HOW SHAME AND GUILT RUINS YOUR LIFE

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  • Опубліковано 4 лис 2024

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  • @heatherflynn
    @heatherflynn Рік тому +93

    Sadia just wanted to say I listened to your podcast with Chris Williamson and I think you are an amazing woman! I agreed with everything you said, and feel like you need more spotlight in the men and women dating scene. You are so emotionally intelligent and break everything down so well with great articulation. I look forward to seeing more of your stuff, in the podcast you said you never really saw many good female role models on social media and I just wanted to say you are totally now one of my female role models. ❤All the best

    • @drfrankantonino
      @drfrankantonino Рік тому +2

      💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @magnolia_388
      @magnolia_388 Рік тому

      0⁵⁷

    • @malakatan3235
      @malakatan3235 Рік тому

      I don't think hypergamy caused by pornography 😅

    • @CoachSteveJandS
      @CoachSteveJandS Рік тому +1

      I'll 2nd this, Sadia is one of the best, most thorough speakers

    • @Bonescratcher
      @Bonescratcher Рік тому

      She didn’t even reply to you or like your message

  • @elaa1934
    @elaa1934 Рік тому +43

    What an absolutely insightful, articulated woman of God and integrity. SO much self respect and wont even talk about her insane beauty, but her character is WOW. Especially these day! Bravo.

  • @E33Tpro
    @E33Tpro Рік тому +10

    A 3 hour long discussion between you and Dr. Jordan Peterson on any topic would be extraordinarily interesting, I really hope I get to see that one day.

  • @lifeseries7944
    @lifeseries7944 Рік тому +33

    Thank you for clarifying the "high value"! I really dislike men calling themselves "high value" just because they have money. "High value" should include safetly, loyalty, trust, good morality...

    • @Alkymisten100
      @Alkymisten100 Рік тому +1

      All people are high value.

    • @laurahenry3562
      @laurahenry3562 Рік тому +5

      @@Alkymisten100funny u r , step inside a prison, no sir not everyone is high value, some are evil, an no money does not equate value, your heart dictates value , Jesus is king 🙏

    • @malakatan3235
      @malakatan3235 Рік тому

      market telling them that😅

  • @alejandrofigueroa6958
    @alejandrofigueroa6958 Рік тому +5

    She is so right ... i am jawdropped on how articulated she is. She is so right when she said that men need to wisely choose women who will follow the legacy of his family

  • @Ranevashi
    @Ranevashi Рік тому +12

    A year of CBT therapy and I didn't have so much enlightenment than that 20 mim podcast. Thank You Sadia

    • @brettgouldmusic8129
      @brettgouldmusic8129 Рік тому +1

      ive had 6 months and its changing my life.. But she speaks factually about this and addiction.

  • @christaggart5687
    @christaggart5687 Рік тому +9

    You are amazing to listen to Sadia. Thank you for your wisdom. I am a therapist, and greatly enjoy your content

  • @gabbysramos
    @gabbysramos Рік тому +13

    I agree, I believe in external as well as internal validation. we are all made with needs and to connect and the love from parents or other people are the external validation to learn how to validate self or internally. I think you need both and thats how confidence and self love and love for others grows.

  • @pauls.2526
    @pauls.2526 Рік тому +1

    This 3 month old video should have millions of likes by now. What a wealth of wisdom.

  • @abidfarooqui4899
    @abidfarooqui4899 Рік тому +8

    Sadia: Glad to see you still have your Pakistani cultural values and your head straight and in a good way. You have been able to take the best of both worlds from the west and from the east and combine it where it makes sense and gives a healthy life. So nice to see the results of that journey. Keep sharing and be blessed.

  • @justme-dq5sp
    @justme-dq5sp Рік тому +3

    i totally agree with Sadia. I always tell my nephews and male friends not to engage in casual dating, lowering their standards thinking that they wont get serious, just plainly "sex'... the huge problem comes when their partner gets pregnant and they ar forced to marry the girl with their mindset she was just for casual dating and not marriage material... just sad when they get trapped with their own game.

