Boundaries For Waiting Until Marriage⎮Specific Details and Advice!
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- Опубліковано 12 чер 2024
- What’s up guys, my name is Jacob Petersen, and I am joined by my wife Julia Petersen to talk about boundaries that Christian couples should have in place when dating to help produce the healthiest relationship that honors God. Let's be real for a second. It can be extremely hard to wait for a good thing, but it can be even harder to honor that good thing when waiting for it. Today, we take you through our relationship as well as things we have struggled with and boundaries we have put in place to help us best run from temptation and love one another in a God-honoring way before and after marriage! I hope you are encouraged and learn from some of the insight we give you! God Bless!
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Waited until marriage. I can tell you, it’s worth it. Knowing intimacy is between you and your forever person
Just sharing you this, as Romans 6:23 says, for the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. God loves you so much that he sent his son Jesus Christ to die on the cross to pay the price of all our sins. After 3 days after he died,he rose up from the dead. He will accept you not matter what you been through or have done. Accept the lord Jesus Christ as you lord and savior and ask forgiveness of all your sins to be saved from sin and have eternal life and not go to hell Jesus is our only hope for salvation and the if you don’t accept him you will not heaven and you will go to hell if you don’t accept Jesus
You’re right, but for all the virgins out there I’m recommending waiting. It makes a difference
Romantic love isn't special, and it doesn't exist.
how could u resist without porn addiction?
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If you focus on knowing how God is by spending more time for god you can come out of that
As a teenager trying to navigate my way through these high school years, I couldn't be more grateful for Jacob and Julia. It's hard to have a boyfriend and give God that relationship. Especially when you're a human and think you can do it all. 😂 I mean we're all guilty of pushing God to the back burner and wanting to take the lead. My boyfriend and I watch every video. We are soaking in what you guys are pouring out. Thank you for being an example and encouragement, and listening to the plan God has for your lives ❤
Amen 🙏 I’m just going into highschool and I’m wanting a Christian relationship in His timing, and these videos are so helpful to me, and I’m so grateful for Jacob and Julia as well!! I pray that you and your boyfriend can stay pure and have a God honoring relationship!!!
"Soaking" 🤔
@@mosboi7527 ????? Im comfused??
I'm a male going into Sophomore year of hs and want to start finding a girl that I can eventually marry. I plan to have a relationship balance similar to what you talk about. Thanks 🙏
@@misterrickroll9428 I'm the same age. I'm praying God send you the perfect girl for you! Thanks for reaching out 💖
I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my past and had meaningless hookups. Now being saved I’ve been abstinent for almost 1 year now and it’s hard but I feel much better. I am devoted to God and pray it gets easier as I wait for my husband ❤
You're not a traditional woman. traditional women are virgins, the minute you have one or two bodies you are not a traditional woman.Even a hore can cook n clean. What makes you traditional is have you always held on to those traditional values and applied them in your life.you didn't make those other guys wait and you after you're ran through and used good u want a Christian traditional man.you don't qualify for that kind of man you've already lost the right to deserve that kind of man and have those standards
I’m praying for the man that ends up marrying you
I'm starting this journey myself. This helps
Proud of ye, Ma'am. Glad to call ye sister, in Christ!
@@Xnovalitya lot of men are also born again Christians they would probably relate to her in a way
Me and my husband waited for marriage and soooo glad we did! We dated for 2 years & got married at 18, he was 19. We were both virgins & saved ourselves. Now we have 12 years of marriage, this year will be 13 years & we are still crazy for eachother! We have 3 beautiful kids. Most ppl don’t believe us these days when we tell them that we were both virgins & saved ourselves. Save your virginity till marriage, it’s very precious in front of Gods eyes and a big blessing ❤ God bless yall
It IS possible to wait until marriage for sex! And such a beautiful gift to give your spouse! I married at 21 years old and thank God that we were given the grace to wait. It made our wedding night so special! We've been married almost 24 years now and our love has produced 5 amazing human beings! We grow stronger in love and faithfulness all the time. The cord of 3 stands!
It's pretty easy to wait when you get married young. Try being a virgin at 35. Who can wait that long?
@@stepha2642 Everyone can. The question is whether you want to honor God and the other person by waiting enough.
@@stepha2642even while getting married at an older age, it's worse to waste it on someone who you know doesn't have a super important significance in your life. if you don't love them then you shouldn't just go and have sex with them so you aren't a virgin anymore. but it's is your choice and you can do whatever you want!
