Just like the guy, I had a boyfriend who was like that. I told him in the beginning of our relationship no sex allowed. I was with him for three years. He hated the fact that I wouldn’t give him sex without us being married. He didn’t understand Christianity since he was a Catholic. So, he broke up with me over the phone. I was hurt but at the same time I was glad because in the end, I was able to still keep my virginity. I’m glad to still have it at almost 42 years old. Can you believe that? I guess sex can be beautiful but it’s really beautiful when you are married on that special night.
@@Tyborz Friend, I don’t mean to disagree with you. I think that I could still lose my place in Heaven if I don’t watch what I do just because I am a Christian.
Well said.It is worth the wait I wish I never even kissed my then fiance on the mouth.That alone was enough to arouse us yet we managed to still restrain from sexual contact until our honeymoon God willing.I wld advise every Christian dating couple, don't go alone to each others houses and no kissing on the mouth.If your partner really loves you they will respect that.x
I wish I hadn't that soul tie with this guy. I was so in love. Please, Lord, remove this soul tie from us in the name of Jesus. We are not married. Thanks, Jesus, that you help me ❤
@@mattr.1887legal marriage means nothing in a moral sense. You can be living with your girlfriend or boyfriend and you are considered legally married by the government for tax purposes.
Someone claiming the name of Christ while knowingly encouraging fornication is a legitimate reason to be concerned about the state of that person's soul. Not because those sins are too sinful to be covered by Christ's atonement (they aren't), but because conscious rebellion against/disregard of the clear biblical teaching against sexual immorality is enough to call into question whether someone really has put faith in Christ and been regenerated by the Spirit. It could be that they are saved and just an immature believer, but it could also be that they are not even saved. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the *sexually immoral*, nor idolaters, nor *adulterers* ... will inherit the kingdom of God.
I agree. The way pastor John answered the question was point blank” you could risk going to hell”. Personally would have just answered with say that the person should evaluate their relationship with God( really saved)
Why is sex before marriage unholy? Me and my boyfriend have been together for years, and due to society (college, financial income, etc.) we cant get married at the time. But, we share in the deepest form of love and greatly benefit from it. Why is our deepest love unholy?
This is because God ordains it for marriage, where it will be completely suited for it. The deepest love should be for the greatest connection two people can ever make, which is representative of Christ. It is all beautiful and is a gift from God, so let us glorify God through it
What this comes down to has to do with knowing the law, God's law specifically, the bible says those that don't know the law are under a curse, it's no wonder the people that believe they can't have sex before they get married, that's NOT in the law, but thinking it is makes one's life truly more difficult , for some even a major mistake, read my comments below to keep from falling into this trap that's being set for you, it might help
My question would be, why let the compelling force that's driving you to get married to be what gets you married in the first place, this is got to be the most ridiculous thing to believe, to get married only to justify having sex and getting married is the only way to do it, BIG mistake for the majority, only to find out later that what they done can't be undone, having two people live together that hate each other or are just unhappy in their marriage, it's a damn if you do and damned if you don't situation, what your NOT being told is what happens when the LOVE grows cold and it DOES with most, then disaster comes when the two are irresponsible for their actions, the bible is clearly against this which is why being betrothed eliminated that possibility for most, it's too apparent from the Song of Solomon these two are NOT married and DON'T live with each other and they are all over each other, people that don't understand the purpose of being betrothed are to blame for this, a lack of knowledge, if betrothed, there was a way out, if married, there's NO way out, according to Jesus, just people with their excuses making the law have no effect or being useless, and fornication is Not something the married commit, it's what the unmarried or betrothed person commits, which is cheating on the person you intend on marrying, if you were married, you didn't need a divorce, that person was as good as dead by their law, the apostles didn't deal with adultery because at that time every country knew what adultery was and had laws concerning it, what a country can't do is make a law that can control the sex lives of people that are not married, it could not be enforced, which is why STD'S are so dangerous, back then, one would have more than likely killed you, having no laws to protect someone from another person giving you a STD is the problem and if your looking to nature how these diseases spread, look no further beyond the unfaithful or possibly needles spreading it, there is NO judgement on the faithful only the unfaithful, the disease doesn't just appear from out of nowhere
1. Jesus did not condemn the Samaritan woman who had been with five men 2. Jesus did not condemn the prostitute ... 3. We are told that all sins can be forgiven - except for condemning the Holy Spirit Study the Bible more - instead of climbing up on your high horse and condemning people who Jesus did not condemn.