  • @OmaAlkebulan-grace
    @OmaAlkebulan-grace Рік тому +2

    Man this woman right here!!!!!!!!!! Lord! She is insatiable, elligant, and intelligent. I never thought about a relationship with a psychologist, my best and favorite, writers and lectures are psychologist, Conscious. Loved philosophy and psychology since the 4th grade, a autodidate. Probably the only one that I can understand and can understand me.

  • @casadimilano7048
    @casadimilano7048 Рік тому

    Very powerful words, I especially agree with being overweight and depressed because I’m overweight at the moment. I enjoy your wisdom.

  • @selopibani3220
    @selopibani3220 Рік тому +4

    Love Sadia’s definition of high value relationships

  • @zach3841
    @zach3841 Рік тому +2

    Thanks Sadia 😊 I've learned a lot from your videos.

  • @eddy2561
    @eddy2561 Рік тому +1

    Sadia is brilliant!!

  • @paulcooper5748
    @paulcooper5748 Рік тому +3

    Communication is the most important thing in realationships.

  • @_VR_8
    @_VR_8 Рік тому +8

    Shame and guilt are the best things for healthy society.

  • @discogene
    @discogene Рік тому +3

    I hope you upload this valuable information to Apple Podcasts one day. Or even write a book. You’ve become one of my favorite creators on UA-cam. ❤

  • @slimmsg7
    @slimmsg7 Рік тому +2

    Self loathing is so real, def based on shame and guilt ...

    • @_VR_8
      @_VR_8 Рік тому

      Shame and guilt are the best things for healthy society, i’d rather see all those mentally ill people loathe themselves instead of being proud of their disturbing brain disorders.

  • @NoName-jq7tj
    @NoName-jq7tj Рік тому +1

    I know of a married woman locally you openly shows interest to me even going as far as flirting. I ignore her. When I have observed her she seems a distant person as if she feels that she wanted more out of life. I once saw her with her husband in a playground in a local park & her kids played with the father & I sensed she was absolutely distant from him. I knew no matter what neve get involved with her as she will just use you to feel good for a short time & than she will go back to her reality & this will make you feel cheap eventually.

  • @insights3140
    @insights3140 Рік тому +2

    So much wisdom here.

  • @OdellBarahona
    @OdellBarahona 11 місяців тому +1

    Admiro mcho sus contenido es un gran aporte a la sociedad q esta pasando su peor momento de la historia de la humanidad . Su talento es unico muy singular

  • @blacktea-podcast
    @blacktea-podcast Рік тому +2

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: HOW SHAME AND GUILT RUINS YOUR LIFE
    00:14 📚 Pornography is blamed for impacting marriages negatively by promoting behaviors and desires that conflict with monogamous relationships.
    01:49 🤝 Discipline is essential for success, whether pursuing goals or maintaining relationships, as lack of discipline can hinder both.
    03:12 💑 Choosing a partner should be based on discipline and compatibility, not just having someone to fill a void or distraction.
    08:04 🚫 The pursuit of instant pleasure often masks internal turmoil and shame, leading to repeated cycles of engaging in unhealthy behaviors.
    11:01 💔 Hyper-independence and disregard for rules can lead to a sense of emptiness and disconnection, highlighting the importance of moral guidance and shared values.

  • @JesseTiny
    @JesseTiny Рік тому

    Ive been watching these to help support my partner

  • @peterskrzypczak5424
    @peterskrzypczak5424 Рік тому +1

    Thanks!
    "Men that come from old money do not date women half their age." ~ Sadia Khan
    "Truly high value..."
    Priceless.
    Thanks.
    So many doing so much to impress people who could care less... is it careless?

  • @EsotericallyWikked
    @EsotericallyWikked Рік тому

    Great stuff and I would say men want one thing women want another and I feel that the lying and getting people back for little things ends them before the. People even realize.

