Keep going INFPs. Be kind to yourself! If anyone is actually interested, I’ve decided to study for the French CLEP test instead of the online class I was supposed to take this semester. And I may be starting a psychology club at my college.
Jack Mellor It’s a test you can take to test out of taking actual classes. My college doesn’t have french, but I want to take it for my required language. I took french 1 while abroad. If I study for/pass the CLEP, I’ll earn 6 college credits for french 1 & french 2. It’s also cheaper than taking it as a class.
I constantly have that inner voice telling me to do things but I get depressed and can’t force myself to do the things so it’s just a constant struggle of doing nothing and worrying about not doing anything
I identify so much with you. It's almost scary seeing a total stranger talk about my innermost feelings. On the flipside It's amazing to feel understood.
It's all so true. I'll even judge my social interactions and actually get on myself for not being warm enough with someone, or not engaging, or not being interesting enough. We can get into these Fi-Si loops where we agonize about interactions or relationships with people, mistakes we made and it all feels so raw and so real as we keep living it over and over again. Bleh. The goal thing is also so true. People think we're like these little twilight fairies tralala-ing through life, but we give a very large damn about what we feel is actually important, and we interact with the world supported by our Te, even though it's not the most developed. It's still how we get stuff done and prioritize our actions. Sorry I didn't mean to write an essay lol. Your fuzzy kitteh sweater is vair cute
I defiantly critique my past self/actions as well. I used to be kind of a bitch and rude, and self-pitying, but I’m no longer that way. I still see that as me being a bad person and as much as I try to be a better person, I still feel undeserving of love because of it.
Hey so... I have advice, while at the same time thinking that it's very hard to give an infp advice. They're always at a certain place in their lives that no one can really grasp or judge from the outside, an authentic place but so my advice to an infp friend in this state of mind would be... to snap out of it (which sounds hard but it made my infp friend laugh so it was good enough). And I mean this in a more sensitive way actually. Self-critical infps would sometimes help themselves by directing their attention outwardly, upon meaningful and interesting things that matter in the world and that are bigger than the seemingly existential problem the infp is experiencing right now in his head. It can make an infp realise that, while their feelings and thoughts do matter, there is still a big fantastic world out there wanting to interact with them and add to their thoughts and feelings, maybe challenge some and confirm others. To be a part of the here and now for a while, instead of trapping yourself in your beautiful but so unforgiving infp universe. Maybe the universe wants to expand. And letting that happen might just be as (if not more) important than this course for example. I also find it interesting that infps, on the one hand, strive for authentic self-expression and care for the system to change, be more inclusive etc. but, on the other hand, care so much about being as good as everybody else on paper. Maybe infps feel inferior sometimes when they don't get their individual meaningful work done like they thought they should and then they need to AT LEAST be as productive as everybody else. I always think... doesn't he (my infp friend) realise that he is doing so many more beautiful and admirable things all the time and that they actually have a big impact on so many people? That he's living a meaningful life regardless of whether he is doing this one meaningful thing well right now or not. It looks a bit like a rant now because actually I'm about to push myself out into the world to do some sports, which help me (an infj) to feel more real sometimes when everything has become theoretical and close to irrelevant. Each type has their struggle. Just many are less aware I guess.
I've noticed that my Ne Parent tends to see how unbelievably complicated things really are, so I get overwhelmed and give up before I actually even start. Like how Ne sees a bunch ways things can go, but not necessarily a way through like Ni does (which ENTJs have). So INFPs see a lot of obstacles coming from all directions, but not really a way past them like Ni users.
We might as well be. If we don't do it then others will. Our inner standards are about things others don't see and don't care about, especially if we have ideals that go against the ways of the world that others take for granted as The Way Things Are. As for the normal things that normal people do, well, we all know we suck at those, so we have to work hard to avoid attracting negative attention from others for not acting like functional adults.
You have Te inferior, and Te is goal oriented. So that might be the reason. According to OP, developing your inferior function might really help the person to feel happier. So you are aware you have a drive to accomplish your goals, but you are insecure about it because it is your inferior function. Then you have tertiary Si that makes you constantly aware of your limitations. I can see how it can be very hard to be an INFP, and I can sort of relate because I struggled a lot with my lower functions, but once you begin developing them there is a huge sense of relief. So if you wish to embark on teh self growth journey, I wish you the best.