@@stepha2642 Anyone can wait that long if you respect yourself and more importantly respect God
I love the genuine honesty that Jacob and Julia share in their videos. They intertwine their own experiences which is why I see Jesus Christ in them all the time
you are so kind, Mary! God Bless!
Like 222, nice
Jesus?
@@delilahpine906yes Jesus
@@Prince-xy3km what?
I know it will probably seem weird that I follow you but I love that you are Christian and are trying to lead others. I got married when I was 17 and my husband was 19 and we were virgins when we married. I am 63 years old and so many people now do everything backwards and a lot of times it doesn't last. My husband and I were married 32 years the week before he died. He had a massive heart attack at 51 years old and the 26th of this month will be 14 years. We should never take each other for granted because we never know what a day holds. My husband was a baptist preacher and our family sung Southern Gospel Music. Since his death we stopped traveling and singing. I direct the choir at our church and my daughters direct the younger choir. I have joy in knowing that when my time is over that I will meet my husband again. Keep doing what you are doing and leading the lost to Jesus. I have 2 grandkids, girl 8 and boy 6 and I pray that they will always follow God. Love you!
Beautiful words, your husband is definitely waiting for you, God bless you
God bless you.
Love and prayers for you.
I hope you know that we’re here for you! I read every single word and I am with you on every step :)
Much love to you and your family. Bless you all 💗
I know that was a long time ago, and money may be harder to deal with now, but how did you guys deal with that and what jobs did ur husband have early on?
My fiancée & I have the boundaries of never being alone together in our homes or anywhere else w/o someone else present, We don’t go into each others home unless someone else is there. We don’t leave room for sin to take place. You know who prowls around like a roaring lion
Yes. I agree. My boyfriend & I broke up because here was too much alone time. Necking and fondling. The emotions were out of control. Hopefully, God willing we reconcile and marry. Pray for us
As a young adult. It has been SO hard to respect my personal boundaries and remembering to honor God in my relationship with my boyfriend. This video has helped me have a new POV
This is the real facts value your relationship status
If he's not talking marriage, I'd leave.
my bf and I talk about marriage very often@@danilaroche1156
Good to hear that
As a believer, this isn’t just for Christian’s, this is for everyone
I’ve been struggling with laziness since I got out of school. I heard God tell me that I need to learn to enjoy my life so I spent a lot of time with Him alone and just focusing on His Presence, but then He called me to start doing work again and to enjoy the work in front of me and I have been failing to do those works. I saw the title of this video and was immediately motivated to work again because God definitely meant this video to be for me and probably many others as well. Thank you for obeying God’s voice and spreading the knowledge, wisdom, and understanding He gave you with others!!
I was 25 when i married my beloved. We waited and it was the best decision. We even saved our first kiss. We wanted Christ to be at the center of our relationship. We knew once he wasnt, it would fall apart and we knew this was something so real and didnt want to do anything to screw it up. We also wanted to keep things special for marriage, which is why we saved kissing. The other thing we did that made a huge impact in our dating was defining our 'i love yous'. We talked about everything and our marriage has been solid because of it. We were quick to flee temptation, be open and honest and forgive each other.
How long did you date before you got married?
@@divinefeline6467Yess, I have the sane question.
I struggled with this. Never trusting myself, always afraid of the sin of fornication, STDs and unwanted pregnancies that i never dated any girls, even if they were interested I pushed them away till my early to mid 20s. I got into pron and alcohol, got high on weed because in my mind at the time it was safer and the drugs were an escape from the depression from the experiences that i lack and the pain of putting yourself out there just to get rejected. I'm now 27 still a virgin, still looking for my future wife and pray for her every night. However the alcohol abuse lead to a DUI last year in December, thank God I didn't crash my truck, injure or kill anyone. Just license suspension for one year and fines, but what a WAKE UP call from our God. He is our good holy father and he disciplines his children because he loves us. He is the God of second and third chances, I'm on a better path now because he walks with all of us through the valleys of darkness, and when we are weak then we are strong because God's power is made perfect in our weakness, throught the scripture God collaborates with some of the weakest to carry our his good will for all glory to God alone. Alway leaning not on our own understanding but surrending fully the Christ to take care of it all. May you all know and experience the love God has for you, beloved you are precious life, fearfully and wonderfully made. No mistake is too big for our God. He works all things out together for good for those that love him. He has a purpose and plan to prosper us, not to harm us but to give us hope! And for all that I am eternally grateful, this chaotic world is not our home, Holy Jesus is preparing a place for us, we have heaven to look forward to. Thank you for making this video, it helped me and I pray that I am able to help and be a blessing to others, one person, one holy moment at a time.