Yes, sins are forgiven but should we continue sinning after coming to Christ and having the truth? By no means, we are called to be Holy like God is Holy Deliberately sinning after coming to receiving the truth of salvation is taking advantage of God’s grace
@@josuereyes5554 Since my comment says no such thing, perhaps you are throwing your insanity around - while up there on your very wobbly pedestal - pretending to be superior.
Lets try this again, the bible doesn't call it a sin, men call it sin, the bible clearly doesn't condemn it, what the bible does condemn about sexual relations is easily found in the law of Moses and no where in his law are two adults having sex with each other that's not man on man or incest or adultery or rape, maybe some others but never a single male adult and a single female adult, stop using the laws that apply to children to judge people that are smarter than yourself, don't fall for this marriage trap either from videos like this, a trap it is and one you cannot get out of unless your partner breaks one of these laws Moses commanded that applied to sexual relations, any other cause and Jesus will not justify you, the bible says marriage is honorable by all, not commanded to all nor is it something that all respect, adulterers certainly don't and the whore doesn't either, just be faithful to whomever your with, it's not till death do you part nor are you making a vow to God that so many break not realizing the bible says, if you make a vow to God and don't do it, He will call it sin in you, I'm just saying, don't get married unless you absolutely have to, what their not telling you is all those feelings you have towards that person you love, don't last, what you make together with that person you love, you will be held responsible for it, also don't rely on the errors the KJV translators made with this word wife, go to the old testament as your source, it's more accurate and better understood, it would also help to get some understanding of Hebrew and Greek if you really want to know the truth
not really following you on this one bro. are you stating that 'fornication' is not on the list of sending people to the fiery throes of hell? but on second read, you start right out saying "the bible clearly doesn't condemn it"....huh, wtf? smh.
@@vegetablehead I tried to comment earlier on my phone to you but for whatever reason my phone and this comment section won't work, it won't let me reply, I wish I could explain it in detail what I'm talking about but would take up too much space, what I can do is tell you what fornication means and why this gospel being preached on sex before marriage being a sin is evil and does not come from God nor the scriptures, it comes from people teaching what seems right to them, not knowing the law, it condemns the innocent or one's that God don't but mind you this or understand this, fornication is just a word being used that sums up all the forbidden sexual sins in the law and the prophets, it's to keep from having to write them all or list them all to the author, in the law it's adultery, incest, rape, man on man sex, animal sex, a married person having sex with another married person or a married woman having sex with a unmarried person, all these laws carried the death penalty, stoning, these laws didn't apply to children, there was different laws concerning children, there were laws that applied to married people that differed from the single man and woman, both being single and not under their fathers rule, their not called husband and wife, their referred to only as man and woman, the law that applied to them was a cleanliness law, that's all, it's no different than any other law that has to do with issues or emissions leaving your body, pee, poop, a runny nose etc, wash yourself because bacteria and germs are spread and thrive on liquids, Lev.15:16-24 will explain it, this woman and this man are NOT married, if she was married, they both would have been stoned, only people that don't know the law preach or teach things contrary to the law, now the prophets and what they saw and condemned, whoredom, pay close attention here, whoredom and prostitution are not the same, one does it for money and the other does it for the pleasure, there's no law against whoredom except in the scriptures from the prophets, whoredom means having more than ONE lover, it doesn't mean having one lover as in the case of an unmarried person, however the unmarried person knows in his heart that cheating is wrong, why? because God has written it on his heart