  • @Eng4555
    @Eng4555 Рік тому

    MRS. SADIA truthfully iam impressed with wonderful platform events which are enabling us a few go forward however it would be Engineers like myself and Certain theologians sit with you and engage more on women misdirection, misunderstanding, less power to herself strong and money perception

  • @Teamshmo
    @Teamshmo Рік тому +2

    An interesting point you make about eating too much and feeling shame. I think people eat too much out of control. Usually their whole life is in chaos and they use food as a way to have any sense of control. They think the world can tell me to do this or that, but I decide what I'm gonna eat. Of course they end up super fat and that's when the shame sets in. That's when they realize they lost control of the one thing they thought they had control over. The sadness that comes from that is very overwhelming. You see this body positivity movement to try and justify it, but they all know the truth deep down. There is not one single pro to being severely obese

  • @Myrslokstok
    @Myrslokstok Рік тому

    Guy stressed at 5:22 😃 (damn this girl is good he thinks)!
    Cudos for the guy, who actually ask genuin quesstions, and not hiting on her and talk 80% of himself, and don't try to flash, let her shine, thanks for sharing experiance from real interaction with real people.

  • @sinqueen16
    @sinqueen16 Рік тому

    If everyone could see this and understand what she is saying the world would get better slowly

  • @reyrob
    @reyrob Рік тому

    She is so pretty it should be illegal!

  • @sarwatjahan8535
    @sarwatjahan8535 Рік тому

    MashAllah ❤

  • @revogenmediadotco
    @revogenmediadotco Рік тому

    words of G O L D.

  • @suriyawetzler9836
    @suriyawetzler9836 Рік тому

    Very good conversation
    but the video should be split into 2 to fit the title……thank you🙏🌺🙏😊

  • @kingdomcitizenship5613
    @kingdomcitizenship5613 Рік тому +5

    18:39 This part❤

  • @ElliottJMiller
    @ElliottJMiller Рік тому +6

    This worked for me. Maybe it could help someone else. I started doing all this in 2020. I think most people should speak to a therapist, get closer to God, get off social media completely, exercise, stop drinking alcohol, eat healthier, and make some more money. Change your way of thinking. Be the person who God intended for you to be. When we are better, we attract better quality people and things. Only issue I have with Sadia is this monogamy thing. I may not exercise my options. Who knows maybe I want to collect my infinity stones and have 4 wives. This is a tactic women try to use to have some control (power) in the relationship. Knock it off Sadia.

    • @Jenniferx0x
      @Jenniferx0x Рік тому +1

      Did god have 4 wives?

    • @ElliottJMiller
      @ElliottJMiller Рік тому +2

      @@Jenniferx0xI normally don’t comment back. Since you wanted to talk religion…. Nothing in the Bible mentioned monogamy. It’s a Western world ideology. Abraham had multiple women, Solomon had multiple wives, David looked down on Basheeba while she was bathing. Since you want to take it there. Also in the Quran it says men can have four wives. It does say one is better though. Noble men from centuries ago had many women. Even with almost 8 billion people on Earth. The best of men get the most women. And before you say women can do it too. It’s not in female nature to do it. I think there was a women in the Bible who did that. There is a term called for that in the Bible as well. I can’t recall at this time. The feminine essence is to nurture. Family and children are women’s purpose in life. I think you challenged the wrong person.

    • @krilla6036
      @krilla6036 Рік тому +2

      @@ElliottJMiller only RICH men can have multiple wives, given there a children involved. Who is gonna pay for everything while you’re on your debaucherous escapades !

    • @ElliottJMiller
      @ElliottJMiller Рік тому

      @@krilla6036 Me silly. InshaAllah

    • @abrekbabay5840
      @abrekbabay5840 Рік тому

      If there is anything good in this life, it's a woman.😊

  • @Smvnbsjskrmj
    @Smvnbsjskrmj Рік тому +1

    I want to see the entire podcast, what is the name of the guy?

  • @chankane
    @chankane Рік тому

    Porn is a fantasy. True, there are many realizing their fantasies, but it also, MUST, come down to their understanding of morality.

  • @newoaknl
    @newoaknl Рік тому

    @11:55 ==>> I very strong disagree on that. There is no reward for men.

  • @malakatan3235
    @malakatan3235 Рік тому +2

    I don't think hypergamy caused by pornography 😅

  • @2by3
    @2by3 Рік тому

    Very good one!

  • @soniashahid7641
    @soniashahid7641 Рік тому

    @sadiapsychology would love to see you have a discussion with Nouman Ali Khan... Are you related?

