixed, but basically sucked
29-34 was brilliant - perhaps the best time
and now I'm on a journey to sucksville
I thought I am the only one who thinks that the beginning of my 20s was one of the worst times of my life. Thank you for your honesty. ❤
Thanks for watching Nicky, 100% you’re not alone ❤️
Same.. when I got 23 everything went down. Now at 27 I am slowly progressing and seeing the light
Me too
Nicky no it sucks. It's weird, I feel alone and also like everyone else is feeling the same as me but also some people aren't but in truth they are. If everyone enjoyed except me, at least that would be something but the fact everyone else has work and study-filled lives too just makes it worse.
Omg my 20s were more then bad like disastrous and painful 😣
Whoever said that "you've been through the most important things in your life by 35" is so misguided imo. After my father passed, my mom (44) was a beaten, broken down shell of a woman, having been the enabler of an alcoholic for 5 years straight. After he left us she was a mess. Now she is living her best life. Truly. She is traveling on her own with friends (which she hadn't ever done). She is fulfilling her lifelong dreams unapologetically. And that is something she definitely hadn't ever experienced. She's around 55 now. And I can confidently say she has never been happier.
"Life truly begins when you are 30 and up" is the biggest delusional cope.
So she was not as happy as with your dad as now? That sounds kinda sad i hope i misunderstood something!
Thank you
@@kaanseyhun7041 the comment says that the dad was an alcoholic so that's probably why she wasn't as happy when he was alive
Seen Some people start over their whole lives when 50..
I am a second year medical student, and I can safely say that I have had virtually no significant experiences outside of school. I have had no relationships, few friends, and few major experiences. Literally everything has been placed at the altar of school. Thank you for sharing this video. I am 26, and I can't wait until school is out of the way so I can pursue a future where all of me is alive.
Honestly I thought this way during dental school, and I look back now and realise I should have let myself have more of a life outside of dental school! Don’t wait to live!
I'm 24 and I've recently gotten out of a severe depression. I'm still not 100% ok but I'm certainly on a path of self improvement. That's the reason this video ended up in my recommendations. I hope I can still make it, after not doing actually anything real all my life. I wasn't self concious these past 4 years of my 20's but now I'm more mindful. Thanks for this video. It's kind of a relief to see that many people are like me. Hope the very best for you. Keep making these videos.
I'm turning 24 next month, and I've also gone through a strong depression since I was 18 years old. It also makes me feel sad of the time I feel I've lost in my youth as a teenager, but it makes me feel a little more relieved that other guys like me have similar issues.
@@MyLink200 yup. I guess life is like this, we just have to keep working on yourself constantly to only make sure that our today is better than our past. Lots of prayers for you. Also keep me in your prayers. Don't worry, most of us are in the same boat but that shouldn't be the reason of our relief everytime. We should not always find solace in relatable events. Just have to be easy on ourselves and keep improving.
@@muhammaduzair2923 Yeah, thanks for the reminder, I just meant that it makes me feel kind of relieved, as you said, that other people like me have gone through the same circumstances, and that I'm not the only one; that is also why I found this video helpful.
Even though sometimes I feel a little bit sad about it, I still feel that my situation had a purpose in my life and gave me a different perspective and worldview that not many people have access to, so I take it as a privilege, and a blessing at some point.
Thank you, and I will keep you in my prayers as well. God bless!
i’m 23 and feel like my 20s are flying by. feel like i was senior in high school just a couple years ago
I'm 23 , starting uni next January. Haven't had a job yet. Yeah time does fly by
dude, you have much time and resource (internet), git gud until youre 30s
COVID surely amplified that feeling!
Use your phone less. When we do meaningless activities the brain makes it seem as time goes by fastee
You were.
That is what I’m feeling right now, I’m 25 and lately I’ve been feeling down and upset about regretting my teen and my early 20’s and been dwelling on it for a long time. Due to mental health stuff that I really struggled and socially anxious. Now I’m back in college and working for almost a year now! So I’m doing better but still feel I’ve missed out on life and not going out to parties or graduating at a certain age. I’m glad that I’m not alone. I loved the videos.
I’m glad you’re back on a path you’re happier with Kevin :) thanks for watching
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I’m in the same boat but I don’t want to party ever again tho lol forales
25-27ish was one of the best eras of my life.
You’re not missing out on much.
I just turned 30. Here’s to going for it, taking chances and making up for whatever was “wasted”.
Cause I recall turning 21, it went by fast and I don’t want to regret letting it be for granted, everything flows how it is supposed to.
The woes of being a successful, attractive woman
It doesn't age well though
I’m gonna turn 19 this year and this video has already been helpful to me so far thank you for sharing your past experiences so I can build myself in my 20’s to early 30’s
I'm 30 teaching myself to be a software engineer. I honestly never cared how old I was as long as I knew what I wanted to do in life
Because Men don't have a Biological clock and Men's beauty standards are much more lenient towards Aging.
I love that Jermaine!
@@demonizedhuman941 facts
@@demonizedhuman941 that's all their fault tho...
@@manciajr2805 whose fault?
32 here and I'll say there is no right or wrong way to living life. Just do what truly makes you happy. For me, that meant traveling, meeting new people and still making money somehow. Sure my peers were getting married, buying houses and climbing the corporate ladder, but in the end, if it isn't what you want, then what they do doesn't matter.
And don't be afraid to hit 30. I still travel, make a good amount of money without sacrificing my hobbies or personal time and still feel like I'm in my 20s. Take care of your health and fitness, release stress quickly and get the right amount of sleep.
Thank you so much for sharing this advice 🤗
Preach it, brother! 🙌🏼❤️
Hey what’d you work in to let you travel and make money
I guess you missed the procreation courses.