God Bless bro, that’s gotta be a tough thing to share 🙏
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You are such an inspiration!!! I went on a similar journey and I can testify along with you that it's only through the Almighty's love and grace that we are made whole... I pray that you find someone who loves you with an unconditional and passionate love... and loves the Heavenly father just as much. Love from Jamaica🫶🏾 🇯🇲 ❤️
Thank you, your example is important for all of us. I love the party about the God of second and third chances. Thank you Lord for your glorious and unfathomable Mercy. Laudato si' 🙏
I have a relationship with an amazing boy but I haven't seen him in three weeks almost four. Balancing a relationship with school, friends, family and free time is hard. This is my first relationship so I don't want to mess up because I feel like he deserves more than me. I'm also still trying to balance my mental health too. God will get me through this, I'm praying to meet him soon after exams.
Agnostic aethiest here (I'm just curious about different beliefs. That's why I'm watching this Christian video, LOL). Just wanted to say thank you for the advice regarding lust vs love. The difference has always been so confusing and it can cause a lot of unnecessary heart break. This is the best explanation I've heard. Thank you!!! :)
Always nice to see a fellow atheists. This was great to see how other people think and act. Interesting thing is, I agree with most of what they say, and also believe in waiting until marriage.
we have all sinned, and broken God’s law (the Ten Commandments). When a person breaks the law, they are then considered a criminal, and to bring justice, the judge must sentence/judge them according to their wrongdoings. No matter how big or small the crime, a person who breaks the law is a criminal, and are not judged by their good deeds but by what they have done wrong. For example; a m**der cannot say “I donated millions of dollars to an orphanage, you should let me go, look at all the good I’ve done.” Criminals are only judged for their wrongdoing, to let them go because of the “good” that they’ve done would be unjust. So those who have broken God’s law will be judged for their lawlessness, not the good that they’ve done. Since we have all sinned, we must be punished so that justice may take place. But if someone pays the fine for the crime we have committed we can legally walk free. Jesus took the punishment of sin, being innocent, so that all who repent of their sins and put their faith in Him may be saved. He essentially took our punishment so that we could walk free, he paid our debt. But one can accept or deny for someone to pay their fine, in like manner one can accept or deny this gift from God. If you repent of your sin (turn from it) and put your faith in Jesus, you will be saved. @@wetwillyis_1881
Im also an agnostic atheist!! Nice to see fellow open/supportive atheists
@@danzsyy Yeah, it can be a harsh community at times.
Jesus loves you. Check out case for Christ.
The way you guys look at eachother, just makes me sure that true love is real
Yes. It's very encouraging. I don't see 2 guys though. She's a sister. A woman. It irks me that everyone says "you guys" when addressing men and women.
@@danilaroche1156im not sure of your origin but in English when there is a plural of people no matter the sex you adress them this way, same goes for a bunch of women i can say for example " stop it you guys" . Its weird but its the English language and its correct 😊
@@Edoardo.F I know it's English. It may be correct but it bugs me. A. It's gender blending B. Sounds like teen speech C. It's not elegant D. I'm a woman trying to be more feminine and E. It doesn't help the cause. Have you taken note that men don't court women and marriage has declined? It just doesn't help the cause.
@@danilaroche1156What would you suggest switching out for that whenever people say it in a sentence?
@@LightShineDessertsY'all. Beloved, Brothers & Sisters. Dear ones.
I'm a teen, and I've been praying for a relationship to come, and God told me to be patient but that something would come. He told me that my prayers would be answered. I've asked God to prepare me so that I don't goof this up. I've been reading my bible more than ever, I'm TRYING to wrangle my temper, and I'm closer to God than I have ever been on my near 15 years on this earth, and I think this was why God wanted me to wait. Before now, I would've never prayed over a relationship I didn't even have, I would have never asked God to prepare me for anything. I was prideful and arrogant around God and I thought I had all the knowhow to get through life myself, but I was so wrong, God showed me to depend on him and I've never felt more peace or comfort and I can actually hear him. I watch you two as an example of how a loving relationship should look, and I can't wait for what God has planned for me... but I'll just have to manage
Patience is hard sometimes, but Jesus is always faithful, and love always wins! Great testimony!
Thank you for this, I am a teenage girl in my first relationship where I actually feel real love with my partner and it's the first time someone has not tried to take advantage of me.
