@ Ali Forza - Sister, please tell people to look for a spouse within their own countries, communities. There could be bad actors out there who may take advantage of new Muslims. So don't become a marriage broker/counselor - inadvertantly. You are doing a great job highlighting these issues being faced by our comminities.
ISLAM is universal religion and prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam and later his companions (sahabas raziallahu taala anhum ajmayeen) during Khilafah went out of hejaz peninsula to farthest lands in Syria persia India ,Africa n as far as Caucasus Russia to spread DEEN and married there so that ISLAM spreads and is not bound to particular community or land and there's genetic benefits as well besides proving final khutba of prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam to be true in practice - No arab has any superiority over non Arab n vice versa , ok if it's convenient for someone to marry within his or her community it's good for them BUT don't generalise it
@@nawazishkhan2080 I agree. Alos there is no prohibition to marry someone outside our community. It is easy for Allah to create us into 1 race, 1 skin color and 1 language, but Allah make humans in different variation for us to get to know each other and mingle, not to isolate or being exclusive with our own community.
The enemy of a woman is often herself. She needs a good man to help her untie the knot of conflicting opinions within her. She needs a good man not to compete with, but to complement her. Each person has a role in life, but the current generation often lacks the right compass to guide them on the right path. They have grown up with strangers they see on their phones, more than with their own parent
I think there are not enough role models for young people. Bushra & I discuss what a traditional Muslim marriage looks like in an upcoming video. Insha’Allah you’ll check that episode out too!
this is so good - i’m working with shuyukh in my area to help combat the red pill ideology (which is ultimately grounded in a materialistic outlook) by spreading knowledge about islamic masculinity - red pill is ultimately not good for men anymore than feminism is good for muslim women - we are on neither extreme, we are the balanced nation may Allah swt bless you to do more work and uplift the ummah
Jazak’Allah khair for your encouraging comment and yes, both red pill and feminism are inherently flawed because they both uphold man man principles unlike Islam. We need more people like you who are putting in the hard word💪Insha'Allah you are rewarded for your efforts!
SubhanAllah, very important and nice topic. Thanks a lot sister. Like you I also cared for my brothers as the oldest because my mother worked the hole day. InshaAllah khair.
Jazak’Allah khair for telling me this brother. Yes, when our mothers are so busy working, it puts the children in a situation where they have to look after each other.
From medical point of you the more a woman gets aged chances of child being born with down's syndrome n other genetic disease increases especially after age 30s so it's better for a woman to get married before that age range besides early marriage prevents so many vices in society
Salaam alaikum. The majority of sisters in their 30s+ that married 'late' or are still unmarried are not delaying for a career or to be a "boss babe". The fact is in the west there is a lack of practising brothers compared to pracitising sisters and many have had to look abroad to marry after exhausting their search in their respective countries. What would be useful would be to speak to sisters who are actually in the position and ask them why they are. I think you will be suprised that it's not a onesize fit all reason that's currently being proclaimed.
Exactly! Theres more practicing brothers than practicing sisters! One of the problems I faced as a practicing brother was that most sisters I talked to were not serious about following the deen and were hyper focused on their education and career!
There are way more practicing brothers in the west than sisters. Most Muslima in the US are feminized, liberalized, do Zina, and don't even wear hijab. They're cultural Muslims aka Kaffirs.
Asalamuwaleikum sister Alie. JizakAllah Khahir for broaching this topic in a substantive matter. May Allah swt continue to guide you as you make Dawah. It is important to understand that feminism and the red pill are not equal. The Red Pill is a response to feminism, which puts the feminist movement (and by extension the entire LGBT movement) at the center (i.e. ground zero) for the fitnah within the Ummah, be it red pill or feminist ideology. As a Muslim match maker, I am in the marriage trenches daily and I can tell you, that, on average, I find there are more traditional practicing men, than women. Also, I find that younger women are far more distracted than young men, and this is by design, unfortunately. Marriage is one of the 3 things that we as Muslims cannot delay. The answer to all of this fitna, of course, is for women to build their lives around the Deen....and for men to, likewise, to become Men of Deen. Allahualem. Asalamuwaleikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.
Wa alaykumu as salam & jazak’Allah khair for your comment & for your support brother. I think Bushra did a great job pointing out that Red Pill is a response to feminism and that they are both problematic ideologies that take us out of the fold of Islam. We don't need these man made philosophies because Islam is already complete. Subhan’Allah! Alhamdulillah that Bushra is a matchmaker too💖
Look at Khabib's wife as well, Is she social media influencer, have you ever seen her? Girls should be like Khabib's wife then only men should be like Khabib. There is second side of the coin as well which everybody should look at as well. but that's inherently super hard
A lot of brothers are marrying from abroad. I believe it's a huge fitna because it creates an imbalance as sisters are less likely to marry from abroad. Majority of converts are also women. I too married from abroad although over the years I have realized that not all sisters in the west are the so called feminists. But there's generally a view that sisters in the west may not be patient or good wives. I believe sisters may complain about brothers too. However this fitna needs to resolved it will only get worse in time. May Allah grant everyone righteous spouses ameen
@@leila_de_hautjardin marrying the women of the book is very discouraged during our day and age. The kids born out of the marriage would be super confused also because of the issue you mentioned.