@@salvadorian_1640 You can work as a bartender or hotel/accommodation or similar customer service job pretty much anywhere (short or seasonal gigs), or work remotely for an office job.
I think the main problem is just having all these expectations as to what your 20s are meant to be. Im so glad i never even heard of the concept until i was half way through my 20s.
I am 30. Didn’t even want to celebrate my birthday. Exactly going through this existential crisis. But you know what is funny? I never felt more self as I feel now. I am in the best headspace I have ever been. Try to prioritize myself more because during 20s I studied and worked very hard afraid of the future. I am learning that actually 30s might be the best time of my life. I am better person I was before and more confident in my life and career. It’s not ending with 30. I feel like it’s only beginning.
I absolutely love that you’ve come to this realisation Martina 🙌🏼🙏
30s is when we decide what are life is going to be based on who we find out we actually are and like and will and won’t allow .. now we know who we are and what we ❤️🤟🏼
💯💯💯
30’s are the best. Glad I’m not the only one who felt this way about my 20’s
Life doesn't end with 30 for a woman but what you feel is ending is your ability to give birth to a child and that is purely biological. It is not society but your body signaling that you don't have much time left.
I’m 43. If you spent your 20s working hard and are now somewhat regretting it, don’t. You did the right thing and you’ll know in 20 years. Money is important and if you have it, that will carry you to the next level. When that card declines, you don’t get to move forward until the money clears. Being a dentist is wonderful and congratulations. Keep working and let life happen. Just a heads up, I’m in doctoral school and I didn’t go back to school until I was 34. I partied for you and now I’m paying for it. Currently I have a fifteen page paper due and man oh man, it’s tough. But I’ve been married 20 years and have two kids. I can’t not do the paper, so it’ll get done. Great video and I’m wishing you all the best.
Thank you so much for your reassurance and kind words I really appreciate it 🤗
@@Akta No prob…I’m passing through and seeing a lot of these ‘regret’ vids. Nothing to ever regret or take back. We get one shot, no do overs. Keep it moving, that’s all you can do. Make the next moment better!
I regret for Feeling like a lost child in his early 20s. Ive no purpose(Goal) Its hard to work 9to5s for me. And I still dont know a job I do fit in
lmao yeah right. Especially if you started balding, or aged badly. Money doesn't replace youth, and all the memories and experiences you could've had younger.
@@dannyx498 you can't live without money. Money is important
I'm grateful this got recommended to me. Currently 25 and I was so embarrassed to share my age since I was 24 because my boyfriend at the time told me "you're only getting older from here... you don't have a career", indicating that he disapproved of my seasonal work lifestyle (to cope with mental health being undiagnosed at the time while on a waitlist). It's unfortunate that I was having dark thoughts towards myself from valuing his opinion over my own sanity which of course, I regret. Now, I want to take a step back from romance to build my life on my own terms. I love true love so much, but I feel empty not being loved with all of my flaws and failings. My biological parents might see me as the daughter who no one will marry and provide children for, but frankly, I realized that marriage and family should be a personal choice. Not a goal or a means of "legacy".
thank you so much for this video, currently having a quarter life crisis and this helped me a lot. I don’t even have social media because I can’t see the “highlights” everyone posts. some days I feel great and ready to take on the world but others I feel like im not doing enough or not doing the right thing at the right time. happy to know im not the only one in their 20’s that’s felt lost/uncertain about life
As a 31 year old who wasted my twenties... it's not the end. I spent my 20s in a deep depression over something that happened when I was a teenager. I stopped having sex and dating at 24 and stayed home most nights. I entered my 30s (the period of time where society tells women that they should settling down and having babies) being extremely introverted and insecure. I'm changing things.
Your timeline is your own and you shouldn't compare it to anyone else's. Maybe you didn't love your 20s; me either. But there's always your thirties. Because at some point - if we're lucky- we'll be 70, looking back thinking of all that time we still had before we actually got old.
Facts. I'm 29 and I completely agree 💯
What was the reason for not having sex?
@@doniyorakramov706 personal choice due to a bad experience.
@@TheeTreyForbes Sorry for that
Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this. "Your timeline is your own and don't compare it to anyone else's". Yes, yes, YES! This is so important. Before Covid started I had turned 20 a couple months ago and I've just turned 24 and I feel like I have nothing to show for it. I've never had a boyfriend, I'm still overweight though I've lost a significant amount of it I've hit a plateau for about 2 years, and it's really hard to find a secure job that pays decent. I have a habit of going on Facebook and seeing old friends and comparing my life to theirs and always being unsatisfied with my life and being jealous of theirs. I know I shouldn't do it, that social media is usually a highlight reel of someone's life, but sometimes it can be hard. I literally did absolutely nothing this year. I had no job, I had no friends, didn't lose any weight. I refuse for this year to be the same. I have many goals this year that I know I'm going to hit. Thank you for your comment, it really spoke to me. I wish the best for you and your goals! I hope you have an amazing 2023!
What a great video. Im 29 going on 30. As a guy, I think the pressure during your 20's is a little different from a girl. But! I work in financial planning and meet clients aged 60-80 all day long and their stories and experiences are eye opening! If you think life just falls into place and youll have all the answers in your 20's or by 30, you're wrong. I meet wealthy people all day long who are still "searching" for themselves. "Life is about the journey, not the destination". These clients of mine have taught me its great to be critical of yourself and strive to be better. But life if always filled with twists and turns and just when you think you've cracked the code, something will change. They taught me money isn't everything, its important but not everything. They taught me relationships are about 'giving' not receiving. They taught me life is short and before you know it, you'll be at the finish line, in your 60's or 70's looking back. So don't look back with regret.