You better not fumble him and bteak his heart
I’m 35 years old waiting until marriage. God started my love story almost 11 years ago and I’m praying that this will be our harvest season because I miss him and I can’t wait to start this next chapter with him. It also goes to show that you can wait this long and hold out to your spouse and you’re ready to give yourselves to him or her on your wedding night
Amen ❤️✝️❤️
That's some serious will power. I tried but I was tired of waiting.
First time in a long time I've seen a couple give each other that stare of undevided attention❤
hey whoever is reading this GOD LOVES YOU SO MUCH!!!!! NO MATTER WHAT YOU'VE DONE!!!!! In relationship's,life,etc. HE'LL NEVER STOP LOVING YOU 💖
What a beautiful message! What a good thing you’ve said to remind people! Amen 😌
I’m not a super Christian person, but I feel like I wanna wait for marriage anyways. Idk how true it is cuz I’ve never gone through it, but my mom told me stories of her first time, etc. She told me that the first person you are with like that, you kinda always have a connection with. You gave them that vulnerable and precious thing, which is beautiful if they’re the love of your life. But I honestly just don’t want to have that with anyone but my Husband. ( And really, you don’t need to do it that way to have a happy and health relationship in the future, this is just my personal opinion).
Pleasure outside of purpose equals perversion. Pleasure within purpose equals perfection. This is applicable to every pleasure of the flesh.
Speaking straight facts. I will remember this. 👏🏾
I gave it up when I was 16. Took me till 25 to find god & I’ve been abstinent for about a year now. I can definitely say it does feel harder having gone into this not a virgin. Not to mention realizing how much pain it actually caused me not going the route god calls for us. It even effected me emotionally with my current relationship with my soon to be husband. So all in all from experience in a worldly perspective even, it’s just not worth giving up before marriage. God has it like that for a reason, it protects you from a lot of the pain and issues that arise from being impure. To anyone who is still pure and not married yet, keep it up! It’ll be worth the wait. This year long wait has actually helped heal me a lot and fixed a lot of my brokenness that came from being promiscuous.
God* is good.
This whole relationship with God makes no sense to me. God is something that was created by humans as a way of facing the unknown and what goes beyond what we know. God is a "physical character" that we have created to explain that which has no explanation. The Bible itself was created by many people who wrote it down over the years. It's a book, like all the others, but used as the basis for forming a religion.
By this I mean that you don't have to believe in God to be a good person. Making love to the person you love before marriage doesn't make you have " devil's attitudes ". It's just a way of showing the love you feel in a physically intimate way, the connections.
Waiting for marriage is fine by you, but for God reasons or because you think you're being the devil if you do it, it doesn't make as much sense to me. You weren't promiscuous, you were you!
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Once upon a time i had similar thoughts, but after many supernatural experiences I started questioning things. Until one day I called out after seeing an actual demon in real life.
For several years it tormented me, slammed doors in my face, threw things at me. Then 2 years ago it actually showed itself in front of me fully physical. I was terrified and knew it was well out of my control. So i used gods name [in jesus name, satan get behind me.] & prayed asking for protection.
I wasn't reading some bible or anything at the time, I just had the instinct and I could actually feel what i can only explain as a supernatural protection put over me. Then as time went on i noticed i was no longer suffering from demonic attacks in my day to day life or my dreams. From there i kept having other experiences but i still had doubt until god made himself really clear to me.
Only those who have experienced it will understand. This amalgamation of experiences is what led me to reading the bible. It wasn't like anything I thought it was. It is a book about stories, used to teach us life and show us the rules he put up to protect us, mind body and soul. For a christian we are called to follow these rules, and i have my own experiences of life getting much better doing so, but also many blessings. When i sacrifice things i want in my life thats not actually go for me, by following gods calling he gives back 10 fold whatever i gave up. It is all supernatural.
The reality is, to an unbeliever such as yourself there is nothing I can say that will ever change your mind. However you coming on this video and making comments basically questioning this could mean that god has already started working on you. He may eventually show himself and when you learn of him you are given the choice. To follow him as it is said "the only way to heaven through the father is through the lord jesus christ who died on the cross to forgive us of our sins, and only when you confess that jesus is king and believe it with your heart will you be accepted into the kingdom of heaven."
Your other choice is to choose not follow him. What christians are called to do is to give this good news so that people may have the choice to be saved, because the other option is terrifying. However to choose to follow god isn't an easy task, the world will not take kindly to us the closer we are to god, and we are called to die to ourself and be reborn in the spirit. To keep a relationship with christ by following his commands as well so that we may not be turned away at the door told that he did not know us. If it was about hoping for something better out there or making life better, then it would be much easier to choose to be secular and a none believer, because you must constintly be making decisions that draws you closer to god which means giving up much, and it can be hard especially because we are the most hated people on planet earth aside from jesus himself.