  • @romez8361
    @romez8361 Рік тому +3

    DEPENDS IF YOU GOT IT OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM WHEN YOU WERE YOUNGER.... ITS NOT A MYSTERY.... YOU GET IT HANDLED .. YOU FONT HAVE TO WORK AND IMPROVE YOUR STATUS JUST TO GET LAID....

  • @HerbertFlowers-l3h
    @HerbertFlowers-l3h Рік тому

    Depression in men, suicide in woman

  • @AlohaMichaelDaly
    @AlohaMichaelDaly Рік тому

    Sadia great insight and info from your study and work.
    On the point of religious rules you might do well to take time to consider what atheist say about morality and where it evolves from. I wonder if, in your therapy practice you recommend clients take to theism and religious rules? It pains me that evangelists and group-think smuggle The Bible into 12-step programmes. It bothers me that weak, undisciplined, turmatized and gullible people get caught in scams, addictions, recklessness only to recover from the issue and replace it with an obsession with religion that is equally escapist, a fantasy and unhealthy. It’s only tolerated because of equally harmful mass social humbug about the delusion of God/s.
    If people want feel-good behavioural incentives perhaps as a therapist and hopefully one who studies and goes where the science leads, you might acknowledge that good behaviour and social morality is actually best inculcated, as messy as it is, without having to appeal to one or more of the thousands of conflicting, insane and unprovable Gods of ancient narcissistic authorship.
    I wouldn’t be so blatant about prescribing God and God rules to address the woes of today or woes you perceive such as gender identity and rights. It would be valuable and respectful to activists and non-conservatives who have made sacrifice in the past century, in particular since the 70s, to afforded your rights today as an outspoken educated and professional woman showing her face and hair, advocating no contact, separation, divorce for those in toxic relationships, recognizing casual hook ups and so on to take a deeper examination of where morality and rules come from.
    Given your worldly position and in contrast to your own Scripture morals are obviously not from your God at least, unless cherry picking counts or hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance are God’s rules too.
    This is of the upmost importance to me since you present as a health professional and a high-value woman, and since the stakes are high for the wellbeing of individuals, society and life on the planet. Their is no necessity for Gods while they are absent of evidence to facilitate agreement and mental stability.
    Good guys are tired of walking on egg shells accommodating women’s indulgences in forever movable abstracts and supernatural things, let alone going off to destructive work and war, participating in global protection racquets to benefit the disorded establishment and immature neurotic disposition of women.
    In an otherwise healthy, secure and sane world honest regular-value women (never mind so called high-value ones) would have the diligence, brain power and rationality to assert their emancipation in the most fundamental way in today’s world: they would put aside man-made stories of man-gods of absolute universal control, where fantasy, prejudice, superstition, victimization and shame fester, and rather, submit to the science -frail as it is- and to it’s application as it’s used by every person and organization daily, and beyond that, simply and forthrightly accept spirit and mystery with solidarity, trust, joy and love.

    • @suadahedzic
      @suadahedzic Рік тому

      Religious rules= best practices for the soul

  • @jmartinez562
    @jmartinez562 5 місяців тому

    Adult films in 2024 are high quality and by 2028 the VR world will make Adult film so interactive Men will No longer need Women as much as they do in a physical way

  • @ristosorri301
    @ristosorri301 Рік тому

    Shamelessness and guilt free life is the suggested life style?

  • @yzma6142
    @yzma6142 Рік тому +1

    High value women wouldn’t be ok with casual sex with a man

  • @fredlayuda3911
    @fredlayuda3911 Рік тому

    Very good

  • @gbrl_cyber
    @gbrl_cyber 2 місяці тому

    i really don't think so me and my ex gf we've been togetherfor 10 yrs and we had sex at least 2-3 times a week even 2yrs after we broke up due to her mental issues we had sex nearly every time we met. if you meet the right person or in my case my soulmate it's not getting boring at all. if it gets boring .. that's on you.

  • @ihtishamaslam
    @ihtishamaslam Рік тому

    She is amazaing!