30s is primetime for most men. 20s is primetime for women, especially early 20s
@@Dap740 no disrespect to you, but its a factual matter that men strive to get better in their 30s. Its scientific and history never lies. Theres some women who took care of themselves and still look good reaching mid 30s or 40s but you just cant beat science. unless theres some young boy freak whos into old grandmas tho lol
@@Dap740 maybe im off topic but i find that to be true for the most part since if you wanna be systematic and brutally honest with this topic then yeah looks does play an important role in any women's role in life, and like i mentioned earlier that in their early 20s is your time to shine basically in todays standard, (getting out there and doing some stuff). after the age of 25 then you have to depend on your skills basically if you have one. as for men, its a complex process since typically in our 20s we have to work hard and not getting things so easily by trust fund dependency or latching on to another person's success to be more relevant or to be "independent" so to speak by moving away with a partner just to get away from being put in their place by their parents
What experience and jobs does one have to do to get into financial planning ?
i’m 20 - honestly i want my 20’s to be all about having fun, fulfilling my childhood dreams, but also working hard to make steady money. i just want a balance really, and at the right pace, not rushing everything just because all my peers are. i don’t want to let go of my hobbies either just cause i’m “getting older.” i’ll still dress up for halloween and have fun. i don’t force myself to grow, i let my inner child continue to bloom. i’ve saved up some money and i’m starting short - term ice skating lessons soon c:
Thank you Akta for being so sincere and so open in sharing your thoughts and experiences while you were in your 20s. Having gone through some unpleasant episodes of anxiety and depression, looking back I wish someone would have taught me these lessons earlier.
Despite of what I have (a degree from a top tier university, a job in big consulting firm, a loving boyfriend whom I fell in love with at first sight, a look/physique that most around me consider attractive), I spent the majority of my early 20s feeling lost and anxious. I desperately wanted to find a "right answer" for who I needed to be. While I seem to have everything sorted out from the outside, I was having daily struggles with my social life. I felt I wasn't good enough to make or to keep friends because I didn't own a $2M home to invite them over. I felt embarrassed to introduce my boyfriend to my friends because most of them thought I should be with someone "more mature and more successful". But who says you must own a big house in order to invite people over? And who are those friends to judge your choice of partner? I think a lot of these fears and anxieties came from observing the gaps and discrepancies between who I was at the time and what I believed to be the "right way of living". It took me 7 years to realize that there is no single "right answer" and there is no rush in getting to the the "right answer". Just embrace what life has to offer and be patient.
Thank you again Akta for creating these amazing video contents!!
You made me feel a lot better.
I'm 21 and constantly pressured with the future and everything in my life, but I know that ur 20's is ur experimental years
Yes!! Don’t feel pressure, there’s no timeline you have to do things by!
@@Akta All that left to matter is: TO GET YOUR SPIRIT SAVED.
Your teens should be your experimental years, but also the years you get an expert at a skill so you are done and ready to live life by the time you are 18-20 years old.
Instead our teens are wasted in schools and we come out useless and then we go to university to further waste 4-8 years...
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There is no such thing as experimental years. Time lost is time that can never be regained. And there are limited time tables for certain possibilities such as kids, decent retirements, etc. Before you go off listing exception via anecdotes or tech that acts crutches- know this- exceptions don't make the rules and technology that can change up time tables are often exceedingly expensive or come or exact some other heavy costs. This the rules that there is no such thing is experimental or throwaway years and that there are limited time frames applies. You will do well to watch Dr Meg Jays TedTalj of 30s are not the new 20s.
Your 30s will be amazing! I was pretty unsettled in my 20s. I worked a few office jobs after uni and did lots of travelling but in my 30s, I learned to be more selective about who I let into my life and built off of the lessons I learned in my 20s. I feel like I cried a lot in my 20s over stupid little things that don't matter. You learn to let go of a lot and start to have more of a quiet confidence you carry into the rest of your life. Great things can happen in your 40s, 50s, etc. and you'll have the wisdom and experience to recognize them. There are so many good things to look forward to!
I think that quiet confidence is something I’ve definitely started building in my late 20s and that’s what I’m most excited to carry into my 30s. Thank you so much for watching :)
@@Akta A lot of worries, we shall have as we are part of this wicked, evil - problematic world,
BUT, GOD says to us: WORRIE NOT:
Luke 12:22 | View whole chapter | See verse in context And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Matthew 6:31 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? True, to have a life full of FREEDOM, rather then life full of worries, a soul, must CALL UPON THE NAME OF THE LORD - COME TO REPENTANCE - BORN AGAIN - seeking out the truth/CHRIST/ missing knowledge.
Keep the 10 commandments,
Preach the good news to others,
expose all that is evil and wrong.
Then GOD shall give us: John 14:27 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 2 Thessalonians 3:16 | View whole chapter | See verse in context Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all.
“But I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in thy salvation.” Psalms 13:5 (KJV)
GOD ask us a simple question: ARE WE WILLING TO TRUST HIM? - as HE was willing to DIE FOR OUR SINS.
And as ye be sober and alert , you then shall notice, the signs of the soon, very soon to start, the trib. period.
As i wisit the supermarket today, i notice that one lady paid with her PHONE, no paper money, no coins, no cards, A PHONE. -That is clear sign of the TRIB. PERIOD, and how life in that period shall be: Only for souls, who took the MOTB, only to them, the supermarkets shall be opened, people like me, who shall reject satan and his MOTB and who are founded not worthy to LEAVE EARTH IN RAPTURE, for us, all supermarkets shall be closed, for only with the MOTB, buying and selling is still available.
So? are ye saved? - are ye sober and alert? - are ye watching and seeking the signs? or are ye unsaved? - ignorant? - a fool who rather perish into torment, then have boldness to choose life?
Are ye part of this wicked world and therefore being the same evil? Or are ye chosen by GOD out from this world and therefore being hated by the world for it?