That is what we believe, that is why we follow. It's not about looking to a higher power because life sucks, but a supernatural experience that guides us to him and urges our hearts to follow him. Only in gods timing will you ever truly understand.
Know that even through the pain your are feeling, you are loved, and he is excited to show himself to you, to meet you. Even if you do not love him back he will love you, if you do not choose him he will grieve you. But ultimately he will help you through whatever struggles you are facing if you so choose to listen to him.
@@CatKittyCutie so, you're telling me that "Christians are called to spread the good news to people be saved", that makes no sense at all. Saved from what? Other religions can't be saved? The bible is just a normal book that someone guys wrote and then they used it as a base of a religion. The religion and God you're talking about "made" believers kill many innocents of other religions. The church is like a company that just wants to win money
Beautifully said ❤
As a high school guy going on three years with my girlfriend, these videos are so helpful. Just putting the ideas and thoughts out there.
3 years in high school is impressive; your relationship is definitely blessed. Keep it that way!
I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now, and we're about to graduate from highschool and I want to wait until marriage but I don't know how long that will be, we also are planning on dorming together at the same college, how do I abstain from premarital sex??
Even though ive never had a boyfriend but crushes, i still struggle with lustful thoughts whether in school or wherever i am but i always ask God to replace these bad thoughts with thoughts of Him and peace, and that He will make the devil flee from me
God Bless You All And Keep Spreading The Gospel and Putting these videos out there
Because its helped me !!🙏🦋🙏
Sex can be perfectly natural and healthy or empty just like food.
No food at all is starvation, the body needs healthy, nourishing food on regular intervals, not junk, not too much or too little.
Sex is quite the same.
Me being 24 years old, I’ve also never had (or at least have yet to have) a boyfriend. Lustful thinking can really make life a lot harder, especially when deep down you know you can’t just ignore it and hope it goes away (speaking from personal experience). Hence why the Holy Spirit convicts us to go to God in prayer. Ask him to help you change your way of thinking, and always guard your heart bc the things of this world will try to lead you astray if you’re not too careful. 🙏❤️
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Amen 🙏🏼♥️
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Amen ♥️✝️
@@bobhubson8511funnily enough, people can agree that junk food is not healthy but I can bet you there are wildly different ideas about what “healthy and natural” sex looks like.
God gave me life and he kept Someone special for me who will help me glorifying him in Jesus name 💘💕✝️
I can see the way you look at each other. You both love each other so much. This is an amazing example of a good couple and a strong bond. I wish the best for you. Fear the lamb✝️
Thanks for all of the relationship advice videos recently! As a teenager who’s getting to that age and wanting a Christian relationship (In Gods timing of course!), these are so helpful to me, so thank y’all so much!!!!🙏✝️
Amen!!!! 🙏✝️
Same!!! And Amen❤
Thank you so much for these videos. Not many people will be a light in this way. You making Christian relationship videos brings so much joy and love to this world. You guys are a beautiful example of God's design for a relationship. As a teenager, this is the content I didn't know I needed.
Of course! Glory to God!
Amen 🙏 I’m a teen too, looking for a Christian relationship and these videos are so insightful!!! Thank you so much!✝️
“What’s the best way i can love you and serve you outside of the physical aspect”… i love the way that this was worded. Good stuff!!!
Wow! This was definitely a video God wanted me to see. Through past experiences with dating I've been able to see first hand how easy it is to be physical with someone you love and have temptation. It's SO important to find someone who truly respects your boundaries and wants to pursue purity with you not just for you. Thank you guys for those words of wisdom
Despite following a different religion, I am so glad I came across this video. I agree with everything you guys said. This perspective should definitely be more in America.
Jesus loves you! If you come to know Him, He will show you how to conquer your biggest issues. He died to save us, and He’s the only way to God. Religion has never been the answer! It’s Jesus!!
Love this!! This is so needed in today's generation and time we are living in. Ty for standing firm on your path with the Lord 🙏🏻💖
I was literally going through temptation with my partner and was praying God was guide me to something that would clear this up and came across this video!! Praise God🙌🏼 thank you so much for this insightful video
Just a daily reminder that Jesus loves you so much and He died for Us in the worst pain imaginable just so that we didnt have to becasue we sin so much and thats why He paid the price for us. May God bless everyone and i encourage you to follow Jesus if you hadn't already!