@@vegetablehead I had to cut my comment short or it wouldn't get posted, there's way more I want to tell you but hopefully you will understand what I said, what I really want to warn you about has to do with all the false teachers putting up video's on you tube that's doing more harm than good, beware of them, what Jesus taught is way different from what their teaching, if you follow them I can assure you, you will become a slave to sin, only not sin that God calls sin but sin that they call sin also trying to recognize who they are is very difficult to a new believer because they all have the appearance of being good and righteous people confessing Jesus as their Lord and doing many good works, what they don't see is in their gospel and what their gospel is doing, what they preach or teach actually turns people against a belief in God, why? because they make it too hard for them to serve God, Jesus said His commandments are NOT hard and there not, if your life is hard because of your beliefs and you are not a murderer, adulterer, rapist or so on, a fornicator in short, but your faithful to your girlfriend, God will NEVER judge you as He would the adulterer and the cheater or whoremonger or fornicator, most people are NOT these evil doers but won't go to church or can't stay in church after hearing this ungodly gospel that condemns them and it's not possible for them to get married at that time or they just want to be sure whom they marry is the right person and getting married to justify having sex is a BIG mistake, why? because once you do it's for life which by the way that's another thing Jesus preached against, making vows to God and not fulfilling them, why? because God said if you vow a vow to Him and don't fulfill it, He will call it SIN in you, I wish I could show you all the evil that comes from this nevertheless, Jesus said don't make any vows to God because you know not what tomorrow will bring, maybe I've said too much, let me know what you don't understand, or do what so many do and block my replies to them, lol, I just say anyway, whatever, the only one I fear is God and the one He has appointed as judge=Jesus
Stopped listening when you coldly insulted this girl without even knowing her, and more importantly, why she might think that way. Whatever you may have had to say instantly lost all value. God bless.
Walphish Bro why are you so offended?because he wasn’t even Saying anything offensive about her. He was clearly stating about her mindset towards sex.And you clearly have a problem with this you need to read your Bible.
If you stopped listening cause your emotions got hurt. So quick. You acted in ignorance. Piper is speaking from scripture. Which is the measurement. If he was dishonest or hold back, then he didn't do a service to the listener. People need to be told their ignorant. N that's not always wrong
The Bible is clear on the topic and her behavior makes it clear she either doesn't know or doesn't care. You're prioritizing your feelings (by being insulted on someone else's behalf 🙄) over God's Word.
logistically and mathematically not everyone can marry. also, not everyone is suited for marriage. yet, god hardwired all for sex, made it intensely pleasurable, and mentally and physically beneficial, not just for married couples, but for all. if one believes god loves all equally, why is god prejudiced against and why does god discriminate against the unmarried? there is absolutely nothing immoral about unmarried people having consensual sex. the term pre marital should not exist, for sex or anything else, for the reasons i cited above. while being married is indeed a life event it does not grant you special access to things unmarried people are restricted from. seriously, if one does not marry are they supposed to die a virgin? get over yourselves. you got married, you did not split the atom
He would have said the exact same thing if it was the other way around though, if instead it was a man trying to convince a woman to sleep with him before they were married.
@@mattr.1887 There's ladies addicted to sex as well, and this applies to ladies as well. I have an ex who wants to have sex with me but I refused. She left me and I'm glad I did resist.
"Holding sex until marriage doesn't make it unnatural, it makes it priceless." YO!
Sex on your wedding night? Sounds like lust. Why not wait even longer?
Just like the guy, I had a boyfriend who was like that. I told him in the beginning of our relationship no sex allowed. I was with him for three years. He hated the fact that I wouldn’t give him sex without us being married. He didn’t understand Christianity since he was a Catholic. So, he broke up with me over the phone. I was hurt but at the same time I was glad because in the end, I was able to still keep my virginity. I’m glad to still have it at almost 42 years old. Can you believe that? I guess sex can be beautiful but it’s really beautiful when you are married on that special night.
Amen Sister! You are courageous and on firm foundation! God bless you with a godly man who loves you as Christ does the Church!
Catherine Priscilla Xalxo thanks but I’m not with him anymore.
@@kayandaeddings4803 That's okay he was not called to be your husband.
Catherine Priscilla Xalxo that was with a lot of my friends and family member said although they actually liked him.
He definitely wasn't the one you didn't miss nothing but an imposter. If he really loves he would've waited
"You don't put fences around weeds. You put them around gardens." 😊 Pastor John telling the truth!
Although I’m a sinner I must say, Pastor John’s advice it’s always the best way to lead a good life in Jesus.
Following Jesus is the best way to lead a good life in Jesus.