TRUE BELIEVERS shall all go BEFORE the trib. period, otherwise, there be no escaping from horror that this world were never before nor will see again. WE SHALL EXCAPE - THEREFORE WE SHALL GO BEFORE not after.
STUDY YE ALL THE BIBLE, don´t just read it nor let someone else share their opinions abut it, - STUDY THE BIBLE INDIVIDUALLY.
I hadn't planned to make most of my 20's focused on career building, but anxiety about not being able to comfortably support myself forced me in that direction. I'm glad that I followed that direction though, because my 30's started off much more comfortable than my 20's. But since I didn't make much time for socializing in my twenties, I'm finding myself really valuing that opportunity now that I'm older. Especially since I can afford to do more!
I am truly grateful to have found this! I have been personally struggling with the fact that I feel so lost in my life. I have put an incredible amounts of pressure on myself to live life in the "right way" and sometimes I reflect and think, what it is it all for! I turned 23 in October and I am really committed to just living MY life and finding a balance between progress and fun. You have inspired me. Happy New Year. I hope this year brings you peace and joy!
Im currently 25 and i feel soo lost. My life also didn’t go as I thought it would
I have a recent video on feeling lost, maybe that will help with how you’re feeling :) I don’t think life will ever go to plan but that’s ok :)
I'm in the same place. Just turned 25 and recognising life is moving too fast. I also changed uni courses a few weeks ago after losing my original passion for youthwork. Also lost and struggling with motivation and inspiration for what's ahead as the future looks bleak now that anxiety and possible depression have suddenly decided to make themselves at home in my life (in the last few months) life feels so much more difficult but its good to know that this is a phase within our teen years and we'll move past this 💪 with time and trial and error 🙃
All things on earth - money, wealth, fame, realtionships, people our bodies are temporary and will fade away one day. Jesus Christ is eternal and He can save our wretched hearts, fulfill us with His Holy Spirit and save us from sin.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
@@naomip388 I soon have my masters degree at a top uni, I own an apartment (thanks to partially to my great parents) and I have economic stability. Despite this I feel exactly the same, everything feels meaningless aynway, i don't feel satisfaction to anything anymore, it's all just dull.
@@jesusisking3814 well if all else fails jesus will save me. but first i need to make it to at least my 75. birthday.
I’m 29, I’ve been married for six years and have three children that I stay home with and homeschool. I feel like my 20s were spent doing very grown up things but I don’t have any regrets. I will spend my 50s partying lol
Its because she didn’t have time to “explore” around
Honestly I am 25 now, and I have only achieved what I could. Recently I had to quit my job because they didn't appreciate my efforts, this was I thought a dream job, where I could be in control of things, but they turned on me. Afterwards I started learning Mandarin Chinese, but I wasn't happy so I am now going to reduce it. I am struggling to know what makes me happy and sadly I am envious of a lot of you. I feel like the only way I will be happy is to look at my core values and interests...
Bo ho..... You have a lot more than most. -
This is a life realization and it starts in your 20s.
I met many people in their 20s who also seemed disillusioned.
It's like humans are told what life is or what it should be (TV shows, films and now social media) Up util your 20s you are grouped into groups... year groups and your generation seems a big group moving in the same direction with the same expectations. It seems that everyone is doignthe same thing.
I remember people not really wanting or enjoying going out to drink and dance, but they did it anyway as it seemed to be expected in that age group and that is 'how you meet people'.
The only people who I met who were 'happy' were happy because they were given money by their parents and support. Their life was paid for - they worked but it was more like 'independence money' - to buy clothes, shop, socialize - while the rent and study books were paid for by their parents. Most people in their 20s discover that they can't do what is expected of them due to money and that a social life isn't an episode of 'Friends' as most house shares do end up the same as yours, with people not speaking to each other. The biggest lesson in my 20s was, that most people are lying when they present a social, professional and love success - Your 20s is when you feel like you are not being what you are supposed to be doing or being.
In your 20s you think people care about your success and take notice and value you if you are cool, interesting and popular - YOu think it's important to be liked and likable...... In your 40s you realize that all people care about is your failures, and judge you on them - And failure is seen as not having enough money - You don't even have to be a good person... Popularity is only by what you have, not by who you are - as who you are is what you have done and if you do not have a car, an apártment, cash, nice clothes, all of those things.... no one cares about you. Being popular isn't about being funny, having interesting stories, being intelligent or kind... Its just about what you have. It's very sad. In your 40s you realized what you should have known in your 20s = People don't care about you, so do your own thing for yourself.
Like most youtubers... being a 'victim' sells and also having a great life style sells, so.... here it is... A highly qualified, beautiful woman in a great apatment complaining about how she suffered.... = PERFECT upload.
I very much agree
I loved my 20s!! I took 2 years off, partied, had fun, then studied and worked in my chosen field. I met my husband when he was 21 and he was never interested in partying or anything but he still developed a lot of self growth. Everyone’s journey is different and just because you take different trajectories, does not mean that you don’t face the same fundamental issues. We’re all human, we all do. It’s how you handle them that defines how much you enjoy each decade. Set boundaries, learn about your finances, take calculated risks, and you’ll watch yourself enjoying life. Moderate and balance is key! You don’t need to have perfect grades to graduate uni. You don’t need to “diet” or exercise every single day to lose weight. Nothing is black/white. Society has turned us into perfectionists when life really isn’t that complicated - we tend to make it so.
This is great advice, thank you for sharing 🙌🏼
How many guys did you have sex with before you met your husband?
“You don’t have to diet and excersise everyday to loose weight” - words to live by
👏👏
All false and ALL FAKE, don’t listen to her !
The only thing she did right was finding a husband when he was 21…… THAT’S IT !!! That’s what is making it sound perfect and good . Nothing else People and @akta.