  • @Nissannx2000svg
    @Nissannx2000svg 11 місяців тому

    Bruv looks like Krillin in real life 😄

  • @Virvepaulina
    @Virvepaulina Рік тому

    Golden ❤

  • @IbraHim-pv1hz
    @IbraHim-pv1hz Рік тому

    „Khan“!🧿

  • @JohnBricksmith2048
    @JohnBricksmith2048 3 місяці тому

    Porn is not the problem. Porn has been around for decades. It's the messages being sent from humanities programs in academia, isolation, online dating apps and social media. THOSE ARE THE PRIMARY ISSUES.
    I'm not saying we aren't inundated with pornography and it's not a sub factor, but it by far is not a primary issue

  • @lilstkngal
    @lilstkngal Рік тому

    so true porn teaches you to be like the porn actor, if not like them you are not enough for the partner/spouse & the relationship is ended. 😊

  • @dallasmitchell6999
    @dallasmitchell6999 Рік тому

    I thin Sam Smith is acting disgraceful 😢 I agree I see depression too. Change the mind with the body.

  • @seantuaima
    @seantuaima Рік тому +1

    Sadia Khan can you cook for me please?

  • @ObolonWeener
    @ObolonWeener Рік тому

    I like her.

  • @michaelk4740
    @michaelk4740 Рік тому +7

    You blame porn?? 80% of divorces are initiated by women!
    Sadia always blames the men and never holds women accountable

    • @johngalt6838
      @johngalt6838 Рік тому

      Porn is a symptom of poor development of men and less sexual selection of more and more men.

  • @DaniLaliba-hv3pn
    @DaniLaliba-hv3pn Рік тому

    ilve❤❤❤

  • @DaniLaliba-hv3pn
    @DaniLaliba-hv3pn Рік тому

    dahne lilbaa kerest

  • @Trace7173
    @Trace7173 Рік тому +2

    You do NOT need any god to have morals..Other than that, this was very insightful!

    • @suadahedzic
      @suadahedzic Рік тому +1

      Why is the society now where it is today then

    • @DrIRfanUllah0011
      @DrIRfanUllah0011 9 місяців тому

      Was a point to ponder for atheists too.

  • @BarriosGroupie
    @BarriosGroupie Рік тому

    Our biological makeup is generally geared towards having children. You can go against this, but there will be unhealthy consequences you're going to have to deal with.

  • @ZARA-to9fp
    @ZARA-to9fp Рік тому +3

    I am just amazed that you are ok with people like Andrew Tate who used psychological manipulation on women to get them to work for him.
    You are obvious his supporter. Maybe you read how human traffickers operate. What Loverboy method is and how it’s used.

    • @KingTeej92
      @KingTeej92 Рік тому

      She's also a grifter like Tate so probably why they get on so well. I highly doubt she's a real psychologist and just a narcissistic piece of 💩 who preys on the vulnerable.

  • @XEvolutionXXX
    @XEvolutionXXX Рік тому +2

    Wow Sadia, I'm very impressed by the way how you think and the level of your intelligence. I love the way how you break everything down (in fact, you did it 10x better than how I would break it down). Bye the way, have anyone told you that you look like "Megan Fox"? Yup, I think you look like "Megan Fox" for sure!!!! But a lot smarter than "Megan Fox" for sure too. You are a "High Value" woman for sure. Allow me to be the first to tell you this if nobody told you this yet!!!! I think you need to be more well known because you are a valuable asset to humanity too. I think your message is very important and it can actual fix the problem we are having in today dating culture. Thank you for giving "Humanity" hope in fixing our Society (before we can save this country, we need to fix the marriage problem first in America). Dating and marriage are so broken today and it was done intentionally by the "Evil" Elites who want to control us. Keep up the good work!!! 👍👍👌👌😉😉

  • @carlobella1850
    @carlobella1850 Рік тому +3

    So pretty….

    • @johngalt6838
      @johngalt6838 Рік тому

      Lets see after makeup remover.

    • @carlobella1850
      @carlobella1850 Рік тому

      @@johngalt6838 whatever what women don’t wear make up she’s in her 30s she’s not old and she’s absolutely gorgeous.

  • @abrekbabay5840
    @abrekbabay5840 Рік тому +1

    Cheerfulness of the body in small food ,and Cheerfulness of the spirit in small sins. Our problems are our sins . Leave sins and you will be happy .🫠