This video was so helpful! You guys are such a beautiful couple, you guys bounce great off of each other. Thank you for giving a godly perspective to boundaries while waiting for marriage.
This is beautiful, I almost teared up, as a usually "confident masculine" guy.
Thank you for providing this video for me; it is so important, especially in this Satan-thriving world right now.
It's not unmasculine to tear up hearing Godly testimonies! It shows you have a heart!
I love how y'all broke down the difference between love vs. lust. Self-seeking or honor another person.
Wonderful to see a healthy, young couple spreading around the right thoughts 👍🏾💜☝🏿✝️
this is probably what I want the most for myself, to be in such a beautiful and strong relationship with a woman of God
Thank you guys so much for this video! I’ve watched many videos on the topic of relationships(specifically waiting for marriage) and every video always says “just wait” without digging deeper into heart posture and our emotions as humans. I’ve been made to think that my sexual desires are shameful or bad because I’m not married, but those desires need to be guarded as you guys talked about with boundaries.
That love in her eyes is everything
I’m so glad we waited! It’s totally possible!
It feels like God sent this video to me. I was having a conversation with my mom about Christian dating (which could lead to marriage) and how even a kiss you share can cause lust or unwated thoughts. So you need to be really careful. And then this video popped up on my page as I was scrolling. Perfect timming! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us ❤
Great! you spoke my mind blu. Thanks.
Praise God for your strong faith!! Bless you both!!
Wow! This video is such a Blessing and came to me at just the right time! I REALLY NEEDED THIS!!!! Being tempted and seeing and hearing and thinking certain things, but knowing I’m in the wrong and this pops up is SO HELPFUL! :) 💕🙏💛🙌🏻❤️
Thank you for putting videos out that are not only honoring to God and such a great inspiration for young people. When I click on your videos I know they will be clean and it’s so reassuring in such a messy world! 🙏
This video just showed up on my ‘For You’ page. I’m 18 years old and in my first relationship. The first thing I said when I saw this video was, ‘Only if they knew I had a boundary of 2,500 miles with my girlfriend.’ But I ended up clicking on it and literally the first 30 seconds of the temptation part, and the girl in this video pretty much said what my excuse was for almost not clicking on the video 😂😂😂. A lot of this I actually practice already, but it’s really good to hear new things that can help me and her out. I appreciate the video. Thanks!
Thank you guys so much for this,it definitely was eye opening for me. And I have more peace after watching this ❤️✝️
We learned about boundaries in youth group. Our unit was kNOw dating!
And we had a packet of what we should do in early dating late dating or marriage. Best unit I’ve ever been taught
Do you know where I can get this material for youth group?
@@mariaalvarenga4690 I have no clue i can ask my youth pastor
Bless you two, and may God give you strength and the knowledge of His will daily.
No am not in a relationship but watching this with the love or lust really helped me out. Thank you guys.
I've been a virgin for nearly all of my life, and I'm 31 now. I've explored intimacy with one of my exes, but it never led to actual sex. I feel like because I know what it is I want in my future marriage, this makes waiting fairly easy. The only time it isn't is when I find myself feeling physically attracted to someone, even if there's no other feelings involved. I recognize that it's natural. I try my best not to act on it, but it can cause my thoughts to spiral or go in circles sometimes depending on the person.
From my experience the best things to do are: Just give God room to work in your heart, let him deal with sin and temptation, ask him for help. To stray from and flee temptations and sins. To focus on other things (like
something/someone moving-that isnt a person you are attracted to-, and to do things that you can focus on that distract you from those kinds of thoughts). And just spend time in Gods presence in prayer, focus on God and ask God to deliver you from the temptation, dont play with thoughts or it will definetly become worse thoughts.
In my experience, it's best not to be alone too long. No net flex and chilling.
@@danilaroche1156being alone inherently cannot lead to Netflix and chill
What do you mean "nearly all your life"?
I can see that he truly loves you by the way he looks at you when you speak ❤. Congrats
Guys! Love the respect you have for each other and mostly towards GOD!! May God always bless you
This was such a good video! It’s great that you really pointed out how every couple is different cause I feel like it’s so normal to just say what you can and cannot do rather than actually figuring it out yourself. I’m asexueal so I don’t experience sexual attraction, like I do not feel drawn to the idea of sex (I do really want to be a mum tho, and I mean stuff like that still feel physically pleasing) so in my relationship with my boyfriend cuddling and sleeping in the same bed is not a problem but when we’ve done stuff he feels is too much he’s been really good at telling me even though he initiated it. Every night we share a bed the last thing we do is play together, especially for our relationship and for God’s will to happen.