Everything else you mentioned is very normal natural standard, not thing, nothing at all special… no relevance at all, the only thing different is she found a guy, and that’s what we all are looking for, a partner, if possible in his early age, another if possible, good looking one (so that you can show him her to the society and quality as a reward, which everybody wants and envy, that’s what you want, that’s the normal human problem, but that is OK and fine to admit and accept it, let’s not deny it or it’s not lie about it). So this is the only thing what she has got, Rest everything else is a very normal story
Akta, your channel is so criminally underrated! The quality of your videos are so good, please keep that spirit! :)
Thank you so so much Daniel, this means a lot and is so encouraging 😊🤗
True!!!!
Literally.... What is UA-cam doing!
Why criminally tho
Teens and young adults have a mentality to want to rush and become adults as fast as possible, only to get there and want to go back.
Take your time and do what makes you happy.
I hate or jealous about how says they "wasted" their lives by parties, in relationship and enjoying. I wasted doing NOTHING, depressed, lonely and dealing with mental issues trying to make friends... Never been in any relationship.
same. i wish i wasted my 20`s doing stupid and dumb shit with my friends
I'll be turning 30 in December and I think the 20s are meant to be a sort of gym at life. Finding out who you are, making and changing decisions, see what you are really good at just by trying different things. Meet people, have goals, grow spiritually, get to know yourself. I lost three years due to illnesses and mental health issues 19-22 and at 23 I felt like a failure but was commited to change my life and face my fears. And I did. Almost three degrees now (philosophy and acting), 5 years of piano, 6 languages, stable emotions and sense of self, more confident, even returned to and then grew into my faith a lot. Left a toxic relatioship and focused on myself so now I feel like I can spend my 30s giving to other. Traveled not much but there's time for that. I think that growing inside is the most important goal: suffering and doing stuff without growth is really sad.
hi im 21 right now, and the last 3 years felt the same way to me as they did to you back then. And reading this makes me so happy.. its sooo inspirational to see how much you've achieved!!. Im learning to accept the past too and let go of toxic things that have happened, im definitely in a better mind space now. I will be reminded that I can achieve my dreams despite what happened . :) Thank you soooo much for sharing!!! :) you made my day
@@sundes2807 so happy to hear that! You can write me whenever if you need to talk a bit ☺️ you made my day with this comment!
Were you in college after learning all those languages? How was that? I know ideally you learn a language before 10yrs or so
@@xidaq4998 you learn a language if you study and immerse yourself as much as possible! I started learning them at school but I learned much more and better by myself: grammar book, watching movies with subs, reading books and writing letters. Same with the piano. Just be consistent! I suggest Interpals for language exchange (:
@@padmeasmr Thanks for all the greats tips feeling more motivated to learn new languages!
I HATED my 20s. I turn 31 next week and my 30s have been the best so far. Still a lot of uncertainty but I think that’s the human experience not necessarily an age thing. No one has it figured out. We all just pretend we do. Sending so much love!! You are lovely. Goodluck! ❤❤❤
Agreed it’s definitely part of the human experience!! Thank you so much for your lovely wishes 🥰
At the end of the day, your 20s is just a fraction of your life. Its dope you figured out that what matters is how you live not how you lived
grateful for this perspective, im turning 23 next month and for the last year i feel like i've been having an ongoing crisis...just a girl praying that everything will work out
Turned 30 a few months ago and I am enjoying it more than my 20s. I am well assured within myself and reached a new level of self!
30s sound so much better to me now!
I feel similarly. By 25, I felt the need to have a career, family, place to myself, etc. Tons of things I expected out of myself did not become a reality and I became bitter with myself because of that. Most of my disappointment came from the career aspect, because that is the gateway for a few other things I wanted to have my by mid twenties. Got a degree in a field I wasn't excited about because I went straight to college after highschool and I stuck to it...only to be depressed about the career options I had in front of me because I felt too pressured or scared to change majors. I think the best thing I did that changed my perspective and made me a lot happier was that I forgave myself for my shortcomings. To others that are in their twenties and "don't have it figured out" quite yet...IT'S OKAY :) . Let your twenties be a time of trial and error. Figure out what makes you tick and what you really love and set yourself up for success and happiness at 30+. Do things that not only make you successful, but fulfilled as well. Forgive yourself for not being where you want to be and just keep your head up and keep working at it. I'm excited for my 30s because of this. I didn't have it figured out, nor was I happy from the ages of 18-23. That being said, I switched to a much more enjoyable job at the cost of a massive salary cut, went back to school for a degree that I actually want lol, and I'm looking forward to the next 1 or 2 years and see where life takes me. Forgiving my mistakes and moving forward in a direction I enjoy is all I need to feel much happier and fulfilled.
Yeah, I mean. International travel, university, it sounds it was perfectly balanced and nothing to regret.
I turned 30 December, last year and i felt the societal pressure on my shoulders of having achieved a certain set of things by this age. But honestly i feel like my journey has just begun. I am learning so many new things everyday, its like I'm a completely new person, accomplishing so much every single day and feel like a total badass doing it. Love your message!!
Great tips Akta. As a 32 year old I regret not taking more calculated risks in my early 20's. But I also probably wouldn't change a thing either as my choices have made me the person I am today. Also great thumbnail, editing, and story telling as always, I really enjoyed this one!
That’s exactly it, our choices led us here which is where we’re meant to be :) I’m so glad you enjoyed this Mark, thank you so much 🤗🤗
People are in thier 40s and 50s living on Asian and African minimum wage- thats sometimes less than two dollars a day of wages mind you. Stop complaining about how you’re living because a lot of people would literally kill to have a life like yours.