I'm not hard on myself I just think that I can make everything , learn everything and achieve anything I want to. We are virtuous by nature Don't forget it ❤️
I am new to this INFP terms. This is so interesting, I wish I have search out for help earlier. Speaking of beating ourselves up. I do beat myself up physically, punching my own face and hitting my head on something.
I am always trying to achieve what seems impossible. Of course I am hard on myself for not being able to achieve the impossible. We should get in contact. I think we would get along great!
Its so defeating when I feel like I need to be doing the things I dont even really want or need to do and then i fail to do them and i feel like just giving up on other things aswell
The problem is what happens if we use intuition the wrong way. Fi for us leads to extremely rigid moral standarts that ultimately prove impossible. I mean even if I mastered my Te function, I would beat myself up over the limitations of my skills and my influence and I would condemn myself for not acting according to an impossible moral standart all the time and making it possible. The fact that nobody ever accomplished that or that it is logically impossible doesn't change that because Ni is so damn stubborn if I use it. It is my current understanding that the demon function is the actual solution. Here is what I think: the big problem is that being focused on Fi, we need Te in our Persona functions. But we're really bad at Te because we generally are introverted decision makers. We just don't usually use Ti because it's incompatible with Fi. So, since it actually is a big part of us and since we push it in the shadow, we have a pretty negative picture of Ti. But it is actually really useful - and it gives us access to our blind spot. There is a power in saying: okay, in this state, I can't solve those problems, but since I know what is happening, I'll use these mental techniques that fix the problem. Ti is often stereotyped as the "human computer" type, but Zen meditation is nothing but a technique to get into a Ti mindstate.
You look like a girl I had à crush for months . She was à Friend and from thé moment I meet her I felt attracted. (I must bé Entp or Estp) I never felt that way with à woman..i even wrote à poem in french and showed to her haha never done that before. We're still Friends it just wasn't meant to bé..(she is in italy and I'am in France) but for the personality type I was sûre she was Istj but she did thé test and got Infp. I will send her this vidéo which by thé way it's a good one with infos and a good intro haha.
@@MeAnINFP yeah true. Ah cool you're English ? French is a nice language except writing which is a painful ..haha our college professor was angry once with native french students because they were making a lot of mistakes in writing. I am french but naturalised french I was born in serbia and learned french from 2010 and on before moving in 2012 around the alps. What helped me at the start was to speak more and make as much mistakes as possible rather than being silent thinking that I will make a stupid mistake and look bad while speaking (I was afraid of that). French films and songs with subtitles helped me too..I don't know if you have an idea how could I give any help or info about french you can tell me ;). I don't know if a have a lot of extroverted intuition :) to find other ideas right in this moment haha
Hi I sometimes wonder if you cringe out on your intro music Cuz I as an INFP literally cringe over everything I do and I don’t know if that’s an INFP thing?
Trooper Trooper Not my intro music, no. I like it. Watching myself talk, especially old videos, maybe. I did notice that having the intro blast on right at the beginning of the video got a little obnoxious if you click on videos a few times, so I’m moving it to a bit after.
Our inner critic is so hard on us because it is Ni critical parent. We are good at our intuition for, or about others, but for ourselves we are critical. This is compounded by our Fi hero being highly moralistic. We intuit negative responses to how others see us, but we are very accurate about how we perceive others with our Ne (extroverted intuition) because we are trying to honestly see the truth in others. In regards ourselves we cannot see clearly, our vision is obscured by this critical parent of ours, and our high ideals. . I have a great co-worker who is an ISFP and she has also studied MBTI, so she stops me when I am in my `critical parent`and reminds me of all the good things I do. We also share a good sense of humour and this makes the work day seem like it flies by, `tempus fugit!` French huh, Enchante mademoiselle. I rode my bike through Quebec in my twenties. My french is atrocious but I was only there about a week. Old Quebec city was amazing and the small towns quaint along the St Lawrence river. I was born in western Canada but it was easy to admire the east equally, especially the Maritimes, where the people were friendly and down to earth. The eastern accent made me laugh inside though.
Keep going INFPs. Be kind to yourself!
If anyone is actually interested, I’ve decided to study for the French CLEP test instead of the online class I was supposed to take this semester. And I may be starting a psychology club at my college.
S AA It will be at my college. :)
Jack Mellor It’s a test you can take to test out of taking actual classes. My college doesn’t have french, but I want to take it for my required language. I took french 1 while abroad. If I study for/pass the CLEP, I’ll earn 6 college credits for french 1 & french 2. It’s also cheaper than taking it as a class.