@@Daniel.Emmanuel10 ok, I’m not disagreeing. :)
@@Tyborz Friend, I don’t mean to disagree with you. I think that I could still lose my place in Heaven if I don’t watch what I do just because I am a Christian.
We do not make our own laws… only God makes laws for us for our protection. He will bless those that follow His laws.
help us to be pure for you Lord with aid from your spirit may we be filled up!
❤
I'm trying to figure things out with my fiance. Please pray for her salvation. Her name is Shakira.
Well said.It is worth the wait
I wish I never even kissed my then fiance on the mouth.That alone was enough to arouse us yet we managed to still restrain from sexual contact until our honeymoon God willing.I wld advise every Christian dating couple, don't go alone to each others houses and no kissing on the mouth.If your partner really loves you they will respect that.x
What do you think about arranged marriages? This would help prevent sin even further. Can't aroused if you can't even see or be around the person.
0:30 WAY TO GO, PASTOR JOHN. ✊🏻
Great episode. Great advise . Great pastor. Thank you
Sex before marriage is a lie about Jesus Christ our Lord. Wow. That's good.
What if you went further? What if you wanted to wait even after getting married?
I wish I hadn't that soul tie with this guy. I was so in love. Please, Lord, remove this soul tie from us in the name of Jesus. We are not married. Thanks, Jesus, that you help me ❤
Why does sex suddenly stop being a sin the moment you are legally married?
Because God said so. Read as study the Bible on this subject please.
Can you prove that?
@@mattr.1887legal marriage means nothing in a moral sense. You can be living with your girlfriend or boyfriend and you are considered legally married by the government for tax purposes.
The way pastor John has explained this he makes it sound like if you have sex outside of marriage you will go to hell. Someone explain??
Someone claiming the name of Christ while knowingly encouraging fornication is a legitimate reason to be concerned about the state of that person's soul. Not because those sins are too sinful to be covered by Christ's atonement (they aren't), but because conscious rebellion against/disregard of the clear biblical teaching against sexual immorality is enough to call into question whether someone really has put faith in Christ and been regenerated by the Spirit. It could be that they are saved and just an immature believer, but it could also be that they are not even saved.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the *sexually immoral*, nor idolaters, nor *adulterers* ... will inherit the kingdom of God.
I agree. The way pastor John answered the question was point blank” you could risk going to hell”. Personally would have just answered with say that the person should evaluate their relationship with God( really saved)
Having sex before marriage will send you to hell it says it in Corinthians 6:9
Fornicate will send you to hell
@@yaboicams8083 that is if you don't repent
Toluwanimi Alli correct
Why is sex before marriage unholy? Me and my boyfriend have been together for years, and due to society (college, financial income, etc.) we cant get married at the time. But, we share in the deepest form of love and greatly benefit from it. Why is our deepest love unholy?
Because it is contrary to God's will
@@joshuajoachim8016 if you can't afford a wedding you can still get married and have the wedding later
This is because God ordains it for marriage, where it will be completely suited for it. The deepest love should be for the greatest connection two people can ever make, which is representative of Christ. It is all beautiful and is a gift from God, so let us glorify God through it
@Laureen Mwangi but isn't sin always willful
We lost the meaning of marriage. Exhange your vows before loved ones. The state doesnt marry you, God does.
What this comes down to has to do with knowing the law, God's law specifically, the bible says those that don't know the law are under a curse, it's no wonder the people that believe they can't have sex before they get married, that's NOT in the law, but thinking it is makes one's life truly more difficult , for some even a major mistake, read my comments below to keep from falling into this trap that's being set for you, it might help
Why stay single for christ?? Is what we need to think about.