My 20s were spent suffering tremendously with my mental health in addition to owning a home and having children with a narcissistic man that made me lose everything in the end (except my kids ❤️). I'm turning 29 tomorrow and definitely feel that I lost all of my 20s in struggles. It's a sad thought, but at least I'm going out of my 20s in a muuuch better mental state than I entered them. That thought is a consolation. Despite missing out on so much, I grew so much as a person. I'll never get that lost time back. I won't have cool stories to tell from when I was younger. But I've built myself up to be a much better person for the rest of my life and, God willing, I still have plenty of more years to enjoy. So now I look forward to making the best out of my last year of my 20s, and having an amazing time in my 30s and beyond.
My life is also like this, don't worry. a warm hug from me.
Really love this. Just turned 25 and (nail bitingly) quit my job to focus on my (horrendous) health and pursue what I really want to in media. It's hard not to feel like I'm nearly 30 and wasted the first half of my 20s, but I know deep down it really is what needs to happen and I can't let others who haven't shared my formative experiences determine what is right for me.
I’m 29. I’m still in university. I want to join sports, but it’s so hard being so much older than everyone else. I just want to be free & live without caring about age. If I knew how much this would mess with my head, I would’ve gone much earlier if I could have. 😞
what kinda of sport ? ever thought about trying to become a fitness coach or Yoga?
Working and having fun as well is hard for a person with Anxiety problems.
Perhaps even more of a reason to strive for balance
Regret is an emotion that tells you how to correct what you felt was wrong before. It is a very key emotion for our development as is every other emotion you experience in life. Your life is specific to you no one else will ever live it. You are special our love❤️ i love yall take life serious and enjoy it
I wasted my 20s by not committing to a fulfilling relationship. Being a player during your best years is miserable.
It's a season of discovery of who you are and the relationships you want. If you learned about yourself and relationships you did what you were meant to do. Now take those lessons to make your 30's awesome.
I just stumbled upon this video and tbh im happy i did. I just turned 20 just 2 months ago and ive been feeling kinda lost in life, like almost everyone around my age is ahead of me with there careers, jobs , and social life. But i guess with all that said best thing i can do right now is what i enjoy doing in life and pursue it…………Thankx Akta
Hey Troy!! Thanks so much for checking out this video and don’t worry about feeling lost, one of my favourite quotes is “it’s better to be lost than in a place you don’t want to be”- have fun figuring it all out :) x
Wow I'm turning 29 in 4 days and this couldn't have been recommended at a better time. The end really hit home
I’m so glad! Happy birthday Yakeen 🤗🎉
@@Akta oh thank you sweetheart 😘 I'm so surprised you remembered to say happy birthday in four days that means so much 🫂💚💙💜 you are so kind.
@@yakeenjafar7151 🤗🤗
Wow this makes me feel like I totally didn’t piss away my 20’s. I’ve learned a lot ! About friends, love, work, how to deal with people leaving your life how to deal with shit bosses . Now I’m ready to go back to school to find myself at 27 lol. Thank you for this video
A lot of what you said in this video resonated with me. On the outside my 20's may have appeared "wasted" but I learned an enormous amount about myself and people and overcame mental illness. Now I think I know myself pretty well to know what I want to do and where and should be heading and how I should spend the rest of my life. Turned 30 in June and I think my 30's might be the best decade of my life yet. I'm really looking forward to them and I hope you feel the same way too :)
I am so happy to hear this and I hope you continue to thrive in your 30s 🤗🤗 I definitely feel the same :)
@@Akta We'll thrive together. And a decade later when you hit 40 you can make another video about your 30's and I'll meet you there to discuss what we've accomplished and learned.
Some of us have those hurdles we didn’t ask for like you and I both mantle illness but our 39s can be when we take our life back and start to live it!
As someone who is documenting their 20s I really found your tips insightful, thanks for sharing!
I’m so glad! ☺️☺️
My older brother took care of me after my father passed away,he was married at 21,divorced at 29,his second wife died of cancer, when he was 33,and he started again from rock bottom ... This suumer,he turned 37 and myself 21,he called me and said "I took care of you as long as i could,and i will protect you till i die,but i want you to not rush anything,to live your life and don't stress out over things you can't control,learn from my mistakes,and don't repeat them",and something that moment changed in me.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Life doesn’t need to be perfect to be perfect y’all.
I recently started going to the gym, and discovered I genuinely enjoy it. It allows me to enjoy myself, and improve myself physically and mentally at the same time. I think if everyone can find something like that in their life, then everyone might just be OK. Good luck to everyone out there. Keep up the grind, but remember to have fun doing it. 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I really appreciated hearing this. I’m 23 and going through so many life changes/facing so many decisions. And it is comforting to hear that not everyone is loving/thriving in their 20s, and also demystifying those societal expectations and clarifying what’s important and what’s real. Thank you.
Thank you so much for watching, it’s so hard making decisions, all you can really do is decide what makes you happy now without worrying too much about what comes next :) z
@@Akta❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m 21 in the Mortgage industry. I am terrified that if I don’t get everything exactly how I want in just a couple of years that it will be too late. This was definitely refreshing and I’ll take much of what you said into strong consideration
Man, the feeling of loneliness as a result of having basically no real friends after leaving college (like nobody you talk to often or hv deep convos or go out with) is so real. At 22 I've never had a bf, done school online and only go out when I order stuff online and need to collect, or when my mom wants me to go with her to the supermarket. Its so depressing at times but since I'm not on social media so much it doesn't bother me a lot. I'm just grateful for my family and the fact that I can work from home and fund my education while making good money with foreign clients. I hope to have a good life at the end of the day!
I am not unhappy about my 20's i am 30
I am in my year 3 of residency in surgery, i have a beautiful car, bought land for real estate, taken care of my parents and siblings. Lost my best friend , heartbroken twice. Above all God has never left my side
This is interesting thanks for sharing for me I will say you don't really need to trouble yourself or considering other people success with yours. God can uplift you at any age right now Am 33, financially free and currently growing a solid retirement plan. It takes a positive and consistency to learn new things, unlearn the old habits ms Important to get a mentor/coach to lead you all the way. It's great to start young too!