I married from pakistan as a man from uk alhamdulillah found a very practicing submissive women i would never have found a muslim woman like that in the west
My suggestion is: A) marry early (when desire becomes distracting) B) immediate IUD (delay responsibility till ready to give proper Tarbiya) This is essentially what Ibrahim AS did. He had kids after retirement lol
Wa alaykumu as salam! I am with you on point a but point b scares me!! I honestly don't know much about the IUD but surely it has to be better than hormonal bc, right?!🤔
@@AlieForza IUD's come in 2 forms: A) copper-T B) hormonal They are the most effective contraceptive. Everything has side effects (excessive bleeding with cu, blood clots with hormones) but none are as bad as unplanned pregnancy. The doctor and family planing team can explain it all. We are having an unplanned pregnancy crises in the ummah leasing to divorce and child abuse/neglect. Zakariy planned for a baby, Ibraheem was worried about a second child, Sahaba were allowed coitus interruptus to prevent pregnancy. Pregnancy without Tarbiya (ideal upbringing) is producing traumatized children.
@ Ali Forza - Sister, please tell people to look for a spouse within their own countries, communities. There could be bad actors out there who may take advantage of new Muslims. So don't become a marriage broker/counselor - inadvertantly.
You are doing a great job highlighting these issues being faced by our comminities.
We discuss people marrying within their own communities in an upcoming video. Insha'Allah you can watch that episode too!
ISLAM is universal religion and prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam and later his companions (sahabas raziallahu taala anhum ajmayeen) during Khilafah went out of hejaz peninsula to farthest lands in Syria persia India ,Africa n as far as Caucasus Russia to spread DEEN and married there so that ISLAM spreads and is not bound to particular community or land and there's genetic benefits as well besides proving final khutba of prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam to be true in practice - No arab has any superiority over non Arab n vice versa , ok if it's convenient for someone to marry within his or her community it's good for them BUT don't generalise it
@@nawazishkhan2080 I agree. Alos there is no prohibition to marry someone outside our community.
It is easy for Allah to create us into 1 race, 1 skin color and 1 language, but Allah make humans in different variation for us to get to know each other and mingle, not to isolate or being exclusive with our own community.
I think there are pluses & minuses on both sides of the argument!
The enemy of a woman is often herself. She needs a good man to help her untie the knot of conflicting opinions within her. She needs a good man not to compete with, but to complement her. Each person has a role in life, but the current generation often lacks the right compass to guide them on the right path. They have grown up with strangers they see on their phones, more than with their own parent
I think there are not enough role models for young people.
Bushra & I discuss what a traditional Muslim marriage looks like in an upcoming video.
Insha’Allah you’ll check that episode out too!
MashAllah you touched upon important factors affecting people today, well done!
Jazak’Allah khair for your support! We appreciate it💗
this is so good - i’m working with shuyukh in my area to help combat the red pill ideology (which is ultimately grounded in a materialistic outlook) by spreading knowledge about islamic masculinity - red pill is ultimately not good for men anymore than feminism is good for muslim women - we are on neither extreme, we are the balanced nation
may Allah swt bless you to do more work and uplift the ummah
Jazak’Allah khair for your encouraging comment and yes, both red pill and feminism are inherently flawed because they both uphold man man principles unlike Islam.
We need more people like you who are putting in the hard word💪Insha'Allah you are rewarded for your efforts!
LOVE IT , I HOPE THERE I PART 2
Jazak’Allah khair for your support! Yes there are several episodes. Have you watched episode 1 yet?
SubhanAllah, very important and nice topic. Thanks a lot sister. Like you I also cared for my brothers as the oldest because my mother worked the hole day. InshaAllah khair.
Jazak’Allah khair for telling me this brother. Yes, when our mothers are so busy working, it puts the children in a situation where they have to look after each other.
Jazakallah Khair sisters. May Allah bless, preserve and reward you guys.
Jazak’Allah khair for your prayers!
Ma'Sha'Allah great discussion to awaken us.
Insha’Allah!
From medical point of you the more a woman gets aged chances of child being born with down's syndrome n other genetic disease increases especially after age 30s so it's better for a woman to get married before that age range besides early marriage prevents so many vices in society
I agree with you. I think getting married to the right spouse is of utmost importance, regarding of age!