Communication is key!!
I enjoyed this video guys! I recently just met potentially the girl of my dreams through Upward and she is such a sweetheart! We have been going on multiple dates now and she’s leaving to go to Italy for a couple weeks and when she comes back I am ready to ask her out. I genuinely love this girl and I wouldn’t do anything to hurt her because the most important person that has brought me closer to her is God and my relationship with him is so important. Thank you for sharing some valuable tips!
Sooo you did ask her out ?
@@miyaca.j yup. We’ve been a couple for 6 months now!
@@gelo_b95 Amen! I’m praying that God has a big plan for your future union ❤🎉
You create a soul tie. It’s real and extremely hard to forget. After my ex husband left the kids and I and we he filed for divorce it took years of praying for the lord to break that soul tie to allow my heart to be prepared for the man if God the lord has for me. I waited for my ex husband and I to be married and it truly is worth it. Thank you for being transparent about the certain aspects of dating.
I'm grateful for this video tonight! Best video I've heard on setting boundaries in Christian dating so far. I took lots of notes from pieces that jumped out at me and I want to share them with my boyfriend asap. :)
Both of y’all just made waiting for marriage easy for me to do right now. Thank you! God bless!🙏
This is SO amazing and well spoken. Thank you sooo much!
The way they look at each other makes me feel even more single than I am already
Peace be unto you. Brother or sister, please read these scriptures:
John 16:32
English Standard Version
32 Behold, the hour is coming, indeed it has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home, and will leave me alone. Yet I am not alone, for the Father is with me.
Isaiah 41:10
Complete Jewish Bible
10 Don’t be afraid, for I am with you;
don’t be distressed, for I am your God.
I give you strength, I give you help,
I support you with my victorious right hand.
Joshua 1:9
Complete Jewish Bible
9 Haven’t I ordered you, ‘Be strong, be bold’? So don’t be afraid or downhearted, because Adonai your God is with you wherever you go.”
I was making out with my boyfriend today and I felt like crying cause we had earlier on talked about us limiting ourselves to physical intimacy. We've decided to have a serious talk this evening because we both want to do this the right way, and glorify God in the process. I'm glad I found your video to help us. Please pray for us to stay strong and come out victorious🪷
I love how you guys backed it up with God’s word!! Wonderful couple ❤❤
Thank you, I needed this so much. I’ll be honest I was really struggling with getting really close to the line and I knew deep down that I shouldn’t, I just needed someone around my age that relates to show me that it’s possible/ok to love someone without crossing that line.
The way he looks at her and she looks at him 🥺
I loved when you said that you have to pray before you do something. Also, I like the love vs. lust
I'm so thankful for your transparency and honesty in this video. My boyfriend and I have saved ourselves for one another, and intend to wait for marriage to honor God and one another. It's hard obviously, but it's nice hearing from people like y'all on ways to avoid falling into temptation, and to grow in love. There's something so special about falling in love with who someone is rather than their body. You're falling in love with this person, and with God at the same time, as you both seek to emulate Christ.
This has definitely helped me so much as a VERY young individual. I want to find my place in God’s kingdom before anything else, but yes I do find myself talking to Christian guys and it leads me to thinking about who my person is and how I would like to be treated. I think it’s important to know that you’re not alone in this world and that God will provide for you when you follow Him, the Bible says “Seek first my kingdom and all else will be added on to you”, so it’s no question when it comes to who you put first in your relationship, it should always be God. I did want to know if hugging and such were lust or signs of love to one another, I don’t want to fall into a physical temptation so I know what to look for in a true man of God now, thank you! :D. Also, if you’re like me and don’t trust yourself, always trust God, get to know Him more and more until you can recognize when it’s God and when it’s flesh. It certainly helps lead you in the right direction, especially with this topic!!
thank you for this video! as someone who just got into a Christian relationship, we want to honor God and each other, and we will definitely find these tips useful in the future! thanks for talking about this! we want our relationship to bring glory to God, and we are waiting until marriage to have sex, because that's the way God intends for that gift to be. what many people don't realize is that it's not just a random "rule" God wants us to follow, but it really is Him protecting us from unneeded soul ties, and helps us to learn to love each other healthily without confusing love and lust early on in the relationship. some people i look up to have recently started using the term "sexual integrity" instead of "purity," because "purity" has so many negative connotations to it, and that phrase scares many people away. people have been hurt by the Church when they were told they're no longer "pure," but that's not true in God's eyes at all, so I'm glad you guys talked about that! sex should not be looked at as a shameful thing, because it is a beautiful gift from God when done within the context of marriage, as he told us. :)
stop oh my gosh the way they look at each other is so cute
Thank you for sharing this! My partner and I really struggled with this, but this video is really inspiring. Lots of love, you guys are great!