You're right sis but it's very hard not to feel worried about your finances at your 20s I'm 40 working on my retirement fund too What do you think is the best target for retirement?
ThNk you for sharing Sandra 🤗 it’s so great that you’re financially free!
A lot of people finds having a couch /financial advisor a luxury
@@gracedaniels6172 personally I think 1m is the goal to overcome inflation and having them in an inv estment p ortfolio is a perfect plan. I'm half way to my goal 😊
@@eiraantoinette6793 yeah. Fees and commissions are factors to look at in search for financial advisers. There’s financial experts out there who do not look at their fees but the impact and intrinsic value they bring along to you no matter how little you want to start. I’m glad I had one guide me start my financial journey
I wasted my 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s. You get used to it after a while. The term "wasted"
is subjective opinion. Rarely do we see the garden we have sown.
Im 19 and i feel i have wasted my teenage years.Im feeling down most of the time these days .I got no friends,no motivation for study.Just have lost interest in everything.I dont know how I'll overcome these and make many friends.I dont want to waste my twenties 😞
I just turned 30 in June, and grieved the end for a couple of weeks. However, it kind of got over it better than I thought. My 20’s were very stressful and depressing, yet very fun and experimental. My main goal for my 30’s is to find my career placement and finally move out.
Wasted my own 20s.
I drank, took drugs, got depressed. Nothing much happened. Haven't had sex in 10 years. I'm 30 now.
No relationship, nothing. Friends aren't friends neither.
In the end I don't really care.
May be not "don't care"
Just totally apathetic and numb
I’m sorry to hear how tough your 20s have been, I hope your 30s bring you much more joy and happiness
I'm 25 and trying to make the most of my time. The first few years of my 20s were absolutely nothing but pain. I think thinking about stacking my goals has helped a lot. If I can do something that fulfills multiple goals at once I feel like I'm sacrificing less when I make the decision to walk down that path
Girl you did not waste your 20s at all. Maybe you feel like something is missing but the fact that you did good at school, travelled internationally, literally securing employment and getting rewarded for those years of working hard in university, that is a dream to some of us. We should learn to appreciate our lives and avoid complaining about everything. All you can do is to just fill the void while expressing gratitude.
Really needed this video👍 Im 25 and I feel like I have no direction and no idea who I am and what I am supposed to. I hate it, but it feels better knowing I am not the only one feeling that way
I’m so glad this helped 🙏
Wow I really needed this because everything you talked about I am currently going through. I'm about to be 25 and I have spent the last 2 years going through what I feel like is a quarter life crisis. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone!
i liked the sentiments in the video but the title is beyond misleading, there are women in their 40's that never achieved what you did by now in your 20's. It's like watching a "I lost most of my hair" video while the chick clearly has more hair the the panicked alopecia viewer looking for answers on yt....
You had a better time in your 20s than me by the sounds of it. Mine was me stuck in my room for 10 years with depression. Went on 3 holidays on my own in those 10 years. 30 got my first flat and weeks later pandemic happened. Didn't get to start new life. Still in my flat depressed. Barely ever know what the weather is like.
And in debt after covid. Homelessness likely the next step. Just like my father
I really hope you’re able to turn things around 🙏 sending love and light
I’m sorry youre in this situation. Honestly, you are your best friend in this situation. Try to do something small each and everyday. As sad as it is, no one is coming to save you. But, that is also the beauty of it too. You CAN save yourself. You may have lost that time; however, you can change that. Go for a walk. Start tracking your finances. Maybe sign up for the gym. Just go do it. It might seem like the hardest thing rn, but you’ll be so grateful you took that tiny step
I really feel sorry for you
I loved the video, especially the conclusion. I'm 19, almost 20 so I'm only at the very beginning of my 20 th. I aslo feel that there is a lot if pressure around age. There is a quote that I like very much " Life is a game, but a game to take with serious ". It has a lot of meaning to me, in the way that in one hand you need to reflect before you act and think about consequences but on the other hand, you also only need to breath and have fun. We won't always be alive so lets enjoy our own paths, enven if it's messy, it holds it own kind of beauty ❤
Thanks so much I’m glad you enjoyed it ❤️ that’s a great mindset to have especially as you’re soon to enter your 20s :)
I totally feel you. The problem, in my experience, is that I didn't find the right friendship group for me
I think I found the perfect balance between socializing and career. Grateful for that, most of my life has been full of bad luck and bad choices.
Thanks for watching this video ❤️ I definitely recommend watching the last chapter before commenting as I don't want to mislead people with the title! :) I'm grateful for my 20s and I know my privileges - I think anyone can look back and reflect on milestones, and I just hope what I've learnt from reflecting on my 20s can help you with yours (or any other decade in your life)! :)
What have you learnt about your 20s? 💭
Do you think a lazy person can become hard working? What advice would you give them? And what career advice would you give your future children? xxx
@@lauradejenno461 I think we're all capable change if we really want something :) I don't think lazy people are even lazy, I think for the most part, they just don't know what they really want, so I'd tell them to find the things that make them feel less lazy because when you find things that light you up, you want to go after that light :) I'm not sure, I would probably try to take the pressure off them to figure out a definitive career plan tbh - parenting is hard though, so I really won't know until I'm there God willing 😅
I have learned that my 20s feel like a condensed version of what being 18 should have been like or what I kind I wish being 18 could been for me. And interestingly for me it's my 30s where I feel like I am learning to discover myself who I am and being confident with who I am.