My question would be, why let the compelling force that's driving you to get married to be what gets you married in the first place, this is got to be the most ridiculous thing to believe, to get married only to justify having sex and getting married is the only way to do it, BIG mistake for the majority, only to find out later that what they done can't be undone, having two people live together that hate each other or are just unhappy in their marriage, it's a damn if you do and damned if you don't situation, what your NOT being told is what happens when the LOVE grows cold and it DOES with most, then disaster comes when the two are irresponsible for their actions, the bible is clearly against this which is why being betrothed eliminated that possibility for most, it's too apparent from the Song of Solomon these two are NOT married and DON'T live with each other and they are all over each other, people that don't understand the purpose of being betrothed are to blame for this, a lack of knowledge, if betrothed, there was a way out, if married, there's NO way out, according to Jesus, just people with their excuses making the law have no effect or being useless, and fornication is Not something the married commit, it's what the unmarried or betrothed person commits, which is cheating on the person you intend on marrying, if you were married, you didn't need a divorce, that person was as good as dead by their law, the apostles didn't deal with adultery because at that time every country knew what adultery was and had laws concerning it, what a country can't do is make a law that can control the sex lives of people that are not married, it could not be enforced, which is why STD'S are so dangerous, back then, one would have more than likely killed you, having no laws to protect someone from another person giving you a STD is the problem and if your looking to nature how these diseases spread, look no further beyond the unfaithful or possibly needles spreading it, there is NO judgement on the faithful only the unfaithful, the disease doesn't just appear from out of nowhere
1. Jesus did not condemn the Samaritan woman who had been with five men 2. Jesus did not condemn the prostitute ... 3. We are told that all sins can be forgiven - except for condemning the Holy Spirit
Study the Bible more - instead of climbing up on your high horse and condemning people who Jesus did not condemn.
You are right , be blessed , most of people have information and knowledge but they don't know THE TRUTH.
@@aroundus4368 Thank you - these people pretending to be sacred and pious - "They have their reward."
Yes, sins are forgiven but should we continue sinning after coming to Christ and having the truth? By no means, we are called to be Holy like God is Holy
Deliberately sinning after coming to receiving the truth of salvation is taking advantage of God’s grace
@@josuereyes5554 Since my comment says no such thing, perhaps you are throwing your insanity around - while up there on your very wobbly pedestal - pretending to be superior.
Sex is of the devil. In fact, sex is the devil. You have been warned.
Lets try this again, the bible doesn't call it a sin, men call it sin, the bible clearly doesn't condemn it, what the bible does condemn about sexual relations is easily found in the law of Moses and no where in his law are two adults having sex with each other that's not man on man or incest or adultery or rape, maybe some others but never a single male adult and a single female adult, stop using the laws that apply to children to judge people that are smarter than yourself, don't fall for this marriage trap either from videos like this, a trap it is and one you cannot get out of unless your partner breaks one of these laws Moses commanded that applied to sexual relations, any other cause and Jesus will not justify you, the bible says marriage is honorable by all, not commanded to all nor is it something that all respect, adulterers certainly don't and the whore doesn't either, just be faithful to whomever your with, it's not till death do you part nor are you making a vow to God that so many break not realizing the bible says, if you make a vow to God and don't do it, He will call it sin in you, I'm just saying, don't get married unless you absolutely have to, what their not telling you is all those feelings you have towards that person you love, don't last, what you make together with that person you love, you will be held responsible for it, also don't rely on the errors the KJV translators made with this word wife, go to the old testament as your source, it's more accurate and better understood, it would also help to get some understanding of Hebrew and Greek if you really want to know the truth
not really following you on this one bro. are you stating that 'fornication' is not on the list of sending people to the fiery throes of hell? but on second read, you start right out saying "the bible clearly doesn't condemn it"....huh, wtf? smh.