I constantly have that inner voice telling me to do things but I get depressed and can’t force myself to do the things so it’s just a constant struggle of doing nothing and worrying about not doing anything
Yes, exactly.
Bc we are idealistic perfectionists😭
Note to self: STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!!! *slaps self*
basically a very difficult thing to do
I identify so much with you. It's almost scary seeing a total stranger talk about my innermost feelings. On the flipside It's amazing to feel understood.
It's all so true. I'll even judge my social interactions and actually get on myself for not being warm enough with someone, or not engaging, or not being interesting enough. We can get into these Fi-Si loops where we agonize about interactions or relationships with people, mistakes we made and it all feels so raw and so real as we keep living it over and over again. Bleh. The goal thing is also so true. People think we're like these little twilight fairies tralala-ing through life, but we give a very large damn about what we feel is actually important, and we interact with the world supported by our Te, even though it's not the most developed. It's still how we get stuff done and prioritize our actions. Sorry I didn't mean to write an essay lol. Your fuzzy kitteh sweater is vair cute
I defiantly critique my past self/actions as well. I used to be kind of a bitch and rude, and self-pitying, but I’m no longer that way. I still see that as me being a bad person and as much as I try to be a better person, I still feel undeserving of love because of it.
Hey so... I have advice, while at the same time thinking that it's very hard to give an infp advice. They're always at a certain place in their lives that no one can really grasp or judge from the outside, an authentic place but so my advice to an infp friend in this state of mind would be... to snap out of it (which sounds hard but it made my infp friend laugh so it was good enough). And I mean this in a more sensitive way actually. Self-critical infps would sometimes help themselves by directing their attention outwardly, upon meaningful and interesting things that matter in the world and that are bigger than the seemingly existential problem the infp is experiencing right now in his head. It can make an infp realise that, while their feelings and thoughts do matter, there is still a big fantastic world out there wanting to interact with them and add to their thoughts and feelings, maybe challenge some and confirm others. To be a part of the here and now for a while, instead of trapping yourself in your beautiful but so unforgiving infp universe. Maybe the universe wants to expand. And letting that happen might just be as (if not more) important than this course for example. I also find it interesting that infps, on the one hand, strive for authentic self-expression and care for the system to change, be more inclusive etc. but, on the other hand, care so much about being as good as everybody else on paper. Maybe infps feel inferior sometimes when they don't get their individual meaningful work done like they thought they should and then they need to AT LEAST be as productive as everybody else. I always think... doesn't he (my infp friend) realise that he is doing so many more beautiful and admirable things all the time and that they actually have a big impact on so many people? That he's living a meaningful life regardless of whether he is doing this one meaningful thing well right now or not. It looks a bit like a rant now because actually I'm about to push myself out into the world to do some sports, which help me (an infj) to feel more real sometimes when everything has become theoretical and close to irrelevant. Each type has their struggle. Just many are less aware I guess.
I've noticed that my Ne Parent tends to see how unbelievably complicated things really are, so I get overwhelmed and give up before I actually even start. Like how Ne sees a bunch ways things can go, but not necessarily a way through like Ni does (which ENTJs have). So INFPs see a lot of obstacles coming from all directions, but not really a way past them like Ni users.
This girl's voice is relaxing me. And I feel informed at the same time.
Thank you very much 😊
@@MeAnINFP Thank YOU. This video is so true!
We might as well be. If we don't do it then others will.
Our inner standards are about things others don't see and don't care about, especially if we have ideals that go against the ways of the world that others take for granted as The Way Things Are. As for the normal things that normal people do, well, we all know we suck at those, so we have to work hard to avoid attracting negative attention from others for not acting like functional adults.
You have Te inferior, and Te is goal oriented. So that might be the reason. According to OP, developing your inferior function might really help the person to feel happier. So you are aware you have a drive to accomplish your goals, but you are insecure about it because it is your inferior function. Then you have tertiary Si that makes you constantly aware of your limitations. I can see how it can be very hard to be an INFP, and I can sort of relate because I struggled a lot with my lower functions, but once you begin developing them there is a huge sense of relief. So if you wish to embark on teh self growth journey, I wish you the best.
I'm not hard on myself
I just think that I can make everything , learn everything and achieve anything I want to.
We are virtuous by nature
Don't forget it ❤️
There's never enough time to do all we want to!