I am 28 now. And I somehow felt like I missed out on things. And I have. Mainly due to mental illness. But after therapy... It's hard to let go of all the years and the youth that will never come back. It's hard realizing how much time and opportunities have come and go. But I have learned it is never too late to start prioritizing what is most important to you. It is never too late to act towards the life you really want. I have also learned acceptance and patience. Knowing that things take a little longer for me and will be a bit harder for a while until I get my groove on.
Early 20s was a mess, mid 20s has been a learning experience, late 20s thing seem to be refining into who I really am. It's been a rough time but it's been a fairly good time. I am thankful.
I also thought my 20s would be like a series of Friends and with how much social media presence has grown in my 20s - it also looked as though that was the life everyone was living. Every month there's a proposal, wedding, pregnancy announcement or new flat/house purchase posted on my Instagram feed. I think having endured that was actually the best thing. I turned 30 and realised I'm in a very happy and healthy place in my life despite the pace of the world around me. I hope you enjoy your last year in your 20's - I think you'll be surprised by how much it can reverse some of the things in your 20s - 29 is a special age! I've always envied women in their 30s - they always seem to have it together! Have a great birthday next week xx
Thanks Ravika!! I agree, I look at women in their 30s and they seem to have so much confidence! I’m glad you’re in a happy place in your life :) xxxx
My advice for someone in their twenties is to prioritise yourself over everything else. Let work get in the way of my social life way too much.
I wasted my 20's 30's and 40's...trust me there's still hope.
I am nearly 30, myself at the time of posting this comment. I feel as though I have wasted my 20s. No job because of my learning disability along with not driving and no friends, either. I thought this title basically sums up my life. Watching this video was reassuring. I wish all the best with your life and much success for you.
Thank you so much wishing you all the best too 🙏🙏
what learning disability do you have if you don’t mind me asking
I do not understand simple instructions and I ask too many questions. I had forgotten to include my depression and anxiety as well.
@@YellowJeff94 ADHD?
I'm almost 24. I took the unconventional route after highschool and went to a community college. After just one year, I realized that college wasn't for me and I wanted to take a shot at acting. But back then I was very immature and depressed, so I sat around and didn't work for a while and felt sorry for myself. I was pretty lazy and whiny.
Eventually I got a warehouse job and that absolutely killed my soul because it was so mundane. So I put in my two weeks and took an acting class. It was so fun. I also got a job at a department store. The pandemic happened the following year so I spent a lot of my time isolated with my thoughts. I struggled with self worth issues in relationships, so I hardly dated anyone because I was afraid of being left.
The following year I auditioned for several local shows and got a lead in all of them, and the people around me realized that I have immense talent and I should pursue acting. I met so many wonderful people from this, and while I won't say many are close friends, it did get me out of my shell more.
I recently started therapy for my self worth issues around relationships. I highly recommend therapy for people that struggle. I made so many improvements with my life but that one area always gave me anxiety and fear so I finally sucked it up and took therapy.
By next year I hope to move off to somewhere with more opportunities.
I sometimes get worried that I will end up wasting my youth, or that I am not doing enough or having enough experiences. I don't have much of a social life unless I am doing a show. Some people my age are married yet I have hardly dated in my life due to wanting to fix my mental health. Some people have their own home but I still live with my parents so I can save more and move off. Some people party all the time but I have barely ever done that even though I would like to more.
I do have some positives to look at. I am in shape, I know what I want to do with my life to some degree, and I am not in student loan debt.
Especially with me being an actor, I am not "playing it safe" or conventionally so to speak, and sometimes I worry that I could be over 30 and back where I started. But I feel like that is a risk that is worth it because it truly satisfies my soul. My motivation also lies in proving those who ever doubted me wrong.
I think in our twenties, we can be very perfectionistic about ourselves. Therapy is helping me with that, but I constantly think about how I want my life to eventually look like vs how it is right now. I have ambition and idealism, but sometimes that can make you forget what is important.
In my twenties I have learned a lot so far. I have learned what I want to do (at least I think so). I have learned how to cook. I have gotten more muscular and fit and I have built the habit of exercising everyday.
I unlearned a lot of things that were outright false from my teen years. I realized how absolutely stupid I was back then. I will probably think that way about my current self ten years from now lol, but at least now I admit that I know absolutely nothing about life.
Some people I have talked to in their late twenties say it gets better halfway through. Still, they are in relationships, live independently, have somewhat more stable careers, etc. It's scary to me that I could be falling behind or wasting my life. Or perhaps this is just where I am right now.
You have suberp video quality by the way. I'm certain that the more videos you make the more subscribers you will gain!
Thank you so much Isaac for sharing your story and insights! I’m so glad you went into acting, I love what you said about it satisfying your soul!! I feel like that’s exactly how I feel with making these videos!! I think your comment really demonstrates how everyone does things at their own pace whether it’s work, relationships or even our own confidence. It’s really nice to see that you’re so self-aware and I think that’s the best skill to have as we navigate our twenties 🙏
I turned 30 this year and my birthday was the most depressing and sad i had ever felt in my life. Had a full nervous breakdown that day and had one again recently. I remember having a mid life crisis at 25 because i hadn't achieved anything in life. I lost my 20s to a bad addiction, never perused my music career and didn't get married in my 20s.
Its been haunting me ever since.
I was hustling during 20's and neglected everything else. from partying to growing a bigger network of friends and now that I am in my 30"s, i regret. it is all about balance and I was too extreme. I don't know what to do to fix my 30's
Personally, I feel like I wasted my 20s. I feel like I'll be making up for my 20s through my 30s. I know everyday is a new opportunity to start a new and make something of myself. Still working on myself and improving on a career path.
That sounds super positive James 🙏
How special this is. Wow such an amazing and positive outlook and that part at the end. Just beautiful. I’m so glad you shared this so honestly and shared your lessons. I’m gonna be 19 by the end of this year and entering my 20s soon so this was very good to hear!
Thank you so much Mia 🤗🤗