Death happens while you're making other plans
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- Опубліковано 24 сер 2024
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Trent & Allie and The Nomatic Movement. (Two separate channels, but this playlist is when they were traveling together and you can access each channel on its own):
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Tal & Mads:
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Lost my beloved husband of 40 years almost 10 years ago. The pain I felt was so enormous I didn’t understand how I could be in so much pain and still be alive. I went to private grief therapy and 2 bereavement support groups. I read books and articles on grief. I learned to meditate. I I got weekly massages and acupuncture. I tried anti-depressants. I went to square dance classes. I wrote in my journal. I walked and cried daily. I have come a long way but grief really never ends. I still can get overcome with sadness. In therapy we talked about "moving FORWARD" instead of "moving ON". NOW I am able to look back and see how lucky I was to have had such a wonderful man as my husband for as long as I did. One therapist told me : you gotta talk, you gotta cry and you gotta move". Be gentle with yourself. You are in shock.
Thank you so much for this comment. It is truly appreciated!
@@gr8fullytedicated you are so welcome.
We - the grief stricken - are literally like patients in an invisible hospital, and our culture does very little to help us. I come up against the obstacles resulting from my widowhood every day, some large and tangible, some small and mostly mental/emotional, but all very present, even after 10 long years. Sorry if I sound whiny, but it still kind of amazes me. I’m just grateful that I’ve been able to get the help I need to keep the balls in the air! I hope I’ve gotten stronger. Some days I’m not so sure. Yes-it’s been 10 years since my husband of 40 years died. I still - at times - find myself stunned.
At the same time, I'm okay. Most days I think of him with
great love and gratitude. Yes, there is still sorrow, but it is no longer the predominant emotion in my body.
I wouldn't have believed this would be possible for the first 2 years after he died.
I remember feeling that no one else in the world had ever felt as awful as I did. I remember the yearning.
Now, I think about all the kindnesses great and small I've been lucky enough to have received. Reading about grief and going
to bereavement /support groups I remember how sometimes just one breath is all you need to do,
and then the next breath. And then the next. Even though you are breathing in hell !!!!
[ "When you are going through hell..keep going" ]. My grief therapist told me grief is like a bowling ball that you have to carry around. You must put it down at times so you can rest but you must always pick it back up again. Over time it gets easier to carry-rouget used to it. But you must carry it until YOU die.
Bereavement groups helped me see everyone suffers when they lose a beloved person. And losses will come to ALL of us.
"Grief and love are sisters, woven together from the beginning. Their kinship reminds us that there is no love that does not contain loss and no loss that is not a reminder of the love we carry for what we once held close."
- from " the wild edge of sorrow" by Francis Weller
@@shelleycharlesworth5177I am so very sorry for your loss. Your writing is eloquent. We never do forget, but we can move forward. Very true. 💜
I have learned that feelings can lie. You can do hard things. Keep on keeping on!
One must be quite mindful of what is happening both in the mind and the body. Thank you for watching!
I have been alone for over 30 years. My mother died around that time, too, so my dad was alone also until he died at 101 in 2000. During those "alone" years, my dad and I were very close and did a lot of traveling together and became his primary care taker in his later years. We both found out how much we had in common and I still miss him every day. But I share things with him always and I encourage you to talk to your wife and share your joys with her because she will see and hear them, too. When I see things that excite me in nature, I will tell him out loud, "Daddy, look at the beautiful....." whatever it is, or hear a wonderful symphony that I know he would like.... you get the picture. I love that you are sharing your thoughts with us. Blessings to you and never stop seeing the fun things because she wants you to be happy.
THank you for your post. It is greatly appreciated. And I do have lots of photos and videos in which to revel.
Somehow I missed this video. Oh the comments hit me in the stomach. The stories of love and loss. The comment from the woman who lost her husband of 40 years. 😞
Of course there are many sad moments that don’t show up in your videos. It’s been a very very short time. I respect your resilience and dedication to living life. I’m sure Debbie would’ve wanted that for you. I’m so sorry about the family. I can’t imagine why.
I’m glad you’re still going to the OCF. I will look for you there.
Treat yourself well. Be gentle. It may be a lot. 💙 -Grace
Hi Ted ❤ it’s ok not to be a goldfish right now. Honor your feelings. Glad you are talking about it. Talking always helps me process.
Thank you so much, Kari. It is truly appreciated.
Hang in there, my brother. A favorite old song by Mimi and Richard Farina contains the generous offer shown below. If only it were possible. If only it were so simple. Our hearts are with you.
But if somehow you could pack up your sorrows,
And give them all to me,
You would lose them, I know how to use them,
Give them all to me.
I'm working it through it Things are very slowly improving. Thank you for your attention. I really appreciate it.
Use this space to heal, I’m sorry you’re taking it so hard. She knew how important she was in your life, I can assure you that you were just as important to her. ❤
You are sweet. I'm working eery day to get better.
Permanent sorrow to have lost. Permanent joy to have known. You can throw all the best words at it, but a cut like that only heals over time -- 6-12 months for the highly resilient. On some things, the only way out is through. I would have a very tough time overcoming a loss like that.
Totally right, Bro' 👊
So sorry that you are grieving, but if these videos help you in that process, then you should do more of them. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Trust in God, stay strong, and keep making your videos, if that brings you comfort. Bless you!
Thank you for your kind comment
Its sad her family feels animosity towards you- that is rather shocking and even more heart breaking to hear.
Yes, it certainly is.Thank you for your comment.
Thanks again for sharing your heart; you are brave and strong. Keep reaching out.👊🏽
And thank you so much for your emotional support. It's appreciated. 👊
My heart is with you. Grief is so hard to go through I lost my husband 2 yrs ago to cancer and can tell you the past 2 yrs have been rough but treasure all your great memories the 2 of you had. Know she is waiting for you and watch for signs she will send you to let you know she’s there and she is ok and at peace. She is in excellent company 😘
Thank you for your post. It's greatly appreciated. Things are very different, but I shall have to adjust until my time comes. 👍
Keep talking ❤ - I lost my partner 4 months ago today . I understand . And I’ll be here with you .
Thank you so much for your kind post. It is truly appreciated.
No-one here gets out alive
Jim Morrison
❤Thanks for your videos.
And thank you so much for your comments and good wishes, Mona. 🙏
Psalm 90:12 Teach us to number our days,
that we may gain a heart of wisdom.
She would want you to enjoy your life and be happy. Do all the things you used to do and smile towards the heavens. She is smiling back. The wisest words I ever heard after a friend lost his wife was “ Life is for the living.”
Yes, you are correct. Thank you for your kind post.