I am new to this INFP terms. This is so interesting, I wish I have search out for help earlier. Speaking of beating ourselves up. I do beat myself up physically, punching my own face and hitting my head on something.
😢 Go easier on yourself.
Wow, spot on!
I am always trying to achieve what seems impossible. Of course I am hard on myself for not being able to achieve the impossible. We should get in contact. I think we would get along great!
0 dislikes, that’s how accurate this is
Its so defeating when I feel like I need to be doing the things I dont even really want or need to do and then i fail to do them and i feel like just giving up on other things aswell
The problem is what happens if we use intuition the wrong way. Fi for us leads to extremely rigid moral standarts that ultimately prove impossible. I mean even if I mastered my Te function, I would beat myself up over the limitations of my skills and my influence and I would condemn myself for not acting according to an impossible moral standart all the time and making it possible. The fact that nobody ever accomplished that or that it is logically impossible doesn't change that because Ni is so damn stubborn if I use it.
It is my current understanding that the demon function is the actual solution. Here is what I think: the big problem is that being focused on Fi, we need Te in our Persona functions. But we're really bad at Te because we generally are introverted decision makers. We just don't usually use Ti because it's incompatible with Fi. So, since it actually is a big part of us and since we push it in the shadow, we have a pretty negative picture of Ti.
But it is actually really useful - and it gives us access to our blind spot.
There is a power in saying: okay, in this state, I can't solve those problems, but since I know what is happening, I'll use these mental techniques that fix the problem. Ti is often stereotyped as the "human computer" type, but Zen meditation is nothing but a technique to get into a Ti mindstate.
You look like a girl I had à crush for months . She was à Friend and from thé moment I meet her I felt attracted.
(I must bé Entp or Estp)
I never felt that way with à woman..i even wrote à poem in french and showed to her haha never done that before. We're still Friends it just wasn't meant to bé..(she is in italy and I'am in France) but for the personality type I was sûre she was Istj but she did thé test and got Infp. I will send her this vidéo which by thé way it's a good one with infos and a good intro haha.
Luan - Lion of Europe Really? I’m trying to learn french at the moment for my college language requirement. Thanks, hope she enjoys it 😋
@@MeAnINFP yeah true. Ah cool you're English ?
French is a nice language except writing which is a painful ..haha our college professor was angry once with native french students because they were making a lot of mistakes in writing.
I am french but naturalised french I was born in serbia and learned french from 2010 and on before moving in 2012 around the alps.
What helped me at the start was to speak more and make as much mistakes as possible rather than being silent thinking that I will make a stupid mistake and look bad while speaking (I was afraid of that). French films and songs with subtitles helped me too..I don't know if you have an idea how could I give any help or info about french you can tell me ;). I don't know if a have a lot of extroverted intuition :) to find other ideas right in this moment haha
But guess what I noticed most infps are so good looking--it's almost a Fact!
Great observation, you guys need to be less hard on yourselves and more hard on others. Hint: Ask me what I mean :P
JinType Okay I’ll bite: what do you mean?
@@MeAnINFP Haha, Yes! that's exactly what I mean
Hi
I sometimes wonder if you cringe out on your intro music
Cuz I as an INFP literally cringe over everything I do and I don’t know if that’s an INFP thing?
Trooper Trooper Not my intro music, no. I like it. Watching myself talk, especially old videos, maybe. I did notice that having the intro blast on right at the beginning of the video got a little obnoxious if you click on videos a few times, so I’m moving it to a bit after.
Our inner critic is so hard on us because it is Ni critical parent. We are good at our intuition for, or about others, but for ourselves we are critical. This is compounded by our Fi hero being highly moralistic. We intuit negative responses to how others see us, but we are very accurate about how we perceive others with our Ne (extroverted intuition) because we are trying to honestly see the truth in others. In regards ourselves we cannot see clearly, our vision is obscured by this critical parent of ours, and our high ideals. .
I have a great co-worker who is an ISFP and she has also studied MBTI, so she stops me when I am in my `critical parent`and reminds me of all the good things I do. We also share a good sense of humour and this makes the work day seem like it flies by, `tempus fugit!`
French huh, Enchante mademoiselle. I rode my bike through Quebec in my twenties. My french is atrocious but I was only there about a week. Old Quebec city was amazing and the small towns quaint along the St Lawrence river. I was born in western Canada but it was easy to admire the east equally, especially the Maritimes, where the people were friendly and down to earth. The eastern accent made me laugh inside though.
Omg me
I am a INBJ