Did you? Cuz once you start its hard to stop.
Religious or Not this video is really great. Thank you kind strangers.
H e encontrado este vídeo por casualidad y os lo agradezco muchísimo. En el día de hoy, la época en la que vivimos parece que las relaciones de noviazgo se tienen muy pronto e incluso nos llegamos a sentir ''obligados'' a tener un novio a edades tempranas. Actualmente tengo 19 años y estoy súper contenta de mi vida con Dios porque en la edad joven estando soltera realmente te das cuenta de cuánto tiempo puedes invertir para Dios. Lo mejor es esperar a su tiempo y ya porque, la verdad, no hay ninguna prisa, con Dios el amor es paciente para que sea eterno. Thank u my siblings!!!!
she so inlove she cant keep her eyes off him
This advice is so fruitful, glory be to god
You guys are such a beautiful couple and I really really appreciate you both and your ministry! ❤
Thank you guys. This helps a lot. God bless you both. In Jesus’ name, Amen!! ✝️
You two are a voice from God.
Thank you 🤩
Great job on making this video yall. Y’all truly love God and it’s felt. This was very helpful. God bless ✝️❤️
Needed this. I'm 32 and single. Divorced 7 years ago but preparing myself for the marriage right for me.
@@jcj6892 thank you for the taking the time to share with me. You're right. I'll have to put in some work myself.
I’m like super young but I’ve been curious abt this. This helped a lot aspecially because I am growing my relationship with god.
You delighted in the Lord and He gave you the desires of your heart. Congratulations 🎉...May the Lord continue to be the center and foundation of your marriage. There is hope in Jesus.
Thanks for uploading these Christian videos!!
Also thanks for posting on my Birthday🎉
appreciate you guys' hearts in this and for sharing! very well spoken and explained:)
Well said! Excellent advice! God Bless ❤
I’m so excited to watch this!! I just recently started following you on TikTok!
Hey guys- not sure if you’ll see this, but I love your videos and have been watching for a while. Seeing your faith inspires me in my own walk and I love the fearless way you are exclaiming the gospel.
I think you guys would be great on a podcast and I’d love love love to hear it!!!! Seriously thank you for everything y’all are doing.
Hey Julia and Jacob. Thank you for making relationship videos.
Thank you for this!❤️You are an amazing couple
I am approaching senior years. Someone once told me that you are never too old for love. I respectively disagree. I was just not cut out for love at any age. Most people are and find love in their youth. But I have been single most of my life, and I now distrust the entire dating scene! Especially in the churches! I accept that I will remain single for the rest of my life! Celibacy is a must...
Love this and needed to hear it. If I may though (some unsolicited advice). Communication is VERY important. This is true, however something that comes hand in hand with communication is COMPREHENSION. From my experience I am a wonderful communicator, always have been (thanks to my parents for that) BUT if the person you are communicating with doesn't comprehend what you are trying to communicate... you come right back to communicating the same thing over and over and over. You can communicate until you are blue in the face but if there is no comprehension or follow through it means nothing. Just my two cents. Agree with all of this though! Keep it up.
Love this❤️! God bless😭Thank You🥺🤲🏾
This couldn't have come onto my feed at quite literally the most perfect time 😮👀🙏🙌🙌
You guys totally should make a podcast or video podcast! Love your content 💓
Congratulations guys. God bless you. Ty so much for this video 🙏🏼❤️
What a beautiful video. Thank you very much! May God bless you
thank y’all so much for this!! i have a boyfriend and my parents don’t really talk to me about this topic like this.
God doesnt make mistakes. So when he says to be abstinent he is saying for a reason. Not only will it protect you from potential unwanted pregnancy, and STD’s but God is trying to protect your heart as well. I truly believe the biggest reason I can’t get over my ex is because we didn’t practice abstinence. When you sleep with someone you give a part if yourself to that person. They have it forever. Its a spiritual physical bond. And that bond was only supposed to be made between you and one other person. So take it from me, struggling with the consequences - be abstinent