Salaam alaikum. The majority of sisters in their 30s+ that married 'late' or are still unmarried are not delaying for a career or to be a "boss babe". The fact is in the west there is a lack of practising brothers compared to pracitising sisters and many have had to look abroad to marry after exhausting their search in their respective countries. What would be useful would be to speak to sisters who are actually in the position and ask them why they are. I think you will be suprised that it's not a onesize fit all reason that's currently being proclaimed.
Bushra briefly mentioned this; that men are being attacked on all fronts!
Insha’Allah we can unpack this issue in another episode.
I see the opposite in the west, there are way more practicing brothers than sisters, a lot of hijabis have a westernised mindset and liberal values
Exactly! Theres more practicing brothers than practicing sisters! One of the problems I faced as a practicing brother was that most sisters I talked to were not serious about following the deen and were hyper focused on their education and career!
There are way more practicing brothers in the west than sisters. Most Muslima in the US are feminized, liberalized, do Zina, and don't even wear hijab. They're cultural Muslims aka Kaffirs.
Asalamuwaleikum sister Alie. JizakAllah Khahir for broaching this topic in a substantive matter. May Allah swt continue to guide you as you make Dawah. It is important to understand that feminism and the red pill are not equal. The Red Pill is a response to feminism, which puts the feminist movement (and by extension the entire LGBT movement) at the center (i.e. ground zero) for the fitnah within the Ummah, be it red pill or feminist ideology. As a Muslim match maker, I am in the marriage trenches daily and I can tell you, that, on average, I find there are more traditional practicing men, than women. Also, I find that younger women are far more distracted than young men, and this is by design, unfortunately. Marriage is one of the 3 things that we as Muslims cannot delay. The answer to all of this fitna, of course, is for women to build their lives around the Deen....and for men to, likewise, to become Men of Deen. Allahualem. Asalamuwaleikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.
Wa alaykumu as salam & jazak’Allah khair for your comment & for your support brother.
I think Bushra did a great job pointing out that Red Pill is a response to feminism and that they are both problematic ideologies that take us out of the fold of Islam. We don't need these man made philosophies because Islam is already complete. Subhan’Allah!
Alhamdulillah that Bushra is a matchmaker too💖
@@AlieForza :Bushra is a matchmaker too" - Awesome, be the change you want to see in the world.
Exactly!!
All men should be like Khabib, strong, disciplined and humble.
Look at Khabib's wife as well, Is she social media influencer, have you ever seen her? Girls should be like Khabib's wife then only men should be like Khabib. There is second side of the coin as well which everybody should look at as well. but that's inherently super hard
Stop trying to shift the blame onto men. It's mostly Muslima resorting to Zina and acting like kafira.
A lot of brothers are marrying from abroad. I believe it's a huge fitna because it creates an imbalance as sisters are less likely to marry from abroad. Majority of converts are also women. I too married from abroad although over the years I have realized that not all sisters in the west are the so called feminists. But there's generally a view that sisters in the west may not be patient or good wives. I believe sisters may complain about brothers too. However this fitna needs to resolved it will only get worse in time. May Allah grant everyone righteous spouses ameen
Ameen!
And if you add those who marry women of the book, that leaves even fewer men for muslim women 😢
@@leila_de_hautjardin marrying the women of the book is very discouraged during our day and age. The kids born out of the marriage would be super confused also because of the issue you mentioned.
@@leila_de_hautjardin that’s a really good point sister!
I married from pakistan as a man from uk alhamdulillah found a very practicing submissive women i would never have found a muslim woman like that in the west
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Beautiful Islam Quran my sister
Jazak’Allah khair!
Assalam alaikum.
Wa alaykumu as salam! Insha’Allah you’re doing well?
My suggestion is:
A) marry early (when desire becomes distracting)
B) immediate IUD (delay responsibility till ready to give proper Tarbiya)
This is essentially what Ibrahim AS did. He had kids after retirement lol
Wa alaykumu as salam!
I am with you on point a but point b scares me!! I honestly don't know much about the IUD but surely it has to be better than hormonal bc, right?!🤔
@@AlieForza IUD's come in 2 forms:
A) copper-T
B) hormonal
They are the most effective contraceptive. Everything has side effects (excessive bleeding with cu, blood clots with hormones) but none are as bad as unplanned pregnancy.
The doctor and family planing team can explain it all.
We are having an unplanned pregnancy crises in the ummah leasing to divorce and child abuse/neglect.
Zakariy planned for a baby, Ibraheem was worried about a second child, Sahaba were allowed coitus interruptus to prevent pregnancy.
Pregnancy without Tarbiya (ideal upbringing) is producing traumatized children.
@@A.--. Wow that’s super interesting! I know nothing about this stuff so jazak’Allah khair for this information; I appreciate it very much.
IF ITS HARD TO GET ONE HOW WILL I GET 4 . HOW? SAD WORLD WE LIVE IN.
4 is not mandatory!!😉