@@vegetablehead I tried to comment earlier on my phone to you but for whatever reason my phone and this comment section won't work, it won't let me reply, I wish I could explain it in detail what I'm talking about but would take up too much space, what I can do is tell you what fornication means and why this gospel being preached on sex before marriage being a sin is evil and does not come from God nor the scriptures, it comes from people teaching what seems right to them, not knowing the law, it condemns the innocent or one's that God don't but mind you this or understand this, fornication is just a word being used that sums up all the forbidden sexual sins in the law and the prophets, it's to keep from having to write them all or list them all to the author, in the law it's adultery, incest, rape, man on man sex, animal sex, a married person having sex with another married person or a married woman having sex with a unmarried person, all these laws carried the death penalty, stoning, these laws didn't apply to children, there was different laws concerning children, there were laws that applied to married people that differed from the single man and woman, both being single and not under their fathers rule, their not called husband and wife, their referred to only as man and woman, the law that applied to them was a cleanliness law, that's all, it's no different than any other law that has to do with issues or emissions leaving your body, pee, poop, a runny nose etc, wash yourself because bacteria and germs are spread and thrive on liquids, Lev.15:16-24 will explain it, this woman and this man are NOT married, if she was married, they both would have been stoned, only people that don't know the law preach or teach things contrary to the law, now the prophets and what they saw and condemned, whoredom, pay close attention here, whoredom and prostitution are not the same, one does it for money and the other does it for the pleasure, there's no law against whoredom except in the scriptures from the prophets, whoredom means having more than ONE lover, it doesn't mean having one lover as in the case of an unmarried person, however the unmarried person knows in his heart that cheating is wrong, why? because God has written it on his heart
@@vegetablehead I had to cut my comment short or it wouldn't get posted, there's way more I want to tell you but hopefully you will understand what I said, what I really want to warn you about has to do with all the false teachers putting up video's on you tube that's doing more harm than good, beware of them, what Jesus taught is way different from what their teaching, if you follow them I can assure you, you will become a slave to sin, only not sin that God calls sin but sin that they call sin also trying to recognize who they are is very difficult to a new believer because they all have the appearance of being good and righteous people confessing Jesus as their Lord and doing many good works, what they don't see is in their gospel and what their gospel is doing, what they preach or teach actually turns people against a belief in God, why? because they make it too hard for them to serve God, Jesus said His commandments are NOT hard and there not, if your life is hard because of your beliefs and you are not a murderer, adulterer, rapist or so on, a fornicator in short, but your faithful to your girlfriend, God will NEVER judge you as He would the adulterer and the cheater or whoremonger or fornicator, most people are NOT these evil doers but won't go to church or can't stay in church after hearing this ungodly gospel that condemns them and it's not possible for them to get married at that time or they just want to be sure whom they marry is the right person and getting married to justify having sex is a BIG mistake, why? because once you do it's for life which by the way that's another thing Jesus preached against, making vows to God and not fulfilling them, why? because God said if you vow a vow to Him and don't fulfill it, He will call it SIN in you, I wish I could show you all the evil that comes from this nevertheless, Jesus said don't make any vows to God because you know not what tomorrow will bring, maybe I've said too much, let me know what you don't understand, or do what so many do and block my replies to them, lol, I just say anyway, whatever, the only one I fear is God and the one He has appointed as judge=Jesus
Stopped listening when you coldly insulted this girl without even knowing her, and more importantly, why she might think that way. Whatever you may have had to say instantly lost all value. God bless.
Walphish Bro why are you so offended?because he wasn’t even Saying anything offensive about her. He was clearly stating about her mindset towards sex.And you clearly have a problem with this you need to read your Bible.
If you stopped listening cause your emotions got hurt. So quick.
You acted in ignorance.
Piper is speaking from scripture.
Which is the measurement.
If he was dishonest or hold back, then he didn't do a service to the listener.
People need to be told their ignorant. N that's not always wrong
The Bible is clear on the topic and her behavior makes it clear she either doesn't know or doesn't care. You're prioritizing your feelings (by being insulted on someone else's behalf 🙄) over God's Word.
logistically and mathematically not everyone can marry. also, not everyone is suited for marriage. yet, god hardwired all for sex, made it intensely pleasurable, and mentally and physically beneficial, not just for married couples, but for all. if one believes god loves all equally, why is god prejudiced against and why does god discriminate against the unmarried? there is absolutely nothing immoral about unmarried people having consensual sex. the term pre marital should not exist, for sex or anything else, for the reasons i cited above. while being married is indeed a life event it does not grant you special access to things unmarried people are restricted from. seriously, if one does not marry are they supposed to die a virgin? get over yourselves. you got married, you did not split the atom
This is so misogynistic 😅
Quick comment with no explanation. Cute. How many times have you been married?
He would have said the exact same thing if it was the other way around though, if instead it was a man trying to convince a woman to sleep with him before they were married.
It may be unrealistic for a lot of people. But how is it misogynistic?
@@mattr.1887 There's ladies addicted to sex as well, and this applies to ladies as well. I have an ex who wants to have sex with me but I refused. She left me and I'm glad I did resist.
Says a woman anytime she is told something she doesn't like. 😎